Can Girls Ask Guys Out?
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- Опубліковано 24 сер 2020
- There is no Scripture verse or Catechism reference that answers the question, “Can girls ask guys out?” because it’s a morally neutral issue that may vary from culture to culture or era to era. But Jackie and Bobby give it a shot!
Traditionally the man initiates relationships with the opposite sex because he’d rather assume the risk than have the woman do so, but it’s just not that simple anymore. Especially in our culture, courting has gotten strange. There’s a lot of ambiguity and as a result many young adult men are aloof. Sometimes guys just don’t know what’s OK anymore when it comes to pursuing a lady, so in those cases a guy may appreciate the girl initiating.
Especially when meeting in a young adult setting, you may never see that person again, so there’s no problem giving your number to him or asking for his.
There are limits to this kind of initiation, though. If the lady does clearly initiate the relationship and then the guy does not pursue, he is not husband material.
So, ladies, there is no harm in asking a guy out if you’re looking for clarity and closure. (The same goes for men, by the way.)
One last piece of advice on this matter: Ladies, if you do ask a guy out, make it clear that it’s a date.
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As a very anxious guy, my mind will come up with every reason why a girl is just being nice and isn't interested in me. A blunt "I want you to ask me out" is a huge stress relief and not at all rude. It's very much appreciated
Oh, I know this anxiety, that's tough! Now, after years, I just assume they are never interested and I got no reason to believe otherwise. At this moment it would have to be woman's initiative to break that wall...
I also appreciate a woman who doesn't play that game. Then again those women scare me.
@Dabi Blueflame I doubt it! Only a priest really knows
@@angrypotato_fz
Sweet AngryPotato, I'm sorry that's been your experience. I have hope for your romantic life.
If you think we might want you to ask, we probably do. Please don't make this a social norm. I'll probably end up single forever if you do. If literally die if I asked a guy out and he said no... I commend you guys that still ask women out on traditional dates. You're kings!
I think there is truth to a man being aloof. I been in situations where I thought a women did not like me and found out later that she was interested. And other situations where I thought a women was in interested in me and she was not. And everything in between. So I've come to the conclusion that If there is a woman I'm interested in I just pursue no matter what impression I have. And of course in a respectful manner.
I've had similar experiences and I've had a woman come on to me blatenly. To be honest I think I was just as scarred being come on to by a woman as coming on to a woman....idk maybe I'm just a big shy wuss in that dept, which I don't understand. Women scare me, but other dangerous things don't. Ces la vie
@@scottyj6226 pray on this and ask for deliverance. Some things are spiritual
@@betmikael28 Yeah, if not all things.
I went over and asked a man if he wanted to dance, and a year later we married. We had 3 children, and stayed married until he passed away.
Now this is what I would love
Wow May God bless you and God willingly you can both see each other in eternal paradise confess with your mouth that Jesus is lord and believe that he has been raised from the dead and he is our lord and savior and you will be saved
did you also ask him out first, ask for his number first?
@@initiatorhater0688 No, all I did was ask for the dance. After that, he asked me out.:)
@@dmbmeister0 oh i see, just asking because, me personally, its the only thing i hate about being born male, that guys are expected to make the first move and talk to women first, be the initiator in starting a relationship
I just did this to a guy whom I'm interested with. We txted for a year until I couldn't bear it anymore so I told him that I like him and wants to us to move forward, but the feeling isn't mutual. So, I moved on. My confession of interest for him gave me clarity and peace. Indeed, honesty is liberating.
Well, like our Lord said, "the Truth will set you free." :)
@@st.michaelthearchangel7774 amen to that.
@ F C D. R - The REAL question is, what did HE do to raise your interest that way?
Mad props to you for being direct instead of relying on hints.
She asked me out and now we are married. 22 years...
Wow 👏
@ J N - Why Wow ? She showed real, solid, "no games" interest, and he appreciated it.
Girls don't tell a man 'it's cold', tell him 'I'm cold' than he knows there's something you need and want him to provide for you and if he likes you then he will. Cause otherwise he'll just sit there trying to figure out how glue works
😂😂😂
Yes, so true!
😂 ok good to know
Haha! Isn't that right
Dude glue is so cool, like is it a mechanical bond like with velcro? Or is it a chemical bond like a weld? Then there's uv activated stuff and binary adhesives and water soluble or waterproof stuff and flexible vs rigid! Oh man now you got me started......
Lol
@@scottyj6226 a girl said "it's cold" instead of "I'm cold" ?
As guys we can be quite clueless at times. Girls, if you like a guy let him know! He might like you back too but has no idea you're in to him
@** What?
My wife messaged me first over CatholicMatch. We've been married for 10 months now and I wouldn't want to imagine my life without her!
If anyone wants to ask me out on a date, I highly encourage it
Let's go out
Lol
😂😂😂😂
So what time should I pick you up?
Man, I'm still waiting for a response
@@melissarodriguez8306 ignoring wholesome lads like us should be a sin
Absolutely yes!
Because i've done it, and just like what Jackie said, we just want clarity, and that's true. After we know the truth, it would be easy for us(girls) to move on. And, to my surprised i move on very quickly, and we're still friends!
So girls, you gotta be brave, it's hurt if you got rejected but trust me it worth it than keeping ur feeling for too long which will cause more damage if it's not mutual at the end.
All the best! God bless!
It's better for the man to ask the woman out imo but it's not a huge deal for a girl to ask the guy out first. Especially since so many guys are afraid they'll come across as creepy if they ask a girl out and/or can't tell the difference between a girl showing interest and just being nice.
*skin crawling*
@@Daguenet y
"can I have your consent to pursue you? Is that okay?" 😂😂
I asked my husband out, couldn't date at first because we were in different parts of the world. A couple years later started dating because we were a couple hours away from each other and now been married almost 7 years.
Wow!! This is a great video🙏🏼 Thank you for the insight.
Jackie's "you're beautiful" meant so much coming from her ❤️ such a gorgeous woman. Thank you both for the advice!
I have asked guys out and that’s mostly because they took too long asking me out. Yes!!! It’s very stressful but do it, because if you don’t ask them out it’s the same as a no anyway. Life if short and if they say no it’s their loss. I have been rejected and yet I’m still alive.
Facts girls should do this more often they only have a 3 % chance of getting rejected while guys have 97% chance of getting rejected, if a guy is muscular it lowers down to just 75% or being rejected. In my case I can't even talk to women and I just go full mute especially if they are attractive so my chances of me being rejected if I were to try to ask someone out it would be a chance 99.8% of being rejected (I'm ugly too). I'm a guy by the way so yeah.
@@tincanthemantheman2174k
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Even if the guy isn’t interested in you, asking is super flattering to a guy and if he isn’t a bad person he will let you down gently
Best piece of advice from this and many other videos is never settle!
Jackie you are my girl!!! 😂😂😂
its probably the only thing i've always hated about being born a guy, born male, that guys, men, are expected to make the first move, be the initiator in starting a relationship, due to how one-sided it is
I told my husband I was interested in him by suggesting he ask me out. We’ve been married 5 years. Sometimes you have to be a little forward.
Now, If you have any advice on being a good Catholic working mother, I’d appreciate that :)
Debbie Gum no there are not! I just want a survival guide
Victoria McMyne I would say pray every morning before you leave take the Bible out for 15 minutes Read. And try to see how God wants you to go about your work life and your children are always make time for them so they will not be confused and they will learn from you also if there are options of doing workBut incorporating your children in the process that might be good I’m sure you can find some Catholic books on this issue or look up maybe father Mike Schmitz and also EWTN might have some shows the talk about this issue
It's unfortunate that women won't be point blank with a guy like that for the most part
You're working? I'd never work if I was married, I'd rather raise the children.
@@catholicfemininity2126you are a freeloader of the man! >:(
Just what I needed to hear today. Thank you guys so much!
Well this just gave me a new perspective.
I guess it all comes down to being clear and honest. Yes, it might be scary. Yes, it might be embarrassing. But anything is better than wondering or losing opportunities! Be brave!
You are funny get away from norm I won't ever ask a moody woman
@@AnthonyHeadway wdym
By far, my favorite part of the video is Jackie mimicking an emoji!
Hey Sisters, our beloved best friends who are on the autism spectrum (diagnosed or not) can be paralyzed with fear to even broach the subjects related to dating, much less to suggest them personally or to get physically closer as an opener to growing the relationship. But, O, how wonderful it can be to gently take care of that part yourself and get to love and be loved by your best friend~The guy who is your best friend, became your best friend for so many reasons. ❤️❤️ Treasures hide so well when they are in plain sight. Peace
Hi jackie and bobby. Really appreciate your videos for helping clueless young people navigate dating!:)
I have a question which I havent been able to find a coherent answer to and was wondering if you guys could help with that. The question is that why must it be men who does the pursuing instead of the ladies when it comes to relationships? I know that I believe that to be the case but I cannot find a good way to explain why.
Or maybe it could be a wrong idea to believe? I'm not very sure. It would be great to see a video explaining this someday! Keep up the great work!🙆♂️
Made me smile when you said I’m a queen🥰💓
Oh my goodness! Please come to Benedictine College and talk to us! You all are such a blessing 💛
"He should ask you out..."
"He should read your signs..."
"You should not reply within three days..."
"He should convince you, not the other way around..."
Yeah, follow this advice in your professional live and you will be without a job for the rest of your days... X-D
Great video by the way! :)
@Anonymous Individual Only if you wear them with pride and you want to be "better" than everybody else...
love this!
Definitely asked my husband what was going on when we met? " hey ummm, I think you like me. I like you. Do you want to go out on a date?" Now we're married. Apparently had a plan to ask me out (some time in some universe somewhere) I think if you need some clarity, get it. God is in charge and it will work out or not.
did you also approach or talk to him first?
I think this is cute and inspiring at the same time...so theres nothing wrong in asking a guy out 😊 and its getting to know him something like that...u have to know if u r compatible wth each other. 😊
I'm 33. Some days I feel like I know what I'm doing and most days I feel 14 again and not knowing how to talk to girls. But I am beyond convinced that my calling is to become a husband and especially a father. I'm only getting married once so she is definitely worth waiting for... hopefully not for too much longer lol. Stay blessed, peeps.
Yes, they can. Nothing is stopping them.
There's a such thing as shy guy's, "They're not interested if they don't ask."
Some guys just don't speak up because they're afraid or don't know how to ask properly.
@Dabi Blueflame yes
@Dabi Blueflame I don't think any hairstyle is sinful, guys can have long hair and girls can have short hair, anyone can dye their hair or style it anyway they want.
@@imkrakenup7366 uh no is specifically says in the bible men shouldn't grow their hair too long and women should have long hair to cover their heads and honor God and the dye is pure cringe, get out of here with this post modernist bs.
@@Spartacusbc-ki8tg @Spartacus 1000bc @Spartacus 1000bc I'm surprised you said "BS" on a holy video.
Anyways.
No, it is not a sin, I once had long hair and both my priest still loved me, I'm a Catholic by the way, which is the highest faith ever, so I should know better of what's right or wrong.
Hair dye is completely okay too.
And women only need to cover up their hair when going to mass/Church.
I once had friends who hated guy's with long hair, so they didn't like me, but hey, my priest said it was okay to have it, and plus, nowhere in the bible does it say that it's wrong.
Please do your research before arguing, and back up your own opinions with proof of were it says that.
Didn't Jesus have long hair?
God bless you and take care.
@@imkrakenup7366
Men in the bible cursed and even John the Baptist did when faced with heretics whom he called brood vipers.
It is a sin young one, either your priest didn't want to hurt your feelings or he is a false teacher like Fr James Martin and is going back on Catholic teaching, it literally says 1 Corinthians 11:14-15
Does not nature itself teach you that if a man wears long hair it is a disgrace for him, but if a woman has long hair, it is her glory? For her hair is given to her for a covering.
Why would a woman cut her hair that is given to her by God or dye which is her natural hair color? Such acts are a direct rebellion to the nature God created man and women in and surely do not make righteous person
Love this!! 🤍❤️🙏🏼
I think why the bible doesn't say whether it's right or wrong for a woman to ask a man out is because marriage is largely our choice. We don't choose our family or relatives or placeof birth, God chooses that for us. But in marriage he gives us the freedom and power to choose ourselves. The only clause is that the person has to choose us as well. However, God's word and prayers provide the guidance as we choose.
Sometimes he chooses a different path, one where you may never find love and yet will enhance your understanding.
Blessings from 🇦🇪( UAE)
Blessings . 🌷🌷🌷
As a man I have always struggled with keeping friendship after rejection and for ladies I think this should be worse beacuse it comes to that hanging out together while knowing one rejected the other and also knowing there were feelings involved from the rejecting person it is hard to keep the attraction at bay while maintaining a friendship also there are those who like to play, when they reject you and see you found someone else then they become closer again like, I stopped playing that game... maybe I have looked in the wrong place
Naaaawwwwww you guys are the cutest!! 🐶🐶🐶
Love that Blessed Mother image with Baby Jesus in the background. :) Which image of our Lady is it?
Been meaning to ask a coworker of mine for ages but because of WFH, we haven't really been talking that much so I don't know how to approach this. But this was a sign that I needed. 😂
Go get him dear
how did it go ?
Yes.. only if you'll never see him again
No..if he's your friend. Hes not into you. You'll end up losing the friendship for nothing
@@Amanda-xd8ic right, every circumstance will differ. But still, if a guy is already a lady's friend and knows her well but never asked her out, he is most likely not into her and will not reciprocate her feelings. Cos if he liked her that way, he would have asked already. So rephrasing, she 'may' lose the friendship.
What happened in your case? Did y'all date?
@@phdstudio102 No. But he wasn't awkward about it. I just wanted to clarify for anyone else who was wondering about this.
@@Amanda-xd8ic oh ok, cool. 👍
I know this is 2yrs old but... what if he's a coworker that you've only known for a few weeks? Not really friends, but not strangers you'll never see again.
I didn’t like it when a girl let me know she was interested. I felt the fun was taken out of things. But I also didn’t understand any signals from girls who were interested. So I felt lonely 😞 to. But thankfully I met my wife and I kind of let her know by asking if she wanted to get ice cream after class or work. And just being myself around her and seeing how she would react lol. But she was a joy to be with and so it didn’t take long to let her know how I felt. I was terrified of rejection but I appreciate that she waited for me to say anything. Just felt like sharing. Like y’all said , “there’s a lot of variables”.
takes the fun out of what? Your ego? get over yourself.
Interesting... my now fiancé LOVED that I initiated, it gave him the biggest green light to pursue. Now he’s moving out of his country to come to mine! 😂
S O Well thankfully there wasn’t condemnation but I was also just wanting the conviction to tell a girl how I felt because I meant it. If I was older and later in life I probably wouldn’t have cared as much. But it made me think “do I really like this girl or do I like the thought of her”? But despite our imperfections we find love. That’s the real mystery to meditate on.
@@VintageCardinal thank u
Can you guys please elaborate on what do you mean by guys being aloof? So Bobby you seriously did not notice Jackie? It's kind of hard to believe
Please do a video on Papal Infallibility and if it is a sin to disagree with the Pope because Pope Francis is stressing me out
Jacky, Bobby please if you guys are not comfortable talking about it with the state of things right now, can you please please please have Fr Mike or the Franciscan Friers do a video please please
Oh I feel with you, I know he is a head of church of which I am part of, but I do not like him, And the way he acts... He doesn't seem to me honest with what he does and says...
I’ve had bad luck asking guys out , I don’t do it anymore I hate rejection.....
Nice video!
I think the women should ask men out more it should be regarded as an honor to be asked out after all we do the return the favor called proposal for marriage
Unlike usual societal norms 'Girls asking Guys out is just fine'
Like in the words of Yogi Berra (popular Baseball catcher) "You cannot always follow the crowd. No one goes there nowadays, it’s too crowded.."
@** perhaps; it reflects one's inclination towards money mindedness or making money and worse practicing influence of money.
I talked with a guy this morning at a juice bar that I really liked. I wanted to get his contact, but I have these really strong rules in my mind that the man has to ask for contact from some silly books I've read. It's like a hard and fast rule that I need to break sometimes I think. But it's also an ego protection. I just want to make sure that the man really likes me and pursues me. It's been really hard for me to make the judgment call.
I just pray that the holy Spirit guides me.
Most women i dated asked me out first and then when I tryed asking them i got rejected so I don't chase women even if she shows me signs that she's into me now im more concerned about money and being independent and the only time I rejected a woman asking me out was because she was a single mom and i aint into single moms no thanks
That tells you, you need to man up and start asking women out. Waiting around to be asked out by women means you are never going out with people you are attracted to. Also, you need to work on your confidence.
4:21 If you can't date without making it about finding a spouse, you're not ready for dating
What do you mean?
@@theresakish7560 date to find a spouse and don't date just to say you're dating
That is the whole point of dating
Can you make English subtitles in the next video?
What if I'm just too much a dang loser. I've never even had experience with girlfriend. Im so lost
Short and direct answer is at 5:17
I think a lot of the social issues between men and women would be lessened if there wasn’t so much pressure for men to take the lead and ask women out. There needs to be balance. It’s super stressful putting yourself out there and if any one gender has to bear that burden alone they’re going to become bitter, like many men have become.
First, I am a widow. I meet a guy at the park. May be two three days a week go for run. It has been four to five months I see him. At first I see him, I like him. Later on, I start to say hello to him. Now, we say good morning to each other but never had conversation besides say good morning. And A week ago, I run passed him and say “I am missing you” Is okey, if I ask him “ Can you be my Boyfriend “ just want to see how he interested. I like him. So. If he doesn’t like me I will stop push him. Thank for
thanks guys
Im surprised about the question! I never ever think girls can’t ask guys out @@ Where is this kinda question coming from?!? Why was this question ever even a question! Sounds like very American culture question...
They are in America! 😊🥰 you are right! 🇺🇸👍🇺🇸👍🙏🙏🙏
Ok seriously this isn't hard. If she wants, go for it. Why was this ever even a question at any point since 2010?
Exactly
@We get signal _ Totally agree. It's more a cultural than religious thing. In some cultures this wouldn't be a question.
Because I thought a guy is not ready for a serious relationship if he doesnt initiate anything
@@betmikael28 I guess it depends on why. Perhaps he has severe social anxiety but could be a wonderful person. If he's not initiating just to play games that is a different story.
@@betmikael28 No we're not, we're just awkward and have NPC energy
Not a good idea to ask a guy out on a date or show obvious signs that you are sexually attracted to a guy unless others have done enough homework for you about him first [Sometimes that isn't enough and so do your own homework first next too before accepting the advice to] after his parents have encouraged you to do so already and there is not too much age difference between you. The reason? It is like taking a big risk that the person you are asking or giving away your heart to might be already dating and being intimate with one or more women already or worse yet, married and often 'forgetting' his wedding ring at home and so it is like maybe setting fire to a field if you are in any culture where divorce happens a lot and which is far more often with so many divorces around tolerant of polygamy and even polyamory if it is a man at the center of that polyamory than most people in it are willing to admit.
They can but it doesn't mean that the guy won't turn you down.
It depends upon the guy some guys like myself see a woman asking them out as being to forward which guys like myself see it as being the man's job to ask out a woman. Generally women that are to forward tend to be feminists not saying that they are all like that. It use to be that a man intrested in a woman would ask their father for permission to date and even more traditionally to marry a woman back during the 19th century marriages were still arranged.
The modern day feminist women have taken on a more assertive role if anything it makes them seem masculine like a man.
I suppose if a guy finds it forward enough that he doesn't want to date the woman, the two weren't meant to be. Be yourself, ladies.
I use to think that way too but now it's becoming that no one is asking anyone out. Men are too shy or women don't know whether it's okay or not.
Y assertive how'd she get her point across that she likes u tho.
Looking at the story of Ruth, you see a woman who took the first initiative.
Did she? Thought she was just out there picking up fallen ears of wheat!
@@bettyangwenyi1797 Ruth chapter 3
2:18 What was that noise? I wasn't looking at the screen and just listening. I honestly thought it was a burp!🤣
When I listened I thought I had a reflux
If there aren't two people showing interest a relationship isn't going to get very far.
I think women should do it more often because there’s a man I don’t ask women out they need to ask me out
The hard truth:
"He's just not that into you"
Lay down, let's try not to cry...a lot
@@renatojimenez9653 I cleaned those tears up a long time ago. You can use the mop I used if you'd like
@@gabrielalopez4606 what "mop" would it be??
@@renatojimenez9653 The rosary :)
@@gabrielalopez4606 I really was hoping you would say that! Our lovely Lady!
One of the enduring effects of feminism has been that there is no longer a "safe" social context in which men and women can interact and gauge the other's interest in them. Women and men alike deliberately hide their affections, and men must often ask a woman out - if they even know how to ask - based on nothing more than physical attraction. Which seldom ends well for men. If women as a whole were more approachable, more empathetic, they wouldn't have to ask men on dates.
As a single man I would be absolutely taken aback in a very positive way if a woman was the one who took the effort to ask me out
Ok,I haven't been on a date or such in over 8 years. Now this women at work just asked me if I wanted to go see this one movie sometime? Sure next weekend. I mean I give her rides home from work especially if the weather is bad. I'm actually pretty confused,is this a date or something especially now days? I definitely need help with this lol. Mean apparently I always make her laugh or such.
It's a date.
I am a dude and have a friend and I think I have a lil crush on her since june and I'm wondering if there's actually no harm to our current friendship if I ask her out
Ask her out. And make sure she knows you are interested in that way... Not like the vibe of some random date! 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
Pray over it (like call Jesus, mother Mary) into it and then ask her out quickly. Good luck
soutyz for future reference: ask someone out as soon as you are aware you have a crush on them. following that principle will usually prevent the problem of the friend zone. Just sayin.
@@crenshaw2186 and of torturing yourself wondering if she likes you or not. Learned that the hard way.
@@crenshaw2186 how so? Does it increase my chances of her agreeing to date me?
Please say Yes!!!!?
And at some point you just give up and 61 years old no one’s ever asked me out I waited all my life for nothing
I like watching your videos, Jackie and Bobby! Bobby, to your point about not knowing how to pursue a woman anymore these days--I would say that if men have trouble distinguishing the meaning of her "no" or "I'm not interested" as anything other than exactly what it was--a "no" or"not interested"--that literally IS the problem, encapsulated. If men are feeling "threatened" by the current cultural movement and emphasis on consent--I don't mean to be facetious, but the problem truly lies with them, then, and you can bet your bottom dollar they weren't doing it the right way in the first place. To me, it sounds like some men are flabbergasted that a woman could *possibly* reject them, or not take persistence as "cute," and that leads me to conclude they're coming from a perspective that women "owe" them something, rather than respecting the fact that women are their own autonomous, loving, perfectly intelligent and worthy beings capable of making their own decisions and deciding whether they'd like something or not.
From a woman's perspective, it's pretty simple--respect that we mean what we say, just as you would ask us to respect that you mean what you say. If you/we change our mind later on, that's another conversation--but don't go in assuming that dogged persistence equals just a matter of time before we'll be "won over." Of course, there's no harm in asking someone out--as Pope Francis said, "Love is an invitation, never a demand" (and think about it--Jesus ALWAYS asks our consent before doing anything, even healing...so shouldn't our lives and expressions of love be the same?...anywho, I digress)--but I think it's a bit mocking to make fun of consent in the "do you consent for me to pursue you" type of dialogue y'all were having there. Consent is NOTHING to sneeze at, especially considering the #metoo reckoning our culture is going through, and the continued unearthing of the sexual abuse crisis in our Church (I'm a proud Catholic as well). If anything, we should be dogged in our emphasis on how vital consent is, and that it can be taken away at any time during sexual activity. As a Church and as individual Catholic Christians, we need to shout from the rooftops that no one is EVER required to engage in intimacy with their partner if they don't want to. Consent is a prerequisite, not an option.
Underrated comment (though there are some nuances to consider besides this about women meaning what they say lol) 🙌
There’s no harm in asking a man out but I think the man needs to chase it’s in his nature!! Would have liked to hear 2 sentences from the man here!!
Women need to drop the hints of interest, and men need to understand women's hints and assert themselves if they are interested. If he's busy chasing women, then he's not busy chasing his goals and has made women his gods, which comes off as weak and unattractive (very important bc attraction is not a conscious choice).
It's very normal thing to do and look so good when girl do that. So it's totally ok for me if girl ask me to going on date with her
I think I would like to make the first move. If the woman does that is fine with me.
Guys don't initiiate because we're too afraid to. We have to be. That's the way the culture is now.
And women have unrealistic standards and expectations.
You need to change that culture. MENS JOB IS TO ASK WOMEN OUT.
@@SirenaSpades plz stop
@@AHalevonEric « Unrealistic » is a point of view. Yours (actually).
Some Christians think it is a man's role to pursue a woman and it is emasculating for a woman to pursue a man. The man is the leader in the relationship
As a shy guy for decades, what have you been waiting for?
It’s fine but it’s also important to know that overall men should be leading in the relationship/ marriage.
@We get signal _ That is not true. There is a variety of perspectives among women just as they are among men.
@We get signal _ I think Femininity has been under attack for a lot longer. Women have been told that they only have any value if they act like men. Having said that both men and women need to lower their unrealistic expectations.
We get signal _ You get it.
Why is this even a question
Aslong as it doesnt end up in hook ups.
The woman is really beautiful 😍
Let me put it this way: I-- a man-- currently live in a culture where I have been called "creepy" and borderline sexual harassment for giving the most platonic, artistic, and non-sexual complements I could possibly think of on a woman's appearance. We're talking about things like "You're dress and hair colors complement each other beautifully in that picture". I also live in a culture where one single mistake in the eyes of said culture can ruin your life as they label and hound you forever, deleting internet accounts, getting you fired, and more. Given these circumstances, there's no way I'm going to risk making a move on a woman, or even showing the slightest amount in interest, in any situation other than a dating site where it's clear that they are looking for a relationship. So, yes, ladies, if you are interested, PLEASE make an obvious indication so that I know you're safe and won't fabricate rape charges against me because I thought you were trying to hold my hand and responded in kind when you didn't want it. Young men like me need ALL CLEAR signs to know when it's safe to come out of the bunker.
I draw the line at proposing marriage, though. That's my job if we ever come to that point.
@** I could not say as I am not familiar with that term and have no clue what they look like. I'll have to Google it or something.
@@danielcharland1374 You'll never go out with a woman.
@@SirenaSpades Good, I don't want to if she's anything like you who felt the need to belittle a person on a two-year old comment.
@@danielcharland1374perhaps you need to make spiritual protection of yourself to prevent these issues from happening. I sense there is nothing wrong with you but in this culture, anything is too much. Even being blunt in this time can be too much on the wrong woman. Maybe a rosary can help prevent this from happening to you, and there will be a spiritual purification between you and the woman, and the interaction will be much more pure. But also, if you want to compliment a woman with an intention of dating her, you must make the request clear. Women do like a bold man though, I hope this helps
@@homiesenatep Single, conservation Catholic women anywhere near my age are a rarity around me, so I'm not even attempting dating, but I do have the impulse both to try and brighten someone's day and to share my appreciation of beauty wherever I see it, be it nature, art or people.
I have an active prayer life, daily rosary's and such, and I have yet to see any relation or impact, so at this point I just actively try to avoid/suppress expressing to any woman that I find her attractive in any way. This is because 1. they don't try to use that as a way to unfairly influence/take advantage of me and 2. prevents the instant connection the culture seems to have of "attraction = objectification = sexual harassment).
I'm curious, what makes you say "women do like a bold man"? I've been told "women like" and "women don't like" about many conflicting things for years, as though everyone who said it knew the exact desires of one half of the entire human population. What evidence can you give to back up this statement?
They can and they should.
I agree with most of the videos but certainly this video isn't for European (at least French) people. I know that's far from the US "dating culture". My comment below is not a critics, I'm just writing this if other europeans are reading me because clearly mentioning you are on a date would make flee most of man here, for sure...
Clearly, here, this just breaks the ambiguity...while this is ambiguity which creates the tension and thus makes grow the attraction. If you know the other is already charmed then you won't think as much about her/him, man certainly would not develop as much feeling if they know the woman already find him attractive/great. They won't make effort if the "prey" is already them...So, slow down, show interest to make sure they understand (with smile, eyes, touch, a few compliment) but not too much and let the ambiguity last. The more you will meet, the closer you will become (physically too) and therefore the ambiguity will lessen (at the same time as your feeling strenghten because, hey, intially you actually don't know the person ! Attraction isn't love so slow down). If one of the person wasn't interested, they will be gone and would have stop this so I don't see why we should "say" explicitly things (until we feel ready to the big "I love you"). It just breaks the game and acts are meaningful on their own. Asking/accepting to see a person you hardly know just the 2 of you, is already clear enough...especially if this is during evening time for a drink or a dinner..you probably won't do that if you had no "romantic interest"...
I think woman should, in some countries and cultures woman ask men out
It be nice if a woman just talked to me.
Only when I stopped asking the guys out (me, stupid teenager, at that time) and decided only to be with the one who's into me strongly enough to pursue me, I found the man who's ready to do everything to marry me. Girls, if the guy is "shy", he's just really NOT into you, you deserve the man who'll be ready to conquer the dragon and win your heart.
Yes you can ask a guy out but is he passive? Isn't there science behind this!
If he's passive, he will be single forever.
This has nothing to do with the subject of the video but in the most kind way i to tell you that your Makeup is overtaking your lovely face. I don't have Anything against make-up Just to let you to know'. Peace whit you and your lovely family.
she is usually caked very heavily in make up
The question isn't if girls can ask guys ask. The question is if women can ask men out.
And what do you think the answer would be ?
The chase is more exciting then the outcome.
Woman love the pursuit and the thrill of being chased.
Once a Man confesses his true Intention many woman suddenly lose interest.
As Divorce is 77% initiated by women the stats just dont lie.
And entering a contract with the Government and a woman leaves the man at the mercy of her choice to remain together.
Who asked first initiates and indicates the the NEED of the woman or man to be married.
Hence why Men are expected to ask first.
Its easy to leave if you did not come of that needy in the first place.
Woman understand this.
Men in many circumstances like this end up as a drunk, suicidal
Or leave the plantation completely.
Only firstborn girls ...andvif they r asking the youngest boy of the family
Haha
LoL..hahaha
Mmmmhhh... I think the man should be the MAN! Me: all feminine, cute, sweet, humble but.... Him: Manly, strong, and the ASKER! For me it's a big NO, NO, NO!!
You need to get over your ego. Neanderthal.
Agree. I don't ask men out. It's their job to do the asking.
CAN they? Yes. SHOULD they? No.
Y no
Cough cough Jimmy Kimmel & Nicole Kidman cough cough 😉
It was Jimmy Fallon