You see how men choose themselves first,.. women, we need to do the same for ourselves. If you are having sex for pleasure, please use protection.. Don't add the stress of having an abortion on top of this
At the end of the day, EVERYBODY IS SELFISH. DO NOT LET ANYONE MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE THE DEVIL BECAUSE IT LOOKS LIKE YOU’RE MORE SELFISH THAN THEM BECAUSE IF YOU TAKE A DEEPER LOOK AT THE SITUATION, THE CORE OF IT IS THAT THEY HAVE A STAKE. So at the end of the day, they’re just upset that you have the capacity to choose yourself over them and they don’t.
Gbemi kept it real the entire time. She's always been like that from the jump, so no surprises there. I agree with her 100%. The lady in question has been blacklisted by Canada. Canada and the US share certain immigration data, so the US would deny her as well. Asking him to come back because of that is quite ridiculous, to say the least. He is not exonorated in this situation; they were both responsible, but she got the shorter end of the stick, and guess what life can be that way sometimes. Because of this, it is advisable to always safeguard yourself, particularly as a woman. That's why there is something called self-preservation, so you don't feel like you have lost everything when things go awry. At this point, she should just count her losses and move on; it's extremely hard, but it's doable. While at it, she should seek intense therapy too so she does not carry that hurt into the next phase of her life. He, on the other hand, should be gracious to her, just like Gbemi said; he should just let her go kindly and move on in peace. Curses aren't going to work here; she as much as played a huge role in the mess he has found herself in, so she may as well be cursing herself.
I don't think he has exhausted all his options, if he really wanted to start a family with her as he has said why can't he come back and marry her then she can apply as a partner because then the application will be viewed differently? I get from this message he already had doubts about her fertility due to their experience and is just making excuses IMO. If you really want to you will find a way, just saying.
Spot on.... That was an option I expected them to say. She shouldn't have blackmailed him emotionally, but I feel she did that because she is invested and committed. It's hard letting go sometimes.
The U.S. application and Canadian application doesn’t work that way. Once blacklisted always blacklisted until luck comes your way by some sort of miracle.
He's not really saying how he feels,its very obvious that he's skeptical because he thinks she might not get pregnant again, especially because they've tried to get pregnant before he left and it didn't work,what if she got pregnant before he left????
I’ve always loved loved loved Gbemi, from handover on radio to off air. Gbemi is one of the most authentic people in media, you just know that she doesn’t pretend or fake anything and I love her for it. I can also relate with her in a lot of ways.
I think we are out of touch with the fact that this story is actually people’s reality, and I feared this will happen when this became a UA-cam show. The human touch is missing in this episode, and no matter how blunt a person is, we must all cultivate emotional intelligence. Talking about paying her, blocking her, lol…very out of touch with the reality. Also out of touch with the guy’s reality too, he is writing because he is out of peace…he can’t be at peace and is troubled too, very ladened with guilt. And everybody loves Gbemi now in the comment section until you are the one at the receiving end, or the the one getting the short end of the stick😂
The only comment that is right in my opinion. A different guest may have done justice to this episode. Like you said, everyone is screaming ‘real real’ until it is them.
My Gbemi❤❤❤❤I feel Gbemi isn’t wicked, she’s just a realist. Omo block everybody blockable for your peace of mind. It’s such an unfortunate situation but you all need to move on.
I love the fact that Gbemi is blunt and practical. Sometimes, we ladies do stupid things all in the name of love and relationship. For real the guy will marry another person and nothing will happen to him and you will be left with the pain and trauma. The lady better pick herself up, ask God for forgiveness, and continue your life.
As a woman, I think we should hear her side of the story too. Nobody should conclude this type of sad story without hearing the other side. It’s easier to move on when you’re not on the receiving side. I’m not saying she’s a saint but they both had their faults. I pray they both find grace to forge ahead in life.
They’ll be alright. He’s not responsible for her falsifying documents to travel. He’s not responsible for the ban. It’s an unfortunate situation but they must now move on. Nobody should put their lives on hold for anyone. I hope she finds peace.
I don't endorse her cursing or black mailing him. But can we be honest he hasn't been fair. 1. He wasn't under duress to have sex without protection, that's just an excuse on his part 2. We should ask when was the last abortion done, because he can't just say he suddenly realised that he was ready to start a family.. in my opinion i think his fears started when they tried to have a baby intentionally and it didn't work. 3. What if they had gotten married before his move, would he request that they get divorced because they have tried for 2 years and it didn't work.. i mean we have people who try for more than 2 years. He's told us his side of the story and honestly that's not enough, for all we know, she was probably instrumental to the success of his relocation (this is me assuming) But my God 5 years isnt 5 days, and if we are going to include 2 years then that would be 7 years. This is how burnt people are birthed and the hurt continues and the world remains a toxic place. I think he needs to plead to her conscience genuinely and not just block... Karma works not her curse but karma
@ the idea is not to push blame, they each have their share of fault. he is asking for suggestions.. and the advise is to cut ties amicably and not breed more hurt… They are two consenting adults who could have made better choices but that’s story for another day… And yes karma works, it’s the rule of life, every action has its consequences..
I totally get your point but as you have said every action has its consequences. The boy has his own share of fault, the girl has too but there's always one person on the receiving end and the girl should have weighed her options. So this is her own consequence of her action. Why would you abort for a man 6 times? Why? The man has fault too but the womb is hers! It's her body. It's her system that is being damaged. She should have stood her ground. The boy didn't stand his ground but what does he have to loose now? It's the girl that has her own body at stake and she didn't protect it. You don't intentionally allow people walk over you then come back to complain. Even if you are married, you should not under any circumstances have 6 abortions! As Gbemi has said it's unfortunate but the boy can move on
@@boluwatifeyusuf-l6cwhile its true tagt she should ha e been more smarter we because she had more to loose, you're enabling men to take advantage of that loop hole by giving such advice
I think he can talk to an immigration lawyer. Her past can be let go if he comes to Nigeria to marry and relocates her as his spouse. However, he has to be a PR or passport holder not student
22:58 this revenge thing just reminded me of a story of a loving couple that dated from childhood and then got married but the husband cheated, was still keeping in touch with his sidechick but hid it from the wife even after he lied about cutting ties with her. When the wife found out, she aborted his baby, cheated on the husband with his elder brother whom he loved so much and divorced his a$$😂. Relationship between the two mother scattered, marriage between the elder bro and his wife is in shambles. Now she’s married to someone else
@@halimatlawal8455 yea. It ruined his friendship with his brother, the brother’s marriage became rocky, the friendship between both mothers became sour. Even she stopped all communications with her mother coz she resented her for not listening to her wen she complained initially about his cheating. She said her brother in-law was only collateral damage and she really wanted to pay her husband back so bad
Why’s no one talking about the fact that the lady used fake documents to apply for visa in the past, she most likely cannot get visa to a lot of other countries due to that, so even finding other countries to move to will be tough.
Thank you; she sabotaged herself for herself. The fact that she will use fake documents at all reveals a lot about her character. I am not dismissive of her situation, but please! Who says even if they got married, it would last or be a happy one? Maybe this is how God is protecting them both from more dire circumstances down the road. Who knows?
@TemiAderonke most fake document cases for Canada are victims of fraudulent agents. A lot of people don't know you can do your application yourself. And they contact fake agents who end up compromising their accounts
I love Gbemi, my kind of person. She said it as it is. The lady who had 6 abortion doesn’t she love herself? Biko, you’re not wicked. That blocking is very important for peace of mind.
What if she was his wife already. Won’t he wait or keep trying until it works out??? With the explanation they have only tried for 3years… the guy is just scared that she might not be fertile anymore and that’s very selfish of him. God still has sons sha.
@ yeah in a perfect world but we don’t live in one. In life you cannot control how people behave towards you but you can control how you respond to it or how you have protected yourself. She should have been wiser. Just like if you want to build a house where it is flood prone you build a house that can withstanding flooding. You don’t build just anything with the hope that nature will behave itself. That’s the same with life. It’s an unfortunate situation for her but things happen. She took too much for granted: her relationship, her fertility. Also why didn’t she think about marriage when in a relationship for that long. Again I am not saying the guy is a saint cos he should have stopped sleeping with her but since she has more to lose she should have been wise. I pray they find a resolution that works for them both
Chai I am like Gbemi oooo! I must always retaliate. I never miss the opportunity to do so! Hopefully i will outgrow it tooo. The guy’s coming back to Nigeria is not forever, it’s to marry her and take her back with him based on re-applying as a spouse. Not fair he just wants to move on like that…e easy?
I don't agree with Gbemmy. For someone that aborted six pregnancies for you. You must find a way! It's also enough reason to come back to Nigeria. He can be successful in Nigeria or any other country too. I mean, this lady stayed with him all through the years he's been in Canada too. He just does not want her. She's exhausted with 6 abortions and several visa trials. The guy too should sacrifice. You don't want to imagine what the lady is going through. She cannot move ahead in life without a rigorous therapy. So she should move on, to who please?
I also believe that the guy can still stay there and build a life for them over there. The lady can be in Nigeria and still marry the guy. Hoping for a breakthrough. Both should seek forgiveness from the Almighty and be new creations in the Lord. Pregnancy would come.
Unfortunately guys, life is not fair. We wish that it was, but it isn't. And women always get the short end of the stick. Which is why I am astonished when women behave recklessly knowing what is at stake
Gbemi is real . They both have to move on, leave sentiments aside. The guy has tried , saying he should come back , marry her and then go back and file for her as a partner,do you know how long that takes? The blackmail made it even worse cos now he is really scared . As a girl , use your head and be intentional. Collect the payoff payment in dollars make you no loose both sides 😅. Good luck to her.
Gbemi is such a viiiiiiibbbbeeeee....I love her loads and I just could not wait to even start the video before commenting. she craaaaazzzyyy and I loveeeeeeeet. shout out to Dang from Canada✌
I usually watch the next day during breakfast but nah, couldn't wait. I love Gbemi, been waiting for this episode like kilode and I wasn't disappointed 😂😂
There are other options that doesn’t include him moving back. After 5 years, her ban can be lifted and she can them employ the services of an immigration consultant/lawyer for the next application. They both can equally try other countries after 5 years particularly because he’s in tech which is somewhat easier to settle in “any” country. They can try Germany, Sweden, Thailand, Finland, loads of other countries and migrate to US/Canada later on (if that’s still the goal). My point is, they’re both responsible and can surely find a way if he wants to. Moving on without her is the easy way out
Sis aside a man after God’s own heart… an average single guy who travels out doesn’t wanna look back, they all wanna start afresh and guess what definitely not with someone who has aborted 6times
No I don’t agree with Gbemi’s advice respectfully. Who does he want to leave the girl for? No o, they both are guilty, he concurred to the abortion for 6 times, now he wants to leave… to where? Then the girl, I don’t want to curse your ass out, when you’ve done 1,2 abortions, were you not even scared? Did you not ever think to at least keep the 3rd one or have fear that you won’t get pregnant again. Now the guy might leave you and go have his family and you’d be here crying and trying to conceive. My advice is both of you were in it together from the start so you guys should dry together till Jesus comes. Apply for Masters in Uk, the girl should come to Uk, you both get married either in UK or Naija then she can apply for US visa from UK. Girls please be wise !!!’
The UK, US, Canada, Australia and New Zealand share information, immigration inclusive, so she would most likely not get into these countries. Other countries then ask for previous rejections and if these countries are there, they’ll most likely reject you especially when you mention reasons for the rejections
The guy is just skeptical because of rhe numerous abortions. He never cared about her and thats the truth. The lady in turn did herself a disservice by not valuing and loving herself because why are you having abortions 6 times? Once could be a mistake but more than once is a pattern and a choice
The wicked comments made me uncomfortable but Gbemi is a strong character, she refused to accept the projection on her personality, being logical is actually a strength most women lack because women are more emotionally wired, so we see it as wicked and a masculine trait. It's refreshing to see logical and not just emotional perspectives. Gbemi comes across as balanced emotionally and logically.
If it was the lady, she would have found a way to make it work. Come back, marry her and go back or better still help her to leave the country (try Finland or Australia)as a parting gift if you really want to help
The UK, US, Canada, Australia and New Zealand share information, immigration inclusive, so she would most likely not get into these countries. Other countries then ask for previous rejections and if these countries are there, they’ll most likely reject you especially when you mention reasons for the rejections
I think it became complicated because they did not get married before he travelled. If he can come home to marry her, inviting her over as her wife might work eventually. I know about couples that one party joins the other after some years. Because the guy is making his decision based on a lot of logical basis, which includes the possibility of her past record affecting her child fertility complicates the issue. Marrying out of pity will not favour both of them. If they get married, they will have a lot of issues to deal with. There is also trust issue based on fake document, etc. The guy should not marry based on pity. If he really loves her, he will put her first. Both of them needs help separately, repentance, healing, forgiveness, wholeness. They can't even come out of the relationship to jump into another immediately. Out of the broken pieces of her past, God can build an edifice of hope. There is more to this thing called Love. True love is a decision not emotion. Whatever they had together having abortion was lust and fornication.
Aunty ife , this is very sad but what if he came back married her, and started applying for permanent residency? Why didn’t he try that option before asking for a breakup? He wants to move on cause he didn’t want the no womb situation, Abi? Aunty ife , let people who destroy each other stay together. Why are you trying to go away? Who then marries the lady that has aborted for you ?
This is quite an interesting story. I agree with both of you that they both need to move on with their lives as the visa refusals might be a way of the universe making the decision for them. From the story, all the 6 abortions were the girl’s decisions regardless of whether or not the guy agreed. The guy tried to be humane to the extent of suggesting the move to the USA from Canada. I wonder if the guy considered the option of travelling to Nigeria to marry her so she can use that to apply for a visa but then that could completely complicate issues. Also, was the guy aware that she used fake documents to try to get a visa prior to this time? If not, that’s questionable! They were both irresponsible sexually, so it wasn’t just one person’s blame. It’s unfortunate but it is what it is. There’s no need for the guy to succumb to emotional blackmail, it already shows that the marriage won’t last if it ever happens!
It’s sad. He’s got the luxury of moving on. What about the girl? This is why the onus is on us to be extra cautious cause we always bear the consequences.
Totally enjoyed this episode especially because of the choice of guest. As for the writer and his woman, I wish them all the best with whatever they decide because I don’t even have an opinion on it. It’s all too messed up.
I think because Gbemi doesnt like long distance relationship made her cut other options easily. First ife, can the couple do long distance relationship there will be other options, the guy seem to write everything in his favour, what are the other things he said they went through together. The blackmail from the lady is unnecessary but she should know there is no love again and move on!!
You see how men choose themselves first,.. women, we need to do the same for ourselves. If you are having sex for pleasure, please use protection.. Don't add the stress of having an abortion on top of this
Indeed, women are not helpless, but we frequently place ourselves in situations where we are powerless.
@@TemiAderonkeGod bless you.
Exactly! This is what I keep saying to my friends@@TemiAderonke
Gbemi is a real one! Say it as it is, the world will adjust, no matter how painful initially.
At the end of the day, EVERYBODY IS SELFISH. DO NOT LET ANYONE MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE THE DEVIL BECAUSE IT LOOKS LIKE YOU’RE MORE SELFISH THAN THEM BECAUSE IF YOU TAKE A DEEPER LOOK AT THE SITUATION, THE CORE OF IT IS THAT THEY HAVE A STAKE. So at the end of the day, they’re just upset that you have the capacity to choose yourself over them and they don’t.
Revenge on the person’s mentor is 🔥🤣🤣😂This babe is cold hearted with the sip of the tea
Gbemi kept it real the entire time. She's always been like that from the jump, so no surprises there. I agree with her 100%. The lady in question has been blacklisted by Canada. Canada and the US share certain immigration data, so the US would deny her as well. Asking him to come back because of that is quite ridiculous, to say the least. He is not exonorated in this situation; they were both responsible, but she got the shorter end of the stick, and guess what life can be that way sometimes. Because of this, it is advisable to always safeguard yourself, particularly as a woman. That's why there is something called self-preservation, so you don't feel like you have lost everything when things go awry.
At this point, she should just count her losses and move on; it's extremely hard, but it's doable. While at it, she should seek intense therapy too so she does not carry that hurt into the next phase of her life. He, on the other hand, should be gracious to her, just like Gbemi said; he should just let her go kindly and move on in peace. Curses aren't going to work here; she as much as played a huge role in the mess he has found herself in, so she may as well be cursing herself.
I don't think he has exhausted all his options, if he really wanted to start a family with her as he has said why can't he come back and marry her then she can apply as a partner because then the application will be viewed differently? I get from this message he already had doubts about her fertility due to their experience and is just making excuses IMO. If you really want to you will find a way, just saying.
Spot on.... That was an option I expected them to say. She shouldn't have blackmailed him emotionally, but I feel she did that because she is invested and committed. It's hard letting go sometimes.
The U.S. application and Canadian application doesn’t work that way. Once blacklisted always blacklisted until luck comes your way by some sort of miracle.
Have you thought about the fact that he might not be able to travel to Nigeria too due to visa issue that might also be an excuse from him
It can't work like that because of the blacklist on the woman... and I think the man doesn't want to trap into a long distance marriage
@@toluadegbite2794same I was expecting him to say they had explored/ considered this option
Moral of the lesson- You first, Don’t loose yourself all in the name of falling in Love
He's not really saying how he feels,its very obvious that he's skeptical because he thinks she might not get pregnant again, especially because they've tried to get pregnant before he left and it didn't work,what if she got pregnant before he left????
I’ve always loved loved loved Gbemi, from handover on radio to off air. Gbemi is one of the most authentic people in media, you just know that she doesn’t pretend or fake anything and I love her for it. I can also relate with her in a lot of ways.
I think we are out of touch with the fact that this story is actually people’s reality, and I feared this will happen when this became a UA-cam show. The human touch is missing in this episode, and no matter how blunt a person is, we must all cultivate emotional intelligence. Talking about paying her, blocking her, lol…very out of touch with the reality. Also out of touch with the guy’s reality too, he is writing because he is out of peace…he can’t be at peace and is troubled too, very ladened with guilt.
And everybody loves Gbemi now in the comment section until you are the one at the receiving end, or the the one getting the short end of the stick😂
The only comment that is right in my opinion. A different guest may have done justice to this episode. Like you said, everyone is screaming ‘real real’ until it is them.
@dorcasomunagbe1978 Just out of curiosity, what'll be your advice to both parties?
That is why the comment section is open too. So community members can provide their advice.
My Gbemi❤❤❤❤I feel Gbemi isn’t wicked, she’s just a realist. Omo block everybody blockable for your peace of mind. It’s such an unfortunate situation but you all need to move on.
The story is really a sad one but it is what it is 😔... Either ways if they got married, I'm not sure it would last.
I love the fact that Gbemi is blunt and practical. Sometimes, we ladies do stupid things all in the name of love and relationship. For real the guy will marry another person and nothing will happen to him and you will be left with the pain and trauma. The lady better pick herself up, ask God for forgiveness, and continue your life.
This question is a real " We listen, we don't judge" 😂😂
Me personally I do not like to judge by hearing half of a story… But ladies choose you first ❤ ire ooooo
As a woman, I think we should hear her side of the story too. Nobody should conclude this type of sad story without hearing the other side. It’s easier to move on when you’re not on the receiving side. I’m not saying she’s a saint but they both had their faults. I pray they both find grace to forge ahead in life.
They’ll be alright. He’s not responsible for her falsifying documents to travel. He’s not responsible for the ban. It’s an unfortunate situation but they must now move on. Nobody should put their lives on hold for anyone. I hope she finds peace.
Goshhh, i have long waited for this episode. I love this lady, Gbemiiiii❤️❤️❤️
I don't endorse her cursing or black mailing him. But can we be honest he hasn't been fair.
1. He wasn't under duress to have sex without protection, that's just an excuse on his part
2. We should ask when was the last abortion done, because he can't just say he suddenly realised that he was ready to start a family.. in my opinion i think his fears started when they tried to have a baby intentionally and it didn't work.
3. What if they had gotten married before his move, would he request that they get divorced because they have tried for 2 years and it didn't work.. i mean we have people who try for more than 2 years.
He's told us his side of the story and honestly that's not enough, for all we know, she was probably instrumental to the success of his relocation (this is me assuming)
But my God 5 years isnt 5 days, and if we are going to include 2 years then that would be 7 years.
This is how burnt people are birthed and the hurt continues and the world remains a toxic place.
I think he needs to plead to her conscience genuinely and not just block...
Karma works not her curse but karma
There is no karma for someone who was not compelled to do abortion but her decision
Why did she not insist on not getting pregnant or not aborting.
@ the idea is not to push blame, they each have their share of fault. he is asking for suggestions.. and the advise is to cut ties amicably and not breed more hurt…
They are two consenting adults who could have made better choices but that’s story for another day…
And yes karma works, it’s the rule of life, every action has its consequences..
I like this
I totally get your point but as you have said every action has its consequences.
The boy has his own share of fault, the girl has too but there's always one person on the receiving end and the girl should have weighed her options. So this is her own consequence of her action. Why would you abort for a man 6 times? Why? The man has fault too but the womb is hers! It's her body. It's her system that is being damaged. She should have stood her ground. The boy didn't stand his ground but what does he have to loose now? It's the girl that has her own body at stake and she didn't protect it. You don't intentionally allow people walk over you then come back to complain.
Even if you are married, you should not under any circumstances have 6 abortions! As Gbemi has said it's unfortunate but the boy can move on
@@boluwatifeyusuf-l6cwhile its true tagt she should ha e been more smarter we because she had more to loose, you're enabling men to take advantage of that loop hole by giving such advice
I need Toke as a guest here😂😂 she speaks FACTSSSS
The truth is when we are in a relationship, we are taking a risk and praying it pays off for us
I love bad advise….. the intro got me hooked
I agree with Gbemi 100%.
I think he can talk to an immigration lawyer. Her past can be let go if he comes to Nigeria to marry and relocates her as his spouse. However, he has to be a PR or passport holder not student
22:58 this revenge thing just reminded me of a story of a loving couple that dated from childhood and then got married but the husband cheated, was still keeping in touch with his sidechick but hid it from the wife even after he lied about cutting ties with her. When the wife found out, she aborted his baby, cheated on the husband with his elder brother whom he loved so much and divorced his a$$😂. Relationship between the two mother scattered, marriage between the elder bro and his wife is in shambles.
Now she’s married to someone else
What 😮
Yeah!! Everlasting heartbreak
@@halimatlawal8455 yea. It ruined his friendship with his brother, the brother’s marriage became rocky, the friendship between both mothers became sour. Even she stopped all communications with her mother coz she resented her for not listening to her wen she complained initially about his cheating. She said her brother in-law was only collateral damage and she really wanted to pay her husband back so bad
Yeah I read about it too 😂😂 I just said bravo
Why’s no one talking about the fact that the lady used fake documents to apply for visa in the past, she most likely cannot get visa to a lot of other countries due to that, so even finding other countries to move to will be tough.
Thank you; she sabotaged herself for herself. The fact that she will use fake documents at all reveals a lot about her character. I am not dismissive of her situation, but please! Who says even if they got married, it would last or be a happy one? Maybe this is how God is protecting them both from more dire circumstances down the road. Who knows?
@TemiAderonke most fake document cases for Canada are victims of fraudulent agents. A lot of people don't know you can do your application yourself. And they contact fake agents who end up compromising their accounts
Exactly!!!
I miss Gbemi going blunt since the days of Drive time with Gbemi and Toolz 😊 i always love her thought process
I like people that are real and Gbemi is that person.I have finally seen someone like me.When i talk like Gbemi some people say one is wicked
I love Gbemi, my kind of person. She said it as it is. The lady who had 6 abortion doesn’t she love herself?
Biko, you’re not wicked. That blocking is very important for peace of mind.
Gbemi is not wicked but blunt, love that about her
Gbemi is my kind of person, logical, realistic and authentic 👌 😊. Because at the end of the day decisions need to be made.
I too love this Gbemi❤
Omg Gbemi is my girl, thank you for introducing me to her!
Yesssss Gbemi I love you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 😍😘
Nobody can be as realistic as she is.
It is Gbemi's skin for me 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Lord, I have missed Gbemi's "cut-to-the-quick" opinions. When is Off-Air Show coming back to UA-cam??
I love how factual Gbemi's points were in this episode 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾❤️
What if she was his wife already. Won’t he wait or keep trying until it works out??? With the explanation they have only tried for 3years… the guy is just scared that she might not be fertile anymore and that’s very selfish of him. God still has sons sha.
But they are not married so too bad. That’s why as women we need to be careful…make sure you have protected yourself
@@chichi5800 Nothing is too bad there, he can make it work, the guy is just being selfish.
@ yeah in a perfect world but we don’t live in one. In life you cannot control how people behave towards you but you can control how you respond to it or how you have protected yourself. She should have been wiser. Just like if you want to build a house where it is flood prone you build a house that can withstanding flooding. You don’t build just anything with the hope that nature will behave itself. That’s the same with life.
It’s an unfortunate situation for her but things happen. She took too much for granted: her relationship, her fertility. Also why didn’t she think about marriage when in a relationship for that long. Again I am not saying the guy is a saint cos he should have stopped sleeping with her but since she has more to lose she should have been wise. I pray they find a resolution that works for them both
Gbemi o love her realness. People need to fear God with their actions.
I loooooove GBEMI, MY KIND OF PERSON!!! #TEAMREVENGE
Gbemi kept it real. I love. 😂😂
Love Gbemiii
I needed to watch these😅 thank you dang community 😅
Chai I am like Gbemi oooo! I must always retaliate. I never miss the opportunity to do so! Hopefully i will outgrow it tooo. The guy’s coming back to Nigeria is not forever, it’s to marry her and take her back with him based on re-applying as a spouse. Not fair he just wants to move on like that…e easy?
Lovvee Gbemi ❤
Aunty Gbemi is my mentor seeeeee..... the way she says the "nothing will happen" dey sweet me🤣🤣🤣🤣
I don't agree with Gbemmy. For someone that aborted six pregnancies for you. You must find a way! It's also enough reason to come back to Nigeria. He can be successful in Nigeria or any other country too. I mean, this lady stayed with him all through the years he's been in Canada too. He just does not want her. She's exhausted with 6 abortions and several visa trials. The guy too should sacrifice. You don't want to imagine what the lady is going through. She cannot move ahead in life without a rigorous therapy. So she should move on, to who please?
I also believe that the guy can still stay there and build a life for them over there. The lady can be in Nigeria and still marry the guy. Hoping for a breakthrough. Both should seek forgiveness from the Almighty and be new creations in the Lord. Pregnancy would come.
Unfortunately guys, life is not fair. We wish that it was, but it isn't. And women always get the short end of the stick. Which is why I am astonished when women behave recklessly knowing what is at stake
Moving on will only be on paper, she will be scarred for life.
Gbemi the realest 😂😂😂, she doesn’t stutter or sugar coat her opinions…❤
Tops up to you ife and gbemi
Gbemi is real . They both have to move on, leave sentiments aside. The guy has tried , saying he should come back , marry her and then go back and file for her as a partner,do you know how long that takes? The blackmail made it even worse cos now he is really scared . As a girl , use your head and be intentional. Collect the payoff payment in dollars make you no loose both sides 😅.
Good luck to her.
She said 'I don't think anybody would reject dollars now' 😂😂 I really like her
Gbemi is such a viiiiiiibbbbeeeee....I love her loads and I just could not wait to even start the video before commenting. she craaaaazzzyyy and I loveeeeeeeet. shout out to Dang from Canada✌
I can relate so much with that revenge part of Gbemi 😂😂 I’m so petty tooo
What happened to contraceptives.
I usually watch the next day during breakfast but nah, couldn't wait. I love Gbemi, been waiting for this episode like kilode and I wasn't disappointed 😂😂
Gbemi please come back to UA-cam . We are not watching Afmag please
Gbemi came with fire🤣🤣🤣🔥🔥
For me the way you chit chat , with your guests dey sweet me anytime. 🎉
We are here🎉🎉
I love gbemiiii😂❤
Please gbemi is not wicked o😂
Gbemi is not wicked, she's just being realistic.
There are other options that doesn’t include him moving back. After 5 years, her ban can be lifted and she can them employ the services of an immigration consultant/lawyer for the next application. They both can equally try other countries after 5 years particularly because he’s in tech which is somewhat easier to settle in “any” country. They can try Germany, Sweden, Thailand, Finland, loads of other countries and migrate to US/Canada later on (if that’s still the goal). My point is, they’re both responsible and can surely find a way if he wants to.
Moving on without her is the easy way out
Sis aside a man after God’s own heart… an average single guy who travels out doesn’t wanna look back, they all wanna start afresh and guess what definitely not with someone who has aborted 6times
What point are u trying to make excatly?@@ayobamikolawole7221
No I don’t agree with Gbemi’s advice respectfully. Who does he want to leave the girl for? No o, they both are guilty, he concurred to the abortion for 6 times, now he wants to leave… to where? Then the girl, I don’t want to curse your ass out, when you’ve done 1,2 abortions, were you not even scared? Did you not ever think to at least keep the 3rd one or have fear that you won’t get pregnant again.
Now the guy might leave you and go have his family and you’d be here crying and trying to conceive. My advice is both of you were in it together from the start so you guys should dry together till Jesus comes. Apply for Masters in Uk, the girl should come to Uk, you both get married either in UK or Naija then she can apply for US visa from UK.
Girls please be wise !!!’
*** I meant you guys should stay together till Jesus Comes*****
They were both irresponsible. But, I'm not sure that marriage will last
The UK, US, Canada, Australia and New Zealand share information, immigration inclusive, so she would most likely not get into these countries. Other countries then ask for previous rejections and if these countries are there, they’ll most likely reject you especially when you mention reasons for the rejections
Gbemi is not the right guest for this story she's too harsh for it. Women always choose yourself first cos a man won't hesitate to do the same.
I said the same thing ….
Lol.... I love that she said block her family members. It's important 😀
I love Gbemi… too real!! But how did the U-Kay offend you na! People here can be nice now lol 😂
Gbemiiiiii💙💙💙💙
Gbemi nailed it!!!!! Love it ❤
The guy is just skeptical because of rhe numerous abortions. He never cared about her and thats the truth. The lady in turn did herself a disservice by not valuing and loving herself because why are you having abortions 6 times? Once could be a mistake but more than once is a pattern and a choice
I like this episode 😂❤
...........'or something'.....😂😂😂😂😂...I laughed HARD!!!.
The wicked comments made me uncomfortable but Gbemi is a strong character, she refused to accept the projection on her personality, being logical is actually a strength most women lack because women are more emotionally wired, so we see it as wicked and a masculine trait. It's refreshing to see logical and not just emotional perspectives. Gbemi comes across as balanced emotionally and logically.
If it was the lady, she would have found a way to make it work. Come back, marry her and go back or better still help her to leave the country (try Finland or Australia)as a parting gift if you really want to help
The UK, US, Canada, Australia and New Zealand share information, immigration inclusive, so she would most likely not get into these countries. Other countries then ask for previous rejections and if these countries are there, they’ll most likely reject you especially when you mention reasons for the rejections
@@momentswithdeeeI know someone that was banned in Uk and currently in one of those countries. She has to be honest with her application
That's the rational thing to do. She will be hurt no matter what.
He doesn't have any obligations please. If finds someone else, he so supposed to be obligated to someone that should be considered his past?
Gbemi is me, I am gbemi....😂😂😂😂I love her❤❤😊
Gbemi is me 🤭🤭🤭😂😂😂, I hope God works on me faster but regardless He is and I am becoming calmer even though I am still in my 20s 😊
Gbemiiii o 😂😂😂, I love it
Gbemi O. ❤
Gbemi....❤❤❤
This Gbemi is my kinda girl.
I believe in revenge🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣Gbemi oooo
I love, lovd this episode😂 I think Toke should be next
I think it became complicated because they did not get married before he travelled. If he can come home to marry her, inviting her over as her wife might work eventually. I know about couples that one party joins the other after some years.
Because the guy is making his decision based on a lot of logical basis, which includes the possibility of her past record affecting her child fertility complicates the issue.
Marrying out of pity will not favour both of them. If they get married, they will have a lot of issues to deal with. There is also trust issue based on fake document, etc.
The guy should not marry based on pity. If he really loves her, he will put her first.
Both of them needs help separately, repentance, healing, forgiveness, wholeness. They can't even come out of the relationship to jump into another immediately.
Out of the broken pieces of her past, God can build an edifice of hope.
There is more to this thing called Love. True love is a decision not emotion. Whatever they had together having abortion was lust and fornication.
Aunty ife , this is very sad but what if he came back married her, and started applying for permanent residency? Why didn’t he try that option before asking for a breakup?
He wants to move on cause he didn’t want the no womb situation, Abi? Aunty ife , let people who destroy each other stay together. Why are you trying to go away? Who then marries the lady that has aborted for you ?
This is quite an interesting story.
I agree with both of you that they both need to move on with their lives as the visa refusals might be a way of the universe making the decision for them.
From the story, all the 6 abortions were the girl’s decisions regardless of whether or not the guy agreed.
The guy tried to be humane to the extent of suggesting the move to the USA from Canada. I wonder if the guy considered the option of travelling to Nigeria to marry her so she can use that to apply for a visa but then that could completely complicate issues. Also, was the guy aware that she used fake documents to try to get a visa prior to this time? If not, that’s questionable!
They were both irresponsible sexually, so it wasn’t just one person’s blame.
It’s unfortunate but it is what it is. There’s no need for the guy to succumb to emotional blackmail, it already shows that the marriage won’t last if it ever happens!
This is an unfortunate scenario. Really sad for the young lady. I hope she is able to move on
😂😂😂
Revenge was an obligation.
That was so funny
He can come and marry her and apply for spousal visa
He should help the girl relocate abroad, like UK and move on
It’s sad. He’s got the luxury of moving on. What about the girl? This is why the onus is on us to be extra cautious cause we always bear the consequences.
Gbemi, massive july born energy 😂
Totally enjoyed this episode especially because of the choice of guest. As for the writer and his woman, I wish them all the best with whatever they decide because I don’t even have an opinion on it. It’s all too messed up.
Gbemi oo
Dont talk too much. Please end it and be ready to tell your next GF what happened so she isnt unaware
Nah! Gbemi is the real deal
Lmfao at Gbemi been adamant about Long distance
Gbemi 😂😂😂 block her family members too Ahnahn 😂😂
Find the person's mentor ke😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I think because Gbemi doesnt like long distance relationship made her cut other options easily. First ife, can the couple do long distance relationship there will be other options, the guy seem to write everything in his favour, what are the other things he said they went through together. The blackmail from the lady is unnecessary but she should know there is no love again and move on!!
I love Gbemi, my kind of person. She said it as it is. The lady who had 6 abortion doesn’t she love herself?