Hey Nikhil, Thank you for your work. I Love your Channel and All your Work. After watching ALL your videos, the most Attractive lighting was in this Video: ua-cam.com/video/xkVjOzlpBjI/v-deo.html Where you look the most Handsome and make me want to jump into the screen. Hope this helps your future Work!!
Yeah, allot more Females (said like a Ferengi) are better looking than their Male Counterparts, but still somehow with so much Competition, some Potatoe looking Lady gets all Dolled Up and Declares herself High Value and a 10!
I totally understand that "feeling of dread." I feel like it's a superpower, reminding us to stay on our purpose. How to be more attractive? Eat well, sleep well, exercise daily, meditate daily, continuously learn, practice gratitude, and build relationships. Stay focused, and work hard my brothers!
The thing that holds me back that makes me feel pathetic when I talk about it because it’s my problem but it’s my mental health. It’s insane how dark things can get while everything is actually, not so bad. Working out saved my life.
You see those things as being "dark" cuz it hurts to have ur innocence die when u relies the world is indifferent. When u marry the truth and relies and accept that it's indifferent, nothing can touch you. The only thing that breaks are false views and expectations.
Just like working out can be a simple step but produce huge results, try a regular "gratitude practice". Every morning, before you get out of bed, start thinking of what you're grateful for. It may be hard at first, but soon it becomes an avalanche. That usually starts my day off with a positive mental attitude. The more I do it, the longer that feeling lasts. Give it a shot - can't hurt!
Mental health? Lol it's simple laziness and lack of discipline. Stop talking about shit and thinking about shit and just do shit. No excuses, nothing is stopping you from starting besides you choosing not to.
As a lover of statistics, this blew my mind. To add an interesting fact -- Apparently you can only really do 90 minutes of concentrated work at a time, with 15 minute intervals of a break in between for maximum productivity.
it works great for me 15-20 mins of intense work, then 3-5 of relax. BUT, if is something I'm really into and I CAN'T WAIT to see it happen(feeling that excited to can't wait to see it finish), then I will work like 8-10 hours without even taking a break to drink water, lol
You mean that arbitrarily selected people can do 90 minutes of concentrated work on a task they did not chose in a controlled environment for that particular research.
To add on, this 90 minute burst is loosely based on the basic rest-activity cycle (BRAC), which is synced to your biological clock. It's not exactly 90 minutes, but is some range of 80-120 minutes, depending on how focused you were and mental capacity. For the last 20 minutes or so, your brain starts to slow down. Since it's an ultradian rhythm, it repeats itself multiple times every 24-hours, starting the moment you wake up. It may be beneficial to chunk your day into 1.5-2 hour sections. I've tried designing a schedule that works with BRAC, but mainly in terms of optimizing naps. If you nap dead smack in the peak of a BRAC, it's can be difficult to sleep, but place it towards the end then it usually becomes easier. Besides naps, I'm sure you can use it for work, especially in the mornings.
Believe me Captain, I started going to the gym six days a week because of your advice in the first episode of the podcast. It was more than 2 months ago and the gym has become a constant in my life despite not being financially independent currently. So I just make sure I lift everyday and fighting against the chaos to be able to maintain this lifestyle and improve upon it (better gym, hire a coach, better diet)
You don’t need a coach . You need to learn basic compound exercises and mobility exercises, as well as balanced nutrition that’s it . That’s on UA-cam for free . You’re probably not a professional athlete , or bodybuilder or actor so you don’t need a coach it’s all free on UA-cam
One thing I'd like to add apart from this being great advice, is that for many men it's not going to help them with women. Self-betterment is always a worthy pursuit, but the percentage of men who are attractive remains steady among women who, if I'm going to be blunt here, promote unrealistic standards. You are going to have women who even after your growth as a person, physically, intellectually, athletically, whatever, will tell you that you still don't measure up. Remember you're not doing this for them, and don't waste your energy on people who won't appreciate you.
While basically true, I'll say this to be hopeful as it has applied to me at various times in my life. When it comes to women, for the most part, you will get the women that most align with the type of person you ultimately are. If you're an introverted 7, you're not going to get a model 9 especially if you're in her circle of influence. With that said, there is something to be said about self-confidence. I feel at my most attractive/confident when I feel I deserve what I'm going after. These routines like working out, etc... might not seem like a big deal, but they are all about building that feeling of you deserve things in life. I can feel a massive drop in confidence when I take long lay-offs from not keeping up with self-improvement routines b/c I know I haven't put in the work to deserve the things that I want. And at the end of the day, attraction is basically an extension of your self-confidence. If I don't feel at my best, I don't give off my best energy.
The good news is, you do not have to be attractive to ALL women. In fact, you don't have to be attractive to MOST women. You only have to be attractive to just one or two Females, or maybe a few, depending on how many plates you wish to spin at the same time. The reason for self-improvement is to become confident in yourself that you have values as a man and as a mate, that you are good enough. Trying to be attractive to many or most people, so you could choose the best from the crowd that wants you, is the Female mating strategy, not the Male mating strategy, and it never was. Unfortunately in our Feminist world feminized men try to follow Female sexual strategy, and they get depressed when it doesn't work. Of course it won't work! Male sexual strategy is focused: you concentrate on the target, the one girl you want to seduce, and ignore the rest of them. If you succed, good, if you don't, you select your next target. But the strategy is most definitely not to be attractive to all women, so that you can select the hottest among them, as a woman would do.
Exactly! Men need to understand that & accept it, chasing relationship is not life, it's just a part of life, if you are not blessed with a great face & great genes, then ur just going to go unnoticed by most women. Those who don't accept this fact, suffer the most. The only thing u can do is work on yourself, which will definitely make u more attractive than what u used to be.
I’m a woman in her mid twenties but this really seems like it applies in lots of ways. I was never fat and could basically eat what I wanted and coast but recently I’ve gotten serious about eating healthy and it is slowly changing my life. I have very low confidence and every time I try to do something there’s a voice in my head telling me I have terrible ideas and it’s not going to work out and I’m destined for failure. I just got a therapist, I’ve started writing my screenplay more seriously and I’m reducing my procrastination (though it’s still a problem). I’m terrified and that voice is still there but I’ve just decided I’m going to do it. If not I’ll always regret it and I am guaranteed to be a failure. Please wish me luck and, if you believe in it, please pray for me!
u are a failure and nothing gonna work. Now know that u are not alone and everyone is a failure and everyone's goals not gonna work, but during these fails you learn What Will Work. Cheers, hope u fail everyday in life, then it means u doing something with ur life and not waste it. If u need bit of inspiration, there is a story with bill gates when he started, he showed his project to over 1k people and just like 10 were bit interested into investing, rest rejected him, lol. Imagine the guy who will become for so many years the richest man in the world, failing 1k times
I don’t know if this is gonna help you but Notice how you look at others? They look at you the same Mistakes, achievements etc. It’s kind of a double edged sword cause people don’t care that much about your mistakes as well as your accomplishments. It’s not much but at least it’s the truth
On the positive side of things, if 90% of men are unattractive that makes the bar way lower and easier to be more attractive than most guys. If 90% of guys were attractive, working your way out of that unattractive 10% would be really difficult Edit: Dang everyone's really taking this the wrong way, basically what I'm saying is there's less competition right now, so you can probably get away with a little bit more than if the competition was higher. If 90% of guys were 8-10, being successful as a 5-7 would be pretty tough, but if 90% of guys are average and below, I'm guessing thats gonna make things a little bit easier.
How about the percentage of women that are attractive.. when it comes to women you'd happily commit to and not just smash, I'd say about 80% of women are unattractive too.
I’m 5’4 , a lot of people would say that I am screwed because of my height. In college I believed this to be true. But, once I turned 19, I started working out and it helped me so much. Then, I started grinding from 20-25 years old. In between those years , I was learning about business, money , seduction, relationship polarity, masculinity, leadership , style, grooming, fitness, etc. Was it hard ? Hell yeah. It was a lot of work. But, now I could say that I am a top 10% man. Regardless of my height, I have no issues with relationships and dating. I worked so hard on all aspects of my life; that my courage is always present. The risk is always there, but my confidence outweighs it.
@@matrjmiratovic920 absolutely not, Seems fake because 90% of guys think like you. Unfortunately , most guys are unable to achieve this because of their mentality and lack of work ethic.
Fucking excellent bro, happy for you. As a tall guy I can say, we all have a short friend who crushes with women, height is only a barrier to the 90% man.
I mostly agree with the majority of the points explained in the video. a few things that i want to add to make the discussion more realistic and less allegoric: 1) Remove from your life all the people that don't have a similar mentality to yours. I know that seems a little bit rude and brutal but if you want to reach a certain goal in your life you have to have people that goes at the same pace as you and that share the same mentality. You will face a period of extreme lonliness at the start but don't stop pushing for the best of your life. 2) Work harder than last time. This is something that will reflect both in your social life and on your gym. If everyone works at 50% ( because we know that the majority doesn't even bother to do more than this) then you have to work at 120%. make sacrifice and try to push more than what you think it's your limit. Of course you have to be intelligent. If you fail in something push even harder. It will change your mindset. good luck to everyone.
if im totally honest with myself as a guy, I find most women "average", then some "do-able" and then the top 10% truly attractive(mind, body, attitude). The hierarchy exists for both sexes but with men it doesn't surround our looks
Except for dudes, we battle with an extra restriction we cant control - height. Everything other than that is an even playing field with both sexes: Facial features/ ethnicity/ athleticism/ personality etc. But rock what u got tho
A lot of guys dont think like that though, most will just get with anything and everything. Some even tolerate the most toxic and disgusting women just to say they have a girlfriend.
Thank you for mentioning the dread feeling when you start drifting from your purpose. I am at a point in my life where I am dealing with how to not let it be debilitating and hearing another perspective helps reassure me that it is okay, even if the average people/family around me can't relate to it.
There is an Australian interview with Fresh and Fit. He talks about the on line research study of women and men. Women only found 4% of the online profiles attractive. As opposed to men finding 60% of women’s profiles attractive. Many men between the ages of 17-34 are alone.
To be fair 99% of men don't know how to take pictures and cat fish while 90% of women do. Men shouldn't even try online dating, they will always be more unattractive than in the real world. men's attractiveness comes a lot from their voice and their presence thus online dating where they need to interact electronically they will always fall short.
I love this for women too. I esp love the bit about being courageous. I started my first biz at age 62 which was a big leap for me. I'm lovin' it. It's exhilirating. Don't get me wrong, I've made mistakes. Plenty. They are all very much learning experiences. Thanks, Capt Sinbad!!
At 25 my bad habits got me to 257lbs for a 5'5 guy. At 27 after changing my physical habits and diet habits I've gotten to 201 trying to get to 165. Long way to go but feeling so much more confident and disciplined now. Keep up your good work man 💪
@@sushilsharma4202 How many billionaires do you know that were attractive when they started ? The thing with statistics is you can prove anything if you pull in the right datasets. Do you think Elon, Bill, Bezos, Larry were attractive when they started ? If looks were everything Chris Hemsworth would have been a multi billionaire. I can subscribe to the idea that they are an important facet of many things including success but they are not the only thing that matters.
@H The problem with y'all normies is you don't even research before quoting big personalities😂. Ambani got his wealth from his father. Gandhi was very much renowned in India before he came in 1917. He also belonged to a very rich family. There's a thing called Status and you normies think the exceptional cases of such people with huge status deconstructs the argument 😂. Why do you think you are at par with either Ambani or Gandhi? Are you? Comparing your life with the top 1% is a COPE That's like a chicken giving an example of a lioness to live life. Lmao Chickens will stay and will have the power quotient of a chicken till their death. But either way Humans learn to COPE. Some do by intoxicants, some by soocide, some by their hobbies.
@@intellectualgravy9796 Elon Musk's family had a gold mine in South Africa where they got their wealth from. Bill Gates was wealthy too. His father was one of the few in the countries to have a computer. He was also given some $300000 (Calculate as per today's inflation) by his dad in the initial stages of his company. All of the billionaire you quoted have inherited their wealth from somewhere. And also I've clarified in another comment you normies like to quote the top 1% folks as if y'all have anything relatable to them. It's like a chicken giving an example of a lioness to live life. Chris Hemsworth got into hollywood cuz of his looks. Looks is not equal to money if that's what you got from my comment. Y'all like to make your definition/perception on other people's comments. If I said I liked Beef doesn't mean I hate Bacon. Stop making different meanings as per your biases to suit your arguments. Looks open many doors which might not be opened for bad looking folks. You don't live up to your account name, lmao.
Being a chubby artist for most my life, the life I live now after years of power building and endurance running, it feels like I have lived in two different realities. I went from people never even returning a casual 'hello' for the sake of being social, to girls opening doors for me, men looking to me for my thoughts on things, professionally given opportunities, it's insane.
If everyone became the top 10% then noone is, i think its important to find the inherent meaning of the things u do rather than focusing on being better than everyone else cuz i think that kind of a mentality can breed arrogance. E.g. exercising should be because of it makes u feel better and live better, rather than being better than others. I think the four main points u listed are like the basics of a great life and should be practiced by every man or woman regardless of whether they want to become a billionaire or just to be a good father and husband.
@@thenarrator1984 I disagree. You are correct in stating that much of attraction is relative. This is why in an office setting, even if all of the guys are below average, the one who sits above the rest gains most peoples attention. However, if all of the men in the office were 8s, then while the 10 would still get most of the attention, the 8s would still be seen as attractive, they just would lose the novelty factor that caused women to chase after them The aberration from the norm in the positive direction will always take up a disproportionate amount of the total attention, but this doesn’t mean if everyone was more attractive then it would be insignificant
The tragedy of [my] life is that we realize all this at least a decade after we should've started. The regret of time not spent optimally is unspeakable. I took to the gym about a month ago, after I stopped going at 22, because of depression and self-esteem issue.
I always say, "If you wish you could have done something in the past to change your life in the present, then why aren't you doing that now? Your current present will eventually be your past and your future will always eventually be your new present". Actually, the reason why we don't do anything is b/c it's easier to dream and think about an ideal actualized version of ourselves than to commit to the undertaking of becoming that person. You can always pretend you "coulda been a contender" and many people find comfort in that in and of itself.
i love the honesty at the start, first thought seeing this video was hamza's vids. glad you're doing a similar video and giving light to this topic, as another desi man who has struggled with similar issues
Looks are shallow. If you ARE what you look like, when you no longer look like that, you AREN’T. Looks fade, biology starts the decaying process from birth/creation. And life is tragic, unpredictable, and does not care how you”look” or how much or little you work out, or what you own and attain- it’ll hit you with that cancer, or car wreck, or fire, and not blink. Transcend looks- that’s not to say don’t work on yourself, but realize it will disappear, whether today or in ten years. Work harder on finding happiness within yourself, your own meaning, and people will gravitate towards your light, “attractive” or not.
Except the biological aging process is dependent on your lifestyle. If you are fat, smoke and drink alcohol you will accelerate your aging. Whereas if you exercise, meditate, sleep a lot and eat a healthy plant-based diet you can not only slow down but even reverse certain aspects of aging. Check out Dr. David Sinclair's book
@@V.Hansen I’d go out on a limb and say that’s common sense to most people viewing this video. And just a side note, there are just as many proponents for the healing benefits of the carnivore diet, as a plant based. Yes work on yourself, if YOU wish; it’s when it defines you that it becomes a problem. You are more than your looks, so am I, and everyone. I have a elderly dog~ does he look as cute as a puppy at the pet store? No. But I’m not after that cheap wine~ I enjoy the time I spend with his unique spirit, now, and when he was the puppy.. Thanks for the book suggestion though- I’ll raise you, You are the Placebo~ by Dr. Joe Dispenza.
@@45mph333 There is scientific evidence that plant-based diets actually extend your lifespan (Mediterranean and Okinawa diet). There is 0 evidence that the carnivore diet works. In fact, in animal studies those on high protein diets, like with a lot of meat and animal products, had a shortened lifespans.
i totally respect discipline and passion but man, men put an uncharitable amount of pressure on themselves to feel worthwhile. it’s true from my personal experience (as a straight girl) that I find very few men attractive, but that’s usually because I need to get to trust and respect someone on a deeper level first. I’m not trying to speak for all straight women out there, but it’s telling that all of my friends (except one) agree. I think a lot of straight men put in this kind of external work to compete with each other, but fail to realize that that’s not what we really care about
@@ruddigerhardington4797 well, we should all also consider the fact that besides clear sign of attractivness (ex. You are Brad Pitt) attraction is a lot based on personal choice.
Also, I kinda relate to the content about improvement and stuff but hell yes we men put on ourselves a fuckton weight of responsibility. If you feel bad about yourself you'll never be satisfied enough about how much you look, you earn, you do stuff. Self is discovery is ALSO about improving, not JUST improving
Sophia As a man we are doomed from the start because of women Every interaction we have with other men are based on heirarchies, and u might not be aware of it yet, but the general population of women find themselves attracted to average or slightly ugly dudes if they have a good social status(that's ur whole deeper level understanding,u just unconsciously check if the dudes good with other people) because of the heirarchy I have to constantly compete to have friends (Not GF, I said friends because I can't even get that bare minimum if I don't do shit),Act like am a rude,toxic,tough guy ,Am naturally a nice guy,I have to be fake rude or people won't take me seriously
Bingo. Thanks for saving me having to type so much. Men need to stop living “to be attractive” and just become the best version of themselves. Women will come eventually.
@@sarangt4448 I noticed something similar about myself. I'm actually pretty sensitive and unassuming. I don't like conflict. But in order to get any attention from anyone, I have to be the "aggressive funny guy who doesn't give a shit what anyone thinks". This is not who I am fully, and yet I've only really been "attractive" when I play this stupidass role. I don't know what people would think about the nervous and sensitive me that I've been since childhood.
Just 10 weeks ago I hired a personal trainer for the first time in my life. Now at 31 years old I am absolutely seeing the benefits, it is truly amazing and anyone who can afford a trainer should get one asap. I hit the gym at 5am 3x a week for heavy strength training and it has become my favorite parts of those days. My fitness and my style have always been my weaknesses, I have always been a badly dressed Dad bod. But I have never struggled to attract high quality women. This is how I know that these changes are genuinely for me and not for women, I want to look in the mirror and admire my physique, purely giving into my vanity without shame.
1/2 men are overweight in the western world 1/5 or even less workout regularly 1/20-1/100 take care in what they eat 1/100 or even less take any care in what they wear or how they present themselves, beyond simple aversions. Even less know what they're doing with their life, even if its just putting that responsibility into your faith, just knowing that its being dealt with is something incredibly rare. The fact is that most men are unattractive because most don't try. Start to try, and good will follow. try to be more honest, and more healthy interactions will follow. Try to be more healthy, and weightloss and health will follow. You'll fail, and that's because neither success nor failure is the goal, but simply the act of doing. That act of doing ultimately has an end, and that end is the outcomes given, but the mean is the focus, but is not the reason to act.
The audacity and likes of this comment 🤦♂️ . The top 10% of men will continue to have total control of the female dating pool without really trying and without pseudo philosophy.
@@fernandopimentel5463 It also depends on the circumstances they have grown up, from environment to genetics, so it would be more "easier" or "natural" for some people than others but I wouldn't go that far as to say that those 10 % men haven't put up their effort.
I used to workout hardcore, but I lost motivation when I felt it didnt make much of a difference in the dating market. Women dont really seam to notice, I usually only get noticed by men.
For women a man’s body is typically a qualifier to get in the race but it’s not what gets you the checkered flag. If there is one attribute that they most look for imo it’s effort and consistency. Consistently put effort into your physical body, your mental state, your home, work, friends, family, and relationships. But do it with intrinsic motivation for yourself and with a mindset to serve others and build fulfillment in your own life rather than for validation from external results.
exactly. Most men who start lifting expect to attract women but once you get older, you realize that dudes are the one to notice. Not saying being in good shape does not help with women but it is not something necessary. This is something the HodgeTwins (famous guys in the fitness industry) said years ago.
Law of Diminishing Returns. Only those well-entrenched in training will appreciate the intricacies of your physique. Everyone else just appreciates the obvious.
It feels true, because it is true. We forget that the true value of a man is NOT how pretty he is, but how much utility he has. The problem today, for men, is that women do NOT need their utility. So, women today are free to choose men solely based on how hot he is, since she has her own money. The problem for women is that God did not make males the pretty gender. So, ONLY about 10%, or fewer, of men are physically attractive to women, which means that 90%, or more, of women are competing for the top 10% of men.
Perhaps you are right but how do women look when they get out of shape, wear trashed out clothes, and don't bother to groom themselves? Umm, not all that great (so they are not necessarily the pretty gender either). If you really want to get down to it the human form is really not all that attractive compared to many animals (think of a beautiful cat or dog, a bird). There are so many creatures more beautiful in form than humans. The beauty of humans I believe should be on the internal more than the external. That said the tips this man mentioned in the video would make the average person much more attractive (male or female). It is good to take care of one's self (more so if you married as you are not only considering yourself but your partner) and if part of that makes you healthy and focused which assists in doing important things in this world than that is great.
@Unknown the crux is the average women still want the hottest guy. And they get to hookup with them regularly through dating apps . And they start to believe that they are hot too and they set the bar high. But all this man wanted is an easy nut and she means nothing. Most women don’t understand that men categorize women in fun girls and long term. Sadly the Ratio of fun to long term is getting ridiculous.
Not quite. Most women aren't attractive either (physically and mentally). Its just that......women use this thing called make up to looks max....society of the last 40 years has coddled them with the "your're a queen" feel goood koolaid and of course...social media, feminism and the so called "body positivity" movement...has gaslit women even more - hence why a women can call a man short, fat, bald, out of shape e.t.c. - but call her fat and she looses her mind! Its funny how an unattractive women (2/10) is quick to agree! Add to this hypergamy - and you have the absolute garbage state of western dating.......... And of course, over the last 50 years, most men have been conditioned in the west - to not have standards, many have been porn addicted, and due to hypergamy - a large section of men have little success with women! Also, teaching Men to do all this effort - simply for female validation, is a whole new level simpitry. Do it, first and foremost - for you! Also, regarding women having their own money!!! - if you were to poll a large section of women and ask "would you go 50/50 on a first date" - you''ll get your answer. You see, the vast majority of men aren't interested in a women's money, its women that value men for resources. rRegardless of how "successful" a women thinks she is, most of them still expect traditional dating (despite not being tradition...for the best part of 50 years!) behaviour from men! They expect us to pay for dates, arrange dates, make the first move - put the lion share of the wedding cost (a waste of money so she can flex in front of a bunch of people she doesn't like") and of course the lion share of the mortgage and household costs. So no, women may not need our utility....but they certainly want it, that too from a man that at least 25%-50% higher in income than her. The problem is......these high calibre men have......options! Incidentally, men are the majority tax payers while women are the majority net welfare receivers - so yes, a women gets her money from a man - whether its welfare, child support, alimony, daddy, or sugar daddy! Remember....women date up, men sleep down!
So true about the anxiety setting in - you can’t see the potential of your actions towards purpose when you’re stuck inside an inactive state - it’s like two versions of yourself coexisting in yourself
I’ve been watching your channel for a couple years, and you’ve become more sophisticated and drive to deeper meaning. I love how genuine you’ve remained, and your constant theme that tends to cycle back to being a better man.
btw when you deadlift you should keep from looking up. Keep your spine straight as to prevent injury and help focus the distribution of weight. Also, for folks reading including CS - highly rec you look into biomechanics and the benefits of leaving straight bar anything behind. Dumbbells and cable machines allow for more natural joint movement and translate directly to less injury Check out Eugene Teo as a good source of information on the matter.
I think I was somewhat blessed genetically but when I feel ugly or unnattractive I let that frustration drive me to throw around some weights, keep myself groomed, take a shower and take care of my skin etc.
The feeling of dread has thankfully started warming up for me too. The things that were so irresistibly fun a few years ago are now far less fun because I feel the weight of what I *should* be doing.
For the 90% of guys who are unattractive just remember that 90% of the 10% who are attractive are only that way because of effort. 10% of the 10% are just naturally blessed. Don’t give up hope just because of the headline stat. Whatever your strong or weak points are other attributes can be brought up to make up for those. All men have what it takes to be a solid 7 at least.
You are coping bro, its actually reversed. 90% of the 10% who are attractive are genetically blessed, the remaining 10% are there because of effort AND because they were a 5-7 to begin with. Men who are naturally below a 5 can workout as much as they want, can have a high paying job, they will never be a „solid 7“ because height and face are not changeable
Youre completely deluded its like saying 5% of those that finish in NBA is because of effort lol Genes are the things tha separate us 10% are those that are tall , good looking , good skin , hair , good base athleticsm , born in rich family or self made in rich , have status in some category and all that is over 60% genetic .
@@stevo7220 it’s nothing like that. The NBA can only have some many players. There’s no numerical limit on how many men can be attractive. Very bad comparison friend.
@@Gggfdf93 Height is not changeable but you can utilize your hair and clothing to appear taller. You can widen your shoulders and minimize your waist to get good shoulder to waist ratio even if your 5 7. You can do a lot with your face, if you don’t have good structure or a strong jawline you can focus on skin health and facial hair maintenance and if you can’t grow a beard you can focus on your eyebrows. If you don’t have eyebrows, well you got me there.
@@stevenm732 Hahahaa okay now i cutting it here " There's no numerical limit on how many men can be attractive" you're saying like you're choosing whos attractive who's not there are scientific studies that only tiny % of people are considered beautiful that old shit that there's someone that will find you attractive is old and outdated as my grandpa house in the cave . Buddy there is objectivity to beauty and even if i give you 100 faces we will pick almost the same guys who's most attractive .
"I don't know if this is true, but it instinctively feels true." Sums up why society is going down the toilet. If you're a superficial person you will absolutely love this way of thinking. You don't want to bother with examining things, the appearance is what matters.
In the last 2 years I learned how to cut my own hair in the style I like, before that I just got a generic all over short cut at the barbers. It’s crazy how much better I feel about myself but also how differently people treat me with this hairstyle.
Great job my dude. I'm proud of you. I hit a high weight 5 years ago and turned it around. I'm hitting all time PRs in all my lifts at 38 years old and i've been lifting on and off since I was 14. Been consistent diet and exercise for the past 2 years. I look younger than I did 5 years ago. =)
I love all these points and its a great video Captain, however, i cant help but want to ask the philosophical question of what it means to 'wanting to be attractive'. Does it hold the correct intrinsic value to oneself? Why spend time pleasing others with 'attractiveness'. I like the motives behind all these points absolutely, but i dont think we should use 'attractiveness' as this definiton to a top tier work rate. I think it puts the end product of the blood sweat and tears into an external source for the recognition of the hard work. Learning to appreciate your own hard work should be the highest goal. Whats other peeps opinions?
I am with you where. To me, putting so much stock and importance in external validation and approval is presuming that much people have the capacity to truly appreciate and reward value in the first place which often they do not and this leads to disappointment. One should grow out of their own volition.
Yes. Because people always change their expectations as per their wants and this will always disappointing. Its better to never care what world thinks of you, if you work on the rest of things properly things will balance out.
Attractiveness is correlated with your success and health/fitness. If you do these things you will feel better, extend your lifespan and be attractive at the same time. A goal worth living for.
I've got the impression that you will go really far. The quality of your content is insane, and even entertaining to see. And I relate to the message as well... I struggle with being attractive to women, because the society does not support you at all, but I consider myself very strong mentally, and I applied consistently the 2nd and 3rd points (deep work and being courageous)you mentioned in the video, especially after finishing school in 2015, in art, drawing FanArts, and sometimes writing or making videos, by memorizing scripts. Now I am 25, and both the fitness and nutrition are fields I should tackle. Great work Sinbad!! :D
A few tips fellas. These are easy. 1. If you live in the southern US wear Jeans and cowboy boots. You’re instantly a cowboy and 2 inches taller. Ladies love it. 2. If you’re slim wear an under shirt it’ll make you look bigger than you are - v necks on the undershirts pull the front down. You want none of the undershirt showing in neck area. 3. Get your hair right. If you’re a high and tight you really can’t afford more than 3 weeks between cuts, if you are blessed with long hair don’t let it get ratty / dreads unless that’s your thing. Some people can pull it off. 4. Get your money right. You should be the hardest working person in every room and if you are undervalued look elsewhere. 5. Clean your car before the date. 6. Everyone is cooler with ray bans 7. The rest is on you I don’t know your style - figure it out
Week 4 of consistently going to the gym and I already some minor results and let's not forget the mindset shift. Like hey, you may be far off from looking like some of the more buff dudes in the gym, but just by simply being in the gym 4-6 days a week, you're doing better than the majority of people.
I wish I had more friends like this. I seem to be the only one who cares about being the best I can be. It seems like the more I grow the more I intimidate other people and it pushes them away. I don’t think I’m overbearing or annoying or judgemental but my business has grown to be undeniable and it’s put strain on my friendships with other guys who haven’t arnt happy with themselves. I need a group of guys to hang out who push themselves.
I think this video is a good summary of many of the topics discussed in the previous podcast episodes. Love you Captain, looking forward to the next podcast episode as well.
Also it's so deep that you shared an image critiquing website because I've been half looking for something like this for a long time but didn't think anything like that existed. You give good references all the time. It's a big plus when watching your videos because it makes you even more valuable. Powerful ish my man. I'm taking notes.
It's true. When I was in my late teens to mid-20s I was so good looking that women would constantly be giving me the eye as I passed, touching me, hugging me and otherwise giving me mad attention. For nothing I actually did. I wasn't really all that charismatic or very interesting at the time but boy did I get women falling into my lap. Nice while it lasted but it stopped when I started to fill out and lost my hair. Zero attention at that point.
I've noticed in coffee shops, diners, or bars that people wonder what you are up to and what you are studying. All I use is my phone, headphones, and a notebook to do deep work. It's nothing special but its seen as unorthodox in today's world.
I work out regularly, has some significant muscle mass. I practice deepwork. I'm trying to be more social despite being an introvert. And I like being hygenic. Although I haven't achieved anything significant in my life, but after watching your video I feel like I'm on the right path for success. Thank you for instilling the confidence back in the systems I have built for myself. GREATNESS IS COMING.
For the 1% that do take lifting and excerise seriously is also divided into people who take PED's and those who do not. This furthers the problem even more when people try the gym amd are lied to.
I’m in college and I was just there for some time for “something else”. That got delayed a bit and I’m stuck with very average classmates, well almost everyone around me. My own mentality is deteriorating just because I’m just binding myself with them. It’s painful, because during exams, I try to preplan etc but they don’t think the same and so on. My situation might be weird or incongruous but the situation is “im getting degraded just being around them for my use.” It’s like a never ending nightmare. Daily I beat myself up mentally, I have gotten weaker and weaker and soft, I can’t Look at myself confidently in thr mirror. I’m just Waiting for the remaining exams to end and end this suffering. Please. Somebody help me, Guide me what should I do. It’s like I’m down tuning myself to fit them. I feel suffocated, when i was new to college I loved it, one semester later and I abhor everything, it’s poisonous here and I’m not saying it vaguely. Idk why I have become so much dependent and insecure. It’s ruining me, I can’t even kill myself ( i don’t want to be that ). Help me, I beg you
Hmm, from reading this, i think that you are craving for people around you that have some big goal in their life and want to reach higher and the people around u just don't have that focus but u don't wanna be like them. Just know that whatever has happened is in the past now, don't forget it and learn from it, and congratulations u now can literally start a new life! Surely, what u want cannot be achieved in a day or two, but what u gotta do is that make a goal list everyday , the bad habits that you wanna leave and things u wanna add to ur life. But the goal should only be a little bit challenging and not too easy or too hard. Start doing this everday, even if the improvement is very little. Get the ball rolling. Also, no need to tell you're plans to ur friends. Keep it private. Also consume information available consciously (like UA-cam, insta, porn etc) because u r what u consume. Start small, you'll get where u wanna be. Oh also this was useful for me, "Compare yourself to the you from yesterday". Don't compare yourself to mega successful people and i am guilty of that lol. Hope u do well and prosper❤️
@@DramaPlot thankyou very much. Everything you said is right. Also I would consume from YT, and I abstain from PMO as much as I can. I need to become powerful to protect my loved ones. My father is the prime example of “rags to riches” for Me. For me, a very peculiar reason turned into a big thing ( step by step) which was being dependent on others for notes, even tho I’m better than them. I have to improve, I need to get better mentally especially. Thank you and I wish the best for you too ❤️
@@DramaPlot hey there, it might be very random but would you like to exchange snaps? I feel like persons with developing and optimistic mindsets should be in contact. It’s completely ok if you don’t want to
Great concise video with a lot of useful advice for younger men. It’s worth noting that all these points link together - if you exercise and eat well, take care of your health and your appearance then you’ll feel better about yourself and be more confident which will benefit your deep work and make you more courageous. It’s a positive feedback loop. Also the point on distractions is really important. There are limitless distractions in the modern world but you really have to think if you spend your prime years being distracted and not focusing on what you want to achieve in life and putting those building blocks in place then you may live to regret it. You don’t have to be constantly ‘on’ and never have any leisure time or enjoy life, but having direction and dedication to things you’re passionate about is so important. I find social media quite ironic - you can spend hours a day looking at what other people are doing with their lives instead of doing something with your own!
Thank you man I needed this. Finished a semester about 3 weeks ago. Did well, so I thought hey I can relax a bit now. So I've mostly been gyming and playing video games. But ultimately there's more I NEED to be doing. Great vid, thanks again.
“The logic of worldly success rests on a fallacy: the strange error that our perfection depends on the thoughts and opinions and applause of other men! A weird life it is, indeed, to be living always in somebody else's imagination, as if that were the only place in which one could at last become real!” ― Thomas Merton My life transformed for the better 6 months ago when i dedicated my life to jesus
Exercise doesn’t belong #1. Women especially don’t care much about physique. I’m in amazing shape and don’t get women compared to most any dating man, even my out of shape but very energetic and outgoing business partner
3 years ago i realised i was dangerously approaching my 40's and decided for the first time of my life to train more seriously than ever before to compensate my newly formed wrinkles and looking older and less attractive and damn, I've never actually looked that attractive and been that confident in my life and I'm 41. Not Beef by any stretch of the imagination but just fit enough to look good enough to me and my potential dates. Hope it will last for as long as possible...
All great points; I like how it didn't turn into some sort of PUA tactics video. Also, you have clear, eloquent speech without saying stuff like "impact". Protip though: "and so" is redundant; just say "so".
90% of Men are relatively broke! … I’ve been salivating about working in one of my favorite movie quotes, so here goes: Captain Sinbad, you’re a damn good UA-cam video creator: “But that’s just the half of it; Human Nature is the other half, and it’s going to take the rest of your life to learn it, so you better not trust anyone until you do” - Brian Keith as Jonas Cord to Steve McQueen as Max Sand in “Nevada Smith”
This truly is a wake up call for me. This is why I fall down to my bad habits. I know I should quit heroin but I just can't because I don't have any purpose in my life. I am just wasting time. each day passes with me thinking that I will quit tomorrow but it never happens. Now I know why it doesn't because the short term pleasure overtakes and I give in to it. Need to work on myself before it gets too late. Thanks for this
totally understand that "feeling of dread." feel like it's a superpower, reminding us to stay on our purpose. How to be more attractive? Eat well, sleep well, exercise daily, meditate daily, continuously learn, practice gratitude, and build relationships. Stay focused, and work hard my brothers!
This is an awesome video … it actually comes down to these basics … its not complicated just need to be disciplined and consistent … most people want a quick pill or shortcuts not understanding that life is a marathon not a sprint 🤷♂️… Valuable video Nikhil … also missing the Damaged men Podcast 🤪
I agree with hard working, gaining strength, getting courage to do hard things or poor hygene, but there are always exceptions. For example, in Japan there are a lot of hard workers, but most of them are single. Americans are exceeded on weight, and they still get girls on their side You can hide your courage proclaiming yourself and lying that you have courage when you don't Hygene and clean clothers is "meh" since the rasta-man can still get a gf. So what does this mean? it means nothing, but it means that you have to focus on what's best for you, to work hard for you, to do what you want to do, to get on your pants and work hard not even caring if you are having a good time or bad time, if you have to do it, then do it. Don't cry because of weakness, be like a train... a solid well-made train, and push for the objective you want. The best picture of a man is a picture of him doing something that is hard and masculine, not a smiley photo watching directly to the camera on the mirror. Be true to yourself, leave behind what social media proposes you, work hard for you and your family, never back off from troubles, confront them. Never chicken out, save your family if a bear comes into your cave. This is the kind of man the society and girls needs and likes. Learn and train marcial arts, learn to fight, push yourself over, and you won't only have more energy on your days, you will be the man that every girl chases.
Love it bro very great points. The deep work is really true and so is the taking action because tbh I’ve been struggling approaching women. I have all the tools mentally I just haven’t taken the step yet but it’s definitely getting done this summer
Great video man. Your video got me thinking. Which is, us guys nowadays has to have that inner self discipline & courage to rebel against being an NPC beta male type man. And aim towards being masculine & living your purpose/life goals
Being in the 80% of men that women find unattractive is hard, especially when I'm already 24 and know I probably won't have all the muscles and everything til I'm 29 but I keep the mindset that I want a woman for marriage and kids not for sex, relationship, and instant gratification, so I accept me now as a loner and choose to focus on my UA-cam channel, gym, diet, etc... You might be lonely now, but the delayed gratification of being married one day to a high quality woman raising kids is worth it
Getting the girl won't get you happy for so long it IS following your Dreams and the path towards that plus getting girls that is beautiful not the girl in it itself
your 30s are your prime years anyway so don't worry. I am 31 and exclusively date women between 20-24 years old. And they actually explicitly prefer men who are 5-10 years older than them. Get after it!
Face, height, penis size, hair (or lack of) density, frame shape, race and age cannot be changed. Voice can be adjusted but not changed much. There are tons of important things that you cannot change and your sexual market value as a man is constantly going downhill past the age of 35 no matter what you do. According to Tinder most men are "unattractive" and you will still be "unattractive" to almost all women (on Tinder) after you self-improve. You have to want to self-improve for yourself because in the end it's still you and your hand tonight 99% of the time. The difference between self-improvement is not the difference between "killing it" and getting nothing but being attractive to 2% of women instead of 0%. In relative terms it's a huge improvement and in absolute terms you're still the underdog.
Bullshit. mens peak years are there 30-40-50! As long as any mens goes to the gym, eat healthy, stay on frame and goals His values only goes up. Stop claim lies.
@@goochipoochie The age gap can be stretched to some extent but at some point the rope will snap if you know what I mean. A woman in her 20's can have tremendous respect and admiration for an 80 year old man but not sexual attraction...that's just too much of a stretch. He can buy touches but not raw desire. I sincerely hope that if I live to be 80 I won't have any serious interest in the vaginas of 29 year old women whatsoever because if I have then it means that I have not matured past my young needs very much. People's lives go through stages and when you're 80 it's mostly about reminiscing and passing off your wisdom and a tiny bit of sex as well with a partner close to your age.
@@goochipoochie dating for artificial reasons, those relationships are obv for money and a luxurious lifestyle. Meanwhile she’s fucking chad behind the old man’s back lol
This was great. Felt very authentic! I like this new content where you're sitting in front of a camera just talking w/ some cuts to B-roll or memes. I can see some Thomas Frank influence here.
Im 6 feet 4, working out on no fap for almost 106 days now, and i still feel undesirable, unattractive, like i dont deserve the nice things in life, supportive friends loving partner or a good family life And that makes me boderline suicidal, i tried to end it a few times because even after doing RIGHT i still dont feel good or desrirable to anyone
Dude, you look nice (if that is you in your DP);don't give up on life yet; you must be in your Twenties? still a long way to go...it might feel like hell, but if you are going through hell, keep going...no other way out!
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@Hshs Bshs I’ve been running now - catching up
Hey Nikhil, Thank you for your work. I Love your Channel and All your Work. After watching ALL your videos, the most Attractive lighting was in this Video: ua-cam.com/video/xkVjOzlpBjI/v-deo.html Where you look the most Handsome and make me want to jump into the screen. Hope this helps your future Work!!
you made it big mr. pandey
Yeah, allot more Females (said like a Ferengi) are better looking than their Male Counterparts, but still somehow with so much Competition, some Potatoe looking Lady gets all Dolled Up and Declares herself High Value and a 10!
i can literally see and hear more purpose + masculinity in you. Well done for your efforts so far and lets keep progressively overloading
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Wasn't expecting you here 😅
How do you make time to comment on so many videos?
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I totally understand that "feeling of dread." I feel like it's a superpower, reminding us to stay on our purpose. How to be more attractive? Eat well, sleep well, exercise daily, meditate daily, continuously learn, practice gratitude, and build relationships. Stay focused, and work hard my brothers!
Do those things for you. Never for a female
Cope
@@SuperMatag bro what
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@@SuperMatag same thoughts when i hear these ethnic copers
The thing that holds me back that makes me feel pathetic when I talk about it because it’s my problem but it’s my mental health.
It’s insane how dark things can get while everything is actually, not so bad.
Working out saved my life.
YES! I second that
You see those things as being "dark" cuz it hurts to have ur innocence die when u relies the world is indifferent. When u marry the truth and relies and accept that it's indifferent, nothing can touch you. The only thing that breaks are false views and expectations.
Just like working out can be a simple step but produce huge results, try a regular "gratitude practice". Every morning, before you get out of bed, start thinking of what you're grateful for. It may be hard at first, but soon it becomes an avalanche.
That usually starts my day off with a positive mental attitude.
The more I do it, the longer that feeling lasts. Give it a shot - can't hurt!
@@cantrun5491 Just asking : are you a buddhist ?
Mental health? Lol it's simple laziness and lack of discipline. Stop talking about shit and thinking about shit and just do shit. No excuses, nothing is stopping you from starting besides you choosing not to.
As a lover of statistics, this blew my mind. To add an interesting fact -- Apparently you can only really do 90 minutes of concentrated work at a time, with 15 minute intervals of a break in between for maximum productivity.
it works great for me 15-20 mins of intense work, then 3-5 of relax. BUT, if is something I'm really into and I CAN'T WAIT to see it happen(feeling that excited to can't wait to see it finish), then I will work like 8-10 hours without even taking a break to drink water, lol
@@green_beard That's okay, but if it's something you dread or don't love as much, the aforementioned strategy is deemed as highly effective.
Pomodoro Technique is the best for me. Doing work for 25 minutes with 5 minute breaks allows me to work at my maximum efficiency.
You mean that arbitrarily selected people can do 90 minutes of concentrated work on a task they did not chose in a controlled environment for that particular research.
To add on, this 90 minute burst is loosely based on the basic rest-activity cycle (BRAC), which is synced to your biological clock. It's not exactly 90 minutes, but is some range of 80-120 minutes, depending on how focused you were and mental capacity. For the last 20 minutes or so, your brain starts to slow down. Since it's an ultradian rhythm, it repeats itself multiple times every 24-hours, starting the moment you wake up. It may be beneficial to chunk your day into 1.5-2 hour sections.
I've tried designing a schedule that works with BRAC, but mainly in terms of optimizing naps. If you nap dead smack in the peak of a BRAC, it's can be difficult to sleep, but place it towards the end then it usually becomes easier. Besides naps, I'm sure you can use it for work, especially in the mornings.
Background of the A roll looks so much cooler from this part of your house
Hey, it’s HOLE CASTINGS!!!
Believe me Captain, I started going to the gym six days a week because of your advice in the first episode of the podcast. It was more than 2 months ago and the gym has become a constant in my life despite not being financially independent currently. So I just make sure I lift everyday and fighting against the chaos to be able to maintain this lifestyle and improve upon it (better gym, hire a coach, better diet)
mashaAllah brotha
remember, Stronger momin is better than weak one: Hadees
You don’t need a coach . You need to learn basic compound exercises and mobility exercises, as well as balanced nutrition that’s it . That’s on UA-cam for free . You’re probably not a professional athlete , or bodybuilder or actor so you don’t need a coach it’s all free on UA-cam
Don't stress money too much... it comes with time just save up what you can bro :)
@@ZAMislive Jazakallah khair brother, the gym has also helped me to improve my salaah, among other factors
@@blackwellbrooklyn6142 That's a great point. I could invest my bucks in something more worthy
One thing I'd like to add apart from this being great advice, is that for many men it's not going to help them with women.
Self-betterment is always a worthy pursuit, but the percentage of men who are attractive remains steady among women who, if I'm going to be blunt here, promote unrealistic standards.
You are going to have women who even after your growth as a person, physically, intellectually, athletically, whatever, will tell you that you still don't measure up. Remember you're not doing this for them, and don't waste your energy on people who won't appreciate you.
So well said!
While basically true, I'll say this to be hopeful as it has applied to me at various times in my life. When it comes to women, for the most part, you will get the women that most align with the type of person you ultimately are. If you're an introverted 7, you're not going to get a model 9 especially if you're in her circle of influence. With that said, there is something to be said about self-confidence. I feel at my most attractive/confident when I feel I deserve what I'm going after. These routines like working out, etc... might not seem like a big deal, but they are all about building that feeling of you deserve things in life. I can feel a massive drop in confidence when I take long lay-offs from not keeping up with self-improvement routines b/c I know I haven't put in the work to deserve the things that I want. And at the end of the day, attraction is basically an extension of your self-confidence. If I don't feel at my best, I don't give off my best energy.
The good news is, you do not have to be attractive to ALL women. In fact, you don't have to be attractive to MOST women. You only have to be attractive to just one or two Females, or maybe a few, depending on how many plates you wish to spin at the same time. The reason for self-improvement is to become confident in yourself that you have values as a man and as a mate, that you are good enough. Trying to be attractive to many or most people, so you could choose the best from the crowd that wants you, is the Female mating strategy, not the Male mating strategy, and it never was. Unfortunately in our Feminist world feminized men try to follow Female sexual strategy, and they get depressed when it doesn't work. Of course it won't work! Male sexual strategy is focused: you concentrate on the target, the one girl you want to seduce, and ignore the rest of them. If you succed, good, if you don't, you select your next target. But the strategy is most definitely not to be attractive to all women, so that you can select the hottest among them, as a woman would do.
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Exactly! Men need to understand that & accept it, chasing relationship is not life, it's just a part of life, if you are not blessed with a great face & great genes, then ur just going to go unnoticed by most women. Those who don't accept this fact, suffer the most. The only thing u can do is work on yourself, which will definitely make u more attractive than what u used to be.
I’m a woman in her mid twenties but this really seems like it applies in lots of ways.
I was never fat and could basically eat what I wanted and coast but recently I’ve gotten serious about eating healthy and it is slowly changing my life.
I have very low confidence and every time I try to do something there’s a voice in my head telling me I have terrible ideas and it’s not going to work out and I’m destined for failure. I just got a therapist, I’ve started writing my screenplay more seriously and I’m reducing my procrastination (though it’s still a problem).
I’m terrified and that voice is still there but I’ve just decided I’m going to do it. If not I’ll always regret it and I am guaranteed to be a failure.
Please wish me luck and, if you believe in it, please pray for me!
youre on the right path, good luck, and just keep the negative thinking away and be filled with optimism
Focus on the process, not the result.
u are a failure and nothing gonna work. Now know that u are not alone and everyone is a failure and everyone's goals not gonna work, but during these fails you learn What Will Work.
Cheers, hope u fail everyday in life, then it means u doing something with ur life and not waste it.
If u need bit of inspiration, there is a story with bill gates when he started, he showed his project to over 1k people and just like 10 were bit interested into investing, rest rejected him, lol. Imagine the guy who will become for so many years the richest man in the world, failing 1k times
I don’t know if this is gonna help you but
Notice how you look at others? They look at you the same
Mistakes, achievements etc.
It’s kind of a double edged sword cause people don’t care that much about your mistakes as well as your accomplishments.
It’s not much but at least it’s the truth
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On the positive side of things, if 90% of men are unattractive that makes the bar way lower and easier to be more attractive than most guys. If 90% of guys were attractive, working your way out of that unattractive 10% would be really difficult
Edit: Dang everyone's really taking this the wrong way, basically what I'm saying is there's less competition right now, so you can probably get away with a little bit more than if the competition was higher. If 90% of guys were 8-10, being successful as a 5-7 would be pretty tough, but if 90% of guys are average and below, I'm guessing thats gonna make things a little bit easier.
In that case, we should tell men not to lookmaxx and that they look fine the way they are, that way there is less competition.
@@Sagefrakrobatik theres no need to because most men aren't willing to put in the work. And either way, there's more than enough women
You got your math wrong, the top 20% would still exist however the margin for error would be tighter.
How about the percentage of women that are attractive.. when it comes to women you'd happily commit to and not just smash, I'd say about 80% of women are unattractive too.
You are foolishly thinking hard work can get you in that 10 percent when it's genetics
50/50 is a PHENOMENAL movie. Highly recommend. Also, hard to believe that less than 10% of men lift weights. It’s such a game changer. Great vid 🙌
Herschel Walker doesn't lift weights...Some things are better than other things.
@@keisi1574 Herschel Walker is on steriods 😂😂
@@keisi1574 he’s also a freak of nature for his age
I’m 5’4 , a lot of people would say that I am screwed because of my height. In college I believed this to be true. But, once I turned 19, I started working out and it helped me so much. Then, I started grinding from 20-25 years old. In between those years , I was learning about business, money , seduction, relationship polarity, masculinity, leadership , style, grooming, fitness, etc. Was it hard ? Hell yeah. It was a lot of work. But, now I could say that I am a top 10% man. Regardless of my height, I have no issues with relationships and dating. I worked so hard on all aspects of my life; that my courage is always present. The risk is always there, but my confidence outweighs it.
this is so made up😂😂😂
@@matrjmiratovic920 absolutely not, Seems fake because 90% of guys think like you. Unfortunately , most guys are unable to achieve this because of their mentality and lack of work ethic.
@@matrjmiratovic920 insecure
Fucking excellent bro, happy for you. As a tall guy I can say, we all have a short friend who crushes with women, height is only a barrier to the 90% man.
being short makes your sense of urgency stronger
I mostly agree with the majority of the points explained in the video.
a few things that i want to add to make the discussion more realistic and less allegoric:
1) Remove from your life all the people that don't have a similar mentality to yours. I know that seems a little bit rude and brutal but if you want to reach a certain goal in your life you have to have people that goes at the same pace as you and that share the same mentality. You will face a period of extreme lonliness at the start but don't stop pushing for the best of your life.
2) Work harder than last time. This is something that will reflect both in your social life and on your gym. If everyone works at 50% ( because we know that the majority doesn't even bother to do more than this) then you have to work at 120%. make sacrifice and try to push more than what you think it's your limit. Of course you have to be intelligent. If you fail in something push even harder. It will change your mindset.
good luck to everyone.
Or it will make you burn out...
if im totally honest with myself as a guy, I find most women "average", then some "do-able" and then the top 10% truly attractive(mind, body, attitude). The hierarchy exists for both sexes but with men it doesn't surround our looks
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Except for dudes, we battle with an extra restriction we cant control - height.
Everything other than that is an even playing field with both sexes: Facial features/ ethnicity/ athleticism/ personality etc.
But rock what u got tho
Yes it does surround our looks, its just that the range of what men find attractive is broader. Cause we have testosterone.
A lot of guys dont think like that though, most will just get with anything and everything. Some even tolerate the most toxic and disgusting women just to say they have a girlfriend.
@@something8mydck I find most women just want a guy taller than them. im 5'9 and feel I have no real restrictions
Looks is everything, rest is cope.
Thank you for mentioning the dread feeling when you start drifting from your purpose. I am at a point in my life where I am dealing with how to not let it be debilitating and hearing another perspective helps reassure me that it is okay, even if the average people/family around me can't relate to it.
Ironically I get this dread feeling when at work... Send help
The competition is light out here, no one is doing this kind of stuff. If you can build yourself up, the world is yours👑
There is an Australian interview with Fresh and Fit. He talks about the on line research study of women and men. Women only found 4% of the online profiles attractive. As opposed to men finding 60% of women’s profiles attractive. Many men between the ages of 17-34 are alone.
The path is to embrace solitude and practice classical Stoicism
Fresh and Fit sucks
@@illestvillain1971 I know ! It was great seeing them cut to size in Australia.
@@illestvillain1971 they are, you may be right but do you disagree with the stats they presented?
To be fair 99% of men don't know how to take pictures and cat fish while 90% of women do. Men shouldn't even try online dating, they will always be more unattractive than in the real world. men's attractiveness comes a lot from their voice and their presence thus online dating where they need to interact electronically they will always fall short.
I love this for women too. I esp love the bit about being courageous. I started my first biz at age 62 which was a big leap for me. I'm lovin' it. It's exhilirating. Don't get me wrong, I've made mistakes. Plenty. They are all very much learning experiences. Thanks, Capt Sinbad!!
Thats awesome.
At 25 my bad habits got me to 257lbs for a 5'5 guy. At 27 after changing my physical habits and diet habits I've gotten to 201 trying to get to 165. Long way to go but feeling so much more confident and disciplined now. Keep up your good work man 💪
This is something I've been thinking about lately and I have to agree. Most men just don't try or give any effort.
Telling men that they are primed to fail is a great way to ensure that they are primed to fail.
The fun is that we are f****d
Lmao if I backed that with research papers what will you say then?
Your looks determine everything in your life.
@@sushilsharma4202 How many billionaires do you know that were attractive when they started ? The thing with statistics is you can prove anything if you pull in the right datasets. Do you think Elon, Bill, Bezos, Larry were attractive when they started ? If looks were everything Chris Hemsworth would have been a multi billionaire. I can subscribe to the idea that they are an important facet of many things including success but they are not the only thing that matters.
@H The problem with y'all normies is you don't even research before quoting big personalities😂.
Ambani got his wealth from his father.
Gandhi was very much renowned in India before he came in 1917.
He also belonged to a very rich family.
There's a thing called Status and you normies think the exceptional cases of such people with huge status deconstructs the argument 😂.
Why do you think you are at par with either Ambani or Gandhi? Are you?
Comparing your life with the top 1% is a COPE
That's like a chicken giving an example of a lioness to live life.
Lmao Chickens will stay and will have the power quotient of a chicken till their death.
But either way Humans learn to COPE. Some do by intoxicants, some by soocide, some by their hobbies.
@@intellectualgravy9796 Elon Musk's family had a gold mine in South Africa where they got their wealth from.
Bill Gates was wealthy too. His father was one of the few in the countries to have a computer.
He was also given some $300000 (Calculate as per today's inflation) by his dad in the initial stages of his company.
All of the billionaire you quoted have inherited their wealth from somewhere.
And also I've clarified in another comment you normies like to quote the top 1% folks as if y'all have anything relatable to them.
It's like a chicken giving an example of a lioness to live life.
Chris Hemsworth got into hollywood cuz of his looks.
Looks is not equal to money if that's what you got from my comment.
Y'all like to make your definition/perception on other people's comments.
If I said I liked Beef doesn't mean I hate Bacon. Stop making different meanings as per your biases to suit your arguments.
Looks open many doors which might not be opened for bad looking folks.
You don't live up to your account name, lmao.
Being a chubby artist for most my life, the life I live now after years of power building and endurance running, it feels like I have lived in two different realities. I went from people never even returning a casual 'hello' for the sake of being social, to girls opening doors for me, men looking to me for my thoughts on things, professionally given opportunities, it's insane.
If everyone became the top 10% then noone is, i think its important to find the inherent meaning of the things u do rather than focusing on being better than everyone else cuz i think that kind of a mentality can breed arrogance. E.g. exercising should be because of it makes u feel better and live better, rather than being better than others. I think the four main points u listed are like the basics of a great life and should be practiced by every man or woman regardless of whether they want to become a billionaire or just to be a good father and husband.
no man, then 100% of people would be attractive
Yes
@@Alexlinnk no. The scale would just shift up.
Top 10%? Top 2.32345 percent baby.
@@thenarrator1984 I disagree. You are correct in stating that much of attraction is relative. This is why in an office setting, even if all of the guys are below average, the one who sits above the rest gains most peoples attention. However, if all of the men in the office were 8s, then while the 10 would still get most of the attention, the 8s would still be seen as attractive, they just would lose the novelty factor that caused women to chase after them
The aberration from the norm in the positive direction will always take up a disproportionate amount of the total attention, but this doesn’t mean if everyone was more attractive then it would be insignificant
The tragedy of [my] life is that we realize all this at least a decade after we should've started. The regret of time not spent optimally is unspeakable. I took to the gym about a month ago, after I stopped going at 22, because of depression and self-esteem issue.
As long as we realize it, we can always start it. It's when we quit even before we start, even after realizing it that's it's truly a tragedy.
I always say, "If you wish you could have done something in the past to change your life in the present, then why aren't you doing that now? Your current present will eventually be your past and your future will always eventually be your new present".
Actually, the reason why we don't do anything is b/c it's easier to dream and think about an ideal actualized version of ourselves than to commit to the undertaking of becoming that person. You can always pretend you "coulda been a contender" and many people find comfort in that in and of itself.
Other side of the coin, some simply don’t care. Just another blip on the radar, society has always been distorted.
i love the honesty at the start, first thought seeing this video was hamza's vids. glad you're doing a similar video and giving light to this topic, as another desi man who has struggled with similar issues
Hamza, 1stman and captain Sinbad are the 👑 of the self-improvement!
Looks are shallow. If you ARE what you look like, when you no longer look like that, you AREN’T. Looks fade, biology starts the decaying process from birth/creation. And life is tragic, unpredictable, and does not care how you”look” or how much or little you work out, or what you own and attain- it’ll hit you with that cancer, or car wreck, or fire, and not blink. Transcend looks- that’s not to say don’t work on yourself, but realize it will disappear, whether today or in ten years. Work harder on finding happiness within yourself, your own meaning, and people will gravitate towards your light, “attractive” or not.
Arnold Schwarzenegger may have had the most masculine fit looking body of any man that's ever lived. He still got old and had heart surgery.
@@bobsmithy9024 Damn
Except the biological aging process is dependent on your lifestyle.
If you are fat, smoke and drink alcohol you will accelerate your aging. Whereas if you exercise, meditate, sleep a lot and eat a healthy plant-based diet you can not only slow down but even reverse certain aspects of aging.
Check out Dr. David Sinclair's book
@@V.Hansen I’d go out on a limb and say that’s common sense to most people viewing this video. And just a side note, there are just as many proponents for the healing benefits of the carnivore diet, as a plant based. Yes work on yourself, if YOU wish; it’s when it defines you that it becomes a problem. You are more than your looks, so am I, and everyone. I have a elderly dog~ does he look as cute as a puppy at the pet store? No. But I’m not after that cheap wine~ I enjoy the time I spend with his unique spirit, now, and when he was the puppy.. Thanks for the book suggestion though- I’ll raise you, You are the Placebo~ by Dr. Joe Dispenza.
@@45mph333 There is scientific evidence that plant-based diets actually extend your lifespan (Mediterranean and Okinawa diet). There is 0 evidence that the carnivore diet works. In fact, in animal studies those on high protein diets, like with a lot of meat and animal products, had a shortened lifespans.
You belong to the top 10% if you dont care what other poeple think about you.
i totally respect discipline and passion but man, men put an uncharitable amount of pressure on themselves to feel worthwhile. it’s true from my personal experience (as a straight girl) that I find very few men attractive, but that’s usually because I need to get to trust and respect someone on a deeper level first. I’m not trying to speak for all straight women out there, but it’s telling that all of my friends (except one) agree. I think a lot of straight men put in this kind of external work to compete with each other, but fail to realize that that’s not what we really care about
@@ruddigerhardington4797 well, we should all also consider the fact that besides clear sign of attractivness (ex. You are Brad Pitt) attraction is a lot based on personal choice.
Also, I kinda relate to the content about improvement and stuff but hell yes we men put on ourselves a fuckton weight of responsibility.
If you feel bad about yourself you'll never be satisfied enough about how much you look, you earn, you do stuff. Self is discovery is ALSO about improving, not JUST improving
Sophia As a man we are doomed from the start because of women
Every interaction we have with other men are based on heirarchies, and u might not be aware of it yet, but the general population of women find themselves attracted to average or slightly ugly dudes if they have a good social status(that's ur whole deeper level understanding,u just unconsciously check if the dudes good with other people)
because of the heirarchy I have to constantly compete to have friends (Not GF, I said friends because I can't even get that bare minimum if I don't do shit),Act like am a rude,toxic,tough guy ,Am naturally a nice guy,I have to be fake rude or people won't take me seriously
Bingo. Thanks for saving me having to type so much. Men need to stop living “to be attractive” and just become the best version of themselves. Women will come eventually.
@@sarangt4448 I noticed something similar about myself. I'm actually pretty sensitive and unassuming. I don't like conflict. But in order to get any attention from anyone, I have to be the "aggressive funny guy who doesn't give a shit what anyone thinks". This is not who I am fully, and yet I've only really been "attractive" when I play this stupidass role. I don't know what people would think about the nervous and sensitive me that I've been since childhood.
Just 10 weeks ago I hired a personal trainer for the first time in my life. Now at 31 years old I am absolutely seeing the benefits, it is truly amazing and anyone who can afford a trainer should get one asap. I hit the gym at 5am 3x a week for heavy strength training and it has become my favorite parts of those days.
My fitness and my style have always been my weaknesses, I have always been a badly dressed Dad bod. But I have never struggled to attract high quality women. This is how I know that these changes are genuinely for me and not for women, I want to look in the mirror and admire my physique, purely giving into my vanity without shame.
If you don't mind me asking, how do you think you attract high quality women if your fitness level and your style are things you struggle with?
You the man! Great that you start by giving credit to those that inspired you
Having a family and kid changes a whole bunch of things. Especially working out. So many guys just fall apart.
Nothing but truth in this video. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
You are so spot on Nikhil, loved how your channel has evolved over the last few years. Cheers to you Pandey brother
1/2 men are overweight in the western world
1/5 or even less workout regularly
1/20-1/100 take care in what they eat
1/100 or even less take any care in what they wear or how they present themselves, beyond simple aversions.
Even less know what they're doing with their life, even if its just putting that responsibility into your faith, just knowing that its being dealt with is something incredibly rare.
The fact is that most men are unattractive because most don't try. Start to try, and good will follow. try to be more honest, and more healthy interactions will follow. Try to be more healthy, and weightloss and health will follow. You'll fail, and that's because neither success nor failure is the goal, but simply the act of doing. That act of doing ultimately has an end, and that end is the outcomes given, but the mean is the focus, but is not the reason to act.
I'm sure it's the same for women too
@@gulfstream0079 Oh it is, with both if you're looking for a woman to have sex with or if you're looking for a woman to marry.
The audacity and likes of this comment 🤦♂️ . The top 10% of men will continue to have total control of the female dating pool without really trying and without pseudo philosophy.
none of these stats are correct
@@fernandopimentel5463 It also depends on the circumstances they have grown up, from environment to genetics, so it would be more "easier" or "natural" for some people than others but I wouldn't go that far as to say that those 10 % men haven't put up their effort.
I used to workout hardcore, but I lost motivation when I felt it didnt make much of a difference in the dating market. Women dont really seam to notice, I usually only get noticed by men.
that is what counts, the respect of men
For women a man’s body is typically a qualifier to get in the race but it’s not what gets you the checkered flag. If there is one attribute that they most look for imo it’s effort and consistency. Consistently put effort into your physical body, your mental state, your home, work, friends, family, and relationships. But do it with intrinsic motivation for yourself and with a mindset to serve others and build fulfillment in your own life rather than for validation from external results.
trust me women like feeling a sense of security from thier man,u shouldn't give up or look too bulkier
exactly. Most men who start lifting expect to attract women but once you get older, you realize that dudes are the one to notice. Not saying being in good shape does not help with women but it is not something necessary. This is something the HodgeTwins (famous guys in the fitness industry) said years ago.
Law of Diminishing Returns.
Only those well-entrenched in training will appreciate the intricacies of your physique. Everyone else just appreciates the obvious.
It feels true, because it is true. We forget that the true value of a man is NOT how pretty he is, but how much utility he has. The problem today, for men, is that women do NOT need their utility. So, women today are free to choose men solely based on how hot he is, since she has her own money. The problem for women is that God did not make males the pretty gender. So, ONLY about 10%, or fewer, of men are physically attractive to women, which means that 90%, or more, of women are competing for the top 10% of men.
Perhaps you are right but how do women look when they get out of shape, wear trashed out clothes, and don't bother to groom themselves? Umm, not all that great (so they are not necessarily the pretty gender either). If you really want to get down to it the human form is really not all that attractive compared to many animals (think of a beautiful cat or dog, a bird). There are so many creatures more beautiful in form than humans.
The beauty of humans I believe should be on the internal more than the external. That said the tips this man mentioned in the video would make the average person much more attractive (male or female). It is good to take care of one's self (more so if you married as you are not only considering yourself but your partner) and if part of that makes you healthy and focused which assists in doing important things in this world than that is great.
Perfectly put
@Unknown the crux is the average women still want the hottest guy.
And they get to hookup with them regularly through dating apps . And they start to believe that they are hot too and they set the bar high.
But all this man wanted is an easy nut and she means nothing.
Most women don’t understand that men categorize women in fun girls and long term. Sadly the Ratio of fun to long term is getting ridiculous.
Not quite.
Most women aren't attractive either (physically and mentally). Its just that......women use this thing called make up to looks max....society of the last 40 years has coddled them with the "your're a queen" feel goood koolaid and of course...social media, feminism and the so called "body positivity" movement...has gaslit women even more - hence why a women can call a man short, fat, bald, out of shape e.t.c. - but call her fat and she looses her mind!
Its funny how an unattractive women (2/10) is quick to agree!
Add to this hypergamy - and you have the absolute garbage state of western dating..........
And of course, over the last 50 years, most men have been conditioned in the west - to not have standards, many have been porn addicted, and due to hypergamy - a large section of men have little success with women!
Also, teaching Men to do all this effort - simply for female validation, is a whole new level simpitry. Do it, first and foremost - for you!
Also, regarding women having their own money!!! - if you were to poll a large section of women and ask "would you go 50/50 on a first date" - you''ll get your answer. You see, the vast majority of men aren't interested in a women's money, its women that value men for resources. rRegardless of how "successful" a women thinks she is, most of them still expect traditional dating (despite not being tradition...for the best part of 50 years!) behaviour from men!
They expect us to pay for dates, arrange dates, make the first move - put the lion share of the wedding cost (a waste of money so she can flex in front of a bunch of people she doesn't like") and of course the lion share of the mortgage and household costs.
So no, women may not need our utility....but they certainly want it, that too from a man that at least 25%-50% higher in income than her. The problem is......these high calibre men have......options!
Incidentally, men are the majority tax payers while women are the majority net welfare receivers - so yes, a women gets her money from a man - whether its welfare, child support, alimony, daddy, or sugar daddy!
Remember....women date up, men sleep down!
Some dogs are really ugly. I think cats are prettier. 😊
So true about the anxiety setting in - you can’t see the potential of your actions towards purpose when you’re stuck inside an inactive state - it’s like two versions of yourself coexisting in yourself
This is a very good one. I can't listen to yet another podcast but I appreciate these "self help" uploads. Keep up the good work!
This video is class 👏🏼 nothing unrealistic and an attainable way for guys to actually become more attractive
@4:35 Sinbad literally sitting on a couch at the gym 😂
Honestly, if no woman on earth finds me attractive, soo be it. Never giving me up, for some lost people out there
I’ve been watching your channel for a couple years, and you’ve become more sophisticated and drive to deeper meaning. I love how genuine you’ve remained, and your constant theme that tends to cycle back to being a better man.
3 plate deadlift in 8 months of consistent training is very impressive💪🏻
Dope how you show love to other channels!!! Community >
btw when you deadlift you should keep from looking up. Keep your spine straight as to prevent injury and help focus the distribution of weight. Also, for folks reading including CS - highly rec you look into biomechanics and the benefits of leaving straight bar anything behind. Dumbbells and cable machines allow for more natural joint movement and translate directly to less injury Check out Eugene Teo as a good source of information on the matter.
I think I was somewhat blessed genetically but when I feel ugly or unnattractive I let that frustration drive me to throw around some weights, keep myself groomed, take a shower and take care of my skin etc.
In another words, you are coping lol. While Chads are banging women just being born Chads.
The feeling of dread has thankfully started warming up for me too. The things that were so irresistibly fun a few years ago are now far less fun because I feel the weight of what I *should* be doing.
“ Act courageous” speaks to me. Thank you for the wise words
For the 90% of guys who are unattractive just remember that 90% of the 10% who are attractive are only that way because of effort. 10% of the 10% are just naturally blessed. Don’t give up hope just because of the headline stat. Whatever your strong or weak points are other attributes can be brought up to make up for those. All men have what it takes to be a solid 7 at least.
You are coping bro, its actually reversed.
90% of the 10% who are attractive are genetically blessed, the remaining 10% are there because of effort AND because they were a 5-7 to begin with.
Men who are naturally below a 5 can workout as much as they want, can have a high paying job, they will never be a „solid 7“ because height and face are not changeable
Youre completely deluded its like saying 5% of those that finish in NBA is because of effort lol Genes are the things tha separate us 10% are those that are tall , good looking , good skin , hair , good base athleticsm , born in rich family or self made in rich , have status in some category and all that is over 60% genetic .
@@stevo7220 it’s nothing like that. The NBA can only have some many players. There’s no numerical limit on how many men can be attractive. Very bad comparison friend.
@@Gggfdf93 Height is not changeable but you can utilize your hair and clothing to appear taller. You can widen your shoulders and minimize your waist to get good shoulder to waist ratio even if your 5 7. You can do a lot with your face, if you don’t have good structure or a strong jawline you can focus on skin health and facial hair maintenance and if you can’t grow a beard you can focus on your eyebrows. If you don’t have eyebrows, well you got me there.
@@stevenm732 Hahahaa okay now i cutting it here " There's no numerical limit on how many men can be attractive" you're saying like you're choosing whos attractive who's not there are scientific studies that only tiny % of people are considered beautiful that old shit that there's someone that will find you attractive is old and outdated as my grandpa house in the cave . Buddy there is objectivity to beauty and even if i give you 100 faces we will pick almost the same guys who's most attractive .
"I don't know if this is true, but it instinctively feels true." Sums up why society is going down the toilet. If you're a superficial person you will absolutely love this way of thinking. You don't want to bother with examining things, the appearance is what matters.
In the last 2 years I learned how to cut my own hair in the style I like, before that I just got a generic all over short cut at the barbers. It’s crazy how much better I feel about myself but also how differently people treat me with this hairstyle.
Most people go thru life unconsciously just being self aware brings you above average man
Great job my dude. I'm proud of you. I hit a high weight 5 years ago and turned it around. I'm hitting all time PRs in all my lifts at 38 years old and i've been lifting on and off since I was 14. Been consistent diet and exercise for the past 2 years. I look younger than I did 5 years ago. =)
Holy crap, amazingly produced video. Love the editing style, honesty and advice. Thank you for this video bro, forever grateful for your channel.
I love all these points and its a great video Captain, however, i cant help but want to ask the philosophical question of what it means to 'wanting to be attractive'. Does it hold the correct intrinsic value to oneself? Why spend time pleasing others with 'attractiveness'. I like the motives behind all these points absolutely, but i dont think we should use 'attractiveness' as this definiton to a top tier work rate. I think it puts the end product of the blood sweat and tears into an external source for the recognition of the hard work. Learning to appreciate your own hard work should be the highest goal. Whats other peeps opinions?
Yes this is my problem with the video as well. It's not about attracting people to you, it's about reaching your own highest potential.
I am with you where. To me, putting so much stock and importance in external validation and approval is presuming that much people have the capacity to truly appreciate and reward value in the first place which often they do not and this leads to disappointment. One should grow out of their own volition.
Yes. Because people always change their expectations as per their wants and this will always disappointing. Its better to never care what world thinks of you, if you work on the rest of things properly things will balance out.
Attractiveness is correlated with your success and health/fitness.
If you do these things you will feel better, extend your lifespan and be attractive at the same time. A goal worth living for.
I've got the impression that you will go really far. The quality of your content is insane, and even entertaining to see. And I relate to the message as well... I struggle with being attractive to women, because the society does not support you at all, but I consider myself very strong mentally, and I applied consistently the 2nd and 3rd points (deep work and being courageous)you mentioned in the video, especially after finishing school in 2015, in art, drawing FanArts, and sometimes writing or making videos, by memorizing scripts. Now I am 25, and both the fitness and nutrition are fields I should tackle. Great work Sinbad!! :D
A few tips fellas. These are easy.
1. If you live in the southern US wear Jeans and cowboy boots. You’re instantly a cowboy and 2 inches taller. Ladies love it.
2. If you’re slim wear an under shirt it’ll make you look bigger than you are - v necks on the undershirts pull the front down. You want none of the undershirt showing in neck area.
3. Get your hair right. If you’re a high and tight you really can’t afford more than 3 weeks between cuts, if you are blessed with long hair don’t let it get ratty / dreads unless that’s your thing. Some people can pull it off.
4. Get your money right. You should be the hardest working person in every room and if you are undervalued look elsewhere.
5. Clean your car before the date.
6. Everyone is cooler with ray bans
7. The rest is on you I don’t know your style - figure it out
Week 4 of consistently going to the gym and I already some minor results and let's not forget the mindset shift. Like hey, you may be far off from looking like some of the more buff dudes in the gym, but just by simply being in the gym 4-6 days a week, you're doing better than the majority of people.
you are the one who got me into self improvement so i am very grateful to you
I wish I had more friends like this. I seem to be the only one who cares about being the best I can be. It seems like the more I grow the more I intimidate other people and it pushes them away. I don’t think I’m overbearing or annoying or judgemental but my business has grown to be undeniable and it’s put strain on my friendships with other guys who haven’t arnt happy with themselves. I need a group of guys to hang out who push themselves.
I think this video is a good summary of many of the topics discussed in the previous podcast episodes. Love you Captain, looking forward to the next podcast episode as well.
Also it's so deep that you shared an image critiquing website because I've been half looking for something like this for a long time but didn't think anything like that existed. You give good references all the time. It's a big plus when watching your videos because it makes you even more valuable. Powerful ish my man. I'm taking notes.
It's true. When I was in my late teens to mid-20s I was so good looking that women would constantly be giving me the eye as I passed, touching me, hugging me and otherwise giving me mad attention. For nothing I actually did. I wasn't really all that charismatic or very interesting at the time but boy did I get women falling into my lap. Nice while it lasted but it stopped when I started to fill out and lost my hair. Zero attention at that point.
What do you mean fill out?
Love it man, you’re smiling more! Only a better reason to see how much further you can go!
I've noticed in coffee shops, diners, or bars that people wonder what you are up to and what you are studying. All I use is my phone, headphones, and a notebook to do deep work. It's nothing special but its seen as unorthodox in today's world.
What do you work on? If it isn't a bother to ask.
I work out regularly, has some significant muscle mass. I practice deepwork. I'm trying to be more social despite being an introvert. And I like being hygenic.
Although I haven't achieved anything significant in my life, but after watching your video I feel like I'm on the right path for success. Thank you for instilling the confidence back in the systems I have built for myself.
GREATNESS IS COMING.
For the 1% that do take lifting and excerise seriously is also divided into people who take PED's and those who do not. This furthers the problem even more when people try the gym amd are lied to.
So you’re saying that you find 10% of men attractive?🤔
So you're saying there's a chance
@@chadguru9565 love u both guys
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Hello boys
I find value in your videos and keep returning. They genuinely help me and motivate me. Please keep them coming.
For me, even if I were to do all those things that manifest a fuller life, I'd still end up dead no matter how hard I try.
That's light, sir. Beautifully said.
The most undertalked about benefit of the gym is mental health !!
I’m in college and I was just there for some time for “something else”. That got delayed a bit and I’m stuck with very average classmates, well almost everyone around me.
My own mentality is deteriorating just because I’m just binding myself with them. It’s painful, because during exams, I try to preplan etc but they don’t think the same and so on. My situation might be weird or incongruous but the situation is “im getting degraded just being around them for my use.” It’s like a never ending nightmare.
Daily I beat myself up mentally, I have gotten weaker and weaker and soft, I can’t Look at myself confidently in thr mirror. I’m just Waiting for the remaining exams to end and end this suffering.
Please. Somebody help me, Guide me what should I do. It’s like I’m down tuning myself to fit them. I feel suffocated, when i was new to college I loved it, one semester later and I abhor everything, it’s poisonous here and I’m not saying it vaguely.
Idk why I have become so much dependent and insecure. It’s ruining me, I can’t even kill myself ( i don’t want to be that ). Help me, I beg you
Hmm, from reading this, i think that you are craving for people around you that have some big goal in their life and want to reach higher and the people around u just don't have that focus but u don't wanna be like them. Just know that whatever has happened is in the past now, don't forget it and learn from it, and congratulations u now can literally start a new life! Surely, what u want cannot be achieved in a day or two, but what u gotta do is that make a goal list everyday , the bad habits that you wanna leave and things u wanna add to ur life. But the goal should only be a little bit challenging and not too easy or too hard. Start doing this everday, even if the improvement is very little. Get the ball rolling. Also, no need to tell you're plans to ur friends. Keep it private. Also consume information available consciously (like UA-cam, insta, porn etc) because u r what u consume. Start small, you'll get where u wanna be. Oh also this was useful for me,
"Compare yourself to the you from yesterday". Don't compare yourself to mega successful people and i am guilty of that lol. Hope u do well and prosper❤️
@@DramaPlot thankyou very much. Everything you said is right. Also I would consume from YT, and I abstain from PMO as much as I can. I need to become powerful to protect my loved ones. My father is the prime example of “rags to riches” for Me.
For me, a very peculiar reason turned into a big thing ( step by step) which was being dependent on others for notes, even tho I’m better than them. I have to improve, I need to get better mentally especially.
Thank you and I wish the best for you too ❤️
@@DramaPlot hey there, it might be very random but would you like to exchange snaps? I feel like persons with developing and optimistic mindsets should be in contact.
It’s completely ok if you don’t want to
To be honest most people think attractiveness is just your looks but it's MUCH MORE than your looks
Great concise video with a lot of useful advice for younger men. It’s worth noting that all these points link together - if you exercise and eat well, take care of your health and your appearance then you’ll feel better about yourself and be more confident which will benefit your deep work and make you more courageous. It’s a positive feedback loop.
Also the point on distractions is really important. There are limitless distractions in the modern world but you really have to think if you spend your prime years being distracted and not focusing on what you want to achieve in life and putting those building blocks in place then you may live to regret it. You don’t have to be constantly ‘on’ and never have any leisure time or enjoy life, but having direction and dedication to things you’re passionate about is so important. I find social media quite ironic - you can spend hours a day looking at what other people are doing with their lives instead of doing something with your own!
HTMIIA was my show back in the day !!! So motivating
Thank you man I needed this. Finished a semester about 3 weeks ago. Did well, so I thought hey I can relax a bit now. So I've mostly been gyming and playing video games. But ultimately there's more I NEED to be doing. Great vid, thanks again.
Love the self-improvement red pill content! I’m watching! Keep it up!
“The logic of worldly success rests on a fallacy: the strange error that our perfection depends on the thoughts and opinions and applause of other men! A weird life it is, indeed, to be living always in somebody else's imagination, as if that were the only place in which one could at last become real!” ― Thomas Merton
My life transformed for the better 6 months ago when i dedicated my life to jesus
Exercise doesn’t belong #1. Women especially don’t care much about physique. I’m in amazing shape and don’t get women compared to most any dating man, even my out of shape but very energetic and outgoing business partner
3 years ago i realised i was dangerously approaching my 40's and decided for the first time of my life to train more seriously than ever before to compensate my newly formed wrinkles and looking older and less attractive and damn, I've never actually looked that attractive and been that confident in my life and I'm 41. Not Beef by any stretch of the imagination but just fit enough to look good enough to me and my potential dates. Hope it will last for as long as possible...
DANGEROUSLY LOL DUDE IM 47 AND FEEL GOOD AND MUSCULAR..WTF U MEAN LOL
All great points; I like how it didn't turn into some sort of PUA tactics video. Also, you have clear, eloquent speech without saying stuff like "impact". Protip though: "and so" is redundant; just say "so".
90% of Men are relatively broke! … I’ve been salivating about working in one of my favorite movie quotes, so here goes: Captain Sinbad, you’re a damn good UA-cam video creator: “But that’s just the half of it; Human Nature is the other half, and it’s going to take the rest of your life to learn it, so you better not trust anyone until you do” - Brian Keith as Jonas Cord to Steve McQueen as Max Sand in “Nevada Smith”
This truly is a wake up call for me. This is why I fall down to my bad habits. I know I should quit heroin but I just can't because I don't have any purpose in my life. I am just wasting time. each day passes with me thinking that I will quit tomorrow but it never happens. Now I know why it doesn't because the short term pleasure overtakes and I give in to it. Need to work on myself before it gets too late. Thanks for this
totally understand that "feeling of dread."
feel like it's a superpower, reminding us to stay on our purpose.
How to be more attractive? Eat well, sleep well, exercise daily, meditate daily, continuously learn,
practice gratitude, and build relationships.
Stay focused, and work hard my brothers!
Fantastic video with great points.
This is an awesome video … it actually comes down to these basics … its not complicated just need to be disciplined and consistent … most people want a quick pill or shortcuts not understanding that life is a marathon not a sprint 🤷♂️… Valuable video Nikhil … also missing the Damaged men Podcast 🤪
I see you in my recommends. You must help alotta people with their self-awareness. I respect you
I agree with hard working, gaining strength, getting courage to do hard things or poor hygene, but there are always exceptions.
For example, in Japan there are a lot of hard workers, but most of them are single.
Americans are exceeded on weight, and they still get girls on their side
You can hide your courage proclaiming yourself and lying that you have courage when you don't
Hygene and clean clothers is "meh" since the rasta-man can still get a gf.
So what does this mean? it means nothing, but it means that you have to focus on what's best for you, to work hard for you, to do what you want to do, to get on your pants and work hard not even caring if you are having a good time or bad time, if you have to do it, then do it. Don't cry because of weakness, be like a train... a solid well-made train, and push for the objective you want. The best picture of a man is a picture of him doing something that is hard and masculine, not a smiley photo watching directly to the camera on the mirror.
Be true to yourself, leave behind what social media proposes you, work hard for you and your family, never back off from troubles, confront them. Never chicken out, save your family if a bear comes into your cave. This is the kind of man the society and girls needs and likes. Learn and train marcial arts, learn to fight, push yourself over, and you won't only have more energy on your days, you will be the man that every girl chases.
Between a beautiful forever young 2D character and a messy forever aging 3D human why would the Japanese ever choose the 3D variety?
@@syasyaishavingfun are you a woman?
Cause Asian women find their own men unattractive regardless how much money they earn.
if only your type of man content was available back in the 90's! Never 2 late. Thank U 4 your content! Definitely sharing with my two son's!
Love it bro very great points. The deep work is really true and so is the taking action because tbh I’ve been struggling approaching women. I have all the tools mentally I just haven’t taken the step yet but it’s definitely getting done this summer
Great video man. Your video got me thinking. Which is, us guys nowadays has to have that inner self discipline & courage to rebel against being an NPC beta male type man. And aim towards being masculine & living your purpose/life goals
Being in the 80% of men that women find unattractive is hard, especially when I'm already 24 and know I probably won't have all the muscles and everything til I'm 29 but I keep the mindset that I want a woman for marriage and kids not for sex, relationship, and instant gratification, so I accept me now as a loner and choose to focus on my UA-cam channel, gym, diet, etc...
You might be lonely now, but the delayed gratification of being married one day to a high quality woman raising kids is worth it
Getting the girl won't get you happy for so long it IS following your Dreams and the path towards that plus getting girls that is beautiful not the girl in it itself
Weird
your 30s are your prime years anyway so don't worry. I am 31 and exclusively date women between 20-24 years old. And they actually explicitly prefer men who are 5-10 years older than them. Get after it!
@@olivierpataut7015 this man speaks truth
@@FirstLast-gk6lg can't wait
Thank you for making this video and putting it out there.
Hopefully it reaches every man on earth.
Face, height, penis size, hair (or lack of) density, frame shape, race and age cannot be changed. Voice can be adjusted but not changed much. There are tons of important things that you cannot change and your sexual market value as a man is constantly going downhill past the age of 35 no matter what you do. According to Tinder most men are "unattractive" and you will still be "unattractive" to almost all women (on Tinder) after you self-improve. You have to want to self-improve for yourself because in the end it's still you and your hand tonight 99% of the time. The difference between self-improvement is not the difference between "killing it" and getting nothing but being attractive to 2% of women instead of 0%. In relative terms it's a huge improvement and in absolute terms you're still the underdog.
Bullshit.
mens peak years are there 30-40-50!
As long as any mens goes to the gym, eat healthy, stay on frame and goals His values only goes up.
Stop claim lies.
@@goochipoochie
exactly!
well said.
@@goochipoochie The age gap can be stretched to some extent but at some point the rope will snap if you know what I mean.
A woman in her 20's can have tremendous respect and admiration for an 80 year old man but not sexual attraction...that's just too much of a stretch. He can buy touches but not raw desire. I sincerely hope that if I live to be 80 I won't have any serious interest in the vaginas of 29 year old women whatsoever because if I have then it means that I have not matured past my young needs very much. People's lives go through stages and when you're 80 it's mostly about reminiscing and passing off your wisdom and a tiny bit of sex as well with a partner close to your age.
@@goochipoochie dating for artificial reasons, those relationships are obv for money and a luxurious lifestyle. Meanwhile she’s fucking chad behind the old man’s back lol
This was great. Felt very authentic! I like this new content where you're sitting in front of a camera just talking w/ some cuts to B-roll or memes. I can see some Thomas Frank influence here.
Im 6 feet 4, working out on no fap for almost 106 days now, and i still feel undesirable, unattractive, like i dont deserve the nice things in life, supportive friends loving partner or a good family life
And that makes me boderline suicidal, i tried to end it a few times because even after doing RIGHT i still dont feel good or desrirable to anyone
Dude, you look nice (if that is you in your DP);don't give up on life yet; you must be in your Twenties? still a long way to go...it might feel like hell, but if you are going through hell, keep going...no other way out!
Because the culture of improving your life by doing the same new internet male stuff instead of being is stupid....
I'm 19 years old and I'm 6.01 feet tall but I feel too shorter . I want to be taller like you.
I'm so depressed .