@@masterexploder666 Do you have any actual proof of what you claim??? Seriously, I'm not looking for any type of pissing contest, but if you have actual proof then show us and we will stand with you, that is a somewhat heavy accusation to be making.
I’m glad you have this forum to talk to us about what you are going through. I didn’t have anybody at the time. So even though you feel like you’re going through it alone. We are here to listen and support you.
If she has bad-mouthed you, your kids will see it. Never heard you say a bad word about her, only respect. Kids are not stupid and will soon be aware. Stay blessed, feel better.
That's the thing, it seems like he doesn't give himself enough credit and he gives her a whole lot of credit which I'm sure she deserves but he does as well. That's just my opinion from what it seems like behind my phone💁🏼♀️
Most couples that go through this end up bitter towards each other when young children are involved.Hopefully you and Rachel can beat the odds and show respect for one another when in each other’s company ❤️
I have been married since 12/31/1991 - it’ll be 33 years . We have loved, hated, been disinterested, been disillusioned with each other all throughout those years. But, just one year ago we found each other again. It’s the ups and downs in a long term marriage that just happen. I remember mourning the loss of my husband in our relationship- but then it flipped and we’re back. I wish marriage was ALWAYS like it was in the beginning but in reality it’s not and maybe not running away from each other and divorcing isn’t the answer. Maybe sticking it out and seeing the next chapter is worth it. Good luck. Wishing you peace.
At some point, I had to come to the realization. That my ex just moved on with someone else and neverlooked back. He never,thought about all the years we had. the family we raised together. I’m glad I didn’t realize this years down the line. it hurt so much. Some people just have that ability. it seems strange to those of us. Who love hard. It happens though.
I too was glad to hear you say "GOD first". Your understanding of what marriage is supposed to be and the chain of command that follows is both correct and biblical. But I began following your channel in 2020, and I've been listening to your video entries since she left. And I cant hold back from speaking what I feel I've seen from her and from what is Truth. IF Rachel simply "fell out of love", she would demonstrate a genuine concern for your health, happiness and well-being. You dont stay married to someone that long and share children together just to later say f you, i could care less who died or what you're going through. That type of lack of compassion (even if there's no longer a romantic love) is a blatant demonstration of a selfish, self-centered cold heart. I suspect im not the only one who follows your channel who has seen how counterfeit her personality was when she would make appearances. And though I'm NOT AT ALL SUGGESTING THAT SHE DOESNT LOVE THOSE KIDS, I think many of us have seen how her actions and facial expressions with Mercy and Major didn't align with the persona of supermom who's crazy about motherhood. I suppose what I'm trying to say is that the devil has flipped the family unit in such a way that has caused wives to believe the lie that the husband is a control freak any time he only steps up to lead his wife and children. Also, while you've obviously been very respectful to Rachel on camera, the majority of us know that both sides will always have their own story to tell about what went wrong. And at this point, if any of us are to judge righteously, all we can do is judge based on what we hear you have to say, the look at what we have seen and not seen from Rachel. At the end of the day, I think it's safe to assume that she cares almost entirely about what she thinks is best for HER and what SHE can gain from a divorce alot more than what the children will ultimately loose as a result. If she wants a divorce, by all means happily give it. BUT, as long as you have not commited adultry, neglected your role as a husband and father or fallen off the wagon, then if you truly do want to see your kids and be with them several days per week, 😢 (in my opinion) I recommend you fight for at least equel custody FOR THE SAKE OF THE KIDS! Because it's very clear how much they love you and need you. But its also obvious that Rachel wants full custody in order to collect full benefits. Also remember her sister and family hate youvand are doing a sweet job of influencing her. .. if only, if only she could just put GOD first and seek His counsel and Scripture on biblical marriage and divorce, she could then see what marriage actually is and what GOD says is and is not acceptable according to His Will.
Me being a recovering addict, being a woman clean since 1991. On behalf of Rachel, I don’t know her. I wonder if she wants you and her to move forward to forget the past. It was a dark place for her as much as it was for you. Together, it’s a constant reminder of yesterdays dark place. God only knows what she went through. Please don’t beat yourself up emotionally. If you and her can seek counseling that will be great. I couldn’t be with my daughters father, same thing. I had to be free for me to grow and raise my children without the reminder of evil addiction. I didn’t want my kids to ever see or know any part of it. I’m sure it’s for you to grow as well. I’m not sure… 🙏🏼 I hope and pray that you and Rachel can work it out. If this is what it is, I get it… Prayers and peace for both of you wonderful people.
I’m sorry to hear this for you guys. I needed to hear everything you said, I get what you’re saying. I’m going through it too. The past few days I’ve been hurt, sad, and upset. So I get it. It’s not easy at all. 13 years. The other doesn’t love you enough to fight for it. Doesn’t convey their love for you. It’s a roller coaster, knowing you’ve had issues over the coarse of time. There’s been no cheating so why can’t it be worked out? Because you know you’ve been through this same stuff so many times before break up n get back together n nothing changes when you’re together. You give the person a manual like hey I need this from you, but they can never change how they are or in my eyes love you enough to give you what you need. Yet it’s so hard to let someone go that you do love, but have issues with. You’re use to them, comfortable with them, but just not happy. I don’t ask for a lot. It wasn’t that hard to make me happy but you just couldn’t do it. Therefore I feel as if you don’t care n love me enough. If u did it wouldn’t be hard to do. I’m broken too 😢
In our family, there’s no hierarchy-just a shared journey where we walk side by side through life. Together, we navigate the ups and downs, supporting one another every step of the way.
I have been watching all these videos and I have yet to hear you say bad things about Rachel. Keep being the man you are. Be blessed and just be you! Prayers🙏
Frank your expressing true love. You truly loved Rachel this is apparent. You did the right thing. Here is why I am saying this. You are wishing her only the best. Don't blame yourself. You seem like the type of man who a spouse could work things out with if there is love. I don't like the idea of the silent treatment. My ex used to do this to me. It was horrific emotionally to me. He talked behind my back and even was untruthful painting him as the victim. Honestly, it took me a long time to realize he didn't love me like I loved him. I wouldn't be surprised if she has another guy all lined upnto take your place. She will do the same thing to the next guy as well. Trust me when I say this.
Like I said a few videos ago in a comment..this too shall pass..so happy to see this as your title..that you’re starting to embrace this in the midst of your grief & journey through this time in your life 🫶🏻
I'm so sorry you guys aren't seeing eye to eye right now. I'm praying for your mental peace, comfort and happiness. You're so patient, loving and kind.
Ugh … I’m going through the same thing right now. Except for the fact that my ex left without saying a word and did not even say goodbye to our daughter. He has been gone for a long time now, and has not even reached out to his child. This is horrible. 😢
wow i’m sorry you’re dealing with that if he’s able to walk away and not reach out to his child it might be for the best unfortunately that doesn’t make it just any less tho. prayers for you and ur daughter
@ thank you, Frank. Your words help because my mind goes back-and-forth on if I should reach out to him and force a relationship with our daughter. But then I think hell no, if he doesn’t see what he is leaving behind in this amazing child than he doesn’t deserve her. But it’s really hard because she’s going through a lot of depression from it. Anyway, thank you so much for the reply. I am praying for you. 🙏
I would reach out and ask if you can be involved with a family member of the childs other side so they can at least have a chance to see the child bc he may not want to be involved but I bet someone in his family would want to at least have school photos or something ya know but then after that if they don't respond f them. Bc kids struggle way more then us adults. I remember them lonely nights of the child of mine crying for their dad for hours and every night for months but 8 yrs later we have a co parent schedule and it's starting to get easier. But it's life and it sucks losing a partner you loved and if you try your best to focus on you and your kids you will get through it. But it's always hard period. ❤
You are so incredibly wise. Your perception of the children are 100 percent accurate. Your children are so lucky to have you as a father. This will get better, God is with you, praying for you and sending you so much love ❤️🙏🏽❤️
Hate to break it to you, but I can tell you from experience that she's not hurting. Women tend to be emotional about most things, but they're very rational, and matter-of-fact thinkers, when they decide they're done with you. Leaving you is a relief for her. She's not feeling pain. She's thinking the grass will be greener on the other side.
@@katucker4251this alone has me wondering if he's the reason it ended. I mean usually how it works if someone gets hurt. They don't care anymore and want out while he's heartbroken shedding tears everytime he speaks of the situation. Unfortunately how it ends up in the end. Sad
@@Its_April- Just because she ended it, doesn't mean he was in the wrong though. Like I said originally, women tend to be emotional about most things...this includes cheating and ending relationships (again...I know this from experience, from an ex-wife of nine years). I was just making the point that once she makes the decision, it's usually a done deal. How she reached that decision though, is a totally different thing. My ex-wife told me "I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore". I hadn't done anything other than not keeping her entertained. She essentially got bored, and a co-worker was something new and exciting.
Well said. And I know your not being mean either, but she will truly be ok. There is no need for him to worry. If she’s truly serious she will start the proceedings and show that she is. It’s hard to hear if you’re no longer wanted. But that’s where you five deeper into oneself and only become better for your shortcomings. I believe anyway.
Its not crazy that you want the best for someone you love, even if they're not with you. It's called being an adult. Losing, and im not talking about them passing, you will go through the grieving process. Everyones grieving process is different. Feel your feelings, my brother! Sending you love, light, and strength!
Frank your videos have always helped me And still do. I too split with my kids mother and honestly it was for the best. There was a lot of the same things going on that your going through. This too shall pass and God will be with you. Allow time to heal both of you and be great parents for your children. My 🙏 are with you
You know Frank, until you stop talking to us like you are talking to her and stop the “tip toeing” around the circumstances that are truly at hand here, you are not going to move forward. I’m not saying you should start bad mouthing her! I’m saying that you ARE NOT saying what you really feel. I’m saying that all this BS about you wanting her to live happily ever after you, with a man of her dreams is just not true. You are talking to her and not your real feelings about this. You are hurt, pissed off and aren’t getting closure. It sucks and stop worrying about her happiness with other people! Geez Frank, you are breaking our hearts here. You do not want someone that can hurt you this much! You can’t tell me you didnt see this coming. I digress. You need someone in real time to help you thru this. A counselor, MEETINGS, something! Please! ❤❤❤
Hi Frank,I just saw the video from Thursday morning and want to tell you that you have been a gentleman about the situation you are going through; other people would be lashing out and speaking bad about the other person but you have not, and that's because you have real love towards her, you realise she is the mother of your children and you have no need to look good to the world because you know what you have contributed to this relationship and God knows too. I pray you heal every day one day at a time. God bless you always, Elizabeth.
Ive been watching you fir many years and have been admiring you on how youve came through a difficult time in your life and that uphill climb was brought down to a flat and yet still bumpy path..because lifes not perfect and humans aren't perfect either..youve come a long way from where you used to be..prayers for strength comfort peace and healing in your life and marriage, and our heavenly Father's leadinv and guidance will set you both on the path if healing and bring you both back to the love you both seem to let slip away..may our heavenly Father bless your union in the mighty name of Jesus Christ AMEN and THANKYOU FATHER YHVH ❤
After every trial is over you learn how strong you are mentally. This is one of those few cases where only time will heal. I will be praying for you young man
Frank I'm so freaking happy you didn't get mad at my comment!! I saw the thumbnail for this video at thought...... oh no he got pissed off at me!!! But I know you've seen my comments over the years and you know I'm a long long time subscriber. I went and even talked to my wife about what to comment without pissing frank off! She actually came up with just saying it flat out because I hate seeing you this way buddy. And I comment looking from the outside in and I (being myself and the wife) come trying to help out as friends! I hope I never say anything wrong pal and please I'm the first to say I was out of line. Anyway brother I'm going to leave one more comment about your relationship for her to put everything on the line and walk away not knowing how you would react really speaks volume dude. I think how would I react to my wife walking out and we've had our problems. The last fight I was helping pack her bags! Went filled up her car with gas! And I was ready lol I'm always ready! but we've been together since 1996 and I've known her since the 19 76 i definitely would be lost without her but I be damn if I keep someone around that don't want to be there!! I'll be there first to pack! I'll quit rambling for now! Good luck my friend and if you ever need an ear hit me up 🤙
I'm So Proud Of You. KEEPING it 100 Is The Best You Can Do.Im 68 And I Believe In You. The Kids Will See Both Sides. The Holidays Were Had .But REMEMBER ITS ONLY 1 DAY. 😊 Do What Makes You HAPPY
To hear you talk it seems you have your head on straight. Keep your integrity and continue to keep God first. That's the only way to get through this! 🙏
I dedicated my life and career to helping young people just like you and many of them didn’t make it. I feel it’s important to try to support you because you’ve overcome and accomplished so much in your life and you have such a good and kind spirit and you go down into the trenches to save people struggling with addiction and I commend you for that. Lean on your faith in God and he will definitely comfort you and get you through every challenge you face. I’ll be praying for you and your family. Understand nothing is written in stone and everything is subject to change believe in the impossible because you’ve accomplished the impossible before. Amen 🙏🏾
So you seen the writing on the wall. You took her from a nothing to a queen. You should have prepared for this event. Your a good man. Driving yourself crazy. God bless you and your family
Good morning ,I hope you have a blessed day 🙏. Your being very mature about all this, and you're right about your babies, they love both of you. PLEASE don't be hard on yourself, because you are doing the right thing. The kids are first and foremost in all this, they are so in tuned to feelings and what is being said. Their little ears hear all, and if she's expressing harsh feelings about you, they probably know it. I 🙏 pray that's not the case, because they need to feel secure in both homes. And I'll say it again son, you have never said anything about her that put her in a bad light. If anything you've put her on a pedestal, be true to yourself and don't worry about idle gossip 😉. Moma Shirley here, I speak from life experience 💯, and my babies were my first priority. And of course God is always first and my boys were taught the same way. I tell you this as I would my sons. You and yours be blessed, and happy 😊.
With my husband, I admit I loved him more than my parents or our children...I understand what you say and concur ..as long as you love unconditionally, you fall in and out of love imo... Been there . Be patient Things will work out how they are supposed to...what is meant for you will always get to you
@MissOrchid12 it took me a long time to recognize it...but if I'm completely honest i only ever loved my grandma and him to such a depth.....I would have laid my life down for my kids too...and, still would . ..I can relate to what Frank says..
Ive gone through 7yrs of what I thought was good..abd when i walked away it was Gods disision..i left in 2014, its now 2024, it still hurts but mot as much.
Bed time in my country so hoping this is the first message you read this morning ( in your country ) . Dear Frank you got through another night. You children love and adore you. I saw the video that shows you have loving family. You are blessed my friend and you will make it through this grief. Hope you have some happiness in your day today . Also my ex is here visiting my son. It was a terrible break up . Neither of us perfect . My ex suffers from unmedicated mental illness and alcoholism and he was violent. We broke up 26 ish years ago. You know what ....he is still family. We love him and care about him. He has joined us for birthdays , Christmases etc. and we will definitely be needed by him when his mum passes. He still p@sses me off sometimes but that is life. Would love nothing more for him than ti be sober , well and fall in love with a lovely lady ...his well being is what is best for our son so I wouldn't want anything else. Of course we had to get through the initial ugly bit to get to a better place and it took work , sucking it in sometimes etc but hey it is ok. Keep your chin up Mal x.
It hurts when you lose love and its hard starting over with someone else..i could never do that..i still can't..my heart still unable to let go..😢😢 There wasnt any beef..it just gone..God gave me my walk away..live you Frank
I feel for you. I've been there too. I had someone want to split with me after quite a few years. I was blindsided and didn't really see it coming. A few years after we broke up he wanted me back, saying he was wrong.. I couldn't do it today tho. I was forced to move on without him and i did. Painful - yes.. but I'm in a much better place today. I'm wishing you the very best.
I’m so sorry that you’re family is going through this hard time right now.. I’m 56 and been through what you are going through. So I put my whole life into my 3 kids!!! And now that they are older they tell me how much they appreciate me for always being there!! Your children will get you through all of this pain!!! I promise 🙏🙏
Your wisdom has been illuminated by this very uncomfortable journey. You are experiencing an awakening. Very difficult journey, but your journey is leading you to something or someone that will match your new true energy. Ive experienced the same and now I see ME. This is actually for your benefit as painful as it is. You are on the right path for YOU. Keep the faith in you and no one else. Your children will one day see your strength and growth. You are growing. ❤ Believe it or not , you are inspiring me with your maturity in your journey. Thank you
I been watching u for a long time on here and u do so much for others..u will be ok man, im sorry u are going thru this..people like u who do so much will not be down for long..im praying things get better really quickly for u brother..
Jesus loves ya my brother... keep ya head up. Remember all growth is somewhat a painful process. Continue to grow and share the wisom!!! Godbless-MuchRespect-MuchLove
Frank, All will be well and all manner of things will be well. Steady your ship, and keep sailing forward with love, and grace, and forgiveness. You remain in my thoughts and prayers. Your family remains in my thoughts and prayers. You are right - our relationships with others are consensual. Love not based on ownership. Love you, brother.
"This too shall pass" Yeah, this too shall pass.. I like now what you were saying now Frank! You can't change Rachel's way of thinking you can't.. like I said go ahead and cook or water in some food for Thanksgiving and have those Kids over!! When I was divorced it was a damn mess.. I'm over and done with it & it's Good! You are not alone Ok! Blessings 2u Frank❤
Rewatching this 💋I’m so sorry you gotta feel this it’s so hard divorcing someone my husband had sex with my best friend n things turned very ugly because he got mad because we both went separately n my four kids got hurt in the process I get it completely I’m here to listen n I know you hurting 😢we still healing it’s been two years it hurts every day still but I have to keep going forward !!!! You been respectful to your wife you were a always talking good for her n it’s sad if you aren’t getting the same respect hugs to you Frank 💕
Trust bro, the shit hurts now, but each and everyday it will get less n less painful, the worst part ur going through now but it will be better in time, as they say time heals all n it will get better. Occupy ur time n let the time take over.
I'm just gonna leave this one quote for u, and unfortunately, I don't know who said it, but here it is... "YOU NEVER LOOK GOOD TRYING TO MAKE SOMEONE ELSE LOOK BAD." Really sit with that and let that one sink in. I use it a lot. God bless! ✌️💜✌️💜
Not necessarily. My ex said from the beginning that he would never allow myself or the kids to be without a home or money..to this day he lives in a tiny 1 bed unit so we can live in the larger family home. Some men will take care of the family even when they are hurting. The change can happen if they meet someone new however and that new lady drives it.
she’s going to do the same thing to the next one. i believe she already has someone so she’s trying to make you look like the bad guy. you loved her more than any man ever will and you did your best. i’m sorry this is happening to you. 🥺
one thing that stuck out to me that you said in a different video is that she lets the twins walk all over you. that broke my heart. they learned that from her.
I’m 64 years old and I promise you Frank you will get through this, and you will be Happy again.
He freaks out and snaps on women I don’t think he will if he keeps that up 😂
@@masterexploder666 do u know him personally?
@@masterexploder666 Do you have any actual proof of what you claim???
Seriously, I'm not looking for any type of pissing contest, but if you have actual proof then show us and we will stand with you, that is a somewhat heavy accusation to be making.
I’m glad you have this forum to talk to us about what you are going through. I didn’t have anybody at the time. So even though you feel like you’re going through it alone. We are here to listen and support you.
You are a wonderful man. Don’t second-guess yourself. And don’t ever let anyone make you feel less than.
Was glad to hear you say God is first. He will NEVER leave you
If she has bad-mouthed you, your kids will see it. Never heard you say a bad word about her, only respect. Kids are not stupid and will soon be aware. Stay blessed, feel better.
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🕊Frank.. You also deserve the best!! you’re an awesome father..
That's the thing, it seems like he doesn't give himself enough credit and he gives her a whole lot of credit which I'm sure she deserves but he does as well. That's just my opinion from what it seems like behind my phone💁🏼♀️
Most couples that go through this end up bitter towards each other when young children are involved.Hopefully you and Rachel can beat the odds and show respect for one another when in each other’s company ❤️
You are finding your way. You will be OK. You will. This too shall pass in time and the pain will not be as bad. It will. You will be OK.
I have been married since 12/31/1991 - it’ll be 33 years . We have loved, hated, been disinterested, been disillusioned with each other all throughout those years. But, just one year ago we found each other again. It’s the ups and downs in a long term marriage that just happen. I remember mourning the loss of my husband in our relationship- but then it flipped and we’re back. I wish marriage was ALWAYS like it was in the beginning but in reality it’s not and maybe not running away from each other and divorcing isn’t the answer. Maybe sticking it out and seeing the next chapter is worth it. Good luck. Wishing you peace.
I can not believe Frank and Rachel breaking up like this! They were so cute together
At some point, I had to come to the realization. That my ex just moved on with someone else and neverlooked back. He never,thought about all the years we had. the family we raised together. I’m glad I didn’t realize this years down the line. it hurt so much. Some people just have that ability. it seems strange to those of us. Who love hard. It happens though.
I just cant realize how someone who loved someone n married them, had their children then they don't live that person anymore????? I don't get it.
@ lI feel like, that something in their brain just switches and they are no longer the person we, knew or loved loved
I too was glad to hear you say "GOD first". Your understanding of what marriage is supposed to be and the chain of command that follows is both correct and biblical. But I began following your channel in 2020, and I've been listening to your video entries since she left. And I cant hold back from speaking what I feel I've seen from her and from what is Truth.
IF Rachel simply "fell out of love", she would demonstrate a genuine concern for your health, happiness and well-being. You dont stay married to someone that long and share children together just to later say f you, i could care less who died or what you're going through. That type of lack of compassion (even if there's no longer a romantic love) is a blatant demonstration of a selfish, self-centered cold heart.
I suspect im not the only one who follows your channel who has seen how counterfeit her personality was when she would make appearances. And though I'm NOT AT ALL SUGGESTING THAT SHE DOESNT LOVE THOSE KIDS, I think many of us have seen how her actions and facial expressions with Mercy and Major didn't align with the persona of supermom who's crazy about motherhood.
I suppose what I'm trying to say is that the devil has flipped the family unit in such a way that has caused wives to believe the lie that the husband is a control freak any time he only steps up to lead his wife and children.
Also, while you've obviously been very respectful to Rachel on camera, the majority of us know that both sides will always have their own story to tell about what went wrong. And at this point, if any of us are to judge righteously, all we can do is judge based on what we hear you have to say, the look at what we have seen and not seen from Rachel.
At the end of the day, I think it's safe to assume that she cares almost entirely about what she thinks is best for HER and what SHE can gain from a divorce alot more than what the children will ultimately loose as a result.
If she wants a divorce, by all means happily give it. BUT, as long as you have not commited adultry, neglected your role as a husband and father or fallen off the wagon, then if you truly do want to see your kids and be with them several days per week, 😢 (in my opinion) I recommend you fight for at least equel custody FOR THE SAKE OF THE KIDS! Because it's very clear how much they love you and need you. But its also obvious that Rachel wants full custody in order to collect full benefits. Also remember her sister and family hate youvand are doing a sweet job of influencing her. .. if only, if only she could just put GOD first and seek His counsel and Scripture on biblical marriage and divorce, she could then see what marriage actually is and what GOD says is and is not acceptable according to His Will.
You have NEVER ever bad mouthed her. You are a class act Frank!! Stay strong.
Me being a recovering addict, being a woman clean since 1991. On behalf of Rachel, I don’t know her. I wonder if she wants you and her to move forward to forget the past. It was a dark place for her as much as it was for you. Together, it’s a constant reminder of yesterdays dark place. God only knows what she went through. Please don’t beat yourself up emotionally. If you and her can seek counseling that will be great. I couldn’t be with my daughters father, same thing. I had to be free for me to grow and raise my children without the reminder of evil addiction. I didn’t want my kids to ever see or know any part of it. I’m sure it’s for you to grow as well. I’m not sure… 🙏🏼
I hope and pray that you and Rachel can work it out. If this is what it is, I get it… Prayers and peace for both of you wonderful people.
I wouldn't want somebody back that keeps my name in their mouth after a break up.
Being a man is not easy these days…stay strong and know your worth.
I’m sorry to hear this for you guys. I needed to hear everything you said, I get what you’re saying. I’m going through it too. The past few days I’ve been hurt, sad, and upset. So I get it. It’s not easy at all. 13 years. The other doesn’t love you enough to fight for it. Doesn’t convey their love for you. It’s a roller coaster, knowing you’ve had issues over the coarse of time. There’s been no cheating so why can’t it be worked out? Because you know you’ve been through this same stuff so many times before break up n get back together n nothing changes when you’re together. You give the person a manual like hey I need this from you, but they can never change how they are or in my eyes love you enough to give you what you need. Yet it’s so hard to let someone go that you do love, but have issues with. You’re use to them, comfortable with them, but just not happy. I don’t ask for a lot. It wasn’t that hard to make me happy but you just couldn’t do it. Therefore I feel as if you don’t care n love me enough. If u did it wouldn’t be hard to do. I’m broken too 😢
In our family, there’s no hierarchy-just a shared journey where we walk side by side through life. Together, we navigate the ups and downs, supporting one another every step of the way.
I have been watching all these videos and I have yet to hear you say bad things about Rachel. Keep being the man you are. Be blessed and just be you! Prayers🙏
To be positive and proactive through emotional chaos = reward for both of you ♥
Frank your expressing true love. You truly loved Rachel this is apparent. You did the right thing. Here is why I am saying this. You are wishing her only the best. Don't blame yourself. You seem like the type of man who a spouse could work things out with if there is love. I don't like the idea of the silent treatment. My ex used to do this to me. It was horrific emotionally to me. He talked behind my back and even was untruthful painting him as the victim. Honestly, it took me a long time to realize he didn't love me like I loved him. I wouldn't be surprised if she has another guy all lined upnto take your place. She will do the same thing to the next guy as well. Trust me when I say this.
Your such a beautiful good person, its horrible to see you hurting im sending love and prayers your way from London UK ❤❤
Unconditional love is rare.
Like I said a few videos ago in a comment..this too shall pass..so happy to see this as your title..that you’re starting to embrace this in the midst of your grief & journey through this time in your life 🫶🏻
I'm so sorry you guys aren't seeing eye to eye right now. I'm praying for your mental peace, comfort and happiness. You're so patient, loving and kind.
I'm praying for you. You deserve the best. ❤
Ugh … I’m going through the same thing right now. Except for the fact that my ex left without saying a word and did not even say goodbye to our daughter. He has been gone for a long time now, and has not even reached out to his child. This is horrible. 😢
wow i’m sorry you’re dealing with that if he’s able to walk away and not reach out to his child it might be for the best unfortunately that doesn’t make it just any less tho. prayers for you and ur daughter
@ thank you, Frank. Your words help because my mind goes back-and-forth on if I should reach out to him and force a relationship with our daughter. But then I think hell no, if he doesn’t see what he is leaving behind in this amazing child than he doesn’t deserve her. But it’s really hard because she’s going through a lot of depression from it. Anyway, thank you so much for the reply. I am praying for you. 🙏
I would reach out and ask if you can be involved with a family member of the childs other side so they can at least have a chance to see the child bc he may not want to be involved but I bet someone in his family would want to at least have school photos or something ya know but then after that if they don't respond f them. Bc kids struggle way more then us adults. I remember them lonely nights of the child of mine crying for their dad for hours and every night for months but 8 yrs later we have a co parent schedule and it's starting to get easier. But it's life and it sucks losing a partner you loved and if you try your best to focus on you and your kids you will get through it. But it's always hard period. ❤
@@melcar4509 Thank you so much for this and for taking the time to write it. I appreciate it.🥰🙏
Put GOD first and watch everything change for the better...I am praying for you Frank and Rachel and the Children 🙏
Amen!!!
Yes 🙌🏼 very well said ❤
Frank, you are genuinely a Godly man. Those words you said is something many men will never say or do. Keep your head up. This to shall pass
I am so sorry you are going through such heartbreak. You are a good man, dont ever for❤get it
My mother use to say that. "This too shall pass" RIP Mom❤
You are so incredibly wise. Your perception of the children are 100 percent accurate. Your children are so lucky to have you as a father. This will get better, God is with you, praying for you and sending you so much love ❤️🙏🏽❤️
Franks bounce back gonna be legendary 💪
You will be ok Frank, we are Here for you ❤
Rumors wander around breaking everything in their path. They're not worth your time.
Hate to break it to you, but I can tell you from experience that she's not hurting. Women tend to be emotional about most things, but they're very rational, and matter-of-fact thinkers, when they decide they're done with you.
Leaving you is a relief for her. She's not feeling pain. She's thinking the grass will be greener on the other side.
That’s very accurate
I’m a female, this paragraph says it the most accurate out of anything I have seen!!! No she’s not hurting! It’s a relief so so true!!!
@@katucker4251this alone has me wondering if he's the reason it ended. I mean usually how it works if someone gets hurt. They don't care anymore and want out while he's heartbroken shedding tears everytime he speaks of the situation. Unfortunately how it ends up in the end. Sad
@@Its_April- Just because she ended it, doesn't mean he was in the wrong though. Like I said originally, women tend to be emotional about most things...this includes cheating and ending relationships (again...I know this from experience, from an ex-wife of nine years).
I was just making the point that once she makes the decision, it's usually a done deal. How she reached that decision though, is a totally different thing. My ex-wife told me "I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore". I hadn't done anything other than not keeping her entertained. She essentially got bored, and a co-worker was something new and exciting.
Well said. And I know your not being mean either, but she will truly be ok. There is no need for him to worry. If she’s truly serious she will start the proceedings and show that she is. It’s hard to hear if you’re no longer wanted. But that’s where you five deeper into oneself and only become better for your shortcomings. I believe anyway.
Frank u got your head on straight for sure. You will get thru this and be happy again.
Its not crazy that you want the best for someone you love, even if they're not with you. It's called being an adult. Losing, and im not talking about them passing, you will go through the grieving process. Everyones grieving process is different. Feel your feelings, my brother! Sending you love, light, and strength!
Frank your videos have always helped me And still do. I too split with my kids mother and honestly it was for the best. There was a lot of the same things going on that your going through. This too shall pass and God will be with you. Allow time to heal both of you and be great parents for your children. My 🙏 are with you
You know Frank, until you stop talking to us like you are talking to her and stop the “tip toeing” around the circumstances that are truly at hand here, you are not going to move forward. I’m not saying you should start bad mouthing her! I’m saying that you ARE NOT saying what you really feel. I’m saying that all this BS about you wanting her to live happily ever after you, with a man of her dreams is just not true. You are talking to her and not your real feelings about this. You are hurt, pissed off and aren’t getting closure. It sucks and stop worrying about her happiness with other people! Geez Frank, you are breaking our hearts here. You do not want someone that can hurt you this much! You can’t tell me you didnt see this coming. I digress. You need someone in real time to help you thru this. A counselor, MEETINGS, something! Please! ❤❤❤
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So True!!
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In my thoughts and prayers Frank 🙏🏻
Hi Frank,I just saw the video from Thursday morning and want to tell you that you have been a gentleman about the situation you are going through; other people would be lashing out and speaking bad about the other person but you have not, and that's because you have real love towards her, you realise she is the mother of your children and you have no need to look good to the world because you know what you have contributed to this relationship and God knows too. I pray you heal every day one day at a time. God bless you always, Elizabeth.
Ive been watching you fir many years and have been admiring you on how youve came through a difficult time in your life and that uphill climb was brought down to a flat and yet still bumpy path..because lifes not perfect and humans aren't perfect either..youve come a long way from where you used to be..prayers for strength comfort peace and healing in your life and marriage, and our heavenly Father's leadinv and guidance will set you both on the path if healing and bring you both back to the love you both seem to let slip away..may our heavenly Father bless your union in the mighty name of Jesus Christ AMEN and THANKYOU FATHER YHVH ❤
You are an amazing person with a big heart.
After every trial is over you learn how strong you are mentally. This is one of those few cases where only time will heal. I will be praying for you young man
It’s unfortunate your dealing with this, but you are also helping people learn they never have to pick up FOR ANY REASON WE DO RECOVER
Frank I'm so freaking happy you didn't get mad at my comment!! I saw the thumbnail for this video at thought...... oh no he got pissed off at me!!! But I know you've seen my comments over the years and you know I'm a long long time subscriber. I went and even talked to my wife about what to comment without pissing frank off! She actually came up with just saying it flat out because I hate seeing you this way buddy. And I comment looking from the outside in and I (being myself and the wife) come trying to help out as friends! I hope I never say anything wrong pal and please I'm the first to say I was out of line. Anyway brother I'm going to leave one more comment about your relationship for her to put everything on the line and walk away not knowing how you would react really speaks volume dude. I think how would I react to my wife walking out and we've had our problems. The last fight I was helping pack her bags! Went filled up her car with gas! And I was ready lol I'm always ready! but we've been together since 1996 and I've known her since the 19 76 i definitely would be lost without her but I be damn if I keep someone around that don't want to be there!! I'll be there first to pack! I'll quit rambling for now! Good luck my friend and if you ever need an ear hit me up 🤙
Life is All about Healing and Growing frank 💪💜
I'm So Proud Of You. KEEPING it 100 Is The Best You Can Do.Im 68 And I Believe In You. The Kids Will See Both Sides. The Holidays Were Had .But REMEMBER ITS ONLY 1 DAY. 😊 Do What Makes You HAPPY
Stay away from the destruction. I am on the front line battle still everyday.
This too shall pass
Frank you are not alone live in the day Everything Changes ❤
To hear you talk it seems you have your head on straight. Keep your integrity and continue to keep God first. That's the only way to get through this! 🙏
I dedicated my life and career to helping young people just like you and many of them didn’t make it. I feel it’s important to try to support you because you’ve overcome and accomplished so much in your life and you have such a good and kind spirit and you go down into the trenches to save people struggling with addiction and I commend you for that. Lean on your faith in God and he will definitely comfort you and get you through every challenge you face. I’ll be praying for you and your family. Understand nothing is written in stone and everything is subject to change believe in the impossible because you’ve accomplished the impossible before. Amen 🙏🏾
So you seen the writing on the wall. You took her from a nothing to a queen.
You should have prepared for this event. Your a good man. Driving yourself crazy.
God bless you and your family
You’re a good man, and a good father
Let God guide ur path. He will. And he will never leave you nor forsake you Frank
Good morning ,I hope you have a blessed day 🙏. Your being very mature about all this, and you're right about your babies, they love both of you. PLEASE don't be hard on yourself, because you are doing the right thing. The kids are first and foremost in all this, they are so in tuned to feelings and what is being said. Their little ears hear all, and if she's expressing harsh feelings about you, they probably know it. I 🙏 pray that's not the case, because they need to feel secure in both homes. And I'll say it again son, you have never said anything about her that put her in a bad light. If anything you've put her on a pedestal, be true to yourself and don't worry about idle gossip 😉. Moma Shirley here, I speak from life experience 💯, and my babies were my first priority. And of course God is always first and my boys were taught the same way. I tell you this as I would my sons. You and yours be blessed, and happy 😊.
Hugs and prayers to you and your family. 🙏🩷
With my husband, I admit I loved him more than my parents or our children...I understand what you say and concur ..as long as you love unconditionally, you fall in and out of love imo...
Been there .
Be patient
Things will work out how they are supposed to...what is meant for you will always get to you
I can't imagine loving a man above my children. You're the first woman I've heard say that.
@MissOrchid12 it took me a long time to recognize it...but if I'm completely honest i only ever loved my grandma and him to such a depth.....I would have laid my life down for my kids too...and, still would . ..I can relate to what Frank says..
Pls don't question the little one for info.❤
Ive gone through 7yrs of what I thought was good..abd when i walked away it was Gods disision..i left in 2014, its now 2024, it still hurts but mot as much.
Bed time in my country so hoping this is the first message you read this morning ( in your country ) . Dear Frank you got through another night. You children love and adore you. I saw the video that shows you have loving family. You are blessed my friend and you will make it through this grief. Hope you have some happiness in your day today .
Also my ex is here visiting my son. It was a terrible break up . Neither of us perfect . My ex suffers from unmedicated mental illness and alcoholism and he was violent. We broke up 26 ish years ago. You know what ....he is still family. We love him and care about him. He has joined us for birthdays , Christmases etc. and we will definitely be needed by him when his mum passes. He still p@sses me off sometimes but that is life. Would love nothing more for him than ti be sober , well and fall in love with a lovely lady ...his well being is what is best for our son so I wouldn't want anything else. Of course we had to get through the initial ugly bit to get to a better place and it took work , sucking it in sometimes etc but hey it is ok. Keep your chin up Mal x.
This too shall pass...😢
Frank
Sending you lots of hugs and prayers! 🙏❤❤
It hurts when you lose love and its hard starting over with someone else..i could never do that..i still can't..my heart still unable to let go..😢😢
There wasnt any beef..it just gone..God gave me my walk away..live you Frank
One day you'll be free of her poison in you. She's immature probably been to a lawyer already she wants you to pay for her pain she's angry.
The pain he caused are you referring to that same pain ? 🙄😳
"....her pain.."??! She's probably living her best life!
I feel for you. I've been there too. I had someone want to split with me after quite a few years. I was blindsided and didn't really see it coming. A few years after we broke up he wanted me back, saying he was wrong.. I couldn't do it today tho. I was forced to move on without him and i did. Painful - yes.. but I'm in a much better place today. I'm wishing you the very best.
Please be kind, loving and patient to yourself. Your hurt is just as real as hers.
I’m so sorry that you’re family is going through this hard time right now.. I’m 56 and been through what you are going through. So I put my whole life into my 3 kids!!! And now that they are older they tell me how much they appreciate me for always being there!! Your children will get you through all of this pain!!! I promise 🙏🙏
KEEP YOUR HEAD ABOVE FLOAT FRANK 😢❤ !!!
Sending Love&Prayers to you Frank & family… ❤️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🇨🇦
Stay strong bro
3:14 hey Frank so so happy to hear you pushing yourself up awesome my brother
Your wisdom has been illuminated by this very uncomfortable journey. You are experiencing an awakening. Very difficult journey, but your journey is leading you to something or someone that will match your new true energy. Ive experienced the same and now I see ME. This is actually for your benefit as painful as it is. You are on the right path for YOU. Keep the faith in you and no one else. Your children will one day see your strength and growth. You are growing. ❤
Believe it or not , you are inspiring me with your maturity in your journey. Thank you
You could separate and stay friends and just have a mutual understanding/communication with one another.
Seems extremely hard to do with em having animosity towards each other right now. Especially on her end
Stay strong Fam you got this Frank❤...
I been watching u for a long time on here and u do so much for others..u will be ok man, im sorry u are going thru this..people like u who do so much will not be down for long..im praying things get better really quickly for u brother..
Praying for you frank hope you find peace…..hang in there bro good things will come. And prayers for Rachel and the kids too🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Don't walk away mad just walk away...
What made you want to vlog this chapter of your life?
Jesus loves ya my brother... keep ya head up. Remember all growth is somewhat a painful process. Continue to grow and share the wisom!!! Godbless-MuchRespect-MuchLove
If my ex made videos Talking ABOUT ME, it would just confirm i made the right decision to leave him ✅️
Frank, All will be well and all manner of things will be well. Steady your ship, and keep sailing forward with love, and grace, and forgiveness. You remain in my thoughts and prayers. Your family remains in my thoughts and prayers. You are right - our relationships with others are consensual. Love not based on ownership. Love you, brother.
God loves you Frank ❤
Love God first! Not anyone else
You Are So Respectful & forgiving toward Rachel Frank! it Amazes me! You are a Special man dear! ❤
"This too shall pass"
Yeah, this too shall pass.. I like now what you were saying now Frank! You can't change Rachel's way of thinking you can't.. like I said go ahead and cook or water in some food for Thanksgiving and have those Kids over!!
When I was divorced it was a damn mess..
I'm over and done with it & it's Good!
You are not alone Ok!
Blessings 2u Frank❤
So sorry this is happening to you Frank... you are such a loving person. I cried at the end😢 Bless you Rachael and the kids ❤❤
Rewatching this 💋I’m so sorry you gotta feel this it’s so hard divorcing someone my husband had sex with my best friend n things turned very ugly because he got mad because we both went separately n my four kids got hurt in the process I get it completely I’m here to listen n I know you hurting 😢we still healing it’s been two years it hurts every day still but I have to keep going forward !!!! You been respectful to your wife you were a always talking good for her n it’s sad if you aren’t getting the same respect hugs to you Frank 💕
Praying for you bro
Trust bro, the shit hurts now, but each and everyday it will get less n less painful, the worst part ur going through now but it will be better in time, as they say time heals all n it will get better. Occupy ur time n let the time take over.
I'm just gonna leave this one quote for u, and unfortunately, I don't know who said it, but here it is...
"YOU NEVER LOOK GOOD TRYING TO MAKE SOMEONE ELSE LOOK BAD."
Really sit with that and let that one sink in. I use it a lot. God bless! ✌️💜✌️💜
You gonna sing a different song when you get the divorce papers tomorrow and she wants half your money and property until the kids turn 18.
She broke him. Once he’s out of the she’s an angel faze, your comment will come to fruition.
😂😂😂
Not necessarily. My ex said from the beginning that he would never allow myself or the kids to be without a home or money..to this day he lives in a tiny 1 bed unit so we can live in the larger family home. Some men will take care of the family even when they are hurting. The change can happen if they meet someone new however and that new lady drives it.
Very true
The only thing that needs to be said “is” , Be still and know that I am God. Psalm 46:10.
she’s going to do the same thing to the next one. i believe she already has someone so she’s trying to make you look like the bad guy. you loved her more than any man ever will and you did your best. i’m sorry this is happening to you. 🥺
one thing that stuck out to me that you said in a different video is that she lets the twins walk all over you. that broke my heart. they learned that from her.
I could only wish my husband loved me like you love Rachel 😢
@robinnoland7771 I know that’s right, mine was literally a SOB!
You're a stand up dude Frank!
I'm sorry to hear this Frank!😢😢😢😢
Still praying for you🙏🏻🙏🏻