I hate to say it but please hear my heart. You can't force someone including your own parent to be emotionally available for you. I understand it's his duty but if he is mentally unable to try there is nothing you can do about it. I am your day one fan and hate to see you expect affection where it isn't available. Your healing lies within your savior and yourself. You are no longer a victim but victorious by the blood of Jesus Christ. Amen! They tried and failed. I love you sis 🙏🏽🥰
Unfortunately the people we believe are supposed to fulfill certain roles in our life aren’t always capable & him being able to articulate that to you is a step in the right direction. I can only imagine how disheartening that is considering what you endured but you have the ability to overcome & put all of that behind you. I pray for your healing & ability to conquer this battle so you can move onward. I truly do. We’re all rooting for you ❤
As a mom, I can’t speak for a dad. It was difficult to listen to this in its entirety. I can’t imagine the hurt you’re feeling. Right now, I pray that you will lean into the Holy Spirit❤, your comforter. Lord, she needs you now more than ever. Give her the strength to endure. She is the righteousness of God❤. She is Your daughter❤. She has been made whole❤. She will walk in love and forgiveness❤. She will trust in You and You alone❤. She will live a successful life, honoring You❤. She is the repairer of the breach ❤. No weapons formed against us shall prosper.❤.
This is truly sad because it’s like I hear the inner child Sade saying dad fight for me why don’t you want justice for me you may not be able to be there how I need you but where is the father who would fight to protect there child 😢 I don’t have any type of relationship with my dad so the fact that your even able to speak to him on any level there’s hope I pray that the lord removes the heart of stone in your father and replaces it with a heart of flesh you have a Heavenly Father that is fighting for you and he already won In Jesus Christ of Nazareth name amen 🙏🏽
Maaaaaaaaaaaaannn !!!! You hit it on the NAIL !!! to a T !!! Thank you for your Genuine Understanding and regard for my heart in this comment foreal !!! You said a whole lot !!! without even saying to much GodBless you 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 And if it means anything I’m Sorry your Dad missed Out on the Precious Light that is you 💡💡💡💗💗💗🫂🫂🫂
Distance is such healer especially when we have not completely let go and are still working through our own disappointment and understanding of these kind of fathers.
My heart hurts for you. Truly. I wish the privilege of being a parent came with more (stringent) requirements. I hope you know this has nothing to do with you. You deserve better. You are worthy of love!
Wow Thank You 💗💗💗 and I’m Definitely aware that this has NOTHING to do with me !!! That’s what gives me Peace enough to post this kind of content because I know this is the very same reality for SO MANY OTHERS. So much to be said but Thank you again and Godbless 💗💗💗🫂🫂🫂🕊🕊🕊
Did he really say don’t try to find therapy in your own Dad? I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this it’s so unfair. You seem like a great daughter to have. Thank you for sharing the truth about these “parents” who chose to have us 💔
from my perspective and experience: the way of toxic masculinity will always play blind towards a woman's cries. as a man, if you are completely closed of to the capability of empathy or any emotional connection... as a father , where else does your support lie, and why aren't you at least willing to find it? i understand your frustration because if there's room for disappointment, why not ANY accountability or understanding anywhere else? i know the feeling of resentment from that & the real drug is questioning for answers we know we won't receive. It's not our job to unpack someone elses blockages for our needs but to simply release those who played parts in our truamas, especially when there's not much care to help clean it up. your persistence is a blessing !!! may it continue to push through any obstacles in your healing journey & may the rest treat you well. much love to you 💌
I love you my friend and this is sad to hear but as I’m listening I want to say this. Your dad is not equipped with handling the truth nor is he able to speak on a level of understanding what you’ve been through and how you need him to be here for you so y’all can move forward. This is a sign that you need to give this conversation to the Lord. You have to move forward and you have to accept the unacceptable. I hate that this is happening but this is what I am learning and dealing with but with my mom. It’s sad. It’s uncomfortable but at the end of the day OUR FATHER is in heaven. He is our peace. He is our joy. He provides clarity. He provides understanding. He will heal you. Do not make the pain worse by going back to what hurt you. Even if your intentions are good. The enemy does NOT want you to reconcile your differences so YOU HAVE to give your dad, the issue and anything else to the Lord. I love you and I miss you dearly! 🫶🏾
you are a very emotionally intelligent person speaking to someone clearly less emotionally mature. This reminds me of that one scene on Fences where the son asked his dad why don't you like me and his dad went into this whole angry spiel. The indifference a lot of fathers have for their children is alarming
This hurts me so bad Sade I’m so sorry. It is truly heartbreaking to hear this kind of rejection, emotional unavailability, coldness when you are in need of love. One of the hardest realizations I’ve come to is realizing that there is nothing we can do to make someone acknowledge, accept, or fulfill any role in any capacity. A parent has to CHOOSE to parent…it isn’t contingent upon our needs or how dire the situation is, the responsibility is solely on them and unfortunately as descendants of historically strained and traumatized people, many of our parents don’t and largely cannot consistently show up in the ways they’re needed. We have to fill those cups elsewhere, but first you must accept what is lacking and what you are missing. It hurts so bad. I’ve been here babe. I pray for your heart’s healing. I also suggest reading All About Love by Bell Hooks if you haven’t already. God bless you baby girl.
Being a parent is hard being a child ( no matter the age) is hard i pray for all of us that the love and peace that our heavenly father brings when we are in fellowship with him fill us up so we stop looking around for others, because only him can provide. I'm sending you virtual hug and kisses Sade ❤❤❤
That’s such an important question What is a father Thank you cause you’re expressing what I can’t even process right now through your transparency Don’t delete the video; hold fast to your convictions and the mightiness of your testimony Despise the shame and keep pressing upwards
May God continue to be the father you need/want. I pray for you and that these hard moments become part of the glorious testimony! Sending love and light 🤍
I commend you for sharing this. You asked such a thoughtful question that required a thoughtful answer and I’m soo sorry you did not get it. I think one of the hardest realities to reckon with is having a parent, the person who played a part in bringing you into this world, the person who should be a home or place of solace from the darkness of the world not knowing how to be that and be there for you. Time is not the healer of all wounds and your pain deserve empathy and care no matter how long it’s been. I hope therapy and your faith get you through this time. So much love Sadé ❤
Sade, I'm actually so sorry you're dealing with this. If the devil is trying to get rid of you so badly, you obviously are a huge threat to the kingdom of darkness! The devil is trying to use your family to get to you, because you're spirit is untouchable. You are a gift and I feel led to let you know about Prophetess Taryn N Tarver. She has a lot of similarities to you in terms of toxic family members but very anointed. I pray God gives you the strength to overcome all betrayal.❤❤❤
It's the gaslighting for me👏👏👏. I'm SURROUNDED by family members who cannot and will not have real clear communication with me. If I initiate it, try to improve our relationship and have the courage to be transparent, I'd be received with gaslight and belittled. If I have the wisdom to accept their positions to disconnect and play the part by distancing myself accordingly, I'd be received with resentment, blame and have guilt used against. This really sucks cause despite having a strong sense of family I have unfortunately slowly gave up on them. God bless you Sade and anyone reading this or going through the same aches . I send you love and peace. 💗
wow, this was profound. Ive gone through this very same thing. What is Fatherhood? When a man does not try... when our own fathers do not try.. it definitely sets the tone for a very long line of hard experiences.. Im wishing you so much love and abundance
Hey Sade, sending you love and praying for your healing. I went/going through something similar with my dad. I’ve learned this from the experience thus far: sometimes rejection is just Gods protection. He had something far more greater waiting for you and once you release the need to know why he doesn’t have the capacity to show up for you emotionally. Remember God is your FATHER, the man you were speaking to is just a man of flesh that was given the assignment of protecting/raising you. That’s something your father will truly have to reckon with his father. A parents refusal to be present for their child isn’t a reflection of the child but their own mental state. Try to appreciate the fact that he is being honest in his truth that you will need to receive what you are asking him for else where. Once I came to that realization with my parents it helped me take a step towards actually allowing myself to receive the love, compassion, and support I craved from them from other parties. He only affirmed that you have every right to remove him from your life and move on.
Hey I know this is totally unrelated but you been running on my mind love you sister and I pray Yah keeps you covered under his precious and mighty blood ❤.
Seen an upload and I came running I was just thinking about your channel the other day. Truly sorry to hear this convo with your father. My heart and prayers go out to you and your healing process. ❤Nobody deserves such treatment. Especially you.
I was thinking today how apart of the grieving process might be acceptance & accepting the reality of our parents & our pasts is so painful I pray grace. You will come out the other side being who you already are a Victor
Your truth is your truth! I love you and pray for you. No one else's avoidance, ignorance, or secondhand embarrassment will stop you from speaking pure honesty into the world. Truly no words or thoughts will equate to what you must be experiencing...
For me personally, I come from a Haitian house hold and my dads a pastor. I genuinely do believe he has a relationship with God. Despite these things in many many ways he’s projected the hard life and upbringing he’s had in very unhealthy ways that has effected my family dynamic. The siblings don’t even talk, I kinda just clicked out around 16. Not no mention the addictions (hidden or exposed) the shame the guilt the FEAR we’ve all dealt with and still deal with. At this point he and I live in the same house but we barely interact, unfortunately feels like that’s the only way to have peace. Sometimes it’s hurts more knowing he’s a believer, it’s like if this journey with God is about getting better how, why could all of these thing happened. He’s approaching 70 and doesn’t have the same amount of at the used to and honestly now I feel like if I were to try to have a real conversation with him, it will take all th effort on my part. I will have to be the emotionally mature one, i would have to have patience and won’t even be able to speak any truth that offend him. Just wanted to say, ur not alone. Idk man the culture of the world REALLY did a number on the men and women alike but the way I think it constricts men is so painful. Like literally ALLA OF MY FRIENDS have some kind father/bf/brother DEEP trauma. Pray God intercedes
sharing something so intimate is a testament to how there’s peace in vulnerability. we seek validation from those who are supposed to be a sounding board in this physical realm only to realize that we are validated by our very real experience. i love you. continue to be vulnerable. to be deeply moved by love & not allowing the actions & words of others misconstrue your view of truth. a father is not just a title, it is a symbol of love. a gentle guide. i hope that you find solace in knowing that bc your father in heaven is the precedent of what it means to be one, you question any action that isnt.
I’m sorry to know that. I wish I had better words of Comfort but it’s hard to speak to the reality of these experiences. Just know I SEE you and I HEAR you. and Thank you for this comment. It’s sad but Affirming. These conversations are NECESSARY whether people agree or not is below me. Sending you Big Sister Hugssss and Love 💗💗💗🫂🫂🫂💗💗💗
On your behalf, this is a courageous conversation that a large majority of people could not fathom themselves stepping up to the plate to even have in this lifetime. Sade, your vulnerability deserves matched vulnerability, and I’m sorry you aren’t receiving that caliber of bravery, that sense of commitment, compassion, and follow through from one of the individuals who gave you life. It’s as deep as it gets, and it has nothing to do WITH YOU that you are met with resistance and rejection from him. Please, know that I am praying for you and seeing myself in you in so many ways. I thank God that you have shared this with your community, and are ACTIVELY seeking community and have been since I can remember following you yeaaaaars ago. I pray you don’t internalize his resistance and misunderstanding. I see you. I hear you. You are not alone in this dynamic that you have with your father. But rather than dwell on the similarities we have from those who’ve failed us, I want to give praise to you and express my gratitude for you being vulnerable, for being YOU through it all, and for speaking your truth as it comes. Because how you’re working through this, how you’re managing, there’s nothing disappointing about how you are still here today to speak on it. You are such a light, Sade. Thank you. I love you.
Omg I just thought about you, and here you are having posted an hr ago. Sending you love through all of this 🤍 parents can be so judgmental bc they’re confused why we’re not living the life THEY want us to live. If they just let tht judgement and ridicule go, supporting us in what we are happy doing, they would see our growth and progress smh.
My heart feels for you luv, and while i cant say i know exactly how you feel, having a parent that will continuously deny having any negative impact to your life or a parent that cant take accountability for their actions will take such a mental and emotional toll on you. My father was absent the majority of my life but put me through extremely traumatic situations im still recovering from as an adult and to this day he cannot even say he had anything to do with it. I love that you're trying and your documenting this experience not only for yourself but for others as well. You arent crazy at all and you arent in the wrong to hope and ask for basic human necessity from someone who created your mere existence. Youre not asking him to solve it and he can hear that, youre just asking him to have some sense of compassion or empathy for his own blood and he refuses to deliver. You are a divine being with much purpose and the influence you have is limitless, been watching you for a couple years and you always have new insight and new ideas, youre always growing and evolving but at the end of the day you still carry yourslef with such gusto and glow anyone who see has to stop and admire how powerful you are. Im so sorry that this has been your experience Sade you deserve the love and light you put into this world thrown right back at you with open arms. I truly wish you the best of luck on this journey.
This is triggering i can relate to you Sade , sometimes you gotta accept that our own parents don’t want to be parents after hitting a certain age even tho my dad has never cared to be a father to me . But our father is God 🙏🥹🫶🏼
Our parents generation are way less self aware than we are. I’m glad nowadays mental health is no longer a taboo. Hopefully we’ll make better parents as we work to heal our inner child. Your anger is justified and you deserve compassion.
Thank you I felt it 30years ago❤but realised it at the least 3 years ago and now kind of digested it I 🤔 father is scared to be accountable. He seems to be wanted to be left alone. It’s too hard for him.
Love you Sade. Take this down or make it private whatever suits your purpose. I truly hope you see yourself on the other side of this. Was actually disappointed the notification wasn't a live. I'm sorry so sorry. But you are indeed a warrior for documenting your journey publicly. But being a warrior you should know the fights are never graceful and there's no rules to warfare. Thats why Christ is who he is. I hope to see you shine again.
Praying for you sister. It hurts my heart how much I can relate to this. What do we do when our parents aren’t capable of being parents? Do we give them grace? Do we cut ties completely? I’m not sure. I pray God gives us clarity & continues to keep us near Him. God bless you
I was homeless for 2 months living in my car and it was because of my dad He didn’t care whether I was alive or not just because I snitched on him and told my mother and siblings he has a WHOLE secret family. He hates me 😪
Just sad as hell. I wonder sometime what the point of even being a parent is to their generation. These type convos irritate me so damn bad. I’m in therapy bc of my sperm donor n he think the trauma he caus not that serious
It’s wild to me that he’s pestering you about “moving forward with your life” but has no problem admitting he can’t help you one bit. Get tf out of here. If you have something to say but can facilitate in helping change take place, you’re USELESS & wasting your breath. So sorry Sade everyone deserves great parents but we don’t all get them. I’ve spent the last couple of years reparenting myself by truly forgiving myself for the ignorant decisions I’ve made in my life. It gets better, don’t be so hard on yourself to move/grow at anyone else’s pace.
i think that she want you her father to have no doubts in your mind and believe her when she telling you what happen happened and maybe she want you to be there and stand up and stand by her and just try even if nothing come from it at least she knows that she got her father there supporting her by her side i think just you being there as her father would be more than enough
I absolutely was but my Best Friend FaceTimed me so I’m going to follow up with a Live Dialogue sometime soon. - I’m psychologically exhausted right now tbh I needed a Good Cry and my BF calling helped me get through especially being that she knows the deeper nuances of everything I’m going through rn. Hopefully this all makes sense Godspeed & Godbless 🕊🕊🕊🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🕊🕊🕊
His lack of empathy & unwillingness to truly hear you was really triggering to listen to😣 Maybe he feels a sense of guilt & grief about what happened to you. But is gaslighting you to avoid having to cope with those feelings. Of course I don’t know all the ins & outs of everything, just my two cents. Nonetheless, you are in my prayers, Sade❤️🙏🏾
This was so painful to listen too for so many reasons, man smh… but despite the lack of empathy we receive from the very people called to have thee most important roles in our lives (cause I can relate!!!!) I do pray and hope you’re able to heal & find the compassion and closure within yourself & TMH that you need to get through this difficult time… 🫶🏾🙏🏾
I hate to say it but please hear my heart. You can't force someone including your own parent to be emotionally available for you. I understand it's his duty but if he is mentally unable to try there is nothing you can do about it. I am your day one fan and hate to see you expect affection where it isn't available. Your healing lies within your savior and yourself. You are no longer a victim but victorious by the blood of Jesus Christ. Amen! They tried and failed. I love you sis 🙏🏽🥰
I’m sorry you have to endure this Sade. It truly saddens me. As you know, your father in heaven adores you and loves you unconditionally. ❤
Unfortunately the people we believe are supposed to fulfill certain roles in our life aren’t always capable & him being able to articulate that to you is a step in the right direction. I can only imagine how disheartening that is considering what you endured but you have the ability to overcome & put all of that behind you. I pray for your healing & ability to conquer this battle so you can move onward. I truly do. We’re all rooting for you ❤
As a mom, I can’t speak for a dad. It was difficult to listen to this in its entirety. I can’t imagine the hurt you’re feeling. Right now, I pray that you will lean into the Holy Spirit❤, your comforter. Lord, she needs you now more than ever. Give her the strength to endure. She is the righteousness of God❤. She is Your daughter❤. She has been made whole❤. She will walk in love and forgiveness❤. She will trust in You and You alone❤. She will live a successful life, honoring You❤. She is the repairer of the breach ❤. No weapons formed against us shall prosper.❤.
This is truly sad because it’s like I hear the inner child Sade saying dad fight for me why don’t you want justice for me you may not be able to be there how I need you but where is the father who would fight to protect there child 😢 I don’t have any type of relationship with my dad so the fact that your even able to speak to him on any level there’s hope I pray that the lord removes the heart of stone in your father and replaces it with a heart of flesh you have a Heavenly Father that is fighting for you and he already won In Jesus Christ of Nazareth name amen 🙏🏽
Maaaaaaaaaaaaannn !!!!
You hit it on the NAIL !!!
to a T !!!
Thank you for your
Genuine Understanding
and regard for my heart in this comment foreal !!!
You said a whole lot !!!
without even saying to much
GodBless you 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
And if it means anything I’m Sorry your Dad missed Out on the Precious Light that is you
💡💡💡💗💗💗🫂🫂🫂
Heal your inner child. Let go of the hope that he’s going to be understanding. Lower your expectations. If you need to, distance yourself.
Distance is such healer especially when we have not completely let go and are still working through our own disappointment and understanding of these kind of fathers.
My heart hurts for you. Truly.
I wish the privilege of being a parent came with more (stringent) requirements.
I hope you know this has nothing to do with you.
You deserve better.
You are worthy of love!
Wow Thank You 💗💗💗
and I’m Definitely aware
that this has NOTHING
to do with me !!!
That’s what gives me Peace enough to post this kind
of content because
I know this is the very same reality for SO MANY OTHERS.
So much to be
said but
Thank you again and Godbless
💗💗💗🫂🫂🫂🕊🕊🕊
Did he really say don’t try to find therapy in your own Dad? I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this it’s so unfair. You seem like a great daughter to have. Thank you for sharing the truth about these “parents” who chose to have us 💔
It’s so sad. None of this is on her, it’s on him. His loss Sade. You are a great young woman. You will prevail. We love you!
I was about 4mins in and it bothered me that he refused to listen and refused to care... I pray for the best for you ❤ sending love your way.
from my perspective and experience:
the way of toxic masculinity will always play blind towards a woman's cries.
as a man, if you are completely closed of to the capability of empathy or any emotional connection... as a father , where else does your support lie, and why aren't you at least willing to find it?
i understand your frustration because if there's room for disappointment, why not ANY accountability or understanding anywhere else?
i know the feeling of resentment from that & the real drug is questioning for answers we know we won't receive.
It's not our job to unpack someone elses blockages for our needs but to simply release those who played parts in our truamas, especially when there's not much care to help clean it up.
your persistence is a blessing !!!
may it continue to push through any obstacles in your healing journey & may the rest treat you well.
much love to you 💌
I love you my friend and this is sad to hear but as I’m listening I want to say this.
Your dad is not equipped with handling the truth nor is he able to speak on a level of understanding what you’ve been through and how you need him to be here for you so y’all can move forward. This is a sign that you need to give this conversation to the Lord. You have to move forward and you have to accept the unacceptable. I hate that this is happening but this is what I am learning and dealing with but with my mom. It’s sad. It’s uncomfortable but at the end of the day OUR FATHER is in heaven. He is our peace. He is our joy. He provides clarity. He provides understanding. He will heal you. Do not make the pain worse by going back to what hurt you. Even if your intentions are good. The enemy does NOT want you to reconcile your differences so YOU HAVE to give your dad, the issue and anything else to the Lord.
I love you and I miss you dearly! 🫶🏾
you are a very emotionally intelligent person speaking to someone clearly less emotionally mature. This reminds me of that one scene on Fences where the son asked his dad why don't you like me and his dad went into this whole angry spiel. The indifference a lot of fathers have for their children is alarming
This hurts me so bad Sade I’m so sorry. It is truly heartbreaking to hear this kind of rejection, emotional unavailability, coldness when you are in need of love. One of the hardest realizations I’ve come to is realizing that there is nothing we can do to make someone acknowledge, accept, or fulfill any role in any capacity. A parent has to CHOOSE to parent…it isn’t contingent upon our needs or how dire the situation is, the responsibility is solely on them and unfortunately as descendants of historically strained and traumatized people, many of our parents don’t and largely cannot consistently show up in the ways they’re needed. We have to fill those cups elsewhere, but first you must accept what is lacking and what you are missing. It hurts so bad. I’ve been here babe. I pray for your heart’s healing. I also suggest reading All About Love by Bell Hooks if you haven’t already. God bless you baby girl.
Being a parent is hard being a child ( no matter the age) is hard i pray for all of us that the love and peace that our heavenly father brings when we are in fellowship with him fill us up so we stop looking around for others, because only him can provide. I'm sending you virtual hug and kisses Sade ❤❤❤
That’s such an important question
What is a father
Thank you cause you’re expressing what I can’t even process right now through your transparency
Don’t delete the video; hold fast to your convictions and the mightiness of your testimony
Despise the shame and keep pressing upwards
May God continue to be the father you need/want. I pray for you and that these hard moments become part of the glorious testimony! Sending love and light 🤍
We’re fighting a losing battle they don’t care how we feel.
He might come around.
I have Hope but no expectations
- Hopefully that makes sense.
Nice to see you hear btw
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🫂🫂🫂🕊🕊🕊
I commend you for sharing this. You asked such a thoughtful question that required a thoughtful answer and I’m soo sorry you did not get it. I think one of the hardest realities to reckon with is having a parent, the person who played a part in bringing you into this world, the person who should be a home or place of solace from the darkness of the world not knowing how to be that and be there for you. Time is not the healer of all wounds and your pain deserve empathy and care no matter how long it’s been. I hope therapy and your faith get you through this time. So much love Sadé ❤
Sade, I'm actually so sorry you're dealing with this. If the devil is trying to get rid of you so badly, you obviously are a huge threat to the kingdom of darkness! The devil is trying to use your family to get to you, because you're spirit is untouchable. You are a gift and I feel led to let you know about Prophetess Taryn N Tarver. She has a lot of similarities to you in terms of toxic family members but very anointed. I pray God gives you the strength to overcome all betrayal.❤❤❤
It's the gaslighting for me👏👏👏. I'm SURROUNDED by family members who cannot and will not have real clear communication with me.
If I initiate it, try to improve our relationship and have the courage to be transparent, I'd be received with gaslight and belittled.
If I have the wisdom to accept their positions to disconnect and play the part by distancing myself accordingly, I'd be received with resentment, blame and have guilt used against.
This really sucks cause despite having a strong sense of family I have unfortunately slowly gave up on them.
God bless you Sade and anyone reading this or going through the same aches . I send you love and peace. 💗
wow, this was profound. Ive gone through this very same thing. What is Fatherhood? When a man does not try... when our own fathers do not try.. it definitely sets the tone for a very long line of hard experiences.. Im wishing you so much love and abundance
Hey Sade, sending you love and praying for your healing. I went/going through something similar with my dad. I’ve learned this from the experience thus far: sometimes rejection is just Gods protection. He had something far more greater waiting for you and once you release the need to know why he doesn’t have the capacity to show up for you emotionally. Remember God is your FATHER, the man you were speaking to is just a man of flesh that was given the assignment of protecting/raising you. That’s something your father will truly have to reckon with his father. A parents refusal to be present for their child isn’t a reflection of the child but their own mental state. Try to appreciate the fact that he is being honest in his truth that you will need to receive what you are asking him for else where. Once I came to that realization with my parents it helped me take a step towards actually allowing myself to receive the love, compassion, and support I craved from them from other parties. He only affirmed that you have every right to remove him from your life and move on.
This was so hurtful to listen to. You will overcome this battle including those who cannot stand with you.
Hey I know this is totally unrelated but you been running on my mind love you sister and I pray Yah keeps you covered under his precious and mighty blood ❤.
Seen an upload and I came running I was just thinking about your channel the other day. Truly sorry to hear this convo with your father. My heart and prayers go out to you and your healing process. ❤Nobody deserves such treatment. Especially you.
I was thinking today how apart of the grieving process might be acceptance
& accepting the reality of our parents & our pasts is so painful
I pray grace. You will come out the other side being who you already are a Victor
Your truth is your truth! I love you and pray for you. No one else's avoidance, ignorance, or secondhand embarrassment will stop you from speaking pure honesty into the world. Truly no words or thoughts will equate to what you must be experiencing...
Wow Sade I haven’t seen your videos in awhile so i came to your channel. I think your father is not mentally strong, he is scared of your strength
For me personally, I come from a Haitian house hold and my dads a pastor. I genuinely do believe he has a relationship with God. Despite these things in many many ways he’s projected the hard life and upbringing he’s had in very unhealthy ways that has effected my family dynamic. The siblings don’t even talk, I kinda just clicked out around 16. Not no mention the addictions (hidden or exposed) the shame the guilt the FEAR we’ve all dealt with and still deal with. At this point he and I live in the same house but we barely interact, unfortunately feels like that’s the only way to have peace. Sometimes it’s hurts more knowing he’s a believer, it’s like if this journey with God is about getting better how, why could all of these thing happened. He’s approaching 70 and doesn’t have the same amount of at the used to and honestly now I feel like if I were to try to have a real conversation with him, it will take all th effort on my part. I will have to be the emotionally mature one, i would have to have patience and won’t even be able to speak any truth that offend him. Just wanted to say, ur not alone. Idk man the culture of the world REALLY did a number on the men and women alike but the way I think it constricts men is so painful. Like literally ALLA OF MY FRIENDS have some kind father/bf/brother DEEP trauma. Pray God intercedes
sharing something so intimate is a testament to how there’s peace in vulnerability.
we seek validation from those who are supposed to be a sounding board in this physical realm only to realize that we are validated by our very real experience.
i love you.
continue to be vulnerable. to be deeply moved by love & not allowing the actions & words of others misconstrue your view of truth.
a father is not just a title, it is a symbol of love. a gentle guide.
i hope that you find solace in knowing that bc your father in heaven is the precedent of what it means to be one, you question any action that isnt.
wow, this reminds me of conversations with my father...
I’m sorry to know that.
I wish I had better words of Comfort but it’s hard to speak
to the reality of these experiences.
Just know
I SEE you
and I HEAR you.
and Thank you for this comment.
It’s sad but Affirming.
These conversations are NECESSARY whether people agree or not is below me.
Sending you Big Sister Hugssss
and Love
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Hes saying 1 he can't be emotionally checked in but also he thinks he can sit up there and hold disappointment towards you...? Thats so ridiculous
On your behalf, this is a courageous conversation that a large majority of people could not fathom themselves stepping up to the plate to even have in this lifetime. Sade, your vulnerability deserves matched vulnerability, and I’m sorry you aren’t receiving that caliber of bravery, that sense of commitment, compassion, and follow through from one of the individuals who gave you life. It’s as deep as it gets, and it has nothing to do WITH YOU that you are met with resistance and rejection from him. Please, know that I am praying for you and seeing myself in you in so many ways. I thank God that you have shared this with your community, and are ACTIVELY seeking community and have been since I can remember following you yeaaaaars ago. I pray you don’t internalize his resistance and misunderstanding. I see you. I hear you. You are not alone in this dynamic that you have with your father. But rather than dwell on the similarities we have from those who’ve failed us, I want to give praise to you and express my gratitude for you being vulnerable, for being YOU through it all, and for speaking your truth as it comes. Because how you’re working through this, how you’re managing, there’s nothing disappointing about how you are still here today to speak on it. You are such a light, Sade. Thank you. I love you.
love you. i'm praying for you. truly, the LORD is your strength, your salvation, and your life. remain in Him.
Omg I just thought about you, and here you are having posted an hr ago. Sending you love through all of this 🤍 parents can be so judgmental bc they’re confused why we’re not living the life THEY want us to live. If they just let tht judgement and ridicule go, supporting us in what we are happy doing, they would see our growth and progress smh.
My heart feels for you luv, and while i cant say i know exactly how you feel, having a parent that will continuously deny having any negative impact to your life or a parent that cant take accountability for their actions will take such a mental and emotional toll on you. My father was absent the majority of my life but put me through extremely traumatic situations im still recovering from as an adult and to this day he cannot even say he had anything to do with it. I love that you're trying and your documenting this experience not only for yourself but for others as well. You arent crazy at all and you arent in the wrong to hope and ask for basic human necessity from someone who created your mere existence. Youre not asking him to solve it and he can hear that, youre just asking him to have some sense of compassion or empathy for his own blood and he refuses to deliver. You are a divine being with much purpose and the influence you have is limitless, been watching you for a couple years and you always have new insight and new ideas, youre always growing and evolving but at the end of the day you still carry yourslef with such gusto and glow anyone who see has to stop and admire how powerful you are. Im so sorry that this has been your experience Sade you deserve the love and light you put into this world thrown right back at you with open arms. I truly wish you the best of luck on this journey.
I felt that “Lord Jesus” - sending light to you always, Sade 🤎
Mannnnnneee 😂😂😂
& Thank you I’m Receiving that Light in Jesus Name 🤍🤍🤍
The Lord has a love that will outshine and outlast the pain we endure, I wish I could hug you because I know right where you are sister 🩷
This is triggering i can relate to you Sade , sometimes you gotta accept that our own parents don’t want to be parents after hitting a certain age even tho my dad has never cared to be a father to me . But our father is God 🙏🥹🫶🏼
God is for you…..so sorry your experiencing all this in relation to all that’s happened. I hope you get the rest an stability you need
Our parents generation are way less self aware than we are. I’m glad nowadays mental health is no longer a taboo. Hopefully we’ll make better parents as we work to heal our inner child. Your anger is justified and you deserve compassion.
Your deep introspective questions to him definitely triggered deep wounds he probably doesn’t even know he carries 😢 I have compassion for you both ❤
Thank you I felt it 30years ago❤but realised it at the least 3 years ago and now kind of digested it I 🤔 father is scared to be accountable. He seems to be wanted to be left alone. It’s too hard for him.
This is extremely sad and very relatable. There is a problem with this generation of parents..
Sade, I love you. I’m so sorry you have to go through this.
Love you Sade. Take this down or make it private whatever suits your purpose. I truly hope you see yourself on the other side of this. Was actually disappointed the notification wasn't a live. I'm sorry so sorry. But you are indeed a warrior for documenting your journey publicly. But being a warrior you should know the fights are never graceful and there's no rules to warfare. Thats why Christ is who he is. I hope to see you shine again.
Praying for you sister. It hurts my heart how much I can relate to this. What do we do when our parents aren’t capable of being parents? Do we give them grace? Do we cut ties completely? I’m not sure. I pray God gives us clarity & continues to keep us near Him. God bless you
I was homeless for 2 months living in my car and it was because of my dad
He didn’t care whether I was alive or not just because I snitched on him and told my mother and siblings he has a WHOLE secret family. He hates me 😪
Just sad as hell. I wonder sometime what the point of even being a parent is to their generation. These type convos irritate me so damn bad. I’m in therapy bc of my sperm donor n he think the trauma he caus not that serious
It’s wild to me that he’s pestering you about “moving forward with your life” but has no problem admitting he can’t help you one bit. Get tf out of here. If you have something to say but can facilitate in helping change take place, you’re USELESS & wasting your breath.
So sorry Sade everyone deserves great parents but we don’t all get them. I’ve spent the last couple of years reparenting myself by truly forgiving myself for the ignorant decisions I’ve made in my life. It gets better, don’t be so hard on yourself to move/grow at anyone else’s pace.
Highly suggest you read children of emotionally unavailable parents
i think that she want you her father to have no doubts in your mind and believe her when she telling you what happen happened and maybe she want you to be there and stand up and stand by her and just try even if nothing come from it at least she knows that she got her father there supporting her by her side i think just you being there as her father would be more than enough
Some private conversations don't need to be online.
Lol
Don’t project just because you’re uncomfortable. Don’t watch the video then.
That's for her to decide. That's HER conversation
This is exactly why I don’t reach out to my biological father and I never will
Sounds like me and my mother
This is so real Sade
Are you going live later with an life update?
I absolutely was
but my Best Friend FaceTimed me
so I’m going to follow up
with a Live Dialogue sometime soon.
- I’m psychologically exhausted right now tbh
I needed a Good Cry
and my BF calling helped me get through especially being that she knows the deeper nuances of everything I’m going through rn.
Hopefully this all makes sense
Godspeed & Godbless
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In all actuality your family is taking the gaslighting to far. You need to get away and stay away from them.
Sending you love❤
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Him....enjoy life and self preservation
Sound like mine
Girl whoa or he was in on it too.
His lack of empathy & unwillingness to truly hear you was really triggering to listen to😣 Maybe he feels a sense of guilt & grief about what happened to you. But is gaslighting you to avoid having to cope with those feelings. Of course I don’t know all the ins & outs of everything, just my two cents.
Nonetheless, you are in my prayers, Sade❤️🙏🏾
Good evening Ms Sade
Well I’m disappointed in him as a father 🤷🏾♀️
Crazy I was just saying to myself, you hadn’t uploaded a video or went live in a while…. Rather unfortunate this had to be your comeback video 😢
I ❤ your channel please make more videos 🙏🙏😭
Real 🫤
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You should delete this.
No.
This was so painful to listen too for so many reasons, man smh… but despite the lack of empathy we receive from the very people called to have thee most important roles in our lives (cause I can relate!!!!) I do pray and hope you’re able to heal & find the compassion and closure within yourself & TMH that you need to get through this difficult time… 🫶🏾🙏🏾