I know exactly how you feel. My school has a father-daughter night every year and my school forces me to go even though they know my situation. Every year I end up sitting there
I've grown up confused about what a dad is. I asked one of my old friends when her dad hugged her and told her goodnight. "What did he just do to you?" She told me "He said goodnight" And I replied saying "That's what a dad is?" Because I have never gotten the love from a man like I'm supposed to. He left my mom the day before she was pregnant, so it's hard everyday knowing that I wont have a dad walking me to my future husband during my wedding. So yeah I can relate.
Growing up I didn't care about my father. He was never there. I don't even mind whenever my birthday comes and i won't hear a single word from him. Without a father, I learned how to stand my own. To fix something that a father should teach. I don't where he is right now. But I hope he will live a good life.
My Dad left me, my sister and my mother when I was 9 years old. He said "we got in the way" which means we got in the way of him being able to go out with other women. He didn't want to be part of a family. But now I'm 18 years old and have achieved so much which he thought I would never get. In the end I thank him for leaving. He made me and my family stronger.
sometimes I feel like I am a accident I just wanted a father figure to love me take me to dances stupid stuff like that even just if we just chill in the car but no that is to much to ask for if u are reading this I hope u feel better and u are not the only adult child whatever u are amazing just the way u are and u were born for a reason to show the world who u are show the world u not someone u are not I love all of u guys so much god bless everybody🙏😘
I miss my dad. And I feel.... trapped and bad to talk about it with ppl, bc they say, "Stop it, quit crying." "Oh, he's looking for attention." But I'm not, I just want someone to be there for me, a father figure in my life. To teach me the things I need in life, and someone to comfort me when I'm scared. But no one listens and.... I feel like giving up.
@unicorndreambyjyosnaa2607 I'm turning 21 next month and honestly? I'm glad he wasn't around, finding out who he was and stuff has changed my outlook on him and now I can appreciate the lengths my mother took in keeping him away from me and my siblings 🩷 hopefully you find that clarity for yourself one day
Eversince, my childhood memories is blurry with my dad. I don't even remember if we bond. I don't even care if he is not around anymore. But sometimes, i just needed a father. Who will teach me how to drive a car, to help me fix something, to teach me how to catch a fish, to build the tent for me. All those i've mentioned, I've learned it myself. How i wish i had a better father.
“My whole childhood was spent thinking what i did wrong-do u know how that feels”yeah i do it freaking hurts like hell i wish he knew the pain i felt for over a decade
I haven't had my biological father in my life as I wanted him to be. But I have been bless to have a wonderful police chief (whose a family friend) step up to be a father figure to me and my brother
He was never there. He just left, and I've grown up without a dad. What hurts the most is that I consider a 16 year old boy my father, even though he's far from it.
I don't know what to do. my mum and father had a one night stand and accidentally made me. my mum says no its not an accident, u were my Christmas present. (my birthday's on the 26th of December) but if that were true, where are you, where are you dad...... it breaks my heart that I can't even see him or my half siblings. me and my mum don't have his second name, phone number cause he changed it, or any kind of details to contact. to him and to myself I'm a mistake. it was fun that had consequences. why don't u take responsibility and just be there. I want to find you but I can't. so I guess I'll never get to meet you. you'll never be able to let me go at the alter on my wedding. ill never be able to have a father's day and my children won't have a grandad. I always used to ask my mum not to get a boyfriend just in case daddy turned up, but no you never did.....
I feel you but kinda different my dad raped my mom and had me when he found out he took off changed his name and everything when my mom finally found him he was in jail
My dad hasn’t been there for me and now he’s trying to come back into my life and in the famous words of will smith from fresh prince is how come he don’t want me
Growing up i always wondered why i didnt have a dad all the other kids did. one who would be there and care for them. People say its so hard losing a loved one and ive felt grief like that but at least they didnt have a choice to leave or stay my dad did and thats what hurts the most my dad had the choice to stay but he chose to leave ge knew when he left what i would have to live with for the rest of my life. Its been 10 years since ive seen him and it still hurts to see other people out with there dads but im getting better and if anybody out there is dealing the same thing time heals everything it will get better
When the kid in the class starts talking about what they got for there birthday from there dad I break down..knowing the your father is still out there and won’t come backs is the worst feeling .. 13 birthdays with out “him” this is why I like UA-cam cause the are people out there that would support u
This video had me in such a deep feeling... Everything I read is everything I wanted to say. I grew up without him, but it still hurts seeing this knowing all we wanted was the love of a father.
I remember my biological father nearly beating me to death, when I was 4, my mother taking my little brother and I and running away, my biological father calling us over the phone once every day for a year, always ending the calls with "I love you" and "miss you, Daddy", and then him stopping without an apology or explanation. That hurt. I'm 18 now, so I'm over it. I have a step-dad who does his best... but I still cry when I remember that abuse followed by abandonment. I blamed myself for his decisions for years. I'm just grateful my brother wasn't old enough to remember our biological father, and was young enough to accept our step-dad as his one and only father figure.
I remember one time on fathers day I was at a club that I went to and we needed to write cards to our dads. I didn't know what to do and I didn't want people to know that I don't see my dad anymore. I wrote the card to a teddy bear that I had and pretended it was for my dad. I just kept the presents that I made on a shelf in case he ever came back. He did come back but then he left again so I decided there was no point in keeping them. Idk what this was but sometimes I need to write down my thoughts in order to process them if that makes sense
I’m so great full for this as I am 13 and im dealing with an awful time as my fathers moved out after never loving us and this was a rlly good song tysm
My dad walked away from me when I was 12 years old. He was hardly ever there for me. Ever since the time I was born, he acted like I didn't exist to him. He was more focused on himself and my brother. He used to beat me up and treated me like I was the reason his life went to shit. By the time, I was nearly 12, he became a completely different person and it got a lot worse. For a whole week, at supper, he kept having little fits with my brother and wanted to fight him. Then, about a month later, he decided to leave. He kept claiming the reason was because of my mother, but that wasn't it. He left because he didn't want to be a father no more. After the divorce, my brother was able to work. He started working at a gas station, but it didn't last long. The years went by, things were going different. My dad paid child support, but he was always late. He'd send it months after we needed it when bills were overdue. He walked away from me when I needed him the most. I didn't need him then, I don't need him now. He blocked me from his Facebook page and deleted my number from his phone because he's made It very clear to me and decided I'm not his son anymore. I found out earlier this year, he's in jail for sexually assaulting a young woman who was a client of his from this foundation he was working for. But, it doesn't bother me. I've got nothing left to say to him anymore. I'm never talking to him again and I got no more respect for him. All I can say to the man who was supposed to be my father: FUCK YOU AND BURN IN HELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hey im not a girl but i hv gone through it myself! So listen you dont hv to think about ur coward dads! Cuz if they were brave they wouldn't hv left u like that! Just lv urself and ur moms who hv done so much for u and make urself successfull and believe me one day ur coward dad will bend downon his knees and cry for what he did! for why he left you!! Bcz i hv the same thought! Whenever i ask myself why my dad left me, my brother and gave attention to my half siblings i hv one beautiful answer that i and my brother are so special that our dad is not worthy of us and that one day when i become successfull i'll kick his ass so hard that he will remember how much he hurt us so yeah all of u out there who have father abandonment issues, let me tell u smthing dont u ever feel down it was never ur fault. U all are special people like me just work for urself make urself successfull and u will be someone whom the world will know and love and ur freak dads will feel ashamed of what they did to u! And it will be their time to cry and feel lonely cuz u will have whole world with u at that time! Good Luck!! :)
Dear “Dad”- It’s me the daughter that you left behind, the daughter you don’t care about. I just don’t get one thing. Why? Why aren’t you here for me? I mean you’re their for your other three kids. But its okay your not my father. You may have created me but you are not my father, you NEVER will be. I don’t need you I have three older brothers (WHO ARE LIKE FATHER FIGURES TO ME) who ARE THERE for me. They tell me how beautiful I am, they teach me too be strong in hard times. They love me and my mom. They will be their when I get my first heart break. They will be their to cheer me up when I’m sad. They believe in me, they believe I could be a doctor, they believe in me NO MATTER what.They always tell me no one is good enough for me, that I’m their baby sister and they love me. They will be their when I have kids, they will be ‘Uncles’ to my kids, my mother will be ‘Grandma’ to my kids. And you will be NOBODY to my kids. They will be their on my wedding day to walk me down the aisle. And that’s something YOU could NEVER do. - Love, The daughter that you left
We're the same in a way. My brother who's a couple of years older than me, he and my mom both did more for me than my dad ever did. My dad was hardly ever there for me and acted like I wasn't important. My dad came back for my high school graduation and he was still the same. He hardly ever looked at me and barely spoke 2 words to me. He was just there for the food from this party I planned that evening. But I still had a wonderful time. Didn't care if my dad was there or not. I didn't need him then, I don't need him now.
I cried myself to sleep every night wondering to myself "am I not good enough" "what did I do wrong" "what's wrong with me" I get bullied at school and I try to block them out but i break down in the bathrooms after school sometimes😭😭😢
It's crazy that this cut so deep I'm sitting here at 3 am on a weeknight at 34 years old just still wondering why my dad and i could never figure out how to love each other
Before I was even born my dad left. My mom was drunk most of the time she was pregnant with me. Skip a few years, I was 10 the first time my dad went to jail. My stepfather was there for me. When I was 12 he went to jail again and I was there it was only me there for him, my older sister and brother gave up on him. I couldn’t. The last time I was with my dad in person he said he wanted to kill him self. My mom said he was on drugs again and he went to jail, I’m 14. I was so scared he was gonna harm himself so I gave up on my school work and myself. Now I’m better but the last time I talked to my dad was on the phone and I told him I hated him. I regret that my dad is out of jail but he has a warrant for his arrest. My mom talks about it all the time and it makes me sad. I don’t think I can get over it. Sorry if you read this I just had to get it off my chest.
this reminds me of my dad.the last time I saw him he said he was coming to pick me up the next day but he never did show up and I haven't seenhim since then. I try to call but he hangs the phone up in my face. god help me I cry every 🌙 cause I miss him that's a bad detention of a father.😰😰😰😥😪😪
+D Clarke not always I am a man my father left me when I was born . I went through really deep feelings of anger resentment, times like parents evenings at school and other boys dads playing football with them in the park. But i am a father now and I will never leave my kids they are grown up now been to uni and got good jobs, I feel proud I was a part of that. It wasn't always easy but I was there
London Ellis I get it he same thing happened to me 7 years ago and I'm 17 now but I don't need him or want him I love my mum she provided for us and if had a choice to change anything I wouldn't.
i used to be so sad. my dad left me when i was a baby id never remembered seeing him. i are up without a dad. through primary people used to write me letters telling me he was dead or that he was never going to come back. in my first year of secondary, a boy pretended we had the same dad(i never knew whether i had any siblings) and it turns out he was lying to be cruel. in the summer holidays this year my mum tried really hard to get in touch with him and succeeded. we went on holiday in the 6 weeks and one morning my mam told me she had contact with him and he was coming to our hotel to meet him for the first time! i felt so strange knowing it was the first time we ever met. my dad lives in spain and i live in england. my dad is setting off in the morning back to england to stay for a month and to help me meet my grandma, 9 cousins, 2 aunties and my uncle for the first time and i have never been more excited. proves dreams can come through if you believe
Omg that is almost exactly the way it is my biological father I feel the only difference is I still love him I never hated him I hated that he ignored me and paid attention to my brothers and sisters and I was the oldest for years i was never jealousy I was just anger that I was ignore when we were very young he would never leave but he didn't keep that promise and no I'm hoping I can change that but I'm scared he will ignore me like he has do for so many years
I just wanted someone their to spend time with me when he gets off of work to grow up with to spend my birthdays with someone that would show my brother how to treat a girl or woman someone who would be a role model for him someone that could warn me about heart break yet u broke my heart before ANY BOY EVER F*CKING COULD!!!
my dad went to jail before I was born I thought that this guy was my dad but he wasn't and until I was ten years old I always thought he was my dad and then I found out my dad was in jail and then I thought it was my fault he went to jail
I will never ever in my life, write my father a letter, even when I'm dead I'm not writing him a letter. He needs to write me a letter apologizing to me. I have nothing to be sorry for. Cute letter you made though.
I have a father, but he stopped hanging out with me as soon as he got a gf, even when I'm with him for the weekend so I think of him as an absent father.
Im so scared to talk to my real father he just was never there and he always wonders why Im so angry with him but Im so thankful for my step dad he is the father that every child deserves I love him so freaking much he is amazing u will always wonder what next amazing thing he will do next I LOVE U DADDY😘
My mum and dad broke up and I still cry every night about it and they broke up 3 years ago when I try to talk to my dad about their break up I just burst into tears 😭
I sent 3 different messages to my dad and he still doesent talk to me it's been a 2 or 3 years since I have seen him and now it's been 1 not talking to him he got married to a different woman and had 2 kids with her I asked him if his new family was better he said that he still loved me and my brother and that he loves his new family just as much as the last but I know he's lying and what hurts the most is that he still calls his mom and dad to tell them he loves them all i want is a simple I love you or goodnight an apology something and if he shows up for my graduation I wont run up to him and tell him I love him I'm just going to yell at him once he gets in front of me and tell him why he left me all alone with nobody to talk to do you know how hard that is to talk to your mom about problems you can't let go of somebody that fast especially your child just think about it one day your just fishing with your dad and the last thing you ever say to him is I hope you think that your new family's better the last thing I remember about my dad is that he used to take us fishing I used to know what he looked like but now I don't I only have 3 pictures of him and they were from 2006-2008 I also only remember that I have his name
How can I cross the line without hurting nobody no more no matter what I do everything hurts I love you dearly they tell me it's best not to step up to that line you are better off without me you're strong you will make it I do love you all
My dad doesn't care I cried for him father plz don't go and I'm 19 I still cry passionately father plz don't go I hate this it hurts me a lot that even though my parents fight my father never sees me to even say goodbye or not even hugs us he just left us crying 😭😭😭😭💔💔💔
when I was about 4 or maybe 5.. My mom and Dad had an agurement, my dad started... maybe throwing stuff around, I dont know.. I just ran into my mom's room untill my dad followed. "Get the fuck up." I heard, from my dad. It was something like that, though years later. I'm 12 and I would reach out for my dad, becasue I still care for him.. My mom told me he was a wonderful man. Though, my dad was an alcoholic, I dont know if he still is but my told me that he was going to see me again once Im old enough without my mom.
My dad left when I was a child and now I’ve been in school for 7 years and all the time I hear people talking about how much they love there dad and how he treats them like a princess and I know that I never will be able to know that stuff and sometimes I feel guilty because I will think that I’m the reason he left and my mom tells me not to because I shouldn’t but that doesn’t stop the thoughts and how I’ll feel guilty but I always hide those things so I don’t worry my mom
And sometimes it's not even the father's fault sometimes the mother won't the father be involved with his son's life because out of spite and anger and hatred towards the other parent
I'm the youngest kid in my family and my dad had always told me that I was the reason he changed. 6 years old and my parents divorce. My mom and middle sibling hate my dad because hes honestly a horrible person. At 8 or 9 my mom got full custody of my and my siblings. My dad didn't fight for us at all and the only 2 times I've seen him he didn't set up I did once and my eldest sister did for fathers day one year. I'm now almost 11 and i hate him but i still miss him l.
I never had a dad. He left me when I was 3. My step father used to hit me. I now have a 3 year old and as much as I know how much it hurts to not have a father, I am at my breaking point. I'm not a good father. I don't hit my kid but I am considering leaving him. I hope I don't and that's the reason I'm watching this. Life is really, really, really hard when you don't have family to help. I have no one, his mom and I hate each other and she was all I had untill we grew apart. I feel I have nothing to give my son, just broken promises and a failed life. I don't know what I'm going to do..
cc360 I was left by my father at 2 I don’t remeber him and I really wish I knew him there will always be a part missing of myself and the right decision is to stay, if you really care about your child then why would you have to leave?
I would wake up and hear my mom and dad screaming at each other and eventually we fled for arizona to oregon to start a new life. At the start we were homeless and i got pink eye at the shelter. I remember the bed bugs at night. I remember stealing things as a outlet. I still have trauma from all the yelling. I get phantom pain all the time when I think about anything related to this. Is just having a nice full family so much to ask for?
My dad left when I was 2 months old and I heard that when I was very small and I cried every night for like 7 years in 10 now about to be 11 when I text him he says he loved me well if you loved me you would stuck around I'm a big sister to a 8 yr old boy a 3 yr old boy and a 3 month yr old girl They won't know there big sister😢
daddy if yoou read this i still love you. no matter what. whats your name? favoritive color? ill never know my life is horrible this relates so much to me
I’m 14 and yh ive grown up with a Dad but a couple of months ago he told us he found a new girlfriend and that he would be moving to Ireland with her and her children , he said he will always be there for me and we will visit eachother , they use to FaceTime and he said how can he have a proper relationship with her if he barely sees her but fit the past couple of days I’ve sat here thinking , what about your relationship with your children and your family or has he just gotten tired of us and wants to move on and have a fresh start without any kids
My dad has only been around for 3 years of my life I'm 13 hes been an addict and a alcoholic I haven't lived with neither of my parents the last 5 years of my life and my dad is about to go to jail for 5 years but that's what he gets for not wanting to be a father an just make things worse
My dad recently started trying to talk to me. But, all he does is lie & try to use me as a pawn to get back together with my mom. I don't want to talk to him anymore.
my parents divorced when I was about 4 I don't really remember being together as a family I don't even really have pictures.... I had to go to my dad's every other weekend and you know growing up you don't really think about it but as I got older I realized how much I felt unwanted he got remarried and she treats me like shit to...I stopped going over there about 2 years ago and I think he called or texted about 6 times and that's about it..... I reach out and trying to talk to him but it's hurts so bad knowing you don't even know what to say to your own dad.... I had a loss in my family last week and that was the first time in months he had talk to me.... then he blames me and tells me that I could text him or go to his house....but I am tried of being the one who reaches out.... he needs to stand up and be a dad... does anyone have any advice or anything I just need to talk to someone
This is my story... I feel like if i had written it, I know the feeling. I found my peace in God, he is y father and he never fails he has the best for me and all those days that my dad would make me feel worthless I would run to God and pray for him to give e the strength and patience to understand that my dad wasn't perfect but that he would work on him. I prayed that he helped me forget all the pain and I understand many things. I didn't come here to speak religion and try to shove it up your ears I came here because like us there is a lot of people who have suffered because of this situation. I came here because today I remembered where God has lift me up from and I wanted to share it with someone. Like I said I don't come here to talk about religion it's a relationship with God that I know truly works, when it's only you and him and you can talk to him and pour your heart out. A daughter and father relationship that is what I have.
Tell him what you just wrote. Man up and be a dad. If he cannot do that, let go and put him out of your mind. Seek therapy regardless of the outcome, not having a father around is very toxic for young minds.
The longer you’re away the harder it is to come back. One of you has to make a move for better or worse. Timing is everything and remember your father doesn’t know what you’re feeling and the pain that remains. Communication
Idk why my dad left my mom while pregnant with me , maybe it was because of me?? I’ve only saw him just for a fucking day in my birthday when I was 6 years old and he came with a woman that I dint knew who was her..then I never saw him again, I’m 14 years old now and he never gave me a happy birthday card..he was never in my life , I went threw so much pain because of my mom and dad.. and all I just want is a hug from him that’s all... I want him too go to my volleyball practice and see how good I am playing ( that goes to my mom too) My dad always says “I’m going to visit you next year” Or “I’m going too your graduation!” He just say lies , all lies! I just fucking hate him so much but still I want him back... sometimes I just want and say so much things too him but I can’t , why did he even left me and dint give a shit about me and still took care of my other siblings...and not me , I’m supposed too be his little princess or his everything but it looks like I’m not...
There is one sentence I've never been able to say "I love you Dad"
True.
Same
I get to but my dad has never been tere for me. Some days I think I would be better off if my parents just let me raise myself
Same
Why u gotta do that to me😂😭
It's so strange to imagine how it feels to have a father...
I know
He left when I was a little kid, I’m a teen now and I wonder what things would be like if he and my mother never divorced in the first place.
I’m Thinking the same at 50 still
Frrrrr. 😭😭😭
It is I never had one
I just wanted somebody to take me to school... everybody asks “where’s your dad, did he die?”
Dad why did you leave ?
My story is same
I just wanted someone to take me to daddy daughter dances and show up at my school for dad's and doughnuts day.......was it too much to ask?
I know exactly how you feel. My school has a father-daughter night every year and my school forces me to go even though they know my situation. Every year I end up sitting there
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Same!
honey lemon relate.
Ell Bell i just wanted love
I've grown up confused about what a dad is. I asked one of my old friends when her dad hugged her and told her goodnight. "What did he just do to you?" She told me "He said goodnight" And I replied saying "That's what a dad is?" Because I have never gotten the love from a man like I'm supposed to. He left my mom the day before she was pregnant, so it's hard everyday knowing that I wont have a dad walking me to my future husband during my wedding. So yeah I can relate.
Me too. I didn’t know what a dad really does and I grew up 12 years thinking men don’t have feelings. I had to ask a friends what a dad does.
I’m sorry 😢 you went through this deadbeat dads can be the worse
He said he would never leave me again, but he did and I want him to stay out if my life
Bonez Lee 9902 I know exactly what you mean
Bonez Lee 9902 I'm in the exact same boat and I've said those exact words probaly a million times the past few weeks...
Same
Growing up I didn't care about my father. He was never there. I don't even mind whenever my birthday comes and i won't hear a single word from him. Without a father, I learned how to stand my own. To fix something that a father should teach. I don't where he is right now. But I hope he will live a good life.
My Dad left me, my sister and my mother when I was 9 years old. He said "we got in the way" which means we got in the way of him being able to go out with other women. He didn't want to be part of a family. But now I'm 18 years old and have achieved so much which he thought I would never get. In the end I thank him for leaving. He made me and my family stronger.
That's exactly how I feel about my mother who left me. We get stronger and prove the absent parent wrong!!
I respect you so much for this I went through the same with my dad and recently spoke to him about it :(
I crying my eyes out because i know your pain but we will get through it together
sometimes I feel like I am a accident I just wanted a father figure to love me take me to dances stupid stuff like that even just if we just chill in the car but no that is to much to ask for if u are reading this I hope u feel better and u are not the only adult child whatever u are amazing just the way u are and u were born for a reason to show the world who u are show the world u not someone u are not I love all of u guys so much god bless everybody🙏😘
I miss my dad. And I feel.... trapped and bad to talk about it with ppl, bc they say, "Stop it, quit crying." "Oh, he's looking for attention." But I'm not, I just want someone to be there for me, a father figure in my life. To teach me the things I need in life, and someone to comfort me when I'm scared. But no one listens and.... I feel like giving up.
Same here..i almost cried while reading your comment because I can relate 100%
Hey you will be ok bud im 15 and my dad doesn’t give a shit about me he never will but were on the same boat.dont worry were here for u, will be ok
@unicorndreambyjyosnaa2607 I'm turning 21 next month and honestly? I'm glad he wasn't around, finding out who he was and stuff has changed my outlook on him and now I can appreciate the lengths my mother took in keeping him away from me and my siblings 🩷 hopefully you find that clarity for yourself one day
I had a great relationship with my dad until last year
What happened ?
I can relate and this is why I wrote my book... They Don't Hear Her Cries is for anyone who had to grow up without their father #TDHHC
Too cool, what's the name of your book
I have that book
Gibbs Truth they don't here her cries
Wonderful book
I apologize, I’m just seeing your comment. Thank you for your support. I recently updated it. The revamp is much better
Your all princesses,and your all very special and wonderful.
Eversince, my childhood memories is blurry with my dad. I don't even remember if we bond. I don't even care if he is not around anymore. But sometimes, i just needed a father. Who will teach me how to drive a car, to help me fix something, to teach me how to catch a fish, to build the tent for me. All those i've mentioned, I've learned it myself. How i wish i had a better father.
“My whole childhood was spent thinking what i did wrong-do u know how that feels”yeah i do it freaking hurts like hell i wish he knew the pain i felt for over a decade
I haven't had my biological father in my life as I wanted him to be. But I have been bless to have a wonderful police chief (whose a family friend) step up to be a father figure to me and my brother
He was never there. He just left, and I've grown up without a dad. What hurts the most is that I consider a 16 year old boy my father, even though he's far from it.
I feel like this written for me except for the part where he was forgiven because I don't think I'll ever forgive mine for what her did
and that is valid not everyone deserves to be forgiven
this video retrieved some unwanted memories of my dad
Yesterday was the very last time I would see my dad
I don't know what to do. my mum and father had a one night stand and accidentally made me. my mum says no its not an accident, u were my Christmas present. (my birthday's on the 26th of December) but if that were true, where are you, where are you dad...... it breaks my heart that I can't even see him or my half siblings. me and my mum don't have his second name, phone number cause he changed it, or any kind of details to contact. to him and to myself I'm a mistake. it was fun that had consequences. why don't u take responsibility and just be there. I want to find you but I can't. so I guess I'll never get to meet you. you'll never be able to let me go at the alter on my wedding. ill never be able to have a father's day and my children won't have a grandad. I always used to ask my mum not to get a boyfriend just in case daddy turned up, but no you never did.....
Tianna nuch any luck in finding him?
Forget him , if you get a stepdad keep him close
Tianna nuch I relate but I dont even know my dads real name, we tried everything. 😞
I feel you but kinda different my dad raped my mom and had me when he found out he took off changed his name and everything when my mom finally found him he was in jail
relates i dont know mines nor his name 13 years haha
Well, it all started when my dad went to the grocery store
Jackie Diaz that ain’t funny it’s serious.
It's not funny ok my dad never was there now he is dead
PS I'm Cheyenne not Virginia
It's not funny u little fucker
@@pelinsuaydn356 it's kinda funny
My dad hasn’t been there for me and now he’s trying to come back into my life and in the famous words of will smith from fresh prince is how come he don’t want me
How did you fully represent what I think and feel towards my dad? You genius
Growing up i always wondered why i didnt have a dad all the other kids did. one who would be there and care for them. People say its so hard losing a loved one and ive felt grief like that but at least they didnt have a choice to leave or stay my dad did and thats what hurts the most my dad had the choice to stay but he chose to leave ge knew when he left what i would have to live with for the rest of my life. Its been 10 years since ive seen him and it still hurts to see other people out with there dads but im getting better and if anybody out there is dealing the same thing time heals everything it will get better
When the kid in the class starts talking about what they got for there birthday from there dad I break down..knowing the your father is still out there and won’t come backs is the worst feeling .. 13 birthdays with out “him” this is why I like UA-cam cause the are people out there that would support u
This video had me in such a deep feeling... Everything I read is everything I wanted to say. I grew up without him, but it still hurts seeing this knowing all we wanted was the love of a father.
Even when I had been able to see my dad the sad thing was I never could say I love you because I did love him but at the same time I felt like a lie
It's very difficult for me to live in a home where my father doesn't care that I even exist
I just want to get out of it..😪
I remember my biological father nearly beating me to death, when I was 4, my mother taking my little brother and I and running away, my biological father calling us over the phone once every day for a year, always ending the calls with "I love you" and "miss you, Daddy", and then him stopping without an apology or explanation. That hurt.
I'm 18 now, so I'm over it. I have a step-dad who does his best... but I still cry when I remember that abuse followed by abandonment. I blamed myself for his decisions for years. I'm just grateful my brother wasn't old enough to remember our biological father, and was young enough to accept our step-dad as his one and only father figure.
i miss my dad so much and that is exsatly what i think and i cry so much thank you
I ever forgive his absence in my whole life ...
I remember one time on fathers day I was at a club that I went to and we needed to write cards to our dads. I didn't know what to do and I didn't want people to know that I don't see my dad anymore. I wrote the card to a teddy bear that I had and pretended it was for my dad. I just kept the presents that I made on a shelf in case he ever came back. He did come back but then he left again so I decided there was no point in keeping them. Idk what this was but sometimes I need to write down my thoughts in order to process them if that makes sense
I’m so great full for this as I am 13 and im dealing with an awful time as my fathers moved out after never loving us and this was a rlly good song tysm
I'm 14 and my dads cheating on mum and constantly shout at each other 😢
My dad walked away from me when I was 12 years old. He was hardly ever there for me. Ever since the time I was born, he acted like I didn't exist to him. He was more focused on himself and my brother. He used to beat me up and treated me like I was the reason his life went to shit.
By the time, I was nearly 12, he became a completely different person and it got a lot worse. For a whole week, at supper, he kept having little fits with my brother and wanted to fight him.
Then, about a month later, he decided to leave.
He kept claiming the reason was because of my mother, but that wasn't it. He left because he didn't want to be a father no more. After the divorce, my brother was able to work. He started working at a gas station, but it didn't last long.
The years went by, things were going different.
My dad paid child support, but he was always late. He'd send it months after we needed it when bills were overdue.
He walked away from me when I needed him the most. I didn't need him then, I don't need him now. He blocked me from his Facebook page and deleted my number from his phone because he's made It very clear to me and decided I'm not his son anymore. I found out earlier this year, he's in jail for sexually assaulting a young woman who was a client of his from this foundation he was working for. But, it doesn't bother me. I've got nothing left to say to him anymore. I'm never talking to him again and I got no more respect for him.
All I can say to the man who was supposed to be my father: FUCK YOU AND BURN IN HELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hey im not a girl but i hv gone through it myself! So listen you dont hv to think about ur coward dads! Cuz if they were brave they wouldn't hv left u like that! Just lv urself and ur moms who hv done so much for u and make urself successfull and believe me one day ur coward dad will bend downon his knees and cry for what he did! for why he left you!! Bcz i hv the same thought! Whenever i ask myself why my dad left me, my brother and gave attention to my half siblings i hv one beautiful answer that i and my brother are so special that our dad is not worthy of us and that one day when i become successfull i'll kick his ass so hard that he will remember how much he hurt us so yeah all of u out there who have father abandonment issues, let me tell u smthing dont u ever feel down it was never ur fault. U all are special people like me just work for urself make urself successfull and u will be someone whom the world will know and love and ur freak dads will feel ashamed of what they did to u! And it will be their time to cry and feel lonely cuz u will have whole world with u at that time! Good Luck!! :)
As soon as I read the first thing that popped up I started crying because that what I wonder everyday even after 12 years
Im so sorry hon.. I promise everything does get better 🔚 i will be praying
Dear “Dad”-
It’s me the daughter that you left behind, the daughter you don’t care about. I just don’t get one thing. Why? Why aren’t you here for me? I mean you’re their for your other three kids. But its okay your not my father. You may have created me but you are not my father, you NEVER will be. I don’t need you I have three older brothers (WHO ARE LIKE FATHER FIGURES TO ME) who ARE THERE for me. They tell me how beautiful I am, they teach me too be strong in hard times. They love me and my mom. They will be their when I get my first heart break. They will be their to cheer me up when I’m sad. They believe in me, they believe I could be a doctor, they believe in me NO MATTER what.They always tell me no one is good enough for me, that I’m their baby sister and they love me. They will be their when I have kids, they will be ‘Uncles’ to my kids, my mother will be ‘Grandma’ to my kids. And you will be NOBODY to my kids. They will be their on my wedding day to walk me down the aisle. And that’s something YOU could NEVER do.
- Love,
The daughter that you left
I literally have the exact same situation as you... except you’re lucky you have older brothers... 😂
My story is the same but i have no bro or sis u r lucky
We're the same in a way. My brother who's a couple of years older than me, he and my mom both did more for me than my dad ever did. My dad was hardly ever there for me and acted like I wasn't important. My dad came back for my high school graduation and he was still the same. He hardly ever looked at me and barely spoke 2 words to me. He was just there for the food from this party I planned that evening. But I still had a wonderful time. Didn't care if my dad was there or not. I didn't need him then, I don't need him now.
I cried myself to sleep every night wondering to myself "am I not good enough" "what did I do wrong" "what's wrong with me" I get bullied at school and I try to block them out but i break down in the bathrooms after school sometimes😭😭😢
I’m so sorry. We all do this
This is honestly so so relateable for me.
It's crazy that this cut so deep I'm sitting here at 3 am on a weeknight at 34 years old just still wondering why my dad and i could never figure out how to love each other
Before I was even born my dad left. My mom was drunk most of the time she was pregnant with me. Skip a few years, I was 10 the first time my dad went to jail. My stepfather was there for me. When I was 12 he went to jail again and I was there it was only me there for him, my older sister and brother gave up on him. I couldn’t. The last time I was with my dad in person he said he wanted to kill him self. My mom said he was on drugs again and he went to jail, I’m 14. I was so scared he was gonna harm himself so I gave up on my school work and myself. Now I’m better but the last time I talked to my dad was on the phone and I told him I hated him. I regret that my dad is out of jail but he has a warrant for his arrest. My mom talks about it all the time and it makes me sad. I don’t think I can get over it.
Sorry if you read this I just had to get it off my chest.
very true because my dad left me when I was 5 and now im 33 years old. oh god i miss him
Hey so Ik this is a old comment but do you have any tips on how to get through it, my dad left a few months ago and I just can’t seem to get over it
this reminds me of my dad.the last time I saw him he said he was coming to pick me up the next day but he never did show up and I haven't seenhim since then. I try to call but he hangs the phone up in my face. god help me I cry every 🌙 cause I miss him that's a bad detention of a father.😰😰😰😥😪😪
+London Ellis thats what they do....always bail
+D Clarke not always I am a man my father left me when I was born . I went through really deep feelings of anger resentment, times like parents evenings at school and other boys dads playing football with them in the park. But i am a father now and I will never leave my kids they are grown up now been to uni and got good jobs, I feel proud I was a part of that. It wasn't always easy but I was there
You sound like a good father.I wish you and your family the best.👍
+London Ellis Thanks I m not perfect but I do my best
London Ellis I get it he same thing happened to me 7 years ago and I'm 17 now but I don't need him or want him I love my mum she provided for us and if had a choice to change anything I wouldn't.
I love you Dad no matter what ✌️💚
You’ll regret saying that
This Make me feel better that my father is not around
At least most peoples dad's cared for them while mine left me so young,what a fuckup he ain't even try to see for nun😔
i used to be so sad. my dad left me when i was a baby id never remembered seeing him. i are up without a dad. through primary people used to write me letters telling me he was dead or that he was never going to come back. in my first year of secondary, a boy pretended we had the same dad(i never knew whether i had any siblings) and it turns out he was lying to be cruel. in the summer holidays this year my mum tried really hard to get in touch with him and succeeded. we went on holiday in the 6 weeks and one morning my mam told me she had contact with him and he was coming to our hotel to meet him for the first time! i felt so strange knowing it was the first time we ever met. my dad lives in spain and i live in england. my dad is setting off in the morning back to england to stay for a month and to help me meet my grandma, 9 cousins, 2 aunties and my uncle for the first time and i have never been more excited. proves dreams can come through if you believe
Me: I love you Dad.
Him: You really mean that? 😀
Me:
Omg that is almost exactly the way it is my biological father I feel the only difference is I still love him I never hated him I hated that he ignored me and paid attention to my brothers and sisters and I was the oldest for years i was never jealousy I was just anger that I was ignore when we were very young he would never leave but he didn't keep that promise and no I'm hoping I can change that but I'm scared he will ignore me like he has do for so many years
Damn this hits home
I just wanted someone their to spend time with me when he gets off of work to grow up with to spend my birthdays with someone that would show my brother how to treat a girl or woman someone who would be a role model for him someone that could warn me about heart break yet u broke my heart before ANY BOY EVER F*CKING COULD!!!
When my dad says " I love u " to me I whisper it back
I last saw my dad on my birthday 2 years ago. The next one he never showed up or called 😢
I’m 43 years old and still feel this way
my dad went to jail before I was born I thought that this guy was my dad but he wasn't and until I was ten years old I always thought he was my dad and then I found out my dad was in jail and then I thought it was my fault he went to jail
I will never ever in my life, write my father a letter, even when I'm dead I'm not writing him a letter. He needs to write me a letter apologizing to me. I have nothing to be sorry for. Cute letter you made though.
I start crying when i only read one line
I have a father, but he stopped hanging out with me as soon as he got a gf, even when I'm with him for the weekend so I think of him as an absent father.
Sorry to all the kids with no fathers,it's not your fault that dad left.
Thank you
Moms sometimes leave the dad and want the dad absent from their kids life
Im so scared to talk to my real father he just was never there and he always wonders why Im so angry with him but Im so thankful for my step dad he is the father that every child deserves I love him so freaking much he is amazing u will always wonder what next amazing thing he will do next I LOVE U DADDY😘
Wow I relate... tears fall as I write this .
My mum and dad broke up and I still cry every night about it and they broke up 3 years ago when I try to talk to my dad about their break up I just burst into tears 😭
I sent 3 different messages to my dad and he still doesent talk to me it's been a 2 or 3 years since I have seen him and now it's been 1 not talking to him he got married to a different woman and had 2 kids with her I asked him if his new family was better he said that he still loved me and my brother and that he loves his new family just as much as the last but I know he's lying and what hurts the most is that he still calls his mom and dad to tell them he loves them all i want is a simple I love you or goodnight an apology something and if he shows up for my graduation I wont run up to him and tell him I love him I'm just going to yell at him once he gets in front of me and tell him why he left me all alone with nobody to talk to do you know how hard that is to talk to your mom about problems you can't let go of somebody that fast especially your child just think about it one day your just fishing with your dad and the last thing you ever say to him is I hope you think that your new family's better the last thing I remember about my dad is that he used to take us fishing I used to know what he looked like but now I don't I only have 3 pictures of him and they were from 2006-2008 I also only remember that I have his name
How can I cross the line without hurting nobody no more no matter what I do everything hurts I love you dearly they tell me it's best not to step up to that line you are better off without me you're strong you will make it I do love you all
Especially hurt when he walked out after my son died and hasnt calleed me back or catws
How I feel right now , it's my fault my dad left , you've let me down too many times dad so stay out my life 😭😭
My dad doesn't care I cried for him father plz don't go and I'm 19 I still cry passionately father plz don't go I hate this it hurts me a lot that even though my parents fight my father never sees me to even say goodbye or not even hugs us he just left us crying 😭😭😭😭💔💔💔
when I was about 4 or maybe 5.. My mom and Dad had an agurement, my dad started... maybe throwing stuff around, I dont know.. I just ran into my mom's room untill my dad followed. "Get the fuck up." I heard, from my dad. It was something like that, though years later.
I'm 12 and I would reach out for my dad, becasue I still care for him.. My mom told me he was a wonderful man. Though, my dad was an alcoholic, I dont know if he still is but my told me that he was going to see me again once Im old enough without my mom.
My dad left when I was a child and now I’ve been in school for 7 years and all the time I hear people talking about how much they love there dad and how he treats them like a princess and I know that I never will be able to know that stuff and sometimes I feel guilty because I will think that I’m the reason he left and my mom tells me not to because I shouldn’t but that doesn’t stop the thoughts and how I’ll feel guilty but I always hide those things so I don’t worry my mom
I can deal if he left, but the fact that he keeps sayin hes comin back for 10 YEARS I have waited, the same text i am comin, thats what hurts 😖
And sometimes it's not even the father's fault sometimes the mother won't the father be involved with his son's life because out of spite and anger and hatred towards the other parent
I'm the youngest kid in my family and my dad had always told me that I was the reason he changed. 6 years old and my parents divorce. My mom and middle sibling hate my dad because hes honestly a horrible person. At 8 or 9 my mom got full custody of my and my siblings. My dad didn't fight for us at all and the only 2 times I've seen him he didn't set up I did once and my eldest sister did for fathers day one year. I'm now almost 11 and i hate him but i still miss him l.
My dad kicked me and my mom out. He was always working but when he was outta work he was mean.
Dear dad,why did you choose her,why not us both atleast.
I never had a dad. He left me when I was 3. My step father used to hit me.
I now have a 3 year old and as much as I know how much it hurts to not have a father, I am at my breaking point. I'm not a good father. I don't hit my kid but I am considering leaving him. I hope I don't and that's the reason I'm watching this. Life is really, really, really hard when you don't have family to help. I have no one, his mom and I hate each other and she was all I had untill we grew apart. I feel I have nothing to give my son, just broken promises and a failed life. I don't know what I'm going to do..
cc360 I was left by my father at 2 I don’t remeber him and I really wish I knew him there will always be a part missing of myself and the right decision is to stay, if you really care about your child then why would you have to leave?
walking the stage next year is going to be hard without you there.. but i can do it, i know i can.
I would wake up and hear my mom and dad screaming at each other and eventually we fled for arizona to oregon to start a new life. At the start we were homeless and i got pink eye at the shelter. I remember the bed bugs at night. I remember stealing things as a outlet. I still have trauma from all the yelling. I get phantom pain all the time when I think about anything related to this. Is just having a nice full family so much to ask for?
God bless you, we have a lot in common
I went through this and I talked to him today and he said that he chose not to be apart of my life
I just wanna cry but i won't let myself cuz I won't stop. School is honestly such a harsh environment everyone that cares is depressed p
Why do they leave when they’re suppose to protect their children? We matter too, and we’re suppose to be their priority.
My dad left when I was 2 months old and I heard that when I was very small and I cried every night for like 7 years in 10 now about to be 11 when I text him he says he loved me well if you loved me you would stuck around I'm a big sister to a 8 yr old boy a 3 yr old boy and a 3 month yr old girl They won't know there big sister😢
The mom left. Its the mom who decides to be single 80%of the time
All I ever asked was to be loved from my father but he abandoned me
The concept:😭🥺😓😨
The music:😎😎😎😎
daddy if yoou read this i still love you. no matter what. whats your name? favoritive color? ill never know my life is horrible this relates so much to me
I’m 14 and yh ive grown up with a Dad but a couple of months ago he told us he found a new girlfriend and that he would be moving to Ireland with her and her children , he said he will always be there for me and we will visit eachother , they use to FaceTime and he said how can he have a proper relationship with her if he barely sees her but fit the past couple of days I’ve sat here thinking , what about your relationship with your children and your family or has he just gotten tired of us and wants to move on and have a fresh start without any kids
My dad has only been around for 3 years of my life I'm 13 hes been an addict and a alcoholic I haven't lived with neither of my parents the last 5 years of my life and my dad is about to go to jail for 5 years but that's what he gets for not wanting to be a father an just make things worse
My dad recently started trying to talk to me. But, all he does is lie & try to use me as a pawn to get back together with my mom. I don't want to talk to him anymore.
my parents divorced when I was about 4 I don't really remember being together as a family I don't even really have pictures.... I had to go to my dad's every other weekend and you know growing up you don't really think about it but as I got older I realized how much I felt unwanted he got remarried and she treats me like shit to...I stopped going over there about 2 years ago and I think he called or texted about 6 times and that's about it..... I reach out and trying to talk to him but it's hurts so bad knowing you don't even know what to say to your own dad.... I had a loss in my family last week and that was the first time in months he had talk to me.... then he blames me and tells me that I could text him or go to his house....but I am tried of being the one who reaches out.... he needs to stand up and be a dad...
does anyone have any advice or anything I just need to talk to someone
This is my story... I feel like if i had written it, I know the feeling. I found my peace in God, he is y father and he never fails he has the best for me and all those days that my dad would make me feel worthless I would run to God and pray for him to give e the strength and patience to understand that my dad wasn't perfect but that he would work on him. I prayed that he helped me forget all the pain and I understand many things. I didn't come here to speak religion and try to shove it up your ears I came here because like us there is a lot of people who have suffered because of this situation. I came here because today I remembered where God has lift me up from and I wanted to share it with someone. Like I said I don't come here to talk about religion it's a relationship with God that I know truly works, when it's only you and him and you can talk to him and pour your heart out. A daughter and father relationship that is what I have.
I’m sorry Emily, that’s my daughters name too. I’m sure deep down he loves you but doesn’t know how to show it. He will come around one day.
Tell him what you just wrote. Man up and be a dad. If he cannot do that, let go and put him out of your mind. Seek therapy regardless of the outcome, not having a father around is very toxic for young minds.
The longer you’re away the harder it is to come back. One of you has to make a move for better or worse. Timing is everything and remember your father doesn’t know what you’re feeling and the pain that remains. Communication
My dad put me and my family though lots of shit....i write music I know this is 5 years later but can I use these words to turn it into a song
My dad was probably high or drunk the night he left me
That horrible night 10 years ago
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I can relate bro I'm sharing dis
He is the reason in have trust issues
There will always be one sentence i will never say, I love you Dad ,Wanna play😭
Idk why my dad left my mom while pregnant with me , maybe it was because of me?? I’ve only saw him just for a fucking day in my birthday when I was 6 years old and he came with a woman that I dint knew who was her..then I never saw him again, I’m 14 years old now and he never gave me a happy birthday card..he was never in my life , I went threw so much pain because of my mom and dad.. and all I just want is a hug from him that’s all... I want him too go to my volleyball practice and see how good I am playing ( that goes to my mom too) My dad always says “I’m going to visit you next year” Or “I’m going too your graduation!” He just say lies , all lies! I just fucking hate him so much but still I want him back... sometimes I just want and say so much things too him but I can’t , why did he even left me and dint give a shit about me and still took care of my other siblings...and not me , I’m supposed too be his little princess or his everything but it looks like I’m not...