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That blue on you Tati🤌🏼
I thought exactly the same
Yes where is that from, color is gorgeous!!??
It’s so flattering and brings out her beautiful eyes, doesn’t it?!
I agree the blue is so pretty with your skin/hair!
Im going to need to know where you got that sweatshirt from!! The color is great on you and my eyes change color to what I wear so I need that color lol!!
Don’t feel weird about your emotions following the loss of your sweet pup. You’re sadness means you also felt love and happiness. He was a big part of your life and it’s okay to honor that.
We lost our pup 7 years ago and we now have two more. We still have her photos up and we put up her Christmas stocking every year. We still cry sometimes when we think of her. Loss is loss. Even if they have paws. 🐾
Grief is an individual journey. I still grieve for my Mom 44 years later. Embrace the small signs that Puka sends to you.
I agree!! My little Chloe passed away last year on December 25 after being diagnosed with cancer, she was our baby for 14 years and that is something you will not get over it. I feel you Tati, I even have her ashes in a box. I couldn’t get rid of it. 🥹🥹🥹
@@jarenkalba643I feel you also, I lost one of my fur babies about 6 years ago and had his ashes and then I lost his little fur baby sister in 2022 and now I have their ashes together sitting on top of my fireplace in a beautiful urn, I have photos in our bedroom of them because they used to sleep on the bed with us every night but you never get over that feeling of loss and grief, I can’t get another fur baby because I can’t go through that pain all over again, and the age we are, they would probably outlive us and then I would worry about who would look after my fur baby when I’m gone, it’s too hard, even though they bring so much love to our lives, it’s losing them that’s the hardest thing ever for me..🥺🥺🐶🐶💙🩷🌈🌈
@@jarenkalba643Absolutely, lost my therapy pup two years ago and I still cry about her. I still have her bed, her bowls, her toys and I also have her ashes in a little marble container on my bedside table. It’s a little easier but the first year is really hard ❤️🐶🥺
100% he’s taking advantage of you during this grieving season. TATI, MY GIRL, YOU GOT THIS. Do what you feels right. But something doesn’t seem right about him reaching out. You deserve fulllllll respect.
Tati!!! You will never get over Puka. I was the complete opposite when it came to getting another dog. After my poodle passed - and it was tragic for me, because she died unexpectedly in the middle of the night. It was 2am & I sat staright up in bed asking where she was because she wasn't under the covers with me. I found her on the floor at the end of my bed & it must've just happened because she was still warm. I cried all night & the next day. I ended up going out to look at puppies & came home with not one but TWO PUPPIES! While it did help me, after 8 years, I still cry when I think of her. It's been a year since we put our shepard down & we planted a tree in his honor and today, we have brand new leaves sprouting out of a stick tree & it warmed my heart so much I bawl my eyes out. But it's healing.
You never replace them, but starting the journey down new dog chaos road is a remarkable distraction. I told my beautiful boy he could go and I would ok and part of that is knowing it's OK to love another dog.
I did the same with the 2 pups and I still cry for the one I lost to a car accident but I love them all they’re all so different
You never get over the loss of a dog if I’m being honest. You do grow bigger than your grief and live with it but you’ll always miss them. People that don’t grieve their dogs didn’t view them as family like many of us dog lovers😭
This⬆️ 💯
Our dog died 8 years ago, and we were just telling stories about him today. Miss him always.
I lost my two Boston terriers 2 years ago, it still hurts that I lost my babies,😢
@TheBTG96 - What you said about growing bigger than your grief - what an amazing way to put it ! Thank you for sharing that - greetings & blessings to you from sunny Central Florida 😎
I totally agree! I have 4 urns on my sideboard that I say good morning and good night to every day. I wanted to bury them in the garden but I couldn’t. They are with me, there still something I can touch. It helps me a lot even if other people find it weird. Losing your loved dog is horrible. It’s hurts just the same as losing a loved one and because they are more like a child to us it can hurt even more.
With Clark coming to yall privately to say "hey i wanna settle", my opinion, don't do it. He is trying to take advantage of your emotional state with Puka passing (rest sweet boy). I understand that there is alot still to happen but SEE. IT. THROUGH. He started this fight and came after you and your Husband. If he wants to settle, then he needs to do it the right way. Through your lawyers. If he can't respect that, I hate to say it but you have an option for harassment.
Who is this Clark?
I imagine was tempting to get a "quick ending" to this years long battle. Very good on Tati for not getting on a "lawyer free" call as I doubt anything good would have come from that! The grand majority of litigation settles out of court, but it should be done correctly and with the protection of the hired attorneys.
Completely agree with this
I’ll just say it. That’s low key sociopath vibes. How messed up if that’s his thought process. 😮
I just had to put my fur baby down on Feb 20 too, so I completely understand where you are in the grieving process. I don't think the pain will ever fully go away, but I've heard it will be less often and will be easier to get through when a wave appears eventually.
Much love Tati ❤
Re: exercise.... what keeps me motivated is that I'm actually feeling BETTER and am improving. I was in a horrific car accident 3+ years ago. Yes, it's been hard work getting to where I am now. . But I'm feeling more humanlike rather than a broken doll.
Exercise is a super stress reliever and a mood booster too.
yesss!! I used to be big into exercise until I was in a pretty bad rollover accident, and also I used to be big into cardio but after I had covid I felt a pain in my chest anytime I would and it scared me. but I feel like im ready to start again because it sure does help my mental health sooo much and in these times I think everyone can benefit from some kind of movement, it really is the ultimate therapy.
Clark Swanson should not be trusted. Be patient and wait for the date later this year. You will be victorious.
I agree. Don't trust that man! You're too good a person and he's a SWINDLER who knows you're someone who sees the best in people!
Tati you are in my thoughts and prayers my beautiful friend i can relate with you on so many levels i just lost my husband and my dog “Babygirl” passed 4 days before he passed 😭💔🙏 Your completely right we are beyond being Tested 😢 I love and appreciate you more than you’ll ever know the courage you have is incredible ❤💐🔥sending you healing thoughts and positive vibes 🙏💓👑💐🤗
Not to mention, he got the biggest liar on UA-cam to endorse defamation against Tati. Please don't trust him.
@TaeByrd4 I'm sorry for your loss. My fiance recently passed away, and my beloved cat (his favorite one) passed away just a few weeks after him. I definitely understand where you are coming from😢
So true!
I don't think it's weird to have your pup's picture in the background at all. You have to do what's best for you and most comforting for you. My girl has been gone 7 years in June and I have a bunch of photos up and a little display with her ashes and a shadow box with her collar and paw print. I'm so sorry you're struggling. I wish I could say it gets easier but I would describe it more as you get more used to it. The hardest part was getting used to the silence - not hearing collar tags or nails on the floor or just little noises, and not being greeted when we get home. Sending love your way!
Agreed. I have a big picture of our dog that passed on the wall that I colored. Underneath are her paw print stamps that the vet gave us. We have her collar by it and her ashes in a pretty wooden box underneath it. And pictures across the room too. Nothing wrong with keeping mementos of them around. Especially soon afterwards.
I think anyone who had a fur baby we already know how much we love our furry buddy or buddies ❤ It’s wonderful to have photos and even their urn ⚱️ It’s all about the love and memories you hold ❤
I have the same little vignette of my baby’s urn and paw prints in plaster that they did at the University of Florida vet school that I ended up taking her to - they couldn’t save her, but they are wonderful & have cutting edge treatments for anyone near Gainesville in Florida - she was a chocolate Lab, Abby, & she was simply the dog of my heart - I lost her to cancer almost 5 years ago
Dear Tati, I got sad when you told you have lost a part of you... your innocence... I recognize that unfortunately and it's something that I cry about very often too. It comes with age, loss, and life experience. However, I know for sure that you will keep your inner light burning and will always bring light to others. It's radiating so strongly, as I feel your love and good intentions you carry with you through the screen every time, and it makes you so beautiful and inspiring ✨✨✨ Thank you for sharing your vulnerability like this. Sending you love from the Netherlands ❤❤
My cat Delia died in 2021 and I still cry because I miss her so much. I think some grief just stays with us forever, honestly. I will never get over it, but I have learned to live with it.
Healing from the loss of a dog is really hard. I found I only moved past the grief from my first dog when I got my second. My second wasn't a replacement, just a happy, loving distraction that helped ease the pain.
Yeah it was years later when we got another, still miss him (lost him back in 2019, new dog 2022). They're never a replacement but a new friend who will be completely different!
Like she's absolutely perfect and then some, but she'll never be the dog I cried to as a teenager.
It's definitely worth having another dog once you're ready and the right one comes along!
Completely agree.
Agreed! Your new dog is always sent by your old dog! Not to replace, but to heal ❤
Agreed! This is what we have done so many times. Every dog is unique and are not replaced.
Every time I think of baby boy it hurts but I’m thankful with God for the time given.
@@EstefiHerrerathank you for this. My husband and kids really want another dog, but it’s too soon for me (we lost Daisy Doodle a month ago). What you said is the first thing I’ve read that’s made me think…maybe. ❤
I cried every day for 3 months when my first dog died. It gets better! Consider giving a rescue a home. 😊
Yes!! I truly hope that is the way they go when they get another pet. I don’t understand why some people insist on buying purebred animals because they think they are better or they “ want to know exactly what they are getting”. When I lived at home we had three dogs. Two were purebred and one was a cute little mutt. The purebreds were constantly at the vet and both died young. The little mutt lived to be 19 and she only ever went to the vet for check ups/vaccinations. Heinz 57 dogs are the best! LOL
PS if anyone wants to buy a purebred of course that is fine and your choice~~ I am just giving my opinion here 😎
I thought about Puka aging, and it made me think about my aging dog and how I'm going to fall apart when she leaves us. A half year into thinking about this, my baby is 14, we decided to adopt a new baby. That way she can cheer up my older dog and keep her active, and hopefully the new fur baby learns my aging dog's routine and maybe takes on some of her mannerisms. It's been the best decision, she's been a blessing for our older dog and our family. And helped us not focus so much on the inevitable as much. Our pooches are our world ❤ Thanks for suggesting adopting.
It took me about 3-6 months too for the loss of my cats to get less raw. You always miss them but the open wound does turn into a scar.
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Very true and each one is different and special ♥️
@@GoblinsAreAGirlsBestFriendthat’s a beautiful way to say that 🥰
Oh Tati I can relate to what you are going thru. I won't go into the specifics but I have gone thru some ABSOLUTE TOUGH times. It was very difficult and I too MISSED MY OLD SELF. I have come a long way (by the Grace of God) but fear and trust issues still linger. 🥰🥰🥰
I feel for you!! I’ve learned the hard way too that I can’t be friends with everyone, and that I have to be more discerning with who I associate with. Praying peace and strength for you 🙏❤️. One of the things I love about maturing in life is realizing sometimes it’s not me, it’s them!
Praying for a speedy conclusion for this trial! Justice will prevail 💪🏽
What is the trial about ? I missed a point . Thx
I know it's hard, but do your best to give it to God.
I don't even know what the trial is about??❤😢
@@kahinadj91same
She's mentioned what the trial is about 30 videos ago
I love that color on you. Makes your eyes sparkle.
Stunning! I need to get into this color theory business 😂
Yes, stunning, brings out your eyes❤
💯😍
@@eh007this isn't so much colour theory as the shirt being the same shade as her eyes, and there's not much else colour- or jewellery wise going on, so you kinda take note of it! If you want to make your eye colour pop with colour theory, you usually use shades on the opposite of the wheel, like orange-y colour for blue, as they stand out the most beside eachother, like black to white 😄 I do kinda think she might be using contact here though, or maybe, and I truly hope this isn't the case, she's been crying, her eyes do look a little red and that will make blue stand out. Or maybe it's white balance in editing going on the cooler side! Stunning either way! ❤
@@eh007 oh damn that became a wall of text, sorry, I have AuDHD 😅
you’ll never leave that grieving state. I’ve lost a few dogs, all of which gutted me. I still grieve. I lost my soul dog 3 years ago in a traumatic way. I still cry about once a week. his medicine is still in my fridge. his bed is still next to my bed. I have another dog that I’ve had through all of this too. He helped me grieve and respects his brothers “areas.” all of this to say, the grieving doesn’t end and however whenever whatever you need to do so, is normal and ok. feel it all. they love us unconditionally, it’s expected for us to grieve the immense loss. we can only dream of loving them as much as they love us. grieving is an extension of our love. sending you wishes for comfort and much love!
It’s ok to be angry and hurt when injustice comes against you. Your emotions are valid Tati.
It’s taken me a long time to learn how to deal with anger, frustration, hurt.
Still learning.
I stopped “spiritually bypassing” my anger when I misunderstood what turn the other cheek, love your enemies, and forgiveness meant. It never meant we can’t be angry, stand up for ourselves, set boundaries, share how you feel (in love and if appropriate).
I will pray for you and whatever evil is in operation through Clark. I pray he turns from his ways and aligns with Gods grace and love.
Tati! Don't you dare take down the beautiful Puka shrine! I still wear a sweater that has a picture of my bloodhound on it and she has been passed on now for years. My sweet giant, fluffy cat Miguel passed away two years ago, and I still have his paw print cast up on a stand in my kitchen. You never stop missing them, but over time it will get easier. I will forever love them and I know they will welcome me when it is my turn to move on to heaven. Hang in there Tati! Don't stop looking at pictures and remembering all the happy, funny memories!😘😘😘
Love you! Please don’t leave longform content. The other stuff is OK but we love you here
of course i’m watching this at the gym on the treadmill and bawling my eyes out.. i look insane😂 you’re so strong, love you tati!!
Your eyes are the main focus in this video. Can't stop looking at them. That sweater really makes them pop❤ beautiful
That blue is gorgeous on you!
Tati, we went through the book of Ezekiel at church and the one thing that really struck me was that the Bible doesn't mince words. And in Ezekiel it says, "Don't be a fool" and dwell on the past, thinking about what might have been, but look toward the future and what you can build there. Ezekiel, chapter 5 I think. But it says "don't be a FOOL...." I'm very nostalgic and that verse really caught me. We all fall into this problem, it's part of humanity. So, you are setting a good example for everyone to accept things as they are, you aren't constantly pining for things of the past to be different, and you are encouraging everyone (and yourself) to look forward and build things. Be blessed.
Amen! 🙏
Thank you for that verse!! I needed that today!!
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@@laikanbarth I was going to say the same ❤
I struggle with this as well. It's very challenging. My mental health has been terrible lately. Thank you for your comment❤️🙏
Feeling you with going through a hard year watched your video and had a well needed cry. Stay strong and keep being your amazing self. ❤
My best advice is to let yourself be angry! Bottling it up will only cause you to redirect it where it doesn’t belong. Acknowledge and respect your anger - just don’t let it bleed into the rest of your life. Love you!
I still grieve my dog that I lost in 1994. I don’t think you ever truly get over any big loss. The best description of grief that I found was your life experience is a box and your grief is a ball inside it. In the beginning the ball and box are the same size , every time the ball hit the side of the box you feel the loss. In time the box(life experience) gets bigger but the ball remains the original size and hits the sides of the box less often. I am so sorry Tati, loss of a pet is so difficult. 💔🐶
Oh, this is so good! Thanks
My dogs are like my kids, and I lost my most recent September 10, 2019. It took me 1 year to be able to talk about her without crying. It will get easier. It will hurt less. Praying for you.
Hope this trial comes to an end for your piece of mind Tati! saying a prayer for you never miss your videos I just don't comment as much due to my English but 'm getting better ! I have been watching you from day one I always thought you were a classy person my daughter and I watched you together she was so young and to this day she still watches you we love you take care ❤ I'm on your list as well thank you ❤
I send you so much love and healing. I am so sorry for all the hardship you are going through. You will make it through and will be stronger and wiser but I know how hard it is to be where you are. I hope you will consider finding an excellent therapist who can help you navigate through this without blaming yourself for anything outside of your control. Truly sending you so much love ❤️
It's been six years since I lost my fur baby, and I'm just starting to think about getting another dog. Give yourself as much time as you need to heal. My thoughts are with you.
Amen Tati. About the whole working out thing. I became paralyzed at the age of 32 and it does make me sad to see so many people not taking care or loving their bodies. It’s our greatest gift; to have a functional body to where you can do ANYTHING. Thankfully, I worked out 5x a week prior to my accident which has helped me tremendously now in my day to day life.
I had my yorkie for almost 17 years. And done for 3 and I still cry randomly about her. Grief is love with no where to go. ❤
I am just watching this video, finally. I am so sorry you are suffering so over Puka, but I am not surprised. I have lost 5 German Shepherds over the last 28 years. They are just as much my babies as my human children. They only know how to love you and they cannot tell you when they don't feel well. They rely on their humans for so much and love us unconditionally. Grieving them can be so overwhelming. It will take you as long as it takes. Cry when you need and never beat yourself up about your grief. I do have to say that getting another dog may help some and it will never diminish your love and memories for Puka. A new dog will give you somewhere to put your love and attention. I am sure Puka would approve. ❤❤❤❤❤
As an animal obsessed person who has been left heartbroken by the loss of many dogs and cats, I have always found comfort in adopting soon after. An animal is out there that is in need of the love and wonderful life you would provide. Puka would want that, too...❤
I had to say goodbye to my Yorkie that I had for 14 years. I can relate to everything you are experiencing. I didn't want another dog at first but in 3 weeks I realized that I needed to give another dog a great life, she would have wanted that so I got a miniature schnauzer. Best decision for me. They have different personalities and that's ok. I have my yorkie's pic and ashes in my bedroom. I didn't replace her, I honor her by providing a great life for this schnauzer. Prayers for you in all areas of your life. May God bless you for all you do!
Rescues are the best! I lost my rescued American bulldog after 12 years in 2017. My heart still can't handle the thought of getting another dog... But I rescued a wonderful Siamese kitty about 2 years ago, and she is such a joy to me!
I always have more than 1. Just so it's not completely quiet after a loss. I think the idea that wallowing in the worst version of the pain is better is false. I miss my cats just as much while I still have others, but at least I don't encounter the void at every step of my daily life.
@GoblinsAreAGirlsBestFriend
Yep, I have two black cat rescues. Both boys...Twizzler and Tinsel. They are so happy in my little apartment. Just watching them snuggle or looking at them delight in all the bird activity makes my life brighter...❤️❤️...
I agree, your precious love will never be replaced, but they would love you to help and love another ☺️
Tati, your eyes POP in that color.
I lost my Cleo 7 years ago and it still hurts. We did adopt another dog about 18 mos later. I love her dearly but there is always going to be that little empty spot in my heart.
Thank you for being so honest with us. I am sending you all the good vibes and praying this trial ends well so you can move on once and for all ❤
Love you Tati! In times of struggle, I think about what I’m grateful for. And I ask my friends/family to flood me with genuine compliments and love. It helps pull me out of the darkness so much. Feel the feeling. Cry, scream, do what you need to do. And then move on. Don’t dwell on it. You’re safe, you’re valued, you’re appreciated, you are strong!
I still see my cat out the corner of my eye and it has been months! I really miss cuddling with him. You have your health and that is the most important thing. God bless you.
My dog Roxy spread her angelic wings in 2020 and I still have moments of tears. It's been 4yrs and I'm FINALLY coming around to the idea of a new fur-baby... TAKE YOUR TIME, Tati. The right time and place will eventually come when you will want a new family member. If it doesn't, then it doesn't. Wishing you mindful and soulful peace. ❤
Also, I’m obsessed with the Tati list and I am SO GRATEFUL you do it!!!❤
I have found the loss of routine and having that unconditional love takes time to adjust. I have learned how big my heart can grow with adding a new fur baby to my life (over 6 months later) after my 15 year old chihuahua passed. He’s a completely different personality but so loving and special in his own way! He has made my forever grief for her manageable. We are lucky to have our fur babies! He was lucky to have so much love!
A quote i incorporated in my vision board this year is, "Each day you must choose... The pain of discipline or the pain of regret." I have pretty debilitating chronic illness, so i am working on making the most of what I've got lol. I love that you're taking us along on your healthy lifestyle journey 💜
What a great quote. God bless you.
Indeed a very good quote! Love it❤ Thank you and I hope you get to feel better! I also have a chronic illness, but I try to make every day count🥰
@@anngeisheimer May God bless you as well! 🥰
@@alexiamountainThank you! I'm sorry you also have health struggles. May God give you joy in the midst of the pain, which does good like a medicine. (Proverbs 17:22a) 🙏💞
Good for you girl!! We can do anything we put our minds to. You got this!!!
I pray you succeed & heal along the way🙏❤️🙏
For some reason, I love knowing that the Tati List is being handled personally by you and James ❤
Good luck with getting at your court things over with. Also the blue sweater is really pretty with your eye color. Always love your tips and tricks
Thanks for making videos all these years! I come to share in the energy you put out, and it's always so good for me:) in good times, it's nice to just hang out and find great new product. In bad times, your energy helps me get back to a place of calm and motivation. Much love!
My sweet maltipoo - Scott - passed away 15 years ago and I can still cry when I think about him. Just like a person - you learn to live with the hurt ❤
I’m a grief guide and I’m about to specialise in grief from the loss of a beloved animal. I feel that this is an area that doesn’t get talked about enough. Grief of our fur babies, can bring up all kinds of grief! It’s no different to losing a human. Go gently with yourself 🙏🏻you have had a lot to cope with. Sending blessings your way ❤
I so feel for you Tati you are a good kind person and people have taken advantage of that over the years and you only learn with age about how bad some people are. I think most of us have had that over time I know I have I don’t trust people now and never will as sometimes you are better off with only a few friends and family around you. I hope all goes well with you I have followed you for many years lots of love xxx
This blue looks amazing on you ! 🦋🩵🧿
Tati, I’ve been through litigation that involved my children. I couldn’t eat. I couldn’t sleep. All I could do between court dates was find things to distract myself. It’s beyond overwhelming, gut wrenching and exhausting. You have every right to be angry…you need to FEEL that anger and deal with it. Suppressing it is one of the worst things you can do for your physical and mental health. Right now, taking care of Tati needs to be #1. I’m more than willing to talk…I’ve been there and I might be able to help. But do NOT hold emotions in. Let them out and work through them. You will feel better in the end. LOVE YOU!
One more thing Tati, you need anything, lean on us. Your social community is here for you…always. ❤️
It took me a full year to get over the loss of my last precious fur baby to pass. You will never have another pet like the one you lost, but ultimately that's not the goal. The goal is to find another 'soul match' to add that something you're missing to your life. I truly believe our fur babies enter our lives when we're really in need of something, even if we aren't fully cognizant of what that thing is.
Yes!! My childhood dog of 14 years died 2 years ago and maaaaan. I cried for months......I still do sometimes but not as much anymore. But it'll catch me at times❤
I'm with you, 1000%, when it comes to your dog. We lost ours about 13 years ago and, truthfully, it hurt so badly that we just aren't ready for that again. I could still cry when I talk about him. They truly are our angels while they're here but they're gone so quickly. It's still heartbreaking. A coworker once said that she gets another (she rescues dogs) to help another and to never have only one because when one goes, the house is just too quiet. I can see where she's coming from.
about getting over a pet's death- In the fall of 2020 my Lupin (orange kitty) died. He was 14 and the little love of my life. It took 2 years for me to stop actively missing him. It was so bad at some points that I'd have thoughts like "what if he's a ghost and hanging around me and I can't see him and he thinks he's being ignored???" that's how much I loved and missed him. It's been 4 years now and I only tear up when I think of him (like I am now.) I'm sorry for the loss and pain but it's so special when you have had a little love like that in your life.
Sometimes an animal comes into your life that touches your soul differently. Sometimes you never get over it. Eventually, the sadness does take a backseat to good memories, but never does it go away. I have had many cats, but one that I lost 10 years ago has been especially heartbreaking. We had an unexplainable connection for 16 years. To this day, I still cry just looking at his photo. I am happy I was privileged to have that experience, but it doesn’t make it easy when you lose it.
I feel the same i lost Samson last year and we had him for 17 of his 18 years.
Hey Tati, I can't remember if you've ever mentioned anything about angel numbers before on your channel (I'm wanting to think you have?), but the number 5 is all about big, never be the same again transformations & life transitions. Usually some chaotic period of life that will ultimately usher in something more positive after the transformation is complete. I've been seeing cardinals too recently, and your story definitely resonates me my own journey. So maybe the 5 is applicable to you as well. May healing & peace find their way to your heart. ❤
Thank you for sharing with us! You are so strong keep on going Tatti God is good
Loved this vid…got teary when you talked about Puka. Having lost both 4- and 2-legged loved ones, grief isn’t something you get over; you get through it. Sometimes you can recall them or talk about something and you’re fine. Other times, you just start to lose it. This ebbs and flows over the years, but you never get over it. It’s just part of you. 🤗
We women always make it through.. we have a strength unseen and unchallenged, and watching you get through it with grace makes me fiercely proud and protective. We're the same age. I just started talking to my GYNO about perimenopause and HRT and am praying it helps with my mental health decline over the past couple years.🤞We GOT this, girl... we got this 💜
I feel youre pain....i still cry over my cat and its been 3 weeks. You responded to my DM and I am so greatful.....Thank you
You're so right. I would not wish to go through the suffering I went through, but I realize, as a result, I will never be a shallow person.
I read a really great analogy about grief , your grief is a ball and it's inside a cube and for what feels like the longest time the ball won't move it takes up all the space and there is no movement and slowly as time goes on the ball will shrink it will never go away trapped inside the cube but eventually with time it does get smaller , there is no timeliness for grief everyone feels it differently ♡
As far as working out goes, I’ve been consistently going for 4 years now. The best motivation I can give you is, do it because you love your body not because you hate it. Also, I’m not addicted to working out, I am addicted to the results. They’re not just physical (which is amazing) but it’s also about how strong I’ve become, how I can do my kids fun runs and not quit, the endurance I’ve gained. THATS what it’s about ♥️
I am so sorry for your journey that keeps you and who you are suppressed, and that you feel like you have lost part of you !!! I get the trust issue as well and I understand as we went through and still sorta going through a law suit with my brother and have lost him from my life and am mourning that loss, while he slams us and blames us for his decision to take us to court when it could have been avoided as well as you mentioned. We are struggling financially because of this too.... which sucks in these times
Your strong woman and thankfully have lots of support....this shall end and I hope you feel better when its over ❣❣
That BLUE suits you so well! Brings out the vibrancy in your eyes out. So beautiful! 💎💙
So true
I totally understand the sadness. I lost my childhood cat when I was 18. I am 26 now and there are still days when I think of him and get emotional. It gets better with time but I will always miss my buddy.
Tati, I have been in a 7-year ongoing setback in my life, similarly with legal and formal institutions. Seeing you go through such a similar circumstance, but publically and with much more at stake is unreal. When you said you aren't sure that you can get the parts of yourself back, I feel that in my soul. It will end. You will heal. You will be transformed. Those parts will be added back to you but even purer, richer, stronger. Joel 2:25 “I will restore to you the years that the locusts ate".
Amen to this 💕
AMEN!!!!
My best friend of 14 years passed away in 2019, and I still will cry over her. She was my confidante and the love of my life. It does get easier to talk about them without bursting into tears, but I will still occasionally find something I haven't worn in a long time with her hair on it, and have bursted into tears from it. I promise it gets easier.. 2 years ago I got another best friend and she has helped pull me out of the biggest depression spiral of my life. That was the longest I have ever been without a dog as a companion. But knowing I get to see all my fur babies one day, makes it easier.
Tati, I lost my English bulldog almost 2 years ago, and we would watch her videos for years and years together. Losing her was super tough and I think it was a good year and still to this day. Sometimes I come home and I know she’s not here but I like look for her. There are certain wounds that no matter how much you care for. They always just never fully close so don’t feel like you have to rush it. I think it took me a solid six months to not cry every single day. we got a new French bulldog two years after she passed and the whole first three months that I had him I would cry because I felt like I was betraying her by being happy. But now I see it as a little gift that she sent us. I know that one day we will lose him too, but I just wish I can give him as much of a happy life as he has been able to give me.
I saw a video once about the size of your grief. That it never gets smaller but that it starts to feel less overwhelming - like hitting a button in a box. It will never go away completely because that person or loved one will always be a part of your life.
My Cooper passed 9 years ago & occasionally I still get misty. The first year is a struggle, but each year, your heart heals more & and more; and although the sadness never completely goes away, it is not the same level of all-consuming grief.
Ah Tati! I did not realise that Pooka passed 😭I do not think grief from loss has a set time. I know when we lost our family dog when he was 6 and I was 16 it took me years to get over. I still dream about him occasionally.
Also I took things into my own hands at 44 and had my lovely son - using a DD. FET may not be an option for you but just know that there are options. Where there is a will, there is a way!
Dogs are a gift. One thing that really helps me is that I KNOW I did everything I could for my first dog, Rocky. He had degenerative myelopathy which paralyzed his back legs. In the end, I had to make a decision based on his quality of life. Once that was gone, it was time to do the right thing for him, not the right thing for me. My vet helped a lot because after I made the decision, and it was done, he told me I did the right thing by Rocky. That really helped validate me. As for getting another dog, it was a no brainer. I waited 6 weeks, which may seem fast to some, but for me, I felt that Rocky would have wanted me to. I was a great mom to him and so many dogs need good homes. I think Rocky would have been mad at me if I wallowed in my grief and didn't provide a good home for another pup. But that was me, everyone grieves differently. I now have Pippin who is a joy and has his own personality and quirks. He didn't replace Rocky at all, and he never could. Rocky has a space in my heart forever, but Pippin helped my heart grow and now he has his own space too. I know that you will make the right decision for you and James. And whatever you decide will be the right thing.
I understand forgiveness, but anger is also ok. Honestly. Live through it and get through it. You are strong, and amazing!!!! So proud of you!!
When it comes to your sweet baby, Puka.. you never get over it. As a thirty-something woman that doesn't have kids, my Boston Terrier Ellie was my absolute life. I lost her May 16th of 2023. I cry over her every single day. It was so hard to talk about anything relating to her at all at first but now it's getting easier to be able to openly talk about stories of her life and the love we shared. My heart aches for you. I have a little Ellie shrine on the dresser behind me at my computer. I still have a lot of her things that I refuse to give up or get rid of. Don't feel like theres a time frame for this. Don't feel like your photo of him behind you is "weird." Grieve as long as you can and as hard as you can.
"Grief is just love with nowhere to go"
I love what you said about going through hard times and the strength that comes from that "the is a strength you can't purchase." That was so powerful! Thank you for mentioning Hotmail too! I think that what happened to mine. But texting now since you gave us the number!
Good luck with the trail Tati. Love seeing the picture of Puka. Sending you lots of love ❤
We lost our dog in august and I still go to the dog toys and food aisle just automatically and then I remember… my brother when he comes to visit still shouts on her sometimes when he first comes In… it takes a long time and it’s very hard and you’ll never ever truly get over it. But one day you’ll just realise you’re content and you’re living your life ❤
I am home sick today and when I just saw this come up, it made me immediately feel better. You have a way of freaking such joy into my life. Not to mention that the blue you are wearing is simply stunning! Stay strong, dear friend. You have such a wonderful support group behind you! how I wish I could tell you that in person. Hugs!!!!
sending love and strength to you Tati 💗 you're the best!
Tati you have the kindest, generous, most BEAUTIFUL soul I've ever met in a person. I'm so grateful that I get to enjoy your videos, engage with you, and be a part of the Tati list. It would be a dream one day to meet you. I truly feel like it would be like hanging out with my long lost sister. You are awesome, and so strong for braving through all the pain you've had. Lots of love to you always ❤
Tati! I am hoping that this trial is over soon for you! I am sure this is soooo absolutely overwhelming and you are sick of it!
I’ve been also dealing with a nasty lawsuit since July 2022. Dishonest people trying to rip me off. I will NEVER trust people again and I’m not ashamed to say that there will be no forgiveness and no taking the high road after what those people did to me. They will pay for it dearly. It will be an eye for an eye and I will leave no stone unturned until Karmic Justice gets delivered. So be it. I’m sending you a lot of love, you are strong, you are smart and you are beautiful. You will prevail. ❤
Damn right! 👏
I lost a dog recently and it’s the 3rd time we have gone through it. We have always gotten a new puppy pretty quickly, with the first couple of months. I needed that energy when we got home, needed a buddy to snuggle with on the couch, needed a little friend who followed me around. No, there will never be another just like the one you lost - but there will also never be another of the one you have next. ❤ You’re a doggie mom - find a friend to love!
The Tati List is literally amazing!!! I grew up with a single mom who did what she could for my sister and I and we constantly watched you’re unboxing videos along with countless other PR/gifting styles videos. We always wished to be as special as those who got all these beautiful things and this is such an amazing way to give back! ❤️❤️
Regardless of the trials and tribulations - your skin is chef's kiss and your blush highlighter combo is AMAZING! You mourn the loss of your other self - but the person you are now (been watching for a long while) your inner happy - shines through. Puka was a lucky pup.
Don't give up love♥️you got this!
I’m so sorry for your loss Tati, stay strong💛regarding your question about when it’s going to stop hurting like this, it’s gonna get easier in a way that you get used to their absence and you learn to live with their sweet memories! You will never stop missing your fur baby, but the constant crying will slow down eventually as life goes on. It took me about a year to stop crying every single day, but after that 1 year memorial, I learned to be comfortable with it💛
We lost our senior dog in October and I feel like no you don’t get over it. Time does help though, and yes coming home is so hard because you expect to see them and they’re not there. We are fostering a dog right now and I have so many mixed feelings from joy to guilt because you’re right there will never be another dog that can replace your puka but you have to look at it as not replacing because that will never happen.
Wow your eyes are just POPPING with that blue shirt. So gorgeous!!
That's my mantra, " I only get one body for life; gotta take care of it inside and out ".❤ there's no time limit for mourning. Blessings to you, Tati.
It’s been 7 years since my dog passed away and I still cry over her. Not as much as I used to but her memories will randomly pop into my head and that’s what makes me cry. It also took me 6 years to be ready to get another dog
I really respect you showing us your vulnerability. I understand how hard it is to lose beloved doggy and I think it is not wired to have his picture up. He was such a big part of your life for many years so it’s natural to miss him and want to have something to remember him by.
Love your Q and A videos! Hope your litigation goes your way!
🎉Throughout some sad topics, this video left me feeling uplifted..thank you TATI❤ ALWAYS light at the end of the tunnel.
It took me over 10 years to get another pet after I lost my dog 💔 and the pain never goes away, u just learn to be without ur furry friend. Sorry about ur loss 😢
You and James truly amaze me! Every project the two of you take on is always done flawlessly and with attention paid to every detail! I can only imagine what y’all will be able to accomplish once the litigation is over, and you can put your full energy into it.