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This is exactly why I left Facebook & Twitter. Social media was turning me into something awful. I was always angry and confrontational. I’m so much healthier & happier now. Ten out of ten, highly recommend leaving.
Same here! Don't miss it at all! 4 years no social media accounts because I discovered it is a narcissist's playground. AI is evil too, but many think it's wonderful. So many people are hood-winked! Good video! Thank you!
Kudos for owning up to this. This is the same for me. It can bring out the demon in people, because they're 'at a distance' instead of face-to-face - and that perceived anonymity makes it easier for them to get away with it.
@@virginiahite9746 I tend to agree. Like all things, they have a 'good' side and an 'evil' side. Facebook has brought me valuable connections with people from around the world whom I might never otherwise have known about or met. But the downside often overshadows those good things. Like all social interactions, it can be hard to navigate. The social distance of it, though, makes it so much easier for people to be evil - prompting them to say things they would never say in a face-to-face interaction.
SAME HERE deleted both three years ago now. Working my way to deleting instagram. This makes me so happy that so many others see how exhausting and horrible social media can be
This reminds me of the Cherokee short story about the two wolves inside of us. One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between two "wolves" inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith." The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: "Which wolf wins?" The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."
I hate it when i catch myself saying bad stuff about another person. It’s negative and a reflection of my own internal feelings. It’s like a mirror that shines ugliness
I grew up with 2 parents who were always negative. I realize now how much of a angry, negative person my father is. He never says anything nice about anyone, while having the veil of the "Nice Guy" and a "Know it All." Everything to him needs to be commented on, and he needs to interject and tell everyone how much he knows about everything. I had become exactly like him/them and it's taking me time to change back into the person I REALLY AM.
@@AlvinKazu that’s pretty much similar to my upbringing. Constant criticism and everything I do is wrong. We were told we were morons and that they wanted to put us in foster care (Not my real mother). Turning us against out step brother and vice versa. He got brand new everything and steak and eggs for breakfast everyday while we were yelled at for eating too much cereal. Fighting all the time parents and then going to a rough school system left me feeling drained and
@@AlvinKazu that’s the hard part: trying not to be like them when everyone around you is so critical because the minute you make a mistake or act in a bad way you’re the villain and the crazy one. So being yourself is the best thing you can do and not reacting to negativity quickly will help a lot( pausing before each slight or passive remark etc)
@@Doodlefisher That's awful, I'm sorry to hear that... This is why I hate the idea of step-parents, because most of the time it seems the step-parent is only in it for themselves(money, lifestyle, etc), and doesn't care about the kids. Meanwhile the POS parent of the children care more about their spouse. Hearing that the spoiled step-brother got steak/eggs and you got complaints with cereal is ridiculous. It's like something you see out of a TV show or something, but it's sad that it happens in real life. I hope you are no contact with them all. Your father didn't seem to do good by you, or maybe he didn't even know? These fathers who are working all the time are oblivious to what goes on, but they don't even listen when we try to tel lthem, because they think we are lying or making up something.... It's sick. It also sounded like you had a sibling who you went through this with? If that is the case, I will say at least you weren't alone going through that... I could imagine if it was just you.... In my case, we were fed the same pretty much (My brother wouldn't eat normal dinners, so mom would constantly make him chicken nuggets....), but it's not like we had it really different... I will say there were a few times mom gave him a bunch of candy saying he deserved it for something, or that I got something(which i didn't) and he deserved to be rewarded.... That hurt when those times happened, especially since we were a no-snack family (I think I mentioned my story in the past comment, but I post so many comments). All the best to you, I hope you are healing and doing well!
One thing i notice is so many people are not genuine. I am always trying to learn and have conversations, but so many people just don't want to have a good faith conversation. People want to be right, to be heard, to control others, it sucks. It's so hard to find a genuine person who will actually listen to you without judging you, or trying to interject and "help" you by giving you unsolicited advice.
Facts. People stopped listening with their hearts. Or listening at all really. Probably why I feel a spark of hope when I read a comment like yours and realize I'm not alone!
So true. We are way more similar than different and I wish people remembered that even if they disliked each other. Almost everyone has some pain in them that will benefit from a kind word or just patient listening even if we don't have much else to give.
So true. I read a book a long time ago. The Lost Art of Listening or Listening The Forgotten Skill (may not be exact). Often we're thinking of a reply while the other person is still talking, or interrupt (symptom I had). Really listening is a skill that can be beneficial anywhere. Maybe alert you to catching red flags too.
Calumny encompasses the tort of defamation. Defamation is any spoken or written words that are used to harm a person's reputation. Written words used to harm a person's reputation is libel, and spoken words used to harm a person's reputation are slander. - Cornell Law School
I am going through this now. From family to people who don’t know me. One person who is using what is now known as flying monkeys to hurt my reputation. Feeling isolated is horrible, but I am stronger than they think. I need to reconnect with my faith in God.
Flying monkeys suck almost as much as the narcissist they defend. I began learning about NPD (& traits, whether clinical or not) abt 7 yrs ago due to a man who used all the manipulation tactics he could on me, and STILL DOES from a distance (without success, haha)! Best education I ever had to arm myself & recover from the hurt & confusion. Going NC/GR was the only solution, yet I still see soc media posts occasionally. They manipulate their online audience into thinking they're good & moral humans w/ a conscience. It's all about image bc they're so insecure (or evil) deep down. *Lmk if you'd like the YT channel recs. Good luck!
Many people do this because of deep self-hatred, jealousy, and etc. It’s all projection and deflection. Overall, people need to seriously check themselves/pause and think real hard to refrain from commenting.
This is my biggest fear in life because it happened to me so much as a child. My siblings spred lies at school, and my parents spred them in most social situations. I still have a hard time with seeing the truth about myself. Good or bad. It seems my world view is stained. It sucks.
Mine was like that too until I reprogrammed all the bad programming I received in my dysfunctional childhood and early adult years. Took years and cutting contact w family but I'm more content than ever. Hugs!
Honestly go back to your core where God says that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. And God says I knew you before you were formed in the womb. And in Jeremiah 29:11 For I Know the Plans that I Have For You Declares the Lord, Plans to Prosper you and NOT to harm you, Plans to give you Hope and a Future." Who does God say is the "father of All Lies"? Satan. Anyone who spreads lies is doing the devil's Business. Rebuke all those lies that have been spoken over you and your life in the Name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth... and cover and seal yourself and your health and your pet(s) and their health, home, car, work etc with the Blood of Jesus Christ of Nazareth. Now you are Safe. They may still try their tricks and lies, but watch what God does because He says Vengeance is Mine says the Lord. And in Ephesians 6 it says our fight is not against flesh and blood but its spiritual and that we Must put in the Whole Armour of God. Hope this gives you God's Peace and Comfort.
@farfaraway97 Children can be taught to not make up lies about others though, by the time they are teenagers, their brains should be mature enough to recognise the difference between fact and Fantasy.
Calumny and slander typically involve making false and defamatory statements that damage someone's reputation. However, I find that "weaponized truth"-truthful statements presented in a damaging way-can also be used with malicious intent to harm someone's reputation. In my own personal healing journey, I choose not to air out the dirty laundry between myself and those who have wronged me, despite the mistreatment I have endured and the temptation to do so. This decision isn't about shying away or covering up for the abuser, but is a silent testament to my rise above suffering. I move beyond the evil and harm others have inflicted upon me, by embracing the love, kindness, wisdom, patience and grace within all of our hearts. Thank you for sharing this short but powerful message Anna.
You are a very important person in this world, spreading healing, love and recovery from the evil in this world by articulating for those of us that have been hurt by these things. We often have no voice and yes engaging in defensive actions only perpetuates the evil...it's disheartening...you are a brilliant and loving soul...thank you for your spectacular work..
I love this! It is so easy to say nasty, evil things when you don't have to look the person in the eye that you're saying them to. There is enough negativity in the world. There is no excuse for adding to it.
Wow. Just wow, Anna. I have heard many "you can rise above evil" advice, but your delivery here is so incredibly accurate, moving, and tangible. I've been watching your content daily for months without commenting but this one was brief yet packed a healthy punch of reality. Blessings and many thanks for all the tireless things you do to serve others!
Wow wow wow. My husband is currently upset at me because I don't want him to badmouth someone to other people. The person broke our hearts and we would love to get even, but I told him it's bad karma to try to take someone else down. It always backfires. We need to move on and let it go 😢❤.
Telling your side of the story isn't necessarily bad-mouthing. You can state the facts as you see them and your feelings about those facts without passing judgement on that person's behaviour. And think of this: isn't it your "civil duty" to warn others in your community? Let me tell you what happened in my family. My aunt was ill and her son hired a nurse to take care of her. That nurse coaxed a large sum of money out of my aunt, but my aunt didn't tell anybody about that. Two years later my mother got Covid and needed nursing. My cousin recommended the same person! And this time she got all of my mother's savings! Would I have hired her if I knew about what she did to my aunt? No way. So if someone mistreated you in a way that can be gangerous to the community, please, warn the community about that person
That's different though, I guess your husband can vent and express his feelings if he truly has been wronged, making up false stories about someone is another kind of evil that she is talking about here.
i recognize "Evil" as someone who is in pain and unaware of it, and they are desperately trying to feel better, with total disregard of how it will effects others. Often their way of feeling better is by trying to gain a sense of power by hurting others.
Reading Saint James' epistle really drove this home for me. 😢 *"The tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so set among the members that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature... full of deadly poison... with it we curse men (and women) who are made in the image of God."* Words can sure be like bullets which can cause so much damage. ❤
This subject i have been grappling with presently. Aggressive comments, condescending comments. The school of life channel in particular has the most insane trolls. You comment something that youve thought about and before you know it someone attacks. Its absolutely bizarre. Ive deleted threads because of them. I feel the fight everytime but i walk away now. Its just too insane and damaging for me to tolerate. What a very important post youve made here. Thankyou 🙏
Its been easy for me not to feel attacked by strangers on the internet. They are people I dont know so their opinions mean zero to me. And that's the key... its only an opinion. Its not etched in stone.
I have so many things to be ashamed of. Im thankful that this is something that I dont do. Im genuine, and I cant help being this way. But stupidly, I expect others to be honest and open, but they're not. At least this is one decent thing I have to be happy about myself.
I don't use social media much for this reason especially around divisive politics etc. I used to think social was a place to express creativity and a safe space for introverts, but it feels a lot like facing high school cliques all over again. Jaron Lanier who writes so well about this in 10 arguments to quit social media, helped me make sense of the online environment and understanding its technological origin. His talks on youtube address the same with a lot of compassion.🌸
Evil is real! There is definitely good vs. evil! That said, I think what you are describing is Low Emotional Intelligence…and LEIs have minimal life success, so what you described is known as a false-complishment -- it feels like an accomplishment, but it is evil, sadistic, selfish. Lack of in-person contact/interaction and addiction to technology is the perfect breeding ground.
Anna, this is just too much. I was just making a coffee and thinking to myself how wrong it is many times to speak out an opinion, especially negative ones, just to make one's ego stronger and known to other people. Than I come online and find this latest vid. There is definitely a mental wave that weaves among certain people. 😉In terms of saying too much, I think of the Owl saying: 'A wise old owl sat in an oak, the more he saw, the less he spoke. The less he spoke, the more he heard. Now why aren't we all a little more like that wise, old bird?'
This has happened to me many times. I've learned not to care about the lies & half truths ppl say about me. I've had many flying Monkeys to talk about me. I feel important because my name is constantly mentioned. Wow! Who am I that I'm so popular. That's the way I feel about the Fly Monkeys!!!
As I heal from years of living with trauma I am learning to avoid those people you mention in this video. As my soul heals ( this channel has helped that process) I can recognise destructive souls much more clearly. Your work saves lives Anna ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨
Hate what is bad ,love what is good and as the scripture says " return evil for evil to no one" because if we return evil then you take it out of Gods hands to correct the situation . Dont forget that 'God' can work with a person to turn them around from their bad way 'if' they have a receptive heart . But if they dont then it is indeed a " fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God" because that person that continues in his/her evil way are actually fighting against the goodness of God 🤷♀️ ultimately they will lose . Carry on and work what is good at ALL times 😇
Whenever I get a really rude customer or co worker threaten to file a complaint against me even though I’ve done nothing wrong, I will sometimes politely respond to them by saying please don’t say anything about me that you would not want me repeating back to you IN COURT! Normally they would back off right away. They say stick and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me. That’s completely false, words can and do hurt. If you would not want your mom to read it, your 83 year old grandmother reading it or your 95 year old dear old aunt Agnes reading it, DO NOT PRINT IT OR PUBLISH IT. That’s all.
Oh my Anna.. I have had a woman spread lies about me in my small community because I dated her ex-husband… It is definitely a dark energy…. I figure that if anyone believes what she said about me…. That’s on them… I won’t take on that energy… I know my truth….and so do the people that really love me… Let’s all refuse to gossip…. Great video…. 💛💛💛
I was married to a Covert Narc. 22 1/2 years. Knowing something was dreadfully wrong, just not being able to put my finger on it, but I knew this was an animal of a different sort. Men who drank to much, players, womanizers. Those I were familiar with, but NPD’s?! Well, I got educated and divorced. Imagine my surprise when my daughter gradually turned against me and I finally realized going back and recalling situations, he worked on her for years behind my back. I said all that to say, now, my daughter believes in the one that is NPD and the things Anna talks about here is what she has done to me online. My granddaughter will be two this year and I’ve never got to even meet her bc her Momma’s daddy is an evil Azzhat and she wouldn’t believe me anyways, but I could never divulge to her what she doesn’t know. I refuse to get in that mud pit.
Thank you, Anna ♡ This often goes unnoticed or unstated. Evil needs to be avoided. I, too, can sense it in life & the dream state. Remaining neutral, calm, and focused on firmly leaving this dreaded influence is what I learned to do. I give it no power or authority over me & I leave.
Thank you, doc! I went through this in the last 5 years. It was distracting and draining to fight people wishful thinking about me, and I have come to realize that calumny is witchcraft as well. We should not underestimate the spiritual power lying at the heart of calumny. I combated that calumny through seeking within myself why I was allowing me to trouble my peace, and once I dealt with that, I was able to create some boundaries with those folks without necessarily resenting or hating them, and made myself available to people that spoke life into me and had the courage and honesty to speak truth to my face when bothered by a word or an action of mine. One thing is, you may want people to stop, but they may not be willing to stop with the calumny because they have an evil agenda. Also, they may not be willing to admit that they are doing it. So the best advice is to draw boundaries while maintaining a respectful attitude toward them.
I really wish we could learn to respect everyone for who they are. Not try to change them. Not try to restrict or limit them. Not trying to hate them, not trying to doubt them. The list goes on. Let’s just love one another for who they are. I know what it’s like to have hateful and evil things said to me. Especially when it comes to my blindness. I think the most annoying thing is people not believing me when I say that I’m completely blind. I’ve gotten really good at not getting the hater back by saying mean things back to them in hopes that it would hurt them just as much as they did me. I try to kill the heat with kindness. Believe me, it is annoying when people don’t really think I’m blind. But, I’ve learned that if I just killed the heat with love, I feel much better about myself. And I feel proud of myself for not taking it so personal.
When it's online, I advise the other person to not feed the troll. If it's in real life, I offer support in case that person can't defend themselves. When it's happened to me I used to get defensive. Nowadays I just leave and don't engage.
It reminds me of in Inside Out 2, how Riley’s sense of self is that she’s basically a good person. When we’re sucked into participating in evil on the internet, that can over time degrade our belief that we’re a good person. It can be so harmful not only to the cyber-victims, but to ourselves.
I have to admit I found the beginning of the video very triggering. Talking about seeing evil everywhere, even in puddles felt very unsettling and scary to me and sent me into an emotional flashback I am still trying to get out of.
Thank you for this. I really love that you validated the 'sense' of evil, for many years i talked myself into believing there wasn't a 'real' phenomena. Im not nearly as sensitive as you, but have had physical reactions sometimes to a bad vibe. I hear what your saying. I have a related problem in that some 'evil' person put me and my husband into some Stream where everything we say or do in the privacy of our home / car is broadcasted to multiple people who we don't know or see. So sometimes i get feedback online about something i said in the privacy of my own home. This is enug to drive a person insane. People expect me to be a stepford like person for their own benefit. Some peeps may think that im saying things publicly when i'm Not. I guess it's called gangstalking. But I'm a communicator & cant live muzzled in my own house 😢. I know you're correct bcuz ive had some very evil consequences from this & don't know how to free myself from this
I’m reminded of this quote. “So then what’s necessary…is a system, in which the good side is always winning, but never is the winner. Where the evil side is always losing, but never is a loser. That’s a very practical arrangement for a successful ongoing game which will keep everybody interested. And you must watch this in practical politics. Every “in-group” or group of “nice people”, needs an “out-group” of “nasty people” otherwise they wouldn’t know who they were! And you must recognize that this “out-group” is your necessary enemy who you need, he keeps you on your toes. But you mustn’t obliterate him; if you do, you are in a very dangerous state of affairs. So you have to love your enemies in a sense, regard them as highly necessary and to be respected chivalrously. We need the communists and they need us, the thing is to cool it and play what I call a contained conflict, when conflicts get out of hand, all sides blow up. So why should we love our enemies? Because we need them.” -Alan Watts
Keeping one's counsel is a wise thing. Gossip is vicious, I do try to stop it, and sometimes I just walk away and hope for the best for the other person. I survived the abuse and have gratitude for all things good, thank you Fairy, you have helped me enormously. May life be generous and full
The opening to this made me wince a little. My first thing thought was that I hope you're doing energetic shielding exercises. Yoir message about lying and bullying is on point, but seeing Capital-E Noun Evil in a puddle of water is a bit concerning. Certainly since massage school made me acutely aware of it 18 years ago, my goal has been to keep empathy alert only for the things that involved me - places I could maybe do good. It's very easy to burn out or start jumping at shadows, however, if puddles are the enemy.
I belong to several FB groups for “recreational” stuff, like certain hobbies or pet interests. Of course, I watch YT as well. I try very hard to only leave positive and supportive comments. I succeed most of the time, but i have to say that this video has made me more aware to always be mindful.
I believe this time we are in is clearly a battle between good and evil. (I use the definition of the Course in Miracles, Evil is when we forget our true nature to Love and behave out of fear). The line between good and evil is getting more entrenched and clear. I do fall into the trap of being snarky online towards the "other" and it is because I'm frankly terrified of what greater evil will be set free if my Presidential candidate does not win. Thank you for the reminder to reign my behavior in and stay in positivity and Love, imho in Love and truth is how we win.
I get this. It's why I avoided relationships for 2 years after my particularly ugly divorce. Well, for her. I saw and felt relief. But the evil done to me was a bit much to take. I accepted her grandson's need to move away from her out of fear. Now he is almost ready to leave to be on his own. He has some executive deficits, so I know he will need to know he will have a soft place to land if he messes up. But if he doesn't, wow! I will feel so much better about his prospects for a normal life after coming from parents who actively took meth while he was gestating and even after he was born. His coordination and dexterity suffered in his aloneness as an infant. Anyway, evil is a virus, a sickness, and it infects people. We become weakened by it and carry that weakness forward if we do not cleanse it to some profound degree prior to re-engaging intimately. There are needs to connect with people and those should be met, but respect for boundaries needs to be enforced with the self because that evil is infectious and should not be spread.
This is a really great description of mobbing, and how the thrill of harm can overtake someones common sense and decent good faith. I particularly notice it with the bigotry towards lgbtq people online, the frenzy of hysteria where a few people seem completely morally disconnected from any kind of accountability to say anything hurtful to lgbtq people, without thought towards honesty, basic human rights, or the dignity that they would treat any other family member. It appalls me, because its an issue that is clearly different country to country and community to community. The statistics are very clear world wide, the vast majority of people are kind and have common sense to let people live in peace, but there is a small, malicious, and deeply disturbed bunch who seem to have not trouble throwing any array of hurt, defamation, and thoughtlless cruelty towards innocent people. Its a fascinating study in how hysteria can be drummed up by bigots, and pool in a cess pit online and through social media algorthyms. Im sure in future it will be prosecuted as a human rights abuse, also to the social media companies who have refused to protect people from this kind of bullying harm, but until then, I wish people would reign themselves in, and have some common sense. People have the right to live in peace without persecution. A computer screen doesnt remove that right. Our conscience knows, even if people make excuses for themselves ❤
Schadenfreude. When someone takes pleasure in another person's misery. When bad things happen to good people - or anyone at all, Schadenfreudians love it. (@4:20)
I have been following this topic for some time (it's a part of my work and what I believe in personally) and your work for the last couple of years and consider it a blessing. This post was my favorite which is saying A LOT since you have so much great and well-meaning content. This resonates and impacts deeply. I have felt those things too and appreciate your courage and the awareness of saying so. Thanks again 💯🙏🏾💜
This sounds like magical thinking, analogous to the "soul ties" nonsense that I've heard you criticize. If that can't be real, neither can the intangible metaphysical notion of evil.
Thank you. It's an archaic and heavily religious "shortcut" word used to broad-brush a whole sum of complex factors that lead to things we deem bad. There are so many more accurate ways to describe a thing.
I am a Christian here. We do not fight against humans. For the bible talks about this fight is invisible. When someone comes against us, it is not the person that is doing the crime but an invisible enity, using that person as a host. Like someone driving a car. The car does not speed or does illegal things it is the driver. Everytime the attacker goes into attack mode, their body starts to change, in-person you might be able to see this happen in front of you, a person changing from one person into a completely difference person. Online you cannot see this, however it shows up in the writing. As someone who is spiritual and gets attacked everyday, it is quite intresting to see the morphing process. I made a comment to someone and another person started attacking me out of left field for a different topic completely. First I responded with some suggestion material for them to read and when that did not tame the beast, I had to take it one step further. I told them I don't want to argue with them and tried to end the subject. Of-course they did not want to drop it so I had to respond back. At this point the only way to drop the subject was to restate what just happened and explain their attack was for a topic we are not talking about right now. Basically bring back the converstation to the topic we were talking about before the attack. Of-course this is just 1 of many examples. As far as the enity driving the host, I want to address the host is still guilty. Even though the host is also a victim, it is still their beast. When you get a dog, it is the dog owner's full responsibility to control that dog 100 percent of the dog's time here on earth. If you don't, then it most likely be agressive and act out. Don't get an animal thinking, it can figure it's life out on it's own, the owner still has to train it and keep it in check. Judge judy talks about this all the time and with any animal. When the host does not see anything wrong with their actions then it is letting the invisibly enity control it's own life. So choose wisely who will control your life. If we don't let Jesus control our lives then evil sure will.
I agree that Evil does exist. Calumny ISN'T it, though what you're describing will harm you. Proper Evil is something else and way way worse. You can't be 'made' evil, though you can be influenced into doing bad or even evil actions. It's also not something you recover from either though you can break free of the influence. Good is subtle, yes, but I've yet to see it do much by way of 'winning' in terms of practical results.
This is why I left Facebook, at least here on UA-cam I'm just an anonymous few positive words, Facebook demanded my whole soul and laid it bare to be picked apart for whatever purpose. Facebook is a great cultivator of evil.
I remember one time in my life. This boy Shane was picking on this girl Nancy, because her last name sounded like a frog sound. He started saying it, and we all joined in, and I remember noticing how it was hurting her but how I felt safe in the group. How weak was I? I could have gone and sat by her and been on her side. I identify the weak tendency now. It's a root of evil. It's anti-human.
I don't actually care what people think about me unless they attack me. In any way, physical or internet bullying. I care only about what my family thinks about me. They can say anything they want behind my back. They don't even know me, otherwise they wouldn't say bullshit that nobody who does ever believe. I don't need these people and I'd like them to keep their distance.
I get it, if the made up stories don't affect you, and your family knows the truth, who cares right? But what if it happens in the workplace? In your relationships? Lies and false stories can have real harmful implications in people's lives, it's not right.
@@hiwall4883 Well, it's hard not to agree. I work at the remote workplace and nobody really knows me well. About relationships, yes. With people I don't know well there is the problem if they hear rumors. I would rather have good relationships with them, but I don't see any way to dodge rumors. So I just accepted their existance as inevitable. I don't know how to fix it.
@@hiwall4883 I face this problem with acquaintances. I'd like to be in a good relationship with them, but I doubt it will ever be possible. My workplace is remote, and I barely speak with people outside the work tasks, and my husband is not a problem. Of course, I'd be thrilled if people didn't act like that, but as this is seemingly inevitable, I don't see the other way than to ignore it.
@@hiwall4883 I'm not denying it sucks, just trying to live with the inevitable. It's not like I'm trying to say hey, let's all spread rumors. It can have terrible repercussions, I had a chance to experience it.
What about constantly making false & defamatory statements verbally to family? My m-in-law & children have done this to me X40 yrs. what makes them do that?
Have you confronted your family about these lies? Ask them if they really believe it, and if so, why? See what they say, then you can move on from there.
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This is exactly why I left Facebook & Twitter. Social media was turning me into something awful. I was always angry and confrontational. I’m so much healthier & happier now. Ten out of ten, highly recommend leaving.
Same here! Don't miss it at all! 4 years no social media accounts because I discovered it is a narcissist's playground. AI is evil too, but many think it's wonderful. So many people are hood-winked!
Good video! Thank you!
Kudos for owning up to this. This is the same for me. It can bring out the demon in people, because they're 'at a distance' instead of face-to-face - and that perceived anonymity makes it easier for them to get away with it.
@@virginiahite9746 I tend to agree. Like all things, they have a 'good' side and an 'evil' side. Facebook has brought me valuable connections with people from around the world whom I might never otherwise have known about or met. But the downside often overshadows those good things. Like all social interactions, it can be hard to navigate. The social distance of it, though, makes it so much easier for people to be evil - prompting them to say things they would never say in a face-to-face interaction.
SAME HERE deleted both three years ago now. Working my way to deleting instagram.
This makes me so happy that so many others see how exhausting and horrible social media can be
Some of the “news” on twitter is so distressing
Human cruelty to animals & other humans
To children!!
This reminds me of the Cherokee short story about the two wolves inside of us.
One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.
He said, "My son, the battle is between two "wolves" inside us all.
One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith."
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: "Which wolf wins?"
The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."
That's beautiful and a wonderful analogy.
This story echoed back for me while I listened, too! My mom gave it to me years ago and it’s next to my bed still. ❤
Excellent metaphor, but I do strongly suspect there are more than just one pair of wolves.
I hate it when i catch myself saying bad stuff about another person. It’s negative and a reflection of my own internal feelings. It’s like a mirror that shines ugliness
It is good when we can see it in ourselves instead of projecting it on others.
I grew up with 2 parents who were always negative. I realize now how much of a angry, negative person my father is. He never says anything nice about anyone, while having the veil of the "Nice Guy" and a "Know it All." Everything to him needs to be commented on, and he needs to interject and tell everyone how much he knows about everything.
I had become exactly like him/them and it's taking me time to change back into the person I REALLY AM.
@@AlvinKazu that’s pretty much similar to my upbringing. Constant criticism and everything I do is wrong. We were told we were morons and that they wanted to put us in foster care (Not my real mother). Turning us against out step brother and vice versa. He got brand new everything and steak and eggs for breakfast everyday while we were yelled at for eating too much cereal. Fighting all the time parents and then going to a rough school system left me feeling drained and
@@AlvinKazu that’s the hard part: trying not to be like them when everyone around you is so critical because the minute you make a mistake or act in a bad way you’re the villain and the crazy one. So being yourself is the best thing you can do and not reacting to negativity quickly will help a lot( pausing before each slight or passive remark etc)
@@Doodlefisher That's awful, I'm sorry to hear that... This is why I hate the idea of step-parents, because most of the time it seems the step-parent is only in it for themselves(money, lifestyle, etc), and doesn't care about the kids. Meanwhile the POS parent of the children care more about their spouse.
Hearing that the spoiled step-brother got steak/eggs and you got complaints with cereal is ridiculous. It's like something you see out of a TV show or something, but it's sad that it happens in real life.
I hope you are no contact with them all. Your father didn't seem to do good by you, or maybe he didn't even know? These fathers who are working all the time are oblivious to what goes on, but they don't even listen when we try to tel lthem, because they think we are lying or making up something....
It's sick.
It also sounded like you had a sibling who you went through this with? If that is the case, I will say at least you weren't alone going through that... I could imagine if it was just you.... In my case, we were fed the same pretty much (My brother wouldn't eat normal dinners, so mom would constantly make him chicken nuggets....), but it's not like we had it really different...
I will say there were a few times mom gave him a bunch of candy saying he deserved it for something, or that I got something(which i didn't) and he deserved to be rewarded.... That hurt when those times happened, especially since we were a no-snack family (I think I mentioned my story in the past comment, but I post so many comments).
All the best to you, I hope you are healing and doing well!
One thing i notice is so many people are not genuine. I am always trying to learn and have conversations, but so many people just don't want to have a good faith conversation. People want to be right, to be heard, to control others, it sucks.
It's so hard to find a genuine person who will actually listen to you without judging you, or trying to interject and "help" you by giving you unsolicited advice.
Very true it’s like they just wanna check a box to get back to whatever they were doing.
Facts. People stopped listening with their hearts. Or listening at all really. Probably why I feel a spark of hope when I read a comment like yours and realize I'm not alone!
So true. We are way more similar than different and I wish people remembered that even if they disliked each other. Almost everyone has some pain in them that will benefit from a kind word or just patient listening even if we don't have much else to give.
So true. I read a book a long time ago. The Lost Art of Listening or Listening The Forgotten Skill (may not be exact). Often we're thinking of a reply while the other person is still talking, or interrupt (symptom I had). Really listening is a skill that can be beneficial anywhere. Maybe alert you to catching red flags too.
Listen to your children. Something many of us NEVER got. I was physically punished for "talking back".
Out of all of your vids I have watched, this is the most important. Evil is very much alive and thriving in cyberspace.
And in person!
@@stacielivinthedream8510 You are right. Especially when they start typing
@richardferrara Yeah, there are so many internet trolls that talk nonsense and ask idiotic questions!
Calumny encompasses the tort of defamation. Defamation is any spoken or written words that are used to harm a person's reputation. Written words used to harm a person's reputation is libel, and spoken words used to harm a person's reputation are slander.
- Cornell Law School
I am totally with you. Evil is real, its greatest trick is making people believe it does not exist.
Humanity has been tricked. 😔
I have a coworker who does this every time I displease her. What hurts more is how everyone else believes it.
In my experience, lies are tolerated but truth is not in most circles. Sad.
It is so true that evil can spread into you if you are not careful. Thank you so much for that!
Yes,absolutely ❤
ALL religious systems include Right Speech as a cornerstone, for where our thoughts go, our words go, and where our words go, action follows. 🙏🕊️
I am going through this now. From family to people who don’t know me. One person who is using what is now known as flying monkeys to hurt my reputation. Feeling isolated is horrible, but I am stronger than they think. I need to reconnect with my faith in God.
Flying monkeys suck almost as much as the narcissist they defend. I began learning about NPD (& traits, whether clinical or not) abt 7 yrs ago due to a man who used all the manipulation tactics he could on me, and STILL DOES from a distance (without success, haha)! Best education I ever had to arm myself & recover from the hurt & confusion. Going NC/GR was the only solution, yet I still see soc media posts occasionally. They manipulate their online audience into thinking they're good & moral humans w/ a conscience. It's all about image bc they're so insecure (or evil) deep down. *Lmk if you'd like the YT channel recs. Good luck!
We're all sending you support :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I am so sorry that this is happening to you. You are not alone. Praying for you if you do not mind.
@@garylefevers I don’t mind at all, I need all the prayer that I can have to help me move onwards, from this nightmare. Thank you so much.
Calumny: one of the internet's business models.
I have experienced Evil first hand coming from a toxic family being the Scapegoat 😢. I AM DESiGNED TO HEAL 😢
What a crazy world we live in... Prayers that we learn to respect each other...
Beautifully written ❤
Many people do this because of deep self-hatred, jealousy, and etc. It’s all projection and deflection. Overall, people need to seriously check themselves/pause and think real hard to refrain from commenting.
I had some friends attempting to tell me “there is no right or wrong” I know better.
This is my biggest fear in life because it happened to me so much as a child. My siblings spred lies at school, and my parents spred them in most social situations. I still have a hard time with seeing the truth about myself. Good or bad. It seems my world view is stained. It sucks.
Mine was like that too until I reprogrammed all the bad programming I received in my dysfunctional childhood and early adult years. Took years and cutting contact w family but I'm more content than ever. Hugs!
ditto about school. teenagers can be so mean. hope you've healed a bit.🌻
Honestly go back to your core where God says that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. And God says I knew you before you were formed in the womb. And in Jeremiah 29:11 For I Know the Plans that I Have For You Declares the Lord, Plans to Prosper you and NOT to harm you, Plans to give you Hope and a Future."
Who does God say is the "father of All Lies"? Satan. Anyone who spreads lies is doing the devil's Business.
Rebuke all those lies that have been spoken over you and your life in the Name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth...
and cover and seal yourself and your health and your pet(s) and their health, home, car, work etc with the Blood of Jesus Christ of Nazareth. Now you are Safe.
They may still try their tricks and lies, but watch what God does because He says Vengeance is Mine says the Lord.
And in Ephesians 6 it says our fight is not against flesh and blood but its spiritual and that we Must put in the Whole Armour of God.
Hope this gives you God's Peace and Comfort.
@farfaraway97 Children can be taught to not make up lies about others though, by the time they are teenagers, their brains should be mature enough to recognise the difference between fact and Fantasy.
I’m beginning to see the bad stuff that happened to us is a lesson in letting go ..
Calumny and slander typically involve making false and defamatory statements that damage someone's reputation.
However, I find that "weaponized truth"-truthful statements presented in a damaging way-can also be used with malicious intent to harm someone's reputation.
In my own personal healing journey, I choose not to air out the dirty laundry between myself and those who have wronged me, despite the mistreatment I have endured and the temptation to do so.
This decision isn't about shying away or covering up for the abuser, but is a silent testament to my rise above suffering.
I move beyond the evil and harm others have inflicted upon me, by embracing the love, kindness, wisdom, patience and grace within all of our hearts.
Thank you for sharing this short but powerful message Anna.
You are a very important person in this world, spreading healing, love and recovery from the evil in this world by articulating for those of us that have been hurt by these things. We often have no voice and yes engaging in defensive actions only perpetuates the evil...it's disheartening...you are a brilliant and loving soul...thank you for your spectacular work..
I'll second that!
I love this! It is so easy to say nasty, evil things when you don't have to look the person in the eye that you're saying them to. There is enough negativity in the world. There is no excuse for adding to it.
Wow. Just wow, Anna. I have heard many "you can rise above evil" advice, but your delivery here is so incredibly accurate, moving, and tangible. I've been watching your content daily for months without commenting but this one was brief yet packed a healthy punch of reality. Blessings and many thanks for all the tireless things you do to serve others!
Thank you.
Wow wow wow. My husband is currently upset at me because I don't want him to badmouth someone to other people. The person broke our hearts and we would love to get even, but I told him it's bad karma to try to take someone else down. It always backfires. We need to move on and let it go 😢❤.
Telling your side of the story isn't necessarily bad-mouthing. You can state the facts as you see them and your feelings about those facts without passing judgement on that person's behaviour. And think of this: isn't it your "civil duty" to warn others in your community? Let me tell you what happened in my family. My aunt was ill and her son hired a nurse to take care of her. That nurse coaxed a large sum of money out of my aunt, but my aunt didn't tell anybody about that. Two years later my mother got Covid and needed nursing. My cousin recommended the same person! And this time she got all of my mother's savings! Would I have hired her if I knew about what she did to my aunt? No way. So if someone mistreated you in a way that can be gangerous to the community, please, warn the community about that person
That's different though, I guess your husband can vent and express his feelings if he truly has been wronged, making up false stories about someone is another kind of evil that she is talking about here.
i recognize "Evil" as someone who is in pain and unaware of it, and they are desperately trying to feel better, with total disregard of how it will effects others. Often their way of feeling better is by trying to gain a sense of power by hurting others.
Not a truer word was said!
Calumny - I havent heard that word for years. Dealing with this in the face-to-face form atm. Thanks ❤
Hugs!
We're all rooting for you :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Designed to heal ❤❤❤❤ I will remember this
Reading Saint James' epistle really drove this home for me. 😢
*"The tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so set among the members that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature... full of deadly poison... with it we curse men (and women) who are made in the image of God."*
Words can sure be like bullets which can cause so much damage. ❤
This subject i have been grappling with presently. Aggressive comments, condescending comments. The school of life channel in particular has the most insane trolls. You comment something that youve thought about and before you know it someone attacks. Its absolutely bizarre. Ive deleted threads because of them. I feel the fight everytime but i walk away now. Its just too insane and damaging for me to tolerate. What a very important post youve made here. Thankyou 🙏
You have expressed this so kindly.❤ Why do some seem to reval in hurting others❤ I still believe you can find love and joy ,when you look for it❤
Its been easy for me not to feel attacked by strangers on the internet. They are people I dont know so their opinions mean zero to me. And that's the key... its only an opinion. Its not etched in stone.
I remind myself that they're liable to be either a paid, disruptive troll OR an AI Bot which doesn't actually exist.
I have so many things to be ashamed of. Im thankful that this is something that I dont do. Im genuine, and I cant help being this way. But stupidly, I expect others to be honest and open, but they're not. At least this is one decent thing I have to be happy about myself.
I don't use social media much for this reason especially around divisive politics etc. I used to think social was a place to express creativity and a safe space for introverts, but it feels a lot like facing high school cliques all over again. Jaron Lanier who writes so well about this in 10 arguments to quit social media, helped me make sense of the online environment and understanding its technological origin. His talks on youtube address the same with a lot of compassion.🌸
Evil is real! There is definitely good vs. evil! That said, I think what you are describing is Low Emotional Intelligence…and LEIs have minimal life success, so what you described is known as a false-complishment -- it feels like an accomplishment, but it is evil, sadistic, selfish. Lack of in-person contact/interaction and addiction to technology is the perfect breeding ground.
yes ,ı agree with you.Evil exist .
Anna, this is just too much. I was just making a coffee and thinking to myself how wrong it is many times to speak out an opinion, especially negative ones, just to make one's ego stronger and known to other people. Than I come online and find this latest vid. There is definitely a mental wave that weaves among certain people. 😉In terms of saying too much, I think of the Owl saying:
'A wise old owl sat in an oak, the more he saw, the less he spoke. The less he spoke, the more he heard. Now why aren't we all a little more like that wise, old bird?'
This has happened to me many times. I've learned not to care about the lies & half truths ppl say about me. I've had many flying Monkeys to talk about me. I feel important because my name is constantly mentioned. Wow! Who am I that I'm so popular. That's the way I feel about the Fly Monkeys!!!
This was beautiful to hear. Thank you for sharing!
As I heal from years of living with trauma I am learning to avoid those people you mention in this video. As my soul heals ( this channel has helped that process) I can recognise destructive souls much more clearly. Your work saves lives Anna ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨
"Evil is a real thing". Right on. I just read the book "People of the Lie" by Scott Peck. Such an important read on evil. This is eerily timely.
I love this book and recommend it where I can. It’s eye-opening.
I'm sure you've noticed that the word evil, is the reverse of the word live
Let's choose to live! (and love).
Thank you so very much for bringing up this topic❤
Is it evil to be evil towards evil?
Then it is good to let evil work?
Hate what is bad ,love what is good and as the scripture says " return evil for evil to no one" because if we return evil then you take it out of Gods hands to correct the situation . Dont forget that 'God' can work with a person to turn them around from their bad way 'if' they have a receptive heart . But if they dont then it is indeed a " fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God" because that person that continues in his/her evil way are actually fighting against the goodness of God 🤷♀️ ultimately they will lose . Carry on and work what is good at ALL times 😇
Whenever I get a really rude customer or co worker threaten to file a complaint against me even though I’ve done nothing wrong, I will sometimes politely respond to them by saying please don’t say anything about me that you would not want me repeating back to you IN COURT! Normally they would back off right away. They say stick and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me. That’s completely false, words can and do hurt. If you would not want your mom to read it, your 83 year old grandmother reading it or your 95 year old dear old aunt Agnes reading it, DO NOT PRINT IT OR PUBLISH IT. That’s all.
Oh my Anna..
I have had a woman spread lies about me in my small community because I dated her ex-husband…
It is definitely a dark energy….
I figure that if anyone believes what she said about me….
That’s on them…
I won’t take on that energy…
I know my truth….and so do the people that really love me…
Let’s all refuse to gossip….
Great video….
💛💛💛
I was married to a Covert Narc. 22 1/2 years. Knowing something was dreadfully wrong, just not being able to put my finger on it, but I knew this was an animal of a different sort. Men who drank to much, players, womanizers. Those I were familiar with, but NPD’s?! Well, I got educated and divorced. Imagine my surprise when my daughter gradually turned against me and I finally realized going back and recalling situations, he worked on her for years behind my back. I said all that to say, now, my daughter believes in the one that is NPD and the things Anna talks about here is what she has done to me online. My granddaughter will be two this year and I’ve never got to even meet her bc her Momma’s daddy is an evil Azzhat and she wouldn’t believe me anyways, but I could never divulge to her what she doesn’t know. I refuse to get in that mud pit.
Thank you, Anna ♡ This often goes unnoticed or unstated. Evil needs to be avoided. I, too, can sense it in life & the dream state. Remaining neutral, calm, and focused on firmly leaving this dreaded influence is what I learned to do. I give it no power or authority over me & I leave.
Thank you, doc! I went through this in the last 5 years. It was distracting and draining to fight people wishful thinking about me, and I have come to realize that calumny is witchcraft as well. We should not underestimate the spiritual power lying at the heart of calumny. I combated that calumny through seeking within myself why I was allowing me to trouble my peace, and once I dealt with that, I was able to create some boundaries with those folks without necessarily resenting or hating them, and made myself available to people that spoke life into me and had the courage and honesty to speak truth to my face when bothered by a word or an action of mine. One thing is, you may want people to stop, but they may not be willing to stop with the calumny because they have an evil agenda. Also, they may not be willing to admit that they are doing it. So the best advice is to draw boundaries while maintaining a respectful attitude toward them.
Trolls are losers, your work is important and saves people lives. I believe in you and what you do.
Fiona Apple sang about this. “Evil is a relay sport…”
I really wish we could learn to respect everyone for who they are. Not try to change them. Not try to restrict or limit them. Not trying to hate them, not trying to doubt them. The list goes on. Let’s just love one another for who they are. I know what it’s like to have hateful and evil things said to me. Especially when it comes to my blindness. I think the most annoying thing is people not believing me when I say that I’m completely blind. I’ve gotten really good at not getting the hater back by saying mean things back to them in hopes that it would hurt them just as much as they did me. I try to kill the heat with kindness. Believe me, it is annoying when people don’t really think I’m blind. But, I’ve learned that if I just killed the heat with love, I feel much better about myself. And I feel proud of myself for not taking it so personal.
I've deleted all my social media
Thanks identifying evil deeds and calling them out, while also being level headed and addressing the cause with compassion and understanding.
How do you handle the evil when you see the attacks of others?
I’ve always taken note to Avoid those people, but learn from them how NOT to be
When it's online, I advise the other person to not feed the troll. If it's in real life, I offer support in case that person can't defend themselves.
When it's happened to me I used to get defensive. Nowadays I just leave and don't engage.
@@Lyrielonwind avoid trolls, offer support to those who are attacked makes a lot of sense. Thanks
There is a specific business that I have to deal with that I feel a sense of evil every time I have to go there. Do you ever sense anything like that?
yes .. trust Ur inner knowing
It reminds me of in Inside Out 2, how Riley’s sense of self is that she’s basically a good person. When we’re sucked into participating in evil on the internet, that can over time degrade our belief that we’re a good person. It can be so harmful not only to the cyber-victims, but to ourselves.
This is such an important video, especially nowadays. Thanks to social media, people are losing empathy. We are seeing each other as mere numbers.
I have to admit I found the beginning of the video very triggering. Talking about seeing evil everywhere, even in puddles felt very unsettling and scary to me and sent me into an emotional flashback I am still trying to get out of.
Thank you for this. I really love that you validated the 'sense' of evil, for many years i talked myself into believing there wasn't a 'real' phenomena. Im not nearly as sensitive as you, but have had physical reactions sometimes to a bad vibe. I hear what your saying. I have a related problem in that some 'evil' person put me and my husband into some Stream where everything we say or do in the privacy of our home / car is broadcasted to multiple people who we don't know or see. So sometimes i get feedback online about something i said in the privacy of my own home. This is enug to drive a person insane. People expect me to be a stepford like person for their own benefit. Some peeps may think that im saying things publicly when i'm Not. I guess it's called gangstalking. But I'm a communicator & cant live muzzled in my own house 😢. I know you're correct bcuz ive had some very evil consequences from this & don't know how to free myself from this
This is a short and very true message to each and every person! Thank you for sharing your wisdom and experiences. May you be blessed ❤
I’m reminded of this quote.
“So then what’s necessary…is a system, in which the good side is always winning, but never is the winner. Where the evil side is always losing, but never is a loser. That’s a very practical arrangement for a successful ongoing game which will keep everybody interested. And you must watch this in practical politics. Every “in-group” or group of “nice people”, needs an “out-group” of “nasty people” otherwise they wouldn’t know who they were! And you must recognize that this “out-group” is your necessary enemy who you need, he keeps you on your toes. But you mustn’t obliterate him; if you do, you are in a very dangerous state of affairs.
So you have to love your enemies in a sense, regard them as highly necessary and to be respected chivalrously. We need the communists and they need us, the thing is to cool it and play what I call a contained conflict, when conflicts get out of hand, all sides blow up. So why should we love our enemies? Because we need them.” -Alan Watts
Keeping one's counsel is a wise thing. Gossip is vicious, I do try to stop it, and sometimes I just walk away and hope for the best for the other person. I survived the abuse and have gratitude for all things good, thank you Fairy, you have helped me enormously. May life be generous and full
The opening to this made me wince a little. My first thing thought was that I hope you're doing energetic shielding exercises. Yoir message about lying and bullying is on point, but seeing Capital-E Noun Evil in a puddle of water is a bit concerning. Certainly since massage school made me acutely aware of it 18 years ago, my goal has been to keep empathy alert only for the things that involved me - places I could maybe do good. It's very easy to burn out or start jumping at shadows, however, if puddles are the enemy.
I belong to several FB groups for “recreational” stuff, like certain hobbies or pet interests. Of course, I watch YT as well. I try very hard to only leave positive and supportive comments. I succeed most of the time, but i have to say that this video has made me more aware to always be mindful.
Evil is one letter (D) short of the Devil 👿
You can rearrange Santa into Satan. What conclusion do you think we can draw from these two observations?
Thank you for calling this out. ❤️
Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment! -Calista@TeamFairy
Most hurtful comments ive received have been in this chat. So i go away for periods of time, and say nothing, just like as i did as a child.
I believe this time we are in is clearly a battle between good and evil. (I use the definition of the Course in Miracles, Evil is when we forget our true nature to Love and behave out of fear). The line between good and evil is getting more entrenched and clear.
I do fall into the trap of being snarky online towards the "other" and it is because I'm frankly terrified of what greater evil will be set free if my Presidential candidate does not win. Thank you for the reminder to reign my behavior in and stay in positivity and Love, imho in Love and truth is how we win.
I did not know about the word calumny, but have had it done to me. Will make sure I'm aware I don't do it. Thank you CCF
I get this. It's why I avoided relationships for 2 years after my particularly ugly divorce. Well, for her. I saw and felt relief. But the evil done to me was a bit much to take. I accepted her grandson's need to move away from her out of fear. Now he is almost ready to leave to be on his own. He has some executive deficits, so I know he will need to know he will have a soft place to land if he messes up. But if he doesn't, wow! I will feel so much better about his prospects for a normal life after coming from parents who actively took meth while he was gestating and even after he was born. His coordination and dexterity suffered in his aloneness as an infant. Anyway, evil is a virus, a sickness, and it infects people. We become weakened by it and carry that weakness forward if we do not cleanse it to some profound degree prior to re-engaging intimately. There are needs to connect with people and those should be met, but respect for boundaries needs to be enforced with the self because that evil is infectious and should not be spread.
This is a really great description of mobbing, and how the thrill of harm can overtake someones common sense and decent good faith.
I particularly notice it with the bigotry towards lgbtq people online, the frenzy of hysteria where a few people seem completely morally disconnected from any kind of accountability to say anything hurtful to lgbtq people, without thought towards honesty, basic human rights, or the dignity that they would treat any other family member.
It appalls me, because its an issue that is clearly different country to country and community to community. The statistics are very clear world wide, the vast majority of people are kind and have common sense to let people live in peace, but there is a small, malicious, and deeply disturbed bunch who seem to have not trouble throwing any array of hurt, defamation, and thoughtlless cruelty towards innocent people.
Its a fascinating study in how hysteria can be drummed up by bigots, and pool in a cess pit online and through social media algorthyms.
Im sure in future it will be prosecuted as a human rights abuse, also to the social media companies who have refused to protect people from this kind of bullying harm, but until then, I wish people would reign themselves in, and have some common sense.
People have the right to live in peace without persecution. A computer screen doesnt remove that right. Our conscience knows, even if people make excuses for themselves ❤
Schadenfreude. When someone takes pleasure in another person's misery. When bad things happen to good people - or anyone at all, Schadenfreudians love it. (@4:20)
What a powerful speech
I don't get it. Does this mean we shouldn't talk about our abusers?
Thank you for saying it its such and important reminder.
I have been following this topic for some time (it's a part of my work and what I believe in personally) and your work for the last couple of years and consider it a blessing. This post was my favorite which is saying A LOT since you have so much great and well-meaning content. This resonates and impacts deeply. I have felt those things too and appreciate your courage and the awareness of saying so. Thanks again 💯🙏🏾💜
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! Glad you are here!
Nika@TeamFairy
Beautifully said Anna. Thank you. With love ❤❤
Thank you!! Many people won’t like this but it is so true. Keep up the good work. ❤
Thank you !!!
I feel like evil has infected politics too
msm is an evil entity.
Politics has been evil for a long while now.
This sounds like magical thinking, analogous to the "soul ties" nonsense that I've heard you criticize. If that can't be real, neither can the intangible metaphysical notion of evil.
Thank you. It's an archaic and heavily religious "shortcut" word used to broad-brush a whole sum of complex factors that lead to things we deem bad. There are so many more accurate ways to describe a thing.
Wow, such a powerful message and very well said. Thanks for your empathy and wisdom.
Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
thanks! I'll keep going towards healing then... 😁
Dear not crappy fairy
Thank you for the warning
I will try to pay attention to that issue
I am a Christian here. We do not fight against humans. For the bible talks about this fight is invisible. When someone comes against us, it is not the person that is doing the crime but an invisible enity, using that person as a host. Like someone driving a car. The car does not speed or does illegal things it is the driver. Everytime the attacker goes into attack mode, their body starts to change, in-person you might be able to see this happen in front of you, a person changing from one person into a completely difference person. Online you cannot see this, however it shows up in the writing. As someone who is spiritual and gets attacked everyday, it is quite intresting to see the morphing process.
I made a comment to someone and another person started attacking me out of left field for a different topic completely. First I responded with some suggestion material for them to read and when that did not tame the beast, I had to take it one step further. I told them I don't want to argue with them and tried to end the subject. Of-course they did not want to drop it so I had to respond back. At this point the only way to drop the subject was to restate what just happened and explain their attack was for a topic we are not talking about right now. Basically bring back the converstation to the topic we were talking about before the attack. Of-course this is just 1 of many examples.
As far as the enity driving the host, I want to address the host is still guilty. Even though the host is also a victim, it is still their beast. When you get a dog, it is the dog owner's full responsibility to control that dog 100 percent of the dog's time here on earth. If you don't, then it most likely be agressive and act out. Don't get an animal thinking, it can figure it's life out on it's own, the owner still has to train it and keep it in check. Judge judy talks about this all the time and with any animal.
When the host does not see anything wrong with their actions then it is letting the invisibly enity control it's own life. So choose wisely who will control your life. If we don't let Jesus control our lives then evil sure will.
God bless you.
I agree that Evil does exist. Calumny ISN'T it, though what you're describing will harm you. Proper Evil is something else and way way worse. You can't be 'made' evil, though you can be influenced into doing bad or even evil actions. It's also not something you recover from either though you can break free of the influence. Good is subtle, yes, but I've yet to see it do much by way of 'winning' in terms of practical results.
Wonderful colour on you! And thank you~
evil, spelled backwards, is LIVE.
This is why I left Facebook, at least here on UA-cam I'm just an anonymous few positive words, Facebook demanded my whole soul and laid it bare to be picked apart for whatever purpose. Facebook is a great cultivator of evil.
I remember one time in my life. This boy Shane was picking on this girl Nancy, because her last name sounded like a frog sound. He started saying it, and we all joined in, and I remember noticing how it was hurting her but how I felt safe in the group. How weak was I? I could have gone and sat by her and been on her side. I identify the weak tendency now. It's a root of evil. It's anti-human.
Thanks! I needed that.
Like, what??? What you described isn't adult behaviour.
Thank you
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I don't actually care what people think about me unless they attack me. In any way, physical or internet bullying. I care only about what my family thinks about me. They can say anything they want behind my back. They don't even know me, otherwise they wouldn't say bullshit that nobody who does ever believe. I don't need these people and I'd like them to keep their distance.
I get it, if the made up stories don't affect you, and your family knows the truth, who cares right? But what if it happens in the workplace? In your relationships? Lies and false stories can have real harmful implications in people's lives, it's not right.
@@hiwall4883 Well, it's hard not to agree. I work at the remote workplace and nobody really knows me well. About relationships, yes. With people I don't know well there is the problem if they hear rumors. I would rather have good relationships with them, but I don't see any way to dodge rumors. So I just accepted their existance as inevitable. I don't know how to fix it.
@@hiwall4883 I face this problem with acquaintances. I'd like to be in a good relationship with them, but I doubt it will ever be possible. My workplace is remote, and I barely speak with people outside the work tasks, and my husband is not a problem. Of course, I'd be thrilled if people didn't act like that, but as this is seemingly inevitable, I don't see the other way than to ignore it.
@@hiwall4883 I'm not denying it sucks, just trying to live with the inevitable. It's not like I'm trying to say hey, let's all spread rumors. It can have terrible repercussions, I had a chance to experience it.
You're an angel, Anna 👼🏼✨️✨️🪶
What about constantly making false & defamatory statements verbally to family? My m-in-law & children have done this to me X40 yrs. what makes them do that?
Have you confronted your family about these lies? Ask them if they really believe it, and if so, why? See what they say, then you can move on from there.
I will never stop talking about the unnecessary harrassment, if people wanted me to be nicer they should have been kinder.
Perfect timing for this video to come out....
Hmmm.i felt it on one video,, surely! It can push you into acting unlike yourself and berating them back
A beautiful video, Anna! Thank you.
Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment! -Calista@TeamFairy
Just beautiful!
Well said!
Yes
You nailed it! ❤