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КОМЕНТАРІ • 274

  • @girly.mimi00
    @girly.mimi00 3 місяці тому +284

    This is accurate. I've been called uppity by family before. I'll admit I'm a little on the boujee side and embracing it more. Keep up the great content girl. 💅🏾💅🏾💕💕

    • @walkinmyshoes1254
      @walkinmyshoes1254 3 місяці тому +20

      Same here but I take it as a compliment 😊

    • @Shelby-s2w
      @Shelby-s2w 3 місяці тому +30

      I wish more women would be more bougie or at least have some class

    • @girly.mimi00
      @girly.mimi00 3 місяці тому +8

      @@liahlove8297 Thanks.

    • @YGabi333
      @YGabi333 3 місяці тому +21

      I love bougie!!😂 I am one myself!

    • @chilechi1846
      @chilechi1846 3 місяці тому +17

      We need more women with high standards.

  • @colleenmariet
    @colleenmariet 3 місяці тому +706

    I wish people became inspired instead of insecure

  • @dianeenaid7207
    @dianeenaid7207 3 місяці тому +599

    I recently lost 60 pounds…I had a cousin ask another cousin if I was sick…mind you I post gym selfies regularly….people will attack your strength

    • @Ontheupandup123
      @Ontheupandup123 3 місяці тому +43

      Wow congratulations! I’ve also been on my journey to be better and loose weight and my sister told me I was giving Y2K anorexia… Keep going!

    • @lucidasmr6413
      @lucidasmr6413 3 місяці тому +45

      60 pounds! No easy feat🎉 People see the success but don't understand the struggle and sacrifice.

    • @dianeenaid7207
      @dianeenaid7207 3 місяці тому +45

      @@Ontheupandup123 to ask if I’m sick is insulting. If I was sick I would be in my bed not the gym

    • @NoOne-wt3sv
      @NoOne-wt3sv 3 місяці тому +18

      Keep going sis ❤ you got this. Let them talk outta the side of their necks.

    • @lebogangsedumedi143
      @lebogangsedumedi143 3 місяці тому +16

      I lost weight my picture was distributed amongst family members and I was declared sick 💔

  • @islandgirl8067
    @islandgirl8067 3 місяці тому +625

    I was betrayed by close friends. It came as a shock because I had no idea they saw me as a threat. I’ve also been bullied by coworkers & female family members who were mad because I was moving up & trying to better myself. I don’t compete with other women, & never understood the need to do so.

  • @VerleanHurd
    @VerleanHurd 3 місяці тому +436

    You mad at me because you lazy.😂😂😂😂 I love this.

    • @JamaicaKim
      @JamaicaKim 3 місяці тому +10

      😂😂

    • @Kreezword913
      @Kreezword913 3 місяці тому +12

      She’s so right

    • @fulltimesuperstar1
      @fulltimesuperstar1 3 місяці тому +7

      RIGHT LIKE????

    • @alignedandobsessed
      @alignedandobsessed 3 місяці тому +3

      RIGHT!!

    • @massageistherapy
      @massageistherapy 9 днів тому

      I’ve often said this to myself but hearing it out loud is soooo reassuring to hear that others conclude the same, that jealous people are LAZY!!

  • @ForTheDivine_2000
    @ForTheDivine_2000 3 місяці тому +233

    The real gag is when moms are jealous of their own daughters.
    Its just weird in the world right now. Y'all stay safe

    • @religion-free
      @religion-free 3 місяці тому +15

      THANK YOU! mY MOM!!!
      people don't knooooow!!

    • @dollhouseq1530
      @dollhouseq1530 3 місяці тому +24

      I think black mom's have this BAD

    • @religion-free
      @religion-free 3 місяці тому

      @@dollhouseq1530
      well mY mom is not
      "black", yet she BAD
      & plus we have NO
      community support
      since we're not black
      and blacks are always
      saying they have it worst
      & jealous of our apparent
      " privilege " 🙄😒👎🏼

    • @Cwade14
      @Cwade14 3 місяці тому +17

      I can’t even think of being jealous of my little girl,i stay hyping her up everyday!!

    • @anikaelizabeth
      @anikaelizabeth 3 місяці тому +5

      @@dollhouseq1530I know right.!

  • @chebetwhitney67
    @chebetwhitney67 3 місяці тому +309

    She grew up sheltered and secure. I admire that.

  • @MissJessicaHairHaven
    @MissJessicaHairHaven 3 місяці тому +158

    Women being crappy to each other is a tale as old as time.. including the insecure behavior of a lot of men.

    • @massageistherapy
      @massageistherapy 9 днів тому

      Yesssss…and it so jolting and disappointing to see mothers engaged in this sort of rivalry with their daughters and/or secretly sabotage their daughters success 😞

  • @PrettyAndProsperous2
    @PrettyAndProsperous2 3 місяці тому +193

    I’ll never forget the mistreatment of other women and how they’ve outcasted me simply for being feminine. It’s so isolating and hurtful. I even buckled under the pressure and toned it down to avoid being treated that way. I lost myself and will never do it again.

    • @houda_2296
      @houda_2296 3 місяці тому +13

      Same, it was at a job I needed at that time, so I put up with it for more time than I wished, so glad that season is over and will never dim my light like that again, ever!

  • @AndreaPortley
    @AndreaPortley 3 місяці тому +98

    I enjoy being uppity! Secures my boundaries and only haters are triggered!!! 😂😂😂

  • @Exclusively_dkh
    @Exclusively_dkh 3 місяці тому +161

    I am so glad this popped up on my thread. I’ve cut off many hateful friends who were constantly trying to take advantage of me while downplaying my success, beauty and knowledge. I don’t share anything I have anymore and I only want to be in safe environments with like minds. Now I move in silence. Best decision Ive ever made.

  • @luvsupreme
    @luvsupreme 3 місяці тому +67

    Ladies, this message is the truth. In my life I've had women say things to me that started out,
    Nobody:
    Them: "I can't wear all that makeup" - "I don't have time to be in the hair salon all day" - "I can't walk around in heels, I need to be comfortable" - "Girl you stay shopping, I just wear what's in my closet"
    Me (Thinking): I didn't ask you nor did I suggest you do anything I'm doing, but thanks for the compliment that you actually didn't give.
    I'm 59 and will never stop having self- compassion, self-care, and self-love. I own my looks, my style, and my femininity. ❤ You should too.
    Stay focused on the inside and how you show up. What they say on the outside isn't any of your business. 💅🏾

  • @dianacastor
    @dianacastor 3 місяці тому +51

    _The desire for social power will always divide women as women are comparative and competitive when it comes to the male gaze and are even more aggressive when it comes to acquire men's resources._ *Never forget it. Never.*

  • @jasmynelliott
    @jasmynelliott 3 місяці тому +99

    An interesting thing happened to me a couple of years ago: I became less available. I’ve had to say “no” more often so I’m no longer the one showing up early to set up for parties or do favors. Wouldn’t you know that as soon as my labor was no longer readily available, many of my “friends” have been MIA?

    • @rekanova3757
      @rekanova3757 3 місяці тому +9

      That's a blessing love! ❤

  • @sammybee1493
    @sammybee1493 3 місяці тому +185

    I have a few women I know who have children and marriage who go out of their way to monitor me and attempt to ruin my reputation and presence.

    • @ChildfreeLT
      @ChildfreeLT 3 місяці тому

      Block them

    • @someonespecial581
      @someonespecial581 3 місяці тому

      Those women probably lack beauty and youth

    • @islandgirl8067
      @islandgirl8067 3 місяці тому +54

      They’re obviously unhappy in their marriages.

    • @VerleanHurd
      @VerleanHurd 3 місяці тому +39

      ​@@islandgirl8067Not necessarily, they could be unhappy with themselves.

    • @humilis42
      @humilis42 3 місяці тому +30

      Wow this was deep. I will leave people where they are and eventually they recognize that I’m gone. People who mean you harm don’t deserve an explanation at all. When I run into them again I’m always cordial but brief with them. They will never get access to me again and it’s okay. People come and people go. The ones who stay were meant to be there.

  • @simplydivine77
    @simplydivine77 3 місяці тому +29

    There are women that have those milestones and are still envious of others. My older sister is one of them. It’s wild. The envy and jealousy is even within people that have the house, husband, career, children and still don’t want the object of their envy to have their life. Spiritual sickness

    • @massageistherapy
      @massageistherapy 9 днів тому

      Wow, great point! Thanks for highlighting that!

  • @HarrietWanjau
    @HarrietWanjau 3 місяці тому +227

    And the community's literal representative of this trope is Beyonce. The community loves praising her against other people yet love nothing more than tearing her down over every little thing she does. They went as far as criticizing her child's hair yet she stays silent and consistent in her work and it irks them that she pays everyone dust. Her priorities are her career and her family then minds her business. Yet for over 20 years people have felt like she owes them something it's sick.

    • @justsarah3812
      @justsarah3812 3 місяці тому +18

      THANK YOUUU

    • @HarrietWanjau
      @HarrietWanjau 3 місяці тому +27

      @@canesugar911 no Beyonce is Beyonce because she puts in the work and is recognized by every demographic of people. This entitlement is what I'm talking about. She doesn't owe y'all anything. She's worked hard for everything she has.

    • @HarrietWanjau
      @HarrietWanjau 3 місяці тому +8

      @@canesugar911 and in any case that still doesn't excuse all the vitriol towards her. She never forced anyone to listen to her music or buy anything from her. You sound like those kpop stans who think they own idols just because they stream their music

    • @HarrietWanjau
      @HarrietWanjau 3 місяці тому +9

      @@canesugar911 I get about having a core fanbase but the difference between them is Swifties genuinely love and adore Taylor and don't tear her apart meanwhile Beyonce's fanbase has a love/hate relationship with her. They love her for her accomplishments and bragging rights yet criticize her for every little thing and yet wonder why she doesn't engage with them. I'd also be cautious of people who picked on my child. A literal baby as soon as she was born. That was vile on so many levels. And creating conspiracy theories every chance they get. You don't see that with Swifties. That's the problem

    • @HarrietWanjau
      @HarrietWanjau 3 місяці тому +4

      @@canesugar911 uh huh people insulting her baby, calling her a devil worshiper for years and now making memes about her saying she unalives people for not thanking are all in our heads 😂😂😂😂. Foh

  • @Lot_us09
    @Lot_us09 3 місяці тому +92

    Stubborness is a downfall. I had a friend give me "advice" that almost cost me my marriage. Will never take such "advice" this woman told me to my face "im jealous of you and what you have going on here" i decided to give this frenemy another chance. They have a monitoring spirit im keeping away.

    • @SS-cu8se
      @SS-cu8se 3 місяці тому +21

      I feel like a lot of women subconsciously want other women to be as unhappy as them. That’s why you see a lot of the “drop him! Could never be me!” comments online when it comes to relationships, completely ignoring the reality that relationships are not perfect and there are high/low moments. But I have realized a lot of ppl in today’s day and age is heavily influenced by online discourse, but the problem is, not everything online translates well in real life. I feel like that’s one of the reasons why there is a dating/relationship/loneliness epidemic.

  • @brooklynfan3544
    @brooklynfan3544 3 місяці тому +199

    The more I'm online and see nasty comments, also thinking about real life, I actually find that not only do I avoid hateful men who are growing more and more dangerous, but find most women including so called friends DON'T wish you well and want to see you fail, are petty, jealous and just mean and can't mind their own business. Everyone is exhausting. I just wanna stay indoors and am okay with not having friends, but rather well distanced aquintances. 😅

  • @dragonslayer616
    @dragonslayer616 3 місяці тому +44

    My biggest haters are indeed the women in my family. Never understood it, and it broke my heart. My godmother said they all saw the potential in me to blossom. I see it as clear as day now. I've never been jealous of anyone, so i had to distance myself. This video put a lot into perspective. ❤❤❤

    • @moni5620
      @moni5620 3 місяці тому +2

      You will eventually feel the same way they do.
      The older you get the more you feel robbed of time and opportunity, It's human nature sorry.

    • @janschild
      @janschild Місяць тому +1

      @@moni5620. Not true. That is a spirit of insecurity and jealousy; it has nothing to do with age.

  • @selinakyle2368
    @selinakyle2368 3 місяці тому +105

    I work with one of these insecure women. She is the boss’s wife and she always has it in for me. She’s insecure about her looks and does everything she can to make me look incompetent to her husband. It’s been a nightmare working with them ever since they got married.

    • @VerleanHurd
      @VerleanHurd 3 місяці тому +42

      She think that will make you look less attractive in his eyes.

    • @mercedesharrison5550
      @mercedesharrison5550 3 місяці тому +50

      Be careful and make sure you leave a footprint everywhere. People like that tend to create a scenario where you can be blamed for something once they see you’re not going to fail or mess up.

    • @selinakyle2368
      @selinakyle2368 3 місяці тому +20

      @@mercedesharrison5550 oh I know. I’m making my way out of this company.

    • @lovergirl________
      @lovergirl________ 3 місяці тому

      Have u tried looking for another job🙇🏽‍♀️🤍I can imagine how exhausting that must be💔.

    • @selinakyle2368
      @selinakyle2368 3 місяці тому +14

      @@VerleanHurd I agree. But you know what there is nothing physical attractive nor intellectual attractive about him. She started out as his assistant while he was still married to his first wife ( and he has 2 children with his first wife) and then they started dating and eventually they got married.

  • @AyaEgbuho
    @AyaEgbuho 3 місяці тому +66

    This is also true in spiritual settings like church/mosque/temple. It is heinous!!! The jealousy spirit is alive and well among women. As a feminine woman, inside and out, I have no lady friends at church. They act like I don't exist. Yet all the masculine men in church show me so much appreciation. I wonder why? 😂 And honestly it's not even sexual, no one has ever asked me out. But they treat me like a princess. I was shocked and saddened by this dynamic initially. Now, I truly embrace my level up and have learned to enjoy my own company. Excellent reminder video Chloe! You blessed me so much! Tsunami blessings to you and yours. 🥰

    • @earthtogoddess159
      @earthtogoddess159 3 місяці тому +7

      This is my same exact experience, it's so lonely. However, I'm not going to lower my standards to be surrounded by trash!

  • @stilljocelyn_
    @stilljocelyn_ 3 місяці тому +75

    13:49 THIS!! My first real job out of college the way them women would bully me was horrendous.

  • @ShekaGolden
    @ShekaGolden 3 місяці тому +43

    Chloe PLEASE 😂😂😂 The Boogawolf 🤣🤣🤣

  • @memedicine1
    @memedicine1 3 місяці тому +29

    Over the past two years I took year advice and re-emerged into society....I'm a much thinner and softer version of myself and now all the "feminine" women who used to be nice to now give me the CRAZIEST looks, recently over the past month. Imma keep showing up and makin em maddddddd LOL cuz I know I've done your work Chloe. Insecure women become so psychotic that they don't even realize sometimes...it's like they become possessed. On the flip said all the men in my social circles are MUCH nicer to me than before and they do more nice things for me big and small.

  • @oshun2866
    @oshun2866 3 місяці тому +25

    Insecurity, envy and jealously are markers of a person accepting defeat that they can never be as good. It is so sad. We all have potential to be great in some way. We all have gifts. Hating on another indicates you don't know you are worthy.

  • @RebekahReflections
    @RebekahReflections 3 місяці тому +39

    It's the actual Booga Wolf picture for me 😅😅😂😂. Chloe you had me in tears at work! 🤣🤣.

  • @ClaireHaire
    @ClaireHaire 3 місяці тому +95

    *Honestly, this video needs to be publicized. The explanation for why so many women choose motherhood because, it's "easier" to attain than wifedom, it makes sense. It's all about societal power, I've seen careers made overnight due to pregnancy.*

  • @Raising_jennifer
    @Raising_jennifer 3 місяці тому +46

    As an average to below average black woman, who is a loner. I know I don’t have social power. I grew up in foster care, traumatic childhood, and built everything I have. I did not become a product of my environment. I like what I see when I look in the mirror. I want the man that is for me.
    When I see the women that are beautiful, although I believe natural hair, dark skin big facial features like mine are more beautiful. That’s me, but I know that is not how the world works. If I’m around women who fit the beauty standard, I don’t feel small or the need to put them down. I tell them how beautiful they are, although they get it a lot. I see it often and the insecure women who perpetuate this nasty behavior are horrible. They don’t understand they are showing their nasty soul.

    • @Peacebewithu34
      @Peacebewithu34 3 місяці тому +16

      Girl, if that's you on the pic, then you're gorgeous 🥰

    • @Thesilentvoice...
      @Thesilentvoice... 3 місяці тому +3

      @@Peacebewithu34ditto you are beautiful

    • @tamarawilliams1197
      @tamarawilliams1197 3 місяці тому +16

      If you have genuine confidence...that is a form of social power

    • @candyme8980
      @candyme8980 3 місяці тому +1

  • @_healyaself
    @_healyaself 3 місяці тому +70

    You are out here doing the lords work 🙌🏾

  • @chilechi1846
    @chilechi1846 3 місяці тому +20

    You can have insecurities and still wish others well, appreciate their style, intellect, beauty and positive character traits.

    • @themillenialwordsmith8022
      @themillenialwordsmith8022 3 місяці тому +4

      It’s more about self-esteem. Low self esteem will activate envy and bad behavior

  • @711PARNAERUE
    @711PARNAERUE 3 місяці тому +35

    This!! When I started my journey, the one closest to me would mimic everything I did & constantly attacked me every chance she got. It started to feel like I was in a competition to be me 😵‍💫

  • @prestigeschool09
    @prestigeschool09 3 місяці тому +43

    I experienced jealousy a lot but this year for the first year I actually experienced sabotage and reputation destruction. The sad part? It came from a 55 year old woman I wanted to mentor me because she’s successful, married, and popular in my area. A woman will have these social powers and still try to sabotage other, especially young, women.

  • @humilis42
    @humilis42 3 місяці тому +34

    Wow this was deep. I will leave people where they are and eventually they recognize that I’m gone. People who mean you harm don’t deserve an explanation at all. When I run into them again I’m always cordial but brief. They will never get access to me again like they had it and it’s okay. People come and people go. The ones who stay were meant to be there.

  • @marieporter6631
    @marieporter6631 3 місяці тому +28

    "How can I change my behaviors so that I can receive"...this part

  • @gorgeousprincess332
    @gorgeousprincess332 3 місяці тому +26

    I've given up on sisterhood.

    • @azureavocado5195
      @azureavocado5195 3 місяці тому +1

      If sisterhood were real, why do women keep birthing and raising destroyers of other women😂

  • @wanzagithitho
    @wanzagithitho 3 місяці тому +37

    This has come at the perfect time. Where I am at right now, I am dealing with the reality of being a threat in most places and it has been quite uncomfortable for me to deal with women who are threatened by me.
    I recently got a part-time job as a delivery person taking goods to a certain organization every weekday, and the lady that I report to (let's call her Adani) seems to be threatened by me. I have had confirmations through her demeanors towards me compared to how she handles the lady that I work for (who also happens to be my big sister). Adani is literally short and round and has a moustache, and I am modelesque and pretty, and my sister agrees that Adani is insecure about her body hence her demeanor towards me. It has been hard dealing with her because it is super uncomfortable, and in as much as I would love to stand up for myself against her classist, insecure and racially-motivated (she's of Indian decent) demeanors, I cannot risk my sister's job (and by extension, my own). I am now letting myself develop a backbone because this isn't my first time experiencing this - I experienced a similar experience during my mandatory attachment for my coursework last year, and my current dentist also gives off this kind of energy. I also realized that I was a target when younger because I am pretty, and I had no idea. It's tiring.
    I have been watching Chloe_ for two years now, and I am aware of what is happening and why. I look forward to the day where being attacked for being a threat will leave me unfazed. I try to not let the women who find me threatening see me sweat or look sad because of that. In fact, I ensure that I look extra pretty to make Adani choke if that's what she wants to do.
    Lastly, I relate to and like Tyla more than I used to after I realized that both of us were being attacked for being threats. It might be hard but on second thought, I love being the full package and I understand that this is the price that I have to pay.
    Thanks for talking about this, Chloe_❤. You've been of great help to me and I appreciate you.

  • @humilis42
    @humilis42 2 місяці тому +14

    Yet some say “if she doesn’t have friends, something is wrong with her” oh the ignorance…….

  • @nikkinanette8807
    @nikkinanette8807 3 місяці тому +30

    Yes, they are nastier even if they are married and is well cared for by their husbands. One as such was so jealous after her mother gave me a compliment proceeded to create a lie to make me look bad. I feel sorry for her.

  • @TBTMovies96
    @TBTMovies96 3 місяці тому +34

    I rebuke all super saiyan stalker demons in Jesus Holy name!😂😂❤❤❤❤

  • @somebih7008
    @somebih7008 3 місяці тому +12

    Hey Chloe been watching you for a few years now, and you never miss.

  • @osunyeye
    @osunyeye 3 місяці тому +33

    People like being depressed too much. They just need to realize that they don't value beauty, but feel that they should.

  • @lioness8456
    @lioness8456 3 місяці тому +151

    Baby that jealous Boogawolf is sending me hunny! 👻 It's hilarious because them demons look just like that in real life. Smh self love is necessary. 💯

    • @WeGoJaiye
      @WeGoJaiye 3 місяці тому +8

      Lmaooooooo😂😂😂😂😂 I am crying

    • @misswarren1515
      @misswarren1515 3 місяці тому +2

      same 😂😂😂

    • @ProvocativeWives
      @ProvocativeWives 3 місяці тому +3

      I just wrote about this 😮

    • @Shelby-s2w
      @Shelby-s2w 3 місяці тому +6

      Omg I haven't heard that term used since I was a kid. But it was only used by my aunties when referring to an ugly or trifling man. I need to add it back to my vocabulary 😂😂😂

    • @massageistherapy
      @massageistherapy 9 днів тому

      Well I got thrown for a loop with that word…very first time in my 55 years on this planet hearing it. WHATT?😆

  • @RedRoses1515
    @RedRoses1515 3 місяці тому +7

    I experienced so many things as a pretty, emotional intelligent woman. Because of my intelligence I have always been able to recognise my own emotions and what is projected on to me. My childhood friends, colleagues and even some female family members have betrayed me and tried to sabotage me with various tactics. I don’t even want friends anymore. I keep things very private and professional.

  • @Lore788
    @Lore788 3 місяці тому +3

    Yes I been there. There’s no amount of niceness or helping them will prevent the attack. Disconnecting from the envy and the toxicity works. Thanks, for the confirmation and reminder!🙏❤️👏

  • @reinaafricana6423
    @reinaafricana6423 3 місяці тому +9

    I have always been attacked for my intelligence and honesty. I’m so happy I got away from a “fake nice” friend. I ran into her and her husband. I’m happy that they’re doing well. I can’t be friends with someone that was friends with my enemy.

  • @eyebloom__
    @eyebloom__ 3 місяці тому +28

    I love that nun of her songs are about having a wet 🐱or dogging a man out or using him for money , it’s just pure vibes and confidence

  • @Thesilentvoice...
    @Thesilentvoice... 3 місяці тому +25

    I thought black women wanted a example like Tyla? She isn’t black but in America they see her as that so my comment is towards them. She’s a small petite girl with confidence and class, and not the same stereotype of the bbl, ghetto, stripper exterior. Sexy red got a lot of hate for having the stripper ghetto brand, but now people hate Tyla for being confident, classy and sassy?
    Then what can win? Because we complain black women and girls aren’t a monolith. But once you see someone who isn’t the norm or a little different there’s problems.

  • @adayinthelight7575
    @adayinthelight7575 3 місяці тому +4

    Thank you for this Chloe. I am a soon to be 46 year old woman wondering why I have friends who have distanced themselves. It may be because they are jealous. Thank you! I am a late bloomer but I married at 40 have a child at 44 and you are right. It’s social currency. I am treated differently by even my inlaws. Before I had a child no one wanted to visit us. Now things are different though I resent it because what if I could have never had a child? I just have taken notes.

    • @CeeP211
      @CeeP211 Місяць тому +2

      Or could be changes in your behavior. I think it's essential that we do our self-reflection as well. And I say this with love on this positive platform from one woman to another.
      I have a friend who recently married and had a baby. She believes that our friend group distanced ourselves because we are jealous, when, to be honest, while we desire marriage, we DO NOT aspire to her marriage. For reasons I won't share. It's how she throws marriage in our faces all the time and never asks about us; everything is about her. That's the issue. This may not be your situation. I just wanted to share from the other side. Everything is not about jealousy.

  • @aracystic28
    @aracystic28 3 місяці тому +22

    Thank you for making this content, lovely. It has definitely helped me and many more restructure our thinking. Many appreciations. ✨💕

  • @Beautywithin2206
    @Beautywithin2206 3 місяці тому +4

    I kid you not, my spirit kept telling me to watch a Chloe video and you dropped one right when I needed it. Thank you because today I experienced this today and felt confused but two bugger woofs (lol) tried me in class today and I didn’t have to say a word when three other women came to my defense, as well as the TA. It left them flabbergasted. But I was so confused but now I see that they felt threatened. Thank you and can’t wait to join the new feminine.

  • @KeenyaTheStylist
    @KeenyaTheStylist 3 місяці тому +69

    They better not be messing with my Tyla! 💅🏽

    • @rtoriq
      @rtoriq 3 місяці тому +22

      I was JUST gonna make a comment that I STILL don’t know why everyone is mad at Tyla! 🤷🏾‍♀️ And I don’t even follow pop culture that closely. Jealousy is mental illness.

    • @girly.mimi00
      @girly.mimi00 3 місяці тому +16

      Facts. TYLA WILL THRIVE AND I'M HERE FOR IT !!!! 💅🏾💅🏾💕💕

    • @EmpressAcended
      @EmpressAcended 3 місяці тому +4

      @@KeenyaTheStylist IKR?! 🥰

    • @Shay-rx4xu
      @Shay-rx4xu 3 місяці тому +9

      They just want to hate her so bad she is talented period

    • @KeenyaTheStylist
      @KeenyaTheStylist 3 місяці тому +7

      @@EmpressAcended she’s so cute, smart, and wise/strategic! 💅🏽

  • @chameleonblackwomanproduct9167
    @chameleonblackwomanproduct9167 3 місяці тому +5

    Thank you for this video, Chloe! Keep being feminine , ladies!

  • @louisa6008
    @louisa6008 3 місяці тому +8

    Love your channel and always insightful every time

  • @mychannelafc
    @mychannelafc 3 місяці тому +5

    Hey Miss Chloe, I'm new here and I am LIVING for these female friendship videos! I'm leveling up thanks to your videos and need my girls! Thanks for teaching us how to vet them, discern them, and gain sisterhood. :) sending you love ❤

  • @moniquew3603
    @moniquew3603 3 місяці тому +3

    This video is amazing. I wish I heard this information as a teen. I dealt with so much insecurities, due to people (especially family) feeling like I was "uppity."

  • @Lafilledlapluie
    @Lafilledlapluie 2 місяці тому +4

    Nara Smith has all 4 Pretty, young, mother and married.
    And I noticed women online hate married women with a passion

  • @WeGoJaiye
    @WeGoJaiye 3 місяці тому +60

    I always wondered why sweetie and Tyla got so much hate online.... even tho they are very unproblemtaic in nature..... and it'susually from unattractive or insecure women.... women who have not accepted their own value and power..... it's sad

    • @Anetekonjo
      @Anetekonjo 2 місяці тому +1

      I noticed that too, she is such a sweetie and beautiful. Social media reminds me of high school.

  • @AndthefuturelookedBlack-hq7hy
    @AndthefuturelookedBlack-hq7hy 2 місяці тому +2

    17:58- EVER!! NEVER!! And, PERIOOOOOOODDDDD!!💯💯💯👍🏻

  • @Thecutest_Giraffe
    @Thecutest_Giraffe 3 місяці тому +66

    I dont find this topic funny at all, its actually quite sad and depressing for me. Personally, I've become an involuntary recluse due to this jealousy and hatred. Things start out well, be it at work, with friends or church members. Initially, everyone admires your beauty, vitality, and kindness, and somehow, a sinister disdain comes out of nowhere. I've learned to recognize the signs. Once the envy shows up, I cross the street.

    • @AyaEgbuho
      @AyaEgbuho 3 місяці тому +1

      I am curious ...what sogns specifically di you notice of the change? You are so right ..people switch up out the blue!

    • @lf3554
      @lf3554 3 місяці тому +8

      That's the one! Rather disheartening. I Also start having a Stoic, upity air about you and just deall with people on a surface level till you find your tribe

    • @lf3554
      @lf3554 3 місяці тому +17

      ​@@AyaEgbuhoyou can usually feel the energy shift be it an eyeroll and or snide comments on and passive aggressive behaviour

    • @Kuweenz
      @Kuweenz 3 місяці тому +2

      @@lf3554 I’m learning more about stoicism. Love your advice ❤

    • @lf3554
      @lf3554 3 місяці тому +1

      @@Kuweenz welcome!

  • @blancheb3533
    @blancheb3533 3 місяці тому +14

    It actually pains me to see another woman getting impregnated and taken advantage of by dusty baby daddies.

    • @Ptah1130
      @Ptah1130 3 місяці тому

      Nah, those women like those types

    • @niratomas579
      @niratomas579 2 місяці тому +1

      THIS. I have left friends for partnering and getting impregnated by dusties! They may think I’m jealous of their situation while I actually pity what they’ve become.

  • @erins1599
    @erins1599 3 місяці тому +2

    Thank you! I wish I would have heard this on Monday before I got into it with a hater 😆

  • @indymg4456
    @indymg4456 5 днів тому +1

    Soooooo true Chloe you are completely right it’s weirdo energy as always learn from this channel

  • @Age_Of_Aquarius84
    @Age_Of_Aquarius84 3 місяці тому +9

    19:09 Lord, this woman is stunning 😍😍😍

  • @shoequeenn01
    @shoequeenn01 3 місяці тому +7

    All this makes me think of is. Poor Shanquella Robinson. This is what I feel happened to her. Jealousy.❤❤❤❤RIP

  • @inannaxo
    @inannaxo 3 місяці тому +3

    Helloo!!! I love that you’re speaking on this topic.

  • @chameleonblackwomanproduct9167
    @chameleonblackwomanproduct9167 2 місяці тому +3

    Dear Chloe,
    You inspired me to be hypergamous in a mysterious way. Reading the 48 laws of power helps. Signed, Anonymous

  • @EliteGoddess1111
    @EliteGoddess1111 3 місяці тому +4

    This video is spot on!!

  • @Kreezword913
    @Kreezword913 3 місяці тому +17

    Hi Ms Chloe_ This is a very sensitive topic for me. I always felt like I was the odd man out because I never really receive attention from men in a social setting. I would dress super provocatively and then I would wonder why I attract dusties. At 43, I still get jealous and threatened because of attractive women. I am not ugly but I feel like I do not have pretty privilege. I am realizing that life is not fair. And at my BIG SSA AGE, it is time for me to flex my soft power….or at least lean more into it!

    • @TheNewFeminine
      @TheNewFeminine  3 місяці тому +9

      thank you for sharing! 💞

    • @Kreezword913
      @Kreezword913 3 місяці тому +2

      @@TheNewFeminineThank you for being you ❤❤❤

    • @aminaadam3617
      @aminaadam3617 3 місяці тому +6

      Girl,you can use your experience and get the kind of dating life you desire.Sometimes men may not approach you in social settings for various reasons but you can increase those chances by finding more one on one spaces.❤❤

    • @Kreezword913
      @Kreezword913 3 місяці тому

      @@aminaadam3617thank you so much❤

    • @nwokorochinwe2370
      @nwokorochinwe2370 3 місяці тому +3

      Pls pls pls do your inner work, there you would find out why you're attracting dusties/low quality men. Sometimes it's not about how you dress or look but rather your energy

  • @UrbanRomance_
    @UrbanRomance_ 3 місяці тому +4

    At this big grand age😂😂 stop Randi😂😂😂😂

  • @tyckeri
    @tyckeri 3 місяці тому +66

    I wish I saw this video 10 years ago 😪

    • @_healyaself
      @_healyaself 3 місяці тому +25

      It’s never too late to grow 🌱

    • @tyckeri
      @tyckeri 3 місяці тому +7

      @_healyaself I had group of girl friends. That I cut talking behind my back more than once. They were always mean to me when things were going well for me. And nice when things were going bad. And much much more of passive agressiveness. But I was dumb and weak

  • @tamarawilliams1197
    @tamarawilliams1197 3 місяці тому +2

    Phenomenal video! ❤💋

  • @SaskiaTheBoss
    @SaskiaTheBoss 3 місяці тому +95

    as you get older, those people become so pointless once you focus on all the good you are building around you. i’m closer to starting a whole family, a whole bloodline directly from my belly.. do you know how amazing that is.. can’t always worry about everything, when we should focus more on what’s within.

  • @kylieking8163
    @kylieking8163 3 місяці тому +6

    I kinda feel like women would always side with the attractive woman. I’ve had women side with attractive women to bully me and isolate me at work even men do this

  • @MomaKingOracle
    @MomaKingOracle 3 місяці тому +4

    Wow. I really resonate with this video thank you

  • @Treebee6009
    @Treebee6009 3 місяці тому +19

    All women are beautiful. Too many just don't know it yet.😊

  • @Paths2business8406
    @Paths2business8406 3 місяці тому +11

    There are women that have been jealous of me, including family members and so called friends. I never understood that because I've never looked at another woman and wanted to be her. That's really weird behavior. My own sister and her friend told be not to come over their house because they were worried about the dudes that they would bring around being attracted to me. The thing is I've always had a down to earth personality and they took that as something I did on purpose to attract the guys they brought around. Like nah Baby I'm just fine get over it Lol

    • @_Dark222Angel_
      @_Dark222Angel_ 3 місяці тому

      im also pretty and have a hard time understanding why I have no friends...I just want a friend group so bad but I always get scapegoated. probably because im nice and nonconfrontational 😂

    • @Paths2business8406
      @Paths2business8406 3 місяці тому +2

      @@kc6810 I don't give a damn about their shoes when I'm not to blame. A person will do what they want so its best that "They" get their confidence up. Those women were not just some random women they were my sister and play sister. I was only 16 years old at the time and definitely was singled out all because of my attractiveness and their insecurities. That's the problem with women they want to confront the woman when really they should be checking the men they choose to be involved with. Based on your statement you sound like one of them Smh.

    • @Paths2business8406
      @Paths2business8406 3 місяці тому

      @@_Dark222Angel_ I only had a few friends because they were either competing with me or I was a better friend to them than they were to me. You really can't be nice to most women instead you have to avoid most of them at all costs.

  • @AE-td1hy
    @AE-td1hy 10 днів тому

    I’ve been attached ferociously since I’ve deci d to be more feminine. It’s been very humbling

  • @tatianawaters8703
    @tatianawaters8703 3 місяці тому +1

    When I see other cute woman in my neighborhood I feel safe & understood actually especially when they are nice 😂❤ like my sistaaaaa ✊🏾❤️ heeeeeyy 😅 finally where have u been my sista but when it comes to the male gaze we can’t unite? It’s crazy tho 😢

  • @nikkinanette8807
    @nikkinanette8807 3 місяці тому +6

    This explains it why he behaved that way 3:00

  • @ProvocativeWives
    @ProvocativeWives 3 місяці тому +11

    Chloe girl, that Booga Wolf clip is scaring me. But in all honesty, that is exactly why I stay away from women who are unhappy in their marriages or women who don't level up. Because they are definitely giving off Booga Wolf energy. POV: These types of women will set you up or push you off a cliff, or push you into a swamp of alligators and call it an accident. For the love of Christ ladies, cut off those fake friends.

  • @thebougiehippiechick
    @thebougiehippiechick 3 місяці тому

    This is so true and its to get women to admit it.

  • @DnewNancy
    @DnewNancy 3 місяці тому +5

    That boogawolf be scaring me forreal!!!! OMG

  • @user-cp5yi8cr5w
    @user-cp5yi8cr5w 3 місяці тому +1

    I rearly comment but Chloe this conversation right here 🙌🏾👏🏾❤
    …please don’t stop with this content. You are much appreciated ma’am. 💯

  • @chilechi1846
    @chilechi1846 3 місяці тому +1

    That wolf was created to induce nightmares.

  • @nettaleanne
    @nettaleanne 3 місяці тому +6

    It really sucks when you try to bring people to your level of confidence and comfort within yourself and they start running their own race smh

  • @empressolu7734
    @empressolu7734 3 місяці тому +3

    yes, i was attacked, now I'm making new friends

  • @jasminesaez4878
    @jasminesaez4878 3 місяці тому +1

    Thank you ❤ the better I am doing The more hostility I been getting it’s been weird but I am going to keep going in Jesus name

  • @chikFromMTL
    @chikFromMTL 3 місяці тому +1

    Thank you Chloe for doing God's work 🙌🏾 The clarity of your content is gold 🥇

  • @WarriorPrincess615
    @WarriorPrincess615 3 місяці тому

    This made me think about the song lyric "Don't be mad cuz I'm doing me better than you doing you"

  • @Richbidness
    @Richbidness 16 днів тому

    They’re definitely happier when you’re leveled down, I have 1 or 2 associates nothing more.

  • @swtgirlcali
    @swtgirlcali 3 місяці тому +1

    Not the jealous Bugga Wolf meme..Haha. Thats a good one. Boy they are absolutely annoying.

  • @andreadeveaux4727
    @andreadeveaux4727 3 місяці тому +6

    We have got to do better it’s matriculating down to our young girls

  • @traceycheking
    @traceycheking 3 місяці тому

    This!!! ❤

  • @z.shari11
    @z.shari11 3 місяці тому +2

    I think the reason women (I can only speak from the point of view of women because I'm a woman) flock to negative content is because we as a species learn from failure. So, I feel that some women gravitate to failure because they know there is a lesson in the failures... Still not cool though...

  • @pashtlove7917
    @pashtlove7917 3 місяці тому +5

    Now chloe...where did you find the pic of the booga wolf 😭😭😭

  • @zenanirae
    @zenanirae 3 місяці тому +4

    Emphasis on maturity CRISIS.

  • @ElleSeven-l3q
    @ElleSeven-l3q 3 місяці тому +1

  • @Thatgirl12-fp3uq
    @Thatgirl12-fp3uq 3 місяці тому +1

    Triggering Insecurities.

  • @memedicine1
    @memedicine1 3 місяці тому +1

    oooo I love Grant Cardone's wife! She is stunning, also.

    • @JewelPeace
      @JewelPeace 3 місяці тому +2

      She is definitely the fuel behind her husband's success.

    • @memedicine1
      @memedicine1 3 місяці тому

      @@JewelPeace I agree!