I disagree with this one. She might be afraid of getting hurt again even though she likes the guy. And maybe that's why she hesitant. Trying to figure out if she should give it a chance. She might be a good woman who gave up on love after being disappointed so many time and have to heal herself many times. I don't know what you mean by chase because this new generation of men. Might " chase" you for a week and they start talking about she playing game. Not all women play games. Fear of being disappointed and mistreated after she find herself in a happy and peaceful place. can cause a woman to take longer accept man advances. Because some men, can come to your life and bring chaos. If this man is serious he will be patient and try to figure out why the woman is dragging her feet instead of making assumptions.
what you said is diffrent from what he said because a woman with a broken heart never make chasing her you saw the intension behind because act differently the one who do'nt like you
@@AxeVitaClan I would like you to elaborate. I would just like a better understanding of the male perspective. Are you saying that he doesn't pursue when he finds? Because it's not like finding money or an object that you can pick up and take if there is no ownership already. We are talking about another human who has the ability to make a decision based on the situation... I understand or at least I think I under the biblical concept of " a man that finds". I just think you can find a thing and do nothing with it. The favor comes after the pursuit has happen and a decision has been made. My Professor would probably say I was taking this out of context lol😂🤣.... You are gonna make me have to study this Loool...
Funny how it's always us men who have to please women and are hard on ourselves. We always have to hear why we're single and how we make women feel good. Guys, save your energy for greater things in life. I spent enough time dating women who were horrible people playing games with me, exploting my amazing character... God is your only true love
“Men don’t chase women” “Women don’t chase men” We’re just passing each other by? Come on, this is bs. Now a days women are flooded by guys who are trying to get with them. When they notice a man who isn’t like the other guys fighting for her attention, she notices the man who is ok with not having her. He is friendly towards her, maybe acting a bit flirtatious himself towards her. But his peace of mind and purpose is paramount. And a good woman will see that and admire him. It makes the man a rare commodity.
As a woman, I pretty much agree with this. If I'm not giving a man my time or really putting in effort to talk to him or see him, then I'm not that interested in him. However, I will say that I unfortunately know too many women who are still taught to believe that a man should always chase a woman (or be the one to chase), so they play 'hard to get' because they think that will spark his 'male instinct' and interest, and get him to chase her. I hate that way of thinking. It's just games, whether they're trying to manipulative or just come from a place of ignorance and are extremely naive...I believe that neither side should 'chase' the other. If the interest is there, both parties should be showing interest, giving equal effort, and able to communicate their needs like grown adults. Man or woman, 'chasing' is unnecessary and kind of toxic, tbh.
I think I'm okay with chasing her cuz like you said at the end she's waiting to turn the corner and I'm willing to wait for her if that's really a relationship through God it's all through Faith
There's a difference between "persue" and "chase"!! He's chasing you if you KNOW he's interested in you, but you keep him out there. You never confirm anything, you don't allow him to do certain things and you go out to eat, but not to a movie at night, etc.
But the guy isnt gonna do that much. Aftwr a while a short while they cut their losses and say well she isnt interested. Alot if times they aint they just like the attention. Should come out and tell the guy u aint interested but attention is like a drug to chicks. This why guys just walk off and dont even bother. Too many games. We grown not middle school.
@@CrystalDatingCoachno they don't. Read Proverbs 7 and Proverbs 31. No woman is supposed to chase you..a woman is only supposed to be closed to your radar..nothing is more unattractive than a woman chasing a man. A man can chase a woman if he wants to. But it's a 50/50.loss. Women become very unlady chasing the man. It is the most annoying crap in lustful relationships today. I want to pursue her not her always nagging or complaining.
Bottom line don't be a creep, be respectful and voice your interest. If she isn't down, tell her to have a good day and keep it moving. My purpose and character are #1 to me, she can be a part of my team or she can watch from the stands.
Stephen, I’m usually in agreement with you but not on this. Nothing in life comes easy (well in my case it doesn’t). There are times where you just have to step up and stand up for what you TRULLY desire and sometimes that requires a chase. I think it’s okay and quite healthy. Because when you get it you just may appreciate it a little bit more than you would if you didn’t have to work for it all. A man not being willing to come after/chase me, may lead me into thinking he’s not interested. Now where does that leave the connection? Man must go after what he wants. Don’t let love pass you by because you’re in your head about the chase. Follow your heart.
@@sacktrick4240 I see you love. That first breath of life you took when coming into this world, was a divine gift from God. You are a gift. Don’t allow the devil to win the attack over your mind. You fight back, make him/her mad AF…and focus on loving yourself(make and achieve life goals, take yourself out, travel). Love on you like you would want your parents to love on you. Your parents were only used as vessels to get your gifted ass here. Get yourself prepared for your future desired family. Prepare yourself to be the best parent you can possibly be. Focus on the word and act of joy. Envision yourself living a joyful life. Eventually, you will attract joy. Go forth and become the best version of yourself. You got this!!! Even if you have to do it alone. Lean in on your spirituality and you’ll see that you’re never alone. After reading this I want you to turn on some music and GET HYPED….!🤗💃🕺 GET READY…to live and lead the best life EVER!!!🤗🤗🤗🤗😘❤️ The universe loves you and although I don’t know you, I love you too!🧡🧡🧡🧡 Book recommendation: “11 Steps to Self-Sufficiency” Take Action by Taking the Steps (on Amazon). It’s an inspirational read for a young adult like yourself😉
❣️This is the reason why There are No Good relationship Anymore..Everybody is single...Because of the assumptions...The truth is people do not know what Love is and How to Love....❣️
“And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone. I will make for him a helper suited to him.” It is not necessary to chase after a woman whose purpose is to support YOU.
A lot of men just have to come to the realization that they are undesirable it’s that simple. Women are looking for a particular type of man and most men aren’t the prototype😂 I suggest get use to being lonely gentlemen. You can do all the work and self improvement you want. Just love yourself it will at least make rejection a little less painful😂❤
I still cold approach occasionally. Just for the novelty of it. I go after exotic lookin girls that may be considered 'outta my league.' Just for sport, kinda like playin the lotto...But it's strictly a one and done thing...no chaser or 'if at first you dont succeed.'
@@gtos6929 I still cold approach too 😅 that’s what we had to do growing up. These youngsters don’t know about spending all day at the mall and the evenings working the movie parking lots. Social media and dating apps messed it all up. Dudes are terrified to approach women these days.
@@FearNvl Yes, indeed bro. But it is outdated, especially if you going at something under 30. Then again... if she fine enough, she gettin hollered at...! Better me then the next man...! ✊🏾 To the coldest of cold approachers..Keep doing ya thing...!
@@FearNvl Shiiit I ain't,I cold approach and shoot my shot in person. I prefer it that way, they'll remember you more properly than to meet online especially if you play your cards right (smelling good, looking your best, and have charm). But I don't chase though. Nothing wrong with validating a woman and shooting your shot
I would say he pursued but I just didn’t feel it. I gave it about 4 weeks. I agree but the word chase I had a problem with. We dated, no sex the connection just wasn’t there for me
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 THIS RIGHT HERE. MEN SHOULD NOT CHASE BECAUSE IT’S A TURNOFF TO WOMEN. WOMEN HAVE THOUSANDS OF GUYS CHASING THEM AND THEY JUST GET FRIENDZONED OR REJECTED. WOMEN CHASE THE GUYS THEY WANT. PERIOD.
I agree, there’s something about you she likes, but it may not be physical. She’s trying to figure out if she can get past that to freely explore the things she likes about you. Could be your sense of humor or your attention.
You're more than right. I am experiencing that at the moment. She's still checking and the honest truth is because i don't have another option for her now. If she's really into you. Straight ahead, she's in.
Not true. Another reason of many, may be the experience of men has not been too positive, she may want to identify whether he is worth it and find out who he is before committing
Some people are in "whatever" relationship/marriage. It means that they are with person who they don't love, they don't respect that person but they are in this toxic relation because they are afraid of loneliness or family want this relationship for them.. Toxic people always will make you sad and unhappy.
Or maybe it’s because we gave that man every bit of us and they mistreated us and now we want to see if they truly want us if we leave them or if they’ll easily let us go
“Allow you to chase.” The only reason for this is she is selfish and wants your attention and resources to build her ego up. She also doesn’t have the options that she feels she deserves so she just wants to lead you on.
Chasing has been done for generations and it works. One of the main ways for a man to experience who he is is through chasing. Anything worth having takes a certain amount of energy and work. Men place high value on anything hard to get.
@@khrisi9410 if it worked our mothers were never going to fight against it,if it works why does feminism exist and if it works why do women go out and work why not just stay at home and nurture your household my problem a lot of you are not traditional women yet you demand a traditional men dont you think that the so called traditional masculine men yall desire is looking for a certain kind of women modern women brag about being a boss chicks and being promiscuous yet you expect men to follow a system yall dont even follow give me a break
In response to one of the comments that disagreed with Mr Labossiere‘s post, that woman who makes man chase is not playing games per say but is terrified of being hurt again and/ or recovering from previous heartbreak And the commentor who disagreed with Mr Labossiere‘s could be right Some women who make men chase might be hurt and are in defence mode (protecting her heart) as well as dealing with unresolved hurt/ heartbreak And not wanting to be hurt again and wants to see that the guy is showing interest is genuine, not a playa and certainly not wasting her time BUT on the flipside, how must he be patient? And for how long? Are we talking, 3 months, six months, a year? Don’t get me wrong, I’m not being facetious or disingenuous nor callous but this is NOT Hollywood The man maybe genuine about the woman and has only good intentions however while he’s pursuing her and wanting to be her, how long is he meant to wait/ be patient? While he is focused on this woman (Oneitis) there are other women who have sorted help for their heartbreak or women who are not traumatised from previous toxic and damaging relationships who will not make this man wait or please forgive me saying this, Waste His Time.
No brother she likes the validation and the attention that's what she like she don't give a damn about you because if she did you wouldn't have to chase
Do men respect women who give in easily? I have always lost the men I openly showed affection for and kept the men I didn’t. So when a guy I actually liked came along, I was a lot more subtle in my display of emotion. Didn’t mean I didn’t like him or I wanted an ego boost…rather it was my way (at least in my mind) of vetting his interest level and intentions without running off with my emotions. I like Stephen and his advice, but I think he missed the mark on this one. There are many other reasons a man may have to chase a woman that have nothing to do with her level of interest in him.
I’m 48 I’ve never chased a woman never maybe it’s my dads personality that I inherited or what he taught me since I was a kid he was the ultimate alpha male.
A woman can be on the fence with you at the start and then fall head over heals for you when she gets to know you. When me and my man started dating I was 20 and didn't know what I wanted, I thought he was a delectable piece of brown sugar and I literally just went on the date because I thought it would be fun. No motives, and he 100% was chasing me, making all the plans, paying for the meals. At that point i was hard to impress too, because i had been on alot of first dates with "successful" handsome men but non of them interested me and it never made it to 2nd date. But then 2 weeks in i just decided in my lady lizard brain this was my man now. Future husband. Mine. Sold. I never even meant for it to end up like this I was 20 he was 40 I thought it would never work, I just wanted to try some fine wine instead of fresh fruit for once now I'm having his baby cuz he wanted 1 and making his lunches.
@@Princess15732 actually by the time he got to me he had turned down many engagements from women. I know because the women's families make it known. He had refused to marry because he wasn't in love, so he could of been with someone his age many times. The girl a few months before me was 24. He pretty much had his pick of the litter
It's not that weren't interested but sometimes the chase is for buying time to get to same wavelength (raise or lower accordingly) Am I ready for a..with the flow/ ONS or long-term if his energy is screaming that? Some guys are easy to fall for
It depends. If by chase you mean keep texting and she never texts back sure. But if you mean the push and pull, cat and mouse game, then no. Thats natural and often the best parts leading up to a relationship.
He's correct and the women's age and lifestyle plays a part as well. The more stable and content a woman becomes with herself she's going to proceed with caution and keep her distance before she allows access.
As a woman I don’t understand, if we’re not supposed to chase men and men are not supposed to chase women. Then I don’t understand how humanity still exists?!! I’m confused 😢
If we're all in but you're giving us mixed signals, sorry but you will have to chase to convince us. I'm not interested in anyone who isn't interested in me. 🤷♀️
Men once did nothing but chase all day everyday to the point women got tired of it and became vocal to the point of an echo chamber for men to stop ✋️ 🫸 aka (Me too) . men listened, the solution now is for women to show enough initial interest. If not men are just wasting their time
I FINALLY GAVE HIM A CHANCE AFTER I METHIM 15YEARS AGO YOU ARE RIGHT 💯 I WASN'T FEELING HIM BIG MISTAKE 😔 HE'S A NARC I LEARNED ABOUT LOVEBOMBING AND 💯 GHOSTING FROM HIM MY FEELINGS NOT 💯 TO HOOKUP WITH THE NARC WAS ON POINT 💯💯💯💯 TRUST HOW YOUR INNER FEELING'S S FE
All the ladies in the comments need to understand that chase means that the woman shows little interest or reciprocation, while courting involves a woman that wants this man and is willing to let that show. No one is saying that the woman should chase.
nahihiya din ako, kinikilig at di alam ang gagawin.. and my crush could feel like hurricane i need to get away with.. unlike with a man i really don't like, blunt and say no.. it's not gonna happen..
My general opinion is men advice men for women...women advice women for men...maybe some cases...things should be more natural...if you find person you falling into...have big interest be willing to see effort...on the other hand if she smile back and talk dont make her easy...she can be easily aproached and not easy in negative way...so dont judge or analyse too fast.
I chased this young lady for a minute... and tried once more after the fact I found out she has a guy... I know she's not married... still no response. I am truly lost on this one. Any advice?
If I’m not interested I don’t want you to chase. It makes it worse. But if you just accept it and move on I turn interested in a way because you’re ok with that and it makes me want you when your not desperate
women like to be pursued ... men are hunters and they go for what they want... if he is not that type of man i don't want him... (woman signed in on someone elses youtube lol..)
All men pursue but women shouldn't lead men on into thinking that your interested. If man pursued a woman and he stops, I promise you it's cause he's smart and already peeped and smelled the bullshit a mile away. Men shoot their shot but should put zero effort into any woman who doesn't reciprocate.
Man needs to show respect since beginning.So sraight his intension.Have effort...not running after women but certain woman so he is polite serious and have persistance...he can wait...see effort etc.Women are different and some can be putting men running for nothing BUT so your attention to her...depending tee character,life situation and earlier experience or not having date etc. Before show interest for her...
What’s missing is something internal maybe a lack of pair bonding skills or androgen receptors are burnt out from various interactions with other men in the past
Not all. “Most” use that term and you’ll hear screeching like never before. Cause it’s the endgame response. They know the majority of their kind of wildin out rn. And not in a good way💀
We see some women don’t know the difference between pursuing and chasing . A man ain’t supposed to chase nothing but his purpose in life when he reaches that the right woman will be there
No he doesn't have to. He just have to chase money/success and he will gain women as a by-product. Besides, no woman is worth chasing especially modern woman.
Relationship coaches are giving conflicting advice to men and women. Someone else commented on here about that also. So nobody is supposed to chase. No wonder everyone is confused.
Women are not wired to chase men, they give you signals and u chase. If a woman gives u signals and she knows ur spoken for that is a tell tale sign of a narcissist, run as far away as u can get
Nothing to do with wiring human beings do chase people its not a man's thing to chase rather its conditioned and taught that a woman must not chase a man
I feel like I was chasing this chick but I stopped giving her attention she blow me up all the time,FaceTime me N get mad when I tell her I’m going to call her back,tell her I talk to you later…etc like she get dead ass mad and she like you ain’t getting off the phone with me you going to sit on the phone with me..
Im over it at this point. I cant stand grown man or grown woman act childish. Its so annoying when person is assuming whatever and without communication or trying to talk to eachother and explain their feelings to one another they being closed off and play mind games… if an idiot nigga trying to be in relationship and wants me but dont talk to me bout anything and gets mad on every little thing without explaining himself and is keeping me stuck by making me guess what i do, why hes stressing the situation let me go or be that man who wants to elevate with me and lets do this journey called life together doing better things and doing fun things instead of always being angry and givin a cold shoulder foh fr im done with trying. Men need to understand! Confident and independent women arent suppose to be your mammy! We are here to support u mentally emotionally be beside you and keep each other as a team and play hard work hard, enjoy each other’s company! If you lucky enough to come across a woman whose not asking to bring full 100% to the table at least come w/60% !!! Im no longer being 50/50 chick it just simply don’t work. 9 times out of 10 you will end up disappointed, disrespected and 99.9% unappreciated or in competition with him. Im done. Just focusing on myself, growth, better myself and become the best version of me and THEN if that one man comes around and catches my attention he better bring 100% to the table because if man wanted to give me bard times in my self growth and elevation journey now when im fully healed grown and got my ish together i dont need to invite anyone into my life bellow my needs! As many times i lowered my standards for a man who doesnt drive car who dlesnt have a steady job/career and is trying or healing or is in any type of growing journey i ended up disappointed so kick rocks!!! Im over it
Fellas, if your efforts aren't reciprocated then just move on. If a woman doesn't view you as a potential mate you're fighting a lost battle
I disagree with this one. She might be afraid of getting hurt again even though she likes the guy. And maybe that's why she hesitant. Trying to figure out if she should give it a chance. She might be a good woman who gave up on love after being disappointed so many time and have to heal herself many times. I don't know what you mean by chase because this new generation of men. Might " chase" you for a week and they start talking about she playing game. Not all women play games. Fear of being disappointed and mistreated after she find herself in a happy and peaceful place. can cause a woman to take longer accept man advances. Because some men, can come to your life and bring chaos. If this man is serious he will be patient and try to figure out why the woman is dragging her feet instead of making assumptions.
@Genny Lee, well said
Did you communicate with that man?also if you afraid of being hurt why do you date shouldn't you heal before dating
what you said is diffrent from what he said because a woman with a broken heart never make chasing her you saw the intension behind because act differently the one who do'nt like you
HALLELUJAH!! Yes. Give her time. You are definitely a High Value Man!!
You said That.. that's exactly how I feel right now, don't know if I want to be bothered. I already know how it will end
We are taught that if a man wants you, he will pursue you... The word " chase" needs to be defined here.
Exactly! It's not cha but Pursuing "Courting".
A man should neither chase or Pursue but he should FIND , look in the dictionary for the meaning of pursue & find , it’s big difference..
@@AxeVitaClan I would like you to elaborate. I would just like a better understanding of the male perspective. Are you saying that he doesn't pursue when he finds? Because it's not like finding money or an object that you can pick up and take if there is no ownership already. We are talking about another human who has the ability to make a decision based on the situation... I understand or at least I think I under the biblical concept of " a man that finds". I just think you can find a thing and do nothing with it. The favor comes after the pursuit has happen and a decision has been made. My Professor would probably say I was taking this out of context lol😂🤣.... You are gonna make me have to study this Loool...
@@AxeVitaClan He should "Court" just like his Dad and Grandfather.
Same thing i said 🤔
It's funny how women are nonverbal when she's interested, but when she's not interested, she becomes verbal
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Funny how it's always us men who have to please women and are hard on ourselves. We always have to hear why we're single and how we make women feel good. Guys, save your energy for greater things in life. I spent enough time dating women who were horrible people playing games with me, exploting my amazing character... God is your only true love
Amen 🙏🏽
“Men don’t chase women”
“Women don’t chase men”
We’re just passing each other by?
Come on, this is bs. Now a days women are flooded by guys who are trying to get with them. When they notice a man who isn’t like the other guys fighting for her attention, she notices the man who is ok with not having her. He is friendly towards her, maybe acting a bit flirtatious himself towards her. But his peace of mind and purpose is paramount. And a good woman will see that and admire him. It makes the man a rare commodity.
How can a woman make you chase? She just ignores you and you keep coming.
That's what he meant
Message to all men. Don't chase them. Replace them
Essattamente exactly replaceable
Don't give a damn if shes not interested they all are same
Amen brother
She's not yours. It's just your turn.
"👉🏾90% OF THE TIME THAT'S DEFINITELY TRUE..🤷🏾🥱💯
As a woman, I pretty much agree with this. If I'm not giving a man my time or really putting in effort to talk to him or see him, then I'm not that interested in him. However, I will say that I unfortunately know too many women who are still taught to believe that a man should always chase a woman (or be the one to chase), so they play 'hard to get' because they think that will spark his 'male instinct' and interest, and get him to chase her. I hate that way of thinking. It's just games, whether they're trying to manipulative or just come from a place of ignorance and are extremely naive...I believe that neither side should 'chase' the other. If the interest is there, both parties should be showing interest, giving equal effort, and able to communicate their needs like grown adults. Man or woman, 'chasing' is unnecessary and kind of toxic, tbh.
Someone who understands ❤
Stay blessed
Yeah, I don't like to be chased. I like reciprocity
A wise Granny said....."if a woman is chasing a man he is RUNNING after someone else..."
Wow!!! You just slapped me on my face!!! That hurt!
Please say that again
Well said.... I'm dealing with this now.... I guess 🤔 need to 🛑 being Stevie wonder 🦯😑
Not nessarily true
Same can be said about women.
It's not Chasing. It's Courting. Men should COURT Women...Pursue her. We want to know you are INVESTING your time and energy.
What do we get at the end of the day?problems
@@Uss997 Actually you get someone to LISTEN to your problems!
@@CrystalDatingCoach loool ok
@@CrystalDatingCoach no thanks we have Jesus He will listen to us without using it against us
@@CrystalDatingCoachNah. They should court each other
I think I'm okay with chasing her cuz like you said at the end she's waiting to turn the corner and I'm willing to wait for her if that's really a relationship through God it's all through Faith
HALLELUJAH! A Gentleman that understands Women!
So whts the update after 1 year 😂
Not necessarily because most of us women are taught that the man is supposed to pursue you which is why we don’t do much
There's a difference between "persue" and "chase"!! He's chasing you if you KNOW he's interested in you, but you keep him out there. You never confirm anything, you don't allow him to do certain things and you go out to eat, but not to a movie at night, etc.
WOMEN CHASE. MEN PURSUE. Men should COURT Women.
But the guy isnt gonna do that much. Aftwr a while a short while they cut their losses and say well she isnt interested. Alot if times they aint they just like the attention. Should come out and tell the guy u aint interested but attention is like a drug to chicks. This why guys just walk off and dont even bother. Too many games. We grown not middle school.
@@CrystalDatingCoachno they don't. Read Proverbs 7 and Proverbs 31. No woman is supposed to chase you..a woman is only supposed to be closed to your radar..nothing is more unattractive than a woman chasing a man. A man can chase a woman if he wants to. But it's a 50/50.loss. Women become very unlady chasing the man. It is the most annoying crap in lustful relationships today. I want to pursue her not her always nagging or complaining.
And this is exactly why white woman end up getting the successful alpha
Advice from all relationships coaches
Men - Don't chase women
Women - Don't chase men
This is why we are were we are 😂😂😂
Yup 😂
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@@tinyking11and nothing happens if no one chases anyone.
Bottom line don't be a creep, be respectful and voice your interest. If she isn't down, tell her to have a good day and keep it moving. My purpose and character are #1 to me, she can be a part of my team or she can watch from the stands.
Facts!! And this just happened to me I’m sure this is exactly what went through her head. I’m glad I called it quits
Stephen, I’m usually in agreement with you but not on this. Nothing in life comes easy (well in my case it doesn’t). There are times where you just have to step up and stand up for what you TRULLY desire and sometimes that requires a chase. I think it’s okay and quite healthy. Because when you get it you just may appreciate it a little bit more than you would if you didn’t have to work for it all. A man not being willing to come after/chase me, may lead me into thinking he’s not interested. Now where does that leave the connection? Man must go after what he wants. Don’t let love pass you by because you’re in your head about the chase. Follow your heart.
And this teaching is the reason why many men are single
@@sacktrick4240 I see you love. That first breath of life you took when coming into this world, was a divine gift from God. You are a gift. Don’t allow the devil to win the attack over your mind. You fight back, make him/her mad AF…and focus on loving yourself(make and achieve life goals, take yourself out, travel). Love on you like you would want your parents to love on you. Your parents were only used as vessels to get your gifted ass here. Get yourself prepared for your future desired family. Prepare yourself to be the best parent you can possibly be.
Focus on the word and act of joy. Envision yourself living a joyful life. Eventually, you will attract joy. Go forth and become the best version of yourself. You got this!!! Even if you have to do it alone. Lean in on your spirituality and you’ll see that you’re never alone.
After reading this I want you to turn on some music and GET HYPED….!🤗💃🕺 GET READY…to live and lead the best life EVER!!!🤗🤗🤗🤗😘❤️
The universe loves you and although I don’t know you, I love you too!🧡🧡🧡🧡
Book recommendation: “11 Steps to Self-Sufficiency” Take Action by Taking the Steps (on Amazon). It’s an inspirational read for a young adult like yourself😉
❣️This is the reason why There are No Good relationship Anymore..Everybody is single...Because of the assumptions...The truth is people do not know what Love is and How to Love....❣️
Amen brother! Knowledge is King
I don’t Chase women. I chased excellence and my goals. I’m making good money, a house and now living a much happier life.
“And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone. I will make for him a helper suited to him.” It is not necessary to chase after a woman whose purpose is to support YOU.
If it starts with a game it ends with a game. Chasing anyone is not a good start. Agree, it's not there.
A lot of men just have to come to the realization that they are undesirable it’s that simple. Women are looking for a particular type of man and most men aren’t the prototype😂 I suggest get use to being lonely gentlemen. You can do all the work and self improvement you want. Just love yourself it will at least make rejection a little less painful😂❤
I still cold approach occasionally. Just for the novelty of it. I go after exotic lookin girls that may be considered 'outta my league.' Just for sport, kinda like playin the lotto...But it's strictly a one and done thing...no chaser or 'if at first you dont succeed.'
@@gtos6929 I still cold approach too 😅 that’s what we had to do growing up. These youngsters don’t know about spending all day at the mall and the evenings working the movie parking lots. Social media and dating apps messed it all up. Dudes are terrified to approach women these days.
@@FearNvl Yes, indeed bro. But it is outdated, especially if you going at something under 30. Then again... if she fine enough, she gettin hollered at...! Better me then the next man...! ✊🏾 To the coldest of cold approachers..Keep doing ya thing...!
@@FearNvl Shiiit I ain't,I cold approach and shoot my shot in person. I prefer it that way, they'll remember you more properly than to meet online especially if you play your cards right (smelling good, looking your best, and have charm). But I don't chase though. Nothing wrong with validating a woman and shooting your shot
I would say he pursued but I just didn’t feel it. I gave it about 4 weeks. I agree but the word chase I had a problem with. We dated, no sex the connection just wasn’t there for me
And you prove why men shouldn’t pursue. No certainty.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 THIS RIGHT HERE. MEN SHOULD NOT CHASE BECAUSE IT’S A TURNOFF TO WOMEN. WOMEN HAVE THOUSANDS OF GUYS CHASING THEM AND THEY JUST GET FRIENDZONED OR REJECTED. WOMEN CHASE THE GUYS THEY WANT. PERIOD.
And this is reason number 1 Men should go after girl who likes him more than he likes her
I agree, there’s something about you she likes, but it may not be physical. She’s trying to figure out if she can get past that to freely explore the things she likes about you. Could be your sense of humor or your attention.
👏👏👏👏👏she want to chose the right guy to be the father of her child or children. Because he had to be a good example for her future child or children.
@@yaelB9467 i agree, a smart woman doesn't make this decision quickly.
You're more than right. I am experiencing that at the moment. She's still checking and the honest truth is because i don't have another option for her now.
If she's really into you. Straight ahead, she's in.
Not true. Another reason of many, may be the experience of men has not been too positive, she may want to identify whether he is worth it and find out who he is before committing
Some people are in "whatever" relationship/marriage. It means that they are with person who they don't love, they don't respect that person but they are in this toxic relation because they are afraid of loneliness or family want this relationship for them..
Toxic people always will make you sad and unhappy.
Do not chase. Always put favor always to yourself. Do not chase win win situation.
Or maybe it’s because we gave that man every bit of us and they mistreated us and now we want to see if they truly want us if we leave them or if they’ll easily let us go
“Allow you to chase.” The only reason for this is she is selfish and wants your attention and resources to build her ego up. She also doesn’t have the options that she feels she deserves so she just wants to lead you on.
Or she's been through traumatic experiences and she's scared.
@@thebeamliif she is scared then she shouldn’t be dating.
This is true.. I do this most times with men.. Often times we know who we want
Chasing has been done for generations and it works. One of the main ways for a man to experience who he is is through chasing. Anything worth having takes a certain amount of energy and work. Men place high value on anything hard to get.
These women in these times have never existed b4
Not every man things that way many men chase women it does not mean they value you
@@godwillbongani5240 of course it doesn't mean he initially values a woman. The old generation blueprint is still relevant and it works.
@@khrisi9410 if it worked our mothers were never going to fight against it,if it works why does feminism exist and if it works why do women go out and work why not just stay at home and nurture your household my problem a lot of you are not traditional women yet you demand a traditional men dont you think that the so called traditional masculine men yall desire is looking for a certain kind of women modern women brag about being a boss chicks and being promiscuous yet you expect men to follow a system yall dont even follow give me a break
There is Pursuit.
Then, there is chase.
Both the same thing and require effort that the woman does not want thus the chasing and pursuit.
@@FreeFromHer Pursuit and chase are not the same status. Two different things.
In response to one of the comments that disagreed with Mr Labossiere‘s post, that woman who makes man chase is not playing games per say but is terrified of being hurt again and/ or recovering from previous heartbreak
And the commentor who disagreed with Mr Labossiere‘s could be right
Some women who make men chase might be hurt and are in defence mode (protecting her heart) as well as dealing with unresolved hurt/ heartbreak
And not wanting to be hurt again and wants to see that the guy is showing interest is genuine, not a playa and certainly not wasting her time
BUT on the flipside, how must he be patient?
And for how long? Are we talking, 3 months, six months, a year?
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not being facetious or disingenuous nor callous but this is NOT Hollywood
The man maybe genuine about the woman and has only good intentions however while he’s pursuing her and wanting to be her, how long is he meant to wait/ be patient?
While he is focused on this woman (Oneitis) there are other women who have sorted help for their heartbreak or women who are not traumatised from previous toxic and damaging relationships who will not make this man wait or please forgive me saying this, Waste His Time.
No brother she likes the validation and the attention that's what she like she don't give a damn about you because if she did you wouldn't have to chase
Do men respect women who give in easily? I have always lost the men I openly showed affection for and kept the men I didn’t. So when a guy I actually liked came along, I was a lot more subtle in my display of emotion. Didn’t mean I didn’t like him or I wanted an ego boost…rather it was my way (at least in my mind) of vetting his interest level and intentions without running off with my emotions. I like Stephen and his advice, but I think he missed the mark on this one. There are many other reasons a man may have to chase a woman that have nothing to do with her level of interest in him.
I’m 48 I’ve never chased a woman never maybe it’s my dads personality that I inherited or what he taught me since I was a kid he was the ultimate alpha male.
A woman can be on the fence with you at the start and then fall head over heals for you when she gets to know you. When me and my man started dating I was 20 and didn't know what I wanted, I thought he was a delectable piece of brown sugar and I literally just went on the date because I thought it would be fun. No motives, and he 100% was chasing me, making all the plans, paying for the meals. At that point i was hard to impress too, because i had been on alot of first dates with "successful" handsome men but non of them interested me and it never made it to 2nd date. But then 2 weeks in i just decided in my lady lizard brain this was my man now. Future husband. Mine. Sold. I never even meant for it to end up like this I was 20 he was 40 I thought it would never work, I just wanted to try some fine wine instead of fresh fruit for once now I'm having his baby cuz he wanted 1 and making his lunches.
Ofcourse, he was old and rxperienced
you were young and naive, you were the prize he had no better option
@@Princess15732 actually by the time he got to me he had turned down many engagements from women. I know because the women's families make it known. He had refused to marry because he wasn't in love, so he could of been with someone his age many times. The girl a few months before me was 24. He pretty much had his pick of the litter
Men we have to respect ourselves and remember we are the catch.
Never chase anyone
Naw she just shy
Do not stalk. It is against the law.
It's not that weren't interested but sometimes the chase is for buying time to get to same wavelength (raise or lower accordingly)
Am I ready for a..with the flow/ ONS or long-term if his energy is screaming that? Some guys are easy to fall for
It depends. If by chase you mean keep texting and she never texts back sure. But if you mean the push and pull, cat and mouse game, then no. Thats natural and often the best parts leading up to a relationship.
He's correct and the women's age and lifestyle plays a part as well. The more stable and content a woman becomes with herself she's going to proceed with caution and keep her distance before she allows access.
As a woman I don’t understand, if we’re not supposed to chase men and men are not supposed to chase women. Then I don’t understand how humanity still exists?!!
I’m confused 😢
There are so many different ideas of how and why. Why not just ask directly Then you get an answer
If we're all in but you're giving us mixed signals, sorry but you will have to chase to convince us. I'm not interested in anyone who isn't interested in me. 🤷♀️
Men once did nothing but chase all day everyday to the point women got tired of it and became vocal to the point of an echo chamber for men to stop ✋️ 🫸 aka (Me too) . men listened, the solution now is for women to show enough initial interest. If not men are just wasting their time
I agree with this 100%. In this situation currently
I FINALLY GAVE HIM A CHANCE AFTER I METHIM 15YEARS AGO YOU ARE RIGHT 💯 I WASN'T FEELING HIM BIG MISTAKE 😔 HE'S A NARC I LEARNED ABOUT LOVEBOMBING AND 💯 GHOSTING FROM HIM MY FEELINGS NOT 💯 TO HOOKUP WITH THE NARC WAS ON POINT 💯💯💯💯 TRUST HOW YOUR INNER FEELING'S
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All the ladies in the comments need to understand that chase means that the woman shows little interest or reciprocation, while courting involves a woman that wants this man and is willing to let that show. No one is saying that the woman should chase.
Im TOTALLY in agreement with you on this one!
The biggest mistake I’ve done chase.and few months years later she made a friend with a cat and a wall
Or sold or being held captive
nahihiya din ako, kinikilig at di alam ang gagawin.. and my crush could feel like hurricane i need to get away with.. unlike with a man i really don't like, blunt and say no.. it's not gonna happen..
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My general opinion is men advice men for women...women advice women for men...maybe some cases...things should be more natural...if you find person you falling into...have big interest be willing to see effort...on the other hand if she smile back and talk dont make her easy...she can be easily aproached and not easy in negative way...so dont judge or analyse too fast.
Mind-blowing 🤯
Bro is the mighty King Gilgamesh
I chased this young lady for a minute... and tried once more after the fact I found out she has a guy... I know she's not married... still no response. I am truly lost on this one. Any advice?
If I’m not interested I don’t want you to chase. It makes it worse. But if you just accept it and move on I turn interested in a way because you’re ok with that and it makes me want you when your not desperate
So men shouldn’t chase women, women shouldn’t chase men. So no one chase no one and everyone stay alone 👍
women like to be pursued ... men are hunters and they go for what they want... if he is not that type of man i don't want him... (woman signed in on someone elses youtube lol..)
All men pursue but women shouldn't lead men on into thinking that your interested. If man pursued a woman and he stops, I promise you it's cause he's smart and already peeped and smelled the bullshit a mile away. Men shoot their shot but should put zero effort into any woman who doesn't reciprocate.
Men don't chase.
Attract!
Didn't He Say 2 Reasons, Not Only 1??? Anybody
Man needs to show respect since beginning.So sraight his intension.Have effort...not running after women but certain woman so he is polite serious and have persistance...he can wait...see effort etc.Women are different and some can be putting men running for nothing BUT so your attention to her...depending tee character,life situation and earlier experience or not having date etc. Before show interest for her...
That beard is crazy bro!
Wow insightful! Like you took the thoughts out of a woman’s head
The more you chase her the more you chase her away and furthermore you need her more than she need you
What’s missing is something internal maybe a lack of pair bonding skills or androgen receptors are burnt out from various interactions with other men in the past
No just stop chases. You'll never get her.
Wow men are such experts on women....they really should be allowed to explain them to the world....makes so much Sense. 😒
...look for the flags! Dont waste more energy time money resources on someone that is not secure/decisive with their actions towards you! #100
Not all. “Most” use that term and you’ll hear screeching like never before. Cause it’s the endgame response. They know the majority of their kind of wildin out rn. And not in a good way💀
She could also allow you court he just for the attention and gratification thereof
very true i have done that severally
I stop chasing God knows who se forme
There's so many men, trying to tell others how women are and how they think. Why??? Men are not qualified to do this.
We see some women don’t know the difference between pursuing and chasing . A man ain’t supposed to chase nothing but his purpose in life when he reaches that the right woman will be there
How about if u don’t do any of that but u regret once’s she move in
Women want to be pursued by a man because she's looking for trust. If he is chasing her he can't catch up to where she's at in her life.
If a man wants me, he must chase. I have the right to refuse him though.
No he doesn't have to. He just have to chase money/success and he will gain women as a by-product.
Besides, no woman is worth chasing especially modern woman.
So long as you don’t take them seriously wait an see where she is when it comes to YOU Then decide is she worth it😎
So why do men wants to be chase.
Relationship coaches are giving conflicting advice to men and women. Someone else commented on here about that also. So nobody is supposed to chase. No wonder everyone is confused.
Let it be that way nobody should chase anyone let it be mutual
I don't get the last part, can you elaborate on that?
Never give them the chance to 'turn that corner'.
Women are not wired to chase men, they give you signals and u chase. If a woman gives u signals and she knows ur spoken for that is a tell tale sign of a narcissist, run as far away as u can get
Nothing to do with wiring human beings do chase people its not a man's thing to chase rather its conditioned and taught that a woman must not chase a man
What was reason no.2?
I disagree as well. A virtuous woman just moves slower.
I feel like I was chasing this chick but I stopped giving her attention she blow me up all the time,FaceTime me N get mad when I tell her I’m going to call her back,tell her I talk to you later…etc like she get dead ass mad and she like you ain’t getting off the phone with me you going to sit on the phone with me..
You're on point.
Understand that attention is currency to a woman and they can’t ever have enough
I'm shy by nature and when I'm not interested I will tell a man.
Same goes for men
Not taking away from the vid but he said 2 reasons but ended it with reason 1. The rest is just explaining reason 1
Im over it at this point. I cant stand grown man or grown woman act childish. Its so annoying when person is assuming whatever and without communication or trying to talk to eachother and explain their feelings to one another they being closed off and play mind games… if an idiot nigga trying to be in relationship and wants me but dont talk to me bout anything and gets mad on every little thing without explaining himself and is keeping me stuck by making me guess what i do, why hes stressing the situation let me go or be that man who wants to elevate with me and lets do this journey called life together doing better things and doing fun things instead of always being angry and givin a cold shoulder foh fr im done with trying. Men need to understand! Confident and independent women arent suppose to be your mammy! We are here to support u mentally emotionally be beside you and keep each other as a team and play hard work hard, enjoy each other’s company! If you lucky enough to come across a woman whose not asking to bring full 100% to the table at least come w/60% !!! Im no longer being 50/50 chick it just simply don’t work. 9 times out of 10 you will end up disappointed, disrespected and 99.9% unappreciated or in competition with him. Im done. Just focusing on myself, growth, better myself and become the best version of me and THEN if that one man comes around and catches my attention he better bring 100% to the table because if man wanted to give me bard times in my self growth and elevation journey now when im fully healed grown and got my ish together i dont need to invite anyone into my life bellow my needs! As many times i lowered my standards for a man who doesnt drive car who dlesnt have a steady job/career and is trying or healing or is in any type of growing journey i ended up disappointed so kick rocks!!! Im over it