SOLVED: The Tragic Case of Mengqi Ji
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Maybe he could’ve made the effort to learn his wife’s first language rather than get offended when she talks to her OWN MOTHER!
Right!! Don’t marry a Chinese woman if you get mad at her for… speaking Chinese ?!
absolutely
My thoughts exactly!!
Seriously, that part made me mad from the start. I know it’s a thing in many places, but if you watch shows like 90 Day Fiancé it seems like NONE of them make the effort to learn their foreign partner’s language. That just shows a lack of respect and genuine interest on his part from the very beginning.
@@Elvoalven right!!! Anytime I even have a new FRIEND that speaks another language, I’m asking them how to say certain things! 😂
I am so tired of men who act like they can't do anything around the house without being told! They can't see the dirty floor, the dirty toilet, the messy tables, the dishes piling up, any of it! It makes you wonder how they do their job at work without getting fired if they have zero common sense!
So well said 👏 don't pretend like u don't see it ! At least own it, say u don't care about that stuff but dont pretend
And then if their wives do tell them, will they resent her for "nagging" too much, and use that as justification for violence
You summed it up in a nutshell.
Right grey witch 🧙♀️👍😇🌹👱🏻♀️
Narcissistic personality disorder . They need to be the victim, always self-serving, never do anything for anyone who actually cares about them, even their family (especially the spouse). No doubt the guy was really competent at work and people thought he was “so nice.”
Thank you, Rachel for your rant about the "I don't know" fathers (and maybe some moms too). My favorite is "I'm helping. I help with diapers. I help..." What? Who are you "helping"? Are you a guest? Don't you live in your house? Clean up. Did she make the baby all by herself? Change a diaper and feed the kid. Do you think mothers were born knowing that stuff? Do you eat? Then do the damn dishes. It's not a bloody hotel.
To much ranting that's why I didn't subscribe I prefer the ranting with real video of the crimes like the crime scenes I fell like I'm being coached how to be in a relationship and a brilliant father,which I always was (to much ranting 😆)it's to much to listen to one person talk nonstop
Oh lord! Thank you!!!!
EXACTLY THIS. HOW THE HELL DOES ANY FATHER CONFUSE RESPONSIBILITY AND HELPING IS BEYOND ME.
TAKING CARE OF YR CHILD IS NOT FREAKING HELPING. ITS YOUR DAMN JOB/RESPONSIBLITY. You just effin do it
@@mark7831 you mean “too?” Honestly, I can barely understand what you’re talking about. Is it that you prefer women to not talk, as much? Unfortunately we actually do. We _actively_ do! 😂😂
also, this isn’t a channel about showing the crime scenes. It’s violent & unnecessary & attracts a bizarre crowd of onlookers & rubberneckers. Nothing to see here.
Killer's parents should NOT get custody. They will always try to damage memory of poor Anna's mom and try to justify their killer son.
Exactly I feel it’s a given. The kid only goes to the perpetrators family of the victims loved ones can’t do it
EXACTLY! I feel like they already raised a psychopathic killer should they be given a chance to do it all over again 🤔🤔🤔
@@tracyhagloch9709 💯
An when he gets out of jail, they will give him access to Anna because “he’s her father, it’s only right”. If he’s willing to kill mengqi ji and has left bruises on baby, I wouldn’t put it past him to do much worse to baby Anna once let out
The guy looks creepy, you can see how fake he is.
Yep, you nailed the dynamic at the end. The way an abuser tries to push a person to react and then says, “wow you are crazy.”
I'm so with you on the father rant, making them means it's your responsibility to raise them, and raise them with manners and morals!!
Exactly!
👏👏👏
When my son got diagnosed with autism (Aspergers) at 6 years old, my then husband (his father), was in TOTAL denial. He was NEVER home, for years I struggled with him, what we thought were nuclear meltdowns, horrible tantrums, etc. FINALLY had a diagnosis and with that, a course of therapy etc. BUT this also ALL fell upon me! Needless to say, my marriage fell apart a few years down the road... my son is 20 now, graduated college and we have a wonderful mother/son relationship. And I did it ALONE.
Dear Kristen, good job!!! Your ex husband lost jhis right to be the father of your amazing child!!!
from another autistic person: thank you for what you did with your son 🫶
Ur a badass and a great mom good job❤
Baby Anna, you were clearly loved so much by your mom and grandma. Rest in peace Anna's mommy. What a sad story. I am thankful this murderer is now in prison. I hope Anna has a beautiful and peaceful future.
This interview was so awkward, wow, smiling all throughout the interview and talking about her in the past tense. He looks so "normal" you really can't trust anyone, he is evil.
The way he acted and acts makes me so mad...
Poor Anna and Mengqi
He looks normal?...no way...his eyes aren't kind...
I agree he looks pretty average, kinda nerdy, and non-threatening to me as well, and I'm in my mid 30s already and can read people. Of course when you have a closer look at him and also watch this interview you can tell he's full of shit, plus speaking of her in the past tense etc.
He looks like a weirdo to me. Not normal at all...
He seriously looks like a wierdo 😳 not normal at all especially the eye twitching...lol
He’s awful. Christ, beauty’s in the eye of the beholder but he’s creepy af. That eyebrow twitch as if he’s trying to flirt with the reporter & banging on about the lack of affection. He rambles on about how hard & exhausting it is to take care of a baby yet doesn’t connect that his wife was probably surviving day to day, hour to hour like a lot of new mums. He seems gentle in the report but this is fakery & disingenuous. He’s relying on the nerd-self persona to get him thru. 🙄
I think the fact she wanted to teach their daughter Chinese along with English is beautiful. Keeping her background alive and wanting to help teach their child that so she can have experience of both worlds is amazing. RIP to such a good person.
I’m a Rape & Domestic Violence Survivor. Thank you for talking about cases like this. Thank you for doing True Crime 💕. You are so kind, caring, & humble.
I'm also a rape & domestic violence survivor. There are so many of us suffering in silence.
@@tanikathompson4103 I am so so sorry 😢
Did it ever cross anyones mind she may have had post partum and that’s why she withdrew? She seems like a “take it on the chin” woman so i can see why she thought she could power through it. But man is he self involved to think everything was about him from her mom being there for her and “pushing him out” to him thinking the emotional changes of his wife -that just had a baby in a foreign country and you kicked out her mom- is once again all about him. It is astounding. The interview was self involved too. He spoke of her as a useful tool not his life partner. I truly hope her daughter grows to know her mom really loved her.
This !!!!! 👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻
I thought that immediately
100% this!! He’s a narcissistic sociopath. Poor Mengqi.
Yess
I noticed that too, all the things he mentioned about her were things that benefited her, not personality traits he loved or admired or interests she had. So so so dehumanizing and extra hard to deal with if you’re in a foreign country on a visa etc etc
Definitely caught on to him speaking of his wife in past tense! Huge red flag! Also did anyone else get Megan Boswell vibes from him? The smiling and constant nodding, as if he’s reassuring himself that he’s saying the right thing!
Thanks for covering this case Rachel, it’s actually one I’ve not heard numerous times before!
Yessss!!!!! Huge red 🚩 speaking in past tense.
It also looks like his smirking the whole time almost like his happy👀
The cases where the victim is killed by their spouse always gets me. You devote your life to this person and they just take it away. Also, has anyone never heard of a divorce if you aren't happy?? Frustrating.
He didn't want her to have a life without him. It was him or nothing. That's how these kind of men think. They own you once they're your boyfriend. And if you marry them it gets even deeper that feeling of "she's a piece of my property" its just sick.
I bet that at least 3/5 of the men who say “she didn’t tell me to”, would, if told to, not actually do anything, either ignoring, making excuses, or doing it requiring so much instruction and so deliberately,poorly and hostilely that it’s more trouble than it’s worth to ask them to do anything. Pretty much it’s just one of many excuses for someone who has no intention to do anything.
As you described the things he said to his wife, it made my blood boil. So disgusting and unfortunately there are likely many people like him. :(
it makes me so mad when people say “they abused each other” makes a homicide totally fine
The way he explains her is so chilling and clearly never looked at her as his loving wife more like his possession
I love that Rachel does cases that do not get a lot of coverage. So many UA-camrs do the same repetitive stories and that’s not helpful.
Agreed! Anytime someone asks me to cover a really popular case, unless I have any additional input to provide, I don’t think it needs to be covered. There are SO many cases that just aren’t covered that deserve the same awareness
yuuuuupp!! i noticed recently with ppl like kendall rae and others (cannot think on the top of my head) always do ones that are already so known. it’s honestly annoying. they have such a big platform, give light to the ones who aren’t getting any!!
Agreed! It gets kinda frustrating fr when there's so many cases that need solving and so many victims whose families want their story told. Everytime I see someone covering a case that's been done to death (like Casey Anthony or Chris Watts) I scream a little inside lol
@@bri_x_p9553 omgggg the chris watts one irks me to no freskin end!! i just cannot comprehend the obsession with him at all
@@_sunchildd ikr?? Ppl are so fascinated, like he's the only family annihilator to ever exists. 😮💨 When ppl have had affairs & killed their families for generations (unfortunately). He's not special just bc he's conventionally 'attractive' lol
Imagine the audacity if being with someone of a Chinese heritage and being upset when that person talks to their family in Chinese. He could have tried learning the language. He wanted full control of his wife with his narcissistic self.
as a mother, I understand your rant about fathers who doesn't help their wife taking care of the children, and still have the audacity to blame the wife when something goes wrong
This kind of abuse is so maddening! Love isn't that.
One thing that makes it even more suspicious that Jean didn’t know that Mengqi was missing, or that something had happened to her, is that Mengqi was still breast-feeding Anna right up until her death. And everyone that knew her was adamant that she would not leave her daughter willingly.
A group of us had gone out to walk Rockbridge, during the winter after she went missing, & I vividly remember smelling decamp. But it was a wooded area, & I grew up in a very rural area, so I just brushed it off as an animal being dead in the area. I really hope he rots in whatever hell his religion prescribes to. No amount of punishment will ever be enough.
I never thought I would be a victim/survivor of dv. I was one tough girl and had even helped others out of such situations including one man who was being beaten by his wife. At 34 I lost myself and understand that this can happen to anyone and we need to continue helping others make it through to the other side.
I feel like ever since Chris Watts everyone talks about duper's delight because it's easy to retroactively find duper's delight (real or imaginary) on spouses when you already know they've done something. But I swear and I haven't even watched till the end but I swear the husband got a shit eating grin all through the interview he was doing. Around 13:55 he's so giddy his eyebrows twitch up...wtf dude.
At 1 point in his interview he was "she was"
So awkward almost like an arranged marriage to a guy who seems as if he's never had a girlfriend or relationship in his life. I can only cringe in horror at what things must've been like for this sweet dedicated mother. God bless her soul.
I can’t with this dude. “She was hard working and liked to make money so she would be good to have around.” WHO tf describes their wife like that?!
@ SDG - lol what does dupers delight mean?
@@kimmcguire1557 Visible thrill/pleasure/excitement the perpetrator gets at the thought of having deceived everyone. Like the guy couldn't stop grinning all through the interview. One can say it's a nervous laughter I presume, but even if that's the case I thought he had pretty discernable smirk in his face too.
I dated a man just like this guy. He was legitimately insane and abusive
Thank you for covering domestic abuse while trying to educate those lucky enough to have never experienced it. Also, about the dad rant- I always get annoyed when father's taking care of their child solo, it's referred to as "babysitting"... Uhh no, you're taking care of your actual child🙄
Right? YOU DONT "BABYSIT" YOUR OWN KIDS PEOPLE!
oh god. hearing his journal entries?! what a sick sad little man. this poor mama😭i feel awful she was subjected to this narcissistic horrible abuse! and their poor daughter. ugh sending love and prayers to her family and friends 🙏🏻
lol i left this comment before getting to 36:49 in the video and the fact you also called him an insecure little man child took me out 😆we clearly feel the same way about this sorry excuse of a man
I mean that’s what he is 🤷♀️ glad we’re can agree 😂
Thank you for spreading awareness! Many years ago, for five years, I was in a relationship that I KNOW would have killed me. It took time, emotional support and actual physical help (I was hiding at someone’s house for months, thank you, sir; you saved my life) to be free of him. I am so sad for these people who couldn’t get away. It breaks my heart.
Wow, I’m so sorry you had to go through that. But thank you for sharing your experience on just how much it takes to get away. I’m SO happy you came out of it alive, and I hope you are doing so much better now ♥️
@@RachelShannon I am! Thank you so much. 💜
As an Asian American, I ESPECIALLY appreciate this video. 🖤
I'm Bosnian. If my husband tried to tell me to speak English (my parents do but I don't care), I would tell his ass to learn Bosnian. Not my fault he only speaks 1. I speak Spanish in the house too. Feel free to ask Google what I said if you're worried. He never is, but this guy is a joke.
I don’t think that Joseph’s mother should be able to even have shared custody of the baby.
R.I.P. Mengqi Ji 😔😢😔
Hey Rachel, have you considered getting or doing professional closed captions through services like Rev (or yourself) so the Deaf and Hard of Hearing audience (including myself) can have full access to your videos?
I haven’t looked into that yet because I thought UA-cam already had closed captions. Thanks for bringing this to my attention I’ll have to look into this!
@@RachelShannon I can turn on captions on my phone ( watching on) through the UA-cam setting
Yes if you click the double CC box in the top right of your screen on your phone ( you can also do it if you’re watching UA-cam on your TV)
@@RachelShannon Thanks for responding! The auto-generated are not fully accessible because there's no punctuation, they're not accurate, and miss whole sections when there's 911 calls or footage from news channels. They also don't automatically create a transcript for the blind and DeafBlind viewers like professional closed captions do!
@@jMci726 @Dawn Arlene ua-cam.com/video/EsUZy-MEmGo/v-deo.html
Pushing back at your abuser is called SELF DEFENSE. Thats not abusing each other. Youre so right. And as someone who survived years with a psychopath who I despaired to fix and be there for and loved more than life itself, THEY DON'T CHANGE. I DONT THINK THEY CAN. EVEN IF THEY WANT TO. 7 years and a million promises and I had to give up to save myself. 14 years later he's in his 3rd trip to prison for abusing the 3rd woman after me.
First--I'm glad you got out of there. That sounds horrible, and you shouldn't have had to deal with that shit.
Second--third trip to prison, wtf?! At that point, shouldn't they just be given a face tattoo that says "ABUSER" or something? What a disgusting justice system failure.
Great work Rachel. I completely agree about the father not helping with the daughter. I always find it strange when a hear a father say,” I’m babysitting my children.” WTH???! You’re not babysitting your own children, you are being ( or should be) being a parent. The children are your responsibility, just as much as the mother. I will also call out mother’s who won’t let their partner help with their children or constantly criticize everything the other parent does with the children. I see that a lot also … where a father is truly trying to help but the mother will not allow it.
Yes, none of us are perfect. We're all essentially winging this shit and hoping for the best. As long as they're keeping them safe, it's all good.
Unless one parent is a danger to the child, they should share the responsibility equally.
I actually once went out on a date with a guy who said he was a single father. For me, that was catnip, I don’t have kids but love them & I love the kind of guy who steps up for his children.
On our first date everything was great & we were discussing when to get together next. He couldn’t that weekend because he was babysitting. I asked who’s kid he’d be watching & he looked at me like he was confused & said “I thought I told you I have kids?”.
When it clicked, I just left. I never saw him again but heard he’d whined about it to mutual friends. He didn’t understand my problem since he’d told me. I did clarify with the friends. Being single and being a father doesn’t make you a single father. A single parent is one who, for a variety of reasons, is the primary/sole caretaker of a child. And no one “babysits” their own kids. That’s “parenting”.
Women who do this sort of thing, & I honestly have only seen 1 compared to dozens of men, are almost as bad.
I think there’s a little room for empathy because of the social stigma & shame a woman faces if she isn’t the primary. I can see not advertising something that gets instant judgement. But it’s still equal responsibility when you create a life.
I remember this incident happened and the Asian Community was very quiet. The same for an incident that happened up in Michigan.
Your sincere care and passion for these victims shines through in every video. You're such a beautiful soul Shannon and I am grateful that you are doing your part to spread awareness and education, and most of all tell these victims stories since their voices have been stolen from them. Big love to you! 💙🙏💙
Life is hard enough when you’re surrounded by love, yet this
man-child took his daughters biggest fan away from her. Heartbreaking!
I’d like to tell you Rachel, that you are wise beyond your years! You present these cases with knowledge, respect and empathy for the victims; to tell their story and to help others. You’re doing an amazing job, Rachel!
Call out those lame fathers and husbands!! Thank goodness they aren’t all like that. I was married to one of those. Our son is 15 and he has never been to a school event or doctor appointment. He used to act like he was doing me a favor if he spent time with our son. Then he acted like I owed him something for “babysitting.”
He's literally trying so hard not to burst out laughing. Like, what is so funny my dude? He hesitated for way too long when she asked him what he would say if she's watching. He was smiling. Cuz he knows what happened.
This guy reminds me so much of my ex, trying to blame the abuse on his wife. It's disgusting.
Glad you're out of that situation ❤️
@@k3upikachu Thank you!
I can't explain in words how angry this dude's interview made me. The whole time I was like you are so lying my dude 🤣
HE KEPT SAYING “SHE WAS”
boy you outed yourself right there
“she WAS a great mother”
?!?! uhhhh
1:00
Found this out on Google about the little girl. I hope this helps you out Rachel. Geringer has custody of Anna Elledge, Elledge and Ji's 3-year-old daughter. Geringer is required to provide regular updates to Ke Ren about Anna's well-being. This update is from 14 Dec 2021 xx
i love your sincere, respectful and honest manner when discussing these cases. your endings always heavily touch me because you take the time to thoughtfully explain your opinions and lessons taken from each case. your videos are always made with the utmost respect for the victim, love your channel honestly.
You are so spot on about everything in this video. About the fathers, about the cycle of abuse, about how and why people go back. About screaming back is not abuse. About gaslighting. About isolating you (I'm sure she didn't want to go out because she didn't have time to after waiting on him hand and foot and he probably forbade her to anyway) About suddenly being so calm after going ballistic on you. Thank you for caring and doing such a good job. I was fortunate enough to finally get out and yes, I leant on my mom. And yes, I was terrified of him. Also a seemingly mild mannered intelligent man... but behind closed doors.... even my family didn't believe me till he started doing it to them too.
Thank you again Rachel and bless Anna and her mama and her grandparents 🙏
Yes! Thank you for calling out these "fathers" who are really only another child for their wife to mother.
The end of this video shows how much insight you have into domestic violence and horrible relationships. Most people don't understand. Ty for saying it.
No need to apologize; domestic violence is something that is still exponentially underreported and ignored. There are so many women (and men) who never report domestic violence incidents; whether they’re being gaslit by the offender or don’t think it’s “bad enough to call the police” so many tend to make excuses for not going to authorities. It doesn’t help that often times these incidents aren’t taken seriously unless there’s massive amounts of evidence; usually it takes something really bad happening before authorities pay attention or help. Everyone has their genre of cases they’re particularly passionate about and shouldn’t feel any sort of way about it. I love that you bring light to “lesser known” cases and don’t just focus on cases in the spotlight or that have been done by everyone in the true crime space.
Girrrrrrl - YAASSSSSS! TOTALLY AGREE!!
Is it that he wanted the meek Chinese wife that he saw in old movies but never accepted her or her culture? Hes so disgusting.
Response to abuse is self defense, not abuse.
This
Thank you
I agree. Exactly.
LOVE your "rant" (re: the gosh darned truth!) on absent fathers. You go girl!!!
Thank you Rachel, this was a case I had not yet heard about until now. I love your clear, articulate delivery! You’re a doll! ❤️
So true. I get very tired of hearing about “mutually abusive relationships” when that’s not what it really is. It’s like people can’t see who has all the power and who doesn’t have any. The skewed power dynamic isn’t taken into account. It’s as if they want to make everything “equal and balanced” or be “objective” or “neutral” or “fair.” But a relationship like that...there’s nothing equal or fair or balanced about it. One person dominates another person in the entire relationship and you just want to ask them how much “patience” they’d actually have if it was them in that situation. A lot of folks would lay blows back way sooner than any victim ever dared to. Idk why there’s such a blind spot like that with so many people and why victims so often get “half blamed.” My take on it is that anyone who could endure that without one little incident of pushing back...are they even human or are they a saint or what? Bcuz that is really a very normal reaction to being constantly beaten down by someone so abnormally abusive.
Thank you!
It disgusts me how many times the parents of the victim are kept from the grandchildren while the parents of the killer get to raise another child and warp that child’s mind. Its so wrong and I don’t understand why this is allowed.
Disgusting trying to get him a new trial. Its obvious it was no accident. He never even pretended to show emotion.
Thank you Sharon for sharing about abuse as everything u say at the end of this video is so truthfull why am i saying this because being a abused wife for many years you always feel you cannot get out thankfully i got out after many years of strugles and torture and the scars left in your mind you always strugle through RIP Mengii so much sadness
Thank goodness that these husband's like to give interviews, because we can look deeper in to the husband and they always make mistakes Thank you for this case may she rest in pice 🙏
The way he spoke about her in the interview was a straight flashing RED Flag omg, the way in which he describes her as what she could do for him, rather than her character/ her as a person. Evil man.
As someone who was in a relationship exactly like this for literally 1/2 of my life…7 years free 🙌🏼 I’ll be the first to say that it breaks you down to the point that you want to take your own life JUST to escape the abuse. I didn’t even verbally stand up for myself as much as she did because I was so afraid of what he could be capable of. I feel so bad for her being from a different country and having NO ONE to support her through this. Thank God he didn’t get away with this. I feel so bad for Anna. RIP sweet momma ♥️
His news comfy rubbed me 100% the wrong way. It was really about finding her it was all the things HE liked about her. And that smirk smile on his face, I just wanted to reach in through my phone and small it off his face 🤬
THANK YOU!! I had to deal with and am still dealing with that kind of "father" to my kids, even though we're divorced now. He knows NOTHING about our kids lives and expects me to do EVERYTHING when it comes to them. I'm honestly scared of what the fate of my kids would be if something were to happen to me. It's an old-fashioned mindset and, quite frankly, is extremely irresponsible. I appreciate you talking about this.
I used to be such a bad communicator which is why my 10 yr relationship with my oldest's father ended and when u met my husband he was so patient with me and helped me and taught me how to communicate. And not just communicate with him but in general. He was kind, heart felt and amazing as a partner. I miss him so much. RIP 9/16/20
i always get sceptical when a spouse uses past tense when speaking about a missing spouse
Rachel, you are such a sweet and caring person. It is so apparent in your videos how passionate you are about getting these stories out to the public. You honor these victims and at the same time educate your viewers who might be in similar situations. You are making a difference in this crazy world and you are so appreciated!
His interview was so upsetting. Rachel you did a great job covering this. We love u frm Jamaica.
Joseph's parents raised Joseph. They definitely should not be raising another child.
Hey there, I just wanted to come on here and share how appreciative I am of your content! You really focus on the victim and their families instead of the suspect. I really look up to you for this. ❤ You are extremely fair. You just portray these cases in such a classy an very respectful way. I can promise you that the families praise you for this. I just love how authentic and down to earth you are!
I live in Columbia and I remember this so well my Son was a Police officer at that time and he looked for her. So sad he acted guilty from the beginning!! Thank you for covering this story so important 😢❤
When you call people out or give your opinion I think " go get them tiger"!
I'm disabled and I believe that my husband can take care of our son when he was little just as good as I could. He was also willing to be a completely involved father. That is important
The smirk 19:25 when he said there's just no way to know 😮😮 It's like he didn't even try to hide.
I live in columbia mo and lived in the same apartment complex, she would walk her baby every morning never failed and then one morning I didn’t see her and this went on for weeks of not seeing her walking. Then one morning i get home the swat team FBI and all of columbia police dep was outside the complex it was sooo crazy when we finally found out what happened😞
I love that you cover so much DV videos. It is 100% important since it is happening everywhere all the time, and if it helps just once person it’s worth it! So keep doing you girl! We love it💜💜
How often in your life have you had a conflict which results in a mother leaving a young child in the middle of the night?
Every time I hear a story, that goes like this, I am very suspicious.
Because I don't know any women who would leave babies or toddlers in this manner.
Wow, I'm stuck on the improper use of the cutting board, I'd love to know what she was using it for, sledding on ice? That's definitely one of the lamest things I've heard someone complain about. I've heard of using petty things to start a fight but that was bizarre.
Rachel's assessment of crappy fathers and husbands is so spot-on.
Even friendships can be toxic and abusive... be safe and take care of you and those that love you.
Thanks for your videos Rachel - mucho appreciation!
You have done an absolutely amazing job on this video. It’s incredibly sad. And thank you for saying what you said at the end. It’s so hard for people to understand why a victim stays or goes back to their abuser. We have to remember that it obviously wasn’t always this way. It’s almost always a slow erosion of one’s dignity and self. It’s over time that the abuser breaks down their victim. The psychological aspect of it is really important to understand because that is where the real damage occurs. Thank you for being you!
Great advice, thanks for sharing.
Omg this interview 16:00 gives me total Chris Watts on the porch vibes. The dupers delight, the laugh , when saying he needs his wife back, the referring to her in the past tense. He is not fooling anyone
rachel YOU ARE AMAZING!!!!
…she didn’t ask me to babysit!!! That’s my favorite.
Thanks for showing these kind of things.
He would refer to her in past tense and then correct himself real quick.
I LOVE your rant!!! 💁♀️
your comments regarding the "mutual abuse" excuse was so, so on point. i appreciate that so much. very timely with things in the news, and frustrating to see occurring constantly. it's also been shown that the victim will always take responsibility for their actions, while the abuser refuses. why is this so often taken at face value? why would the real abuser admit to everything when under scrutiny? that's not how abusers work. that's not the control they want to keep. they want to control the narrative, so they do what they can to highlight the victim's reactions over their own behaviors that drove them there.
Maybe in another video.
Oh Rachel, this is so terribly tragic. I have a friend who is going through a situation with coercive control with her current partner and it is so hard to see what is happening. Seeing her act in ways that are not like her to stay in this relationship and not protect herself or accept help from those around her who are trying to get her out of the situation. There are so many women that just don't understand what a form of abuse this is not to mention the physical part that usually accompanies it. The victim's voices need to be heard and women need to be made aware of these cases so they can protect themselves and their children. Thank you for all the hard work that you do bringing these stories to us.
LOVE these longer videos!
There were moments in his video where it almost felt like he was flirting with the interviewer, subtly. Creepy
Love the hair color. He wrote himself a note not to answer questions on mengqi. Joseph only studying himself
I hate it when they always expect that "only" the mother should do the parenting to their child.
Also, I found it so creepy that while he's being interviewed, he is smiling! Wth! You're wife is missing but it doesn't even show on your face.
Thank you for saying that part at the end. Thank you. You saved me from writing a long comment based on personal experience. You seem to have a good understanding of this type of abuse.
I'm so glad you are covering this local to me case!!! I know someone who was part of this.
The father rant couldn't be said better , it's your child too you need to take part in raising them too
The way he is talking about her in past tense already in the interview is such a red flag to begin with
Love your rant you took the words right out of my mouth!!
I’m a crime junkie and I’ve seen tons of spouses whose spouse has been missing and never in my life have a seen a supposed distraught spouse smiling from ear to ear. This is beyond odd. Not sure if he has some developmental issues but this kind of behaviour is just weird. Not a single tear, shock, or any sign of grief was ever expressed. He just seems so giddy to be on camera
This case got me heated. Mengqi was me in a 9yr mistake. I was fortunate to make it out alive. It took my now husband to break down my walls and it felt good to finally be myself again, free and happy. Being in that relationship felt like i was digging myself into a bottomless grave that i could never get out of. Also loved that you mentioned that men (goes for women too) need to be told what to do instead of using their common sense and just doing it. Good job on telling her story Rachel.
Must you be married to survive? Wow!
@@kadzo6614 No =) I was by myself for a while. All im saying is I didnt know what it was like to be treated like an actual human
It is incredibly important to shed light on these cases; my heart breaks for the victims here. I feel like domestic violence is only ever whispered about, but it’s so prevalent. These are always so gut wrenching because they could have been prevented, which makes them so hard to research and share. Thank you Rachel for doing this case justice.
I agree that these cases definitely need to be talked about. It’s such a huge issue and I hope these cases can shed a light on just how big of an issue this truly is