At 65 I had almost forgotten the effects of domestic abuse. I watched my sister go through this and now see my niece and nephew very damaged. Being a witness to it many times I am damaged too. Plus mental abuse from my father. I am so thankful for a perfectly loving mother. May she rest in peace❤
Wanted too see her get custody and see his face not so happy but instead she looked very scared off him@the end...abused is Such A sad story even the way she was shaking her hand..You could tell that she was really Scared off him..I am happy She left him it could off been worst if she stayed he would off landed up killing her...
Watching this movie again, brought tears to my eyes, just to remind me how much I went through and the silence I had to endure because yes, I felt ashamed, today, I'm free and even though the scars remain, I am very grateful the past is gone... My heart goes to the women who are suffering right now, and yes, there is hope, some we are lucky, some are not.
I went through it too, but fortunately I didn’t have children with him. It was daily… beat, raped, kidnapped, stalked. I was 18 at the time time, 62 now and still scared of seeing him.
Made me realise just how much other people hide their shame when going through this. We have survived over and over. I now love my life and fourd my self-respect. No man would ever lift his hand to me ever again
Mental abuse is like a yo-yo.These peoplehave have no feelings for whom they painfully hurt,God Bless us all who are Damaged by thses Devils.only God can restore us.
No man has the right to physically abuse or mentally abuse his wife and kid's. She shouldn't tolerate her husband physically abusing her and she shouldn't make excuses for crazy husband . He won't take responsibility for his bad behaviour. Women know if they been physically abuse their services that will help them but they won't ask for help.
I'm so thankful for my mom. She didn't teach me how to cook. She told me to go to college and not depend on a man. I am married to a good man and I don't depend on him for $. My heart aches for people going thru this.
Domestic violence doesn't only happen to "uneducated" women, sometimes it happens to the professional woman , she even maybe the breadwinner of the relationship! Your comment about how your mother didn't teach you how to cook and about how she told you to get an education and not to depend on a man is like a slap in the face to anyone that has suffered domestic violence of any kind. It's a lovely thing that you have never experienced domestic violence but as such it's something you seem to know nothing about, it would be best to keep your underhanded comments to yourself.
@@jas8286 Why are you being such an ass to this person? What she said was valid! Clearly you are projecting your own issues on someone...why? It has nothing to do with the 'less educated'...it has to do with the 'less codependent' and women are/were traditionally taught to be mothers and wives. Her mother ended a cycle, we should praise her not berate her!
Yes. I had one strike when pregnant with my second son. As soon as he was born I filed for divorce. He was to give me support for my two son. I received it for a few months. He stopped and the courts refused to go after him. It was all,up to me to pay legal fees which I couldn’t afford. Thank God my savior I was able to support my two sons and myself.
Mary Anne made the biggest mistake in telling Daniel she wanted to take the kids and leave for a bit she should’ve kept quiet and gathered the kids and leave after she got out of the hospital
@@adonyisrael1724 why would you want the victim to learn the hard way when they already suffer from a shitty abuser pos , weak man ? Why ? Odd thoughts its like victim blaming
The law states that the judge can't hear about spousal abuse in custody hearing? Why? That is exactly where they should be heard...so the judge knows what kind of abusive jerk they are dealing with!
It's beyond tragic to suffer the physical abuse from a spouse as well as the mental abuse from a mother. I have received both and to be honest the mental abuse from my mother left far deeper scars than the physical abuse
My parents were never ever abusive ......but my mom always made me feel like I was never good enough. Ever since I can remember she'd say hurtful things and here iam 43 years old and still feel that way. Being around her I feel I walk on egg shells 😮💨. It definitely scars
@@judyalcatraz918 Making you feel less than is mental abuse, especially if it is done over a prolonged period. It is one thing for a mother to be mean on a rare occasion and be remorseful and try hard not to do it again, but when someone does it over and over and never cares to consider what impact it is having on their child....that is abuse.
@@irishmist2969 I am glad you spoke up about what abusive behavior is and define what a bully is. A mother who bullies usually results in the child growing up to marry someone with similar behavior. Deep seated strongholds of worthlessness projected onto another will cause scars on the inside.
This movie reminds me of our my loving late Mum used to be beaten up our Dad .imI have never had a close relationship until today .Am now 60 years and imagine he still tells his friends that a woman has to be beaten .Watched the beating from when I was 13 years but eventually My Mum walked away when I turned 17,years n we as siblings helped her pack .I miss my loving Mum .May her soul rest in peace .
As I always say, you are in a situation like this, don't ever tell him what your plans are. Pack and go! If you don't have time to pack go. If you left something leave it where you left it. Don't ever go back again, you might not make it back out alive! Men are supposed to protect women. Not beat them half to death! Bless her fighting spirit ❤
You cant just leave with kids when you are married And if the judge dont hear you at court, you may even lose your kids so do anyone want this to happen, knowing that then the kids would be with the monster ? Nope
I am an abuse survivor . Watching this movie brings tears to my eyes. I know exactly what she's going through. When I left that night my heart was absolutely pounding. This is so horrible and heartbreaking. I know what it's also like to have a miscarriage after being pushed down the stairs. 😭😭😭😭 This hurts so bad .
I beleive these men are weak. Jalous, possessive and have not much self esteem so when they see their spouse smart / happy or with friends laughing, they get jalous and envious then mad
The question should be "What posseses a woman to put up with that kind of abuse?" The authorities only found out because she ended up in the hospital, and even then, she denied it, WHEN SHE WAS BEING OFFERED THE EFFING HELP. Why the heck did she cover for him? How long did she plan on continuing like that... until she was neatly packed in a black bag? The way I see it, the first time he mistreats you, youre the v1ct1m... the next times you're his accomplice.
Heaven only knows just how many women continue to be abused in 2024. 😢😢😢Sorry, even Police Officers and the Courts don’t always have our best interest even when there are children involved. The system is far from fair which is why women continue to suffer in silence 😢That excruciating pain that often leads to an unbearable depression…So many of us so afraid and embarrassed that we don’t even seek the medical attention we desperately need. Please don’t be so quick to just judge. The system isn’t in our favor.
The biggest problem is the dependency syndrome, when you don't make your own money as a woman just know that abuse will be your middle name when you depend on men...
You didn't have to reach that point, it's easier to leave earlier, and it's necessary to speak up, nobody is going to read your mind. In this movie, the help was being offered, she covered for him and would not leave WHEN SHE HAD THE CHANCE. What are women like that waiting for, to end up in a black bag? If not for themselves, they should do it for their children.
Thats what I did by recommandation from the court and my lawyer.. I left! Very hard and traumatic too No more social support system after the move, no therapist cause I had no money and cause it happened as they say, in another place ...
I' m sitting here watching it in doses as a horror movie, eyes half covered, & feeling nauseous with a headache. I can only watch it in doses bc it's so devestating. Imagine If laws are changed back that men pretty much own their wives.
I sure hope there are still underground options for families who in dire circumstances similar to what's portrayed in this movie. As far as I know, things haven't changed a whole lot as far as the "law" goes in protecting victims from abusers.
My father had the same temper and beat every day my mom when I was very kid, before 28 years from now on. He broke two (2) teeth of hers. She was unable to defend herself neither me and my younger and older brothers and sisters do. He also used to beat us to the ground. He never knew the reason why he was in such situation but maybe he used to be a drank. Once he was tempered and attempted to kill my older brother with very few reasons. From then onwards he stopped. This movie exactly reflecting my childhood life and I was crying watching it. Watching from Ethiopia.
I forgot what a good actress Joanna Kerns is and so pretty she is. This movie is like a victory and escape for women of domestic violence. I cringe when people say "why doesn't she just leave? When you are at the fists of someone you are petrified of everyday you tell me. Also I am watching movies to escape all the terrible things happening. I pray for all those women and children caught. Please I wish they could all know that.
I've always said "IF anyone puts their hands on me in an unfriendly way, they better be gone when i get up, because they'll be dead when I do", and I meant it.
@@citzeneyestatistically women if they live long enough, will go back an average of 35 times, before they leave for good. It’s scary how low some of these women’s self esteem must be to think in some deluded way they deserve this treatment. 🤷♀️
She was not stupid She was victim of a sadistic man, pressure and threats keeps even your sleep away, your courage, your personnality, friends are not there anymore, ppl are weak... all of them judge but who really help those women? No one, very very little do
When woman didn’t get heard in the courts and had to repeatedly be abuse by their husbands, . To al the woman out there that are being abused. Do not stand for it ! We’ve come a long way✌🏽
And sadly womens rights are being taken away right before our eyes. Many think it's all about "pro choice." It's like they've forgotten that it wasn't long ago in America that a man's wife was viewed as his property. Not even in the 70s could a woman's finance be considered to purchase a property. I don't know why women want us all to go back to these times. I wish those who want to would do it and leave the rest of us out of it.
It's actually easy to understand. Especially a woman with children. You love someone. You give up a career to bring up your children. You love them nore then anything. Your husband abuses you and you know he may take your children from you or worse kill you and eventually abuse your children. You have little money,maybe the worst if you have no family to help you out. That's how this happens. And everyday it's happening. The laws are getting better but still are stacked against these woman. Thank God for these shelters.
Do it for your children & get out before its too late! It makes my blood boil that this happens to kids, its trauma! Please get out there's always an opportunity to sneak out & speak up ! 🙏 I did.
I agree with you. Once a man starts to abuse you like this, he is not going to stop and it will only going to get worse. Staying with a man like this and having children only makes matters worse as they will suffer from depression and anxiety and other mental disorders. I found that calling the police and getting a restraining order does not really help. They will eventually find you and the sad part is that the victim usually dies. Our judicial system in America is too lenient when it comes to 'ABUSE'. They need to change the law and make sure the abusers receive an appropriate sentence, not Community Service, and also they desperately need counseling for Anger Management. Women should never be ashamed to speak up.
@@maryannmaycen3124the reason the laws more than likely stay lenient is bc the wealthy & powerful men lobby the law makers to keep them that way. We're going backwards in time. Women are losing their autonomy and rights yet millions of women are turning a blind eye. And this isn't just about "pro choice"
,.@@maryannmaycen3124 you got that right.and the guys know where those addresses are for women homes..where the police take them..my ex did, was there the next day..I don't know who tells them..
Lol okay well and the mother is not into trauma ? Its easy to point fin fingers but so many people DONT want to help them when they want to hide or need money, judges and cops many dont even hear them
How sad and how pathetic this judicial system is so broken. This scenario happens every single day and it's called "the good ole' boys club". Any judge who turns away from this kind of abuse should have to turn his robe in.. He's nothing more than a mockery and there are plenty of them out there.. It's disgusting and I don't believe it will ever change.
good old boys happened here in ireland 2 weeks ago young woman attacked beaten unconscious 22 year old man in the army let off scott free she is lucky to be alive judge pure ah
It's more pathetic to put up with that kind of abuse instead of leaving at the first strike... before getting married, before having a child, before having yet ANOTHER CHILD! Abuse never comes out of the blue and it always escalates. That fist slap when they start dating are huge red flags. Why won't they leave then?
This is hard to watch my heart breaks for anyone who is going through this or has been through it. The fear would be overwhelming not knowing what to do especially when there is children involved. It would have been so hard for her to be told she's not allow to tell anyone where she is hiding let alone try to get the children. I don't understand why men do this they hurt then they say sorry then they do it again and again. Only way to stop this is to GET OUT!!! So many women around the world never got out! There is HELP its important to have the courage to REACH out and say I need HELP! That's all it takes...Bless Maryanne Walker for finally standing up the support around her is what she needed. And to help other women to let them know they are not alone.
My mother was a survivor of domestic violence. I can relate to this sad movie it made me cry because my evil bastard dad hit my mum and emotionally abuse me. He is a evil monster he hit his wife and he is scaring his kids. She is a good mother she love her kids and want to protect her kids. She has the right to take her kids away from their violent father. She doesn't deserve to be lock up in prison and she didn't nothing wrong. Her evil monster husband threaten her and she ended up in hospital and nearly died. She should call the cops and charge him for physically abusing her. He deserve to be lock up in prison for a long time. His got a bad temper and he is not sorry and he will hit her again. She deserves to live in peace with her kid's.
Not really. But every aspect of what happens in abusive relationship was portrayed here. Perhaps all of it doesn't happen all the time but it's pretty damn close.
Man, the old Lifetime weekend movie binge days!! Legit movies like this! Not like now where it’s always the single mom living in some mansion as an ad exec with the same plot line lol. Bring these movies back!
If I happen to marry a kind of guy like this he will be the one to be confined in the hospital. I was raised a fighter and my grandfather was strong respected man who taught us to be wise, strong and fight whenever needed.
Still more common than we all realise. Here in Australia over 40 women have been killed by their husband/partner/boyfriend/or ex in the past 5 months. DV is everybody's business. If you know it's happening to someone you know (of either sex) don't turn the other way!
This is exactly how recently there have been men murdering their children to hurt their wives. Why has nothing changed in all this time? Why is the law still allowing children to be put in a dangerous situation?
I couldn't watch this! My anger was boiling over ... It's absolutely terrifying and traumatic for young children to see their mother or father being beaten by the other parent, especially when it happens frequently. The stress, the paralyzing fear, the helplessness, the wishing desperately all the yelling and screaming would stop, the embarrassment of other people knowing what happens in their house, and the shame that comes with it. The ways in which children, and the parent, can carry this trauma and shame throughout their lives, such as repeating the cycle / pattern of abuse, or turning to toxic substances like drink, smoking and drugs to cope. It's awful! Much more needs to be done by the authorities and the system to protect the victims of domestic violence
It's not the authorities' fault those women let it get that far instead of leaving at the first red flags, before getting married, before having children... what are they waiting for, ending up in a black bag, leaving their children orphan?
This movie reminds me how I was passing through, with my marriage. I was married very young, after 7 year's he started to hit me and bring womans in the house and through me sleeping outside and he sleeps with 3 women's, the problem my parents passed so I didn't have where to go. is long story but now he died, we lived 34 years. I cried so much during watching this lady how she was passing through. 11.07.24.
@@rasta487 yes am fine tnx, my gran children is my happiness, since my husband died I never trusted any man, and I never loved some one. the problem is when I see movie like this, always reminds me in the passt. 13.07.24.
There are women who are doing far better financially than their husbands yet get battered and their money taken and spent on other women. Money is not always a defense against brutal men but GUTS! Abusive men are cowards who pick their victims. You have to match an abuser's madness
@@bhellenbello311 it very important that women has to be independent especially financially because she can just moved on without him knowing the only problem is when they have kid's but still she can get divorced and split Children visitation every problem has a solution only narrow minded Controlling people make it difficult!
Take pics and document every single instance of physical abuse and report or tell someone please. You can do to your local biker club and they will help you get out if you don’t want the police involved ask a biker.
Now i'm 67 so i can see this movie. But in many year i can't. My Father could never say sorry after hia little sober. He be much anger instead. One time he coming drunk to my room and hug my bone. I crying and promise myself if i have a wife and children i never hit them or be angry. I divorced two times and only leave it. Now i find my woman since 15 year and i say i love you every day. But my children are brainwashed so we have no contact. I give them all i have. The boys are 32 and 36 today. I wonder howe they take care of their family today with loan and crazy World? Maybe the children will take contact with me and wonder where Grandfather are?
He says he loves her, as she's lying in the hospital, from his beating up on her!! (Like Sleeping With The Enemy movie). Batterers always cry, or say they love women after they beat them up. I've had a few abusive boyfriends in the ancient past, and whenever I would try to leave them, they would either cry and beg me to stay, or they would threaten me if I tried to leave.
The abuse of women (& children ) continues today ... June 9, 2024. And despite the reality of some progress the strong & overpowering anchor that holds back the true capacity for much needed progress, still exists. Overturning Roe vs Wade & now pending legislation to ban access to birth control are reflective of the strong undercurrents of what also leaves battered & abused women still very vulnerable... and the resources for help are dangerously challenged by rapidly escalating demand. There is still much work to be done ... the battle is far from over 🥀
You're ridiculous and overreaching. Please educate yourself on the reality of roe vs wade. You people act like by overturning that it means no woman can ever get an abortion, and you're WRONG. ALL it did was put the decision back in the states hands: where it BELONGS!
This is how I grew up, my mother never left him no matter how much I Insisted, she never did. The only thing that stop the abuse after almost 20 years was God, he chanched my father. But the scars go deep in all of us only God will heal us too. My players go to this kind of families going throug these cycle of abuse.
I too, would suffered that along time ago, but you never forget it. I pray for everybody who has gone through it and the ones that are going there’s a way Can get better counseling is key and God is key God first counseling second and find yourself the good person that you know you are I made so many mistakes, but I’m better now, but it caused my kids and I’m ashamed of that even though it was a very long time ago the pain is still there🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
It’s sad when you have no support in your parents. I’d never let any man abuse me and I find it hard to empathise with women who endure abuse. But one thing I know is that if I were ever bullied or abused by anyone my mom would be on their case like a hawk. Maybe that’s why I’m so strong because I was raised to be strong and I always knew I have support in my folks
Did you just say you have no empathy for the abused? Privileged you! Nobody enjoys abuse, if you knew how psychology works, you’d understand. Same way the military breaks a soldier is the same a man or woman can break another person.
@@bettyk9771so now it's anybody else's fault that those women let it get that far? Why wouldn't they leave at the first red flags, why would they marry a psychopath like that? Why do they even dare having not one, but two, three, four children with them? They put themselves AND THEIR CHILDREN in that position!!
I worked for an attorney who only represented victims of DV. I did the intake..I heard some God awful stories. Movies like this are important..its pretty freaking accurate. Except her 'Mother'..what a terrible person!
Actually she couldve won custody if she was patient enough to collect evidence on his abuse towards the children. The school principal would have made an excellent witness to the sons rage and Violence issues and how the dad ignored the schools complaints. Also visit to the doctors office for that black eye would have been super helpful as well....
I know what's gotta show how bad it was before.I can get better , but movies like this make me so angry!! Like why is the school calling her when the kids are in his custody !?? Where do they think he's getting the anger from??
No woman should ALLOW IT, instead they always prefer to be with their abuser, even when help is being offered, to the point they become their abuser's accomplice.
I had to stop the film as the music was so distractingly bad. Music should enhance a scene. This music seemed entirely random to a scene and poorly calibrated. Excruciating.
I hate the judge he protect the abuser not the victim. The Law need to change the man only has rights that not fair. It free country the women and children should have rights and should be protected.
I endured abuse for way too long. I was dragged by my hair, beaten, belittled, assaulted, and barely made it out alive. I tried to rationalize his behavior. I thought once he stopped drinking and using drugs that he would be the wonderful man I fell in love with. I waited way too long. He remarried someone just like him and now they abuse each other and that is their “normal”.
I have suffered verbal, emotional, physical and psychological abuse. It’s all equally terrifying and traumatic. The physical is the worst at the moment but the mental is what leaves long lasting pain.
BEfore even reading any , bet the Like Farmers are out in full swing with the “ It happened to me, that happened to me, and feel sorry for me” comments.. sad and pathetic
If you accept to get beaten ,just too bad ,ofc I understand there’s circumstances,kids ,depending on husband,etc ,but as soon as ur kids witness or be part of violence,there’s no excuse to stay in that home ,not a single excuse!8
And she became the first woman who changed the law by giving testimony regarding spousal abuse its a good movie and i cried half of the movie 😢😢♥️♥️
I was somewhat disappointed in the ending. I wanted so much to see her get full custody of her children. Having a happy ending.
And I would've wanted to see that horrendous-excuse-for-a-husband/father being taken into custody at the end of the hearing. @grandmaismyname1597
We are still fighting for women equal rights, Men always had the law on their side til the women starting fighting back
At 65 I had almost forgotten the effects of domestic abuse. I watched my sister go through this and now see my niece and nephew very damaged. Being a witness to it many times I am damaged too. Plus mental abuse from my father. I am so thankful for a perfectly loving mother. May she rest in peace❤
I wish my mom would have told me
I remember all too well
sorry to hear that. my condolence to your sister.😢😢😢
Your mom wasn't perfect. She chose poorly in marrying your dad. And sounds like maybe she didn't protect you as well as she could've.
The old lifetimes movies hit different, they actually had a great story line and some suspense to it
Real acting, not only fans models who think they're actresses 😂
But it could off been a Better ending where we see her get Custedy off the kids...
It just end like that not fair.
Wanted too see her get custody and see his face not so happy but instead she looked very scared off him@the end...abused is Such A sad story even the way she was shaking her hand..You could tell that she was really Scared off him..I am happy She left him it could off been worst if she stayed he would off landed up killing her...
But they could off done a Better ending....why do all the Nice movies have a shit ending?
Watching this movie again, brought tears to my eyes, just to remind me how much I went through and the silence I had to endure because yes, I felt ashamed, today, I'm free and even though the scars remain, I am very grateful the past is gone... My heart goes to the women who are suffering right now, and yes, there is hope, some we are lucky, some are not.
GOD BLESS.
Sorry you went through that, but good you are safe now.
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I went through it too, but fortunately I didn’t have children with him. It was daily… beat, raped, kidnapped, stalked. I was 18 at the time time, 62 now and still scared of seeing him.
Same here I cried a lot 🙏
Made me realise just how much other people hide their shame when going through this. We have survived over and over. I now love my life and fourd my self-respect. No man would ever lift his hand to me ever again
Mental abuse is like a yo-yo.These peoplehave have no feelings for whom they painfully hurt,God Bless us all who are Damaged by thses Devils.only God can restore us.
No man has the right to physically abuse or mentally abuse his wife and kid's. She shouldn't tolerate her husband physically abusing her and she shouldn't make excuses for crazy husband . He won't take responsibility for his bad behaviour. Women know if they been physically abuse their services that will help them but they won't ask for help.
And you don't understand
Mental abuse as severe as physical abuse...😢
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I'm so thankful for my mom. She didn't teach me how to cook. She told me to go to college and not depend on a man. I am married to a good man and I don't depend on him for $. My heart aches for people going thru this.
Domestic violence doesn't only happen to "uneducated" women, sometimes it happens to the professional woman , she even maybe the breadwinner of the relationship!
Your comment about how your mother didn't teach you how to cook and about how she told you to get an education and not to depend on a man is like a slap in the face to anyone that has suffered domestic violence of any kind.
It's a lovely thing that you have never experienced domestic violence but as such it's something you seem to know nothing about, it would be best to keep your underhanded comments to yourself.
I don't think that's what she meant @@jas8286
@@jas8286 Why are you being such an ass to this person? What she said was valid! Clearly you are projecting your own issues on someone...why? It has nothing to do with the 'less educated'...it has to do with the 'less codependent' and women are/were traditionally taught to be mothers and wives. Her mother ended a cycle, we should praise her not berate her!
I'm so sorry jas lashed at you. I got your point.your mother didn't want you to be dependent upon a man. Good mom!
@@lisawentworth6831 please don't take it upon yourself to apologise on my behalf, I stand by what I said !
I am thankful to God for giving me a wonderful, caring and supportive husband. Now he no more but I remember and cherish his loving memories.
You was lucky.
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I love these old movies, no big theatricals, just normal life stories with so much meaning to people
This movie isn't old. It only came out in 1993
@@Gamble333 that's your opinion
I had this life before. Even had a gun to my head by a mad crazy husband. Never again will i go through this miserable treatment again😢
Me too😢
Me too. In my 50’s don’t think I will ever find love, feel like damaged goods😭
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ATTENTION LADIES:
ONE strike and he's OUT!
I 💯 agreed with you
Yep piss them off
THAT!!! 👆👆👆
Yes. I had one strike when pregnant with my second son. As soon as he was born I filed for divorce. He was to give me support for my two son. I received it for a few months. He stopped and the courts refused to go after him. It was all,up to me to pay legal fees which I couldn’t afford. Thank God my savior I was able to support my two sons and myself.
You damn tooting and he's out. My so called husband slapped me one time and he regreted it the rest of his miserable life.
Mary Anne made the biggest mistake in telling Daniel she wanted to take the kids and leave for a bit she should’ve kept quiet and gathered the kids and leave after she got out of the hospital
I'm amazed he even let her go. Most abusers don't do that.
@@Not_Always but changing the locks and not getting the kids was the catch
Live & LEARN! Sometimes the hard way !
I agree! She should have picked up the kids from school on her first day back and started driving
@@adonyisrael1724 why would you want the victim to learn the hard way when they already suffer from a shitty abuser pos , weak man ?
Why ? Odd thoughts its like victim blaming
The law states that the judge can't hear about spousal abuse in custody hearing? Why? That is exactly where they should be heard...so the judge knows what kind of abusive jerk they are dealing with!
The laws need to rewritten, they gone overboard with trying to be so woke and politically correct.
The justice system is disgustingly unjust, where the richer and powerful get away with their crimes!
All the time....globally!
Sometimes not even rich and just manipulative weak men get away with crap too
It's beyond tragic to suffer the physical abuse from a spouse as well as the mental abuse from a mother. I have received both and to be honest the mental abuse from my mother left far deeper scars than the physical abuse
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My parents were never ever abusive ......but my mom always made me feel like I was never good enough. Ever since I can remember she'd say hurtful things and here iam 43 years old and still feel that way. Being around her I feel I walk on egg shells 😮💨. It definitely scars
@@judyalcatraz918 Making you feel less than is mental abuse, especially if it is done over a prolonged period. It is one thing for a mother to be mean on a rare occasion and be remorseful and try hard not to do it again, but when someone does it over and over and never cares to consider what impact it is having on their child....that is abuse.
@@irishmist2969 I am glad you spoke up about what abusive behavior is and define what a bully is. A mother who bullies usually results in the child growing up to marry someone with similar behavior. Deep seated strongholds of worthlessness projected onto another will cause scars on the inside.
@@judyalcatraz918 that IS abuse...in your own words, you just said your mother was abusive to you...
Incredible acting from everyone in this movie. I was especially impressed by the lady who played Rosalie
and the son!
This movie reminds me of our my loving late Mum used to be beaten up our Dad .imI have never had a close relationship until today .Am now 60 years and imagine he still tells his friends that a woman has to be beaten .Watched
the beating from when I was 13 years but eventually My Mum walked away when I turned 17,years n we as siblings helped her pack .I miss my loving Mum .May her soul rest in peace .
I'm so sorry that happened to you. It doesn't mean that you don't deserve love...there are some good men out there...
@@lisawentworth6831 Thank you so much for up lighting me. God bless you.
As I always say, you are in a situation like this, don't ever tell him what your plans are. Pack and go! If you don't have time to pack go. If you left something leave it where you left it. Don't ever go back again, you might not make it back out alive!
Men are supposed to protect women. Not beat them half to death! Bless her fighting spirit ❤
You cant just leave with kids when you are married
And if the judge dont hear you at court, you may even lose your kids so do anyone want this to happen, knowing that then the kids would be with the monster ? Nope
I am an abuse survivor . Watching this movie brings tears to my eyes. I know exactly what she's going through. When I left that night my heart was absolutely pounding. This is so horrible and heartbreaking. I know what it's also like to have a miscarriage after being pushed down the stairs. 😭😭😭😭 This hurts so bad .
Your own fault for choosing the bad boy
What possesses a person to do this to someone, a husband to a wife who is the mother of his children?? He is evil and horrible.
I beleive these men are weak. Jalous, possessive and have not much self esteem so when they see their spouse smart / happy or with friends laughing, they get jalous and envious then mad
The question should be "What posseses a woman to put up with that kind of abuse?" The authorities only found out because she ended up in the hospital, and even then, she denied it, WHEN SHE WAS BEING OFFERED THE EFFING HELP. Why the heck did she cover for him? How long did she plan on continuing like that... until she was neatly packed in a black bag?
The way I see it, the first time he mistreats you, youre the v1ct1m... the next times you're his accomplice.
@@GD-xc4wgand what are the women who accept that abuse? 🙎🏻
Heaven only knows just how many women continue to be abused in 2024. 😢😢😢Sorry, even Police Officers and the Courts don’t always have our best interest even when there are children involved. The system is far from fair which is why women continue to suffer in silence 😢That excruciating pain that often leads to an unbearable depression…So many of us so afraid and embarrassed that we don’t even seek the medical attention we desperately need. Please don’t be so quick to just judge. The system isn’t in our favor.
because these days abuse is anything and everything. You yelled at me? That's abuse.
Some of our officers and judges are abusive that's probably why
The biggest problem is the dependency syndrome, when you don't make your own money as a woman just know that abuse will be your middle name when you depend on men...
You didn't have to reach that point, it's easier to leave earlier, and it's necessary to speak up, nobody is going to read your mind. In this movie, the help was being offered, she covered for him and would not leave WHEN SHE HAD THE CHANCE. What are women like that waiting for, to end up in a black bag? If not for themselves, they should do it for their children.
Haven't seen this movie in years. Touched me tearfully. And unfortunately today, Domestic Abuse is rampant. 😞😕😥
I'm a mom of 3 and I would do the same as she did for my children I would never give my children to my abuser that's for sure
Thats what I did by recommandation from the court and my lawyer..
I left! Very hard and traumatic too
No more social support system after the move, no therapist cause I had no money and cause it happened as they say, in another place ...
I love they show her toxic relationship with her evil mother to let us know how she ended up like this
I watched for 11 minutes, my short temper didn't allow me. I hate bullies jto
I' m sitting here watching it in doses as a horror movie, eyes half covered, & feeling nauseous with a headache. I can only watch it in doses bc it's so devestating. Imagine If laws are changed back that men pretty much own their wives.
@@rasta487I was thinking the same thing as I watched this movie. I am terrified of the future for women and girls in America.
@@rasta487 why on earth would that ever happen? That makes no sense to even think
@@Shedoesdiy ok. A different point of view. Please elaborate.
@@rasta487 you said "imagine in laws are changed back ...." I asked, "Why on earth would that happen?" Not sure what to elaborate on.
Few minutes in… and I’m already in tears 😭 😭😭😭
Tim Matheson is such an underrated actor. He usually plays good guys so it’s pretty amazing to see him play such a nasty guy.
I sure hope there are still underground options for families who in dire circumstances similar to what's portrayed in this movie. As far as I know, things haven't changed a whole lot as far as the "law" goes in protecting victims from abusers.
My father had the same temper and beat every day my mom when I was very kid, before 28 years from now on. He broke two (2) teeth of hers. She was unable to defend herself neither me and my younger and older brothers and sisters do. He also used to beat us to the ground. He never knew the reason why he was in such situation but maybe he used to be a drank. Once he was tempered and attempted to kill my older brother with very few reasons. From then onwards he stopped. This movie exactly reflecting my childhood life and I was crying watching it. Watching from Ethiopia.
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Very sad 😢 poor mom ❤
Traumatic for the kids too
Unfair
Ungodly
The foolish woman allowed her husband to abuse her
Now he attacks their son. She is to blame cos she did not file a Police report.
The judge is an idiot
@@cutecuteoldold not foolish, cause no police nearby
I'm a huge Tim Matheson fan. It was very hard watching him play such a nefarious charater
I was thinking the same thing!
I guess that's why they are called "actors."😂
This is the second or third movie that Tim Matheson and Joanna Kerns have starred in together, so evidently they must work well together.💛🧡💚
I forgot what a good actress Joanna Kerns is and so pretty she is. This movie is like a victory and escape for women of domestic violence. I cringe when people say "why doesn't she just leave? When you are at the fists of someone you are petrified of everyday you tell me. Also I am watching movies to escape all the terrible things happening. I pray for all those women and children caught. Please I wish they could all know that.
I've always said "IF anyone puts their hands on me in an unfriendly way, they better be gone when i get up, because they'll be dead when I do", and I meant it.
You dangerous hey. Why not join the army
This I can relate to never understand why these women keep going back thinking their husband will change
never happens.
@@citzeneyestatistically women if they live long enough, will go back an average of 35 times, before they leave for good. It’s scary how low some of these women’s self esteem must be to think in some deluded way they deserve this treatment. 🤷♀️
@@FaizelMoosa-og3ylerrr no, I’m a woman who KNOWS she doesn’t deserve to be treated poorly. AND I happen to own more than one gun!
@@citzeneye most get lied too, like he'll never touch you again, things will be better..on and on
Good movie, fight for the right especially for the children, thank you for uploading.
And she never told anyone very very stupid, I ain’t protecting no man like that
She was not stupid
She was victim of a sadistic man, pressure and threats keeps even your sleep away, your courage, your personnality, friends are not there anymore, ppl are weak... all of them judge but who really help those women?
No one, very very little do
When woman didn’t get heard in the courts and had to repeatedly be abuse by their husbands, . To al the woman out there that are being abused. Do not stand for it ! We’ve come a long way✌🏽
And sadly womens rights are being taken away right before our eyes. Many think it's all about "pro choice." It's like they've forgotten that it wasn't long ago in America that a man's wife was viewed as his property. Not even in the 70s could a woman's finance be considered to purchase a property.
I don't know why women want us all to go back to these times. I wish those who want to would do it and leave the rest of us out of it.
This is a situation I don't understand and probably never will.
Same here
me neither
We dont have to understand things to have empathy for others if you mean the mother should have ...
It's actually easy to understand.
Especially a woman with children.
You love someone.
You give up a career to bring up your children.
You love them nore then anything.
Your husband abuses you and you know he may take your children from you or worse kill you and eventually abuse your children.
You have little money,maybe the worst if you have no family to help you out.
That's how this happens.
And everyday it's happening.
The laws are getting better but still are stacked against these woman.
Thank God for these shelters.
Do it for your children & get out before its too late!
It makes my blood boil that this happens to kids, its trauma!
Please get out there's always an opportunity to sneak out & speak up ! 🙏
I did.
I agree with you. Once a man starts to abuse you like this, he is not going to stop and it will only going to get worse. Staying with a man like this and having children only makes matters worse as they will suffer from depression and anxiety and other mental disorders. I found that calling the police and getting a restraining order does not really help. They will eventually find you and the sad part is that the victim usually dies. Our judicial system in America is too lenient when it comes to 'ABUSE'. They need to change the law and make sure the abusers receive an appropriate sentence, not Community Service, and also they desperately need counseling for Anger Management. Women should never be ashamed to speak up.
I'm sad all over again 😢
@@maryannmaycen3124the reason the laws more than likely stay lenient is bc the wealthy & powerful men lobby the law makers to keep them that way. We're going backwards in time. Women are losing their autonomy and rights yet millions of women are turning a blind eye. And this isn't just about "pro choice"
,.@@maryannmaycen3124 you got that right.and the guys know where those addresses are for women homes..where the police take them..my ex did, was there the next day..I don't know who tells them..
Lol okay well and the mother is not into trauma ?
Its easy to point fin fingers but so many people DONT want to help them when they want to hide or need money, judges and cops many dont even hear them
How sad and how pathetic this judicial system is so broken. This scenario happens every single day and it's called "the good ole' boys club". Any judge who turns away from this kind of abuse should have to turn his robe in.. He's nothing more than a mockery and there are plenty of them out there.. It's disgusting and I don't believe it will ever change.
good old boys happened here in ireland 2 weeks ago young woman attacked beaten unconscious 22 year old man in the army let off scott free she is lucky to be alive judge pure ah
@ritadonnelly8820 So very sad. Women are still treated horribly and so unfairly.
It's more pathetic to put up with that kind of abuse instead of leaving at the first strike... before getting married, before having a child, before having yet ANOTHER CHILD! Abuse never comes out of the blue and it always escalates. That fist slap when they start dating are huge red flags. Why won't they leave then?
It won’t. The system is designed to really not care, but they make loads of money tho! Gives false hope
This is why every woman should learn basic karate skills....no woman should be that helpless 😢
Karate won't help you, lmao
They never quit beating the women I lived through it I pray for all the women that are in this situation now
Economic and psychological independence are so important for women. And we have to teach girls about this narcissistic personality disorder..
I agree with the last sentence
This is hard to watch my heart breaks for anyone who is going through this or has been through it. The fear would be overwhelming not knowing what to do especially when there is children involved. It would have been so hard for her to be told she's not allow to tell anyone where she is hiding let alone try to get the children. I don't understand why men do this they hurt then they say sorry then they do it again and again. Only way to stop this is to GET OUT!!! So many women around the world never got out! There is HELP its important to have the courage to REACH out and say I need HELP! That's all it takes...Bless Maryanne Walker for finally standing up the support around her is what she needed. And to help other women to let them know they are not alone.
My mother was a survivor of domestic violence. I can relate to this sad movie it made me cry because my evil bastard dad hit my mum and emotionally abuse me. He is a evil monster he hit his wife and he is scaring his kids. She is a good mother she love her kids and want to protect her kids. She has the right to take her kids away from their violent father. She doesn't deserve to be lock up in prison and she didn't nothing wrong. Her evil monster husband threaten her and she ended up in hospital and nearly died. She should call the cops and charge him for physically abusing her. He deserve to be lock up in prison for a long time. His got a bad temper and he is not sorry and he will hit her again. She deserves to live in peace with her kid's.
Sorry this happened to you and your mom.
Its not way to live.
I hope you are all safe now.
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This people are great actors.
Not really. But every aspect of what happens in abusive relationship was portrayed here. Perhaps all of it doesn't happen all the time but it's pretty damn close.
This guy was bad at pretending to be aggressive, but he played well.
Man, the old Lifetime weekend movie binge days!! Legit movies like this! Not like now where it’s always the single mom living in some mansion as an ad exec with the same plot line lol. Bring these movies back!
Why didnt she take Jason to the doctor for his blue bruised eyes n lodge a police report on abuse
If I happen to marry a kind of guy like this he will be the one to be confined in the hospital. I was raised a fighter and my grandfather was strong respected man who taught us to be wise, strong and fight whenever needed.
What a movie?... excellent actors...even the children have done excellent job...
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Kids will hate you forever if you put your hands on they're Mom's!
Still more common than we all realise. Here in Australia over 40 women have been killed by their husband/partner/boyfriend/or ex in the past 5 months.
DV is everybody's business. If you know it's happening to someone you know (of either sex) don't turn the other way!
Prayers for Australia. Thanks for your comments.
I am in Australia like you,it's so bad here, I was married to a wife basher in the 80s it's sad that in this day and age it's still going on.
Had a friend from Australia, escaped to America,
Lost her boys, still lives here,remarried,no children, sad..😢
I can’t imagine putting up with this kind of abuse… Praise God I’ve never had to!
*The newer Lifetime movies are so bad, they're good! The '80s/'90s* *movies were well done!*
This is exactly how recently there have been men murdering their children to hurt their wives. Why has nothing changed in all this time? Why is the law still allowing children to be put in a dangerous situation?
I wonder if Joanna Kerns is still making movies... Loved all th once she did...
You can always search and what is Joanna Kerns doing now
My heart goes out to families in these situations. It can be a snowball affect in the children's family life. Anger is a terrible outward emotion.
I couldn't watch this! My anger was boiling over ... It's absolutely terrifying and traumatic for young children to see their mother or father being beaten by the other parent, especially when it happens frequently. The stress, the paralyzing fear, the helplessness, the wishing desperately all the yelling and screaming would stop, the embarrassment of other people knowing what happens in their house, and the shame that comes with it. The ways in which children, and the parent, can carry this trauma and shame throughout their lives, such as repeating the cycle / pattern of abuse, or turning to toxic substances like drink, smoking and drugs to cope. It's awful! Much more needs to be done by the authorities and the system to protect the victims of domestic violence
It's not the authorities' fault those women let it get that far instead of leaving at the first red flags, before getting married, before having children... what are they waiting for, ending up in a black bag, leaving their children orphan?
This movie reminds me how I was passing through, with my marriage. I was married very young, after 7 year's he started to hit me and bring womans in the house and through me sleeping outside and he sleeps with 3 women's, the problem my parents passed so I didn't have where to go. is long story but now he died, we lived 34 years. I cried so much during watching this lady how she was passing through. 11.07.24.
I hope you're doing ok now.
@@rasta487 yes am fine tnx, my gran children is my happiness, since my husband died I never trusted any man, and I never loved some one. the problem is when I see movie like this, always reminds me in the passt. 13.07.24.
@@mariamfritsi4943 your testimony of survival will help people. Thank you for graciously sharing.
@@mariamfritsi4943 . You have helped someone today by letting them know they're not alone & their future can be like yours. Thank you.
I hope you are doing well . Live peace with people you love..
He doesn't hit me anymore. I took him to court for Domestic Violence. Now he just controls me other ways. He doesn't want to go to jail anymore.
@Louise-p2k please just hit him back with errything you got, in the event he wants to take a trip down memory lane😂
Never depend on man financially
Exactly 💯 that's what I always went throughout my Life never depends on Men or anyone else!
Never depend on woman sexually
There are women who are doing far better financially than their husbands yet get battered and their money taken and spent on other women. Money is not always a defense against brutal men but GUTS! Abusive men are cowards who pick their victims. You have to match an abuser's madness
@@bhellenbello311 have a character!!! It is help a lot !!
@@bhellenbello311 it very important that women has to be independent especially financially because she can just moved on without him knowing the only problem is when they have kid's but still she can get divorced and split Children visitation every problem has a solution only narrow minded Controlling people make it difficult!
So many women live like this. So many “good guys” act like this behind doors.
So true.
Yes..." pillars of the community"..
@@catherineannelockman3805 UGH the "nice guys" are the worst
That's why I'm laughing when people admire string couples
I have seen many movies lately about spousal abuse. This is the best but saddest in my opinion.
Her mother....infuriating.
I watched this before and watched again because it's a great movie.
Spousal abuse comes in many forms.. not only physical.. let your voice be heard!
Why does the judge always stick up for the abuser
Always always always
It never fails..
Male
Because most judges are narcissistic abusers themselves.
I swore not to ever ever again stay with the abusive person , I quit at once
Take pics and document every single instance of physical abuse and report or tell someone please. You can do to your local biker club and they will help you get out if you don’t want the police involved ask a biker.
Now i'm 67 so i can see this movie.
But in many year i can't.
My Father could never say sorry after hia little sober.
He be much anger instead.
One time he coming drunk to my room and hug my bone.
I crying and promise myself if i have a wife and children i never hit them or be angry.
I divorced two times and only leave it.
Now i find my woman since 15 year and i say i love you every day.
But my children are brainwashed so we have no contact.
I give them all i have.
The boys are 32 and 36 today.
I wonder howe they take care of their family today with loan and crazy World?
Maybe the children will take contact with me and wonder where Grandfather are?
I needed to see this today. Never stop fighting for your children.
He says he loves her, as she's lying in the hospital, from his beating up on her!!
(Like Sleeping With The Enemy movie).
Batterers always cry, or say they love women after they beat them up.
I've had a few abusive boyfriends in the ancient past, and whenever I would try to leave them, they would either cry and beg me to stay, or they would threaten me if I tried to leave.
The abuse of women (& children ) continues today ... June 9, 2024.
And despite the reality of some progress the strong & overpowering anchor that holds back the true capacity for much needed progress, still exists. Overturning Roe vs Wade & now pending legislation to ban access to birth control are reflective of the strong undercurrents of what also leaves battered & abused women still very vulnerable... and the resources for help are dangerously challenged by rapidly escalating demand. There is still much work to be done ... the battle is far from over
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Please stop using and hooking onto other causes to battle for abortion rights.
This country is trying to force women backwards, we're going to have to fight battles we've already won all over again.
You're ridiculous and overreaching. Please educate yourself on the reality of roe vs wade. You people act like by overturning that it means no woman can ever get an abortion, and you're WRONG.
ALL it did was put the decision back in the states hands: where it BELONGS!
The remake of this movie that came out in 1995 was just as good as this one if not better!
Une femme peut tout faire pour ses enfants voilà ce que je retiens de ce film si touchant j'espère que cet homme a été condamné
What is with the music throughout the entire movie. It's a little distracting.
The silly piano music almost spoiled the movie for me. But the movie was so good, I put up with it.
Probably because it's over 30 years old
This is how I grew up, my mother never left him no matter how much I Insisted, she never did. The only thing that stop the abuse after almost 20 years was God, he chanched my father. But the scars go deep in all of us only God will heal us too. My players go to this kind of families going throug these cycle of abuse.
He has so much anger so much rage
I too, would suffered that along time ago, but you never forget it. I pray for everybody who has gone through it and the ones that are going there’s a way Can get better counseling is key and God is key God first counseling second and find yourself the good person that you know you are I made so many mistakes, but I’m better now, but it caused my kids and I’m ashamed of that even though it was a very long time ago the pain is still there🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
It’s sad when you have no support in your parents. I’d never let any man abuse me and I find it hard to empathise with women who endure abuse. But one thing I know is that if I were ever bullied or abused by anyone my mom would be on their case like a hawk. Maybe that’s why I’m so strong because I was raised to be strong and I always knew I have support in my folks
Did you just say you have no empathy for the abused? Privileged you! Nobody enjoys abuse, if you knew how psychology works, you’d understand. Same way the military breaks a soldier is the same a man or woman can break another person.
The ONLY comment I agree with.
@@bettyk9771so now it's anybody else's fault that those women let it get that far? Why wouldn't they leave at the first red flags, why would they marry a psychopath like that? Why do they even dare having not one, but two, three, four children with them? They put themselves AND THEIR CHILDREN in that position!!
@@bettyk9771 hard to feel empathy for someone who's become their abuser's accomplice.
I worked for an attorney who only represented victims of DV. I did the intake..I heard some God awful stories. Movies like this are important..its pretty freaking accurate. Except her 'Mother'..what a terrible person!
Women should know their rights legally.
Most important mothers should raise their sons better
@@GD-xc4wg Aren't fathers supposed to teach their sons better?!?!!
Actually she couldve won custody if she was patient enough to collect evidence on his abuse towards the children. The school principal would have made an excellent witness to the sons rage and
Violence issues and how the dad ignored the schools complaints. Also visit to the doctors office for that black eye would have been super helpful as well....
And let her kids suffer and be afraid days and nights ?
@@GD-xc4wg key word being patience. Nothing is to be achieved from fear and impulsiveness
That one more day of “patience” would probably have been her last or the kids.
@bettyk9771 if he wanted those children dead they would have been dead. But you see he needs them for his twisted urges
His movies will never get old. I am gonna have Google him up.
I know what's gotta show how bad it was before.I can get better , but movies like this make me so angry!! Like why is the school calling her when the kids are in his custody !?? Where do they think he's getting the anger from??
Brought back a lot of memories😢
This movie is making me cry 😢.
This movie made me cry. no woman deserves that kind of treatment. The ending was great,
No person at all deserves this.
No woman should ALLOW IT, instead they always prefer to be with their abuser, even when help is being offered, to the point they become their abuser's accomplice.
I had to stop the film as the music was so distractingly bad. Music should enhance a scene. This music seemed entirely random to a scene and poorly calibrated. Excruciating.
I hate the judge he protect the abuser not the victim. The Law need to change the man only has rights that not fair. It free country the women and children should have rights and should be protected.
Good movie, I”ll watch it again.
I endured abuse for way too long. I was dragged by my hair, beaten, belittled, assaulted, and barely made it out alive. I tried to rationalize his behavior. I thought once he stopped drinking and using drugs that he would be the wonderful man I fell in love with. I waited way too long. He remarried someone just like him and now they abuse each other and that is their “normal”.
Worst abuse is verbally
To each their own view. I can't imagine being physically abused.
I have suffered both... internal scares never heal ...
@sweetieisin1 thanks to both of you ladies for sharing.
I have suffered verbal, emotional, physical and psychological abuse. It’s all equally terrifying and traumatic. The physical is the worst at the moment but the mental is what leaves long lasting pain.
How many abused victims dont get to tell their story but die at the hands of their abuser
I can't watch anymore my blood is boiling.
she should have a restraining order against him
It is worthless with these pos
I cant cope with that judge what a tosser
What’s a tosser? Where are you from??
I think that is British speak.
The music demotes this movie. It is distracting and awful. Stop putting dang music in these movies!
I agree.
Come on, these are fractions of a second, seriously you have nothing to complain about?
The father needs therapy for anger management!
More than this I think
Its hard to believe there are men out there like this and even worse, its very hard to watch!
I remember watching this as a kid and cryinggggggg !
BEfore even reading any , bet the Like Farmers are out in full swing with the “ It happened to me, that happened to me, and feel sorry for me” comments.. sad and pathetic
If you accept to get beaten ,just too bad ,ofc I understand there’s circumstances,kids ,depending on husband,etc ,but as soon as ur kids witness or be part of violence,there’s no excuse to stay in that home ,not a single excuse!8
Yes, it’s hard to leave but at some point try to leave when they are not around
Drop the piano 🎹 music please! This is what destroys the movie.
Agree 100%. It is so annoying.