16 DAYS OF ACTIVISM | Against Gender Based Violence with Harriet Nekesa & Joyce Nakato
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- Опубліковано 23 лис 2023
- Did you know that 1 in 3 women experience gender based violence?
Today we have Harriet Nekesa on the show who has survived an abusive relationship and is sharing her story to inspire any victims out there to speak up.
Let’s act now, together, to end the stigma around violence against women and girls.
What’s your experience with violence in homes and how has it affected your life?
Share with us in the comments below
Thank you Joyce and Harriet for this insightful episode
Did you know that 1 in 3 women experience gender based violence?
Today we have Harriet Nekesa on the show who has survived an abusive relationship and is sharing her story to inspire any victims out there to speak up.
Let’s act now, together, to end the stigma around violence against women and girls.
What’s your experience with violence in homes and how has it affected your life?
Share with us in the comments below
Thank you Joyce and Harriet for this insightful episode
I dont know if this is the right place to say this but Rosset we don't hv newmans snacks in mperwere big choice supermarket for 2 weeks now we are really missing them
@@kantonolydia1144 Thx . Let me send some one ASAP
Oh nooo, this is so painful. Many are dying in silence in abusive domestic relationships 😭 I just want to hug Harriet🙏🏽 I had a reason to smile when she mentioned that she eventually found true love. Her sister's prophesy was right that she would heal hearts through her experience. God Bless Harriet 🙏🏽 Many thanks Bump love for bringing the two guests🙏🏽
@@Deedor72 I have also known a man and heard about many who
abuse every girl they stay with sexually and to those who refuse he abuses them verbally until they wife comes to know of it all. Then he will be rough on the wife with threats.
My advice is once you sense it early, come out quickly. Because later you will be bond to him. And relatives tend to find a reason to blame the wife .
And the former husband though still in prison is threatening to cause harm to her and the Engineer brother after release. So it is not yet over for her.
Thank you ladies for all ur beautiful comments. Thank you Harriet. ❤. Many hugs to you dear sis. Harriet is my younger sister and having gone through this entire story with her, I thought i had cried enough and would not cry again but waapi. Today i watched this and could not hold my tears only that this time i was crying for joy, seeing harriets boldness, having her tell her story to the whole world, the opportunities and seeing how God turns all things around for good. Thank u bump love and power to youth . Obugalooo
eeeeeeeee, this story my dear.Am speachless
Bring her back for the new love story. How she knew she was ready for the new relationship, the fears etc
Narcissists are on the loose. They tend to abuse you and show the rest of the world that they are good. In our societies it's so severe. Thanking God for your healing.
Very true my dear .... Narcissists are terrible people to be with in society
Obsession is another red flag to look out for!
This is so sad.
Am a lawyer who has worked with women suffering gender based violence it breaks my heart everyday. Thank you bump love for airing this Harriet am so proud of you
My considered view is that we need to pay greater attention to the family and the investment in virtues : humility, magnanimity, forbearance etc. Legal and para legal interventions certainly have a role to play but cannot sustainably be expected to address a problem of this scale which is possibly growing deeper and worse. We need to address it at the roots. Regrettably, from where I sit, many activists in this area disregard this approach or otherwise regard it as impractical or altogether unrealistic !
What Manuela said its true, Your AURA is what captures someone at first sight Harriet, For you to share this Story without a single tear flowing only shows how much work you have put in in your healing Journey. This is truly from Victim to Victory story. Tight hugs from Kenya Harriet. To the ladies Congratulations for 50k, We are growing. Road to 100k.
Imagine us who met her in person.....she was captivating
Why is the sound off
Nze banange.... 😢😢😢One of my worst fears to get into a relationship again.... Dude punched me in the face I was bleeding all over and his friends were there "just looked told me to calm down" yoo I cried.... In the morning he said "I will beat you up again if you ever reply me" am a true African man eeeh eehh
Atte yoo mental torture... He took my line got me a new one kyoka nga ya mtn... If I needed to call my family I had to use his phone.,, he would say don't wear this.. That..., don't ever talk to this your friend...., . He used to ask me for money... " had just came back from kyeyo" let's keep in mind he was not struggling with finances "he works for a good government body" very good position...
Anyway alot to say wish I could record. What people should know is most times the abusers are good in public you can never never at any point tell... Kuba if they bring you my ex... Haaaaaa you will swear God has brought the man of your dreams.. Kumbe nightmare hhhhhhhhhmmmm
We need a law that forcefully removes women in love from such marriages😭😭😭, My frd is still in such drama and completely failed to listen to us . Hugs madam Harriet
I second this 100%.
Oh my!
I second this
ooh sorry🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️let her watch this segment maybe she will
listen
Sorry about your friend,, may she find the strength to leave
That man was a psychopath for real, that wasn’t love it was obsession. Harriet thank you for such an inspirational story. We say no to all sorts of violence. God bless you
At first I didn’t even see the finger or anything from her🤦♀️,she is so beautiful
was going to forgive my narcissitic boyfriend .thanks to this story .
Don't enable abuse. Move on. You deserve better darling
Move on baby run for your life
Please don't, you are worth much more!😢
Please run for your life.... They never change.... They always give you the bare minimum full of abuse and people can never believe you
Runnn
Harriet, May God heal your three children from this Trauma...
Well said " Prayer heals".... Thank You Harriet
This story took me through a thousand emotions. I laughed, cried, got scared, and got motivated...It boggles my mind how one person could survive so much violence and still be so positive about life. Kudos to you my tribes mate and sister Harriet. Thanks for encouraging those that might be dealing with gbv. I also liked Rachel's comment at the start about someone that is showing red flags and makes you seem like the crazy one. I think we need an episode on gas lighting. Most gbv starts as love then gaslighting, before long one is trapped and nobody will believe them. Love you ladies and thanks for what you do.
When i was in college, the couple who lived above me used to fight. I could hear furniture being thrown around and the woman would cry and run out of the apt. Now, here in North America everyone minds their own buisness. One day i thought to myself this man might kill his wife and i will feel guilty for not doing anything yet i knew. I wrote a note on two sticky note pads explaning how i have for a long time heard the fights and banging. Then i concluded by saying if this continues i am going to call the police. My people, that beatings ended. Maybe they used to fight outside but the apartment was as quiet as a church mouse.
We can do something, whatever it takes . Thank you for what you did.
Harriet's story has got me crying and somehow a trigger to me not necessarily with the physical hurt but I relate to it in a sexual way, I was raped in p5 and was scared to talk about it, lived with the anger for a long and by the time I talked about it there was nothing that could be done about it.
Thank y'all for the show
Aaaaaawwww Lillian. Hugs to you. I do hope that you have somehow found support to heal that childhood trauma.
Sorry darling for da trauma 😢 so many gals are victims n haven't reported like u did 😢😢😢too bad
Healing is a process, it doesn't happen overnight. It can take years. Practice self love and remember these stories also serves as lessons to many.
Healing is a process, it doesn't happen overnight. It can take years. Practice self love and remember these stories also serves as lessons to many.
ohhh dear......cyber hugs love...
Thank you for sharing your story it resonates with thousands of women. One thing that wasn't mentioned is sometimes violence is linked to mental disorders that are never diagnosed.Narcissism, bipolar, Paranoia, inferiority complex and ofcourse childhood traumas of being raised in violent homes.Not that any of these excuse such inhumane behaviour.
Harriet is my high school og and campus coursemate.this was terrifying moment but I thank God who preserved her life ❤
Harriet's story is like a mirror reflecting deep truths we cannot ignore. It is a call for all of us to be there for the people around us, especially our sisters and friends navigating the twists of relationships. Despite biases and unfair treatment, it is clear we need to pay attention to the struggles hidden behind closed doors.
Harriet's journey is a powerful mix of bravery, strength, and hope that hits home. It is a tough trek through cruelty, yet it shows the unyielding spirit that can rise from such hardships. Finding comfort in someone entirely different from her past tormentor, Harriet's tale becomes a symbol of triumph over tough times.
Her ordeal is both heart wrenching and empowering, giving strength to those facing GBV. It is a wakeup call, urging those trapped in abusive situations to take charge and act. Every small warning sign, every act of violence, becomes a potential tragedy, highlighting the need for quick intervention.
This story can transport us back to our own childhoods, where the haunting presence of GBV lingered. The effects of such experiences stick with survivors, casting long shadows. May healing surround Harriet, and let us all appreciate the kind soul helping her through this challenging journey.
This has actually taught not to ignore instincts coz that time when the fatal incident was about to happen, her instincts were speaking to her bambi but we thank God that her life was saved!!! Very touching story
Happy to be the first here🎉 Bump Love you look fabulous as ever. Let me start by addressing the normalisation of the violence. Do we remember the Song "Guma by Sylva Kyagulanyi... The sister was being battered seriously and she was being told guma guuma.... Anyway then you find the eduacted smart men who violate you quietly and steadily and you don't realise the abuse is going on because he has not beaten you. Ladies I hope we light up a candle for all the walking dead married women out there. Men let us do better, let us raise sons who are going to be better...
Both men and women need to do better. Men are abused as well
Bump love we need another session with Harriet about how she managed to pick herself up, how she went through the healing process.
There are many people who are dying and need to hear about how to find healing
She’s actually stronger than she thinks😢😢😢😢😢😢that story and you ain’t crying 😭?? Harriet you’re the strongest woman i have seen
Very strong
This episode needs 1million views banange....Banange God should continue healing her....OMG.....to some extent I am thinking oba I learn Karatee....because..Thanks for sharing dear...
Harriet’s story so touched but let’s be so loud so that domestic violence should be sort out🤦♀️,God help us 🙌🏾,Let us ask God to give us right people 🙏🏾
I'm 33 minutes in and OMG! Pumla's facial reactions are speaking volumes haha! you can tell she absolutely sympathises with Harriet, but she cannot, for the love of God, compute how she tolerated such barbaric degrees of violence. her mind is literally unable to, and it's written all over her face haha... Gosh I love me some Pumla Nabachwa.
Victoria. I didn't know I was so transparent. I really tried naye it seems things jammed kubanga you have written EXACTLY what I was feeling to the dot. Eh! I truly did empathize but then also I couldn't. It was a tough session of mixed emotions.
Maaan am all over here angry cheiiiiii😢😢😢
I eagerly wait for her response but she decided to keep calm for one love u P ❤
I eagerly wait for her response but she decided to keep calm for one love u P ❤
It was a tough one for everyone if u paid attention to their facial expressions
wat a story!!!! anyway as women we should all learn not to ignore the red flags, a violent man will surely show you wen your still dating for example the way he even talks to people like in a restaurant , let love not blind us banaye, there is nothing like he will change, RUNN!!! original pumb lover here.
This pains me sooo much and makes me MAD at the same time. I can see the Anger in Pumlas eyes. She is Burning with fire. Like Manuela said, this should never have happened at the first time. There is no excuse. Hugs Harriet we love you very much
I was so darn MAD. Noone should ever have to go through this.
@@pumlanabachwa8668pulma pulma 😂 how many times have I called you 🙄 munange nga we share the same traits eee
Have cried listening to Harriet's story...mukwano she is a strong woman and God has held her.
She has embraced strength, she is glowing she radiates with Favour.
This is really heart breaking.
I've been through emotional abuse (gaslighting) before from a narcissist but I didn't know until I searched on google and UA-cam what i was feeling and realized i wasn't running mad. I knew something was wrong but I didn't know what it was. The guy was gaslighting me.. I used to hear about gaslighting but I didn't really know what it was. I didn't know i was experiencing it.. i really pray that people become more kind to the people going through GBV.
I have a friend who went to police to report her husband for domestic violence. They asked her what she does for a living. She told them that she is an administrator. They told her that if she can be administer for over ten people how can she fail to administrate one person. I think police support domestic violence.
Hmmmm
Harriet, thank you for being so brave to share your story. May God continue to heal you and bless you.
And she still affords to smile and live a joyful life..... indeed happiness is a choice
Finally @50k subscribers! Looking forward to 100k much love from Nairobi Kenya 🇰🇪
Alhamdulilah 🙏🏾
Harriet U are a miracle! True manifestation of God ❤🫂
So touching i lost my elder sister she used to say he will change and when we could tell her to live she opted to stop telling us what she was going through but at last she died thank you ladies for this topic it's real in societys.
Oh!! This is so sad!!!! May her soul rest in peace.
Am really humbled that the Almighty God helped you Harriet .
Like seriously, Strict Laws should be set to protect individual from gender based violence
Pumla's facial expressions are the same that I had as well listening to this. Nobody should have to go through domestic violence at all.
Nobody!
The time she gave up and asked God to take care of her little children💔..Thank you so much Harriet for sharing, You’re a living testimony.Glory to God.
Dear Bump love ladies thank you so much for hosting Harriet
Wow.... I am so speechless. Let us continue giving this lady a platform. I am sharing this.
One day my dad raised his voice at mom and my young brother who was in p6 then heard him. Guys ,, this boy told him “taata ekyokuba nga maama akwagala tekitegeza nti akwetaga.” Guy has never ever repeated that mistake again. Ok atleast not in the presence of any of us
Eh eh eh! I like the fighting spirit in your little brother
What a woman, she is incredibly strong and beautiful ❤
She is strong ❤❤❤
And soo beautiful 😍
I am even trembling and sobbing listening to Harriet's story! Banange Harriet so sorry dear...eeehhh mukama😢 just glad ur alive!
Harriet I applaud your courage, determination and strength. Domestic violence needs tobe taught in schools as many of us have tolerated it without knowing exactly whats happening. And my advice to anyone going through it is.
1-The only person you can control is yourself.
2-Ask yourself, what is it about me that attracts or allows such behaviour?
3-Once you get an answer to this , the rest will fall in place.
4- Never ask a victim of domestic violence why don't you leave, because they have surely tried to but because of one reason or another, they can't.
5- Instead, ask them how can I help.
It's not as easy as u think.
Cyber hugs to Harriet ❤
Abuse comes in a cycle the tension phase to abusive phase then honeymoon phase.
Then it repeats itself constantly.
Girls let’s learn to differentiate love and other stupid things,I feel so sorry for u girl🙌🏾
True
True that was stupidity
This show left me in shock. 😢😢😢. Why beat someone to near death. And to think that many have died from the same abuse, surely GBV must stop now.
Had to shed tears 😭😭😭😭. People are inhuman imagine a reverend's son doing such. I thank God I lost money in some relationship but ran for my life before I could experience the worst. Harriet dear u went through alot but glad you're alive and willing to share your story. Hugs Harriet
Thanks bumplove
May God who values marriage help us honour marriage
Omg,I'm crying😢 so hard listening to this lady's story.
Harriet your story is so inspiring, im living with an abusive husband, thinking he will change but this is an eye opener.only that i haven't had courage
I hope you left already
It's been 4 days now
Life is so precious however it can be lost in a minute there is life beyond that abusive marriage
I'm all goosebumps hearing Ms. Harriet's story!! 😢. I thank God for healing you! You're a beautiful miracle.
When the bible says the women are weaker, many have misinterpreted it... But the weak in this context means precious like the way gold is or silver. I just don't like it when I see someone inflict pain on a fellow adult. Thanks for the show bump love
Team no keeping quiet. We shall talk and call out such demonic vices. Even among siblings banange, some brother thinking he got the right to beat a sibling or his sister's chidl...hell NO!! Madam Harriet we are lucky to have you alive. We serve a living God! Thank you all for these eye opening shows.
Pulma's facial expression speaks it all
Nayenze just like pumla..the ans is get out of this crap that u call love..i can never stay in any bad relationship "life is too short to put up with certain things"🙌🙌
Thank you bump love,
If we were given a chance and God takes our current partners and tells us to choose afresh, would we choose the same partners or new ones?
If you want to select a new one then you are in an abusive marriage (physical, psychological, serial, sexual, mental unstablility, etc)
I am always caught in between lines when a woman tells you that they are leaving their marriages because of beating 😢 , I am always out of advise 😢 may God help us be peace makers.
As parents we can do better! Lets be willing to receive our children at all times. Marriage is not the end goal banage
You can really see the pain in Harriet’s voice it’s good that your healing ❤
If I wasnt brave enough to leave this abussive man i once dated, am sure I would have the same story. Gratitude always belongs to God but people in our society please stop judging people whose stories you havent listenned to. Gender based violence is real and it effects people in different aspects of their lives. Thank you so much bumplove for this show.
I pray women still in violent marriages/ relationships watch this and get courange to move as soon as possible
Harriet thank you for sharing , so glad ur happy now my big sis was in such abusive marriage for 12 yrs we just had to relocate her to Canada now she is happy Uganda police should do better please ,thank you bump love
Guys, this one brought 😢 tears to my eyes. Let's pray for women who are in difficult situations
This story is so scary u can't hesitate to shed a tear😭😭 Narcissistic pipo never change Neveeerrr don't hang on sis move out as soon as u can when yo soul is still intact. Those pipo r monsters they r devils the kill steal and destroy😭
Pumla was literally boiling with rage the entire time. But wow this is so inspiring. But we also need to carry out an introspection into the quality of men that are growing in our communities. Why would any sane human being even think of such a grievous act?
I was soooooooo MAD. Like - What the freakin Hell!?!
I really need to know what gets men to this point. Kubanga banange nga parents are trying their best in raising better men naye maama
I watched throughout strong because she was strong.
I smiled when she smiled.
I have not seen a lady stronger than her.
So thankful to the Almighty that she even got a new family❤
Thanks bump love for this episode for sure have been abused for all most seven years just for the sake of my children not antil I gave up now am a single mother with my two kids and am for them and i thank God for his provisions
Thank God you saved your life
Oh Nakato! I'm just thankful that you survived the ordeal. I pray you found support as you continue on this healing journey.
While I was listening to Harriet's story, I could feel my blood pressure going up.
Bump love thanks alot
Harriets Story has exposed the bit where we all think its love and this is common especially where it starts from and we ignore these signs yet the man is jealous....i hope this segment reaches many women....and they learn and not stick in these relationships
Thank you bump love as a participating activist in the 16 days of activism thank you for this discussion,I love you all ladies.
Harriet you are such a strong woman, to be able to share this story without crying shows how strong you are and how much you have healed.
Am so proud of you.
That mentality of telling women to go back to their marriages and die there is so bad and it breaks my heart.
Am glad you got out of this
Our God indeed restores, heals and redeems. What the enemy meant for bad, God turned it into a story of hope. May other ladies in similar situations find the courage from this story
Harriet's story is heartbreaking, and also uplifting and giving the power to people who are going through GBV to learn that they need to act now. Those small red flags, that one beating, or that one slap can lead to a tragedy and can be fatal.
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭oooohhh God I can’t stop crying been literally crying for for an hour now , I had to pause this for two hours coz I need a breather . God bless and strengthen you woman thanks for sharing this story. You are beautiful in and out .
Bump love...😭😭😭😭😭😭😭This is a very traumatizing episode!! She is so strong while narrating her ordeal. Its a miracle she is still alive!!
Harriet dear may you experience healing ,fulfilment, may your tears turn to laughter
Thank you for the great episode. It’s changing lives . I lost my aunt to gbv who was beaten by her husband to death but since then telling fellow women about gbv became part of me. Finding someone sharing a similar story and doing the work at even a greater platform only inspires me to be better and keep going on. Vielen Dank
Pausing right there to take a moment to thank you mom for raising me well. There is some crap I cannot take and I attribute that to you. Keep resting in peace
Ooh God i started watching this while lying down in my warm bed but guess what ? I ended it standing and carrying my arm on the head this is horror.
Thank you Harriet you just saved me a life time mistake.❤
How do i stop crying! Harriet you are so strong,jesus Christ! You went through pain that nobody should ever go through.
Violence starts small, please don't ignore all these red flags. A divorced daughter is better than a corpse! We thank God for giving you a second chance 🙏🙏
Ladies, you are awesome, thank you for hosting Harriet! You all look radiant ❤
I couldn’t end this without shedding a tear
Harriet you are a strong woman and i love the way you own your story. We thank God for rescuing you and restoring you.
Harriet u re a winner God bless u, ure an inspiration to all gals and women and a very strong woman .
It is well harriet,i cant hold my tears.
This episode hits close to home
Been waiting and checking checking
Thanks so so much to open our eyes
Harriet’s story is soo hard to watch. I am so sorry you had to go through all that! Thank you for sharing your story! I pray that we get to see these abusers early enough and flee for our lives.
Such a powerful episode 🤍
This story is so heartbreaking. looking at her body, the scars...oh Lord... she opens her mouth and my heart breaks over and over
Bump Love. What an episode! It was both a tough & pleasant watch. Harriet is such a beautiful soul. Thanks for having her over... 💖 from Dubai, U.A.E. 🐿️🌨️🍃
I applaud you Harriet for being such a strong woman. As a listener, I couldn’t help but shed a tear. But thank you for being strong to tell such a story without even shedding a tear. This experience has built a strong hearted woman. Kudos.
Very touching strory
This episode 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭Oooh my God.
Thanks bumplove ladies....
Ooh my God 🙏
Harriet,u got me in tears.no words ,i pray i meet u one day ,wish i can ship you to the UK to tell your story
Just by hosting her, Bump Love has already shipped her story to the UK and the rest of the world.
Such a traumatizing experience. Glad you are a survivor and healing.
Watching this with tears rolling i am so sorry that you went through that dear.
Thank you thank you Harriet... this is so empowering