Navigating Grief in a New Relationship - VLOGMAS 2020
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Mare is a young widow sharing her journey with more than one million views on her UA-cam Channel. Mental health, self care, women's health, special needs and being true to yourself are pillars of Mare's message. She strives to include helpful content in multiple videos per week as well as on the radio and on her growing social media. Mare is a single mum, raising a child with special needs and lost her husband to suicide in 2017. She's built a strong online community, aptly named 'Mareathoners', which shares intimate aspects of life to help each other. She's made it her mission to be vulnerable and open to ensure her Mareathoners know they are not alone.
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I found you after my husband suddenly died and, while I have your audiobook, this is the video I have been waiting for. Thank you so much. 🙏🏻💖🇨🇦
Thank you so much for making this video and talking about this. My husband died by suicide (tomorrow will be the 18 month anniversary of his death) and I have 3 young children, two with special needs. I met with 2 guys online so far and they were nice enough, but they just didn’t understand my grief. They said they did, but in action, whenever I would talk about anything deep or heavy, they would try to change it to something lighthearted to “help me cheer up”. I would really bother me. The last guy, I just broke it off with yesterday after 2 months because when I would get quiet or not text him back some days because I was feeling overwhelmed or depressed, he would keep pushing and asking me to send him sexy pictures to cheer me up. Seriously? Then after 3 days of not seeing him in person he was asking me if I missed him but I told him this would just be casual, and honestly i didn’t miss him so I had to be honest with him. I told him I’m just not ready and this isn’t going to work out. And now he said he is shocked by me and this is coming out of nowhere. I feel like a jerk, but then he’s not giving me time to grieve and process my feelings. Ugh. It’s just easier to be alone.
This is and was such an loving and helpful video in a way, though I’m a guy young millennial yet to be married. Never even widowed I’ve had my own share of losses and deep grief, including the loss of my dad and have had these personal challenges of grief and worrisome of finding or being found by the right guy. The grief being accepted by him etc, this was deeply moving thank you so very much Mare. Your videos, journey of your own losses etc, have been and still are so very helpful. Especially during these isolating pandemic times...😢🙏🏾❤️ Thank you no one thinks about the person who’s left behind, that’s indeed powerful and very true...✨🌧😣
Thank you for this. My husband committed suicide 2017 and although i am now with a wonderful man, who is very supportive and understanding ( hes experienced many many traumatic things in his life and is definitely a grown up) i struggle with the hurt caused by the people who turned their backs on me and my girls (his whole family). Ive had friends walk away too. How do you deal with that? My girls are grown ups now, but their family leaving them really hurts them...
I believe that holds true for someone that went through a divorce as well. My husband came into my life when my sons were 6 & 9 and he knew what he was getting himself into when we started to get serious with our relationship. Fast forward almost 21yrs later and we are married now, my sons now 30 & 28yrs old. My sons now old enough to understand how this man was helping and guiding them in the direction of becoming men it's a great feeling.
Grief is so hard...There is so certain time or place when it comes. If you are honest with your feeling and you new partner from the start you find quite soon whether the person can help hold space for you and your emotions.It really takes some special people to stay buy your side but they are there. Love to you and Thomas Mare at this Christmas Season and New Love for you Thomas Unicorn and his daughter . Many things to be so truly grateful for Peace and Love to you
Am I sitting in the parking lot before going into work and crying into a drive thru napkin? Yes, yes I am. What a helpful video this is going to be for so many people ❤️ I am so, so happy for you both that you've found each other. The universe works in amazing ways. The Unicorn talking to Thomas about Jeremy got the waterworks going and when you shared his reaction to learning you were a widow.... 😭 All of the air high fives to you both for being able to communicate so well and be there for each other.
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This is applicable to me in relation to divorce. I’ve been through some rough times. When I started dating my current boyfriend, he had been through rough like experiences too. Since day one we have been able to talk about anything and everything. We each struggle in different ways with bad feelings from previous relationships, but we are able to talk through that. At first, I was a little scared to tell him very much but now I can say hey I’m crying bc I’m used to this being a huge fight and I’m preconditioned to be upset, you are not the reason I’m crying and please keep talking to me. We have been able to work through so many hard times together. We face things as a team, us vs the problem instead of being against each other. If either one starts having doubts or our brains get upset over something that feels like the past, we lay it out and explain to the other what is going on and why this was a problem. Good communication can be such a deal breaker. That sounds cheesy but when you’ve been through rough relationships with bad communication, it can be eye opening to be like hey this actually works when we have honest conversation and help each other through these things. And yes, him acting like a grown adult is also amazing! I am not his mother, I am his girlfriend.
Yes, yes, yes great video♥️
This was so helpful thanks so much for sharing x and im so happy for you as you so deserve it xx