I was saying to myself the whole time she was talking, that what would a woman who values herself be doing with an immature man that plays pathetic mind games.
@@Gangst3r4ever Right??? Watching these videos really turns me off of ever wanting to be with a man ever again...and kinda ticks me off that you HAVE TO play games with men to 'keep them interested.' Seriously. Fuck that.
I don't need this because I am happily married but I ran across it and was interested in what she had to say. I am sorry but this is nothing but games. She's right about having your own life and not waiting around for him and yes if he pulls away do not chase him to try to get him back. But if a guy is playing games like commenting on other girls FB or more likely Instagram accounts, then forget NOT saying anything get away from him, if he's playing games now he will always play games. What you need to recognize is is he a high-value guy? If a man wants a relationship he will pursue you and not play games. In general, men say what they mean and you don't need to go around trying to figure out if he means something else. If he continues to say he's going to call and doesn't then get rid of his butt. No don't wait around for his call and yes have your own life until you're engaged and married but if some idiot is testing you by not calling just to see how you are going to react, he's not worth it. Move on. The most attractive thing to a decent man is a woman who knows who she is, what she wants and does not play games herself. If you're stalking him, YOU have the problem not him, if you go nuts and chase him when he pulls away, you are the one with the problem and you are not ready to be in a relationship. Wait for the right guy to come along who will treat you with respect, not play games, and shows you with his actions that he wants to be in your life. If he's doing any of the things she's talking about to "test" you run away from him as fast as you can, no guy is worth that.
Lauren Bristow. Wow. What an inciteful and true comment. You know your stuff when it comes to men, and I guess that's why you are happily married yourself (smile). OK....so when are you gonna start your OWN channel. You should. (btw, I loved the "get rid of his butt" part.) Also, I am 49, but ALL young girls need to read your comment. It holds lots of value in what you said. Blessings and thanks. : )
When he doesn't call me. I go to my yoga classes meditate, prepare a nice healthy smoothie, take a nice shower put some spa treatment in my body, face, and hair. And then go shopping, Oops I forgot he suppose to call me. 😁😁😁
The best advice.. Be honest to the person you love don't play games and if they don't accept you the way you are they never really loved you. Stop telling people to play games to get a man this is why there is toxic masculinity and why women accept cheating men. If you truly valued yourself you would confront the man then tell him your not putting up with that behaviour end of story.
but the problem is that you're asking a woman to handle couple issues rationally being emotionaly the natural respond. but yeah, that'd help a ton and almost all the misunderstandings will go
As a highly sensitive person, it is extremely tough to appear as though you are unfazed. Even my long-term boyfriend, who is normally sweet and attentive, feels comfortable with putting me on the back burner sometimes because guys can instantly sniff out if you're a people pleaser. I feel resentful sometimes because I don't want to change my personality just to fit in a world that takes people like me for granted all the time...
I’m the same. I decided to pull out of the dating mess and stay single. It’s better not having to learn all these stupid games just to keep a man. If they need me to play games and become a master manipulator, sorry, I’m not having it. Then it always makes me laugh when I hear the same men complaining about there not being any good women left.🙄 Well, that’s because you toss us aside and go after the bad bitches. I’m good on my own and can have friends and family who love me just the way I am.
yeah it’s sad I’m such a kind, nurturing, and generous person and I’ve gotten taken advantage of countless times. I’ve recently become more cold towards people and it’s funny how they all flock to me and are almost scared of me in a way. crazy and pretty sad.
@@Shortiie I'm a man and can tell you the women in this video is giving terrible advice. The way to attract a man that loves you is: 1 avoid emotionally distant guys and men that ignore you. Most women don't seem to understand that when a man is acting this way he is giving you the cold shoulder which is the greatest form of disrespect from a male perspective. 2 don't give him the cold shoulder. You might think it's sexy when a guy acts this way but men are repelled by this behavior and will think you are a cold hearted ice queen that hates him. 3 open up to him about how you feel and what you want. And don't worry about looking needy. Men have evolved to be protectors and providers and thus are actually attracted to neediness. The only men that are repelled by neediness are players. 4 men don't care about how much money you make or if you can cook or clean (unless they are players). The reason is because men have evolved to be providers and thus usually don't appreciate it when women provide for them. 5 men don't care about looks. The reason you think they do is because you see men date women who are behaving badly (in your opinion) and you think they are getting away with this bad behavior because of their looks. The truth is men have different needs then women do and like to be treated differently than women do. These women aren't behaving as badly as you think. Most of their behavior is attractive to men. The biggest reason men like these women is because they let men be men and take care of them. Another reason is they usually don't repress their emotions. But I kinda covered that already. I hope this helps.
I don't know why am here cause I'm a male. I was kinda curious to know what makes women low valued. The information you shared could be helpful in the future. Relationships seems really scary at times tho. The beginning could be the sweetest moments for a while and the end sometimes turns bitter. But I guest thats just how life is. To all women out there I hope y'all find the right one who will treat you with love, respect ect. y'all deserve. God bless
If his comment on how beautiful another girl is appeared in my feed, my first reaction would be "how dare you disrespect me!" I honestly lose interest for guys with such yucky, sleezy behavior because I perceive that as a low value male behavior and I walk away. Not to make a point, I'm honestly disgusted. Are my standards too high??
@@lylathalakkal I watched a lot of videos from this channel and though I understand it teaches women to have some basic self-respect, it also teaches them how to play with low value men. Most of male behaviors described here are behaviors of low value men.
@@stardustastrology6618 Yeah. There must be so many people who do the exact same thing this woman says thinking that this the right way of having a relationship.
This is one of the reasons I left my ex he was constantly provoking my jealousy and insecurities. He filled his Facebook friends with hot women many of whom he didn’t know and would never meet and had no chance with anyways he just liked looking at tits and ass. He then would put hearts, wow faces, and tell everyone except me how gorgeous and sexy they were. I don’t believe he did it thinking I would notice, or to intentionally hurt me because he HATED drama with me. He did it to impress THEM to get attention from other women and had no idea I would notice! Because the females who were mutual friends of ours that he put the hearts and wow faces on were people he either asked out and they ignored him or those who friend zoned him. He loved chasing women who didn’t want him and had quickly lost desire for me, the woman who loved him and was taking care of him. I think it’s so disrespectful to admire other women right in front of the one you’re with and to purposely provoke jealous reactions. He did this in my face Too always talking about other girls he had crushes on. I couldn’t take it anymore and dumped him.
I have watched a lot of your videos and I have been following your advice. I think what I have been learning from you is making me into a better person. I don’t feel anxious or afraid because my way of thinking about relationships and myself is improving. Thank you!
This is not game playing It's common sense. This is how you should be as a women. How to wear your crown. And greta is here to give advice Take it or leave it. Tks greta
I agree with most of what she says. But the most essential part of being a princess/woman of God/woman of self-respect is demanding respect and giving it and leaving when it isn't there. In most of these situations, it's time to tap out. Women are nurturers, that's beautiful about us. But the devil likes to pervert that and make women we need to mother and fix men through tactics like this. These scenarios are too much. A good man won't be commenting on other girl's pics when you're exclusive, etc. Hold out. There are great men out there. Who won't make you feel crazy (which is often times a form of manipulation) for the wrong they committed. Yes, don't overreact. But move on because they're not pulling their weight.
Definition of low value men=a man who invests his time liking other women Facebook accounts for the only purpose of making his partner jealous. My suggestion is to not to waste time with that guy.
Omg!!!! I wish i knew this sooner. I’m 30. And sometimes i show him my low values. When a man forgot to call me, the next day I complained and said “i was waiting for you thw whole night, But you didn’t call me” now i feel stupid. Thank you for this video. 😍
Don’t feel stupid. It’s your human nature to feel and act out that way. Men are allowed to do it so women should be too. There is always a double standard though. Smh.
I completely agree, a guy yesterday got mad at me for repeatedly calling him out on his poor communication skills (LDR and he only text for 3 months, not ONCE did he pick up the phone to talk). I felt sad for a day then I said forget you, I deserve proper communication, and walked away.
Valuing oneself, being confident, and refusing to allow another person's behaviors, or feelings to determine your own is beneficial to you, as is making you a main focus in general as opposed to someone else. And so, the issue really is not what someone else thinks; especially a guy who would purposely try to make you jealous. That would be known as triangulation, it is not normal, but is a common form of manipulation used by narcissists and other toxic persons; therefore, "turning him off" could be the best thing that comes out of the situation because it facilitates your escape; seize the opportunity! Run!
Lisa Wascher Exactly 🙄. No, I’m not going to stalk a man’s social media obsessively, but I would never ever want to date someone that would exhibit that behavior...no thanks!
@@RM-fo9qh I never stalk a man's social media to avoid the emotional freefall it might put me in if I saw something I didn't like. I make my decision and be done with him!
Lisa Wascher I agree. I mean imagine dating a guy and “seeing him comment hearts” on a girl’s picture and all the other examples...😂 in my world that certainly isn’t something that should be seen as normal and acceptable behavior from a man you’re dating 😅
I used to be like this before. I had trust issues with him and he didn't make me feel good about myself. It's me who low value and desperate also him who was attention seeker, narc and immature. I'm done. I'm healing until I met a guy who's very mature, sweet and awkward. He helped me to get out of this devil's circle. But we ended up at January 2019. I'm not sad. He's a blessing to my life. He taught me something important in my life. He's with someone else and I'm still fighting to find my own journey, travelling, preparing for my graduation and doing a part time job. All I want is brighter future and not wasting my life (again). Thanks 💛
Thank goodness i found your channel...i am in a relationship with a wonderful man but lately I found that he may be losing interest and i evaluated my actions and found that I am acting like a low value woman, I changed back to the way I am and our rhythm returned to the way it used to be. No one is more powerful than the other and we are both busy with oir own lives
I am extremely picky when it comes to taking advice from women about men.. but this lady is real, and absolutely magnificent! she retained my attention, was funny, and didn't hesitate to be herself. I also liked that she spoke slow enough to be clear and understood 👌💯💯 kudos in all categories!!!🏆🍿
Her videos are for those women who act desperate all the time. The advice she gives doesn't add anything for me personally since i already behave in a high value way
I can't put up with a man like this. I had a bf like this went I was 22. We broke up after 9 months and I never put myself in that position again. These are qualities of LOW QUALITY MEN!
I've seen that happen to girl. She cooked for him and spoiled him so much he started treating her like a servant and was nasty to her, called her fat. She was over his house every day, cooking lunch for him, she even paid for his stuff he didn't have a job. She threw him a surprise birthday party and invited all his friends, it was planned perfectly, baked him a cake, put up streamers and docorated the home. He ended up taking her for granted and their relationship got worse and worse she ended up dumping him for another guy who was chasing her at that time. Very very risky stuff, she ended up gaining alot of weight during dating him. She was a very sweet girl too😐. I hope she finds this channel like I did💙
If he doest call me when he said he would, I call him out the next time he actually calls and then I walk away, bc I find it completely disrespectful and I don't wanna tolerate this. In my opinion faking that you were busy it's worst, instead telling him your standards is more hign value, but ofc you have to stick to your standards.
The funny part is when a guy looses interest in a long amazing relationship and we push him away by falling all over him ,but they are willing to jump into a new relationship with a girl that’s falling all over him and they don’t mind,because she’s new and fresh smh!Men are fucked up period!
Not every guy, but many like "new" after a while. Stay away from that because he'll wind up having an affair once he's married, The problem is him not you unless you let him continue to take advantage of you. Move on. Let her have him
I'm going through that right now. He was all mushy for me for about 1 year and a half, then suddenly he started to say that he was loosing interest in the relationship, then he stop talking to me as much as 6 times a day to a one or 2, so I saw these signs,I got afraid of loosing him and acted needy, jealous. I checked on his phone and I saw a girl named spicy Italian and freaked out. I don't think the relationship is worth saving anymore. I can't trust and he is treating me with negligence and has been ignoring me. For his behavior I believe he is talking to someone now. We have long distance relationship but we never spent more than 3 weeks to see each other. He texted me yesterday saying that he doesn't know when he is coming to see me. I responded ok, have fun with your free time. I thought that was related only to this week, but it's not. He still calling me 2x a day, but is not like was. I think he is just trying to gain time with someone else and then dump me. I already told him that I am not taking any crap. Today I decided not to wait anymore. For one year he was asking me to move in with him and when I accepted last week he didn't seem to like, so I guess this is it.
When men do this, doesn't that make us low value by playing into their behavior? When he doesn't call, why can't we calmly confront him and just ask why he didn't call? Pretending that we didn't notice is kind of like playing games no? It turns the table, it's playing the game. If it bothers us, we can't we be honest and express it? I do think there's a difference between being desperate, being relational, and being arrogant.
Fact 💯 I was thinking the same way, if He ever repeats his actions twice by not calling me as promised, I will never take him serious, will rather text him about it and never call him . It’s okay if he apologize and always keep to his promise
It’s a sad fact of life that a woman must play into the man’s games because otherwise they lose interest. I quit dating and getting into any more long term relationships altogether because I am sick and tired of being taken for granted and eventually dumped just for being a good person and being honest. If you don’t want to play the stupid games you have to stay single for life because otherwise you will end up hurt and bitter like I am. I learned the game and will only play games now with men who come across me because I KNOW in a few years the guy would start with the games and take me for granted. Use men the way they use you, ladies!
When a man does not do what he says. It means he has no integrity and cannot be trusted or it could be immaturity or playing games but if you COMPLAIN then YOU come across as desperate. My advice is to make a statement and then block a delete. Eg i only date men who are reliable and do what they say they are going to do.
You should honestly ignore this women, she is clueless. If you want real advice ask your father. Never lisen to any womens dating advice they have no idea what is going on in their own head let alone his.
Love this look on you. Very much a natural beauty. Suggestion you do it so well yourself....could you add some training and teaching technic on hair makeup clothing, establishing healthy diet excercise hygene routines how to bring out our personal style, how to bring out our best features and how to play down our least features. Also how important it is to keep a be autiful home, organization and decorating. Recipes and practical was of showing love as a high value woman. You are new to me but I sure needed you 😘
Ugh. I realize now that I did a lot of these things with my last relationship. Bought dinners, hotel getaways, I spoiled him. It's embarrassing. He got bored and we broke up. I just hope my next relationship I can apply these HV techniques.
Done that too. Being really stupid and done A LOT for men. Never again. Not like that They take you for granted and think you are just stupid. I have learnt that... I think.
It's hard to learn. I tried to act as a high value at the beginning, after a year he and a half he said he was loosing interest in the relationship and now I can feel it. I tried to break up with him twice and he still sticking around, I don't know why if he no longer is like before. He used to be mushy, but now it's only I love you at the end of the call.
I needed this today. Thanks. Especially about the social media stalking. Yeah. Some things have came up but I didn't react and you validated why I did the right thing.
Most of the things Greta says I agree with but not the social media one. You should NOT let your man get away with flirting with other women on social media! If I never said anything and just looked the other way, my boyfriend would still be doing it all the time and I'd be miserable!! Speak up for yourself and let your man know this will NOT be tolerated! Just because you saw something on his social media, doesn't mean that you are stalking him all day. We are all on there for a part of our day and things come up on our feed. Ladies, don't look the other way! It's rude and disrespectful from our men and we should put a stop to it!
A lot of this has been emotional impulses for me. This is good coaching. Thanks for posting. Learning how to become emotionally balanced. You help me calm down A LOT. I begin to use more logic. 💝
I agree with all what u said , one thing I'm always asking myself and makes me wondering which is if we keep acting as if we don't care and keep the pull and push game , when will we feel safe and comfortable in a relationship and enjoy love , I feel it's a war not a relationship ..we are better off staying alone than acting cold and keeping a distance all the time otherwise he will loose interest ..I think if he doesn't really love he will loose interest anyways.
Nihal Fahmy hey there, I personally think it is not ‘acting’ but it is the way u are. U have to change the inner u to be more attractive as in have ur dreams and live ur life, enjoy it even if he is not there. When u achieved that it will automatically become like what she said in the video. If ur just acting to be attractive and play the hot n cold game it will not be permanent.
@@teresaquynh2513 i will always have a problem then , not able to express my love for not being taken for granted by the other person and i have to show up careless and cool , which makes me feel that i’m not enjoying the relationship or experiencing love and at the end i break up because i feel it is useless
@@nihalfahmyskincare7060 i understand however there is nothing easy in life. I have been in a trauma too but practice to be high value is for yourself and when u r good good man will come along and add up to ur happiness
Very well said ma'am ..bcoz a high value woman has mking a lot of things to do busy managing her life nd career nd also a productive ,systematic lady ..she has also feels jealous but more on her self confidence being a busy hardworking smart woman
It's all extremely hard. I've been low value and was never taught the right way to date. Life circumstances also made me completely co-dependent, too. All the right mix to be a doormat, even though I had stupid long relationships which made me "the last girlfriend" where they married right after me. Now, a long time friend of 20+ yrs (and my first kiss) has been pursuing me for years. I was trying to fix my life (he was there), busy developing my life (he was still keeping in touch), and now I have more time, he's still pursuing (when I let him). He's a cheeky type. I know he's full of games, always has been and thrives on them with a little safety. I still like him and he knows I'm a year out of a 10 year relationship. I've been high value (thanks to the lessons and adaptation to my ex) as friends. I have slipped some, but I've been watching your videos regularly and it has helped so much with me dealing with my cheeky friend. So much so, things unfold even as I watch your videos! You're spot on with this guy! Now, I just wait for him to tame himself. Lol
Sometimes I can feel myself slipping back to LVWB and then I remind myself that I have respect for myself, me and my partner are equal and I respect myself enough to know he is lucky to have me as I am lucky to have him.
I clarified here many things for me. Thank you Greta! I mean I knew deep inside something was not the way it should be but now I can tell exactly what it was. Now I can explain it and put it in propriate words accurately.
This is too complicated actually to apply in real life. I think you got to study your man’s behaviour and apply techniques which only work for his personality. Some men are clingy and needy too and they want a partner who can give them the attention they want from you. I have had 3 experiences were my man complained to me that I never ever care to message them first. They even want me to call them and message them to show that I care for them and I missed them. So in the end, we broke up because they think that I’m not into them but the truth is I fell in love to them secretly, but I am just holding it back because I was waiting for them to say it first to me. That’s why I don’t message them as much as they wanted me to do but then they interpreted it in a different way. So i guess, it all depends on the personality of the guy we are dealing with. Not all rules and techniques are suitable and applicable for everyone. So ladies, use your judgement.
Vixinaful The chase word is the favorite word for the head gamers. And head gamers are the people who are not actually serious and genuine of their intentions. What they want is to seek power and manipulation. Men who are immature are the ones who love the chasing game. Serious and mature man do not play chasing game. They don’t have time for bs..if they are in love with you, they will tell it to you straight to your face. No need to play chase and chaser.
Vixinaful then I would say that you met the wrong guys. You met the immature men who likes to chase because that’s the game they love to play. Again, mature and good men do not have time to play head games.
Idk, my ex was NOT a game player at all, very genuine. And I wouldn't necessarily say he wanted to chase me, but I made myself too available, did way too many things for him and he got bored.
I am Rainbow Greta said that sometimes men don’t know what they want. She is telling us what they need. Also when a man is “clingy” he just wants to control you and he may have trust or attachment issues. Greta is talking about pretty healthy men. Maybe you need a guy who is more confident.
I've been binge watching all ur videos one by one...they all are awesome informative and from a totally new and different perspective...cannot thank you enough ♥️👌🥰
Relationship is so complex and stressful. I think it will drain me everytime. I'll die alone either I cant handle this like showing love and security turn off man, this is complicated it feels like relationship are playing mind games
+:2:3:4:8:0:7:3:3:1:7:4:6:0 whatzpp him I was like this be'fore I know who can he:lp you out text him now he can solve your problem:: don't waste your time here..
Hi Greta. Thanks for another great video and keeping the ladies on point. You're lovely 🌹💙. How do we then check their behaviour tho, like when he does do something online or doesnt follow up on when he said to call.. or any behaviour where he was rude. How do we let him know we didnt like what he did, without being low value. Im thinking if i do nothing, then also he might think he can get away with these cheeky behaviours and build a habit of it. Where's the line to not over react but also keep him in his place? ⚘
The best thing to do my dear is to withdraw, you withdraw for a few days and let him run after you and get insecure and you just chill. Telling someone how to behave never works. Actions speaks louder than words and its your actions that must let him know that if he does not behave himself you will not give him any of your time or attention.
I’m in the same boat, uslay he would do stupid shit and be disrespectful and I would keep quite.I ddnt gain anything from that so now on I’m vocal for what I want from the BEGINNING! I set my standards from the beginning.If his rude yes pull away or completely withdraw but first call him out on his B/S sorry but guys need to be put in their place I’m not saying go nag him but stick up for urself more I let him be rude to u the more it will hurt ur self esteem.Lastly withdraw but never create a pattern that when he’s bad withdraw then keep coming back to him noooo! You need to know when to put ur foot down and what is worth tolerating someone disrespecting you or your peace of mind.
I think you should let him know that what he did was disrespectful and that you won't stand that kind of behaviour. But don't ask him to change for you. Tell him that this is not the kind of relationship or behaviour you want in your life. If he is not willing to change he is not worth it. We all need certain things in our relationships, but we can't force other people to change. You can let him know that inorder to feel loved and be happy you need certain things and if he can't provide it then walk away. But don't be needy or controlling. Don't nag him into doing something. Simply say that you want something and if he can't then you can't be in the relationship with him. And talk in a calm manner, dont get too emotional.
I used to chat with a guy in Italy 🇮🇹 who kept asking to speak to me on Skype back in the day. He said he’d be online around 11pm on his time as we’re an hour apart. He never showed up so many times and the rest of the time he’d request a call when he happened to see me online
I *NEVER* react when I know they want me to, even if I really want to. They *HATE* that! I will walk away if it comes to it. I won't be the one to come crawling.
I found my guy putting in messages how sexy woman were etc..... I just said calmly I'm not interested in a guy talking to other woman ...... Then left it at that..... Have space to decide what you want in a relationship..... (Was this ok??)..... I'm a chilled person.
I disagree with what she’s saying. Why should you act unbothered when you really are? I don’t think women should tolerate this type of behavior (say one thing and do something else). If a guy treated me like that, I’d block him and only keep men of integrity in my life. I have zero tolerance for that type of behavior and/or tests.
I am not sure I agree with the first two points as it seems that people are being adviced to do nothing when a guy flirts with another girl or doesn't follow through on their promises. From experience I don't think doing nothing is the best response.... what happens here is that women make the mistake of letting a guy get away with bad behaviour at the beginning of a relationship for fear of appearing needy.... It builds up and the lady will eventually explodes by keeping things in and of course the guy thinks this lady is crazy where has this come from? I believe there are better ways of addressing a guys bad behaviours at the beginning of a relationship without coming across needy but ignoring it is certainly not the best answer especially if it is a serious relationship. My question is how is a lady supposed to address a behaviour that bothers her without appearing needy aside from brushing it under the carpet
@@GretaBereisaite I don't think she meant that exploding is the right way of doing stuff . I think she meant that if we keep on bottling things up we will explode. Another thing is that we don't know if he's trying make the girl jealous or not. What if he is the kind of person who does these kind of things on a regular basis and thinks it's normal. Not addressing it would just make him continue his bad behaviour.
I think in these cases talking to the guy in a calm manner would help. You can say something like "what you did was disrespectful. You don't have to change yourself for me or do anything you don't want to do. But this is not the kind of relationship I want in my life" or something of this sort. The key is to let him know that you won't stand disrespectful behaviour but at the same time don't be needy or controlling. If he is a decent human he will understand and if doesn't then he is not worth it.
💯 Exactly. Women need to be able to be ourselves. When we start playing into the men’s games is when we LOSE ourselves. I’ve learned so much over the years and I’d rather remain single than have to contort and cut/paste my personality and what comes natural to me just to keep a man’s interest. No way, I’m done with all the BS.
'I'll call you. Oops I forgot where my phone was at.' that's totally me. The guy has to call and text for hours, sometimes days to get hold of me. So, no, I've never waited for a call.
Thank you very much Greta you are 100% right. I have a question when they're doing bad behaviour not keeping their promises and we don't say anything. If we don't say anything about the bad behaviour is it showing them that it is ok? And that we don't mind bad disrespectful behaviour? I'm just looking on the flip side of it
Wow Greta. I feel completely sorry for the girls you are coaching. If they would be kind and actually WILLING to self improve and truly looking for a guy to be in a relationship with, they would not need this. You should teach them to be genuinely kind above everything else.
Works both ways. Guys base their actions largely on the last relationship or string of them they had , or a family member had( brothers, cousins, parents, etc) and they try those things on you.While you may understand some of this, it does not always mean you agree with or like it.
Don't turn a blind eye to men's disrespectful behavior. Don't forget it, write it down. But don't reach out to him. Men think time erases bad behavior.
this is all basic human psychology! it's great!!! men and women are DIFFERENT. and this lady speaks TRUTH. it's not that men who do this are bad, that's just their makeup....anyways. I would do these things you are talkng about in the video! omg.....lmao
Good info in this video, remember there is someone for everyone, relationships are not always a tug of war...or cat and mouse... you should feel secure overall in a relationship and chase no one, what's for you will come for you, build your confidence and develop yourself, be self-assured but not arrogant , have interests other than the opposite sex, broaden your mind and wordy view, keep good people close, maintain good relationships with people by being fair, helpful and straight. ...follow the 50/50 rule but not obsessively, learn to judge a situation, learn to them and take to appropriate course of action, in a dignified manner. Your "aura" as it were will then speak for itself, you will be more attractive and better ale to navigate in relationships and life in general, this goes for all genders...lol.
My girl would not accept me chatting another.. He has low attraction for you ......as for value for men its about visual beauty ....ladies with goals dreams and ambition adds no value... for me...I found a girl who made me her king and she is my queen ........If a man doesn't call he doesn't care........
If a woman notice's her fella pulling away and loosing attraction, and her reaction is to pull away from that bloke,.....it does not make him more interested in her at all......it makes him quit on her and look for another woman
What about being vulnerable? I was very vulnerable after meeting someone I liked after 3 years of being single. I unexpectedly got triggered due to being intimate due to last relationship trauma? I opened up and told him about my past trauma and that I didn’t know it was suppressed, and fear got the better of me..... has this made me ‘low value’ in his eyes? I don’t feel low value I show up for myself albeit not correctly in the moment. I will not chase or pursue but am happy to be open and honest! I am gutted!
Nonsense...you must make a video how to respect each other on social media . 🤣 Ladies and gentlemen, being busy at work is very understable and reasonable..but what's the use of having a partner if one of you don't want to commit. Plus l won't lie if lm insecure..honest communication is very important..if at that first stage your partner can't accept the whole you..well he/she don't deserve you at all.
@Greta Bereisaite WIth all respect to your work, in this video you are coaching women to invalidate their personal feelings in order to enable toxic behavior of a particular men type. Also, you are coaching a passive aggressive response. This is dangerous! As a result, will follow uncontrollable, emotional explosion because feelings find an outlet one way or another. We see a lot of toxic behavior in men because women have been coached to enable men in all of their manifestations. And no, sharing with a man that he has caused very unpleasant feelings in me by disrespecting me or by wasting my precious time is not making me a low value person, it is passing back to him responsibility to deal with the consequence of his own action and putting him at a test. Women are not beautiful flowers waiting to be picked by whoever. Digesting and covering up with the indifference facade his low action is what would make a woman a very low value person. Give him a chance to make a choice and prove himself. He'll feel bad and never come back - perfect! Or he'll make a change and prove that he is a decent human being and then it is a win situation. If the majority of women instead of pretending and playing games demonstrated a straight forward rejection to these behaviors, men would have adjusted and changed. Because before being chasers they are human and at the core men and women have the same needs and feelings. Relationships are about feelings, mating is about games.
I’ve been giving my friend high value advice and recommended your channel to her but she’s telling me these things she’s doing that are so low value that I know she never watched one video & every thing I tell her goes in one ear and out the other. I’m cringing so much about it I don’t even want to talk to her
Omg this is the reason why he broke up with me. He was commenting on her picture and liking her picture and she also liked his picture. Now I learn what I should not do.
High value women aren’t dating the men exhibiting this behavior in the first place. Why would a self-respecting woman be attracted to men who lose interest so easily and play games to gain attention? Once that behavior starts, she should walk away and date other high value men.
To be fair for men, game-playing is a flirtatious invitation from the guys for the girls to show their value (their intelligence, temperament, confidence !!! games can be so much FUN - Are you able to serve him his own medicine ??? ), those women who claim they hate the games, are those who fail miserably for the same type of games over and over again. If those women choose NOT to hate the games, or the men, should have chance to up their games and impress the men, but honest who cares to impress the men? Lades, you need to impress YOURSELF and win the game, for this how people build their confidence through winnings and winnings !!
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High value women don't date ppl who try to make them jealous. Someone who purposely makes you jealous is low value;)
Vanessa P Yes...soooo true.
Amen
Anyone who needs to deliberately create a show is so immature.. Don't react, leave...
I was saying to myself the whole time she was talking, that what would a woman who values herself be doing with an immature man that plays pathetic mind games.
@Saved Princess exactly. They don't deserve a high value woman.
She is 100% right. I did some of these things & he lost interest, took me for granted & we broke up after 5 year relationship. NEVER chase a man EVER.
Ah fuck it let's just all go gay
@@Gangst3r4ever Right??? Watching these videos really turns me off of ever wanting to be with a man ever again...and kinda ticks me off that you HAVE TO play games with men to 'keep them interested.' Seriously. Fuck that.
Lmao good luck keeping a man by not chasing.
@@Hawaiiansky11 but do you like playing games? Are you not testing him too?
How to be flirt with your boyfriend
My mom always told me not to get upset if a guy didn’t call me when he said he would. She used to tell me that you should never wait by the phone ☎️
Claudia Sanchez lol
Back when we didn't have cell phones. Believe it or not, Back in the day phones were anchored to the wall.
Wow..love to her😍😘..got an advice now👍
Claudia Sanchez she knew this stuff🙌🏾
Ouch 🤦♀️
I don't need this because I am happily married but I ran across it and was interested in what she had to say. I am sorry but this is nothing but games. She's right about having your own life and not waiting around for him and yes if he pulls away do not chase him to try to get him back. But if a guy is playing games like commenting on other girls FB or more likely Instagram accounts, then forget NOT saying anything get away from him, if he's playing games now he will always play games. What you need to recognize is is he a high-value guy? If a man wants a relationship he will pursue you and not play games. In general, men say what they mean and you don't need to go around trying to figure out if he means something else. If he continues to say he's going to call and doesn't then get rid of his butt. No don't wait around for his call and yes have your own life until you're engaged and married but if some idiot is testing you by not calling just to see how you are going to react, he's not worth it. Move on. The most attractive thing to a decent man is a woman who knows who she is, what she wants and does not play games herself. If you're stalking him, YOU have the problem not him, if you go nuts and chase him when he pulls away, you are the one with the problem and you are not ready to be in a relationship. Wait for the right guy to come along who will treat you with respect, not play games, and shows you with his actions that he wants to be in your life. If he's doing any of the things she's talking about to "test" you run away from him as fast as you can, no guy is worth that.
Lauren Bristow. Wow. What an inciteful and true comment. You know your stuff when it comes to men, and I guess that's why you are happily married yourself (smile). OK....so when are you gonna start your OWN channel. You should. (btw, I loved the "get rid of his butt" part.) Also, I am 49, but ALL young girls need to read your comment. It holds lots of value in what you said. Blessings and thanks. : )
Lauren Bristow Thank u I stopped the video after 2 minutes because I was to busy Reading your absolute helpfull comment. Needed this thnx
Well said! I completely agree with you.
100% People will value YOU at the EXACT SAME LEVEL as you value yourself! Bravo!!
Thanks for that :)
When he doesn't call me. I go to my yoga classes meditate, prepare a nice healthy smoothie, take a nice shower put
some spa treatment in my body, face, and hair. And then go shopping, Oops I forgot he suppose to call me. 😁😁😁
Awesome
You just gotta love that!!😊♥️
This sounds like the perfect plan. I’ve got to start adding yoga to my routine.🧘🏼♀️
Haha true
Ok but then do you accept him not calling or do u tell him ciao ciao
1. stalker behavior. 2. Putting him first, "you didn't call me" ...3. Persuing the man. Gives him too much safety...
Stalker behavior does not give me safety, quite the opposite, and if we're not putting each other first then what the hell are we doing?
Thank you.
The best advice.. Be honest to the person you love don't play games and if they don't accept you the way you are they never really loved you. Stop telling people to play games to get a man this is why there is toxic masculinity and why women accept cheating men. If you truly valued yourself you would confront the man then tell him your not putting up with that behaviour end of story.
Totally agree with you😃
but the problem is that you're asking a woman to handle couple issues rationally being emotionaly the natural respond.
but yeah, that'd help a ton and almost all the misunderstandings will go
Agree 💯👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@@mauricemorty4687 The problem is that this same message must be told to men. Men play such mind games and aren’t even aware of it!
As a highly sensitive person, it is extremely tough to appear as though you are unfazed. Even my long-term boyfriend, who is normally sweet and attentive, feels comfortable with putting me on the back burner sometimes because guys can instantly sniff out if you're a people pleaser. I feel resentful sometimes because I don't want to change my personality just to fit in a world that takes people like me for granted all the time...
I’m the same. I decided to pull out of the dating mess and stay single. It’s better not having to learn all these stupid games just to keep a man. If they need me to play games and become a master manipulator, sorry, I’m not having it. Then it always makes me laugh when I hear the same men complaining about there not being any good women left.🙄 Well, that’s because you toss us aside and go after the bad bitches. I’m good on my own and can have friends and family who love me just the way I am.
Same I can't keep up with these "Rules" I'm broken and it is what it is at this point. Being single is easier anyway.
yeah it’s sad I’m such a kind, nurturing, and generous person and I’ve gotten taken advantage of countless times. I’ve recently become more cold towards people and it’s funny how they all flock to me and are almost scared of me in a way. crazy and pretty sad.
@@Shortiie I'm a man and can tell you the women in this video is giving terrible advice. The way to attract a man that loves you is:
1 avoid emotionally distant guys and men that ignore you. Most women don't seem to understand that when a man is acting this way he is giving you the cold shoulder which is the greatest form of disrespect from a male perspective.
2 don't give him the cold shoulder. You might think it's sexy when a guy acts this way but men are repelled by this behavior and will think you are a cold hearted ice queen that hates him.
3 open up to him about how you feel and what you want. And don't worry about looking needy. Men have evolved to be protectors and providers and thus are actually attracted to neediness. The only men that are repelled by neediness are players.
4 men don't care about how much money you make or if you can cook or clean (unless they are players). The reason is because men have evolved to be providers and thus usually don't appreciate it when women provide for them.
5 men don't care about looks. The reason you think they do is because you see men date women who are behaving badly (in your opinion) and you think they are getting away with this bad behavior because of their looks. The truth is men have different needs then women do and like to be treated differently than women do. These women aren't behaving as badly as you think. Most of their behavior is attractive to men. The biggest reason men like these women is because they let men be men and take care of them. Another reason is they usually don't repress their emotions. But I kinda covered that already.
I hope this helps.
@@laundrybasket2689 what a clever mind said these words. Totally agree.
I don't know why am here cause I'm a male. I was kinda curious to know what makes women low valued. The information you shared could be helpful in the future. Relationships seems really scary at times tho. The beginning could be the sweetest moments for a while and the end sometimes turns bitter. But I guest thats just how life is. To all women out there I hope y'all find the right one who will treat you with love, respect ect. y'all deserve. God bless
Thank you! I'm working on it.😊♥️
God bless you too.♥️✝️
Same to you.
If a guy plays games like that..the only reaction you should him is walking out of the door and never look back
Exacly
If his comment on how beautiful another girl is appeared in my feed, my first reaction would be "how dare you disrespect me!" I honestly lose interest for guys with such yucky, sleezy behavior because I perceive that as a low value male behavior and I walk away. Not to make a point, I'm honestly disgusted. Are my standards too high??
@Antonija Jurić Your name sounds like you have a Croatian background, mine background is Serbian. Maybe it's the Balkans women? 😂💕
I'd do the exact same thing. Its damn disrespectful.
@@lylathalakkal I watched a lot of videos from this channel and though I understand it teaches women to have some basic self-respect, it also teaches them how to play with low value men. Most of male behaviors described here are behaviors of low value men.
@@stardustastrology6618 Yeah. There must be so many people who do the exact same thing this woman says thinking that this the right way of having a relationship.
This is one of the reasons I left my ex he was constantly provoking my jealousy and insecurities. He filled his Facebook friends with hot women many of whom he didn’t know and would never meet and had no chance with anyways he just liked looking at tits and ass. He then would put hearts, wow faces, and tell everyone except me how gorgeous and sexy they were. I don’t believe he did it thinking I would notice, or to intentionally hurt me because he HATED drama with me. He did it to impress THEM to get attention from other women and had no idea I would notice! Because the females who were mutual friends of ours that he put the hearts and wow faces on were people he either asked out and they ignored him or those who friend zoned him. He loved chasing women who didn’t want him and had quickly lost desire for me, the woman who loved him and was taking care of him. I think it’s so disrespectful to admire other women right in front of the one you’re with and to purposely provoke jealous reactions. He did this in my face Too always talking about other girls he had crushes on. I couldn’t take it anymore and dumped him.
I have watched a lot of your videos and I have been following your advice. I think what I have been learning from you is making me into a better person. I don’t feel anxious or afraid because my way of thinking about relationships and myself is improving. Thank you!
Same!!!!!!!!
This is not game playing
It's common sense. This is how you should be as a women. How to wear your crown. And greta is here to give advice
Take it or leave it. Tks greta
Antoinette Gorman 😘😘👑👑😍😍
Antoinette Gorman I respect that
I agree with most of what she says. But the most essential part of being a princess/woman of God/woman of self-respect is demanding respect and giving it and leaving when it isn't there. In most of these situations, it's time to tap out. Women are nurturers, that's beautiful about us. But the devil likes to pervert that and make women we need to mother and fix men through tactics like this. These scenarios are too much. A good man won't be commenting on other girl's pics when you're exclusive, etc. Hold out. There are great men out there. Who won't make you feel crazy (which is often times a form of manipulation) for the wrong they committed. Yes, don't overreact. But move on because they're not pulling their weight.
This is totally correct. Thank God I found your post early enough in my twenties. Am grateful
Definition of low value men=a man who invests his time liking other women Facebook accounts for the only purpose of making his partner jealous. My suggestion is to not to waste time with that guy.
Elena Cecchetto bravo just dump the loser get with a man with class.
Seriously...🤦🏻♀️ like how is THAT acceptable behavior, or a man any woman should want to pursue? No thanks!
Omg!!!! I wish i knew this sooner. I’m 30. And sometimes i show him my low values. When a man forgot to call me, the next day I complained and said “i was waiting for you thw whole night, But you didn’t call me” now i feel stupid. Thank you for this video. 😍
Don’t feel stupid. It’s your human nature to feel and act out that way. Men are allowed to do it so women should be too. There is always a double standard though. Smh.
One of the best advices that i got from a friend is "Biggest mistake that a woman can make in a relationship is giving him more than he gave her"!
Facebook!? Who does that!?
If he doesn't call when he says he would, Then I will not take his call any other time. I don't play those games.
Be cold n distant
Mabey he didn't call coz he was in a terrible accident 🙂
Many men flirt on Facebook. My man did until I put a stop to that bullshit!
I completely agree, a guy yesterday got mad at me for repeatedly calling him out on his poor communication skills (LDR and he only text for 3 months, not ONCE did he pick up the phone to talk). I felt sad for a day then I said forget you, I deserve proper communication, and walked away.
Did you tell him nicely that you don't text very well because it's confusing that you would rather talk on the phone?
Valuing oneself, being confident, and refusing to allow another person's behaviors, or feelings to determine your own is beneficial to you, as is making you a main focus in general as opposed to someone else. And so, the issue really is not what someone else thinks; especially a guy who would purposely try to make you jealous. That would be known as triangulation, it is not normal, but is a common form of manipulation used by narcissists and other toxic persons; therefore, "turning him off" could be the best thing that comes out of the situation because it facilitates your escape; seize the opportunity! Run!
why would you want a guy that plays those games? so childish
Men with kids do this..just sad
Because everyone plays the game lifes a game....
Lisa Wascher Exactly 🙄. No, I’m not going to stalk a man’s social media obsessively, but I would never ever want to date someone that would exhibit that behavior...no thanks!
@@RM-fo9qh I never stalk a man's social media to avoid the emotional freefall it might put me in if I saw something I didn't like. I make my decision and be done with him!
Lisa Wascher I agree. I mean imagine dating a guy and “seeing him comment hearts” on a girl’s picture and all the other examples...😂 in my world that certainly isn’t something that should be seen as normal and acceptable behavior from a man you’re dating 😅
"If there is no audience there is no show! " Giirrrll! 💪👌👍✊
100% correct! 😊
Absolutely
😂
This is sick. A high value and secured woman will never play mind games. And of course, will not choose childish, low quality men. 🙄
Exacly
Everyone plays some games. Sometimes you need to play games to protect yourself or to expose someone
I totally agree. The facade is just a waste of time.
I used to be like this before. I had trust issues with him and he didn't make me feel good about myself. It's me who low value and desperate also him who was attention seeker, narc and immature. I'm done. I'm healing until I met a guy who's very mature, sweet and awkward. He helped me to get out of this devil's circle. But we ended up at January 2019. I'm not sad. He's a blessing to my life. He taught me something important in my life. He's with someone else and I'm still fighting to find my own journey, travelling, preparing for my graduation and doing a part time job. All I want is brighter future and not wasting my life (again). Thanks 💛
Thank goodness i found your channel...i am in a relationship with a wonderful man but lately I found that he may be losing interest and i evaluated my actions and found that I am acting like a low value woman, I changed back to the way I am and our rhythm returned to the way it used to be. No one is more powerful than the other and we are both busy with oir own lives
I am extremely picky when it comes to taking advice from women about men.. but this lady is real, and absolutely magnificent! she retained my attention, was funny, and didn't hesitate to be herself. I also liked that she spoke slow enough to be clear and understood 👌💯💯 kudos in all categories!!!🏆🍿
Her videos are for those women who act desperate all the time. The advice she gives doesn't add anything for me personally since i already behave in a high value way
I love your style...you are genuine and straight forward with your advice to women.
Angel Ramos thank you 🙏🏻
N2: the last guy who did that to me, poor thing... when he finally decided to come back, I had found someone better 🤣
Caroline Marchand me too
Childish men usually don't know what they have until it's gone. And learn way too late that she shouldn't have messed you over. Oh Well! Good on you!!
something is telling me that it ended with that better one too, am I right?
This lady is smart and knows what she’s saying. I’m taking her advice
I did & I got the man 😉
I want me, to want me first. Iam the very important person in my life. Happy new year to me.
I wanna refer you to the same person who helped me get my ex back without stress
Text and inbox him on what's ap
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I can't put up with a man like this. I had a bf like this went I was 22. We broke up after 9 months and I never put myself in that position again. These are qualities of LOW QUALITY MEN!
Everything you said is 100% true. It's always nice to be reminded of it. I will keep this video for weak moments. Thank you🙄
Paulette Noel same here 🙄 it’s hard to think of this concept at times you’re weak.... just have to get used to men’s BS
I've seen that happen to girl. She cooked for him and spoiled him so much he started treating her like a servant and was nasty to her, called her fat. She was over his house every day, cooking lunch for him, she even paid for his stuff he didn't have a job. She threw him a surprise birthday party and invited all his friends, it was planned perfectly, baked him a cake, put up streamers and docorated the home. He ended up taking her for granted and their relationship got worse and worse she ended up dumping him for another guy who was chasing her at that time. Very very risky stuff, she ended up gaining alot of weight during dating him. She was a very sweet girl too😐. I hope she finds this channel like I did💙
sounds like jesus crist story. the worst possible situation to the best possible person.
If he doest call me when he said he would, I call him out the next time he actually calls and then I walk away, bc I find it completely disrespectful and I don't wanna tolerate this. In my opinion faking that you were busy it's worst, instead telling him your standards is more hign value, but ofc you have to stick to your standards.
Exactly! It’s toxic and unhealthy to play these games just to not lose a man’s interest. Smh.
The funny part is when a guy looses interest in a long amazing relationship and we push him away by falling all over him ,but they are willing to jump into a new relationship with a girl that’s falling all over him and they don’t mind,because she’s new and fresh smh!Men are fucked up period!
Not every guy, but many like "new" after a while. Stay away from that because he'll wind up having an affair once he's married, The problem is him not you unless you let him continue to take advantage of you. Move on. Let her have him
I'm going through that right now. He was all mushy for me for about 1 year and a half, then suddenly he started to say that he was loosing interest in the relationship, then he stop talking to me as much as 6 times a day to a one or 2, so I saw these signs,I got afraid of loosing him and acted needy, jealous. I checked on his phone and I saw a girl named spicy Italian and freaked out. I don't think the relationship is worth saving anymore. I can't trust and he is treating me with negligence and has been ignoring me. For his behavior I believe he is talking to someone now. We have long distance relationship but we never spent more than 3 weeks to see each other. He texted me yesterday saying that he doesn't know when he is coming to see me. I responded ok, have fun with your free time. I thought that was related only to this week, but it's not. He still calling me 2x a day, but is not like was.
I think he is just trying to gain time with someone else and then dump me. I already told him that I am not taking any crap. Today I decided not to wait anymore. For one year he was asking me to move in with him and when I accepted last week he didn't seem to like, so I guess this is it.
narcissist supply
It’s seriously messed up. Women and men do not belong together.
So you are giving your free time away to a guy who doesn't live near you ? He is USING you, for your time.
When men do this, doesn't that make us low value by playing into their behavior? When he doesn't call, why can't we calmly confront him and just ask why he didn't call? Pretending that we didn't notice is kind of like playing games no? It turns the table, it's playing the game. If it bothers us, we can't we be honest and express it? I do think there's a difference between being desperate, being relational, and being arrogant.
Fact 💯 I was thinking the same way, if He ever repeats his actions twice by not calling me as promised, I will never take him serious, will rather text him about it and never call him . It’s okay if he apologize and always keep to his promise
It’s a sad fact of life that a woman must play into the man’s games because otherwise they lose interest. I quit dating and getting into any more long term relationships altogether because I am sick and tired of being taken for granted and eventually dumped just for being a good person and being honest. If you don’t want to play the stupid games you have to stay single for life because otherwise you will end up hurt and bitter like I am. I learned the game and will only play games now with men who come across me because I KNOW in a few years the guy would start with the games and take me for granted. Use men the way they use you, ladies!
When a man does not do what he says. It means he has no integrity and cannot be trusted or it could be immaturity or playing games but if you COMPLAIN then YOU come across as desperate. My advice is to make a statement and then block a delete. Eg i only date men who are reliable and do what they say they are going to do.
Ignoring bad behaviour does not work either. People need to be held accountable for what they say and do.
No when a man behaves in those ways he describes, it shows HE is low value and a great way to know its time to stop wasting time on him.
I’ve never heard tips like yours before, I’ve never seen it from that point of view before it made me feel a lot better ❤️
You should honestly ignore this women, she is clueless. If you want real advice ask your father. Never lisen to any womens dating advice they have no idea what is going on in their own head let alone his.
Love yourself first. Please just love yourself..if you love yourself everything will fall into place 💟💜💗💞
Love this look on you. Very much a natural beauty. Suggestion you do it so well yourself....could you add some training and teaching technic on hair makeup clothing, establishing healthy diet excercise hygene routines how to bring out our personal style, how to bring out our best features and how to play down our least features. Also how important it is to keep a be
autiful home, organization and decorating. Recipes and practical was of showing love as a high value woman. You are new to me but I sure needed you 😘
Ugh. I realize now that I did a lot of these things with my last relationship. Bought dinners, hotel getaways, I spoiled him. It's embarrassing. He got bored and we broke up. I just hope my next relationship I can apply these HV techniques.
We all have. Maybe even the lady in the video has too. Everyone has played the fool in love 1 or 2 times.
@@SR77736 thanks for that, love.
Done that too. Being really stupid and done A LOT for men.
Never again. Not like that
They take you for granted and think you are just stupid. I have learnt that... I think.
It's hard to learn. I tried to act as a high value at the beginning, after a year he and a half he said he was loosing interest in the relationship and now I can feel it. I tried to break up with him twice and he still sticking around, I don't know why if he no longer is like before. He used to be mushy, but now it's only I love you at the end of the call.
I needed this today. Thanks. Especially about the social media stalking. Yeah. Some things have came up but I didn't react and you validated why I did the right thing.
I mboo,Your lovely smile 😊 can make the news!!
Most of the things Greta says I agree with but not the social media one. You should NOT let your man get away with flirting with other women on social media! If I never said anything and just looked the other way, my boyfriend would still be doing it all the time and I'd be miserable!! Speak up for yourself and let your man know this will NOT be tolerated! Just because you saw something on his social media, doesn't mean that you are stalking him all day. We are all on there for a part of our day and things come up on our feed. Ladies, don't look the other way! It's rude and disrespectful from our men and we should put a stop to it!
A lot of this has been emotional impulses for me. This is good coaching. Thanks for posting.
Learning how to become emotionally balanced. You help me calm down A LOT. I begin to use more logic.
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I agree with all what u said , one thing I'm always asking myself and makes me wondering which is if we keep acting as if we don't care and keep the pull and push game , when will we feel safe and comfortable in a relationship and enjoy love , I feel it's a war not a relationship ..we are better off staying alone than acting cold and keeping a distance all the time otherwise he will loose interest ..I think if he doesn't really love he will loose interest anyways.
Nihal Fahmy hey there, I personally think it is not ‘acting’ but it is the way u are. U have to change the inner u to be more attractive as in have ur dreams and live ur life, enjoy it even if he is not there. When u achieved that it will automatically become like what she said in the video. If ur just acting to be attractive and play the hot n cold game it will not be permanent.
The end goal is marriage. There's safety (to an extent) in marriage. Otherwise, the dating game is on.
I agree 💯
@@teresaquynh2513 i will always have a problem then , not able to express my love for not being taken for granted by the other person and i have to show up careless and cool , which makes me feel that i’m not enjoying the relationship or experiencing love and at the end i break up because i feel it is useless
@@nihalfahmyskincare7060 i understand however there is nothing easy in life. I have been in a trauma too but practice to be high value is for yourself and when u r good good man will come along and add up to ur happiness
Very well said ma'am ..bcoz a high value woman has mking a lot of things to do busy managing her life nd career nd also a productive ,systematic lady ..she has also feels jealous but more on her self confidence being a busy hardworking smart woman
It's all extremely hard. I've been low value and was never taught the right way to date. Life circumstances also made me completely co-dependent, too. All the right mix to be a doormat, even though I had stupid long relationships which made me "the last girlfriend" where they married right after me. Now, a long time friend of 20+ yrs (and my first kiss) has been pursuing me for years. I was trying to fix my life (he was there), busy developing my life (he was still keeping in touch), and now I have more time, he's still pursuing (when I let him). He's a cheeky type. I know he's full of games, always has been and thrives on them with a little safety. I still like him and he knows I'm a year out of a 10 year relationship. I've been high value (thanks to the lessons and adaptation to my ex) as friends. I have slipped some, but I've been watching your videos regularly and it has helped so much with me dealing with my cheeky friend. So much so, things unfold even as I watch your videos! You're spot on with this guy! Now, I just wait for him to tame himself. Lol
Sometimes I can feel myself slipping back to LVWB and then I remind myself that I have respect for myself, me and my partner are equal and I respect myself enough to know he is lucky to have me as I am lucky to have him.
I clarified here many things for me. Thank you Greta! I mean I knew deep inside something was not the way it should be but now I can tell exactly what it was. Now I can explain it and put it in propriate words accurately.
This is too complicated actually to apply in real life. I think you got to study your man’s behaviour and apply techniques which only work for his personality. Some men are clingy and needy too and they want a partner who can give them the attention they want from you. I have had 3 experiences were my man complained to me that I never ever care to message them first. They even want me to call them and message them to show that I care for them and I missed them. So in the end, we broke up because they think that I’m not into them but the truth is I fell in love to them secretly, but I am just holding it back because I was waiting for them to say it first to me. That’s why I don’t message them as much as they wanted me to do but then they interpreted it in a different way. So i guess, it all depends on the personality of the guy we are dealing with. Not all rules and techniques are suitable and applicable for everyone. So ladies, use your judgement.
Vixinaful The chase word is the favorite word for the head gamers. And head gamers are the people who are not actually serious and genuine of their intentions. What they want is to seek power and manipulation. Men who are immature are the ones who love the chasing game. Serious and mature man do not play chasing game. They don’t have time for bs..if they are in love with you, they will tell it to you straight to your face. No need to play chase and chaser.
Vixinaful then I would say that you met the wrong guys. You met the immature men who likes to chase because that’s the game they love to play. Again, mature and good men do not have time to play head games.
Idk, my ex was NOT a game player at all, very genuine. And I wouldn't necessarily say he wanted to chase me, but I made myself too available, did way too many things for him and he got bored.
I am Rainbow Greta said that sometimes men don’t know what they want. She is telling us what they need. Also when a man is “clingy” he just wants to control you and he may have trust or attachment issues. Greta is talking about pretty healthy men.
Maybe you need a guy who is more confident.
You should follow greta on instagram and ask her about this on her instagram lives. That's not uncommon 💙
This is such an eye opener! Thank you
I love your channel! Just found you yesterday and been binge watching. Love from the San Francisco Bay Area 🥰.
I've been binge watching all ur videos one by one...they all are awesome informative and from a totally new and different perspective...cannot thank you enough ♥️👌🥰
So many of my old behaviors. I learned and I will never allow myself to be humiliated like that again.
Omg thank you very much
Every girl should watch!
Relationship is so complex and stressful. I think it will drain me everytime. I'll die alone either I cant handle this like showing love and security turn off man, this is complicated it feels like relationship are playing mind games
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Hi Greta. Thanks for another great video and keeping the ladies on point. You're lovely 🌹💙.
How do we then check their behaviour tho, like when he does do something online or doesnt follow up on when he said to call.. or any behaviour where he was rude. How do we let him know we didnt like what he did, without being low value. Im thinking if i do nothing, then also he might think he can get away with these cheeky behaviours and build a habit of it. Where's the line to not over react but also keep him in his place? ⚘
The best thing to do my dear is to withdraw, you withdraw for a few days and let him run after you and get insecure and you just chill. Telling someone how to behave never works. Actions speaks louder than words and its your actions that must let him know that if he does not behave himself you will not give him any of your time or attention.
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Thank-you for clearing that up. I appreciate it 🌹😚🌺💚
I’m in the same boat, uslay he would do stupid shit and be disrespectful and I would keep quite.I ddnt gain anything from that so now on I’m vocal for what I want from the BEGINNING! I set my standards from the beginning.If his rude yes pull away or completely withdraw but first call him out on his B/S sorry but guys need to be put in their place I’m not saying go nag him but stick up for urself more I let him be rude to u the more it will hurt ur self esteem.Lastly withdraw but never create a pattern that when he’s bad withdraw then keep coming back to him noooo! You need to know when to put ur foot down and what is worth tolerating someone disrespecting you or your peace of mind.
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I think you should let him know that what he did was disrespectful and that you won't stand that kind of behaviour. But don't ask him to change for you. Tell him that this is not the kind of relationship or behaviour you want in your life. If he is not willing to change he is not worth it. We all need certain things in our relationships, but we can't force other people to change. You can let him know that inorder to feel loved and be happy you need certain things and if he can't provide it then walk away. But don't be needy or controlling. Don't nag him into doing something. Simply say that you want something and if he can't then you can't be in the relationship with him. And talk in a calm manner, dont get too emotional.
You're awesome Greta thank you for sharing your wonderful advice.
Yes. Thank you Greta for the wonderful advice. It is much needed by a lot of women. Blessings.
I used to chat with a guy in Italy 🇮🇹 who kept asking to speak to me on Skype back in the day. He said he’d be online around 11pm on his time as we’re an hour apart. He never showed up so many times and the rest of the time he’d request a call when he happened to see me online
I *NEVER* react when I know they want me to, even if I really want to. They *HATE* that! I will walk away if it comes to it. I won't be the one to come crawling.
I found my guy putting in messages how sexy woman were etc..... I just said calmly I'm not interested in a guy talking to other woman ...... Then left it at that..... Have space to decide what you want in a relationship..... (Was this ok??)..... I'm a chilled person.
Great video, thank you very much!! Very helpful :)
so I blocked him I give him twice chance but still same things happen... it's better to let him know it's over...
I disagree with what she’s saying. Why should you act unbothered when you really are? I don’t think women should tolerate this type of behavior (say one thing and do something else). If a guy treated me like that, I’d block him and only keep men of integrity in my life. I have zero tolerance for that type of behavior and/or tests.
I am not sure I agree with the first two points as it seems that people are being adviced to do nothing when a guy flirts with another girl or doesn't follow through on their promises. From experience I don't think doing nothing is the best response.... what happens here is that women make the mistake of letting a guy get away with bad behaviour at the beginning of a relationship for fear of appearing needy.... It builds up and the lady will eventually explodes by keeping things in and of course the guy thinks this lady is crazy where has this come from? I believe there are better ways of addressing a guys bad behaviours at the beginning of a relationship without coming across needy but ignoring it is certainly not the best answer especially if it is a serious relationship. My question is how is a lady supposed to address a behaviour that bothers her without appearing needy aside from brushing it under the carpet
Chibueze Johns exploding on a man is a crazy behaviour... you are not paying attention to what I’m coaching.
agreed. Narcissists (ab)use social media to triangulate and make you jealous on purpose. It's pure emotional abuse.
Chibueze Johns well if he flirts with others girls, why would you wanna be With someone like him? Or that’s how I take it
@@GretaBereisaite I don't think she meant that exploding is the right way of doing stuff . I think she meant that if we keep on bottling things up we will explode. Another thing is that we don't know if he's trying make the girl jealous or not. What if he is the kind of person who does these kind of things on a regular basis and thinks it's normal. Not addressing it would just make him continue his bad behaviour.
I think in these cases talking to the guy in a calm manner would help. You can say something like "what you did was disrespectful. You don't have to change yourself for me or do anything you don't want to do. But this is not the kind of relationship I want in my life" or something of this sort. The key is to let him know that you won't stand disrespectful behaviour but at the same time don't be needy or controlling. If he is a decent human he will understand and if doesn't then he is not worth it.
If you can't freely be yourself then he isn't the one... I agree don't overdo actions with a guy though
💯 Exactly. Women need to be able to be ourselves. When we start playing into the men’s games is when we LOSE ourselves. I’ve learned so much over the years and I’d rather remain single than have to contort and cut/paste my personality and what comes natural to me just to keep a man’s interest. No way, I’m done with all the BS.
'I'll call you. Oops I forgot where my phone was at.' that's totally me. The guy has to call and text for hours, sometimes days to get hold of me. So, no, I've never waited for a call.
Comprehensive ideas...thanks, Gretta!
Thank you very much Greta you are 100% right.
I have a question
when they're doing bad behaviour not keeping their promises and we don't say anything. If we don't say anything about the bad behaviour is it showing them that it is ok? And that we don't mind bad disrespectful behaviour? I'm just looking on the flip side of it
Wow Greta. I feel completely sorry for the girls you are coaching. If they would be kind and actually WILLING to self improve and truly looking for a guy to be in a relationship with, they would not need this. You should teach them to be genuinely kind above everything else.
These men are something else! I'm think ing young immature boys do this type of stuff. Never wait on a phone call. Never.
Ilene K,I admire your lovely smile 😊!!
Works both ways. Guys base their actions largely on the last relationship or string of them they had , or a family member had( brothers, cousins, parents, etc) and they try those things on you.While you may understand some of this, it does not always mean you agree with or like it.
Don't turn a blind eye to men's disrespectful behavior. Don't forget it, write it down. But don't reach out to him. Men think time erases bad behavior.
this is all basic human psychology! it's great!!! men and women are DIFFERENT. and this lady speaks TRUTH. it's not that men who do this are bad, that's just their makeup....anyways. I would do these things you are talkng about in the video! omg.....lmao
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What if your married same rules? Shouldn’t a man be reliable??
I really like her because she explains SO WELL. although sometimes we girls know the "rule", we dont know extacly how to apply in our lives
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I only behave high value when I am not in love.
So true me too
Oh boy, it sounds like relationships are 90% manipulations for manipulations sake. I think it's better to leave this till I'm like 30.
I’ve seen some act like this in their 50s
@@chellg6966 Better leave it till they're 90
Greta I really love your teaching thank you, I have those attitude and I am about to change it
Good info in this video, remember there is someone for everyone, relationships are not always a tug of war...or cat and mouse... you should feel secure overall in a relationship and chase no one, what's for you will come for you, build your confidence and develop yourself, be self-assured but not arrogant , have interests other than the opposite sex, broaden your mind and wordy view, keep good people close, maintain good relationships with people by being fair, helpful and straight. ...follow the 50/50 rule but not obsessively, learn to judge a situation, learn to them and take to appropriate course of action, in a dignified manner. Your "aura" as it were will then speak for itself, you will be more attractive and better ale to navigate in relationships and life in general, this goes for all genders...lol.
I like the way you explain, it helps me and very easy to follow. your voice is so calm
You are beautiful Greta, and I love your pale skin colour.
I really appreciate these deep tips you've shared with us
My girl would not accept me chatting another.. He has low attraction for you ......as for value for men its about visual beauty ....ladies with goals dreams and ambition adds no value... for me...I found a girl who made me her king and she is my queen ........If a man doesn't call he doesn't care........
Facts. Literally happened. Major lesson learned. When you know you grow.
Your videos are seriously amazing! I hope to grow as a woman in my new relationship.
If a woman notice's her fella pulling away and loosing attraction, and her reaction is to pull away from that bloke,.....it does not make him more interested in her at all......it makes him quit on her and look for another woman
What about being vulnerable? I was very vulnerable after meeting someone I liked after 3 years of being single. I unexpectedly got triggered due to being intimate due to last relationship trauma? I opened up and told him about my past trauma and that I didn’t know it was suppressed, and fear got the better of me..... has this made me ‘low value’ in his eyes? I don’t feel low value I show up for myself albeit not correctly in the moment. I will not chase or pursue but am happy to be open and honest! I am gutted!
greta you teach so many woomen you deserve to be merried too.im praying for you:)
I'm so glad I found your channel
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Nonsense...you must make a video how to respect each other on social media . 🤣 Ladies and gentlemen, being busy at work is very understable and reasonable..but what's the use of having a partner if one of you don't want to commit. Plus l won't lie if lm insecure..honest communication is very important..if at that first stage your partner can't accept the whole you..well he/she don't deserve you at all.
@Greta Bereisaite WIth all respect to your work, in this video you are coaching women to invalidate their personal feelings in order to enable toxic behavior of a particular men type. Also, you are coaching a passive aggressive response. This is dangerous! As a result, will follow uncontrollable, emotional explosion because feelings find an outlet one way or another. We see a lot of toxic behavior in men because women have been coached to enable men in all of their manifestations. And no, sharing with a man that he has caused very unpleasant feelings in me by disrespecting me or by wasting my precious time is not making me a low value person, it is passing back to him responsibility to deal with the consequence of his own action and putting him at a test. Women are not beautiful flowers waiting to be picked by whoever. Digesting and covering up with the indifference facade his low action is what would make a woman a very low value person. Give him a chance to make a choice and prove himself. He'll feel bad and never come back - perfect! Or he'll make a change and prove that he is a decent human being and then it is a win situation. If the majority of women instead of pretending and playing games demonstrated a straight forward rejection to these behaviors, men would have adjusted and changed. Because before being chasers they are human and at the core men and women have the same needs and feelings. Relationships are about feelings, mating is about games.
Excellent. Thanks for opening my eyes.
Greta, you are amazing ! Thank you so much.
Ok but I feel like I need to watch all of her youtube videos for 10 times each 💎
I’ve been giving my friend high value advice and recommended your channel to her but she’s telling me these things she’s doing that are so low value that I know she never watched one video & every thing I tell her goes in one ear and out the other. I’m cringing so much about it I don’t even want to talk to her
Omg this is the reason why he broke up with me. He was commenting on her picture and liking her picture and she also liked his picture. Now I learn what I should not do.
High value women aren’t dating the men exhibiting this behavior in the first place. Why would a self-respecting woman be attracted to men who lose interest so easily and play games to gain attention? Once that behavior starts, she should walk away and date other high value men.
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Thank you so much very good helpful advice
But after a while, I dumped him and told him I lost attraction for him. I wonder if he’ll come crawling back
I did all of this n constantly he kept hurting me.Thus I broke up with him . He texted me but now I don't talk to him . What should I do ?
To be fair for men, game-playing is a flirtatious invitation from the guys for the girls to show their value (their intelligence, temperament, confidence !!! games can be so much FUN - Are you able to serve him his own medicine ??? ), those women who claim they hate the games, are those who fail miserably for the same type of games over and over again. If those women choose NOT to hate the games, or the men, should have chance to up their games and impress the men, but honest who cares to impress the men? Lades, you need to impress YOURSELF and win the game, for this how people build their confidence through winnings and winnings !!