As a sib of Fred's, we all have our own survival stories of our family experience(s). I would love to co-partner with Abba God's spirit to heal our family's deep wounds. The extreme lack of closeness is unusual and generations deep.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this! So sorry to hear that regarding your family. I touch and agree with you on this. I declare God’s restoration power over your family! ❤️🙏
@@kshillingford4921 and outside the industry. It’s becoming very acceptable and sadly the church has also accepted it. So many from the pulpit to the door. Worst than the world. We truly need healing in the church body. That’s why so many don’t want to come to church or run from God. They understand the world but can’t comprehend why church folk are worst. It takes deliverance from it all and truly focusing on Jesus Christ alone. So many leave their families (good or bad wives) and uncovered the children can suffer. But yet the famous ones continue to reach millions while losing their own. Which is the total opposite of Christ. He would not leave his sheep. 😢. Prayers for all the children caught in these webs … Jesus set the captives free. And the adults who repeat the cycle because they were once the children in the web.
@@sownmack9528 Church folk are the worst, because they act like the world and have conformed to the ways of Satan and have an inner hatred for the things and ordinances of God. No accountability.
Everything she's saying needs to be said to her father not the rest of the world...This is their journey....There's so much I want to address not just as a mother myself of an adult Son, who has rejected me, but also address the dynamics of having Christ believing parents and how they process, think and handle their kids, and most times it's very different than non Christ believers...Both of my parents are devote C.O.G.I.C. members & pastors, and they are very religiously & traditionally motivated...But there's layers to this, and healing respect & forgiveness must take place before ppl can move forward towards any progress...
@@terrilhill1024 yes it can become a gage in how we see and react to the world around us. Dr Gabor Matte has a lot of really good videos right here on UA-cam on how to recover from these childhood traumas. He is a very good speaker.
As a huge Fred Hammond fan, I commend him and Bree for making this struggle public. Many of us have these same issues daily and wont talk or deal with it. I pray that God allows genuine covenrsation and genuine reconciliation for the Hammond Family. God is able!
My honor brother. I’m touching and agreeing with you for things to not only reconcile but to be better than before. God is able and He is with you. Much love 🙏
I have experienced this with my younger daughter. I worked really hard to ensure I never spoke badly about her father and I did not keep her from him. We as women have to be very mindful of the influence we have over our children and do everything possible to be honest and truthful about our relationship with their father without influencing them to hate him..
I am in the exact same situation with my four sons and their mom! My sons do not want 2 know my side of the story nor, do they call me 2 see how I am doing(they live in another state apart from me.). But, I will not give up. I will keep on praying to God, asking Him 2 heal me, my sons, and their mom.
It’s not their job to pursue a relationship with you, it’s your job to do so with them and if you failed in your duties to them during their childhoods (whatever the reason) you can’t expect them to support you in adulthood. Respect is earned.
This is interesting! When a child has a parent in the field of entertainment and ministry, a lot of times, those children feel neglected. You hear this all the time. Those parents see themselves as honorable because they are doing everything they can to do for their families, only to find out the everything they were doing was everything but establishing a relationship with that child. My dad was a Composer and Jazz Musician, and he provided well for me. I never wanted for anything except a relationship. As parents in life, we seem to have this idea that as long as I'm providing the best for our children, that's okay. But children are people too, they want time along with the financial support. We hear it all the time!! Parents say, "I don't understand, I did everything for them!! It's never a child's responsibility to form a close relationship with a parent. Children don't have that level of maturity to know how to accomplish that. We have to stop treating our children like pieces of furniture and, once in a while, dust them off! You can't change what's been done! But as parents, if our children say, "I'm hurt, let's take a look at it and be willing to hear and show compassion to our children. Never attack their pain!! This young woman talked about her wanting to follow in her dad's footsteps. Probably to have her dad's acceptance. She did say, "She wanted to make HER family proud!!" (Acceptance) By listening to her, she's a hurt child walking around with in an adult's body!" Many folks are living this life!! Our bodies have grown, but the hurt child is still running the show. Because of this, it affects every relationship in our lives. In order to start healing, we must be able to have that conversation in a safe space!! (Non- judgmental space) As a child, our parents are our God!! And when that fails us in any way, it can be traumatizing. Children don't understand things about life! They are so pure and innocent! This not only happens to celebrity children and ministry children but a great number of children. As parents, we honestly believe we've done our best. Only to find out our children are collateral damage. As parents, we need to be open to listening to our children's pain and willing to discuss it. Most of the time, our children come to Understand, we were never their God, but we are people that make mistakes too! Be willing to accept the collateral damage we caused and work from there. But never allow them to try to crucify you because some of them will!
This is so amazing! I was divorced and we had children but I never tried to keep my children from their father and I taught them to honor their father. I remarried an amazing man who encouraged my children to embrace their father, he prayed for him he led us to pray for my children’s father when he was absent of his own choice. ThenI watched my husband struggle in his relationship with his children, I encouraged him to continue to call, text and be patient that Malachi 4:6 would be his portion. I believe that children need their parents. Unless they are abusive that’s another conversation. We sometimes don’t survive in marriages but we can move on with the grace of God and in love.
That is so awesome! Salute to you and your husband… If you and/or your husband are ever interested in coming on the show to discuss that experience, please let me know. I would love to have you on!
@Life Coaching by Mel - This is the BEST video I've seen addressing this subject. Your father's story is similar to mine when I wasn't able to be in my boys' life when they were kids. Even though I made attempts to explain my side of the story, I don't believe they're willing to accept the truth about their mother and the part they played why our relationship didn't work. Thank you again for your transparency and realness in sharing your experience with us. Grace and Peace. Prov. 18:17
I met Fred Hammond when I was a teenager right before Commissioned went crazy big, they performed at a baseball game in NJ and I had the biggest crush on him, I knew I was going to marry him🤣🤣🤣🤣 He has always had so much swag and is so cool, and yes I still do tell my siblings that I'm going to marry Fred Hammond one day (I'm 50 next month so it's become a running joke that I've had a crush for my entire life that the only 2 men in my life was 1st boyfriend that I married for 27 years and Fred Hammond that I met 1 time at 15🤣🤣🤣my siblings ask every Thanksgiving and Christmas if I'm bringing Fred with me this year🤣🤣🤣🤣) I didn't watch the show but pray, trust, and believe him and his BEAUTIFUL daughter will work things out! 🥲🥲🥲🥲 I truly feel for both of them, it's a hard place to be from both perspectives.💜💜💜
Haha! That is so hilarious! Fred will be at Thanksgiving dinner one day! I believe in you! 😂 Well said on their relationship! It's a tough situation. However, God is in control!
This is a very good topic and good wisdom. When i was in my 20's me and my ex wife had a son. We divorced but i still kept in contact with my son until he started to drink and act out. Long story short. He stopped talking to me. After some yrs, we started communicating again. Fathers, its not over. Stay open if you can but dont let your child abuse and dont you abuse the option of a good relationship.
Here's what I know as a daughter... Daughters more often than NOT are deeply loyal to their fathers even his wrong. I dont know why Father's (some) dont seem to believe that children (especially daughters) are quite capable of developing an opinion based upon the RELATIONSHIP that men (fathers) CHOOSE to cultivate. The mere fact that she is speaking out says much more about whats REALLY going with him than it does her. She seemed to GENUINELY love her father (she still does) but now she's holding him ACCOUNTABLE for HIS failures as a father. He really showed whats important to HIM by speaking on social media rather than speaking to HIS child.. It's unfortunate that she felt going on a REALITY show to get his attention would at least start conversation, and clearly it did...
I got to meet Fred back in the 90s. Had a gather at Maryland university with churches from all over it was a sports day basket ball tournaments flag foot ball track and he performed a concert after. That joker big. He asked for any youth who wanted to be saved come up front. I went he started praying 1 by 1 his hands are huge. I was a kid then but it was cool to meet him.
I agree with you. We can’t discard what Bree is saying just because we love Fred Hammond’s gift of singing. Fred saying that she put him in a closet so don’t be surprised that he’s in that closet, is a very immature response to her pain. He’s more worried about his image than her pain. Fred could easily fix the relationship but he’s obviously angry that she’s speaking publicly
Very nice approach to dealing with this subject. I lost my Dad at 8 years old. He was a great dad. To all those who feel like it's your dad's fault things didn't work out, and you are estranged from him, live a day in my life. And he's gone decades ago, but I wish he was here. Stop the blame game and be reconciled. Because you will be wailing at the funeral. And that's too late, and it's also tough love from me. Forgive and be forgiven. Get out of your prison. The devil is a liar! Reach out. If you are the Dad, do the same. Come on!
Great topic, son! There are usually 3 sides to every story. His side, her side and the truth (Usually somewhere in the middle). The truth will win in the end.
SIR HAMMOND , I LOVE YOUR RESPONSE!!! KUDOS to your Mother for keeping it real. 💯. We as children, have to stay neutral when parents separate. One, because we may be in the same house, we don't the whole story. I blamed my mom for years, and only when I became an adult did I learn the real deal...
I remember an episode of the Walton where mom and dad had to speak to their son and his wife but before they said a word. John Walton said, " you young folk run on outside this is grown folk business." They didn't say a word until the kids left. I had so much respect for decency and self respect. My parents kept me out of their arguments and I was grateful. My dad did a lot but my mom kept quiet as a believer in Christ. She wasn't weak but obedient by not arguing. Because of her I believe in forgives and letting God handle our battles even if it hurts. Our parents generation went through mess and had to learn grace. Reality TV has done too much to destroy the black community and Moreno God's people.
So glad that you decided to expose this aspect of the situation.It's too often that the man or the father or the husband takes the brunt of the demise. And it's always a two way street. This is very good for healing. If people only knew that that the father the dead if he was a good man or is a good man reach out and open your heart and yourseof to receive. The love that never ceased.
Excellent commentary! Enjoyed the interview with your father. Wise counsel was exuded. The daughter needs counseling and family counseling as well would be beneficial. Keep up the Good Work, My Brother!👊
Mr Fred Hammond said it all with his usual style and grace he has been gifted with by God. It's too bad this is happening this way but he's right...Bree has been raised from the beginning with Christian values and I truly believe God will heal their rift🙏🏽💕🙏🏽
Look if you have no sin, then pile on!! I'm a HUGE Fred Hammond fan. When I first decided to follow Christ it was Fred's music that helped me. When I'm going through times right now I turn to his music. No Weapon, Steps are Ordered, Late in Midnight Hour, Dance Like David. I can go on and on! I don't look for perfection in any person. I still know God is using him. Is Fred perfect, NO. Will he become perfect, NO. Will he make messes in life, YES! I will pray for him and his daughter. Pray works, criticism is like the old rocking chair addage. Gives you something to do but gets you NOWHERE.
Im so thankful that you and your father reconciled. I believe that this topic speaks to a lot of our black families. I’m the “Stepmom “ but has always wanted them to reconcile. Also I want to let you know that I was involved years after his divorce from his ex-wife. Thanks again and God blessings be upon you! 🙏🏾
Thanks so much for that! My honor and pleasure! I agree with you totally. Salute to you for having the heart that you do. I pray that God restores everything and it be better than before! 🙏
Bless you Fred Hammond you can only do what you can I Believe you are a loving father and always have been . She is a grown women and need to take on your own responsibilities , talented as he is , he would not have turned his back on you because he have God in him , and want you to win , you got it from him🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿. Stop there is no need to try to scandalize Fred Hammond.I heard his wife just wanted his Money when he got sick and gained some weight she planned that I heard this way back , her mom was not around when he was sick , Depressed . Fred Hammond has always been respected man of God, I never heard a bad thing about him like some, I really hope she and her dad get together them selves and talk.🙏🏿❤️🙏🏿❤️
This was absolutely awesome for so many reasons. I subscribed just from listening and watching this. You did a great job with adding that clip concerning you and your dad. So many things your dad said were so helpful and profound, probably because he used several relatable scripture and words. This was just absolutely awesome and I am looking forward to other videos. Have a great day and I wish you well in your endeavors for this UA-cam channel.
Today is 6/26/23 and I just heard this broadcast and it helped me on so many levels I needed to hear this to hear I'm not the only one with parental issues. It's good to hear real talk I know whenever I had issues and tried talking to my mom her only advice was pray about it which is all good but sometimes we have to hear real life experiences. GOD bless you bro I'm going to reach out to some people I need to start the healing process today. Drummer boy vm
Glad to hear that this helped you brother! So excited for you as you embark on the healing process. Wish you much success! My coaching services are available for you! 💪🏾
What Bothers me the most is when people particularly men immediately come to the defense of a man because of his popularity or status…… being a black man with children I know for a fact… just by listening to his daughter that unfortunately she has grown up without him….and he has gone on with his career without her…..and was unbothered by it…. Bro….. one of the strongest loves you will ever have is the love of a daughter for her father…… instead of him telling the Truth and say “he failed her as a Father” he calls her crazy….. He showed his true Character……what’s done in the Dark will always come to the light….. obviously he is a Gospel music performer…. But a Christian….? I don’t think so…… you can best believe if she had grown up with the love of a real father…. She wouldn’t be on that show telling how much of a father he wasn’t….. These type of men have failed the black church….. their main goal is money and fame….. when their family’s are neglected and suffering.
This is sad I hate to see parents and children disagreements. However the Church nor work comes before your children. Our pastor preaches this all the time.
This is a powerful show and topic and for you to be vulnerable and bring your father on and talk about what your riff was against him and him to talk about what he was going through powerful and I pray your show goes far brotha I'm going through a similar situation and it hurts as father's nobody sheds light on what father's go through and feel while still tryna be in your children's life and we know mothers more times than not paint us as very bad to others but especially to their children so keep fighting father's and shout out to the sistas who have done this and now are l have repented and healed and living righteously and submitting to their husband
Man I appreciate your truth about what you went through with your dad. It's really sad how the custodial parent can really hurt their kids, with their opinions about the noncustodial parent. I totally agree and have had to trust in what your dad said about the TRUTH. All we ever have is the whole TRUTH. Unfortunately, the poison is so absorbed by the kids, by the time they start to see things for themselves, the emotional damage has been done. Also, the kids usually never give the parent an opportunity to say their side, and many won't stop to listen to the objective TRUTH of the whole matter.
Beautiful young Lady, my advice when God heal its the best time to share it with the world. Right now the devil is enjoying every bit of it he loves an audience. Remember (The devil messes and God blesses) He's on a full attack when it comes to family, Yes! we as parents have made some bad decision making and poor judgement. However, let the Lord heal you. When you heal, you are ready It will be your Testimony and what a beautiful Testimony it will be. God Bless
No forgiveness is for both parties it shows compassion but Also humbleness. You already see what a non forgiving we world can do. Forgiveness is spiritual it's not easy when sooo many thought of pain, vengeance, n pride are in our minds. It decays the heart.😢
Thank you so so much for this program. I have not spoken to my only child since Jan 29. He rejects my call and texts. I am praying that we both get the help that we need so we are able to reconcile….
I believe that young Hammond needs to have a private heart to heart with her dad…and don’t let a show destroy her and family relationships and a potential music career…glad you n your pops mended the fence. …..
I want love and respect. How much will you love someone you don’t respect or respect someone you don’t love? As a little child the first scripture I remembered and greatly try to practice is “do unto others as you would have them do unto you”. I never asked any woman to “let” me lead. GOD made that decision when he created man and woman for those who are lead by GOD.!!!
Parental Alienation is devastating for both parents and children. It's difficult terrain because it's hard to keep the children out of the divorce when one parent is telling their version whether it's truth or lies and the other parent stays silent to not involve the children. Maybe one parent has moved on and the other is still bitter with whatever transpired in the marriage and can't let go of that bitterness and only finds happiness in that they were successful in passing that bitterness on to their child/children where he/she now has an estranged or non-existent relationship with the other parent. That bitterness will be manifested in your children's future relationships. Parents, let your children experience the love and happiness of having a relationship with the other parent. I am divorced, but always encourage my children to call, reach out, remember holidays, share time with their other parent. If my children are happy, I'm happy!
In any relationship, there will always be two sides to a story. Proverbs 18:17 echos this sentiment by saying that "the one who speaks first seems right until cross examination takes place!" Also, it's not wise to draw a conclusion concerning a matter until both sides are heard. Parents who divorce must consider the children and not influence their child/ children to take sides. A child desires to be loved by both parents. God designed for both individual parents to bring specifics to the table of a child's life that cannot be done by the other parent. Therefore, both parents are necessary. I pray that healing takes place in this relationship.
That is correct. Kids need to stay out of their parents business and squabbles unless there is abuse taking place in their presence then they should call the police if necessary.
There is no way that God can use a person like He uses Fred in music and song. Fred’s music ministers not only to God by us as well. I can truly relate to him. My daughter closed the door on me so many times because I won’t give her money. It’s funny how Fred’s daughter sounds like my daughter, living in a world of make believe. I walk the plank of her silent treatment maybe 7 or 8 months out of EVERY YEAR. I would say to Fred, give it to God. Let go and let God! You perform for an audience of one, the Lord Jesus Christ. And if God is satisfied with your life, who would care what the world thinks about you. Just another attempt of the enemy to keep division not only in the family by also in the body!!! To God be the glory.
Princess. I am sorry. I am man have been through it. Al I can say is live your life, and don't dedicate your minutes, days and years fixating on peopel who really do not want to be around you. Even if you had did wrong, must you be punished forever?
Fred is a human being, not God. Some of these so called “church people” put Church leaders above the safety and well being of the children. It’s no different than when Bishop Eddie Long was having affairs with teenage boys at his church. Instead of church members supporting the boys, they called them liars and uplifted Bishop. You guys are like a sick cut. In your eyes, church leaders are God. It’s wrong on all levels.
I understand so much about this with my children we divorced our kids wasn’t aware. My Daughter took everything he said and never did I decide to keep them away. I used to calling the kids wanted to see them. Me and my son relationships is good we talk but my daughter only talk to me when she needed me to watch my granddaughters. I can’t speak to my granddaughters or see she told them not tell me where they lived . But at 13 years old God is good between him he send my husband at the time because I knew that I can’t teach how to be a man.
Sad that so many families are broken. Marriage is a covenant and is very important for families. Yet we have managed to support departing mothers or fathers. Then the children are left to heal and pressured to deal with two sides of a story, told to forgive and move on. Glad some children can but some can’t. Many parents are adults that claim they were too young when they had children or got married expect their own children to understand. Unfortunately it doesn’t work like that. Many have reached out to that absent parent and have faced fatal results… even in forgiveness. Glad you had good results and was able to understand your dad. God bless your mom for raising children alone. Sorry she didn’t measure up to be what you felt. Maybe one day you will understand. Hopefully both of them are free and blessed since all of you are adults now. Life happens
This whole situation is so messy. I didn't even know that there was such a show called "Grown & Gospel!" Just mess on top of mess! Why are they discussing this in the media and not amongst themselves in counseling sessions?
These kids really think that parents are gonna fall over and die just because they stop speaking to us! I tell my kids that I don’t care if they cut off communication with me! I will live and not die! I have plenty more young people that I can pour into
@lifecoachingbymel it's these cancel culture whiny brats...I don't care If my kids stop speaking...definitely can't hurt me withholding some grandchildren because I ain't babysitting....so oh well...I took care of them well, gave a safe place....nurture etc....but thus generation of messed kids call everything toxic, phobia blah blah blah.... instead of saying " I wanted to what I wanted in my Mammy house and she said no"....they call it toxic! Just because I won't allow a boy with a pecker to dress like a woman I'm unloving... just because it's rules and cultures I don't like...I challenge them.... if it's rules and cultures I don't like...I don't challenge or try to convince change them...I just won't do it! Plain and simple! Now momma and daddy toxic because they won't conform but the child wouldn't conform either.. they said cancel it
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But how do heterosexual men get the short end. Women do everything for the kids. Ask a married men their kids doctors name, teacher, or birthday. Men think money is everything. Women work and do everything.
I'm happy for you and your Father's reconcilliation .. However everyone's experience is different. I believe Bri has daddy issues and daughters are different than sons. The way her Mom said she had no income when Fred left and had to find a job that she could do.. I have never heard Fred in any interview speak of his daughter, and the lame excuse of someone putting you on a shelf means nothing to a real Father, he would actively pursue a relationship with his children.. He should've been there to support her performance.. Fred doesn't have to wait for her, go get your daughter as Jesus did when one sheep went astray he left the 99 to bring back the one...
Absolutely agree!! As the adult, of elder in the situation, it’s his responsibility to show her what a fathers love and protection is like. He should absolutely tuck his pride for his daughter.
The mother has been divorced from Fred Hammond for over 18 years, but still whining about working in a drugstore??! Why didn’t she elevate herself & lifestyle after all that time??! Come on some people like to blame others for their failure to thrive and get their life in order financially. There are TWO sides to every story! Sometimes these women expect their daughters to support them , but it’s unfair for them to have to choose. I pray that Bree & Mr Hammond meet on common ground and reconcile. ❤️😊
I was listening to what you said. I just wish that someone would have fought for me. I never had neither one of my parents fight for me at all. I would love to have a father who would just fight for me and love me
Thanks for listening!... I hear you on that. I'm curious, what would having parents that fight for you bring to your life that you don't currently have?
I had no idea Fred even had a daughter. Heck, I didn't even know he was once married! But i will say this, she has one of the best fathers in this world. Id take advantage if i was her by taking all that wisdom God have given him and apply it.
my father is local famous: charismatic, a brilliant orator, very well put together. everyone in town wanted him to run for mayor. but he wasn't a great father. a lot of men are public successes and private failures. i dunno anything about their situation, but i know that her experience of her father will be different than that of his fans. i hope God brings restoration.
Love your parents now, because when they are gone away from this world it will be to late. Some parents struggle for their children to have the best life in education and encouragement that they didn't receive in their time.
I’m going through that now with my daughter. I only have one child and I gave her the world but after her mother and I divorced (over her cheating on me twice ). She don’t have time for me I call her but she don’t call back. I don’t hear from her on my birthday or Father’s Day. It’s hard to except but I know her mother has something to do with the situation. I just pray that God will work things out for us .
Your title card is the response Moms Mabley said to Milton Berle when he asked her on some telvision program where she had been. The above was her repsonse.
You spoke just what I was thinking about who she's listening to. Carlis King is the last person to take advice from. Is Bre taking her mothers side or did she see things between her parents marriage that was not all one sided. I pray she and father work things out before it's too late. Carlos King has to answer to God
I believe that both of them did reach out to one another, however we each have our own ways of doing that and communication can be misunderstood. Because they may not have had a lot of intimate contact as father and daughter, it would definitely be difficult to communicate. I am always praying for Fred and his daughter. I believe God for them. 🥰
Family Is always a sensitive topic, and our younger generation are easy to put things out there that can be hard to deal with. Only God knows and can heal the problems. I will say that Divorce does hurt families, as my parents divorced when I was 19. At that time I made up In my mind that I love them both, but I now have my life to live and they will always be my parents. Also kids sometimes will choose the mothers side I could be wrong, We dont know what happened so hopefully they can get It together.
There is a such thing as a mom preventing but this is not the case most times. He needs to humble himself and keep loving his daughter. As a mom I understand that although I carry all the weight for my children our divorce affects them and they process differently. I have to overcompensate and hear them out because sin affects love. I want to make sure they feel loved not just me thinking I've done my part. I am committed to forever loving them and pursuing my kids. They have a perspective and I have mine regarding the evil done against me. I do tell the the truth of their father and they are seeing it all in time.
So many mothers demonstrate their bad feelings for the father and influence the children. You cannot fill that hole left by the father, but you damage any hope of a relationship for them by castigating the father. Have seen it too many time. The beef is between the adults, leave the children out of it.
To this daughter, they key word is INADVERTENTLY. It was with cruel intentions, but because mom can always tell the children their parts and not the whole Story, not wanting to HURT the injured party kids take that side and put the other parent Inadvertently on the shelf and love with a long handle 🥄 . So, now it seems he's the bad party for granting your wishes. Daughter, call your dad and make a date and keep Carlos out of your business and mend your family..SURELY, you've seen Marriage Huntsville and how twisted this show has become. The world...Satan's job😮 is to BREAK UP FAMILIES!!! It's up to us to, stop the devil in his tracks...
@2:53 You starting off bias already with this statement. Let’s start being accountable for our behavior; this community has enabled people for too long. You all don’t know what that young lady endured.
Who can hate there parents. But you stick with people that treat like crap all day long just me 🤔 my parents might have not been are done what I wanted them to be are do but I thank God for life❤️
We can guess and speculate all day, the truth of the matter is they both probably bare some responsibility as adults for the condition of their relationship, I understand that as a child it is the adults responsibility to cultivate a relationship but as a person grows up and realizes the issues, it falls on both parties, both need to be healed, he may have experienced the same or similar problems or issues coming up or maybe not, what I do know is trying to work it out on a “reality show” is NOT the way, I know God is able to work this out if they let him, they are definitely going to have to keep people who mean them no good out of their business.
Many children will never understand what their Fathers secretly went through with their Mothers. Not all but a lot of women love their children and try to raise their husbands. They disrespect him , disregard him, withhold themselves from their him , while that poor fellow is only out there trying to get the things she keeps complaining her and the kids need. And then a lot of times , he can’t tell her NOTHING! She wants him to listen to her but she NEVER has to listen to him! She’s upset all the time. She gets to scream and yell and sometimes even hit. And she doesn’t communicate why, just the silent treatment for days and even weeks! He has to try to be a mind reader. Then come to find out, it was over something she THOUGHT he did or meant. Only to realize what he trying to say and where he was coming from. By that time it doesn’t matter , because in the days prior she has eviciserated his manhood, called him every kind of weakling known to man, flipped out , freaked out , and then get to come back with no apologies and act if nothing has happened . And the fellow knows through experience, that this is just the eye of the storm , the hurricane will pass through again in about 3 1/2 days! And we’re not even going to talk about if she is a spoiled compulsive shopper Daddy’s Girl! Then when the poor Guy finally gets fed up , ( And these be Decent Dudes! ) and can’t take it because there is no peace in his home, he leaves or GOD FORBIDS , he falls to temptation because he gets NO RESPECT or intimacy at home! She then gets to play the innocent victim to his kids . The children have NO IDEA what their Mom has put their father through. Because they and her think that she is perfect because she keeps going to Church and has never commited PHYSICAL adultery. Now he has to wait sometimes 5 or 6 years until they ( the kids) see FOR THEMSELVES what their Dad had to deal with many times. I have seen it a million times. ( I know men like this but , but this happens a lot more with women than talked about) And then the poor guy gets blamed because he was supposed to be everyone’s hero ( including the Church’s) and try to keep a Family together while trying to keep peace with a rebellious wild so called “ strong” woman , who has more personalities than Eddie Murphy! .The Truth is is that a lot of women run their husbands off or just plain drive them away. 🤔 And many times the man can’t even come around and try to have a continual relationship with his children , because number one , her hatred toward him is ALL OUT . Doing all the lowdown dirty stuff she can get away with it without exposing her true self ! Be cause we are men and are supposed to be able to take ANYTHING! While she is waiting At every turn to act cold and pick fights with him . Kids I know y’all don’t wanna hear this , but a lot of times ( not every) your father’s seemingly “abandonment was simply your Dad NOT TRYING TO GO TO JAIL!! This is not every woman but GOD IS MY WITNESS , this is not an unusual scenario in many many many homes where there is an impossible female. It’s better to dwell in the corner of a rooftop ………… Don’t tell me that scripture is not true !!
Not knowing all about their relationship, but I had a father that never kept his word and was a no show until death. Now, I'm vocal so i spoke my peace about it, but from what I've seen of Bree she isn't confrontational.
As a sib of Fred's, we all have our own survival stories of our family experience(s). I would love to co-partner with Abba God's spirit to heal our family's deep wounds. The extreme lack of closeness is unusual and generations deep.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this! So sorry to hear that regarding your family. I touch and agree with you on this. I declare God’s restoration power over your family! ❤️🙏
I wish it was unusual. Unfortunately, it seems to be far more normal than NORMAL for the INDUSTRY.
@@kshillingford4921 and outside the industry. It’s becoming very acceptable and sadly the church has also accepted it. So many from the pulpit to the door. Worst than the world. We truly need healing in the church body. That’s why so many don’t want to come to church or run from God. They understand the world but can’t comprehend why church folk are worst. It takes deliverance from it all and truly focusing on Jesus Christ alone. So many leave their families (good or bad wives) and uncovered the children can suffer. But yet the famous ones continue to reach millions while losing their own. Which is the total opposite of Christ. He would not leave his sheep. 😢. Prayers for all the children caught in these webs … Jesus set the captives free. And the adults who repeat the cycle because they were once the children in the web.
@Sown Mack, now you are speaking a WORD.
@@sownmack9528 Church folk are the worst, because they act like the world and have conformed to the ways of Satan and have an inner hatred for the things and ordinances of God. No accountability.
Everything she's saying needs to be said to her father not the rest of the world...This is their journey....There's so much I want to address not just as a mother myself of an adult Son, who has rejected me, but also address the dynamics of having Christ believing parents and how they process, think and handle their kids, and most times it's very different than non Christ believers...Both of my parents are devote C.O.G.I.C. members & pastors, and they are very religiously & traditionally motivated...But there's layers to this, and healing respect & forgiveness must take place before ppl can move forward towards any progress...
Very powerful! I agree with you totally… Praying for the relationship between you and your son. Praying that all is resolved and restored! ❤️🙏
@Rejection is a B Podcast
Thank you!!!
Praying for restoration
Parental Alienation is one of the most Ruthless, Guttural, Traumatic, Lifelong Wounds. There are no winners in that kind of war.
Yes I'm one of those kids! I'm almost 60 and a lot of this still hurts me from the alienation I experienced from my mother.
@@terrilhill1024 yes it can become a gage in how we see and react to the world around us. Dr Gabor Matte has a lot of really good videos right here on UA-cam on how to recover from these childhood traumas. He is a very good speaker.
@@06Joybells thank you.
@@terrilhill1024 you are welcome 🌸🌸
Totally agree. I have experienced this from my youngest daughter.
This is a great dialogue between a father and a son this is necessary for men to see
Well having Problems with your Parents can affect your relationships with People.
God Bless them all
As a huge Fred Hammond fan, I commend him and Bree for making this struggle public. Many of us have these same issues daily and wont talk or deal with it. I pray that God allows genuine covenrsation and genuine reconciliation for the Hammond Family. God is able!
Thank you ! I was where you put me! Encouraging , healing gone through this and 🙏🏼 prayed endlessly till they found their way # in their Journey😊
I appreciate your transparency. My oldest son stopped speaking to me about 6 months ago. I am trusting and believing God for reconciliation.
My honor brother. I’m touching and agreeing with you for things to not only reconcile but to be better than before. God is able and He is with you. Much love 🙏
your dad is awesome. I'm so happy that you guys are back on speaking terms.
He sure is! I appreciate you for saying that! So am I. The relationship is better than before the hiatus!
Awesome words of wisdom
I have experienced this with my younger daughter. I worked really hard to ensure I never spoke badly about her father and I did not keep her from him. We as women have to be very mindful of the influence we have over our children and do everything possible to be honest and truthful about our relationship with their father without influencing them to hate him..
Well said! Salute to you for that!
@@lifecoachingbymel appreciate you and this video. ❤️
My honor! ❤️
I am in the exact same situation with my four sons and their mom! My sons do not want 2 know my side of the story nor, do they call me 2 see how I am doing(they live in another state apart from me.). But, I will not give up. I will keep on praying to God, asking Him 2 heal me, my sons, and their mom.
I'm touching and agreeing with you brother. If God can do it for my dad and I, He can do it for you all. Glad to hear that you aren't giving up! 🙏💪🏾
It’s not their job to pursue a relationship with you, it’s your job to do so with them and if you failed in your duties to them during their childhoods (whatever the reason) you can’t expect them to support you in adulthood. Respect is earned.
This is interesting! When a child has a parent in the field of entertainment and ministry, a lot of times, those children feel neglected. You hear this all the time. Those parents see themselves as honorable because they are doing everything they can to do for their families, only to find out the everything they were doing was everything but establishing a relationship with that child. My dad was a Composer and Jazz Musician, and he provided well for me. I never wanted for anything except a relationship. As parents in life, we seem to have this idea that as long as I'm providing the best for our children, that's okay. But children are people too, they want time along with the financial support. We hear it all the time!! Parents say, "I don't understand, I did everything for them!! It's never a child's responsibility to form a close relationship with a parent. Children don't have that level of maturity to know how to accomplish that. We have to stop treating our children like pieces of furniture and, once in a while, dust them off! You can't change what's been done! But as parents, if our children say, "I'm hurt, let's take a look at it and be willing to hear and show compassion to our children. Never attack their pain!! This young woman talked about her wanting to follow in her dad's footsteps. Probably to have her dad's acceptance. She did say, "She wanted to make HER family proud!!" (Acceptance) By listening to her, she's a hurt child walking around with in an adult's body!" Many folks are living this life!! Our bodies have grown, but the hurt child is still running the show. Because of this, it affects every relationship in our lives. In order to start healing, we must be able to have that conversation in a safe space!! (Non- judgmental space) As a child, our parents are our God!! And when that fails us in any way, it can be traumatizing. Children don't understand things about life! They are so pure and innocent! This not only happens to celebrity children and ministry children but a great number of children. As parents, we honestly believe we've done our best. Only to find out our children are collateral damage. As parents, we need to be open to listening to our children's pain and willing to discuss it. Most of the time, our children come to Understand, we were never their God, but we are people that make mistakes too! Be willing to accept the collateral damage we caused and work from there. But never allow them to try to crucify you because some of them will!
Powerful words! Thank you for sharing your thoughts! 💪
This is so amazing! I was divorced and we had children but I never tried to keep my children from their father and I taught them to honor their father. I remarried an amazing man who encouraged my children to embrace their father, he prayed for him he led us to pray for my children’s father when he was absent of his own choice. ThenI watched my husband struggle in his relationship with his children, I encouraged him to continue to call, text and be patient that Malachi 4:6 would be his portion. I believe that children need their parents. Unless they are abusive that’s another conversation. We sometimes don’t survive in marriages but we can move on with the grace of God and in love.
That is so awesome! Salute to you and your husband… If you and/or your husband are ever interested in coming on the show to discuss that experience, please let me know. I would love to have you on!
@Life Coaching by Mel - This is the BEST video I've seen addressing this subject.
Your father's story is similar to mine when I wasn't able to be in my boys' life when they were kids. Even though I made attempts to explain my side of the story, I don't believe they're willing to accept the truth about their mother and the part they played why our relationship didn't work.
Thank you again for your transparency and realness in sharing your experience with us.
Grace and Peace.
Prov. 18:17
Much love my brother! 🙏
I met Fred Hammond when I was a teenager right before Commissioned went crazy big, they performed at a baseball game in NJ and I had the biggest crush on him, I knew I was going to marry him🤣🤣🤣🤣 He has always had so much swag and is so cool, and yes I still do tell my siblings that I'm going to marry Fred Hammond one day (I'm 50 next month so it's become a running joke that I've had a crush for my entire life that the only 2 men in my life was 1st boyfriend that I married for 27 years and Fred Hammond that I met 1 time at 15🤣🤣🤣my siblings ask every Thanksgiving and Christmas if I'm bringing Fred with me this year🤣🤣🤣🤣)
I didn't watch the show but pray, trust, and believe him and his BEAUTIFUL daughter will work things out! 🥲🥲🥲🥲
I truly feel for both of them, it's a hard place to be from both perspectives.💜💜💜
Haha! That is so hilarious! Fred will be at Thanksgiving dinner one day! I believe in you! 😂
Well said on their relationship! It's a tough situation. However, God is in control!
This is a very good topic and good wisdom. When i was in my 20's me and my ex wife had a son. We divorced but i still kept in contact with my son until he started to drink and act out. Long story short. He stopped talking to me. After some yrs, we started communicating again. Fathers, its not over. Stay open if you can but dont let your child abuse and dont you abuse the option of a good relationship.
I am a woman and I absolutely loved this message, discussion, conversation. Thank you, Thank you!
So awesome! My absolute pleasure! Thank you! ❤️
You are so right. Heterosexual black males and maleness IS attacked in our society and in the media. It's strategic.
Yes indeed!
Then do right. Pay yuh bills. Take care of your child first and not your mistress family. Do the math.
Here's what I know as a daughter...
Daughters more often than NOT are deeply loyal to their fathers even his wrong. I dont know why Father's (some) dont seem to believe that children (especially daughters) are quite capable of developing an opinion based upon the RELATIONSHIP that men (fathers) CHOOSE to cultivate.
The mere fact that she is speaking out says much more about whats REALLY going with him than it does her. She seemed to GENUINELY love her father (she still does) but now she's holding him ACCOUNTABLE for HIS failures as a father. He really showed whats important to HIM by speaking on social media rather than speaking to HIS child..
It's unfortunate that she felt going on a REALITY show to get his attention would at least start conversation, and clearly it did...
I got to meet Fred back in the 90s. Had a gather at Maryland university with churches from all over it was a sports day basket ball tournaments flag foot ball track and he performed a concert after. That joker big. He asked for any youth who wanted to be saved come up front. I went he started praying 1 by 1 his hands are huge. I was a kid then but it was cool to meet him.
I appreciate you for sharing your thoughts on this. I'm curious, what do you believe is REALLY going on with him?
@@lifecoachingbymel I'm just finding out something is wrong
All of this - 💯
I agree with you. We can’t discard what Bree is saying just because we love Fred Hammond’s gift of singing. Fred saying that she put him in a closet so don’t be surprised that he’s in that closet, is a very immature response to her pain. He’s more worried about his image than her pain. Fred could easily fix the relationship but he’s obviously angry that she’s speaking publicly
Very nice approach to dealing with this subject. I lost my Dad at 8 years old. He was a great dad. To all those who feel like it's your dad's fault things didn't work out, and you are estranged from him, live a day in my life. And he's gone decades ago, but I wish he was here. Stop the blame game and be reconciled. Because you will be wailing at the funeral. And that's too late, and it's also tough love from me. Forgive and be forgiven. Get out of your prison. The devil is a liar! Reach out. If you are the Dad, do the same. Come on!
Much appreciated brother… Very powerfully said! I couldn’t agree with you more! 💪🙏
the truth the truth the truth
Great topic, son! There are usually 3 sides to every story. His side, her side and the truth (Usually somewhere in the
middle). The truth will win in the end.
Much appreciated Dad! Absolutely!
SIR HAMMOND , I LOVE YOUR RESPONSE!!! KUDOS to your Mother for keeping it real. 💯. We as children, have to stay neutral when parents separate. One, because we may be in the same house, we don't the whole story. I blamed my mom for years, and only when I became an adult did I learn the real deal...
I remember an episode of the Walton where mom and dad had to speak to their son and his wife but before they said a word. John Walton said, " you young folk run on outside this is grown folk business." They didn't say a word until the kids left. I had so much respect for decency and self respect. My parents kept me out of their arguments and I was grateful. My dad did a lot but my mom kept quiet as a believer in Christ. She wasn't weak but obedient by not arguing. Because of her I believe in forgives and letting God handle our battles even if it hurts. Our parents generation went through mess and had to learn grace. Reality TV has done too much to destroy the black community and Moreno God's people.
This is my first time seeing your channel. I like what you’re doing brother. This is good for us. Thank you.
I appreciate that! My pleasure for sure! 💪🏾
Oh My Goodness!!! This Was a Very Powerful Message. This Was My Life, My Children. I’m Looking At You! Looking at My Son. This Was Good. God Bless.
Thank you! I really appreciate that! I’m glad that this resonates with you! Much love ❤️
I Thank God for the Love you two have for each other 👍❤️❤ .
Thanks so much for that! ❤️
So glad that you decided to expose this aspect of the situation.It's too often that the man or the father or the husband takes the brunt of the demise. And it's always a two way street. This is very good for healing. If people only knew that that the father the dead if he was a good man or is a good man reach out and open your heart and yourseof to receive. The love that never ceased.
Yes indeed! Much appreciated! 💪
Excellent commentary! Enjoyed the interview with your father. Wise counsel was exuded.
The daughter needs counseling and family counseling as well would be beneficial.
Keep up the Good Work, My Brother!👊
Thanks so much! Glad you enjoyed it! I sure will! 💪
Mr Fred Hammond said it all with his usual style and grace he has been gifted with by God. It's too bad this is happening this way but he's right...Bree has been raised from the beginning with Christian values and I truly believe God will heal their rift🙏🏽💕🙏🏽
Look if you have no sin, then pile on!! I'm a HUGE Fred Hammond fan. When I first decided to follow Christ it was Fred's music that helped me. When I'm going through times right now I turn to his music. No Weapon, Steps are Ordered, Late in Midnight Hour, Dance Like David. I can go on and on! I don't look for perfection in any person. I still know God is using him. Is Fred perfect, NO. Will he become perfect, NO. Will he make messes in life, YES! I will pray for him and his daughter. Pray works, criticism is like the old rocking chair addage. Gives you something to do but gets you NOWHERE.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this! 👍
Im so thankful that you and your father reconciled. I believe that this topic speaks to a lot of our black families. I’m the “Stepmom “ but has always wanted them to reconcile. Also I want to let you know that I was involved years after his divorce from his ex-wife. Thanks again and God blessings be upon you! 🙏🏾
Thanks so much for that! My honor and pleasure! I agree with you totally. Salute to you for having the heart that you do. I pray that God restores everything and it be better than before! 🙏
One day I'm going to be on your show sharing my story of rejection and Parental Alienation. I'm speaking it NOW by faith.
I touch and agree with you on that! I look forward to having you on. Reach out at anytime. 🙏💪
@lifecoachingbymel it's already done! In Jesus name!
Bless you Fred Hammond you can only do what you can I Believe you are a loving father and always have been . She is a grown women and need to take on your own responsibilities , talented as he is , he would not have turned his back on you because he have God in him , and want you to win , you got it from him🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿. Stop there is no need to try to scandalize Fred Hammond.I heard his wife just wanted his Money when he got sick and gained some weight she planned that I heard this way back , her mom was not around when he was sick , Depressed . Fred Hammond has always been respected man of God, I never heard a bad thing about him like some, I really hope she and her dad get together them selves and talk.🙏🏿❤️🙏🏿❤️
This was absolutely awesome for so many reasons. I subscribed just from listening and watching this. You did a great job with adding that clip concerning you and your dad. So many things your dad said were so helpful and profound, probably because he used several relatable scripture and words. This was just absolutely awesome and I am looking forward to other videos. Have a great day and I wish you well in your endeavors for this UA-cam channel.
Wow, thank you! I appreciate the kind words and Sub! Looking forward to hearing from you again! 🙏
Today is 6/26/23 and I just heard this broadcast and it helped me on so many levels I needed to hear this to hear I'm not the only one with parental issues. It's good to hear real talk I know whenever I had issues and tried talking to my mom her only advice was pray about it which is all good but sometimes we have to hear real life experiences. GOD bless you bro I'm going to reach out to some people I need to start the healing process today. Drummer boy vm
Glad to hear that this helped you brother! So excited for you as you embark on the healing process. Wish you much success! My coaching services are available for you! 💪🏾
Great healing moment between you and your father. Subscribed
Much appreciated! It's an honor! 🙏
Amazing!!! Please keep up the great work!!! This is much needed!!!
Thanks so much! I really appreciate that! I sure will! ❤️
What Bothers me the most is when people particularly men immediately come to the defense of a man because of his popularity or status…… being a black man with children I know for a fact… just by listening to his daughter that unfortunately she has grown up without him….and he has gone on with his career without her…..and was unbothered by it…. Bro….. one of the strongest loves you will ever have is the love of a daughter for her father…… instead of him telling the Truth and say “he failed her as a Father” he calls her crazy….. He showed his true Character……what’s done in the Dark will always come to the light….. obviously he is a Gospel music performer…. But a Christian….? I don’t think so…… you can best believe if she had grown up with the love of a real father…. She wouldn’t be on that show telling how much of a father he wasn’t….. These type of men have failed the black church….. their main goal is money and fame….. when their family’s are neglected and suffering.
This is sad I hate to see parents and children disagreements. However the Church nor work comes before your children. Our pastor preaches this all the time.
This is a powerful show and topic and for you to be vulnerable and bring your father on and talk about what your riff was against him and him to talk about what he was going through powerful and I pray your show goes far brotha I'm going through a similar situation and it hurts as father's nobody sheds light on what father's go through and feel while still tryna be in your children's life and we know mothers more times than not paint us as very bad to others but especially to their children so keep fighting father's and shout out to the sistas who have done this and now are l have repented and healed and living righteously and submitting to their husband
Man I appreciate your truth about what you went through with your dad. It's really sad how the custodial parent can really hurt their kids, with their opinions about the noncustodial parent.
I totally agree and have had to trust in what your dad said about the TRUTH. All we ever have is the whole TRUTH. Unfortunately, the poison is so absorbed by the kids, by the time they start to see things for themselves, the emotional damage has been done. Also, the kids usually never give the parent an opportunity to say their side, and many won't stop to listen to the objective TRUTH of the whole matter.
Beautiful young Lady, my advice when God heal its the best time to share it with the world.
Right now the devil is enjoying every bit of it he loves an audience.
Remember
(The devil messes and God blesses)
He's on a full attack when it comes to family, Yes! we as parents have made some bad decision making and poor judgement.
However, let the Lord heal you.
When you heal, you are ready
It will be your Testimony and what a beautiful Testimony it will be.
God Bless
You have a great dad! Much respect to your family
I appreciate that
No forgiveness is for both parties it shows compassion but Also humbleness. You already see what a non forgiving we world can do. Forgiveness is spiritual it's not easy when sooo many thought of pain, vengeance, n pride are in our minds. It decays the heart.😢
Well said! Forgiveness is the key for sure! 👍
Thank you so so much for this program. I have not spoken to my only child since Jan 29. He rejects my call and texts. I am praying that we both get the help that we need so we are able to reconcile….
I hope so too. But everything in context. If you did wrong apologize, If you did right dont be manipulated
My pleasure… Thank you for sharing your story with us. I touch and agree with you on your prayer for the both of you! 🙏❤️
Prodigal child comes home. Give her a robe, ring, hug. Turn her back to God!!☝️👂🏼👀🙏🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️😭😭🙋♀️💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿❤
Yes indeed! Her earthly and heavenly father are both waiting on her with open arms!
Fred said that! Well said Fred!! Drop the mic Fred!!!
I believe that young Hammond needs to have a private heart to heart with her dad…and don’t let a show destroy her and family relationships and a potential music career…glad you n your pops mended the fence. …..
Well said! Much appreciated!
God bless this father & son, God is so good
Thanks so much for that! Yes HE is! ❤️
I want love and respect. How much will you love someone you don’t respect or respect someone you don’t love? As a little child the first scripture I remembered and greatly try to practice is “do unto others as you would have them do unto you”. I never asked any woman to “let” me lead. GOD made that decision when he created man and woman for those who are lead by GOD.!!!
Parental Alienation is devastating for both parents and children. It's difficult terrain because it's hard to keep the children out of the divorce when one parent is telling their version whether it's truth or lies and the other parent stays silent to not involve the children. Maybe one parent has moved on and the other is still bitter with whatever transpired in the marriage and can't let go of that bitterness and only finds happiness in that they were successful in passing that bitterness on to their child/children where he/she now has an estranged or non-existent relationship with the other parent. That bitterness will be manifested in your children's future relationships. Parents, let your children experience the love and happiness of having a relationship with the other parent. I am divorced, but always encourage my children to call, reach out, remember holidays, share time with their other parent. If my children are happy, I'm happy!
Very well said! Salute to you! 👍
In any relationship, there will always be two sides to a story. Proverbs 18:17 echos this sentiment by saying that "the one who speaks first seems right until cross examination takes place!" Also, it's not wise to draw a conclusion concerning a matter until both sides are heard. Parents who divorce must consider the children and not influence their child/ children to take sides. A child desires to be loved by both parents. God designed for both individual parents to bring specifics to the table of a child's life that cannot be done by the other parent. Therefore, both parents are necessary. I pray that healing takes place in this relationship.
That is correct. Kids need to stay out of their parents business and squabbles unless there is abuse taking place in their presence then they should call the police if necessary.
Remember her singing background with Fred during a concert in Baltimore with Hezekiah, Donnie, and other artists
Great show! Will definitely subscribe
Very much appreciated! Welcome to the channel! ❤️
Amen # Jesus # healthy healing#❤😇❤️🔥💫
There is no way that God can use a person like He uses Fred in music and song. Fred’s music ministers not only to God by us as well. I can truly relate to him. My daughter closed the door on me so many times because I won’t give her money. It’s funny how Fred’s daughter sounds like my daughter, living in a world of make believe. I walk the plank of her silent treatment maybe 7 or 8 months out of EVERY YEAR. I would say to Fred, give it to God. Let go and let God! You perform for an audience of one, the Lord Jesus Christ. And if God is satisfied with your life, who would care what the world thinks about you. Just another attempt of the enemy to keep division not only in the family by also in the body!!! To God be the glory.
Princess. I am sorry. I am man have been through it. Al I can say is live your life, and don't dedicate your minutes, days and years fixating on peopel who really do not want to be around you. Even if you had did wrong, must you be punished forever?
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. 🙏❤️
Well Spoken 🗣
Fred is a human being, not God. Some of these so called “church people” put Church leaders above the safety and well being of the children. It’s no different than when Bishop Eddie Long was having affairs with teenage boys at his church. Instead of church members supporting the boys, they called them liars and uplifted Bishop. You guys are like a sick cut. In your eyes, church leaders are God. It’s wrong on all levels.
Blessings Always 🙏✝️❤️
I understand so much about this with my children we divorced our kids wasn’t aware. My Daughter took everything he said and never did I decide to keep them away. I used to calling the kids wanted to see them. Me and my son relationships is good we talk but my daughter only talk to me when she needed me to watch my granddaughters. I can’t speak to my granddaughters or see she told them not tell me where they lived . But at 13 years old God is good between him he send my husband at the time because I knew that I can’t teach how to be a man.
Sorry to hear that. I'm sure that is very difficult to experience. Prayers to you all for complete restoration 🙏
This was excellent!
Much appreciated!
This was very informative and inspirational.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Time doesn't heal all wounds. I'm in my 60s . It’s true. People just try to adjust sometimes
There’s truth in what you are saying. “All wounds”, of course is not an absolute. Let me ask you this, what healing is available for you at 60?
Praying the God beings both of you back together . I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13
Sad that so many families are broken. Marriage is a covenant and is very important for families. Yet we have managed to support departing mothers or fathers. Then the children are left to heal and pressured to deal with two sides of a story, told to forgive and move on. Glad some children can but some can’t. Many parents are adults that claim they were too young when they had children or got married expect their own children to understand. Unfortunately it doesn’t work like that. Many have reached out to that absent parent and have faced fatal results… even in forgiveness. Glad you had good results and was able to understand your dad. God bless your mom for raising children alone. Sorry she didn’t measure up to be what you felt. Maybe one day you will understand. Hopefully both of them are free and blessed since all of you are adults now. Life happens
This whole situation is so messy. I didn't even know that there was such a show called "Grown & Gospel!" Just mess on top of mess! Why are they discussing this in the media and not amongst themselves in counseling sessions?
Mess on top of mess is correct! 🤦🏾♂️😂
There us a wonderful word t`hat should be at the helm of any relationship. It's called "Forgiveness".
Absolutely! Well said! 👍
These kids really think that parents are gonna fall over and die just because they stop speaking to us! I tell my kids that I don’t care if they cut off communication with me! I will live and not die! I have plenty more young people that I can pour into
Haha! I hear you on that! Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
@lifecoachingbymel it's these cancel culture whiny brats...I don't care If my kids stop speaking...definitely can't hurt me withholding some grandchildren because I ain't babysitting....so oh well...I took care of them well, gave a safe place....nurture etc....but thus generation of messed kids call everything toxic, phobia blah blah blah.... instead of saying " I wanted to what I wanted in my Mammy house and she said no"....they call it toxic! Just because I won't allow a boy with a pecker to dress like a woman I'm unloving... just because it's rules and cultures I don't like...I challenge them.... if it's rules and cultures I don't like...I don't challenge or try to convince change them...I just won't do it! Plain and simple! Now momma and daddy toxic because they won't conform but the child wouldn't conform either.. they said cancel it
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Forgiveness is a Biblical principle,that people should practice to build a positive relationship.I wish my parents were still amongst the living.
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I appreciate you saying that! I received it! 🙏
His adopted son even said Fred abandoned him. But I'm with you when you're right. Heterosexual males do get the short end of the stick.
Yeah, I wonder if Fred is going to address those allegations as well... I'm glad to hear that you agree with that. 💪🏾
But how do heterosexual men get the short end. Women do everything for the kids. Ask a married men their kids doctors name, teacher, or birthday. Men think money is everything. Women work and do everything.
I'm happy for you and your Father's reconcilliation .. However everyone's experience is different. I believe Bri has daddy issues and daughters are different than sons. The way her Mom said she had no income when Fred left and had to find a job that she could do.. I have never heard Fred in any interview speak of his daughter, and the lame excuse of someone putting you on a shelf means nothing to a real Father, he would actively pursue a relationship with his children.. He should've been there to support her performance.. Fred doesn't have to wait for her, go get your daughter as Jesus did when one sheep went astray he left the 99 to bring back the one...
Thanks a lot!…Well said. Thank for sharing your thoughts.
Absolutely agree!! As the adult, of elder in the situation, it’s his responsibility to show her what a fathers love and protection is like. He should absolutely tuck his pride for his daughter.
The mother has been divorced from Fred Hammond for over 18 years, but still whining about working in a drugstore??! Why didn’t she elevate herself & lifestyle after all that time??! Come on some people like to blame others for their failure to thrive and get their life in order financially. There are TWO sides to every story! Sometimes these women expect their daughters to support them , but it’s unfair for them to have to choose. I pray that Bree & Mr Hammond meet on common ground and reconcile. ❤️😊
This is why the word tells us, we as saints will know those who really belongs to THE HEAVENLY FATHER. These gosple celebrities are not of THE FATHER.
I was listening to what you said. I just wish that someone would have fought for me. I never had neither one of my parents fight for me at all. I would love to have a father who would just fight for me and love me
Thanks for listening!... I hear you on that. I'm curious, what would having parents that fight for you bring to your life that you don't currently have?
I had no idea Fred even had a daughter. Heck, I didn't even know he was once married! But i will say this, she has one of the best fathers in this world. Id take advantage if i was her by taking all that wisdom God have given him and apply it.
I appreciate you for sharing your thoughts! 💪
my father is local famous: charismatic, a brilliant orator, very well put together. everyone in town wanted him to run for mayor. but he wasn't a great father. a lot of men are public successes and private failures. i dunno anything about their situation, but i know that her experience of her father will be different than that of his fans. i hope God brings restoration.
How do u know hes a great dad to her
You don't even know him...TF
Being on the road away from her may helped her forget him..
Love your parents now, because when they are gone away from this world it will be to late. Some parents struggle for their children to have the best life in education and encouragement that they didn't receive in their time.
I agree with you that we should love our parents. However, love comes with truth and honesty, correct?
I’m going through that now with my daughter. I only have one child and I gave her the world but after her mother and I divorced (over her cheating on me twice ). She don’t have time for me I call her but she don’t call back. I don’t hear from her on my birthday or Father’s Day. It’s hard to except but I know her mother has something to do with the situation. I just pray that God will work things out for us .
My heart goes out to you brother. Happy belated Father's Day. I pray that this gets better for you all!
Your title card is the response Moms Mabley said to Milton Berle when he asked her on some telvision program where she had been. The above was her repsonse.
You spoke just what I was thinking about who she's listening to. Carlis King is the last person to take advice from. Is Bre taking her mothers side or did she see things between her parents marriage that was not all one sided. I pray she and father work things out before it's too late. Carlos King has to answer to God
Well said! 🙏
Great message!❤
Thank you! ❤️
I believe that both of them did reach out to one another, however we each have our own ways of doing that and communication can be misunderstood. Because they may not have had a lot of intimate contact as father and daughter, it would definitely be difficult to communicate. I am always praying for Fred and his daughter. I believe God for them. 🥰
This is awesome! Well said! 💪🏾
Speak my brother....Facts
Yes sir! 💪
Family Is always a sensitive topic, and our younger generation are easy to put things out there that can be hard to deal with. Only God knows and can heal the problems. I will say that Divorce does hurt families, as my parents divorced when I was 19. At that time I made up In my mind that I love them both, but I now have my life to live and they will always be my parents. Also kids sometimes will choose the mothers side I could be wrong, We dont know what happened so hopefully they can get It together.
There is a such thing as a mom preventing but this is not the case most times. He needs to humble himself and keep loving his daughter. As a mom I understand that although I carry all the weight for my children our divorce affects them and they process differently. I have to overcompensate and hear them out because sin affects love. I want to make sure they feel loved not just me thinking I've done my part. I am committed to forever loving them and pursuing my kids. They have a perspective and I have mine regarding the evil done against me. I do tell the the truth of their father and they are seeing it all in time.
Love this ❤️
Thanks you! ❤️
There are three sides to every story, Her side, His side, and the Truth
I understand how he feels because my oldest daughter has rejected me the only time she wanting to talk to me till she wants money from me
Sorry to hear that. I'm sure that is very difficult to experience. Prayers to you all for complete restoration 🙏
@@lifecoachingbymel thank you so much I appreciate it
My pleasure! Feel free to reach out to me for coaching, if needed . It would be my honor to serve you as you process this.
Thank you
My honor! 🙏
So many mothers demonstrate their bad feelings for the father and influence the children. You cannot fill that hole left by the father, but you damage any hope of a relationship for them by castigating the father. Have seen it too many time. The beef is between the adults, leave the children out of it.
So true! Parents, love your children and be happy that they have a loving relationship with the other parent.
Truth
To this daughter, they key word is INADVERTENTLY. It was with cruel intentions, but because mom can always tell the children their parts and not the whole Story, not wanting to HURT the injured party kids take that side and put the other parent Inadvertently on the shelf and love with a long handle 🥄 . So, now it seems he's the bad party for granting your wishes.
Daughter, call your dad and make a date and keep Carlos out of your business and mend your family..SURELY, you've seen Marriage Huntsville and how twisted this show has become. The world...Satan's job😮 is to BREAK UP FAMILIES!!! It's up to us to, stop the devil in his tracks...
Absolute Truth! 💪
He can't call his daughter?
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@2:53 You starting off bias already with this statement. Let’s start being accountable for our behavior; this community has enabled people for too long. You all don’t know what that young lady endured.
I support both!
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Who can hate there parents. But you stick with people that treat like crap all day long just me 🤔 my parents might have not been are done what I wanted them to be are do but I thank God for life❤️
Thanks for sharing your thoughts 💪🏾
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We can guess and speculate all day, the truth of the matter is they both probably bare some responsibility as adults for the condition of their relationship, I understand that as a child it is the adults responsibility to cultivate a relationship but as a person grows up and realizes the issues, it falls on both parties, both need to be healed, he may have experienced the same or similar problems or issues coming up or maybe not, what I do know is trying to work it out on a “reality show” is NOT the way, I know God is able to work this out if they let him, they are definitely going to have to keep people who mean them no good out of their business.
Well said! Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Many children will never understand what their Fathers secretly went through with their Mothers. Not all but a lot of women love their children and try to raise their husbands. They disrespect him , disregard him, withhold themselves from their him , while that poor fellow is only out there trying to get the things she keeps complaining her and the kids need. And then a lot of times , he can’t tell her NOTHING! She wants him to
listen to her but she NEVER has to listen to him! She’s upset all the time. She gets to scream and yell and sometimes even hit. And she doesn’t communicate why, just the silent treatment for days and even weeks! He has to try to be a mind reader. Then come to find out, it was over something she THOUGHT he did or meant. Only to realize what he trying to say and where he was coming from. By that time it doesn’t matter , because in the days prior she has eviciserated his manhood, called him every kind of weakling known to man, flipped out , freaked out , and then get to come back with no apologies and act if nothing has happened . And the fellow knows through experience, that this is just the eye of the storm , the hurricane will pass through again in about 3 1/2 days! And we’re not even going to talk about if she is a spoiled compulsive shopper Daddy’s Girl! Then when the poor Guy finally gets fed up , ( And these be Decent Dudes! ) and can’t take it because there is no
peace in his home, he leaves or GOD FORBIDS , he falls to temptation because he gets NO RESPECT or intimacy at home! She then gets to play the innocent victim to his kids . The children have NO IDEA what their Mom has put their father through. Because they and her think that she is perfect because she keeps going to Church and has never commited PHYSICAL adultery. Now he has to wait sometimes 5 or 6 years until they ( the kids) see FOR THEMSELVES what their Dad had to deal with many times. I have seen it a million times. ( I know men like this but , but this happens a lot more with women than talked about) And then the poor guy gets blamed because he was supposed to be everyone’s hero ( including the Church’s) and try to keep a Family together while trying to keep peace with a rebellious wild so called “ strong” woman , who has more personalities than Eddie Murphy! .The Truth is is that a lot of women run their husbands off or just plain drive them away. 🤔 And many times the man can’t even come around and try to have a continual relationship with his children , because number one , her hatred toward him is ALL OUT . Doing all the lowdown dirty stuff she can get away with it without exposing her true self ! Be cause we are men and are supposed to be able to take ANYTHING! While she is waiting At every turn to act cold and pick fights with him . Kids I know y’all don’t wanna hear this , but a lot of times ( not every) your father’s seemingly “abandonment was simply your Dad NOT TRYING TO
GO TO JAIL!! This is not every woman but GOD IS MY WITNESS , this is not an unusual scenario in many many many homes where there is an impossible female. It’s better to dwell in the corner of a rooftop ………… Don’t tell me that scripture is not true !!
This is exactly what happened with my ex for nearly 30 years. That's why she's a X! This is confirmation from God!!! Thanks.
Spot on brother!!!
Not knowing all about their relationship, but I had a father that never kept his word and was a no show until death. Now, I'm vocal so i spoke my peace about it, but from what I've seen of Bree she isn't confrontational.