Point 6 really hit me... I lost my grandmother in August 2022, and since then, in addition to mourning her, I've been terrified of death and that there's "nothing" when we die. Some people truly believe in "nothing". I used to firmly believe in an afterlife. I desperately want to be reunited with my family and friends who will eventually depart from this world as I know them now... That's why in this video when you said "It's impossible for something to become 'nothing', and impossible for something to disappear into nothing" it was so, so comforting. I don't know why I let this opinion of "nothing" affect me so hard, but it did, and here I am, wondering why I'm here and how I can overcome my debilitating fear of death. It feels so indescribably and unbearably lonely at times. It's hard to believe I've only been enduring it for little over a week. I am so scared this is how I'll be for the rest of my life. Thank you so much for this video. I'm getting therapy, but today was only an intake appointment. Your words really helped me right now. I hope this journey will help me become someone I want to be... someone who believes again
Thank you so much for this comment, even updating us as well. I have had the EXACT same experience with my grandmother passing and since then I've dealt with fear of "nothingsness" after death. I will make sure to keep point 6 in my heart forever, because I agree with you that I don't want to waste my life in fear of dying.
That was the point that really helped me as well. I feel like I have purpose and meaning in life, but I just cannot imagine my existence and my soul no longer existing and think about what would happen to me if I no longer exist. I don't care if it's an afterlife, reincarnation, or something else as long as there is something
I had the fear of going crazy that’s what caused my dp/dr and since I felt it I almost thought I was going crazy most of the time it’s hard for me to remember it’s dp/dr and anexity and I always think I’m slowly going crazy
Hi robin, I’m bella and I’m 17 and just a day over a week ago I suffered an extreme panic attack that ultimately lead me into Dpdr. I have experienced feelings of derealization before and I’ve been fixated towards existential thinking for quite a while now, but never has it been so severe and never have I felt stuck in such a state all hours around the clock. You see, I am a fighter, as I have endured many traumas and had to find independence at just 16 entering into the foster system. I’d like to think of myself as a spiritual individual so it was jarring to me to be so frightened by thoughts and ideas that used to only intrigue me. I consider myself lucky because I already knew of Dpdr since I had experienced derealization during times of anxiety or previous panic attacks. I started searching the internet desperately to find answers. And before I realized what I was experiencing, I had even convinced myself that I had a brain tumor. I found this video yesterday and I’ve been incorporating the advice heavily along with advice of other recovered dpdr sufferers and Today was my first day with almost NO anxiety. I wanted to come back and thank you because your words have heavily impacted me and helped me find a stronger sense of peace and hope. I am definitely not fully recovered but I have already gotten so much better at accepting my feelings and letting them be present with me. I hope your channel gets more recognition because this is life saving content. Thank you for what you do, from the bottom of my heart, thank you.
Hi Bella, Thank you so so much for this message. It really gives me the motivation and drive to keep going forward and to keep making video's, so this really means a lot. I'm sorry to hear you've had such a hard time with your mental health. I know that things seem very hard now, but you will grow so much from this. As you say yourself, you're a spiritual being, and one of the most spiritual challenges we can ever overcome is the one of our own mind. So don't lose faith and know that you are growing in this battle. Much love to you sweetheart!
@@robinschindelka2117 I really do hope you maintain that motivation, because you seriously inspire me and so many others so much. I’ve been practicing accepting my feelings and changing my thinking patterns and I even started exercising, meditating, and keeping a journal strictly for mental health tracking/ growth. The waves you make are so huge, and I wish you the happiest life because you helped me SO so much. Things finally look real again, I feel realer, and I feel closer than ever to peace. Thank you.
I have found my people in this comments section. I’m so glad to know that I’m not alone I’m feeling these awful feelings. It feels like it won’t end sometimes. I’ve been struggling for nearly a week, I think. I can’t get out of bed or function like I used to, ever since these thoughts invaded my brain. I have never felt so low in my life. It’s not a fun thing to experience and I wish we could all just have a group hug. I nearly had to check myself into the mental hospital. It’s been a tough time, but seeing that other people are experiencing this too, and that you all survived it, makes me feel a little bit better. I’m working through it as best as I know how, right now. Please pray for me.
Hey Cathy hope your doing better! It gets better!!! My best advice is to go out and continue living your life. At first it will feel awkard but more and more you feel that your forgetting your fear and youll start just living your life again. Hope your doing better already ;)
You are truly an angel for this, thank you so much I recommend watching the whole video, but for those that need to hear it fast here are the notes I took: 1. I am here right now 2. Only love is real 3. I dont need control to find peace 4. It's normal to have an Existential crisis (even if it's uncomfortable) 5. The universe (God) has your back 6. Death as we perceive it doesn't exist 7. My actions have meaningful impacts 8. I can always return to Love 9. Everyone is on the same boat (You are not alone in life) 10. The world isn't good or bad you choose the way you see it You are not a victim of life, you are a victim of what you choose to see the world, the world is perfect the way it is
I struggle everyday with my sense of self. Dont feel connected to myself anymore. Something is really off. I question who am i, why am i doing something when im doing it. Dont recognise myself in the mirror anymore. My eyesight is off, cant focus my eyes properly. Never happy at all. Cant sit with myself anymore, because im afraid of my thought patterns. Distract myself with my phone alot. I feel like theres something that needs figuring out, a question that needs answering. Im constantly daydreaming , tuning out of reality and im suddenly aware of my own mortality🥺
Same boat here ❤️ It’s a struggle for sure. I’ve been dealing with this for over a year. However, seeing a therapist (a good one with a lot of experience) is helping a lot, along with being enrolled in a DBT course and practicing CBT. And of course listening to Robin as well :) it takes time but if you’re not seeing a therapist I highly highly recommend it 😊
Im beyond greatful you put my own experience into words. Ive never had anxiety before around 8 months ago and now i cant shake it. Every day is avoiding the existential thoughts. I cant even sleep well because i cant escape thinking. I feel trapped in my own head. Im getting better, thank god, but im sure its going to be a long road. I wont give up, though.
@@Squiddiddly you should check out Luis mojica. He’s a somatic practitioner and delving into that work has help me so much with my DP. It’s gotten me out of my head and into my body. There’s a podcast called holistic life navigation :)
@@Squiddiddly me too! Never had any family history of it, never had any signs of an anxiety disorder, truthfully don’t think I have one think I experienced too much trauma lol
I am thinking deeply about the meaning of life. Why am I doing what I am doing? What is the purpose of studying, preparing for a good job or anything if, in the end, I will die? Your video actually assuaged that inner restlessness. When in doubt, love is the answer. We are all in this together, and through love only, we can calm our restless souls.
This made me cry. I’ve been so lost, so depressed and anxiety ridden from constant thoughts about my life and existence. And thinking my life is over after every inconvenience. You have brought peace to my mind with this video, it really touched me and I find all of these little quotes very helpful for the crisis I’m going through. Thank you so much ❤️
"Only love is real" is just really comforting idk why :) thank u so much for this im genuinely so so grateful for this. This whole day ive been feeling so anxious, the only way i could describe it was utter dread and angst, just complete fear. And this, along with other videos, helped me bc no matter how hard i searched before i couldnt resonate with anything, but really it was quite simple, i just had existential anxiety. The fact that what im feeling has a name, the fact that its a real concept calms me down so much, just knowing that im not alone and this is normal and okay and im not the only one who has experienced this is so calming. I really thought i was going crazy. I knew i wasnt crazy but there was something in me that was like "damn this is really not normal. Am i going insane? Am i even real?? Like my whole life is turned upside down black is white up is down what the actual f is going on. What is going on with me." Like actually, i had this same situation before and i genuinely thought i was going insane. It was much worse for me before because i just generally had a very negative victim mindset, im much stronger, more positive and open now which def helped me a lot to overcome this. I didnt just wallow in my feelings, i did something about them and accepted them and im proud of myself. Period. We will all get thru this, i mean this with my whole heart, please remember you are never alone and you will 100000% get thru this, i guarantee you there is ALWAYS a solution, theres a version of u somewhere right now who got through this. You will be okay. And you know ehat, if ur not okay now thats also okay. Its okay to not be okay. Its okay to be okay. Its okay to be wherever ur at now no matter what state ur in. The way u are right now is okay. There is no right or wrong or normal or not normal. It just is the way it is. You. Are. Never. Alone. You are normal, you will be okay, your situation has been experienced by someone else before and they got through it. And so can you. I love u and u can do this. You are not alone.
I don’t share too much about myself on the internet, but I would like to say that I definitely suffer from existential dread. Hearing someone say that all that matters is that i’m here helps so much and I want to thank you for what you put out. Edit: I’d also like to say that death is portrayed too harshly, and most if not all people are ready for death when it happens. When you’re still young you’ll always think that you don’t want to die but you will live a fulfilling life if you want too, and you’ll be happy for the life you lived and ready for whatever comes next.
Hi Robin, I've been suffering from extreme depression since almost a year now and it's slowly transitioned into an existential crisis that's virtually made me incapable of doing anything. This video was one of the first that showed up when I was searching about existential crises and it's been a huge source of comfort for me. Each one of these truths gave me something to think about and they calmed me in a way I've rarely ever felt before in this state. Thank you so much for putting this video out and for doing all the work that you do for our community!
I never comment on youtube videos but I’ve been struggling with existential thoughts for as long as I can remember. I was raised as a Christian and this exposed me to thoughts of afterlife/god etc at a very young age and one day something clicked in me and I just didn’t believe it anymore. I’ve repressed these fears for years but in the last month since dropping out of university and my grandma becoming ill I’ve just had this existential dread that’s hanging over me like a black cloud. And for once I know that I can’t push it away and have to actually tackle these uncomfortable thoughts. This month I’ve been throwing up, struggling to sleep, having panic attacks and zoning out. Every website I went on only worsened my mental state, until I came across this video. THANKYOU, it’s only temporary but my mind is at ease even if for a few minutes. I want to wish anyone struggling through this my love and support, we are more important than we know💖💖💖💖
@LQ Thankyou so much for sharing your experience too! I wrote this two months ago and already have felt a lot better. I hope you can find peace in your existence and if not find peace in the fact there are millions of people who feel just as lost and confused but are still going on 💖
Thank you so much for your help! "Only love is real" really struck me I have only very recently come to terms with my DPDR and one of the things I find comes up in my writings (I diarise to get the thoughts and words out) is the idea that if nothing else, the energy and act love of love for a person or thing can transcend any reality, real or false. So to hear this sentiment echoed is very reassuring. I hope anyone reading this finds the comfort they need. Just because something isn't real/meaningful doesn't mean it's bad xx
Thank you for making this video, an existential crisis seems like the sort of thing that most people have heard of but don't actually know what it is so I'm seriously grateful for you highlighting the issue. I sure as hell wasn't aware of what it was but about a month ago I was just minding my own business one night and out of nowhere I just started having these thoughts about life and death, the mystery of existance and the futile nature of it all. It was as if I slipped into this little pit in my mind where all the brutal truths about the nature of existence had been living without my knowledge. Suddenly they were revealed to me and I felt like life would never be the same now that I'd realised these things. Thoughts started to get really dark and the notion of eventual suicide was cropping up while I was writhing in my bed, trying to sleep. Thankfully, the absolute worst feelings took place over the first 5 days or so and it has been a little bit less severe for me since. These thoughts have literally been making me feel physically sick, I get a horrible knot in my stomach, it gave me diarrhea and I've felt like throwing up a few times. I'm doing as much research as I can into this and am taking solace in the fact that according to the internet, it shouldn't last forever. I went to the park to meditate yesterday and as I was sitting there, breathing, I started to get really overwhelmed. A hazy fuzziness started radiating through my entire body and my mind felt as though it could have just disintegrated into the void at any moment. I was tempted to just get up and walk it off out of sheer terror but I sat there with it for about 10 minutes doing my best to acknowledge and accept the feelings whilst also acknowledging the presence of my body and focusing on my breathing. Despite the horrors of the thoughts, facing them, being strong and not letting them beat me felt really, really carthartic. Beautiful even. I became so emotional I started crying tears of joy. At that moment I realised not all hope is lost and that life is actually really beautiful in a lot of profound ways. I'm really trying to look at this as an interesting experience that will ultimately lead to positive change in my life. If anything, I'm starting to feel really thankful for my mind and body, I'm amazed by what I am now, to be honest. What amazing creatures we are that our brain can subconsciously detect when you aren't living life the way you know you should be so it starts hitting you with these insane realisations so that you hopefully get your shit together and starting doing what is right for you. Despite it feeling like your mind turning against you, it's the total opposite. You are an amazing thing made of many different parts, all of which want the best for you. Feelings like this are a warning that you aren't doing what you know you should be. Good luck to all of you going on this journey. It's for the best! You are loved.
The way I describe my anxiety about life is comparing it to the beginning of a roller coaster ride when I'm slowly on the way up. It's making that clicking sound and I'm facing upward and a sense of dread comes over me because I've changed my mind about being on the ride and I want to get off now before the big drop. This is how I have felt before on roller coasters and this is how I often feel about life. Thanks for the video. I did find it to be helpful. ❤
I suffered with those thoughts and feelings many many years ago, over 20 years ago. I was young at the time maybe 19. I didn’t even know what it was, never spoke to anyone about it, didn’t tell a soul. I would sleep, felt I was the only one on the planet, in the universe that had somehow come to the realization that nothing is real, and even if it was what were we all doing here…..I struggled with these thought for what felt like an eternity, in the end it was about a year. I also fell into a deep depression during this time, how can you not feel sadness and depressed when you feel that existence is meaningless, it is sad and frightening thought. I can clearly remember how the mere thought would make my body shake. I was raised in a religious family and it honestly made things worse and good. The only comfort I can give you all, is that you truly aren’t alone. The fact that there are people like Robin that are there to offer help and advice is wonderful. Keep searching for an answer you will find it in the most unexpected place. It won’t cure you instantly, it will merely offer a small glimpse of hope, and that is all you need. Mine was a very strange one, I was watching the movie the Shawshank Redemption and towards the end of the movie, one of the characters says “get busy living”. It triggered something in me at that moment, I suddenly realized that all this thinking, all this worry, life was passing me by. As difficult as it was a woke up every morning and looked at a paper that I wrote the words on and would get dressed and leave home. I made as many plans as I could, to keep busy every single day, the busier the better. Slowly my focus moved from my existential thoughts and fears to what I was doing daily. I’m not saying this is the cure, and some would say that it’s merely a distraction tactic, but I think it worked by filling my mind with so many other thoughts that eventually I didn’t have time to think about existential thoughts. When I did think about them so much time had passed that I moved on way quicker, and forget about the impact they had. I hope the above can offer even one person some comfort, good luck my fellow people.
hey robin, this video is really a huge help. i was going through an existential crisis, thinking nothing is real, nothing matters. whatever i do dosent matter, because no matter what i think or do its all going to end. all going to end soon enough. and these facts really made me think about that i shouldnt waste my time thinking why am i here, why am i doing this. why do i exist? then i realized that we are energy, me you and every being on this planet is energy, and energy can not be created, nor destroyed, yet only transferred into something else.
Thank you so much for this. I’ve been struggling bad with existential anxiety recently and it’s nice to know I’m not alone. Fear is the opposite of trust. Thank you ❤❤❤!!
Watching this after having my first panic attack after 2 years. Feeling so alone and in pain mentally yet not at the same time. These comments give me hope ❤
I love these robin thank you 💜 ‘only love is real’ resonates so much for me. Realising that the thoughts which are alarming, urgent, fear etc are unhelpful ones which I can let go of & that my real truth / inner wisdom are the thoughts which allow me to feel love, calm, quiet, cool simplifies everything so much for me ❤️
I'm so in the emotion of love that i have found this channel and the beautiful soul you are. This video felt like an eternal mother kissing me and saying "it's all good", and i feel total peace and fulfilment and zest for life. Thank you for beautifully articulating things I was struggling to. Much love to you! 🙂
Went through trauma surrounding many deaths at one time… like 5 in one year. I began to depersonalize, derealize, have panic attacks and anxiety that I never ever had before, and LOTS of existential thoughts . My whole family has gone through periods of this, especially my grandma. She lost a son, a husband, and a brother. She watched me lose another grandfather. Watched her son lose his best friend… this year was simply not kind in that respect, today is the one year anniversary of my grandfathers death. I’m moving to florida for six months soon, and that also is on my mind. I’m young and nervous to be away from my family during this time, but know that everything happens for a reason. That thought process has always been comforting to me and in recent times, has not been. It’s been making me question why. The first tip you had “I am here” helps me so much and I do this often. Thank you for sharing your wisdom to being others peace. I hope when I recover from this, and find who I am again, I can help people out of the rut this is too
@@lizoneil4706 That's good to hear Liz. I'm own my own journey as well that has been very challenging. The out of nowhere uncomfortable thoughts are like wooooooooo. Do you still have them or they just don't bother you anymore?
Robin, thank you kindly for taking your time to uploading this. I almost cried many times while hearing your encouragement and view point through the screen. I’ve been feeling very lost in life and you’re right, I’ve been looking for love within myself, but I can’t seem to find it at this time. This was extremely helpful and soothing, I’m going to watch this daily, so that I can continue to remember what you say. Thank you for your love and guidance ❤️
@@tylerc4318 Lol thank you! I haven’t changed this photo for over a year because I enjoy it as well. I did not expect anyone to comment on the picture. I saw the trailer of the movie a while ago in theaters, have you seen it?
I’m so thankful I found your channel when I did. You brought up such great points, I’ll definitely be applying these to my life when I’m experiencing bad DPDR and anxiety
That’s very sweet what you say about love, I’ll try to think that way. Also, these points were unique and truly helpful. It felt like a good friend helping me. Thank you so much 💐
@robinschindelka2117 Hi Robin, Thank you for you're video it was great. I'm particually worried about global injustice and am struggling with your last point (accepting things as they are as they should). How does this fit in with making meaningful change? How can I be at peace in a world where I know my fellow human beings are suffering? What do you thnk about this? Take care, Charlotte.
Thanks for the pointers! Also, when you return to love, you can always do a lovingkindness practice, which is Maitri, praying for the happiness and fullfillment of others. "When you are sad, express the aspiration that others have happiness." Also, a powerful mantra: "Loss and defeat to myself, gain and victory to others!"
Omg I could cry. I have been known to be so full of life, a never ending wrecking ball of life. But now, I'm tired, I'm life tired. I wouldn't care if I was killed today, my lust for life is gone, my centered- assuredness of life Is gone. Idk what to do. This talk of love, who cares? I'm detached from caring about it, the question isn't control or love, it's "what's the point?"
What's the point of staying in this victim mindset then? You're living off a belief that life is bad or against you, which isn't true. Yes you feel like it, but are you putting in effort to change that? What's the point in feeling how you feel now?
@Robin Schindelka Exactly lol. And yes, I do what "not depressed" me would do In spite of myself. I know even though it's been two years, the tide will turn eventually and when it does I will have hopefully done some things right. None of that changes the way I feel though. And I know all these things already, I've beent through it before, I'm just going through the motions again, with a different perspective I guess... idk really lmao. Hence I'm here
Even as i say i love you and I'm sorry about my intrusive thoughts...my pets vanish one by one...i know I'm creating my own panic attack...yet can't stop the thoughts...today...I'm only just calming down...from the worst of many events such as this.
for me it started out as dpdr and then it turned into existence questions and thoughts. now im freaked out that i exist and that we're all here. it's debilitating.
@@ashleyriosrizo im alittle better than what i used to be, but i still struggle a lot with it unfortunately. i try really hard to practice acceptance and not trying to figure things out but it's definitely not easy at all.
@@kayleydrummond1819 I understand the struggle. Especially when it comes out of nowhere and blind sides you. What thought do you struggle with the most?
@@ashleyriosrizo for me, i get really freaked out that i exist and that im just thoughts inside a body. i also experience dpdr which doesn't help the situation.
1 John 4:18 “There is no fear in love, but perfect love drives out fear, because fear involves punishment(and torment). The one who fears has not been perfected in (God’s) love”
The idea that we can't just disappear into a poof of nothing, actually disturbs me deeply. What if your existential depression is based on the incredible suffering that exists in the world, even if you know its "not real", and you just want it all to end?
Hi how do I recover from thinking that everything is made of my mind and that nothing is beside that ? I believe in reality but its scares me that i cant experience reality without the brain.
I am experiencing myself. I know what ur thinking, that i might be an illusion from your mind, as i think the same. But i am not, i promise. We come from the same place♡♡ hope we can get through it
Thankyou very much yes your video has made a difference vto Me. I've been struggling and searching for some answers and it's left me feeling isolated and down . Some Very good points made. I did struggle with the 'Love' word... like what does it even mean??? going into that would be really helpful personally. Many thanks I will follow you for more x
I think what bothers me most is how much cruelty and suffering happens. War makes me question everything about existence and what I’ve wanted to believe. I wonder if there are horrors to this universe beyond our comprehension and the horrors and hell are the truth of life, and we are all stuck in a samsara there is no escape from, just eternal cosmic war.
It's a bit of a search sometime, but love is the most natural emotion we can feel. You feel it when you look at a baby, a dog/cat/animal, when you see your friends or family. It's about connecting to that emotion by looking inwards to memories for example and remembering to feel that emotion
I love this video. Great advice. Thank you for making it ❤ I do struggle to understand the last point how the world is not a bad place though, in my opinion it’s a good place and a bad place, there is a lot of love between beings but living beings experience an unfair amount of suffering, life is very unfair and existence is so much suffering so how can it be not bad completely?
hello, i was hoping you'd have a more useful way to cope with my death anxiety but you said you are reassured by the "fact" that you know your consciousness is not going to disappear. I don't really care about my body turning into other elements in nature, that doesn't reassure me really. but how do you that our own subjective consciousness doesn't disappear? don't we all have a sense that our minds/ consciousness is dependable on our body's integrity? although we don't fully understand consicousness, i don't think it's too far fetch to claim that it somehow arises due to the function of our brains and bodies. and when those disintegrate, what is then left to hold our consciousness together? if all the dead people are just chilling in another room somewhere, and this life and our fear of death was just a prank to see how we would cope, I'll unfriend whoever came up with the prank! lol.
what I feel is that it makes no sense that I exist.. Like, why am I me in this body and not other? why am i the sister and not the brother? Why am I ME but not my mom or my dad? like why do I feel my body and my experiences but not theirs? It so weird
Would love to know at what point do you recommend reminding yourself of these points, and when it's better to leave them and not use them as a compulsion /avoidance to get rid of anxiety??
I think it's important to be in a somewhat better place before reassuring yourself, as you need to be open to receive these truths and when you're very much still fighting every single thing, your mind will just find a way to contradict these truths too. So, find some stillness and acceptance first, and then use these truths as some extra affirmation when you're ready
So helpful and thoughtful. I feel so much better after I go to church and listen to a moving sermon, or by listening to a Ted talk or a video like this, where I’m reassured that my life has meaning. I think what “cures” my existential depression is being moved by videos and lectures that make me feel loved by God, or that tell me I’m not alone, or that prove that life is worth living. It’s incredible. I wake up not wanting to be here. And then resources renew and restore my inspiration and faith.
There's no evidence that your spirit/consciousness will be preserved after death, and there's no reason to believe that it will, despite the fact that it's comforting to believe it. And even though matter can't be destroyed only transferred what's the point of existing in some fashion without our consciousness?
What purpose do you want your resistance to life to provide you with? And why live your life assuming the worse case scenario? The only truth we have is that we don't know. Resisting that means suffering. Accepting that means peace. Good luck to you
The meaning of life (not universe per se) is to reduce suffering.... why *find* meaning when you can make it everyday by reducing suffering. just what Neil Degrasse Tyson suggests... Enjoy your life.
I'm feeling this way from total depression and depersonalization that I can't feel my body or my any pleasure or love. Brain fog is so intense I can settle or relax. I'm doing my best
"The world is not a bad place, and its ok the way it is". Yeah, right. I can see you dont live in a dangerous country. I live in a city where people are killed everyday in various violent ways and is not even a country at war like Ukraine or Syria. Please, confront those ideas outside of your first world country mindset. Is too easy to afirm that, when cruelty and violence are absent in your environment. If thats true, Then living in a safe first world country would also be part of the cure for existential anxiety, so you should've started from there.
I completely agree with you. In cases like yours, it's more difficult to feel like the world is okay the way it is. However, I believe that this doesn't tell anything about the nature of life itself, only about the nature of People's actions. The world is not bad, people just can tend to do bad things because the nature of life is survival, which means people can do bad things for egoistic reasons. Again, doesn't mean life's nature is bad, but just that people can exploit the nature of life in selfish, harmful ways. Existential fear is fear of the nature of life itself. If you live in a dangerous city, fear is actually in a way useful. It is more likely to keep you alive. So I won't tell you to overcome your fear of that. Just to question if the danger in your city actually tells you anything about the inherent nature of life. Finally, good and bad don't actually exist. They are concepts of the mind to make sense of the world. So that's also what I mean with that. Life is as it is. Good or bad is how we make sense of it. And so if we accept the nature of life as uncertain, it doesn't mean we're always safe, like you for example, but at least that we can be at peace with existence.
@@robinschindelka2117 I'm really struggling with it. I watch your videos then think what if she's not real then I freak out. Any suggestions on how to handle that? I just all of a sudden had the thought one day and I've been struggling, it's hard for me to see it like I used to cause I wonder have I imagined my whole life?
So I’m the only one going crazy about not being able to see my own face without and mirror and it’s made me self conscious and I can’t even give ppl eye contact ? Yes ? Oh okay 😞
Point 6 really hit me... I lost my grandmother in August 2022, and since then, in addition to mourning her, I've been terrified of death and that there's "nothing" when we die. Some people truly believe in "nothing". I used to firmly believe in an afterlife. I desperately want to be reunited with my family and friends who will eventually depart from this world as I know them now... That's why in this video when you said "It's impossible for something to become 'nothing', and impossible for something to disappear into nothing" it was so, so comforting. I don't know why I let this opinion of "nothing" affect me so hard, but it did, and here I am, wondering why I'm here and how I can overcome my debilitating fear of death. It feels so indescribably and unbearably lonely at times. It's hard to believe I've only been enduring it for little over a week. I am so scared this is how I'll be for the rest of my life.
Thank you so much for this video. I'm getting therapy, but today was only an intake appointment. Your words really helped me right now. I hope this journey will help me become someone I want to be... someone who believes again
Thank you so much for this comment, even updating us as well. I have had the EXACT same experience with my grandmother passing and since then I've dealt with fear of "nothingsness" after death. I will make sure to keep point 6 in my heart forever, because I agree with you that I don't want to waste my life in fear of dying.
That was the point that really helped me as well. I feel like I have purpose and meaning in life, but I just cannot imagine my existence and my soul no longer existing and think about what would happen to me if I no longer exist. I don't care if it's an afterlife, reincarnation, or something else as long as there is something
I had the fear of going crazy that’s what caused my dp/dr and since I felt it I almost thought I was going crazy most of the time it’s hard for me to remember it’s dp/dr and anexity and I always think I’m slowly going crazy
thank you
Omg you don’t know how much your comment has given me hope. My mom died so you took the words out of my mouth. Thank you for inspiring hope in us!
Hi robin, I’m bella and I’m 17 and just a day over a week ago I suffered an extreme panic attack that ultimately lead me into Dpdr. I have experienced feelings of derealization before and I’ve been fixated towards existential thinking for quite a while now, but never has it been so severe and never have I felt stuck in such a state all hours around the clock. You see, I am a fighter, as I have endured many traumas and had to find independence at just 16 entering into the foster system. I’d like to think of myself as a spiritual individual so it was jarring to me to be so frightened by thoughts and ideas that used to only intrigue me. I consider myself lucky because I already knew of Dpdr since I had experienced derealization during times of anxiety or previous panic attacks. I started searching the internet desperately to find answers. And before I realized what I was experiencing, I had even convinced myself that I had a brain tumor. I found this video yesterday and I’ve been incorporating the advice heavily along with advice of other recovered dpdr sufferers and Today was my first day with almost NO anxiety. I wanted to come back and thank you because your words have heavily impacted me and helped me find a stronger sense of peace and hope. I am definitely not fully recovered but I have already gotten so much better at accepting my feelings and letting them be present with me. I hope your channel gets more recognition because this is life saving content. Thank you for what you do, from the bottom of my heart, thank you.
Hi Bella,
Thank you so so much for this message. It really gives me the motivation and drive to keep going forward and to keep making video's, so this really means a lot.
I'm sorry to hear you've had such a hard time with your mental health. I know that things seem very hard now, but you will grow so much from this. As you say yourself, you're a spiritual being, and one of the most spiritual challenges we can ever overcome is the one of our own mind. So don't lose faith and know that you are growing in this battle.
Much love to you sweetheart!
@@robinschindelka2117 I really do hope you maintain that motivation, because you seriously inspire me and so many others so much. I’ve been practicing accepting my feelings and changing my thinking patterns and I even started exercising, meditating, and keeping a journal strictly for mental health tracking/ growth. The waves you make are so huge, and I wish you the happiest life because you helped me SO so much. Things finally look real again, I feel realer, and I feel closer than ever to peace. Thank you.
is there a way i can talk to you personally? your story kinda sounds like mine and i really need someone who understands ❤️
Wow it's almost insane how similar our experiences are. I had the EXACT same fear abt having a brain tumor or something it's insane
@@preslievans9959 mine sounds the same. Have u recovered?
I have found my people in this comments section. I’m so glad to know that I’m not alone I’m feeling these awful feelings. It feels like it won’t end sometimes. I’ve been struggling for nearly a week, I think. I can’t get out of bed or function like I used to, ever since these thoughts invaded my brain.
I have never felt so low in my life. It’s not a fun thing to experience and I wish we could all just have a group hug. I nearly had to check myself into the mental hospital.
It’s been a tough time, but seeing that other people are experiencing this too, and that you all survived it, makes me feel a little bit better.
I’m working through it as best as I know how, right now. Please pray for me.
you got this love!
Hey Cathy hope your doing better! It gets better!!! My best advice is to go out and continue living your life. At first it will feel awkard but more and more you feel that your forgetting your fear and youll start just living your life again. Hope your doing better already ;)
How you doing now? X
its been 7 months and im just checking up if you're doing fine, i hope you happiness for the rest of your life
@@TheRedditCorner-lq1uchey your comment is from 6 hours ago, did we have existential crises on the same day?😂
You are truly an angel for this, thank you so much
I recommend watching the whole video, but for those that need to hear it fast here are the notes I took:
1. I am here right now
2. Only love is real
3. I dont need control to find peace
4. It's normal to have an Existential crisis (even if it's uncomfortable)
5. The universe (God) has your back
6. Death as we perceive it doesn't exist
7. My actions have meaningful impacts
8. I can always return to Love
9. Everyone is on the same boat (You are not alone in life)
10. The world isn't good or bad you choose the way you see it
You are not a victim of life, you are a victim of what you choose to see the world, the world is perfect the way it is
priceless, thank you
You are so kind to take these notes. Thank you!
I struggle everyday with my sense of self. Dont feel connected to myself anymore. Something is really off. I question who am i, why am i doing something when im doing it. Dont recognise myself in the mirror anymore. My eyesight is off, cant focus my eyes properly. Never happy at all. Cant sit with myself anymore, because im afraid of my thought patterns. Distract myself with my phone alot. I feel like theres something that needs figuring out, a question that needs answering. Im constantly daydreaming , tuning out of reality and im suddenly aware of my own mortality🥺
I feel you bro, same boat
Same boat here ❤️ It’s a struggle for sure. I’ve been dealing with this for over a year. However, seeing a therapist (a good one with a lot of experience) is helping a lot, along with being enrolled in a DBT course and practicing CBT. And of course listening to Robin as well :) it takes time but if you’re not seeing a therapist I highly highly recommend it 😊
Im beyond greatful you put my own experience into words. Ive never had anxiety before around 8 months ago and now i cant shake it. Every day is avoiding the existential thoughts. I cant even sleep well because i cant escape thinking. I feel trapped in my own head. Im getting better, thank god, but im sure its going to be a long road. I wont give up, though.
@@Squiddiddly you should check out Luis mojica. He’s a somatic practitioner and delving into that work has help me so much with my DP. It’s gotten me out of my head and into my body. There’s a podcast called holistic life navigation :)
@@Squiddiddly me too! Never had any family history of it, never had any signs of an anxiety disorder, truthfully don’t think I have one think I experienced too much trauma lol
I am thinking deeply about the meaning of life. Why am I doing what I am doing? What is the purpose of studying, preparing for a good job or anything if, in the end, I will die? Your video actually assuaged that inner restlessness. When in doubt, love is the answer. We are all in this together, and through love only, we can calm our restless souls.
Hey,are you doing better?Do you still have the thoughts?
This made me cry. I’ve been so lost, so depressed and anxiety ridden from constant thoughts about my life and existence. And thinking my life is over after every inconvenience. You have brought peace to my mind with this video, it really touched me and I find all of these little quotes very helpful for the crisis I’m going through. Thank you so much ❤️
"Only love is real" is just really comforting idk why :) thank u so much for this im genuinely so so grateful for this. This whole day ive been feeling so anxious, the only way i could describe it was utter dread and angst, just complete fear. And this, along with other videos, helped me bc no matter how hard i searched before i couldnt resonate with anything, but really it was quite simple, i just had existential anxiety. The fact that what im feeling has a name, the fact that its a real concept calms me down so much, just knowing that im not alone and this is normal and okay and im not the only one who has experienced this is so calming. I really thought i was going crazy. I knew i wasnt crazy but there was something in me that was like "damn this is really not normal. Am i going insane? Am i even real?? Like my whole life is turned upside down black is white up is down what the actual f is going on. What is going on with me." Like actually, i had this same situation before and i genuinely thought i was going insane. It was much worse for me before because i just generally had a very negative victim mindset, im much stronger, more positive and open now which def helped me a lot to overcome this. I didnt just wallow in my feelings, i did something about them and accepted them and im proud of myself. Period. We will all get thru this, i mean this with my whole heart, please remember you are never alone and you will 100000% get thru this, i guarantee you there is ALWAYS a solution, theres a version of u somewhere right now who got through this. You will be okay. And you know ehat, if ur not okay now thats also okay. Its okay to not be okay. Its okay to be okay. Its okay to be wherever ur at now no matter what state ur in. The way u are right now is okay. There is no right or wrong or normal or not normal. It just is the way it is. You. Are. Never. Alone. You are normal, you will be okay, your situation has been experienced by someone else before and they got through it. And so can you. I love u and u can do this. You are not alone.
You won’t experience death. You’ll only experience life.
bruh this helped me. shout out to you
Damn you’re the next Confucius of our time
That’s a good way to look at it.
I don’t share too much about myself on the internet, but I would like to say that I definitely suffer from existential dread. Hearing someone say that all that matters is that i’m here helps so much and I want to thank you for what you put out.
Edit: I’d also like to say that death is portrayed too harshly, and most if not all people are ready for death when it happens. When you’re still young you’ll always think that you don’t want to die but you will live a fulfilling life if you want too, and you’ll be happy for the life you lived and ready for whatever comes next.
I keep returning to this when I have existential OCD lapses. Thank you so much, you give me hope for recovery
Love that! you're very welcome
Hi Robin, I've been suffering from extreme depression since almost a year now and it's slowly transitioned into an existential crisis that's virtually made me incapable of doing anything. This video was one of the first that showed up when I was searching about existential crises and it's been a huge source of comfort for me. Each one of these truths gave me something to think about and they calmed me in a way I've rarely ever felt before in this state. Thank you so much for putting this video out and for doing all the work that you do for our community!
Hi Ayesha! That is so kind of you. Thank you so much for sharing! I really hope you feel better soon 😘 I know you can do this!
I never comment on youtube videos but I’ve been struggling with existential thoughts for as long as I can remember. I was raised as a Christian and this exposed me to thoughts of afterlife/god etc at a very young age and one day something clicked in me and I just didn’t believe it anymore. I’ve repressed these fears for years but in the last month since dropping out of university and my grandma becoming ill I’ve just had this existential dread that’s hanging over me like a black cloud. And for once I know that I can’t push it away and have to actually tackle these uncomfortable thoughts. This month I’ve been throwing up, struggling to sleep, having panic attacks and zoning out. Every website I went on only worsened my mental state, until I came across this video. THANKYOU, it’s only temporary but my mind is at ease even if for a few minutes. I want to wish anyone struggling through this my love and support, we are more important than we know💖💖💖💖
@LQ Thankyou so much for sharing your experience too! I wrote this two months ago and already have felt a lot better. I hope you can find peace in your existence and if not find peace in the fact there are millions of people who feel just as lost and confused but are still going on 💖
Thank you so much for your help!
"Only love is real" really struck me I have only very recently come to terms with my DPDR and one of the things I find comes up in my writings (I diarise to get the thoughts and words out) is the idea that if nothing else, the energy and act love of love for a person or thing can transcend any reality, real or false. So to hear this sentiment echoed is very reassuring.
I hope anyone reading this finds the comfort they need. Just because something isn't real/meaningful doesn't mean it's bad xx
Thank you for making this video, an existential crisis seems like the sort of thing that most people have heard of but don't actually know what it is so I'm seriously grateful for you highlighting the issue. I sure as hell wasn't aware of what it was but about a month ago I was just minding my own business one night and out of nowhere I just started having these thoughts about life and death, the mystery of existance and the futile nature of it all. It was as if I slipped into this little pit in my mind where all the brutal truths about the nature of existence had been living without my knowledge. Suddenly they were revealed to me and I felt like life would never be the same now that I'd realised these things. Thoughts started to get really dark and the notion of eventual suicide was cropping up while I was writhing in my bed, trying to sleep.
Thankfully, the absolute worst feelings took place over the first 5 days or so and it has been a little bit less severe for me since. These thoughts have literally been making me feel physically sick, I get a horrible knot in my stomach, it gave me diarrhea and I've felt like throwing up a few times.
I'm doing as much research as I can into this and am taking solace in the fact that according to the internet, it shouldn't last forever. I went to the park to meditate yesterday and as I was sitting there, breathing, I started to get really overwhelmed. A hazy fuzziness started radiating through my entire body and my mind felt as though it could have just disintegrated into the void at any moment. I was tempted to just get up and walk it off out of sheer terror but I sat there with it for about 10 minutes doing my best to acknowledge and accept the feelings whilst also acknowledging the presence of my body and focusing on my breathing.
Despite the horrors of the thoughts, facing them, being strong and not letting them beat me felt really, really carthartic. Beautiful even. I became so emotional I started crying tears of joy. At that moment I realised not all hope is lost and that life is actually really beautiful in a lot of profound ways.
I'm really trying to look at this as an interesting experience that will ultimately lead to positive change in my life. If anything, I'm starting to feel really thankful for my mind and body, I'm amazed by what I am now, to be honest. What amazing creatures we are that our brain can subconsciously detect when you aren't living life the way you know you should be so it starts hitting you with these insane realisations so that you hopefully get your shit together and starting doing what is right for you. Despite it feeling like your mind turning against you, it's the total opposite. You are an amazing thing made of many different parts, all of which want the best for you. Feelings like this are a warning that you aren't doing what you know you should be.
Good luck to all of you going on this journey. It's for the best! You are loved.
This helps me fall asleep at night. Knowing I’ll be okay and I will have a positive impact on the world is so reassuring.
I've never commented on anything. I just wanted to say thank you. I have been in a bad loop and this brought me a little peace.
The way I describe my anxiety about life is comparing it to the beginning of a roller coaster ride when I'm slowly on the way up. It's making that clicking sound and I'm facing upward and a sense of dread comes over me because I've changed my mind about being on the ride and I want to get off now before the big drop. This is how I have felt before on roller coasters and this is how I often feel about life.
Thanks for the video. I did find it to be helpful. ❤
I suffered with those thoughts and feelings many many years ago, over 20 years ago. I was young at the time maybe 19. I didn’t even know what it was, never spoke to anyone about it, didn’t tell a soul. I would sleep, felt I was the only one on the planet, in the universe that had somehow come to the realization that nothing is real, and even if it was what were we all doing here…..I struggled with these thought for what felt like an eternity, in the end it was about a year. I also fell into a deep depression during this time, how can you not feel sadness and depressed when you feel that existence is meaningless, it is sad and frightening thought. I can clearly remember how the mere thought would make my body shake. I was raised in a religious family and it honestly made things worse and good. The only comfort I can give you all, is that you truly aren’t alone. The fact that there are people like Robin that are there to offer help and advice is wonderful. Keep searching for an answer you will find it in the most unexpected place. It won’t cure you instantly, it will merely offer a small glimpse of hope, and that is all you need. Mine was a very strange one, I was watching the movie the Shawshank Redemption and towards the end of the movie, one of the characters says “get busy living”.
It triggered something in me at that moment, I suddenly realized that all this thinking, all this worry, life was passing me by. As difficult as it was a woke up every morning and looked at a paper that I wrote the words on and would get dressed and leave home.
I made as many plans as I could, to keep busy every single day, the busier the better. Slowly my focus moved from my existential thoughts and fears to what I was doing daily. I’m not saying this is the cure, and some would say that it’s merely a distraction tactic, but I think it worked by filling my mind with so many other thoughts that eventually I didn’t have time to think about existential thoughts. When I did think about them so much time had passed that I moved on way quicker, and forget about the impact they had. I hope the above can offer even one person some comfort, good luck my fellow people.
I’m 19 going through the exact same thing. This gave me a little bit of hope ❤
Do you completely fine now?
@@bibizaman2347 how are you now
So you’re fine now? You believe humans exist again?
Thank you so much for your insight
hey robin, this video is really a huge help. i was going through an existential crisis, thinking nothing is real, nothing matters. whatever i do dosent matter, because no matter what i think or do its all going to end. all going to end soon enough. and these facts really made me think about that i shouldnt waste my time thinking why am i here, why am i doing this. why do i exist? then i realized that we are energy, me you and every being on this planet is energy, and energy can not be created, nor destroyed, yet only transferred into something else.
Thank you so much for this. I’ve been struggling bad with existential anxiety recently and it’s nice to know I’m not alone. Fear is the opposite of trust. Thank you ❤❤❤!!
Watching this after having my first panic attack after 2 years. Feeling so alone and in pain mentally yet not at the same time. These comments give me hope ❤
I love these robin thank you 💜 ‘only love is real’ resonates so much for me.
Realising that the thoughts which are alarming, urgent, fear etc are unhelpful ones which I can let go of & that my real truth / inner wisdom are the thoughts which allow me to feel love, calm, quiet, cool simplifies everything so much for me ❤️
I'm so in the emotion of love that i have found this channel and the beautiful soul you are. This video felt like an eternal mother kissing me and saying "it's all good", and i feel total peace and fulfilment and zest for life. Thank you for beautifully articulating things I was struggling to. Much love to you! 🙂
i have been struggling with this for so incredibly long this provided more help for me than therapists/psychologists, you are truly amazing thank you
Went through trauma surrounding many deaths at one time… like 5 in one year. I began to depersonalize, derealize, have panic attacks and anxiety that I never ever had before, and LOTS of existential thoughts . My whole family has gone through periods of this, especially my grandma. She lost a son, a husband, and a brother. She watched me lose another grandfather. Watched her son lose his best friend… this year was simply not kind in that respect, today is the one year anniversary of my grandfathers death. I’m moving to florida for six months soon, and that also is on my mind. I’m young and nervous to be away from my family during this time, but know that everything happens for a reason. That thought process has always been comforting to me and in recent times, has not been. It’s been making me question why. The first tip you had “I am here” helps me so much and I do this often. Thank you for sharing your wisdom to being others peace. I hope when I recover from this, and find who I am again, I can help people out of the rut this is too
How are you doing now Liz?
@@ashleyriosrizo a whole lot better the past few days! These tips worked
@@lizoneil4706 That's good to hear Liz. I'm own my own journey as well that has been very challenging. The out of nowhere uncomfortable thoughts are like wooooooooo. Do you still have them or they just don't bother you anymore?
@@ashleyriosrizo honestly I have my moments but I kinda can remind myself what it is and it stops bothering me.
@@lizoneil4706 What do you feel like you learned or of that situation?
Thank you again, you saved my life last year.
Robin, thank you kindly for taking your time to uploading this. I almost cried many times while hearing your encouragement and view point through the screen. I’ve been feeling very lost in life and you’re right, I’ve been looking for love within myself, but I can’t seem to find it at this time. This was extremely helpful and soothing, I’m going to watch this daily, so that I can continue to remember what you say. Thank you for your love and guidance ❤️
Love the pfp. See the movie?
@@tylerc4318 Lol thank you! I haven’t changed this photo for over a year because I enjoy it as well. I did not expect anyone to comment on the picture. I saw the trailer of the movie a while ago in theaters, have you seen it?
Beautiful Robin, thank you! Each thought you outline is also an affirmation or intention. I loved "I don't need control to find peace."
You helped me out of a crisis, thanks. :D a wonderful day
This is a helpful video. Thank you. But that's why I'm asking all these questions I don't really have anyone watching my back, and it's very scary.
I’m so thankful I found your channel when I did. You brought up such great points, I’ll definitely be applying these to my life when I’m experiencing bad DPDR and anxiety
oh amazing!
How are you now Nina?
This video should have way more views, never felt so reassured by a video in a long time
thank you for making this video :) it has the answers I was searching for and couldn't find. I can't tell you enough how much this means
That’s very sweet what you say about love, I’ll try to think that way. Also, these points were unique and truly helpful. It felt like a good friend helping me. Thank you so much 💐
Oh that's so sweet! You're welcome :)
Thank you for this - I was feeling so angsty and dreadful and I found your video and it helped a lot.
@robinschindelka2117 Hi Robin, Thank you for you're video it was great. I'm particually worried about global injustice and am struggling with your last point (accepting things as they are as they should). How does this fit in with making meaningful change? How can I be at peace in a world where I know my fellow human beings are suffering? What do you thnk about this? Take care, Charlotte.
Thanks for the pointers! Also, when you return to love, you can always do a lovingkindness practice, which is Maitri, praying for the happiness and fullfillment of others. "When you are sad, express the aspiration that others have happiness." Also, a powerful mantra: "Loss and defeat to myself, gain and victory to others!"
This was beautiful. Thank you for your service ❤
Your videos give me so much hope, thank you!
You are an amazing soul! Thank you for being in service to others. 🙏🏼🌷
Thank you so much! With pleasure 😊❤️
I really needed this. While Im not totally okay just yet, watching this has helped a bit.
Omg I could cry. I have been known to be so full of life, a never ending wrecking ball of life. But now, I'm tired, I'm life tired. I wouldn't care if I was killed today, my lust for life is gone, my centered- assuredness of life Is gone. Idk what to do. This talk of love, who cares? I'm detached from caring about it, the question isn't control or love, it's "what's the point?"
What's the point of staying in this victim mindset then? You're living off a belief that life is bad or against you, which isn't true. Yes you feel like it, but are you putting in effort to change that? What's the point in feeling how you feel now?
@Robin Schindelka Exactly lol. And yes, I do what "not depressed" me would do In spite of myself. I know even though it's been two years, the tide will turn eventually and when it does I will have hopefully done some things right.
None of that changes the way I feel though. And I know all these things already, I've beent through it before, I'm just going through the motions again, with a different perspective I guess... idk really lmao. Hence I'm here
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Hello,how are you doing now? It would be great to hear about you,I have been dealing with the same thing for about 4 months.
Even as i say i love you and I'm sorry about my intrusive thoughts...my pets vanish one by one...i know I'm creating my own panic attack...yet can't stop the thoughts...today...I'm only just calming down...from the worst of many events such as this.
for me it started out as dpdr and then it turned into existence questions and thoughts. now im freaked out that i exist and that we're all here. it's debilitating.
How are you doing now Kayley?
@@ashleyriosrizo im alittle better than what i used to be, but i still struggle a lot with it unfortunately. i try really hard to practice acceptance and not trying to figure things out but it's definitely not easy at all.
@@kayleydrummond1819 I understand the struggle. Especially when it comes out of nowhere and blind sides you. What thought do you struggle with the most?
@@ashleyriosrizo for me, i get really freaked out that i exist and that im just thoughts inside a body. i also experience dpdr which doesn't help the situation.
@@kayleydrummond1819 Have you found anything to help you feel better about the situation?
Robin, this is quite beautiful, and I thank you so much for sharing your gifts and your wisdom with the world. 🌈👏🙌🌎
1 John 4:18
“There is no fear in love, but perfect love drives out fear, because fear involves punishment(and torment). The one who fears has not been perfected in (God’s) love”
The idea that we can't just disappear into a poof of nothing, actually disturbs me deeply. What if your existential depression is based on the incredible suffering that exists in the world, even if you know its "not real", and you just want it all to end?
Hi how do I recover from thinking that everything is made of my mind and that nothing is beside that ? I believe in reality but its scares me that i cant experience reality without the brain.
I am experiencing myself. I know what ur thinking, that i might be an illusion from your mind, as i think the same. But i am not, i promise. We come from the same place♡♡ hope we can get through it
@@julietahernandez9203 are you better?
@@user-im9xh1em1k i am doing bettrr♡♡ thnx 4 askin
@@julietahernandez9203 how im struggling.
Thankyou very much yes your video has made a difference vto Me. I've been struggling and searching for some answers and it's left me feeling isolated and down . Some Very good points made. I did struggle with the 'Love' word... like what does it even mean??? going into that would be really helpful personally. Many thanks I will follow you for more x
Thank you for this video, and amazing effort with covid! You've gained a subscriber.
This was beautiful, Robin.
Thank you so much Jermaine! Hope you are doing well ❤
Jermaine recommended this to me this morning because I was frazzled. 🤪 Thank you, Robin. This was great! Blessings for a speedy recovery! ❤️🩹
I think what bothers me most is how much cruelty and suffering happens. War makes me question everything about existence and what I’ve wanted to believe. I wonder if there are horrors to this universe beyond our comprehension and the horrors and hell are the truth of life, and we are all stuck in a samsara there is no escape from, just eternal cosmic war.
Here's a great video you can watch on this: ua-cam.com/video/2VcJh-1mdUg/v-deo.html
Let me know your thoughts!
Thank you for sharing these truths for finding peace
Thank you Daniela!
I start getting hectic when i get the negative destructive thoughts and it becomes a cycle
How amazing of you to allow for a refund on the course! Great video
I seriously wish I could just turn within to an emotion of love. Have you always been able to do that?
It's a bit of a search sometime, but love is the most natural emotion we can feel. You feel it when you look at a baby, a dog/cat/animal, when you see your friends or family. It's about connecting to that emotion by looking inwards to memories for example and remembering to feel that emotion
thank you for your videos, so helpful like always
Thank you!
Hello
Im feel like im going to have a psychotic break
Is that normal under dpdr? :(
I love this video. Great advice. Thank you for making it ❤ I do struggle to understand the last point how the world is not a bad place though, in my opinion it’s a good place and a bad place, there is a lot of love between beings but living beings experience an unfair amount of suffering, life is very unfair and existence is so much suffering so how can it be not bad completely?
hello, i was hoping you'd have a more useful way to cope with my death anxiety but you said you are reassured by the "fact" that you know your consciousness is not going to disappear. I don't really care about my body turning into other elements in nature, that doesn't reassure me really. but how do you that our own subjective consciousness doesn't disappear? don't we all have a sense that our minds/ consciousness is dependable on our body's integrity? although we don't fully understand consicousness, i don't think it's too far fetch to claim that it somehow arises due to the function of our brains and bodies. and when those disintegrate, what is then left to hold our consciousness together? if all the dead people are just chilling in another room somewhere, and this life and our fear of death was just a prank to see how we would cope, I'll unfriend whoever came up with the prank! lol.
Thank you for this video
Thankyou this helped me so much ❤️
Hi Robin, is there a difference between The depressive personality and the depressive personality disorder?
what I feel is that it makes no sense that I exist.. Like, why am I me in this body and not other? why am i the sister and not the brother? Why am I ME but not my mom or my dad? like why do I feel my body and my experiences but not theirs?
It so weird
Answer: m.ua-cam.com/video/KNwE3xKxmpA/v-deo.html&pp=ygUTZXhpc3RlbnRpYWwgY3Jpc2lzIA%3D%3D
I ended up in tears
But thanks a lot
Would love to know at what point do you recommend reminding yourself of these points, and when it's better to leave them and not use them as a compulsion /avoidance to get rid of anxiety??
I think it's important to be in a somewhat better place before reassuring yourself, as you need to be open to receive these truths and when you're very much still fighting every single thing, your mind will just find a way to contradict these truths too. So, find some stillness and acceptance first, and then use these truths as some extra affirmation when you're ready
@@robinschindelka2117 that makes sense thank you! 😊
Very interesting video and I love the appearance of your dog in your videos ❤️
So helpful and thoughtful. I feel so much better after I go to church and listen to a moving sermon, or by listening to a Ted talk or a video like this, where I’m reassured that my life has meaning.
I think what “cures” my existential depression is being moved by videos and lectures that make me feel loved by God, or that tell me I’m not alone, or that prove that life is worth living.
It’s incredible. I wake up not wanting to be here. And then resources renew and restore my inspiration and faith.
This isn’t about religion dude
What about those who don’t have loved ones and things they need?
thank you so very much for this
thank you so much
Do people actually think they are not real? Love is real, hate is real.
thank you that was helpful :)
There's no evidence that your spirit/consciousness will be preserved after death, and there's no reason to believe that it will, despite the fact that it's comforting to believe it. And even though matter can't be destroyed only transferred what's the point of existing in some fashion without our consciousness?
What purpose do you want your resistance to life to provide you with? And why live your life assuming the worse case scenario? The only truth we have is that we don't know. Resisting that means suffering. Accepting that means peace. Good luck to you
Thank you
This was very reassuring Robin, thank you💙I wrote down the 10 points to be able to return to when needed!
Thank you ❤
But what if people doesn’t seem real so does nothing else and ur just stuck and you dont know what to do ?
You're not alone in feeling like that pal.
@@mrc.p8423 really?
@@antisomf264 yeah. Im exactly the same
@@mrc.p8423 what happened
@@antisomf264 to what?
I know the answer
Loved it
Thank you
Thanks a lot! 🙏☺️
THANK YOU.
You're welcome !
The meaning of life (not universe per se) is to reduce suffering.... why *find* meaning when you can make it everyday by reducing suffering. just what Neil Degrasse Tyson suggests...
Enjoy your life.
Thank you❤️🙏🏻
I'm feeling this way from total depression and depersonalization that I can't feel my body or my any pleasure or love. Brain fog is so intense I can settle or relax. I'm doing my best
"The world is not a bad place, and its ok the way it is". Yeah, right. I can see you dont live in a dangerous country. I live in a city where people are killed everyday in various violent ways and is not even a country at war like Ukraine or Syria. Please, confront those ideas outside of your first world country mindset. Is too easy to afirm that, when cruelty and violence are absent in your environment. If thats true, Then living in a safe first world country would also be part of the cure for existential anxiety, so you should've started from there.
I completely agree with you. In cases like yours, it's more difficult to feel like the world is okay the way it is. However, I believe that this doesn't tell anything about the nature of life itself, only about the nature of People's actions. The world is not bad, people just can tend to do bad things because the nature of life is survival, which means people can do bad things for egoistic reasons. Again, doesn't mean life's nature is bad, but just that people can exploit the nature of life in selfish, harmful ways.
Existential fear is fear of the nature of life itself. If you live in a dangerous city, fear is actually in a way useful. It is more likely to keep you alive. So I won't tell you to overcome your fear of that. Just to question if the danger in your city actually tells you anything about the inherent nature of life.
Finally, good and bad don't actually exist. They are concepts of the mind to make sense of the world. So that's also what I mean with that. Life is as it is. Good or bad is how we make sense of it. And so if we accept the nature of life as uncertain, it doesn't mean we're always safe, like you for example, but at least that we can be at peace with existence.
Where can I purchase the manual?
The link is in the description of this video!
@@robinschindelka2117 did you feel like you're the only person and everyone was your imagination?
@@user-im9xh1em1k that was one of the thoughts I had, yes
@@robinschindelka2117 I'm really struggling with it. I watch your videos then think what if she's not real then I freak out. Any suggestions on how to handle that? I just all of a sudden had the thought one day and I've been struggling, it's hard for me to see it like I used to cause I wonder have I imagined my whole life?
So I’m the only one going crazy about not being able to see my own face without and mirror and it’s made me self conscious and I can’t even give ppl eye contact ? Yes ? Oh okay 😞
Hi Brandy, no! It's something many people go through. Try looking at Jelimah's recovery story for some reassurance
@@robinschindelka2117 I didn’t get reassured she didn’t mention what I said 😔She only mentioned not recognizing herself in the mirror .
@@brandylove6642 not true, she talks about not recognizing her family
@@robinschindelka2117 did you even read my first comment? That has nothing to do with what my symptom is 😞
@@brandylove6642 i have this too don’t worry, it’s genuinely just the anxiety making it a bigger issue it’s uncomfortable but focus away from it
Lost me at “life coach”.
You lost me on 10
It does not make sense to me
I know our thinking and perceptions shape our experience, yet the World is not the way it should be
You sounds very gaslighting in the end lol
Thank you for your comment! Appreciate you taking the time to write that :)
Gbless you! Everyone is on the same
boat! Yes!🫂🙏🏼👑👼🏼♥️
You have a cold. Dont go there girlfriend. I will listen on..
Thank you