To all my ladies. I recommend watching the Kevin Samuels talks on UA-cam. Basically cultures may be different but ideologies are mainly the same. We are speaking here about a highly conservative and traditional country but the same thinking for men... Also, when dating or marrying a person you are also engaging with their family. What their parents think of tradition matter if you look for peaceful relationships.
Hmm don't prejudice.. Or it will happen to you. So that you understand. I still believe theres a valid reason for things that happened. And everyones situation is not the same.
For me whatever the Nationality of a Man once I found out that he has a Child, I will never DATE that Man Dogs? Wow!! You are a Dog Lover, that's nice But I love all Animals except Insects 😊
I could give a wild guess of high 90s for Japanese guys not wanting to date Single Moms. In the west in Europe or the US I don’t think it’s such a big issue…it’s also not a big issue for me personally. I understand this guys logic from what he says and it also seems he has no issue with single moms either 👍
He goes around, comes around. They should have married a foreign man of middle class who makes over $47K yearly. With a stable job of a Federal or state/city gov't job But instead, they go for a handsome man that's make over $90K and become a dire consequence. 😂😂😂😂
To all singles out there. Don't judge single parents. You can marry single men/ladies but you're not sure that that marriage will work! And you'll find yourself being the single parent you're judging before. Be understanding. We are all human. You can be the most smarter at school etc. But human relationship is more complicated than you think. We commit mistakes and experience is the best teacher not your own understanding. Don't ever ever think that you know much better than other people. Don't ever ever look down to single parents. You don't know them personally.
The world will judge you but make sure you don't allow what they say to break you. Do everything to keep your marriage but run out if it's taking your life or affecting your mental health. Lastly, don't see divorce as a license to start sleeping around. Respect yourselves
I'm divorced woman and a single mom.. I once had a relationship before (5 years ago) and that ex of mine told me, that he was just curious to have a relationship with somebody who has a kid. We broke up because he chose the other girl who don't have any. So in my experience, I've been experimented on.. I dont have any relationships after that, even now, maybe because I'm kinda convinced that men will just play on you just because you have a kid already and maybe you're good in bed, something like that.. and whenever someone's hitting/interested on me i'd always say that I have a kid they suddenly back off, maybe relationships don't work on me... But I'm still hoping that someday, someone will find me and accept me wholeheartedly. mistakes in our lives are really.. really inevitable..
Any way i'm a single mom so if he not the reason why those man want a child so constantly i'm not sure if he is worth for responsibility accept mostly man our interested with a single mom untold to reveal the truth also my opinion is i'm not married but he cheat me when i trying to do recently .. # pround single mom for 29 and i raise my only one kid with proper care .
Let me give you a quick perspective as a male. as a whole, men dont want to marry single mothers because they dont want to: 1. Raise another's man child. 2. He as a male will be allways third place or lower 3. Deal with the drama from the biological father (tho this is relative in case by case) 4. Most likely there are going to be complications on perspective on raising the kid (are you going to let the stepfather discipline the child if he or she misbehave? what about his authority when it comes about decisions on the kid's life? And many other factors) 5. Men are simple. We look at things very pragmatic and keep things simple. If you can see in a objective way, single ladies does not bring this many liabilities to a man's life.
Hello Santi-san! You've mentioned that most Japanese women back off when they found out that a guy they like is living with his mother. May I know the reason why?
That's a shocking divorce rate, Japanese should really learn how to choose their partner before marriage 💕💖 good thing it's not the Philippines which is no divorce law, you can imagine the affect of it in the society in general. I reckon the stat the you have would be common world wide except for the divorce rate, should work on it and live happy😎👌👍. I could imagine all the children from a broken home already, SAD😢😢.
That is a remarkably high divorce rate. That is honestly a scary prospect... That's playing a toin coss with everything you have in life.. Do you keep it? Do you lose it? Let's the chance decide... I'm not sure I'd be willing to face those odds even if I really believe I loved the person.
Straight men avoid single mom’s unless the single mom is career oriented and has her finances in order and can balance her parenting with upbeat lifestyle. Rare.
Thank you.Youve been honest & fair. I appreciate that you've taken time from your life,to teach people like me about Japan's beautiful customs and traditions.
Hearing the stats makes me sad. I'm also a single mom but never married because I don't want to end up with a person who only thinks of himself and not his family (someone who can set aside the needs of his child like letting his child with no milk over hanging out with friends; keeps on cheating with different girls; only dreams, making promises with no action etc.). People have different reasons why they separated. It seems like people are getting more unsatisfied, selfish, and eaten by their pride, or maybe divorce or separation becomes a normal thing now that is why the value of marriage becomes less. The lesson here is to choose a partner in life WISELY. Someone you can grow with, help each other through the good or bad times.
Don't become a single mother listen to your husband he's the leader he's a provider am I wrong if you tell me I am wrong then that means you must be a single mother do you want to struggle paycheck-to-paycheck then listen to your husband become submissive become traditional and you won't struggle
@@lordodinfatheroftheazier699 fyi, I'm not married, it means I don't have a husband. I live in a country who is very religous and families are tight. I'm thankful that I have a father, brother, and brother-in-law who are there and guides my son. However, if I'm married, you're correct- the wife must submit to her husband, I'll follow it because that is what the Lord says. Thank you.
Very very aweful mindset you have . That is why so many women die in abusive marriages because of twisted thinking men like you. There is nothing wrong with listening to your Husband and following his leadership however many sick men want to send a womab into hell by controlling their destiny to death and coersive control. Sometimes being a single mother and being alive is much better than being married and a shell.@lordodinfatheroftheazier699
The value depreciates once it’s a used item! That’s reality and we should accept it. It’s not just Japan but in the entire human community. What is important is both parties accepts and acknowledge and if they truly love each other and ready to face the future with their history then it is awesome.
as a separed and working mum of 4childrens, in my opinions ,if the man married a single mum would be much better ,she knows better ,she knows how to care house kids,and if a working mum even better,it always depends mentality ,choices, and most important love.love is love ,and mostly of divorces happen for a reason .
not so ... it isnt his kid and yet he got to feed it + temper tatrums,teenage years ...uhg I know a lot European in their 20's and 30's and lmore than 80% wouldn't date single parent, (most of them are ok with divorced people but handeling someone else offspring,not so much )... it is a struggle,sorry if I sound harsh ... People use contraception and it is good to know someone more than 3 years at least before trying to concive kid ...
Are there welfare services there? Like in United States we have food stamps where if you are low income the government will give you around 300 a month for food.
To all my ladies. I recommend watching the Kevin Samuels talks on UA-cam. Basically cultures may be different but ideologies are mainly the same. We are speaking here about a highly conservative and traditional country but the same thinking for men... Also, when dating or marrying a person you are also engaging with their family. What their parents think of tradition matter if you look for peaceful relationships.
If a woman has MORE than 2 children you SHOULD be concerned.
Hmm don't prejudice.. Or it will happen to you. So that you understand. I still believe theres a valid reason for things that happened. And everyones situation is not the same.
For me whatever the Nationality of a Man once I found out that he has a Child, I will never DATE that Man
Dogs? Wow!! You are a Dog Lover, that's nice
But I love all Animals except Insects 😊
Shaming on Single mother marrying the wrong man who has a perfect qualification.
I could give a wild guess of high 90s for Japanese guys not wanting to date Single Moms. In the west in Europe or the US I don’t think it’s such a big issue…it’s also not a big issue for me personally.
I understand this guys logic from what he says and it also seems he has no issue with single moms either 👍
He goes around, comes around.
They should have married a foreign man of middle class who makes over $47K yearly. With a stable job of a Federal or state/city gov't job
But instead, they go for a handsome man that's make over $90K and become a dire consequence.
😂😂😂😂
To all singles out there. Don't judge single parents. You can marry single men/ladies but you're not sure that that marriage will work! And you'll find yourself being the single parent you're judging before. Be understanding. We are all human. You can be the most smarter at school etc. But human relationship is more complicated than you think. We commit mistakes and experience is the best teacher not your own understanding. Don't ever ever think that you know much better than other people. Don't ever ever look down to single parents. You don't know them personally.
The world will judge you but make sure you don't allow what they say to break you.
Do everything to keep your marriage but run out if it's taking your life or affecting your mental health.
Lastly, don't see divorce as a license to start sleeping around.
Respect yourselves
Ok do you religiously use contraception for youself?
I'm divorced woman and a single mom.. I once had a relationship before (5 years ago) and that ex of mine told me, that he was just curious to have a relationship with somebody who has a kid. We broke up because he chose the other girl who don't have any. So in my experience, I've been experimented on.. I dont have any relationships after that, even now, maybe because I'm kinda convinced that men will just play on you just because you have a kid already and maybe you're good in bed, something like that.. and whenever someone's hitting/interested on me i'd always say that I have a kid they suddenly back off, maybe relationships don't work on me... But I'm still hoping that someday, someone will find me and accept me wholeheartedly. mistakes in our lives are really.. really inevitable..
Nah.
Thank you Santi-san ☺ for answering my question and sharing your opinion.
😉
Any way i'm a single mom so if he not the reason why those man want a child so constantly i'm not sure if he is worth for responsibility accept mostly man our interested with a single mom untold to reveal the truth also my opinion is i'm not married but he cheat me when i trying to do recently ..
# pround single mom for 29 and i raise my only one kid with proper care .
Let me give you a quick perspective as a male.
as a whole, men dont want to marry single mothers because they dont want to:
1. Raise another's man child.
2. He as a male will be allways third place or lower
3. Deal with the drama from the biological father (tho this is relative in case by case)
4. Most likely there are going to be complications on perspective on raising the kid (are you going to let the stepfather discipline the child if he or she misbehave? what about his authority when it comes about decisions on the kid's life? And many other factors)
5. Men are simple. We look at things very pragmatic and keep things simple. If you can see in a objective way, single ladies does not bring this many liabilities to a man's life.
Hello Santi-san! You've mentioned that most Japanese women back off when they found out that a guy they like is living with his mother. May I know the reason why?
Camille! thanks for this. I will make a vid about this in two weeks! Merry Christmas!
@@japaneseman Thank you! Merry Christmas too! 🎉
That's a shocking divorce rate, Japanese should really learn how to choose their partner before marriage 💕💖 good thing it's not the Philippines which is no divorce law, you can imagine the affect of it in the society in general. I reckon the stat the you have would be common world wide except for the divorce rate, should work on it and live happy😎👌👍. I could imagine all the children from a broken home already, SAD😢😢.
We don't have divorce here in the PHILIPPINES yet many teenage pregnancies then the couple will be separated, same as Divorce
Divorce is separated
Divorce is an easy way out for couples specially men in general.
No divorce but many are separated along time ago. In paper they are still married
Case by case in the situation why couples get divorce.
That is a remarkably high divorce rate. That is honestly a scary prospect... That's playing a toin coss with everything you have in life.. Do you keep it? Do you lose it? Let's the chance decide... I'm not sure I'd be willing to face those odds even if I really believe I loved the person.
In the US, I think men and women won't have a problem dating, living with or having sex with a single parent. But marriage doesn't happen often.
I've seen this too. I think marriage in general in USA is really declining.
Straight men avoid single mom’s unless the single mom is career oriented and has her finances in order and can balance her parenting with upbeat lifestyle. Rare.
thats pretty much everywhere.
Thank you.Youve been honest & fair.
I appreciate that you've taken time from your life,to teach people like me about Japan's beautiful customs and traditions.
There's so many diff. Reason i
Hearing the stats makes me sad. I'm also a single mom but never married because I don't want to end up with a person who only thinks of himself and not his family (someone who can set aside the needs of his child like letting his child with no milk over hanging out with friends; keeps on cheating with different girls; only dreams, making promises with no action etc.). People have different reasons why they separated. It seems like people are getting more unsatisfied, selfish, and eaten by their pride, or maybe divorce or separation becomes a normal thing now that is why the value of marriage becomes less. The lesson here is to choose a partner in life WISELY. Someone you can grow with, help each other through the good or bad times.
Don't become a single mother listen to your husband he's the leader he's a provider am I wrong if you tell me I am wrong then that means you must be a single mother do you want to struggle paycheck-to-paycheck then listen to your husband become submissive become traditional and you won't struggle
@@lordodinfatheroftheazier699 fyi, I'm not married, it means I don't have a husband. I live in a country who is very religous and families are tight. I'm thankful that I have a father, brother, and brother-in-law who are there and guides my son. However, if I'm married, you're correct- the wife must submit to her husband, I'll follow it because that is what the Lord says. Thank you.
Very very aweful mindset you have . That is why so many women die in abusive marriages because of twisted thinking men like you. There is nothing wrong with listening to your Husband and following his leadership however many sick men want to send a womab into hell by controlling their destiny to death and coersive control.
Sometimes being a single mother and being alive is much better than being married and a shell.@lordodinfatheroftheazier699
The value depreciates once it’s a used item! That’s reality and we should accept it. It’s not just Japan but in the entire human community. What is important is both parties accepts and acknowledge and if they truly love each other and ready to face the future with their history then it is awesome.
as a separed and working mum of 4childrens, in my opinions ,if the man married a single mum would be much better ,she knows better ,she knows how to care house kids,and if a working mum even better,it always depends mentality ,choices, and most important love.love is love ,and mostly of divorces happen for a reason .
So true catia san, divorce happens for a reason,
thats debatable.
so, lets step back for a second. Have you consider what a man wants?
@@Yito14 relationships is not one side ,not just what man or just what woman wants ,but how far and commited both are to make it work.
not so ... it isnt his kid and yet he got to feed it + temper tatrums,teenage years ...uhg
I know a lot European in their 20's and 30's and lmore than 80% wouldn't date single parent, (most of them are ok with divorced people but handeling someone else offspring,not so much )... it is a struggle,sorry if I sound harsh ...
People use contraception and it is good to know someone more than 3 years at least before trying to concive kid ...
@@Berkovicka because you see relationship that narrow. 😊
Are there welfare services there? Like in United States we have food stamps where if you are low income the government will give you around 300 a month for food.
im still single but for me single parents are like a hero. the important is wether dont have a husband or wife be responsible. lol 😹
Maee san, thanks for your comment and actually I feel the same!