How Men Think: Why Men Only Respect What They Pay For!
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To the ear hustlers and lurkers. If you disagree with Chloe’s messages on her channel start your own 50/50 channel and spread the negative dust elsewhere. We are all about hypergamy here.
Dee Yep! 😂
Yass sis!!👏👏👏
Agreed. Preaching to the wrong church.
Miss. Waters Amen and Amen! Let them know!
I concur. 50/50 Dust channel
Masculine: provide, protect, build, lead
Feminine: receive, support, nurture, influence
You’re right about the receive . With the divorce rates being how they are.
Saimazing Life 💜💜💜💜
Amen
Indeed...simple, clear, and to the point.
Saimazing Life yessss
Women should always understand nothing is free. Your time, energy, affection and your body should come with respect and financial Security.
Exactly. They'll pay for it in strip clubs, but don't want to pay or invest in regards to relationships.
@@dnw75 what men pay for in a strip club is assessability to a womans body not her respect. I'm just not going to waste all my feminine power on a man that doesn't understand or value what I'm offering him with no return.
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@@sylviabaskin2933 Amen Sis!
well said!
This is why we give our time to men who INVEST in us, they respect what they invest in. If he doesn't invest, he doesn't respect you...
Cheryl D exactly
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It depends on what he is investing if it's time then yes..but if it's only money no ..because men pay for sex as well so I wouldnt use the term investment unless it's clear on what he is investing
So basically only prostitutes are valuable because men spend money on them.
@Arinze Ihezue you can look at it how you want but everything on planet Earth has a price nothing is free in this case the cost of a mans love is his time if he spends it then he truly likes you
A male friend once excitedly told me that his lady made him work for her goodies...she even called them "P" points. He was proud to earn them!
That's kinky lol... Good boy.
Nicole exactly
Nicole he never said anything about marriage he just wants a virgin like most guys do, it’s hard to treat u like treasure when 25 other guys have ran thru u without even respecting u
@@1DopeDolly He better be a virgin too.
@@1DopeDolly Thank you beautiful🙈🥰
I once heard T.D. Jakes say "A man puts his money where his heart is."
LMAO! I heard a televangelist say something similar ( _"For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also"_ ) in a concert hall years ago -- it's a method of getting people to tossing lots of money into the collection plate!
Where his heart or lust are.
Think about prostitution and escorts girls.
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@@mistressofsongdanceextraor8403 You needed to hear the context of his speech in order to appreciate how he used that statement at that moment. Preachers and Pastors say lots of things. We all know that the church runs on Tithes, so putting money in the basket is nothing new.
As my Grandmother used to always say, “A man won’t buy the cow if he can get the milk for free.” 💯
FACTS!
Lol my mom would say this to me and it’s true sooo true
I rather be single than a 50/50 chick, I have never struggled myself.
An ex of mine once asked me if I would go 50/50 I looked at him and said “oh I’m sorry I’m not looking for a roommate at this time”. 🙄
You betta SAY THAT!!! FACTS!!!
Exactly
@@jazzyone1986 so you’re looking for a parent or a pimp??? weird
@@verdellnicholsonjr8125 no Im looking for a man lol. Well WAS, I’m already married now to a provider.
I don’t know how anyone can disagree with this. It’s 100% truth. Any grown woman knows the difference between how a man treats you when he truly values you versus when he sees you as something he can use for sex or other benefits. A man who sees your value treats you valuably. I have lived it. My boyfriend comes with nothing but the best for me. When he buys me concert tickets, they’re orchestra seats or better. When he buys me gifts he’s very specific in asking me exactly what I want versus trying to cut corners. He takes care of my car. He does everything a man should do for a good woman and in return I make his life extremely comfortable and that’s all he asks of me. He is the first man I’ve been with who actually sees my value and acts accordingly and it feels so so good to be treated the way I know I deserve.
Sometimes I get mad at myself when I think about how I’ve shortchanged myself in the past and wasted my time.
You leave the best comments! Thank you so much for sharing your point of view.
and let me guess you do nothing but take?? weird
@@verdellnicholsonjr8125Let me guess. You're a brokie. 😂
Low key this as an academic class in basic economics and behavioral psychology. 🙌🏾
Yep.. I remember in my high school psychology class, my teacher said that a woman that made more than her husband was automatically a dysfunctional family
@@norapeace6526 wish I had a teacher like yours back then.
Ikr it’s amazing !!💕
@ Nora Peace This is very true, my sociology professor told us that women are more likely to be abused by their partners when they earn a promotion.
Lmao for real 🙌🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I remember 2pac said in I get around "I don't want it if it's that easy" meaning he liked to work for a woman
reign you mean she let him use her.
NM C some people read to respond and not to understand you got it girl 🙌🏾
@Reality check At this point who gives zero Fs what they think whether they are men of means or not? Why should they get to validate us? They are cruel and crude by nature. And, they take advantage of the fact that women are emotional creatures, and that society has fixed it where women feel worthless if they don't have one of them on a steady basis. It's a mind fck laced into our emotions; that's how they run the game. I say...give me good health, a healthy bank account and some male company every now and then and I am good! They can come see but they can't stay.
@@nmc1859 Here's a T.D. Jakes quote.... "A man puts his money where his heart is"
Yep, I noticed that part of that song, too, in the recent past. Never paid attention to it until recently. Wondered if any other ladies of the hypergamous/level up movement caught it as well.
There is no point in marrying a man and still having to work afterwards. If for some reason you want to work that is fine, but he has to give you a choice. If there is no choice and working is required, WHY MARRY HIM?! Only so you can have more work to do?
@Connor Hickory II Stay single.
There. Problem solved.
Exactly...
exactly!! like me for example - I am a teacher and I love my job so much so I will never stop teaching. However, I want to be given THE CHOICE to work. like, if I fall pregnant and have kids, I might decide to stay home for while.
Amen
Women now have businesses. So it's not the "for some reasons"..
People appreciate things more that they have to work for . Men love the challenge.. as long as you remember that you’ll always be the prize.
Calm and Aware! So u like getting things easy out of a woman ? I’m not saying women should be problematic but making things easy enables lazy and half ass behavior in my opinion .. in most cases if a man gets everything easy they get comfortable .. the woman who isn’t so easy to access represents a woman who values her self therefore her worth is more than a woman who u don’t have to put any effort in.
Calm and Aware! Well my experience from a woman’s perspective is the complete opposite ..men who live at home and have nothing going on are intimidated by women who aren’t easy and make things challenging bc they know they don’t fit the criteria .. a man who has nothing to offer will aim at women who will accept the bare minimum..Men are natural pursuers and will actively pursue the woman they feel is worth it .. a man of means knows a woman of good quality when they see one and will go above and beyond to pursue her.. I can’t speak for women who play games bc that’s not my angle. But if a woman isn’t as accessible as the next chick that definitely makes her stand out .
@Miss. Waters agree
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Miss. Waters and exactly!!! “Earn your respect”
Yall better stop buying the pig just to get a lil sausage!
allaround dopegirl Ewww 😂
@allaround dopegirl Sis you are too much....I'm over here hollering!!!
1000 %
Ha!! Lol thats a good one. Im borrowing it 🤣
@@TX-xq6dx Me too!
Rule # 1 : Stop being thirsty ladies . FOCUS ON YOURSELF !
ppl work hard for what they VALUE. And VALUE what they work hard for.
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PERIOD
Yes, we do not value anything we don’t pay for. This reminds me of when I got my first car. Although my dad cosigned and paid the down payment, I paid all 60 notes. I treated that car so well. Oil changes on time. Washing and vacuuming regularly. I even put Armour All on the tires, the soft top, and the black parts on the outside when I washed it. When I GAVE it to my little brother, he mistreated it. When he paid for his first car, he treated it like a princess, and it looked brand new when he finally traded it in twelve years later.
@soul sessions tv Bdhrh That's nature in general. She should have sold him the car, not to prove anything, but why should he be handed anything without earning it. But that sort of undermines the premise of this channel. The idea of entitlement.
So women are cars?
@Arinze Ihezue seeing as majority of black households have a black women as the head and main provider, that statement is completely untrue. You black men just feel threatened when black women decided to stop coddling your asses and won't put up with you dusties resting in your feminine.
Women are not cars. You should never have a price tag on you. That is disgusting, gold digging, and immature behavior. There's a big difference between women and cars.
If he is not spending, he broke or doesn't value you. PERIOD! Thanks Chloe I'm learning a lot from your channel!
I have been single for almost 5 yrs with no intentions of getting out there anytime soon but you definitely have me looking at things much differently than before. I don't think I'd be a single mom had I found you sooner. You are helping many young woman who do/did not have guidance. Thanks for another great video.
momb4life - Your post is like a reflection. I have been single for over 5 years and can agree that if I had the knowledge that Chloe is giving us, things would definitely be different. Fortunately, it's never too late for us.❤
@@ieshiaaa You are right about that. I needed these years to focus on myself, work on myself, and learn to love myself. It is never too late to improve.
Is better to date when you are ready and you have the right mindset! ❤️
Don’t be afraid to get out there and date and live life. 20’s and 30’s are for practicing, honing in on your skills, and gaining experience. We should be fine as long as we uphold hypergamous values. It’s the unaware women whom should be afraid.
@@msgrayson81 I will once I am where I want to be.
Great news!! This morning I was out with a friend group (men and women) and I spent time making myself look the feminine part beforehand. Before I knew it, one of the men offered to buy me a copy of a book I wanted. I had the (albeit masculine) instinct to say “Oh no that’s ok, I can buy it myself”, but I didn’t. Thanks to what I’ve learned on your channel, I said “Thank you for buying it for me” and celebrated him for being a gentleman. It was a nice step for me towards leaning into my feminine energy to step up into hypergamy. Thank you again!
Update: Almost a full year later I can proudly say that I live in my feminine at all times! I now expect men to be gentlemanly and I’m shocked if I’m around one that would let me take out my wallet... even though I won’t even pretend to reach for it when I’m out on a date. The idea of dating a cheap/broke man is unfathomable to me at this point, and I’m urging my friends who say yes to coffee dates to learn better. Thank you Chloe, I’ve dodged many bullets thanks to you ❤️
@@lalalalaaAa123 how u doing now sis
OMG! When you explained the 50/50 situation I almost jumped out of my chair! You're 10000000% correct! It's UNNATURAL for a feminine woman to take care of a man financially or even go 50/50 with him. I realized this very quickly in my early twenties when I was with my ex Dusty. The 1st time was when he asked me for money to purchase a new phone. It felt so "unnatural" to me!😩. I was kinda disgusted yet I still did it anyway because I was in "love"and I had that ride or die mentality🤦🏾♀️🙄. Just thinking back on that situation made me know that the hypergamous life was meant for me.😊
You were desperate that is not love baby girl
@@babyboasty6033 Not desperate dear, just naive and immature. Once I grew up and learned better I did better.😊
People got it twisted. Not wanting a 50/50 situation doesn't mean "wait for a man to start living a wholesome life to feel loved, meaningful, and purposeful". It simply means you don't want to be a roommate. If you value your femininity and future, you will know and understand a woman shouldn't be working as hard as a man should unless it is her choice and not a requirement. I see pregnant women in factories working....probably in a 50/50 situation 👀
In factories working while pregnant! That's terrible 😩
A man told me that men rarely EVER speak negatively about a sex workers because they PAID for that sex.
Yup
I believe that a lot of the problem lies with lack of knowledge. I was raised by a single mom who worked all the time and was never home to really teach me about being a feminine woman. So I grew up being a "tom boy" because it was just me and my older brother. When young women aren't taught how to be feminine or how hypergamy works, we end up dating down and settling for men with nothing! Thank you so much for your advice and education. It's very much needed.
The average gainfully employed man can only consistently financially support and entertain one woman at a time. This comes along with the effort that a woman demands from him in order to be worthy of her attention and time.
If dude is telling you he’s broke or trying to get you to accept a house date (Netflix & chill /let him cook for you or you him) he is either spending his $$ on someone else and/or doesn’t see you as worthy.
Make him spend the $$ before getting much attention if you cannot get him to do so hang up in his face. I do all the time.🤣🤣🤣
Absolutely, When A Man 🙌 Takes Care Of His Family, He's Up Most Respected As The King 👑.
Utmost...
What if his woman turns in him?
And let’s just point out that there will never be “50/50” until men are able to carry a child for 9 months, push out the child, breastfeed etc!!
I feel that investing also includes giving you time, continuing to court you, professing to others his love for you, wanting to protect you, being loyal/faithful, having you around his family & friends and making sure you are included in all parts of his life.
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You DESERVE all of those things. High value men bring way more than money
Str8 Shooter My point was he should be giving financially as stated in the video, but ALSO displaying what I stated previously. If he’s giving financially without the qualities, what’s the point? You will find your with someone who is a NARCISSIST! They give financially up front but you will notice them missing a few of the other qualities after a period of time. You will then really be dating a BROKE and BROKEN man! 🤷🏽♀️Time and consistency is the key. Folks can only keep on their mask for so long!
Str8 Shooter lol... I want a polite provider!😃
Chile, a lot of these escorts marry better than these so called good women out here... ladies can learn a lot from sex workers!
Yes!💯
Thank you! The idea that se*x workers are treated horribly is a facade. I read a lot of their forums. These girls are getting everything. The men will spend their last dimes on them but will make an excuse as to why they need to split a bill on a date with the average girl.
For real
NM C the largest sex organ is the brain. For most sex workers sexual intercourse in only a small percentage of their work activity. Strippers, phone sex operators, dominatrixes, don’t engage in sexual activity. But beyond their actual job it’s more about women adopting their mindset when dealing with men.
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I’ve never seen my mom take care of a man so I always thought it was stupid. I just didn’t realize that some women grew up watching their mom support a man. I never saw her do 50/50 either. She expected the men she dated to take care of everything and they did. But she’s also very attractive and has always taken care of her physical appearance. I literally learned at an early age that women who took the 50/50 route with men got the short end of the stick. I’ve seen these type of women get left in favor of my mom. My mother is the type of person who didn’t have to be taught to put herself first it’s naturally who she is. My grandma was not this way might I add. And when she ended a relationship the men wouldn’t let go easily because they had invested so much. She always told me never feel sorry for a man when he’s complaining about his bills or money problems because he spending the money on another woman. She said the woman that’s willing to help is the one he’ll think is stupid and take advantage of.
It’s “Self Care Sunday” I’m already soaking my feet at 8 am watching a good word!!!! Halle-loo!!! You dragged me by my edges a little bit, I feel so bad for my mistakes. I didn’t know this before. 😩
Forgive yourself every day and move on. And vow to be a better person.
soul sessions tv Bdhrh You ladies are right! Have to keep a great attitude. Let me say that, I’m grateful to have found this information that will benefit me for the rest of my life. 😌
Amen!!!
You didn’t do anything wrong. Men should’ve been honest. The fact that you believed a lie isn’t your fault. That’s what a lie is meant to be, believed.
When we know better, we do better sis.
Yep.. my dad told my mom he didn’t feel like the man in his own home bc my mom was the breadwinner. So he abused everyone bc he was an unhappy narcissist. 🤷🏽♀️ he worked hard!!! Everyday! And made a lot of money, but no where near my mom
I remember in my high school psychology class, my teacher said that a woman that made more than her husband was automatically a dysfunctional family
I support the hypergamy concept as it is very natural to women. As for your high school psychology teacher's words, that's too much. That's making women stay little for their potential and abilities just to get their hypergamous needs met. It's an art for a woman to be both feminine and a high achiever in terms of making money or advancing in her chosen career. If she can meet both, all the better for her.
@@samiramamun7492 yes. Absolutely
@@vturner wow!! That’s so sad. It’s sad that some men’s ego gets in the way of a good thing
STANDARDS RULE! Men will attempt to con you out of your value. These 10 words are all you need to know, ladies.
06:45 "Women don't respect men who want help in making their maculinity easier!" 💯💯💯💯💯
I’m not quite at the point of hypergamy that I know the extent of all my feminine power but you’ve definitely extended the concept of demanding respect to me and it’s helped so much already. Thank you Chloe!!
And a lot of them still dont respect what they pay 4!
Men do nothing for FREE there’s always an agenda towards their time efforts money spending etc so women should also have plans while entertaining a man that isn’t a family member ✍🏽
I have a friend who is doing 50/50 n She's suffering exactly what's said in this video..
@@lavonnealexander6936 I really want to. I hope she won't b offended.
At 30, I have learned SO MUCH from this channel!!!!
Go head Chloe, love from Canada. 😘
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Date 1 Nice dinner , date 2 Nice dinner , date 3 credit card to redecorate my room date 4 -keys to his truck for me to drive . I went older 64, he’s nice, loves to spoil me, and we get along very well. Im always dressed up for him and I speak softly and allow him to lead.
Shabby Chic Charlene go girl!
Kay Abe still enjoying 🌸
You ain't never lied about taking free for granted. Its reminds me of when people don't have to pay out of pocket for certain services they will call and schedule appointments and not show up and you have to chase them down for services that they claim that they need and or want. But when that same person has to pay out of pocket for services and also pay a fee for not calling in advance to cancel aka (respecting time) people are more inclined to show up for the appointments and be more serious about the services that are rendered. Great video as usual.
Guys always buy me stuff, ppl get mad at me for never needing money for company. I make sure he has a good time while he also buying my lunch & spending time with them. I remember being the masculine girl I got less respect and they treated me as a threat.
I agree I'm starting to get in touch with my feminine side! I'm a 34 and a single mom! I was a long distant truck driver for 6 yrs and no I'm not a manly women. But never thought of myself as very feminine. It seems the older I get the more feminine mature of course i am and understanding my worth and God I put first at all times!
I can relate!
Actions > Words
I have seen this video but need to comment on what happened to me today. Met a guy and we had a 50/50 conversation. The person was raised in a country where men are 100% responsible for paying bills. I was raised in a family in another country were men in my family do the same. This fool told me that now, because he is in the USA, we all must go 50/50. Ummm no! No! Long story short, he is blocked!!!! 🚫
That's why they love American women when they're here. They can give us bare minimum, and give their family back home 100%.
Romance without finance is a nuisance
Exactly!
Another thing to keep in mind about women earning more than their boyfriends and spouses is that the men will resent the women for it. For example I was once at a singles event where this doctor was speaking and he brought this up. He told the story of a female doctor colleague of his from Bosnia. The woman's parents arranged for her to marry a Bosnian man who ran an outdoor food truck for work. So the two married. Then two weeks later, the woman came back to work covered in bruises.
Damn
I asked my husband what does he want for his 30th and he literally said he just wants me. I can say over the course of our relationship he does not want any gifts from me, they really are programmed to provide and are happiest when they are. I remember on the ask Steve segment and a lady asked after a year should of dating should I buy him a gift? I wanted to put in the comments please see Chloe's channel as reference(hint*the answer is no).
My husband is the same way. You leave the most wonderful comments and I thank you.
@@TheNewFeminine that's an honor coming from you I have put plenty of my friends who will listen on to your page, I want to make more women open their eyes in 2020.
that dude is a god damn simp!! I feel sick
@Morgan Taylor Exactly, I’m saying it’s sad how this boy thinks. My own brother tried to use that word and I told him to never use that word again 🙄
I will say , as a former / present dancer .. I didn’t have to do much at all !! I would get money handed to me just for being feminine and well spoken . And those same men would come right back around . And some have even funded my endeavors, taken me on trips etc . Treated me with more respect than the average joe. Already knew what it was while dealing with me. No games , and no gimmicks to get what I needed or wanted . And I didn’t have to do the emotional labor part with some , so it was a win win ! I think it’s all how you carry yourself and how that mans mind is shaped as well. It’s definitely more than “transactional”. I’ve built a bond that still stands with a lot of these men. Better to have more than one always 🤓😉
Are they just friends and have you ever dated one or gotten in a relationship with one?
That’s so true!! 50/50 usually turns into the woman working while he stays home
Or more frequently...he has a whole different life outside of the relationship.
Before I moved to Scandinavia I knew some men who believed in the 50/50 thing existed but never met them not even within my family!! Women back home NEVER tolerated that none sense so men stepped up. But here some women will argue with you if you even say that you expect a man to pay/take care of you financially!! Needless to say I never entertain the idea of being with men from this place😑 Thank you for the constant reminder Chloe✊🏾
zinab2blessa how are you dating in Scandinavia hun? Any luck? I'm going to be 3 months in Sweden, I'm having no expectations now.
@@swanthequeen2144 I personally don't date any men from this country, specially those born and raised here! They're usually on that 50/50 train which puts me off(unless they are rich). But I think the situation might be different in Sweden? Even though I heard from my Swedish friend that the 5050 rule still applies specially among the younger generation of men. I feel like men over in Sweden are more open and actually approach women while men in Norway are more reserved and the women many times initiate the interaction. Just be open and be yourself and you wont have a problem. And don't let anyone trick you into having casual sex... people here are very liberal when it comes to sex compared to other countries...
Same here in Germany tbh. The men here are such turnoffs and feminine...many women try their luck with foreign men (Muslim culture) and that's usually the way to go for hypergamous women (of course there are dusties too in my/Muslim culture)
I find it interesting how other women say I’m jaded from my past marriage when all I’m doing is setting and re-enforcing boundaries. Sorry I’ve zero time an am not required to take whatever from anyone.
Don't even bother to explaine. You leveling up in a respectful way. Stay classy . You been through alot your haters. Wondering how you survived.
Simone G that’s basically the position I’ve taken. No more discussions...
This was a super duper ouch for me ! listening to your videos and realizing all my mistakes and trying to condition myself has been very challenging! All this time (im29) I had it right the first time when I was dating then allowed the women around me convince me my standards were too high and that taking care of myself isn’t a priority I gave in. Also I have to say when your approaching you thirty’s and you have a very traditional family they don’t let you forget it !its almost as if they want you to pick up just anybody just to say I am married! Now that I’m reconditioning myself with your help it’s like almost hard to listen to how dumb I have been! It tugs at my heart to realize how much I let dusty women influence my moves and dusty-men take advantage of me all in the name of having a man so I glad I came across your videos. You have truly helped me take step back and revaluate myself. I know your helping a lot of women out here. Blessings to you Chloe!
You breaking generational curses . Fabulous. Keep shineing.
I am so glad you are on the journey. This channel is helping so many of us. God bless✊🏾
You’re def gonna ruffle some feathers with this one 🤣🤣🤣
This right here is very true. Because of your page I look back at my past relationships and I realize REAL men want to do things for you and I have to let men be a man. A real man wouldn’t throw things in your face if they do things for you and that was my biggest fear so I never asked for anything. But men seem to value thing/women MORE when are doing the spending. Was thinking about this at work yesterday and BOOM, you make a video on it lol
Thank you chole!💖
I’ve always been hypergamous. Not on purpose because there was a time I didn’t know what that was. Just that men played a specific role. I’ve always been taken care of, had my bills paid, been gifted with cars and nice things. I was just raised to expect certain things. Even still, I’ve been learning some things here...
Only the Bible truth spoken here.
Genesis Chapter 24 talks about Rebekah and Issac. To get this women Rebekah, he - Issac AND his father Abraham provided 10 camels loaded with all sorts of good things as well as a nose ring when she accepted his offer. Please read this chapter of Genesis to see how the chase was originally done in a way the caused it to be written in God's word.
@@kimsbodydesign YESSS and if you read the story of Jacob you'll read that he wanted Rachel but he had to work for her. He worked 7 YEARS to earn Rachel under her father, Laban, only for Laban to scam him by wedding Jacob off to his older daughter, Leah. The father told Jacob that it wasn't customary to wed the younger daughter before the older and if he wanted Rachel he had to work another 7 years for her. Guess what, after the next 7 years he finally was able to take Rachel's hand in marriage. Homeboy worked a total of 14 years to prove himself a competent man and husband through his efforts. He proved himself to Rachel and her father and Rachel didnt so much as lift a finger. She stayed her feminine self and let the man prove himself. Ladies who are Christian need to be taking notes on these stories and realize that most men of God in the bible were wealthy provider men who owned land and servants, from Abraham to David to Boaz and everyone in between. There is absolutely no excuse. Stop letting false prophets and pastors bible thump their lies into your heads forcing you to settle for some "born again" dusty.
My man keeps investing in me that’s why our relationship is long term 🙂
Is he still investing??
@@hillsideonly yes he is 💯 because he invested so much into me, he’d be a fool to leave 😉
@luxuryqueen42 how do you get him to do it, please advise me
I hate the phrase of 50/50 and we are equal. NO and no we are not...once I hear that mess it’s always segwayed with “oh I cook and clean too”. It’s right in there with “I know you’re an independent woman”...No you’re telling me you don’t speak my language and you want me to be 100% masculine in a situationship.
Sharon Luw agree but I find that when it’s a talking point it’s a setup. He’s checking me temp to see how far and how much he can manipulate.
I hate the "strong independent women" to the core
Swan Queen I cringe when a guy says that to me...I automatically say no don’t put me in that box and kindly move along. I see where he’s going with the topic especially when we weren’t discussing independence or how much I can tolerate.
"A man shouldn't have to take an extra effort to get laid. It's ridiculous to think like that as if the woman is some sort of reward. If both equally want it I dont see what's the problem".
‘Spirit of confusion tackticks’
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This channel has influenced me more than you could ever know, I’ve watched every single video. I am absorbing all this information and really applying it. My mom never taught me any of these things about being a women, I’m 21 and am finally learning, I just wanted to say thank you so much Chloe, you are such a blessing. I am forever thankful.
Thank you for your kind words. They are appreciated.
Awesome lesson in this as relationships should be handled as business. If you owned a store, you wouldn’t allow anyone to come in when they want and get items for free? Well ladies we must “close the store” until he get his money up to help blossom your business.
Let us not forget how we got here. There was a time that the black man was broken, stripped of everything including his land. This is when black women took it upon themselves to stand by the black man and rebuild with him. Which I might add was very admirable. Even though many historical injustices have not been corrected, many black men are now successful and are building legacies. So it is time for the black woman to return to her original feminine role. Don't blame yourself my sisters. It is not your fault. You receive information when you are ready for it. Everything works in divine timinig. The time is now. We need to relearn to let him lead and provide even if you are doing a great job providing for you and yours. 💞💞💞
I’m so glad I came across this channel it open my eyes to get away from my dusty I left n block him n been dusty free n it feels great 👍
Yes Aminah ✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾 I am assuming you are Muslim? God has put the financial responsibilty on the men and if you come across one who is not willing to step up the role then what is the point? He wants a 50 50 financially but we all he will never accept 50/50 on the domestic roles🧐
Aminah T same gurl
zinab2blessa yes I’m Muslim Alhumdullilah n yes this is very true why settle when Allah gives men n women rights
Thanks! I stopped working in sept. I've been feeling bad about my bf paying all the bills. I gave him the lil saving I had because of that. Before I quit, it was 50/50. He recently said it feels good as a man to take care of us.
Not only do I enjoy your videos I love the comment section it gives me motivation and insight, please don't ever turn the comments off. 🙌🏾
Chloe what about the children, that's in these low valued relationships while the woman is working like a mule washing his clothes playing wife and surrogate mother. And then on top of that you get nothing in return except a few crumbs of adoration but that's not how he keeps you in control!
You hit it on the nail
Happy Sunday Chole! Your channel is not only motivating in regards to relationship but also showcases your great work ethic. Lové how much work you are putting into this business. It is truly encouraging and I am taking notes!
Zero lies detected! All my years as a hypergamous sex worker has proven it. Thanks Chloe for bringing this to the masses.
If you don't invest in yourself, don't expect him to.
Don’t give nothing to a man... don’t spend nothing, if you are in a 50/50 marriage or relationship stop 🛑 today. Don’t be afraid of him. Don’t pay 💰 or give him shit. Listen 👂 if you stop giving to him, whether if it is money 💴 or time or advice, you will not resent him about anything.
I'm sooo grateful that I'm getting this message at age 21. Subscribed immediately
Welcome!
WOW! Never heard of the term "hypergamy" and not quite sure why this channel came as a recommendation, but could not be more grateful for it!
It was eye-opening on so many levels!!!
Thank you so much! I'm floored!
Currently going through this and ladies, listen to Chloe. Feeling trapped is my biggest problem right now.
There it is, plain and simple: “feminine women are the women masculine men love to spend on and provide for!” If your man doesn’t enjoy spending on or providing for you, it’s one of two things: 1. You’re not as feminine as you think, or 2. He is not as masculine as you think.
Thank you Chloe! It’s been 12 months of studying and yep I’m almost there in my re-wiring! I do love it here. 💕
It was a lot of work to leave old habits and patterns of thought behind, but the more feminine I’ve become, the better the life experience I’ve been living.
My spiritual journey and femininity journey happened simultaneously for me. And it’s interesting how femininity ties in well with the vibration and energy of the universe. Law of Attraction works best when you vibrate in feelings of worthiness, and know you are deserving, and when we operate with an openness to receive. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I am loving being a woman more and more. Divine, Sacred, Precious! 🧘🏾♀️💜
Chloe_ Ty for the diamonds spoken here, much needed.👏👏😍🙏💎💎
Why buy the cow 🐮 when you can get the milk for free? 🥛
If males fathers would stay in households instead of knocking women up and then leaving ..so they can stick around and rear their sons and daughters and show them how a father respects their mother (the vessel they came thru). then women would stop giving stuff away for free ..if they don't have a father ..a loving caring father to learn that from then they don't know until they find out either by going thru a process or until its roo late ..furthermore males need to be held accountable for their contemptuous words and actions and start leading by example ..they also need to value their bodies as well ..we all have temples they all need to be valued ..men should naturally lead women and children.
So good. I had to replay and take notes!
I did 50/50 with my first relationship at 22 and it just led to a lot of contempt and resentment on my end. 50/50 DOES NOT WORK AT ALL. When men say 50/50 they literally just mean splitting bills so they dont have to pay. 50/50 DOES NOT mean: equal emotional support, them putting in the same amount of effort as you in the relationship(ie planning dates, cooking, cleaning, etc), giving you the same amount of attention you give him, or even supporting your endeavors as you support them. Im glad I only have that fool a year of my life! I will NEVER fall for that 50/50 crap again and any man who says it to me will be left in the dust 🤷🏾♀️
Who's supporting the 50/50 strong yaaas queen empowerment? Feminists, mostly radical women and degen men
I am so glad I came up on this video and it reaffirmed that you get what you pay for this is true ladies. Some very modern women like to pay for dates, and men who are not serious would think this is cool. In my opinion, she will lose points (and possibly even my respect) if she attempts to pay for a date to prove she is on some level of equality with the guy. Women, do stay feminine, and at all times be his helpmeet and support - but do not lead him or attempt to pull him out of his chrysalis, and clip his wings. Trust him to make his way out of his cocoon. Blessings.
Thank you for sharing this video Chloe. You’re always on point!💅🏽
Thanks for dropping another gem 💎
Some get mad if you’re going on too many dates that may be expensive for them so when they feel used they think we’re obligated to have sex with them
Soooooo the universe made this align!! I was just on IG where I stumbled across a hypergamy page and now a new video from you on self care Sunday?! I’m so glad I found this when I did. I always get in my feels about past dating experiences in my teens because I knew my potential but I was afraid of it. That energy is gone!! It’s time to level up 💕✨!!
Chloe, I love the way you deliver these messages and get straight to the point with these “ear hustlers”! 😂 Keep up the great work, from a feminine woman who loves your channel! ❤️🙏🏻
This was golden Chloe well done! ❤️
He RESENTS That He NEEDS You!.... He DESIRES You when He Value You!
Keep em coming, appreciate it
Can we please get Valentine’s Day etiquette video?? ❤️❤️ love you
Great idea!
Katherine Yes!
its out!
I love this channel i have learned so much
Always dropping Gems!!! You've inspired me to start my own channel 💕💕
Auntieee you’re teaching me and I am listening 👂🔊
This is one of YOUR BEST ONES!!!
This is pure truth, she’s dropping gems💎
Clicked so fast. Love the videos thanksx
You ain't never lied with this one! FACTS, FACTS, FACTS!!!
I definitely regret being in the 50/50 relationship i'm in for more than 10 years already. No ring yet, but I dont want it either. Feeling stuck because we do have a child together.
Leave. If you only have one child, and can peacefully co-parent, your dating stock doesn't crumble to dust.
I have a daughter. Her father and I get along great. No drama. So I'm not looking for a replacement daddy, which many men worry about.
Hypergamy is still possible when you're a parent. The Pink Pill channel is a former single mother who leveled up. In my case I was calculating. I found a man who can't have children. Thus my "baggage" is a perk for him. Mothers can level up. We just have to be a bit more creative.
You got this sis
@@KhaosDancer thank you so much. I wish i could give you a hug right now. Youre advice means so much to me. At the moment I read your comment he just asked me to borrow my new car to go get something at the store. Because he doesnt have a decent car. He got a old trash pickup.
@@nkreseknowledge2241 thanks so much sweetheart. I will take youre advice seriously. I earn enough to provide for me and my daughter. I earn more money than him while working parttime. So I shouldn't be worried. I just needed the courage.
@@CaribGirlBrownSugar it's ok to be worried. Change is scary. But you're already unhappy so there isn't much to lose in that department.
Make back up babysitting plans in case he turns petty. No more sex. Do not let him f you into submission. You may also have to officially evict him if he's that dusty.
@@CaribGirlBrownSugar you have a daughter. Ask yourself if you want her to marry a man like her father. I had to ask myself that question; the answer gave me the courage to start over. You got this lady. No make-up sex and no more babies. Some self reflection and feeling and looking like your prettiest princess self
Thank you for this message x
Here before my notification. Lol.
Lol, me 2
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She’s MINE...I’m not sharing 🤣🤣🤣
@@annadenise8902 Love you girl!
Your doing God work QUEEN❤