Bipolar Disorder: 7 Things We Might Not Tell You!
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It's amazing to see more people talking openly about living with Bipolar Disorder! Mental health awareness continues to grow and I'm so proud to be part of that with Polar Warriors. Even with all the things we DO talk about openly when it comes to Bipolar Disorder, there's still just as much that we DO NOT talk about... Things that still "go on behind closed doors."
Today I'd like to talk about 7 things people with Bipolar Disorder don't tell everyone. Things we might not want everyone to know. I'm no stranger to tackling difficult topics on this channel and take pride in being very transparent about my Bipolar experiences. If there's something important you feel I missed, join the conversation in the comments! I'd love to hear your thoughts and I hope you feel very welcome here.
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An emotionally unavailable partner is the most paiful thing to a person suffering from bipolar.
“We have no idea what we’re doing most of the time.” Hahaha That’s so awesome.
Ya I feel we are so random people
It’s really true LOL. My life is a constant guessing game but I guess that keeps things exciting... sometimes 😁😁❤️
Yea at that part I said out loud, "Ain't that the damn truth!"
@@PolarWarriors I can appreciate this line completely and agree, but I struggle with "we have no idea what we're doing most of the time" and "but that doesn't mean you can take my sovereignty". I get that I may need help making decisions sometimes, but I struggle with not knowing myself or being able to figure out who to trust when I'm starting a new relationship. I've been in 2 relationships where their general consensus is " you can't take care of yourself because you're bipolar" and I was laughed at when I would start a new project because they didn't think I was capable... How do you handle this?
@@PolarWarriors If you really mean this, then I respectfully say your not mindful enough. :)
‘we don’t need and usually don’t even have a reason for being upset’ THANK YOU
I’m crying my eyes out as I write this because I have never heard someone know me on this level...you have literally spoke my life❤️tyvm I don’t feel so alone at the age 50...I was 15 when diagnosed.....
People with bipolar also need to understand that when they say something hurtful towards someone else because they're having an episode, the other person may not want to be around them. It's hard for anyone to have sympathy when they're being insulted and screamed at over and over again.
I imagine most of us do.
Very true. I've lost many friends because of what you've just explained
@@hopewellchisata7272 I'm so sorry that has happened. It's strange how people tolerate sadness much more over anger. My husband has schizo affective, and his bipolar episodes make him say hurtful things sometimes. I just have to keep reminding myself that it's not him saying it, it's his disorder, and he always apologizes after a while. We've been together 14 years, so it gets easier to deal with the longer you know someone. Now, I can tell when he's struggling right when I walk into the room, so I have to balance emotiinally supporting him, yet keeping my own sanity. We have come a long way and I'm SO proud of him for never giving up and everything he's accomplished. Be proud of yourself for doing the same, because Lord knows how hard this disorder can be. Always apologize to loved ones if your disorder makes you say something harsh, and don't beat yourself up if it happens. We all have to work together to empathise with each other, and there are things the person with bipolar can work on, and things the person without it can work on. 💜
@@sage6269 Well said. Was helpful to read that. Thanks for sharing
Self care is crucial. We can help others if we help ourselves first.
"the weight of the world feels heavier for us." #facts !
"#4 - We don’t need, and usually don’t even have a reason for being upset." I laughed out loud at this one, I think because it is so real. It is so common for me and those around me to not understand why I am in the mood I am in. Sadly it is difficult for those around me and can cause issues in relationships as they try to figure out what the reason is.
I laughed out loud at this one too!! It’s so sad but so true!! I find myself scanning my life for any inconvenience because I can find a reason to be mad but I find it’s more of an explanation and reasoning for ourselves than to defend our anger to others 🙏🏼💖
As the daughter of a bipolar (and untreated) mother, if you think you may be bipolar, please seek help. My mother's mood swings have entrained me to be distrustful of people, a need to assess situations as safe or not safe, and a subsequent tendency to need to see things in black & white, and a lifelong struggle to be my authentic self. My mother's refusal to seek help may have hurt her, but I'm collateral damage.
Never heard anyone explain my feelings into words before quite like you can. God Bless
Lee Fray I know, right!? We are not alone in this!
Mr Lee. Fray I felt exactly the same after listening and watching my first video from this channel. He speaks in a language I finally understand. Its such a warm feeling being here with my peers. Thanks for letting me share. Have a kind day 🐘
Thats exactly how i feel. Since i was diagnosed when i was 14 . 😔
One of the hardest things in the world is being misunderstood.
Lee Fray I agree with you 100%
the guilt i feel about my actions pre-meds is overwelming at times
wsoftly1 I feel this too, But if your loved ones deeply understand and are moving forward ( forgive and forget) that really helps. It takes time and work and we may never forget but may find ourselves in a place to make it up to them. 😊
wsoftly1 Right!? Especially when the narcissists in my life keep throwing it in my face.
Bz Mama it’s hard, but FOR YOU, they have to not be so present in your life.
I am finally getting to a place in my life where I can forgive myself more. Whew! That took a while...but I'm here. And it matters!🙂
Kelly Berry Exactly . we are sick we can’t help that. I’m proud of you, It does make you sad because we’re human ( takes so much work to get there) But it’s a different breed.❤️
"Most of us are misdiagnosed at one point." Shout out to the therapist that decided I wasn't bipolar based on how I introduced myself to him!
"We all have our own brand of bipolar disorder." Shout out to my ex-friend who refused my diagnosis because I didn't act like her type one mother!
So True. One of my Psychotherapists: "we are all a bit Bipolar". To what I responded: "right now I don't need your pushy help" Seriously !
My psychiatrist listens peacefully & diagnises my problems.I shout also sometimes.I talk of murder or suiciding.I am blessed I have such a nice doctor.Thank God.
me who was misdiagnosed of antisocial personality disorder and i completely believed them cuz i was desperate lmao
Today is a bad bipolar day.... I've been in bed all day. I just found this channel. Thank you for the information. I appreciate that you are so open about your condition.
I swear I self sabotage to give myself a specific reason to feel pain so it’s not so directionless all the time. I related to this whole video sooo hard 😭 I also struggle with obsessive thoughts. Whether it’s cleaning, an argument, sex, a good experience, a test I took last week, and it’s so bad when I am manic 🙄
Michaella Trujillo ...I am so sorry you go through all that, and i absolutely know my daughter would relate so well. As a matter of fact right now we aren’t talking. I love her with all my heart, all my soul and all my being. Unfortunately my physical health is really not good. I dont want to make this about me, but just want you all to know its sick like i go for infusions twice a week and exhausted. I can’t be what she needs and i am not entirely sure what she needs and I know she would say that is the understatement of the century.
Can I ask whomever wants to answer a question (i know i can)? Do any of you obsess about things like cheating (in this instance it goes no further than that, not even flirting just for this examples purpose) and then you feel so guilty you tell your spouse significant other only for that to make the whole situation so much worse?
Joy Lisa wall Yes, I can be honest to a fault. Of course, when I’m manic, I may lie. The rest of the time I am constantly trying to practice brutal honesty about myself, but sometimes end up hurting someone else instead. I try, now, to think about whether or not something I have to say might hurt the other person, before speaking. I have intended to improve a relationship, only to damage it instead, when I speak impulsively.
I'm the exact same way. I can relate to everything you wrote. Your not alone.
Relate to this lots
Wait till the nightmares kick in, are you sleeping, I'm not.
I just found out my 50 year old son is bipolar...and it makes more sense to me why he is drowning in debt and going through a divorce. Thank you for the insights.
joan help.out there wish I could turn back the clock been in hospital twice miss disognosed feel the system failed me on 100 mg depekote day now
Support him in whatever way you can. He will appreciate it.
who else gets very depressed during the holidays???
Well, I would be the first to acknowledge your question, and it’s getting worse! My family tell me to “Just Get a Life” which makes me withdraw even further! I get no kind of respect, but I get plenty of ridicule, telling me I’m ONLY LOOKING FOR ATTENTION! 🤷♂️I wouldn’t wish THIS on anyone!
I do often
I think evry human dose not just bipolar
Very
@@youngplanet yes but that's usually bc their life is not so great for what ever reason, then the Holidays with all the happy commercials of families having a wonderful time. If you dread the hollidays as I have my entire adult life bc you have to see your mother or someone, who you can't feel comfortable around. Please just stay away. Don't wait till your 68 yrs old to go no contact, like I did. God bless you & I wish you peace !
My husband is bipolar. It has been difficult but we have been together 45 years now, including a divorce and a 5 yr separation. All I know is he loved me enough to finally get help and I love him so much for that. It has been a wild and wonderful ride and I always remind myself how special it is to be loved so deeply. Thanks for helping me to understand him just a little bit better so I can return his precious love.
Made me cry! Being bi-polar very is absolutely the hardest thing I’m trying to cope/control still at 30! I am bi-polar 1 with full blown psychosis catatonic depression at times and yes full blown check out of reality, at times it’s like having a out of body experience, when I’m manic and go psychotic I can’t remember any of it, times in life my bi polar has cost me great jobs, great people, I truly believe it takes years for a person to even start too grasp the concept and fill in the past un explainable acts, having to tell your loved ones all the time “I have no idea why I did that” gets old!
Me too
Just know you're not alone. I feel the same way. Blessings.
Hey im way on that page that isnt eary. I know the seduction of the manic is hard to let go and then the low that nobody handles and it always is taken to extremes. And the solutions aint like a cure. Know you are not playing this solo you are with all of us who have this happening and we are a sympony of love and dont forget how you are unique and needed by the rest and we will find a way to be happy.
Maybe it could get old. But after 9 years of marriage I wish my beloved husband could at least once say, "I don't know why I did that?" instead of what he does say. I know I'm not the reason for how he feels, I know because I support him every day. But this "If you said everything in the right tone, with the right words, and the right modivation then everything would be perfect with our comunication." Now that... that gets really old. What I have discovered is when he is somewhat ill there is nothing right I can say, only wrong. So I avoid the wrong as much as I can, tho still human.
It is special that you have that awareness now. I know my honey will get there too. I'm so excited for him to socialize with everyone here one day, he is a big networker.
Than you guys for supporting eachother.
I was diagnosed 3 years ago. I’ve just gotten to the point where I’m able to accept it, learn all I can, take my meds DAILY, be open to my partner when U feel an episode coming. It’s very frustrating! I agree. I had a bad episode 2:00 this morning. Thank God for this wonderful man of mine being patient because I could’ve spiraled out if control. I hope things are better for you now.
Because of you, my marriage is stronger, my patience is more, my understanding has expanded phenomenally. I love my husband through everything and you have helped me sort through his bipolar symptoms. Thank you for all of your time and effort, you were meant to do this. You help so many people, I wish you knew your impact. 💚
@Tandem Bike Thank you soo much for your dedication and love !
I'm hoping these videos will help me and my s.o.
Tandem Bike WOW!!! I am speechless. I can’t thank you enough for those words. 🤗🤗❤️❤️☀️☀️
-Rob
Tandem Bike this is so inspiring. Thank you so much.
@Tandem Bike
Aahh that is such a beautiful thing to say,an amazing compliment.its good to hear that these videos are helping you.they also are helping me to.and what helps & motivates me is reading comments like yours.they make me feel happier & more blessed.also it helps me not feel so alone in my own thoughts.
I am truly happy for you & how these videos are helping you&your family..I wish you all the best for a bright & beautiful future.you never know one day you may pay it forward(if you know what I mean),and make your own videos,or reach out & help others in a diffrent way.i know you are helping others now..iam a nightmare sometimes,well most times.i am always over explaining lol..anyway I hope you&your family are well.sending love,light & positive vibes.takecare.
My wife of 22 years just had her first Bipolar psychotic episode. She was hospitalized and has been there for a week. I'm scared, but optimistic...we have 5 kids together. I appreciate your videos, they give me a better understanding. At the same time, I get a dose of reality and what to expect - especially the denial.
since she has an episode after 5 kids, do you think an accumulation of stress is a trigger factor? Did she have emotional support in her childhood?
Good luck
Someone commented it’s hard to have sympathy for someone who does so much harm when they are not well. 1000% agree. I gave up on someone with bipolar disorder because I never got a sincere apology after the abuse. It felt like I was dealing with a monster who wanted me to be soft while he destroyed me.
"Dedicated to Mum" in the end titles is really touching. In my personal fight with Bipolar it's my mother who steadied my ship and anchored my life. Thank you very much for sharing useful informative videos.
Got diagnosed alongside my suicidal 16 year old (I was 46). My new hubby (1600 miles away) said OK get what you need to go forward and get better. The kiddo and I realized it came down on my dad's family tree. And so the journey began..
and continues.
My parents have the notion that all people with Bipolar are same. My bipolar guy is probably the most chill relaxed guy that takes his treatment plan extremely seriously. Never spent time in a hospital or missed a day of work in 34 years at same company because of his condition. I am beyond blessed to know him. There's no other guy I'd rather be with for the rest of my life. Thank you for the videos.
Thats beautiful ! Thank you. Its so good to read how appreciated we can be if take the effort to do so. Love.
that makes me cry, wish I could have some sence of normalcy I want to be chill.
I have noticed that different personality types manifest Bipolar Disorder in completely different ways. When I was homeless in Corpus Christi at a shelter for homeless people (Rustic House) in 2002. I talked with an ISTP who had Bipolar 1 Disorder at the shelter. I also have Bipolar 1 Disorder, but I am an INFJ. It was like we had two completely different illnesses because we experienced the same illness in completely different ways and we coped with the illness in completely different ways also. Thank You for reading this. Sincerely, Linzy Landcaster
My granddaughter just moved in with us after her parents basically threw her out. She is 19. Your channel has helped me understand her issues. I am trying to do my best to help her. Your suggestions have really helped.
I'm so glad Donna!
I just told my girlfriend of 3 months that I have bpd BPD II. It’s hard to be open about it because of shame. I pride you for putting your “stuff” out there. I’m been looking for some informational videos so she understands me better. Your video was the best by far. Thank You for sharing and simplifying others.
This is so true to me so much it made me cry.
I no longer have real friends or family it’s got to the extent that when the few long distance friends call me I now lie and say I have got a handful of friends who I hang out with and go to church each week when in reality I’m 95% at home alone.
I’m also diagnosed with emotionally unstable personality disorder.
May GOD send you a true friend in skin. You can call on JESUS CHRIST any time night and day. I love knowing that HE is always there for us, but it is indeed also very helpful to have my wife, family, and a few friends who try to be understanding. GOD be with you
I literally have zero friends! You are not alone! ❤️❤️
You are never alone...we are here...much love to you!
We're with you. You are not alone.💙🙏🙌
Hang in there I kno the feeling I lost family last year do 2 my illness they blame me instead of my disorder really hope they watch some the vids 2 try & understand but good luck out there & godbless
This comment section has made me realize I'm not alone. I always felt alien compared to everyone else. So comforting. This video is so relatable too. God bless you all.
Living under a magnifying glass, your inner glass, the glass of family and friends. Growing up with having the disorder, parents become hyper aware and even what may be normal teen behavior becomes so closely examined that even that feels abnormal.
Thank you for sharing!
I never use the YT comment section. However, this was an awesome video and wanted to say thanks. You are an awesome human for doing what you do.
Thank you so much for educating those of us who love and care about people with Bipolar Disorder. One of my very best friends has Bipolar Disorder. This year has been a downward spiral for us. As she gained more trust, I became her punching bag. I didn't understand why. I didn't know she had Bipolar because I was not educated on it. I didn't understand what I did so bad to make her so angry at me. I felt like she was the dump truck and I was the dump. She would empty her truck and forget about it, leaving the scars. On one occasion I was driving and she called me screaming at me and breaking my heart so badly, I could have crashed my car. Screaming one minute and the next saying how much she loved me. When I think about it, its emotionally like it was yesterday. I love her dearly, so I reading, watching videos and digesting as much information as a can about Bipolar Disorder. Thank you again, for these videos. They are so incredibly helpful and has helped me to not give up and understand more.
You're a good friend. I've lost many because of bpd.... along with jobs and money. It's a rough existence, at least for me. God bless your caring nature and your desire to understand your friend.
I went through this and I miss her so much 💔😢 it was hard we haven't spoken in a year but I still reach out on ocassions and her birthdays wishing her happy birthday 🎂. Never get a response 😒 should I stop??
@@kaygladney9680 I suffer with bipolar disorder & have no contact with any members of my family.Both my parents have sadly passed on. I have lost so many friends & like you Kay I've one friend in particular that I grew up with & we were very close. We started school together & attended the same school right up until leaving. We both married she had children & we both went through divorces together. Good & bad times we shared. I moved area & still we remained friends, then things just stopped & we were not in touch for a number of years. I was sorting out some old school photos one day & came across a few group school photos & our last day of school. I posted copys of them onto my friend not knowing if I'd get an answer from her. She did reply & was happy to hear from me. Since then it's always me who phones every couple of months, at the end of our call she always says I'll phone you next time. Yet she never calls. I've posted birthday cards & heard nothing not even a thank you. I'm hurt & confused as I was always a good friend to her & she to me in the past. She visited me in hospital on occasions when I was sectioned too. Maybe it's time that I stopped reaching out? 🍪pocket England.
Great Job here.
My Dad has a Doctorate degree in Theology and I trust his judgement so very much. But I struggle when he says it’s just a crutch or excuse because I truly experience the WEIGHT OF THE WORLD sadness and I’m ready to cry and I DONT EVEN KNOW WHY!!! I’m just pushing through and enduring existence until the next time I experience Joy again… and I’m praising God through it too.
That’s so funny!! About 2 years before I was diagnosed I actually went to the hospital on my own accord...I told the doctor I was there because I didn’t know what I was doing!!🤣🤣
Right on about this whole video. Felt like you're the only person in the world who gets it.👍👏💝
Rob, I am with U in all 7 :( I went on another bipolar web & was saying I had been in a depression for about 2 weeks, stayed in my nightgown, didn't bath, but wash myself here & there most days, & mostly stayed in bed. I am 64 yrs old. Don't need to be anywhere. The guy with this web freaked out & told me, he is bipolar, has NEVER one day not taken a shower or go out and has not been on ANY meds for a year & is fine.I tried to explain to him, at my age, since being bipolar 1 since 19 yrs old, this is not THAT crazy. He & I went back & forth about why he is right & I am wrong. I deleted the whole conversation . Just saying I am helped by your web, I am sure others mean well but I can't connect with them. thank U Rob, U R helping so many & God Bless U! U R honest & tell it like it is. AND much younger than we older folks & still get it. I very much appreciate your web. Never stop, this IS your mission in life. Thank U !
Hi Donna! Sister in arms here. Whatever that means. Also bipolar at 64. Only recently, within the last 2 years, I've gotten onto meds that help me tremendously. Way too much trial and error to get here but glad I stuck it out. An old school antihistamine was the best find ever. It's used off label and has for me been a miracle.
For a while I was seeing a therapist that would respond to my saying I was concerned about my failure to groom, guess I couldn't say I couldn't bathe, she said she felt that way sometimes too and that I just had to get up and push through it. It's still puzzling what portion of her education said it was OK to say that to me. I'm not weak, I have a brain disorder!
It is a combo of meds that helps me stabilize and therapy is important too. Recently lost my therapist, she got a well deserved promotion. Didn't realize how much I depended on her. Only saw her once every 2 weeks. But in between I would make notes about things I wanted to discuss with her. It is just occurring to me that we seldom talked about all the stuff I listed, but listing it put things in perspective, maybe. So I've just decided to get back to making the list since that may have been helpful on its own.
Best wishes to you. The virus atmosphere is stressing everyone. The election is in 2 days. We all need all of the help we can get.
I am watching your videos for a week only but these have helped me understand the pain my loved family member (whos is never diagnosed as bipolar) is going through and the trauma suffering of the whole family. If I had not heard the symptoms from you my life would still be same miserable as it was for last 15 years or more.......
Thanks a lot for speaking out and letting people know.... In my country where all such things are related to some Taboo we have strolled so many places and people that all resources are almost runout
Great video. As a fellow youtuber, I am envious that you're doing a channel that allows you to talk about the condition instead of hiding behind the stigma. I often get messages from fans wondering why I haven't uploaded in a while and I don't know how to tell them that I can only create videos when manic, and don't have the ability during a low nor any motivation to be creative. Thank you for doing this.
My girlfriend has gone into an episode and she has ghosted. She's told me stories about her doing it before in other relationships, but I see it now in a whole new light. It is extremely painful she told me to get the f*** out she got physically violent and I called the police. She was arrested and let out the next day charges dismissed. I realized I made a grave mistake. Will she ever trust me again?in the beginning she asked me not to abandon her. After watching this video I feel now more than ever I owe it to her to stay in this relationship. Do you think she'll let that happen?
@@BAPann If you didnt know Steve (the guy you replied to) is dead sadly.. just saying
Oh my gawd, why did i just happen to see this video and find this comment? Dammit Steve! You are missed!
I’m so sorry that Steve is gone. He made wonderful videos ❤️
Omg Steve we all miss u you must have been in so much pain rip
I have a partner with Bipolar stage 1 . these videos are very helpful and directive . during her manic stages i usually become pretty aggressive after an hour or two of trying to reason . i just want to help and continue being a supporter , thank you for this i can better my tolerance and patience
Thank you Shawn for doing what you can and trying to understand ! Much love.
WELL DONE!!!
Everything you said is a 100% true. I realize now that I am fearful of my condition and not fearful of the world.
Zoe Jordaan I love how you said that
I only wish my wife would try to understand my bipolar instead of diagnosing me with completely different shit. I'll send her your video link and hope for the best.
Step by step you just described my way of life..👍
Yup thank you for this- it’s spot on and everyone who lives with or loves someone with bipolar disorder should watch this.
Thank you🤗
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Thank you so much for all of your time. Something I run into it's people judging when I'm manically creative, because that means I'm doing "so good." I get comments like that all of the time during my manic phases. They don't have a clue that this is the time that I'm scared of what I'll do. I don't sleep so I "get so much done!" I'm also scared because I know the other side of it, the crushing depression, where I lose time for months. It's a rough road full of shame, fear, and pain. Thanks again for all your do!
K G Sessions so I’m not the only one with very long depressive phases. Yes...mania is really burning the candle at both ends. I’m so glad I know now that it wasn’t a choice, the bouts of severe mania before I was on medication. I still get manic episodes but not such a long ones that the multiplier effect starts up and I end up doing really risky things because I haven’t slept in so long my thinking is basically incapacitated.
Its feels so home in this place
Thank you!! I went undiagnosed for years because I got so much done! I had so many hobbies and would take on more and more and people envied that, telling me they didn’t know how I got so much done. 🤦♀️
You are so brave in your transparency about your illness! You are helping so many people and I am thankful for this. Inspired 🥰🥰🥰
The holidays seem to be a particularly difficult time. I wonder why
It is for a lot of us. There is a lot of stimulation and stress os social responsibilities. Your NOT alone friend.
Omg, same here!!!!!
Same here
I get truly stressed.
Thank you so much! During episodes I have quit good jobs, signed a year lease on an apartment when I own my home, bought cars, left my husband. It comes on like a storm. Things are improving with the right meds now. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you so much. I show your videos to my husband sometimes to help explain what I’m going through. Living with BP is hard, trying to explain it to someone you love is even harder. I am going through a very tough struggle right now. After working at the same two jobs for twenty years I had a terrible break down and have not been able to work for four years now. The quilt and worthlessness I feel is killing me and the stress of fighting for SSDI , they have denied me twice because they say “it’s not so bad it prevents me from working”, is taking its toll too. Sometimes I feel like just giving up but your videos give me hope. “WE” can do this, life can be good, we are not alone.
May GOD continue to be with you and your loved ones, but help them to continue to be compassionate and understanding. You love them to the best of your ability, and you and they will be blessed.
Its sometimes very hard to keep going...it took me years to finally get my disability. Even had to sit down and talk to a judge. When the paperwork came in the mail that I had gotten my disability I saw my father cry for the first time in my life. Keep going...its hard but so worth it. YOU are worth it. KEEP GOING. SO MUCH LOVE TO YOU!!!
You are never alone...we are behind you cheering you on!!!
After 13 years of Suffering
On 1 December 2019 through one of the video on UA-cam I came to know about the actual Problem from which I am suffering from past 13 years
It's Bipolar Disorder
And from past 4 days I feeling happy
Atlast I have triggered the Problem
Congrats to you, and what peace i know you are experiencing now. You will now fluctuate betwixt acceptance and denial as well as elation/depression...welcome to newly diagd bipolar ..like the condition itself its a double edged sword. Im like 7 years into my diag but 57 years into my journey including 3 wives (finally got that one right) and 5 perfect kids and 2 even more perfect grands. Bipolar (or the symptoms anyway) is easy to detect going back in time and it makes you able to forgive yourself although not instantly but as you associate those causal situations and tag them as ( maybe not my fault) your burden lightens and you float closer to the light which eases depressive thoughts. Welcome Polar Warrior
T E E Wow, so incredible to find out I’m not the only one with this crippling guilt and self-reproach over my pre-medication days! I thoroughly believe that others deserve to forgive themselves; it’s just so hard to do for myself. Thanks for being a support to others beginning our journey to healing.
@@brittaolson6550
Merry Christmas To You and Your Family
Take Care and Enjoy
My late father would have absolutely loved this channel. You have brought me to tears a few times. It has always been clear to me that every person's flavor of bipolar is utterly unique. My own belief is that the psychotic component that hits folks with Bipolar I is the worst. So many people I know with Bipolar I are dead or confined (jail/mental institutions). I have Bipolar II. I may be wrong, but although there have been times I couldn't recognize my face in the mirror, I still knew it was me. I don't think I know anyone who has Bipolar II that carries that sub-diagnosis of psychotic/delusional/ Am I wrong? Does that occur?
Hi Misha! You absolutely could have that combination and many other co- diagnosis. There is also an illness called schizo effective disorder. We have a really great and diverse community on Patreon. If you are interested, Rob offers one on one support and has a weekly support group for patrons only on discord. If thats not an option, please consider joining a support group in your community! Take gentle care!
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
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teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
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Thank you for speaking the words that my racing mind can't verbalize
I love this. We all have or own brand of bpd. My sister is constantly comparing me to others and it drives me crazy.
We do not all have our own brand of bpd. Please see Polar Warriors 10 things not to say to someone who has Bi-Polar Disorder. It is no correct to say we all have our own brand of bpd. I wish I would never hear that comment ever again. Please
Bob Gappa she didn’t say we all did. She said that she was frustrated because her sister is always comparing her to others. The “ we all have our own brand of bipolar” was a quote from the video that she had restated.
Excellent video.
I’m so Bipolar and just had a month long depressed episode that gets triggered by the holiday season. I’m pulling out of it once again. Everything you explained is the whole truth and painful truth🔥😬
Holiday season scared me
Family coming together scares me
did you discuss seasonal affective disorder with your doctor?
ye tbh i find it to be a painful trigger myself
The holidays, my own bday, news years especially. Shit gets me every time. One time i had a nearly sucsessful suicide attempt attempt on new years. Kind of ruined that holiday for my family. It came up as tension for many new years to come.
You described it very well. AND thank you for saying we are all DIFFERENT. SO many ppl think we all act the same because we share the same illness, not even kinda close.
Thank you for sharing; I was recently re diagnosed with now the right thing, Bipolar Disorder 😔😭🤯😡😨
Hi. Im 21 and I recently discovered i was bipolar. I feel lost yet this channel really helps. I realize now that I am not alone. This really helps. Thank you so much!
Everything you say is so on point. It really sucks to try to get your loved ones to understand what's going on in your mind. I don't even bother expressing myself anymore. I feel it's pointless.
I am aware of the struggles of bipolar all to well!
My daughter is bipolar. One of the very difficulties I’ve had was when she was young I never knew if it was typical teenage behavior or a bipolar behavior. I am sure others have must have also experienced this too. Thank you for being open and sharing. If people can’t see it they think it don’t exists!
Thank you for putting my heartache into words. I have so many regrets and have hurt others. I can’t make decisions at times or commitments without wanting to change my mind the next day. My husband helps me with this.
Thank you for sharing! My boyfriend was diagnosed with Bi Polar and it's explaining so much of his behaviors. I still have a lot to learn so I appreciate reading about your experience.
@ Kim C. if he is your boyfriend, get out. Get out now. You will become nothing, give your all for this person and guess what? They don't feel the same way "normal" people do. There is no give from them. It is all about them always. And it always will be, because they are " special". If i didn't have children with a bipolar manic depressive I could move forward with my life. But I can't. And there's no divorce, divorce would free me but the children would be at his disposal when it's his turn to have them. There is no way I can torture the children that way. They fear him, they don't want to be his personal reason for failure, which is how he makes us feel. He literally said to them 2 weeks ago that his life is junk. Excuse me?? The life we all share? The family that we struggle to be? This is junk?! Wanted to punch his bipolar manic face. 14 years down. He of course told me he was diagnosed bipolar before we married but quickly shifted all blame for his "junk" life then on his ex. All the ex's fault. 14 years later everything is my fault. But I agree, my fault for not running, my fault for not reasearching what bi polars people are really like, my fault for believing that things would be different for him and I.
Sea Kalix My heart aches to hear of your situation. We haven been married 25 years. It has taken years to be where we are at. There are many times he could of left but he didn’t because of our faith in Christ and commitment to the marriage. Yet it will always be a struggle. Be careful to never put you or your children in harms way. Abuse on any level is not ok. I hope you have people who can walk with you and encourage you during this hard time. You will be in my prayers during these holidays.
@@seakalix4297 Even with people with this illness deserve love. This is a very rude statement from you to this girl .. I am sorry your husband may not be willing or able to get the correct medical attention to help himself or your family stress, but you cannot just tell complete strangers "especially on this page" for them to leave thier bi polar husband. You have no idea what thier life story is about or how hard they both may be trying together to heal and get better. Please do not make people who have this illness feel as if they do not deserve to have love. they do deserve love, and those must seek help if they are not treating thier family well due to illness. Not all bi polar patients act the same way as your husband does. I have met and dated very wonderful people with bi-polar disorder. Peace be with you all bi-polar patients, thier is hope, seek help, and ignore judgments like this above.
@@seakalix4297 they always say crazy things to put people down...it’s projection
This channel has been a life saver for me.
When I’ve had a crash which has lasted 6 months and nobody understood & have said ‘pull yourself together’- which has been the worst advice for me,evvver.
I’ve been able to direct them to your channel. They may not get it but life saver for me because I do.
Therefore, it gives me some rationale as to to why I feel the way I do.
I’ve got to the point where this this channel gives me comfort regardless of how others feel about me.
‘I’m so grateful to you & your channel- at least I get it.
Thank you man
I directed my partners Mother to "Polar Warriors Channel" so she could learn about bipolar disorder. She turned round & said she couldn't be bothered. I don't raise the issue anymore..... 🍪pocket.
Bro you hit it bullseye! 101% true! Me being an undiagnosed 57 years old raised in a poor Catholic household in a third world country and being the eldest in the family of five forced to be matured act and feel matured to be parent to my siblings and to my narcissistic father and an enabler mother! More of this enlightening informative videos when you talk brother your information sinks in to a fellow bipolar k! More Power brother your helping a lot bipolar brothers like us were all in the same boat n shoes! K
When i'm happy i started thinking " Am I really happy or is this just a maniac?" I know it's hard . Yes its really hard to cope with the mania and the Depression. I was battling this bipolar since i was at young age and now i'm still fighting this battle in my late 20s . No matter how much i hate myself i can't get rid of myself and this is me.😢
Your channel is very important for people that has to interact with family members with bipolar. Thanks. I listen to you everyday
I'm so glad I ran across this channel. I was diagnosed when I was 40 but I can see all the signs of bipolar back when I was in high school. I'm 52 now, and I'm still struggling. I am medicated and see my psychiatrist regularly. Things have happened that I never understood. After watching a few of these videos, I have some things to talk to my doctor about. I've had three episodes of catatonia. Thank you for your videos... I look forward to learning more about my diagnosis.
Thank you for spreading awareness and providing courage and strength to those living with this disorder.
You know my friend, all of this that you said I always wanted to say to the people around me, but I don't know, you have no idea how much I spend my life training how to explain these problems to my family, I wonder how much you lived and how you used your own senses to understand these things and convey how people like us really feel about this problem.
Really...thank you.
I am Brazilian and here in the poor and even rich parts of our country, we don't have time to focus on our mental health, you know. 😓
My sister is coming down from an episode. She spiraled pretty bad last week. You do teach me a lot though about her illness. Hardest thing is when she does onto utter despair and i can't really do anything. Thank you for being such a great teacher.
Jealous of your sister who has someone like you who wants so badly to understand how to love her in the best way possible.
Thank you for your care ! Big hug.
Keep going...I am so glad you are here!...your understanding is pure gold.
Wish my sister were like you, helping me instead of judging, yelling, asking things I just can't do ... She knows I'm bipolar (she is a nurse, go figure ...) If only I could understand why she acts that way. She was hurting me so much, destroying me, pulling me under. So I had to stop our relation, sad because she is my only sister.
... its such a relief to hear whats in my heart and mind, being unable to truly share with others because they just cannot relate truly. Thank you soo much. And BIG BIG hug to all of you out here !!!
The fear of sitting on the edge of a depressive episode, and not wanting to tell our Doc because he/she will add 1 more pill...
i’m 24 and although i’ve never been officially diagnosed , i have reason to think i have bpd and extremely painful to come out of a mood to realize you’ve hurt everyone around you and the apologies don’t seem to mean much after enough times so to cope i isolate myself from hurting anyone else and when im with friends i have to constantly remind myself to keep the mood light
Hi cody!!! I can relate to a lot of what you said! I've told people that after a bad episode and you are thinking clearly again, that it's like waking up naked in the middle of a field not knowing how you got there. Please consider getting a proper diagnosis, it can open up resources and programs that can help. Attending a support group can help, you may find other people's experiences familiar. In case you are interested Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and we have a support group for patrons only. Take gentle care!
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
Thank you so much for another wonderful video! I can completely attest to the concept of “emotional amplification.” It is real and it HURTS. It is also people for difficult to understand - some people think that those of us who experience it like “drama.” Far from it! I always appreciate your gentle compassion, Rob. What you do is lifesaving!
I was diagnosed with bipolar in early 20s. I am 42 now and when I found your channel and watched you I knew a Blessing had falling on me.. I get tired of hearing your not bipolar ur not that crazy 🤔 or I was told by certain people that I don't act like the people on TV. Are we really having these conversations. I was also told that the psychiatrist that diagnosed me had no idea what he was talking about. Now these all came out of my family's mouths. I know they didn't understand. But it's been hard. My daughter ather was bipolar with borderline Schizophrenia both of his siblings were bipolar and my son was diagnosed at 14 or 15 with bipolar. I have made the choice to stop telling people about the same time I made the choice to stop the meds for good. I do see someone who helps. But finding ur channel makes me feel not so alone. Not all people with bipolar are willing to go see a doctor or see a therapist so i am thrilled that your educating us all.
Wow thank u for all programs. I too have bipolar. I'm not pushing God on anyone but i can honestly say i am still here because of my faith. I am 64 yrs old and have been bipolar for many years but i do have some really good days because of my faith and the bad ones, God always gets me through. God bless all of us mentally ill people.
watching for the 1st time in 2022- "it takes a real polar warrior to fight through all these challenges and get the stability we deserve". damn.
I'm so glad I found your channel. It's really helped my family understand me. My mother has been wanting to understand me more for a long time. I have a dual diagnosis of ADHD, so I find it hard to explain to her. Your videos are a godsend. Thank you so much for your time.
I was misdiagnosed most of my life. It's only been about a year that I was diagnosed as BP 2. I want to say your you tube videos are so helpful. And reassuring that I haven't lost my mind. Keep up the great work. And I'll keep watching.
Can anyone relate to excessive gift giving during the manic phase?
Yes!!
It was a bit of a blessing for me. Many of my acquaintances just seemed to line up to take advantage of that. When all was said and done,I learned exactly who definitely wasn't my friend. I was diagnosed over 20 years ago. I've probably taken my weight in meds. Bpd does suck, but not as painfully as seeing some people for who they are beneath the surface.
Being diagnosed with Bipolar has been hard. Some times I think I don't have it. Other days it's clear as the nose on my face. Your videos are so helpful keeping knowing it's ok that I have Bipolar Disorder. Thank you.
Having bipolar disorder can be difficult indeed but I hope you take comfort knowing you are not alone. I'm so glad that you find Rob's videos to be helpful and I hope you continue to watch his videos. Thank you for joining the conversation and sharing your thoughts with us. -Rachel (Polar Warriors team member)
"I might quit my job, break up with my partner and move to a new town."
I did that in 2016 but I moved across country instead of a new town. Felt that in my soul. 😭😂
Thank you so much for your bravery and honesty. Your videos greatly help my husband and me to understand and cope with this disorder.
Thank you so much for this video I was doctors and my family members would watch them to better understand what Bipolar disorder is.
That should say wish
I really wish my psychiatrist would watch these video's, he may learn something as he's absolutely hopeless.... 🍪pocket.
After 30 yrs of doc.visits 100's of medications in and out of hopitals dealing with bipolar PTSD. YOU HAVE TOLD A STORY OF ME.HOW TRUE THIS.
Overwhelmed emotionals of having no idea why I’m crying or just being mad for no reason makes it hard to find a job
Thank you sooooo much for this, you are well spoken and I Appreciate that you have this site😊my son was diagnosed 4 years ago with bipolar and some OCD. As a Mum, it has taken a toll on me and I have been there for my my son every step of the way, along with my husband of course. The biggest thing I feel is acceptance of it. I have learned to accept it and that it isn’t anything I did. My family doctor assured me of that, thank God. My son has been in a deep dip this last 2 weeks, oh he is 30 years old, married and has a new born son. He told me he feels guilty because he had two days off work because he couldn’t drag himself through another work day. He said that he has lost his confidence because of being diagnosed with bipolar. I feel so bad for him. I told him, he needs to accept he has bipolar and there is no shame in it. When he feels better, in a better head space, My husband and I had mentioned that he should tell his boss, so that when he has a bad day where he can not cope, that his boss will understand he needs a day off.
Hi Karen! I am so glad you are finding the channel useful!! I would seriously reconsider the advice to your son. There is an IMMENSE amount of stigma with Bipolar Disorder. I hang out at a lot of safe spaces and with mental health peers but sometimes I forget and tell someone new and they uncontrollably give me the worst look and I'm instantly ashamed. If anything, I will tell people that I have depression, people are more sympathetic to something they know whereas Bipolar means violent "psycho" to a lot of people. My last job I knew that they would be not be kind so I would get a sick note and I never had to told them why, if your sick, you are sick they don't have to know why. With my worst episodes, my doctor would give me a note for taking a couple of weeks off. Anyway, I will link a couple of videos from the channel which will help in his decision hopefully, ua-cam.com/video/7Lgjpr-CR6Q/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/Msotew7yNQs/v-deo.html The other advice I would give is for your son to get peer support, attending a support group is sooo important. There are just some things that only us bipolar folk can understand. There are also support groups for family and friends as well, samhsa.gov/ . Rob works with a lot of families, he's really good at it. You can talk to him either by phone or private message on Patreon. Take gentle care!
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
(H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds
On Patreon, you can message Rob directly, get a phone/video call, watch videos that are more personal in nature, and access a great community.
www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
Thank you for your response, however I never saw this message until today. We had a really rough morning yesterday, my son was on his way to work after having two days off and he couldn’t manage to enter the building, so my husband and I told him , he should tell his boss, he couldn’t face him face to face because of the embarrassment, so he phoned. Well we said phone as soon as you have finished your call. Yes it was a huge gamble. We had heard our son talk about his boss and he sounded like a good person, he has two grown sons himself. Our son phoned within 3 minutes, his boss’s first words, where what can I do to help? Take today off or the rest of the week if you need to. Our son said, but what about all the work that needs doing? His boss said, don’t worry about it. We felt like that was a good response, hopefully once our son goes back to work next week, his boss will remain understanding and helpful. Our son since has had a psychiatrist appointment, and his anti depressants have been increased, he is on Lithium too. We were at our wits end and didn’t know what to say. It was so hard! There shouldn’t be a stigma about it or any shame. I think it depends greatly on who you tell. I have mentioned to my son that he should listen to your videos and that you are very relatable. I also mentioned a support group. I don’t think he is quite accepting of that idea, but I know that he will watch your videos. Thank you for all the websites and information for further help, I appreciate it very much😊
I wish my family would just listen to you the way you explain I just can’t say it clearly and concisely like you do you validate me , thank you 🙏
Well said, I feel the same way too.... 🍪pocket.
My husband was just diagnosed right before pandemic He shut me out after the cancer. Married 26 years and 4 kids. He had an affair and left for the other woman. I am new to understanding for the sake of my kids. I did everything I could to save my marriage and he just was so determined to leave. Wanting to save the marriage than back to leaving. Sadly I have filed for divorce. He just refuses to try. He devastated all of us. I cant bring myself to hate or be angry. I'm sad that he shut me out. We weathered every other storm for almost 3 decades including cancer and this I feel like he just panicked and ran. Left all responsibility and has started a new life with a two time divorcee. Makes no sense but thank you for posting the videos and all the polar warriors I am understanding you more. May you have many blessings 🙏
“We have no idea what we’re doing most of the time!!” Hahah spot on!!! Shoot I don’t even know what I did an hour ago!! And at the end of the day I sit back tired and worn out and then ponder what the heck I did all day
Just found this channel..oh my life I never thought I hear these things out loud I thought it was only me..no one gets me or understand wot I go through when I normal ish I try and explain how and wot might be going when I up or down but I always get it always bout u then I clamp up big time and then I DNT anything then when I go downwards it bad I try and take my own life then I knw I ill .I DNT always c the signs I been diagnosed for 5yrs NW it really hard.. when I manic I get scared because I know I got to dwn ... Thanks for letting me type on here and not being judged x polar warriors
I appreciate your videos very much. They have helped me to get as much of an insight as I will probably ever get from what my husband goes through. He is mostly open with me about what he is experiencing but there are times where he can't even verbalize how he feels. I try to be supportive as much as possible and sometimes that just takes being there for him and loving him. What I have learned from your videos has helped me greatly not to take alot of things personal. This alone has caused a much nicer marriage and alot better atmosphere for him. I know there may be some things that can not be attributed to the bipolar but they aren't any worse than mine or anyone else's faults lol. Thank you again for putting yourself out there.
so many people don't understand the effects of this disorder. i'm crying right now because the way he's describing the feelings is so clear and people don't understand that putting extra stress and anxiety on someone with this disorder can be disastrous. it can even lead to self harm and suicide attempts. most of the time my medicine works, but there are days when i feel like it's not. no one believes that either. they think that if it works, then it works all of the time. they don't understand that every day your brain is doing something different. hormones and chemicals changing constantly. we are not using this as an excuse to be mean or hateful. it's just how we feel at that very instant.
OMG 😲 it was like my voice is coming out of your mouth, God bless you, finally I feel like I am not from another planet, most of the time, I feel alone and misunderstood, but now it feels like I'm not alone anymore.
I truly appreciate the fact that you make your videos, simply because I am able to direct family members and others to something that better explains what I'm going through when I am unable to explain. That makes it worlds easier to show others what I am unable to.
Thank you for clearing up on what bipolar is and it effects everyone differently.
Thank you for this. My parents refuse i have this disorder. I've had it all my life. I never asked for it and do my best to handle it through medication and other therapies. I've attempted suicide numerous times. None were a call for help nor sympathy. Luckily i do have loving support with other members of family and friends.
Hi, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles like his recent hospital stay. Until September 15th, he is offering free phone calls to patrons. Another Patreon exclusive is Rob hosting and moderating weekly support groups on discord! Take gentle care! 🙏
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
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Thank you so much for this channel I was feeling like I’m all alone. I was triggered this weekend and went into a manic episode started drinking, using spending money and yelled at my mother. I made her cry and feel so much pain because of my disease. I feel so horrible for the way I treated her.
Hi, Manny.I m so sorry that you are having such a rough time right now. Please be kind to yourself. I always say that we are doing the best we can with what we have. When we know better we do better. In case you are interested Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and he has a weekly support group for patrons only on discord where we have a lot of partners who attend. Ge also has a specific group for partners and family as well. Would love to have you there!
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
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Thank you a very relatable video
This video honestly made me cry. I often have a difficult time explaining these things to others. I'm excited to share this with some of the people in my life.
Some of your explanation has begun to make sense for things that were happening to my relationship my job. My baker act. My meds. My crying. AND my ultimate rescue .
Hi Steven! I'm so glad you found Rob's channel! In case you are interested Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and he has a weekly support group for patrons only on discord. Would love to have you there!
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
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He hit the nail on the head for my brand of bipolar! Making sense of symptoms and lack of self control over my emotions is what I cannot understand. Hearing that I am not the only one, makes a huge impact on my life! This guy rocks!!
This was excellent! I especially liked #5. Perhaps you could create a video about the changes in bipolar disorder as we age. I'm 62 and I feel my bipolar is getting worse. Thank you!
Agreed.
Fear of Stigma...The feelings! There is comfort in community..Thank you for all you do!!!
got diagnosed when I was 1st year college. I'm a high functioning bipolar. I never disclose my situation with anyone except for my husband, and a very few friends know, as I work in medical field also and I'm scared that people will discriminate me and it might affect my career. If my week is very busy and I feel emotionally triggered, I just suck it up, swallow whatever I feel, like literally swallow it up, like gasping a big air and just push that hype down to my stomach and try to control my self so I will be able to function well. I don't know if it's mentally healthy to do that in a long term but, well I'm still here, alive and just trying to get through everyday.