The UGLY truth about working in a toxic work environment
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- Опубліковано 30 тра 2022
- Do you work in a toxic workplace? If so, you're not alone. Watch this video to learn the ugly truth about working in a toxic environment and what you can do to make things better.
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Thank you for this video!
Can you do a video in regards to narcissistic / greedy business owners mixed with toxic work culture? I've been searching the youtube platform to find videos about this because of a current situation and would to hear your thoughts on it! Thank you!
Mike, your content is GOLD. Thanks!!!
lol. Glad you enjoy
Signs that you are in a toxic environment:
- You don't want to leave from your house at weekends
- You feel very very tired and you don't have any energy and the little energy that you have you prefer to watch garbage content to liberate from yourself
This is me! Add to that extreme high blood pressure during the work week and it’s LITERALLY killing me.
@@loriharper6011 Yes, when you feel sick, and beside you get sick often, it's normal that you get sick, I was in a place where I felt sick often and then, I realized that the coach played with favoritism and he got married with a Jezebel and there were a lot of flying monkeys
Wow, that sounds like me 😢
Shit that’s me…
Right here. 💯
Giant red flag: nepotism arrangements. When the boss' wife/husband works in the office. Especially if they're not qualified for the role. Run far, far away and don't ever accept the job. Nothing good ever comes out of that. Or any form of nepotism really (friends, family members, etc). You, as the employee, will always be "wrong". Not to mention, if you have a legitimate complaint about a spouse, you can't exactly bring that up to the boss. Nepotism harms morale in the office.
Especially, in a family business...... family first, profits second, employees last......Oh dear God
Lots of second class citizenship over here.... only certain people are allowed to use certain doors, only certain people are allowed to use certain bathrooms. The administrative team can take a break whenever they want while the manufacturing team is bound to certain time slots. No matter how many times we break production and sales records management still continues to re-enforce the rules.
Lots of hiring of lesser than desirable people, people that are covered with gang related tattoos, people that can hardly speak the language, people that are living in their cars. They just want a body to occupy a position
Hmm all three partners at my last job were related in a brother sister way and it was the worst job I ever had. It drove me suicidal.
Nepotism.........
Just left a narcissistic Dentist boss. Demeaning, micromanaging, infantile-minded jerk. And the office was a war zone with flying monkeys ignoring the most inappropriate words that came out of his mouth daily. Was there 13 months and finally walked out. Now my migraines, chest pains, insomnia, depression, and low self esteem are gone. Thanks for talking about this; a lot of people ignore the evil these people bring.
Congrats to you. It always seems like a tough decision to leave a company…. But as you know, it can turn out to be wonderful!!
Just walked out of a dispensary job with a very similar thing
Make sure to publicly expose the business. It's the right thing to do and it's what that business deserves
Did that with a sports bar after the owner put his horrible spoiled kids in charge when they got right out of college and business school. They were horrible employers. They tried to make me stay after my shift to clean up afterwards without paying me extra, and tried to force us to come in on our days off.
It seems like there are too many employers that are toxic and narcissistic nowadays. I'm tired of it. Amazon has a 126% turnover. A huge turnover is a bad sign. I go to a vet ( for my cats) and what a turnover of employees he has. I was going to apply as his vet assistant but decided not to.
My last job we started off great. I noticed that my boss was running off good workers and manipulating the new ones. I left because i sensed that she and her crawling monkeys were on the verge of setting me up. I left. My spirit is valuable.
I been through that
Find a male boss/supervisor and see how things turn out. If you don't try, you won't know.
I've tried riding it out several times and wow it only gets worse and worse - on your physical health especially.
Ya. Sure does!
@@LeadershipwithMike Thanks for the info! People worry so much about quitting before a 2nd job is lined up but today's economy features so many insta-hired gig jobs that there's always revenue coming in while scouting another job. I'm a huge believer in a job needing to also be energizing with daily psychological flow for longterm sustainability. The money alone just doesn't seem to sustain this need in the same way and it might take many jobs before hitting the mark. The average lifestyle has changed dramatically over the past few decades, thus so has employment. Constantly adapting to the situation perhaps.
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Every boss, every job I’ve ever encountered has cliques, favoritism, unrealistic expectations, poor to no training/ support etc etc
Nothing makes me mad more than favouritism, and it’s always beneficial towards those who do the least
When you talked about hating your job, but stayed because of the pay, benefits and hours reminded me of my last job. We call those things (pay etc) the “golden handcuffs.”
That they are.
This is definitely my current job, I’ve been in toxic work environments. This one by far is the worst, managers lack supportive role, gossip and clicks, high turnover and everyone is always in a crappy mood even if they are “happier” people. Your constantly told what you haven’t done no matter how hard you try nor how late you stay. I literally get anxious or cry before every shift and so do some of my other coworkers.
I’m sorry to hear this.
If you're crying before work it's time to get out, you deserve better
You pretty much nailed most of the work environments I've been in. Bless your heart.
Also mine. I left a toxic DC think tank to work at a leading finance firm here and wow I should have listened to my gut. During my interview, they said the office was “like a family” and that’s a major red flag. It’s a satellite office of a major bank and I’ve heard HR horror stories about these smaller offices with no oversight. I’ve been here 7 months and it’s already a serious problem.
Yoh it's like my thoughts spoken out loud
The head of HR is leaving the company. #toxicenvironment
We always have to be aware of my boss’ mood because depending on it, that’s how we’ll be treated.
That sucks.
F that!
That’s everywhere
Same. If she is snippy, we know we are in for it
That sucks, don't spend a long time in that job, it will kill you slowly.
The sad truth is that all workplaces have some level of toxicity. The question you should ask yourself is "how toxic is this place and can I handle it?" rather than "is this place toxic or not?". Please note there's nothing wrong with you if you have lower toxicity tolerance than someone else.
Thank you for your insightfull responds; I kind of needed to hear this :)
not true
I think @brightspacebabe explained well what "bad" unacceptable work environment toxicity is that should require one to leave: an environment where you get illnesses such as migraines, chest pains, insomnia, depression, and low self esteem. The low self esteem is DEFINITELY not acceptable, the problem is today that so many managers that lead others are angry and miserable and operating out of fear themselves. They take it out on others and project their fears on to others. Corporations might be able to help this a little with training but guess what, people are not promoted because they treat people well, they are promoted because they produced the numbers. Furthermore, the era of training and grooming managers to be managers, is LOOOONGGGGG gone and none existent now - there is no money and they expect that someone promoted into that position KNOW how to do it. They assume the BS they posted in their resume and interview is true - they can't check it folks!!!!! So guess what, we all end up taking on the anger of our managers. Yep. Finding a manager that loves themselves and aspires to build up people are few and far between. Managers motivation is money, tand strangely enough THEY operate out of FEAR that THEY are not good enough. How are we going to break this cycle folks?
True, they are all toxic to an extent, some being ok, with just one or two toxic people messing around and others full of them everywhere you go. Sometimes one can't exactly tell the level of toxicity until they start working there and there are some that the level is so high that you can see it from outside.
Very well said. I appreciate this!
I just got fired from one. I wanted to leave anyway but it’s a blow to my ego. I wanted to go out on my terms. I hated the place but it paid the bills. Never trust a coworker to be your friend. It bit me in the ass.
I’ve been there, I feel for you. Hope you’ve landed on your feet. That’s a traumatizing experience and I still get nightmares about it.
I agree I've been there there not your friends in fact there jealous of you I quit in Jan in healthcare bc of how bsd it got .
I never understood a "toxic work environment" until I worked in one. It didn't start as that way and worked there nearly 20 years., but there were signs in the first few years that the toxicity was increasing. It was a new "Boss" that allowed the toxicity to get out of control. In the past 5 years, it became that way fast.
Yes I've worked at a workplace for almost 2 years now. It used to be amazing. Many changes came in about four months ago. Downhill ever since. Such a shame.
I document these things now for my union. Never go to HR. They are more minions of the sociopath boss. I could also show this proof to my parents or partner so I know I am being gaslit and that I am right. My last job made me doubt myself but when I found the courage to tell my boyfriend, he told me that this company had a reputation. I even found the courage to tell his friends and one of them confirmed that bad reputation! I am so happy I told people. Don't be ashamed to talk about toxic jobs!
@@LA-wv7gf we need to normalize speaking badly of our previous employers. It only makes sense when we want to switch jobs that we were unhappy at our last jobs.
Yes your right HR is there to protect the company nothing more, I have learnt this first hand.
@fluffycat6489 💯 correct. HR is there to protect the company, not the employee.
I once worked at a company where hr was referred to as the witches coven.
HR sucks. Total backstabbing, lying, fore-flushing, useless little cretins.
You also know when a workplace is toxic when:
- the boss or the managers tells yo to finish a project (or more projects) in a week, even if the workload is so heavy that this is a project you actually do in like one month or something
- when you hear co-workers talking bad about their backs about other people (you bet that they do the same shit about you)
- when you see or hear people quitting every week/months or just dont come to work anymore
- when you not actually working together with your "CO-" workers, and you just have to do every single piece of workload by yourself, and if you fail, because someone didnt communicate too well how you should do stuff, and you get ALL the Blame for it
- when you just started somewhere and people immediately start belittling you or lecture you in a very presumptous way
and the ones you see in the video of course.
Every single one of these exact things happened at this job I took 4 months ago. I've been all over videos and threads, how did you just name exactly the big points happening at this mind-blowing dumpster fire.. how?
I'm humbled and grateful that my first interview with someone who had worked at this place before. They are going to hire me in a few weeks hopefully and save me 😢
@@user-ht2kw2ug5f Its crazy that there are companies like that. I’ve quit my job there 2 months ago, friday is my last day. And the best was, there are actually ppl who think maybe you are the problem, yeah… Just No, srsly no.
I think the medical profession is riddled with toxic work environments. It’s been the story of my life. I grew up in a very sheltered kind of manner, and I didn’t know how mean people can be. The people I was most closest to weren’t even my colleagues. They were usually the people who worked in housekeeping receptionists, and ancillary workers. Mind you, I’m a nurse practitioner. I’m ashamed of what’s happening in medicine.
This is NOT the first I’ve heard of this in the medical profession 😔
Hi Ivie. I am also a NP and I recently left a toxic work environment. It was hard to leave but when I noticed that I was crying on the job, I knew that I had to leave. Now I am trying to heal from this experience. It is so shameful.
Im a CPC and this is definitely accurate in the medical field
The housekeeping department is just as toxic the customers will complaint about things not getting cleaned enough. I'm going through it right now.😡😡😡😡😡😡😡
I also worked in the healthcare space, almost my entire career but my latest role was in project management at the health plan level. I started becoming physically impacted by the stress and as a result, my white blood count has skyrocketed, suffered panic attacks and now have a heart issue. This is all within the window of time I’ve worked at this place. I’m a healthy person generally or so I thought until my latest exam and now it’s specialist city! No job is worth compromising your health ❤️🩹I ignored a lot of signs and just kept toughing it out until my body gave me a big signal - ultimately leading to me resigning.
Sad thing is, this describes majority of office/corporate jobs in U.S. at the moment. Just left one, thought I would be stressed, but I had this Euphoric wave of relief and my body now feels like it is detoxing from it. I couldn't be happier!
I’ve had exactly 1 job that wasn’t a toxic work environment. Every other company I’ve worked for has been run by either a narcissistic sociopath or deeply incompetent managers. All of whom overworked their staff and/or were emotionally and mentally abusive. There is a reason I became freelance.
could have said the exact same thing - me too. I literately emptied my bowels for 3 days straight - sorry to be blunt :) but hey its the truth
Same here! Spontaneously quit a job on the spot 3 mos ago over dealing with the wildly unrealistic expectations and bullying from a toxic manager in an unsupportive work environment at best. There’s definitely a small sense of anxiety stepping into the unknown. But I’ve found life glorious. Daily walks around the neighborhood (overworking, not by choice, had taken away that privilege), more quality time with family, taking trips/mini vacations where I’m not stressed about what awaits me dealing with that toxic mgr upon return lol!!! I think this is what Europeans get right when work and bosses aren’t prioritized in life.
@seensay2132 I love this for you!!!
@@LeadershipwithMike GREAT video. Thanks Mike!
Some workplaces have what I call "Environmental Gas Lighting", where the "rules" or "standards" of the workplace are not healthy in any way and make zero sense in the real world
I was on a staff of 21. Three years later, the staff had dwindled down to just 6, and they weren't even interviewing people. My workload had tripled and I didn't get paid over time. We had a well established way of managing projects which required multiple people on a project. My managers never told our stakeholders that we were under-staffed. We were expected to deliver the same level of service. I left that job.
I’m in a toxic environment now but it is only a stepping stone. Favoritism is off the charts. Telling me to ask questions and then responding with condescension when I do is toxic. I’m new to the industry so I naturally have questions. I try to always figure it out myself but when I can’t, I have to ask. Meanwhile, someone else can ask the same questions and receive a cordial and patient answer.
Totally agree. I don't stay more than a few weeks in a toxic work culture because I want to live a long happy life
These are the companies getting on TV and saying "people don't want to work". The missing words in their sentence is "for our company" Word gets around about the kind of place it is and people start avoiding it like the plague
I don't allow toxic people at work to push me around. You just expose these kind of people.
Once you expose, your arse will explode.
Yes
Spot on. The high staff turnover was so high at my last job.
There's power in leaving for your own peace which is priceless so take your power back!
To Everyone, please remember, when one door is closed another one is open! 💕
I quit or bait them into firing me whenever I find myself in a workplace such as that. I especially hate it when a new company buys the old one and turns what was once an okay workplace completely toxic.
My last toxic job was at a notary. There was agression, swearing, large employee turnover, obvious depression, gaslighting, stress, bad manuals, no training, bad communication. One girl turned out to have anorexia. I only realised when the secretary came in and told her to eat some yoghurt... Ugh. This same girl seemed to have some loose screws. She played annoying Christmas music on repeat for an entire month. The other two at my office asked me invasive questions about my private life and always reacted neutral to negative. Whether it was because I was living alone, went to my parents on the weekend, didn't have a boyfriend and the worst I was working with a week contract. I was an ant that needed to be crushed in their eyes.
People can be terrible, it's hard to understand why they need to put down people so much. The psychological battle at work is a disease.
I worked under two toxic managers at the same company back to back. I was so mentally & emotionally depleted after working with them that I absolutely had to go to therapy. Now, I finally feel like I'm getting myself back. I am working on un-brainwashing myself from the crazy things that they drilled into those of us on their teams. I worked for a dangerous sociopathic manager who would try to find a way to ruin your personal life if you did the slightest thing to trigger him. My next manager was what I believe was a vulnerable narcissist who made everyone's life miserable for fun. It seemed to give him power to be able to wreck someone's day. I'm so blessed to be away from those lunatics now. 🙏🏼
Your manager sounds like my narcissist Jezebel neighbor.
2 Tim.3 mentions false accussers and lovers of themselves.
GOD KNOWS she's got blood on her hands(+ Rev.18:24)
I worked for a narcissist at my last job, and he was hands-down the worst boss I've ever had, not to mention the most toxic place I've ever worked. The only good that came of it was that I learned clearly what NOT to put up with in a workplace.
Toxicity can still be when you work remotely, because the bullies are also remote. They lie to your boss about you, your boss joins them, they are rude to you in meetings or antagonize you, etc.
OMG! I’m shaking my head, YES! EVERYTHING he’s said is spot on! Don’t forget, “you should know this/that” when you ask a legitimate question. 😬
Thx for watching 👍🏻
@@LeadershipwithMike You’re welcome & thank you for your valuable content. 🤩
I also got the "you should know that" comment when asking a question on one particular job. 😔
@@whatevernice3452the same thing happened to me and I’ve only been at that job for a little over 3 months at the time and they wrote me up back to back
Yeah man it’s the worst when they say, “ use common sense” but none of their policies have common sense.
I am working at an organization that has this "You should have done X," but "X was never asked for." And yet, my boss is so insecure, if you bring anything up, she acts like a victim and says "I hope it isn't me." I am sooooo tired of it. My boss constantly blames me for stuff that she never told me she wanted me to do and I am done. I wanted to stay, but I don't think I can handle it much longer.
It's never the job, it's the ppl u have to interact with at said job.
I greatly share this sentiment
ya, the phones are stealing interaction time.
I'm in my 2nd toxic work environment!!! My first toxic work environment I didn't know the signs because I have never been in a toxic work environment.
My first toxic work environment, the Supervisor had two favorites. Those two favorites were bullies and were constantly monitoring me to see if I was working. Then the two favorites went back to the Supervisor who was there friend and said I was not doing my work.
The 2nd toxic work environment that I am in, is the worst!! There are three toxic coworkers that I work with. Those three coworkers who are a click, love to bully, criticize, and start arguments at work!! I have seen my coworker who is a harder worker get told off and yelled at by the click at work!!!
When I am at work, I'm constantly walking on eggshells and my nerves are bad because I never know when the click will start trouble at work!! I realized it's time for me to go!
Yes. It’s time!
Clique.
I work in a toxic environment so bad…that Management favors the trouble makers and the people that start shit
And the innocent that try to defend themselves are threatened
That is the toxic place I work in 😔
That sucks. Sorry to hear.
Can relate.
BELIEVE ME, I CAN RELATE.
God knows my case.
That's how great it is.
A big part of the toxicity climate is from the wrong people in charge, and being put in charge.
EVIL MEN RULE.
( That's the bad part. The good part is that the meek shall inherit the earth----whenever that glorious day comes).
In the Meantime, this is an evil, perverse, adulterous generation we're trapped and overcome in.
I know a change is going to come.
Quit like a wholeass g and make a scene. Tell them to direct deposit your pay and gfts.
Sounds like some jobs in the military
Make sure to video record them and post to social media
I think the number 1 cause of toxic work environments is the loss of autonomy of the workers due to constant interuptions & unnecessary changes from incompetent managers.
Thank you for saying this! It seems benign at first but this created an absolutely crazy-making circumstance at my last job. (I left, and the autonomy I now have in my new job makes me feel like I’ve won the lottery.)
You are so right about these
toxic unnecessary changes
that bad managers create to destroy one's peace of mind
and setting.
That's a bad sign that the wrong people are in charge, and being put in charge;
Another sign of the times we're in
Working in a toxic work environment nearly killed me. They overworked us for years. It was so bad i truly believe it was cursed by the previous manager. She was mean. I had to go to see my doctor cause it changing me. I had to go on meds. I took meds for anxiety, depression, nerve pain, fibromyalgia, muscle pain, back pain, etc. I was in so much pain from the forced overtime, that i ended up with alot of physical health problems. I ended up getting a herniated disk from standing in one spot for long hours that my back gave out. Ive got arthritis on both wrist, tingling in my neck, bursitis, tendinitis, trigger fingers, bone spurs in my hands, muscular skeletal problems, the list goes on. I can tell u it does affect you in ways you never thought. I have such a fear of being in another environment like that in a new job. If that happens i k ow i will bail . Never going to put up w that again. Turnover was high. Our district manager came to visit us once and said he could feel the tension in the air when he walked in the room. Thats nuts. Thank god i left
The wicked in charge know how to get rid of their prey
My boss gets so angry if someone calls out sick that people are afraid to take a sick day even if they are sick. I was legit so sick once that I was out for two days. I was really still sick on the third day, but my boss guilt tripped me so bad that I worked when I shouldn’t have. On the good side, I love 95% of my coworkers. They are great people and I truly enjoy working with them. We are a group of empaths that our boss has collected to work for him. He’s so toxic. He constantly gossips to everyone about everyone else. He makes us afraid to even leave the building for lunch because we might go over our 30 minute UNPAID lunch break. He is always telling us to “get sh*t done!” He constantly lies to us. He plays favorites. And did I say he lies? He lies all the time. He outright lies and he lies by omission. He’s a big fat liar. 😠
You may not see this, but i wanted to say"why dont you quit that place? "and then i realised.. We all comment these stuff because actualy we cant say it at work. And we cant get justice so we say this here, in hopes- that someone will validate it.
You are right.. If you see it, trust yourself and quit, you have to think for yourself to have a good life. Dont wait for someone to do it for you if you know you dont feel ok at that place.
Great advice and introspection.
Interesting how many Narcissists are business owners, bosses, rich and " successful".
I want to puke every time someone describes themself as "empaths" hh.. yea you just a bunch of those sensitive little beings which are angels pure goodness and sensitivity
Props to you for staying in a toxic work environment so long. When you get to the point where you wake up every day and hate or don't want to go to work, it's time for a change. I welcome change, change is necessary for growth
After leaving a toxic (narc)mother, and then an abusive narc husband, I was alarmed to realize the new job I got had a very toxic supervisor and a toxic manager. Tried my best to 'work within the system' with a non-functioning HR and union. It just got worse. Went to a competitor company and got hired at a higher rate of pay, better hours, and way nicer environment. I said to myself I did not up and leave two previous abusive relationships just to end up in another one. I will 'walk' as often as is necessary. I'm done with abuse and toxicity.
You picked your husband, you're not the victim of scenario, you attract narcs because you are one 😇
All I can say is I worked in a toxic work environment for 9 years. I was promoted the entire time, so it's not like I was neglected, but it was toxic in the sense that you were worked to the bone, employees' needs came dead last, and there was no compassion for the individual employees' needs. Funnily enough, after calling off my toxic relationship (marriage) of similar duration (10 years), I realized how free I was in my personal life afterwards and it was only about a year later I finally left my toxic job for another one, and the same thing happened... you realize how much better the world can be on the "outside" of your little bubble, and you don't actually have to suffer through the whole thing.
This is so true!!
There are loads and loads of horrible people everywhere. In shops, walking about AND looking to be unpleasant in a job.
I hated my job because of the awful people there. Luckily, I have escaped never to go back.
I wish everybody well that is still trapped in such a situation.
Thanks for sharing your sentiment.
I hope God gives you a blessing you richly deserve
"Work to live. Not live to work."
It is all talk to this point. Nothing ever changes
I'm sure this quote will be a beneficial help to many
Pretty soon after starting at my current job, I felt this cold wave of depression. After that, the bullying started, along with the chaotic deadlines and never-ending stress. I'm trying to get out but with a mortgage and kids, it's hard. I have a plan to go back to being self employed, because I never felt so miserable back then and I feel that life - while not perfect - suits me better. I'll get severely sick if I carry on where I am. Thanks for your video.
Tbh I think that the "minions" there, the employees that stay there for the money and slave away to please the sociopathic boss, I think they know deep inside that they are miserable and I believe that they try to inflict that pain on anyone who is knew and still has a sliver of happiness. In them. They hate that. They don't think you should be allowed to be happy because they aren't. I left that place in five weeks! Took the money and ran haha.
Since i quit my job of 1 year work hours 12 sometime 13 hours with only 3 hours of sleeps each day mon - thursday i can tell i am much happier and feel much more like my normal self. i had issues at work which caused me to have stress issues and eventually mental depression even on weekends, it was taking its toll on me and my relationship. If you feel you are in this type of situation get out dont end up the same way i did.
When you voice your opinion, but it gets shot down every time. It’s like talking to a wall at that point. A narcissist boss who is never wrong. To the point where you just don’t talk and do the work. Having to walk on eggshells, and the constant verbal abuse and threatening of termination. You can’t bottle it up either, because it slowly drains you mentally.
I work at one now. There are days I feel sick just knowing I have to go in. The boss has no idea what really goes on yet blames anyone without any idea when a problem arises. I got blamed for something that happened in a department I don’t even work in or had any control over.
Most of my jobs have been arenas of toxicity and narcissistic game playing.
I feel bad for people in those situations because I was in one for years. It eventually caused burn out and I had to leave. He's right, the high turnover caused a ton of stress because we were constantly training new people and they would make more mistakes as they were learning. My advice is if you see these signs, if at all possible find a better place. Otherwise de stress, like he said get your head into a new environment. Also, "box breathing" etc, can help control the stress response. Exercise is very important because it gives us a physical outlet for the stress response, which isn't intended to be used to sit Idle at a desk and internally absorb.
This rings so true for most of the jobs I have had and still work at. Unfortunately, there's not much to choose from where I live. It really sucks to be stuck. I just pray for the lottery, as stupid as it sounds. That's what keeps me going, as much as I hate dealing with some of the rude, disrespecting people I have to deal with. I just daydream about winning big bucks and turning in my 1 day notice, and never looking back. lol. People don't even have to tell me that it's a ridiculous dream and the kind of long shot it is. I already know. The fantasy just keeps me going, is all. I take it one day at a time.
I pray for the lottery too… unfortunately, I don’t play much lol
Let’s stop the dreaming. Fuck the lottery. Let’s start writing down what we want out of life and what we’re willing to put up with. Let’s put them into small, measurable doable goals. Let’s start LIVING!!
Put as much as you can in your 401(k) or a taxable brokerage account. As it grows and you become closer to being financially independent, you’ll feel secret satisfaction. Economize as much as you can and invest that money. Pack your lunch and invest the excess you would have wasted buying lunch, do your own nails, etc. If you drink soda, buy it at the grocery store and take it to work instead of paying higher prices at the vending machine or snack bar. Same with snacks and coffee. It’s secretly satisfying and makes you feel superior to co-workers who fritter their money away.
Being yelled/cursed at, told we are replaceable, micromanaged, undermined, I dread going to work.
I attended a meeting for new hires once, and we were all told "You are not here to get a paycheck. You are here to do a job, and then we, in turn GIVE you a paycheck."
Silly me, I thought if you worked a certain number of hours, you were supposed to get paid an hourly rate. I didn't know a paycheck was a favor.
my previous work environment I experienced workplace sexual harassment from a male coworker who would openly talk about his sexual past to other coworkers, and would harrass me for not wanting to go out with him because I have a boyfriend. And the big male security guard would try to flirt with me ever since I worked there by trying to touch my hand when I'm just getting water and try to strick a convo with me regarding politics outside of work. A female coworker that made me really uncomfortable by saying "Asian women are fit because they are Asian" etc and also would constantly talk about how she feels like all workplaces discriminated her due to her weight. She also constantly stares at me hatefully.
It was absolute hell, I reported to the HR and she felt like just changing my seat away from the male coworker would solve the issue. And it got worse, he would walk back to my new area to stare at me. I had to quit..
HR is not there for us 😞
How I determine whether I stay or leave is by a qualitative formula I invented. It's quite simple. Every job you have is going to be a certain % of "shit" because no job is perfect. You're always going to have to do things you don't want to do and deal with people you dislike. The goal is to have the "good" outweigh the "shit". If your job is 70% "good" and 30% "shit", you're doing pretty well. If you job becomes 80% "shit" and 20% "good" with no improvement in sight, it's time to leave. Even if the pay is good, if you're working a job negatively impacting your health (which I did for longer than I should have) then you should seriously consider leaving. Not all may agree with my standpoint but I like to believe this is a practical outlook.
Yes yes and yes. My work place is beyond toxic. I got so sick and lost so much weight from the toxicity of my work environment. I had to take a sick leave. I have 7 months left! Yeah! My boss is a real piece of work. Talks behind your back, takes personal calls whenever she wants, goes out for a million smoke breaks but will never take a lunch. My Lunch = 1 hour no lunch but 2 or 3 hours worth of smoke breaks. Gets really angry if you are truly ill and call in sick. Talks behind everyone’s back. Steals your food. 7 months and counting!! I feel sick going into work everyday. I need my benefits until my really expensive meds are done. June 30th 2024. 235 days!
avoid her as much as possible. laugh at her criticisms. try it.
I work in tech at a massive company and on a team of like 12 there’s about 5 call outs everyday for someone being sick. I’m now realizing what’s happening. We talk about being burnt out to each other but hearing it 3rd hand is so different.
I spent one month in a toxic job. When I interviewed for the job the person in charge of the department was not involved in the process. Had I met her in the interview I would have not accepted the job. It was me and the owner. Another thing I found out after I left the company was that the owner and brother had been in a very well publicized family feud that lasted to his death. Why I was there I noticed one there was no human relations department just a book keeper. The other workers were very nervous. They brought in lunch every Thursday if you look at it there were not so nice reasons behind it. I liked the work but the company has serious red flags. It was an experience. What did I learn research the company history do not just go by name. Second in the interview if the manager of your department not included there is a reason.
I got into security field to get experience for a work for a armed guard postion for a company I really wanted to get into Next week is going to be 3 months. Such a high turnover, working 12-15hrs a day, sleep deprived, most of the employees talk about each other back and so on. I'm about to quit and it's affecting my personal life and relationship.
Mike, you just described my workplace.
Sorry to hear 👎🏻
Everything he said is true. I've been working in a toxic work environment for 6 years! The job messed up my mental health real bad. Thank God I'm leaving soon, l'm so excited! I pray that my new job isn't toxic.
I take sick days to give myself space and protection for the toxic environment. Personality issues are huge. Turn over high. There are little clicks, high gossip between full time staff and casuals. Full time staff teach new hired bad habits being on the phone while working, gossiping about team, sleeping on the job, taking 1 to 2 hour breaks and doing less work. B.S. at work. Management needs to talk to human resources for rules to deal with trouble employees and implement them to get them to slowly move out.
Sounds like Refresco
Couple this with a toxic relationship at home and you have hell on earth
If you walk away from a conversation with someone at work feeling totally confused (this is a big one) OR feeling way "lower" than them (less smart, less cultured, less sophisticated, less worthy, less important, less powerful, less capable, etc), ASSUME they're toxic and limit contact with them. It's more about going with how you feel than what you think, if you want to build a "radar" system for this junk. I say "junk" because people who use tactics to lower the esteem of someone or intentionally confuse them are literally garbage people. I don't care how much money they have, if they can't treat people right and see them as humans, they belong in a trash colony among their own type. 🙂
I just recently left my job as a cleaner in a care home; the upper management was toxic. The cleaners were always treated like they were somehow beneath everyone else. We were always understaffed because the company always drove workers to quit from the amount of stress we were always under.
We were always blamed for everything that went wrong; even if it was something the Carers did, it was OUR fault according to them.
I don't even know how many panic attacks I've had just from the stress they put on us alone. There were some days where I was working 10 hour shifts back to back with no break, and then I was so stressed and exhausted I broke down into tears in my living room when I got home.
I handed in my notice, and I've never looked back.
You would hope that cleaning is very physical but shouldn't be stressful. Street is for the big bucks😢
Your story is copy/paste of mine. The secondary benefits and comfort of the job itself are scary to let go though. Especially since I've excelled at my job for years and years but get no recognition or acknowledgement (all my colleagues share these observations btw), instead managers look down on me and don't take me seriously, I get passed up on for far less every time, and I'm degraded and mocked at the slightest or even at random... If that's the consistent feedback on my best work, it really makes it scary to try something new and leave the security behind in the process... Feels like a terribly risky gamble with my entire livelihood.
Leave security behind? Well, it depends on one’s definition of security. Financial benefits to me do not compare with peace, tranquility, mental health, and emotional wellbeing. I would take a job that pays me less. Laugh is not long enough to gnash your teeth every time you go to work or whenever u are at work. That’s modern day slavery right there. And it has nothing to do with skin color this time around.
worked at a retirement home and it was SO TOXIC. worked 6 days a week for a whole month. asked for 5 days off for my birthday week 2 months im advance. didn’t get approved cause it went to “seniority” such BS. said i couldn’t work weekends cause i leave town and they continue to put me. people coming in late and leaving early. leaving me with all the work. talked to my manager and she didn’t care. i finally quit a couple weeks ago and i’m so relieved. been focusing on my mental health and applying at different places. i have hope something better is coming along 🌷💕
when I'm 62 I'm gone two years
My shitty boss is Hellbent on getting rid of me.
I'll be that age in a few weeks, God willing.
He's not kidding about the sickness. Stress can make you sick and keep you up at night. The sort of thing where you start having nightmares about work.
A place I know is full of toxic people. They harass anyone who is not in their "group" (alphabet group). i.e. Lies presented as truth(even gross exaggerations) , downgrading, always told they are wrong (even when right), made fun of, supplies hidden from that employee (in the most bizarre locations) to make their life harder, rules made for that 1 employee that change day to day, negative comments towards that employee constantly, any comments / questions from them instantly twisted to the opposite and shot down and ridiculed, false accusations, and so much more.
I know of one employee there who even got accused (because he wasn't in the "group") of disgusting and illegal behaviour although I know he was innocent. This was to get rid of him. The thing is.. They failed as logs are kept which proved he was actually innocent. He did get transferred however (and promoted) to calm the situation (so I guess the false accusers did win a bit)
Basically that workplace (run by the alphabet group) gets promotions, extra shifts, etc by popularity (and if you're in the group) instead of being based on experience / merit. The group basically is lazy and makes the ones not in the group do the work.
The owner doesn't really know or care as long as he's making money.
Not kidding at all unfortunately 😒
Whoa! You nailed it.
How do I deal with a colleague that just doesn’t want to greet me anymore or talk to me even after I greet them still no response so I pick up vibes that are just anti me so I’ve decide just not to greet anymore I ain’t no martyr and sucker so this person makes me not know how to relate to individuals like this one day this way the next another way and frankly I want to transcend that BS and be one with myself and make it like that person doesn’t exist with all due respect to the persons humanity but rather no communication with these individuals
@kennethsellar5485 I worked with a guy like this. It bothered me. But I chose to no longer acknowledge him.
Then every now and then he would talk to me like we were great friends. It was weird.
If I’m greeted, I always return the greeting. It’s weird but 🤷🏻♂️
@@LeadershipwithMike thanks for your reply and yeah it’s weird when they talk you again except this guy doesn’t talk at all but yeah I’ve decided to as well not acknowledge him anymore it’s best for me and I will greet back if they greet me but I won’t greet first because I hate these cross signals and I’m sick and tired of it I certainly cannot dissolve in front of this person put them on God damn pedestals and crap I have a strong intuition and discernment and read these people.This workplace becomes a lonely road as it’s just also a toxic place in certain ways if I could wish I was rather somewhere else but right now I must bite the bullet its my bread and butter but hoping to get breakthrough in other things but yeah this guy I wont acknowledge him and also even if he greets I will greet back but im not going to greet him again first
I worked at a place for 15 months, successfully commercialized all of my projects during that time. We also had WEEKLY one on one sit downs with my direct supervisor. He never said a word about any "bad performance" in any of those meetings. My raise was three months late. When I asked about that, a few weeks later I was called in to the conference room, and my boss shredded me, according to him, I did nothing right. I was stunned. His next move was to write me up on a PIP I couldnt possibly complete, (it was all just extra work assignments in addition to my normal work load). When I pushed back, they fired me. I will note, this supervisor was a classic malignant narcissist by the way.
You don't have to convince me my doctor said this was the case. I got stress and my blood pressure was way up. A couple of years of this and something is going break. The manager was completely unqualified for the job and this made her paranoid.
Couldn't agree more. In fact I saw someone HAVE A STROKE - like RIGHT AT THEIR DESK. It wasn't pleasant. I'll have a video about that experience on my own #leadership channel soon. This is the real life impact of toxic workplaces.
Sadly…when someone had that stroke, someone will make fun of it in the group or laugh about
That’s how bad most workplaces are sadly 😕
You’re absolutely correct. Some places are evil. Some people weren’t raise right… ya, I said it! Lol
You’re absolutely correct. Some places are evil. Some people weren’t raise right… ya, I said it! Lol
Holy crap. Bless that person. I was a floater/sub for one site and a woman was wheeled out to an ambulance. I was told I was there because she wasn't, with no emotion. Wtf. It was eye opening.
No one should have to endure the psychological trauma one has in a toxic environment. I to can relate. It’s no fun and what it does to a person mentally and physically is real. I’m so glad and fortunate to have left such a workplace. No amount of money is worth it. 💯
You literally described my co-worker when talking about being a narcissist. And she's even worse when the boss or manager isn't around. She's the definition of insubordinate.
I can relate to this podcast big time. I am going to wait till after new years when l go back and hand in a letter to switch to 2 days a week. If the boss says no, that is okay, then he can accept the letter as my 2 weeks notice and that is it. Every day tired out, no time or energy left. A brain dead job, dusty,noisy, nit picking boss, no time or energy for a social life. Depression is growing steadily. He does not know it, but he will be looking for a new replacement in the new year. Opposite views on nearly everything.
it destroyed my career and almost cost me my life
The day I got confirmation at my current place, I was put on performance review. Today, I was told to decide whether to stay or leave. I had come down with fever and I couldn't attend work. Also, right before my birthday, I was told that I don't wear good clothes, accused of substance abuse without proof, told to rework on things just like that, accused me of being rude to a client (Note: I am a creative copywriter who hasn't interacted with the client at all). I don't know what to do. I have to pay the bills and the debt. The place doesn't have healthcare or any other things. There's petty politics taken out of the book - Dilbert's The Way of the Weasel by Scott Adams. People are less people and more like vipers.
I took time off after a toxic work situation. The manager kept targeting me, and threw me under the bus, detrimental to my career, having made up falsehoods about billing practices. I haven't completely forgiven this person. Prior to my departure, I was literally throwing up and crying every morning. It was terrible. Thank goodness, someone else got the big director position, and not that horrible person.
Sounds like an exorcist needs to be present on a regular basis at the jobsite
So I work at a nursing home as a receptionist. The nurses are always complaining about how they rather be home before they've even clocked in. It's everyday too. I've had some staff tell me go find better job and not waste my time here . That I deserve something better. The gossip is something else. Since I am the receptionist I get all the calls. I get some many calls from staff calling off . I know this is a toxic environment but I've just haven't had luck finding anything better.
My fingers are crossed for you 🤞🏻
Same here as a CNA. In the pit of it all it can get mentally and physically exhausting! especially with favoritism towards lousy workers, having to pick up for their slack and poor work ethic. It’s best to leave an environment like that imo.
I have been having a hard time leaving a toxic job. So many people have quit but I can’t bring myself to do it. I’m a teacher and unlike other jobs I have kids involved and I don’t want to disrupt their education but it’s so hard. The kids are fine. It’s the adults that are the problem. I have been on anxiety medication and when talking to a coworker that quit she said she also started anti depressant medication before she realized it was the job. I hopefully will leave at the end of the year but I really feel like I experience a ton of verbal and psychological abuse… but there’s so much gaslighting that it’s hard to see it. Now that others have quit it opened my eyes what I experienced was real.
Former teacher here that left field and started his own business. Education all over America is the most toxic, degrading and racist enviroment where a human can work in. Not even talking about the sexism ( run by miserable, obese, divorced and fat women)😂
But no joke it's true. I went to All stages of depression, anxiety missery, abuse, threats for standing up for yourself and the kids, throwing up before going to work etc.
Fact: teachers are cowards, mediocre,losers which only kiss ass of administrators, and they look the other way in exchange of benefits, retirements , low pays but security and misery.
When I quit my life changed completely.
I am extremely happy now. I make 2 to 3 times of what these miserable teachers make and I am happier 10×
Teaching is shit and people wonder why kids are so unestable now days? With these shi ..t teachers and school system and shi..t parents what do you expect?
Has anyone ever found an office working environment that isn't unpleasant? I haven't so I then wonder well - is it me? If it is me, I have no idea what I'm doing wrong.
I think a lot has to do with your level of tolerance.
It may be low like mine lol 🤷🏻♂️
@@LeadershipwithMikeand I think we have a low level of tolerance because we are experienced at spotting the bs & we know that it rarely gets better but will probably get worse. Plus we’ve learned to value ourselves & won’t tolerate being disrespected.
Great video Mike, I've been working in a toxic environment over a year and I thought I was the crazy one until I told to all of my friends was going on and everybody is just telling me to leave
I left a toxic work environment about 3 years ago. I worked there 24 years!! Literally stressed constantly even when I was off the clock. I knew SO MANY coworkers who died in their 50s/early 60s!! Had to take a huge pay cut but what good would that extra $$$ do me if I ended up 6 feet under??? When I looked the place up on Glassdoor the employee's negative reviews of the place were rampant!! My supervisor was a vicious gossip and that resulted in me feeling majorly stressed. The workload and micromanagement was sick. The extreme favoritism was bizarre. Enough is enough!! My whole attitude about life has changed for the better since leaving!!
My job has completely destroyed my personal life. Trying to sleep, feeling stressed and anxious. Thinking about the best way to approach my manager to give project updates and predicting the comments. My manager is someone who will not give eye contact when you speak and will just look at their screen and so much deflecting. Oh god...my life is shiiiiiite. Currently applying to tons of jobs so I can have a parachute out as I can't quit due to responsibilities and can't put my family in a difficult financial situation. I got a final stage interview next week, and I pray I get this! I'm more looking forward to taking the stress off than where I'm going next. Not sure if my comment made any sense and probably rambling but feels good to put it out somewhere as a stress release.
My fingers are crossed for you
@Soaayy 3 months have passed since your comment. Hope things are going better for you 💪 Did you get a new job?
I made a mistake. I put in my two weeks, then the boss said I had to work long hours/weekends until the end, I said I'd stick to 8 hours a day, and he asked how long it would take to document my code. I said 2 days. He said "ok, you're done tomorrow." The fudge up was agreeing to this mutually, deciding to resign tomorrow, instead of standing my ground and forcing him to fire me. Ugh. I hate that I fell for that.
Shit. Sorry.
My toxic job gave me a psychiatrist approved antianxiety prescription just so I can get out of bed and go to workout without sitting there for hours and just crying.
Maybe you need to plan an escape 😳
@@LeadershipwithMike Disability after FMLA paperwork was interrupted by COVID. I will die the day before my manager sees and owned up to 1% of everything they ever said and did. I use my inhaler for panic attacks than for actual asthma attacks. And, it will take months to heal enough to look valueable to anyone else. No one tells you that psychological abuse keeps you so stuck that you couldn't get out and help yourself if you tried.
When the EAP staff would help e get out and into therapy the company gets what they deserve by keeping toxicity like that. Don't want justice, revenge, or to look in their eyes every again. I will get out before I have a heart attack trying.
I left jobs one after the other because of highly toxic environments. I was often scapegoated because I was the odd one. I was quieter than everyone else. I was told i was too nice in an insulting way as if it was a weakness. I often had an exit plan. Unfortunately I went from one bad place to another which made my work record bad. Or I never found another job quick enough so I ended up becoming ill and leaving as a result. No room for staff wellbeing these days.
Been there. Restaurants seem to be the worst. Of course a burnt out boss doesn’t help maters. Thanks for posting.
Restaurants are definitely tough!
Had to get out-- I was dreading going back to work after having two days off to SLEEP.. I was exhausted and it was messing with my mental health. Got confirmation from another attorney who said she used to work in that same building and heard that it was "a toxic environment," Also, very high turnover.
I screwed up the 'exit strategy' part. To be fair, it was a shitty minimum wage job But... I screwed up. I thought I could survive the delusional boss but I didn't, lesson learned.
lol. you're probably an american so minimum wage is what? $4/hour?
@@420troll4 Nah, 15$ an hour but it was a student job so apparently only 13 bucks an hour which should be illegal but they found some kind of a loophole. In retrospect, I should've never worked there but you gotta pay your bills.
@@romanfan250 well, what can you do when you're just a kid. doesn't really matter if your a college student or in highschool; young people don't usually have the gumption to stand up against "real" adults.
Everything you mentioned is happening to me I was so sick to my stomach I couldn't stop crying when I came home on Friday
I just left a job that had great benefits and PTO but the pay were low and the raise were low aswell. My supervisor spent his time stalking me and micromanaging me. He always took his lunch with his wife there who worked in another department. And she always knew all my business. HR will hear a lot bc they want an exit out interview from me
The leadership at my former employer was more like a sorority and this was part of a major corporation. The longer I was there the benefits (especially health) seemed to shrink. The responsibilities increased, but there was no overtime unless it was mandatory. Just had to use the time you had to fit the extra work in. People were encouraged to cheat when testing for management positions. I had an assistant manager ask me why I didn't get her help when I took a test. I didn't do that because it would be cheating! My results were that I wasn't competitive. If it means I have to cheat I guess they're right. Also, I attended a store meeting in which a district manager bragged about fudging the numbers in profit reports. I couldn't help but say "that's cheating!" Didn't mean to say it out loud, but I did. Meeting ended and I wasn't there much longer. Needless to say, it was a relief when I was "let go".
When you go to work each morning feeling anxious about what kind of mood that your boss will be in, it’s time to leave. Just quit a job that I enjoyed and made great pay but, for my own mental health, it just wasn’t worth it.
Had 2 former colleagues passed away in a very toxic company due to stress even when they were really ill
Where I'm working at now, it's short staffed and everyone is overworked. People call in sick or just pull no call / no shows everyday. I'm currently the only courtesy clerk at 40 hours, and I'm just being run to the ground because I'm dependable and have open availability, no matter how many times I go out there to pull shopping carts in, how much I bag, how many price checks I perform or sweep the store and clean spills, it's not enough for management. Before I got there I was told that baggers don't last, I'm a few months in and I see why now. Courtesy clerks aren't appreciated, managers /co workers gossip together and there's favoritism, it's not a bad job, just a terrible work environment.
After some 4 years of doing the same duties over and over again never call in sick never able to move up From working at Goodwill.. trying to think of something else I can do a 50 something
The boss is crucial factor for toxicity management. Very often, toxicity emanates from subordinates. Not necessarily managers, sometimes from the very bottom of the ladder. And if the hierarchy let them be more toxic they will end up terrorizing everyone, even people that should be above them or unrelated to them. Sometimes, bosses use them as sheepdogs to prevent employees with intellectual skills to become too confident.
This is not acknowledged enough. Every toxic work environment I've been in, it was mostly because the boss was super toxic. Even if they tried to tone it down later, it had pretty much ruined everyone's ability to trust them.
I finally took a big step forward and got a better job. The current challenge for me: dealing with the anger I feel towards myself. Figuring out how to forgive myself for staying where I was and putting up with things for so long, when I deserved better.
I agree with you. I worked in a very toxic environment where the managers micromanage staff and have no empathy towards sick people. I developed cancer and severe depression.
I regret staying for so long that I am still recovering from my illness.
Please raise awareness of retail pharmacies. The workers are all abused by the indescribable toxic working environment. We really need to do something about this!!! 🙏
We have people leaving within 2 days, 3 weeks without having another job and the message from management is always some kind of nonsense. We don't fall for their reasons anymore. We all know what's going on.