My sexually addicted spouse won’t change
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- Опубліковано 1 тра 2024
- The following clip is from the video series “He Needs To Change”. To view the full course, go to: www.drdougweiss.com/product/h...
Do you feel like you’re going crazy after constantly demanding change from your sexually addicted spouse to no avail?
In this video, psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Doug Weiss dives into the difficulties that appear in marriage due to the husband’s sex addiction or intimacy anorexia. Here, he specifically addresses the “Hot Potato of Change” concept, where responsibility for change gets passed around in relationships affected by things like addiction. Even if your partner is unwilling to change, Dr. Doug shows how you can start making positive changes in your own life.
If you’re in a relationship with an addict who is refusing to change, you might feel like you’re at the end of your rope. Know that there is hope and healing for you, regardless of whether your spouse decides to change or not. We have intensives for current or former partners of sex addicts that can help you accelerate your healing journey in a short time frame. In addition, we also have couples intensives where you can have a certified sexual addiction and partner betrayal trauma therapist walk alongside you both and give you tools to heal as you start your recovery journey, both individually and as a couple. We also have support groups and virtual counseling sessions available as well.
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You can’t change anyone
I changed thur divorce but played this game for 30 years. Now the rumor is he might want me back " because Ive changed" nope 2 late
When i first found out my husband was cheating on me, i did it the "spiritual" way. I still showed kindness, served him, prayed for him. Even if at that time i felt like a doormat, a martyr.
Now that he is cheating on me again, i have changed. I'm "grey-rocking" him. Stopped talking to him, doing his laundry, cooking, not even looking at him.
So i guess i will just have to wait and see.
I don't play with anyone. I told him the lawyer is a phone call away, just like his recovery is a phone call away. For one year, he has slept in his office. Next is his car. I get his wallet every night if that happens. Then if still no change bye bye forever. That was the big change in me. I will not be walked on again.
Amen, you have a lot of kindness inside you! Don’t ever let it be taken for abuse ! Sister you are worthy of the most peace ! Amen 🙏🏻❤️🙌🏻✨🫶🏻
Living this right now. It's true they get worse with age. I'm trying to change, I've been packing my stuff up for months. I will lose a lot leaving, after almost most 49 years of marriage. It's scary thinking about it.
I understand this is a difficult time for you right now and I'm sorry you've had to experience this due to your spouse's sex addiction. Your pain is real.
Please know that you don't have to navigate this journey alone. You can contact my counseling office at 719-278-3708 to get support and assistance from one of our certified partner betrayal trauma therapists as you walk through this.
I also encourage you to join our Partners Facebook community support group, where you can connect with others who understand what you're going through.
facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa
I recommend watching "He Needs To Change" and "Why Do I Stay" which are videos that offer practical guidance and tips to help you navigate the issue of change and the decision making process of whether to stay or not.
www.drdougweiss.com/product/he-needs-to-change-dr-weiss-dvd/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/why-do-i-stay-dvd/
In addition to these video resources, you might find the Partners book and workbook beneficial in your healing journey. These provide valuable insights and exercises designed to support you as you process your emotions and move forward toward healing.
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-book/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partner-betrayal-trauma-workbook/
Get a lawyer and a divorce
Best outcome is to mirror rhe behaviour. Make them experence bring you.
How’s that fair at all for me to be cpunished losing my babies my entire life. 😖😭 he put me thr ugh through it till it died long ago yet I get punished more losing my whole reason and my support and get left to be alone every other 7 days…. 😭 that’s such bullshit because I kept trying to make him understand
Divorce court, here we come.
It's CHEAPER TO KEEP ME
I changed so he would divorce me, it worked! 😂 He didn’t like the consequences of his rejection.