I spilled water on somebody's backpack on accident and this pickme girl said "she's so clusmy, no wonder her hair is messy", but the boy who's backpack got wet said "okay and..?"
Shockingly I managed to avoid this pretty well all through middle school. However, I was never athletic, nor were most of my friends. We were the studious girls that boys could not have cared less about. Honestly, it was so much better that way. There was one or two pick me girls that found their way into my group on occasion, but they really didn't last long.
The tiktok pick me creators always show situations, where the dudes dont ever say anything when the pick me is misogynistic or flat out abusive/ cruel to their female friends or girlfriends. Like why do you only hate on the pick me girl and NEVER on the dudes that love the attention they get from the pick me and let them be cruel to their friends/ partners? OOOOH YEA.. its (internalized) misogyny again. Those tiktok creators and their audience once again wanna feel better than other women because "they dont care about male validation" and that makes them cooler. Yes being a woman, especially a straight woman is very complicated in how much you are expected to serve the male gaze while still being independent and "not caring" about male attention. But damn, this is a misogyny catch 22.
Keep in mind these are during the teenage years of high school and people this age are super desperate for acceptance. Also the reason why Mfs don’t say shit is bc they don’t know what to do cuz it’s not like it’s a guy saying it it’s a girl. Plus she might cry if you say something
I'm a mom laughing at these because this dynamic has always existed in one way or another. Let me just say this, there were a few homely girls I remember from school who were so pushy and aggressive that they eventually bullied their way into staying with the guy. No matter if the guy was a badass, if they stay together, she breaks him. If you go up against an alpha-pick me, you better have the stamina because those chicks play the long game.
But there are actually nice "pick me girls" like I genuinely have more guy friends than girl friends but if u want to wear make up then u do that ik u dont do it to please or impress anybody like god tik tok stop making it that girls with more guy friends just want to be picked
hm? but they never said that girls with more guy friends are “pick me!” girls? they’re only reinforcing whatever “pick me!” girls usually say to bring other girls down, or how they act around guys and making fun of it. i used to have 90% guy friends, so maybe i get your frustration a tad bit. but thing is, unless whatever those girls said/did while pretending to be “pick me!” girls applies to you (bringing other girls down, mocking girls for acting feminine, acting as if having more guy friends is the peak of popularism, etc.), then you’re not a “pick me!” girl. so no, there’s not a single “pick me!” girl that can be nice. bc their whole concept is the fact that they bring other people down for attention. in the case of girls with guy friends however, they are simply girls with guy friends!
Having more guy friends then girl isn't what makes you a pick me. A pick me basically drags down other girls and stuff like that for male validation. "A woman who claims or acts as if she is unlike most other women, in order to gain attention from men."
@@wendysflute515 this? is? literally? a? compilation? of? girls? dragging? other? girls? they? stereotyped? for? likes? and? attention? on? tiktok? though? Idk about you, but the whole, _"this is the type of girl I don't like, so imma make fun of her on social media __#LikeIfYouCanRelate__"_ gives off some real pick me vibes
@@tieroberson ..let’s dissect your comment into a few points! since it looks to me that you missed mine. 1. the only thing i said (and, you know, the entire point of my comment) was that the in-video stereotypes for “pick me” girls doesn’t always apply, especially if it’s only because girls have more guys than girls as friends. because that’s just bullshit! 2. never did i claim that the girls in the video aren’t “pick me” girls. if i did claim such a thing, please quote me on it! 3. there’s a difference between “pick me” girls and attention seeking ones. seeing as we don’t know the intention of the videos, we could only assume that these *aren’t* catered to men, which is the whole thing that separates “pick me” girls (girls who bring other girls down to gain the attention of men) and attention seeking girls (girls who would do anything and everything so the limelight is on them instead). so in my opinion, no, the people here aren’t “pick me” girls. if i have to paint them in a negative light, i’d say they fall under attention seeking more than “pick me” but if you actually ask my opinion on this, i personally think that these tiktoks fall into the normal mocking category, in which a group of people that are usually seen in a negative light, is mocked back as some sort of payback for the hurt/annoyance they caused. kind of the same vibe as those karen-mocking videos. but that’s my opinion! so if you still think that these people are just like “pick me” girls instead, then roll with it! i guess!
@@wendysflute515 Your _point_ was to reinforce validation on what a "pick me" is. My _point_ was to relatively point out the flaw in your explanation that a "pick me" insinuates a mean girl that brings others down for attention when that's literally the entire basis of this compilation. Your condescending hypocrisy that this mean-spirited video is fine, due to it only seeking validation from a crowd that's not male-oriented is the logic that needs to be dissected. Both parties glorify the same egotism you're singling out. As for the Karen tangent, you wonder why you continue seeing those videos pop up more frequently. It's bc the problem that instead of addressing and educating these out-of-touch antagonizers, they're immediately filmed and put online for globally eternal ridicule. Not only does it further solidify their anger towards whomever target in their mind, it also furher breeds others just like them, who see the situation as a younger, entitled harasser who intentionally riled the "Karen" up for views, using the same animosity-fueled belief as the other side, that bc they didn't see the previous events that transpired before the moment of recording, there's obviously more to the story.
True story: New girl who's a pick me girl: **talking to a dude who plays tennis** hahaha *giggles*. **my friend walks by** The dude: oh hey Marylin! (fake name) Pick me: omg, who's she? I bet she doesn't play sports like I do... Like I play basketball, soccer, tennis, and baseball, like she's definitely a pick me girl. How do you deal with them??? My friend: ummm hi? The dude: Marylin's a competitive tennis player Pick me: ugh, she probably does it for like fun and doesn't know how to swing a racket. My friend: ... I just came back from a competitions which I won, but okayyyy
For me it’s the “Leave Sarah we can play Fortnite because I have an Xbox.” Like bitch I can one pump you faster than when everyone realized that you were just an annoying pick me girl. 💀
True, i mean they literally throw people around in those things. One of my friends did both (plus ballet) and she's amazing at this, she's very flexible too, but everytime i see her practice i physically flinched since I'm scared she'd fall
Ikr like I do gymnastics and it makes me so mad when ppl are like it's not even a real sport. Like, we practice 3-4 hours everyday, control our diets, regulate our lives and give up so many things for it. How can you say it's not a real sport???
@@kyliviie2903 my sister tried all three, she’s doing gymnastics now. Legit ballet is where you breaks your feet, cheerleading and gymnastics is where you get thrown around
There's no problems being a girly girl, there's no problems being a tomboy, and there's no problems with being in the middle. I personally kinda go in the middle of it
How I see my personality is just being myself because say I like being a tomboy or girly girl and it feels like I have put a mark on my head saying girly girl or tomboy it feels like I’m forcing myself to be someone I’m not and that I have do do everything that that personality does so I just be myself instead of choosing. I don’t think I’m explaining myself very well..
Yea middle too BUT I don’t like it when people refer to me as either a Tom boy or girly girl because if you think about it it’s kinda sexist because it’s implying that to be “one of the boys” you need to like sports or play video games except that’s not true. I play sports (volleyball) and an unhealthy amount of video games but yes I do care about how I look so I love doing makeup and I spend a lot of time on my hair an outfits. AND THATS 100% OKAY REGARDLESS OF GENDER! 😌
I have a sister who's in her 30s, very narcissistic, and she's literally the definition of a pick me girl. Growing up with her, as a girl myself, was... an experience.
@@naria2224 Y/n stands for “your name”. It’s used in reader-insert books. Don’t worry, not all of them are bad, it’s just that some of them are pretty stupid at times lmao
There are plenty of women who don't wear make up and don't fucking brag about it or are still girly girls. So when you see a pick me who doesn't wear make up, GET THE BASEBALL BAT.
literally.. the fact that they direct it towards others thats an additional problem here, its straight up just misogyny when they treat other women or girls badly
@@elliewuzzup7689 is it true that dancers have a lot of trauma? I always see dancers getting screamed at/verbally @bused and hit constantly, so I kept myself away from dance even when I really wanted to try it. And are you able to get into dance as a teen? I've also heard that you can only start dancing as a toddler and younger or else it'll ruin your body and not give you a career
Maturing is realizing that "pick me girl " was a phase some of us as girls went through whether in subtle ways or hardcore . And we learned to accept our inner selves later on in life . The best example is 'Gone Girl' .
@Sammy It's fine . I don't get along with boys from an early age too . I was trying to bring in a wider perspective of why some people may act this way . If any of such people have wronged you in the past , you have all rights to be angry at them .
Lol, I had that phase too. But I think a more evolved and a better put out level of that concept still defines me a lot. I mostly hang out with guys, and relate to them a lot (being bisexual and especially being one of the "men of culture"). It's true that I have nurtured the feminine part of myself but that masculine presentation and way of thinking is and will stick to me without any doubt. So overall that "cringy" phase disappeared but turned into a person who still accepts the feminine side of myself.
@@psychochick0333 well, I always would go around saying I saw a "tomboy" I wasn't. I secretly really liked being girly. I would also always say I was "one of the boys" yeah. Those weren't my best moments.
@@nandanajaneesh3486 they're not pick mes anymore. The girls that WERE pick me girls might have been young and dumb or trying to figure out their personality. You've done some stupid things when you were younger or maybe just in life. Would you want someone holding that over your head for the rest of your life, even if you're different now?
@@nandanajaneesh3486 It's not hard or bitter, and while we don't have to like them for their actions, it's important to remember it spawns from a shitty self-loathing mindset and to treat them with empathy and understanding.
The sad thing is that when I was younger i had this "pick me" phase and looking back it was disgusting and i wish i can apologize to everyone i was talking to😞 Edit: Im sending hugs to all of yall babies🥺
~Lumina~ I had this phase too, it was more of the “I don’t wear makeup because I prefer all natural” and would bash girls who did…every time I look back I’m just like ugh!!! Why was I like that😭😭🤧🤧 makes me wanna go back in time and slap myself out of that phase
Yeah, me too. I wish I could slap my younger self because it was so disgusting looking back on it. And it probably didn't to any good to my mental health.
It’s infuriating but that’s how to know their acting is on point 💯 Either they were once a pick me girl and learned from it or they were victims of pick me girls. Or both lol.
Right? Like the second last one I felt like I was in it fighting for my life to get custody of my bf to try and get him back but was afraid I would lose them to someone else like I was in the middle of a court room that’s how intense if yk what I mean. Dk why tho
It’s the worst when the guys don’t call out the toxic behaviour- 😔💃. Hopefully all girls tomboy or girly or in the middle will be able to be themselves, because THEY want to 💕😌
as a former gymnast and competitive cheerleader, I can confirm that cheering is a sport. with competing and coaching I've seen so many girls and guys get hurt
*When you realize so many of your friends and classmates are "pick me" girls from a couple of TikToks* .... *EDIT* I don’t think this was understood. I’m not saying all teen girls with some of these behaviors are “pick me” like. I was just saying watching this from a totally different perspective than I have just being with my friends made me see how a lot of them are pretty toxic and I’ve now token those people out of my life. If you’re a tomboy, own that shit. It’s beautiful
So true. Am i a pick me girl, or did i just go through a tomboy phase? Can a ten y.o even be a pick me girl? Im very concerned for my friends so plz help meh ;-;
One time I was talking about dating with my friends, and the class pick me girl went: “What?! How does _she_ have a bf and I don’t?!?” And I wanted so badly to respond with *_”Who said it was a boy?”_*
There was once a short Filipino girl who we’re gonna call “JJ.” She was a major pick me girl. She was smart, talented, cute (imo), and was friends with the smartest person in our class group. Although, the only times I would remember seeing her was when she was around the smartest person “who we’re gonna call….”Sam.” Sam was a guy, tall, smart, valedictorian of our class, well known, and talented and very lucky (had enough money to travel to a lot of places, being from a small-town community). Well anyways, I would always see JJ clinging on to Sam’s arm, or talking real loud for attention when more people are trying to talk with sam (a basic “hello” or “how are you?”). She would always talk about how he is making fun of her height, when he’s not. It’s like he ignores her alot and she’s desperately trying to get his attention. Quite sad actually. In our senior year, everyone found out that Sam was dating the smartest girl in the class (was 2nd top of the class, other than Sam) which was pleasant, she made Sam the happiest guy we’ve ever seen. Since, sam was always cold and full of himself, he turned into a himbo for the smart girl. And oooo JJ was obviously upset. JJ kept telling everyone that they wouldn’t last 3 months but here is the couple- more than several months together and happy, last time I saw them. Both my partner and I noticed later on that JJ might have matured after graduating (since we we’re all in the same class), but last time I heard, my partner saw JJ and Sam (and a couple of other students that were In our class at a school concert thing) and JJ acted the same around him. Some people just never learn…. Thx for reading the whole experience if you made it this far. I don’t have a reward but I can offer a digital soda, with your favorite drink: 🥤
The only part that offend me is the sneeze thing because I SNEEZE EXACTLY LIKE THIS!!!!(not for being cute,just because is the only way that I can sneeze without spreading nasty drops of feeling annoying “””scratches””” in my throat).Being alergic since as a little kid and sneezing every single day made this!!😭😭😭
I sneeze like that too. It’s either that or ACHDJNAKWOWOOOOOOOOOOOOAAAAAAAAAAA as the world shatters around me and every conversation ceases to have meaning, which I tend to do if I’m at home alone. I hated to learn that some people do it like “cute” on purpose to get attention, because now I just think every time I sneeze quietly and someone comments on it, they think I’m being a pick me
If a girl came into class with a dress on I wouldn’t assume she is trying to impress someone I would think she’s doing it for herself and I would talk to her if I see her and say she looks pretty 🤩
I just realised that me over-explaining things and acting like I "don't care" about some stuff to avoid people judging me, makes me look like a pick me girl and it genuinely scares me...
My class has a really fun and chill P.E. teacher so we usually go outside and we can choose to play soccer or volleyball. All of the boys choose soccer and most of the girls choose volleyball. I liked volleyball but now it got kinda boring for me so I play soccer with boys and there are usually like my 2 friends (girls) also playing but sometimes they dont and then I always feel like I am a pick me even if I am playing for fun and I am always afraid that others see me as pick me and I dont want to be seen like that
I acted like that, but mine is cause I have PTSD, Major depressive disorder, and social anxiety. So I don’t think that classifies anyone as a pick me girl. Some people just have issues with being around people.
@@gabrysiaj1530 Same! I really enjoy playing basketball but also love doing makeup, but I always get worried whenever I’m playing basketball if people are going to think I’m a pick me. Like this isn’t 1950 anymore. Girls can play any sports we want as long as we don’t bring down other women.
I was "one of the guys" and genuinely just valued their friendship. I had girl friends that spread rumors about me being a man stealer but I was a weirdo fat goth looking nerd. I was very alternative. Boys wouldn't date me with or without makeup. The rumors spread anyway and all I had left were "the guys".
@akia sans Ballet isn't a sport - it's an art form. It's obvious that the physical attributes of a dancer are similar to those of an athlete, but there is much more to the art than physical virtuosity and skill. im not a ballet dancer but im a dancer... i am a classical dancer. dance is an artform....not a sport...
Okay as an ex pick me girl I want to ask a question here, just to know if we're all in the same place: did anyone else think you were being treated as "one of the boys" only to later realize you were actually being treated like the group's s*x mascot? Just asking, because that was my experience ngl. Edit: also these girls say that girl groups are so much drama but honestly in my experience when you get personal with a dude sometimes they confess to you how literally all his friends hate eachother but still hangout just to not be alone 💀💀💀
I saw a girl have that experience, I was in the same group and I never had anything with any of the guys but they all ended up having something with her and in the end the atmosphere got so tense that she distanced, sometimes I regret having taken the situation lightly when she was having a bad time, anyway, I still have mostly male friends but I hang out more with other girls now.
I’m friends with a large group of dudes but I don’t act like this and I’m still friends with girls, like ‘pick me’ girls try so hard to put other girls down it’s infuriating like you can be friends with dudes and not try so hard to be like them, if your like yourself they’ll like and include you if you act like this you come off as annoying and pushy and it’s not a good look (also shout out to my bestie last night when he told me our friend group was called ‘the sus squad’)
It's such a sad thing actually. All those girls just have to go through a lot of internalised mysoginy and it's really hard I think. They spread all this hate to the other girls because she hates every aspect of womanhood in herself. Also constant need in validation doesn't comes from nothing. I understand such people could be really annoying but you need to remember that they need help. Also don't forget that a lot of teen media in 00's showed this stereotype as cool thing so some of them just picked it as an desirable archetype later in their life. It has its influence.
@@familysystem they are, but to put other people down in order to process your own feelings is definetly not the way to do it. Plenty of woman get tired of expectations of womanhood everyday without it needing to envolve male acceptance, woman rivalries, and internalized mysoginy.
I literally have a pick me girl in my class and I feel the pain. I thought it was gonna be a cool school but it’s the most painful experience. The worst part is, the boys actually like the attention and I cant breath or do anything without her telling someone to either shut up, glaring at someone or rolling her eyes at any girl she doesn’t know the name, address and social security number of.
Lmao I remember the time when I punched a pick me girl, on the nose cause she told me that I wear too much make up and shamed me in front of the basketball team, she was literally wearing eyeliner and mascara like girl wtf
I'm somewhere around that height and my brothers still call me short. Personally I think it's a bit short too and I want to make my way up to 6'3 to be one inch taller than my father.
My ex boyfriend had a pick me girl "best friend". She always made fun of me when I was with him and it was pretty obvious that she liked him, she gave him "boy hugs" when she would found us "by accident" in our way home. She also tried to be "my friend" just to sneak into my dates with my boyfriend. I got tired of that b1tch and him for defending her, so we broke up. No surprise! They were dating 1 month later. But the funny part is that he broke up with her 3 months laters because she ended up being extremly toxic.
I knew two pick me girls in school who thought they were sooo special just bcs they hung out with the boys and played soccer(which the ENTIRE class did). They always used to be like "We're not weak like the other girls in our in our class" "Omg, you like dresses??? You're so old school, are you sure you wanna hang out with us?" my favourite one was "Hey BrAh!! Omg don't get offended I call everyone bRaH. It's a boy thing...you probably wouldn't understand cause you're so girly "
@@futuristicgirl14 right. I feel bad for her because she gets attacked by other girls constantly. If you look in the comments under any post about her it's just a bunch of girls bashing her and anyone who listens to her. She's pick me girl bait 😂. They come crawling out of nowhere to tell everyone how they can't stand her or her music like anyone asked them. But ironically enough I use to work with this chick who was like Queen Pick Me herself and she tried to look and talk like Taylor Swift. She had a really horrible fake accident that got 100x more southern when talking to guys. I'm actually from the South so my accent is natural. She immediately hated me for no reason at all but now I am sure it was because I have the accent she wants. Honestly I'd love to trade with her. Guys think it's cute to tease me and ask me to repeat specific words because apparently I say them funny. And if anyone gave me special attention over her she would be extra mean but passive aggressively mean. Like saying something wildly offensive but in a sweet fake southern accent and calling you Suger or Honey or Darling in a "bless your heart" kinda way. And sometimes I'd leave work with tears in my eyes and once I was having one of those days and I got in my car and Taylor's song "mean" was just staring to play and it was like the universe was making fun of this girl and I stopped crying and turned up my radio so she could hear it from where she was standing at her car with another coworker probably talking shit about me. She actually ended up being the reason I quit that job. Some jobs don't pay you enough to put up with certain people who work there
lmao taylor is the ultimate nlog/pickme. her entire first breakout hit was literally her whining that some dude should love her bc she's not like all those other girls. she wears t-shirts! the other girls wear short skirts! taylor's whole thing is so gross 😂😂😂
11:57 this friendship is just straight up toxic like even if u r a "friend" u have no right to tell someone what to wear or take someone's pic if they r against it then share with everyone. God this rlly does make my blood boil omg
Okay so hear me out, I got a friend who constantly talks about herself and her crushes and recently brought something I brought but better. If you say something you did she'll be like "oh same!" Or "Oh have I told you about when I did that too?". She also constantly wants to call or text and she sends selfies or herself to the friend group talking about how "ugly" she looks (now idk if she wants attention from that or if she is trying to show off not so subtly) Would you say she is a pick me girl?
Not at all a pick me, but a lil toxic? A pick me is someone who downgrades others for their own "act" e.g. if ou like pink a pick me will always say "pink is too girl ewww i like ______ because im not a child" (or whatever idfc lmao)
I can't really remember any female MCs right now, but I'm pretty sure they aren't pick mes. When I started Teen Wolf I realised lots of people dislike this female character, so I assumed she was a pick me, but she really isn't.
it's interesting how pmg are different in different cultures. In my culture (Vietnamese) pmg usually emphasize how they don't wear makeup, how thin they are and how they can take care of boys/understand them, not good at sports bc sport is not common in my culture
It blows my mind how someone can just insert themselves into a friend group, whether it’s “the guys” or any friend group. It’s definitely possible to join a friend group, but you gotta let it happen naturally. It’s so cringey when a girl just insists upon being part of the group when none of the boys have shown any desire to have her around for any reason. Just be nice to people and someone or even multiple people will eventually wanna be your friend. Might not even take a long time.
why they always gotta say "im so short why are you so tall?" i had a friend that said this and i replied with "i dont know maybe a little something called genes" she left real quick. please dont ask this the answer is obvious.- chaotic moth
This reminds me of one time a classmate I hung around with made a big deal about my hair extensions in front of the guy I liked to embarrass me, when I wore it for a school event. It was my first experience of like "oh. this is not my friend"
I was the Actual pick me girl... I was always with "the boys" but I had girl friends too and I didn't put down other women but I did have the "iam not like other girls" mindset 😭 this is until the pandemic then I discovered what a pick me was and that I was annoying, my school is starting physical classes soon and iam gonna change everything
All the best! I'm sure most girls had this phase but as long as you realize it and try to be better, good. More importantly, appreciate those who can forgive your past self and hold on to them dearly
You were just you. Internet label everything. Just cuz some tiktok said if you do this that you're a pick me girl doesn't mean you are. Unless you were trying so hard to pretend to be something to get boy's attention or trying to put down other women, you are not a pick me girl. Having a lot of guy friends or thinking you are different is not pick me girl. Maybe you are not different in a global level but you can be different in your school and that can make you feel different, there's nothing wrong with that.
XD im afraid me too. But because I do really have a lot in common with boys. My problem was the opposite, I always tryied not to show too much of that because it seems to bother them that a "girly" or pretty "normal" looking girl like "their" music, hobbies and have similar attitudes
As a tomboy myself, I have a hard time understanding the pick-me's logic. Romantically we (tomboys) are friendzoned as a general rule. We friendzone ourselves, that seems counterintuitive to what the pick-me's ultimate goal is.
As a girl that played soccer from elementary to high school, ran cross country in middle school, and primarily hung out with boys because I found most girls annoying except the couple best friends I had since kindergarten, "pick me girls" are literally one of the most annoying creatures I have ever encountered. Thanks for making me a cringe comp
@@literarywitch I mean in all fairness, it is rather easy to find most everyone except for those in your core group (or who seem similar too them and share common interests) annoying. That being said, the phrase is still a bit of a red flag.
@@ameliasellers6396 i understand though if you're a generally closed off person except with your friends but if you find "most girls" annoying and not "most people/most girls and guys" annoying then i have news for them....
POV: you were a pick me girl but it turned out you were trans🧍 (I wasn’t the type of pick me girl who would make fun of other girls but I did want to be one of the boys)
How tho? And why do you overuse the skull emoji? Did someone die?? And you are literally being a pick me right now. Just ask and I can list all the statements on how making fun of one doesn't make you one
Watching these made me realize how much my high school bestie was a pick me. She had a boyfriend our senior year that she adored and she put him first and made him top priority. She was planning to graduate and then move to a different state with him. There were a lot of red flags with him and I became concerned and told her to really think and reconsider that decision. She became very defensive and said he was the love of her life and she was doing it. Not even three months later, she calls me saying he was cheating on her with women AND men and even had a three year old CHILD. I supported her (as friends do) and she looked at me and said "I appreciate you staying by my side and still wanting to be friends with me. I'm sorry that I didn't listen to you". Glad to say she is no longer a pick me and is thriving in life supporting other women and not needing a man.
Right??? I'm bi and i have a boyfriend now but oh my god. one of my exes used to sing to me on her ukele and on god. instantly fell in love. if soft girl wrote me a song I would fucking melt dude
Here is my opinion on pick me girls first off: pick me girls are acting like they do in the videos, and not every girl that has more guy friends that girl friends. I get along better with ppl that are not like the typical girls. idgaf if they wear makeup or how they style. Its the behaviour First of all, i fucking hate them. like, stop trying so hard to be one of the boys. it honestly brings me to another level of rage, ngl I also don't understand why they make fun of someone so clearly. I am not really nice to you if i dont like you either, not gonna lie, but i must keep that to myself for the most part and that's it. I could rand abt this, but that would be boring cause i probs gonna repeat myself But this video is so fucking good, and the title u picked for the video is amazing and extremely good little fun fact cause i am bored: my mum said yesterday i am more the kind of person that pushes little kids off of swings... i would if i wasnt so scared of the consequences
😂 throwing little kids on swings my mom did that once when I was nine my friend invited me to her birthday party at the park and there was a little snakey ropey thingey where like 5 people could get on and me and my two other friends were on it and one of them was slipping off and my mom saw her but she pretended not to notice and when my friend fell off she said "sorry honey I didn't notice" (my friend didn't get injured tho) like wtf mom
I watch these videos to tell myself that I'm not a pick me girl. I'm really boyish and have been my entire life and almost all of my friends are guys (it's a consensual relationship I don't force myself into their friend group lmao) and I play video games and occasionally different sports with them but I don't have anything against girls there's another girl in our friend group and another one is slowly started to be accepted by everyone so that's exciting lol but I'm not attracted to any of my friends and I don't try to get them to "pick me" and I most definitely don't put other girls down in front of them for attention. But anyway I was reading the comments and can someone please tell me if I'm a pick me girl or not bc this is stressing me out lmao.
@@kurumiqwq Thank god, people can be threatening in the comments lol "It's just a pov...it's just a pov.., I want to punch my phone rn... I got so mad I threw my phone across the room" and I was like wait a minute, is this what people think about me haha. So Thank you for confirming that for me. (Very random but I just got out of round with a couple of them and some dude called me a discharge roach, idk why I find it funny even though it was supposed to be an insult 💀)
Being a tomboy or masculine doesn't make you a pick me, pick mes can be feminine too. The core element of a pick me is being misogynistic and putting men on a pedestal often at the expense of other women.
As long as you respect other girls and don't offend people in a passive agressive way, we see no problem here. You honestly sound cool to hang out with, and its the fact that you're wondering it alone that already tells that you're probably not a pick me. So no worries
My sister's classmate is like a "pick me" girl, being loudly against the girly aesthetic, claiming she has more guy friends than girls like it's some achievement, and saying she is all-natural when my sister could literally see the eyelash glue attaching large, fake lashes to her eyelids (sure, wear them, but don't lie about it). Bruv, you're in 7th grade- 💣
@@bingewatchingrules7590 A lot of kids do. Makeup has reached everybody, and while some wear it for healthy reasons, others wear it because they feel they aren't pretty without it. That goes for a lot of people, but I think some are too young to have to worry about cosmetics.
0:54 girls like these tell me ballet is not a sport. ironically one of my long term ‘injuries’ is that my pinky toe nail won’t grow back and all my toenails are ingrown. LMAO
Yall probably gonna call me a pick me for this but I was one of the guys. Lol but not at all like this. I just got along with guys better. It wasn't that I didn't like girls though but I liked to skateboard, throw football, climb trees, play world of warcraft..etc. and I didn't even wear makeup to my own wedding lmao but in my case, the guys actually invited me and liked having me around. I was the only girl invited to halo nights, cod nights and wow nights. Now I am 31 and married, a mom, all my high school friend groups have dispersed so those days are behind me. My 2 closest friends outside of my husband and daughter are girls. I think the reason I was a 'one if the guys' girls was because growing up my 2 closest cousins were boys so I ended up befriending most of their friends over the years plus..I was just a tomboy in general. Actually..I still am really. I own one dress and it is my funeral dress haha. I still live my life in skate shoes. I don't even own hair styling stuff like straighteners/curlers, Bobby pins, pony tails or scrunchies..etc. I just like the simplicity.
Unfortunately I am ashamed to say I was a pick me girl. But I was home schooled and literally had 0 friends and when people were around I didnt know how to socialize. But still not my proudest moments.
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“What if i make your next period come out of your nose, huh?” I gotta find a way to use that amazing line some time
Imagine you say it to a boy XD
Love that line 😂
brooke davis said it first on one tree hill!
That's gonna be a fucking amazing one liner
SO saying this to that pick me bully who thinks she's god or something .
I spilled water on somebody's backpack on accident and this pickme girl said "she's so clusmy, no wonder her hair is messy", but the boy who's backpack got wet said "okay and..?"
that's cool!
lol
Ok and is the best answer for anyone trying to make fun of u
She must have been so embarrassed
Based backpack kid
Shockingly I managed to avoid this pretty well all through middle school. However, I was never athletic, nor were most of my friends. We were the studious girls that boys could not have cared less about. Honestly, it was so much better that way. There was one or two pick me girls that found their way into my group on occasion, but they really didn't last long.
I smashed my phone 2 times on the wall till the screen shattred all over the place, thank god it was an old one that dosent workout anymore.
"I'm just one of the boys"
"Ma'am, this is a Wendy's"
I'm do glad that I've never had to deal with these kind of people.
The tiktok pick me creators always show situations, where the dudes dont ever say anything when the pick me is misogynistic or flat out abusive/ cruel to their female friends or girlfriends. Like why do you only hate on the pick me girl and NEVER on the dudes that love the attention they get from the pick me and let them be cruel to their friends/ partners? OOOOH YEA.. its (internalized) misogyny again. Those tiktok creators and their audience once again wanna feel better than other women because "they dont care about male validation" and that makes them cooler. Yes being a woman, especially a straight woman is very complicated in how much you are expected to serve the male gaze while still being independent and "not caring" about male attention. But damn, this is a misogyny catch 22.
Keep in mind these are during the teenage years of high school and people this age are super desperate for acceptance. Also the reason why Mfs don’t say shit is bc they don’t know what to do cuz it’s not like it’s a guy saying it it’s a girl. Plus she might cry if you say something
I think it’s just the way tiktok povs work…
I think you know..its just like how writing works? Its on average a minute long video so of course they can’t squeeze all your political views
It's a minute long bruv. They can't fit all that. They don't think they are cooler dumbass. I bet your the type to believe you are an alpha male
Plot twist: the 8 dislikes are all from pick me girls
Bruh this girl at my school is the most pick me istggg i fr heard her say "This isn't youUuUU" I was like i- she actually said it
I'm a mom laughing at these because this dynamic has always existed in one way or another. Let me just say this, there were a few homely girls I remember from school who were so pushy and aggressive that they eventually bullied their way into staying with the guy. No matter if the guy was a badass, if they stay together, she breaks him. If you go up against an alpha-pick me, you better have the stamina because those chicks play the long game.
But there are actually nice "pick me girls" like I genuinely have more guy friends than girl friends but if u want to wear make up then u do that ik u dont do it to please or impress anybody like god tik tok stop making it that girls with more guy friends just want to be picked
hm? but they never said that girls with more guy friends are “pick me!” girls? they’re only reinforcing whatever “pick me!” girls usually say to bring other girls down, or how they act around guys and making fun of it.
i used to have 90% guy friends, so maybe i get your frustration a tad bit.
but thing is, unless whatever those girls said/did while pretending to be “pick me!” girls applies to you (bringing other girls down, mocking girls for acting feminine, acting as if having more guy friends is the peak of popularism, etc.), then you’re not a “pick me!” girl.
so no, there’s not a single “pick me!” girl that can be nice. bc their whole concept is the fact that they bring other people down for attention. in the case of girls with guy friends however, they are simply girls with guy friends!
Having more guy friends then girl isn't what makes you a pick me. A pick me basically drags down other girls and stuff like that for male validation.
"A woman who claims or acts as if she is unlike most other women, in order to gain attention from men."
@@wendysflute515
this? is? literally? a? compilation? of? girls? dragging? other? girls? they? stereotyped? for? likes? and? attention? on? tiktok? though?
Idk about you, but the whole, _"this is the type of girl I don't like, so imma make fun of her on social media __#LikeIfYouCanRelate__"_ gives off some real pick me vibes
@@tieroberson ..let’s dissect your comment into a few points! since it looks to me that you missed mine.
1. the only thing i said (and, you know, the entire point of my comment) was that the in-video stereotypes for “pick me” girls doesn’t always apply, especially if it’s only because girls have more guys than girls as friends. because that’s just bullshit!
2. never did i claim that the girls in the video aren’t “pick me” girls. if i did claim such a thing, please quote me on it!
3. there’s a difference between “pick me” girls and attention seeking ones. seeing as we don’t know the intention of the videos, we could only assume that these *aren’t* catered to men, which is the whole thing that separates “pick me” girls (girls who bring other girls down to gain the attention of men) and attention seeking girls (girls who would do anything and everything so the limelight is on them instead). so in my opinion, no, the people here aren’t “pick me” girls. if i have to paint them in a negative light, i’d say they fall under attention seeking more than “pick me”
but if you actually ask my opinion on this, i personally think that these tiktoks fall into the normal mocking category, in which a group of people that are usually seen in a negative light, is mocked back as some sort of payback for the hurt/annoyance they caused. kind of the same vibe as those karen-mocking videos.
but that’s my opinion! so if you still think that these people are just like “pick me” girls instead, then roll with it! i guess!
@@wendysflute515
Your _point_ was to reinforce validation on what a "pick me" is. My _point_ was to relatively point out the flaw in your explanation that a "pick me" insinuates a mean girl that brings others down for attention when that's literally the entire basis of this compilation. Your condescending hypocrisy that this mean-spirited video is fine, due to it only seeking validation from a crowd that's not male-oriented is the logic that needs to be dissected. Both parties glorify the same egotism you're singling out.
As for the Karen tangent, you wonder why you continue seeing those videos pop up more frequently. It's bc the problem that instead of addressing and educating these out-of-touch antagonizers, they're immediately filmed and put online for globally eternal ridicule. Not only does it further solidify their anger towards whomever target in their mind, it also furher breeds others just like them, who see the situation as a younger, entitled harasser who intentionally riled the "Karen" up for views, using the same animosity-fueled belief as the other side, that bc they didn't see the previous events that transpired before the moment of recording, there's obviously more to the story.
True story:
New girl who's a pick me girl: **talking to a dude who plays tennis** hahaha *giggles*.
**my friend walks by**
The dude: oh hey Marylin! (fake name)
Pick me: omg, who's she? I bet she doesn't play sports like I do... Like I play basketball, soccer, tennis, and baseball, like she's definitely a pick me girl. How do you deal with them???
My friend: ummm hi?
The dude: Marylin's a competitive tennis player
Pick me: ugh, she probably does it for like fun and doesn't know how to swing a racket.
My friend: ... I just came back from a competitions which I won, but okayyyy
Pick me girls saying cheerleading isn't a sport is like saying girl sports don't count
"I am literally one of the boys"
Me: "Ma'am, this is a McDonalds drive thru"
"Ma'am you are a girl and you will get the TOY FOR GIRLS in happy meal"
BUT IM ONE OFTHE BOYS
@Kaorixten ♡ lmaooo why do they act like that though
This is basically the "sir this a Wendy's" thing-
For me it’s the “Leave Sarah we can play Fortnite because I have an Xbox.” Like bitch I can one pump you faster than when everyone realized that you were just an annoying pick me girl. 💀
Naw thats Burger King.
Cheerleading and gymnastics are actually classified as some of the most dangerous sports because of the injuries people get from them
True, i mean they literally throw people around in those things. One of my friends did both (plus ballet) and she's amazing at this, she's very flexible too, but everytime i see her practice i physically flinched since I'm scared she'd fall
And they don’t wear protective gear
Fr. I did gymnastics for 9 years. The stuff that other girls and I would do could seriously injure someone who’s inexperienced
Ikr like I do gymnastics and it makes me so mad when ppl are like it's not even a real sport. Like, we practice 3-4 hours everyday, control our diets, regulate our lives and give up so many things for it. How can you say it's not a real sport???
@@kyliviie2903 my sister tried all three, she’s doing gymnastics now. Legit ballet is where you breaks your feet, cheerleading and gymnastics is where you get thrown around
There's no problems being a girly girl, there's no problems being a tomboy, and there's no problems with being in the middle. I personally kinda go in the middle of it
But there IS a problem if you judge other girls just because they like something.
How I see my personality is just being myself because say I like being a tomboy or girly girl and it feels like I have put a mark on my head saying girly girl or tomboy it feels like I’m forcing myself to be someone I’m not and that I have do do everything that that personality does so I just be myself instead of choosing. I don’t think I’m explaining myself very well..
Same I like girlish stuff but also like tomboy stuff and there’s me, half girl half tomboy 👁👄👁
SAME
Yea middle too BUT I don’t like it when people refer to me as either a Tom boy or girly girl because if you think about it it’s kinda sexist because it’s implying that to be “one of the boys” you need to like sports or play video games except that’s not true. I play sports (volleyball) and an unhealthy amount of video games but yes I do care about how I look so I love doing makeup and I spend a lot of time on my hair an outfits. AND THATS 100% OKAY REGARDLESS OF GENDER! 😌
I have a sister who's in her 30s, very narcissistic, and she's literally the definition of a pick me girl. Growing up with her, as a girl myself, was... an experience.
mhm yes an experience..
Not “literally”
In her 30s? Wow. That’s embarrassing. A lot of us were cringe and pickme as teens, but you’d think she’d be over it by now
luckily, im not straight so im not a pick me. my ‘‘pick me’’ phase at 8 was cause i thought a girl was cute and I didnt wanna look gay
im bi
@@iknowexactlywhoyouare8701 Did correcting them make you feel better?
I love the fact how in literally all of these compilations I’m watching the boys are all Dylans Joshs and Jakes
lol love the pfp my low quality academia XD
Hahah
ETHAN
Joshua
as a dylan i promise im not like that 😭😭
This is like the Y/n character on a one shot ff
So true!! 😂
Pick me girls and y/n have one thing in common.
I want to punch both of them in the face 🧚♀️✨😻
What is Y/n ?
@@naria2224 Y/n stands for “your name”. It’s used in reader-insert books. Don’t worry, not all of them are bad, it’s just that some of them are pretty stupid at times lmao
@@Darlinettelvi Oh okay. Thanks :)
The pick me girl that “doesn’t wear makeup” sure does talk about it more than any girl I know 💀
There are plenty of women who don't wear make up and don't fucking brag about it or are still girly girls. So when you see a pick me who doesn't wear make up, GET THE BASEBALL BAT.
It’s the ✨internalized misogyny that all pick me girls have✨ for me
literally.. the fact that they direct it towards others thats an additional problem here, its straight up just misogyny when they treat other women or girls badly
The fact is that cheerleading is a sport, an EXTREMELY DIFFICULT AND COMPETITIVE SPORT.MIND YOU.
just like any sport you have to have a LOT of stamina so it is a real sport
Yes! So is ballet/dance and I'm Soooo sick of ppl calling it "girly". Plz try to triple spin en pointe and we'll see! 😉
@@elliewuzzup7689 as someone in dance class I can confirm it’s hard.
Also I did cheerleading for a while, I still feel sore remembering it.
@@elliewuzzup7689 is it true that dancers have a lot of trauma? I always see dancers getting screamed at/verbally @bused and hit constantly, so I kept myself away from dance even when I really wanted to try it. And are you able to get into dance as a teen? I've also heard that you can only start dancing as a toddler and younger or else it'll ruin your body and not give you a career
There’s no shame in being a girly girl :)
that's what if girls won't be girly then who will lol
@@saanvijadhav6689 us (chad) femboys >:D
Exactly! :)
Yes! This comment
@@saanvijadhav6689 boys, nonbinary people, etcetera?
Maturing is realizing that "pick me girl " was a phase some of us as girls went through whether in subtle ways or hardcore . And we learned to accept our inner selves later on in life . The best example is 'Gone Girl' .
@BreeDaCancer Right like....let's not try to speak for everyone
@Sammy It's fine . I don't get along with boys from an early age too . I was trying to bring in a wider perspective of why some people may act this way . If any of such people have wronged you in the past , you have all rights to be angry at them .
Lol, I had that phase too. But I think a more evolved and a better put out level of that concept still defines me a lot. I mostly hang out with guys, and relate to them a lot (being bisexual and especially being one of the "men of culture"). It's true that I have nurtured the feminine part of myself but that masculine presentation and way of thinking is and will stick to me without any doubt. So overall that "cringy" phase disappeared but turned into a person who still accepts the feminine side of myself.
I was a pickme girl in Kindergarten and then got out of it in 1st grade lol
i never had a pick me phase?? huh
As a bisexual, If i could get my hands on a girly girl I'd legit be so blessed 😇
As a girly girl I feel appreciate 🥲
I must agree girly girls are so pretty :D
@@mymelody3221 As you should my friend :)
@@ShiraishiHolmes39 thank you 😊
@@mymelody3221 no problem :>
I was once the 'pick me girl' I will never recover from those days. I cringe so bad remembering THOSE days😭😭
You were a kid; give yourself a break.
@@PhoenixRising87 Thanks, those days still haunt me.
@@Therealhoopangel lmao please share some of the things you did ....😀
@@psychochick0333 well, I always would go around saying I saw a "tomboy" I wasn't. I secretly really liked being girly. I would also always say I was "one of the boys" yeah. Those weren't my best moments.
Omg same🤕🤕
1:19 I hate how they say that cheerleading is not a sport ok than try to do the same shit they are doing it’s not that easy
ikr it's considered one of the most dangerous sports for doing so many things w/o breaking necks
Ikrrr like I Stan these cheerleaders that do all of these tricks without breaking their necks
i'm actually practicing cheerleading and i will tell you: it leaves my legs *s o r e-*
I do a reseach and that's *actually* a sport
It hurts me on the insideeee like so many injuries can come from it since it's one of the most dangerous soetsss ouhhg I'm so mad rkk
I want to see a 1v1 of the pick me girl vs the actually athletic girl
OH FUCK YEAH
And the actually athletic girl is also girly as well.
Bro we need to have a talk with death battle
@@kieranindahouseslayyyyyy 😍😍
To the girls who USED to be a pick me, you're trying now babies. You're fine we still love you ❤
um...no...
we don't love pick me girls.
hard, bitter truth.
@@nandanajaneesh3486 they're not pick mes anymore. The girls that WERE pick me girls might have been young and dumb or trying to figure out their personality.
You've done some stupid things when you were younger or maybe just in life. Would you want someone holding that over your head for the rest of your life, even if you're different now?
Thank you!
@@nandanajaneesh3486 It's not hard or bitter, and while we don't have to like them for their actions, it's important to remember it spawns from a shitty self-loathing mindset and to treat them with empathy and understanding.
@@nandanajaneesh3486 past tense, USED to. learn how to read fucktard
as an asian, I just find it amazing to see the pick me phenomenon across different countries and different cultures. it's like a global thing
is it different in Asia or like exactly the same (genuine question)
The sad thing is that when I was younger i had this "pick me" phase and looking back it was disgusting and i wish i can apologize to everyone i was talking to😞
Edit: Im sending hugs to all of yall babies🥺
~Lumina~ I had this phase too, it was more of the “I don’t wear makeup because I prefer all natural” and would bash girls who did…every time I look back I’m just like ugh!!! Why was I like that😭😭🤧🤧 makes me wanna go back in time and slap myself out of that phase
Yeah, me too. I wish I could slap my younger self because it was so disgusting looking back on it. And it probably didn't to any good to my mental health.
Oh gods. Watching these tiktoks, I just want to go and punch my younger self in the face. It's so embarrassing.
Me too 😭😭
same bro, I hate my younger self
stuff like this makes me dislike the idea of socializing even more like jeez-
Mewho’s going into high school, wanting friends but not wanting friends at the same time:
@@Jumexjuu mood
fr like how can I approach boys, (or literally anyone) without coming off as a pick me
Same 😭✋
This has really pushed me to the point where I wanna cry for some reason
It’s infuriating but that’s how to know their acting is on point 💯 Either they were once a pick me girl and learned from it or they were victims of pick me girls. Or both lol.
LMAO
I felt that 😩
Right? Like the second last one I felt like I was in it fighting for my life to get custody of my bf to try and get him back but was afraid I would lose them to someone else like I was in the middle of a court room that’s how intense if yk what I mean. Dk why tho
@@sapphire8644 lollll
It’s the worst when the guys don’t call out the toxic behaviour- 😔💃. Hopefully all girls tomboy or girly or in the middle will be able to be themselves, because THEY want to 💕😌
as a former gymnast and competitive cheerleader, I can confirm that cheering is a sport. with competing and coaching I've seen so many girls and guys get hurt
It's the internalized mysoginy for me 😗💅
It's the wannabe japanese for me
@@z.aim.a why is that?
@@z.aim.a ??? how do you know
@@z.aim.a lmao, looks like the person hit the nail in the coffin?
feeling attacked?
lol.
@@z.aim.a hits home huh?
As an honorary “one of the boys” we don’t claim pick me bitches and most of us are lesbians
Finally somebody sad it
"and most of us are lesbians"
YYYEaSSSSSSS
yesssss
As a lesbian, i agree
why would you want to ve friends with males 🤢 you are a pick me bitch and thats the way these males will see you regardless of sexuality
*When you realize so many of your friends and classmates are "pick me" girls from a couple of TikToks* ....
*EDIT* I don’t think this was understood. I’m not saying all teen girls with some of these behaviors are “pick me” like. I was just saying watching this from a totally different perspective than I have just being with my friends made me see how a lot of them are pretty toxic and I’ve now token those people out of my life. If you’re a tomboy, own that shit. It’s beautiful
i love ur pfp lol
Nope the worst is when you realize that you might have been, maybe are, truly might be a pick me girl 🤷♀️
@Someone 333 I can actually get behind this. If someone just wants attention and isn't harming anyone, it should be alright :)
So true. Am i a pick me girl, or did i just go through a tomboy phase? Can a ten y.o even be a pick me girl? Im very concerned for my friends so plz help meh ;-;
Sheesh
One time I was talking about dating with my friends, and the class pick me girl went: “What?! How does _she_ have a bf and I don’t?!?”
And I wanted so badly to respond with
*_”Who said it was a boy?”_*
There was once a short Filipino girl who we’re gonna call “JJ.” She was a major pick me girl. She was smart, talented, cute (imo), and was friends with the smartest person in our class group. Although, the only times I would remember seeing her was when she was around the smartest person “who we’re gonna call….”Sam.” Sam was a guy, tall, smart, valedictorian of our class, well known, and talented and very lucky (had enough money to travel to a lot of places, being from a small-town community). Well anyways, I would always see JJ clinging on to Sam’s arm, or talking real loud for attention when more people are trying to talk with sam (a basic “hello” or “how are you?”). She would always talk about how he is making fun of her height, when he’s not. It’s like he ignores her alot and she’s desperately trying to get his attention. Quite sad actually.
In our senior year, everyone found out that Sam was dating the smartest girl in the class (was 2nd top of the class, other than Sam) which was pleasant, she made Sam the happiest guy we’ve ever seen. Since, sam was always cold and full of himself, he turned into a himbo for the smart girl. And oooo JJ was obviously upset. JJ kept telling everyone that they wouldn’t last 3 months but here is the couple- more than several months together and happy, last time I saw them. Both my partner and I noticed later on that JJ might have matured after graduating (since we we’re all in the same class), but last time I heard, my partner saw JJ and Sam (and a couple of other students that were In our class at a school concert thing) and JJ acted the same around him.
Some people just never learn…. Thx for reading the whole experience if you made it this far. I don’t have a reward but I can offer a digital soda, with your favorite drink: 🥤
I appreciate the soda ( ^-^)╯🥤✨🥤╰(^-^ ) cheers!~
Thanks for the soda 🙂
Aww hope that couple lasts cause I like their dynamic
The only part that offend me is the sneeze thing because I SNEEZE EXACTLY LIKE THIS!!!!(not for being cute,just because is the only way that I can sneeze without spreading nasty drops of feeling annoying “””scratches””” in my throat).Being alergic since as a little kid and sneezing every single day made this!!😭😭😭
Same I sneeze like that to not make a bunch of noise 💀😭😭😭
well at least it ain't for attention
mmm
Me too and at this point it's not cute I just get embarrassed 😅
I sneeze like that too. It’s either that or ACHDJNAKWOWOOOOOOOOOOOOAAAAAAAAAAA as the world shatters around me and every conversation ceases to have meaning, which I tend to do if I’m at home alone. I hated to learn that some people do it like “cute” on purpose to get attention, because now I just think every time I sneeze quietly and someone comments on it, they think I’m being a pick me
If a girl came into class with a dress on I wouldn’t assume she is trying to impress someone I would think she’s doing it for herself and I would talk to her if I see her and say she looks pretty 🤩
100th like
@江輝 Then be that person!
i litterally wore a dress to school cause i wanted to feel like a god. it worked :)
If a girl came into class with a dress on... I wouldn't say a word lmao
My heart bro 🥺
I just realised that me over-explaining things and acting like I "don't care" about some stuff to avoid people judging me, makes me look like a pick me girl and it genuinely scares me...
SAME
My class has a really fun and chill P.E. teacher so we usually go outside and we can choose to play soccer or volleyball. All of the boys choose soccer and most of the girls choose volleyball. I liked volleyball but now it got kinda boring for me so I play soccer with boys and there are usually like my 2 friends (girls) also playing but sometimes they dont and then I always feel like I am a pick me even if I am playing for fun and I am always afraid that others see me as pick me and I dont want to be seen like that
Nono, it's ok. Being a Pick me is being so insecure and misogynistic that you judge all women as the same, it's just that.
I acted like that, but mine is cause I have PTSD, Major depressive disorder, and social anxiety. So I don’t think that classifies anyone as a pick me girl. Some people just have issues with being around people.
@@gabrysiaj1530 Same! I really enjoy playing basketball but also love doing makeup, but I always get worried whenever I’m playing basketball if people are going to think I’m a pick me. Like this isn’t 1950 anymore. Girls can play any sports we want as long as we don’t bring down other women.
I was "one of the guys" and genuinely just valued their friendship. I had girl friends that spread rumors about me being a man stealer but I was a weirdo fat goth looking nerd. I was very alternative. Boys wouldn't date me with or without makeup. The rumors spread anyway and all I had left were "the guys".
i feel bad for you :(
I feel this on a spiritual level
You know they good at acting when they make you wanna throw your phone
It’s just a POV, it’s just a POV. Don’t smash your phone ( Thanks for all the likes I have never had this much!)
Lolz the struggle to not throw my phone or mentally throw hands is real.
That’s how you know the acting is good 💀
It's to late I already through my phone down the stairs
Lol! I needed this
I actually slammed it on my bed TvT
how does the pick me girl think cheerleading is not a sport but cup pong is?
@Keira Z lol
@ur fav hangnail Lmao had me in the first half ngl
@akia sans Ballet isn't a sport - it's an art form. It's obvious that the physical attributes of a dancer are similar to those of an athlete, but there is much more to the art than physical virtuosity and skill.
im not a ballet dancer but im a dancer...
i am a classical dancer.
dance is an artform....not a sport...
@@nandanajaneesh3486 it is a sport
@@DivineDiane Hear me out. It's a spart.
“What if I make you next period come out of your nose!” Is such a good line
Okay as an ex pick me girl I want to ask a question here, just to know if we're all in the same place: did anyone else think you were being treated as "one of the boys" only to later realize you were actually being treated like the group's s*x mascot? Just asking, because that was my experience ngl.
Edit: also these girls say that girl groups are so much drama but honestly in my experience when you get personal with a dude sometimes they confess to you how literally all his friends hate eachother but still hangout just to not be alone 💀💀💀
I saw a girl have that experience, I was in the same group and I never had anything with any of the guys but they all ended up having something with her and in the end the atmosphere got so tense that she distanced, sometimes I regret having taken the situation lightly when she was having a bad time, anyway, I still have mostly male friends but I hang out more with other girls now.
I’m friends with a large group of dudes but I don’t act like this and I’m still friends with girls, like ‘pick me’ girls try so hard to put other girls down it’s infuriating like you can be friends with dudes and not try so hard to be like them, if your like yourself they’ll like and include you if you act like this you come off as annoying and pushy and it’s not a good look (also shout out to my bestie last night when he told me our friend group was called ‘the sus squad’)
Thank you you understand me
@@gxmmy_wxrm1639 np I’m glad I have a person who thinks the same
I’d rather not be friends with anyone…. Uhh… people, I’m sick of poeople 💀✋
People*
@@Jumexjuu ngl I hate people too lol💀
The slow descent into madness of the pick me girl when she's not getting attention anymore from "the boys" 😂
The title is the most accurate representation of them
It's such a sad thing actually. All those girls just have to go through a lot of internalised mysoginy and it's really hard I think. They spread all this hate to the other girls because she hates every aspect of womanhood in herself. Also constant need in validation doesn't comes from nothing. I understand such people could be really annoying but you need to remember that they need help. Also don't forget that a lot of teen media in 00's showed this stereotype as cool thing so some of them just picked it as an desirable archetype later in their life. It has its influence.
You are so cool for understanding this. I know it's weird hearing it from a stranger, but it is just so cool!
Maybe their frustrations with expectations of womanhood are reasonable?
@@familysystem they are, but to put other people down in order to process your own feelings is definetly not the way to do it. Plenty of woman get tired of expectations of womanhood everyday without it needing to envolve male acceptance, woman rivalries, and internalized mysoginy.
I literally have a pick me girl in my class and I feel the pain. I thought it was gonna be a cool school but it’s the most painful experience. The worst part is, the boys actually like the attention and I cant breath or do anything without her telling someone to either shut up, glaring at someone or rolling her eyes at any girl she doesn’t know the name, address and social security number of.
Lmao I remember the time when I punched a pick me girl, on the nose cause she told me that I wear too much make up and shamed me in front of the basketball team, she was literally wearing eyeliner and mascara like girl wtf
YES! PUNCH THAT BUM IN THE FACE! she had no right to do that to you
You was mean
Good. I wish someone would try this on me. But I'm 33 and most girls are mature
especially when they squeal about being short when they're deadass 5'5 💀
I mean that's shorter than average
@@Rose-jz6sx for women, it’s 2 inches above average
ikr
I'm somewhere around that height and my brothers still call me short. Personally I think it's a bit short too and I want to make my way up to 6'3 to be one inch taller than my father.
I- huhhh
My ex boyfriend had a pick me girl "best friend". She always made fun of me when I was with him and it was pretty obvious that she liked him, she gave him "boy hugs" when she would found us "by accident" in our way home.
She also tried to be "my friend" just to sneak into my dates with my boyfriend.
I got tired of that b1tch and him for defending her, so we broke up.
No surprise! They were dating 1 month later. But the funny part is that he broke up with her 3 months laters because she ended up being extremly toxic.
2:36 " That was really funny, how about I make your next period come out your nose " 💀
I knew two pick me girls in school who thought they were sooo special just bcs they hung out with the boys and played soccer(which the ENTIRE class did). They always used to be like "We're not weak like the other girls in our in our class" "Omg, you like dresses??? You're so old school, are you sure you wanna hang out with us?" my favourite one was "Hey BrAh!! Omg don't get offended I call everyone bRaH. It's a boy thing...you probably wouldn't understand cause you're so girly "
Yo that’s cringe
As Taylor Swift said, "But sophistication isn't what you were or who you know, or pushing people down to get you where you wanna go"
Ok, kiss me
SWIFTIE??
She would know all about that too
@@futuristicgirl14 right. I feel bad for her because she gets attacked by other girls constantly. If you look in the comments under any post about her it's just a bunch of girls bashing her and anyone who listens to her. She's pick me girl bait 😂. They come crawling out of nowhere to tell everyone how they can't stand her or her music like anyone asked them. But ironically enough I use to work with this chick who was like Queen Pick Me herself and she tried to look and talk like Taylor Swift. She had a really horrible fake accident that got 100x more southern when talking to guys. I'm actually from the South so my accent is natural. She immediately hated me for no reason at all but now I am sure it was because I have the accent she wants. Honestly I'd love to trade with her. Guys think it's cute to tease me and ask me to repeat specific words because apparently I say them funny. And if anyone gave me special attention over her she would be extra mean but passive aggressively mean. Like saying something wildly offensive but in a sweet fake southern accent and calling you Suger or Honey or Darling in a "bless your heart" kinda way. And sometimes I'd leave work with tears in my eyes and once I was having one of those days and I got in my car and Taylor's song "mean" was just staring to play and it was like the universe was making fun of this girl and I stopped crying and turned up my radio so she could hear it from where she was standing at her car with another coworker probably talking shit about me. She actually ended up being the reason I quit that job. Some jobs don't pay you enough to put up with certain people who work there
lmao taylor is the ultimate nlog/pickme. her entire first breakout hit was literally her whining that some dude should love her bc she's not like all those other girls. she wears t-shirts! the other girls wear short skirts! taylor's whole thing is so gross 😂😂😂
11:57 this friendship is just straight up toxic like even if u r a "friend" u have no right to tell someone what to wear or take someone's pic if they r against it then share with everyone. God this rlly does make my blood boil omg
What makes it worse is that in the reenactment, the girl with stripes was starting to agree with her "friend" 😢
Okay so hear me out, I got a friend who constantly talks about herself and her crushes and recently brought something I brought but better. If you say something you did she'll be like "oh same!" Or "Oh have I told you about when I did that too?". She also constantly wants to call or text and she sends selfies or herself to the friend group talking about how "ugly" she looks (now idk if she wants attention from that or if she is trying to show off not so subtly)
Would you say she is a pick me girl?
Idk if she's a pick me, but she's a bad friend and you can do better.
she is...
leave her man.
She doesn’t sound like a Pick me. Just a tad bit toxic. Ease away from her
Not at all a pick me, but a lil toxic? A pick me is someone who downgrades others for their own "act" e.g. if ou like pink a pick me will always say "pink is too girl ewww i like ______ because im not a child" (or whatever idfc lmao)
⚠️PICK ME GIRL ALERT⚠️ AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
I cant watch it without being angry. I cant do this to my eyes and ears 🙂
@@_leafee_ ingenious recommendation lets award this individual a nobel prize for their ingenuity and thought-provoked solution
I just notice in every female main character they are always pick me girls.... 💀
What?
I can't really remember any female MCs right now, but I'm pretty sure they aren't pick mes. When I started Teen Wolf I realised lots of people dislike this female character, so I assumed she was a pick me, but she really isn't.
Like who? Can you give examples? A pick me is a female misogynist, btw, not just a girl who plays sports.
In Wattpad and BookTok? Yes
In actual good books? No.
it's interesting how pmg are different in different cultures. In my culture (Vietnamese) pmg usually emphasize how they don't wear makeup, how thin they are and how they can take care of boys/understand them, not good at sports bc sport is not common in my culture
this is so interesting i wanna see a whole cross cultural comparison of pick me behavior from different places lol
To be honest, I don't think I've ever encountered a "pick me".
@bingewatchingrules They are not as common as ppl act, but unfortunately women get massively criticized for doing anything people don't like
When your taller than most of the guys you hang around with :
I am 10 steps ahead of you.☺️
Literally cuz you must take bigger steps since you're a lot tallerxDD; I'm not even 5" T.T
As a lesbian, this is like a fascinating social experiment
Trust me, I've met a lot of lesbians who are walking around with some horrendous internal misogyny
Ok I know I'd laugh at a lesbian girl pretending to try and out-pick-me the pick-me girl for entertainment purposes
It blows my mind how someone can just insert themselves into a friend group, whether it’s “the guys” or any friend group. It’s definitely possible to join a friend group, but you gotta let it happen naturally. It’s so cringey when a girl just insists upon being part of the group when none of the boys have shown any desire to have her around for any reason. Just be nice to people and someone or even multiple people will eventually wanna be your friend. Might not even take a long time.
if you're really an honorary "one of the boys", you usually love another girl joining the group. like yay sis I'm not alone get over here!
I love how all these pick me girls be out here pretending like volleyball is an easy sport 😃
I broke my nose thanks to volleyball:D
Fuck you people that say it's easy
Fr
What’s funny is the girl who played the pick me girl with perfect skin actually is freaking glowing! 😂
I love watching these because it honestly makes me feel better about myself, since I don’t act like this, very good waste of my time.
why they always gotta say "im so short why are you so tall?" i had a friend that said this and i replied with "i dont know maybe a little something called genes" she left real quick. please dont ask this the answer is obvious.- chaotic moth
This reminds me of one time a classmate I hung around with made a big deal about my hair extensions in front of the guy I liked to embarrass me, when I wore it for a school event. It was my first experience of like "oh. this is not my friend"
“I’m one of the boys.”
“Miss, this is a Wendy’s-“
I was the Actual pick me girl... I was always with "the boys" but I had girl friends too and I didn't put down other women but I did have the "iam not like other girls" mindset 😭 this is until the pandemic then I discovered what a pick me was and that I was annoying, my school is starting physical classes soon and iam gonna change everything
All the best! I'm sure most girls had this phase but as long as you realize it and try to be better, good. More importantly, appreciate those who can forgive your past self and hold on to them dearly
Aw good for u
If you don't put down others and act excessively for attention, there is nothing wrong with your behavior.
You were just you. Internet label everything. Just cuz some tiktok said if you do this that you're a pick me girl doesn't mean you are. Unless you were trying so hard to pretend to be something to get boy's attention or trying to put down other women, you are not a pick me girl. Having a lot of guy friends or thinking you are different is not pick me girl. Maybe you are not different in a global level but you can be different in your school and that can make you feel different, there's nothing wrong with that.
i feel like i’m gaslighting myself into thinking i’m a pick me girl now 🤔
Hahahahahaha!!
XD im afraid me too. But because I do really have a lot in common with boys. My problem was the opposite, I always tryied not to show too much of that because it seems to bother them that a "girly" or pretty "normal" looking girl like "their" music, hobbies and have similar attitudes
Same lol I'm such a hypochondriac.
As a tomboy myself, I have a hard time understanding the pick-me's logic. Romantically we (tomboys) are friendzoned as a general rule. We friendzone ourselves, that seems counterintuitive to what the pick-me's ultimate goal is.
As a girl that played soccer from elementary to high school, ran cross country in middle school, and primarily hung out with boys because I found most girls annoying except the couple best friends I had since kindergarten, "pick me girls" are literally one of the most annoying creatures I have ever encountered. Thanks for making me a cringe comp
uh based on your comment you sound like one yourself
"found most girls annoying" it's giving internalized misogyny
@@literarywitch I mean in all fairness, it is rather easy to find most everyone except for those in your core group (or who seem similar too them and share common interests) annoying. That being said, the phrase is still a bit of a red flag.
the jokes write themselves 😭
@@ameliasellers6396 i understand though if you're a generally closed off person except with your friends but if you find "most girls" annoying and not "most people/most girls and guys" annoying then i have news for them....
Her: "You know, she's not like me"
Them: "That's exactly why we like her"
Had me dead 🤣
POV: you were a pick me girl but it turned out you were trans🧍
(I wasn’t the type of pick me girl who would make fun of other girls but I did want to be one of the boys)
😀 I-
Doesn’t making fun of “pick me girls” make you a “pick me girl” too?
so youre saying that pick me girls are good?
@@ellaxin2340 that’s literally not what I said- where in gods name did you come to that conclusion from my comment? 💀
Quite possibly but I’m petty and shall continue regardless
@@clojcloj ok...pick me 💀
How tho? And why do you overuse the skull emoji? Did someone die?? And you are literally being a pick me right now. Just ask and I can list all the statements on how making fun of one doesn't make you one
They’re so aggressively portraying pick me’s it’s starting to feel like a reverse pick me which is basically just the same thing in reverse lol
when you realize you once went thru this phase too-
Watching these made me realize how much my high school bestie was a pick me. She had a boyfriend our senior year that she adored and she put him first and made him top priority. She was planning to graduate and then move to a different state with him. There were a lot of red flags with him and I became concerned and told her to really think and reconsider that decision. She became very defensive and said he was the love of her life and she was doing it. Not even three months later, she calls me saying he was cheating on her with women AND men and even had a three year old CHILD. I supported her (as friends do) and she looked at me and said
"I appreciate you staying by my side and still wanting to be friends with me. I'm sorry that I didn't listen to you".
Glad to say she is no longer a pick me and is thriving in life supporting other women and not needing a man.
That's not a pick me, that's being trapped in a toxic relationship ffs.
@@moommoom6915 You are absolutely correct but I would say she was a pick me even before that.
XD still waiting for the pick me part
On god if my girlfriend wrote me a love song I would love that so fucking much. Like how is that an insults that's so fuckin adorable
Right??? I'm bi and i have a boyfriend now but oh my god. one of my exes used to sing to me on her ukele and on god. instantly fell in love. if soft girl wrote me a song I would fucking melt dude
Here is my opinion on pick me girls
first off: pick me girls are acting like they do in the videos, and not every girl that has more guy friends that girl friends. I get along better with ppl that are not like the typical girls. idgaf if they wear makeup or how they style. Its the behaviour
First of all, i fucking hate them. like, stop trying so hard to be one of the boys. it honestly brings me to another level of rage, ngl I also don't understand why they make fun of someone so clearly. I am not really nice to you if i dont like you either, not gonna lie, but i must keep that to myself for the most part and that's it. I could rand abt this, but that would be boring cause i probs gonna repeat myself
But this video is so fucking good, and the title u picked for the video is amazing and extremely good
little fun fact cause i am bored: my mum said yesterday i am more the kind of person that pushes little kids off of swings... i would if i wasnt so scared of the consequences
Lmaooo I LOVE THE LAST PARAGRAPH HONESTLY I WOULD TO...
😂 throwing little kids on swings my mom did that once when I was nine my friend invited me to her birthday party at the park and there was a little snakey ropey thingey where like 5 people could get on and me and my two other friends were on it and one of them was slipping off and my mom saw her but she pretended not to notice and when my friend fell off she said "sorry honey I didn't notice" (my friend didn't get injured tho) like wtf mom
I watch these videos to tell myself that I'm not a pick me girl. I'm really boyish and have been my entire life and almost all of my friends are guys (it's a consensual relationship I don't force myself into their friend group lmao) and I play video games and occasionally different sports with them but I don't have anything against girls there's another girl in our friend group and another one is slowly started to be accepted by everyone so that's exciting lol but I'm not attracted to any of my friends and I don't try to get them to "pick me" and I most definitely don't put other girls down in front of them for attention. But anyway I was reading the comments and can someone please tell me if I'm a pick me girl or not bc this is stressing me out lmao.
You're not don't worry
@@kurumiqwq Thank god, people can be threatening in the comments lol "It's just a pov...it's just a pov.., I want to punch my phone rn... I got so mad I threw my phone across the room" and I was like wait a minute, is this what people think about me haha. So Thank you for confirming that for me. (Very random but I just got out of round with a couple of them and some dude called me a discharge roach, idk why I find it funny even though it was supposed to be an insult 💀)
No don’t worry lol, you are just a Tom boy
Being a tomboy or masculine doesn't make you a pick me, pick mes can be feminine too. The core element of a pick me is being misogynistic and putting men on a pedestal often at the expense of other women.
As long as you respect other girls and don't offend people in a passive agressive way, we see no problem here. You honestly sound cool to hang out with, and its the fact that you're wondering it alone that already tells that you're probably not a pick me. So no worries
"What's your biggest injury?? Like breaking a nail??"
Excuse you ma'am...nail breaks are fucking painful in case you didn't know.
My sister's classmate is like a "pick me" girl, being loudly against the girly aesthetic, claiming she has more guy friends than girls like it's some achievement, and saying she is all-natural when my sister could literally see the eyelash glue attaching large, fake lashes to her eyelids (sure, wear them, but don't lie about it). Bruv, you're in 7th grade- 💣
People wear fake eyelashes that young? That's kinda crazy to me.
@@bingewatchingrules7590 A lot of kids do. Makeup has reached everybody, and while some wear it for healthy reasons, others wear it because they feel they aren't pretty without it.
That goes for a lot of people, but I think some are too young to have to worry about cosmetics.
0:54 girls like these tell me ballet is not a sport. ironically one of my long term ‘injuries’ is that my pinky toe nail won’t grow back and all my toenails are ingrown. LMAO
5:35 the amount of times she said “like”-
Edit: I counted. She said it about 22 times i think
Yall probably gonna call me a pick me for this but I was one of the guys. Lol but not at all like this. I just got along with guys better. It wasn't that I didn't like girls though but I liked to skateboard, throw football, climb trees, play world of warcraft..etc. and I didn't even wear makeup to my own wedding lmao but in my case, the guys actually invited me and liked having me around. I was the only girl invited to halo nights, cod nights and wow nights. Now I am 31 and married, a mom, all my high school friend groups have dispersed so those days are behind me. My 2 closest friends outside of my husband and daughter are girls. I think the reason I was a 'one if the guys' girls was because growing up my 2 closest cousins were boys so I ended up befriending most of their friends over the years plus..I was just a tomboy in general. Actually..I still am really. I own one dress and it is my funeral dress haha. I still live my life in skate shoes. I don't even own hair styling stuff like straighteners/curlers, Bobby pins, pony tails or scrunchies..etc. I just like the simplicity.
“I’m the only girl who’s ever played a sport” lmao
I can't count how many times I was shaded to this day by pick mes
her: i have like no gag reflex
jake: am i a joke to you?
Unfortunately I am ashamed to say I was a pick me girl. But I was home schooled and literally had 0 friends and when people were around I didnt know how to socialize. But still not my proudest moments.
2:03 “you people” 💀
0:35 love her curly hair
4:35 hits different after the 2022 oscars 💀💀