Our Anti-MODERN Parenting (Old-Fashioned Wisdom That We Live By) | Pantry Chat
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- Опубліковано 16 тра 2024
- Old-fashioned wisdom is really important to us as parents, and it has always served us very well. So it's no surprise that we draw on this wisdom for our family's top ten parenting principles as well.
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0:00 - Introduction
0:50 - Chit Chat
4:31 - American Blossom Linens
5:30 - Beeswax Wraps
6:45 - Calculating Firewood
10:08 - Main Topic
11:42 - #1
14:17 - #2
16:14 - #3
19:36 - #4
23:05 - #5
24:50 - #6
29:24 - #7
30:18 - #8
31:11 - #9
32:21 - #10
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#parenting #parentingtips #parentingprinciples
Say what you mean, mean what you say, but don’t be mean when you say it. It’s such a great quote to live by!♥️
That’s fantastic!
Josh and Carolyn: The most important thing to know about parenting is that it never really ends. Even as our offspring grow and leave the nest they will always need us from time to time, but let it be a time of their own choosing.
Raising children to become healthy, happy adults is THE most important thing they will ever do. ❤
My husband I had a 'theme' for rearing our children. It was "adult at 18". Our thought was that if society was going to say our children were going to be adults at that age (voting, able to sign binding contracts, etc.), then we needed to be sure they were wise enough to handle those 'tasks'.
All four are good, productive members of society, as are THEIR children.
I am in my 70's now with great grandchildren and it blesses my heart to see a family doing things as they should be done. I love your willingness to admit to your children that you make mistakes, too. Even when we do our best, one looks back and can see areas that we would do differently, if possible. Keep up the good work. Many blessings!
I love the way you two constantly look at each other to affirm what you both are saying. It’s a beautiful thing!
Wow! You really do parent with intentionality. Your communication skills are so profound to me. There's so much love and respect. Thank you so much for being great examples! I'm going to pass this video along. May the Lord bless you!
I love this! I am a new mama and our daughter is 15 months old and we are hoping the Lord blesses us with more. This is a great list to glean ideas from. Thank you for sharing!
mother of 12 and totally agree
Wow!
Best thing i ever did for my children is apologize when i messed up as a parent. Especially, especially, especially when i was mean or reacted out of anger. I was 13 years old when i became a mother and had 5 by the time i was 21, 8 by age 32. I have a very close relationship with all of them even though i was a horrendous parent with my older 3 when they where younger out of the abusive situation i was in i had almost zero patience and quite honestly i was abusive to them and being a child myself i just couldn’t deal with it all. Anyway being able to not deny what i have done and apologize and not give excuses for my behavior it has let us heal as a family and they trust me now. The second best thing was keeping my word always (within reason of course, if there was something outside my control we may have to put things off), but i did what i said and meant what i said. With discipline and with fun things. They knew they could trust me and in turn they respected me. Follow through is so important.
Wow, much respect to you for the difficult road you've walked. I can't imagine being such a young mom or having 5 kids by 21! And then even more!
It’s beautiful that you also modeled for them 1) we are all flawed and in that sometimes hurt the ones we love most and 2) fully own it 3) how to repair a relationship when we have done that. You’re a good mom.
13? Oh my goodness, I’m so sorry you had your childhood taken from you. In the U.K., sex with a child under 16 is child rape. No one could blame you at that age, you were still a child yourself. 🙏
I so love that CHRIST IS in your life family and that you are sharing!!!! Your family is truly BLESSED!!❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Can't wait until your freeze drying book comes out!!! Love your wonderful teaching and sharing! God Bless y'all!
We teach coping skills to help with failure. "Anything worth doing is worth doing badly until you get good at it!"
Love this! I avsked my kids yesterday how they would describe me (I’m 39 and my kids are 18 and 16). They said strict and kind. I did follow almost all of your advice when my kids were young. One thing I really tried to implement was teaching them stuff. When I grew up my parents almost never taught me some things like cooking, handling tools etc. I didn’t want to do that to my kids. I had a lot of freedom but when I left home at 16 I had to learn ”everything” and I struggled a lot. Luckily I had my grandma to ask. My kids have been pretty much self sufficent from 12 years of age. They know how to do most chores around the house and could definitly run their own households but they don’t have to do them all the time of course.
God bless your family. Following God’s principles always leads to healthy individuals.
Love each point you made! We certainly didn't do everything right while raising our 3 boys. We do need to ask forgiveness but also forgive ourselves ❤
I will second and third the advice to slow down and train your kids to do things. It accomplishes several things! It helps you invest in your children and teaches them that you value them. It also boosts their self confidence by giving them skills (which they will use their whole lives....laundry, dishes, and cleaning aren't going anywhere! ). And in 3 or 4 years you will suddenly have kids capable of doing things when you can't (sick) or don't have time. In a few years (and a few more kids) you will have a small army (I had 5) that can accomplish a lot working together. I loved being able to take my teens places and get loads of work done somewhere for someone. It's fun to be a blessing!
New mom with an almost 3 month old. Love this type of content now especially!
What a great video. My kids are grown and in their 30s. My oldest will be 40. I do not know how many times I apologized to my kids when they were younger. Nowadays, tablets and phones have become babysitters. I always taught my kids to take pride in their work - no matter it is.
These days, so many do not care. I run a small team in stores doing resets, and sometimes, my company sends me people to help out. I encourage my team to step back and look at their work when it is done. Many that come to help out, do half the job. Even the store managers say I can tell when someone is actually on your team or not by the way things look, that speaks volume. I always say it is how one is raised that affects how they work.
Teaching kids respect is so vitally important. I remember teaching our kids specific things and they would leave and come back and apologize for their attitude etc… wow. Humbling but so important! They are grown now but see how their words can be used to teach and encourage not just discipline!
I’ve followed you for a while, and I’ve learned so much from you both. I’m getting ready to close on my homestead. It’s small, just 6 acres, but I’m almost 60, it’s just me and my dog, so I plan on getting started as soon as I move in.
Wow! What an awesome video!! It just happened to pop up on my auto play! And I'm so blessed because of it!!
One of my most important parenting skills has been this; the word “no” is just as much of a promise as the word “yes “. I only said no when I needed to, especially when safety was involved! If I had the knee jerk reaction to say no, I learned to temper that impulse with “let me think about that”. It took more time because I knew that if I said no, I had to stick to that promise, even if I was wrong. If I was wrong, then I had to deal with how to apologize or correct my mistake. It also opened up great communication because I was open to hearing why they thought I should say yes when I thought it was in their best interest to say no. They also made sure that their friends complied when I said no. In these times, saying no takes more energy than saying yes. Parents don’t want to deal with the consequences from their children, so they give in. I have always felt that doing that sends the message to children that as a parent, I’m unreliable.
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Mine also knew that if I had thought about it and said "no", wheedling was not the way to go to try to change it.
I, as Mom, realized that I needed to send the boys to Dad when they wanted to do things that made my 'Mom heart' afraid. Dad had been a boy and was better equipped to know if the boys needed the freedom to grow into men.
Yes this is so good. Parents today do not seem to "raise" their children up, instead they just keep them alive and fed while they grow and basically raise themselves... Saying no is a very important part of raising them up. Being able to hear no needs practice too!
Loved your principles. They are so true. One of my mantras I would say to my self when raising my kids was, "I am going for long term results" not quick fixes. It takes time to mature (I am still growing) It takes time to teach and guide kids. I used to joke that my parenting style was idle threats. When I started homeschooling them I really had to slow way down. I found I was just trying to get them to school everyday and not focused on raising my oil humans. Homeschooling changed everything for me as a parent. I had the time to really influence and teach my kids.
Did you homeschool from the beginning or take them out of (ab)normal school?
Yes!! Homeschool really brings up so many issues with parenting and relationships and things that need focused attention. Often those things need to be addressed before the schoolwork part will fall into place! Homeschool holds up a mirror to put family dynamics, and not always in a good way!!
Oh my how time flies by! I can’t believe he is already 1!❤
One of my biggest pet-peaves since teenage years is to say Thank you, and get - sure, no problem, you bet.
From a young age our boys learned, You're welcome, You are welcome, or a sincere You are very welcome.
Jeremiah 6:16
“Thus says the LORD:
“Stand by the roads, and look,
and ask for the ancient paths,
where the good way is; and walk in it, and find rest for your souls…”
Love this. Kids naturally want to help and we naturally want to push them out the way to get the job done quickly but my almost 2 year old is already taking initiative on little jobs because I've been mindful of not pushing him out and its so adorable seeing kids "work"
My daughter likes to help me too. And we do things together. My mother never let me help and by the time i was an adult, i didn't know to do anything. I would never do that to my daughter. The sad thing is my mother sees this like i am kinda abusing my child because she helps me. It's absurd.
your kids are sooo luck to have such wonderful parents. much love to you
My Dad taught me some very valuable lessons that you guys mentioned. Mean what you say and say what you mean. Be the example. Admit when you're wrong. If you learned from your mistake then it was a mistake well made. (when he was dying and my son was only 6 y/o) "he might hate you when he's a teenager, love him anyway".
All gold Nuggets! But wow! #10 got to my heart
THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR PARENTING PLAN. 👍 YES. ITS BASICLY HOW I RAISED MINE. IT DOES START WITH RESPECT.
Modeling behavior is so important. In our home I have worked to teach my kids there are 4 steps to reconciliation. 1) Name you sin, 2) ask forgiveness from the person we sinned against, 3) wait for forgiveness to be granted (we are called to forgive as believers), 4) apologize and make a statement of what you plan to change. I enjoy your channel and follow it regularly. Keep the faith and continue to shine the Light.
"If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous, so that He will forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness." 1Jn 1:9
I love this
This was super good! I agree wholeheartedly. I’m retired from the army where I worked with brand new, young soldiers every single day and that has influenced my parenting (our children are still very young), but I have said many times “I’m not raising children. I’m raising adults.” Childishness is not my desired end state, maturity is (1 Cor 13???).
The young adults I worked with who didn’t grow up with thoughtful, intentional parenting really floundered and struggled. Transparently, they took more resources from the organization than they contributed because then the army was trying to re-parent the young adult in much the same ineffective, hand-holding manner. But most importantly, these young folks never overcame their struggles. We don’t stop to think: What do I want for them as adults???
The books we could write…
I really appreciated your comment about morning quiet time and how I can model that for my littles. I prefer and need the quiet and solitude for prayer and focus but I’m challenged to think how I can model/foster that at 3 and 1 yo.
Wow this is so good. I too always say I'm not raising children, I'm raising adults!! That is very interesting about the adults you work with, and honestly makes me afraid to see what is going to happen when the current generation is adult age
Hello neighbors!! Big hello from northwestern Montana. Love your channel and everything you all do!! ☺️
This is so great. We do all of these same things even though our three are still young. The one thing we do different is quiet time. We do ours after lunch. By then we are all tired from a long morning of homeschooling, homesteading and playing so we take an hour or so for leisure. This is the only time a day the kids get tv or play a video game (learning ones) and I grab a coffee and put on an audiobook or the pantry chat and sit outside or catch up on things I have to get done. It’s so nice and we all look forward to that afternoon rest. It breaks the day nicely and we are all ready to tackle whatever in the afternoon.
You two have a beautiful family. There so cute.
I really liked this one. I'll admit, I was worried this was going to be totally Christian focused, but it hasn't. This is totally applicable to all parents of all walks of life, and was delivered beautifully!
Worried about that? wow.
That's degenerate, the west was enriched by Christian values.
Love watching you two. 🌷
This chat was such a blessing. It was wonderful to see that you are teaching and training your kids to love and know the Lord. ❤
Oh my gosh!!!!
you just said it !-you got to the part where you said you see kids on a device… last summer my daughter and I were at a nursery and a young mom came in with her child who was sitting on the flatbed that she was pulling along and this child didn’t have to sit on a flatbed. The boy was probably 5 or 6?-( I’m guessing)- and he had an iPad right in front of his face - holding it like 3” to his face.
all around him or beautiful, smells flowers and blooms- herbs vegetables, and she was looking at herbs, and there was absolutely no communication at all, Neither one of them spoke to the other.
my heart was breaking !
when we got to my van, I said to my youngest daughter, who is now 25 and she loves gardening as much as I do ((because she was my little gardener when she was that boy’s age ))-and I said my heart is bleeding for a mother, who might not even have much time to spend time during the week with her son -and now he’s staring at a screen, and there is a teaching moment here where she can tell him about the kinds of herbs that they can smell together …& they can make choices???-Maybe he can make his own little plot??
it just made me sick totally made me sick to my stomach .😢
What a missed blesssing. Both doing their own thing and he’s not even out of the house yet.😢😢😢
Beautiful words of wisdom from you both… I am a grandmother of six beautiful granddaughters and appreciate your parenting input ❤️
I ordered my freeze dryer yesterday! I can't wait for your book. I hope you'll bless us with a few videos beforehand.
A very real conversation. Much appreciated. We are on a very similar journey with our 5 homeschooled kids. God is so good❤
Thank you, I really needed some reminders from this talk.
I love #6! So many people have lost respect towards others and family.
Yes, how did that happen? People just have no respect for anything or anyone! Always makes me want to cry.
@@pamharkins4601 As a new Christian myself, I believe it is because as a society, we have forgot about God! Especially his guiding principals people refer to as the 10 commandments & love thy neighbor as yourself!
I love your videos. The topics you cover are always what I need to hear. You are a blessing .Thank you. I am excited for your freeze dryer book. I love your bread book.
This was very well said.
Can we look forward to the official freeze dried water recipe???? 😅
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SO grateful you guys have shared this with us!!
Can’t wait for your freeze drying book. I bought one book off Amazon but am disappointed with it.
Your No. 1 of parenting tip - one of my favorite memories was walking with my Aunt Elsie to go check on the chicks. I was not walking fast enough for her and she put me up on her shoulders and rode me up there! It was so much fun,
I agree with these ideas. God bless!
Being a parent is so rewarding and sanctifying. Thank you for sharing your parenting tips!!
Congratulations on the new book, Caroline, I look forward to seeing it, as I just got my new freeze dryer. Thanks
very impressed, excellent advice!
So excited for your book! We've been freeze drying for a year now. Great to preserve garden produce onto of freezing and canning!
Wonderful!
This is such a good reminder! When my kids were growing up they loved to wrestle and play rough. I thought them when enough was enough to say Stop and stop means stop to all kids involved whether they were by stander or directly involved. Also FEELINGS are very important. I taught them that their feelings were always valid and necessary to understand and work through when there is conflict
❤❤❤ I love your channel! Keep doing what you’re doing!!
Great video!
Thank you
I respect you and your openness. I am not a religious person. I don't believe in anything, never have. I'm 56 years old and my life is wonderfully just as it should be. Through my choices and through life I have found the balance and peace of mind that comes from a lot of the concepts you talk about, but I have learned to apply them to myself:) Discipline to follow through with what you want and need to do to accomplish things. I admire you and how you are raising your family. My Mom is 82, and raised four of us and says she wishes someone had told her she was raising adults, not children...it would have informed her a lot about how to handle situations differently.
Excellent video ❤
“You are in charge of yourself.” This gives preteens and teens the seriousness of weighing their actions, taking full responsibility, not blaming others, instilling in them to make their best choices. It also motivates them to be strong in their decisions and to do what will render the best results not only for themselves, but for others, as well. It also helps preteens fulfill some of their desire to gain some independence, feel reliable, trustworthy, and boost their confidence. They are proud of themselves when they succeed in difficult circumstances and if they don’t do well, periodically, they gain the initiative and experience to do better the next time. My children are all parents now and I hear them speak this small, but mighty reminder to my grandchildren. It’s rather comforting to repeat words of wisdom and advice I heard from my own grandparents and parents. The world may change, but Godly wisdom and teaching, if applied, will continue to bless generation to generation. Thank you for sharing your own interesting and thoughtful parenting list!
Love this! Wish my kids were young still!
I seriously cannot wait for this book on freeze drying. 😊
Based and pantry-pilled
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@@valor101arise it means they are good people
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I think something I’ve done is sitting down with them and explaining to them that grownups can be wrong, when you find you’re wrong or get new information it’s okay and you correct course (it doesn’t have to be a big deal), that parents for the most part are also winging it in the dark and sometimes need help to see through as well. As much as they feel like they don’t know what they’re doing sometimes, parents can too, but if we work together we’ll be just fine. Adults can be wrong and not like being told that just as much as children but if we don’t approach it like the end of the world, it won’t be. I think it’s especially important in todays society where a lot of adults are behaving inappropriately around or with children so that the children understand what is okay and what is not, do not blindly trust.
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 great video
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I can't believe your baby is 1 already!!! Love the clothes pin reminders. Hilarious! I actually need to do that, it's tough to follow up on the kid's chores.
If you've got Joel Salatin to come to you, you've made it big!!! I would LOVE to meet Mr. Salatin - very inspiring man. I actually quit subscribing to Mother Earth News, as soon as he was no longer a contributor/columnist. 😆 I found it was the only article I got excited about. Wish I could meet Wendell Berry too! WE raised our kids old fashioned, too. Don't know if it will be a success yet, cuz we have one straying from the path currently....just lots of prayer. We had one rule: Do what I tell you the first time you are told & we do not HAVE to tell you why in that moment. (We usually would explain why in a calmer moment). It is like Ma Ingalls slapping the "cow" that turned out to be a bear & she told Laura to get into the house immediately. Laura was raised to be so obedient, that she did as she was told & saved them from attack. that was the model we tried to go on.
we almost have to bribe our 2 youngest to help in the gardens and with the animals. our older ones are really busy with their own stuff and one has now moved out. the older ones are responsible young adults so maybe we did ok with them😊. gonna ask the younger ones what they would like to learn this summer that maybe we can teach them and start from there. might get them more interested in other things.
Quiet time/reading in the morning? Oh my gosh, that would just lead me to falling back to sleep. (I have always had SUCH a hard time getting up. I'm almost always still tired.)
I always thought Training is Discipline while Punishment is a consequence. ♥
I don't have a freeze dryer, but if this book is as good as Caroline's dairy/cheese course, I highly recommend it!
We had two rules when we were little:
Rule number one: Be kind!
Rule number two: Use things the way they are meant to be used!
The second one was necessary, because my brother and I were sometimes a bit too creative for our own good. Obviously, the older and more responsible we got, the more freedom we were given to explore creative ideas, but for a toddler, a rule like that really helps to tell the difference between the kitchen and a playground 😅
My husband tells lots of stories about unsupervised play, enacting ideas from Mr. Wizard on tv...maybe I am dating myself there...but any who...one time they burned a hole in the kitchen linoleum with a magnifying glass🤣
Oh my gosh, my 2 year old also naturally grabbed his little dump truck to carry fire wood! Little kids love having little jobs. It's so important to nurture that.
I started learning to cook at the age of 4! I learned how to make toast and also to cook bacon and eggs
This is a very nice way to grow up.
The podcast on Spotify has a hiccup and starts over again at 21:12 minutes in or #4. Hope that is helpful. Came here to listen to the rest of the podcast. ❤
How exciting for your book. Can’t wait to get my hands on one. Just curious… Will it be printed in the US? I’ve been disappointed that most of the books I’ve been buying are printed in China.. 👎🏼👎🏼.. I mean can we not even print our own books? We so need to bring industry back to our shores. 💪🏼 Thank you for your awesome channel. 🥰
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Is there a pre-order for yalls freeze dry book?
Thx, blessings, julie
We will let you know as soon as we have the pre-order available 😊
I bring my kids in all my daily task. They garden with me clean with me and bake with me. They want to help me with all of it very excited to help mommy do the chores.
It's been said that practice makes perfect. But my kiddos would do something wrong where I had to correct them. I would say don't practice something wrong. Meaning learn from your mistakes and do what is right.
& we have a whole generation of people that are afraid to 'try' anything because they are afraid of making a mistake. I am mentoring one right now...she is anxious about doing anything, because in her words, "I am afraid it will be a total failure". I had to define Failure vs. Expectation for her. Most of what we are doing in life is an experiment & when you look at it like that, it is almost impossible to fail. All you are doing is testing some thing out, recording your experience & tweaking it for the next time! I had always been taught "perfect practice, makes perfect". But who can live up to perfection??? But you are 100% right if you do a task incorrectly enough times, it will build a pathway in your brain to do it incorrectly forever, until you retrain.
I need a kitchen towel recommendation. I got a pack of cotton ones and it seems that they just degraded and evaporated in my washing.
I want a freeze dryer so bad!
Pray.... ive received things thru prayer often thru my life. He hears you
And He loves you ❤
You are not alone, I would be thrilled to have one as well. Unfortunately it just isn't in our budget. Senior living is somewhat difficult with inflation so high 😕
Me too
Me too, if it weren't so expensive and if electricity weren't so expensive. Those are two big hurdles that I don't think are going to change any time soon, sadly.
Say what you mean and mean what you say, But Don't Say It Mean ! 💕
Make sure the wood is dry and not wet or green
8 cord in northwestern Pennsylvania
For winnter
I tried listening on google podcast app and it only plays about 15 minutes, and then restarts and does the first part again. Just a heads up:) I will listen here instead!
Spring has hit South Carolina, the wife and kids have been sneezing and down due to all the pollen the pine trees are dropping constantly! Everything is green and the gardens are looking great. Only issue, fire ants!!!!
My generational family would LOSE the contest of forgiving the fastest. We have a 'feud' that has been going steady since 1851, when two Irish brothers moved into the adjacent properties (one of which I live in now). The family has been like the Hatfields & Mccoys - 2 sides never talking or squabbling over things until property lines have been forcibly moved, people have been run off their properties or left out of inheritances, stealing, lying, harassment, etc...You know what they say about 'The Fightin' Irish'...no one holds a grudge like 'em. Luckily, my husband & I have ended the grudge & reach out to all the family & our kids' generation have hopefully avoided the 'curse' of our family. Don't ever squabble about property. Such a useless waste of a life!
In my decades of observing the changing values of raising children, versus having children, I've noticed one big change that seems to be overlooked, nowadays.
Number 1, is by parents that already do this, and take for granted that they do and assume everyone else does, to some degree or another, because... well, why wouldn't you?. Number 2, by overly positive parents, that insist every little thing their child does is perfect and should be praised and coddled to the point where that child grows up thinking they never do anything wrong, ever. Where "good job, buddy", and "but that's ok", ring through their head for everything they do,, even when doing wrong. And, Number 3 parents, who basically gave birth, and are leaving that child to raise themselves, and ignore everything.
And that's *correction*. Which goes hand in hand with most of the others on your list.
From what I've observed about you two over the years is that perfect balance of teaching by example, teaching by the book (whether literally or figuratively), and correction without fuss or judgment.
Unfortunately, one can see the downfall of American children today, because there are too many #2 and #3 parents out there that are not *teaching* their children, based on their extreme parenting philosophies.
You can hear it daily in the constant abuse of the English language with incorrect grammar, verb tenses, and meanings (so, the constant making-up of words or changing meanings to suit what their peers decide on-line, then in schools). And, with the lack of common sense, and moral or ethical behaviour in basic daily activities. Right from wrong is alien to them.
I literally never hear or see parents correcting their children, anymore. And, most certainly others correcting other people's children. It used to be if a child misspoke, anyone would jump in with the correct way of saying it, the child would repeat it, and voila!... instant education, without fuss or humiliation. It was just normal.
Now, if you correct a child, you'll either get yelled at by a parent (or worse), or the child will have a meltdown because they were told (in their mind) that they're wrong. The emotional stability of these children is lacking because of the extremism of their parents.
If they're corrected as a cute, sweet baby and continued to be corrected throughout childhood it won't be such a shock to their system when they interact with others who show them that they're wrong. It won't be "you're wrong!", but more like "you were mistaken, and here's the right way" in their minds. "No" won't be an admonition as much as an oops!
I can't tell you how many channels I follow on here where people I loved to watch turn me completely off their subject matter (and eventually unsubscribe) when after many times of never correcting a child, and actually praising them for doing or saying something incorrectly, or not telling them no, just changes my whole perspective of their channel. I'm not trying to be controlling, but I've witnessed too many screwed up kids because of this lack in one's child-rearing skills.
It's never too early to correct bad grammar. "I is" isn't cute anymore when they're older. Correct it in a 2 year old and they'll never do it again. Correct it in an 8 year old, and it's meltdown city! Never correct it, and you've just raised an ignorant adult that will fit in fine with all the others like them, but really won't make it in any higher endeavours without being looked down on by many. Who needs that kind of additional stress?
"There is ..." and "less than..." seem to be the latest lazy phrases being overly misused lately. Doesn't matter how many there are, they'll still say them. And, it's become so over-used people don't even notice it, anymore. Better educated people still do, though, and that child/adult *will* be judged, and treated accordingly once out in the working world.
There's nothing worse than hearing this bad language by newscasters, doctors and lawyers on TV. First thing one thinks of is... how did their parents let them get out of their home still talking like an uncorrected 5 year old, and how did the education system let them graduate, let alone matriculate!?
It's embarrassing when you hear people in other countries criticizing us for this, as well. Whether it be language, manners, ethics, morals, etc. it really is never too early to start teaching... and correcting. It's also never too late to learn, and correct oneself, once the realization hits. Self-awareness and self-improvement seem to be the least taught/used behaviours in today's society. Just selfishness and narcissism!
It's so refreshing to see parents like you that actually think, and take responsibility in creating, the next generation of thoughtful and purposeful people to join the masses of misfits being unleashed on society today. I just need to come watch you to feel like there really is hope for a better tomorrow, and hope and pray you can make a difference in others that watch you, too.
Because, sadly, there are days where I just feel like the world has gone mad, and the children are being brainwashed into social deviants, that have no problem with anything abnormal being normal, including disrespecting their elders, or even just beating up or killing older people because "they're a drain on society and a waste of oxygen" (yes, I've heard variations of this too many times to count in the last 20 years or so). I never thought when I was twenty, that I'd be afraid of anyone as an older adult, let alone children. It was just not heard of outside of certain areas. Now, it seems to be the norm. Pretty scary!
Even the simplest basic education and correction can turn our society back around, if it isn't already too late.
Sorry for the novel... I was on a roll...lol. 😊
This was a fascinating read! Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts in such detail.
I have not been blessed with children so I'm not sure why I'm watching but maybe someday yes
Why not adopt? There is so many children of all walks of life that's missing out on a normal life.
Maybe this was God leading you? Who knows unless you try, I know people who was in those foster homes and other institutions that say they was abused by some staff & tossed around so much. They got adopted around age 11&13 and their life has changed dramatically!
They was adopted by city people that was hard workers & church people & eventually they decided the country would be best place to raise them. So; they bought 10 acres of land with a small 3 bedroom house on the property & started out small by buying few chickens & roosters and a horse etc .But' those kids are adults now & have children of there own & they are very good people with a very happy life. They said the people that adopted them saved their lives & made them very happy & they live them dearly!
I hope this opens your heart and leads you to either adopt or maybe think about having one of your own. I myself was blessed to have 6 and 14 grandchildren ❤️ may God Bless you
@@JESUSCOMING26Adopting is not always an option for everyone. Adoption is very expensive up front, and comes with a lot of conditions and requirements to even be approved for adoption. My husband and I for example can't afford adoption currently, and we would have to save up for a long time, if we really chose to make it a priority. So, adoption is not a "quick fix" for people who don't have children. And we shouldn't view it that way.
@@erikabutterfly i didn't say it was cheap nor a quick fix. and I said its a choice, a decision and I said maybe he would one day try to have his own and I actually thought I was being rather nice. And there's another couple I know that is middle class people and don't have a lot of money and they adopted 4 children here in Kentucky. They didn't own their own home and one worked part time at a fast food restaurant and one delivered pizza and they was in their late 30's. They did not need thousands of dollars. So..I don't know about California or other cities but Kentucky doesn't charge thousands
@@JESUSCOMING26 You have a great day too! I'm sorry you took my comment that way. Please be assured that I did not assume any negative connotation from your comment. It just seemed a little bit one-sided, so I added my perspective, in what I hoped would be understood to be a friendly manner. This is where the lack of tone of voice and facial expressions can lead to misunderstandings in written text. (And I'll admit that I often forget to add emojis to reassure people I don't mean to sound passive-aggressive 😅)
@@erikabutterfly im not upset at all. Just remember Gods works in ways people sometimes do not understand and praying without ceasing works. And I was totally honest with what i said. Those people that adopted 4 children in Kentucky was no way near well to do. They still aren't. They do not own their home, nor have high paying jobs. Here in Kentucky they only require you to at least have stable income and a big enough place depending on how many children you wish to adopt and they require you visiting the children and building trust before they allow them to be adopted.
its easy to look up the requirements to adopt in Kentucky. Anyways I truly wish you well and pray for you all. May God bless you❤️✝️
I think almost all of the principles u mentioned can be summed up by my guiding principal when my 22 yo twins were growing up...treat ur kids like "adults in training". Teaching them to do chores builds work ethic, allowing them to make age appropriate decisions teaches decision making skills (ie. At 2 yo let them pick from 2 shirts to wear, at 3 yo pick from 3 shirts), treat others like u want to be treated teaches kindness, etc. Like yall, my kids didn't have electronic devices until mid-teens, that taught them social skills. The list goes on, but most things can fall under the heading of treating them like adults in training.
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The podcast version of this episode does not play all the way.
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God made the parent/child relationship for a lifetime. The child teaches the parents wisdom and patience 😂 that can be returned to the "child" when he/she grows into the role of new parent. Each generation "feeds and leads" the previous one