Use This Line To Make A Rude Person Regret Insulting You
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Today we’ll go over how to handle it when someone insults you.
We’ll start with a few comebacks that are great at winning over a crowd and embarrassing the person who insulted you. The downside is they can make the target of your comeback hate you.
Then we’ll cover some friendlier, more charismatic responses so you come away looking cool and confident without making enemies.
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0:00 - Intro
0:15 - #1: Use an Aikido insult
0:42 - #2: Point out they're easy to dislike
1:24 - #3: Use a Trojan Horse compliment
1:52 - #4: Genuinely compliment the insult
2:20 - #5: Assume positive intent
3:13 - #6: Agree and exaggerate
4:24 - #7: Be non-reactive
4:33 - #8: Call out their behavior
5:41 - #9: Just walk away
6:06 - #10: Draw a boundary
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"If you'll forgive me for not answering that question I'll forgive you for asking it."
Miss Manners
My best comeback - About 40 years ago a friend of my husband's said to me, "You'd look better if you wore makeup."
I replied, "So would you."
Good one!
I love it.
Did laughter ensue?
yes! By all. And after 40 years still all good friends. @@debra97510
🔥🔥🔥
I got insulted once by this guy who was fairly high up in the echelon of the company I worked with and just flatly looked at the guy who insulted me and said calmly; "You know, that might mean something to me if I only remembered your name."
There are times when making enemies is the right thing to do
Making enemies is never the good thing to do
@@Unknown-hf8vy well, standing up for yourself or others who can’t is the right thing to do, and sometimes that makes enemies
I don't have any enemies.
@@ItachiUchiha-qm3nk well I don’t live a life where enemies are easily made, but for one benign example if you’re in a competitive industry, you will make enemies by doing a good job and sticking up for yourself and others.
Like when?
Learning to be teased and to tease without descending into bullying is one of the most subtly vital human interplays. It is what allows us to show both vulnerability and strength while preventing us from clubbing each other to death.
Some people deserve to be bullied bro xD
Plz teach me some pointers
@@antonioyeats2149the measure you use will be measured back to you....reality
@@antonioyeats2149 woaah, slow down
@@antonioyeats2149yeah like people who say “XD”
Not reacting is such a powerful move. You strip the offender of their power.
Don't react to a judge and see if you get a lighter sentence. Don't react to a cop and see if you get arrested or not. Don't react to the car heading your way at 90 Mph and see if you survive. Every coin has at least two sides.
I do that and I end up making a fool of myself
I'm pretty clueless most of the time, so I do it on accident near constantly.
@@crazyfakar1 it was for the average civilian; they are not judge parliament or police. People who are not the police/judge are still policing/ judging. no need to pay attention to them. Like babies, shouting & howling.. seeking to be pacified by attracting attention by creating drama.
They know everything, love to be in their bubbles. Time will teach them a good lessen. I won't feed them my energy.
@@crazyfakar1 That's not even the same thing. How does an insult correlate to punishments?
"If you could meet yourself, you would hate it" is just... muah. Theo Von is just so good!
He did way better afterwards in that same video/situation.
(Way funnier insults. Probably would have been too much from the same person for the format here though.)
it is a good comeback, but the way to handle that is to say, "And you would like that, but fortunately my purpose in life isn't to make you happy." For that matter, any time a person wishes you ill, you can mock their malicious wish and remind them you were not born to please them.
Having a conversation after watching these videos feels like a chess game
It's powerful when you have all the cards to play with, for sure 😊
Back in the day people used to actually study speach and such to be ahead of their enemys and peers. Read 48 laws of power it has tons of storys about how knowing when to speak, what to speak, and how to speak lead to kingdoms rising and falling.
@@iii___iii They are more popular and good as an introduction. If you read 48 laws you will want to know more about machiavelli.
@@iii___iii you haven't read them, yet you judge them?
That’s like the one thing you want avoid when you’re at g content like this, gotta balance the knowledge with presence
My favorite method for a bully’s insult: Smile and pretend like you didn’t hear it, repeatedly.
Just keep saying “what?” “I didn’t catch that” “could you speak up?”. They either give up quickly or become livid and walk away looking like a fool or double down and embarrass themselves further
Or they hit you.
Nice one
That’s what Jr would say whenever Jackie Jr would say anything in The Sooranos
"Talk into my good ear", "I hate people who mumble", and "Say that again into my shell-like ear" again and again are good, too.
Perfect timing as I jump back into customer service.
I work customer service and would never use any of these. Best way to make people feel bad is to be nice and end up saving them money somehow. Gets an apology everytime.
Here's a tip Dr. Spicy:
when you get a customer who refuses to get off their phone, to even acknowledge you as an equal human being, remain calm but LOUD. Really loud. So loud that they have difficulty hearing what is on their phone over you. Stay in clerk character but a passive aggressive nuisance to their personal call. They may not care, they may hate it, but they can never prove you did it on purpose, even if you both know it was a shot across the bow.
They just have to take it. Payback.
@@JamesRDavenport
When they ignore me for their phone I just stare at them and smile until they pay attention to me.
@@skippygirl959 Oh I tried that first, but we've got clocks and supervisors on us. We can't stop the line for anything.
If you reach a level of conflict where you want to piss them off then force them into making a scene by being polite but also forcing them into a hole of dramatic chaos.
0:00 - Intro
0:15 - #1: Use an Aikido insult
0:42 - #2: Point out they're easy to dislike
1:24 - #3: Use a Trojan Horse compliment
1:52 - #4: Genuinely compliment the insult
2:20 - #5: Assume positive intent
3:13 - #6: Agree and exaggerate
4:24 - #7: Be non-reactive
4:33 - #8: Call out their behavior
5:41 - #9: Just walk away
6:06 - #10: Draw a boundary
I am a senior executive woman who works in a male-dominated profession. I have learned to be a good listener. a person of few words, and a master of relatively neutral one liners that inspire deeper thinking. Over the years I have been the "casual target" of condescending remarks and demeaning, dismissive discounts of my expert or astute comments about operational issues and current events. My reaction is to look very openly and directly at the commenter and pleasantly maintain eye contact for as long as it takes to create a shift in their demeanor. Once, a female colleague disturbed about my lack of reaction, was compelled to say, "Are you aware he just insulted you?!" I looked at her incredulously and said, " I AM!' And returned to silently observing him as a human being. He was so rocked by the focused attention that he muttered something that sounded like closure and wandered off to another group. He was never disrespectful again in future business meetings, to me or anyone else.
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@@royfoy8951 when the demand for sexism outweights the supply, AI always saves the day. This one sounds ripped straight off reddit, I can even see the brainrot minecraft parkour in the background.
Great anecdote; your word choice and alliteration was clear and pleasant. Cheers!
Theo has one of the quickest wits of all time. But “if you could ever meet yourself you’d hate it” and “I’m so used to you telling bad jokes I almost didn’t listen… that was hilarious” were both brutal and applicable to any situation.
walking away is a great tool. sometimes you try all these tactics and the rude person (usually jealous / insecure of you) will still try and attack you. Leaving is simply the best option sometimes. You don't ever want to spend time with truly toxic people anyways
Jimmy Fallon is such a moron I don't understand how his show is even popular
Yes, and you know it’s the right decision when you have that inner calm feeling afterwards.
Seen on a church sign:
"I'm walking away from you;
Not to teach you a lesson,
But because I finally learned mine."
yeah it keeps you in a space where you retain power and you aren't bought in. If youre attached to someone or a situation you give it power to be your organizing principle. Sometimes not accepting a paradigm is the best way that paradigm falls dead as holding water.
Personal power no one can take away. Versus the negative (scarcity / zero-sum) conception of power where you have to fight someone else to have power
I don't like giving a green light to insults. Laughing & making a joke just invites them to insult you again in the future and call it 'banter'. I much prefer the boundary method; make it clear that I won't tolerate certain behaviours now or in the future. I don't really care about how I come across doing that, because trying to be 'likeable' all of the time despite being insulted... well that's called people pleasing and it's not great.
The intent of that topic wasn’t to just laugh when someone insults you, but to train yourself to always see the insult in a positive and playful way so that you can just laugh at it and not be offended by it. Obviously this has a limit to just how insulting something can be, but if it’s a fairly tame thing that can be seen as playful than it makes a lot of sense.
It's much better for you if you frame it as a joke to you and all the people around, not only you show you're strong and not easily affected, but you make everyone else in the room have more fun. Also, you let the offender off the hook, but the underlying message is "I'll let this one slip, but I could make you pay for it if I wanted. I won't be intimidated by you."
I do this a lot. And the curious thing is that if you frame it as a joke even to yourself, you'll barely remember it happened. Just like a conventional joke, it makes you laugh but you'll end up forgetting it in a few hours.
@@lapidationsI don’t see the point in making it a joke. It’s not a joke. The person just insulted you. There’s no point in trying to brush it under the rug
@@GoldenMushroom64 not one shred of evidence exists that Life is serious. However, you have the ability to interpret anything and everything as if it is. Your choice. If you want to be hypersensitive and easy to manipulate, then continue to choose emotional immaturity and weakness rather than being a positive and constructive influence on others. You do you. I cannot make you recognize your imperfections and desire to improve them, only you can do that. I have my own issues to handle.
My father used to insult me multiple times a day, my sister, and my mother included and called it “playing.” He was bullying and when it hurt too much I cried because I was emotionally distraught as a kid to hear these things from the “powerful figure” of the family. He would say I was too sensitive and couldn’t “play.”
Now, since we’ve all checked him for his inappropriate reactions, he tries using power plays that are harmful to other aspects of our lives. AKA threatening to cut us off the family for something or something financial benefiting our future. I walked away this year. I told my mother I will not be insulted after all the work I did internally growing up just to be experiencing his toxicity again because she decides to stay with him. She understands, but thinks I need to be patient with him because he had childhood trauma. 1-He’s not working on healing that. And 2-he is still passing it down to his family. This is why I have friends as my chosen family.
Good job, cut out the toxicity in your life even if it comes from parents
@@alexajones4872 💯
i totally relate to you, draw a red line and cut off the abuser, ESPECIALLY if it is a family member is the BEST thing, you can do, no regrets!
Beautifully put - I've never thought about it that way. He's not trying to be better - that's all you need to walk away. Well done.
@@DipityS Maybe one day. I’ll be ready with better boundaries then. Thank you 🙏🏼
The best one I’ve ever heard of in an informal setting was “Is that the best you’ve got?” The person trying to insult the new acquaintance actually laughed out loud in surprise and everyone else was then able to relax.
My personal tactic is to just completely ignore the insult and just continue with the rest of the theme. Then just ghost the person infringing everyone and only respond to other peoples talking points. Just edge them out of the conversation.
Gray rock sort of approach. Works best with narcissists because they feed off of people's attention. Well done.
Getting over yourself is SUPER helpful. Owning your ‘weakness’ makes you look like a boss.
I think to an extent, but I do find it awkward when people just Eminem themselves for no reason.
The point is being proactive against bullying.
@@vickibazter3446 No one can ‘bully’ you when you own your weakness. Wear it like a badge of honor. You are no longer a victim to anyone’s cruelty when you’ve anticipated the dig.
I personally feel that if I concentrate on being honest and friendly then what others do or say is their problem not mine, mind you it did take 40 years for me to get there !
I can't tell you how much I love this channel. I watch every one of these. They're remarkable.
The only issue is they give examples of celebrities. They're beautiful. We are not.
Our scenarios and world settings are different from celebrities.
Sure we can learn from celebrities, BUT REALITY IS DIFFERENT AND HARSH.
Planning and plotting like _"today I'll behave this way and answer that way if someone says this"_
Does not work in Real life.
We don't have bouncers and security and people behind us if anything goes bad.
An average 9-5 working class struggling person doesn't have these.
@@lavatr8322 This is realistic
Dad wasn’t very helpful in my “finding my self” period of my life… but I find your channel extremely helpful. Thank you for being who you are
"if you could meet yourself you would hate it" perfect for certain people
Love or hate Ben Shapiro, but "That was mildly inappropriate" is a legendary response to a physical threat.
I am a very mousy person whose face gets hot and red with any confrontation but these options help me be able to have confidence and I now get to decide how to react taking the power away from those around me with ill intentions so thank you very much 😊
Rock on! You got this!
"The beginning of strife is like letting out water, so abandon the quarrel before it breaks out."
Proverbs 17:14
Awesome! Jesus loves you and died for you! ❤
I also hate conflict, and am often embarrassed how obvious that is to those who dish it out. I've found it easier to be quick witted if I can predict who will create it. No matter how friendly they are, when you meet somebody who is loud, highly confident, and says aloud most of what they think, tell yourself "This person will insult me one day." It may not happen, but if you expect it, you'll remain calm and quick-witted when it does. Quiet people can also be rude, but I find them less intimidating, so I limit mental prep to the loud ones.
Responses to rude remarks is,
1. “It’s so nice to be acknowledged by my peers.”
2. “I defer to your experience (or expertise).”
3. “Would you repeat that louder?”
4. “Are you having a bad day? Do you need to talk to someone?”
I just ignore people when they insult me. I don't acknowledge it happened and it steals the satisfaction they thought they'd get from the insult while saving me the bother of processing it.
Im Conclusion:
1. Aikido Insult. Accept it and use it against them
2. Point out they are easy to dislike "e.g. if you could ever meet yourself you would hate it"
3. Trojan Horse Compliment
These three are likely to make enemies
4. Compliment the insult
5. Assume positive intent
6. Agree and exaggerate
7. Be nom reactive
8. Call out their behavior (not the person)
9. Just walk Away
10. Draw a boundary and walk away if it gets crossed
I don’t know why anyone would be around someone who insults them.
In places where you have no choice .Like work
Oh wow, you just insulted everyone here. I guess you've never been insulted.
Group gatherings where entire communities are invited. I go to see the 95 percent that are fantastic.
Hang out with people with whom you disagree. It forces you to learn how to set aside differences and learn to take criticism. Great video.
Insult's comeback with an insult is a great tool for stopping people from insulting you again. It's likely that the first time you get insulted for something new, you won't have a comeback... but if someone insulted you once, they'll do it again and in a similar way. So you can prepare for the next chance and attack their insecurity through an insulting joke.
For example, there was this one japanese lady who twice tried to insult me based on skin color by saying, "hey! u are black even not from africa" (I'm from srilanka). The first time, I was taken aback but explained that ancestry, equatorial country, etc.. but of course she didn't get it.
The next time she said, "hey... why u so black?". (I was preparing for this moment LoL) I simply said, "the same reason why your eyes are so small." Everybody burst our laughing.
Should have seen the look on her face. She stopped insulting me.
😂😂 damn you got her good
I wouldn’t have stopped there being that her second insult was intentionally meant to upset you, I would’ve followed on from your excellent comeback of ‘same reason your eyes are so small’ with ‘ah, and that’s because your eyes represent the size of your brain heh!’...well handled by you 👏 👏 👏
Indeed, I agree that, with people who insult you, often the best approach is to return the same rudeness (great example, btw). I used to be easy to insult, because I hated conflict and couldn't fathom that some people would seek it out. One day, after I had thrown up in my middle school's hallway because my mother had insisted on sending me to school ill, an obese boy bullied me over it. I realized he was doing it because he figured I was too nice to point out the obvious, so I decided if he could hit low, so could I. I said, "I did it because I never want to wind up as fat as you." While it didn't quite have the clever zing that your comeback did, this boy did realize he had better leave me alone after that.
@lindahall2736 he didn’t need to continue, she stopped as soon as he said that
What I really miss a lot from these kinds of videos, is the fact that although all of these work well in professional or cordial settings. There are a lot of bullying-like situations when this doesn't work. I come from a small remote village in the country side, and when someone roasts you, a lot of the time they are not trying to play a joke, they are genuinely trying to hurt you. Heck sometimes they even say it plain and out loud that they want to hurt you.
My problem with this videos is that the only advice when the other person is trying to genuinely be malicious is to walk away, but you do that in a small community that values strength and fighting and you are going to end up alone very fast. Very quickly you will run out of people that you have walked out on and can no longer see.
What might help is instead of reacting to what they say, asking them if they are not well in a worried tone and totally redirecting to them. That indicates that they must be (mentally) not well for behaving like that which is actually true and puts them of cause now they have to explain themselves :-)
Move to California
The most basic thing about charisma is being confident but that one of those things thats easier said than done. If you want to be the kind of person thats great at talking to folks you gotta work hard not only on your rhetoric but also on the topics you speak on
Tanking the insult and turning it on them is my favorite thing to do. Denies the reaction they want outta you and turns it on em
I've done something similar when people ask rude questions. "I heard you had a miscarriage, is that true?" Why do you want to know? "Do you hate me?" You think I hate you?
Most of these mainly apply in the very specific scenario that you’re on camera. Doing these on the street or at the bar would likely result in a physical altercation.
"If you could ever meet yourself you would hate it." Theo's got a lot of great comebacks. He's great.
These videos are so great. Even if youre not shy or awkward in social situations, some of these tips could be used by anyone. The key is indeed to be self confident and a bit unbothered sometimes, some people just tease and insult you to get a reaction or to get you to say something inappropriate that could be taken out of context in the heat of the month
Nice one! So far this is my favorite out of all the "How to Make a Rude Person Immediately Regret Insulting You" type series since it combines all the elements seen in each of them including hard and soft lines. One aspect I was hoping to see in any of these style type of videos, is to ask clarifying questions such as, "What do you mean?" in response to back handed compliments that would give the antagonist a chance to save face, but also let them know that you know they're up to something. Useful if you're in a professional setting such as work.
Thank you so much!! That's what I needed. I've encountered some very rude people recently.
Please keep these type of videos coming
My favorite thing to do is overreact to small insults. For example someone will call me a dork and I'll say "excuse me, that is uncalled-for!" It usually gets a laugh.
I feel like this is what happens naturally if you generally think positively of others but you are also confident enough in yourself that you have no problems cutting off people you don’t like from your life.
I love the variety of options that you have available so you can be flexible depending on the situation and context.
The people who need this the most are the ones who have been bullied, are shy, autistic etc... but they are the ones who are the least likely to benefit from this video. You have to be very comfortable around people to use these methods
I've confounded many people by saying.."why, thank you for the compliment ", and walking away
..best way to shut someone up.
That Julian Asange moment was gold.
This video makes me wanna get insulted so that I can experiment but the people around me are not jerks damn
Please can I add one: I was in the canteen at work, about 10 people around the table, one guy is insulting and ragging me like crazy. So while I am thinking about what to say, I am saying nothing. Another man asked why am I not saying something back. So I said: "I am waiting for him to say something worthwhile" ...... " The laughter was nice and loud.... The guy insulting me shut up and just laughed slightly. BUT he never did it again.
Silence is often a good tactic if youre not good on improv.
After it becomes awkward ask "are you done?".
I have been practicing these techniques for decades. They definitely work. Thanks making this video. It's powerful knowledge that all would be wise to utilize.
I’m 73..Recently decided to grow a beard (temporarily). An acquaintance feigned shock and tried to make it a joke in front of a friend. I paused and suggested he actually might benefit by covering up some of his face..
🤣🙌🏽
Theo Von is a master this.. it's a big part of his comedic style
I have a question. Someone insulted me and I didn't react but my friend defended me. That person insulted me again a few minutes later. This time I suddenly turned to her, raised my voice a bit and said in a really assertive tone "Ok calm down". How was my response?
If you need to use these skills on a regular basis, you may just be hanging around with the wrong people.
This is an excellent video!! I always had this problem (in high school, because I've learned since then to have better people around me :) ), but still you never know who you may need to confront in your life. I always had a problem in dealing with rude people.
Thank you for the video!
I've been forever looking for practical tips to answer back to rude people and this is the video to watch.
Best moments
Insult comebacks
1:09 If you could ever meet yourself you would hate it
1:42 I am so used to bad jokes I almost did not listen to that
Strategy
1:54 Compliment the insult
A strategy I really like as you bring comedy into the conversation
3:19 Agree and exaggerate: get that b off the monitor
Be non-reactive
4:16 Show that they are not important enough. Hence Don Draper does not react.
Charisma have shown this idea in a previous mad men video.
Specific
04:43 that is so rude. This is better than saying you are so rude. You call out a specific behaviour.
Walk away
05:50 Jimmy Fallon comment on his guest. Just walk away.
Jimmy Fallon is such a clown
As I've said in a previous CoC video, if some drops a brilliantly funny burn on me, even if their intent was malicious I'll laugh because it's still funny. That lesbo cut burn was pure comedy gold.
There were a lot of clips visually depicting insults & reactions that I’d have loved to hear a few bits of audio on. Kinda frustrating for me but I did appreciate the points /explanations you did make.
This is like the basics of being funny, and now that I'm watching it explained to me in a video I'm worried I'm now overthinking it. Thanks video.
Love that the video gets better as it goes on. Teaches us comebacks then goes into being the smart/bigger person in a conversation
There's always the timeless, yo mama. It throws people off.
😂
I find this childish and insignificant, I also find people who respond with verbal abuse very childish and have very low communication skills, the respect goes way down after that
@@HUYI1 Yo Mama...
@@HUYI1 You must be fun at parties
@HUYI1 yeah true, just like yo mama
The irony lies in the fact that with friends, most of the time, one doesn't need all of these things; a simple glass of wine 🍷 suffices. However, with enemies, or more precisely, with mischievous individuals, one requires all those measures. This is because we live in a sophisticated society where resorting to violence 🔪 simply isn't an option for dealing with those who mock us.
This was genuinely useful. Thanks!
Silence is the best way to make someone regret what they have done to you
sometimes they are so toxic or insecure they don't care and will keep trying to push your buttons. that's why leaving is oftentimes the best strategy. just find new friends / better ppl
And the stare usually does the trick
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That or a pike to the anus.
Exactly. And then hit them with that, "Why would you say that?"
Perfect timing on this video! Yesterday I was insulted by a customer at work for no reason and I just pretended not to hear it but I wished I had said something to let them know they can't just get away with disrespecting people.
It wouldn't have mattered.
Some folks are just clueless.
"Did you mean to be so rude?" is a good call-out and gives them a chance to backtrack.
saying, that is rude, instead of you are rude, is something I am definitely going to use!
Thanks. Been needing this
Remember, most people have insulted others knowingly or unknowingly by accident at one time or another in life, it's those who make this a way of life who have a toxic personality and should be interacted with at arms length with caution. Every person has value and is made in the image of God, those who use insults as a regular part of communication may also be sociopathic, narcissistic, anti-social personality, etc. And insults covered with humor are still insults. Those who use them regularly rather than rarely aren't true friends.
Truuueeeee
Proverbs 26:18,19
Mean/jealous women often say things like aww (head tilt) you look tired. I just say so do you 🤷♀️ they hate it
Excellent advice. I will put it to use.
People have learned that when I go silent and/or just stare in response, they've said something inappropriate and/or they've gone too far.
This is great for toxic intimidating people, i useally go for the non responsive aproach, if they cross the line i do walk away from the confrontation to save grace, i don't have a great temper tolerance but i do know how to control it 😎😎
The most outrageous thing i heard in the video: "Liu Kang from Street Fighter"!
The calm look of "lol what?"? Is an important one, like that seen at 4:20. There are many variations of that face you can try. The vital thing is not letting your face drop or react when the insult drops and just calmly shift to the face and hold it unwaveringly
I have confidence whenever uncomfortable words need to be spoken. But when it causes flareing responses and angry looks. I need to learn how to finesse the situation to have them actually listen and discuss.
I really appreciate these videos, they might even give me confidence one day to meet new people.
Laughter is interesting strategy.
I use a saying for myself, 'it only hurts when I laugh'
Needed this. I usually deal with social anxiety and I went to this social event and discussed about a career goal I would love to pursue. I said as a joke I would love to pursue wrestling and this girl called me skinny out of the blue. Didn’t know how to react but felt very hurt by it. I guess next time I should react very differently. Practice makes perfect and im sure if I get myself in a similar situation I will be able to handle it with dignity and self respect.
I am a therapist and have helped clients with assertiveness, confidence and verbal self defence for over 25 years.
Always try to smile or chuckle in reponse to ridicule or a put down, however unexpected it is. Reply something like - 'Charming!' or 'Any more charming compliments?' If s/he repeats the insults try: 'What ARE you talking about?'
For a bigger put down try - ' Oh please...shut up?' or 'Ah shut up!' or 'Rubbish! ' or 'What absolute rubbish!' or 'Hey stop that - behave yourself!' (as if talking to a child).
If someone takes the Mickey I always smile and mock them back saying 'that's just pathetic' or 'that's childish' and if they or other laugh at you, keep smiling and say 'what ARE you talking about' or if the attack is worse say: 'little things please little minds' in a SING SONG way, and maybe repeat it if any more comments are made at your expense.
As a last resort say - 'Have you always been a moron?'
If it becomes a jokey name calling exchange make sure you have 4 or 5 ready memorised. (D^ck head/ar*e hole/moron/douchebag/sh^t face/b*tch/slimebag).Name calling in a jokey, high pitched, silly voice softens their rudeness if necessary. If you over do it apologise in a jokey way: 'Hey/oops, sorry that sounded bad'.
If in a group setting you are targeted by the same person again, say 'Oh not you again douchebag' or 'ah shut up douchebag' (or whatever name you called them before). If they attempt to bully you repeatedly at a social occasion call them by the name whenever you adress them, e.g. say 'Goodbye douchebag' when parting. If necessary say 'sorry I did not mean to offend you'
I spent much of my life trying to figure out how to increase my confidence. When I finally discovered the answer, it turned out to be much easier than I had expected. People hate how this sounds when I write it out, but the actual secret is simply to lose respect for everyone else. Let that pedestal you have everyone on drop, so that you finally accept that your opinions are smarter than theirs (in some cases, by quite a lot!). Trust me - this is how confident people naturally think, and when you've lost respect for everyone else, they will treat you better, because you clearly think highly of your own intellect, so they will assume you are suddenly smarter than you were when you gave their opinions too much respect.
@@Dawn737Nope. But you do you.
Thanks a lot. Very well explained and argumented.
I said,” what I would like to know, is how did you ever keep your real
Personality under wraps when you were dating people in the past?” This was met with a longggg pause 😂
3:08 Yeah, Liu Kang was from Mortal Kombat. Make an insult from that.
Sometimes I just say, "well that wasn't very nice."
I don't really want to insult people back or one up them. I have enough self respect to not be bothered when others disrespect me. If it's a friendly roast or attempt at a roast, I'll play along though. May or may not hit em with a comeback.
This is excellent--helpful and substantive.
British humour is so much more sarcastic and funny than anywhere else!
Thanks for this, I watched the Australian Senate one with my mother and she was cheering the woman on, and I said it was sad because the men were clearly in the wrong and are in fact bullying her, so it sucked that she got sucked in by her anger at the situation and coming off worse for it.
Yeah I didn't agree with that being included in this list because he was being rude by mansplaining!
How was he rude by mansplaining? And she's not rude for condescending him and mansplaining his actions and intent to him?
@@bryanwoods3373 mansplaining in itself is rude. The word literally means men try to tell women about things women know much more about. Like dudes in parliament deciding over female bodies, mansplaining women how to menstruate or ovulate. It's LITERALLY the rudest thing ever.
@Xia-hu About as rude as using it as a cudgel to not have to listen to other opinions, including those of other women, because you've deemed yourself the arbiter of the issue by virtue of identity alone. Women mansplain all the time. It's just semantics to ascribe connotation to the same behavior.
Considering he was in front of a committee and desperately trying to distract from answering straight questions, Katie got done dirty in this compilation
Liu Kang...FROM STREET FIGHTER he says! *gamer rage noises*
great advice!
This is a good one
Theo has the best comebacks 😂
The example of 05:08 is exactly the other way around of how you presented it.
100% agree
If you watch enough of this channel, you’ll see a lot of "good triats" are demonstated in men, mostly powerful figures and celebrities.
Great vid, nice to see you guys back
Great video. Great information and well explained. Thank you very much. This is insanely useful!!
I just subscribed
I see Theo, I click. EZ
3:07 the roast is acceptable... but "liu kang from street fighter" has no forgiveness.
I'll never forget myself for not having noticed that mistake :o
Maybe that was on purpose. Maybe it's so bad that it looks like an off-brand version of Liu Kang.
"Compliment the insult"
I dont think I can do that without coming across as way too sarcastic 😂
Always have been that way,I won't change
I liked all of the examples except the mansplaining one. He was clearly bullying her
😂
Agree. This channel has a very obvious bias toward “confident masculine” behavior. When women are direct and call out misogyny, they are labeled difficult, or in the case of this video, the woman was accused of being insulting for standing up for herself in a male dominated profession. The man knew exactly what he was doing, and asked a bad faith question when he pretending not to know what “main-splaining” is.
Curious to hear everyone's experiences doing these in real time - how's it been going y'all?
I use the callout from time to time (if I remember). It works great and doesn't require you to be rude or witty.
I was savagely attacked by a grizzly bear
laughing at the insult usually always works, youll never look a jerk and you will always look like the better person
@@Danny1013 What's a callout again?
@@12thMandalorian Sounds like it's working for you. Do you think it's bad if you look like a jerk?
This what I use ALL the time." You have me confused with someone who gives a damn." Say it quickly because the creep is slow and is trying to decipher the words.
You guys are so good
Liu Kang is from Mortal Kombat, not Street Fighter. Any potential in that humor fizzled out with that mistake.
That was the point.