Amen! The part where you said “God you’re enough for me!” Like truly that’s confirmation for me!! & that’s the sole reason I believe I’m still single because that’s where God is trying to get me to!
My singleness only few years to 40s I have learnt alot and it makes me come too closer to Christ and continue waiting in his time ,thank you alot for sharing you gain my subscription because of this wonderful encouragement.
May ✝ God Jesus ✝ bless you suddenly and abundantly, exceedingly above all you was expecting here in this awful world and in His Eternal Kingdom, AmenYESHUA.😔❤🩹🕊
If singleness is God's boot camp for me, then He wants me to be a Navy Seal. I have struggled with this for so long that I came to the point where I simply gave up, women look at me like a clown with leper. The difficult part is when family and friends start asking me how come I'm alone, I have to fake a smile and say "who knows?", but deep down it's like rubbing salt and ghost pepper to the wound 😔 Edit June 2024: Guys you won't believe this, God has brought my future wife. I cannot believe it, I never thought this would happen. We met at church, God gave us a sign that we were meant for each other.
Thanks for your comment brother, I know it's not always easy.. If you still desire marriage, don't lose hope. Pray that God brings you that wife and also prepares you/turn you into the kind of man that's confident to step into a healthy serious relationship. Praying for you bro. Let me know how else I can help. God bless!
Bro, i guess we will be part of the Seal Team Six because i'm in the same situation. I guess we have to be patient, have faith in God and don't ring the bell.
@@omarguzman4053 ikr, sometimes I look at the bell but I know who wants me to ring it. My mother used to say "it's God's perfect timing, not yours nor mine. Remember what happened to Abraham and Sarah and look at the problem we're in with the children of Israel and Ismael." God bless you my brother, hope to see you at the weddings of the lamb.
I have no idea where I stand with God. I asked Jesus to save me and give me his holy spirit when I was young not sure the age. I was baptized immersion as a teen . I had a desire not to sin against him anymore but found it really hard and got discouraged and so I gave up and started habitually sinning with porn. The bible says those who habitually sin have never seen him or known him so I guess I was not saved when I asked God to save me many times in my life previously. If he did not save me when I asked him to earlier on in my life when I really meant it than I find it hard to trust him now. Thought he said whoever believes and calls upon his name will be saved. I am a wreck as I think of predestination and now assume I am not chosen afterall only a few are chosen. Please pray for me if you feel led.
You may have a lust addiction. It's just as real as alcohol, narcotics, or gambling. Join a 12 Step recovery program. I struggled just like you but with the Biblically based 12 steps I am in recovery and no longer acting out inappropriately.
Hey my friend, thanks for your vulnerability. I understand it can be very challenging to make sense of our faith walk in different seasons (specially when we face more struggles than we're ready for). I have gone through many challenging seasons myself that created lots of entangled thoughts, ideas and questions that I didn't have answers to at the time. I also recognize now that the enemy was at work, doing all he could to keep me away from the Father's love for my life, and confusion is one of his most effective tactics. I encourage you to take all these questions and concerns to God in a quiet place, open up to him, speak out loud to him, and ask him to reveal himself to you, and to bring peace to your heart. He's not afraid of these questions, and is happy to meet you where you're at, even if you "wrestle" with him. One thing is for certain, He clearly loves you and has called you to be his. It's no accident that you've gone through all you've gone through, and I believe he will use it all as beautiful testimony for your life! I hope this helps even slightly.. if you'd like to chat more or would like prayer I'd be happy to help in any way I can. Message me on IG if you have one @forhiskingdomcoaching / @thenickteixeira. Blessings!
I passed through the same things in the beginning of my walk with Jesus, including the thought that I was not a chosen one for various reasons. Since that time I've seen so many wonderful things God has done to me and to others He used me to reach. Remember, the most common weapon of the enemy are lies and confusion. Don't ever believe God has forsaken you or don't care about you. Persist and He Will show his face to you. You caring so much about your relationship with Him and what He think's about you alone means a lot already as a sign of a chosen one. Rest your heart, seek Him and He Will draw near to you. May His peace and love be with you, my brother. I will pray for you
@MateMilinkovic-yy3zm Lord God, we come humbly and boldly to Your throne of grace and ask for Your help. We call on You, Mighty One, to save, to give your son blessed reassurance even in the midst of struggling with sin. Father, if his heart is not fully surrendered to You, we ask You to lift it up and give him a new heart and spirit in Jesus' name. Let him hear Your voice and draw him closer to You in Jesus Christ's holy name. We ask that a standard would be lifted up against the enemy and his schemes to pull him apart from You and that demonic strongholds would break right now in the holy name of Christ Jesus. We deman that shackles of sin wouls be broken now in Jesus' name. Renew and give him the gift of relationship with You and help him abide in You and hide Your word in his heart that he might not sin against You. Thank You for hearing us, for surely no words slips from Your ear. In Yeshua' matchless name we pray, Amen.
🕊Actually your comment proves that you are SEALED and SAVED in the Almighty Name of JESUS, HalleluYAHYESHUAELSHADDAIADONAIYHWHOFHOSTS.😇 Born by the Father Born by the Word Born by the Spirit Praise the TRIUNE ADONAI YESHUA forever for your and mine Salvation. 🙌 I'm born Again evangelist, not calvinist. I even don't know if there is church like that in my country... but the pre-destination is very Biblical - Jeremiah 1:5/Ephesians 1:3-14/Romans 8:28-39 etc... About the struggle with porn...😔 Welcome in the club Bro. I was in bondage from my first TEENage period, but for appointed time i was free from Porn in the Almighty Name of JESUS... Unfortunately i was thinking that I did that with "my free will" haha.. and of course God the Holy Spirit revealed to me the ugly truth, that there is NOTHING good in my flesh - Romans 7 the whole chapter and now i am a slave to the lust and the desires of the flesh, but even so come LORD Yeshua, Amen. John 14:2,3/1 Thessalonians 4:15-18 the Rapture😌 The Gospel is clear - John 3:16, 18/Acts 13:48, 16:30,31, 19../1 John 3, 1 John 5 etc...all believers in the ALMIGHTY NAME of the Son of God, Which is the NAME of the FATHER and His SON and the HOLY SPIRIT - JESUS/YESHUA have ETERNAL LIFE, HalleluYAH/Praise the Lord.✝✝✝ See you home Brother. John 18:36🎯😇🕊 P.s. We can pray one for another in the Almighty Name of JESUS for deliverance and blessings in this evil and unfair world, but Not for Salvation, because we are already SAVED. Psalm 27:1 the Lord is my Salvation and my Light John 8:12 Jesus said: "I AM the Light" 1 Corinthians 12:3 ...and no one can say that YHWH is YESHUA, except by the Spirit.. Amen Holy Spirit.🕊 May the Glory of the Lord/the Shekinah of YESHUA be your Guardian in your left and in your right and before and behind you, Amen. |sorry, i forgot the verse, but the Glory of the Lord is Person/the Elohim is Tri-Unity: Father and Word and Spirit, you can read also Acts 7:55-60: the Glory of the Lord - 1 and the Son of Man - 2 right on the Father - 3🧐😌🕊| Maranatha - Come Lord❤🩹
I don't know, and I no longer care. I've found that singleness is not as scary or as bad as I thought it would be. It hurts a little, but not as much as it used to. The day I found the courage to give up, it was such a relief. It had been so exhausting to be consistently looking for a home in each new face I saw, wondering despite myself, "will *she* be the one?" Now, when I meet someone, I'm like, "oh, she'll make someone a fine wife." Someone, not me. *That* particular train has left the harbor.
That's really interesting man. Sorry to hear that was you take.. What about it are you exactly holding onto so tightly that's making you feel that way?
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching God ruined my chances at a decent life (long bizarre story) and I want to have my revenge on Him for it! I will probably never marry now as a result. I despise him for it and want him sent to hell for daring to be God over me!
Thank you for this video. I've been having a rough time lately: essentially zero of my long-term goals have worked out, with the singular one that did (getting my college degree) having an incident that robbed it of all joy, and my natural tendencies toward deferred-gratification have yielded no gratification, to the point that it's accurate to say "the past 15 years of life have been teaching me that nothing will ever pay off" - add to this (1) trouble finding solid employment post COVID, and (2) that I'm a 40+ literal "kissless virgin", and that I though I heard God say 'yes' to a particular girl I asked about/for… that actually happening will take about four miracles, though. It's oddly like dealing with grief: some days are "yeah, I can do this and trust God completely!", other days are "Does God care about what I want?" (i.e. Do my desires and preferences matter to God, or is it a "Shut up! I AM YOUR FATHER!" / "God's plan" where what I desire/feel/care-about doesn't matter?) or "Does God have anything for me?" - Obviously, as you can see, there's some hurt in that area, and it's due to issues with my own dad… while I certainly Trust God, there's a part of me that fears the latter is the case: that what I want is to be steamrolled by God's will and simply doesn't matter to him. I've been praying that I can/will do Eph 5:25-33; 1 Pet 3:7-9; Col 3:19 for my [future/hopefully] wife to God's glory, and that I can point to her and say "God answers prayers!" But I am blinded and see nothing… perhaps God is growing Faith in me: "Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the assurance of things not seen" - but I am blind and cannot see. …Please pray for me.
Thanks for your honest and authentic review bro! I think it's great you are recognizing there's grieving to do (very healthy to!), and that there's hurt in these areas. Makes total sense to me. I can definitely say that God does care about our dreams/wishes, especially when we seek him. But I've also learned that a lot of times they don't always plan out the way we want to. There's a lot more I could say, and I'd be happy to help in any way I can. Feel free to shoot me a message on Instagram (@thenickteixeira) so I can pray for you and share some thoughts that could be beneficial! Take all these feelings to God, he's not going to beat you in the head for them, he will welcome you with open arms and lead you accordingly. Blessings bro
This has really effected me emotionally and spiritually. When in the word God says it’s night right for man to be alone, and you seek God and ask for companionship. What happens when it doesn’t come and your find yourself single your entire adult life, despite your best efforts. You see others who find relationships easily, non believers, or people don’t even pray and it falls in their lap. The loneliness of being undesired and not chooses in heartbreaking.
Yea I totally understand it's a challenging and complex topic topic, especially when it takes way longer for things to play out the way we desire it. Keep leaning in and seeking God for it, I'm confident he will guide you. Blessings
Whatever it is that women want, I do not have it. I’ve either been rejected, I couldn’t provide the life they wanted and as soon as I showed interest in them when they showed interest in me first, they repelled me like a bug. The closest I ever had achieving having a girlfriend, there was too large of an age gap between us, but thankfully we parted on good terms. It led me to lustful thoughts and actions but I realized I may have been rejected by others, I am never rejected from God. So I fled from lust. I decided to focus on building myself and my faith in God, to be better than who I was. I may not find a wife to share His glory, I would like that, but I will still do what I must to embrace my faith in Jesus. God bless.
Thanks for your comment brother Jake. I can understand the frustration, learning the difference in our thinking (men v women) is definitely a challenge, but I will share that it totally CAN be learned if you lean in. If deep inside you do desire to have a wife that is a blessing in your life, there's a free training series my wife and I did and posted in our free facebook community called "differences between men & women" that could be very helpful. If you think that'd be valuable I can share link. Either way, I'm glad to hear that you're resting and finding fullness in our Lord! Blessings
Don't know anything about you so I am going to speak strictly for myself here. The reason most guys do not interest me is that they are not very interesting people themselves. I am not a blank sheet; I have many, many diverse interests, some typically female, others not. There are things I like to do and places I like to go. But it seems like most of the single guys I know lack imagination in this area. If they have any kind of interests at all they are very narrow and predictable. Not only do they not read the same books I do, they don't even read! They don't want to try new cuisines; they don't want to go to new places; many times they are not even physically active--and they don't take care of themselves health-wise or even appearance-wise. When you get up in age, as I am, this can really be a deal-breaker, because if I can see health and mobility issues in your very near future, I'm going to run. If I am at a dance and you tell me you can't dance or don't want to dance, that's another deal-breaker. I'm not spending my life sitting on the sidelines watching other couples having fun. As you can probably guess, I am a very active senior citizen and I have noticed something--that no matter where I go or what I am involved with, women tend to outnumber men by a vast majority. Cardio drumming--2, maybe 3, male regulars, 18 to 20 women. Book club, 99% female, more often 100% female. Church, 75% female. Now part of this is due to the fact that women tend to outlive men, but not all of it. I have to ask, where are the guys who claim they can't find anyone? What are they doing? Sitting home, playing video games? I meet someone, start up a conversation, what do you like to do, what are your interests and it is like blank look time. If your idea of a date is let's go to my place or your place and watch TV, no, don't be surprised if you get rejected. Another thing which I've increasingly come across as I've gotten older is that because there are so few men involved in activities in my age group, those who are single automatically assume "she is desperate and will take anyone" therefore they don't have to put in the effort. Or they are desperate themselves and don't take the time to stop and think about what they are bringing to the table and whether it is something the other person might want as well. Think about what kind of woman you are attracted to and ask yourself, why am I attracted to this kind of woman? Think about those you are not attracted to, and ask the same questions. Believe you, I wish I had done this years ago, instead of just saying yes when a guy showed interest, it would have saved me a lot of grief. So yes, I do a lot more rejecting now that I am older. I hope that this helps you understand a bit about what women might be looking for.
@@chadgaming8071Grow yourself through God man, and let him guide you, one of the main activities that got me closer to God was working out, for example running and lifting weights helped me grow my body, eventually was helping me grow my mind, and when both are growing together your connection to God and especially your soul will drastically improve. Evidently reading scripture, will boost everything(that’s most important), that I mentioned, before I was close to God I was very scared to talk girls and at times I put them higher than me and I praised them without actually knowing them And I used to always want to change myself for a girl, who at the end of the of day she doesn’t like anything about myself😭. This what I think it means through grow yourself through God and grow a deep connection to him.
I have given up on finding someone. I have been constantly single and haven't found anyone. I am almost 30. At this point, there's way too many modern women that just cheat all the time and are very shallow. Hard to find someone to take seriously.
As a 38 year old single man never been married or been on a date. I hope I find a wife before I get older so I can enjoy life. Not saying wouldn’t wanna wait till I’m in my late 40’s but I’ll love my parents see me find somebody before they go home be with the lord.
I've heard single isn't the worst. I heard being married to the wrong person is far worse. Many of the worlds greatest people lived extraordinary lives single.
Yeah I agree, marrying the wrong person can absolutely be destructive. But marrying the right person can be extraordinarily amazing as well. Pray and see what God reveals to you.
Yeah, I have a few thoughts outside of this that are linked to a comment I saw. Yes, God is doing things in us and that may be why we're single, but i think the church needs to step up. 1. I think as The Church, we aren't helping single people - e.g., simple introductions. People find a spouse then don't really think about the single people around them, in order to help them. When you're looking for a job, yes we pray but people also give suggestions and referrals. Yet, in the church, it's just "trust God's timing" and "when you stop looking it'll find you." Yes, but, I really think we can do a better job at supporting each other. 2. I'm struggling to understand if men are being discipled, because theres plenty of women who love/are walking with God/in the church, where are the men? So, when women actually want to be obedient by not being unequally yoked, they aren't seeing eligible men around them.
I stand behind your comment 100% brother. I'm passionate about speaking to men specifically about this matter since it's become more and more apparent that as the heads of our homes (in marriage), we are to LEAD the way in all things. We can do a whole lot better at equipping young men (I sure wish I had more of that as I was stepping into manhood). Obviously I didn't touch on any of these topics in this video specifically but have in many of the podcast episodes I host with my wife called "Thriving Relationships For His Kingdom" - either way I plan on making videos as well so it can be shared in this platform. Blessings & thanks for your perspective!
We need to have a serious talk about how a lot of this is geared towards women to basically be perfect but the discount the HUGE lack of accountability for men in their spiritual walk. There are not a lot of Christian men. And a lot of the ones who claim to be a Christian tend to be similar to non believers
@@Karynwashere I agree with this comment. Indeed men are to be responsible for this! As the spiritual heads of the family, God called MEN to lead. And as a whole, men have done a terrible job at that.
Amen, but Yeshua/Jesus is YAH's Name. ADONAI is Triune and He revealed Himself in His Word to Abraham as El Shaddai, second again in His Word/the Son of God to Moses as YAHWEH/YHWH and now in the New Testament as YESHUA/JESUS, HalleluYAHYESHUAELSHADDAI.✝✝✝ Exodus 6:2,3/John 17:11/Mathew 28:19/Acts 19:5 etc... the Name of the Son of God is the Almighty Name of the Father and His Son/the Word and the Holy Spirit/Shekinah.🕊 JW's teach that YAH is only the Father, but we the elect of Christ know that YAH is Tri-Unity, HalleluYAH.😇
I was talking to some mates about downloading Hinge to give dating a try. And then I come home from college, and the first thing I see is this video. Praise Jesus, thank you brother 🙏
I realise I need to focus on growing closer to God first, he may need me to serve Him in celibacy. I know He will prepare me for whatever is to come. Glory to Christ 🙏
I heard a quote that "If God is keeping you single, he's saving you for someone special" so...I don't know who this special someone is but...please send him down. I'm 21 and...I don't wanna be lonely anymore...
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching nope not yet, I don't talk to girls but when I do to one I want to marry her I clean things up in the beginning that I date to marry etc but everytime the talkin stage goes up to a week and then the next time I get an "user not found" in the past 5 months I've got like 7 different situations 1 week each because when I talk to one I'm loyal even if I'm not with her yet. But what can I say with my understanding maybe for now it's early since I'm 19 closing 20 next month. That said His will be done
Anguished torment is hitting daily for so many countless people regarding not having a Godly Wife/ Godly Husband Bloody immensely harrowing the suffering
Thanks for your comment! I totally understand that... it's not easy, but God gives grace and strength through it all. Pray and lean in, he will guide your steps. Blessings.
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching it's made unfathomably multiplication worse especially when it is driven by extremely critical childhood problems still suffering from issues over 20 years later
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching hypothetically,if He tries to do this he goes over my free will, of not wanting relations.I want peace not care for women.I wanted someone that loved me until the end but there are many problems: not righteous, forgetful, cheaters, greedy, superficial, wearing too many masks.why not chose peace?almost like...God showing u the easy way out, out of your own doing.My advice, love her but don't expect any love back and go far away.
The one thing im learning more and more as i get older in my singleness, and from watching these types of videos no matter the clichés, is that it's getting more apparent that romantic love is so random and not guaranteed. Marriage and romantic love is just so random.
Thanks for your comment friend! Indeed it is not guaranteed and can appear random. We however do have the opportunity to influence it and put ourselves in a position to "receive" it by how we conduct ourselves and the places and people we choose to interact with. Blessings
To be single at 55 and then to be preached to by a young married couple about divine timing, is a bit much, considering God's given you what you want while your still in the prime of life. Watching your peers get married and have children was hard. But to see God blessing those kid now all grown up and being blessed with marriage, soul destroying. Bad enough to turn up to church or any event and for people to think its okay to remark, still not married, left on the shelf, no kids? Oh your poor parents must be heartbroken no grandkids. I hate going to church now, I hate being around people with the endless comments of what's wrong with you how come you can't get a man, you missed the bus! Decade after decade of preparing, what a joke. I didn't realise that God was always going to make me the butt of the joke. Thanks you God for showing me how you truly feel with this endless season of barreness and devastation.
@@EveryDayItsAHollyday dear sister, I’m sorry to hear that what you’ve been praying for hasn’t come about, I can relate there are things I’ve been believing and praying for that haven’t happened yet- believing they will one day but I’m not in full control what happens tomorrow. I know how tough it is, and it requires true grieving to be able to process these things emotionally and let God do his work in us through the life trials. I wasn’t “preaching” at you or anyone else, I was sharing the message God placed in my heart to share. You certainly don’t have to receive anything I shared since in your eyes I’m young and have received the marriage I’ve prayed for so therefore I have nothing of value to share with you. If I was a 60yr old single man, would that have made the message shared any more valuable? I acknowledge the pain you’re in and how hard it must be to face people in church that may not have the emotional intelligence to navigate these conversations wisely. The reality is we’re all flawed as humans, but God is perfect and his ways are above our ways. I’d tell you to keep taking these emotions and frustrated feelings to God and let him do His good work in your heart. But I don’t think you care to hear that either. I pray blessings over you and your life! Thanks for your comment and take care
Not everyone is meant to be married…and that’s okay😊Don’t be lonely though. Get involved in your community (or move lol) and create a tribe that will make sure you’re loved and cared for🙏🏽❤
Thanks for your comment! That's one perspective for sure. God could call and declare someone to stay single, I agree. But I also know that God is for a Christ-centered marriage and that those couples having children is an even greater blessing to the world and The Kingdom. A lot of people choose to stay single out of hurt because of past broken relationships, and not because God actually revealed to them directly that He wants them single. Just my 2 cents. Blessings sister.
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching Alot of people are staying single for to protect their peace. Mental illness is at an all time high. The church has unfortunately been compromised as well so people are confused about what healthy love and respect is; let alone the focus, compassion, and patience required for a marriage. People are choosing money over marriage and many now look at marriage as a business contract versus something connected to spiritual principles. Government, technology and media has created challenges and this should be acknowledged. I’m not surprised that young people have lost hope in connecting.
Amen! As the apostle Paul said in 1 Corinthians 7, "For I wish that all men were even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that. 8 But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; 9 but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry." God has different plans for each of us ❤
The way I see it, God could be leading me through a time in my life where I have to trust he will provide that for me in His time and I must continue trusting and obeying. At the same time, I also see this as a time to grow and reflect on what I want and need out of life. A time to see where I'm lacking and make corrections where needed. A time to make myself the best version of me there can be so I can attract and marry the best girl this side of Heaven has to offer.
Amen that's absolutely right! Summarizes 2 of the points I shared in the video. Proud of you! "Seek FIRST the Kingdom and its righteousness and ALL ELSE (including a wife) will be GIVEN to you!" -Matthew 6:33. Blessings brother.
It’s the wait is what makes people give up. We can only take so much pain. It’d be nice to have dates here and there like appetizers before the main reward to get us there but there’s absolutely nothing until the reward. Feels almost as if I’m an error in life that isn’t supposed to be in the system and feels irrelevant. I feel so alone even when I have prayed so much. There’s been several signs saying it’s time to receive your reward. Then when something starts to get good it crashes immediately. It doesn’t make any sense. It’s like the cry wolf affect. It keeps happening over and over to the point where you stop falling for it. What the heck is going on. This is literally the worst feeling in the world where I’d rather have physical pain.
I can relate. You are not alone man. Maybe it is partially the enemy hindering things in the spiritual. I had dreams etc, but I had to endure a lot and I am waiting. Maybe the waiting is the time to see what God is saying to you and talk to him about your desires
@@chrishilf they say listen to his voice and you can hear a small voice but I literally have no idea how to hear a ghost. I just don’t have the psychic ability to hear those things. Therefor, I don’t how to get advice from the higher power. I’m getting too old fast to the point where it’s going to be too late to start a family. I don’t want the perfect person I just want someone that makes me happy. It’s a simple request.
I just turned 38 and only started dating actively and praying and volunteering on and off at 34. In the past 3 years as the more I've volunteered for several organizations and Charities, I've dated more women and had more relationships than I did my whole life previously. It's a combination of prayer, serving others through volunteering and commitment to sobriety of sins. Start volunteering and praying and give up all your vices progressively and I'm sure the same will happen to you. Almost all my dates and relationships ended bc I keep going back to my sins. So many beautiful and remarkable women that most guys can't get in a lifetime I got without much effort but obviously the Grace of God. So many I literally had to cut out so many to stay focused on the best ones. One girl was so physically beautiful bc she worked out at the gym twice a day and then at home. I felt like garbage after losing her due to my high anxiety from drinking and not getting enough sleep. I lost an amazingly gorgeous doctor almost a foot taller than me who also worked out like crazy after work and it was bc of my negative, lustful, disrespectful and sinful actions. Don't give up. Just do the work and pray harder than ever and volunteer wherever you can. Women that are from God will see the value in you bc almost no other men volunteer. I volunteer with almost all females right now so once I stop sinning I'm bound to finally get my reward. Till then I've stopped dating temporarily to focus on improving myself physically and spiritually. It's tough now bc I'm used going on multiple dates with multiple different women nearly every week but I'm resolved to better myself for the best God has to offer and believe me. The Chriatian women in my area are like true Angels - incredibly gorgeous, young, traditional, loyal and ready for marriage. Good luck 👍
I want to add a fourth option of why God is keeping some people single. Let’s go beyond the reasons that you talked about and dive deeper. When someone whose Christian a believer wants a companion it’s going to be another child of God. No one is perfect we are all in the process of moving closer to God each day. Let’s say that an individual makes a lot of money and can provide and he is that soilder with all the tools and resources that can fight a war. However that soilder has a problem he has pride or some addictions, maybe porn addictions or he sees woman only for sex. Or maybe he’s dealing with issues in secret and possibly some health issues. He may have the tools but he’s not taking care of himself. God will say if that soilder isn’t taking care of himself how can God bless him with a woman??! God will be like how can he give this man his precious daughter of a woman who is not going to take care of her. I know this is wild but it can be true. Maybe some people need to work on themselves and clean themselves up before God will present them to their future spouse. I know this may seem harsh but is true it also ties into your point about marriage ending in divorce. Let’s talk about the woman’s side too maybe she wants to marry for money!?? God it’s not going to allow a woman who just wants a Christian man for his money to present himself. God will not allow that man his child of God to be married off to a woman who just wants money. Obvious as the man he needs to provide and protect but a woman must love him unconditionally. Anyway just putting in my two cents God bless.
Hey brother Laurence, thanks for your input! Great perspective, I do agree with many of the points you made. There's always a lot at work in our hearts that we need healing/freedom from, may it be emotionally or spiritually. God indeed may desire someone to fully free themselves of bondage before he blesses them with a spouse, and yet at times He may bless them with a spouse knowing through that covenant, all secret will sooner or later be exposed and be forced to be dealt with in the light (that was my personal story which I'll be happy to share in a future video) - either way God works all things for the good of those who love him and are called according to his purpose! Proud of you for having discernment and wisdom about this topic. Blessings!
This was a great message to put out and I agree with what you said a lot of people just say the reasons but you don’t really see the deeper side of the subject meaning of why one might be single. This is a great point of view.
While I do agree with this, marriage can be used by God to purify a person. So, this is still not fully the case. I have known people who had been blessed with a spouse even they are very broken people before marriage. It was only in marriage that they have managed to realize their ways and repent. So I do not think it is absolute. To be frank, I do not think we can have an answer to this at all as only God knows. We say this and that as a consolation and want to find a reason why we are still single, but it doesn't change the fact that there are worse people than we are and have been blesssd with marriage life which made them to have a change of heart.
@unicronprimus7450 As said in Isaiah 55. His thoughts are not our thoughts; neither are his ways our ways. God can bless the "least deserving" with a happy life and the "holiest" with a life of struggle. Like it or not, God is Sovereign
i believe in God's timing, it hapened to me a month before the pandemic i always wanted to go to japan and the year before my cousin says "hey lets go to japan" and i was like "dude i havent saved any money at all" he told me "just save what you can and take a loan from the bank" BUT because of my job i didnt get it from any bank so i talked with my boss and asked her for that money and i'll pay any interest she puts me... she told me "dont worry about that just pay me back exactly what i gave you" and starting that year of pandemic i went to japan with COVID-19 at my back without knowing anything about it, just my grandma warning us about a virus that was spreading really fast in asia. 15 days and one lost flight plus 3 days waiting for my cousins dad to pay tickets for us to go back... i was happy to has been able to go to that place thanks to my cousing crazy idea. Im still waiting for that woman to acompany me too, i just havent seek for that as well to be honest, for a very looooong time in fact.
I’ve been going through a very strenuous past couple of years. I was in a relationship and found myself turning to this person for love and protection but that relationship ended. With all of the things going on right now, I firmly believe that God is wanting me to rely on Him and seek his strength and protection which I am doing. Thank you for this and please keep me in your prayers!
*Telling chaste believers that being single is their fault bc they're not pious enuf is akin to blaming ER staff for the pandemic bc they didn't work 24/7* ...HOW DARE YOU?! How much of your _adult_ life were you without a partner, not dating, & no online flirting or worse? How many _decades_ did you spend disciplining yourself to thank God amidst bitter tears? Or wrestle down agony inside to muster genuine smile & congrats for new parents? So stay in your lane, thx. Don't be smug thinking you've got the answer for everyone bc you got lucky. "To whom much is given, much is required." Mizpah...Jesus is Lord!
If you listened to the whole video objectively and weren't quick to judge the message from your own perspective, you'd know the heart behind the message was to point people to GOD because HE alone has the answers. I never claimed to have them all, and I verbatim stated that towards the end of the video. Yet I can share from my experience and actually am "staying in my lane" since I've gone through it each season and now am blessed (not "lucky" as you say) with an amazing wife and marriage today, and the privilege to help others in that same journey. If you have a loving and thriving marriage, I will listen to your feedback. But my guess based on the hurt and finger-pointing behind your comment, you are single and frustrated. I wish you the best and would be glad to pray for you, but other than that I can't help you. God bless
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching @least u admitted *uv nothing to offer the single* except criticism & condescension (i.e., smug). And yes, ur PRIVILEGED. Look how u devalued feedback from anyone except the _happily married_ 😑 That's a majority of human beings u just alienated in ur VANITY, including Corrie Ten Boom (author of _The Hiding Place_ et al) & the Apostle Paul. *I wouldn't even trust you to **_pray_** for me in the right spirit Now* If you can't take a minor sharpening, then you'll become a dull, rusty sword. Truly I hope your ministry thrives as your souls do bc you don't seen to have any other qualifications as counselors. 😮💨 Don't worry; I'm not coming back to your channel. I don't even require an apology, just try to look at what we both said "objectively" & don't be "quick to judge the msg fm ur own perspective". Yeah, that's how I felt after reading those words u wrote, too. 😒
I have no need to seek a partner until I will be capable of providing for myself and my future wife. I want to raise a family in the future, but now is not the time. I recently turned 18 a few months ago, and I'm enlisting. I need to work on becoming a man of God. There is no point in acquiring the other things if I'm not sorted out. It is only through Christ that I will have a successful life.
Proud of you. Becoming the man God created you to be, and be firm and steady (biblically, emotionally, mentally, and financially ready) is a good step in preparation for marriage. Overall let Him guide your every step because usually the "perfect timing" for things never show up. We will never be "fully ready" to find a wife, we are a working progress until we die. With that God-fearing and humble attitude you have I wouldn't be surprised if the Lord brought you your wife to you sooner than you think. Matthew 6:33. Blessings.
Everything you say is true, but painful to accept. Waiting sucks. Singleness sucks. Being loveless and without warmth sucks. Seasons of pruning and refinement absolutely suck while they are happening, but they are important and necessary. In any case, great video. I learned a lot from it.
Amen brother, thanks for the comment. That's absolutely right! Patience teaches perseverance and vice versa. Proud of you for recognizing this. Hang in there, lean in, and pray that God teaches you what you need to learn so he can gift you with a Godly wife. Blessings!
Bro singleness is awesome! And if you're confident you've become the man God made you to be, consider a woman from Southeast Asia! Many of them are God-fearing, loyal, feminine, and affectionate. They reciprocate any genuine love and affection you give them. And, unlike many western women, they have not been subconsciously programmed to hate men. You might be pleasantly surprised! And there's certainly a biblical precedent for going to a foreign land and bringing back a wife. May God bless your path regardless of which one you choose 🙏 in the meantime, enjoy being single - it's a blessing too 😇
Ive confessed with my mouth Jesus is lord and Savior and believe he rose from the dead, but if i don't get married I'm just gonna wait for life to be over or just hope the rapture comes, because I hate loneliness, and i don't feel like doing this without someone (i know I have jesus but God said its not good for man to be alone)
Amen brother. Pray for God to lead you to the woman he has for you. Indeed is not good for man to be alone. Commit to do it His Way when he leads you do find her (no sex before marriage, etc). He will honor you! "He who FINDS a wife finds a good thing"-Proverbs 18:22. Hope this helps, blessings!
Divorced; and frankly, there's nobody (so far) out here who is worth marrying. The world is full of disloyal, disrespectful, dishonest, dysfunctional people, and, unless The Lord wills otherwise for my life, I'd rather go it alone!
Understood brother Dennis! I agree there's a lot of dysfunctional people out there (aren't we all) - but there's also a lot of blessed women of God that would make great wives, so I'm happy that you added the "so far", that's the attitude. May God keep guiding your steps! Blessings
Brother, I've felt the same way in the past. But it's not true! Have you ever considered a woman from Southeast Asia? Many of them are God-fearing, loyal, feminine, and affectionate. They reciprocate any genuine love and affection you give them. And, unlike many western women, they have not been subconsciously programmed to hate men. You might be pleasantly surprised! And there's certainly a biblical precedent for going to a foreign land and bringing back a wife. May God bless your path regardless of which one you choose 🙏 in the meantime, enjoy being single - it's a blessing too 😇
Thank you just stumbled on your video in my feed after praying this morning about a potential relationship. When i saw the title i thought oh God may want me single. But i need to stop jumping to conclusions and listen to the video first. Still not sure what to do but im learning to trust The lord.
Thanks for the comment sister! Proud of you willingness to learn and grow. Learning to trust is definitely not easy but it's a worthy process that will bring your life so much fruit. Feel free to check out the podcast my wife and I have, I'm confidently it can bless you even more in the season you're in! Blessings. podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thriving-relationships-for-his-kingdom-godly-dating/id1645567386
I'm here to tell you all, if it don't do it by 40. it will be too late. I am 40. Every woman assumes I have kids, many women have asked me when they could meet my wife, that I do not have. And every time I tell them I don't have kids, that I never married, its always met with a "oh I see.' while they physically distance themselves from me and quickly try to leave the conversation in the same way you would when you suddenly find out that the person you are talking to is a creepy weirdo. Ive even had my doctor say "YOU NEVER STARTED A FAMILY!?" In a shocked way. If you are in your 30s. There is almost no time left. If you want to get married. Do it now.
Thanks for your comment brother. I feel your pain man, I can imagine how frustrating that can be.. It's never to late man, what if it happened at 41? Would you be opposed to it? Have you prayed and fasted to God SPECIFICALLY for this? If not, I encourage you to. Plus, take STEPS to meet women from your local church, make your intentions known and be steady on them. I guarantee there are amazing Godly women out there that are also in the exact same position as you... Let me know how else I can help. Blessings
You still have time man! Have you ever considered a woman from Southeast Asia? Many of them are God-fearing, loyal, feminine, and affectionate. They reciprocate any genuine love and affection you give them. And, unlike many western women, they have not been subconsciously programmed to hate men. You might be pleasantly surprised! And there's certainly a biblical precedent for going to a foreign land and bringing back a wife. May God bless your path regardless of which one you choose 🙏 in the meantime, enjoy being single - it's a blessing too 😇
@ForHisKingdomCoaching I'm not sure that there are many Godly women out there. When I was in my 20s and 30s the women in church wanted "bad boys", rogues, and thugs. Most of them are divorced now or on second marriages. I stopped trying years ago. I have no idea what the younger women want anymore, but the older divorcees seem content on their own! I think single people are in a good situation as I believe that very soon there will be chaos, war, and apostasy on a mass scale.
I always wanted to be married and have children, that fire is still burning inside me, but sometimes It seems like I’ll never find someone. Hopefully I find that someone because even though I know God is with me, I still feel lonely.
Pray about it!! Ask God to lead you to the person he has for you and vice versa. Ask him to prepare you and to give you the courage to place yourself in the position to receive. Blessings
Nick is a young man, so I can forgive his ignorance, but let's be honest with ourselves: The reason the US divorce rate is so high is because of no-fault divorce laws and biased family courts. The divorce rate wouldn't be half as high as it is if we had fair laws and unbiased courts.
@@MelB868 actually because of the exposure to pornography at the age of 12, that’s why I’m “burning” and “lusting”. A porn addiction for 8 years will always keep porn in my mind
Thanks for the feedback sister!! Thanks for the sub. We're grateful & excited to keep sharing more valuable content. Feel free to check out our podcast if you liked the video "Thriving Relationships For His Kingdom". Blessings 🙏
I am unable to remarry because of restrictions in the Holy Scriptures. I am required to remain permanently unmarried because of previous sin. Repentance is not just saying "I'm sorry" but forsaking sin which often is painful and requires dying to the desires of the flesh.
Understood my friend. I agree that repentance is not just saying "sorry", it's actually doing a 180 - and it's not easy to do so. There are lots of factors that would go into something like this, if your heart is at peace about it, praise God. If you have questions or is having other challenges/temptations due to this take, I highly recommend having a sit down with a wise council / local church leadership. But either way I pray blessings to you and hope you may find rest in our Lord.
hey man your right about forsaking our flesh is painful and difficult however God wants people to marry if both people are Christian unless you have the gift of singleness God bless brother💪💪🔥🔥✝️✝️❤️❤️
There are millions of women that are desiring for a Godly relationship/marriage out there. Make sure your walk with the Lord is steady, pray for it, and put yourself out there, meet women (from church specially) make your intentions known, and I guarantee in the very near future you can find a special lady that you can see a future with. Lead with faith, not fear. Let me know how else I can help! Blessings.
Im just done with looking for love I tried so hard and just got nowhere, I got into self improvement but that doesn’t help so theres just no point anymore to keep going on with this fake love bullshit and lies everyone keep telling me.
I understand it's not easy. Pray, lean in, trust the process. He works all good for those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. Blessings
It doesn't matter. Im forced to be alone. No girl wants me and none ever will. The few relationships I tried to have each lasted less than a single week. The girl always left for someone else who they ended up married to. Ive had sex twice in my life and both times lasted less than ten seconds and the only reason the girls did it was because they pitied me. Im a literal laughing stock and since i refuse to be with a non-virgin im screwed no matter what. Ive long given up at the old age of 33. I dont pray for a wife anymore because theres no point praying for something that doesn't exist. God can just end me now and be done with it because I'll always want a wife despite the fact im not good enough for one.
Thanks for your comment friend. I understand your frustration and the feeling of hopelessness in this area. Honesty is the best place to start. Have you taken all of these fears, resentment and anger to God directly and LAID IT ALL at his feet? Truthfully, I think you affirming all these beliefs into yourself is speaking DEATH (cursing) into this area of your life as a man and potential husband is detrimental to your future. Speak LIFE unto yourself, let God's Word wash you clean from the inside out. Speaking death doesn't please God but it certainly pleases Satan the enemy of your soul - he REJOICES hearing you say all these things about yourself. Refuse to partner with him brother, he's a LIAR. Forgive these females so you can be set free from the bondage of unforgiveness, it will grip you and not allow you to MOVE ON. I hope this helps. Feel free to email or message me directly if there's any other way I can help. Blessings
Thanks for your comment & I understand your take. I am a huge believer of Surrendering to God, but not to "the universe", what does that mean anyway? Surrender to the way and patterns of this physical world? The Scriptures say it's ran by Satan the great deceiver. I have come out of the new age mindset many years ago so don't subscribe to that thinking. Things sure can sound similar at times, and yet have very different deeper meanings underneath it. But hey, we can agree to disagree! Blessings.
Thanks for the comment - I understand it can be challenging when we face many frustrations in this area. As long as you have peace in your heart and make Him enough for you, all will work out. "Seek FIRST the Kingdom and its righteousness and ALL ELSE will be GIVEN to you!" -Matthew 6:33. He is faithful, he's a GOOD Father, and he is more than capable to deliver. Bring all of it to him, even your hopelessness, he will lift you up and replace the doubt and fear with FAITH! I say this from personal experience. Hope this helps. Blessings friend!
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching well, Jesus did give 3 reasons why one would remain single in Matthew 19:10-12. Those who can't marry because they were born that way (birth defect, no attraction to the opposite sex, no desire for relationship), something happened to them (like an accident or they lose the desire for marriage) and those who willingly give up marriage for the Kingdom's sake (Jesus and Paul are perfect examples as they didn't marry). The lifelong call to celibacy is one only those whom God gives the grace to can live out. Although I don't believe it's all that black and white and we need to surrender even our desires for singleness or marriage to God. If you're single, he may not have a spouse for you at all or may even tell someone not to marry (like in Jeremiah's case). On the other hand I've heard testimonies of God telling people they were gonna marry one day or giving them the desire for marriage and they expressed that they never want anything to do with marriage at all. It's rebellion against God to marry if God has called you to stay single. It's also rebellion against God if you want to stay single but God wants you to marry because you're messing up someone else's calling as well. God has a different plan for each of us and we can only get that from Him.
Greetings from Greece and the Orthodox Church! It is a serious mistake to believe that the purpose of marriage is to have children. Marriage is between God and the couple so that they help each other to save their souls. Children are just a gift to some people nothing more
Blessings my Greek friend! Thanks for your comment. I agree that marriage is a covenant between God and a couple. So you think God does not want married couples to multiply and have kids? You don't believe that's a PART of his purpose for marriage? Why did he give women womb then?
Sure thing brother. Not all are called to marry, especially those who do not struggle with any sort of sexual temptation and are fully committed to ministry work. That's why everyone should pray about it. My opinion is MOST would be greatly benefited by having a Godly wife to watch over, be an encourager, and be a helper to a Godly man. Blessings
Has nothing to do with how i feel. God is in control. Whether i find someone, god is still in control. Doesnt change. If i stay single, it is his will, not mine.
Agreed that God is in control. Yet you don't believe you play any part & have nothing to do at all with the process of meeting, dating, proposing, and marrying someone? Will God bring a spouse out of thin air to your lap, without you doing anything?
I’m 53 and still haven’t found my person..I’m attractive, educated, successful but alone.. have always been rejected by men.. I don’t care anymore really and I haven’t dated in 10 years🤷🏻♀️
Thanks for your comment sister. Have you been available to meet men or have you internally closed your heart and lost hope? Not trying to pry on you AT ALL, simply asking a question based on your comment. Given how you described yourself, I guarantee there would be plenty of men out there that would love a woman like you! Pray about it and stay faithful! Blessings.
I understand you very well Bro - Psalm 34:17-19 🕊 I'm on the very edge.. I already tried before few years to get out of this evil and unfair demonic world, but God Jesus decided for me to live and tell His mysterious ways/works to strange people in body that i have never met and will never see in this world, but family in the Holy Spirit/the body of CHRIST, i will see you HOME. John 14:2,3, 18:36/Philippians 3:20,21 citizens of the Heavenly Kingdom of the Triune ADONAI, HalleluYAH.😇 I pray Psalm 126:5 May the Lord turn your life suddenly into songs of Joy for His Glory, Amen.🕊❤🩹
That could definitely be the case, sometimes it is, but not always. Desperation can also lead to breakthroughs, if we take it all to God and then EXPECT things to turn around by FAITH. But if we expect things to continue to be bad/worse over time, we will do everything we can (subconsciously) to make it a reality. Deep stuff. Thanks for your comment.
People, whatever you do don't lose hope......... Don't look for the right one, be the right one!!!!! Stay close to God (Matt 6.33). 1. If you want God's best, learn to be God's best. 2. Let God work with you, if one can't take care of his/her issues, you will bring those issues to your mate and even your friends. Let's face it, if your spouse can't trust you, your friends won't trust you either!!!!! 3. People I urge you, don't look at the outside of a person. Even if your mate does not look like a movie star. Look at the person's heart. At the end of the day, we are all going to get old and ugly. Again look at the person's heart..... I hope this can help you all. God bless
Ok, I have a completely different take on this. What I hear over and over from involuntarily single Christians--and by that I mean those who have lived this way for decades--is that they can't seem to find anyone who is interested. To me, that is not a "God's will" problem, that is a CHURCH problem. Now if you look at marriages in the Bible you will find something very interesting. You will find numerous examples of women praying that God will take away their barrenness and give them a son (never a daughter). But you will not find anyone praying to find a spouse. The only time you find someone in the Bible who is not married, it is because they have chosen to be that way. It's not by default. These people KNEW without doubt that this is what God had called them to be. They didn't say, well, I can't find anyone so this must be what God wants. I am going to say it right now, involuntary celibacy, the way we "practice" it today is NOT Biblical! There is a reason why Paul talks about if you can't handle celibacy, it is better to marry than to burn, and why he does not talk about its opposite, what happens if you are burning and there is no one to marry. It is because throughout most of human history, marriages did not happen by chance. They were, for the most part, arranged by the parents. Often bride and groom did not know each other before the wedding. Often they only met on the day of the wedding. Marriages were arranged with an eye to uniting families, building stronger community/kinship ties, building stronger economic ties, expanding wealth, cementing political treaties. Love played very little part; if it happened after marriage, well it was a bonus, but it was not required for a marriage to be successful. Marriage was not about two individuals; it was about community. For someone to remain single meant that they had to make a deliberate choice to go against all of that. We, however, don't do things that way. Once you've aged out of youth group, you are pretty much on your own as far as finding another compatible, interested single person. We don't make it easy for such people to meet; many churches tend to segregate by sex with separate men's and women's ministries and meetings. When you are a man surrounded mainly by men, or a woman surrounded mainly by women, well, yes, God can do miracles, but sometimes he needs a little help. This is where the church must come in. If you have someone in your congregation, male or female, who has remained single long after the usual age of marriage, then that is not a God problem, that is YOUR problem. Saying "it's God's will" is a copout. When you have people saying the kind of things I see in comments over and over and over, then what that tells me, that either a) there truly isn't anyone out there or b) there is, but nobody is taking the time to put the two together. Do you mean to tell me that no one in your church has an unmarried family member (son, daughter, sister, brother, etc.) or friend that they can introduce to someone who is single and looking? That they don't know anyone at their workplace or gym or club or other places? Or is it that they haven't bothered to find out if they do know someone who could be a potential partner for someone else? So they resort to the old "must be God's will that you remain single" excuse for their inaction and indifference. And point to videos like this to tell you why you should be content to sit on the sideline while they are out there enjoying all the blessings of marriage.
Thanks for this thorough and awesome comment friend! You've made some valid points there, about how things used to be historically, points that we don't stop to consider most of the times. It's easy to tell times really have changed, some things for the better, others for worse. I'm not sure if you watched the full video but I certainly am not condoning people to just sit on the sidelines, not at all - the point of the video was point them to HIM so they can either learn the lessons they need to learn in the season they are in, or prepare themselves for the season they desire to be in. I personally am a married man and am extremely grateful for marriage, it has truly changed my life in so many ways. I am a strong advocate for marriage as I believe a God centered marriage rooted in Christ is the most powerful union there is on earth, and the enemy HATES Godly marriages and families. I also agree with you that it's so easy to "blame God" for our situations in life at times, it's tempting to do so, especially when we feel hopeless, which is where a lot of people in the comments are coming from, and I feel for them. "He who FINDS a wife, finds a good thing" - we must look for it, I sure did, but I also prayed for it through out the process. And yet I also am aware and believe that sometimes (for example) even believers nowadays end up idolizing a man/woman/a relationship out of a desire for it so badly, and if they are trying to "replace" or "use" God to get something for them so they can be "finally fulfilled" and if they are truly His children, I can see how God could prevent it from happening (temporarily) until they learn their lesson and don't lose track of the real race they are in. Could keep going, but I enjoyed reading your comment. Blessings!
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching Thank you. I am a 67 year old woman who has never married and most likely will not because the odds are very much against me. It is, sadly, too late for me, as it is for many other people. I've done a lot of research in this area. For some reason, if you are a woman over 60 who has never married you are not likely to ever get married. Most of the marriages you hear about among older people are second marriages, not first. I know a lot of Christians seem to be allergic to statistics and facts in this area, and they don't like to hear things like this. The reality of life as a single, never-married woman in her sixties is this: the men her age are more likely to be interested in much younger women while the ones who are more likely to be interested in her are much older and often have very serious health issues. There is a term you may not have heard of: "Hospice wives". It's exactly what it sounds like. Now this may be very selfish of me, but, I am a very active and youthful senior citizen and I do not wish to spend the remaining 20 or so years of my life chained to someone who has mobility issues limiting where we can go and what we can do as a couple and who has absolutely nothing else to offer me. I did not wait all these years to end up being an unpaid caretaker! So, no, thanks, I'm going to stay single--at my age 20 years goes by fast. What I think the church needs to do is to be more proactive in the area of helping people find partners. When I hear "whatever women/men want, I don't have it" then that tells me we aren't teaching people what they need to know in order to attract the opposite sex. Scripture verses can only take one so far. I need to know, what are men looking for in a wife? What are they attracted to, what turns them off? Same with women looking for a husband. What does she need to know? Unfortunately my teenage and young adult years--prime marriage years--were spent being more focused on the Word of God than on learning how to meet and attract a spouse. I spent more time with Matthew than with makeup. The adults around me encouraged me to do so, saying that I needed to focus more on my spiritual development than that cute guy across the room; and I listened to them. I put that cute guy aside and did just that. Don't know if cute guy was getting the same messages but as far as us getting together, nope, not a priority. It was almost as if I were in training to be a nun, which in a way I am, just without the habit, the convent and the vows. I didn't have a clue--and I still don't--of how to get the kind of guy I want to notice me to notice me. But you want to sit down and do Bible Study with me, oh, boy, I can hold my own there! Anyway just some thoughts from a crazy old cat lady.
@@theresemalmberg955 Thanks for your thorough comment sister! Totally understand where you are coming from. It makes sense to me. The stats are the stats. Question for you, do you think there could be a man out there in the same boat as you? Looking for a God-fearing, wise, active, and healthy woman his age? I guarantee there is. Yet of course it seems like you are a peace about it either way, and you are enjoying your years with the peace of Christ, praise God! That is a blessing! Also, totally agree with the fact that the church isn't doing the best job practically TEACHING people what they need to look for, attract, lead, (etc) a potential spouse - physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. That is part of my the mission God gave my wife and I. We are doing our best to provide that type of content through our podcast. Thanks for the great reminder of the need for this, and for your heart for God. I bless you!
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching Saying "I guarantee there is" is very easy to do when you do not have to make good on that guarantee. I would respectfully suggest that unless you are personally in a position to do so, that you please refrain from making such statements. It puts you in the same category of people who say "oh, you can count on me" when they know there is very little risk of you ever taking them up on it, namely because they don't live close enough to be of any practical use or have other things going on in their lives that may make them unavailable in your time of need. It's all about making themselves feeling good. I understand where you are coming from and I know you mean well, but please--don't. Those of us who have spent the majority of our lives being involuntarily single don't care to hear such talk. It's like James said, if you see another in need and all you do is say take care and God bless, you aren't helping them in the least.
@@theresemalmberg955 Understood sister. I respect your stance and opinion. Not looking to change your mindset on things, you have the freedom not to receive anything I said. The reason I said "I guarantee there is older men looking for godly older women" is because I KNOW MANY. I run a relationship podcast with my wife and have a facebook community where many older gentlemen have come forth and communicated they are single and looking for a woman their age- so I was speaking from personal experience having talked to those men myself. I never guaranteed that anyone in that situation actually WILL find someone, all I stated is that THERE ARE men out there looking for the same thing, that's all. But you don't have to take my word on it, it's not an issue. I do desire to help those looking for a Godly relationship so if there's anyway I can potentially help let me know. God bless
3:16 is all I know as “whom do I have in heaven but you? And there is nothing on Earth I desire more.” All spiritual weapons I have are in use for me to cope with men blaming women. She was for you and also is for God. She was your glory but you do not like her at all. All you do is take pride in that he was not deceived. I am Shocked that there may be men wanting women, truly I am shocked: she might ruin your life, it is good that you can never be deceived. What besides submission, suffering and blame do you see in a woman? She was not good from the beginning she added words, Good luck “being one” as is below his ego to be a woman. I believed I was a new creation but a man of God told me I have to become what she was meant to be (which is a fail and a liar) in childbirth first- wait how do you marry this unreturned creature and wait for that moment. Love as Christ loved - but I am already saved I am without blemish and do not need forgiveness from you!?! I have my beloved, I have Him promised, He knows I yearned for Him - I pray He is not my second to best choice as I never can believe men on Earth love, only He teaches me.
I was desperate for a spouse...... I met these girl... And we've been dating for more than a year now..... My only goal is to takr it to marriage but..... Im having doubts about my relationship.... Im asking God about signs..... If she's the one... I dont think im getting any answers.... What do i do?.....
Being desperate is not a good thing. That’s when you make a big mistake. Are you a true Christian? Is she a true Christian? We are suppose to be equally yoked. If not it won’t work.
Thanks for your honesty. Pray and let him guide you. If the relationship brings both of you closer to God, that's a green flag. If it takes you off the biblical path, that's a red flag. We have also recorded a full podcast episode on "how to identify the right person to marry" that could be very helpful to you. Feel free to check it out on all major platforms "Thriving Relationships For His Kingdom" episode 4 & 5! Blessings
That's the ENEMY at work, putting those thoughts in your mind. Satan wants to kill, steal, and destroy your life... he hates you. I have experienced it years ago and it's demonic. Pray friend!! GOD LOVES YOU. Pray for God to deliver you from these thoughts. Seek a faith-filled body of believers in your local town and share with them so they can lay hands and pray for you in person! Let me know if you need any help with that I'd be happy to assist! Blessings
I’m at peace but I do feel like a veil is over me and recently an ex that I love so much is coming back but I do see that he has changed and starting to follow God more . But I’m not sure if this is true or the enemy and deception. He’s one person I can’t let go off and vice versa he admitted he misses me when I call him out . For years we haven’t been intimate two years now but the love is strong. I ask God let him leave and I fasted he’s still here
Thanks for your comment sister! Honor you for clearly having repented and for keeping yourself pure - my wife and I went through the same process prior to marriage. Pray that he CONFIRMS to you that it's His will for you, honor him with the proper biblical boundaries in it if you decide to come back together, and I'm confident he will reward you for it! If you'd like any more content around Godly relationships feel free to check out the podcast I host with my wife, it's called "Thriving Relationships For His Kingdom". Blessings!
Hey man, I am trying to make out concrete plans. So far I have 1) Wait (doesn't seem productive) 2) Depend on God (What specific structures in Christianity promote finding a woman? The only one I know of is Bible Study) 3) Preparation (extremely ambiguous) I am trying to be a possible client given the success you've had, but real talk this intro vid. is extremely indirect and when it touches upon something useful remains ambiguous. I am a hardcore Catholic. (I plan on becoming a permanent Deacon after marriage) But I am rationale. Your video offers no concrete plans...
Hey brother Tim, thanks for your comment. I can tell you're seeking answers in this area and I honor you for that - keep leaning in.. I also understand this video was not as direct or concrete in terms of "step by step" practical game plan as you were hoping for. It was the first video I made on the topic for youtube and I simply shared what God placed in my heart to share at the moment. The main point or "practical" I shared was ultimately for everyone listening, to SEEK GOD and in prayer in the "secret place" to ask Him to reveal to each person DIRECTLY what He's doing IN them in the season of singleness - because the reality is He may have unique plans for each person & I can't speak for him, especially in a "one to many" platform like this. When I have the opportunity to speak 1-on-1 to someone I'm able to ask questions and understand the situation better before giving any practical steps of action. I know this may be a logically frustrating thing to hear (I've been in that exact spot many times in life), especially since God's ways don't always make sense to us in the moment, and life with Him is filled with mysteries - but I also have found from personal experience that WAITING ON THE LORD (as King David says in Psalms) is indeed a very practical and effective way to tackle and "wrestle" with challenging things such as these - even though at face value it seems counter productive - it's not. "Waiting" doesn't mean just "stay at home in the couch and do nothing" it means taking action in faith but waiting on God to give the final say (ie: going to the bible study that you mentioned, or saying hello to people at church, connecting with people as you live life, and being open for HOWEVER God wants to show up in your life and introduce you to the woman he has for you, and then confirm it's from Him as you get to know her, etc) but it also accounts that it's HIS timing for all of it, not our own (we can't force it). Hope this makes a bit of sense. Although I grew up in a catholic household, I'm not one today (but respect everyone's unique process with God). So if you're looking for a catholic stance to all of this, I'm not the qualified guy for it. With that said, if you have any other specific questions and you're open to hear my take on it, feel free to message me on Instagram (@thenickteixeira) and I'd be happy to help in anyway I can man. Hope you receive this message in love, as it is how I wrote it. God bless you brother!
I know alot of ppl that have no religion or are completely anti religious and they all in happy relationships lol.. don't ask god why you're single ask yourself
Thanks for your comment! Absolutely understand where you come from. Clearly in this video I was referring to those who do seek a relationship with God, given the bible give specific instructions to those who choose to follow it. Yet I also agree with you that we have influence over our love life, I do not deny that at all. Blessings
I didn’t watch the video but I think it’s simple: If you’re single God wants you single. If you’re in a relationship then God wants you in that relationship. I guess the question is does God want you to try to change your relationship status or not
Thanks for your comment! The video would give some some perspective - but I encouraged people to pray at the end and seek God's will for their lives for themselves. So I don't necessarily disagree with your take! Although I think desiring something you don't have yet, and praying for it, while taking steps towards it takes great faith.
Just because your faith in god is strong. Does not mean he will send you a soulmate. A relationship with god is not transactional, it’s surrendering, swearing fealty. You will only find love if he wills it. If it’s not in his will. Then why bother with love.
Thanks for your comment, good observation. Agreed that it's not a transactional relationship and he doesn't owe us anything. But will He as our perfect Father not give good gifts to his children? Why did he make Eve in the first place? It's discipline and obedience, yes... but also grace and love. All perfect gifts come from above... Ask and it shall be given, especially if you have pure intentions and you want to honor him with your relationship (marriage). Blessings
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching God made eve because he didn’t want man to be lonely. Yet they both committed sin because of her actions. God has beat me consistently and has not stoped since my parents died. Every romantic relationship I have fails and falls apart. Even if I want marriage he does not will it and you can’t defy Gods fate so I give up, and I can’t win against him. Some people are not meant to be loved or married. The ones who don’t have that blessing become warriors of pain. Wise men that can help people through there hardship because of there trauma. I will never be loved and I’ve accepted this but my will the live and my fire is in the glory of god. I will workout, make money, help others and love my family and friends. I am not meant to be loved. I was made to be strong, As a warrior of Gods pain. So if I pray for love, I’m praying for the wrong shit cause it won’t happen. I pray for power and I pray for strength.
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching God created Eve because he said it is not good for man to be alone. Every romantic relationship I have fails. The people who have the blessing of marriage will never understand. Some men are made to be loved and some men are made to be alone and endure pain. God has showed me that love is not in my path and if I defy him he will make my relationships hell and fail every time. God doesn’t will a wife for me and I have to accept my fate because I can’t win against gods will so I give up fighting back(Looking for love). I will have a painful lonely life and had to surrender to god or else I will keep facing his wrath through women or him killing my mother and father. I’m One of Gods warriors pain. Im experienced and wise by beyond reason due to my loneliness and pain. With the wisdom and pain, god wants me to help and repair others hearts to keep faithful even when all is lost. To love and care for my family and friends. I carry the fire of the holy sprit in me. I am not made to be loved. Im made to endure pain. So if I pray for love I’m praying for the wrong shit. If I pray for power and strength. My path will stay a peace and god will give me unimaginable mental and physical strength.
God made Eve because he said man should not be lonely. You must understand that some men are made to be loved and some men are made to be alone and endure pain. Not everyone who wants marriage will receive that blessing. Every romantic relationship I’ve been in has failed. God does not will a wife for me so I’ve given up because each time I try and love he will destroy it because I’m defying my fate and you can’t win against god. He will do it just as easily as he killed my parents. I’m done fighting back. I learned that all this pain has givin me the wisdom to help and repair others hearts, to help other pain. As one of gods warriors of pain I must help others and care for my family and friends no matter how bleak my life is because it will be painful. So I if pray for love, I’m praying for the wrong shit. I must pray for power and strength. This is the strongest I’ve been mentally, physically and even financially. I am not made to be loved. I am made to suffer.
@@Hinson3000 So God wants some men to be lonely but not others? Interesting take. I am with you that we are to partake in the suffering of Christ if we are to enjoy the rest of Christ - that comes with being a genuine disciple and servant. The word says that we will be hated like Jesus was. Yet that reality is not strictly for non-married believers. I get where you're coming from and if you believe that God has really confirmed that he wants you to not be married and start a family then that's great, I also suppose then that you also do not struggle with ANY lust of any kind at all, because if you are burning inside and it's leading you to partake in hidden sin (like I used to...) to stay single is not biblical. Also brother, I'm sorry to hear about your loss. But I can guarantee God didn't kill your parents, you do have a REAL enemy and his entire goal is to kill, steal, and destroy everything good in your life - but God is not that enemy. I am very happy that you are feeling firm and strong like Jesus, that's a blessing! Yet I also I encourage you to spend more quiet time in his Word and praying for him to reveal His will to you, along with WHO he REALLY is, because I can see some blind spots in your thinking. Hope you take it the right way, I say this with love! Blessings
Interesting video title...But, it then begs to question whether or not we have FREE WILL if HE could simply intervene/interject and STOP you from achieving or receiving something you seek or work for. How can we have FREE WILL if GOD at any moment determines HE does not want you to have this or that, yet tells us we are free?!
Totally get that brother! That's a tough one to wrestle with... I've done so for many years. Personally I've rested in the fact that God being God he knows everything - nothing I could ever do is a surprise to him, and he surely can direct my steps (or anyone else's) whether they are His or not (yet). However he does give us free which to CHOOSE whether we follow his guidance or not, and indeed they are rewards and consequences from those choices. When we are born again we indeed are FREE- from the bondage of sin. And yet we are not our own at that point, because we have a MASTER. Hope this adds just some thoughts for you to bring to your prayer time with Him. Blessings bro!
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nope I don't believe in this I have waited for 3 years prayed fasted cried rejected all ungodly Women then I got into relationship with a woman who believes in Him I got so many dreams and confirmations recently she eneded the relationship without any soild reasons and there are only few Godly people left now so Idk
Thanks for your comment brother. I understand the frustration. Have you laid all of this frustration, anger, and hopelessness at God's feet? He wants to TAKE IT ALL from you, and give you firm FAITH instead. You can refuse the message shared in the video, but I guarantee it won't help you if deep inside you do desire a woman of God as a wife. I say this with love. God bless
@@A127-i3x Blessings man! I understand.. nothing wrong with being hurt. Take it all to God so he can replace it with His Joy and peace that surpasses our understanding!
So sorry for your pain. Have you ever considered a woman from Southeast Asia? Many of them are God-fearing, loyal, feminine, and affectionate. They reciprocate any genuine love and affection you give them. And, unlike many western women, they have not been subconsciously programmed to hate men. You might be pleasantly surprised! And there's certainly a biblical precedent for going to a foreign land and bringing back a wife. May God bless your path regardless of which one you choose 🙏 in the meantime, enjoy being single - it's a blessing too 😇
@@pointbreak2811 How so brother? Relationships sure can be challenging.. I agree with you there - but when done God's way with Christ in the center, they can be a fruitful blessing!!
@pointbreak2811 Ask God to remove this desire. Offer yourself to him as a servant. Maybe someday he will bring you a spouse, but unless he does ask him to remove the desire and focus solely on Christ.
What are you confused about? Pray to your Father in heaven if you need wisdom, he will gladly give it to you. I'd be happy to pray for you as well - message me on IG @forhiskingdomcoaching / @thenickteixeira. Blessings
@@renaeharris5111 Totally get that.. toxic relationships create a lot of trauma, it's painful and can create lasting emotional/spiritual effects - until fully dealt with. He is enough, and maybe he does desire that. Just make sure it's what he shared with you directly, through your quiet time with Him, and not out of hurt for the past. I say this with love, blessings!
Amen! The part where you said “God you’re enough for me!” Like truly that’s confirmation for me!! & that’s the sole reason I believe I’m still single because that’s where God is trying to get me to!
Praise God sister! So good to hear this. Thanks for sharing your heart. God is faithful!! Check out our podcast if you feel led. Blessings!
My singleness only few years to 40s I have learnt alot and it makes me come too closer to Christ and continue waiting in his time ,thank you alot for sharing you gain my subscription because of this wonderful encouragement.
What a beautiful thing sister. Sounds like you're in a great and rested place. Proud of you! Grateful for your comment and subscription! Blessings.
May ✝ God Jesus ✝ bless you suddenly and abundantly, exceedingly above all you was expecting here in this awful world and in His Eternal Kingdom, AmenYESHUA.😔❤🩹🕊
If singleness is God's boot camp for me, then He wants me to be a Navy Seal. I have struggled with this for so long that I came to the point where I simply gave up, women look at me like a clown with leper. The difficult part is when family and friends start asking me how come I'm alone, I have to fake a smile and say "who knows?", but deep down it's like rubbing salt and ghost pepper to the wound 😔
Edit June 2024: Guys you won't believe this, God has brought my future wife. I cannot believe it, I never thought this would happen. We met at church, God gave us a sign that we were meant for each other.
Thanks for your comment brother, I know it's not always easy.. If you still desire marriage, don't lose hope. Pray that God brings you that wife and also prepares you/turn you into the kind of man that's confident to step into a healthy serious relationship. Praying for you bro. Let me know how else I can help. God bless!
Bro, i guess we will be part of the Seal Team Six because i'm in the same situation.
I guess we have to be patient, have faith in God and don't ring the bell.
I'm not married but to me it's like oh well
I have the same
@@omarguzman4053 ikr, sometimes I look at the bell but I know who wants me to ring it. My mother used to say "it's God's perfect timing, not yours nor mine. Remember what happened to Abraham and Sarah and look at the problem we're in with the children of Israel and Ismael." God bless you my brother, hope to see you at the weddings of the lamb.
I have no idea where I stand with God. I asked Jesus to save me and give me his holy spirit when I was young not sure the age. I was baptized immersion as a teen . I had a desire not to sin against him anymore but found it really hard and got discouraged and so I gave up and started habitually sinning with porn. The bible says those who habitually sin have never seen him or known him so I guess I was not saved when I asked God to save me many times in my life previously. If he did not save me when I asked him to earlier on in my life when I really meant it than I find it hard to trust him now. Thought he said whoever believes and calls upon his name will be saved. I am a wreck as I think of predestination and now assume I am not chosen afterall only a few are chosen. Please pray for me if you feel led.
You may have a lust addiction. It's just as real as alcohol, narcotics, or gambling. Join a 12 Step recovery program. I struggled just like you but with the Biblically based 12 steps I am in recovery and no longer acting out inappropriately.
Hey my friend, thanks for your vulnerability. I understand it can be very challenging to make sense of our faith walk in different seasons (specially when we face more struggles than we're ready for). I have gone through many challenging seasons myself that created lots of entangled thoughts, ideas and questions that I didn't have answers to at the time. I also recognize now that the enemy was at work, doing all he could to keep me away from the Father's love for my life, and confusion is one of his most effective tactics. I encourage you to take all these questions and concerns to God in a quiet place, open up to him, speak out loud to him, and ask him to reveal himself to you, and to bring peace to your heart. He's not afraid of these questions, and is happy to meet you where you're at, even if you "wrestle" with him. One thing is for certain, He clearly loves you and has called you to be his. It's no accident that you've gone through all you've gone through, and I believe he will use it all as beautiful testimony for your life! I hope this helps even slightly.. if you'd like to chat more or would like prayer I'd be happy to help in any way I can. Message me on IG if you have one @forhiskingdomcoaching / @thenickteixeira. Blessings!
I passed through the same things in the beginning of my walk with Jesus, including the thought that I was not a chosen one for various reasons. Since that time I've seen so many wonderful things God has done to me and to others He used me to reach. Remember, the most common weapon of the enemy are lies and confusion. Don't ever believe God has forsaken you or don't care about you. Persist and He Will show his face to you. You caring so much about your relationship with Him and what He think's about you alone means a lot already as a sign of a chosen one. Rest your heart, seek Him and He Will draw near to you.
May His peace and love be with you, my brother. I will pray for you
@MateMilinkovic-yy3zm Lord God, we come humbly and boldly to Your throne of grace and ask for Your help. We call on You, Mighty One, to save, to give your son blessed reassurance even in the midst of struggling with sin. Father, if his heart is not fully surrendered to You, we ask You to lift it up and give him a new heart and spirit in Jesus' name. Let him hear Your voice and draw him closer to You in Jesus Christ's holy name. We ask that a standard would be lifted up against the enemy and his schemes to pull him apart from You and that demonic strongholds would break right now in the holy name of Christ Jesus. We deman that shackles of sin wouls be broken now in Jesus' name. Renew and give him the gift of relationship with You and help him abide in You and hide Your word in his heart that he might not sin against You. Thank You for hearing us, for surely no words slips from Your ear. In Yeshua' matchless name we pray, Amen.
🕊Actually your comment proves that you are SEALED and SAVED in the Almighty Name of JESUS, HalleluYAHYESHUAELSHADDAIADONAIYHWHOFHOSTS.😇
Born by the Father
Born by the Word
Born by the Spirit
Praise the TRIUNE ADONAI YESHUA forever for your and mine Salvation. 🙌
I'm born Again evangelist, not calvinist. I even don't know if there is church like that in my country... but the pre-destination is very Biblical - Jeremiah 1:5/Ephesians 1:3-14/Romans 8:28-39 etc...
About the struggle with porn...😔 Welcome in the club Bro. I was in bondage from my first TEENage period, but for appointed time i was free from Porn in the Almighty Name of JESUS... Unfortunately i was thinking that I did that with "my free will" haha.. and of course God the Holy Spirit revealed to me the ugly truth, that there is NOTHING good in my flesh - Romans 7 the whole chapter and now i am a slave to the lust and the desires of the flesh, but even so come LORD Yeshua, Amen. John 14:2,3/1 Thessalonians 4:15-18 the Rapture😌
The Gospel is clear - John 3:16, 18/Acts 13:48, 16:30,31, 19../1 John 3, 1 John 5 etc...all believers in the ALMIGHTY NAME of the Son of God, Which is the NAME of the FATHER and His SON and the HOLY SPIRIT - JESUS/YESHUA have ETERNAL LIFE, HalleluYAH/Praise the Lord.✝✝✝
See you home Brother. John 18:36🎯😇🕊
P.s. We can pray one for another in the Almighty Name of JESUS for deliverance and blessings in this evil and unfair world, but Not for Salvation, because we are already SAVED.
Psalm 27:1 the Lord is my Salvation and my Light
John 8:12 Jesus said: "I AM the Light"
1 Corinthians 12:3 ...and no one can say that YHWH is YESHUA, except by the Spirit.. Amen Holy Spirit.🕊
May the Glory of the Lord/the Shekinah of YESHUA be your Guardian in your left and in your right and before and behind you, Amen. |sorry, i forgot the verse, but the Glory of the Lord is Person/the Elohim is Tri-Unity: Father and Word and Spirit, you can read also Acts 7:55-60: the Glory of the Lord - 1 and the Son of Man - 2 right on the Father - 3🧐😌🕊|
Maranatha - Come Lord❤🩹
So much understanding from the wisdom of GOD. Thank you for delivering this message.
Thankful for the feedback, glad it spoke to you! Blessings
I don't know, and I no longer care. I've found that singleness is not as scary or as bad as I thought it would be. It hurts a little, but not as much as it used to. The day I found the courage to give up, it was such a relief. It had been so exhausting to be consistently looking for a home in each new face I saw, wondering despite myself, "will *she* be the one?" Now, when I meet someone, I'm like, "oh, she'll make someone a fine wife." Someone, not me. *That* particular train has left the harbor.
This has caused me to have contempt for God an increasing feelings of vindictiveness towards Him, someone I want a relationship with less and less.
That's really interesting man. Sorry to hear that was you take.. What about it are you exactly holding onto so tightly that's making you feel that way?
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching God ruined my chances at a decent life (long bizarre story) and I want to have my revenge on Him for it! I will probably never marry now as a result. I despise him for it and want him sent to hell for daring to be God over me!
Been single my whole life, this makes it make sense, instead of chasing a relationship god wants me to chase a relationship with him❤️
That's amazing!! Glad it spoke to you. Matthew 6:33!
Thank you for this video.
I've been having a rough time lately: essentially zero of my long-term goals have worked out, with the singular one that did (getting my college degree) having an incident that robbed it of all joy, and my natural tendencies toward deferred-gratification have yielded no gratification, to the point that it's accurate to say "the past 15 years of life have been teaching me that nothing will ever pay off" - add to this (1) trouble finding solid employment post COVID, and (2) that I'm a 40+ literal "kissless virgin", and that I though I heard God say 'yes' to a particular girl I asked about/for… that actually happening will take about four miracles, though.
It's oddly like dealing with grief: some days are "yeah, I can do this and trust God completely!", other days are "Does God care about what I want?" (i.e. Do my desires and preferences matter to God, or is it a "Shut up! I AM YOUR FATHER!" / "God's plan" where what I desire/feel/care-about doesn't matter?) or "Does God have anything for me?" - Obviously, as you can see, there's some hurt in that area, and it's due to issues with my own dad… while I certainly Trust God, there's a part of me that fears the latter is the case: that what I want is to be steamrolled by God's will and simply doesn't matter to him.
I've been praying that I can/will do Eph 5:25-33; 1 Pet 3:7-9; Col 3:19 for my [future/hopefully] wife to God's glory, and that I can point to her and say "God answers prayers!"
But I am blinded and see nothing… perhaps God is growing Faith in me: "Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the assurance of things not seen" - but I am blind and cannot see.
…Please pray for me.
Thanks for your honest and authentic review bro! I think it's great you are recognizing there's grieving to do (very healthy to!), and that there's hurt in these areas. Makes total sense to me. I can definitely say that God does care about our dreams/wishes, especially when we seek him. But I've also learned that a lot of times they don't always plan out the way we want to.
There's a lot more I could say, and I'd be happy to help in any way I can. Feel free to shoot me a message on Instagram (@thenickteixeira) so I can pray for you and share some thoughts that could be beneficial!
Take all these feelings to God, he's not going to beat you in the head for them, he will welcome you with open arms and lead you accordingly. Blessings bro
This has really effected me emotionally and spiritually. When in the word God says it’s night right for man to be alone, and you seek God and ask for companionship. What happens when it doesn’t come and your find yourself single your entire adult life, despite your best efforts. You see others who find relationships easily, non believers, or people don’t even pray and it falls in their lap. The loneliness of being undesired and not chooses in heartbreaking.
Yea I totally understand it's a challenging and complex topic topic, especially when it takes way longer for things to play out the way we desire it. Keep leaning in and seeking God for it, I'm confident he will guide you. Blessings
Whatever it is that women want, I do not have it. I’ve either been rejected, I couldn’t provide the life they wanted and as soon as I showed interest in them when they showed interest in me first, they repelled me like a bug. The closest I ever had achieving having a girlfriend, there was too large of an age gap between us, but thankfully we parted on good terms. It led me to lustful thoughts and actions but I realized I may have been rejected by others, I am never rejected from God. So I fled from lust. I decided to focus on building myself and my faith in God, to be better than who I was. I may not find a wife to share His glory, I would like that, but I will still do what I must to embrace my faith in Jesus. God bless.
Thanks for your comment brother Jake. I can understand the frustration, learning the difference in our thinking (men v women) is definitely a challenge, but I will share that it totally CAN be learned if you lean in. If deep inside you do desire to have a wife that is a blessing in your life, there's a free training series my wife and I did and posted in our free facebook community called "differences between men & women" that could be very helpful. If you think that'd be valuable I can share link. Either way, I'm glad to hear that you're resting and finding fullness in our Lord! Blessings
@addisonamit4447 here you go: facebook.com/groups/1065235670678200/
Fight on brother ✊
Dear brother i'm just so curious what exactly was the age gap? :D
Don't know anything about you so I am going to speak strictly for myself here. The reason most guys do not interest me is that they are not very interesting people themselves. I am not a blank sheet; I have many, many diverse interests, some typically female, others not. There are things I like to do and places I like to go. But it seems like most of the single guys I know lack imagination in this area. If they have any kind of interests at all they are very narrow and predictable. Not only do they not read the same books I do, they don't even read! They don't want to try new cuisines; they don't want to go to new places; many times they are not even physically active--and they don't take care of themselves health-wise or even appearance-wise. When you get up in age, as I am, this can really be a deal-breaker, because if I can see health and mobility issues in your very near future, I'm going to run. If I am at a dance and you tell me you can't dance or don't want to dance, that's another deal-breaker. I'm not spending my life sitting on the sidelines watching other couples having fun.
As you can probably guess, I am a very active senior citizen and I have noticed something--that no matter where I go or what I am involved with, women tend to outnumber men by a vast majority. Cardio drumming--2, maybe 3, male regulars, 18 to 20 women. Book club, 99% female, more often 100% female. Church, 75% female. Now part of this is due to the fact that women tend to outlive men, but not all of it. I have to ask, where are the guys who claim they can't find anyone? What are they doing? Sitting home, playing video games? I meet someone, start up a conversation, what do you like to do, what are your interests and it is like blank look time. If your idea of a date is let's go to my place or your place and watch TV, no, don't be surprised if you get rejected.
Another thing which I've increasingly come across as I've gotten older is that because there are so few men involved in activities in my age group, those who are single automatically assume "she is desperate and will take anyone" therefore they don't have to put in the effort. Or they are desperate themselves and don't take the time to stop and think about what they are bringing to the table and whether it is something the other person might want as well. Think about what kind of woman you are attracted to and ask yourself, why am I attracted to this kind of woman? Think about those you are not attracted to, and ask the same questions. Believe you, I wish I had done this years ago, instead of just saying yes when a guy showed interest, it would have saved me a lot of grief. So yes, I do a lot more rejecting now that I am older. I hope that this helps you understand a bit about what women might be looking for.
I believe in the timings, amen. Thank you to share this 🙏
That's it brother Isaac! Proud of you. My pleasure!
I'm saving myself for marriage
God is working on me and my future husband
That is the proper mental attitude sister! Amen
same, but Idk how to really flirt with girls or talk to them
@@chadgaming8071Grow yourself through God man, and let him guide you, one of the main activities that got me closer to God was working out, for example running and lifting weights helped me grow my body, eventually was helping me grow my mind, and when both are growing together your connection to God and especially your soul will drastically improve. Evidently reading scripture, will boost everything(that’s most important), that I mentioned, before I was close to God I was very scared to talk girls and at times I put them higher than me and I praised them without actually knowing them And I used to always want to change myself for a girl, who at the end of the of day she doesn’t like anything about myself😭. This what I think it means through grow yourself through God and grow a deep connection to him.
You actually believe that trash
@@ForHisKingdomCoachingjesus should get a kick in the ass
I have given up on finding someone. I have been constantly single and haven't found anyone. I am almost 30. At this point, there's way too many modern women that just cheat all the time and are very shallow. Hard to find someone to take seriously.
Im in the same boat sucks but it is what it is haven’t found anyone either
As a 38 year old single man never been married or been on a date. I hope I find a wife before I get older so I can enjoy life. Not saying wouldn’t wanna wait till I’m in my late 40’s but I’ll love my parents see me find somebody before they go home be with the lord.
U will God got u
I've heard single isn't the worst. I heard being married to the wrong person is far worse. Many of the worlds greatest people lived extraordinary lives single.
Yeah I agree, marrying the wrong person can absolutely be destructive.
But marrying the right person can be extraordinarily amazing as well.
Pray and see what God reveals to you.
Yeah, I have a few thoughts outside of this that are linked to a comment I saw. Yes, God is doing things in us and that may be why we're single, but i think the church needs to step up.
1. I think as The Church, we aren't helping single people - e.g., simple introductions. People find a spouse then don't really think about the single people around them, in order to help them. When you're looking for a job, yes we pray but people also give suggestions and referrals. Yet, in the church, it's just "trust God's timing" and "when you stop looking it'll find you." Yes, but, I really think we can do a better job at supporting each other.
2. I'm struggling to understand if men are being discipled, because theres plenty of women who love/are walking with God/in the church, where are the men? So, when women actually want to be obedient by not being unequally yoked, they aren't seeing eligible men around them.
I stand behind your comment 100% brother. I'm passionate about speaking to men specifically about this matter since it's become more and more apparent that as the heads of our homes (in marriage), we are to LEAD the way in all things. We can do a whole lot better at equipping young men (I sure wish I had more of that as I was stepping into manhood).
Obviously I didn't touch on any of these topics in this video specifically but have in many of the podcast episodes I host with my wife called "Thriving Relationships For His Kingdom" - either way I plan on making videos as well so it can be shared in this platform.
Blessings & thanks for your perspective!
We need to have a serious talk about how a lot of this is geared towards women to basically be perfect but the discount the HUGE lack of accountability for men in their spiritual walk. There are not a lot of Christian men. And a lot of the ones who claim to be a Christian tend to be similar to non believers
@@Karynwashere I agree with this comment. Indeed men are to be responsible for this! As the spiritual heads of the family, God called MEN to lead. And as a whole, men have done a terrible job at that.
Preparation and Protection, in Yeshua and Yahweh name. Amen! 🙏✝️🤍
Amen brother!! You're on it.
Amen, but Yeshua/Jesus is YAH's Name. ADONAI is Triune and He revealed Himself in His Word to Abraham as El Shaddai, second again in His Word/the Son of God to Moses as YAHWEH/YHWH and now in the New Testament as YESHUA/JESUS, HalleluYAHYESHUAELSHADDAI.✝✝✝ Exodus 6:2,3/John 17:11/Mathew 28:19/Acts 19:5 etc... the Name of the Son of God is the Almighty Name of the Father and His Son/the Word and the Holy Spirit/Shekinah.🕊
JW's teach that YAH is only the Father, but we the elect of Christ know that YAH is Tri-Unity, HalleluYAH.😇
I was talking to some mates about downloading Hinge to give dating a try. And then I come home from college, and the first thing I see is this video. Praise Jesus, thank you brother 🙏
I realise I need to focus on growing closer to God first, he may need me to serve Him in celibacy. I know He will prepare me for whatever is to come. Glory to Christ 🙏
I heard a quote that "If God is keeping you single, he's saving you for someone special" so...I don't know who this special someone is but...please send him down. I'm 21 and...I don't wanna be lonely anymore...
In the same boat
Love that - great thing to hold fast to. Make sure you place yourself in the position and situations to meet this special someone! Blessings
Tell me about it. I'm 36 and still single. I've been trying to get married since I was 18.
If He wants me to be like Paul, then His will may be done
Sure thing brother. That may be the case. Has he revealed or confirmed that to you directly?
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching nope not yet, I don't talk to girls but when I do to one I want to marry her I clean things up in the beginning that I date to marry etc but everytime the talkin stage goes up to a week and then the next time I get an "user not found" in the past 5 months I've got like 7 different situations 1 week each because when I talk to one I'm loyal even if I'm not with her yet. But what can I say with my understanding maybe for now it's early since I'm 19 closing 20 next month. That said His will be done
Paul😊
@@georginaokeke7913 oh yes Paul, thank you for clarifying me. 🌹
Anguished torment is hitting daily for so many countless people regarding not having a Godly Wife/ Godly Husband
Bloody immensely harrowing the suffering
Thanks for your comment! I totally understand that... it's not easy, but God gives grace and strength through it all. Pray and lean in, he will guide your steps. Blessings.
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching it's made unfathomably multiplication worse especially when it is driven by extremely critical childhood problems still suffering from issues over 20 years later
He's wrong to prepare me for relationships when I lost everything for Him.but He is teaching me a lot for future arguments I guess.for experience.
What do you mean he's wrong to prepare you for relationships? I don't understand where you are coming from.
Blessings!
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching hypothetically,if He tries to do this he goes over my free will, of not wanting relations.I want peace not care for women.I wanted someone that loved me until the end but there are many problems: not righteous, forgetful, cheaters, greedy, superficial, wearing too many masks.why not chose peace?almost like...God showing u the easy way out, out of your own doing.My advice, love her but don't expect any love back and go far away.
I've been single since 1989 and have prayed about it incessantly so I'm quite sure He wants me to remain chaste.
Thanks for your comment. Praying IN faith is definitely a great place to start! What else have you done to receive your person? Blessings
The one thing im learning more and more as i get older in my singleness, and from watching these types of videos no matter the clichés, is that it's getting more apparent that romantic love is so random and not guaranteed. Marriage and romantic love is just so random.
Thanks for your comment friend! Indeed it is not guaranteed and can appear random. We however do have the opportunity to influence it and put ourselves in a position to "receive" it by how we conduct ourselves and the places and people we choose to interact with. Blessings
Brother you are chosen. Read the book of John. Read Psalms 37. Keep working on being the best self you can be. Stay close to God.
Thanks for the kind comment!! Amen. Blessings
To be single at 55 and then to be preached to by a young married couple about divine timing, is a bit much, considering God's given you what you want while your still in the prime of life. Watching your peers get married and have children was hard. But to see God blessing those kid now all grown up and being blessed with marriage, soul destroying. Bad enough to turn up to church or any event and for people to think its okay to remark, still not married, left on the shelf, no kids? Oh your poor parents must be heartbroken no grandkids. I hate going to church now, I hate being around people with the endless comments of what's wrong with you how come you can't get a man, you missed the bus! Decade after decade of preparing, what a joke. I didn't realise that God was always going to make me the butt of the joke. Thanks you God for showing me how you truly feel with this endless season of barreness and devastation.
@@EveryDayItsAHollyday dear sister, I’m sorry to hear that what you’ve been praying for hasn’t come about, I can relate there are things I’ve been believing and praying for that haven’t happened yet- believing they will one day but I’m not in full control what happens tomorrow. I know how tough it is, and it requires true grieving to be able to process these things emotionally and let God do his work in us through the life trials. I wasn’t “preaching” at you or anyone else, I was sharing the message God placed in my heart to share. You certainly don’t have to receive anything I shared since in your eyes I’m young and have received the marriage I’ve prayed for so therefore I have nothing of value to share with you. If I was a 60yr old single man, would that have made the message shared any more valuable?
I acknowledge the pain you’re in and how hard it must be to face people in church that may not have the emotional intelligence to navigate these conversations wisely. The reality is we’re all flawed as humans, but God is perfect and his ways are above our ways. I’d tell you to keep taking these emotions and frustrated feelings to God and let him do His good work in your heart. But I don’t think you care to hear that either. I pray blessings over you and your life! Thanks for your comment and take care
Not everyone is meant to be married…and that’s okay😊Don’t be lonely though. Get involved in your community (or move lol) and create a tribe that will make sure you’re loved and cared for🙏🏽❤
Thanks for your comment! That's one perspective for sure. God could call and declare someone to stay single, I agree. But I also know that God is for a Christ-centered marriage and that those couples having children is an even greater blessing to the world and The Kingdom.
A lot of people choose to stay single out of hurt because of past broken relationships, and not because God actually revealed to them directly that He wants them single. Just my 2 cents. Blessings sister.
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching Alot of people are staying single for to protect their peace. Mental illness is at an all time high. The church has unfortunately been compromised as well so people are confused about what healthy love and respect is; let alone the focus, compassion, and patience required for a marriage.
People are choosing money over marriage and many now look at marriage as a business contract versus something connected to spiritual principles. Government, technology and media has created challenges and this should be acknowledged. I’m not surprised that young people have lost hope in connecting.
Amen! As the apostle Paul said in 1 Corinthians 7, "For I wish that all men were even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that. 8 But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; 9 but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry." God has different plans for each of us ❤
@@faithteffertiller5103 Indeed He does!
That statement is not the Truth.
The way I see it, God could be leading me through a time in my life where I have to trust he will provide that for me in His time and I must continue trusting and obeying. At the same time, I also see this as a time to grow and reflect on what I want and need out of life. A time to see where I'm lacking and make corrections where needed. A time to make myself the best version of me there can be so I can attract and marry the best girl this side of Heaven has to offer.
Amen that's absolutely right! Summarizes 2 of the points I shared in the video. Proud of you! "Seek FIRST the Kingdom and its righteousness and ALL ELSE (including a wife) will be GIVEN to you!" -Matthew 6:33. Blessings brother.
100% true my friend, God is working in our lives if you let him , unfortunately there are very few reborn Christian men and women to go around.
Amen brother! Thanks for your feedback. Few and far between, but they're out there 🙏
Agreed. How can you tell if someone is a truly reborn Christian?
@@aeri878 You'll recognize them by their fruit - Matthew 7:15-20
It’s the wait is what makes people give up. We can only take so much pain. It’d be nice to have dates here and there like appetizers before the main reward to get us there but there’s absolutely nothing until the reward. Feels almost as if I’m an error in life that isn’t supposed to be in the system and feels irrelevant. I feel so alone even when I have prayed so much. There’s been several signs saying it’s time to receive your reward. Then when something starts to get good it crashes immediately. It doesn’t make any sense. It’s like the cry wolf affect. It keeps happening over and over to the point where you stop falling for it. What the heck is going on. This is literally the worst feeling in the world where I’d rather have physical pain.
I can relate. You are not alone man. Maybe it is partially the enemy hindering things in the spiritual. I had dreams etc, but I had to endure a lot and I am waiting. Maybe the waiting is the time to see what God is saying to you and talk to him about your desires
@@chrishilf they say listen to his voice and you can hear a small voice but I literally have no idea how to hear a ghost. I just don’t have the psychic ability to hear those things. Therefor, I don’t how to get advice from the higher power. I’m getting too old fast to the point where it’s going to be too late to start a family. I don’t want the perfect person I just want someone that makes me happy. It’s a simple request.
@@Redsnowman04 ua-cam.com/users/shortsn8V87GRE-jU?si=hSxakPJNLscHmLe4
I just turned 38 and only started dating actively and praying and volunteering on and off at 34. In the past 3 years as the more I've volunteered for several organizations and Charities, I've dated more women and had more relationships than I did my whole life previously. It's a combination of prayer, serving others through volunteering and commitment to sobriety of sins. Start volunteering and praying and give up all your vices progressively and I'm sure the same will happen to you. Almost all my dates and relationships ended bc I keep going back to my sins. So many beautiful and remarkable women that most guys can't get in a lifetime I got without much effort but obviously the Grace of God. So many I literally had to cut out so many to stay focused on the best ones. One girl was so physically beautiful bc she worked out at the gym twice a day and then at home. I felt like garbage after losing her due to my high anxiety from drinking and not getting enough sleep. I lost an amazingly gorgeous doctor almost a foot taller than me who also worked out like crazy after work and it was bc of my negative, lustful, disrespectful and sinful actions. Don't give up. Just do the work and pray harder than ever and volunteer wherever you can. Women that are from God will see the value in you bc almost no other men volunteer. I volunteer with almost all females right now so once I stop sinning I'm bound to finally get my reward. Till then I've stopped dating temporarily to focus on improving myself physically and spiritually. It's tough now bc I'm used going on multiple dates with multiple different women nearly every week but I'm resolved to better myself for the best God has to offer and believe me. The Chriatian women in my area are like true Angels - incredibly gorgeous, young, traditional, loyal and ready for marriage. Good luck 👍
@@Alan-w1q9w just don't use the word luck, please!
I want to add a fourth option of why God is keeping some people single. Let’s go beyond the reasons that you talked about and dive deeper. When someone whose Christian a believer wants a companion it’s going to be another child of God. No one is perfect we are all in the process of moving closer to God each day. Let’s say that an individual makes a lot of money and can provide and he is that soilder with all the tools and resources that can fight a war. However that soilder has a problem he has pride or some addictions, maybe porn addictions or he sees woman only for sex. Or maybe he’s dealing with issues in secret and possibly some health issues. He may have the tools but he’s not taking care of himself. God will say if that soilder isn’t taking care of himself how can God bless him with a woman??! God will be like how can he give this man his precious daughter of a woman who is not going to take care of her. I know this is wild but it can be true. Maybe some people need to work on themselves and clean themselves up before God will present them to their future spouse. I know this may seem harsh but is true it also ties into your point about marriage ending in divorce. Let’s talk about the woman’s side too maybe she wants to marry for money!?? God it’s not going to allow a woman who just wants a Christian man for his money to present himself. God will not allow that man his child of God to be married off to a woman who just wants money. Obvious as the man he needs to provide and protect but a woman must love him unconditionally. Anyway just putting in my two cents God bless.
Hey brother Laurence, thanks for your input! Great perspective, I do agree with many of the points you made. There's always a lot at work in our hearts that we need healing/freedom from, may it be emotionally or spiritually. God indeed may desire someone to fully free themselves of bondage before he blesses them with a spouse, and yet at times He may bless them with a spouse knowing through that covenant, all secret will sooner or later be exposed and be forced to be dealt with in the light (that was my personal story which I'll be happy to share in a future video) - either way God works all things for the good of those who love him and are called according to his purpose! Proud of you for having discernment and wisdom about this topic. Blessings!
Excellent point of view
This was a great message to put out and I agree with what you said a lot of people just say the reasons but you don’t really see the deeper side of the subject meaning of why one might be single. This is a great point of view.
While I do agree with this, marriage can be used by God to purify a person. So, this is still not fully the case. I have known people who had been blessed with a spouse even they are very broken people before marriage. It was only in marriage that they have managed to realize their ways and repent. So I do not think it is absolute. To be frank, I do not think we can have an answer to this at all as only God knows. We say this and that as a consolation and want to find a reason why we are still single, but it doesn't change the fact that there are worse people than we are and have been blesssd with marriage life which made them to have a change of heart.
@unicronprimus7450 As said in Isaiah 55. His thoughts are not our thoughts; neither are his ways our ways. God can bless the "least deserving" with a happy life and the "holiest" with a life of struggle. Like it or not, God is Sovereign
I just came to tell you that you spoke everything truth about me as the Lord used this video to tell me his message throught you.
Amen, thanks for the feedback! Happy to hear this. Blessings.
I want to stay single forever ❤😊amen God
Have you always wanted that?
Yea fuck love
@@sau7710 who has hurt you?
@@ForHisKingdomCoachingI'm single because of Aspergers it's like a high functioning autism but it's just His will
@@MelB868 Thanks for your comment! I believe God can and will bless you in this area if you seek his will and desire this for yourself! Big hugs.
Whatever you say conforms with my spirit. Thank you. I'm blessed
Amen. Happy to hear this!! Blessings.
i believe in God's timing, it hapened to me a month before the pandemic i always wanted to go to japan and the year before my cousin says "hey lets go to japan" and i was like "dude i havent saved any money at all" he told me "just save what you can and take a loan from the bank" BUT because of my job i didnt get it from any bank so i talked with my boss and asked her for that money and i'll pay any interest she puts me... she told me "dont worry about that just pay me back exactly what i gave you" and starting that year of pandemic i went to japan with COVID-19 at my back without knowing anything about it, just my grandma warning us about a virus that was spreading really fast in asia. 15 days and one lost flight plus 3 days waiting for my cousins dad to pay tickets for us to go back... i was happy to has been able to go to that place thanks to my cousing crazy idea.
Im still waiting for that woman to acompany me too, i just havent seek for that as well to be honest, for a very looooong time in fact.
That's awesome! Thanks for that comment, very cool. It's awesome how God works in our lives. & pray about it! Seek and you'll find. Blessings
Finally a video thats specific on UA-cam
Blessings bro! Thank you
Thank you for the prayer at the end. God bless!
My pleasure sister!! Blessings
I’ve been going through a very strenuous past couple of years. I was in a relationship and found myself turning to this person for love and protection but that relationship ended. With all of the things going on right now, I firmly believe that God is wanting me to rely on Him and seek his strength and protection which I am doing. Thank you for this and please keep me in your prayers!
*Telling chaste believers that being single is their fault bc they're not pious enuf is akin to blaming ER staff for the pandemic bc they didn't work 24/7* ...HOW DARE YOU?!
How much of your _adult_ life were you without a partner, not dating, & no online flirting or worse?
How many _decades_ did you spend disciplining yourself to thank God amidst bitter tears? Or wrestle down agony inside to muster genuine smile & congrats for new parents?
So stay in your lane, thx. Don't be smug thinking you've got the answer for everyone bc you got lucky.
"To whom much is given, much is required."
Mizpah...Jesus is Lord!
If you listened to the whole video objectively and weren't quick to judge the message from your own perspective, you'd know the heart behind the message was to point people to GOD because HE alone has the answers. I never claimed to have them all, and I verbatim stated that towards the end of the video.
Yet I can share from my experience and actually am "staying in my lane" since I've gone through it each season and now am blessed (not "lucky" as you say) with an amazing wife and marriage today, and the privilege to help others in that same journey. If you have a loving and thriving marriage, I will listen to your feedback. But my guess based on the hurt and finger-pointing behind your comment, you are single and frustrated.
I wish you the best and would be glad to pray for you, but other than that I can't help you. God bless
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching @least u admitted *uv nothing to offer the single* except criticism & condescension (i.e., smug). And yes, ur PRIVILEGED.
Look how u devalued feedback from anyone except the _happily married_ 😑 That's a majority of human beings u just alienated in ur VANITY, including Corrie Ten Boom (author of _The Hiding Place_ et al) & the Apostle Paul.
*I wouldn't even trust you to **_pray_** for me in the right spirit Now*
If you can't take a minor sharpening, then you'll become a dull, rusty sword. Truly I hope your ministry thrives as your souls do bc you don't seen to have any other qualifications as counselors.
😮💨 Don't worry; I'm not coming back to your channel. I don't even require an apology, just try to look at what we both said "objectively" & don't be "quick to judge the msg fm ur own perspective".
Yeah, that's how I felt after reading those words u wrote, too. 😒
I put my life in God's hands. He shall work through me. I walk this path humbly, I trust you. ❤️🙏🏻
Amen, that's the most powerful place to be in!! Blessings
I have no need to seek a partner until I will be capable of providing for myself and my future wife. I want to raise a family in the future, but now is not the time. I recently turned 18 a few months ago, and I'm enlisting. I need to work on becoming a man of God. There is no point in acquiring the other things if I'm not sorted out. It is only through Christ that I will have a successful life.
Proud of you. Becoming the man God created you to be, and be firm and steady (biblically, emotionally, mentally, and financially ready) is a good step in preparation for marriage. Overall let Him guide your every step because usually the "perfect timing" for things never show up. We will never be "fully ready" to find a wife, we are a working progress until we die. With that God-fearing and humble attitude you have I wouldn't be surprised if the Lord brought you your wife to you sooner than you think. Matthew 6:33. Blessings.
it's the second time this video came to my start page , it's for a reason ❤
Amen sister!! Blessings
Everything you say is true, but painful to accept.
Waiting sucks. Singleness sucks. Being loveless and without warmth sucks.
Seasons of pruning and refinement absolutely suck while they are happening, but they are important and necessary.
In any case, great video. I learned a lot from it.
Amen brother, thanks for the comment. That's absolutely right! Patience teaches perseverance and vice versa. Proud of you for recognizing this. Hang in there, lean in, and pray that God teaches you what you need to learn so he can gift you with a Godly wife. Blessings!
@INBODYOFCHRISTT Amen! Agreed
Amen. It should all flow from that place.
Bro singleness is awesome! And if you're confident you've become the man God made you to be, consider a woman from Southeast Asia! Many of them are God-fearing, loyal, feminine, and affectionate. They reciprocate any genuine love and affection you give them. And, unlike many western women, they have not been subconsciously programmed to hate men. You might be pleasantly surprised! And there's certainly a biblical precedent for going to a foreign land and bringing back a wife. May God bless your path regardless of which one you choose 🙏 in the meantime, enjoy being single - it's a blessing too 😇
Ive confessed with my mouth Jesus is lord and Savior and believe he rose from the dead, but if i don't get married I'm just gonna wait for life to be over or just hope the rapture comes, because I hate loneliness, and i don't feel like doing this without someone (i know I have jesus but God said its not good for man to be alone)
I hate the wilderness too... 😔
But i am very glad for your Salvation. ...who has the Son, has also the Father, HalleluYAHYESHUAELSHADDAI.🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊
Some times god actually helps you dodge bullets. At least for me, I dodge a lot of terrible bitches under Jesus' help.
None of us wanna be Samson
Amen brother. Pray for God to lead you to the woman he has for you. Indeed is not good for man to be alone. Commit to do it His Way when he leads you do find her (no sex before marriage, etc). He will honor you! "He who FINDS a wife finds a good thing"-Proverbs 18:22. Hope this helps, blessings!
Divorced; and frankly, there's nobody (so far) out here who is worth marrying. The world is full of disloyal, disrespectful, dishonest, dysfunctional people, and, unless The Lord wills otherwise for my life, I'd rather go it alone!
Understood brother Dennis! I agree there's a lot of dysfunctional people out there (aren't we all) - but there's also a lot of blessed women of God that would make great wives, so I'm happy that you added the "so far", that's the attitude. May God keep guiding your steps! Blessings
Brother, I've felt the same way in the past. But it's not true! Have you ever considered a woman from Southeast Asia? Many of them are God-fearing, loyal, feminine, and affectionate. They reciprocate any genuine love and affection you give them. And, unlike many western women, they have not been subconsciously programmed to hate men. You might be pleasantly surprised! And there's certainly a biblical precedent for going to a foreign land and bringing back a wife. May God bless your path regardless of which one you choose 🙏 in the meantime, enjoy being single - it's a blessing too 😇
Im beginning to feel like going to a place like Southeast Asia, might be the way to go heading into 2025 and beyond. @SaintCloud555
Thank you just stumbled on your video in my feed after praying this morning about a potential relationship. When i saw the title i thought oh God may want me single. But i need to stop jumping to conclusions and listen to the video first. Still not sure what to do but im learning to trust The lord.
Been single and celibate for 12 years. praise The Lord.
Thanks for the comment sister! Proud of you willingness to learn and grow. Learning to trust is definitely not easy but it's a worthy process that will bring your life so much fruit. Feel free to check out the podcast my wife and I have, I'm confidently it can bless you even more in the season you're in! Blessings.
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@@ForHisKingdomCoaching .Thanks for your reply brother and the Iink. Yes I've been feeling a peace Lately to just trust God.
@@mlady8137 absolutely my pleasure! That's the most important thing.. He provides all things at the right time from that place.
I'm here to tell you all, if it don't do it by 40. it will be too late. I am 40. Every woman assumes I have kids, many women have asked me when they could meet my wife, that I do not have. And every time I tell them I don't have kids, that I never married, its always met with a "oh I see.' while they physically distance themselves from me and quickly try to leave the conversation in the same way you would when you suddenly find out that the person you are talking to is a creepy weirdo. Ive even had my doctor say "YOU NEVER STARTED A FAMILY!?" In a shocked way. If you are in your 30s. There is almost no time left. If you want to get married. Do it now.
Thanks for your comment brother. I feel your pain man, I can imagine how frustrating that can be.. It's never to late man, what if it happened at 41? Would you be opposed to it? Have you prayed and fasted to God SPECIFICALLY for this? If not, I encourage you to. Plus, take STEPS to meet women from your local church, make your intentions known and be steady on them. I guarantee there are amazing Godly women out there that are also in the exact same position as you... Let me know how else I can help. Blessings
You still have time man! Have you ever considered a woman from Southeast Asia? Many of them are God-fearing, loyal, feminine, and affectionate. They reciprocate any genuine love and affection you give them. And, unlike many western women, they have not been subconsciously programmed to hate men. You might be pleasantly surprised! And there's certainly a biblical precedent for going to a foreign land and bringing back a wife. May God bless your path regardless of which one you choose 🙏 in the meantime, enjoy being single - it's a blessing too 😇
@ForHisKingdomCoaching I'm not sure that there are many Godly women out there. When I was in my 20s and 30s the women in church wanted "bad boys", rogues, and thugs. Most of them are divorced now or on second marriages. I stopped trying years ago. I have no idea what the younger women want anymore, but the older divorcees seem content on their own! I think single people are in a good situation as I believe that very soon there will be chaos, war, and apostasy on a mass scale.
I always wanted to be married and have children, that fire is still burning inside me, but sometimes It seems like I’ll never find someone. Hopefully I find that someone because even though I know God is with me, I still feel lonely.
Pray about it!! Ask God to lead you to the person he has for you and vice versa. Ask him to prepare you and to give you the courage to place yourself in the position to receive. Blessings
Nick is a young man, so I can forgive his ignorance, but let's be honest with ourselves: The reason the US divorce rate is so high is because of no-fault divorce laws and biased family courts. The divorce rate wouldn't be half as high as it is if we had fair laws and unbiased courts.
lol thanks for your opinion
Even though I’m burning and struggle with lust still, I still want to stay single until I die
Is that God's will for your life or is that what you think is best?
Being single is not will for you or you wouldn't be lusting
Why?
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching No but choosing singleness is not a sin
@@MelB868 actually because of the exposure to pornography at the age of 12, that’s why I’m “burning” and “lusting”. A porn addiction for 8 years will always keep porn in my mind
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Thanks for the feedback sister!! Thanks for the sub. We're grateful & excited to keep sharing more valuable content. Feel free to check out our podcast if you liked the video "Thriving Relationships For His Kingdom". Blessings 🙏
I am unable to remarry because of restrictions in the Holy Scriptures. I am required to remain permanently unmarried because of previous sin. Repentance is not just saying "I'm sorry" but forsaking sin which often is painful and requires dying to the desires of the flesh.
Doesn't God allow someone to re-marry if the other person has cheated?
Understood my friend. I agree that repentance is not just saying "sorry", it's actually doing a 180 - and it's not easy to do so. There are lots of factors that would go into something like this, if your heart is at peace about it, praise God. If you have questions or is having other challenges/temptations due to this take, I highly recommend having a sit down with a wise council / local church leadership. But either way I pray blessings to you and hope you may find rest in our Lord.
@@emgodas yes Jesus addresses this in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9.
hey man your right about forsaking our flesh is painful and difficult however God wants people to marry if both people are Christian unless you have the gift of singleness God bless brother💪💪🔥🔥✝️✝️❤️❤️
@@FelixFurstSonOfGod good perspective brother Felix
Still single from 18_28 nothing changed I wonder if there’s anyone made for me it hard
There are millions of women that are desiring for a Godly relationship/marriage out there. Make sure your walk with the Lord is steady, pray for it, and put yourself out there, meet women (from church specially) make your intentions known, and I guarantee in the very near future you can find a special lady that you can see a future with. Lead with faith, not fear. Let me know how else I can help! Blessings.
What's so nice about being single ive been single for a long time and i hate it i not getting any younger so....
Im just done with looking for love I tried so hard and just got nowhere, I got into self improvement but that doesn’t help so theres just no point anymore to keep going on with this fake love bullshit and lies everyone keep telling me.
Great insight thank you 🙏🏾
Blessings sister! Absolutely, glad it was valuable to you.
Let your will be done my Lord
Amen. But don't forget that the bible says he who FINDS a wife, finds a good thing. You must look for one. Blessings
I’m just tired of waiting. It’s painful
I understand it's not easy. Pray, lean in, trust the process. He works all good for those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. Blessings
It doesn't matter. Im forced to be alone. No girl wants me and none ever will. The few relationships I tried to have each lasted less than a single week. The girl always left for someone else who they ended up married to.
Ive had sex twice in my life and both times lasted less than ten seconds and the only reason the girls did it was because they pitied me. Im a literal laughing stock and since i refuse to be with a non-virgin im screwed no matter what.
Ive long given up at the old age of 33. I dont pray for a wife anymore because theres no point praying for something that doesn't exist.
God can just end me now and be done with it because I'll always want a wife despite the fact im not good enough for one.
Thanks for your comment friend. I understand your frustration and the feeling of hopelessness in this area. Honesty is the best place to start. Have you taken all of these fears, resentment and anger to God directly and LAID IT ALL at his feet?
Truthfully, I think you affirming all these beliefs into yourself is speaking DEATH (cursing) into this area of your life as a man and potential husband is detrimental to your future. Speak LIFE unto yourself, let God's Word wash you clean from the inside out. Speaking death doesn't please God but it certainly pleases Satan the enemy of your soul - he REJOICES hearing you say all these things about yourself. Refuse to partner with him brother, he's a LIAR.
Forgive these females so you can be set free from the bondage of unforgiveness, it will grip you and not allow you to MOVE ON.
I hope this helps. Feel free to email or message me directly if there's any other way I can help. Blessings
I am a virgin
This hit me hard. I feel the same way.
JESSE! we need to preach!
Jokes aside good video
HAHA got a good laugh! Thanks for the feedback.
"Mr White, you're a prophet!"
@@Davidvanzutphen lol
same saying:
Surrender to the Universe. Less force. More flow.
Thanks for your comment & I understand your take. I am a huge believer of Surrendering to God, but not to "the universe", what does that mean anyway? Surrender to the way and patterns of this physical world? The Scriptures say it's ran by Satan the great deceiver. I have come out of the new age mindset many years ago so don't subscribe to that thinking. Things sure can sound similar at times, and yet have very different deeper meanings underneath it. But hey, we can agree to disagree! Blessings.
My problem is this I've given up. I say to God these days, "Send me a lover/partner, or don't I honestly don't care anymore."
Thanks for the comment - I understand it can be challenging when we face many frustrations in this area. As long as you have peace in your heart and make Him enough for you, all will work out. "Seek FIRST the Kingdom and its righteousness and ALL ELSE will be GIVEN to you!" -Matthew 6:33. He is faithful, he's a GOOD Father, and he is more than capable to deliver. Bring all of it to him, even your hopelessness, he will lift you up and replace the doubt and fear with FAITH! I say this from personal experience. Hope this helps. Blessings friend!
@@ForHisKingdomCoachingdo you have a Email address i can send you something extremely interesting?
I have a 4th one. For whatever reason, God doesn't have a spouse for you at all and wants you to stay single forever 😢
Do you really believe that?
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching well, Jesus did give 3 reasons why one would remain single in Matthew 19:10-12. Those who can't marry because they were born that way (birth defect, no attraction to the opposite sex, no desire for relationship), something happened to them (like an accident or they lose the desire for marriage) and those who willingly give up marriage for the Kingdom's sake (Jesus and Paul are perfect examples as they didn't marry). The lifelong call to celibacy is one only those whom God gives the grace to can live out.
Although I don't believe it's all that black and white and we need to surrender even our desires for singleness or marriage to God. If you're single, he may not have a spouse for you at all or may even tell someone not to marry (like in Jeremiah's case). On the other hand I've heard testimonies of God telling people they were gonna marry one day or giving them the desire for marriage and they expressed that they never want anything to do with marriage at all.
It's rebellion against God to marry if God has called you to stay single. It's also rebellion against God if you want to stay single but God wants you to marry because you're messing up someone else's calling as well.
God has a different plan for each of us and we can only get that from Him.
@@CameraDiscipleJosh Agreed brother Josh. Well stated. Leaning in and following God's plan for us individually is always the best approach! Blessings
Greetings from Greece and the Orthodox Church! It is a serious mistake to believe that the purpose of marriage is to have children. Marriage is between God and the couple so that they help each other to save their souls. Children are just a gift to some people nothing more
Blessings my Greek friend! Thanks for your comment. I agree that marriage is a covenant between God and a couple. So you think God does not want married couples to multiply and have kids? You don't believe that's a PART of his purpose for marriage? Why did he give women womb then?
Don't forget 1 Corinthians 7 is a thing. Not all are called to marriage
Sure thing brother. Not all are called to marry, especially those who do not struggle with any sort of sexual temptation and are fully committed to ministry work. That's why everyone should pray about it. My opinion is MOST would be greatly benefited by having a Godly wife to watch over, be an encourager, and be a helper to a Godly man. Blessings
Has nothing to do with how i feel. God is in control. Whether i find someone, god is still in control. Doesnt change. If i stay single, it is his will, not mine.
Agreed that God is in control.
Yet you don't believe you play any part & have nothing to do at all with the process of meeting, dating, proposing, and marrying someone? Will God bring a spouse out of thin air to your lap, without you doing anything?
I’m 53 and still haven’t found my person..I’m attractive, educated, successful but alone.. have always been rejected by men.. I don’t care anymore really and I haven’t dated in 10 years🤷🏻♀️
Thanks for your comment sister. Have you been available to meet men or have you internally closed your heart and lost hope? Not trying to pry on you AT ALL, simply asking a question based on your comment. Given how you described yourself, I guarantee there would be plenty of men out there that would love a woman like you! Pray about it and stay faithful! Blessings.
Decades - and it's hurting me more than being in a relation I guess.
Thanks for your vulnerability. God will meet you right where you are at! Run towards him and be open to meet people that he sends you way! Blessings
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching Thank you, iv finally meet some new people 🙏🏽
Pray for me. I’m dying
What do you mean bro? You mean physically or emotionally (on the inside)? I'll be happy to pray.
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching Emotionally. Thank you. Prayers to you as well.
I understand you very well Bro - Psalm 34:17-19 🕊
I'm on the very edge.. I already tried before few years to get out of this evil and unfair demonic world, but God Jesus decided for me to live and tell His mysterious ways/works to strange people in body that i have never met and will never see in this world, but family in the Holy Spirit/the body of CHRIST, i will see you HOME. John 14:2,3, 18:36/Philippians 3:20,21 citizens of the Heavenly Kingdom of the Triune ADONAI, HalleluYAH.😇
I pray Psalm 126:5 May the Lord turn your life suddenly into songs of Joy for His Glory, Amen.🕊❤🩹
I think its like if your too desperate about a thing to happen thats more likely not able to happen in your life
That could definitely be the case, sometimes it is, but not always. Desperation can also lead to breakthroughs, if we take it all to God and then EXPECT things to turn around by FAITH. But if we expect things to continue to be bad/worse over time, we will do everything we can (subconsciously) to make it a reality. Deep stuff. Thanks for your comment.
People, whatever you do don't lose hope......... Don't look for the right one, be the right one!!!!! Stay close to God (Matt 6.33).
1. If you want God's best, learn to be God's best.
2. Let God work with you, if one can't take care of his/her issues, you will bring those issues to your mate and even your friends. Let's face it, if your spouse can't trust you, your friends won't trust you either!!!!!
3. People I urge you, don't look at the outside of a person. Even if your mate does not look like a movie star. Look at the person's heart. At the end of the day, we are all going to get old and ugly. Again look at the person's heart..... I hope this can help you all. God bless
Well, I’m 44 & I’ve never been married, so…apparently
That can change at any time my brother!!
I have to breakup, because I feel like I’m losing my focus on god and to my goals. It still hurts that I have to do that.
Are you dating or married? Have you had a conversation about how you're feeling and that you want to focus on God & do things this way?
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching was dating. And yes, we both agreed that we both need to focus on God and do things this way, rather than our own intuition.
@@issafysh537 Beautiful! Keep leaning in.
I don’t know why I keep getting these videos since I’m REALLY YOUNG.😂
Yes, I feel this way! I’m done
Feel what way? And done with what?
WHOOO! Preach Brother 💪🔥🔥
Thanks sister! Glad it spoke to you
What is your status and/or desire for marriage? Or are you seeking a life of singleness? I am living a life of permanent singleness.
Ok, I have a completely different take on this. What I hear over and over from involuntarily single Christians--and by that I mean those who have lived this way for decades--is that they can't seem to find anyone who is interested. To me, that is not a "God's will" problem, that is a CHURCH problem.
Now if you look at marriages in the Bible you will find something very interesting. You will find numerous examples of women praying that God will take away their barrenness and give them a son (never a daughter). But you will not find anyone praying to find a spouse. The only time you find someone in the Bible who is not married, it is because they have chosen to be that way. It's not by default. These people KNEW without doubt that this is what God had called them to be. They didn't say, well, I can't find anyone so this must be what God wants. I am going to say it right now, involuntary celibacy, the way we "practice" it today is NOT Biblical!
There is a reason why Paul talks about if you can't handle celibacy, it is better to marry than to burn, and why he does not talk about its opposite, what happens if you are burning and there is no one to marry. It is because throughout most of human history, marriages did not happen by chance. They were, for the most part, arranged by the parents. Often bride and groom did not know each other before the wedding. Often they only met on the day of the wedding. Marriages were arranged with an eye to uniting families, building stronger community/kinship ties, building stronger economic ties, expanding wealth, cementing political treaties. Love played very little part; if it happened after marriage, well it was a bonus, but it was not required for a marriage to be successful. Marriage was not about two individuals; it was about community. For someone to remain single meant that they had to make a deliberate choice to go against all of that.
We, however, don't do things that way. Once you've aged out of youth group, you are pretty much on your own as far as finding another compatible, interested single person. We don't make it easy for such people to meet; many churches tend to segregate by sex with separate men's and women's ministries and meetings. When you are a man surrounded mainly by men, or a woman surrounded mainly by women, well, yes, God can do miracles, but sometimes he needs a little help. This is where the church must come in. If you have someone in your congregation, male or female, who has remained single long after the usual age of marriage, then that is not a God problem, that is YOUR problem. Saying "it's God's will" is a copout. When you have people saying the kind of things I see in comments over and over and over, then what that tells me, that either a) there truly isn't anyone out there or b) there is, but nobody is taking the time to put the two together. Do you mean to tell me that no one in your church has an unmarried family member (son, daughter, sister, brother, etc.) or friend that they can introduce to someone who is single and looking? That they don't know anyone at their workplace or gym or club or other places? Or is it that they haven't bothered to find out if they do know someone who could be a potential partner for someone else? So they resort to the old "must be God's will that you remain single" excuse for their inaction and indifference. And point to videos like this to tell you why you should be content to sit on the sideline while they are out there enjoying all the blessings of marriage.
Thanks for this thorough and awesome comment friend! You've made some valid points there, about how things used to be historically, points that we don't stop to consider most of the times. It's easy to tell times really have changed, some things for the better, others for worse. I'm not sure if you watched the full video but I certainly am not condoning people to just sit on the sidelines, not at all - the point of the video was point them to HIM so they can either learn the lessons they need to learn in the season they are in, or prepare themselves for the season they desire to be in.
I personally am a married man and am extremely grateful for marriage, it has truly changed my life in so many ways. I am a strong advocate for marriage as I believe a God centered marriage rooted in Christ is the most powerful union there is on earth, and the enemy HATES Godly marriages and families.
I also agree with you that it's so easy to "blame God" for our situations in life at times, it's tempting to do so, especially when we feel hopeless, which is where a lot of people in the comments are coming from, and I feel for them. "He who FINDS a wife, finds a good thing" - we must look for it, I sure did, but I also prayed for it through out the process. And yet I also am aware and believe that sometimes (for example) even believers nowadays end up idolizing a man/woman/a relationship out of a desire for it so badly, and if they are trying to "replace" or "use" God to get something for them so they can be "finally fulfilled" and if they are truly His children, I can see how God could prevent it from happening (temporarily) until they learn their lesson and don't lose track of the real race they are in.
Could keep going, but I enjoyed reading your comment. Blessings!
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching Thank you. I am a 67 year old woman who has never married and most likely will not because the odds are very much against me. It is, sadly, too late for me, as it is for many other people. I've done a lot of research in this area. For some reason, if you are a woman over 60 who has never married you are not likely to ever get married. Most of the marriages you hear about among older people are second marriages, not first. I know a lot of Christians seem to be allergic to statistics and facts in this area, and they don't like to hear things like this. The reality of life as a single, never-married woman in her sixties is this: the men her age are more likely to be interested in much younger women while the ones who are more likely to be interested in her are much older and often have very serious health issues. There is a term you may not have heard of: "Hospice wives". It's exactly what it sounds like. Now this may be very selfish of me, but, I am a very active and youthful senior citizen and I do not wish to spend the remaining 20 or so years of my life chained to someone who has mobility issues limiting where we can go and what we can do as a couple and who has absolutely nothing else to offer me. I did not wait all these years to end up being an unpaid caretaker! So, no, thanks, I'm going to stay single--at my age 20 years goes by fast.
What I think the church needs to do is to be more proactive in the area of helping people find partners. When I hear "whatever women/men want, I don't have it" then that tells me we aren't teaching people what they need to know in order to attract the opposite sex. Scripture verses can only take one so far. I need to know, what are men looking for in a wife? What are they attracted to, what turns them off? Same with women looking for a husband. What does she need to know? Unfortunately my teenage and young adult years--prime marriage years--were spent being more focused on the Word of God than on learning how to meet and attract a spouse. I spent more time with Matthew than with makeup. The adults around me encouraged me to do so, saying that I needed to focus more on my spiritual development than that cute guy across the room; and I listened to them. I put that cute guy aside and did just that. Don't know if cute guy was getting the same messages but as far as us getting together, nope, not a priority. It was almost as if I were in training to be a nun, which in a way I am, just without the habit, the convent and the vows. I didn't have a clue--and I still don't--of how to get the kind of guy I want to notice me to notice me. But you want to sit down and do Bible Study with me, oh, boy, I can hold my own there! Anyway just some thoughts from a crazy old cat lady.
@@theresemalmberg955 Thanks for your thorough comment sister! Totally understand where you are coming from. It makes sense to me. The stats are the stats. Question for you, do you think there could be a man out there in the same boat as you? Looking for a God-fearing, wise, active, and healthy woman his age? I guarantee there is. Yet of course it seems like you are a peace about it either way, and you are enjoying your years with the peace of Christ, praise God! That is a blessing!
Also, totally agree with the fact that the church isn't doing the best job practically TEACHING people what they need to look for, attract, lead, (etc) a potential spouse - physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. That is part of my the mission God gave my wife and I. We are doing our best to provide that type of content through our podcast. Thanks for the great reminder of the need for this, and for your heart for God. I bless you!
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching Saying "I guarantee there is" is very easy to do when you do not have to make good on that guarantee. I would respectfully suggest that unless you are personally in a position to do so, that you please refrain from making such statements. It puts you in the same category of people who say "oh, you can count on me" when they know there is very little risk of you ever taking them up on it, namely because they don't live close enough to be of any practical use or have other things going on in their lives that may make them unavailable in your time of need. It's all about making themselves feeling good. I understand where you are coming from and I know you mean well, but please--don't. Those of us who have spent the majority of our lives being involuntarily single don't care to hear such talk. It's like James said, if you see another in need and all you do is say take care and God bless, you aren't helping them in the least.
@@theresemalmberg955 Understood sister. I respect your stance and opinion. Not looking to change your mindset on things, you have the freedom not to receive anything I said. The reason I said "I guarantee there is older men looking for godly older women" is because I KNOW MANY. I run a relationship podcast with my wife and have a facebook community where many older gentlemen have come forth and communicated they are single and looking for a woman their age- so I was speaking from personal experience having talked to those men myself. I never guaranteed that anyone in that situation actually WILL find someone, all I stated is that THERE ARE men out there looking for the same thing, that's all. But you don't have to take my word on it, it's not an issue. I do desire to help those looking for a Godly relationship so if there's anyway I can potentially help let me know. God bless
I’ve come to the realization that I want to be single
Amen!
Blessings!
3:16 is all I know as “whom do I have in heaven but you? And there is nothing on Earth I desire more.” All spiritual weapons I have are in use for me to cope with men blaming women. She was for you and also is for God. She was your glory but you do not like her at all. All you do is take pride in that he was not deceived. I am Shocked that there may be men wanting women, truly I am shocked: she might ruin your life, it is good that you can never be deceived. What besides submission, suffering and blame do you see in a woman? She was not good from the beginning she added words, Good luck “being one” as is below his ego to be a woman. I believed I was a new creation but a man of God told me I have to become what she was meant to be (which is a fail and a liar) in childbirth first- wait how do you marry this unreturned creature and wait for that moment. Love as Christ loved - but I am already saved I am without blemish and do not need forgiveness from you!?! I have my beloved, I have Him promised, He knows I yearned for Him - I pray He is not my second to best choice as I never can believe men on Earth love, only He teaches me.
I was desperate for a spouse...... I met these girl... And we've been dating for more than a year now..... My only goal is to takr it to marriage but..... Im having doubts about my relationship.... Im asking God about signs..... If she's the one... I dont think im getting any answers.... What do i do?.....
Being desperate is not a good thing. That’s when you make a big mistake. Are you a true Christian? Is she a true Christian? We are suppose to be equally yoked. If not it won’t work.
Thanks for your honesty. Pray and let him guide you. If the relationship brings both of you closer to God, that's a green flag. If it takes you off the biblical path, that's a red flag. We have also recorded a full podcast episode on "how to identify the right person to marry" that could be very helpful to you. Feel free to check it out on all major platforms "Thriving Relationships For His Kingdom" episode 4 & 5! Blessings
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching thankuuu
I like him.
Thanks sister. Blessings
Currently in single guy stale pizza hell I'm willing to trade version 1 for version 2.
Pray that God lead your steps!
Suicidal to think I’m gonna be alone
I struggle with those thoughts too
That's the ENEMY at work, putting those thoughts in your mind. Satan wants to kill, steal, and destroy your life... he hates you. I have experienced it years ago and it's demonic. Pray friend!! GOD LOVES YOU. Pray for God to deliver you from these thoughts. Seek a faith-filled body of believers in your local town and share with them so they can lay hands and pray for you in person! Let me know if you need any help with that I'd be happy to assist! Blessings
@@oaklandsoldier8520 Thanks for your message. Read my comment below
I’m at peace but I do feel like a veil is over me and recently an ex that I love so much is coming back but I do see that he has changed and starting to follow God more . But I’m not sure if this is true or the enemy and deception. He’s one person I can’t let go off and vice versa he admitted he misses me when I call him out . For years we haven’t been intimate two years now but the love is strong. I ask God let him leave and I fasted he’s still here
Thanks for your comment sister! Honor you for clearly having repented and for keeping yourself pure - my wife and I went through the same process prior to marriage. Pray that he CONFIRMS to you that it's His will for you, honor him with the proper biblical boundaries in it if you decide to come back together, and I'm confident he will reward you for it! If you'd like any more content around Godly relationships feel free to check out the podcast I host with my wife, it's called "Thriving Relationships For His Kingdom". Blessings!
Hey man, I am trying to make out concrete plans. So far I have 1) Wait (doesn't seem productive) 2) Depend on God (What specific structures in Christianity promote finding a woman? The only one I know of is Bible Study) 3) Preparation (extremely ambiguous)
I am trying to be a possible client given the success you've had, but real talk this intro vid. is extremely indirect and when it touches upon something useful remains ambiguous. I am a hardcore Catholic. (I plan on becoming a permanent Deacon after marriage) But I am rationale. Your video offers no concrete plans...
Hey brother Tim, thanks for your comment. I can tell you're seeking answers in this area and I honor you for that - keep leaning in.. I also understand this video was not as direct or concrete in terms of "step by step" practical game plan as you were hoping for. It was the first video I made on the topic for youtube and I simply shared what God placed in my heart to share at the moment.
The main point or "practical" I shared was ultimately for everyone listening, to SEEK GOD and in prayer in the "secret place" to ask Him to reveal to each person DIRECTLY what He's doing IN them in the season of singleness - because the reality is He may have unique plans for each person & I can't speak for him, especially in a "one to many" platform like this. When I have the opportunity to speak 1-on-1 to someone I'm able to ask questions and understand the situation better before giving any practical steps of action.
I know this may be a logically frustrating thing to hear (I've been in that exact spot many times in life), especially since God's ways don't always make sense to us in the moment, and life with Him is filled with mysteries - but I also have found from personal experience that WAITING ON THE LORD (as King David says in Psalms) is indeed a very practical and effective way to tackle and "wrestle" with challenging things such as these - even though at face value it seems counter productive - it's not. "Waiting" doesn't mean just "stay at home in the couch and do nothing" it means taking action in faith but waiting on God to give the final say (ie: going to the bible study that you mentioned, or saying hello to people at church, connecting with people as you live life, and being open for HOWEVER God wants to show up in your life and introduce you to the woman he has for you, and then confirm it's from Him as you get to know her, etc) but it also accounts that it's HIS timing for all of it, not our own (we can't force it). Hope this makes a bit of sense.
Although I grew up in a catholic household, I'm not one today (but respect everyone's unique process with God). So if you're looking for a catholic stance to all of this, I'm not the qualified guy for it. With that said, if you have any other specific questions and you're open to hear my take on it, feel free to message me on Instagram (@thenickteixeira) and I'd be happy to help in anyway I can man.
Hope you receive this message in love, as it is how I wrote it. God bless you brother!
I know alot of ppl that have no religion or are completely anti religious and they all in happy relationships lol.. don't ask god why you're single ask yourself
Thanks for your comment! Absolutely understand where you come from. Clearly in this video I was referring to those who do seek a relationship with God, given the bible give specific instructions to those who choose to follow it. Yet I also agree with you that we have influence over our love life, I do not deny that at all. Blessings
Pathama Lilanie perera and kosala amen amen 🙏 amen 🙏 thank your
Glad you enjoyed it!
I didn’t watch the video but I think it’s simple: If you’re single God wants you single. If you’re in a relationship then God wants you in that relationship. I guess the question is does God want you to try to change your relationship status or not
Thanks for your comment! The video would give some some perspective - but I encouraged people to pray at the end and seek God's will for their lives for themselves. So I don't necessarily disagree with your take! Although I think desiring something you don't have yet, and praying for it, while taking steps towards it takes great faith.
Just because your faith in god is strong. Does not mean he will send you a soulmate. A relationship with god is not transactional, it’s surrendering, swearing fealty. You will only find love if he wills it. If it’s not in his will. Then why bother with love.
Thanks for your comment, good observation. Agreed that it's not a transactional relationship and he doesn't owe us anything. But will He as our perfect Father not give good gifts to his children? Why did he make Eve in the first place? It's discipline and obedience, yes... but also grace and love. All perfect gifts come from above... Ask and it shall be given, especially if you have pure intentions and you want to honor him with your relationship (marriage). Blessings
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching God made eve because he didn’t want man to be lonely. Yet they both committed sin because of her actions. God has beat me consistently and has not stoped since my parents died. Every romantic relationship I have fails and falls apart. Even if I want marriage he does not will it and you can’t defy Gods fate so I give up, and I can’t win against him. Some people are not meant to be loved or married. The ones who don’t have that blessing become warriors of pain. Wise men that can help people through there hardship because of there trauma. I will never be loved and I’ve accepted this but my will the live and my fire is in the glory of god. I will workout, make money, help others and love my family and friends. I am not meant to be loved. I was made to be strong, As a warrior of Gods pain. So if I pray for love, I’m praying for the wrong shit cause it won’t happen. I pray for power and I pray for strength.
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching God created Eve because he said it is not good for man to be alone. Every romantic relationship I have fails. The people who have the blessing of marriage will never understand. Some men are made to be loved and some men are made to be alone and endure pain. God has showed me that love is not in my path and if I defy him he will make my relationships hell and fail every time. God doesn’t will a wife for me and I have to accept my fate because I can’t win against gods will so I give up fighting back(Looking for love). I will have a painful lonely life and had to surrender to god or else I will keep facing his wrath through women or him killing my mother and father. I’m One of Gods warriors pain. Im experienced and wise by beyond reason due to my loneliness and pain. With the wisdom and pain, god wants me to help and repair others hearts to keep faithful even when all is lost. To love and care for my family and friends. I carry the fire of the holy sprit in me. I am not made to be loved. Im made to endure pain. So if I pray for love I’m praying for the wrong shit. If I pray for power and strength. My path will stay a peace and god will give me unimaginable mental and physical strength.
God made Eve because he said man should not be lonely. You must understand that some men are made to be loved and some men are made to be alone and endure pain. Not everyone who wants marriage will receive that blessing. Every romantic relationship I’ve been in has failed. God does not will a wife for me so I’ve given up because each time I try and love he will destroy it because I’m defying my fate and you can’t win against god. He will do it just as easily as he killed my parents. I’m done fighting back. I learned that all this pain has givin me the wisdom to help and repair others hearts, to help other pain. As one of gods warriors of pain I must help others and care for my family and friends no matter how bleak my life is because it will be painful. So I if pray for love, I’m praying for the wrong shit. I must pray for power and strength. This is the strongest I’ve been mentally, physically and even financially. I am not made to be loved. I am made to suffer.
@@Hinson3000 So God wants some men to be lonely but not others? Interesting take. I am with you that we are to partake in the suffering of Christ if we are to enjoy the rest of Christ - that comes with being a genuine disciple and servant. The word says that we will be hated like Jesus was. Yet that reality is not strictly for non-married believers. I get where you're coming from and if you believe that God has really confirmed that he wants you to not be married and start a family then that's great, I also suppose then that you also do not struggle with ANY lust of any kind at all, because if you are burning inside and it's leading you to partake in hidden sin (like I used to...) to stay single is not biblical.
Also brother, I'm sorry to hear about your loss. But I can guarantee God didn't kill your parents, you do have a REAL enemy and his entire goal is to kill, steal, and destroy everything good in your life - but God is not that enemy. I am very happy that you are feeling firm and strong like Jesus, that's a blessing! Yet I also I encourage you to spend more quiet time in his Word and praying for him to reveal His will to you, along with WHO he REALLY is, because I can see some blind spots in your thinking. Hope you take it the right way, I say this with love! Blessings
Interesting video title...But, it then begs to question whether or not we have FREE WILL if HE could simply intervene/interject and STOP you from achieving or receiving something you seek or work for. How can we have FREE WILL if GOD at any moment determines HE does not want you to have this or that, yet tells us we are free?!
Totally get that brother! That's a tough one to wrestle with... I've done so for many years. Personally I've rested in the fact that God being God he knows everything - nothing I could ever do is a surprise to him, and he surely can direct my steps (or anyone else's) whether they are His or not (yet). However he does give us free which to CHOOSE whether we follow his guidance or not, and indeed they are rewards and consequences from those choices. When we are born again we indeed are FREE- from the bondage of sin. And yet we are not our own at that point, because we have a MASTER. Hope this adds just some thoughts for you to bring to your prayer time with Him. Blessings bro!
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Elaborate your perspective
nope I don't believe in this I have waited for 3 years prayed fasted cried rejected all ungodly Women then I got into relationship with a woman who believes in Him I got so many dreams and confirmations recently she eneded the relationship without any soild reasons and there are only few Godly people left now so Idk
Thanks for your comment brother. I understand the frustration. Have you laid all of this frustration, anger, and hopelessness at God's feet? He wants to TAKE IT ALL from you, and give you firm FAITH instead. You can refuse the message shared in the video, but I guarantee it won't help you if deep inside you do desire a woman of God as a wife. I say this with love. God bless
@@ForHisKingdomCoaching 🥲i'm sorry brother yaa Amen I am hurt
100% true my friend there are very very few reborn Christian women in this world left . Same for men its really depressing.
@@A127-i3x Blessings man! I understand.. nothing wrong with being hurt. Take it all to God so he can replace it with His Joy and peace that surpasses our understanding!
So sorry for your pain. Have you ever considered a woman from Southeast Asia? Many of them are God-fearing, loyal, feminine, and affectionate. They reciprocate any genuine love and affection you give them. And, unlike many western women, they have not been subconsciously programmed to hate men. You might be pleasantly surprised! And there's certainly a biblical precedent for going to a foreign land and bringing back a wife. May God bless your path regardless of which one you choose 🙏 in the meantime, enjoy being single - it's a blessing too 😇
I guess He does
Did you pray about it?
I don't want this desire anymore
What desire are you referring to?
A desire for a woman. Life would be so much better for me.
@@pointbreak2811 How so brother? Relationships sure can be challenging.. I agree with you there - but when done God's way with Christ in the center, they can be a fruitful blessing!!
@pointbreak2811 Ask God to remove this desire. Offer yourself to him as a servant. Maybe someday he will bring you a spouse, but unless he does ask him to remove the desire and focus solely on Christ.
Been asking God for a while now to remove it. I'll continue praying about it though.
I need prayers about this stuff I’ve been really confused 🙏
What are you confused about?
Pray to your Father in heaven if you need wisdom, he will gladly give it to you. I'd be happy to pray for you as well - message me on IG @forhiskingdomcoaching / @thenickteixeira. Blessings
10 years now. Gave up.
Keep leaning in!! It's never too late.
55 years old now. Many bad relationships. I've put my faith in Jesus. I am meant to be alone
@@renaeharris5111 Totally get that.. toxic relationships create a lot of trauma, it's painful and can create lasting emotional/spiritual effects - until fully dealt with. He is enough, and maybe he does desire that. Just make sure it's what he shared with you directly, through your quiet time with Him, and not out of hurt for the past. I say this with love, blessings!
Thank you
My pleasure! Glad it was helpful