Coercive Control as Intimate Partner/Domestic Abuse: Understanding the Harm, Advocating for Change
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- Опубліковано 12 бер 2023
- Over the past few years, a number of states have moved to include coercive control as a basis for protection from abuse. Coercive controlling abuse is a pattern of conduct that has the purpose or effect of substantially restricting the other parent's safety or autonomy through intimidation, implicit or explicit threats, or by compelling compliance. From monitoring and surveilling of daily personal activities to threatening to call DCF or immigration authorities as a tool of control, survivors and their advocates know that at the heart of intimate partner abuse is power and control. Learn about the complex tactics of coercive control which include isolation, manipulation, intimidation, and financial, legal, physical, and sexual abuse.
Join us for an informative panel of experts discussing how this issue impacts survivors in Massachusetts. We will discuss how Massachusetts can improve protections for survivors by joining other states (such as CT and CA) in updating laws by adding coercive control. This legislative session, Jane Doe Inc., Massachusetts Law Reform Institute and dozens of partners have joined together to advocate for a bill that would recognize coercive control as a basis for 209A (Restraining Order) protection.
This panel will feature Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship author Dr. Lisa Fontes, gender expert Dr. Mei-Ling Ellerman, MLRI Attorney Jamie Sabino and will be moderated by JDI's Policy Director Hema Sarang-Sieminski, Esq.
Lisa A. Fontes, PhD, is an internationally known expert on intimate partner abuse, and sexual violence. As a researcher, activist, expert witness, and author, she works to protect the most vulnerable people from violence. Her most recent book is: Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship. Dr. Fontes is a Senior Lecturer II at the University of Massachusetts Amherst in the Department of Interdisciplinary Studies.
Dr. Mei-Ling Ellerman is a gender expert affiliated with Brandeis University, whose work focuses on domestic abuse and coercive control. The Domestic Abuse Research & Advocacy Project gathers data on the experiences of survivors of color and their interactions with the justice system. She collaborates with MLRI, Casa Myrna, and the Asian Task Force against Domestic Violence, to conduct research and apply findings to improve services, raise awareness, and advocate for reform.
Jamie Sabino is the Deputy Director of Advocacy and the Managing Attorney of the Civil Legal Needs for Victims of Crime Initiative (CLAVC) at MLRI. In addition she serves as lead advocate for the Domestic Violence Legal Assistance Project (DVLAP) including facilitating the Family Law Task Force, a statewide group of legal services family law attorneys, attorneys in domestic violence service provider agencies and attorneys involved in family law pro bono programs and law school clinics. Prior to this position Ms. Sabino served for over 13 years as the VAWA STOP Grant Coordinator for the Massachusetts Trial Court, were she worked at a policy level on how the Trial Court handled cases involving domestic violence and sexual assault.
Hema Sarang-Sieminskiis the Policy Director of Jane Doe Inc. (MA Coalition Against Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence. Attorney Sarang-Sieminski works closely with JDI members and numerous partnerships and collaborations to assess and improve how policies and systems respond to survivors and their communities across the state. Hema supports JDI members in advocating for funding and legislative and system change impacting survivors. She has over twenty years of experience representing survivors of sexual assault and domestic violence in immigration and other civil matters.
The problem has been that we call one incident of yelling and cursing "abuse," instead of understanding that abuse is a pattern of asserting power over another person. "Coercive control" helps us understand how to differentiate abuse from the normative conflict and fights that can happen in relationships.
So thankful for this video and the recognition of Coercive Control and the pending legislation to include it in statute for a 209A. I'm a survivor of 26yrs. of Coercive Control and I am also a Safeplan Advocate for the past 22yrs. 💜.
A narcissist abused me for 8 months, then passed the baton to the justice system. I'm still fighting for my truth almost 3 years later. I have enough evidence to prove beyond a reasonable doubt that, not only was she the abuser and aggressor, a judge is also abusing me. I can show clearly that he destroyed court documents and has behaved in a criminal mannor towards me.
Thank you all who have brought coercive control to the forefront. This is more a domestic relations issue; this is a human rights issue. Coercive control is the foundation of all forms of abuse. Let our voices be heard in promoting legislation to expand the definition of domestic violence. Please ask your MA state legislators to support HB1547 and SB1077 in the 193rd legislative session. Thank you!
Not only spousal, but other family relationships!
This is much needed information. It gives us a great new understanding of coercive control . These wonderful women have given us a greater awareness of this particular abuse that blends along as Domestic Violence.🌺🌺
Anyone intruding on you, crossing boundaries, or making statements that make you feel violated (particularly after disclosing trauma) does not deserve a shred of your time.
People who engage in coercive control, WILL ramp up their abuse over time.
I've never seen anything different.
my Cinderella nightmare STILL continues, to this very day.. 💁🏼♀ al-tho, he's no longer harming me ,as a sleeping minor, NOW he's trying to take my HOME away.. 💔
This is so true I use to be a out going person after each attack I lost more and more strength.
Not any more
yes ...
my credit report has items on it
I did not have or apply for.
When I didn't want sex
Was told " you will ! "
Women put their safety and lives at risk everyday. Pursuit of a restraining order can be an excellent first step to ensure prosecution, if/when things escalate. Courts and judges are not interested in harrassment, abuse, let alone escalation and extension to coercive control. But we have to keep working towards improvement. Judges are numb in some ways, but willing to help, in others. Keep stable, or moving forward.
Thank you so much for this webinar. Looking at legislation in UK 2015. Such a valuable resource.
Thank you for this. It is a great educational tool for so many!
It took me a year and a half to write a 30-page document citing nearly 300 pages of evidence and when I emailed this to my public defender she actually called me back with her manager on the phone to abuse me further ignoring all of my evidence ignoring everything I had to say just because they are not aware.
Well,
If something exists, and you're not aware of it, doesn't mean it's not real or able to significantly harm someone.
I feel that the judicial system makes too many plea deals and even the police force victimize the victims even more. In my case they lowered his felony DUI to a misdemeanor if he pled guilty to the felony domestic abuse charge. The order of protections do nothing. He violated his bond conditions and order of protection so many times, but I was told leave a paper trail, yeah a paper trail to the dead victim. What was said about it looking like the abuser goes for months without doing anything is true. My abuser looks like he went five years where he had been clean and no trouble. That's only because I drove when he was too drunk, no incidents of abuse, because I didn't report him, he'd say he'd change. I took pictures of the abuse, but state's attorney didn't care about previous incidents, only the last one, when I finally called police. So he really didn't have a clean record those five years was I protecting him from being charged. As far as receiving any reimbursement, haven't seen mine yet.
How do we introduce that education to our lawyers????? They feel like I'm underestimating them or undermining their intelligence....
24:19 Right on!
Thank you!!
Much love¡!¡
Thosnos super helpul ha e escaped from a same sex DV relationship last month and this is so accourate.
Which films mirror coercive control?
What about part ownership of a house property so they can visit when they want, still have that financial control, saying, I get nothing out of doing this, I cant do anything with my partner
Evil Men! Typical🙄
It is more men than woman who commit to those behaviors/ crimes (2/3 to 1/3 approximatly). Do not shame the ones delivering the facts; shame the ones responsible.
Does it have to be premeditated or could it just be due to their upbringing?
I asked my daughter about a hand message he made on counter and she got very angry has evern gone as far as saying "I'm sick of you " and a friend said leave her out of my drama.
Yet she played part in the charades the Lord just said charades
Covert Narcissists use it, my self-proclaimed Feminist Ex never used a bad word or even violence to get me traumabonded
You can't stay out til 5am and neglect your husband and kids! "Omg your abusing me!" What a damn joke 😂
You CAN stay out until 5 am and there is nothing wrong with it.