@@Aki-rh2vd And "some people" can't help but to use that word every chance they get to describe every person they don't like 🙄 There was not enough information given about either person for you to make that call.
She literally doesn't know. Whether that's due to her being too self involved or due to him just having not let on what his issue was, are entirely beside the point. Also, I find interesting how there's a VERY OBVIOUS clue in the story literally every comment I've seen is overlooking. The fact that they ate building a house the together, and the fact that OP and her now-ex BF both own land in their own name. Those, despite being lines that get little narrative emphasis, contain what I would consider the most substantial information. That she has means of her own, and they were building a house together... The other issues that were emphasized were what she valued more and what was on her mind, and whar was on her mind would derive in part from how her partner directed conversation. And if her partner was being manipulative the reason he gave may or may not have even been real but was designed not to explain his motivation but to distract from it. I'm thinking he's not really a narcissist because he actually left himself a good out from the situation and narcissist rarely do that, either lacking the foresight or believing their manipulation will always work. But it looks to me like it is distinctly possible that the entire relationship was a con job, or if there was a relationship attempt at first, the egress strategy was a con job. In other words, girly may well be the self absorbed gal every incel in the comments section is calling her, but fuckboi is a raging hobosexual who used rich girl to score himself a house. Look at the whole sequence of events. "We have all the same values," He knew how flatter her and kept telling her what she wants to hear. They start living together. They build the house together. They never get engaged, so there's no legal obligation to split 50/50 in a break-up. So she doesn't go into what the split is on the expenses, but look at what she describes as her course of action. The moves her and her daughter's things to another place she owns... She doesn't describe it as her former residence. She doesn't describe it as her property. She describes it specifically as A PROPERTY she owns... as in one of many... She also doesn't describe encountering any kind of financial hardship from this... Then again, if she was set up well by her family, and this princess clearly was, it would take a while before such hardship actually begins to manifest. TL;DR: OP is loaded and her boyfriend was gold digger who took advantage of her. His criticism might have been valid though because he took what he could get and broke off rather than going for the whole enchilada. Bonus points if her totally not a Mafia Don Grandfather actually decided pay that guy a solid mill to fuck off.
I don't care what anybody has went through, your trials and tribulations, or how are your parents treated you No parent has a right to call their child out their name and degrade them. Raising a child with fear isn't raising a child it's tolerating their existence just long enough until they're old enough to fend for themselves let's talk about it.
Your children come up on how you've raised them it's not her Italian way that's some bullshit. It's the way you raised her and he doesn't want that for his child seems completely reasonable to me.
He might have his reasons which he’s entitled to, but he could’ve handled that a whole lot better breaking the news to her on Mother’s Day and then backtracking after taking those photos was really bad
@@ZoombeeGray-hq7ljI’d say in the way of him going about it all that way with the whole on Mother’s Day and after the wedding photos etc I can see why she feels that to be a betrayal in the timing of it all but also I can see why she’d be salty about that. Yes he has a right to leave and that’s fine but the way he did it wasn’t good and she’s hurt so she may sound like that lol
What did she do? The only thing parents do with kids is introuce their kids to their partners before they know them well. If i had kids i wouldn't introduce them til i was engaged because things can go wrong yes i know even then. If he truly had a problem with her parenting he would have left her long ago not after moving in together that was stupid of him.
@@yamairad1 we all have potty mouths in front of our children plus she's Italian and they yell a lot and love more. He knew all of those things about her, yet he dated her. Then all of a sudden he had a problem with her. Please he had or did have someone else.
@@yamairad1if that’s his reasoning he needs to grow a pair and get over it. if she was abusing her child i could see why he called her a bad mom but it seems like he changed and didn’t want to take accountability for that
Yta we are missing the important part you kept pressure him for kids and marriage also you just mention you wanted him to be your daughter new daddy heck no
Having open conversations at 35/36 is not pressuring him.....that's called knowing what you want. He's a grown man; she's a loving mom who puts her kids and family first....why on earth would you let someone who was unsure about their role in your life into your family photos???? He's 36, he's a grown man. If he feels "pressured" then he's more like a 16 year old at that point.
@@benaffblackyou can feel pressured at any age, pressure isn’t exclusive for a certain age range. And there a different between having an open conversation about what you expect from a relationship and telling them to follow what you want in a relationship, one is ‘this is what i want and if you don’t want that, then we need to break up bcs that is my deal breaker’ versus ‘i want to get married, my daughter love you so much already, you have to be her daddy’, one has a way out and having a talk about the relationship, the other is bombarding your wants in disregard of what your SO want.
@lunamorningstar5488 he, a 36-year-old man, willingly gets into a relationship with a single mother and has open conversations about the future but, in reality, secretly has no intentions for a long-term future with her or her daughter because he thinks she raises her daughter wrongly. This is a text-book man-child who wanted a weaker woman who would never challenge him and would never set actual expectations out of a relationship. I will not be shocked if OP makes an update and he's with a much younger woman. "Pressure" is the biggest cop-out excuse for this behavior. He's 36, not 16.
@@benaffblack op deleted her post, because turn out she was a very toxic mom, who use her child as a trauma dump and have a victim mentality, one comment pointed out how she prioritises making it look like it is not her fault than comforting her daughter, many point out how wishy washy she was with the details, and many more. Again pressuring isn’t exclusive for a certain ages you can feel pressured at any age, and you literally making up details that isn’t even in the post, having a conversation mean many things, it could be an actual conversation or an ‘i talk you listen’ situation. Her value doesn’t matched up with him so he left, thats what you do when you are just dating someone, being in a picture isn’t equal to being committed forever.
Ok so he fails as a husband to be. I need to know what their relationship is like throughout the rest of the year. Does she do anything special for him on special days or is it by proxy him doing something nice for himself those days. Talking and counciling before the wedding is needed. Delay the wedding if possible.
@@autumnmayfield6852he should have not been in the picture if he had doubts lmao. bending over backwards to defend the man when all he did was change his mind and his stand point. there isn’t anything wrong with how he feels but he completely disregards her feelings especially on mother’s day and during her sisters wedding. it’s okay for stuff to change but the way he handle it was completely shitty doesn’t matter how you look at it. and what’s his reasoning for her being a bad mom? just because she has a temper and cusses, that’s a common thing with adults even if they’re not parents. bro should have thought out his choice before walking into a relationship with a mom
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Op leaves a very important part that is why he called her a bad mother , how op is treating her child . Need whole story and bf pov also
She did. She's a typical Italian mother.
I don't know a better way to phrase it.
@@liciewhiteley7376 I don't know what Italian mothers are like please elaborate
@devilonly7753 OP just said they are short tempered and foul-mouth and her daughter is a mini me
Some people are narccasistic af
@@Aki-rh2vd And "some people" can't help but to use that word every chance they get to describe every person they don't like 🙄 There was not enough information given about either person for you to make that call.
She literally just conveniently leaves out why he said that?
She literally doesn't know. Whether that's due to her being too self involved or due to him just having not let on what his issue was, are entirely beside the point.
Also, I find interesting how there's a VERY OBVIOUS clue in the story literally every comment I've seen is overlooking. The fact that they ate building a house the together, and the fact that OP and her now-ex BF both own land in their own name. Those, despite being lines that get little narrative emphasis, contain what I would consider the most substantial information. That she has means of her own, and they were building a house together... The other issues that were emphasized were what she valued more and what was on her mind, and whar was on her mind would derive in part from how her partner directed conversation. And if her partner was being manipulative the reason he gave may or may not have even been real but was designed not to explain his motivation but to distract from it. I'm thinking he's not really a narcissist because he actually left himself a good out from the situation and narcissist rarely do that, either lacking the foresight or believing their manipulation will always work. But it looks to me like it is distinctly possible that the entire relationship was a con job, or if there was a relationship attempt at first, the egress strategy was a con job. In other words, girly may well be the self absorbed gal every incel in the comments section is calling her, but fuckboi is a raging hobosexual who used rich girl to score himself a house. Look at the whole sequence of events. "We have all the same values," He knew how flatter her and kept telling her what she wants to hear. They start living together. They build the house together. They never get engaged, so there's no legal obligation to split 50/50 in a break-up. So she doesn't go into what the split is on the expenses, but look at what she describes as her course of action. The moves her and her daughter's things to another place she owns... She doesn't describe it as her former residence. She doesn't describe it as her property. She describes it specifically as A PROPERTY she owns... as in one of many... She also doesn't describe encountering any kind of financial hardship from this... Then again, if she was set up well by her family, and this princess clearly was, it would take a while before such hardship actually begins to manifest.
TL;DR: OP is loaded and her boyfriend was gold digger who took advantage of her. His criticism might have been valid though because he took what he could get and broke off rather than going for the whole enchilada. Bonus points if her totally not a Mafia Don Grandfather actually decided pay that guy a solid mill to fuck off.
I don't care what anybody has went through, your trials and tribulations, or how are your parents treated you
No parent has a right to call their child out their name and degrade them.
Raising a child with fear isn't raising a child it's tolerating their existence just long enough until they're old enough to fend for themselves let's talk about it.
Your children come up on how you've raised them it's not her Italian way that's some bullshit. It's the way you raised her and he doesn't want that for his child seems completely reasonable to me.
He HAS to have his reasons. he is also allowed to leave the relationship
He might have his reasons which he’s entitled to, but he could’ve handled that a whole lot better breaking the news to her on Mother’s Day and then backtracking after taking those photos was really bad
@@kagome1000o I see what you’re saying and I think you’re right.He could’ve handled it better.
@@kagome1000o Also, she’s making it out as if he betrayed them. That’s why I emphasized that he’s allowed to leave the relationship.
@@ZoombeeGray-hq7ljI’d say in the way of him going about it all that way with the whole on Mother’s Day and after the wedding photos etc I can see why she feels that to be a betrayal in the timing of it all but also I can see why she’d be salty about that. Yes he has a right to leave and that’s fine but the way he did it wasn’t good and she’s hurt so she may sound like that lol
@@ellemon I see your point ,Mother’s Day is never a good time to break up with a mother lol
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What did she do? The only thing parents do with kids is introuce their kids to their partners before they know them well. If i had kids i wouldn't introduce them til i was engaged because things can go wrong yes i know even then. If he truly had a problem with her parenting he would have left her long ago not after moving in together that was stupid of him.
She said that she yells a lot and has a potty mouth and her daughter is the same.
@@yamairad1 we all have potty mouths in front of our children plus she's Italian and they yell a lot and love more. He knew all of those things about her, yet he dated her. Then all of a sudden he had a problem with her. Please he had or did have someone else.
@@yamairad1if that’s his reasoning he needs to grow a pair and get over it. if she was abusing her child i could see why he called her a bad mom but it seems like he changed and didn’t want to take accountability for that
OP's ignorance of her boyfriend's viewpoint on such a major issue showcases her selfishness.
So it's selfish to be lied to?
Yta we are missing the important part you kept pressure him for kids and marriage also you just mention you wanted him to be your daughter new daddy heck no
Having open conversations at 35/36 is not pressuring him.....that's called knowing what you want. He's a grown man; she's a loving mom who puts her kids and family first....why on earth would you let someone who was unsure about their role in your life into your family photos????
He's 36, he's a grown man. If he feels "pressured" then he's more like a 16 year old at that point.
@@benaffblackyou can feel pressured at any age, pressure isn’t exclusive for a certain age range. And there a different between having an open conversation about what you expect from a relationship and telling them to follow what you want in a relationship, one is ‘this is what i want and if you don’t want that, then we need to break up bcs that is my deal breaker’ versus ‘i want to get married, my daughter love you so much already, you have to be her daddy’, one has a way out and having a talk about the relationship, the other is bombarding your wants in disregard of what your SO want.
@lunamorningstar5488 he, a 36-year-old man, willingly gets into a relationship with a single mother and has open conversations about the future but, in reality, secretly has no intentions for a long-term future with her or her daughter because he thinks she raises her daughter wrongly.
This is a text-book man-child who wanted a weaker woman who would never challenge him and would never set actual expectations out of a relationship.
I will not be shocked if OP makes an update and he's with a much younger woman.
"Pressure" is the biggest cop-out excuse for this behavior. He's 36, not 16.
@@benaffblack op deleted her post, because turn out she was a very toxic mom, who use her child as a trauma dump and have a victim mentality, one comment pointed out how she prioritises making it look like it is not her fault than comforting her daughter, many point out how wishy washy she was with the details, and many more. Again pressuring isn’t exclusive for a certain ages you can feel pressured at any age, and you literally making up details that isn’t even in the post, having a conversation mean many things, it could be an actual conversation or an ‘i talk you listen’ situation. Her value doesn’t matched up with him so he left, thats what you do when you are just dating someone, being in a picture isn’t equal to being committed forever.
@@benaffblack bro just said abuse has an age Limit 💀
Ok so he fails as a husband to be. I need to know what their relationship is like throughout the rest of the year. Does she do anything special for him on special days or is it by proxy him doing something nice for himself those days. Talking and counciling before the wedding is needed. Delay the wedding if possible.
Someone needs to call CPS on this mom. The way she words things is very narcissistic. That poor child. This OP is a manipulator!
OP is crazy
This is so unfair to you and your little one. Protect her from him. He needs counseling. I'm glad you figured it out Before tying the noose.
He didn't do anything wrong karen he just didn't want a relationship with her
@@autumnmayfield6852he should have not been in the picture if he had doubts lmao. bending over backwards to defend the man when all he did was change his mind and his stand point. there isn’t anything wrong with how he feels but he completely disregards her feelings especially on mother’s day and during her sisters wedding. it’s okay for stuff to change but the way he handle it was completely shitty doesn’t matter how you look at it. and what’s his reasoning for her being a bad mom? just because she has a temper and cusses, that’s a common thing with adults even if they’re not parents. bro should have thought out his choice before walking into a relationship with a mom