Imagine raising your child in such a way that she's so desperate for you approval she can't stand up to you even when it's something like a wedding dress.
I try to give room for the editing on these shows but the brides comments are pretty clear. I pray her mom wakes up and realizes how damaging her attitude has been to her daughter.
Dress #3 was BETTER... mom even said so... but it wasn't GORGEOUS. And if the bride had thought that, she would have cried and lit up in the dressing room before she even walked out ther.e
She looked well in all of them. I think Mom was jealous that her daughter is prettier than her and would not have mattered what that girl wore. She would still tell her she was ugly and fat.. Mom is a narcissist who does not want her daughter to outshine her, even on the daughter's wedding day. Horrible woman.
@@peachygal4153 that’s what I thought .. I think it’s a case of all her life she secretly enjoyed her daughter chubby nppl saying she’s prettier then her daughter.. now with the weight loss she can’t use her daughter to look better
Her Mother is awful. When my daughter got married I let her pick out her dress. She tried on one I liked better but I kept it to myself. I bought her what she wanted and she looked beautiful. Too many mom's try and control things,not good.
@@realtorintoronto there is a difference between stating one's opinion and telling your daughter she can't have the dress she loves because she doesn't like it. that's overly controlling and not how things are done in the US, which is where this daughter was apparently raised.
Not my daughters wedding dress, my my twin girls “prom” dresses (I’m in Australia and we call it leavers dinner), but 1 twin loved the dress but I wasn’t keen, but how her face lit up and said I feel pretty in this, made me love it too as it was what made her happy. I know it’s not the same as a wedding dress but the opinion is still the same. ❤❤
“Mommy Dearest”says it all!! What an awful, hurtful mother. I’m so sorry for this girl, she needs to set major boundaries from her toxic mother and heal! She’s a beautiful woman and can’t see past her need for acceptance from WWW!
How could any mother treat their daughter so badly. She looked stunning and it is the bride's wedding day NOT the mothers. So sad to see the bride so sad and upset.
No, she dind't look stunning. She would have looked much better in an A-line dress. Did she call her daughter ugly? Did she tell her she was fat? You are incredibly overly sensitive.
@@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj very true. This woman sounds Russian. Quite possibly- and I could be wrong- some form of "purchased/arranged" bride picked for her looks. It's important she stays young and pretty because that's where her self worth comes from
Her mother has the words brittle and bitter written all over her. I hope Victoria and her husband move a thousand miles away, and that he treats her like a queen every single day for the rest of her life
I agree wholeheartedly! Maybe they move an ocean away! And mom has to stay in a Yurt when she comes to visit!😀😀😀😀😀. It’s the kids day she gets what she wants!
"I don't know why I have to discuss it with you" sent an ice cold dagger straight into my heart after her daughter lovingly, nearly pleadingly asked for her mom's opinion. I know this is a 9 minute video but in my opinion, she barely deserves to have the title of "mother"; she's merely birthed a naturally beautiful woman, Victoria. I can only speculate that this "mother" must have bullied and pressured Victoria her whole life about her weight, and never gave her the unconditional love and support a mother should. Poor Victoria seems to seek validation from her as she's likely never gotten it before. The cherry on top is mom is the best kind of critic - one that has nothing positive to say, yet offers no alternatives or suggestions when asked her idea of what she'd like to see - only spews negativity and ice cold disdain and malice. I am honestly shocked at her coldness and cruelty. If I could talk to Victoria directly I'd say: You are naturally stunning, and I thought you looked stunning in every dress you tried on, and dress three actually took my breath away and brought me to tears. Focus on YOUR OWN style and COMFORT. Mom should maybe take a few pages out of your book and lay off the lip fillers and botox. It broke my heart you did not return for the dress you loved. But it's not about me, or your mom - PLEASE buy the dress YOU love and want. x
Getting surgery for weight loss is pretty extreme. Why couldn't everyone love her the way she was, and help her work out, and get healthier? I bet that mom is in competition with her daughter, and that's why she refuses to compliment her. She secretly hates that her daughter is more youthful and shapely than her.
This poor bride. It must have been so difficult growing up with a mother like this. I hope she finds her confidence and chooses the dress that makes her happy without worrying about mom's approval. ❤
I am shocked at how this mother behaved, so rude, cold and an utterly selfish personality. The bride needs to stop asking for her mother's approval as she won't be asking for it when she's married! I sincerely hope that this beautiful bride speaks up and gets some self confidence sooner rather than later.
Dress #2 and #3 BOTH made her look fat. She needs something that's gonna flatter that weight loss... and that is an A-line. I think she should have tried on that dress that is behind mom on the mannequin. the one with the jeweled bodice, empire waist, and feathered skirt.
This makes me appreciate my mom so much. It’s never even occurred to me that a mom would make the wedding dress about what SHE wants. Ugh. Moms are supposed to be there to share in the joy of the bride finding HER perfect dress.
No... mother was RIGHT... the daughter didn't isntantly cry with joy at ANY of those dresses, because they all sucked. Mother wanted to take time and think it over... of course the sales poeple want decision NOW NOW NOW, so they can get their money, and shove the next bride through the door.
@@brockreynolds870 the daughter didn't cry with joy because her mother sucked all the air out of the room. What joy did the mom bring to her daughter's dress appointment. Her daughter referred to her as mommy dearest. That speaks volumes.
After having binge watched enough of these, I am so freaking proud of my mother. She supports me and understands I have different tastes than she does. She would never in a million years pull the crap that these mothers do. They seem to thrive on the disappointment they bring their children. Thanks, Mom, for being you!!
I cannot understand these mothers… no smile when their daughter comes out. Even if you don’t like the dress, you can be supportive- she looks beautiful in everything
She looks and sounds like she’s from Eastern Europe. Old school moms from that region are very much like this. Very blunt and can come off cold. They’re also very fixed on their appearance and what other people think of them (that includes their kids and what impression they make for them). My mom is just like this, always fixed on how I look and my weight. She would put me on diets starting at a very young age like 10 years old and above. She always would make comments on my appearance and tell me I need to wear certain things, do up my hair and my makeup… Even just to go to the grocery store. It’s just how they were brought up… It definitely sucks because I spent my entire life centered around trying to please my mom. You just finally get to a certain point where you just have to stop caring because it’s never gonna happen. That being said… This is just the way that they show love. My mom absolutely loves me and would do anything for me. It just doesn’t come out that way to everyone sometimes. This mom is probably the same exact way, it just comes out differently.
I can't imagine a mother treating her daughter like this. I have 2 boys, so if I ever get to go see a future daughter in law try on dresses, I'll be the most supportive MIL ever. My mom has been critical of me all my life, I could never treat my children or their finances that way.
Well, we ALL have to learn the lesson of just allowing other people be themselves without taking it personally AND letting go of caring about what they think, and gosh with a mother like that, Victoria REALLY is gonna need to learn that lesson sooner rather than later I would say!!
Thank you. I've had friends that want a certain styles dress and I've admitted to them that I dont tend to like that style so my opinion of the dress is not the most accurate. At the end of the day it's their choice and if that's what they want let them be happy. It;s going on their body
I feel so bad for this bride. Her mom is so critical and throughout the clip you can see she feels very concerned about her weight and her mom has probably guilted her about that for years. I hope she knows she is beautiful and that her mom doesn't know everything!
On the one hand I do think it’s wise not to make a rash decision and the bride didn’t seem to be too confident about any of the dresses, even before her mom said no to them. But the mom is the worst type of critic because she can’t or won’t articulate what she wants, she is one of those who is both picky and will only know what she likes when she sees it. For the consultant that has to be a nightmare.
Most likely because Antonella picked out 4 variations of the same dress. the mom probably wanted to see several DIFFERENT styles on her. Good god... there are thousands of dresses in that damn place, people are doggin the mom because she didn't say "yes" after seeing FOUR? Sounds like they want their money, and get them the hell out so the next customer can come in.
@@brockreynolds870 the bride specifically said she wanted to show off her figure after her weight loss, it kinda seems like the mom wanted to see her in something that still made her look fat so mom could continue being hypercritical.
The bride wasn't confident that is because her mum has beaten her confidence right down. The poor bride is all jitters because of that narcissistic mother.
Anyone who is close to someone who’s gone through bariatric surgery knows that it’s a physical struggle every day. Getting to know your body’s limits, dumping (usually if you go over those limits), frustration, you name it. Her fiancé is a gem for sticking with her through this long process. She looks great, by the way.
The only thing that comes to mine is Victoria, you don't need anybody's validation to be beautiful and look beautiful, and to make healthy choices on your own. Focus on being confident within yourself and life, And the rest of fall into place.
I am always somewhat intrigued to find out how the story continues and googled Victoria Vaizburd. She got married in 2013 in a kind of modern Jewish ceremony in a form fitted holderneck dress being ca 6 months pregnant. The ivory dress was made out of a beautiful pattern type material , it looked as if bubbles were flying into each other (apology not the best description) She seemed extremely happy (and so did her husband) and guess what „dearest mummy“ wore a black fur type Bolero and a slinky leopard animal print dress. Her hair was a tad mad making her look a little bit like an 80“s rock chick if I may say so.
Saw that video of her dancing, but if she was dancing with the groom , he did not look like the one in the above dress shopping clip. Dress definitely was not form fitting and that’s what she wanted.
I liked the mermaid/drop waist-the one with the bling at the top and she liked it too. She looked thin and confident in that dress. I hope she eloped and had a wonderful day!
The look of contempt on her mother's face at 2:47 broke my heart for her. I am once again shocked at how much pain so many of these mothers inflict on their daughters with no regard to their feelings. How these women grow up so great despite the women who raised them is incredible. 😢😢😢
The mother's face!!!! Oh dear oh dear could turn milk sour. She really is extremely cruel very sad to see. Hope the mothers friends sees this and are equally as horrified by her behaviour.
That mother has no boundaries and is hard as nails. She's jealous that her daughter looks so good now. Bride to be - once you are married get on with your own life. Australia
Mother probably wanted a dress that didn't make her look like a frump. And none of thsoe dresses did that. If Gok had dressed her I gurarantee that girl would be in tears, and mother would have approved.
@@brockreynolds870Gok is in the UK... This is in the USA, also like me this mother is European. European women can be difficult to please. Plus don't comment to me..go and tell the bride's mother that she needs to see Gok for her daughter's dress. Also I thought the girl looked very nice in some of those gowns. Now bugger off...you are not that important! Stunning Aussie surfer girl.
That mother with her lip fillers or botox that does not allow her to move her mouth, needs to stay home when this sweet bride looks for her dress. When my daughter got married, I kept my normally strong opinions to myself. Only when she asked my thoughts did I answer. The only thing that I couldn't control was when she walked out in one of the dresses, I started to cry; that dress was the only one that caused that reaction in me. I didn't want that to influence her decision but she did end of choosing that dress. When we met with the baker of the cake, he said that I was the best mother that he had ever worked with. He said I offered opinions but stepped back when my daughter made decisions. He said he wished that all the mothers were like me. I will add that I am not normally the type of mom that keeps her opinions to herself. 😏
THAT was the dress that said “Mom, I’m my own woman, and I am fabulous!” But she wasn’t ready to take a stand yet. I hope she has grown into her power and found freedom to be herself away from that horrible, controlling, unhappy shell.
I hope this video goes viral, so that her Mother and her Mother’s friends can see what kind of hurtful person she really is. Fake lips do not hide a hard heart.
I'm so happy and proud of the girl because she lost all that weight she did such a great job she looks beautiful and I know she will look beautiful on her wedding day with whatever she picks out.
She needs to dress shop without her mother and get what she wants. That mother is going to choose everything in the bride’s married life if she doesn’t put a stop to it!
honestly i worry about her. still being so dependent on her mom's approval, and obsessing over what "makes [her] look really skinny." that's a one-way ticket to eating disorder town.
Her mother will never be onboard with the daughter. Because that's how she controls her. If the bride loves #1, go for it. Number 5 was my favorite for her, but it's not for me. Brightest Blessings to the Bride and Groom. I'm praying for you both. ☺️✌️❤️🦋🙏
Is this common for Russian Mum's ? I was thinking maybe she had aspergers as she behaved with similar to reactions some people who are close to me would behave.
@@carau7237 I think it's uncommon for any nationality group of mothers. It's a sign of mental health issues. Some mothers are in lifelong competition with their daughters, unfortunately. 😉✌️❤️🦋🙏
Dress number three was the best in my opinion, but the bride loved the first dress. Too bad the mother was thinking of herself, not of her daughter. My intuition tells me that bride felt her mother's disapproval every day when she was overweight.
4:46 ‘the way she looks’ lol! She looks like she’s had about 46 plastic surgeries to get her face like that. At least the bride actually put the effort in to loose the weight
Her mom was very nice and reserved idk how you get the selfish impression. I wish her mom spoke more on why she’s not on the same page as the bride. Maybe it’s hard for the mom to lie to the daughter, so she won’t say it’s the one she dreamed her in, if it’s not.
@@natashaorr1596I disagree. Her mother is selfish and abuses the control she has over her soft hearted and loyal daughter. You do not need to be loud or rude to be selfish.
Crazy how at this age, she's not confident enough to make her own decisions or stand up for herself. Just super sad. Like why in God's name is it your mum's vision? Your wedding dress should be your vision. External opinions are welcome but she should be able to make a decision herself and stand on it.
You know... unlss you werne't aware of this, some people simply HAVE NO VISION. They depend on others to tell them what is pretty, what is stylish..... that's why fads exist.
Am I the only one who thinks that that godawful mother may have given the bride the issues with her body to begin with? I completely understand that people go through personal struggles and weight issues due to different causes, but I cannot see a single scenario in which a woman like that would have fostered a healthy self esteem in her daughter
That first dress was stunning. Her mother actually ordered her to leave the store! The marriage doesn't bode well if the bride to be cannot stand up to her mother befoe the wedding.
If she can’t be decisive in life without Mommy’s approval, then how is her marriage going to work? I hope she realizes that deciding what she wants will be one of the most significant crossroads in her life. Good luck!
I'm a landscape contractor.. I design flower gardens for people. MANY people are indecisive and don't know what they want. that's why they hire ME... a professional to tell them what will look good. In this case, Antonella is just not good at her job. That girl needed to try on an A-line.
unfortunately she may have been one of those women replacing her mother with a husband. I had a friend who has a very controlling mother and her husband was no different. I've seen guys also with strict mothers and they replaced them with strict wives
Her mother is never going to love any dress she’s “not capable”… if the bride ever sees this comment, I want her to remember the words “not capable”. I had a mother much the same way, and I am 20 years older than this bride and the one thing I have learned is, the lack of support doesn’t mean the mother doesn’t love her,she just isn’t capable of being that king of emotional support. Forgive her for it and show her and others the kind of love you want.
Her mother doesn’t get a say in the wedding dress that her daughter really likes. She wasn’t happy with anything that her daughter liked. She looked amazing in the dress and she should go with the dress she wants. I wish you all the happiness.
The only opinion that matters is the bride’s. I liked the drop waist but she is beautiful in any of them. Mom needs to let go of her daughter and support her in feeling good and beautiful in her choice. I’m curious if Mom is jealous or feels threatened by her daughter’s success and happiness.
What an absolute monster. With each dress she knocked the wind out of her sails. The third dress was amazing. What a cold blooded ice Queen. The ritual of trying on dresses is supposed to be fun , the momster ruined it
Her mom should be celebrating the new gorgeous body her daughter has achieved. Her mother is obviously a narcissistic person who doesn't want to share the limelight. This could actually be why the daughter had weight problems to begin with. I understand low self esteem issues from having a mother who always wants to be the star.
Her mother is Russian or Ukrainian who came to the USA in 90-s. Most likely sold herself as one of those post brides. Clothes, cosmetics, and botox for such women always come first. That's more important than anything. She might be a good mother, she simply can't express it in English. But a dress - a huge deal for her.
That is one controlling mother. Yes, the dress will be there to order in a few days, but the mom crushed her daughter's moment. Honestly, the last dress she tried on (before putting on dress #1 again) was stunning on her, and the only one who didn't think so was mom. Afraid of being upstaged? Hard to know, but I hope this bride learns to stand up for herself.
Ultimately, it was Victoria's lack of confidence that resulted in no dress. She never stood up for herself because she was overly concerned with her mother's approval. Smh.
ladies, ladies, ladies... PLEASE stop bringing these invalidating judgmental harpies with you to your bridal appointments. just because she birthed you doesn't mean you owe her ONE MINUTE of your time, much less any decision-making authority over your wedding dress.
For someone so opinionated, not to be able to vocalise what she actually likes and wants to see is just unbelievable. The mother's answer to all questions was "I do not know", "I cannot decide for you, but I do not like it", but I will not tell you what I like - you have to guess how to please me. It is like she was gaslighting her daughter. Wishing all the best to the bride. At least three dresses from the selection could have been the one! And once the wedding is done - do cut ties with the mother of yours. You now have your own LOVING family.
This was such a sad episode. Clearly her entire childhood and into her adulthood she craved her mothers validation and still has not received it. This entire appointment she was entirely focused on her mothers approval. :( If the mother had only supported her a little it would have meant the world to her. Even her saying she wishes she could look the way her mom did broke my heart a little 😭 This bride is absolutely STUNNING
How can a mother act like that to her daughter? ”I want her on the boat but she sank with Titantic”. Victoria is lovely, caring, symphatic. I wish her all the best.
I'm always so sad to see daughters being so intimidated by their mothers. That is not a healthy relationship. I wonder if mommy dearest ever picked up on the meaning of her being addressed that way.
The only one who should be happy with it is the bride and groom, the rest doesn't matter, especially the bride should be happy, she should feel like a princess on that day.
✨💖✨I can so relate to this young bride. I was in a yearlong Army training program, so who had time? That was my excuse to avoid a miserable wedding dress shopping experience with relatives. So I got my wedding dress through a Gunne Sax catalogue-yeah, it was that long ago. It wasn’t until I got out of the Army that I developed a weight problem, weighing in at almost 300lbs before weight loss surgery. I’ve learned that the problem with obesity is complex, and there is no one path to getting to your healthier life. However, a strong need to please others and getting approval, along with standing up for yourself is one common problem that almost all struggling with obesity need to learn about and tackle. It’s hard. Having weight loss surgery and losing 100 lbs are only a the first few steps this bride is taking to secure a happy and healthy and secure future. It’s wonderful that she will have a mate there to support her. I wish her and her future spouse all the best.
All the moms watching this would agree with the mom. All the daughters would agree with the daughter. But in reality for a decision this big, its good to sleep over it and then if you are still convinced go for it. The people selling are sales people. They meet a lot of brides. They don't really know you, and they don't really care that much either. Their priority is and will always be to close the sale. Not you.
This poor bride, a lifetime of being the scapegoat to her narcissist Mother, and she is just so desperate to please her. You can see she endured surgery to try to please her! I hope she gets a psychologist with experience helping daughters of narcissistic Mothers and she manages to either reduce contact (and take back control), or goes no contact. Life is too short to spend it allowing yourself to be the emotional punchbag for you narcissist parent. Ultimately the Mother is jealous, having a ‘fat’ in her eyes daughter she felt she was more beautiful- now her daughter is in her eyes beautiful (she was always beautiful), only she is kind and lovely too, things that no amount of lip filler can emulate.
she's picking a dress for her mom 😔 I see people saying the mom needs to be supportive etc and I fully agree, but the bride needs to show some backbone as well
this is so sad. time to outgrow your mum, dear Victoria. once you stop giving her the power by requiring her approval, life will be so much lighter and easier. take care of your heart
How extremely sad for that daughter, who was so considerate of her mother. I did not see a mother wanting to be sure her daughter was happy, I saw jealousy, because the attention was not on herself. That dear daughter, I hope she has a wonderful married life.
Mother was not awful here but she may not be a supportive and loving mom outside. Which resulted to the bride seeking approval from her, specially with choosing The dress. At this point bride should be more confident with her decision and ignore mom
Today I thank God because some time ago I said "I don't care what my mother thinks or if she is happy or not with my decisions". I am more at peace and happy with myself. 😊
Mom is envious of her daughter. No doubt about it. Her mom knew how much getting a dress after losing 100lbs meant to her and she didn’t even TRY to look happy for her! Such a shame.
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Mom's lips tell that her taste might not be the finest.
The bride is gorgeous and I wish her happiness.
I thought the same thing.What's with Mom's mouth?Bad surgery, too much filler or just misapplied lipstick?Pocky,rough skin ,too.
I thought the same thing as soon as I saw the mother. She may be jealous that her daughter is prettier than her.
Thinking exactly the SAME 😮🥴 annoying mother!
Exactly my thought!!!
Ain't that the darn truth. Mom should be ashamed of herself treating her daughters day like it was her decision 😮😡
Imagine raising your child in such a way that she's so desperate for you approval she can't stand up to you even when it's something like a wedding dress.
I was raised like that but I was so hurt so my late mom learned to treat me better or else I would have cut her out of my life.
@@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj Good for you
@@bakoyma Thanks but she still treated me badly. However, it was just a bit better.
Her mom is competing with her daughter. She knows the power she wields…sad
I try to give room for the editing on these shows but the brides comments are pretty clear. I pray her mom wakes up and realizes how damaging her attitude has been to her daughter.
No wonder she struggled with weight her whole life. I'm sure her mom made her feel "less than" her whole life. 🙄 dress #3 was gorgeous!
You nailed it.
Dress #3 was BETTER... mom even said so... but it wasn't GORGEOUS. And if the bride had thought that, she would have cried and lit up in the dressing room before she even walked out ther.e
Yup
She looked well in all of them. I think Mom was jealous that her daughter is prettier than her and would not have mattered what that girl wore. She would still tell her she was ugly and fat.. Mom is a narcissist who does not want her daughter to outshine her, even on the daughter's wedding day. Horrible woman.
@@peachygal4153 that’s what I thought .. I think it’s a case of all her life she secretly enjoyed her daughter chubby nppl saying she’s prettier then her daughter.. now with the weight loss she can’t use her daughter to look better
Her Mother is awful. When my daughter got married I let her pick out her dress. She tried on one I liked better but I kept it to myself. I bought her what she wanted and she looked beautiful. Too many mom's try and control things,not good.
I agree with you the mother should keep her mouth shut
Then why even to come if you can’t voice your opinion. She cares, it’s her daughter. If it’s a stranger then you can sit quiet because you don’t care
@@realtorintoronto there is a difference between stating one's opinion and telling your daughter she can't have the dress she loves because she doesn't like it. that's overly controlling and not how things are done in the US, which is where this daughter was apparently raised.
Not my daughters wedding dress, my my twin girls “prom” dresses (I’m in Australia and we call it leavers dinner), but 1 twin loved the dress but I wasn’t keen, but how her face lit up and said I feel pretty in this, made me love it too as it was what made her happy. I know it’s not the same as a wedding dress but the opinion is still the same. ❤❤
I agree and her mom is more about pleasing herself rather than her daughter.
“Mommy Dearest”says it all!! What an awful, hurtful mother. I’m so sorry for this girl, she needs to set major boundaries from her toxic mother and heal! She’s a beautiful woman and can’t see past her need for acceptance from WWW!
I hope that young woman went shopping without Mommy Dearest and found the dress of her dreams.
@ *Mommy Dearest* is correct! SMH!
How could any mother treat their daughter so badly. She looked stunning and it is the bride's wedding day NOT the mothers.
So sad to see the bride so sad and upset.
No, she dind't look stunning. She would have looked much better in an A-line dress. Did she call her daughter ugly? Did she tell her she was fat? You are incredibly overly sensitive.
Her mom sees very appearance focused. She's probably not happy that now the attention is on her younger and now slim daughter and hear appearance
There are many mothers like that. It felt as if they are competing with their daughters.
@@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj very true. This woman sounds Russian. Quite possibly- and I could be wrong- some form of "purchased/arranged" bride picked for her looks. It's important she stays young and pretty because that's where her self worth comes from
Shut up mom. Daughter wedding... daughter should have said yes....
Her mother has the words brittle and bitter written all over her. I hope Victoria and her husband move a thousand miles away, and that he treats her like a queen every single day for the rest of her life
I agree wholeheartedly! Maybe they move an ocean away! And mom has to stay in a Yurt when she comes to visit!😀😀😀😀😀. It’s the kids day she gets what she wants!
"I don't know why I have to discuss it with you" sent an ice cold dagger straight into my heart after her daughter lovingly, nearly pleadingly asked for her mom's opinion. I know this is a 9 minute video but in my opinion, she barely deserves to have the title of "mother"; she's merely birthed a naturally beautiful woman, Victoria. I can only speculate that this "mother" must have bullied and pressured Victoria her whole life about her weight, and never gave her the unconditional love and support a mother should. Poor Victoria seems to seek validation from her as she's likely never gotten it before. The cherry on top is mom is the best kind of critic - one that has nothing positive to say, yet offers no alternatives or suggestions when asked her idea of what she'd like to see - only spews negativity and ice cold disdain and malice. I am honestly shocked at her coldness and cruelty. If I could talk to Victoria directly I'd say: You are naturally stunning, and I thought you looked stunning in every dress you tried on, and dress three actually took my breath away and brought me to tears. Focus on YOUR OWN style and COMFORT. Mom should maybe take a few pages out of your book and lay off the lip fillers and botox. It broke my heart you did not return for the dress you loved. But it's not about me, or your mom - PLEASE buy the dress YOU love and want. x
If that's what she said, I'm actually relieved. Because I thought she said "I don't know why I'm disgusted with you." But yeah, this mother is awful.
Perfectly said
@@jayanti2371omg I thought she said that too thank god she didn't say that because my heart dropped when I heard that
Mom's treatment probably created the weight in the first place, comfort eating to escape that monster.
Getting surgery for weight loss is pretty extreme. Why couldn't everyone love her the way she was, and help her work out, and get healthier? I bet that mom is in competition with her daughter, and that's why she refuses to compliment her. She secretly hates that her daughter is more youthful and shapely than her.
This poor bride. It must have been so difficult growing up with a mother like this. I hope she finds her confidence and chooses the dress that makes her happy without worrying about mom's approval. ❤
I am shocked at how this mother behaved, so rude, cold and an utterly selfish personality. The bride needs to stop asking for her mother's approval as she won't be asking for it when she's married! I sincerely hope that this beautiful bride speaks up and gets some self confidence sooner rather than later.
Her Mother needs to let her make her decision on which dress she is wearing it’s her wedding 😂
I think the bride should pick her own dress AND pick one for mommy dearest too! Ha!
Dress #2 and #3 BOTH made her look fat. She needs something that's gonna flatter that weight loss... and that is an A-line. I think she should have tried on that dress that is behind mom on the mannequin. the one with the jeweled bodice, empire waist, and feathered skirt.
Mom needs a make a decision on a new cosmetic surgeon
She is a big girl, she should make her own decision and stand up for herself
Totally agree
Mom's lips look waaaaay over injected and she is very negative.
Sad...it looks like Victoria is on the same path although hers are a bit more natural.
I totally agree
The mother's face has a distorted, monster quality to it.
@kathyk2777 yep I thought the same.
@@kathyk2777 so fake and evil to her beautiful daughter
This makes me appreciate my mom so much. It’s never even occurred to me that a mom would make the wedding dress about what SHE wants. Ugh. Moms are supposed to be there to share in the joy of the bride finding HER perfect dress.
This poor woman just needs some unconditional love. My heart goes out to her. ❤
Her mother was 💯 AWFUL! The daughter should have gotten the dress she loved.
No... mother was RIGHT... the daughter didn't isntantly cry with joy at ANY of those dresses, because they all sucked. Mother wanted to take time and think it over... of course the sales poeple want decision NOW NOW NOW, so they can get their money, and shove the next bride through the door.
@@brockreynolds870 the daughter didn't cry with joy because her mother sucked all the air out of the room. What joy did the mom bring to her daughter's dress appointment. Her daughter referred to her as mommy dearest. That speaks volumes.
Mom is hateful and jealous of this daughter. Daughter is beautiful and kind.❤
Her mom is a beast! She’s horribly inconsiderate of her daughter’s big day and feelings
I have a Russian mom. She was not invited to my wedding dress shopping appointment!
🤣🤣🤣 6:15 6:17
Good for you.
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Precisely. I know exactly how you feel.
I thought the mom was Russian but I wasn’t sure.
After having binge watched enough of these, I am so freaking proud of my mother. She supports me and understands I have different tastes than she does. She would never in a million years pull the crap that these mothers do. They seem to thrive on the disappointment they bring their children. Thanks, Mom, for being you!!
I cannot understand these mothers… no smile when their daughter comes out. Even if you don’t like the dress, you can be supportive- she looks beautiful in everything
Right!!
And on the other hand, maybe "The Queen Bee" is flat out JEALOUS of Beautiful Victoria!! SICKENING!!
Her mother can't smile because her overly, injected lips would hurt too much.
@@brandywineblogger1411 😂😂
She looks and sounds like she’s from Eastern Europe. Old school moms from that region are very much like this. Very blunt and can come off cold. They’re also very fixed on their appearance and what other people think of them (that includes their kids and what impression they make for them). My mom is just like this, always fixed on how I look and my weight. She would put me on diets starting at a very young age like 10 years old and above. She always would make comments on my appearance and tell me I need to wear certain things, do up my hair and my makeup… Even just to go to the grocery store. It’s just how they were brought up…
It definitely sucks because I spent my entire life centered around trying to please my mom. You just finally get to a certain point where you just have to stop caring because it’s never gonna happen.
That being said… This is just the way that they show love. My mom absolutely loves me and would do anything for me. It just doesn’t come out that way to everyone sometimes. This mom is probably the same exact way, it just comes out differently.
u never met a russian and it shows
I can't imagine a mother treating her daughter like this. I have 2 boys, so if I ever get to go see a future daughter in law try on dresses, I'll be the most supportive MIL ever. My mom has been critical of me all my life, I could never treat my children or their finances that way.
That’s a beautiful way to break cycles and uplift your daughter in laws :’)
Well, we ALL have to learn the lesson of just allowing other people be themselves without taking it personally AND letting go of caring about what they think, and gosh with a mother like that, Victoria REALLY is gonna need to learn that lesson sooner rather than later I would say!!
Thank you. I've had friends that want a certain styles dress and I've admitted to them that I dont tend to like that style so my opinion of the dress is not the most accurate. At the end of the day it's their choice and if that's what they want let them be happy. It;s going on their body
I feel so bad for this bride. Her mom is so critical and throughout the clip you can see she feels very concerned about her weight and her mom has probably guilted her about that for years. I hope she knows she is beautiful and that her mom doesn't know everything!
On the one hand I do think it’s wise not to make a rash decision and the bride didn’t seem to be too confident about any of the dresses, even before her mom said no to them. But the mom is the worst type of critic because she can’t or won’t articulate what she wants, she is one of those who is both picky and will only know what she likes when she sees it. For the consultant that has to be a nightmare.
Most likely because Antonella picked out 4 variations of the same dress. the mom probably wanted to see several DIFFERENT styles on her. Good god... there are thousands of dresses in that damn place, people are doggin the mom because she didn't say "yes" after seeing FOUR? Sounds like they want their money, and get them the hell out so the next customer can come in.
@@brockreynolds870 the bride specifically said she wanted to show off her figure after her weight loss, it kinda seems like the mom wanted to see her in something that still made her look fat so mom could continue being hypercritical.
@@dietotaku Yes... and those mermaid dresses did not show it off to advantage.
@@jamama3 🎯
The bride wasn't confident that is because her mum has beaten her confidence right down. The poor bride is all jitters because of that narcissistic mother.
Anyone who is close to someone who’s gone through bariatric surgery knows that it’s a physical struggle every day. Getting to know your body’s limits, dumping (usually if you go over those limits), frustration, you name it. Her fiancé is a gem for sticking with her through this long process. She looks great, by the way.
Try diet and exercising instead
The only thing that comes to mine is Victoria, you don't need anybody's validation to be beautiful and look beautiful, and to make healthy choices on your own. Focus on being confident within yourself and life, And the rest of fall into place.
She didn't look beautiful in those dresses, and that was the problem. Antonella picked out things that did NOT flatter her.
I am always somewhat intrigued to find out how the story continues and googled Victoria Vaizburd. She got married in 2013 in a kind of modern Jewish ceremony in a form fitted holderneck dress being ca 6 months pregnant. The ivory dress was made out of a beautiful pattern type material , it looked as if bubbles were flying into each other (apology not the best description) She seemed extremely happy (and so did her husband) and guess what „dearest mummy“ wore a black fur type Bolero and a slinky leopard animal print dress. Her hair was a tad mad making her look a little bit like an 80“s rock chick if I may say so.
Saw that video of her dancing, but if she was dancing with the groom , he did not look like the one in the above dress shopping clip. Dress definitely was not form fitting and that’s what she wanted.
@@marthaarthur1364 but if she was 6 months pregnant then she might have changed her mind
@@MsJubjubbird huh?
@@marthaarthur1364 that's what the post says
@@MsJubjubbird Huh? As in what? What post? Nm. I have more important stuff to do.
I liked the mermaid/drop waist-the one with the bling at the top and she liked it too. She looked thin and confident in that dress. I hope she eloped and had a wonderful day!
I’m sick of these controlling moms it’s their daughters time!!
The look of contempt on her mother's face at 2:47 broke my heart for her. I am once again shocked at how much pain so many of these mothers inflict on their daughters with no regard to their feelings. How these women grow up so great despite the women who raised them is incredible. 😢😢😢
The mother's face!!!! Oh dear oh dear could turn milk sour. She really is extremely cruel very sad to see. Hope the mothers friends sees this and are equally as horrified by her behaviour.
They are friends with her... First of all they know , second of all they might enjoy it deep inside.
Mother is purposely being obtuse to sabotage the appointment.
Had a mother like that 😢. Literally gave me nightmares even after she passed.
Support your children and don’t try to live your life through them!
My Mother was also extremely critical.......has had its' lifelong effect.
Mother it is not your wedding.
The first and last dress were prefect. Her mom... she's something else
That mother has no boundaries and is hard as nails.
She's jealous that her daughter looks so good now.
Bride to be - once you are married get on with your own life.
Australia
Mother probably wanted a dress that didn't make her look like a frump. And none of thsoe dresses did that. If Gok had dressed her I gurarantee that girl would be in tears, and mother would have approved.
@@brockreynolds870Gok is in the UK...
This is in the USA, also like me this mother is European. European women can be difficult to please.
Plus don't comment to me..go and tell the bride's mother that she needs to see Gok for her daughter's dress.
Also I thought the girl looked very nice in some of those gowns.
Now bugger off...you are not that important!
Stunning Aussie surfer girl.
That mother with her lip fillers or botox that does not allow her to move her mouth, needs to stay home when this sweet bride looks for her dress. When my daughter got married, I kept my normally strong opinions to myself. Only when she asked my thoughts did I answer. The only thing that I couldn't control was when she walked out in one of the dresses, I started to cry; that dress was the only one that caused that reaction in me. I didn't want that to influence her decision but she did end of choosing that dress. When we met with the baker of the cake, he said that I was the best mother that he had ever worked with. He said I offered opinions but stepped back when my daughter made decisions. He said he wished that all the mothers were like me. I will add that I am not normally the type of mom that keeps her opinions to herself. 😏
5:46-6:30 Victoria looked beautiful and regal in dress #3. She should've purchased that one.
THAT was the dress that said “Mom, I’m my own woman, and I am fabulous!” But she wasn’t ready to take a stand yet. I hope she has grown into her power and found freedom to be herself away from that horrible, controlling, unhappy shell.
I hope this video goes viral, so that her Mother and her Mother’s friends can see what kind of hurtful person she really is. Fake lips do not hide a hard heart.
You don’t think the mother knows how hurtful she is? People like that enjoy hurting others, it makes them feel powerful and superior.
Such narcissist. We can see her "joy" that she has the power over daughter's emotions. Sad.
I'm so happy and proud of the girl because she lost all that weight she did such a great job she looks beautiful and I know she will look beautiful on her wedding day with whatever she picks out.
She needs to dress shop without her mother and get what she wants. That mother is going to choose everything in the bride’s married life if she doesn’t put a stop to it!
honestly i worry about her. still being so dependent on her mom's approval, and obsessing over what "makes [her] look really skinny." that's a one-way ticket to eating disorder town.
MOM IS NOT THE BRIDE - A GROWN LADY NEEDS TO DRESS THE WAY THAT MAKES HER FEEL SPECIAL!!! MOM IS MEAN!!!
Thank you! 👏 Her mother is the definition of a big time Hater. I nd to go bk an see if she married, cuz if not, that may be the issue as well.
Her mother will never be onboard with the daughter. Because that's how she controls her. If the bride loves #1, go for it. Number 5 was my favorite for her, but it's not for me.
Brightest Blessings to the Bride and Groom. I'm praying for you both. ☺️✌️❤️🦋🙏
Is this common for Russian Mum's ? I was thinking maybe she had aspergers as she behaved with similar to reactions some people who are close to me would behave.
@@carau7237 I think it's uncommon for any nationality group of mothers. It's a sign of mental health issues. Some mothers are in lifelong competition with their daughters, unfortunately. 😉✌️❤️🦋🙏
Dress number three was the best in my opinion, but the bride loved the first dress. Too bad the mother was thinking of herself, not of her daughter. My intuition tells me that bride felt her mother's disapproval every day when she was overweight.
4:46 ‘the way she looks’ lol! She looks like she’s had about 46 plastic surgeries to get her face like that. At least the bride actually put the effort in to loose the weight
The daughter also had surgery to lose weight
Her mother is very selfish, not sportive of her daughter
Her mom was very nice and reserved idk how you get the selfish impression. I wish her mom spoke more on why she’s not on the same page as the bride. Maybe it’s hard for the mom to lie to the daughter, so she won’t say it’s the one she dreamed her in, if it’s not.
I agree, but still her daughter is só loyal to her. 😔
@@natashaorr1596I disagree. Her mother is selfish and abuses the control she has over her soft hearted and loyal daughter. You do not need to be loud or rude to be selfish.
@@marieslabbert6009 So true and her mom is abusing her power as a mom. My late mom did that too but not as bad.
*supportive
Crazy how at this age, she's not confident enough to make her own decisions or stand up for herself. Just super sad.
Like why in God's name is it your mum's vision?
Your wedding dress should be your vision. External opinions are welcome but she should be able to make a decision herself and stand on it.
You know... unlss you werne't aware of this, some people simply HAVE NO VISION. They depend on others to tell them what is pretty, what is stylish..... that's why fads exist.
Well said
The first and the last looked fabulous on her
The first dress looks amazing on her.
Am I the only one who thinks that that godawful mother may have given the bride the issues with her body to begin with? I completely understand that people go through personal struggles and weight issues due to different causes, but I cannot see a single scenario in which a woman like that would have fostered a healthy self esteem in her daughter
Absolutely
That first dress was stunning. Her mother actually ordered her to leave the store! The marriage doesn't bode well if the bride to be cannot stand up to her mother befoe the wedding.
If she can’t be decisive in life without Mommy’s approval, then how is her marriage going to work? I hope she realizes that deciding what she wants will be one of the most significant crossroads in her life. Good luck!
I'm a landscape contractor.. I design flower gardens for people. MANY people are indecisive and don't know what they want. that's why they hire ME... a professional to tell them what will look good. In this case, Antonella is just not good at her job. That girl needed to try on an A-line.
unfortunately she may have been one of those women replacing her mother with a husband. I had a friend who has a very controlling mother and her husband was no different. I've seen guys also with strict mothers and they replaced them with strict wives
Her mother is never going to love any dress she’s “not capable”… if the bride ever sees this comment, I want her to remember the words “not capable”.
I had a mother much the same way, and I am 20 years older than this bride and the one thing I have learned is, the lack of support doesn’t mean the mother doesn’t love her,she just isn’t capable of being that king of emotional support.
Forgive her for it and show her and others the kind of love you want.
Well said 👏 I agree wholeheartedly
Her mother doesn’t get a say in the wedding dress that her daughter really likes. She wasn’t happy with anything that her daughter liked. She looked amazing in the dress and she should go with the dress she wants. I wish you all the happiness.
The specialist kept choosing similar shaped dresses with ruched satin although it was clear the mother didn't like that style.
The only opinion that matters is the bride’s. I liked the drop waist but she is beautiful in any of them. Mom needs to let go of her daughter and support her in feeling good and beautiful in her choice. I’m curious if Mom is jealous or feels threatened by her daughter’s success and happiness.
What an absolute monster. With each dress she knocked the wind out of her sails. The third dress was amazing. What a cold blooded ice Queen. The ritual of trying on dresses is supposed to be fun , the momster ruined it
Her mom should be celebrating the new gorgeous body her daughter has achieved. Her mother is obviously a narcissistic person who doesn't want to share the limelight. This could actually be why the daughter had weight problems to begin with. I understand low self esteem issues from having a mother who always wants to be the star.
Her mother is Russian or Ukrainian who came to the USA in 90-s. Most likely sold herself as one of those post brides. Clothes, cosmetics, and botox for such women always come first. That's more important than anything. She might be a good mother, she simply can't express it in English. But a dress - a huge deal for her.
Wow! That's a good theory. Never thought of that.
@@brandywineblogger1411 She has an incredibly strong Russian accent.
She looked beautiful in her top 2 choices, mom needs to be happy and bud out!!!! Her attitude is horrible
That is one controlling mother. Yes, the dress will be there to order in a few days, but the mom crushed her daughter's moment. Honestly, the last dress she tried on (before putting on dress #1 again) was stunning on her, and the only one who didn't think so was mom. Afraid of being upstaged? Hard to know, but I hope this bride learns to stand up for herself.
Drop waist one with beading was perfect. 💥
Ultimately, it was Victoria's lack of confidence that resulted in no dress. She never stood up for herself because she was overly concerned with her mother's approval. Smh.
ladies, ladies, ladies... PLEASE stop bringing these invalidating judgmental harpies with you to your bridal appointments. just because she birthed you doesn't mean you owe her ONE MINUTE of your time, much less any decision-making authority over your wedding dress.
If her mom is paying then she has the right to an opinion. But the final decision should be hers. She should pay herself if she wants what she wants.
For someone so opinionated, not to be able to vocalise what she actually likes and wants to see is just unbelievable. The mother's answer to all questions was "I do not know", "I cannot decide for you, but I do not like it", but I will not tell you what I like - you have to guess how to please me. It is like she was gaslighting her daughter. Wishing all the best to the bride. At least three dresses from the selection could have been the one! And once the wedding is done - do cut ties with the mother of yours. You now have your own LOVING family.
Most painful episode I’ve ever watched. I wish the beautiful bride well. Buy the dress you want & elope.
This was such a sad episode. Clearly her entire childhood and into her adulthood she craved her mothers validation and still has not received it. This entire appointment she was entirely focused on her mothers approval. :( If the mother had only supported her a little it would have meant the world to her. Even her saying she wishes she could look the way her mom did broke my heart a little 😭 This bride is absolutely STUNNING
God,i can just imagine how that mother put her dad down when she was heavy. YIKES!!!!
the mom.....IF i put the kind of look on MY kids face that she put on her daughter's face???....then i'd consider my LIFE'S WORK a failure!!!!
Mother's control issues need to be put aside. It's not about you mother.
How can a mother act like that to her daughter? ”I want her on the boat but she sank with Titantic”. Victoria is lovely, caring, symphatic. I wish her all the best.
I ve been there I ve cut all links to my mom because she was taking me down al the time.
I wish the bride all the best
Mum was not 'high fashion' - she's wearing a roll neck sweater.
I'm always so sad to see daughters being so intimidated by their mothers. That is not a healthy relationship. I wonder if mommy dearest ever picked up on the meaning of her being addressed that way.
The only one who should be happy with it is the bride and groom, the rest doesn't matter, especially the bride should be happy, she should feel like a princess on that day.
I imagine mom's paying for The dress by the way she seems to have the final say, the bride looked beautiful in all the dresses
✨💖✨I can so relate to this young bride. I was in a yearlong Army training program, so who had time? That was my excuse to avoid a miserable wedding dress shopping experience with relatives. So I got my wedding dress through a Gunne Sax catalogue-yeah, it was that long ago. It wasn’t until I got out of the Army that I developed a weight problem, weighing in at almost 300lbs before weight loss surgery. I’ve learned that the problem with obesity is complex, and there is no one path to getting to your healthier life. However, a strong need to please others and getting approval, along with standing up for yourself is one common problem that almost all struggling with obesity need to learn about and tackle. It’s hard. Having weight loss surgery and losing 100 lbs are only a the first few steps this bride is taking to secure a happy and healthy and secure future. It’s wonderful that she will have a mate there to support her. I wish her and her future spouse all the best.
Mom can choose her own clothes but please let the bride choose the wedding dress she feels beautiful in!
Very sad, I felt so sad for this bride. The mother was very cold. She didn't seem to care about the daughters feelings. And she looks beautiful.
This is your dress, your wedding.. you deserve too look the way you love specially after losing that much weight..
All the moms watching this would agree with the mom. All the daughters would agree with the daughter. But in reality for a decision this big, its good to sleep over it and then if you are still convinced go for it. The people selling are sales people. They meet a lot of brides. They don't really know you, and they don't really care that much either. Their priority is and will always be to close the sale. Not you.
Mama has had some work done. Let her daughter be wholesome with her natural beauty!
“I was just waiting for my mother to jump on that boat but she sank to the titanic”😂
This poor bride, a lifetime of being the scapegoat to her narcissist Mother, and she is just so desperate to please her. You can see she endured surgery to try to please her! I hope she gets a psychologist with experience helping daughters of narcissistic Mothers and she manages to either reduce contact (and take back control), or goes no contact. Life is too short to spend it allowing yourself to be the emotional punchbag for you narcissist parent. Ultimately the Mother is jealous, having a ‘fat’ in her eyes daughter she felt she was more beautiful- now her daughter is in her eyes beautiful (she was always beautiful), only she is kind and lovely too, things that no amount of lip filler can emulate.
"The way she takes care of herself and the way she looks." I hope that daughter has seen more love and acceptance from her mother. ❤
she's picking a dress for her mom 😔 I see people saying the mom needs to be supportive etc and I fully agree, but the bride needs to show some backbone as well
this is so sad. time to outgrow your mum, dear Victoria. once you stop giving her the power by requiring her approval, life will be so much lighter and easier. take care of your heart
The mom's lipstik told it all. So much pressure in this relationship! In this wedding dress or that: she s finally leaving that home!
The young bride has beauty within and outward, Mommy Dearest is only thinking of herself possibly.
How extremely sad for that daughter, who was so considerate of her mother. I did not see a mother wanting to be sure her daughter was happy, I saw jealousy, because the attention was not on herself. That dear daughter, I hope she has a wonderful married life.
Mother was not awful here but she may not be a supportive and loving mom outside. Which resulted to the bride seeking approval from her, specially with choosing The dress. At this point bride should be more confident with her decision and ignore mom
Ridiculous Mom!
Today I thank God because some time ago I said "I don't care what my mother thinks or if she is happy or not with my decisions".
I am more at peace and happy with myself. 😊
Congratulations on realizing, tragic as it may be, that is the only way to deal with a mother like yours.
I especially liked how she looked in the drop waist dress.
It made her look fat.
Mom is envious of her daughter. No doubt about it. Her mom knew how much getting a dress after losing 100lbs meant to her and she didn’t even TRY to look happy for her! Such a shame.
I hope she got a dress that SHE absolutely loved.
That mom has made withholding approval a devastating art.
How sad 🥺. That bride should have chosen the one she loved.
Next appointment be sure to leave Mom home.