what they don’t talk about when you change your life

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  • @RodOliver-j8j
    @RodOliver-j8j 5 місяців тому +56

    That idea that you can get addicted to depression is actually mind-blowing. I think I might be. You've given me something to think about. Thank you Caoilté

    • @CMoore8539
      @CMoore8539 4 місяці тому

      It is mind blowing! I never thought about it like that.

  • @blakeybizz5443
    @blakeybizz5443 5 місяців тому +66

    I am 39 (40 in a few days time) and I have been addicted to alcohol since I was 18 years old. I have gone up and down a lot in that time. I am now 3 days into being sober after a horrific mental incident and feel like crap BUT I know what I need to do and your videos just help my mind settle down and focus. Keep up the good work mate and thank you.

    • @davedoodledude
      @davedoodledude 5 місяців тому +5

      Thanks for sharing friend. You got this! Good luck!

    • @knotreel
      @knotreel 5 місяців тому +5

      You got it dude! It doesn't matter how many times you have to try just as long as you keep trying! Be persistent and have game plans everyday as much as you can :)

    • @deimantepikturnaite2643
      @deimantepikturnaite2643 5 місяців тому +4

      We’ll done, you can do it!! We all believe in you ♥️

    • @TheVibesAreOff
      @TheVibesAreOff 5 місяців тому +2

      Good job! You've got this 💯
      Baby steps, be kind to yourself. We've got you 💚

    • @Kappa_B
      @Kappa_B 5 місяців тому +1

      We believe in you man!

  • @tiffanyrees4731
    @tiffanyrees4731 5 місяців тому +18

    Mate, you are gifted with a profound ability to communicate truth and grounded realism. How wonderful. May you truly thrive.

  • @aleanbhmáire
    @aleanbhmáire 5 місяців тому +9

    Amazing. Today is day one stopping smoking cigs and joints, needed to hear this.

    • @TheVibesAreOff
      @TheVibesAreOff 5 місяців тому +1

      You've totally got this 💪
      Be kind to yourself, one day at a time, and don't let one "bad day" throw you off completely. There will be sideways and backwards steps, but ultimately, you will go forward 💚

    • @Caoiltemaclean
      @Caoiltemaclean  5 місяців тому +1

      Amazing just take it day by day u got this

  • @franzib.3302
    @franzib.3302 5 місяців тому +14

    Wow.... you don't know how much you helped me with your statement "when you change your habits, you may feel alone". This is exactly how I feel right know. Since I no longer accept everything from other people, they break away. This feels so good and so bad at the same time, but I am confident that the right people will come now.
    You are such an inspiration and mental support with your authentic nature.
    Please upload 1000 more videos like this!!

    • @TheVibesAreOff
      @TheVibesAreOff 5 місяців тому

      Nice one! 👏👏👏 Give it time, be patient, stick with your new habits - the right people will come along in time 💚👍👊

  • @jakekilemade3313
    @jakekilemade3313 5 місяців тому +19

    Christ this is incredible. I really hope this gets to the right audience, this could really change a persons life. Keep doing what your doing

  • @taebias
    @taebias 5 місяців тому +2

    When i cleaned out the toxins holding me back i went through a phase of grief. Lots of grief for everything i lost, the time wasted, the people who were meant to be ride or die suddenly couldn't tolerate the healthier version of me. I started from scratch at 31. But i got to build myself from scratch the way i wanted to be. It sucked for a good while, but then I found better replacements for the crap i left behind. Now, I've got an upgraded life! I love who I am, and my life.

  • @justsomecup5676
    @justsomecup5676 Місяць тому

    As someone who has been working on there selves a lot, what you said about being addicted to depression and anxiety has helped me out a lot so thank you!

  • @jaundicepinion8911
    @jaundicepinion8911 5 місяців тому +14

    Just turned 45. I have been sober for 3 years. My longest stretch. You speak truth. It’s comforting to find a kindred soul. Thanks for what you do. It is noticed & appreciated.

  • @MaTtMaN1618
    @MaTtMaN1618 3 місяці тому

    I love these videos! Ive heen waftching them back to back today. Getting over negative emotional attachments and trauma response that have become habit to make way for the life i want to live have been my main questline especially lately.
    Also I've been getting into traveling on my own more and more cuz its liberating and exploring nature feels so good. So your videos have been a great package deal! I'm looking forward to more, so thank you!🙏

  • @polsatman7427
    @polsatman7427 5 місяців тому +15

    I think I’m addicted to listening to you (it’s very comfortable)

  • @Hellspacifist
    @Hellspacifist 5 місяців тому +2

    The thought of being addicted to depression, that was deep and meaningful for me. I've thought about that before (and immediately dismissed it as ridiculous). I appreciate you saying that.
    I think for me part of it having spend so much of my life taking care of everyone else, always making sure other people are okay that I became addicted to THAT and depression. Tying feelings of being worthwhile to helping people and when i couldn't it triggered feelings of failure.
    Keep going man, looking forward to the next one.

  • @spenceringra9137
    @spenceringra9137 5 місяців тому +3

    This was really good. It's nice to hear from people who have gone from the bad to the good

  • @benkuilman6825
    @benkuilman6825 5 місяців тому +7

    Caoilté, I really appreciate you for making this video. Not feeling good enough is a common thread throughout my life too, and you nailed describing what that feels like. In the end of the day, not being in touch with who I am as a person is the most painful thing I've experienced. I'd be caught up in thrill-seeking and dopamine chasing, because facing reality and rejection was too overwhelming. When I was finally able to put myself first, a lot of grief came with that. All the lost time, the shame and friends falling away. I'm glad there are people like you making video's like these. We need more role models showing men there is a better way than toxic masculinity. I'm personally still struggling, but improving daily. Funnily enough it wasn't the belief that I'm better than people that helped me at the start of my journey. It was the belief that every single person is just as broken as I am, and just figuring it out in their own way. Thank you for sharing.

  • @christinef2078
    @christinef2078 5 місяців тому +3

    So refreshing to listen to someone who is not afraid to be their authentic self! Thank you for this video, don’t stop, excited to listen to your next one - thank you ❤

  • @AceCmbatguy25
    @AceCmbatguy25 5 місяців тому +3

    God am I glad you got into youtube!! 💙

  • @HelvellynMusic
    @HelvellynMusic 5 місяців тому +3

    You've got some really unique viewpoints that ive never heard from any other self help influencers/youtubers/podcasters and I've listened to a LOT. I can already see how your ideas can activate change in an entirely different way and I think they are incredibly valuable for that. You're an incredible person and you're doing great things for your community and im proud to be a part of it. Truly excited for what you've got in store :)
    Love Lawrence ❤

  • @bardofwretches
    @bardofwretches 3 місяці тому

    This sort of deep understanding of the subject matter is incredible. It’s delightful to see it being communicated in such an open and effective way. Truly remarkable.

  • @tkiiina
    @tkiiina 5 місяців тому +3

    Thank you for your video!!!!❤❤❤
    Despite the fact that I’m quite young, I really felt how “You can be addicted to your anxiety or depression” resonated with me.
    Now, I have a time to figure out how make my life less miserable, thank you again!❤

  • @TheVibesAreOff
    @TheVibesAreOff 5 місяців тому +2

    I could not appreciate you and what you do more.
    I don't know what it is about the Irish, but you and @Mulligainz are steering me towards a better, healthier way of living in a way I've never experienced before. You're both showing me the Real Way (i.e. sustainable, achievable & honest) to make changes and get on the path I have wanted to be on for so damn long.
    I am grateful for you and your vulnerability 💚🙏

  • @ItsBen0
    @ItsBen0 5 місяців тому +1

    You may not be a therapist or an addiction councillor but there’s no better “life coach” than someone who’s been through what someone’s going through and successfully come out the other side. Keep doing what you’re doing 👌❤️

  • @sabrinawhiting5167
    @sabrinawhiting5167 5 місяців тому +3

    Cannot wait for this to blow up and you to get the recognition your message needs and deserves

  • @jacobdanielmusic1468
    @jacobdanielmusic1468 3 місяці тому

    Thanks for sharing brother. Good stuff from the heart!

  • @antiperspirant
    @antiperspirant Місяць тому

    So glad to have found your channel!

  • @Szyja28
    @Szyja28 4 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for sharing yourself🙏

  • @stateofchange6006
    @stateofchange6006 5 місяців тому +1

    You're a captivating speaker and this felt a lot shorter than 40 minutes for just that reason. Really appreciate the insight and there's 100% a couple of ideas in here I haven't come across before! It's always refreshing to hear people authentically express themselves, it serves as an example I can aspire to. This was a great video.

  • @real100thfloor
    @real100thfloor 3 місяці тому

    Excellent video man. You have a different perspective worth sharing.

  • @apeldap
    @apeldap 5 місяців тому +1

    I changed my life and lets consider this video one of the in between bits! Still got a lot to do but that smile describing the other side is pretty cheeky and reminds me a lot of little tastes I've had! Tanks!

  • @tomdaltoe
    @tomdaltoe 4 місяці тому

    All the times, when i hear: “Hello, my name’s Caoiltè” i always feel happy, because i know is gonna be a very nice a “light” video to watch.
    Thanks very much for what you’re doing :).

  • @BittaSweetJP
    @BittaSweetJP 2 місяці тому

    Good on you champ. I appreciate the input.

  • @travis1687
    @travis1687 4 місяці тому

    I like your style. Thanks for sharing your story.

  • @keshiu.h
    @keshiu.h 4 місяці тому

    Big thanks for your words! They help me right now to go in a direction which might be uncomfortable but is now necessary to do. Big big thanks ❤

  • @stargazzerr
    @stargazzerr 4 місяці тому

    i really appreciate you talking about how damaging the motivational videos can be. They can set people, especially young men onto a path that is so toxic and only make them more lonely. I'm so glad you see that and talked about it

  • @KatieBrown-d7v
    @KatieBrown-d7v 5 місяців тому +1

    This is incredible. Thank you for posting it and for all of your content. I appreciate your authenticity and that you're willing to give advice that may be a little off the beaten path, but is crucial for some of us. I spend a lot of time in the woods, too. Trail running has absolutely saved my life.

  • @optikrogue
    @optikrogue 5 місяців тому +1

    Thanks for sharing all this. What i've learned from making major changes in my life that I wish I'd known earlier on - Try changing one thing - add one good habit, and wait until it becomes ingrained before changing anything else, there's no all or nothing. do things in steps. Also - changing your habits will be lonely and uncomfortable - cause your friend groups will change. You will feel left behind and lonely, but soon you realize that guarding the peace you've created is so important, and the people that either remain in your life or come into your life - you'll have amazing relationships with. Cause there's so much more respect.

  • @TheAlancremin
    @TheAlancremin 5 місяців тому +1

    It's interesting to see how you could have such a transition in such a short space of time, what I found is giving up things you're addicted to leaves a void in your life and doesn't always make a person happier but I suppose taking up something else instead like exercise helps, if you don't change things in your life after giving up stuff then nothing really changes I suppose

  • @jdion79
    @jdion79 14 днів тому

    addiction to depression... absolutely.

  • @dommurlough2075
    @dommurlough2075 5 місяців тому +1

    Not normally a commenter on videos, but I needed to hear this. Thank you 🙏

  • @Luckyluke870
    @Luckyluke870 4 місяці тому +1

    Trying to stay sober now i feel that I’m going thru some sort of awakening but I can’t put my finger on it just yet. But I get what u said about music can make u indulge in one’s misery and can use on those feelings. I used to listen to hard gangster music in order to feel aggressive and use on those feelings the mind is crazy thing. But good luck everyone and thanks for the vid man it’s really helped me.

  • @metime3564
    @metime3564 5 місяців тому +1

    Thank you so much for this beautiful and vulnerable video. You are such a beacon of light. May God bless you beyond measure with strength and courage each day. ❤

  • @JennTrumbo
    @JennTrumbo 4 місяці тому

    My mother died from her addiction and this conversation is so healing for me. Bless you for sharing and this kind of courageous vulnerability. You are helping so many people, more than you could ever realize or imagine. I have also found nature incredibly healing- it has helped me process through the last 4 years of anger and grief. Shamanism has also supported me in transmuting my feelings and thought patterns and helps me to further honor my relationship with the earth. Much gratitude xx

  • @alfonsoofreneo3670
    @alfonsoofreneo3670 4 місяці тому

    Beautiful video. thank you.

  • @the-strange-daze
    @the-strange-daze 5 місяців тому +1

    when i was 22 i got arrested for "stealing" firewood from a camp store. the friend i was with had a warrant for his arrest for some gnarly drug stuff, so really i was just caught up in the wrong crowd. i was also lucky to have a good lawyer myself and wasn't convicted and only spent a few hours in jail. nonetheless it scared the shit out of me, and i really made a point to fix my life after that. went back to school and all that. i'm still working on the sobriety thing, mostly just sip on beers and puff on stogies these days, but seeing your content on this topic has really pushed me towards taking the path to get completely clean.
    really excited to see where you go with this channel man, would love to see some of the great sights out there in Ireland while you give us your wisdom (was very close to getting a PhD position at Trinity this year... but it didn't work out. sadge.) cheers!

  • @FLORES666
    @FLORES666 4 місяці тому

    Another wicked humble video, super relevant to myself, really nice to see you take the time to address issues that plenty of people will relate to 👌

  • @ClayParker-o2v
    @ClayParker-o2v 5 місяців тому

    You brighten my day brother. Thanks for posting things like this. I usually don't go to the internet for comfort but your words are powerful. I'm going through a particularly tough time and your Instagram and UA-cam videos are a big help. Keep it going

  • @tanyatalkstoomuch
    @tanyatalkstoomuch 2 місяці тому

    Very relatable ✌️ thank you.

  • @dodzer
    @dodzer 5 місяців тому +2

    4 weeks into not smoking weed. It happened after I fell into a lot of anxiety over some life changes. It's the longest I've gone without after 15+ years of a daily habit. It was less of a conscious decision and more of something in me is rebelling against doing it anymore. Life seems grey at the moment but I've learned a lot about myself in the last few years, so I'm learning to support myself in a way I've never done so before. Would love to hear more about your struggle with weed dependency.

    • @metime3564
      @metime3564 5 місяців тому +2

      I am a chronic weed smoker and the past few months I feel a lot less compelled to smoke because I added some great habits to my day. Exercise is the biggest. Breathwork is also my new high (getting high on my own supply). Be gentle with yourself. ❤

    • @dodzer
      @dodzer 5 місяців тому

      @@metime3564 thank you

    • @deimantepikturnaite2643
      @deimantepikturnaite2643 5 місяців тому

      Honestly going to the gym is a real good way to help you stay off at least it did for me, because you try to get healthy in the gym and smoking brings it back down. Like he said the bad habit brings down the good habit

    • @Caoiltemaclean
      @Caoiltemaclean  5 місяців тому +2

      The first 2weeks are the hardest it starts to level out after that u got this

  • @Myndatlarge00
    @Myndatlarge00 5 місяців тому

    Talk about food for thought. The was the soundtrack I needed to end my evening with. I feel change coming. Thank you.

  • @danteanby1125
    @danteanby1125 5 місяців тому +1

    The mossy stick is so aesthetically on point 🍃 great words!

  • @Soul115.
    @Soul115. 5 місяців тому +1

    I needed this

  • @benhughes8132
    @benhughes8132 5 місяців тому

    I found that when i started climbing, i started eating a lot better to fuel the thing that i love. When im on the wall all the problems i might have in my life fade away when im on the wall. All youre thinking about is the next move and the experience

  • @davedoodledude
    @davedoodledude 5 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for the video! Im going through making some big changes for myself recently. Always knew what i wanted, just havent gotten up and done it, whether its laziness or addiction to bad things (people and vices) or both. Im doing good so far, i know there will be fallbacks, but i can do this

    • @TheVibesAreOff
      @TheVibesAreOff 5 місяців тому

      👏💪💚

    • @Caoiltemaclean
      @Caoiltemaclean  5 місяців тому +1

      Amazing its all about trying to enjoy the process 💚

  • @electricsense9501
    @electricsense9501 5 місяців тому

    New favourite channel. Love from Co. Meath ❤

  • @Mostsanepersoninohio
    @Mostsanepersoninohio 5 місяців тому

    Thank you for this bro. Just thank you. ❤

  • @JYN5304
    @JYN5304 5 місяців тому

    thank you, i needed to hear this.

  • @Robyn9614
    @Robyn9614 5 місяців тому

    I am enjoying your videos! I do not have a problem with chemical addiction but I have lost my spark for life in general. Your tips are excellent so I thank you for your insight! ❤

  • @tigergaj
    @tigergaj 5 місяців тому

    It's not the same at all but I quit Christianity seven years ago when I was 17 and I had a very similar journey with the kind of person I was and the ways of thinking about my life were so negative back then. What really inspired me initially at the time was Knowing Better's video on "Hitting Rock Bottom". I realized at the time that as it currently stands I had nothing in my life that worked. All my coping mechanisms and people that surrounded me aren't actually gonna help me enjoy living life, and I had to rebuild from scratch. Which, sounds daunting, but it was actually super relieving. It meant that there was a better way that I could live my life and all I needed to do was find the things that worked for me. It was a beautiful realization. "Even if this new loadout ain't work, the next one might"
    In the past 3 or so years I've found out that I am queer in most ways and I've learned to fill these voids in your emotional and physical needs with healthy habits. For me, that's been cooking, gonfu tea (it's so sick, look Wu mountain tea's masterclass on tea) and learning(in general). I've always been a person in love with nature and a couple days ago I got a travel tea set that's super light and compact and I'm planning on going out to a mountain that I love in a week or two! So, thanks so much for putting your philosophy out there and, I'm so proud of you for digging yourself out

    • @tigergaj
      @tigergaj 5 місяців тому

      (also theramin trees's videos on religion were really eye opening early on. I remember. Watching them while I was 15 and feeling guilty that I agreed with them. But they just planted a seed that what I was taught was bad for me, his videos are unreasonably good.)

  • @Jenniferinthemountains
    @Jenniferinthemountains 5 місяців тому

    Thank you for this topic, I'm looking forward to your future ones! I appreciate your honesty & love the humor you add into it! Love the mic on a stick, very creative! 😆

    • @Caoiltemaclean
      @Caoiltemaclean  5 місяців тому +1

      Thank you i cant wait to make more 💚

  • @kenwand3882
    @kenwand3882 5 місяців тому

    I’ve conducted so many interviews and zoom calls from my car.
    Such a quiet peaceful place

  • @SpaceCowboy-re3yv
    @SpaceCowboy-re3yv 5 місяців тому

    Wow...thank you for making your videos.

  • @marvellous.mind.podcast
    @marvellous.mind.podcast 5 місяців тому

    this video came at a great time, thank you :)

  • @Kappa_B
    @Kappa_B 5 місяців тому

    “Guy talking to camera” is my favorite type of video

  • @ulgenrabishlave4645
    @ulgenrabishlave4645 5 місяців тому

    I've got to say thid video did reach the right audience 👍🏻 thank you

  • @leyla9675
    @leyla9675 5 місяців тому +1

    I cracked up when you said the medication names with these tones 😂😂😂😂

    • @Caoiltemaclean
      @Caoiltemaclean  5 місяців тому +1

      And then just sed them anyway haha

  • @TomInIreland110
    @TomInIreland110 4 місяці тому

    *Comment number 100*
    I wondered if this video was worth 40 minutes of my time (it was). Thank you, Caoilté. I just wanted the bullet points, as I've never heard of this guy. The 'chapter-ization' helped, and you can watch it in installments. I've never had a problem with addiction*, but have been down on myself and want to work on various poor habits. Bottom line: it's worth it!
    Might see you knocking around ze woods.
    *(I mentioned this not to imply I'm better than others. I understand that addiction doesn't happen over night. It's like the way you don't notice yourself growing day-to-day as a child. It creeps up. You don't become 'suddenly addicted' one day, like you don't become 'suddenly all better' one day. The daily work aspect scares ppl. My point is this video can apply to anyone who wants to take an unflinching look in the mirror and live a more meaningful, heart-centred life).

  • @Divine_Knowing_3
    @Divine_Knowing_3 4 місяці тому

    29:01 voice of addiction? It’s painful, I feel the same way. Filling a gap.

  • @leyla9675
    @leyla9675 5 місяців тому

    So excited for this new video!!

    • @Caoiltemaclean
      @Caoiltemaclean  5 місяців тому +1

      Hope you liked it 💚

    • @leyla9675
      @leyla9675 5 місяців тому

      @@Caoiltemaclean loved it like always 🤍

  • @Ikima83
    @Ikima83 5 місяців тому +1

    17:27 That hit hard.

  • @thebutterbakedpotatoes1864
    @thebutterbakedpotatoes1864 4 місяці тому

    WOW thank you bro, gonna help me heaps, it is so nice that someone sees the same way I do in life, I don't like money making and muscle building life, there is so much more to life then THAT!!! DISGUSTING!!! HUMAN CONNECTION BROTHA!!!!!!

  • @KainBaker
    @KainBaker 5 місяців тому

    The Lorax does recovery

  • @deimantepikturnaite2643
    @deimantepikturnaite2643 5 місяців тому

    Smoking was a hard thing to give up but vaping was worse. I didn’t find it very hard to not take drugs and drink but giving up disposables gave panic attacks and even now 6 months in I think about it most days

    • @Caoiltemaclean
      @Caoiltemaclean  5 місяців тому

      Disposables are definitely way harder to give up than people think

  • @annelyseviturino9463
    @annelyseviturino9463 4 місяці тому

    I have addicted friends in college, especially friends that use drugs and vape even during the class time. They just cant enjoy the lecture because they are addicted. For example, some of they need to go out of class to smoke cigarrets/vape/weed. So, i found my love for History and i have a dream: be a history teacher and maybe an academic student. To me, it feels like, if i use this kind of drugs, like weed or alcohool, it will destroy my dream and my mind dont will be good anymore to study. Of course, theres the good things like it is a social drug, as you said, but it feels like i have my dream and my passion and i dont want to use any drugs. So, the true it is that u have to do something you love, follow your passion and the way can be much easier

  • @loving50andbeyond
    @loving50andbeyond 5 місяців тому

    You wouldn't be Caolite with out a mossy stick. Great video, and thank you for the inspiration. XO's

  • @camimcarr
    @camimcarr 5 місяців тому

    So true

  • @DailyDoze11617
    @DailyDoze11617 5 місяців тому

    The way how you speak and all of the topics you arise make a lot of sense. I hate how loose and hollow your earlobes are, though.

  • @elsacastelo
    @elsacastelo 5 місяців тому

    ❤❤❤

  • @starryamity33
    @starryamity33 Місяць тому

    👌

  • @vahagnkhachatryan2164
    @vahagnkhachatryan2164 5 місяців тому

    💚

  • @angeldannyso
    @angeldannyso 5 місяців тому

    🫶🏻

  • @garretmiller6343
    @garretmiller6343 2 місяці тому

    Like when someone gets into that healthy spot in life_ just embrace / God made everything the world 🌍 in 7 days apparently? the Father of creation..... Jesus the holy spirit 🙏😊 your never lonely with god ❤️⭐💜✨💫 Functioning- From strength too strength it's a Long journey‼️So... I went easy on myself go / went on_ az I do. functional like in a angelic ❔waY❔can I say that promotes forgiveness Jesus dose it's a beautiful WORLD and....( Getting better 🚂 😁 ) ✌️😇🫴💫💫🙏🚶🚶💫🌏🦘🦘🦘🦘🦘