Decluttering My Life // EP 31 - Pretty Lonesome
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- Опубліковано 13 тра 2024
- In this of Pretty Lonesome, Madeline delves into a series of personal anecdotes describing her struggles with keeping tidy, the excitement of upgrading to a new Mercedes, the apprehension of facing a fear of the dentist, and much more. Madeline reflecs on the mental toll of cluttered living spaces, the decision to rent a house near family, and the journey of overcoming dental anxiety, including contemplations about potential dental procedures. She describes how pilates in the UK are much different than in Los Angeles, and why she might be living with her mother forever.
Best advice from someone who has similar issues. Start small. Make ur bed every morning . Even just pull the sheets up as soon as u get up fluff the pillows. Then i started saying in my head when holding something , put away not down . And it helps me a little . Just start small u got it
The honesty in this podcast episode is so refreshing! 🙌 It's a great reminder that changing our external environment doesn't automatically fix internal habits, but acknowledging and working on them can lead to real growth and change.
so much this
What if I told you that your stuff isn't messy, rotten and chaotic due to your mental state/health. Your disturbed brain is because off the messy rotten chaos. The psychological literature is quite extensive on this. It seems you have a million issues but can't see the woods for the trees. Bundled together these issues may seem like a insurmountable dragon, but this is not a macro issue. Micro issues require micro solutions, not macro level changes (new house, etc.). If you find yourself perpetually disturbed, like you are, then you'll have to reframe your mind's eye about the things you don't like doing. You are a head dominant person, prone to over intellectualizing everything and anything. Stop thinking. Instead, just execute. Ignore your brain and just focus on doing one thing. If your entire house is a mess, stop thinking about the mess, pick one thing. Maybe this a sock. Clean up the sock. That is a sufficient amount of change to begin turning around these detrimentally bad habits.
If you can't even maintain a small living space, than you definitely won't maintain a mansion. This is a severe intellectual dishonesty. Utopian thinking. Because how you do one thing, is how you do anything.
Cleaning and maintenance is a meditation for the mind. It requires no thinking. And if you get the ball rolling, the first 20% of the journey will be hard, the remaining 80% will follow naturally. And after maybe say 160 days, you'll achieve a flow state.
Stop racing. Slow down. The universe is obviously expecting you to organize yourself on the micro level in preparation for your next big endeavors. I suggest you stop, take a breath, and heed it's calling.
I ageee with this to an extent but telling someone that is diagnosed with ADHD to “slow their mind down” is like telling a person with Tourette’s to stop ticking. Or anyone with a condition to stop it. Maybe Tourette’s different as u can’t train that to stop but for some this is the case that it’s so severe it can’t be helped. It is something that is a brain disorder . not to say all with adhd have this issue, everyone is different and I agree cleaning isn’t a mentally tiring task for some but for others it’s the visuals in itself that can make someone feel like it’s to much and it takes deep routed support and CBT to get to the point of just looking at it and doing something about it for some people not just cleaning but daily adult tasks. Not myself but I understand deeply the difference in how some people’s brains are wired and sometimes IT IS due to mental health conditions.so without using big intellectual words that is the point I’d argue against yours. The part I don’t get is I love Madeline
But she goes on about germs and said it’s fine if it’s just her own but there’s a clear state of mold is mold and clearly unhygienic so if your so OCD with germs how r u not paranoid of ur food growing into mould
@@cooldude7945 All though there are indeed these odd-some cases of extreme disorders as you describe, they are the fringe minorities of the extreme outliers. Madeline is certainly not one of them. I'm not exactly saying: 'just' slow the mind down. In fact, people with ADHD attempting to meditate must speed up their thoughts, race their minds and overload the brain. The brain will tire out and that's when meditation can be achieved.
Madeline is dealing with ordinary life struggles. Things that can be experienced and learned that will further her maturing.
Although she might think, believe, herself to be A-okay with the rot and the mold and the clutter, I promise: she's not, although she might not be fully aware of it. She's obviously disturbed & perturbed, and all these messy things are major disruptive energies and signals that are antagonizing the brain.
She needs to get her figurative and literal house in order. Luckily this requires no thinking. It's a bit like waking up early. You can over think this as much as you want, but in reality, the key to waking up early is simply: set an alarm, and when it goes off you just get up. Initially it will be hard, but do this enough times and it will become normal.
Right now she's doing what everybody is doing: over intellectualizing and externalizing problems. Take some extreme ownership. Recognize that the brain =/= you. The brain is a muscle that needs to be trained and maintained. It is done by ignoring the voices and commanding the body. Corner the brain, and get back in control, before re-extending a hand to invite it back to the negotiations table.
Extreme ownership. Vision. Plan. Execute mindlessly.
Girl 🤍 I just opened the video and that was the moment when my day became more enjoyable. I love you!
Hate to break it to you bestie, but renting a bigger house is not gonna fix your problem, just like getting a new car didn't
Right,, it’s a bit difficult at first, but fixing the small things like picking up and throwing away trash immediately is what gets you to a place of valuing your cleanliness. It’s more of a lesson on self respect if anything. Bc the more you respect yourself, the better care you take of yourself and your things.
@@myownstyle5571 I agree, I think if anything you're probably gonna get more and more upset with yourself once all the circumstances are right but you're still not able to get your shit together
@@myownstyle5571I don’t wholly agree with this. When you have ADHD (I don’t have it but know people who do) stuff like this can be really hard. If you don’t have it then it can be frustrating and challenging to understand, because it seems “so simple” or easy to fix with habit. I’ve lived with someone who lives in clutter and disorganisation and they just can’t change, it’s just the way their brain works (they have adhd)
@@SassyBear7yes but if you believe in medication and therapy, the ADHD symptom executive dysfunction can be maintained and decrease. Also, key word here is maintained not completely cured though.
@@SassyBear7Everyone born after 2004 has ADHD apparently
I NEVER THOUGHT ANYONE THOUGHT LIKE ME STOP I LOVE YOU
i think the bigger house will be great for you wanting to feel less cramped! but i don’t think putting the mess in one room and closing the door will help your struggle with mess and keeping things clean, i feel like it’ll enable it more. start small! build habits like i stated picking up after myself immediately bcs ik i how i can let mess pile up. ilyy wishing u luck!
This is my faves episode so far love it
Love decluttering… so satisfying and enjoying this podcast-vlog! ❤❤
Well like in Madeline’s case, she’s lucky she’s rich enough to start over & get new routines going, renting a house where families lived and get good coffees every day😓🥲
Nice job girl. Have an amazing wonderful day ❤️ ♥️
every podcast is so relatable
Thought you didn't post a vid this week but I'm glad you did 😘❣️
gonna save this to watch later but just wanted to pop in to say hi
Love you cutie!! Most relatable girlie fr xx
She is so gorgeous
This is my favorite listening audio for learning.
always look forward to you dropping a new vid
I think you may be giving too much power to inanimate objects and not focusing enough on what’s going on inside
i think you're just finding excuses to make sense of your desire to go to America because it didn't initially adhere to your brand (not a hate comment, just my observation)
When tbh it’s fine to change your mind about something. I get that maybe she’s disappointed because she didn’t want to be like everyone who moves to LA but again what about it? She’s young and famous or not we all do shit that we didn’t think we were gonna do and maybe she’ll regret it maybe it will be the best decision of her lives. Who cares? If you can financially afford to change and try new things then just do it! So what she moves to America like everyone? Life is about trying and making mistakes I don’t see an issue with it
Her life* my bad
(Im not attacking you I’m just agreeing with you btw, I too think that she’s just trying to convince herself that it’s fine when like? Just do it who cares it’s your life)
@@federica2216 yeah i agree too!
i hope you stay living in the uk and not actually moving to la…
Came here wanting to get some tips to declutter my life, and just stayed for the vibes ❤
Old habits die screaming… ♪
I think you may simply be an Artist Madeline
Love your necklace & bracelets 🥰❤
Wow u posted 🥳🥳
4:25 yes, it is insane you'd think that changing one variable would fix the bug in the system.
The room holding energy thing is so real
loveeee you
i love when you just talk
madeline babe u make enough money to live in an apartment and just have a maid come in every 2 weeks
so real for that.
Ur skin looks amazing
Whenever you feel like procrastinating just get up and do it immediately but start small so you don’t overwhelm yourself. For example the cups in your car. Changing your environment won’t change anything unless your habits change trust me.
And eventually it will just lead to more bad self talk because you thought the environment was the problem when the root of it was the habits.
I just bought a 20-yearold ride BMW 325i and it is fuking awesome, love to see you in a Mercedes since I was supposed to get one but then I could not afford....
14:40-15:20 is so FUCKING accurate for me🤣🤣🤣
Nice channel for English learning :)
Just finished the video, now what should I do do do do do do do do do do do do?
If you had to decide between an ipad or macbook which would you get? Im not in school lol just for casual use.
I’d have to say iPad because then you can get the key board if you want and it’s the best of both worlds Hannah Montana.
Im still waiting for the zoo vlog !!why tease videos if you’re not going to post them 😢
Because she has a life and she’s busy
@@JasmineUtd lol fair enough
“What the fuck do djs actually do?”
yayyy so excited for this
I missed youuuu
Dear Nick, Thanks For That Question: Taylor Swift : Madeline” Beauty Comes from Within Ditto!”
niceee
sis you should do a tattoo tour
OMGG WHATTT IM SO EARLYYY😭😭
All your responses , Are Healthy This end of the tube: Madeline
Hi from new zealand ❤
15:08 it’s like ur in my brain
dude i just got a root canal and the dentist fucked it up and it got infected , i had to go back and forth to get it looked at and basically it was the most painful MONTH of my life , and apparently its extremely common to get a fucked up root canal........
girl just pay for a cleaner
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Maddy … you rock ❤️❌🤣
Hi from sydney
“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you." Matthew 7:7
Have a good day !
Madeleine Im your biggest Japanese fan love you so much🫶🏼❤️❤️
You’re late Madeline
I know why don’t we do the full primal therapy , Meltdown with Temper Tantrum Stream : Madeline😂❤
My aderol gives me fucking lifeeeee, trust girl
And Madeline” You Know When you meet those people so rarely in life and Realise that You Were Just Made For You Tube, Because I am Not( I’ll walk dog now),because I can see you are because I am not, Well then for me You’re Art is Obviously You tube Leader : Maddy❤
my brother bought me a new mattress and three months later i managed to set it on fire and still sleep on it
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This is like teenager's working their first McDonald's job or something and doing the absolute worst at it because their ego says their "too good" for this type of work, that they are meant for "more important" jobs, and that they are in school to become superior to these "insufferable managers". While in reality, they can't even work a McDonald's job and do it proper. "How you do one thing is how you do anything." If you can't manage a small space, you definitely can't manage a bigger space. If you can't manage a cheap car, you can't manage an expensive car.
you would have more respect for your expensive car rather than with your shitty cheap car that you don’t care much about, so this comparison is complete bs
You could just buy a reformer
You could easily move those bags and make it look better. Be honest that this is not on purpose
you should get jess on for once 😉
pay someone to clean Im exactly like ADHD , messy and live with my family i think I'm able to clean and organize only if i have few days off with nothing to do
You so cute ❤😊
Madeline your my only date I authorized to be late
Is she a Chelsea or Tottenham fan?
The needle is the worst part of dentistry. I much prefer doing without. If there is very much pain then they are doing something wrong. And root canal therapy is only advisable when the nerve has already died and gone and then there is no pain at all
i’m not sure how qualified you are and i don’t wanna come in and put you down, but i just have learned differently. i learned that you do a root canal if decay goes into the nerve and infects the nerve. commonly abscesses occur on the apex of the root when they are infected and they will hurt upon any ounce of pressure placed on the tooth (hence why i suspect madeline doesn’t need a root canal 33:30). the root canal can save the root of the tooth (by removing the nerve) and allow for a ceramic crown to be placed in the remaining tooth structure as opposed to having to extract the whole tooth and place an implant. that is just what i learned, but im not sure if you learned differently. i also thought that local aesthetics are necessary for any cavities that are near the nerve while still in dentin because they can still cause pain.
i also might be wrong because i am not a dentist yet, i just have a dentist in the family and just have worked at the office for some time now. hope i didnt cause any hard feelings!
@@miraclebox7798 yeah, it's all good, you're quite right in your learning 🙂 And so am I 🙂 The discrepancy is just in the time factor and disease process and what's considered infection. There are more innovative ways of dealing with the early stages of the nerve being exposed and or therefore arguably infected, but those more innovative methods aren't always the norm. Some dentists may even suggest root canal therapy even before an infection is established and the root hasn't necessarily been exposed. And that's the main thing I'm speaking up against. Although I'm also suggesting that the very early stages of exposure of the nerve and or infection are better left... Because in some cases the tooth can be fine for many years, especially if treated with those more innovative methods, and therefore for the health and structure of the tooth and the well-being of the patient, root canal therapy is better delayed indefinitely. Beyond the very early stage, once a nerve is actively infected further, it's generally a very short amount of time before it's all gone. A matter of days kind of thing. When there's an abscess formed, that means the nerve has all gone already unless it's a molar tooth with multiple root branches, then some may stay in tact a bit longer, but not usually and not much longer generally. I think it's better to let nature take its course. Because it's less bad than unnecessary root canal therapy on a live tooth. So yeah, I probably haven't written this very well but I've got the main ideas in it. And yes, root canal therapy is preferable to extraction. It just shouldn't be the first line of treatment either, because both are harmful and destructive and traumatizing and have adverse long term health implications. And yes, crowns are preferable to implants for sure. A crown is required only if too much of the enamel and dentin has decayed or been drilled away of course and there is basically no tooth structure left. Otherwise a normal filling is sufficient and obviously better.
@@josephcullen2512 oh wow! thanks for the info!
I miss you so much my best friend are you remember me?
Hey how are you?
Ok I still do this with the dentist. Put me out or I can’t do it
Chat i love u plz stop losing touch with reality
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I think you need to be nicer to yourself-love you
me me me and my little life.
не хочешь ли ты практиковаться на русском со мной? в свою очередь, я попрактикую свой английский с тобой
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I can “ Kind of ? Do that Aswell , Maddy
Why Not Just Embrace You’re Genetics Bitch,” And Relax One Forever 😂❤
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What the fuck just happened
Can you please bless me with an iphone 15 pro max please
Oh I see you’re Reagality/ : Katie: SS
Change that entourage
are you the "WTF do DJs actually do" girl?
try yoga, ashtanga maybe.. its gonna do godswork for your body.
She complains so much about rich people’s problems it’s Acc draining to listen too
I think she's just talking about her reflections on her(!) life and we can choose if we want to listen❤ hope this helps
Did you know that hoarding is a type of OCD?
take some pressure off of yourself girl
Rename your show Pretty Pathetic
Bruh
Girl ilysm
This is why I stay single
Downsize. Van life will help