Thank you. I am trying to do IFS with myself. Not sure what I’m doing but it seems to be working with lovely videos like this to guide I feel the gentle love emanating from you and gives me hope.
I love the piece highlighting the burden of social constructs creating difference as “less than” and “wrong” as a way of protectors managing the exiles holding shame. That is powerful on its own on many levels. This model is building many “compassion warriors” ❤
Derek, thank you for this video. It's so moving it brought me to tears. All you're talking about is really up to date, especially taking into account the nowaday situation in my country (Russia). I'm currently doing a course in IFS with two certified IFS therapists and waiting for my turn on a waiting list for a certified IFS training. Hope our society will become healthier when more people's exiles are healed. Alina
Hi Alina, I have been learning Russian with an online teacher now, for almost 4 years (grammar has been difficult for me to grasp). I am currently at an A2 or B1 Level. However, I need experience speaking and listening. Would you, by chance, know anyone (even an elderly person) who might be willing to spend time talking with me? Or, even a younger person who would like to learn English so that we can speak English and Russian together to practice? Thank you for any possible suggestions!
Derek thank you so much for providing these thoughts, and extremely useful videos. I had a spontaneous inner work with an exile and unburdening, while I was listening to your voice in the background! Thank you for sharing your Self energy and knowledge with the world 🙏
Thank you for this. So enlightening. As much as learning about IFS. I loved the last ten - fifteen minutes. 'Once the "less than" has been cleared, there's no need to be 'better than'. Sorry if I've quoted wrong. Love it ❤
Thank you so much. The video came up just as I woke up to do my unburdening ❤ absolutely resonate with the feeling of understanding unkind parts of others with compassion after healing. I have experienced that 2 years ago. Tragedy struck again in my life and now I am healing parts with serious anxiety and grief. Very helpful Derek 🙏
Superb. IFS isn't just a therapy, it's a way to approach humanity. It has made me a better (by my ideals), more compassionate person. Thank you for what you're providing for us.
Your presentations on IFS are brilliant Derek. Between your work and that of Loch Kelly I feel I have everything I need to finally heal the trauma wounds I've carried my whole life. Yes, I've trained as a psychotherapist and have years of exploring non-dual teachings of both Buddhism and Hinduism. In many ways all of that seems simply the introduction I needed to avail myself of what you and Loch so generously share... all of it within the frame of Internal Family Systems. I have been sharing your videos and will certainly share this. Thank you.
Thanks a lot for the reccomendations on how to move forward safely and constructively whatever the access to "proper" training. Shows the generosity and values of the philosophical system of IFS and you as a practitioner.
Derek, thank you for all of your videos in which you so clearly and compassionately describe and illustrate the IFS Model and it’s many values and benefits. I’d love to have some sessions with you! My immediate question is, is there an IFS Application in Organizations? Specifically, so many organizations, as an example, hold a corporate value, or a cultural imperative, around the need for Teamwork. This is clearly based upon all of the research done since the 1950s that demonstrate the significance of people working together to communicate, build relationships, solve problems creatively, plan strategically, etc. However, I have yet to meet an organizational psychologist, or consultant, who has the courage to address internal team conflict using the IFS Model when it seems so appropriate. I have worked with teams in the past and have seen how parts (one or several team members) will shame, or even exile, another part (or member), especially if that member characteristically is “annoying” for whatever reason. Once, a Director even described a team member of hers as a curmudgeon; not understanding or valuing that this person can make very valid points in discussions and contribute significantly to team outcomes. Instead, she expected me to go in and “put him in his place” (and probe why he needed to be exiled). I have also, literally, seen members (with exiled parts) within teams being triggered by managers (because of what they said, and/or how they said it) and when the employee acts out aggressively, feeling extremely hurt; the manager will simply conclude that this person is not a “team player,” and shame them by taking disciplinary action or writing something negative in the person’s performance review effecting their chances for any future salary increases, promotion, etc. Again, I’m curious to learn if there is an IFS Application in organizations for team building, communications, problem-solving, leadership, etc.? Thank you.
He speaks with such compassion, gentleness, and wisdom--and radiates a sense of calmness.
Thank you. I am trying to do IFS with myself. Not sure what I’m doing but it seems to be working with lovely videos like this to guide I feel the gentle love emanating from you and gives me hope.
Thankyou this model has helped my daughter recover from family trauma. Now she is sharing this model with me.😊
I love the piece highlighting the burden of social constructs creating difference as “less than” and “wrong” as a way of protectors managing the exiles holding shame. That is powerful on its own on many levels. This model is building many “compassion warriors” ❤
Derek, you are a gift to humanity.
Derek, thank you for this video. It's so moving it brought me to tears. All you're talking about is really up to date, especially taking into account the nowaday situation in my country (Russia).
I'm currently doing a course in IFS with two certified IFS therapists and waiting for my turn on a waiting list for a certified IFS training. Hope our society will become healthier when more people's exiles are healed.
Alina
Hi Alina, I have been learning Russian with an online teacher now, for almost 4 years (grammar has been difficult for me to grasp). I am currently at an A2 or B1 Level. However, I need experience speaking and listening. Would you, by chance, know anyone (even an elderly person) who might be willing to spend time talking with me? Or, even a younger person who would like to learn English so that we can speak English and Russian together to practice? Thank you for any possible suggestions!
Derek thank you so much for providing these thoughts, and extremely useful videos.
I had a spontaneous inner work with an exile and unburdening, while I was listening to your voice in the background!
Thank you for sharing your Self energy and knowledge with the world 🙏
Thank you as always for your eloquent and impassioned work, Derek.
Yes reducing the Fear of approaching the exiles is needed thank you for noticing this need!
Thank you for this. So enlightening. As much as learning about IFS. I loved the last ten - fifteen minutes.
'Once the "less than" has been cleared, there's no need to be 'better than'.
Sorry if I've quoted wrong.
Love it
❤
Thank you so much. The video came up just as I woke up to do my unburdening ❤ absolutely resonate with the feeling of understanding unkind parts of others with compassion after healing. I have experienced that 2 years ago. Tragedy struck again in my life and now I am healing parts with serious anxiety and grief. Very helpful Derek 🙏
Superb. IFS isn't just a therapy, it's a way to approach humanity. It has made me a better (by my ideals), more compassionate person.
Thank you for what you're providing for us.
I love that statement ….powerful….”IFS isn’t just a therapy, it’s a way to approach humanity”❤
Every secondary school in the UK should have at least one IFS counsellor.
I feel more compassionate just listening to you Derek! I will listen to this over and over again. I want to be a Compassion Warrior!!!
Your presentations on IFS are brilliant Derek. Between your work and that of Loch Kelly I feel I have everything I need to finally heal the trauma wounds I've carried my whole life. Yes, I've trained as a psychotherapist and have years of exploring non-dual teachings of both Buddhism and Hinduism. In many ways all of that seems simply the introduction I needed to avail myself of what you and Loch so generously share... all of it within the frame of Internal Family Systems. I have been sharing your videos and will certainly share this. Thank you.
Thanks a lot for the reccomendations on how to move forward safely and constructively whatever the access to "proper" training. Shows the generosity and values of the philosophical system of IFS and you as a practitioner.
You are such a lovely person. This explains tumpism so accurately, and without shaming, either, I might add.💟
Absolutely Wonderful Words! Thank you dear Derek from the bottom of my heart 🤗🧡🙏
Thank you Derek, you have articulated this very well....
Thank you for this teaching that clearly explains IFS and gives courage to those of us who haven’t taken the formal trainings. 32:33
Thank you for this video.. It's helped me today.
Thank you for your wisdom and compassion. Your compassionate countenance was a gift to me today. Thank you.
Powerful!!!
thank you derek for your clarity and generosity of spirit and helping me learn how to be more compassionate. I resonate!
I love your videos. Thank you for putting them out.
Thank you for this message. Important stuff.
I think the core of IFS is self healing.. It sure seams like I am being directed that way.. I do appreciate all of these videos.. Thank you..
Ohhhh a new upload!!! I am SO excited to listen in. Thank you SO much for speaking into this reservation/concern to "go there"
What a beautiful soul. I'm so grateful for you and that you shared this wisdom, insight, and compassion in this video. God Bless YOU!
Stellar explanations ….as always from Derek.
So very touching! Thank you
Thank you for sharing your experience 🌷
I loved this video! So clear. Thanks Derek!
Thanks Derek. Really helpful video. Really appreciate all the content that you're putting out on UA-cam.
I really enjoyed listening to this 🙏🏻
Awesome video!.. 🙏🙏🙏
Nice. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for the work you do! ❤
Derek, thank you for all of your videos in which you so clearly and compassionately describe and illustrate the IFS Model and it’s many values and benefits. I’d love to have some sessions with you! My immediate question is, is there an IFS Application in Organizations? Specifically, so many organizations, as an example, hold a corporate value, or a cultural imperative, around the need for Teamwork. This is clearly based upon all of the research done since the 1950s that demonstrate the significance of people working together to communicate, build relationships, solve problems creatively, plan strategically, etc. However, I have yet to meet an organizational psychologist, or consultant, who has the courage to address internal team conflict using the IFS Model when it seems so appropriate. I have worked with teams in the past and have seen how parts (one or several team members) will shame, or even exile, another part (or member), especially if that member characteristically is “annoying” for whatever reason. Once, a Director even described a team member of hers as a curmudgeon; not understanding or valuing that this person can make very valid points in discussions and contribute significantly to team outcomes. Instead, she expected me to go in and “put him in his place” (and probe why he needed to be exiled). I have also, literally, seen members (with exiled parts) within teams being triggered by managers (because of what they said, and/or how they said it) and when the employee acts out aggressively, feeling extremely hurt; the manager will simply conclude that this person is not a “team player,” and shame them by taking disciplinary action or writing something negative in the person’s performance review effecting their chances for any future salary increases, promotion, etc. Again, I’m curious to learn if there is an IFS Application in organizations for team building, communications, problem-solving, leadership, etc.? Thank you.
Thank you
✅ very good video
God bless you to❤
You are wonderful
How do I book a session with you please?
i no longer see clients, only teach
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