Very good points. Based on my spiritual beliefs I give often to those less fortunate in the US. But now that I have learned and experienced all that you mentioned I have shifted my givings to my fiancees family. I have heard other foriegners speak against helping, I believe in part to what you said, its our culture. But I could not fathom the guilt my fiancee would feel if she did not help. Mine, like yours, was supporting her family at 20 yrs of age and still is now 8 yrs later. I feel it would only be right for a person in my position to help if she will leave her job and start a life with me.
Thank you for this video. I am a mid 40's white American male who finds Filipino women irresistible, (all Asian women are beautiful to me!) but have been trying very hard to find one who is already here in the states, because I don't think I have the financial resources to afford the process of bringing a Filipino woman here to the states. So far, finding a lovely young Asian female here in the US has proven even more elusive than finding a white girlfriend! lol ....but anyway, thank you for sharing this insight about the Filipino culture from an American male perspective. I find the fact that Filipino families help each other, and care for each other like they do, quite endearing and touching, actually. I have an even softer heart for them now, and quite frankly, I feel as though we, as Americans have something we could learn from them in this regard!
Try getting involved with the Filipino community in your area. There’s always one around. One caution, avoid one who has no legal immigration status in the US or is legally married in the Philippines. That is a whole other issue you do not want to deal with. Filipino .org are mostly attached to a church group which can be problematic if you are not a Roman Catholic. Most Filipinas in the US are in the healthcare profession. I used to be a member of a church group and there were plenty of single, young, middle age or older Filipina. All professionals and mostly born and raised in the Phils. Good luck!
HEY MAN , YOU MAN , YOU NOT HAVE TO BRING YOUR WIFE TO THE USA AT ALL. IN FACT IT MIGHT BE BETTER FOR YOU NOT TO BRING HER TO THE USA. FOUND A WAY TO MAKE MONEY ONLINE , GO TO BRAZIL , COLOMBIA, COSTA RICA , COLOMBIA , URUGUAY , EUROPE OR ANY PLACE ELSE WITH YOUR WIFE , BUT, EXCEPT THE USA.
The woman I've met that's from the Philippines, she is the eldest and has her degree and works an hour away and she provides for her siblings and her parents. Now with that said, I actually don't mind this because i see the caring person she is, very thoughtful and loving to her family, her being nowhere near lazy, she's smart and I can see the kind of woman she would make to her husband and the kind of mother she would make to her children. Now, her brothers and sisters also work and attend school and she told me she would help them until they finish their schooling till they get the jobs they really want. Also the father works as well. I see her as being educated and responsible the way she is, shows me she isn't a selfish person and not spoiled. I like this, even though she would send back money to them by her coming to the states with me, her strengths in math and her working in a bank shows me too that she would realize how to handle money here and what she would feel to send.
Also I wouldn't mind helping also as it would make me feel good, the only thing i have concerns with is, the back of my mind that it would never be enough. I would hate us being too pressured into sending more and more in the future or if the siblings figure why they should pursue their careers when they have the older sister in the states sending them and plus me. I wouldn't want her to feel guilt into sending even more meanwhile putting us in financial ruins or something. I feel even though on how I explained to her and she knows life in the states is expensive and she understands, still I hope she still wants to set limits. But really, I can't let this bother me too much because by me seeing how amazing she is that her actions show up on how she would be as a wife and a mother, the pictures of her with neighbor's children too. I love the simpleness about the Filipinos, how happy and content she is. It seems the things I own is not as important as much since learning this culture.
Yes. Money matters between husband and wife. I was married to an American guy before who i supported financially since i knew him online until he was able to get out of the US. I sent him money to pay his rent in the US for 3months, paid for his passport and plane tickets coming to Seoul since i work here at a school, married him, sent him to a university, but he cheated on me so i kicked him out. He is now living in Davao with his new Filipina who's been dreaming to go to the US 😊 Poor guy he didn't finish school. He should have done it wisely.
+Kevin Sanders It's okay 😊 I'm glad it happened though without any kids being affected. The marriage lasted for 5 years because tried to keep it but it takes two to tango 😊
you are right. you should talk about how much you can afford and agree on it. some families may not expect it but it is good when you can help out sometimes (but no pressure)
Forget the marriage part. Date several times, and then be on your way. Otherwise, money quickly becomes an issue, and when it does, the spirit of romance is ended.
Thanks for this video. What you tell is not really new, but the way you explain the different mindsets is helpful and gives orientation for a better understanding :-)
as a filipina, it is a must and i obligate myself to help my parents in their old age. you only get one mother and one father until you die. is this reason not enough? i won't be alive today if not because of them so i am more than happy to help them and my siblings if i am capable of but not to the expense of my husband.
Zahra your talking about taking care of your parents is correct but it doesent change the fact why the boyfriend should have to provide for your sisters, brothers and parents. Thats your responsibility. Not our responsibility maybe until marriage? but you talk like the boy should have to give money to your parents. Its not OUR parents so we DONT care ok? take care of your own family
Well me and my husband talk about it. My kids are young adults alrdy they can manage their selves as well. Its not much an issue for both of us. Anyway i enjoy watching ur blog.. Keep it up and God bless
I have been down that path and told my wife just like you said, liveing in the UK is so much more expensive and i could not give too much to her family. I can support her and my daughter just fine so she is also working and she is the one to take care of her family and she has always said that is the way it should be and she would never expect me to support them. In the past we have had uncles and aunties comming from all directions asking for money or loans as they say. i quickly learnt that a loan in the Philippines is not a loan, you will very rarly get your money back. I stood my ground and after a while they stopped asking, i think that is what you must do, once they realise there not getting anywhere they soon give up. one thing i did do with her siblings was show them on paper the cost everyday living in the Uk , things like fuel and food, electric gas etc and converted it into peso and they were shocked .
I know that look of shock. They just can believe our housing costs, for starters. Not to mention traffic tickets, and rabid cops looking to raise revenue.
I didn't know until nearly all the way through the video that you and your wife are living in the US. I think you should have made that clear up front.
Just both agree on a budget and stick to it.sure there will be times when emergencies arise .treat others as you would like to be treated ,but don’t let people take advantage of you.you are not a walking atm machine
Because the Philippines has more of a third-world mentality, the family has to help each other to survive. This is true in other parts of the world as well, such as Latin America. It is more of the idea that whomever can help those in the family, should. So if she has a sudden boost in income, she should want to help anyone in the family, regardless of who it is -- parent, grandparent, sibling and even cousins. It is more of an honorable thing that she is doing. If she marries a Westerner, she will be in a position to help, and it will be understood that she will feel an obligation to do so. It has nothing to do with being a gold-digger, but a sense of appreciation for everything that has been done for her. As long as it is reasonable, then the request should be honored. When you married a lady in one of the countries, you are taken in to the family and accepted as much as everyone else. But that means you are expected to help if someone in your "family" is in need.
Helping people all the time can turn them into dumb and lazy. Stand up, fight and win. This is the only way to succeed. Filipino family’s are the most loving with great intentions but wrong approach when comes to financials.
thank you for this video sir i really appreciated and im happy you understand everything about what is deference between Filipino and other country. some of videos in UA-cam i watch they are making video saying when you are married a Filipino it mean they just make you like a bank. its just sad they are judging people they dont understand who really Filipino are instead they are judging and thinking if they have money Filipino will like them just because of that..😢
Very good points. Based on my spiritual beliefs I give often to those less fortunate in the US. But now that I have learned and experienced all that you mentioned I have shifted my givings to my fiancees family. I have heard other foriegners speak against helping, I believe in part to what you said, its our culture. But I could not fathom the guilt my fiancee would feel if she did not help. Mine, like yours, was supporting her family at 20 yrs of age and still is now 8 yrs later. I feel it would only be right for a person in my position to help if she will leave her job and start a life with me.
Thank you for this video. I am a mid 40's white American male who finds Filipino women irresistible, (all Asian women are beautiful to me!) but have been trying very hard to find one who is already here in the states, because I don't think I have the financial resources to afford the process of bringing a Filipino woman here to the states. So far, finding a lovely young Asian female here in the US has proven even more elusive than finding a white girlfriend! lol ....but anyway, thank you for sharing this insight about the Filipino culture from an American male perspective. I find the fact that Filipino families help each other, and care for each other like they do, quite endearing and touching, actually. I have an even softer heart for them now, and quite frankly, I feel as though we, as Americans have something we could learn from them in this regard!
S. T. You can find the minimum income required by Law on the U.S. Immigration website to bring a foreign bride to the U.S.
Try getting involved with the Filipino community in your area. There’s always one around. One caution, avoid one who has no
legal immigration status in the US or is legally married in the Philippines. That is a whole other issue you do not want to deal with.
Filipino .org are mostly attached to a church group which can be problematic if you are not a Roman Catholic. Most Filipinas in the US are in the healthcare profession. I used to be a member of a church group and there were plenty of single, young, middle age or older Filipina. All professionals and mostly born and raised in the Phils. Good luck!
Not all love money...... Other fact they need a partner in here life......
HEY MAN , YOU MAN , YOU NOT HAVE TO BRING YOUR WIFE TO THE USA AT ALL. IN FACT IT MIGHT BE BETTER FOR YOU NOT TO BRING HER TO THE USA. FOUND A WAY TO MAKE MONEY ONLINE , GO TO BRAZIL , COLOMBIA, COSTA RICA , COLOMBIA , URUGUAY , EUROPE OR ANY PLACE ELSE WITH YOUR WIFE , BUT, EXCEPT THE USA.
The woman I've met that's from the Philippines, she is the eldest and has her degree and works an hour away and she provides for her siblings and her parents. Now with that said, I actually don't mind this because i see the caring person she is, very thoughtful and loving to her family, her being nowhere near lazy, she's smart and I can see the kind of woman she would make to her husband and the kind of mother she would make to her children. Now, her brothers and sisters also work and attend school and she told me she would help them until they finish their schooling till they get the jobs they really want. Also the father works as well. I see her as being educated and responsible the way she is, shows me she isn't a selfish person and not spoiled. I like this, even though she would send back money to them by her coming to the states with me, her strengths in math and her working in a bank shows me too that she would realize how to handle money here and what she would feel to send.
Also I wouldn't mind helping also as it would make me feel good, the only thing i have concerns with is, the back of my mind that it would never be enough. I would hate us being too pressured into sending more and more in the future or if the siblings figure why they should pursue their careers when they have the older sister in the states sending them and plus me. I wouldn't want her to feel guilt into sending even more meanwhile putting us in financial ruins or something. I feel even though on how I explained to her and she knows life in the states is expensive and she understands, still I hope she still wants to set limits. But really, I can't let this bother me too much because by me seeing how amazing she is that her actions show up on how she would be as a wife and a mother, the pictures of her with neighbor's children too. I love the simpleness about the Filipinos, how happy and content she is. It seems the things I own is not as important as much since learning this culture.
Yes. Money matters between husband and wife. I was married to an American guy before who i supported financially since i knew him online until he was able to get out of the US. I sent him money to pay his rent in the US for 3months, paid for his passport and plane tickets coming to Seoul since i work here at a school, married him, sent him to a university, but he cheated on me so i kicked him out. He is now living in Davao with his new Filipina who's been dreaming to go to the US 😊 Poor guy he didn't finish school. He should have done it wisely.
+Kevin Sanders It's okay 😊 I'm glad it happened though without any kids being affected. The marriage lasted for 5 years because tried to keep it but it takes two to tango 😊
Marie, you were taken advantage of and not all American guys are like that. (me for one) Hope you find your true love for life.
Just curious what you saw in this guy up front that overcame the clear signs that he was a loser/user.
Glad you got out early
you are right. you should talk about how much you can afford and agree on it. some families may not expect it but it is good when you can help out sometimes (but no pressure)
Forget the marriage part. Date several times, and then be on your way. Otherwise, money quickly becomes an issue, and when it does, the spirit of romance is ended.
Thank you for explaining these things. I had to learn Kiwi culture. Now I am trying to understand Filipino culture too. 4 kids and 4 countries later.
Thanks for this video. What you tell is not really new, but the way you explain the different mindsets is helpful and gives orientation for a better understanding :-)
as a filipina, it is a must and i obligate myself to help my parents in their old age. you only get one mother and one father until you die. is this reason not enough? i won't be alive today if not because of them so i am more than happy to help them and my siblings if i am capable of but not to the expense of my husband.
Of course..there is a big difference between helping and spoiling. Help according to needs and not "wants".
Zahra your talking about taking care of your parents is correct but it doesent change the fact why the boyfriend should have to provide for your sisters, brothers and parents. Thats your responsibility. Not our responsibility maybe until marriage? but you talk like the boy should have to give money to your parents. Its not OUR parents so we DONT care ok? take care of your own family
Zahra Murtaza Hi Zahra! Have you uploaded any videos lately? Hope you are doing a ok, wherever you may be... I sure miss my family...Thanks!
Wish you are happy really 😃 with your wife . God bless both of you
Well me and my husband talk about it. My kids are young adults alrdy they can manage their selves as well. Its not much an issue for both of us. Anyway i enjoy watching ur blog.. Keep it up and God bless
Thanks great explanation Merry Christmas,
100% true.
I have been down that path and told my wife just like you said, liveing in the UK is so much more expensive and i could not give too much to her family. I can support her and my daughter just fine so she is also working and she is the one to take care of her family and she has always said that is the way it should be and she would never expect me to support them.
In the past we have had uncles and aunties comming from all directions asking for money or loans as they say. i quickly learnt that a loan in the Philippines is not a loan, you will very rarly get your money back.
I stood my ground and after a while they stopped asking, i think that is what you must do, once they realise there not getting anywhere they soon give up.
one thing i did do with her siblings was show them on paper the cost everyday living in the Uk , things like fuel and food, electric gas etc and converted it into peso and they were shocked .
I know that look of shock. They just can believe our housing costs, for starters. Not to mention traffic tickets, and rabid cops looking to raise revenue.
I didn't know until nearly all the way through the video that you and your wife are living in the US. I think you should have made that clear up front.
Just both agree on a budget and stick to it.sure there will be times when emergencies arise .treat others as you would like to be treated ,but don’t let people take advantage of you.you are not a walking atm machine
Because the Philippines has more of a third-world mentality, the family has to help each other to survive. This is true in other parts of the world as well, such as Latin America. It is more of the idea that whomever can help those in the family, should. So if she has a sudden boost in income, she should want to help anyone in the family, regardless of who it is -- parent, grandparent, sibling and even cousins. It is more of an honorable thing that she is doing. If she marries a Westerner, she will be in a position to help, and it will be understood that she will feel an obligation to do so. It has nothing to do with being a gold-digger, but a sense of appreciation for everything that has been done for her. As long as it is reasonable, then the request should be honored. When you married a lady in one of the countries, you are taken in to the family and accepted as much as everyone else. But that means you are expected to help if someone in your "family" is in need.
informative nice article
Helping people all the time can turn them into dumb and lazy. Stand up, fight and win. This is the only way to succeed.
Filipino family’s are the most loving with great intentions but wrong approach when comes to financials.
I said it at the beginning , and I’ll say it again...always, always have a plan B!
kids are like business in the phils. people have them to get a return on investment not out of pure love.
Forget marriage. Date a few times. Then go.
I'm jobless getting £400 a month from benefits to live off, is my only chance getting a job in the Philippines?
@@ThePhilippinesAccordingtoKevin I mean I don't have much money, is it impossible to live in the Philippines and find a pinay with that income?
great video,,,looking for a matured partner,,,,
Good video he bring up what kind of partner you looking for
thank you for this video sir i really appreciated and im happy you understand everything about what is deference between Filipino and other country. some of videos in UA-cam i watch they are making video saying when you are married a Filipino it mean they just make you like a bank. its just sad they are judging people they dont understand who really Filipino are instead they are judging and thinking if they have money Filipino will like them just because of that..😢
money is mater
This video is truely painful to watch due to its poor quality