They didn't happen BECAUSE he thought about them first. Like my car didn't go over a cliff because I figured out how to navigate a blizzard spinout beforehand.
why do I always find myself in a position where the only answer society gives me is "it's because you're more intelligent that most people, you're above the others.. I don't give a sh.. of being "above" I just want people think just a bit further.. just to forget themselves a bit and taking the risk of going against yourself by being true, real just want to find a way for humans to live together because what our society is doing seems full of good intentions, so why not going further and give everything to make a peacefull world were everyone is okay to question himself and listen what others has to say.. because I'll tell you one thing, what we call i telligent people is just people that are sensitive and want to be happy and give love. I am passionnate by.. all.. not everything but.. all, universe.. life and way further it's extremely difficult for me to write these messages because even in my head it isn't clear and I don't always necessarily know were I am going to.. and english isn't my native language. but everyday, with my wife, I feel, reconize myself, in these intelligent people things she lives cool and doesn't care about all the things that I do, if I am the sun, treating tons of info, emotions, thoughts, energy, I woulnd' tell you she pluto because she thinks, sometime a bit, for some things I would even compare here to saturn or jupiter but yeah in general we are speaking of a greyish white planet a bit boring in term of way to think, function, brain program.. 😂 like Uranus and sometimes falls to pluto state and may even fall into a moon.. but she has potential and I see that sometimes she goes further and I feel I helped her and she listened that may be the reason why I think we can make people think a bit further.. if we were able to make them more stupid decades after decades why couln't we make them more "intelligent" ? because most of the time it's simple things that are quite easy to process.. and that my wife and any other people who are clearly not like us, can understand and even take it for themselves.. like them appropriating it, and then even strating to learn how to think further.
#9 is a fact..there is nothing more frustrating than trying to communicate with someone who doesn't have the capacity to understand what your telling them.. I've learned not to spend time rehashing with those who can't grasp the basics
Oddly enough, I've become adept at simplifying and "dumbing down" topics so that less intelligent people can understand them. I was always good at the language arts, which I'm told is common in Asbergers patients.
@@jeffrykopis5468 Proof read! Proof read! Proof read! I've always wondered where I would fall out on "the spectrum". I would definitely be "on it" somewhere. I, too, have always been good at the language arts, to the point of becoming quite an annoying, unapologetic and unrepentant "grammar nerd". I even drive myself nuts with it.
@@tomhull1276 LOL, I correct grammar gaffes on social all the time! Just to be helpful. But you can't help the idiots that talk like, "He do this, she do that, I be do somethin' else". 🤦🙄😠😑
1. Mental health issues. 2. Tend to over analyse things. 3. Exhaustingly perfectionistic. 4. Prone to physical health issues. (Linked to stress) 5. Highly aware of own deficiencies. (Dunning Kruger effect) 6. Prone to stress. 7. Burdened by high expectations. 8. Easily distracted. 9. Intense discomfort in mixed group settings. 10. Tend to worry more than average.
Being a perfectionist, I always over analyze things; but knowing I can't truly be perfect or do things perfectly, keeps me stressed 😥. Prolonged & continuous stress causes me physical illness, in turn, triggering my DEPRESSION. 😕 It's a constant struggle.
smart is not intelligent .. know the difference. However being intelligent, really is painful. It's more like a curse than gift, I wish I was as dumb as those who wash their car with petrol or those who try to patch their car tyre with duct tape ... at least i'd be happy and wouldn't even realize how dumb i am, but instead i have to live a painful life and see stupidity everywhere.
I was identified as having a "superior intellect" rather early in my life, and it has made my life a living nightmare. My school life was a constant struggle to keep up with my own expectations of doing well in tests and exams. My crippling perfectionism has all but killed my artistic motivation. As I grew older I my clinical depression manifested which only made the insane pressure of living just that more difficult to achieve. Knowing you're smarter than the people around you, yet seeing those people become more successful in life than you are, doesn't help much with the increasing feelings of inadequacy you experience as you struggle to keep yourself from drowning. In short, be thankful for being dumb. Your life is much easier.
I've lived with these problems in various degrees for most of my life. Now, at 75, I understand why. Thank you. Maybe there's something to the saying that "ignorance is bliss."
I hear that the 70s are the happiest times of our lives. At 68, I'm looking forward to it. But I think there isn't a single thing here that I haven't had to deal with at one point or another. I think we take them on, one at a time, figure them out, and then move on. Life gets happier after each success. Or you just die from being killed by one of them. Surviving is a big thing.
At 66 I think people are a pain anymore as I have done so much and made so little over time as the normal type just take advantage of my kind of work. Why? The rich just take all they can and get all the breaks as the just so aggressive with little or no intelligence. I see the world as strange,Illogical, IT DOES NOT COMPUTE (Robot B9). Turn off the switch when the last one is too LEAVE.
@@RobertMertensPhDMy life changed when I took the MENSA test and came in the top 1%. Prior to that I couldn’t understand why other people couldn’t analyse problems like I could and I didn’t trust my judgement because I was usually at variance with virtually everyone else. Once I realised why I could do what most others couldn’t I began to believe in myself much more and trust my own judgement. I also understood other people’s limitations and ceased trying to explain difficult concepts that they clearly don’t have the capacity to understand.
I've noticed that with politics. The brainy presidents will allow people on their own level where they do like you say complement each other's gifts like Spielberg and benchley. Nixon and Ben Stein where they work together and each has something to offer. And each realizes their own confusion and deficiencies where the less intelligent want a robot v p or sec of state so on.
Sometimes I want to be just average just for that peace of mind once in a while ,not having the urge to solve things, to analyse everything till the bone
Introversion doesn't mean you have to be socially awkward or socially inept. It just means you are more introspective and prefer to be alone or to have alone time.
People fear of making wrong decisions or choices should not worry, people will grow and learn if they try to think outside the box, be yourself be brave people 😊😊
@@flowerpower4944 Maybe low Emotional intelligence is inversely proportional to Higher intelligence Or may be there is no relation . But ,I always think that higher intelligence should affect our Emotional intelligence but why ? At a very higher level you start analysing everything fear,truth and you try to give more control to pre frontal cortex then amygdala and send heart good signal ... But Even if I know all this when Impulsion comes ,I just have no control .... Even though I know how brain is creating processing info and what should do I do . But those emotions simply overpower me strong simulation system .
@@arzoo_singh I do think people let pride get in the way, because they fear exposing any flaws or failures, and thus never grow and experience , the joy and end results they can achieve instead of going with the crowd, I'm an INFj and thinking outside the box comes naturally ,😊
@@flowerpower4944 it can qlso do the reverse. It makes them bully the one who is different but then the others join in. I always noticed people in huge crowds walking around looking intimidating. That is low intelligence being afraid.
For all of those who have been diagnosed with these problems I hope you redeem yourself from them… I had problems which not even my family knew about.. I was secretly fighting my problem and now I feel better I’m grateful for everything… some of those problems left me with a blurry vision.. Because of those problems I’m stronger mentally, physically and emotionally.. Blessings to everyone…
How do we measure ones intelligence based on very different tasks or spheres of work that each require intelligence, different from one another? Just asking.
God, everything here rings true, and familiar. I was my class Valedictorian, but severe depression and undiagnosed autism led to failures in college, jobs, relationships, life in general. Physical decline and weight gain rendered me all but useless. I haven't achieved a damn thing since high school, and that was 40 years ago. Luckily, I found government work!
@@pcofranc Thanx man! Yeah, I got a job with the post office. Worked there until my physical and mental problems got to be too much. But I'm retired and in a good place now.
Having a intelligent mind could be gift but there are things which this people should do . First,please know being intelligent means you're mind would always be working ,thinking and analysing . 2nd being Intelligent does not mean you would be rich and we'll placed you may ask why ? See ,there is difference between knowing things and doing things .. You may know a lot but weak in implementation ,plus there is definate luck factor ( You may call it choices made ,timing of an event etc ). But,the problem with intelligent people their Neurons are always firing and what they should do is silence the mind . Why ? See you're brain is over analysing , overthinking if used in right ways you are weapon but at the same time it could be self destructive a intelligent mind = Sympathetic mind . Always alert always looking for things ,but you have to do otherwise ,silence the mind . So in short if you are intelligent please do this and this will help like anything ,I have been through all this . 1)Silence the mind . 2)You would have lot of interest and want to learn everything ,please don't do this .. 3)You hate art but please focus on art ,this will not only help you're intelligence but also helps brain connection .(The brain loves to fire in a way ,when you add art,you are stopping the old pattern and giving new paths plus versatility in neuron firing adding dimensions ) 4)Stop thinking about everything if you are intelligent and Empathetic This is a very bad combination (Over active mind over sensitive heart ). Learn to give damn about things know it sounds like selfish ,but this will help . 5)You hate small talks but learn that skill and mix with people ,firstly it will not be authentic and boring then it will be part of you're life (Please learn when to laugh it off ,shrug it off just enjoy) 6)Please be in nature -- Give time to yourself connect to nature ,tree ,flowers feel it. 7)You rely too much on brain use physical exercise too. . 8)if you are intelligent and sensitive (Highly empathic ) The environment is you're worst enemy learn to give positive angle (Learn to lie to mind and say otherwise) You are a gift use it to help humanity ,develop some solutions,ideas but for that you need to follow above habits . A special note to Intelligent and highly empathic people .Brother you're life could really hard because of you're brain and heart but very strong in picking signal(When intuition and intelligence both are working well you are a gift) .But you can really be asset learn to use brain's intelligence and heart' intelligence at same time. Take care , bye!
.you are so right about the exercise and brain activity connection...I find exercise helps to quiet those overabundance of stressful thought patterns and brings what may seem like giant sized issues before exercise down to manageable levels...many solutions present themselves while exercising the body...give yourself an hour a day of physical activity and watch your creativity explode!
I don’t know that I’m intelligent, but I’m relentlessly curious, and never take anything at face value. Why, how, what is the origin, what is the mechanism, how can it be used, etc. If I could figure out how to quiet my mind, I’d be so happy.
There is a thin line between Genius and Insane. Lucky for me I remain comfortably on the "Insane" side. Life is a LOT more fun when you are Insane. Many advantages to being insane too: (1) You don't need drugs, because insanity is WAY too much fun to dull with drugs; (2) Family, friends, neighbors, co-workers, etc long ago have accepted your eccentric, bizarre behavior as "normal for HIM"; (3) you don;t have to explain your actions / thoughts / opinions because NO ONE wants to enter that rabbit hole; (4) pan handlers avoid guys having an interesting conversation all by themselves; (5) The Police AVOID your address, and NEVER pull you over; (6) In school or college, you generally get excellent grades, because after the first consultation, NO Teacher/Instructor/Professor EVER wants to go there again. I could go on, but you get the drift. Now I'm off on another adventure guided by the voices in my head.
Cops pull me over and hate me 🤣 I’m hyper focused as a driver as to what is in front of me, not behind so I’ve been hit from behind twice and got speeding tickets cause of cops behind me 🤣
Smart people should know, from their schooling, that in the simplest form, smart is about learned facts, while intelligence is a natural gift to understand many things smart people cannot.
The BEST I’ve heard!!! With ME, I’m NOT very smart, BUT have the ability to understand things smart people don’t ~~~~ never considered that intelligent… I’ve learned not to worry or be overly concerned about these matters! I find amusing SMART people and those of intelligence, BECAUSE they worry about what others think, I’m now 70… took awhile for me to come to grips with the way I am SO now, I enjoy ME AND watching others🤷🏽♀️ An amusing species, humankind!!!
When I was 10 they told me a was a genius by 16 I had ADHD, ODD, and depression. That should be expected 1) you are full of ideas and bored easily 2) You are unwilling to "bend the knee" to complete idiots (even though they are "in charge") 3) After enough BS you just wanna quit It took me years to realize/accept that I wasn't the problem they just were not smart enough to understand.
I disagree. YOU are the problem. Get off your high horse and use that intelligence to become a better person. We meet many people less intelligent than ourselves but that doesn't mean we have to look down upon them. They have talents that are worthwhile to learn. I wouldn't have the skills I have today if I'd looked down on all the tradesmen and even those who live simply and enjoy life as it comes. I just can't believe all the people in this section acting as though their lives are a waste and just waiting to die because they won't work to fit in. Very sad.
That's me! I guess I am used to it, but many times in a social situation I just want to scream because conversations are sometimes so boring to me. I usually leave or walk away. I thought I was being arrogant and felt bad about it but this makes me feel better.
Well, I have depression which includes being continuously bored and Im tired of it… so sometimes just tell people you don’t like the small talk and voice your opinions so they can change and all… I did a similar thing in the past and it led to depression as I just covered up my wounds leading to me being unconsciously being hurt… so overall, don’t leave them confused when they see you walk away, they might think it’s a 1-sided relationship/friendship and cut off ties with you.
I have always experienced this. I understand it clearly now but have not always done so. I think there is another side of this "alienation" coin though. When in social situations, and whether I decide to dumb down (I usually do) or not I usually find people drifting away from me. However I know I am not essentially socially inept or unlikeable. I know this because when not in situations that are "officially" social, such as at work, or maybe in mundane situations like getting my hair cut, people are the opposite. I am well liked and I attract people. All of this perplexes me. I don't think it is me though (as such). I think what happens is that people become much more judgemental, as well as more instinctive, when socialising. Most can actually work out your inner discomfort and don't want to be adding to it, or be participating in it. I have no solutions. I just try to restrict my life to small groups or one on one encounters, where I am much more at ease and successful. The trouble is that this often leads to invitations to social gatherings where you end up going through the whole thing again...
Amen to that. I'm bored to death with small talk and banal conversations. The only people I'm happy around are car enthusiasts, baseball fans, and cat people.
@@alexdavis1541 I feel like I'm among friends here, which happens to me far more in social media than it does in real life. On social, you seek out what interests you, and find like minded souls; in real life, not so much.
This was very helpful. My wife and teenage son are both highly intelligent, and it is sometimes very difficult to understand and deal with as their loved one.
My mother absolutely freaked out when she found out that I qualified for MENSA when I was 7 years old. She thought I was having some sort of nervous breakdown, but the fact was, I was just bored. ...but then she had a lot of psychological issues anyway, so having a kid that could out-think her at every turn was not exactly therapeutic. lol
what makes you think you are smart? Have you proved any theorem or made any extraordinary discovery in any scientific field? Do you have the ability to play chess or Go in a superb way? Do you speak 5 DIFFICULT languages?
@@peterf.229 a messy house it’s paradoxically a ocd symptom . A person can have ocd and be very messy . I have ocd and I can be messy and that’s the reason why I always thought I could not have it . Fear to start putting things in order and never have it perfect . I start fixing things and then more things come to be fixed and more and more and it never looks perfect . You always feel it’s not good enough so you start avoiding it all together. The key to it it’s to settle for ok and not perfect . That’s how it can help to deal better with it
I suffer so deeply from almost all that are explained above, even to a point of suicide sometimes. Yet, knowing that this all will last only a lifetime simply makes it possible for me to let it all pass. Good news is I'm 61 now and most of it has gone already.
It’s not gone, you just learned to deal with it. I am 61 also. I have many “crutches” to give myself some space. Many of these developed organically over time, others were realizations that happened quickly. I don’t believe I’m particularly intelligent but I have been around some who are and some who were not. 1-I still overanalyze those I believe are smart and do my best to be nice with those who aren’t. 2-Most of my life I’ve had trouble decision making, often feeling I didn’t have enough information but now I make decisions much more quickly. If for example, if I’m driving somewhere and I’m considering which route to take I will decide at the first traffic signal, choosing the green if I’m in a rush and the red if I’m not in a hurry. The hard part is accepting the decision and not spending anymore time thinking about it after it is made. I use “if this/ then I’ll do that” uncountable times to get through my day. 3- I rely on my wife for some things. She is on my smart list, not for technical stuff so-much but “people stuff”. I often ask her what someone meant or what she thinks the reason for someone’s actions are. I have learned to accept her thoughts on such things, she has proven herself to me as exceptionally insightful and has a nice, caring bias if things are unclear at all. I have also learned a great deal from her examples. 4- along similar lines, work used to be maddening, almost unbearable even. I’m in a technical field (aviation) and natural progression moves you to a position of leadership after a few decades of doing the job. I preferred to work out of a tool box over managing tasks, people and priorities. But making a conscious effort to delegate tasks, accept decisions of those on my crew (whenever possible) and most importantly back them up when things go wrong has been eye opening therapy for me. 5- counting things. This was a hobby, a passion for me for many years. Walk into a room I’ve never been in, count the ceiling tiles on the short wall, fold that over to the long side add the remainder and multiply for a total, then chairs, tables, people, windows go back to the ceiling for a double check, actually count the long wall to verify my answer was correct. One day a child at the dentists office asked me what I was looking at and it dawned on me I was craning my neck around to get my count done. I was embarrassed in front of the child! I’ve worked pretty hard to give up this “habit” or obsession or whatever it is and I’ve done pretty well. Not doing it automatically was the hard part, I had to consciously STOP. There are more things but I realize this post is getting long so I will stop here. I suspect that like me, you have just learned to deal with things and accepted that you don’t have to do or be responsible for everything. And learned to appreciate the value and meaning of a true smile.
I'm 56 and beginning to find peace with myself too. I am what I am, I've changed as much about myself as I want to or can, and I'm ok with the rest. I'll continue to learn and grow, but I just avoid social interaction and situations that make me uncomfortable. As Clint said in "Magnum Force", "A man's got to know his limitations".
@@rustyaxelrod Ha ha, I count things too! But I do it for fun. When I took a road trip with my kids a few years ago, we counted cows, lol! When they were little, we used to drive around neighborhoods and count cats! (We had between 5 and ten in those years) Nowdays, I pick up scrap metal for fun and (small) profit, and my favorite thing is to go out to the gun range or the desert and pick up bullet shells! The brass ones are worth $2.15/lb! And I count each one I pick up. Two years ago, over a month long stay in the desert, I picked over 32,000. Yeah, I wrote down my totals at each stop and each day! This year, in one month, I got over 34,000! (Old military ranges in the desert, and guys still go out there to shoot). 520 lbs of em!
@@rustyaxelrod My daughter is allways counting what I have eaten in the Fridge while doing baby sitter! They are well situated she is architect and her husband is specialist surgeon orthopedist ! I think it is genetical disorder ! My mother in law was doing the same thing ! I never was a member of a house ! Ha ha ha What I have now to pay attention to my grandson because hi is 10 and started counting and telling me what not to eat !
I've decided to own up my mistakes being honest understanding that we're not perfect, that lessens the anxiety of committing a mistake. I also came to the realization that I am a human being just like anybody else.
I relate to most of this in particular the negative effects. It's detrimental honestly, i don't feel smart. Rather, i believe there are different kinds of intelligence.
I feel like a contradiction by having intelligence that arms me with the knowledge and skills to succeed and having mental health conditions that feel like an obstacle to my success and wellbeing
It’s so difficult to admit that I struggle with all these on some levels. I created over two dozen of art works. No formal training in a short time. I surpassed people I use to ask for help. I have conducted over 100 surveys to make sure assessment of my work was correct and it is from people on streets, colleagues, to top level galleries who give me their cards to bring them in. I am still trying to perfect them and changing my decisions on the work I am doing to get them out. It’s a curse! So much knowledge and understanding but no one to share them with.
Yes it's a curse just keep doing it anyway as to the way things are going out in the world your going to be on top. So it fun to do this work and you don't have all the cost of the training. Just don't over do the work go on to the next project.
I have more common sense than most people .And I can't stand idiots.They make my skin crawl.I can't talk to most people about certain things .I wouldn't say I'm highly intelligent but we'll informed and very intuitive .
I could write a book about the dangerous and sad lack of basic common sense and pitifully low shreds of intelligence I've been unfortunate to witness first hand from so many people in so many different ways: for example, I met a whole family of 5 who stood there smiling and telling me the story of a dangerous kitten they had to bring to the vet and have it put down because it attacked the dad and scratched him all over on his face. Then they casually mentioned they had it in an enclosed cardboard box and when they finally opened the box, the tiny beast savagely attacked him. They had no clue whatsoever that the poor kitten had a claustrophobic panic attack being trapped inside a dark, stuffy, hot box for who knows how long, which also sounds like there were no air vents in the box anywhere. People who can't connect the dots just make my head explode,......and they're everywhere
@@superspark2374 I agree 💯 .People really trigger me when they make wrong choices and blame God.And when they think God plans ur life Yes he has a plan for ur life there's a good road and a bad road.But how many take the good road .Most cause there own problems.
@@superspark2374 oh my god. It's so annoying. Once you reach a certain level of knowledge/intelligence, people start to really piss you off. I find myself arguing with older people a lot because older people in particular think they know everything. Turns out they know nothing.
@@traydaddy4257 thats the problem i deal with at my job, they dont want to listen to me because of my young age, but when did have anything to do with inteligence.
When got to know myself, being over those problems by awareness of my issues, my skills and intelligence, I have managed little by little being happier, while also be able to use my full potential.I’m glad to be wiser than other , even when I’m sometimes being understood , I tend to be able to read people , so it helps me solving problems. Also , I look at the full picture of it , I understand many things that are deeper than most people can see, stay true to your soul , be a good caring person , you are smart, do not doubt yourself.r y
As a person whose IQ has tested to 161, I could tell you what it's all about, but experience has taught me to keep quiet out of not wanting to be labeled as a know-it-all.
Found this information very enlightening. Probably the only reason I don't suffer from perfectionism is my mother, who was abusive, used perfectionism as a reason to inflict "disciplinary" action. That said, most of these traits are true for me and many I have always struggled with particularly numbers 1 and 9. Don't suffer from asthma or ADHD, but do significantly from unipolar depression and anxiety. As for the others, I've had a life-long acquaintance with them. However, I survived my childhood because I analyzed behavior then identified traits of value to retain and those that were soul destroying for either myself or others. For instance, OCD has its uses professionally as a skill set but not personally. It is destructive as a personal passion. Such analyses at an early age helped me survive a toxic home environment.
Perfectionist doesn't necessarily mean that you look "perfect", it simply means that you have to do things in most effective way. For example, I find it very annoying when people pack things in a bag in wrong way, like they just chaotically throw stuff in it. Or something as simple as how people connect cables to their computer, leaving wires hanging on their own weight ... it hurts my eyes. I always tape my cables so they dont hang from their own weight and this is why in my entire life, i have never had a broken cable .. while lot of people i talk to, they constantly break their headset cables, USB ports ..etc ..etc .. and all that is because they don't have intelligence to understand how basic physics work. So basically what i'm saying, is that perfection can look chaotic to low IQ people and they never understand the real meaning of perfection. Intelligent people also pay less attention to looks and more attention to the effectiveness of things.
I am not claiming to be a genius, but the fact that I relate to every single one is cool and helps me learn a lot about the minds of people with high intelligence, and how they suffer from the same problems that I do.
This sounds exactly like me unbelievable thank you so much for this video and thank you to everybody in the comments saying the same.. shows that we’re not alone because I know us smart people often feel alone but never lonely 🔮
I agree with this. The biggest drawback for me has been the difficulty by many others, in comprehending my analytical logic & utmost common sense approach to issues. Others with equal intelligence do so, but most just can't grasp such, it's frustrating.
I took an IQ test 2 years ago 4am in the morning with a bad hangover and got a result of 105 .. two years later after being 6 months into detox with large Iodine levels my IQ has risen to over 125 !
Honestly i put it all down to being humble and keeping your humility. Its true some people down play their abilities. Its hard to believe in yourself sometimes especially when what you want to do in unconventional.
Learning how to properly meditate helps with many of these issues (At least that has been my experience). The struggle is real nonetheless. It's important to learn that society does not cater to the outliers. Stay strong humans.
I can relate to all of these traits. I’ve always felt different around people and can’t understand why they don’t have the thought process that I do and to have a meaningful conversation. I hate shallow talk. I’m trying to accept they are different and that’s ok but it’s difficult for me to go to their level. I’m not better than anyone else…just on a another plane.
I totally concur! I can't believe the simplistic approach they have. Do they live in the same world I inhabit?! How can you minimize the deplorable condition of society today?! I admire them, I envy them. Why can't I be like that? Indeed, I am the idiot, they will far outlive me.
So you're "on another plane" than the average person. Big deal. Sounds like you mostly hang out with average people. Go hang out where smart people are and you'll be brought back to reality real quick.
As anything else, its a matter of awareness. If you're concious of your every action thru self observation you're capable of adjusting and adapting accordingly.
That awkward moment, when some video from internet describing you at almost every point and telling you’re smart person, but you’re not quite happy about that...
High IQ means that you see the shit other people are doing. Double whammy because the higher IQ sees things others don't, the general perception is then the intelligent person is bonkers!
When I'm finding myself around people I consider smarter than me, I always find it so entertaining. Like a kid going to a show. That's because they can come up with various topics, ideas and explanations that already live in my head and I'm struggling to reach a conclusion.
Hi! I liked the video very much! One suggestion, you could make a video about -how to use those traits in a positive way, rather suffer from them. Best regards!
One problem -- not mentioned -- is social ostracism. In my case, my parents absolutely hated my mental facility. The siblings joined in. This passion dominated family life -- for their whole lives. No-one ever leveled with me -- when I was a child. My first clear-cut indication that something was 'off' was via my high school college counselor. He produced my cumulative scholastic record -- which ran ~1,000 pages -- and was deemed the thickest in North America. When he queried about its immensity, the central school system admin told him that (with millions of records on file) none was ever like it. It had to sit atop the file cabinets -- all alone. It created quite a stir in college, too. The results were universally negative. When Wonderlic tested me -- the results were so shocking that they pre-lim'd a lawsuit. No-one had ever attained a perfect score before. Statistically, I was about two-standard deviations beyond the next highest score. ( And he was all alone, too, 93%. ) I was deemed by Wonderlic to "not be a human being." [ The median score for college grads was 74%; 80% was only rarely cracked. ] They sic'd their detectives on my trail. They threw in the towel after getting a hold of my academic record. It was a proctored test. So my employer spent large -- interviewing everyone that worked around me. The consensus: "Yeah, it figures." I was informed that I had no chance in general society... that absolutely no institution would tolerate me. This proved true. As for your top-ten list -- it's mighty accurate. As for changing the World, Nation,... etc. -- I've already done all of that. Boy, that can be tough. Stupidity has so many patrons.
Whenever I was in a classroom, conference, seminar, whatever, I was always FULL of questions. Everything the instructor said raised 2 or 3 more questions in my mind. And I couldn't POSSIBLY write them down and save them for later, they came too fast. And I didn't want to lose them forever (like every great song, idea, story, or script that I've ever composed in a dream), so I HAD to blurt them out! And all the other attendees would get pissed and groan and shake their heads and say "SHUT UP!" And I'd always be like, "What, am I the only INQUISITIVE person here?? Am I the only one that really wants to understand this material?" I just thought everyone else was stupid and didn't really want to learn. At age 44, I was finally diagnosed with Asbergers. At 56, I just avoid people altogether.
That was me too. I learnt fast that school was about teaching conformity, not knowledge. I got sent to the LIBRARY as punishment! It was a boarding (prision for kid's of crappy parents) school, I was told by the staff no one used the book budget. I could order about ten books a month, free! ISBN list got big. So did my brain. Still reading, still a non-conformist.
Mental abuse then mental illness. People are very jealous of anyone whom is highly intelligent. My Father fought to make us feel stupid by claimed we didn't know enough. We we're often forced to follow his educational direction instead of our personal direction. I found as I was older, I wish I didn't listen so intentionally to his opinion and ideas. I feel like I had to back track to recreate my original goals.
I was brought up in an emotionally abusive environment with me being the scapegoat in the family. I was never a good student in class and failed my entire high school. Regardless, I have all of the above mentioned traits in the video. So what does it mean? Am I stupid?
@@AllahsServant12 Smart children often do stupid things. Then they feel regret when they grow up. I believe you are smart enough now to make better decisions.
There is such a thing as "too smart," much the same as "too tall." There are special inconveniences, even special problems, with being too far above average. Both have advantages and positive bonuses, of course; but its a two-sided thing--like a great deal of life, come to think of it... Either way, it's like that great old song says, "Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative, and don't mess with Mr. In-between."
I recognize many attributes from growing up, but now it's mostly trying to stay focused when someone is talking. It's like I already know where the conversation is going. Hence, always need to either move along or try another subject.
Since this seems to be a group that will understand what I'm saying, I'll make a few comments. Yes, I'm smart. Yes, it's a curse, but also a blessing, and you have to see it as both even if it doesn't always feel that way. I have a fridge magnet with a profound saying - "Never underestimate the power of stupid people in large groups." Let's face it. The world is largely run by stupid people and malicious people (not necessarilly the same people). Smart people suffer because they recognise this, but knowing what's real (even if it takes a bit to figure it out) is always better than not. It means we can see falsity and adapt better. Eventually, falsehoods and the things built on them collapse. Those people that built their lives on them have no clue what to do. Smart people go "Ok, plan B" and move on. We're always running through scenarios so we never lack ideas on how to get through something or the dangers associated with them. In short, when the going gets wierd, the wierd get going. It's a little like stage fright. You'll spend all the time before going nuts, but when the time comes to perform, smarts and instincts usually kick in and take over. It also helps to find something to keep your mind occupied and focused. I'm a novel writer. Perfect job for me. There's always something to research. There's always some stupid plot point to try and figure out how to make work. There's always words to write then try to figure out if they're the right words for what you're trying to convey. Find something that will require all your talents to work and that will generally keep the MindMonkeys from being too unruly. Now a caviat is that I'm probably older than most of you, and I went through a lot of the miseries they described when I was younger, so they're hard to avoid but just think of them as learning phases. Just be a boat on the ocean. You'll get both calm seas and horrible storms, but in the end, you're still afloat when a lot of other people aren't. What you do with it from there is up to you. Part of that is what I'm passing onto you. I've survived, you'll survive. Pass it on sometime to someone else who isn't sure and help them survive. The universe can't run entirely on dummies, so it needs us too. No matter how bad it gets, remember that it's pressure that turns coal into diamonds. Good luck.
Actually the world is run by super intelligent people. They rise to the top like cream. Problem is they can often lack common sense. The two do not necessarily go hand in hand. And the power they attain can easily lend itself to egotism, corruption and greed. But of for sure the world is run by the brilliant. The lower intelligent do the routine bull work.
Wow! This makes me feel understood! i've been criticized for many of the things you mention, namely all 10! I always thought of them as negative characteristics, so now I feel somewhat vindicated. This video is incredibly insightful, plus comforting. at least i know that there's not something essentially wrong with me; once i know where the challenges are coming from, it's easier to forgive myself and move on, and hopefully the problems will heal. Thanks for understanding and thanks for posting!
That’s me. It was very hard when I was younger until I understood myself and got the confidence to act for my best interest and not cover up my intelligence even with my children. I had a mother like me and two granddaughters and in my older age I finally have come to terms with it.
Have all of those traits except the last one, don't seem to worry. Also noticed there's something called highly sensitive person (HSP) that seems to fit much of what he's talking about here. The excitability, constant thinking, very observant, and others.
Actually because of these issues I wish sometimes to be just a normal person who's away from stress, anxiety, depression, inability to take care of myself, overthinking things, inability to fit in socially, and lots and lots of phobias. But, i know I can't change them nor myself and a part of me also loves my (I'm-not-so-sure-but-okay-highly) intelligent side.
Yes, so true. Many times I wished to have been born dumb, a fool but the life of a dumb fool has setbacks too. One thing is for certain in my case, if I was asked ¨Do you want to come to this world¨ I would have answer NO! I am 70 now, returning to a well deserved childhood, Pink Panther, icecream, etc.
Spent most of my life with migraine headaches. Never had a teacher that understood I could not be around noise. Had to be 68 years old to find a neurologist that understood. The thinks I could have done, but yet I did a lot.
Thanks for validating ALL my hypotheses. (135+ IQ here, just found out, of suspicions) All these "problems" are symptoms of ADHD aswell. My hypothesis; ADHD is a side-effect of intelligence.
Evidence shows that ADHD is a neuro developmental disorder, which most people who have it are born with. People with ADHD can absolutely be highly intelligent, but they do not, on average, have higher IQs than neurotypical people.
ADHD occur across the full spectrum of intellectual abilities, so no,not related to intelligence In fact, it's very common in people with certain types of learning disabilities
Bingo. How true. I’ve always said being too intelligent is not a gift. People who think too much usually get migraines. I spent years trying to figure out what caused my headaches. Doctors and surgeries. Finally I got it. It’s in my head. I worry too much
Yes I have these problems for one I know that there are a lot of people around me who are jealous of my intelligence. In addition I am misunderstood by many because they do not understand me because I believe they have very little comprehension skills which causes me great frustration and irritation and I just most of the time choose to be introverted.
I have several tested Mensa family members and have observed first hand all of these "symptoms," mostly unfortunate outcomes rather than a contributor to a better life... Or society.
Many of these points are relevant. However, I can't necessarily agree with "easily distracted," unless they mean distracted by other thoughts while pondering something else or analyzing your other thoughts. I find that I can be intensely focused on my task at hand. Also, I can usually socialize with other people, and when I'm ready to not be in solitude, I have fun in a group setting. But there's the key -- I enjoy my solitude. When I'm ready to be with a group, I'll enjoy it and be sociable.
I'm old well over 40 and now I'think that nothing is as important as we think it is, not even ourselves in this earth. So I don't take life so seriously now and everything seems so much better.
If you are intelligent you would not be watching this video :D Intelligent people would not bother :D aye, don't feel bad, there are more mediocre people like you and I :D
This is me to a T, but I am not intellectually intelligent, even though I have a post graduate certificate in education (god knows how!). I am quite self-aware, and also have a good level of intelligence that keeps me financially buoyant and I connect dots and get the things I want.
Omg...I was called stupid many times by people for some of the things I say. But according to this, I'm actually an Intelligent person. 😜😆❤️ Then again, although I was called stupid, I knew that I knew what I was talking about. I'm always stressing, worrying, overthinking and analyzing things & situations. And although I know we can't truly be perfect, I'm still a perfectionist. When I was young, I'd get bad grades in school, because I was either bored (feeling unchallenged); and or for not turning in my homework - just because I was unsure of 1 (out of 50) answer. In short...just about All these things mentioned apply to me
I would also add a #11. Constantly thinking back to past scenarios (even if it were 25 years ago or when you were in middle school) that you feel you could had said or did differently and you can't shake it. It still bothers you. WHat could I had done differently?
My IQ on the long form was tested at over 140 , I won’t say the exact number cause it doesn’t matter, it means Jack shit. I’m good with language but also suck at language 🤣
When you are a smart person who is ask to work more and then more and then more, and you are delivering all this requests, what can we do about it? how to aproach the situation. One time a coworker was ask to do some task and she just say i didn't do it, so the boss just ask me to do it my self. I end up leaving that job i was so tired and i found it unfear
I used to have a few of these though I lacked any academic achievement until middle age. I still retain perfectionism and plan everything - possibly to the extreme but I now definitely worry less and have less stress. I've developed a lot of patience which to me is the logical approach as impatience ends up creating more delay.
IQ tested @ 165. Raised by wolves basically, I had little opportunity. I had to heal from abuse before I could apply myself.. things are finally going my way!
I have all these characteristics to a varying degree. I don't feel effective in general, so it takes away my confidence and focus in honing skills in my profession. I didn't realize I was a perfectionist til recently. I didn't pursue something until it was perfect. I was the opposite, I would abandon a project the moment I sense it wouldn't fulfill my imagination bc I couldn't face the failure in myself. Big epiphany!
10 out of 10 xD 1- diagnosed with ADHD 2- neuroscientist and am over analytical 3- overly investigative behaviour yes, especially in research and endlessly question decisions and data 4- anxiety, Asthma and allergies 5- have been told by all my therapists I am the most self aware patient they ever had 6- definitely prone to stress 7- ways have high expectations and developed pathological demand avoidance as a result 8- very distracted (diagnosed with inattentive ADHD) 9- introverted and hate crowds 10- always have a lot of ideas in my head, have been told that I worry too much and consider all possible scenarios and indirect consequences of things even 5-6 steps ahead and am usually right even in situations where I am not involved meaning that it can't be the confirmation bias
I believe I’ve found a solution.. alcohol. Burning off a few brain cells has quieted the internal arguments, AND it has the added benefit of allowing slightly more enjoyment in social situations. Aside from that, be sure to take a vitamin B complex for nervous system health. It seems counterintuitive, given that vitamin B is associated with energy, but relaxation and good sleep require a healthy metabolism.
I wish I had started drinking in my late teens/early adulthood. I was always awkward and uncomfortable in social situations, and easily bored, too. And I never got laid. It seemed like all the folks who had FUN and got LAID were hard partiers. Alcoholism runs in my family, and I didn't want to risk that. But now, I have no stories to tell, no memories of wild nights, shenanigans, and one night stands. My life has been incredibly dull, boring, lonely, and except for one marriage to a similar person, celibate.
Sigh , i am 33 and started drinking 1 beer every night recently (previously never drank) and it actually seems to make me more productive since it calms my mind down . I really think people that think less have alot less stress .
Easy does it. There are lots better medications available than alcohol. I’m speaking from experience not ignorance. Albeit I still drink. It’s not the best way to deal with anxiety. I promise
My teachers: u're awkward
My parents:u're shy
My friends:u're a jerk
You tube: u're smart😂😂😂
Mine was;
Teachers: u're smart.
Parents: u're awful.
Friends: u're ok.
Everyone else: u don't exist.
Please explain :)
I'm a Latvian, so... This English is not what I was taught...
Me: If you havn't mastered written English by now...... You're not that smart.
My hometown newspaper: Portlock boy, once thought an idiot...makes good.
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"I have had lots of troubles in my life, most of which never happened."MARK TWAIN
They didn't happen BECAUSE he thought about them first.
Like my car didn't go over a cliff because I figured out how to navigate a blizzard spinout beforehand.
Ain’t that the absolute fuckin truth
I 100% get this! So true! I'd hate to calculate the hours I have spent giving audience to potential issues/problems that never even came to fruition.
why do I always find myself in a position where the only answer society gives me is "it's because you're more intelligent that most people, you're above the others..
I don't give a sh.. of being "above"
I just want people think just a bit further..
just to forget themselves a bit and taking the risk of going against yourself by being true, real
just want to find a way for humans to live together because what our society is doing seems full of good intentions, so why not going further and give everything to make a peacefull world were everyone is okay to question himself and listen what others has to say..
because I'll tell you one thing, what we call i telligent people is just people that are sensitive and want to be happy and give love.
I am passionnate by..
all..
not everything but.. all, universe..
life and way further
it's extremely difficult for me to write these messages because even in my head it isn't clear and I don't always necessarily know were I am going to..
and english isn't my native language.
but everyday, with my wife, I feel, reconize myself, in these intelligent people things
she lives cool and doesn't care about all the things that I do, if I am the sun, treating tons of info, emotions, thoughts, energy,
I woulnd' tell you she pluto because she thinks, sometime a bit, for some things I would even compare here to saturn or jupiter but yeah in general we are speaking of a greyish white planet a bit boring in term of way to think, function, brain program.. 😂 like Uranus and sometimes falls to pluto state and may even fall into a moon..
but she has potential and I see that sometimes she goes further and I feel I helped her and she listened
that may be the reason why I think we can make people think a bit further..
if we were able to make them more stupid decades after decades why couln't we make them more "intelligent" ?
because most of the time it's simple things that are quite easy to process..
and that my wife and any other people who are clearly not like us, can understand and even take it for themselves.. like them appropriating it, and then even strating to learn how to think further.
@@debraskiles803 better to be prepared than not
#9 is a fact..there is nothing more frustrating than trying to communicate with someone who doesn't have the capacity to understand what your telling them.. I've learned not to spend time rehashing with those who can't grasp the basics
Oddly enough, I've become adept at simplifying and "dumbing down" topics so that less intelligent people can understand them. I was always good at the language arts, which I'm told is common in Asbergers patients.
Like the fact that you used the word "your" when it should be "you're"? That's pretty basic.
@@tomhull1276 That could just be an autocorrect fail.
@@jeffrykopis5468 Proof read! Proof read! Proof read! I've always wondered where I would fall out on "the spectrum". I would definitely be "on it" somewhere. I, too, have always been good at the language arts, to the point of becoming quite an annoying, unapologetic and unrepentant "grammar nerd". I even drive myself nuts with it.
@@tomhull1276 LOL, I correct grammar gaffes on social all the time! Just to be helpful. But you can't help the idiots that talk like, "He do this, she do that, I be do somethin' else". 🤦🙄😠😑
When you understand things better than other people do - you understand how screwed up the world really is - it is depressing.
Exactly "ignorance is bliss...'' (the above comment).
DEPRESSING so true.
it's very depressing when people constantly tries to bring you down
EXACTLY!!!!
@wendylincoln7760 I just said how I've always been jealous of blissful people. I bet bliss feels glorious lol
As the Bible states: "You increaseth knowledge, you increaseth sorrow." True, alas.
1. Mental health issues.
2. Tend to over analyse things.
3. Exhaustingly perfectionistic.
4. Prone to physical health issues. (Linked to stress)
5. Highly aware of own deficiencies. (Dunning Kruger effect)
6. Prone to stress.
7. Burdened by high expectations.
8. Easily distracted.
9. Intense discomfort in mixed group settings.
10. Tend to worry more than average.
1, 2, 4, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10
Got em all 😕
Being a perfectionist, I always over analyze things; but knowing I can't truly be perfect or do things perfectly, keeps me stressed 😥. Prolonged & continuous stress causes me physical illness, in turn, triggering my DEPRESSION. 😕 It's a constant struggle.
This vid made me cry... I have all of the above😢😢😢
So true
Simply put, being smart can be, and often is, very painful...
You are so right…..
smart is not intelligent .. know the difference. However being intelligent, really is painful. It's more like a curse than gift, I wish I was as dumb as those who wash their car with petrol or those who try to patch their car tyre with duct tape ... at least i'd be happy and wouldn't even realize how dumb i am, but instead i have to live a painful life and see stupidity everywhere.
@@SethiozProject ignorance definetely is bliss it would seem
@@SethiozProject I can understand but I'm ok with the curse that gives intelligence. 👀
That s what the Ecclesiastes already said thousands of years ago!
Every time someone has accused me of being smart, I tell them that I have a long list of things that I have done that would prove them wrong.
I was identified as having a "superior intellect" rather early in my life, and it has made my life a living nightmare. My school life was a constant struggle to keep up with my own expectations of doing well in tests and exams. My crippling perfectionism has all but killed my artistic motivation. As I grew older I my clinical depression manifested which only made the insane pressure of living just that more difficult to achieve. Knowing you're smarter than the people around you, yet seeing those people become more successful in life than you are, doesn't help much with the increasing feelings of inadequacy you experience as you struggle to keep yourself from drowning.
In short, be thankful for being dumb. Your life is much easier.
Do you have an extremely hard time making friends? As aspergers and above average intelligence I have an extremely hard time making friends
@@skyking6989 Yeah, I only have 2 friends and never had more than 2 a time. I don't connect easily with other people.
@@ssjcybersonic9255 I know how you feel it's hell.
@@skyking6989 Well not having loads of friends is easier, in my opinion. Don't have so much stuff to keep track of.
Same. This so called gifted moniker has been helpful at times but mostly just aggravating. Even detrimental to relationships.
I've lived with these problems in various degrees for most of my life. Now, at 75, I understand why. Thank you. Maybe there's something to the saying that "ignorance is bliss."
Still kicking Big Ed?
I hear that the 70s are the happiest times of our lives. At 68, I'm looking forward to it. But I think there isn't a single thing here that I haven't had to deal with at one point or another. I think we take them on, one at a time, figure them out, and then move on. Life gets happier after each success. Or you just die from being killed by one of them. Surviving is a big thing.
At 66 I think people are a pain anymore as I have done so much and made so little over time as the normal type just take advantage of my kind of work. Why? The rich just take all they can and get all the breaks as the just so aggressive with little or no intelligence. I see the world as strange,Illogical, IT DOES NOT COMPUTE (Robot B9). Turn off the switch when the last one is too LEAVE.
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@@RobertMertensPhDMy life changed when I took the MENSA test and came in the top 1%. Prior to that I couldn’t understand why other people couldn’t analyse problems like I could and I didn’t trust my judgement because I was usually at variance with virtually everyone else. Once I realised why I could do what most others couldn’t I began to believe in myself much more and trust my own judgement. I also understood other people’s limitations and ceased trying to explain difficult concepts that they clearly don’t have the capacity to understand.
I fnd it rare to meet someone with whom to talk about ideas, without the person wanting to win more than trying to evaluate together. 😞
Astute observation.
I've noticed that with politics. The brainy presidents will allow people on their own level where they do like you say complement each other's gifts like Spielberg and benchley. Nixon and Ben Stein where they work together and each has something to offer. And each realizes their own confusion and deficiencies where the less intelligent want a robot v p or sec of state so on.
Sometimes I want to be just average just for that peace of mind once in a while ,not having the urge to solve things, to analyse everything till the bone
Me too!!!
Sis
😂😂 meditation will help I recommend watching “Osho international” on UA-cam you will be surprised how much he’s related to you (genius) A True legend
yep, being average is better. You aren't consumed with the worlds issues
Cut out half my brain so I'll get along with my Polock friends ( I'm Polish )
Introversion doesn't mean you have to be socially awkward or socially inept. It just means you are more introspective and prefer to be alone or to have alone time.
so defensive
@@Frip36 lol
@@Frip36 what's your problem, dude?
@@altamasparsanov9181 in pretty sure it's a joke~
People fear of making wrong decisions or choices should not worry, people will grow and learn if they try to think outside the box, be yourself be brave people 😊😊
Fear of rejections is much higher in inteligent then non intelligent ones .
@@arzoo_singh I think low emotional intelligence make people feel afraid
@@flowerpower4944 Maybe low Emotional intelligence is inversely proportional to Higher intelligence
Or may be there is no relation .
But ,I always think that higher intelligence should affect our Emotional intelligence but why ?
At a very higher level you start analysing everything fear,truth and you try to give more control to pre frontal cortex then amygdala and send heart good signal ...
But Even if I know all this when Impulsion comes ,I just have no control ....
Even though I know how brain is creating processing info and what should do I do .
But those emotions simply overpower me strong simulation system .
@@arzoo_singh I do think people let pride get in the way, because they fear exposing any flaws or failures, and thus never grow and experience , the joy and end results they can achieve instead of going with the crowd, I'm an INFj and thinking outside the box comes naturally ,😊
@@flowerpower4944 it can qlso do the reverse. It makes them bully the one who is different but then the others join in. I always noticed people in huge crowds walking around looking intimidating. That is low intelligence being afraid.
For all of those who have been diagnosed with these problems I hope you redeem yourself from them… I had problems which not even my family knew about.. I was secretly fighting my problem and now I feel better I’m grateful for everything… some of those problems left me with a blurry vision.. Because of those problems I’m stronger mentally, physically and emotionally.. Blessings to everyone…
I actually love being well above average intelligence. But I also notice when others are smarter than me and I feel insecure around them.
True👌
A Chinese philosopher said if you are 6he most intelligent person in the room you are in the wrong room.
I just wish I, m just ordinary it's really hard to be like this at all
How do we measure ones intelligence based on very different tasks or spheres of work that each require intelligence, different from one another? Just asking.
Oh dear . Perhaps see a therapist to deal with this issue, they might be able to adjust your perspective on your "above average intelligence ".😊
God, everything here rings true, and familiar. I was my class Valedictorian, but severe depression and undiagnosed autism led to failures in college, jobs, relationships, life in general. Physical decline and weight gain rendered me all but useless. I haven't achieved a damn thing since high school, and that was 40 years ago. Luckily, I found government work!
Sorry that you had to endure all that. But now you know it's not your fault! And I like the sense of humor about govt work.
@@pcofranc Thanx man! Yeah, I got a job with the post office. Worked there until my physical and mental problems got to be too much. But I'm retired and in a good place now.
I found alcohol! Lol
Jeffry
How do you cope with civil/ public servants? In the UK they're some of the least competent people. Look at the Countries Leaders!
@@angelm6497 I avoid them as much as possible.
Having a intelligent mind could be gift but there are things which this people should do .
First,please know being intelligent means you're mind would always be working ,thinking and analysing .
2nd being Intelligent does not mean you would be rich and we'll placed you may ask why ?
See ,there is difference between knowing things and doing things ..
You may know a lot but weak in implementation ,plus there is definate luck factor ( You may call it choices made ,timing of an event etc ).
But,the problem with intelligent people their Neurons are always firing and what they should do is silence the mind .
Why ?
See you're brain is over analysing , overthinking if used in right ways you are weapon but at the same time it could be self destructive a intelligent mind = Sympathetic mind .
Always alert always looking for things ,but you have to do otherwise ,silence the mind .
So in short if you are intelligent please do this and this will help like anything ,I have been through all this .
1)Silence the mind .
2)You would have lot of interest and want to learn everything ,please don't do this ..
3)You hate art but please focus on art ,this will not only help you're intelligence but also helps brain connection .(The brain loves to fire in a way ,when you add art,you are stopping the old pattern and giving new paths plus versatility in neuron firing adding dimensions )
4)Stop thinking about everything if you are intelligent and Empathetic This is a very bad combination (Over active mind over sensitive heart ).
Learn to give damn about things know it sounds like selfish ,but this will help .
5)You hate small talks but learn that skill and mix with people ,firstly it will not be authentic and boring then it will be part of you're life (Please learn when to laugh it off ,shrug it off just enjoy)
6)Please be in nature -- Give time to yourself connect to nature ,tree ,flowers feel it.
7)You rely too much on brain use physical exercise too. .
8)if you are intelligent and sensitive (Highly empathic ) The environment is you're worst enemy learn to give positive angle (Learn to lie to mind and say otherwise)
You are a gift use it to help humanity ,develop some solutions,ideas but for that you need to follow above habits .
A special note to Intelligent and highly empathic people .Brother you're life could really hard because of you're brain and heart but very strong in picking signal(When intuition and intelligence both are working well you are a gift) .But you can really be asset learn to use brain's intelligence and heart' intelligence at same time.
Take care , bye!
Many thanks for this comment. Very true, informative and helpfull.
.you are so right about the exercise and brain activity connection...I find exercise helps to quiet those overabundance of stressful thought patterns and brings what may seem like giant sized issues before exercise down to manageable levels...many solutions present themselves while exercising the body...give yourself an hour a day of physical activity and watch your creativity explode!
I don’t know that I’m intelligent, but I’m relentlessly curious, and never take anything at face value. Why, how, what is the origin, what is the mechanism, how can it be used, etc. If I could figure out how to quiet my mind, I’d be so happy.
@@bethmoore7722 but would you really prefer it?
@@ursulagwozdz1955 You do have a point.
I am in a bind!
If I am truthful and admit to identifying with all of the traits,
it could be concluded that I consider myself intelligent.
There is a thin line between Genius and Insane. Lucky for me I remain comfortably on the "Insane" side. Life is a LOT more fun when you are Insane. Many advantages to being insane too: (1) You don't need drugs, because insanity is WAY too much fun to dull with drugs; (2) Family, friends, neighbors, co-workers, etc long ago have accepted your eccentric, bizarre behavior as "normal for HIM"; (3) you don;t have to explain your actions / thoughts / opinions because NO ONE wants to enter that rabbit hole; (4) pan handlers avoid guys having an interesting conversation all by themselves; (5) The Police AVOID your address, and NEVER pull you over; (6) In school or college, you generally get excellent grades, because after the first consultation, NO Teacher/Instructor/Professor EVER wants to go there again.
I could go on, but you get the drift. Now I'm off on another adventure guided by the voices in my head.
Omgosh I am cracking up over this one...so true...ouch, my stomach hurts from laughing.
Cops pull me over and hate me 🤣 I’m hyper focused as a driver as to what is in front of me, not behind so I’ve been hit from behind twice and got speeding tickets cause of cops behind me 🤣
"There's someone in my head,
But it's not me." - Pink Floyd. 🤣
@@peterf.229 🤣🤣🤣
Very useful warding off panhandlers
Smart people should know, from their schooling, that in the simplest form, smart is about learned facts, while intelligence is a natural gift to understand many things smart people cannot.
The BEST I’ve heard!!! With ME, I’m NOT very smart, BUT have the ability to understand things smart people don’t ~~~~ never considered that intelligent… I’ve learned not to worry or be overly concerned about these matters! I find amusing SMART people and those of intelligence, BECAUSE they worry about what others think, I’m now 70… took awhile for me to come to grips with the way I am SO now, I enjoy ME AND watching others🤷🏽♀️
An amusing species, humankind!!!
When I was 10 they told me a was a genius by 16 I had ADHD, ODD, and depression. That should be expected
1) you are full of ideas and bored easily
2) You are unwilling to "bend the knee" to complete idiots (even though they are "in charge")
3) After enough BS you just wanna quit
It took me years to realize/accept that I wasn't the problem they just were not smart enough to understand.
I disagree. YOU are the problem. Get off your high horse and use that intelligence to become a better person. We meet many people less intelligent than ourselves but that doesn't mean we have to look down upon them. They have talents that are worthwhile to learn. I wouldn't have the skills I have today if I'd looked down on all the tradesmen and even those who live simply and enjoy life as it comes. I just can't believe all the people in this section acting as though their lives are a waste and just waiting to die because they won't work to fit in. Very sad.
@@robertcuminale1212 maybe some ppl dont want to "work to fit in" whats so good about fitting in?
@@robertcuminale1212 Take a look at the video one more time.I don't think you can relate to the matter. Also very sad.
With a sense of humor
That's me! I guess I am used to it, but many times in a social situation I just want to scream because conversations are sometimes so boring to me. I usually leave or walk away. I thought I was being arrogant and felt bad about it but this makes me feel better.
Well, I have depression which includes being continuously bored and Im tired of it… so sometimes just tell people you don’t like the small talk and voice your opinions so they can change and all… I did a similar thing in the past and it led to depression as I just covered up my wounds leading to me being unconsciously being hurt… so overall, don’t leave them confused when they see you walk away, they might think it’s a 1-sided relationship/friendship and cut off ties with you.
I have always experienced this. I understand it clearly now but have not always done so.
I think there is another side of this "alienation" coin though. When in social situations, and whether I decide to dumb down (I usually do) or not I usually find people drifting away from me.
However I know I am not essentially socially inept or unlikeable. I know this because when not in situations that are "officially" social, such as at work, or maybe in mundane situations like getting my hair cut, people are the opposite. I am well liked and I attract people.
All of this perplexes me. I don't think it is me though (as such). I think what happens is that people become much more judgemental, as well as more instinctive, when socialising. Most can actually work out your inner discomfort and don't want to be adding to it, or be participating in it.
I have no solutions. I just try to restrict my life to small groups or one on one encounters, where I am much more at ease and successful.
The trouble is that this often leads to invitations to social gatherings where you end up going through the whole thing again...
You are probably arrogant.
Amen to that. I'm bored to death with small talk and banal conversations. The only people I'm happy around are car enthusiasts, baseball fans, and cat people.
@@alexdavis1541 I feel like I'm among friends here, which happens to me far more in social media than it does in real life. On social, you seek out what interests you, and find like minded souls; in real life, not so much.
This was very helpful. My wife and teenage son are both highly intelligent, and it is sometimes very difficult to understand and deal with as their loved one.
Aw ur so sweet God bless u and ur family 😊
You obviously have the key...love.
Not highly intelligent but highly love is the way dear David
They may be on the autism spectrum
My mother absolutely freaked out when she found out that I qualified for MENSA when I was 7 years old.
She thought I was having some sort of nervous breakdown, but the fact was, I was just bored.
...but then she had a lot of psychological issues anyway, so having a kid that could out-think her at every turn was not exactly therapeutic. lol
And here I am, self doubting and thinking I am dumb because I don't know enough.This got me thinking
Actually, for me I don’t see it as a problem, I see it as a gift.
what makes you think you are smart? Have you proved any theorem or made any extraordinary discovery in any scientific field? Do you have the ability to play chess or Go in a superb way? Do you speak 5 DIFFICULT languages?
@@jacoboribilik3253 Have you?
Thanks for bringing this matter to our awareness. You forgot to mention the most challenging obstacle: the mountain of ACTION
I have OCD ADHD anxiety stress . I worry like crazy . I m not so sure I’m intelligent . 😁😁🤣🤣
I have ADHD but my kinda messy house suggests I don’t have OCD
Intelligent enough I’m sure.
@@peterf.229 a messy house it’s paradoxically a ocd symptom . A person can have ocd and be very messy . I have ocd and I can be messy and that’s the reason why I always thought I could not have it . Fear to start putting things in order and never have it perfect . I start fixing things and then more things come to be fixed and more and more and it never looks perfect . You always feel it’s not good enough so you start avoiding it all together. The key to it it’s to settle for ok and not perfect . That’s how it can help to deal better with it
I have turned almost all of the problems discussed in the video into strength.
Having all those problems since I was a little kid was a curse.
I’m 43, unemployed and depressed . I suck at relationships, have adhd and can’t keep a job. I still see it as a curse.
I suffer so deeply from almost all that are explained above, even to a point of suicide sometimes. Yet, knowing that this all will last only a lifetime simply makes it possible for me to let it all pass. Good news is I'm 61 now and most of it has gone already.
It’s not gone, you just learned to deal with it. I am 61 also. I have many “crutches” to give myself some space. Many of these developed organically over time, others were realizations that happened quickly. I don’t believe I’m particularly intelligent but I have been around some who are and some who were not. 1-I still overanalyze those I believe are smart and do my best to be nice with those who aren’t.
2-Most of my life I’ve had trouble decision making, often feeling I didn’t have enough information but now I make decisions much more quickly. If for example, if I’m driving somewhere and I’m considering which route to take I will decide at the first traffic signal, choosing the green if I’m in a rush and the red if I’m not in a hurry. The hard part is accepting the decision and not spending anymore time thinking about it after it is made. I use “if this/ then I’ll do that” uncountable times to get through my day.
3- I rely on my wife for some things. She is on my smart list, not for technical stuff so-much but “people stuff”. I often ask her what someone meant or what she thinks the reason for someone’s actions are. I have learned to accept her thoughts on such things, she has proven herself to me as exceptionally insightful and has a nice, caring bias if things are unclear at all. I have also learned a great deal from her examples.
4- along similar lines, work used to be maddening, almost unbearable even. I’m in a technical field (aviation) and natural progression moves you to a position of leadership after a few decades of doing the job. I preferred to work out of a tool box over managing tasks, people and priorities. But making a conscious effort to delegate tasks, accept decisions of those on my crew (whenever possible) and most importantly back them up when things go wrong has been eye opening therapy for me.
5- counting things. This was a hobby, a passion for me for many years. Walk into a room I’ve never been in, count the ceiling tiles on the short wall, fold that over to the long side add the remainder and multiply for a total, then chairs, tables, people, windows go back to the ceiling for a double check, actually count the long wall to verify my answer was correct. One day a child at the dentists office asked me what I was looking at and it dawned on me I was craning my neck around to get my count done. I was embarrassed in front of the child! I’ve worked pretty hard to give up this “habit” or obsession or whatever it is and I’ve done pretty well. Not doing it automatically was the hard part, I had to consciously STOP.
There are more things but I realize this post is getting long so I will stop here. I suspect that like me, you have just learned to deal with things and accepted that you don’t have to do or be responsible for everything. And learned to appreciate the value and meaning of a true smile.
Spend some time each day acting like an idiot.
I'm 56 and beginning to find peace with myself too. I am what I am, I've changed as much about myself as I want to or can, and I'm ok with the rest. I'll continue to learn and grow, but I just avoid social interaction and situations that make me uncomfortable. As Clint said in "Magnum Force", "A man's got to know his limitations".
@@rustyaxelrod Ha ha, I count things too! But I do it for fun. When I took a road trip with my kids a few years ago, we counted cows, lol! When they were little, we used to drive around neighborhoods and count cats! (We had between 5 and ten in those years) Nowdays, I pick up scrap metal for fun and (small) profit, and my favorite thing is to go out to the gun range or the desert and pick up bullet shells! The brass ones are worth $2.15/lb! And I count each one I pick up. Two years ago, over a month long stay in the desert, I picked over 32,000. Yeah, I wrote down my totals at each stop and each day! This year, in one month, I got over 34,000! (Old military ranges in the desert, and guys still go out there to shoot). 520 lbs of em!
@@rustyaxelrod
My daughter is allways counting what I have eaten in the Fridge while doing baby sitter!
They are well situated she is architect and her husband is specialist surgeon orthopedist !
I think it is genetical disorder !
My mother in law was doing the same thing !
I never was a member of a house !
Ha ha ha
What I have now to pay attention to my grandson because hi is 10 and started counting and telling me what not to eat !
Thank you. They are right on. Being smart still has its advantages if you can adapt in certain situations.
I've decided to own up my mistakes being honest understanding that we're not perfect, that lessens the anxiety of committing a mistake. I also came to the realization that I am a human being just like anybody else.
I relate to most of this in particular the negative effects. It's detrimental honestly, i don't feel smart. Rather, i believe there are different kinds of intelligence.
I feel like a contradiction by having intelligence that arms me with the knowledge and skills to succeed and having mental health conditions that feel like an obstacle to my success and wellbeing
It’s so difficult to admit that I struggle with all these on some levels. I created over two dozen of art works. No formal training in a short time. I surpassed people I use to ask for help. I have conducted over 100 surveys to make sure assessment of my work was correct and it is from people on streets, colleagues, to top level galleries who give me their cards to bring them in. I am still trying to perfect them and changing my decisions on the work I am doing to get them out. It’s a curse! So much knowledge and understanding but no one to share them with.
Yes it's a curse just keep doing it anyway as to the way things are going out in the world your going to be on top. So it fun to do this work and you don't have all the cost of the training. Just don't over do the work go on to the next project.
I've never felt so attacked and complimented in 10 mins.
I have more common sense than most people .And I can't stand idiots.They make my skin crawl.I can't talk to most people about certain things .I wouldn't say I'm highly intelligent but we'll informed and very intuitive .
I could write a book about the dangerous and sad lack of basic common sense and pitifully low shreds of intelligence I've been unfortunate to witness first hand from so many people in so many different ways: for example, I met a whole family of 5 who stood there smiling and telling me the story of a dangerous kitten they had to bring to the vet and have it put down because it attacked the dad and scratched him all over on his face. Then they casually mentioned they had it in an enclosed cardboard box and when they finally opened the box, the tiny beast savagely attacked him. They had no clue whatsoever that the poor kitten had a claustrophobic panic attack being trapped inside a dark, stuffy, hot box for who knows how long, which also sounds like there were no air vents in the box anywhere. People who can't connect the dots just make my head explode,......and they're everywhere
@@superspark2374 I agree 💯 .People really trigger me when they make wrong choices and blame God.And when they think God plans ur life Yes he has a plan for ur life there's a good road and a bad road.But how many take the good road .Most cause there own problems.
@@superspark2374 oh my god. It's so annoying. Once you reach a certain level of knowledge/intelligence, people start to really piss you off. I find myself arguing with older people a lot because older people in particular think they know everything. Turns out they know nothing.
@@traydaddy4257 thats the problem i deal with at my job, they dont want to listen to me because of my young age, but when did have anything to do with inteligence.
When got to know myself, being over those problems by awareness of my issues, my skills and intelligence, I have managed little by little being happier, while also be able to use my full potential.I’m glad to be wiser than other , even when I’m sometimes being understood , I tend to be able to read people , so it helps me solving problems. Also , I look at the full picture of it , I understand many things that are deeper than most people can see, stay true to your soul , be a good caring person , you are smart, do not doubt yourself.r y
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As a person whose IQ has tested to 161, I could tell you what it's all about, but experience has taught me to keep quiet out of not wanting to be labeled as a know-it-all.
Found this information very enlightening. Probably the only reason I don't suffer from perfectionism is my mother, who was abusive, used perfectionism as a reason to inflict "disciplinary" action. That said, most of these traits are true for me and many I have always struggled with particularly numbers 1 and 9. Don't suffer from asthma or ADHD, but do significantly from unipolar depression and anxiety. As for the others, I've had a life-long acquaintance with them. However, I survived my childhood because I analyzed behavior then identified traits of value to retain and those that were soul destroying for either myself or others. For instance, OCD has its uses professionally as a skill set but not personally. It is destructive as a personal passion. Such analyses at an early age helped me survive a toxic home environment.
Thanks for taking the time to write your comment. I always feel a satisfaction when someone puts in words something that's already with me.
Perfectionist doesn't necessarily mean that you look "perfect", it simply means that you have to do things in most effective way. For example, I find it very annoying when people pack things in a bag in wrong way, like they just chaotically throw stuff in it. Or something as simple as how people connect cables to their computer, leaving wires hanging on their own weight ... it hurts my eyes. I always tape my cables so they dont hang from their own weight and this is why in my entire life, i have never had a broken cable .. while lot of people i talk to, they constantly break their headset cables, USB ports ..etc ..etc .. and all that is because they don't have intelligence to understand how basic physics work.
So basically what i'm saying, is that perfection can look chaotic to low IQ people and they never understand the real meaning of perfection.
Intelligent people also pay less attention to looks and more attention to the effectiveness of things.
I am not claiming to be a genius, but the fact that I relate to every single one is cool and helps me learn a lot about the minds of people with high intelligence, and how they suffer from the same problems that I do.
This sounds exactly like me unbelievable thank you so much for this video and thank you to everybody in the comments saying the same.. shows that we’re not alone because I know us smart people often feel alone but never lonely 🔮
I agree with this.
The biggest drawback for me has been the difficulty by many others, in comprehending my analytical logic & utmost common sense approach to issues.
Others with equal intelligence do so, but most just can't grasp such, it's frustrating.
I took an IQ test 2 years ago 4am in the morning with a bad hangover and got a result of 105 .. two years later after being 6 months into detox with large Iodine levels my IQ has risen to over 125 !
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Honestly i put it all down to being humble and keeping your humility. Its true some people down play their abilities. Its hard to believe in yourself sometimes especially when what you want to do in unconventional.
Learning how to properly meditate helps with many of these issues (At least that has been my experience). The struggle is real nonetheless. It's important to learn that society does not cater to the outliers. Stay strong humans.
This makes me want to cry, because it made me feel normal, thank you for that.
I can relate to all of these traits. I’ve always felt different around people and can’t understand why they don’t have the thought process that I do and to have a meaningful conversation. I hate shallow talk. I’m trying to accept they are different and that’s ok but it’s difficult for me to go to their level. I’m not better than anyone else…just on a another plane.
Amen 🙏
I totally concur! I can't believe the simplistic approach they have. Do they live in the same world I inhabit?! How can you minimize the deplorable condition of society today?! I admire them, I envy them. Why can't I be like that? Indeed, I am the idiot, they will far outlive me.
Well said, I feel pretty much the same.
So you're "on another plane" than the average person. Big deal. Sounds like you mostly hang out with average people. Go hang out where smart people are and you'll be brought back to reality real quick.
I didn't mean to offend. I am a loner. I can't interact well with others. I should not have said what I said.
I have checked everything on this list, and it sucks 😭
Ignorance is bliss.
As anything else, its a matter of awareness. If you're concious of your every action thru self observation you're capable of adjusting and adapting accordingly.
That awkward moment, when some video from internet describing you at almost every point and telling you’re smart person, but you’re not quite happy about that...
High IQ means that you see the shit other people are doing. Double whammy because the higher IQ sees things others don't, the general perception is then the intelligent person is bonkers!
story of my life bro, to a T!
When I'm finding myself around people I consider smarter than me, I always find it so entertaining. Like a kid going to a show. That's because they can come up with various topics, ideas and explanations that already live in my head and I'm struggling to reach a conclusion.
Hi! I liked the video very much! One suggestion, you could make a video about -how to use those traits in a positive way, rather suffer from them. Best regards!
Absolutely excellent point. I’m sure their is plenty already out there on this. Any comments?
@@edsled9631 See my post at the top of the page?
One problem -- not mentioned -- is social ostracism.
In my case, my parents absolutely hated my mental facility. The siblings joined in.
This passion dominated family life -- for their whole lives.
No-one ever leveled with me -- when I was a child.
My first clear-cut indication that something was 'off' was via my high school college counselor.
He produced my cumulative scholastic record -- which ran ~1,000 pages -- and was deemed the thickest in North America.
When he queried about its immensity, the central school system admin told him that (with millions of records on file) none was ever like it.
It had to sit atop the file cabinets -- all alone. It created quite a stir in college, too. The results were universally negative.
When Wonderlic tested me -- the results were so shocking that they pre-lim'd a lawsuit. No-one had ever attained a perfect score before.
Statistically, I was about two-standard deviations beyond the next highest score. ( And he was all alone, too, 93%. )
I was deemed by Wonderlic to "not be a human being." [ The median score for college grads was 74%; 80% was only rarely cracked. ]
They sic'd their detectives on my trail. They threw in the towel after getting a hold of my academic record.
It was a proctored test. So my employer spent large -- interviewing everyone that worked around me. The consensus: "Yeah, it figures."
I was informed that I had no chance in general society... that absolutely no institution would tolerate me.
This proved true.
As for your top-ten list -- it's mighty accurate.
As for changing the World, Nation,... etc. -- I've already done all of that. Boy, that can be tough. Stupidity has so many patrons.
Whenever I was in a classroom, conference, seminar, whatever, I was always FULL of questions. Everything the instructor said raised 2 or 3 more questions in my mind. And I couldn't POSSIBLY write them down and save them for later, they came too fast. And I didn't want to lose them forever (like every great song, idea, story, or script that I've ever composed in a dream), so I HAD to blurt them out! And all the other attendees would get pissed and groan and shake their heads and say "SHUT UP!" And I'd always be like, "What, am I the only INQUISITIVE person here?? Am I the only one that really wants to understand this material?" I just thought everyone else was stupid and didn't really want to learn. At age 44, I was finally diagnosed with Asbergers. At 56, I just avoid people altogether.
How eloquently you described ME! You´re not alone my friend.
Yes I also feel happier alone, I find most people boring or irritating.
That was me too. I learnt fast that school was about teaching conformity, not knowledge. I got sent to the LIBRARY as punishment! It was a boarding (prision for kid's of crappy parents) school, I was told by the staff no one used the book budget. I could order about ten books a month, free! ISBN list got big. So did my brain. Still reading, still a non-conformist.
@@mr.hitchens Attaboy. What's ISBN?
@@jeffrykopis5468 ISBN: International Standard Book Number. Look on the back of any book and it's identification number is it's ISBN. Hope this helps.
Thank you for labeling my existence.
Mental abuse then mental illness. People are very jealous of anyone whom is highly intelligent. My Father fought to make us feel stupid by claimed we didn't know enough. We we're often forced to follow his educational direction instead of our personal direction. I found as I was older, I wish I didn't listen so intentionally to his opinion and ideas. I feel like I had to back track to recreate my original goals.
I was brought up in an emotionally abusive environment with me being the scapegoat in the family. I was never a good student in class and failed my entire high school. Regardless, I have all of the above mentioned traits in the video. So what does it mean? Am I stupid?
@@AllahsServant12 Smart children often do stupid things. Then they feel regret when they grow up. I believe you are smart enough now to make better decisions.
when u talked about brooding over every stimuli, and being overly analytical, I felt really relieved.
@BVale when it stops you from your peace of mind, only if one is not able connect this, that to that then there is no brooding.
There is such a thing as "too smart," much the same as "too tall." There are special inconveniences, even special problems, with being too far above average. Both have advantages and positive bonuses, of course; but its a two-sided thing--like a great deal of life, come to think of it... Either way, it's like that great old song says, "Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative, and don't mess with Mr. In-between."
I recognize many attributes from growing up, but now it's mostly trying to stay focused when someone is talking. It's like I already know where the conversation is going. Hence, always need to either move along or try another subject.
Since this seems to be a group that will understand what I'm saying, I'll make a few comments. Yes, I'm smart. Yes, it's a curse, but also a blessing, and you have to see it as both even if it doesn't always feel that way. I have a fridge magnet with a profound saying - "Never underestimate the power of stupid people in large groups." Let's face it. The world is largely run by stupid people and malicious people (not necessarilly the same people). Smart people suffer because they recognise this, but knowing what's real (even if it takes a bit to figure it out) is always better than not. It means we can see falsity and adapt better. Eventually, falsehoods and the things built on them collapse. Those people that built their lives on them have no clue what to do. Smart people go "Ok, plan B" and move on. We're always running through scenarios so we never lack ideas on how to get through something or the dangers associated with them. In short, when the going gets wierd, the wierd get going. It's a little like stage fright. You'll spend all the time before going nuts, but when the time comes to perform, smarts and instincts usually kick in and take over. It also helps to find something to keep your mind occupied and focused. I'm a novel writer. Perfect job for me. There's always something to research. There's always some stupid plot point to try and figure out how to make work. There's always words to write then try to figure out if they're the right words for what you're trying to convey. Find something that will require all your talents to work and that will generally keep the MindMonkeys from being too unruly. Now a caviat is that I'm probably older than most of you, and I went through a lot of the miseries they described when I was younger, so they're hard to avoid but just think of them as learning phases. Just be a boat on the ocean. You'll get both calm seas and horrible storms, but in the end, you're still afloat when a lot of other people aren't. What you do with it from there is up to you. Part of that is what I'm passing onto you. I've survived, you'll survive. Pass it on sometime to someone else who isn't sure and help them survive. The universe can't run entirely on dummies, so it needs us too. No matter how bad it gets, remember that it's pressure that turns coal into diamonds. Good luck.
May I inquire as to how old you are as of now, good sir if I'm not being too inquisitive?
@@Goethe-von-Voltaire Less than a hundred, more than fifty...
Actually the world is run by super intelligent people. They rise to the top like cream. Problem is they can often lack common sense. The two do not necessarily go hand in hand. And the power they attain can easily lend itself to egotism, corruption and greed. But of for sure the world is run by the brilliant. The lower intelligent do the routine bull work.
Thank you sir. I'm merely curious. But I can take a wild guess based on that at least. I admire intellectuals, you see.
I suffered from all of these. I mange to adapt it. And good to know I am intelligent but it's more scary for me. Anyway. Thank you.
Wow! This makes me feel understood! i've been criticized for many of the things you mention, namely all 10! I always thought of them as negative characteristics, so now I feel somewhat vindicated. This video is incredibly insightful, plus comforting. at least i know that there's not something essentially wrong with me; once i know where the challenges are coming from, it's easier to forgive myself and move on, and hopefully the problems will heal. Thanks for understanding and thanks for posting!
Not 5 minutes into the video, and I'm see many similar problems I have. My mind is blown!
That’s me. It was very hard when I was younger until I understood myself and got the confidence to act for my best interest and not cover up my intelligence even with my children. I had a mother like me and two granddaughters and in my older age I finally have come to terms with it.
Hits so close to home, something to be said about the phrase ignorance is bliss for sure.
Have all of those traits except the last one, don't seem to worry. Also noticed there's something called highly sensitive person (HSP) that seems to fit much of what he's talking about here. The excitability, constant thinking, very observant, and others.
Dr elaine aron does great work on hsps. she has many videos on here if anyone in interested. Have a great day!
I can actually relate to most of those pointers especially No.9! It's difficult being highly intelligent and especially being a capricorn!
Actually because of these issues I wish sometimes to be just a normal person who's away from stress, anxiety, depression, inability to take care of myself, overthinking things, inability to fit in socially, and lots and lots of phobias. But, i know I can't change them nor myself and a part of me also loves my (I'm-not-so-sure-but-okay-highly) intelligent side.
Ignorance is bliss; and intelligence is a curse.
Yes, so true. Many times I wished to have been born dumb, a fool but the life of a dumb fool has setbacks too. One thing is for certain in my case, if I was asked ¨Do you want to come to this world¨ I would have answer NO! I am 70 now, returning to a well deserved childhood, Pink Panther, icecream, etc.
But you are a happy human being,glad living.The main problem is the system .
@@justinamusyoka4986 Yes, dear.
I always considered myself as a smart person, but then I got depressed and I don't have motivation to study so much.
anyone can be smart its what you do with it that makes you wise
True 👏👏
Spent most of my life with migraine headaches. Never had a teacher that understood I could not be around noise. Had to be 68 years old to find a neurologist that understood. The thinks I could have done, but yet I did a lot.
Thanks for validating ALL my hypotheses. (135+ IQ here, just found out, of suspicions)
All these "problems" are symptoms of ADHD aswell.
My hypothesis; ADHD is a side-effect of intelligence.
Evidence shows that ADHD is a neuro developmental disorder, which most people who have it are born with. People with ADHD can absolutely be highly intelligent, but they do not, on average, have higher IQs than neurotypical people.
ADHD occur across the full spectrum of intellectual abilities, so no,not related to intelligence
In fact, it's very common in people with certain types of learning disabilities
lol really smart ppl realize that correlation .neq. causation
How do you know you have that IQ score?
I thought ADHD just meant you were male?
This piece is so timely and a informative, in maybe relieving me of some patterns and habits that have kept me stuck. Thank you 🤓
Bingo. How true. I’ve always said being too intelligent is not a gift. People who think too much usually get migraines. I spent years trying to figure out what caused my headaches. Doctors and surgeries. Finally I got it. It’s in my head. I worry too much
Yes I have these problems for one I know that there are a lot of people around me who are jealous of my intelligence. In addition I am misunderstood by many because they do not understand me because I believe they have very little comprehension skills which causes me great frustration and irritation and I just most of the time choose to be introverted.
I have several tested Mensa family members and have observed first hand all of these "symptoms," mostly unfortunate outcomes rather than a contributor to a better life... Or society.
Many of these points are relevant. However, I can't necessarily agree with "easily distracted," unless they mean distracted by other thoughts while pondering something else or analyzing your other thoughts. I find that I can be intensely focused on my task at hand. Also, I can usually socialize with other people, and when I'm ready to not be in solitude, I have fun in a group setting. But there's the key -- I enjoy my solitude. When I'm ready to be with a group, I'll enjoy it and be sociable.
I'm old well over 40 and now I'think that nothing is as important as we think it is, not even ourselves in this earth. So I don't take life so seriously now and everything seems so much better.
It's a lonely, place to be,I hate my place in the World I have sooo much too,say and no one that will listen!!!
I am a member of Mensa and I agree with each and every one if these ten topics.
This felt like a list of 10 made of me, lol. Everything hit straight home. :P
Number 9 is killing me.
I had a professor in grad school who told me that I would have a frustrating life because of my intelligence. He was right.
If you are intelligent you would not be watching this video :D Intelligent people would not bother :D aye, don't feel bad, there are more mediocre people like you and I :D
This is me to a T, but I am not intellectually intelligent, even though I have a post graduate certificate in education (god knows how!). I am quite self-aware, and also have a good level of intelligence that keeps me financially buoyant and I connect dots and get the things I want.
If this was a survey and was asked to pick which apply to me, I would have to choose 11) All the above.
Omg...I was called stupid many times by people for some of the things I say. But according to this, I'm actually an Intelligent person. 😜😆❤️ Then again, although I was called stupid, I knew that I knew what I was talking about. I'm always stressing, worrying, overthinking and analyzing things & situations.
And although I know we can't truly be perfect, I'm still a perfectionist. When I was young, I'd get bad grades in school, because I was either bored (feeling unchallenged); and or for not turning in my homework - just because I was unsure of 1 (out of 50) answer.
In short...just about All these things mentioned apply to me
You described me to a tee. I have IBS BECAUSE OF STRESS
I would also add a #11. Constantly thinking back to past scenarios (even if it were 25 years ago or when you were in middle school) that you feel you could had said or did differently and you can't shake it. It still bothers you. WHat could I had done differently?
Esprit d'escalier
😮😮😮 I’ve relived conversations from 1992 in middle school 🤣
My IQ on the long form was tested at over 140 , I won’t say the exact number cause it doesn’t matter, it means Jack shit. I’m good with language but also suck at language 🤣
Super,....only have to go through it once more to get number 9 clear... Thanks for the insight
When you are a smart person who is ask to work more and then more and then more, and you are delivering all this requests, what can we do about it? how to aproach the situation. One time a coworker was ask to do some task and she just say i didn't do it, so the boss just ask me to do it my self. I end up leaving that job i was so tired and i found it unfear
You made the right choice by leaving. Hope you find a better workplace with supportive coworkers.
The most intelligent people I know all struggle with addiction.
I used to have a few of these though I lacked any academic achievement until middle age. I still retain perfectionism and plan everything - possibly to the extreme but I now definitely worry less and have less stress. I've developed a lot of patience which to me is the logical approach as impatience ends up creating more delay.
IQ tested @ 165. Raised by wolves basically, I had little opportunity. I had to heal from abuse before I could apply myself.. things are finally going my way!
I have all these characteristics to a varying degree. I don't feel effective in general, so it takes away my confidence and focus in honing skills in my profession. I didn't realize I was a perfectionist til recently. I didn't pursue something until it was perfect. I was the opposite, I would abandon a project the moment I sense it wouldn't fulfill my imagination bc I couldn't face the failure in myself. Big epiphany!
10 out of 10 xD
1- diagnosed with ADHD
2- neuroscientist and am over analytical
3- overly investigative behaviour yes, especially in research and endlessly question decisions and data
4- anxiety, Asthma and allergies
5- have been told by all my therapists I am the most self aware patient they ever had
6- definitely prone to stress
7- ways have high expectations and developed pathological demand avoidance as a result
8- very distracted (diagnosed with inattentive ADHD)
9- introverted and hate crowds
10- always have a lot of ideas in my head, have been told that I worry too much and consider all possible scenarios and indirect consequences of things even 5-6 steps ahead and am usually right even in situations where I am not involved meaning that it can't be the confirmation bias
I believe I’ve found a solution.. alcohol. Burning off a few brain cells has quieted the internal arguments, AND it has the added benefit of allowing slightly more enjoyment in social situations. Aside from that, be sure to take a vitamin B complex for nervous system health. It seems counterintuitive, given that vitamin B is associated with energy, but relaxation and good sleep require a healthy metabolism.
I wish I had started drinking in my late teens/early adulthood. I was always awkward and uncomfortable in social situations, and easily bored, too. And I never got laid. It seemed like all the folks who had FUN and got LAID were hard partiers. Alcoholism runs in my family, and I didn't want to risk that. But now, I have no stories to tell, no memories of wild nights, shenanigans, and one night stands. My life has been incredibly dull, boring, lonely, and except for one marriage to a similar person, celibate.
Sigh , i am 33 and started drinking 1 beer every night recently (previously never drank) and it actually seems to make me more productive since it calms my mind down . I really think people that think less have alot less stress .
@@nathanroberts1708 Yes, dumb people are happy people. Ignorance is bliss.
Easy does it. There are lots better medications available than alcohol. I’m speaking from experience not ignorance. Albeit I still drink. It’s not the best way to deal with anxiety. I promise
rubbing alcohol heals outside wounds and drinking alcohol heals inside wounds
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