With my dad, some days he talks about his brain being messed up even to the point of telling others he has Alheimers, then there are days all is going smooth we have spoken to each other nicely, he's enjoying something on tv and I'm working...then out of the blue he will say "you think I'm crazy but you're the one that's crazy" I'm trying not to react but it is so hard, I'm like him by speaking what comes across my mind when I'm upset or angry which is how he has always been.
We have made 3 different areas to visit in my yard. All spaces are different color and furniture. We 2 cooking areas so we can do different kinds of foods. We listen to music different kinds that we like. I am a care giver and I am getting so much he from teepa snow thank you
Teepa thank you so much!! I am finally accepting my husband's problems. I was so angry that he was slowly leaving me. I know that sounds terrible. I love him with all of my heart. Each time he failed I wanted to yell......you know this. I didn't, but I thought it. Thank you so much.
Perhaps they are bored, my mom was hen we started doing jigsaw puzzles and she did great. The phrase we used and laughed a lot with was “ now we need scissors to make this fit and colors do match” of course I never could find the scissors, so we moved to another section. It got both of us out of chairs and we walked more around the table. Extra benefit, exercise.
Sometimes my lady gets into an intense forward movement, head down, hard to stop her. I had her on a walk yesterday. She began walking unusually fast. She tripped, fell but got up easily. Because she wanted to charge forward I stopped and held her a few times reassuring her, soothing it's OK. We were 2 blocks from the house. We generally walk 8 or 10 blocks. Today was different this started in two blocks pretty quickly, the charging ahead. We were in her neighborhood that we walk every time. I'm sore today because I had to physically prevent her from just putting her head down and charging ahead. She's very strong for a little woman. She was forcefully pushing against me as I was applying breaks to get down a gentle sidewalk decline to her home.. I've heard that this zone or behavior happened in the house about a year ago with another caregiver. She ended up crashing into the bathroom and the bathtub charging through the house with her head down not able to see where she was going. Surprisingly her husband wasn't concerned because it's only happened once before a year ago. In response to Friday he said that's why the other caregivers don't take her for walks or outings because it's too hard. He's home from work with heart issues currently. I'm wanting to understand why this charging ahead behavior might happen. Several months ago she scooted on her bottom throughout the whole house, every room, every corner, for about an hour which seemed like a similar Kind of manic, um behavior. At least she could see where she was going so I didn't see any harm in this activity playing itself out till she was tired. I made sure she didn't get hurt. Is she's in a zone of her own and unresponsive.yesterday and with the scooting around the house. It hasn't happened since that I am aware of. I'm with her 2 days a week for 8 hour shifts. We go for a walk and sometimes a ride every time. She responds well to activities, she likes to go. Can you shed any light on this? I'm concerned. Thank you so much, MaryAiñe from California
I'm trying to be the best friend to my beloved sister-in-law who is in a memory care unit. Teepa Snow provides invaluable insight, and I wish the whole world would listen and learn from her. Thank you for sharing this video.
Thank you so much Teepa for your time , knowledge and compassion . You make so much sense . My mum refuses to go to the Dr( I'm in the UK) , but she clearly has some form of dementia . Your teaching and tips on how to cope and interact positively with our loved ones is invaluable . Thank you again .
My mother begrudgingly went to her first assessment, which showed she had mild cognitive impairment, in October of 2021. She was furious at the clinician, the process, etc. Since then, she's refused to go to her follow-up assessment, so I'm left managing the increasingly irrational, non-sensical land of dementia. I'm so grateful for that first glimpse by the clinician, who told me "She's definitely cognitively impaired, but you still have time to prepare together." She has resisted accepting the word "dementia" as if it's an STD or some kind of character flaw. She prefers 'memory problems" but that doesn't explain why she calls friends on the phone at midnight or accuses family members of stealing from her. The decline has been much faster than I expected (or perhaps she was further along than suspected at the time) so the poor judgment, emotional swings, paranoia and confusion are nearly constant. It's been emotionally so helpful to have a logical, concrete explanation for what would otherwise be increasingly confusing, frustrating, and hurtful behavior by a loved one.
I told my aunt, mom’s baby sister, that I brought her someone she might enjoy talking to because she is from the place you grew up, or someone who went to the same college as you( but this is her friend from college) and let my aunt decide if she remembers them. My aunt had her locks changed because those women can get in, mom and me, … but they gave us a key without her knowing if needed.
Teepa is amazing! Found her on here just in time. About to go through a journey with my mom & these videos are exactly what I/we needed. Thank you so much! 🙏
What do you do when you feel like you lack compassion and empathy toward the “loved one” but rather feel resentment, anger and constant aggravation and exhaustion? My Dad who was abused and abusive and has seemed to enjoy tormenting, manipulating and infuriating my Mom and our family. My Mom died in September and my Dad is a never-ending obstinate/defiant rebel who appears to be full of mischief and anger toward anyone and everyone especially my sister his primary caregiver. He’s in the late stages of dementia at 84 and bedridden on a feeding tube however our understanding and compassion is running low. He seems to work against us non-stop and is virtually impossible when it comes to any cooperation. He has also been addicted to pharmaceutical drugs for decades, pain pills, psyche meds etc and he has a genetic history. Nevertheless, he is often sane enough to be quite cruel and can infuriate all who speak to him. We have taken him out of nursing home care after 3 years of neglect and nursing home frustrations and horrors. Now he lives with us and seems to be no better. On top of everything else, my sister and I feel guilty fir feeling the way we feel which is unwilling and just over it. I stay with him all day every weekday and he find myself wishing him dead even for the benefit of all involved. I even get mad at God for allowing him to suffer and us to suffer this ongoing situation. Uggggggggggggg
FTD has worst behaviors. feeling the very same. mom is 84 and has grins of evil when she locks me out in my own backyard. curses me out, refuses to listen to any of us. destroyed her home hoarding extreme with items and 61 cats! spent 700 a month on stray cats shunned family. We take limited solace in that she is now clean, her bedding clean, meds taken right, and no longer unhuggable as smelling like bottom of multi cat litter box. addict cannot drive, car elsewhere purse put away - yay! she cannot hoard anymore. Yay we can trash destroyed house items and get house cleared without her violence or battles. i grandma sit, sis works clearing the horrid house. so over thinking there would be any relationship she doesn't think she has me as a kid and as a stranger in her mind i am enemy. ok. i will focus on what we have done well. let her nastiness be hers and escape it in another room.
Same. All the things!!! We were stuck with Dad when Mom died. Sorry you and your sister are dealing with all of this. Get into therapy as you go through this if you can. That was super helpful to manage the misplaced guilt feelings and to manage the boundaries of what we could do AND NOT do. I understand all those feelings!!! Being a caregiver (and especially a reluctant one) can kill you and shorten your life, no one is obligated to live that way. Send him back to a facility if you can find one to take him now and monitor that he isn't being abused. Call the authorities if that happens but you don't have to take on an entire human being whose being abusive to you. If you decide to keep caring for him, which is the decision we did make, see if there is a nonprofit that will help you the caregivers with nursing care & respite care. That was invaluable for us. www.caregivercenter.org. See if there is something like this is your area. Maybe it's time for hospice services. Look into that. They were also super helpful. Caregiving is so specialized and demanding. We must be able to say NO to the job when it threatens our well-being.
It's significant that your live talk is entitled, Being Patient, the fourth quality produced by God's spirit: Love, Joy, Peace, Patience . . . . according to Galatians 5:22, 23 in the Holy Scriptures! This confirms something to me. Thank you.
That’s a huge missing piece you get a copy of some pamphlets of things that might be helpful but it doesn’t really prepare you for what kind of conversations to have or to the caregiver role might be like or anything. My stepmom‘s doctor has gotten better in some things but when I first brought up a concern of memory last to doctor her words to me were she’s not wandering yet so it doesn’t matter!??
My mom’s first visit to the neurologist was very disappointing. I spend 24/7 with her and he has her for 20 minutes. His diagnosis yeah she has some memory loss but she’s 87. My response was, “Well is it Alzheimer’s or Dementia”. His response was well maybe not yet. She also has some balance issues and she’s sitting there saying she doesn’t and it’s the shoes that make her imbalanced. I knew something was wrong and her primary care doctors says we’ll she’s a little weak so let’s get her some therapy to work on her balance. Well on 7/20/2022 my mom has a TIA stroke. MRI shows this wasn’t the first one. It took 3 months to get a neurology appointment and he said he wanted to do a CT scan and didn’t want to subject her to getting an MRI at that time. I wish I had been persistent enough to say or ask to please take an MRI as we could have known about the TIA strokes.
My Husband was diagnosed with Early Onset Alziemers Dementia in January 2022 he just turned 62 he has seemed to loose alot of Affect like expression less, he seems to have lost his Sense of Humor as Well which is Something i have always loved about him. Here lately we live in a Small 1 Bedroom Apartment the past few days he has been very Anxious and Restless, We went for a walk but it didnt seem to help enough hes been Constantly pacing around cant stay seated always walking around and we live on the second floor the floor squeeks pretty bad in Spots he keeps opening and closing the door. Im pretty worried and dont really know what to do to help him calm down?? 😢😢😢
Teepa I appreciate your advice but not your acting out how dementia suffers walk, talk or battle with this tragic disease! Please stop this crass behaviour and think of sufferers and their families by keeping them informed.and ditch your just for laughs shows. In any case, I have unsubscribed.
With my dad, some days he talks about his brain being messed up even to the point of telling others he has Alheimers, then there are days all is going smooth we have spoken to each other nicely, he's enjoying something on tv and I'm working...then out of the blue he will say "you think I'm crazy but you're the one that's crazy" I'm trying not to react but it is so hard, I'm like him by speaking what comes across my mind when I'm upset or angry which is how he has always been.
We have made 3 different areas to visit in my yard. All spaces are different color and furniture. We 2 cooking areas so we can do different kinds of foods. We listen to music different kinds that we like. I am a care giver and I am getting so much he from teepa snow thank you
Teepa thank you so much!! I am finally accepting my husband's problems. I was so angry that he was slowly leaving me. I know that sounds terrible. I love him with all of my heart. Each time he failed I wanted to yell......you know this. I didn't, but I thought it. Thank you so much.
Just found Teepa and loving it. I am a caregiver. So much to learn. God Bless
Thankfully, there’s a landslide of videos on her website & UA-cam … look for her GEM states
Perhaps they are bored, my mom was hen we started doing jigsaw puzzles and she did great. The phrase we used and laughed a lot with was “ now we need scissors to make this fit and colors do match” of course I never could find the scissors, so we moved to another section. It got both of us out of chairs and we walked more around the table. Extra benefit, exercise.
Sometimes my lady gets into an intense forward movement, head down, hard to stop her.
I had her on a walk yesterday. She began walking unusually fast. She tripped, fell but got up easily. Because she wanted to charge forward I stopped and held her a few times reassuring her, soothing it's OK.
We were 2 blocks from the house. We generally walk 8 or 10 blocks. Today was different this started in two blocks pretty quickly, the charging ahead. We were in her neighborhood that we walk every time.
I'm sore today because I had to physically prevent her from just putting her head down and charging ahead. She's very strong for a little woman. She was forcefully pushing against me as I was applying breaks to get down a gentle sidewalk decline to her home..
I've heard that this zone or behavior happened in the house about a year ago with another caregiver. She ended up crashing into the bathroom and the bathtub charging through the house with her head down not able to see where she was going.
Surprisingly her husband wasn't concerned because it's only happened once before a year ago.
In response to Friday he said that's why the other caregivers don't take her for walks or outings because it's too hard. He's home from work with heart issues currently.
I'm wanting to understand why this charging ahead behavior might happen. Several months ago she scooted on her bottom throughout the whole house, every room, every corner, for about an hour which seemed like a similar Kind of manic, um behavior.
At least she could see where she was going so I didn't see any harm in this activity playing itself out till she was tired. I made sure she didn't get hurt.
Is she's in a zone of her own and unresponsive.yesterday and with the scooting around the house.
It hasn't happened since that I am aware of. I'm with her 2 days a week for 8 hour shifts. We go for a walk and sometimes a ride every time. She responds well to activities, she likes to go.
Can you shed any light on this? I'm concerned. Thank you so much,
MaryAiñe from California
I'm trying to be the best friend to my beloved sister-in-law who is in a memory care unit. Teepa Snow provides invaluable insight, and I wish the whole world would listen and learn from her. Thank you for sharing this video.
Thank you sooooo much. Great wisdom. I am a Dementia Caregiver.
I am most thankful for finding Ms.Snow. We need a checklist for what to look for in a good care facility.
Thank you so much Teepa for your time , knowledge and compassion .
You make so much sense .
My mum refuses to go to the Dr( I'm in the UK) , but she clearly has some form of dementia .
Your teaching and tips on how to cope and interact positively with our loved ones is invaluable .
Thank you again .
My mother begrudgingly went to her first assessment, which showed she had mild cognitive impairment, in October of 2021. She was furious at the clinician, the process, etc. Since then, she's refused to go to her follow-up assessment, so I'm left managing the increasingly irrational, non-sensical land of dementia. I'm so grateful for that first glimpse by the clinician, who told me "She's definitely cognitively impaired, but you still have time to prepare together." She has resisted accepting the word "dementia" as if it's an STD or some kind of character flaw. She prefers 'memory problems" but that doesn't explain why she calls friends on the phone at midnight or accuses family members of stealing from her.
The decline has been much faster than I expected (or perhaps she was further along than suspected at the time) so the poor judgment, emotional swings, paranoia and confusion are nearly constant. It's been emotionally so helpful to have a logical, concrete explanation for what would otherwise be increasingly confusing, frustrating, and hurtful behavior by a loved one.
So love teepa snow!
I told my aunt, mom’s baby sister, that I brought her someone she might enjoy talking to because she is from the place you grew up, or someone who went to the same college as you( but this is her friend from college) and let my aunt decide if she remembers them.
My aunt had her locks changed because those women can get in, mom and me, … but they gave us a key without her knowing if needed.
Teepa is amazing! Found her on here just in time. About to go through a journey with my mom & these videos are exactly what I/we needed. Thank you so much! 🙏
Teepa's great!
Would to see her live
I like this; I'm learning (for the first time) how to deal/manage symptoms of dementia! Thank you very much!
EXCELLENT!!!!
Thank you both so much.🌹
What do you do when you feel like you lack compassion and empathy toward the “loved one” but rather feel resentment, anger and constant aggravation and exhaustion? My Dad who was abused and abusive and has seemed to enjoy tormenting, manipulating and infuriating my Mom and our family. My Mom died in September and my Dad is a never-ending obstinate/defiant rebel who appears to be full of mischief and anger toward anyone and everyone especially my sister his primary caregiver. He’s in the late stages of dementia at 84 and bedridden on a feeding tube however our understanding and compassion is running low. He seems to work against us non-stop and is virtually impossible when it comes to any cooperation. He has also been addicted to pharmaceutical drugs for decades, pain pills, psyche meds etc and he has a genetic history. Nevertheless, he is often sane enough to be quite cruel and can infuriate all who speak to him. We have taken him out of nursing home care after 3 years of neglect and nursing home frustrations and horrors. Now he lives with us and seems to be no better. On top of everything else, my sister and I feel guilty fir feeling the way we feel which is unwilling and just over it. I stay with him all day every weekday and he find myself wishing him dead even for the benefit of all involved. I even get mad at God for allowing him to suffer and us to suffer this ongoing situation. Uggggggggggggg
FTD has worst behaviors. feeling the very same. mom is 84 and has grins of evil when she locks me out in my own backyard. curses me out, refuses to listen to any of us. destroyed her home hoarding extreme with items and 61 cats! spent 700 a month on stray cats shunned family. We take limited solace in that she is now clean, her bedding clean, meds taken right, and no longer unhuggable as smelling like bottom of multi cat litter box. addict cannot drive, car elsewhere purse put away - yay! she cannot hoard anymore. Yay we can trash destroyed house items and get house cleared without her violence or battles. i grandma sit, sis works clearing the horrid house. so over thinking there would be any relationship she doesn't think she has me as a kid and as a stranger in her mind i am enemy. ok. i will focus on what we have done well. let her nastiness be hers and escape it in another room.
Pool your money together as a family and hire a care attendant , and reapite care
There are many government programs
Same. All the things!!! We were stuck with Dad when Mom died. Sorry you and your sister are dealing with all of this.
Get into therapy as you go through this if you can. That was super helpful to manage the misplaced guilt feelings and to manage the boundaries of what we could do AND NOT do. I understand all those feelings!!!
Being a caregiver (and especially a reluctant one) can kill you and shorten your life, no one is obligated to live that way.
Send him back to a facility if you can find one to take him now and monitor that he isn't being abused. Call the authorities if that happens but you don't have to take on an entire human being whose being abusive to you.
If you decide to keep caring for him, which is the decision we did make, see if there is a nonprofit that will help you the caregivers with nursing care & respite care. That was invaluable for us. www.caregivercenter.org. See if there is something like this is your area.
Maybe it's time for hospice services. Look into that. They were also super helpful.
Caregiving is so specialized and demanding. We must be able to say NO to the job when it threatens our well-being.
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I enjoy watching Teepa snow
Helpful, rewatched
This is so good!
So helpful and how incredibly accurate. 37:38 helps me with my aunt so well to understand her denial.
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Very help and educational video
So so good!
What is the best way to begin watching all @teepasnow videos? Is there a chronological order or a best way to study her wealth of knowledge?
Perfect explanation of merri go round and roller coaster!
It's significant that your live talk is entitled, Being Patient, the fourth quality produced by God's spirit: Love, Joy, Peace, Patience . . . . according to Galatians 5:22, 23 in the Holy Scriptures! This confirms something to me. Thank you.
That’s a huge missing piece you get a copy of some pamphlets of things that might be helpful but it doesn’t really prepare you for what kind of conversations to have or to the caregiver role might be like or anything.
My stepmom‘s doctor has gotten better in some things but when I first brought up a concern of memory last to doctor her words to me were she’s not wandering yet so it doesn’t matter!??
My mom’s first visit to the neurologist was very disappointing. I spend 24/7 with her and he has her for 20 minutes. His diagnosis yeah she has some memory loss but she’s 87. My response was, “Well is it Alzheimer’s or Dementia”. His response was well maybe not yet. She also has some balance issues and she’s sitting there saying she doesn’t and it’s the shoes that make her imbalanced. I knew something was wrong and her primary care doctors says we’ll she’s a little weak so let’s get her some therapy to work on her balance. Well on 7/20/2022 my mom has a TIA stroke. MRI shows this wasn’t the first one. It took 3 months to get a neurology appointment and he said he wanted to do a CT scan and didn’t want to subject her to getting an MRI at that time. I wish I had been persistent enough to say or ask to please take an MRI as we could have known about the TIA strokes.
My Husband was diagnosed with Early Onset Alziemers Dementia in January 2022 he just turned 62 he has seemed to loose alot of Affect like expression less, he seems to have lost his Sense of Humor as Well which is Something i have always loved about him. Here lately we live in a Small 1 Bedroom Apartment the past few days he has been very Anxious and Restless, We went for a walk but it didnt seem to help enough hes been Constantly pacing around cant stay seated always walking around and we live on the second floor the floor squeeks pretty bad in Spots he keeps opening and closing the door. Im pretty worried and dont really know what to do to help him calm down?? 😢😢😢
Hi Teepa snow how do I get on UA-cam with. Teepa snow
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My mom refuses to take a shower
Don't think physicians are even on the ship?
The woman asking questions is herself not interactive, like she can't follow the conversation and just jumps to another subject or she just nods.
Too bad sarcastic humor seems to stay
Teepa I appreciate your advice but not your acting out how dementia suffers walk, talk or battle with this tragic disease! Please stop this crass behaviour and think of sufferers and their families by keeping them informed.and ditch your just for laughs shows. In any case, I have unsubscribed.
Rude much?