Q&A: Advice for beginner transitioning
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- Опубліковано 15 вер 2024
- You asked for advice as you're just starting your transgender journey- Here ya go!
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SoftServed Gentleman shares (with vulnerability) his life experience about Recovery/Mental Health, Sobriety, Traveling, Divorce, and being Transgender. He has documented his entire transgender journey since he first started medically transitioning in 2017 (at the age of 27) and has created a safe space for those in the community.
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Thank you for sharing your experience and advice. It matters! You are an amazing person and I appreciate everything you do ❤
You are so welcome 💕
My 2 cents: Born female, molested by dad n brother through childhood. I hated being female. Dressed to cover my hideous body, no make up, no femininity allowed bc that means I’d be raped. I’m 64 now, about 7 yrs ago I finally started wearing make up, female clothes etc. I love being female. Not ashamed or scared anymore.
My instincts were protecting me all those yrs. But it was never really about me not being female.
I loved motorcycles, and lots of manly things, but I also loved lace and colors etc. but never showed that side of me. Very very tomboy.
Anyways my advice is wait b4 you start hormones or altering your body. If I had done this 40 yrs ago, I’d be sorry now. I was just an abused girl trying to survive this world. It would be awful to come around psychologically in my 50’s only to see I had chopped off my boobs and lived as a man my whole life just to be safe from men.
Love to all💜
To be honest, you're not qualified in any way. Also, the fact that you're damaged gives you no insight into other folks identities.
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your experience with us. Everyone's story is different, and as I said in the video that's what makes life great. Our paths haven't been easy But they do help with awareness. With that, your experience, while valid, is not the same for everyone.
I knew I was a boy at 3 and didn't come out until 27. I am glad I had the experiences I did, yet it was difficult.
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Of course my experience is valid, my story is my story. No need to be validated by anyone. As is everyone’s story. I never said everyone’s story is same as mine. I just felt I wanted to share my story. Thought it could be helpful to some.
@Islandgirl2133 thanks for sharing!
There are way too many absolutely heartbreaking stories I've listened to of people saying they regret ever transitioning in the first place. And a lot of them are from people who transitioned at a young age... So, I truly hope anyone that feels the need to transition pours a tremendous amount of research and thought into this before they make any drastic changes to their body.
The last thing you want is to go from being disphoric in the body you were born into, to permanently traumatized from everything that went horribly wrong in your attempts to make yourself feel more like you.
I think there's a common misconception with other people thinking it's easy to be trans. It's an entire process. We are changing our entire lives and it every aspect takes an incredible amount of research. Detransitioning is even MORE difficult but sometimes it's necessary for multiple reasons. Doesn't mean their experiences are invalid and doesn't mean younger trans peoples aren't valid either.
@SoftServedGentleman No, absolutely, it doesn't mean they aren't valid. But, I do think some people rush into the medical aspect of it way too fast. You gotta be ready, and fully aware of everything that might backfire. Also, definitely research the medical teams. If at any time it feels like they are treating you as a science experiment instead of a human being, then run. It can be hard to accept, but sometimes it's the doctors who tell you 'no' that have your best interests at heart.
@@SoftServedGentleman You trans are giving up all you have to chase after something you will never have and you destroy families in the process.
Damn, sorry that triggered you.
Everyone is different and has their own experiences!
Thanks for this video!! It’s great to have a resource to help when people are looking for advice. Transition has been so good for my mental health and I hope everyone who’s dreaming about it gets to experience it!
I'm glad your transition is going well. I'm always here!
Your authentic self would be you. No changes.
Good thing that nothing about me has changes except the social perspective of others!
@@SoftServedGentlemanYou’re talking genuine insanity.
@@SoftServedGentleman It's obvious that you're a biological female though. You cannot hide that. So the social perspective hasn't changed either.
@@tropicalpalmtreeShe thinks being a man equals having tattoos and chopping off her breasts.
Yooo women are strong as fuck, thanks for the compliment!!
Advice ...don't do it
Says youuuu, thanks for the support!
@@SoftServedGentlemanYou are last in the synthetic sex identity pyramid. Trans women are above trans men by the way. On top you have Arcus, Blackrock, big pharma and they don’t really care about you. You’re just a source of money
Alright bro
@@SoftServedGentleman You're trying too hard to fit in with the blokes, when you're so obviously a woman.
Yoooo, women are strong as fuck. They literally make humans- not an insult. Try harder.
valuable advice. I also had the experience of being pushed back in the closet when I came out as non-binary to family 10 years ago. my advice would be: don't let people gaslight you into believing that your gender dysphoria isn't real or just needs to be ignored. I tried my whole childhood to be a girl and it only made me more uncomfortable with myself. whether or not you decide to physically transition, socially transition, or whatever, those feeling are real and deserve to be treated however you decide to treat them.
Thank you for this and sharing your experiences with me!
Wrong. They need to be treated according to what is medically appropriate and with due consideration to the effect of your actions on families and partners. You do not get to impose on others something so hurtful. And after the Cass report we now know that risk of suicide increases considerably after medical transition
@@rd123.the medically appropriate treatment for gender dysphoria is transition, according to all major medical institutions.
@@mcxe123 Excuse me, stop grooming people. The Cass Report says there’s no evidence medical transition benefits anybody. The days of your cult are over.
That was the most cult-y thing I've ever heard. You're setting the example there!
2:02 you're basically painting 'the haters' as anyone who tries to push back against them going down this route, and will be perceived as even their own parents, families and friends.
You should check out some of my other content 💕
Oh yes, this cult destroys families
Your cult? @@rd123.
@@SoftServedGentleman No, the gender cult. Your cult.
Hehe alright bubs
Haha a tutorial on how to transition? 😂 unbelievable. You can’t make this up. Wait! You can! 😂
Weird, I didn't see DIY in this but thanks for the compliment. Yup, feel free to ask me any questions and I'll happily answer them :)
Wow, lots of god botherers in the comments talking about "delusion" how ironic!
Right!??
I dont think taking health risks is very wise.
Everything in life (in this day and age) is a health risk..
Stop with all this Foolishness and hurting young people. If you want to be a freak because you need attention and don't fit in.Don't put your issues on instant children
Why are yall talking about young people? This has nothing to do with minors 😆
@@SoftServedGentleman When you appear on UA-cam it could be said that you’re grooming others. Genuinely disphoric people don’t like being the centre of attention
It could also be me answering a honest questions based off my own personal experience (like I stated)
Thank you for your input @rd123.
@@SoftServedGentleman You have a trans youth poster in the background.
@@tropicalpalmtreeOf course. They can’t reproduce so they come for our children
Everyone transitions differently. Basically, isn't it important to tell people that they can also transition without* any biomedical interventions ?
Do you "have to" take a Rx (T or E), and "have to" get surgery....... to be validly Trans ???
Are you JUST AS VALIDLY Trans ... if you don't opt for those biomedical interventions ?
Or are you seen as "less valid, less trans" ???
What do you think on this?
Is there a hierarchy in the Trans community and those that opt to not do biomedical interventions, are they looked at as "less trans" ?
It’s a cult
You're obsessed swampy @@rd123.
I have plenty of trans friends who don’t wish to transition medically. They are happily accepted by everyone who’s not an asshole.
@@mcxe123 Nobody is trans. Nobody is born in the wrong body.
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The best advice is to be yourself. Which is what you were born. The best advice is to seek God for help to love the body He gave you. He makes no mistakes. Your body is who He wanted you to be. Trust in God that he did not make a mistake whem creating you. - Spoken only out of love and concern. Don't cut up your body. Instead get the mental healing you need. Most regret the transition and it never really makes them happier.
Did you see my tattoo?
Best advice and comment ❤
@@SoftServedGentlemanDeuteronomy is as clear as water: You shall not cut yourselves.
@@rd123.only god can judge
@@mcxe123 No. Everyone can judge. We have freedom of speech and we have brains.
I love all of yall 💋
Yet you promote the drugging and mutilation of young people (as per your “trans youth” poster behind you) and in cosplaying as a man you mock the real men who have sacrificed everything for their families and their countries. You have bought into an ideology that destroys families and ruins children’s bodies. Things are changing. We are going to stop your cult.
transition to go bald
Love that 😀
@@SoftServedGentleman why?
Because it's funny and you're silly 💋
@@SoftServedGentleman you are not providing any answers, really.just letting questions slide shows lack of substance,and you say you want to advise people.
@bohotumbleweed8319 pretty sure I've stated it's based on my personal experience. Watch the whole thing and try again.
It is not going well for you in your comment section. Sadly, I agree with them all.
The internet is a weird place. That's what happens when videos get shared in hate groups hehe
@@SoftServedGentleman I don't see a difference of opinion as hate. A lot of people watch a wide variety of channels on a specific topic and get a more rounded perspective of the reality surrounding certain topics and issues. Although transitioning might work for some there are really many, many regrets and then they cannot get her balls or their breasts or their penises back. I have seen this regret across the age spectrum. As young as late twenties till deep into the sixties and seventies. I think the one commentator made a good point when she said do not change your anatomy. Live as the opposite sex, but don't cut stuff off which cannot be put back. You can never ever in your life experience true sexual pleasure if you do that. The doctors cannot make a clitoris or a sexsually functioning penis. Just one more testimony of how great God is and that God is real. Us humans would like to think that we know everything and can do anything and fiddle with God's creation and yet we know nothing and just messes up as far as we go.
I wish you the happiness that you are so desperately looking for and I hope that this works out for you for as long as you are alive.
Oh, it will!
Not beautiful
~ TRANS IS BEAUTIFUL ~
No, trans some of the most disgustingly fugly people I have ever seen.
And dishonest narcissists to boot.
Don’t let the nice people who are afraid to say true things fool you.
You are destroying yourself.
You look like the fat balding comic book dude from the Simpsons.
@@SoftServedGentlemanMutilation is not beautiful. The sterilisation of children is not beautiful. Destroying families is not beautiful. Imposing an ideology on other people is not beautiful
Yet you're here...watching me. Lol creep
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, bubs 💋
Thank you for this video! I am pre-transition, and newly "out". I had heard about too much T converting to estrogen. How would I know what the right level for me is, if my healthcare professional didn't disclose it or know? Cheers 🩷🤍🩵
I'm not a Doctor, so I would recommend reaching out to them! However, there is a range and it should be within that specific range. Def look into it. Message me on Insta if you have any other questions or need a friend!
Stop while you can.
Please, I really mean that - you are probably a coolass "gender nonconforming" weirdo, like I am.
Whatever you want to do or be, but think you can't because of your sex - just do it! There is no need to destroy your body to "better fit" peoples weird hangups and stereotypes, concerning this made up "gender" thing.
There is no wrong way to be a boy or a girl.
It's like with height. Men are taller than women on average. This doesn't mean that a woman who is taller than 85% of men is suddenly a man somehow - or less of a woman, or anything like this. She would just be unusually tall, but still 100% woman. Same thing if she was more masculine than 85% of men. She would just be unusually masculine, but still 100% woman.
Gender is fake. "Gender Identity" is even faker.
(I'm not saying people are lying - I'm saying that gender is an idea in peoples heads, like other beliefs and ideas. But it's not something unchanging or intrinsic, like for example being left or right handed is).
Sex is real. There are exactly two sex and they are biological categories, created by evolution because of how mammal reproduction works - and they CAN'T change. Everyone knows it. Even animals knows it. Some people just pretend otherwise because of ideological reasons.
If you have body dysphoria related to the fact of your sexed body, that is of cause regrettable and I'm sorry for you. All body dysphoria are very serious and distressing mental conditions. But they should be treated - not affirmed.
Transitioning is like treating anorexia with liposuction and diet pills.
Read the Cass review. Actually read it. Read the WPATH files.
I'd say I'd pray for you, but that always sounds hella condescending and I'm a hardcore Atheist.. But.
Please.
Damn, for someone who doesn't care, you sure seem to..
@@SoftServedGentleman Fairly certain I never said I don't care (can't confirm since it seems you deleted my comment). I do care. A lot. I would probably have fallen for this horrific ideology and subsequent "medical" mutilation, if I were born 10 years later.
What you are doing is the exact opposite of how the fight for freedom concerning "gender" (actually sex) is supposed to go, and have been going since the 60's.
Just be yourself. Don't damage your body. Fuck stereotypes.