My clothes don't fit me anymore...
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- Опубліковано 2 чер 2024
- So today we're preparing our wardrobe for Autumn. By packing away our summer clothes and reaching for those cosy jumpers to keep us warm. My wardrobe is mostyly thrifted, things I've had for a long time, and the essentials for the cool mornings and chilly nights in Colorado. Think of this video as a little autumn reset as we're cleaning the house and maybe doing a little decluttering too...
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Let’s have a chat about our changing bodies… shall we?? This summer I turned 60… and all my life I have battled changing body sizes despite the fact that I am an athlete and a tri-athlete, and I was a PE teacher and a basketball & ice hockey coach for 20+ years. During my teen years when I felt the shame of my roundness, I battled an eating disorder. Then, finally, came the recovery and the acceptance of who am I and not what size I was. THEN, more recently post-menopausal weight gain has came out of nowhere. Additionally, I live in the wilderness of northern 🇨🇦 where one has to dress for 40º above🥵 and 40º below🥶 which requires completely different clothing. I am a high school sewing teacher so I need a semi-professional wardrobe, whereas at home I dress for comfort. I am a wild swimmer, my partner is a sailor… we need water gear for aquatic activities and other outdoor sports and hobbies. Additionally, my Mom, who passed away three years ago, was a talented knitter. I have sweaters, socks, and mittens that she knit, and I will never part with them. Why am I telling you all this?? Well… it’s taken decades, but I have finally accepted that an active lifestyle and a changing body shape means I have a full closet and a few storage tuppers full of clothing and seasonal outdoor gear. I no longer feel guilty about this as I am healthy and active. I am still teaching, and I live in the pristine wilderness where comfort and safety outshine fashion. I am able to do the things I love to do with the appropriate clothing and gear. That’s the end of my story… I will never be a clothing minimalist. Most of my clothing and gear has lasted for decades… no guilt about that. I’m not sure if anybody has read this lengthy comment but if you have, thanks for reading my story and perhaps sharing your opinion or story. Ⓜary💕
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@marycharlebois6627 Thank you for sharing this. Personally i think it's great to remind people that there is not just one way towards a more sustainable lifestyle but many and very individual ones. It's also important to remind oneself of that sometimes. =)
That is such a sweet and helpful comment. Thank you so much from a 24year old❤
Wise observations. Changing temperatures and active hobbies DO require more clothing!
Thank you so much for sharing this. It resonates so strongly with me. I am fifty, recently post menopausal and an avid hiker and gym goer. I have just done a wardrobe refresh coming into our Australian spring, and have gotten rid of so many things. I have managed to lose my menopausal weight, but my body shape is so different. My waist has noticeably thickened, my chest and bum have flattened…nothing fits me like it did before. I work in an office three days a week and need a corporate wardrobe as well as weekend comfort clothes, active and hiking wear. Finding the balance and maintaining some semblance of sustainability feels really tricky. I have found a couple of lovely sustainable brands that I have made some purchases from and I’m trying to let go of the guilt I feel about adding more things to my wardrobe while taking bags full to the goodwill. I feel like my style and needs have changed as well as my body shape, making it even more complicated!
Sometimes, when I've had periods, where I have felt really far away from my sense of style and not really felt comfortable in my clothes, it's actually been because I felt far away from myself and had a difficult time emotionally. When I feel happy and content I find that it is much easier to get dressed and I feel creative with my clothes and like I really want to express myself through it. That being said, I can totally relate to going through a period of body change. Because of that I have started keeping my old clothes in different sizes (especially pants) when they don't fit, so that I always have something that I can reach for, if my size changes again. No matter what, I think it is completely normal phases to go through and I am sending you big hugs from Denmark ♥
Are you a bit homesick? Sending so much love and comfort as we head into the nurturing months.
I thought this as well. Perhaps mixed in with a bit of seasonal sadness? might be time for a trip home. Also perhaps since your husband is now your full-time in-person best friend, maybe you dont have as many girlfriends around you, which I know can really boost self-confidence (the right friends). Might be projecting all this. You're seen and loved Immy. God bless you.
I have a few suggestions about fashion which I learned from an excellent UA-camr. You have wonderful foundation pieces in neutral colors and denim. What you may enjoy is the fun of accessories.
A few scarves, belts, a flat shoe, a low boot, a high boot, a couple of belts and a handful of favorite jewelry pieces will enable you to create tons of different looks with the clothing you have. You probably already have these accessories but maybe you're not focusing enough on integrating them into your outfits.
Also picking two of your favorite colors for several shirts and sweaters will further extend your outfit combinations.
Your figure looks slim, beautiful and healthy. Your waistline looks lovely with a belt. Get a few more belts. Enjoy being creative. There are a few UA-camrs who are great at teaching how to "shop your closet" and accessorize. Have fun!
As a native Minnesotan and aspiring minimalist, everything you said really resonates with me. It's hard to prepare for any kind of extreme weather and still have the traditional capsule wardrobe. I find that I do a lot of layering to keep up with the changing weather and my wardrobe is more utilitarian than cute 😅. I also had a lot of 'aspirational' clothing left over from high school and college (I'm in my thirties now) and it was hard to accept letting go of it and facing the changing of my body after having kids, but I figured most of those things were replaceable if and when I got back to that size and I realized that even if I fit them, they wouldn't represent who I've become as a person anymore. This is a long-winded comment, but I really related to this and I feel like so much of womanhood is reconciling with almost constant changes with our bodies, hormones, roles, etc. and not feeling ashamed of it when society expects consistency. It seems like life has changed so much for you in the past year, and I can totally understand why finding your style again would be difficult, but I've watched your videos for a while now and you meet every challenge so gracefully, I know you'll figure it out ❤
I really love your comment… I read it twice. I’m 60, I live in the wilderness of northern 🇨🇦, and I soooo totally agree with your thoughts about womanhood being full of life-long changes which are heavily influenced by our hormones. Self-acceptance of our changing bodies and evolving minds brings so much inner peace and calm. Thanks for sharing your opinions and for your awesome comment. Ⓜ️ary
Thank you for your thoughtful comment, Mary; it really made my day ❤️
Very well said. So true about constant changes when society expects consistency.
Some of this is probably Colorado fashion. It is normal here for people to be wearing athletic clothing all the time. Plus the weather demands priority consideration when choosing what to wear. I think that your coat / jacket game is on point and suit you very well. Also, you looked really happy in the blue skirt.
Hi Immy. Wish you a lovely Autumn! I just would like to add my 2 cents, if it’s ok. I often hear people saying “I don’t care about looks, I only care about comfort.” To be honest I never really understood why this has to be binary, as if both things can’t coexist. Also, I often find that there’s this misconception that if you care about how you look, that means you care of what other people think about you and you don’t have your priorities straight. Again, why? From a very early age, my mum always told me to dress for myself, to help me feel at my best in my own skin. Even on the days I’m wearing sweatpants and a hoodie or really baggy clothing, I pick them intentionally, create the outfit, to look at the mirror and feel ‘you go girl’. And this always sets the tone for my day. And that’s ok. If people think that’s shallow, I’m ok too. And if you don´t care at all about how you look, or what you wear, that´s ok too! There isn´t an universal answer. You are doing so much for the world already, if you feel you want to buy some clothes to better match your style or to create a new one, whatever, please don’t ever feel bad or guilty about it . Maybe this is not at all what you feel, but I just wanted to leave it out there. You’re amazing, Immy, have a great day.💖
Great to have a video about decluttering clothes that also discusses more deeper thoughts about changing bodies and different seasons. It doesn’t get that cold where I live, but I still sometimes feel conflicted about what to keep and to have a balance between ‘I need this because it’s cold’ and ‘I want to keep this’ - especially as someone who tries to stay on the more minimal side in terms of clothing.
I'm a Michigander, and you almost have to have two separate wardrobes. The weather is so extreme here, freezing in the winter and hot af in the summer. The way I keep everything whittled down is by not keeping anything that doesn't fit my body perfectly. If they don't make me feel good, then they go. I live in a small house, so all space is precious.
I mourn the days when we needed big jumpers here in the UK. I’m at the stage where I’ve realised that I’m unlikely to ever need a thick woolly cardi or jumper ever again here because the winters are so wishy washy and I’m rarely cold. I hate the heat but if we had proper winters at least it would take the edge off these dreadful, hot summers. 😁
I value outdoors and movement and realize so much of my clothing/dressing style allows for being comfy in the Seattle weather and also the opportunity to do a random cartwheel or yoga move. My first 25 years I lived in the humid midwest and fewer outdoor adventure opportunities and I lived in fussier more feminine clothes: dresses, skirts, blouses. I had alot of pattern, color and variety. But now I work from home and live in athleisure wear: tights, sweaters, tunics. I have decluttered to mostly linen, cotton, denim except for techinical fabrics for snow/rain/sun. But I have recently realized I had kind of given up on fashion, and that made me sad (in part due to Covid). I realized I needed to put more effort into my look every day, just for me, even if I am not gogin anywhere. I make a point to now wear scarves, jewelry that I rarely wore (but loved). And I got a great pair of skinny black pants by Vera Wang that fit me perfectly (so much so I bought a second pair as such a basic staple I alternate wearing so each pair lasts longer). I thrifted a silk bomber jacket. I watched some fashion youtubers for new combos of what I already owned. As one of them said, we dont need more clothes, we just need more ideas. I am having so much more fun with my clothes now. But determined to not get too many pieces, just enough.
Big massive YES to scarves and jewelry that we already own but just need to wear more often. This is so true, and so much fun!! I love your comment and your refreshing approach to new ideas for clothing and jewelry that we already own. It’s really fun to dig through my jewelry box, polish stuff up, and have it see the light of day once again. Same thing for scarves!! Ⓜ️ary
@@marycharlebois6627 yes! That same UA-camr mentioned wearing your really fancy jewelry with more casual outfits to elevate them. Her example was a pearl necklace with a basic black trouser, white linen blouse and it looked great
I feel the same about clothes now! I used to care so much, and now I just care that it feels comfortable. I think this is only partly because of my body image, and partly because I am in my thirties now, and I feel like I can express who I am through my behaviour and my voice, while in my teens and twenties I felt that my personality should be visible at first sight.
For me it’s the opposite. I now feel safe to really try out styles and went back to my edgy alternative teen style (everything between long medieval skirts to band hoodies). In between I wore more traditionally trendy clothes (jeans, short dresses or skirts, boots with heels) that actually never were exactly what I loved. I did not declutter that many of these clothes but did not replace them when they were worn out.
@@Siures Yeah! I can see that perspective too. I got back to dyeing my hair funky colours ^^
I think as we age our priorities change, also the life situations are different. But no matter what, the core principle that guides us through life remains the same.. I really admire you for your ability to live mindfully and sustainably. I really am inspired by your videos,they kind of reiterate for me the value of simplicity and mindfulness. Thank you. Love from India.🌻🌺🌼
When I moved in w my partner (in the U.S., but in a new state for me), I definitely lost a bit of self. For various reasons I gained some weight and my favorite clothes didn't fit right and didn't feel right for where I lived. I also felt out of place there, which affected my self-esteem, and I eventually moved back to my previous state (NY) where I'm much more comfortable & happy. I guess what I'm saying is, it's comforting to know I'm not alone in the clothing transition struggle. I think changing fashion and comfortability also has to do with growing older too. I have this navy blue trench coat that I wore all through my 20s during the fall and felt so confident in at the time, but now in my 30s it feels tight and out of style for me. I can't get myself to wear it. Still, there's some relief in letting items go that don't feel right anymore, and some excitement in finding something new (or secondhand) to then fill in the gaps, if needed.
I definitely struggle with my self-image more in winter when I have to bulk up/ wear clothes purely for practical reasons to keep warm & dry - I try to use accessorise to reflect my personal style. Nothing like a Paisley scarf/ colourful hat to add some personality to your outfit on a cold day 💕
i think the priorities we have in life change as we get older and as we move through different stages in life. you went through a lot of very big changes, you found a new life, new hobbies... why does everything have to be a certain style or a certain "norm"? i, too, have made a lot of changes. i moved out of my family's home and i'm living alone for the first time. developed a lot of new hobbies, learned how to live alone, take care of things. i don't care about things like possessions, style or clothes anymore like i did when i was younger (teens and 20s). they all feel so unimportant to me. i care about experiences, connections, learning new things, people/nature/animals around me. i just want to be comfortable in my clothes and in autumn and winter i want to be warm. i wear a lot of baggy clothes because it's comfortable, they don't hinder me and they don't suffocate me. it's fine, there is a lot more to a person than their outer appearance. you, Immy, are a wonderful, beautiful person and when I see you (through the screen) I always see someone incredibly beautiful because your heart is beautiful x
Great comment… I totally agree 💯!! I share your love for people, nature, animals… comfort and connection. These are the things that make me inwardly smile, and perhaps this inward contentment also gives me (and you) an outward shine more-so than clothing. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!! Ⓜ️ary
@@marycharlebois6627 Thank you for this reply, this is exactly what I mean. When people have things that make them inwardly shine, make them proud, make them feel fulfilled in life, that kind of thing naturally shines through in their outer appearance. That is something that can't be bought, something that can't be styled. And it's the most beautiful thing one can wear.
Autumn is actually the time of year where I have the easiest time with clothes, I have a few secondhand jumpers with gorgeous knits and nice colours that I love pairing with shirts to have the collar sticking out, and a brooch or two. I enjoy mixing and matching these things, it's easy to put on and feels comfortable, but also looks a bit special with the brooch, so it feels like the outfits are elevated with almost no work, I really appreciate it. I also feel like oversized, baggy jumpers increase the feeling of cosy as the weather gets colder, so even with my body changing, they don't get too tight, just more or less baggy, which I really like.
Hi there… I feel your love for brooches!!! I, too, feel that a brooch can really add pizzazz to an outfit. I have many brooches that I wear, they are either vintage, second hand, heirloom ones from my Mom, or ones that I have had and cherished throughout my life. I smiled when I read your comment because I am so with you on this one. Long live brooches!! Great comment, thanks for sharing!! Ⓜ️ary
Thank you for talking about the Feeling of losing your style. I have the Same feeling rn, maybe because i Work in a more serious Environment now where i cant wear everything i want to. But also in my free time i dont feel like i am happy and fully myself with what i wear. I would be happy If you Made this a Part of your series. Experimenting with clothes you already have, trying different Styles etc.
Fellow Coloradan (just NW of Denver) and I don't put anything away for the seasons... You never know around here, sometimes you'll be in a parka in February and sometimes you'll be in shorts and a tank top with this sun 🤦🏼♀️ The weather is so delightful. And also if you're doing more, you're bound to get more muscle, and may end up sizing up... Happened to me too.
Welcome to CO!!
In my own experience, going from a country where people dress up more, to a country where people dress up less (or vice versa) has sometimes left me feeling weird about my clothes, feel overdressed or underdressed, and has changed my sense of style. Idk, I guess we tend to define style as something very individual, but I feel like part of my style is also how I want to be percieved by others, and maybe that's normal? So like I'd wear a dress in one country and feel fine because it felt like an everyday dress, but in another country, I would feel uncomfortable, because that dress would be read as "trying to be elegant", and that's not the impression I wanted to give.
I definitely relate to this! I've been living and working in/near Paris for almost 5 years now, when I was a countryside girl before. My style has changed, I am dressing in clothes that feel elegant and that I would have worn for going out before but are everyday clothing here. I'm a bit afraid of the change (moving back to the countryside in a few months) and that I will feel like my clothing don't fit the neighborhood... It's really weird because I was wearing t-shirts and jeans for most of my life but now I have only 1 pair of jeans that still fit me more or less, and no more plain t-shirts.
It’s interesting because I felt like I lost my sense of style when I moved to Colorado. It’s so casual here and it’s easy to fall into wearing hiking outdoors clothes 24. My body has changed dramatically in the last two years. I’ve gained 45 pounds, had a baby, and lost 55 pounds. Nothing fits me correctly. I am resorting to making my own cloths to fill in the gaps. I mostly knit but I dabble with sewing.
I had a big shift in my style recently because of my pregnancy. I used to have a much more practical style mainly jeans, t-shirts in the summer and jumpers in the winter. But I felt so bad about myself by the end of my pregnancy that I started to look at second hand clothes to find a style that would give me a confidence boost and give me an idea of the type of image I wanted to have about myself. I gave myself a limit of only adding two items each month to my wardrobe, to see how I felt about each item but also because I wanted to build up a capsule of items that complimented each other. Now my girl is 3 months old and despite the changes my body went through recently I have never felt better about it. I am walking a lot more which has helped massively, but I've also focused on pieces which make me feel good about myself, show off the work I've done to get in to shape in a way I feel comfortable with and lean heavily in to the goth and alternative aesthetic I've been a fan of for years but never had the confidence to get fully in to.
Hi Immy, I think switching clothes for fall/winter can be really difficult too. Especially when the weather acts like a roller coaster before it actually turns cold. I would suggest figuring out which cold weather clothes are making you feel bad and slowly replacing them with better options for you. They might be prettier, warmer, or more comfortable FOR YOU. It’ll definitely take time and probably trial and error, but your working on building a sustainable, long term wardrobe. Plus, you also have the #skills! to knit your own and that’s so awesome! Wear clothes for you, your needs, and your personality. It’s your life 💗
I hope you've signed up at the local library and know you can get streaming audio books through them. A great resource, along with all the regular books and other things they lend.
Relatable content.... I'm also clearing out right now. Body changes, stepping into new eras, etc. Thanks for sharing.
Transitions, especially with seasons, is mentally challenging. There are so many unknows mixed in with the obvious (the weather will change, but how much). I find that at the end of one season I am usually tired of my wardrobe and worried about the next season's clothes-will they fit, am I ready to layer, this feels uncomfy, etc. And honestly, as the cooler weather quickly approaches I know that my body will also change. Food seems to be more rich and comforting, activity levels kind of slow down, there's less light. It feels daunting at first. But really really look at what the seasons DO give us-a break. A time to slow down, to rest and reset, to practice patience and understanding. It's okay to have these ebbs and flows. You are amazing and thoughtful. I really enjoy all that you share with us.
Sending love and peace. Sometimes it’s the journey back that helps you recognize if you were on the right path going forward or a different one. But there is always room to love yourself and be kind to yourself. I always appreciate honest versions of what these tasks can look like - they usually hit my mental health, too. But then how wonderful of a body you have, to do all of the things it allows you to do every day! Your legs get you places, your brain gets you more. Your hands make crafts and food and love and that is worth celebrating. So redefining style or not - comfortable yet or not - there is so much to love even amidst the changes 💛
I love having seasons, it lets me play around with my fashion expression
That black dress at the end!!! Perfection 🤌🤌🤌
I LOVE your closet! come pick my clothes out for me. You're not alone when you speak of have you lost yourself or yet have you found yourself? Right after high school I was a cosmetologist so I felt that appearance was everything, I couldn't even run to the grocery store without being done up. Now have I completely changed my life. I am finishing up school as an Agronomist, and I choose more of a natural look when it comes to appearance and clothes. Just recently, I remember having the same thoughts as you.. I have to say that I have more definitely found myself and I hope that you feel that was as well.
I think location can make a big difference in our style as well. I used to live in Colorado and wore a lot of utilitarian clothing, then i moved to a different state, and over the past seceral years, I have phased out the majority of the clothing I wore there in favor of things that are more practical in my current location.
Thanks for this open-hearted video, sharing your thoughts and feelings. It is so precious to have you honestly speaking your mind, your heart.
I hope you will feel better in your skin soon cause you truly deserve it :) with all the wise advice and the kindness you spread on this channel and elsewhere!
So thanks for that :)
A cedar chest is great for sweaters, but a cedar block could be added to the drawers to protect the wool.
Girl, you are incredibly beautiful person, inside and out. ❤
I'm an Icelander and don't really change out my clothes for what season it is. Might be because the summer is about 2-6 weeks long. But I have started to use thermals to still be able to wear dresses or any clothes that are on the thinner side. I have more thermal leggings than thermal long sleeve shirts, cause I have a lot of jumpers and Lopapeysa (an Icelandic wool jumper). I just wanted to share just in case some people have not thought about that option.
I have followed you for a long time Immy, all the way back to you trying vanlife in your friends camper van. I have learned a lot from you, about life, about mindfulness, about sustainability and about myself in that process. What you said about how you felt about your clothes, losing your style, caring less about what others think and losing a sense of self resonated deeply with me. I too went through this, and funnily enough, for me, it happened around the time I myself moved from the US to the UK, losing myself a bit in planned, and unplanned changes. In the time after that I explored who I was, what I wanted from style and fashion, how I wanted to express myself with fashion, or how I didn't want to. In turn I have now found a great sense of self in regards to my clothes/fashion and like you only keep things that I truly love, feel good in and will wear. Plus, like you, I now go through everything seasonally and decide what to keep, donate or throw away. For the upcoming Autumnal season, I am truly looking forward to it as it is my favourite with cardigans, gloves, hats, scarves and coats.
I typically just watch you videos but this one hit home with the feelings that you’re feeling. All of the thoughts that you shared towards the end are ones that Ive been going through as well. And I’ve shared the same facial expressions when i see what i look at in the mirror. You are not alone and know that at the end of the day. Clothes are just clothes. It’s the wearer that gets to choose how much effect it has on us. Sending lots of love from Wisconsin
I imagine it’s a big adjustment going from the UK to Denver, just in terms of the layout and the sprawl. In Europe, just stepping out the door to go to work, you’re walking, passing people and pretty buildings and greenery. In Denver, I imagine it’s more cars and highways when you’re not hiking. I’d say try to find the smaller neighbourhoods or nearby towns with historical character and small-scale walkability to feel more connected to your surroundings. Also sounds like a cat or dog adoption might be of interest to you!
I'd say the reasons for looking at your wardrobe differently now are all of the above. So many inner and outer changes. You changed countries, marital status, altitudes and activities. Your body going from girlish to mature woman over these past few years and, of course, the dreaded curse of the USA, larger portions and sneaky additives in much of our foods. (I mentioned being active in tbe higher elevation seems to expand the lung functioning and enlarges the chest cavity a bit.)The female body goes through so much change regardless. When i retired i moved back from a big city to a homestead in the country. In a few years I got rid of most of my fancier clothes, jewelry, makeup etc. I have a few frillier things still for summer wear but in winter it's pretty much sweats, jeans or trousers. And thermal boots!
I can relate to the clothes thing - I'm not a fashion/style person and I realise now that a lot of what I wore when I was younger was a combination of peer pressure and sensory stimming (tight clothes feel good to me, for example). I live in dungarees and "childrens TV presenter chic" style now which feels like me and it's comfortable, I can move in it, I enjoy it, but I struggle to identify when I look back at older photos of me or see other people's outfits whether I'm feeling "that looks great on you" or "I want to wear that." It's really confusing for me and, because I don't really go out, I don't have occassion to dress up but when I do I feel awkward and weird and just want to wear my dungarees!
I think most of your clothes fits you really well! You have simple but nice style :) loves from Germany❤
Hey dear Immy! I love this video! I love your style. My favourite season is Autumn, so I'm right in my element now.🎃
You are an amazing person ❤ I just wanted to let you know that u have helped me to start my journey to living more sustainable! Thanks for sharing your life with us!
I am never first, haven't seen the video yet, but always good to see you post one! Have a nice autumn Immy!
When things feel too snug now, I dont hold on to them, I sell them on and find something on vinted that will give me the space I need to still feel comfortable after a nourishing meal. Too many years of being triggered by the feel of my clothes, and worsening eating habits as a result. I've taken labels out my trousers before so the number becomes irrelevant.
And totally resonate on trying to be minimalist but also owning a tonne of climbing (and running, and winter) gear! Once you start trad climbing it really gets out of hand...
Omigosh if you’re not feeling the food in Denver, definitely try some places in Aurora. That’s where all the good food is :). Also, the thrift stores in Louisville/ Lafayette/ Boulder are weirdly very good, and there’s a lot of them. So if you’re ever traveling that way to get up to the mountains, try making a thrift stop or two :). IDK if it’s still there but Wonder Press in Boulder has amazing smoothies with homemade nut milks and all sorts of delicious ingredients, but they are pricey.
Your videos all resonate with me, but I must say this one really hit the spot as I'm struggling with many of my clothes not fitting me anymore. It makes me feel somehow guilty and disorientated. Your video helps a lot, and I hope you're going to feel better about the matter too. You're doing incredibly, as usual! Sending lots of thank yous and love back to you ❤❤❤
This video inspires me to go though my clothes too... It's difficult when some things don't fit anymore but the best thing is just getting rid of them... I guess
Your channel is by far my favorite of the many ones I follow. Your range of interesting topics, and inspiring, actionable content makes me come here often because I often fear you-tube has failed to feed me your latest. I am knitting and making many sourdough recipes due to your content. This particular video is so authentic and relatable. Sharing your internal dialogue about clothes, body size, and changes in attitudes and latitudes fascinates me on so many levels. Thank you for raising the subject. I hope as you muse on these subjects, you continue to share your insights.
I appreciate how open you are in your videos , I must say I felt the same about spring into summer, the transition to heat and types of clothes I don't love was really hard. I've been trying to find my own style and saw my summer wardrobe wasn't serving me the best. I had a lot of shorts even though I only wear them in extreme heat andddddd no natural fibers. I slowly built it back up and think you might want to see if you need a couple pieces that really speak to you, like maybe a brights jumper or more floral items?
I love everything about this! I am feeling the need for a fall re-set more than I felt the need to re-set in the spring. I thrift a lot of my wardrobe, so it is not too hard to get rid of things I haven’t worn, or things I don’t feel fantastic in. And currently I don’t feel fantastic in a lot because of post menopausal weight gain. I prefer a smaller wardrobe I can do a lot with, and find fall/winter much easier than summer to pull things together!
On a super positive note, I love love love autumn and winter. My wardrobe truly shine’s during these seasons with festive pops of greens, reds purples and golds. I’m so looking forward to wearing my maroon scarf. *Strangely, it’s Summer that makes me anxious.
I love autumn because I feel so much more comfortable in my warmer clothes. I think it is completely normal to sometimes feel unsure about style and what to feel good in. What helps me is to not force myself to wear things out of guilt but try on a different outfit, touch the fabric, exchange the colour. Sometimes I just want to wear the exact same beige woolen pullover for many days and that's ok. Clothes are there to make as feel good, warm us up, suit us and not for causing us struggle. I also started to feel confident in my outfits when I began to wear very comfortable underwear, such as merino undershirts. Wishing you all the best ❤
I can recommend „One Last Stop“ from Casey McQuiston. I think it’s also available as an audio book :)
I started anti-depressants a few years ago, but it was only last year that I upped my dosage because it just wasn't working anymore (school, major life changes, etc.). I gained weight and the new dosage made me really nauseaus that I didn't want ot run as much (which I love to do) and school really cut into my work outs. I also met my current partner and it has been blissful. But, I gained a lot of weight, the most I've weighed in like 10 years and I just felt some type of way having to donate or sell some of my favorite clothes because they just didn't fit, and I just didn't have time or desire to lose weight. It's weird, as a kid and teenager, gaining weight was such a bad thing and made me spiral. But now as I approach 30 and am really happy in my relationships and current lifestyle, I know that my weight right now is not going to stop me from doing the things I want to do. I have a half marathon that I have to train for differently than previous races, but I am excited to know what my body can do. Clothes in the legal field make me feel some type of way, but I want to challenge myself to choose comfort, style, and utility in what I wear regardless of what I am doing. Thank you for this video, and I also love larger cozy clothing because I wanna be warm and, well, cozy!
“Educated” is one that I’ve recommended to ppl for the last 3.5 years. Why the exact time frame? It’s the very first book I read when COVID lockdown started and it blew me away. What a compelling story. “Project Hail Mary”, “The Vanishing Half”, Dave Grohl’s Autobiography (a must as an audiobook!) or any of the more recent Taylor Jennings Reid novels are so much fun, “Tomorrow and Tomorrow and Tomorrow” was excellent as well.
Also, I was just thinking this week how I needed to do the same with my wardrobe. It’s time to rotate and pair down. Don’t feel badly about mostly having comfortable clothing that’s practical for large daily temperature fluctuations. You’re just going with the flow ☺️. I often feel boxed in by mine due to being in healthcare, I often feel like I live in my scrubs. 🤷♀️
💚 Hi Immy, always love your content, but I don't know if I've ever commented before as I've been watching/subscribed for about 6 years now. 🙂 Here in SF Bay Area, California we dress in layers all year round, so makes it hard to store seasonal clothes away - unless in the midst of winter - which means, I can reach for anything and everything during Spring, Summer, and Fall. This also means a lot of clothes are out most of the year taking up a lot of space ... so I am always doing a periodical de-clutter every season. 🤔
I felt that. Hope this season goes well for you 🍁
Love your content and your words thank you! ❤❤❤❤
My body is changing meaning things don't fit the same, but that conflicts with my mentality of wanting to repair and refashion instead of declutter. I am gaining more skill in sewing and reworking clothes, but when things are small, too small, i don't really know where to go from there. I have also been ill for the last few years and working up to graduating my masters and then starting a job I don't feel like I have a grasp on what clothes I'll need. It sometimes feels like I (and in extension my wardrobe) have been stuck waiting for this period to be over, but that also means that I currently don't have a strong hold on who I am and how I want to dress. I've been recovering and hiding away and don't know what i'll need when I truly press play again. I hope you'll share more of your ruminations on this topic, the gray areas, as they help me so much with putting things in perspective and reflecting on myself too. In the environmental space we need so much more of this gray, this human side and I sincerely hope you'll share (: lots of love.
I needed this video, thank you for your vulnerability ❤
Definitely a cozy vlog! Happy for you & the experiences you are building. May everyone have some lovely autumn days ahead of them!
Great video. Right there with you.
I really liked this video.
I love to play with clothes when new season starts. I was so ready to dress for autumn, but we already got first snow. So I had to put some wool clothes already to my wardrobe. I was lucky to find new merino peaces from my nearest thrift shop, that I love so much. It's cheap, middle size and very organized. I usually clean there as I go. My size also changes a lot, because I have chronic vedtibular migrain, that can last 1-3 minths at time, so I gane weight. I never know if my old seasonal clothes fit or not, so I just keep 3 sizes in my storage, still some clothes fit in all 3, because they are raglan sleeves or things like that.
Beautiful video, thank you for your thoughts💕
Enjoy this Fall wx- it's glorious this time of year! We should start to see the snow flying soon- at least up here in the mts!
I really liked the note about needing more clothes to cope with the changing weather. I try to really focus on only owning clothing that I love and not owning too much. But also - if you're regularly dealing with 100 Fahrenheit you're going to need more individual items just to cope!
So nice to see this. Thank you for reminding me of something stuck in the back of my mind I don't always want to think about. I can tell it's not always easy for you (nor for me), but you bring to light the beauty of small things and of change.
I also used to feel unsure about my style. But then used Pinterest to pinpoint what I actually like. And had a color analysis done to figure out what colors look best on me, which helped tremendously!
Nice melly!
You look really nice in the black coat😍
Since I moved to US and just in general aged, I’ve gone up a size in hips and I’ve definitely noticed that I bloat more. I’ve decluttered and swapped clothes with friends. If I buy new clothes I tend to go for more practical styles, drawstrings and comfy items.. I’ve even considered maternity tights!! I don’t need as many shoes now that I live in the midwest. It’s a weird feeling to mourn that stylish European person but I think it’s healthy to move on and recognise that we are so many other things!
Colorado season transitions are tough... its winter in the mornings, spring in the afternoon and summer in the evening. Layers are key. 😊❤ thanks for reminding me to make my seasonal swap out
Thanks for this video. It really gave me a good point to reflect on my wardrobe and think of these as tools and focus on what is important. I also like the idea that even through the seasons our bodies do change.
I'm a new subscriber, enjoying your back content. I have that same little coffee cup!
The bouldering pad would be a great occasional guest bed :)
I too have felt these ver feeling about clothes. Honestly, I think there are times when I avoid going through my clothes in order to not feel all the mixed feelings it brings up like: I've gained weight, this was "the old me", I love this but have no where to wear it, etc etc. I do this despite knowing that it would just be better to get it done and get rid of things that don't make me feel good. It's interesting how some material things have so much pull on our emotions.
ahhh, I am very much going through the same thing at the moment. all the same thoughts. I've recently lost a looot of weight (unintentional, illness related) and have struggled to recognize myself. 80% of the clothes I was wearing comfortably last year just fall off me. I've had to sell half my stuff on vinted because I just can't seem to put the weight back on and it placed so many of my pieces into that "aspirational" category. I also really struggled with the UK winter last year and so warmth and comfort became my highest priority. so all that has left me in such a similar situation to you. I don't think I've cracked this at all. I've been trying to find things that make me feel like me, but it has felt like searching for a needle in a hay stack (and causing its fare share of identity crises). I guess the only thing that is helping is trying to have a new perspective on it - building a wardrobe is a slow process. it doesn't need to feel complete (could it ever??). And most importantly, I'm trying to remind myself that my body is a body, not a performance, and that as long as it's wrapped up warm, we're ok.
Cloud Atlas is an absolutely excellent audiobook book. Also The Power by Naomi Alderman is probably the best audiobook narration I’ve ever heard. The Long Way to a Small Angry Planet and that series also has amazing narration. Apollo Murders is another amazing narration. And any audiobook narrated by Emily Woo Zeller is also going to be good. I also like getting memoirs narrated by the author. Matthew Perry’s memoir is fantastic and The Book of Hope with Jane Goodall is so well done.
Literally yesterday I did the same and I ended up having two boxes of pieces that no longer fit me - pretty hard mentally but honestly, I feel like I am so much more at peace with it than I'd be a few years back. Clothes are supposed to fit us as opposed to us fitting into clothes so it's all good!
i just moved to boulder from phoenix and it has been so fun having to actually switch over my wardrobe! we should be getting SNOW next week!! where its still in the 90's in AZ right now???!!! so crazy! lovingggg the changing colors of the leaves and the chilly nights!
I've started storing out of season clothes in a box, so when the seasons change I get to switch out all of my clothes. I thought I was gonna be so excited to see all my fall/winter clothes again, but there were only a couple of pieces I was really excited about. Yet I still have trouble decluttering that didn't spark joy. I think partially because I know most donated clothes end up burned or in landfill...
I am here to listen. I look forward to your videos! I'm currently in this process and dreading it but I can totally relate. I transition jobs last year and haven't been taking care of my physical health because I'm prioritizing mental health this year and my clothes do not fit. I love my fall/winter wardrobes I've developed here in Denver but bummed they will not fit. But I have to remind myself to give myself grace. This is temporary and birth control and meds might also be a contributing factor to weight gain. I'd like to have a minimal fall/winter wardrobe here in Denver but the weather varies a lot. And I still go into the office, so even if I want to bundle up and wear my tweed trousers with a sweater I'll end up sweating and having to take a layer off.
Unrelated to the video, but: Immy, do I hear some sneaky American “r’s” sneaking into your accent? “ColdeR, snowieR, icieR”. Tee hee, glad to have ya here darlin’ 🤠🥰
You are not alone in feeling how you do. I moved from America to Japan, and for the first time I found clothes that made me feel grown up. I'm a short person. So, I think I went a little crazy at the second hand shops here, but then I moved from Tokyo to the countryside, and most of my clothes just didn't make me feel right. And I couldn't quite put my finger on what was different. Besides the obvious, city life to country life. I just didn't feel like I cared anymore. But what you're feeling is just growing pains. Once you find your rhythm you will find clothes that speak to you again. Be patient with yourself and show yourself love in other ways. Daily walks, dark chocolate, and finding where you fit in. You will find your way and thrive. One book I read that you may enjoy "The Candid Life of Meena Dave" by Namrata Patel
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As someone who lives somewhere with variable weather; capsule wardrobe looks different and that’s ok :)!
It’s technically a young adult novel but Sabriel by Garth Nix is one of my favorite audiobooks. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Definitely resonate with the body and style that fluctuates with the seasons. We use a large suitcase for our out of season clothes and it definitely feels like having new things to change over each season.
I try to stick to my style (feminine, elegant, modest) throughout the year. It means that in winter I need to layer: thermals, warm winter skirts or dresses, warm leggings, knitted tights and tunics, coats & jackets, scarves and gloves; which requires more clothing items than in summer, but that's ok. It took me years to develop my style and I am still buying some items to finish off my capsule. It is important to take time with this so that you don't buy anything unnecessary. Finding suitable pieces requires a lot of time and patience. And I really like Vinted for that :)
I still love your grandmas cardigan ❤
Some of the things you talk about regarding your wardrobe really resonate with me. I have to stay warm here, especially for winter hikes I like to do, but I also need a somewhat professional attire for teaching. I don't have a great style where it's easy for me to stick to one aesthetic or sth like that. I like many things and I'm not good at deciding on one style or aesthetic. Last year I had a small wardrobe crisis because I felt lost in what my style should be and kinda felt pressure to have that figured out as someone in their late 20s. Also my apartment and closet are small and were overflowing. This year I tried to embrace all these aspects more instead of feeling guilty. Everything I buy is second hand or from small companies who have high standards in terms of ethics and environmental impact, so why not embrace that I love different styles and have various needs for clothing? I still only buy things I love and that fit me well, so I can hopefully wear them for a long time, but I don't aspire to have the smallest wardrobe possible anymore. I like to have options, I like to able to express myself in a different style depending on my mood. This change of mindset has really helped me to feel better in my skin and in the clothes I wear. The storage is still an issue, but I'm creative with where I store my clothes and it works out somehow. Not saying everyone should just give up on minimalism, if it works, it's great for them. Just saying that maybe it's not the right focus for everyone and a change of perspective can be helpful.
I’m struggling with what I like versus what is appropriate for my new job. I want to be myself but I’m not sure what that is right now. It’s just a mixed bag of emotions that I’m hoping time will resolve
I live in Australia and we are coming in to summer. Lately I have really noticed the heat and feel the need to wear more light weight, summer clothing. However I struggle with my body image a lot and this past winter I have grown used to hiding in big knitted jumpers or wearing baggy jeans. I have noticed over the past couple of years that I have a pattern of dreading that shift into summer or winter. I seem to take quite a while to get used to having my body more exposed during the summer and I spend most of that time slowly building my confidence again and becoming used to the clothing I have to wear but then it shifts into the cooler seasons and I slip back into my comfort zones with hiding my body as much as I can. I always dread winter at the start but mourn it at the end. Sometimes it's even an adjustment to having bare feet instead of slipping on a pair of socks once I have become so used to covering up myself. I am somebody who never seems to be satisfied with my clothing as much as I try hard to be very specific with what I bring in to my wardrobe. I think where I need to focus my attention is on my self confidence and healing my insecurities so it doesn't matter what I am wearing or what season I am in, but I am always happy and safe in my body 💗
I recommend Thiker than Water by Kerry Washington and Finding me by Viola Davis
You gave words to my own internal dialogue with myself about my clothes. Thank you for sharing. You gave me space to do some of my own questions to myself. And the drives behind my choices. I think the question for me now is what do I enjoy wearing, feel good in, and feel confident in. It made me realize some of my choices are driven out of insecurity, trauma, image, or even trying not to be like people who were cool bc they were never nice to me in school. So part of me wanted to dress the opposite bc I didnt want to be like them. And other times, I saw people who I wanted to be like so I wanted to dress like them. I think I need to go back to my original question. What do I feel good in, feel confident in, and like at my core. Thanks for helping me self reflect. Im actually excited to discover what maybe my personal style when I let the other things go.
I've actually been going through the same type of thing with my wardrobe. "This piece is soo cute why dont i wear it anymore? Do I just not care what others think anymore?" It's also hard because our bodies do constantly change. Life is always changing, too. I had to re-asses my wardrobe once again cuase I realized my whole lifestyle is different now than it was 2 years ago. I
Also, I'm trying to accept my changing body and focusing on taking care of myself.. wearing what I love to wear. That's what matters. Thanks for being so genuine always, sending love and positive feelings your way ❤❤
I completely understand what you mean! I happen to have the opposite, so I only very recently feel like I ‘found my style’, and I think that’s mainly due to not holding onto the idea of having a have a certain style. I’ve created a digital capsule wardrobe with outfit combinations of clothes I have, and put that up on my wardrobe door. So I don’t have to think about it, and just pick one of the outfit options depending on the temperature. That could be an idea for you as well?
So funny i swap mine yesterday 😊 what i want to keep, what is not fitting anymore, what i didn't wear and can sell for a friendly price. Especially now that i started sport, my body is changing and getting bigger 😍
Great video. It’s really relatable. ❤️ Love your content. By the way, in the US, a lot of Goodwill/thrift store donations end up in the landfill if you want to look into more. Shelby has some videos on it.
my style also changes with seasons :)
It's interesting how our relationship with clothes changes.
As I've become more active, I live most of my days in active wear. I decided recently that I didn't need a set of everything in every colours AND something my friend did about 5 years ago was to do a colour therapy test on me. Despite having no hair, my natural hair is fair with green eyes. I love green, but she told me i was a winter girl. Navy's icy blues, whites, black, Pinks. And since then, i realised everything I'm my wardrobe that I kept shuffling around, were the other season colours.
I gifted those items gradually, and now i have this capsule wardrobe of blues denims whites Pinks, even grey I lost interest in. There's splashes of greens, but truly, I would put them on, and either not feel comfortable, or I'd just feel off. It's made a huge difference to what I wear and what i buy. I may love something, but I know I'll not wear it 😂
You look great in dungarees, and the floaty dresses ❤❤