How to Diffuse a Difficult Situation - in Just Five Words

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  • Опубліковано 27 сер 2015
  • bit.ly/MeetChrisWestfall Find out how to handle a tough conversation, when the stakes are high, and use these five words to take a fresh look at the issues you are facing. Handle relationships more effectively, when you put these five words into action.

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  • @jacquief6049
    @jacquief6049 4 роки тому +14

    I like this. Its short and Chris gives an example which instantly makes you realise the point straight away. What else could it mean? is a way of stopping yourself from imagining why something is happening and fastening onto just one explanation. It gives you a pause to let other possibilities in, which would mean that you wouldn't get so wound up when faced with an annoying situation. Helpful I thought!

  • @strawberryme08
    @strawberryme08 3 роки тому +26

    “What else could this mean” is a tool of empathy. I like it

  • @pyrofful
    @pyrofful 6 років тому +21

    "You have a cavity and need to lay off the candy and soda" " what else could this mean?" lol. Good point though really

  • @starryskiesstarrynights4515
    @starryskiesstarrynights4515 2 роки тому +4

    I have a friend who's an alcoholic. No judgement,I was one too. But when he's argumentative and difficult,I need to remember that it's really difficult to be in withdrawal, and I need to have empathy.This was a great reminder that we need to have empathy for others

    • @dougfredricks2017
      @dougfredricks2017 4 місяці тому

      😂 My Uncle would say... "A drunk man's words are a Sober person's thoughts."

  • @remyd8767
    @remyd8767 4 роки тому +11

    I apply this all the time when I'm driving behind a very slow car.

  • @algobo
    @algobo 6 років тому +13

    Simple and true!

  • @thefin4lb0ss
    @thefin4lb0ss 3 роки тому

    Great advice. I'll keep it in mind you never know

  • @VanityStar
    @VanityStar 8 місяців тому +1

    Thank you.

  • @SeasonalParadise
    @SeasonalParadise Рік тому

    What Else Coudl This Mean? Sounds simple but this is an amazing debiasing tool. Thanks so much.

  • @MrSuperbluesky
    @MrSuperbluesky 2 роки тому

    Thank you

  • @leoaxitorishan7685
    @leoaxitorishan7685 Рік тому

    7yrs in, and my account is gone but still I am watching this video to remind myself.

  • @AliAbdullah-oi3wc
    @AliAbdullah-oi3wc 3 роки тому

    I'm going to try this

  • @brandie_patreece
    @brandie_patreece Рік тому

    Thanks.

  • @lashima8593
    @lashima8593 Рік тому

    Good advice

  • @RiqiHarawira
    @RiqiHarawira 7 місяців тому

    I like that. I will give that a try

  • @margaretrodd3070
    @margaretrodd3070 7 місяців тому

    Exactly right…however, due to more difficult situations being presented I’m removing myself and shopping on online now bc customer service is that bad…sad days we live in where the customer is viewed as a threat, ai is easier and more pleasant to deal with.

  • @tinxe6821
    @tinxe6821 5 років тому +9

    I can imagine accidentally rear ending someone and they coming out screaming at me and me just being like sh sh sh.... what else could this mean?...

  • @DarthTwilight
    @DarthTwilight 18 днів тому +1

    of course this doesn't work with people who have no ability for empathy. my landlord is threatening to drive up my rent because my girlfriend took a shower at my place. he said he was tired of her coming over, and he was just going to raise my rent in anticipation of higher utilities that are supposedly included. I tried to explain the situation, and he flat out told me he doesn't care nor does he have time to care about anybody but himself. he excused himself about 20 times over for being an asshole, and I had to close the door on him to keep from bashing his face in with a baseball bat.

  • @menaamor
    @menaamor 5 років тому +2

    good point

  • @mildredhighcock7333
    @mildredhighcock7333 2 роки тому +5

    Here's another: How can I love this person MORE?

  • @arnabgoswami522
    @arnabgoswami522 5 місяців тому

    "How can you help the situation?"

  • @chipsotool
    @chipsotool 3 роки тому +3

    well that told me jack shit

  • @ancyber6876
    @ancyber6876 4 роки тому +4

    Where is he watching

    • @westfallonline
      @westfallonline  4 роки тому +1

      Walexe 87 hey - it’s an interview! 🤪

    • @ancyber6876
      @ancyber6876 4 роки тому +2

      Chris Westfall It’s I thought he was talking directly to the audience.

  • @divisionunion1658
    @divisionunion1658 Рік тому

    Plus 1 charisma

  • @pilarq7886
    @pilarq7886 5 місяців тому

    What else could this mean

  • @imho2278
    @imho2278 2 роки тому +1

    Start by spelling 'defuse' correctly in your title. 'Diffuse' means to spread out, or soak into something.

  • @55millionmonkeys20
    @55millionmonkeys20 4 роки тому +2

    You kinda look similar to the staute of liberty. Your bone structure is simliar

    • @westfallonline
      @westfallonline  4 роки тому +2

      Swanzi Forbidden Lady Liberty? The statue? Ok, if you say so 🤣

    • @55millionmonkeys20
      @55millionmonkeys20 4 роки тому +2

      @@westfallonline it was just a observation bro. Dont take it wrong. Think of it as a blessing

    • @dammitdan1662
      @dammitdan1662 Рік тому

      Here I was thinking the statute of liberty was called the Constitution

  • @huemann3416
    @huemann3416 4 місяці тому

    That’s foolish

  • @kurtolson1303
    @kurtolson1303 4 роки тому +6

    Nice looking professional that gives Lame advice.

  • @mellymel9892
    @mellymel9892 7 місяців тому

    This didn’t help me at all. I really wanted this to be profound but it’s just not. 🤷🏽‍♂️

  • @OGmediahub
    @OGmediahub 10 місяців тому +2

    I didnt get it …

    • @westfallonline
      @westfallonline  10 місяців тому +1

      What was it that you missed?

    • @OGmediahub
      @OGmediahub 10 місяців тому

      @@westfallonline if i am having an argument or a fight at work, how can these words: what else could this means …
      If the boss tells me - go f… yourself or this or you that; how the words : what else could this mean be interpreted and used in such a situation ??