Dating Disaster: 3 Common Major Mistakes Widow/Widowers Make When Dating After Loss
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- Опубліковано 11 вер 2024
- Dating after the loss of a spouse can be a challenging journey, filled with both hope and hesitation. In this video, we explore the 3 common major mistakes widows and widowers often make when reentering the dating scene. These can cause irreversible damage to the relationships they have with their children and others. Knowing why you want to date again and when to date again is very important in starting a new healthy relationship. Whether you're a widow or widower yourself or know someone who is, are dating one, understanding these pitfalls can be crucial for a healthier and more fulfilling romantic life and family
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It wasn’t death but divorce, but when mom started dating the man who became her second husband I was included on their dates (not all but…). I actually told my mom at one point that I thought he’d make a good dad. That was over fifty years ago and I still call him dad. Always treat kids like they have brains and feelings.
I learned my lesson the hard way of trying to move on quick after my boyfriend died. Glad you share this to help others. People listen to what she is saying!
My WORD this was so good!!! Thankfully I've never been through this on any side, but this is outstanding advice. I'm going to be showing this to my wife.
Thanks 😊
Sage advice and a great video! I hope those that need to see this, see this video! Absolutely brilliant!
Great video!
Sometimes the only choice we have with an unfortunate event is how much we're going to let it screw up the rest of our life. I wish the type of counseling that your friend had was standard practice everywhere.
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It took me years to date again, afted my fiancée passed. 😢😢😢. I still love him, and miss him terribly. It's time for me to move on, but always love him.
Oooh, *nice* transition to the part about online consultations. Putting it toward the end is good, so overall the video says "If it's going like this, like this, and like this, you're doing okay. But if not..."
What I find interesting is the potential age expectations related to dating after the loss of a partner. Someone in their 60’s may not get the same pressure to date again compared to someone in their 30’s. My mother in law lost her husband in 2020 and I’m confident that she will never date again. However, my maternal grandmother found someone in her early 60’s, a couple years after the loss of her husband. For my grandmother, meeting someone new helped with the process of moving on. On the other end, I feel my mother in law feels a commitment and potentially even a cultural expectation as those around her never remarried
Such great advice! Your friends parents are pretty damn amazing.
Unrelated to topic but I love how your background is a wallhanging of a bookshelf
Has anyone else experienced the "fresh meat, back on the menu" treatment by some people of the opposite sex. In my case men who didn't want to take" fuck off" as an answer when asked for dates and casual sex. I did start out nicely saying no thank you. After the third time I lost my patience. Has anyone else had these terrible experiences? I know of a young woman who was actually approached and informed that she would marry this man who was interested in her days after her fiance died. She told him to fuck off , eat shit and die.
It sounds like several other women I know have also experienced similar things. Is it just a US issue or Wisconsin issue? What's up with men? Do widowers also experience this total lack of respect from women?
Don’t let the “wedding day” or the day the new partner “moves in” be the day the kids meet him/her. Give your kids time to form their own relationship with them. And never, ever, make your kids call your new partner mom or dad. They aren’t. If your kids are old enough to remember their mom or dad, then let it be their decision. Maybe they will, maybe they won’t. Either is fine, if it’s the kids choice. Forcing them to say mom/dad will immediately give them the feeling their deceased parent is replaced.
Widow here . married to the love of my life for 15 years. I still 3 years out after his passing have no desire to date or even think about it. I also have autisim and change and me dont have the best relationship . I know me well enough to KNOW i could not and would not be able to give myself mentally and emotionally to anyone else nor do i want to theirfor making it wrong to try any attmpt at ANY relationship for the person id be trying to be in a relationship with and wrong for me.....why put myself or anyone else through this for any reason? *know thyself*❤
I was in my early 20s when my mom died and my dad moved on way too fast in my opinion but again I was technically an adult.
Another great video Sam. 😊 I love the broach by the way ❤ from Brisbane Australia 🇦🇺
i'm no expert, all i think is that this is extremely subjective and folks need to figure out how to communicate about it. being kind is probably the best general guide i guess? judgemental remarks are never kind, unsolicited one-off "advice" is just as bad, ignoring anyone's feelings is also wrong. it's a little easier to identify what are the unkind things to do and to avoid them; but it could get harder to distinguish if the grieving period is intense or extended (which does not automatically mean it's "wrong/bad").
people also have different limits to their kindness/patience... and they need to know their own limits so they can avoid direct conflicts which may worsen things. self-awareness is just as important as communication... if one is not aware of their own emotional state, how can they be sure that they can help someone else? might be risking a catastrophic outcome if things go south.
ultimately, there are just too many variables to give good general guidance on this topic. for all i know, some folks may actually need tough love? i just wouldn't know for sure since i don't know who they are; and it's just a huge risk to commit with a tough love approach when it can really blow up.
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