They do not learn from their mistakes. When they get called out on their poor behaviour, they just hit ‘pause’ and wait for the dust to settle. Then ‘rewind’. Then ‘play’. And same behaviour happens again…and again…and again…until you just can’t stand it anymore. And then - when you finally cut ties, to save yourself…they play the victim. Impossible to deal with. And it’s best to decide not to.
Isn't it crazy that we're all just desperately trying to make sense of people that don't make sense. I have to admit, I enjoy watching the channels with self aware narcissists because they are s direct look into their mindset. When I spent 8 years with my narcissist ex, I spent most of that time desperately trying to understand him. Trying to reason with him. Their brains are wired completely different
They don't want anyone talking about them at all. They realize that people will catch on and run away, see them coming and want to get away from them. You can't change them and you can't beat them at their games. They have no boundaries, no rules of ethics or conduct. Nothing is beneath them to do. So grateful to you, Scott. I'm in a peaceful place because of you. It wasn't easy but I am here, I am myself now. It is gratifying to see this subject is now mainstream, I heard some young ladies talking about the narcissist in their lives. We have a lot of work to do and from the beginning I have wondered what can be done with these knuckleheads, lol. Once it's a known thing, how can we adapt and venture on in life with this knowledge? How should we treat them, mental health wise and in the world ? I think oh, this person is a little toxic, no, thank you, on my way away from them. I worked on my emotional triggers and the impact they have on me is lessened. Still working on me. God bless you!
Actually, you can beat them at their own game. All you have to do it call them out on the BS in front of people and then discard them and tell everyone why.
What you said about them not wanting anyone talking about them - that hit me really hard. I have had a female friend for many, many years who is narcissistic. I've known this about her for a very long time, but I managed to avoid getting caught up in her nonsense and wrath. To be honest, she only has two friends who have been able to overlook her neurosis - all other relationships she manages to destroy. But that all changed when I became interested in and fell for her closest female friend - the only other person who can put up with her. My friend's reaction to this news was completely insane. She a had disproportionate meltdown and refused to speak to me for 5 months. Her other friend and I couldn't make heads or tails of her over-the-top reaction. Then it clicked - she was scared. She was terrified that we would compare notes. She couldn't have cared less about mine and her friend's new relationship or happiness. She just didn't want to be exposed. Yeah, I have put a great distance between myself and my narcissistic "friend". Be careful who you give pity to.
The other day I was visiting my parents house and a argument happened between me and my mother who I believe has narcissistic traits. I called her out and said you're trying to target me and control me. She flipped out and ran and shut herself in her room. Never has she ever done that.
What scares a narcarrsist,have 5 people in the room who have all different experiences with the said narcarrsist,different stories ,lies and put downs about everyone in the room ,or maybe just about there own exs.
P.S. After realizing that after 15 years I was married to a narcissist, I watched your videos in my own bedroom while still living with my ex-husband. We had separate bedrooms the last year of our marri age. I watched and listened to your videos....which are all individually filled with a comprehensive understanding of these wicked beings. I cannot thank you enough for your videos. You gave me the knowledge of what these kinds of people are all about, and provided me an inside lens of how and why this was happening to me. I hope you don't go away......Please make more videos. I've always wanted you to do a video on narcissists who break your stuff. My ex-husband used to "accidentally" break items that were of sentimental value to me, or, "misplace" my keys to make it appear that I'm crazy. He broke several items over the years while attempting to "fix" something. Thought this might be an interesting topic and inquire if you experienced any one of these shenanigans. Thank you again, Scott......it's so nice to see you again!!
Thank you - yes you hit the nail on the head. They are scared of you finding them out and being discarded even though they often discard you. They also do tend to stick around forever until you find them out.
Welcome back Scott! We’ve all missed you so much! You were probably the first UA-camr I found when researching Narcissism. You are always so spot on about everything! I was just amazed at your wisdom and insight! Please keep putting up new content for us. You are so easy to follow and understand. Welcome back! 🎉
I saw you channel about 10 years ago, in the middle of my divorce & co parenting nightmare with the narc ex husband...your channel helped save my life & sanity..eternally greatful to you, so glad you are still around & back better then ever❤️❤️💥🌟🔥🙏🏽🙏🏽I'm still subscribed after all this time🥰
Knowing the traits of someone who could be diagnosed with NPD, and how to deal with them BEFORE they slaughter you in their smear campaign, would be grand. However, too many of us discover the hard facts afterwards, when it's too late, and our lives are hanging in the balance, wondering if our death is the only option for peace.
Watch, wait, and listen. Take your time. Don't rush. Whenever I meet somebody new I make a list of every red flag I see. Example: -cheated on past relationship -found smokes in the backyard today but bf says he doesn't smoke? Hmm... -my keys went missing today, gf found them for me. -my keys went missing, again. Gf found again. Etc etc. If it's a cluster b the list will keep growing and growing. Also, recently I saw a comment that said, "give a narcissist 6 months and Aspd a year or 2. The mask will usually fall in this timeline."
What scares narcissists? When they get found out… When others realize that the narcissists are the actual culprits who cause problems and drama. That’s what scares them.
And when something comes out that your oblivious to,infront of a crowd say at a funeral or wedding,watch them squirm and try to lie their way out of that one.
No matter what u do for them they still wickedly evil u can't help them things boy did I learn just yesterday I did something nice and this thing told me i hope your house catch fire like what to me seem like the nicer u are the angrier they get it's just weird
Yes. What they are more scared of is.... The others. They relay themselves on how others view them. What the others may think about them. The others discovering who they really are is what they fear most. Because there's reason for that to happen (their real being and behavior). That's why they try to destroy you relaying (distorting) on others opinions, if they feel you are a threat. Because others are their weakness. Rejection is their death.
I'm really glad I trusted my gut and tapped on this video because although I was already aware of what my narcissistic husband is afraid of, the other issue that you spoke about is what I really needed to hear today! I've been going through this cycle for 17 years now of love bomb, devalue, love bomb, devalue then breadcrumb, devalue ect... Now after all these years it's more like: devalue, ignore and just when I have a foot out of the door to leave, he'll throw me a sliver of a breadcrumb! But it has worked for him! I just can't anymore... I've lost everything about myself and now I have health problems and he LOVES how powerless he has made me! Or so he thinks anyway..... You're 💯% right about it getting worse~and~worse; like slowly cooking a frog in a pot of water (or so the analogy goes), you don't know you're being cooked until it's too late to jump out of the pot!!
💜 OMG! HIGHLY RECOMMEND the emails and booklets Scott produces! His EXACT, UNIQUE, PRECISE detailing of moments in Narcissistic Abuse are AMAZING PURE GEMS!!!
Sentences I particularly watch for when dating now a women are = " Most men are afraid of me " or " Often, men gets intimidated by me" Those sentences means RUUUUUUNNNNNNNN brother RUUUUUNNNNNNNN. Badmouthing her ex is a bonus.
@@goldbrick2563 Because it's a tell on herself, she tells you other men saw her character, judged it as defective, and went for healthier, more agreeable women. IT'S A GIFT when she tells you all thi, in the open, from the get go. You have to be grateful she tells you right away, for FREE. Say THANK YOU LOVE and leave her behind, block her phone, and never look back .... with love.
@@goldbrick2563 Usually they tell you first date, in the first 10 sentences. They are so proud of it 🤣🤣🤣🤣 "I'ma a strong waaaaaamaaaannn, fear me and tremble in despair"
Hey Scott, it's amazing you're back on You Tube, massive yay!!! I was so sad when your videos stopped, they all helped me so much, I always wondered how you were able to teach. Please consider sharing your personal journey one day. Now I'm no longer suffering I still like to stay knowledgeable. I haven't attracted a narc in several years. I can spot them now. All the learning and suffering paid off! Xxxx
Scott, where the hell have you been? I don't know if you've got another channel or what, but I've been wanting to thank you for your help when going through my divorce nearly 5 years ago. You got me through some really tough times; seriously. I watched your videos 2 and 3 times over - and I'm glad to see you are back. I've tried to find you over the past few years.....this is such a surprise. Glad to see you again.....thank you with all my heart.
i also watched them over and over. i was very sick with brain fog back then and was struggling to retain the information provided. this Scott has truly provided a service, a high value wealth of perspective and insight. We are very appreciative 💖
It's very hard to know who is trustworthy and after my level of abuse I'm disgusted to know how people still can continue to abuse someone and get away with doing so ,I'm very sick with having to trust anyone any longer ,I hate every day I wake up because of everyone's part in the abuse
Claiming someone is crazy and has conditions that they don't is disgusting that is mental torture and they all should be locked up and never allowed to work with people again,
So glad you are back. Your videos were some of the first I found on YT years ago, and I thank you for insight and wisdom. I still have a notebook full of notes I took from your presentations--I read them now, and remember all the benefit I got from them. Again--glad you are back, and thank you.
Brilliant video. I walked away from my ex 2 months ago cut all contact. We were together 7years.. So hard as we are grieving someone who didn’t exist. He has an ego the size of the world. Couldn’t take any criticism, lied, no doubt cheated . I confronted him told him he wA a narcissist. He has almost slithered away he is terrified as he has been exposed and his evil vile mask has slipped. Once that is exposed there is no going back. Best wishes to anyone that is going through the pain of this .
People, have you ever been successful exposing a psychopath? Anyone? I haven't..and I tried, mainly at work. They destroy everything but you can't expose them because no one knows what is a psychopath. They believe the psychopath's story and you will be fired!!
You can expose their actions .... but NEVER their character's. You can pile up proofs, video, written, audio over time, and IF you find someone who's not in the surrounding of the narc, and IF you find someone who really cares for the company, then you can expose them. But What for???? So much efforts ....... for what? Leaving the company is way easier, way faster, and way less stress.
@@ThereIsAlwaysaWay2 In all my jobs, no matter how many proofs I provide, they don't believe it. Well, leaving several companies because of the psycho is no good for my CV. How do I justify working for a short period of time? Maybe in IT there are more psychopaths than in other fields? It is no good for my profesional career. What do I tell HR when they ask "why so many short time jobs?"
@@MG-zj3ge They are not that much, less then 5% of the population + the PERFECT justification is pay raise. No employer ever argue that. On top of that, it let them know from the get go, they have to pay you properly because you have wings on your back. It's a win win all around.
@@ThereIsAlwaysaWay2 Sorry but I disagree. I'm 46 and I found psychopaths in, let's say, 80% of my jobs. Any time this happened, they turned my work into a nightmare. All I wanted is to stay for as long as I wanted, that is, more than a couple of years in the same job. In IT it takes around a year to learn about your job position. After the first year is when things start to get interesting for my learning and development. But so often a psychopath gets in my way! Who said they are the 5%? That figure doesn't make any sense to me according to my own experience. I put lots of efforts to be a good employee, and everything goes out the window when the psychopaths play their game. I've heard all similar stories and no one could defeat the psychopaths. I've also found out that there are usuallly more than one. It's a win for them-lose for me.
@@MG-zj3ge OH it means your the problem then. Heck, you would probably qualify me as a psychopath in 5 sec. Or course people don't believe you. Your last comment made me stop believing you right away. And I've never met you 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
One that I have been dealing with for 14 1/2 years suddenly reminds me of an ex that I put out of my life 33 years ago. I can't believe that I didn't see this before. The picking the fights and throwing you off balance is like what they used to call the cycle of abuse. They used to think that all these abusers were bi-polar because they didn't know about narcissists. Some are bipolar. There's the Jekyl & Hyde. Many go to church to prove that they are good people.
How about when they make you anxious and depressed. Or they tell you that nobody likes you and thinks you will never change and you have no feelings. Then when you say to them, how can I be around your friends and family when they think about me that way, they say “ oh boy , here we go again”. Also how about when they have bankrupted you! I am completely broke thanks to her ! And all she wants is more money !
I can't believe you're saying the word "jerk".. that is the exact word used by one in the family just this week! He said oh I'm just a jerk! I was a bit surprised but kept wary.. but into the conversation he did add his little digs about me.. Yep.. This was important because I was feeling a crack of hope.. But no.. not gonna get sucked into opening up with them again like they are really becoming friends..🤔😮😒
I think it's important to note that abusive behavior can be displayed by nonnarcissistic individuals as well, they can engage in gossip and smear campaigns. Sometimes flying monkeys (supporters, big fans, and worshippers) of a narcissist can cause bigger damage than the narcissists themselves. Also, I think everyone is afraid of losing their reputation, not just narcissists because we live in a capitalistic society that can basically swallow you, grind you, and spit you out. Your livelihood depends on your reputation. Just because you are an empath, doesn't mean you have no fears.
just the mere discussion of this persona and it's high importance makes my stomach feel uneasy. when i get around people who i know are trying to mold my view of them i am leary. and find that after the encounter my mind spins trying to decode their enigma. and when i conclude that something is terribly off and i dont have the full picture, nor should i care, i dedicate another period of time how to deal with them in the future. Authenticity is a high value in my life's perspective
I really need to hear this my Daughter i think is one and i know her Dad is one and ive just been pouring my heart out to my Sister today about my Daughter the way she is so cold towards me and smearing me, which she has for years.
Good to see you still going strong. I discovered this channel 7 years ago as I was divorcing my ex covert narc. Keep speaking up for the victims. Channels like these keeps us survivors sane and provides community to those of us who were isolated, gas lighted, lost our identities, and didn't know what else to believe! Keep up the good work.
After a terrible disrespectful rage of verbal abuse, I told him he was wicked, a user and a pussy!… I didn’t give in to his attempt to bring me back under control, then I left and called him narcissist on the way out and gave him the finger and said F U! I blocked him and haven’t looked back since 😂 I’m sure he want expecting that after 6 years of bs. I’m done - the abuse is too f’ing much. My mental health was at an all time low. I had to save my life. Thank you Lord 🙏🏽
Have just caught up on some of your previous messages.6 years ago. You are really good! You have a special skills and insights into this phenomenon. Many thanks - you have really helped me fathom a few things out.
YAY - youre back.............enjoyed listening to you many many years ago...............my view is narcs thrive creating drama (even covert ones) to keep on top of themselves being exposed........they are dysfunctional although they try to create a persona of being "perfect" when theyre far from it.................ive had 2 main narcs in my life - one a former partner of 14 years who almost destroyed me and ive a brother i dont speak to(for past 7 years) whos been trying to destroy me and other family members all his life........hes 63......other family members keep forgiving him and going back to get used,hurt again and again - i dont.
Looking well, Scott. I will always be grateful to you for your you tube video on being trapped in their bubble. I really got that, and it helped me to accept my personal circumstances and to eventually escape. Acceptance is key, if you want to be free of them.
Extremelyyyy important because it gives tools to stay grounded in reality around people who live in alice and wonderland. I agree that it is subconscious and compulsive for them. Thank you for the added insights
Once again, so happy you’re back. You’re a gem and saved my life and sanity more than you know in the past. Thank you for creating meaningful content once again ❤❤❤ yayyyy you’re back!!!
One of your last videos you mentioned : The different personas a narcissist will have around different friends/ people to hold up their facades... Could you elaborate more? TY 😊
So happy you are back!!! Your videos helped me so much! Thank you so much for sharing your perspective on youtube! I was really confused as to why my ex covert narc husband, left started a new family and apparently treated them so much better. You gave me insight in that. I am curious if you can do a video update about the aging narcissist and their new family? Also a video about the adult children of a narcissist.
Your book helped me wrap me my around this. Out of all the vids, comments, everything I had found up to that point, it really was your book that broke things down and made things make sense. Thanks for all you do.
Of the hundreds of videos I've watched on narcissism, throughout the years, this one is in the top tier most essential. Among the best, maybe top 5, maybe number 1.
I always wonder how this can be applied to the top level governarcs... because I don't know how anyone is able to go no contact with them, and given the wireless technology and the tr a n shumanism total control agenda, I don't know how there are any boundaries these days.
Scotty Bassett. You are some sort of god 💯 I had an extraordinary experience with narcissism and feel that I ‘figured it out’ and that no one could possibly understand. Then I found you. And realised. You are a god 🙏❤️👍
Scott, so cool to see you back! I feel like I’m Visiting with an old friend. I hope this finds you well. You helped me to re-gain my sanity by opening my eyes to what I was dealing with… It was “Opposite Day” every day back then and NOTHING made sense. I got your book and between that and your videos, I was able to move forward. So thanks for that! I appreciate
The situation I have is a different version, maybe because he’s a malignant. And after 40 years he has never apologized, or even discussed anything because he’s perfect, And he does hate me because he hates women. He has his name carrying on so now my only purpose is for him is devising covert punishments. There is no sharing anything. Decisions, children, vacation plans, information are “come along to go along.” So it was shocking to him when I got a lawyer and I haven’t spoken to him since. Fini
They do not learn from their mistakes. When they get called out on their poor behaviour, they just hit ‘pause’ and wait for the dust to settle. Then ‘rewind’. Then ‘play’. And same behaviour happens again…and again…and again…until you just can’t stand it anymore. And then - when you finally cut ties, to save yourself…they play the victim. Impossible to deal with. And it’s best to decide not to.
Exact.
They immediately deny and forget.
Absolutely they pause and rewind.
Couldn’t have said it better myself.
Wow, what you say here is very good! Exactly! Hit the nail on the head!
They have one rule for them and another for you. If you acted the same way they did to them ..they hate this. Or if you ignore them .
They can preemptively discard you and smear you simply because of their fear that you'll figure them out and discard them.
I can imagine that one of the narcissists biggest fears would be to end up all alone. Then they are without their life giving supply.
Isn't it crazy that we're all just desperately trying to make sense of people that don't make sense. I have to admit, I enjoy watching the channels with self aware narcissists because they are s direct look into their mindset.
When I spent 8 years with my narcissist ex, I spent most of that time desperately trying to understand him. Trying to reason with him. Their brains are wired completely different
100%. I’m getting ready to leave my wife. It’s so sad, but she leaves me no choice. She’ll never understand cause her brain is wired so differently
What scares them is when you set boundaries not being told or controlled
They're psychopaths, plain and simple. Don't allow them near you.
Omg y’all! This speaker is great. Saves lives. Welcome back
Yes, saved mine back in 2012!! so glad to see him back🥰
He has to be a professor or some type of teacher in his professional life? Or analytical field like law? So good at breaking subject down
They don't want anyone talking about them at all. They realize that people will catch on and run away, see them coming and want to get away from them. You can't change them and you can't beat them at their games. They have no boundaries, no rules of ethics or conduct. Nothing is beneath them to do. So grateful to you, Scott. I'm in a peaceful place because of you. It wasn't easy but I am here, I am myself now. It is gratifying to see this subject is now mainstream, I heard some young ladies talking about the narcissist in their lives. We have a lot of work to do and from the beginning I have wondered what can be done with these knuckleheads, lol. Once it's a known thing, how can we adapt and venture on in life with this knowledge? How should we treat them, mental health wise and in the world ? I think oh, this person is a little toxic, no, thank you, on my way away from them. I worked on my emotional triggers and the impact they have on me is lessened. Still working on me. God bless you!
Actually, you can beat them at their own game. All you have to do it call them out on the BS in front of people and then discard them and tell everyone why.
What you said about them not wanting anyone talking about them - that hit me really hard.
I have had a female friend for many, many years who is narcissistic. I've known this about her for a very long time, but I managed to avoid getting caught up in her nonsense and wrath. To be honest, she only has two friends who have been able to overlook her neurosis - all other relationships she manages to destroy. But that all changed when I became interested in and fell for her closest female friend - the only other person who can put up with her.
My friend's reaction to this news was completely insane. She a had disproportionate meltdown and refused to speak to me for 5 months. Her other friend and I couldn't make heads or tails of her over-the-top reaction.
Then it clicked - she was scared. She was terrified that we would compare notes. She couldn't have cared less about mine and her friend's new relationship or happiness. She just didn't want to be exposed.
Yeah, I have put a great distance between myself and my narcissistic "friend".
Be careful who you give pity to.
So true. They do have a scapegoat for every area of life. One at church, one at work, of course in the home, etc.@@FenianPhoenixRises
@FenianPhoenixRises yes, the scapegoat everywhere they go, that is key! Thank you!
The other day I was visiting my parents house and a argument happened between me and my mother who I believe has narcissistic traits. I called her out and said you're trying to target me and control me. She flipped out and ran and shut herself in her room. Never has she ever done that.
My mom threw the food at the floor to punish me to never fight against her ever.
Oh, yes. My narc mother always heads to her bedroom to avoid ownership of what she does.
@@seanguzy9601 Wow, sorry to hear that. That definitely sucks. True health relationships can be difficult to make and find, but anything is possible!
What scares a narcarrsist,have 5 people in the room who have all different experiences with the said narcarrsist,different stories ,lies and put downs about everyone in the room ,or maybe just about there own exs.
Exaclty! So let us expose evil and what isnt right wherever we encounter it.
Never be silent when injustice is being done! ❤
Humiliation, shame, isolation.
P.S. After realizing that after 15 years I was married to a narcissist, I watched your videos in my own bedroom while still living with my ex-husband. We had separate bedrooms the last year of our marri age. I watched and listened to your videos....which are all individually filled with a comprehensive understanding of these wicked beings.
I cannot thank you enough for your videos. You gave me the knowledge of what these kinds of people are all about, and provided me an inside lens of how and why this was happening to me. I hope you don't go away......Please make more videos. I've always wanted you to do a video on narcissists who break your stuff. My ex-husband used to "accidentally" break items that were of sentimental value to me, or, "misplace" my keys to make it appear that I'm crazy. He broke several items over the years while attempting to "fix" something. Thought this might be an interesting topic and inquire if you experienced any one of these shenanigans. Thank you again, Scott......it's so nice to see you again!!
Yes! Scott--do a presentation on this: what narks do to your stuff, how they go through it, damage it, lose it, etc.
Thank you - yes you hit the nail on the head. They are scared of you finding them out and being discarded even though they often discard you. They also do tend to stick around forever until you find them out.
Welcome back Scott! We’ve all missed you so much! You were probably the first UA-camr I found when researching Narcissism. You are always so spot on about everything! I was just amazed at your wisdom and insight! Please keep putting up new content for us. You are so easy to follow and understand. Welcome back! 🎉
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1st🎉 Hey Scott ! Glad to see you again !
To a tee! He completely described my last relationship. The blow ups, the meltdowns, the proding me to open up... everything!
I saw you channel about 10 years ago, in the middle of my divorce & co parenting nightmare with the narc ex husband...your channel helped save my life & sanity..eternally greatful to you, so glad you are still around & back better then ever❤️❤️💥🌟🔥🙏🏽🙏🏽I'm still subscribed after all this time🥰
Knowing the traits of someone who could be diagnosed with NPD, and how to deal with them BEFORE they slaughter you in their smear campaign, would be grand. However, too many of us discover the hard facts afterwards, when it's too late, and our lives are hanging in the balance, wondering if our death is the only option for peace.
Watch, wait, and listen.
Take your time. Don't rush.
Whenever I meet somebody new I make a list of every red flag I see.
Example:
-cheated on past relationship
-found smokes in the backyard today but bf says he doesn't smoke? Hmm...
-my keys went missing today, gf found them for me.
-my keys went missing, again. Gf found again.
Etc etc.
If it's a cluster b the list will keep growing and growing.
Also, recently I saw a comment that said, "give a narcissist 6 months and Aspd a year or 2. The mask will usually fall in this timeline."
What scares narcissists?
When they get found out…
When others realize that the narcissists are the actual culprits who cause problems and drama.
That’s what scares them.
I agree saving face, its exposure, like Scott says their structure/game falling apart.
And when something comes out that your oblivious to,infront of a crowd say at a funeral or wedding,watch them squirm and try to lie their way out of that one.
You describe the narc so well with so many nuances and details. Thanks for sharing your perspective and knowledge on this! So glad you're back!
Years before I learned what a narcissist was, I used to wonder to myself: Why does he need to get his way so much of the time?
No matter what u do for them they still wickedly evil u can't help them things boy did I learn just yesterday I did something nice and this thing told me i hope your house catch fire like what to me seem like the nicer u are the angrier they get it's just weird
@vickypatterson833 Yes, it's weird 😮😢
Yes. What they are more scared of is.... The others. They relay themselves on how others view them. What the others may think about them. The others discovering who they really are is what they fear most. Because there's reason for that to happen (their real being and behavior). That's why they try to destroy you relaying (distorting) on others opinions, if they feel you are a threat. Because others are their weakness. Rejection is their death.
He's back!😁👋
You're back to add to the team that's exposing the narcs and freeing unsuspecting naive , hopeful, people. The world needs you.
I'm really glad I trusted my gut and tapped on this video because although I was already aware of what my narcissistic husband is afraid of, the other issue that you spoke about is what I really needed to hear today! I've been going through this cycle for 17 years now of love bomb, devalue, love bomb, devalue then breadcrumb, devalue ect... Now after all these years it's more like: devalue, ignore and just when I have a foot out of the door to leave, he'll throw me a sliver of a breadcrumb! But it has worked for him! I just can't anymore... I've lost everything about myself and now I have health problems and he LOVES how powerless he has made me! Or so he thinks anyway..... You're 💯% right about it getting worse~and~worse; like slowly cooking a frog in a pot of water (or so the analogy goes), you don't know you're being cooked until it's too late to jump out of the pot!!
💜 OMG! HIGHLY RECOMMEND the emails and booklets Scott produces! His EXACT, UNIQUE, PRECISE detailing of moments in Narcissistic Abuse are AMAZING PURE GEMS!!!
They are Demons acting like Angels ,And thank you Scott ❤😌👌
Omgosh.. yes. And it's worse when they know you know.
They don’t want you to “see” the demonic spirit within
Great to see you back Scott. Love your content and information. Thank you 🙏
Was very happy to see you back - an expert on a subject you clearly have personal experience of.
Sentences I particularly watch for when dating now a women are = " Most men are afraid of me " or " Often, men gets intimidated by me"
Those sentences means RUUUUUUNNNNNNNN brother RUUUUUNNNNNNNN.
Badmouthing her ex is a bonus.
Why run? Maybe men have been intimidated. If she's pretty, it's usually the case. They can be the loneliest
@@goldbrick2563 Because it's a tell on herself, she tells you other men saw her character, judged it as defective, and went for healthier, more agreeable women. IT'S A GIFT when she tells you all thi, in the open, from the get go. You have to be grateful she tells you right away, for FREE. Say THANK YOU LOVE and leave her behind, block her phone, and never look back .... with love.
@@ThereIsAlwaysaWay2 oh i see...this is after you've been on a few dates and shes telling you why she is single or other relationships havent worked?
@@goldbrick2563 Usually they tell you first date, in the first 10 sentences. They are so proud of it 🤣🤣🤣🤣 "I'ma a strong waaaaaamaaaannn, fear me and tremble in despair"
Hey Scott, it's amazing you're back on You Tube, massive yay!!! I was so sad when your videos stopped, they all helped me so much, I always wondered how you were able to teach. Please consider sharing your personal journey one day. Now I'm no longer suffering I still like to stay knowledgeable. I haven't attracted a narc in several years. I can spot them now. All the learning and suffering paid off! Xxxx
So glad you’re doing these vids. I’ve followed you for years and find that you are entirely accurate.
Hey brother! Glad to see you back!!!! I watched all your old vids back in the day. They were very helpful. I hope you're well these days.
Scott, where the hell have you been? I don't know if you've got another channel or what, but I've been wanting to thank you for your help when going through my divorce nearly 5 years ago. You got me through some really tough times; seriously. I watched your videos 2 and 3 times over - and I'm glad to see you are back. I've tried to find you over the past few years.....this is such a surprise. Glad to see you again.....thank you with all my heart.
Same! Watched his videos over and over
i also watched them over and over. i was very sick with brain fog back then and was struggling to retain the information provided. this Scott has truly provided a service, a high value wealth of perspective and insight. We are very appreciative 💖
It's very hard
to know who is trustworthy and after my level of abuse I'm disgusted to know how people still can continue to abuse someone and get away with doing so ,I'm very sick with having to trust anyone any longer ,I hate every day I wake up because of everyone's part in the abuse
When you don't have anyone to turn to it's very difficult to move on especially when people won't let me 😡😡😡
Claiming someone is crazy and has conditions that they don't is disgusting that is mental torture and they all should be locked up and never allowed to work with people again,
We've missed you bunches!
So glad you are back. Your videos were some of the first I found on YT years ago, and I thank you for insight and wisdom. I still have a notebook full of notes I took from your presentations--I read them now, and remember all the benefit I got from them.
Again--glad you are back, and thank you.
Brilliant video. I walked away from my ex 2 months ago cut all contact. We were together 7years.. So hard as we are grieving someone who didn’t exist. He has an ego the size of the world. Couldn’t take any criticism, lied, no doubt cheated . I confronted him told him he wA a narcissist. He has almost slithered away he is terrified as he has been exposed and his evil vile mask has slipped. Once that is exposed there is no going back. Best wishes to anyone that is going through the pain of this .
Great to see you back and healthy!
Your videos helped me out a lot a few years back. Thank you.
People, have you ever been successful exposing a psychopath? Anyone? I haven't..and I tried, mainly at work. They destroy everything but you can't expose them because no one knows what is a psychopath. They believe the psychopath's story and you will be fired!!
You can expose their actions .... but NEVER their character's.
You can pile up proofs, video, written, audio over time, and IF you find someone who's not in the surrounding of the narc, and IF you find someone who really cares for the company, then you can expose them.
But What for???? So much efforts ....... for what? Leaving the company is way easier, way faster, and way less stress.
@@ThereIsAlwaysaWay2 In all my jobs, no matter how many proofs I provide, they don't believe it.
Well, leaving several companies because of the psycho is no good for my CV. How do I justify working for a short period of time? Maybe in IT there are more psychopaths than in other fields? It is no good for my profesional career. What do I tell HR when they ask "why so many short time jobs?"
@@MG-zj3ge They are not that much, less then 5% of the population + the PERFECT justification is pay raise. No employer ever argue that. On top of that, it let them know from the get go, they have to pay you properly because you have wings on your back.
It's a win win all around.
@@ThereIsAlwaysaWay2 Sorry but I disagree. I'm 46 and I found psychopaths in, let's say, 80% of my jobs. Any time this happened, they turned my work into a nightmare. All I wanted is to stay for as long as I wanted, that is, more than a couple of years in the same job. In IT it takes around a year to learn about your job position. After the first year is when things start to get interesting for my learning and development. But so often a psychopath gets in my way!
Who said they are the 5%? That figure doesn't make any sense to me according to my own experience.
I put lots of efforts to be a good employee, and everything goes out the window when the psychopaths play their game.
I've heard all similar stories and no one could defeat the psychopaths. I've also found out that there are usuallly more than one. It's a win for them-lose for me.
@@MG-zj3ge OH it means your the problem then. Heck, you would probably qualify me as a psychopath in 5 sec.
Or course people don't believe you.
Your last comment made me stop believing you right away. And I've never met you 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
One that I have been dealing with for 14 1/2 years suddenly reminds me of an ex that I put out of my life 33 years ago. I can't believe that I didn't see this before. The picking the fights and throwing you off balance is like what they used to call the cycle of abuse. They used to think that all these abusers were bi-polar because they didn't know about narcissists. Some are bipolar. There's the Jekyl & Hyde. Many go to church to prove that they are good people.
beyond happy to see you back making videos!
It's very unpleasant to accept people for who and what they are sometimes.
How about when they make you anxious and depressed. Or they tell you that nobody likes you and thinks you will never change and you have no feelings. Then when you say to them, how can I be around your friends and family when they think about me that way, they say “ oh boy , here we go again”. Also how about when they have bankrupted you! I am completely broke thanks to her ! And all she wants is more money !
I can't believe you're saying the word "jerk".. that is the exact word used by one in the family just this week! He said oh I'm just a jerk! I was a bit surprised but kept wary.. but into the conversation he did add his little digs about me.. Yep.. This was important because I was feeling a crack of hope.. But no.. not gonna get sucked into opening up with them again like they are really becoming friends..🤔😮😒
I think it's important to note that abusive behavior can be displayed by nonnarcissistic individuals as well, they can engage in gossip and smear campaigns. Sometimes flying monkeys (supporters, big fans, and worshippers) of a narcissist can cause bigger damage than the narcissists themselves.
Also, I think everyone is afraid of losing their reputation, not just narcissists because we live in a capitalistic society that can basically swallow you, grind you, and spit you out.
Your livelihood depends on your reputation. Just because you are an empath, doesn't mean you have no fears.
Ive flown into an irrational rage on occasion and i'd identify as non-narcissistic. Just in therapy and dealing w/repressed anger
just the mere discussion of this persona and it's high importance makes my stomach feel uneasy. when i get around people who i know are trying to mold my view of them i am leary. and find that after the encounter my mind spins trying to decode their enigma. and when i conclude that something is terribly off and i dont have the full picture, nor should i care, i dedicate another period of time how to deal with them in the future. Authenticity is a high value in my life's perspective
Narcissists are like vampires! Vampires don't like the light.
I really need to hear this my Daughter i think is one and i know her Dad is one and ive just been pouring my heart out to my Sister today about my Daughter the way she is so cold towards me and smearing me, which she has for years.
Good to see you still going strong. I discovered this channel 7 years ago as I was divorcing my ex covert narc.
Keep speaking up for the victims. Channels like these keeps us survivors sane and provides community to those of us who were isolated, gas lighted, lost our identities, and didn't know what else to believe!
Keep up the good work.
One of the clearest and understandable video on narcs I've seen and I've seen many. Thank you for explaining this in a short/simple way. 🙏🏼
After a terrible disrespectful rage of verbal abuse, I told him he was wicked, a user and a pussy!…
I didn’t give in to his attempt to bring me back under control, then I left and called him narcissist on the way out and gave him the finger and said F U!
I blocked him and haven’t looked back since 😂
I’m sure he want expecting that after 6 years of bs.
I’m done - the abuse is too f’ing much. My mental health was at an all time low. I had to save my life.
Thank you Lord 🙏🏽
Have just caught up on some of your previous messages.6 years ago. You are really good! You have a special skills and insights into this phenomenon. Many thanks - you have really helped me fathom a few things out.
Good Morning ☀️ & Welcome Back!!! I’ve wondered if you were ok for years. It’s so good to see you back. Blessings to you 🍃
YAY - youre back.............enjoyed listening to you many many years ago...............my view is narcs thrive creating drama (even covert ones) to keep on top of themselves being exposed........they are dysfunctional although they try to create a persona of being "perfect" when theyre far from it.................ive had 2 main narcs in my life - one a former partner of 14 years who almost destroyed me and ive a brother i dont speak to(for past 7 years) whos been trying to destroy me and other family members all his life........hes 63......other family members keep forgiving him and going back to get used,hurt again and again - i dont.
Thats what he did -turned my family against me . He cared more about what others thought about him than his own wife and children
Welcome Back!! You have such great insights on narcissism
Looking well, Scott. I will always be grateful to you for your you tube video on being trapped in their bubble. I really got that, and it helped me to accept my personal circumstances and to eventually escape. Acceptance is key, if you want to be free of them.
Extremelyyyy important because it gives tools to stay grounded in reality around people who live in alice and wonderland. I agree that it is subconscious and compulsive for them. Thank you for the added insights
The false self is fear based. The emptiness of no form scares the 3D ego concept. I remember the x Narc had to have a noise like a fan going at night.
It's nice to see you doing videos again. You helped me so much in the past. ❤
Once again, so happy you’re back. You’re a gem and saved my life and sanity more than you know in the past. Thank you for creating meaningful content once again ❤❤❤ yayyyy you’re back!!!
Scott! Its amazing knowledge you passing to Humanity. You will be forever thanked 😌
God you understand these people well. You are such an incredible resource for humanity. You've helped me so much over the years, thank you.
Very accurate description
Wow.. glad your still Living!!!!
1-Aging
2-Losing their looks
3-Being Revealed
4- Death
Whoever can fear all the above.
Narcissists are afraid of being exposed as small, needy, vulnerable attention-seekers
Wow!!! It’s been awhile since you made a video. Nice to see you back. Can you make a video about Narc Mothers and their daughters?
Glad to see you back. Loved your content while I was divorcing one the last few years
You're back! Thanks for your work on this topic, sir!
Wow!🥳🎉Scott is back! Great to see you again!😀
Welcome back!
Welcome back my friend
Bruh, your skin looked so healthy and glowing.
So glad you're back.
One of your last videos you mentioned :
The different personas a narcissist will have around different friends/ people to hold up their facades...
Could you elaborate more? TY 😊
I'M SO GLAD YOU'RE BACK!!!!!!! ❤👍❤❤❤👍👍👍👍
Glad you're back! Thanks for the insights. Really helps!
It seems to me that death scares them. The thought of no experience.
I so glad you’re back. I appreciate your content
So happy you are back!!! Your videos helped me so much! Thank you so much for sharing your perspective on youtube! I was really confused as to why my ex covert narc husband, left started a new family and apparently treated them so much better. You gave me insight in that. I am curious if you can do a video update about the aging narcissist and their new family? Also a video about the adult children of a narcissist.
very insightful thanks for sharing, go on
Thank you so much for the time in this video. So helpful ..best insight with your explanation . Appreciated bunches 💖
Literally been 4 freaking years, welcome back!.
Your book helped me wrap me my around this. Out of all the vids, comments, everything I had found up to that point, it really was your book that broke things down and made things make sense. Thanks for all you do.
We all missed you Scott!!
Great to see you back putting out material
Brilliant and amazing to see you back on UA-cam. 🙂🤗👍
Needed to be said & it's true, therefore helpful and confirming. Thank you
Of the hundreds of videos I've watched on narcissism, throughout the years, this one is in the top tier most essential. Among the best, maybe top 5, maybe number 1.
I always wonder how this can be applied to the top level governarcs... because I don't know how anyone is able to go no contact with them, and given the wireless technology and the tr a n shumanism total control agenda, I don't know how there are any boundaries these days.
right???
Scotty Bassett. You are some sort of god 💯
I had an extraordinary experience with narcissism and feel that I ‘figured it out’ and that no one could possibly understand. Then I found you. And realised. You are a god 🙏❤️👍
Scott, so cool to see you back! I feel like I’m
Visiting with an old friend. I hope this finds you well.
You helped me to re-gain my sanity by opening my eyes to what I was dealing with… It was “Opposite Day” every day back then and NOTHING made sense. I got your book and between that and your videos, I was able to move forward. So thanks for that!
I appreciate
The situation I have is a different version, maybe because he’s a malignant. And after 40 years he has never apologized, or even discussed anything because he’s perfect, And he does hate me because he hates women. He has his name carrying on so now my only purpose is for him is devising covert punishments.
There is no sharing anything. Decisions, children, vacation plans, information are “come along to go along.”
So it was shocking to him when I got a lawyer and I haven’t spoken to him since. Fini
we missed you so much
What up Scott!!🎉❤ love your articles light and laughter in my day ❤
Love your videos, glad your back!!!