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  • Опубліковано 10 лют 2025
  • John and his twin sister, Michelle, were adopted by Joe and Bridie Kiely and grew up in Kilrush, Co. Clare. At the age of 40 and after a serious work accident, John wanted to find their natural mother. Going through the official channels was a long and frustrating route, so he decided to take matters into his own hands.
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  • @dm8116
    @dm8116 5 місяців тому +3

    I am in absolute awe of john for his strength, and sensitivity for all family members. A birth mother

  • @fowleheidi482
    @fowleheidi482 2 роки тому +23

    Having lived in Ireland I was shocked he had the balls to knock on the brother's door. Not surprised it started off as a drive by and thrilled he got a warm reception from the brothers. The adoptive parents are AMAZING!
    Happy for all. I 🙏 he finds the Dad.

    • @Dulles-jt6sr
      @Dulles-jt6sr 2 роки тому +1

      He finds the dad? Wow.. thank you for the update!

    • @j.ksmith7432
      @j.ksmith7432 11 місяців тому

      @@Dulles-jt6sr I think the previous comment was ‘I pray he finds his dad’ rather than saying that he had!

    • @laufitubalawanilotu3267
      @laufitubalawanilotu3267 2 місяці тому

      2024, my heart goes out to Jhon, pray you find your dad ❤😊 🙏

  • @voicije
    @voicije 5 років тому +32

    the adoptive parents are so lovable...im at 3 minutes watching that story...and i just love them...

  • @kuhtareruh11
    @kuhtareruh11 6 років тому +80

    What a couple of great adoptive parents, just love it.

    • @eaomonn1215
      @eaomonn1215 5 років тому +6

      lovely people so kind

    • @8656737s
      @8656737s 5 років тому +1

      Yes they are ❤

  • @franciet
    @franciet 4 роки тому +16

    What sweet, sweet people. It’s like they went back to the day they heard about the twins. So excited “

  • @kathleenoriordan3838
    @kathleenoriordan3838 3 роки тому +22

    A lovely lad john and his sister. And his mom and dad great people. ❤

  • @sahpem4425
    @sahpem4425 6 років тому +61

    He definitely made no mistake. His brother looks just like him. At first I thought the camera was on John and then I realized it was his brother when the camera focused on John and Michelle in the car. Great sleuthing, John!

  • @mandyellis876
    @mandyellis876 7 місяців тому +3

    I’ve just come across this in 2024 and want to highly commend John for his thoughtful and considered approach towards finding his roots. I’m so sorry for the loss of your birth mother before you could meet her, but so happy that you managed to find your brothers. Having Susi at your side throughout your journey to support you was nothing short of a gift.

  • @mrsseasea
    @mrsseasea 5 років тому +21

    my mom was adopted a WW2 situation let’s call it, after she passed away we searched, and found she had 7 brothers and 1 sister, but most all the family wanted nothing to do with us, due to our mom was not of that family. I’m so blessed that my mom was adopted by such wonderful parents.

  • @annyoung6560
    @annyoung6560 Рік тому +2

    It’s bittersweet knowing that one mother’s heartbreak become another mothers joy. I’m glad that some of these babies were shown love growing up but my heartbreaks for the ones who didn’t.

  • @VioletJoy
    @VioletJoy 5 років тому +11

    The "half brothers" look more like twins than John and his sister. Lol. All such lovely people. So sorry he didn't get to meet his mom.

  • @marilynvallance
    @marilynvallance 4 роки тому +14

    What an amazing couple. Two lucky adopties.

    • @jaggirl
      @jaggirl Рік тому +1

      Some adoptees don't have it soo lucky.
      They're wonderful parents.

  • @JacquiQ
    @JacquiQ Рік тому +5

    I am a closed adoptee. never will I get over the loss I have endured. never knowing any of my family. never having my mother or father or siblings or grandparents or cousins in my life, having to pretend I was someone I was not, having someone else's family stories, having someone else's family tree. The whole system of closed adoption was awful , cruel and actually criminal.

    • @Wyz369
      @Wyz369 6 місяців тому

      It most definitely is. All because of the Roman Catholic church & their hypocrisy.

    • @jfishmag
      @jfishmag 5 місяців тому +1

      JacquiQ, have you done a DNA test?

    • @jeanettejohnson8117
      @jeanettejohnson8117 5 місяців тому

      Do a DNA TEST

    • @jfishmag
      @jfishmag 5 місяців тому +1

      If you do one, I can help you interpret the results and possibly find relatives.

  • @kristinebailey6554
    @kristinebailey6554 9 місяців тому +5

    Fabulous people. Every one of them!

  • @caliandris
    @caliandris 6 років тому +54

    I don't think anyone needs a DNA test - the two brothers looked like twins, and I'm sure that must have informed the immediate acceptance of him as their brother. I do think DNA could be of use to locate a father though. How lucky he and his sister were with their adoptive parents, they both seem really lovely people. It's very sad that he didn't get to meet his birth mother, but maybe he can find his father, and learn about his mother through his brothers. It would be wonderful to see a follow up film, once you have been invited into someone's life like this, it's hard to let go again!

    • @joannross2853
      @joannross2853 5 років тому +1

      Having the same situation I felt like a weight was lifted after dna proof was established

    • @yvettekinchking8838
      @yvettekinchking8838 Рік тому

      Watching this it seems dna wasn't required in this story still happy ending

  • @angelasepi657
    @angelasepi657 2 роки тому +4

    What wonderful adoptive parents!

  • @solofamily19
    @solofamily19 Рік тому +3

    Thank you so much for sharing this, I'm on the other end of the Irish Adoption Agency who refuse to listen, see sense or understand an Irishwoman's Human Rights. I'm trapped with my adopted son who is stateless and the IAA are heartless as we're stuck here in West Africa as my son doesn't have a nationality, a citizenship so we can move. The IAA don't understand that the Hague Convention is there for a guideline, they don't understand that if you follow the law abroad, you cannot change it. I have done my best but they're driving my son & I to a very difficult situation. So glad you found your siblings!

    • @chloebradley-almond5911
      @chloebradley-almond5911 Рік тому

      The British and Irish trafficked 4 million children that is what forced adoption is

    • @Ucha-ou3nw
      @Ucha-ou3nw 11 місяців тому +1

      Try all DNA tests❤

  • @jackieann5494
    @jackieann5494 5 років тому +7

    What lovely , lovely people 😊 the adoptive parents are ...they ALL are .

  • @eaomonn1215
    @eaomonn1215 5 років тому +10

    what lovely people them kielys...xx

  • @2ndhandSue
    @2ndhandSue 5 років тому +8

    There is no mistaking that they are brothers! I think it's a terrible shame that some adoption laws are still so antiquated. To go through all that searching alone, for years, and then find your birth parent(s) died must be heartbreaking. If they'd been given the information and helped along the way, John may have been able to meet his birth mother before she died. It is now 2019 and I'm hoping that since this was filmed, Ireland has relaxed its adoption laws and now lets families search for each other. I think it is a basic human right for people to know where they came from, to know who gave birth to them.

    • @LindaHutchings
      @LindaHutchings 2 роки тому

      Totally agree...half adopted
      Mom kept and disparaged me
      Birthfather wasn't allowed to see/know me but was loving when I finally met him at 27

    • @jaggirl
      @jaggirl Рік тому

      Agree.
      But unfortunately some mothers pay a fee to block them from finding them. They can in my country anyway.
      Perhaps that rule has changed, cause it was about 20 yrs ago. When my ex went searching for his mother. He heard about the block. He didn't want to go any further in the search. Incase she had placed a block on her info. It would have been too crushing for him to find that out.

  • @zahria
    @zahria 6 років тому +33

    Oh my god! The brothers look like clones!
    So glad for them. God bless!

  • @lesleyallinson8738
    @lesleyallinson8738 5 років тому +3

    Unbelievable bless you John and your sister heartbreaking I am so happy you have a lady by your side take care God bless
    John you and your brother look so much

  • @8656737s
    @8656737s 6 років тому +6

    His birth parents are so sweet ❤

    • @ThePeachygal
      @ThePeachygal 5 років тому

      you mean adopted parents I guess? his birth mother is dead and he had no idea about birth father.

  • @sempreExx
    @sempreExx 6 років тому +7

    You and your brother looks like twins so I have no doubt it is the correct family.

  • @planetclaire820boulder8
    @planetclaire820boulder8 11 місяців тому

    Ive seen your story at least 3 times, its the first time i realized you were born on my 12th birthday! I am scots Irish

  • @tammym7940
    @tammym7940 5 років тому +3

    Great story!

  • @pattygrant9919
    @pattygrant9919 5 років тому +2

    These people are absolutely wonderful what recourse do adopted children have when adoptions go wrong

  • @Magicstar1337
    @Magicstar1337 6 років тому +3

    Awe these 2 beautiful souls God bless you all

  • @NancyCronk
    @NancyCronk 5 років тому +15

    What a beautiful family. No doubt they've probably done the DNA since this was put out in 2013. The two brothers look like twins so it seems like a sure thing!

    • @samryfisaha3932
      @samryfisaha3932 2 роки тому +1

      There is no need to take it, you can confirm it by their looks!👍

  • @MarleneQuaw
    @MarleneQuaw 11 місяців тому +1

    Awe was hoping he had found his dad too

  • @lesleyallinson8738
    @lesleyallinson8738 2 роки тому +1

    I am so so happy for you and your family

  • @mariebelle3493
    @mariebelle3493 9 місяців тому

    Beautiful ❤ makes me happy

  • @user-cy4vw1qj9m
    @user-cy4vw1qj9m 2 роки тому

    Lovely boys. Great parents

  • @samryfisaha3932
    @samryfisaha3932 2 роки тому +1

    They look twins!!😍

  • @villasoka884
    @villasoka884 Рік тому +1

    Any updates? I would love to hear, such a sad sad story.

  • @KarlaJTanner
    @KarlaJTanner 5 років тому +1

    I love these folks!

  • @kabbystevens5167
    @kabbystevens5167 Рік тому +1

    My gosh…the brothers have the same walk…they looked like mirror images of each other walking to the cemetery.

  • @joyb5525
    @joyb5525 2 роки тому +1

    John needs to do 23andme DNA to find father's link. Brave man. Glad it worked out.

  • @ladylaois8184
    @ladylaois8184 2 роки тому

    So interesting! Boy those brothers were very alike.

  • @Coupal1
    @Coupal1 5 років тому +4

    They should absolutely do dna tests to see if they can be matched with any of their birth father's relatives.

  • @timothygreen9885
    @timothygreen9885 6 років тому +18

    I feel his pain looking for my biological father only to find out he died years ago. It is a pain that won't heal.

  • @christineseyes261
    @christineseyes261 5 років тому +6

    Wow. Can we get an update. Did he find out anything about his Dad?

  • @haunanimartin459
    @haunanimartin459 6 років тому +26

    I hope the twins took DNA ancestry tests, to confirm their relationship with the 3 brothers, & to see if they could match other relatives, like the father's family. DNA testing is proving pivotal in finding family, especially when one hits a brick wall with documentation, or access to it by law.

  • @kathleengagliardi7669
    @kathleengagliardi7669 3 роки тому +3

    Pure torture for these good people. How dare the system deny him confirmation of the legitimacy of his birth Mom even after death. Update the damn neandrathal system. He could have possibly met her if they had cooperated with his reauest for his BC for years he wss denied. Pure torture

  • @jaggirl
    @jaggirl Рік тому +1

    Would have been nice if his biological mother told the other siblings. About the children she gave up, before she passed.

  • @turnerc13781
    @turnerc13781 6 років тому +2

    I am so sorry their mum has past...I would have liked to know if he had found his dad...

  • @tanuashealth9791
    @tanuashealth9791 6 років тому +4

    Then there is family on his Dad’s side. More brothers and sisters.

  • @robingagan6288
    @robingagan6288 5 років тому +4

    How come everyone else has rights and adoptees dont

  • @christinejackson3922
    @christinejackson3922 6 років тому +6

    Wow Irish adoption laws are dumb.My partner who was adopted in Australia was able to get all information on his adoption including his original birth certificate .

  • @jklmnoqr
    @jklmnoqr 9 місяців тому

    They even look like brothers.

  • @annedevine1021
    @annedevine1021 6 місяців тому

    I hope he can put this to rest ….. enjoy and live for what he has ….. speaking as an adoptive ….. far away fields aren’t always green

  • @margaretfry3043
    @margaretfry3043 6 років тому +28

    Irish laws are so old fashioned and I think intent on protecting the Catholic church and what it did to unmarried moms and the children born to them

    • @RLScheurman
      @RLScheurman 5 років тому +7

      i am one of these children, sold into american financial slavery, brokered on and broken, im 35, never hugged my birthmom, and i need help.

    • @hilaryc3203
      @hilaryc3203 5 років тому +7

      @@RLScheurman I've seen the most heartbreaking documentaries about those bloody irish nuns. Vultures; they made money off of selling babies and they've never been held criminally responsible. I hope you find a way to be more at peace; perhaps counselling because you ARE a victim. Try using a DNA kit. 2 months ago a long lost baby was brought home to our family after 6 decades. My cousin, and it's a joy for the entire family to have him with us. Please don't give up.

    • @RLScheurman
      @RLScheurman 5 років тому +7

      @@hilaryc3203 awaiting ancestry results now.

    • @ThePeachygal
      @ThePeachygal 5 років тому +2

      @@hilaryc3203 I saw the movie Judi Dench did. i cried so hard when she learned her son had died.

    • @hilaryc3203
      @hilaryc3203 5 років тому +3

      @@ThePeachygal I saw that as well and yes it was heartbreaking, but it made me angry as well. Pisses me off to no end that the nuns (and catholic church in general) were allowed to get away with it. That was human trafficking and the law did nothing.

  • @can1948
    @can1948 6 років тому +4

    I agree, that a DNA would confirm the relationships.

  • @aghmatadams3368
    @aghmatadams3368 3 роки тому

    Happy Happy for all you guys.
    I wondering if their biological parents ever thought the kids would in the future look them up.
    None the less. All is well that ends well.
    Stay Safe.
    😷😷😷😷

  • @vastyllita
    @vastyllita Рік тому

    Lovely❤

  • @removeall23
    @removeall23 2 роки тому

    Could be a inspiration for the "This is Us"" show

  • @joaniejeet7521
    @joaniejeet7521 6 років тому +4

    Cannot argue with DNA ....will definitely sort out your family ties....when the authorities have blocked your information.... all the best 🌷🌷

  • @hekv6533
    @hekv6533 2 роки тому

    The brothers look like twins 😘

  • @eddyflanagan153
    @eddyflanagan153 2 роки тому

    Brilliant

  • @Richard-zm6pt
    @Richard-zm6pt 5 років тому +4

    Now they can do DNA tests to find their biological father's family and learn more about their biological mother's family and confirm the half-relationships. Y-DNA would be an excellent choice for John.

  • @cathalgreene7091
    @cathalgreene7091 7 років тому +4

    I hope he had found his father

  • @francilmore9622
    @francilmore9622 2 роки тому

    Find out was there any other sister or brother

  • @kellyprice1024
    @kellyprice1024 3 роки тому

    OMG, the brothers look alike.

  • @sheilacoleman1400
    @sheilacoleman1400 2 роки тому +1

    The two brothers look alike

  • @louisasmiles
    @louisasmiles 5 років тому +2

    The adoption laws need to change over there. This is wrong.

  • @tompahdea9263
    @tompahdea9263 5 років тому +1

    Adoption in some respects continue practices that had reasons for from long ago but the way the world has come to change there is so much more that if the conditions exists hindrances could be for those that seek better knowledge be let to know what they seek instead of having to prod along for chances. And if in those relationships there are people that do not want to seek information then the paperwork should reflect that so that people are not disappointed. Maybe, someday.

  • @msmagpie5620
    @msmagpie5620 8 років тому +4

    how can I find out whether my son who I had adopted in the 70s is still alive.

    • @megnemo6403
      @megnemo6403 7 років тому +6

      Ms Magpie if it is a closed adoption you cant. you can go on all the genealogical sites and get the dna test done and hope he did one too. some states have adoption registrys

    • @msperrylame2769
      @msperrylame2769 7 років тому +9

      Oh darlin! Put your DNA on the registry. I wish you so much luck!

    • @molly-zx9cr
      @molly-zx9cr 6 років тому +4

      I’ve heard that there’s some forums online that connect adopted children with their birth parents

    • @melindatidey7
      @melindatidey7 5 років тому

      Depends what country you are on. But in Australia you can approach the Red Cross and they can try on yr behalf to get information that is listed for the adoption. Also if your child is looking for you. Best of luck.

  • @He805
    @He805 5 років тому +3

    Why does adaptive children always look for the birth mother and not for the father?

    • @hilaryc3203
      @hilaryc3203 5 років тому +5

      Because the father's name was rarely put on the birth certificate. Unless the mother is still living and can provide a name, he's a mystery.

    • @KrissiCreates
      @KrissiCreates 5 років тому +4

      Because many of us were born to young unwed Mothers.

    • @melindatidey7
      @melindatidey7 5 років тому +3

      Very rare the father was recorded on the birth certificate of unwed mother’s. Most young ladies gave birth in mother babie homes and it just wasn’t done. Unless the biological mother told or left a letter with adoption agency. Adopted kids just couldn’t trace their fathers. Now through dna times are changing.”long lost families UK” investigated a lot of adoptees threw mother babie homes and every now and then also found the father listed or were told by family who the dad was. Sad really.

  • @RLScheurman
    @RLScheurman 5 років тому +1

    i am one of these children, sold into american financial slavery, brokered on and broken, im 35, never hugged my birthmom, and i need help.

    • @RLScheurman
      @RLScheurman 5 років тому

      anyone who wants to help or can, please email me at rlscheurman@gmail.com.

    • @ThePeachygal
      @ThePeachygal 5 років тому

      @@RLScheurman do a DNA test. myheritage accepts downloaded DNA and they are more popular for Europe than ancestry.com.

  • @standdown4929
    @standdown4929 2 роки тому +1

    Just do DNA testing and skip the paper monster.

  • @thelmahall2593
    @thelmahall2593 5 років тому +1

    Why doesn't he suggest a blood test or Dan testing

  • @jenniferwittridge4163
    @jenniferwittridge4163 2 роки тому

    Look like brothers

  • @angelot1549
    @angelot1549 3 роки тому +2

    I live in Scotland just across the water and this BS is still going on young women forced into giving their children up cos of religion its so wrong and bk ward

    • @theelizabethan1
      @theelizabethan1 3 роки тому

      This is assuming a few things:. that the mother wishes to, and is able, to raise the child. Or that the grandparents of the child is willing to take the child. The family(s) may want the whole thing kept strictly confidential.......In such cases these agencies serve a critical purpose.

  • @kimthurman4151
    @kimthurman4151 5 років тому +1

    Maybe they can do DNA testing on them and the brothers to see if they truly are. His parents will always be but that don't always erase the bond of the biological family.

  • @amym.694
    @amym.694 3 роки тому

    Didn’t they do a DNA test?

  • @debbiee6535
    @debbiee6535 3 роки тому

    Did she have any more children and are they alive don't stop yet

  • @LittleChena
    @LittleChena 6 років тому +12

    John, your mom is the woman who raised you and loves you with all her heart. She was always there for you. I find it a bit disrespectful to call your birth mother mom while your mom is sitting with you at the table.

    • @clairecolvin4077
      @clairecolvin4077 6 років тому +9

      You need to stop worrying about the lives of others. Perhaps if you work on the human being YOU, actually are, and forget about offering your opinions about others, you may find your God, and be at peace in your own heart space.

    • @LittleChena
      @LittleChena 6 років тому +2

      Claire Colvin Dito, I didn’t ask about your opinion. I’m very much in peace with my life. :) If I think he is rude I will write something. It’s YT and not your church. Amen!

    • @mzmarkham09
      @mzmarkham09 6 років тому +12

      His adoptive mother even refers to his birth mother as his mom....

    • @lorimav
      @lorimav 6 років тому +6

      Yes, they are smiling and pretend that it is not offensive to them for John's sake but it must hurt, nevertheless. I wish he had called her "birth mom" or something like that.

    • @MegaActionTime
      @MegaActionTime 6 років тому +11

      4Veritas : the adoptive parents didn’t strike me as those kind petty people, all I saw were a very loving family who were joyous that their son found the information he was looking for and in the process, some extended family.

  • @marcusnl66
    @marcusnl66 5 років тому

    It’s not always turning out positive to know who your real parents are. Sometimes it’s better to keep dreaming about them and create a imaginary image of them. Reality can be tougher than your own fantasy.

  • @joannross2853
    @joannross2853 5 років тому +2

    Just do a dna test with the brother and move on

  • @shonatyson5934
    @shonatyson5934 7 місяців тому

    may you find peace