Do You Miss Who I Was Before Transitioning? | {THE AND} MaryV & Chella
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MaryV & Chella, dating for a year and a half, open up about how they’ve grown and changed in the context of their relationship. MaryV explores the differences in being with Chella before and during his transition, while Chella reminds MaryV of the selfless things she does to accommodate his deafness and make sure he always feels included and respected. | Official English captions available!
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Do You Miss Who I Was Before Transitioning? | {THE AND} MaryV & Chella
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If their relationship were made into a movie, no actor/actress would replicate the way they look into each other’s eyes.
Smile umm Scarlett Johansson? Think again sweetie
TRUE SJSJDJDJDJJ
Leo dicaprio mate he’d make ur head SPIN
Rain Writes SCREAMING
I was thinking the same
They make me sad because I feel like this kind of love is one in a billion
So be the next one! :) Never give up.
Ok
I don't know if I'll ever be this emotionally available for someone.
Sure it is
You're idealizing this. If you knew these people in reality you'd say they're like everyone else.
If she learned sign language for him that’s beyond beautiful and it burns my heart 😩😍
When I read this I immediately agreed but then I thought actually it should be an obvious thing to do for someone you love, learn their language to understand them better you know?
She does know some sign language but is not fluent yet.
True love is helping each other’s life’s
Wdym, she can. Only when she is tired and it's night time, she said it's an issue.
But why does he use sign language? He can hear
Uff that ending 😭
"Are we finished"
"Yeah we're finished what do you want to do now?"
"I love you"
"I love you....... always"
"Me too🥰"
Martha Lozano I took a sign language class this spring, and I’m so happy I actually understood what they said 😭
@@elisemartina9832 wow I thought that sign language change from country to country?
sᴇᴀʀᴄʜɪɴɢ ғᴏʀ ᴀɴ ɪᴅᴇɴᴛɪᴛʏ it does!! this was ASL - American Sign Language. In England it even changes, even though it’s English both places 🙈
Thank you for translating this. 😊
Lozano Family imma cry holy shit
9:56 MaryV:"Why do you love me?"
Chella: "Why?...Everything. Everything."
Me: cries in single
B M LMAO
Hahahahhaha
💀🤣
Him wearing white and her wearing black is so pleasing to look at for some reason. They look so beautiful together. Their love is beautiful!
I'm the 666 like 😐
@@rosemoon605 😂congrants I guess
Judging their relationship solely on their appearance so superficial! The sheer amount of comments that only focus on their appearance is apparent, and that is not a good reflection of the audience. I get these are trans-folk, but still...
Yin-yang ☯
"i have not fallen in love with a body, but merely a soul, and that has made all the difference."
solbirsuka god this is so pure
Sorry i dont get it the boy is a trans boy?
Yaddle Perreadora yee
🥺
update: they hit 3 years!!
Wow... It feels like they've been together forever
4 years!!!
Make it 4 now..
Of course they are! They seem like old souls who've been together for decades
They're so easily and completely in love, everyone in the comments can see it and it's gorgeous
update: 5 years now!!
if I can't find love like this...I don't want it.
I mean shiiitttt I'm pretty lonely so I might have to settle for basic love...LMFAO 💀
chicha cun HAHAHA NO PENIS SO FUNNY. stfu, they're in love and that doesn't mean anything about their genitals. If that's all you care about well you can worry about that with YOUR partner. Stop worrying about other people and what they like fucking weirdo.
That's really... Miserable. Damn. I hope you get over this way of thought, or else you're gonna be single forever
Sigh...right?
Omg yes
their voices are so calming
ami babyy I just want them to narrate a book for me now, so peaceful voices
i was just thinking that. very soft spoken voices
ami babyy my own personal ASMR
Helina Pope they could narrate Eleanor and Park
IKR? This video is almost like ASMR, I would love to hear them reading a story or something
I honestly feel like relationships like this are once in a blue moon. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a couple in my life look at each other the way they do and so.... caring for each other. You can see they really love each other. Love like this you only see in the movies and i don’t it can replicated.
Honestly. When I thought of relationships as a child with purer intentions I thought it’d be like this. Only to grow up and see so many who are clearly nowhere near this amount of connection but feel like they’re in a true relationship. It’s mind boggling.
Totally!!!! Well said!
I love that Maryv is wearing all black and Chella is wearing all white and their whole aesthetic. Its like they complete each other. So pure
well it's all calculated. And of course, they have style advisers for this. I don't see anything pure about that. It's just okay.
@@zimzimzalabim I don't think intent and expertise negate the effect. Beauty does not have to be spontaneous to be pure.
Yin-yang type shit
ShadoWolf43 ying and yang baby
Yin yang
This couple is like out of a movie
What I wouldn't give for a love like this.
They accept each other so completely and without hesitation.
It's really beautiful.
Update : they hit 2 years !!!!
Lu R ”hit” jesus
and a month!!!!
am i the only one bothered by this phrasing? like it's a fing marathon or how long can you kiss while holding your breath wtfff
now 3
and married now
this was so intimate. the way they would look at each other was so pure & full of love. i honestly felt like i was intruding on their time. i’m in awe of them. they’re such beautiful people.
They look at each other as though no one else in the world exists.
As you said, it almost felt intrusive to watch this conversation.
Damn, she is stunning. She looks like a classical painting.
Exactly, she's sooo beautiful
Yes 😍
They’re so intelligent and mature. Communication is key and that’s exactly what they have.
Inasy Morgan and they’re so young it’s amazing
Same here
And it's actually much harder for them since Chella's hearing, yet they have the best sets of communication
when he whispers, "yeah, but you just kill it" i swooned so hard omfg
Harambe Dawg I'm gonna cry. They are so perfect
Right? I aspire to have a relationship like theirs!
So pure
the enD WHERE THEY SIGNED IMFSFNSKJA
"i'll love you always"
"i'll love you always"
"forever"
"me too"
Andy Kurtis that’s not what they signed. though😂
@@Ash-sy4qj What is it then?
"You've never disappointed me to that point where it fills the entirety of the word"... I liked that :)
what's the meaning
@@nurulnatasya4087 that she hasn't REALLY disappointed him, maybe small things, because he said "disappointed" is a heavy word
Roses are red meaning she’s never disappointed him to the point where he can actually say I’m disappointed in you. He’s only been upset but she’s never fulfilled the meaning of that word. If that makes sense?
They're so in love and so gentle with each other. They understand each other at their core.
erin h IKR
Yes! Perfect description!
Exactly what I was thinking. They’re so sweet, I love seeing people who genuinely care about each other interact
I love how at the end they did sign language I really wanna learn ASL so bad I soon hope to take classes like that while I have the chance in highschool :) I wanna have a conversation like this with my girl one day ...
10 tousand likes?
Are these people even real?! They're so pure and well spoken.
Being Deaf myself (and Asian-American), the sign language at the end was really heartwarming to see! Thanks so much for sharing this story.
Charlie Castillo if you don't mind, can you tell me what did they say? Trying to look up all the comments but seems like no one notice that special last bits...
I want to know what the sign language meaning too..
Zakiyya and Honey: here’s what I was able to make out because the camera is far away:
MaryV: Thank you
Chella: Thank you
MaryV: Feel finished?
Chella: I feel finished, yes
Both: shorthand for I Love You (🤟 symbol)
Charlie Castillo After the “i love you” Chella also signed “always” and i think MaryV signed “me too” after that :) (hope this helps!)
sorry if I sound dumb but how is he able to understand her when he is deaf? I'm really confused
Can you believe these two are 20? They have so much maturity and understanding at such a young age. I've been watching their videos since a few months now, and all I see is pure love and innocence. Wishing them a bright future!❤️
WHAT?!
@@Lwmyoun yeah! Chella is 20 and MaryV is 21.
When this video was posted, they were both just 19. Beautiful young souls❤️
@@kirtij2441 Wow. I mean... I'm the same age as Chella but.. wow I'm amazed of what they think about love. A mature love.
@@kirtij2441 Oh, by the way, do you know how Chella deals with his deafness? I'm so confused because they just talked to each other normally. How could he listen to MaryV and respond her immediately?
@@Lwmyoun He uses Cochlear implants throughout the day. And when he's not, they communicate with sign language
The fact that Chella and MaryV are so understanding and well-spoken really makes me feel a certain way, i can't even really put it into words. I'm just in awe.
Karma same
Karma same
They’re so naturally attractive. Like calmly attractive. I’m not sure what adjective I’m trying to use but it’s like not too overwhelming but it’s definitely evident. They’re just so purely attractive
AfrocentricGeek I feel you
They both have a softness to them especially Mary
Totally know what you mean
They like someone you see in those Indie aesthetic teenage movies.
They have ethereal beauty
This girl is frighteningly beautiful, i wish i could draw her beauty, but that is impossible cause her beauty passes through her personality.
SO beautiful, I was going to comment this but u put it so well the face and the personality 🥺
Both of them are ridiculously good-looking.
They're a gorgeous couple, in looks and the way they treat and interact with each other.
This people is LOVE based in
COM-MU-NI-CA-TI-ON 🤞🏻
*Faith in love: restored*
*Hotel:Trivago*
Sorry I had too. (I agree with the restored faith in love)
Made my day! 🙏🏼 So true! 🥰
She reminds me of a movie star. I would totally watch her on screen. She is so captivating and calming at the same time.
N. Calhoun love the bird
Emmy rossum
She has that timeless hollywood beauty ....
Idk why but she reminds be of Julia Roberts in a way
Susan Sarandon
They are both so attractive, I don't know what it is about them...maybe the way they carry themselves and communicate but something about them both individually is so subtly intriguing
I thought the same thing
i agree, makes so much sense why they both model though. but it definitely goes beyond their looks
The complexes in Chella's mind intrigue me, you can see they think about everything they say and because of that everything Chella says carrys so much power and meaning
bless these two for making me believe in love
same
*believe
i'm a goner omg relatable
Why is that a problem? Love can end and still have been love...
The intense eye contact is enough!
I wanna be in love like this wtf?!?
SAME
I am in love like this, and it is incredible. It took a long time to grow myself to get to a point where I could have this level of relationship. I am so grateful.
Jill Kanto ok thanks for sharing Jill 👌🏾
lol don't we all
Me too.
What did I just watch? Like, I have to reevaluate my life now... What a pure expression of real love...
SIS needs to DROP THAT SKIN CARE ROUTINE!! Her skin looks velvet soft!
Advi Time She wears foundation. If you check the latest video you see her without it. She’s beautiful either way but her skin isn’t naturally clear
The best communication I've ever seen in a couple. The careful choice of words, rephrasing to achieve perfect understanding, and the absolute love and support for each other. I'm so glad to know this type of love exists and to actually see it. It redeems so much for me.
Roo
It makes me feel like it's scripted because it's so good.
Spicycat, I would think so too if I hadn't been following Chella's vlog for awhile. They're always like this. It's refreshing and really great. :]
Roo now Ik what love is and what it looks like ☺️
yeah women talking to another woman good luck getting a man to sit and talk that way more than once or twice a year in a relationship
L P is a guy n a girl tho
Bisexual culture is having a crush on both of them after watching this
Pansexual*? He's a trans man
Ahana Chatterjee that implies that being trans is it’s own gender which is transphobic, so. you can be bisexual and fall in love or want to be with someone that happens to be trans. i don’t know why you felt the need to try and correct that.
@@senc6806 exactly! A trans man is still just a man, and nothing less.
So true they’re both so damn attractive
Ooo yes
If anyone ever looks at me the way they look at each other, I'd consider my life a success.
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"why do you love me?"
"why???? everything"
ugh what a pure sincerity.
No joke I've never really believed in "soulmates" but I genuinely believe that they are SOULMATES
Aurora R. I was through their IG page thinking " they were meant to be... Like? Please 😫"
They're SO mature at a young age. They're both also intellectual, and very considerate of other people's feelings and well-being. Can you imagine if we had more people like them in this world, we would get along so much better!
how old are they
he's 19 she's 20
What struck me was at 80% of the questions they were both saying, we've talked about this. Communication + chemistry = a beautiful caring relationship. Hope they keep communicating and stay happy
Damn, looking at people that are so genuinely in love with eachother is the kind of soul cleansing I didn't know I needed
If they ever break up Love is a lie.
Babyihatecoffee honestly though
So true
All love is a web of lies
But breaking up isn't end of love...
Babyihatecoffee dude for real for real
they seem like characters from a book, beautifull, interesting, intelligent, ... I want to keep reading ...
Aline Lenaerts they have a channel of their own !
What’s their channel?
Well said
Chella Man
Perfect way to describe what I was trying to describe. This is so good!!!
I actually started tearing up. Their relationship is so genuine and beautiful. I am so awestruck by how much they truly care about each other. such a rare find. i love it
The way Chella said "Everything" at the 9:58 was the most beautiful way to express to someone how much you love them..That came from his soul.
Her*
Right ? I teared up there
I hate Society no. his*
@I hate Society
The original commenter was referring to something Chella said, not Mary.
Giving you the benefit of doubt, rather than assuming you're intentionally being transphobic and/or inflammatory.
Looks like they already knew all the answers. I think they have a really good communication in their relationship. I can see the respect on both sides and love their patience and the way they look at each other. I feel like their connection is so deep. And she is just such a natural beauty
I thought the same thing--they're so kind and loving ad respectful towards each other and she is SO beautiful.
Does anyone else cry when they watch humans being humans.. sounds simple but I swear I just cried watching this vid not cuz it was sad or even happy but just cuz it felt so real.
i was just thinking exactly this as i read this wow.
Water sign?
I was giddy withe excitment because this video is so real and lovley
same bruh
Yes lmao I’ve been crying at everything lately
“Why do you love me”
“Everything... everything”
Oh my God, my heart.
WRITE A BOOKS FOR EVERYONE'S SAKE
Maybe we could get them to read books on tape to each other
Yes!
Yo, when he corrected her on the generalizations she was making and she accepted it, what maturity between them ❤️
relationships like this are so rare & special and people as genuine as them as so rare & special
How can they talk like that to each other and not cry when I'm sitting here bawling my eyes out😭
I don't how they aren't crying 😢
this is probably how they always are, open and vulnerable 🖤
@Sandra Evans
What a lovely way to live
She’s breathtaking!! And he’s such a quiet storm. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
A quiet storm
That's such a neat way to describe him!
When he responded to what she felt was the biggest conflict in their relationship, I was truly struck by how beautiful their love is. It touched my heart to an extent that I didn't expect, because what she viewed as her biggest fault in their relationship is something that he feels is one of her strengths. It was a moment that reminded me that the people we love and who love us see things in us that aren't always apparent to us, and that together we can build one another up in a very special and unique way.
Beautiful humans.
literally thought the same thing. "wow. they're so beautiful. how are they so beautiful?"
Ruthology Fitness the man is ftm
thegossipswan009 AYYYY I PUT YOU AT 2K but i agree fully
Jay Chuchu because they're pure
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I wish one day I can ask someone “why do you love me” and they respond with something so heartfelt like that.
He didn't even have to think about it!
this is the kind of relationship I used to dream of as a child
Why do you love me?
Him: everything, everything.
Ok I’m in tears.
xbellaxo her*
Him 😂
xbellaxo i cried when he explained everything
maria kara you misspelled “her” smh
Durex no she did not, Chella is a man not a woman, stop being transphobic.
she sounded so in love at the beginning that when she said “i could listen to you forever” I STARTED SOBBING
This is probably the purest love I’ve ever seen on screen.
Those two are like hands down the best and cutest and most mature and most wonderful couple ever! I don't think I will ever see a "better" couple than them. I low-key just want a relationship like this but I know that that's not possible (mostly because of myself not the partner haha)
He loves her Soo much..
eyes don't lie ... This is beautiful.(:💟
Recie Thompson I agree. I want a boyfriend like that. I really do. I used to have, but it's been a long time.
Angie ODell Don't worry, you'll find him in the most unexpected place ,even if you stop looking(: he'll just flow into your life like a cloud moving past the sun..💟
Recie Thompson I hope so
I like it how she accepts him and she doesn't judge him , she didn't care that he's trans or deaf , she is so pure.
Recie Thompson she
They're both so attractive i just opened the vid to look at their faces wtf.
She’s just sooo frickin’ beautiful. She’s just perfect.
she’s so aesthetically beautiful it’s like a sunset incarnated as a soft girl it’s so mesmerizing and awe inspiring, as delicate as a flower but sturdy as an oak
It's nice to see a positive and interracial couple when it comes to both trans identity and hearing impairment.
MewWolf5 So well put! I don't know if I'll ever find love. I'm trans and I'm hard of hearing. I do what I can with hearing aids but they don't work so well. It's hard to socialize because of it.
Lit
MewWolf5 my English is not so good. I thought the boy is the only one who is trans?
Anna Bla - youre correct, but a couple in which only one person is trans still shows positive representation of trans identity (: especially because a lot of people try to undermine trans people’s romantic&sexual relationships with cis people by saying they aren’t “real”. it’s awesome to see a cis woman like MaryV who supports and loves her trans boyfriend (:
MewWolf5 so is he a transgender? This means the soft spoken young lady is a Lesbian😕 and he is too as she transitioned from a girl to a boy??
"Don't generalize." This boy just stood up for cis boys?? He just stole my heart!
I'm still here. and after that she agreed with him and didnt insist about her opinion? god i loved these gorgeous people
he’s so attractive i’m-
I’ve watched this interview so many times. Their chemistry is so pure and obvious, and they don’t have a conventional perfect relationship but it’s so adorable. They obviously care about each other’s opinions and thoughts, but they also don’t make it a point to make themselves be the same as the other. Idk it’s just so pure and amazing.
For those who domt understand sign, they were basically chella said "thank you" and we all know for what haha. And in the end, they told each that "I love you"..."Always"
You could see the immense love they have for each other before they finished their conversation.
It was in the way they supported each other throughout the whole conversation.
If this is what our kids are learning to be - supportive, sensitive, strong, communicative etc - then our future is going to be okay.
If only everyone took the time out to be as accommodating and understanding as Chella and MaryV then how much brighter and better would our world be?
Ps. Thank you, for helping those of us who don't sign what they were saying to each other at the end.
Even to thise who had no idea u could feel what they were saying to each other
full conversation:
maryv: thank you
chella: thank you
maryv: we're finished
chella: we're finished, yes. (i can't see the next part - he said "do _____"?)
maryv: i love you
chella: i love you, always
God that's so pure.. I am immensely jealous of what they have. I wanna love someone like that one day... Gah, I'm actually crying!
Than she says same
Okay, don't lie, Chella got everybody swooning.
Don't lie, they both got everybody swooning.
I sweeear he's sooo sttractive
me
666 comms
I have to say they are the most beautiful people I’ve ever seen
I see no negative comments, this pleases me😊
Children, this is what a healthy relationship looks like.
this whole video is a poetry, so beautiful
I hate Society what the fuck is your problem. He’s a male. If you have a problem with that then.... what the fuck are you going to do about it. Absolutely nothing. So shut the fuck up. Thank you.
I love how understanding and sensitive they are to one another.
He's so intense and contemplative. I like these two, they have a comfortable dynamic.
the way they talk to each other it’s so soft and loving bruhhhh they’re so sweet
mary v so beautiful it’s insane
grace murray I know right
forever mayah ?? What do you mean which one there’s only one girl there
yaya uwu the guy is transgender
Avril Lavgine Is Bae okay, and what is your point? I’m well aware. Which would make HIM a GUY not a girl. The “which one” comment was extremely disrespectful and unnecessary. Like I said before, there’s only one girl in the video.
yaya uwu
he deadass said he’s transgender and then ur here triggered like chill? lmao how do u even know if he’s meaning it in an offensive way?
As a bisexual person this is really hard, because I’m equally attracted to both of them and I can’t stop staring...
jessicaklle right the way she speaks and the way he looks at her 😍
that makes 2 of us...
feel u
Make it 3
make it 4
They're both so attractive in an elegant way
The moment he said that the reason he love her is because of “everyting” i instantly became very very emotional and teary eyed, i mean, isnt that what we all want? 😭❤️ God bless those two
I'm gonna check out every park around to find the one like wth
I love how he said “Don’t generalize” and she got that.
I love how they always say “yeah we’ve talked about this....”
This is one of the most beautiful interactions i've ever seen
Well, I just started crying. These two are such beautiful individuals and such a beautiful, amazing, loving couple. You can really see that they love and care for each other so much.
Aryes Avalos ikr
Wow. What an inspiring and mature conversation. If this were my boyfriend and I, I’m unsure if it’d go so well!! This is a rare relationship. This is true communication and understanding.
EllieJayden the boy was a girl just wanna say
@@cuben7196 the boy is a boy and nobody cares if he is trans
The girl in black has the most soothing voice ever. and you can see they're in love!
I LOVE MARYV AND CHELLA SO MUCH OMG LITERALLY THE MOST BEAUTIFUL AND GENUINE COUPLE I’M SO GLAD THEY GOT FEATURED IN THIS
I bet she never thought he noticed the little things like when she goes, "Hm" after thinking about something. Aw they're so beautiful.
even I noticed
they’re so beautiful oh my gosh my heart
it’s so refreshing to see a couple that understands and cares for each other so deeply
Beautiful souls coming together. I hope their relationship stays strong and if they ever have to split (knock on wood) that it is done in the most loving, civil, understand way and still keep a lasting friendship. More people need this type of connection
get yourself someone who looks at you the way Chella looks at MaryV
In my 30+ years of life, I've never seen or heard anything that made me believe in love & a great partnership as much as this, WOW! I love these two as a couple (and individually of course). WISH I KNEW THEM PERSONALLY!
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Reading the title and start watching the video, I couldn't guess who is transitioning. Both of them are so beautiful.
Vinsensius Paulus I still don’t really understand tbh but it’s alright
It’s Chella, the man
@@upmysIeeves Chella is a transitioned transman. They met before he transitioned.
Super kind comment but just keep in mind the way you phrased it is like a really backhanded compliment by insinuating that trans people aren’t beautiful lol
this girl needs to be an actress... shes stern, forgiving, poised, graceful, i could see her in many roles
She couldn’t be an actress because she isn’t acting those things, she’s feeling it