ENTJ. I ENFJ lead my family. ENFJ needs people to lead towards a common goal. ENTJ needs to lead people to reach the best (their own) goal. Ask how I know. 😅
00:28 🤔 Understanding the similarities between ENTJ and ENFJ types can help in differentiating them. 04:56 💡 Both ENTJ and ENFJ are charismatic leaders but prioritize different aspects - ENTJ focuses on efficiency while ENFJ is people-oriented. 08:47 🧠 Identifying the underlying motivation behind actions helps distinguish between ENTJ and ENFJ types. 14:49 ❤ Increased emotional empathy in ENTJs may lead them to be perceived as ENFJs, indicating growth and healthier interpersonal dynamics. 16:41 💼 Understanding the driving force behind decisions - efficiency for ENTJ and people-centric approach for ENFJ - aids in accurate typing.
Great video! A healthy entj has developed their emotional intelligence. (Just as I feel ive grown -infj- by developing my logical, rational thinking -with the help of my entj)
Okay, so my mbti change from entj to enfj maybe just because i'm developing a lil of my emotional intelligence..im glad im still entj, cuz i dont hink enfj memes resonates me😂😂😂😅😅😅😅
Easy way to distinguish them: ENFJs are entertaining and funny whenever they tell a story that involves themselves, while ENTJs rarely talk about themselves.
Hey Anne! Bit of an essay below. With love in my heart, bottom line up front is that from your description it seems quite likely that your husband is on the Autistic spectrum. This is something I have a lot of personal experience with, in children and adults. Unsolicited advice: If they are open to it, I’d suggest for the sake of you both individually, and your relationship, see if your husband can get assessed for autism. At least, it might go a long way to explaining the cause of much of the communication friction that you have described and help you guys work towards an understanding and accomodations that make your relationship even stronger. I’m sure this is overreach as a random person on UA-cam, but if you’d like to connect about this further I’d be happy to chat and help where I can. Hope this helps ❤🙏 Accidental essay follows… - - - I’m sure there’s a lot more to your relationship than what you have shared here, but the small slice you have laid out does sound very much like they have autistic (ASD) traits. The propensity to go to logic and directness to the point of (probably non-intentionally) being harsh, without consideration (or losing the ability to be considerate) of others, or their contexts, when they are overwhelmed (eg not having brain-space for emotional intelligence) is a classic autistic behaviour or experience with autistic adults. It’s an example of what it can look like when an autistic person is no longer able to ‘mask’ It’s worth pointing out none of the positive and highly socially engaged traits you mention are incompatible with ASD, particularity ASD1. In fact, when masking, many autistic adults can present as quite extroverted and charismatic. Their analytical nature, strong sense of justice, and learned social skills often make them quite strong, empathetic, and inspiring leaders. In fact, they often seek leadership positions for many reasons including control and social safety. However, the flipside of keeping up this masking can be a high risk of deep burnout sometimes to the point of barely being able to speak or articulate know as “shutdown”, and/or emotional outbursts known as “meltdown”. Both shutdown and meltdown often occur only in private or in settings where they feel safe and they can relax and drop their mask. A few things you mention that sound like autistic traits and autistic masking are: - “They can develop the skills of empathy and the skills of reading peoples emotions and connecting emotionally; they can develop their emotional intelligence” - “Lack of emotion intelligence” - “… thinks it’s flat out annoying and doesn’t understand why they need to [consider others feelings or contexts when they deliver information]”. Facts over feelings. - “…[they] learn over time is that it is more ‘efficient’ for them to develop those skills and thus interpersonal communication skills and their emotional empathy” - “…overall just that the entj will learn/usually learn that it’s important to learn that skill… we also have society’s expectations of people” - “… motivate an entj to develop the ability to either MASK the empathy … hold in what they really want to say, how they really want to be and put on a MASK” - “The more an entj appears to be an enfj the healthier they are….” This is what it looks like when an ASD person has the capacity, energy, and skills to mask successfully. - “… there’s also that aspect of the enfj under stress … who just gets pushed too far, they’re very frustrated and they can actually cut that, or just silence that part that’s very empathic … and they can appear very cold and a lot more logical and harsh …” this is an example of overwhelm and them no longer being able to mask, perhaps just before, or during a meltdown
Thank you for the thoughtful reply! I actually am pretty sure that I am on the spectrum myself. I have a lot of autistic traits, one of which is masking. I would say I am high functioning due to my incredible ability to mask. However, I certainly do stand out in a group and there isn't always anything I can do about it because I am unaware of the things I am doing in the first place that are causing me to be different until others point it out. There are so many things that I have done my whole life and thought everyone else was also doing that I am now realizing are actually not a part of the neurotypical life. I have been referred by multiple doctors to be assessed but haven't made the time to actually follow through with it. I have multiple immediate family members on the spectrum as well. I am pretty sure my husband is not on the spectrum, for various reasons, but I do think that there is a direct link between intuitive types and neurodivergence. I am actually inspired now to make some videos on this exact subject and would love your take on them!
I don't see how you can mistype ENTJ for ENFJ since only the observation functions are in the same spot. The judging axis is completely different. It's blatantly obvious when you listen to how they make their judgements, ENTJs will generally prefer logic driven decisions over emotional, ENTJs will rarely say something like hey lets stop the project because so and so is not on board and feeling badly about it. ENFJs make most of their decisions based on people, if so and so doesn't feel onboard and against it, ENFJs would care alot more than ENTJ, theres alot of Fe manipulation going on in the realm of Fe where as ENTJs get people onboard with hard logic and say stuff like hey you only have a job because we're making profit, your plan cuts profits by at least 30% which means we're going to go under so it doesn't matter if Timmy doesn't like this plan coz following your plan, we're all gonna lose our jobs including Timmy so your plan is just straight up a worse outcome. Where as the ENFJ may say something like the methods of which we've adopted to generate profits are questionable in ethics (even though it's not necessarily), many of the staff here don't feel morally justified in this approach, we need to reconsider and come to better consensus, Timmy had to see a psychologist due to the stress and moral dilemmas this company has put him through, enough is enough, we need change, we need to to cut back. Looking at the population of MBTI types, most women are SFJ and most men are STJs which means more men are likely to be onboard with the ENTJ and most women are more likely to be onboard with the ENFJ. Both have their perspectives, ENTJ is more focused on bottom line, outcome and PHYSICAL needs of the people, ENFJ is more focused on the EMOTIONAL needs of the people and harmony. Those who think ENTJ have low emotional intelligence are likely projecting coz they themselves value it thus they think ENTJs lack it but in actual fact, ENTJs look at emotional reasoning the same as logical reasoning i.e if the most efficient method to accomplish the outcome is by acting like an ENFJ then ENTJs will simply put on the Fe, the real reason why people complain about ENTJ's lack of Fe is because they themselves are not looking at the bottom line and how the world works etc... they're too focused on feelings hence the decisions of the ENTJ looks to be lacking in consideration to how one feels but the cost to value feelings over a bottom line will likely net u worse feelings later on or in the long run. ENTJs are simply cutting the b.s and getting straight to the essence of the issue, most issues are not easy to resolve and requires some kind of delayed gratification or sacrifice which means temporarily feeling bad, ENTJs are simply just very good at compartmentalizing their emotions coz they know they aren't going to feel better long term until this objective is met or that the root cause of the problem is resolved. Lastly, ENTJs are the least extroverted of all extroverts and is barely any more social than the most extroverted of the introverted types so I would say ENFJ is astronomically more "social" and "outgoing" than the ENTJ, the ENTJ is mostly out coz he wants something done or needs to network with people, not there to idly chit chat and feeling the Fe vibes etc... I would not put them in the same boat of extroversion at all, Te extroversion requires an outcome, it is heavily debate oriented and attaining and exchanging data/information whereas Fe extroversion seeks good vibes and actual socializing with people.
You are so right, the more enfj they appear the better, they are more empathetic and nice but still efficient like a TE user❤
ENTJ. I ENFJ lead my family.
ENFJ needs people to lead towards a common goal. ENTJ needs to lead people to reach the best (their own) goal.
Ask how I know. 😅
So super grateful for your channel. Thank you for this video. 💜
Thank you, very informative
00:28 🤔 Understanding the similarities between ENTJ and ENFJ types can help in differentiating them.
04:56 💡 Both ENTJ and ENFJ are charismatic leaders but prioritize different aspects - ENTJ focuses on efficiency while ENFJ is people-oriented.
08:47 🧠 Identifying the underlying motivation behind actions helps distinguish between ENTJ and ENFJ types.
14:49 ❤ Increased emotional empathy in ENTJs may lead them to be perceived as ENFJs, indicating growth and healthier interpersonal dynamics.
16:41 💼 Understanding the driving force behind decisions - efficiency for ENTJ and people-centric approach for ENFJ - aids in accurate typing.
Great video! A healthy entj has developed their emotional intelligence. (Just as I feel ive grown -infj- by developing my logical, rational thinking -with the help of my entj)
Okay, so my mbti change from entj to enfj maybe just because i'm developing a lil of my emotional intelligence..im glad im still entj, cuz i dont hink enfj memes resonates me😂😂😂😅😅😅😅
Easy way to distinguish them: ENFJs are entertaining and funny whenever they tell a story that involves themselves, while ENTJs rarely talk about themselves.
Yes, they do have a way of somehow always keeping the topic of conversation off of themselves!
You are IMMENSE. (INFJ here)
i did the 16 test yesterday and it got me right i mean i been years working out what type i am lol thanks for the vid, lucky guy you are so niiice.
Yes, it has always been correct for myself too. I retake it every few years and have never had a result other than INFJ, though the T and A changes
Do you think he might be on the spectrum and an ENFJ?
Hey Anne! Bit of an essay below. With love in my heart, bottom line up front is that from your description it seems quite likely that your husband is on the Autistic spectrum.
This is something I have a lot of personal experience with, in children and adults.
Unsolicited advice: If they are open to it, I’d suggest for the sake of you both individually, and your relationship, see if your husband can get assessed for autism. At least, it might go a long way to explaining the cause of much of the communication friction that you have described and help you guys work towards an understanding and accomodations that make your relationship even stronger.
I’m sure this is overreach as a random person on UA-cam, but if you’d like to connect about this further I’d be happy to chat and help where I can.
Hope this helps ❤🙏
Accidental essay follows…
- - -
I’m sure there’s a lot more to your relationship than what you have shared here, but the small slice you have laid out does sound very much like they have autistic (ASD) traits. The propensity to go to logic and directness to the point of (probably non-intentionally) being harsh, without consideration (or losing the ability to be considerate) of others, or their contexts, when they are overwhelmed (eg not having brain-space for emotional intelligence) is a classic autistic behaviour or experience with autistic adults.
It’s an example of what it can look like when an autistic person is no longer able to ‘mask’
It’s worth pointing out none of the positive and highly socially engaged traits you mention are incompatible with ASD, particularity ASD1. In fact, when masking, many autistic adults can present as quite extroverted and charismatic. Their analytical nature, strong sense of justice, and learned social skills often make them quite strong, empathetic, and inspiring leaders.
In fact, they often seek leadership positions for many reasons including control and social safety.
However, the flipside of keeping up this masking can be a high risk of deep burnout sometimes to the point of barely being able to speak or articulate know as “shutdown”, and/or emotional outbursts known as “meltdown”. Both shutdown and meltdown often occur only in private or in settings where they feel safe and they can relax and drop their mask.
A few things you mention that sound like autistic traits and autistic masking are:
- “They can develop the skills of empathy and the skills of reading peoples emotions and connecting emotionally; they can develop their emotional intelligence”
- “Lack of emotion intelligence”
- “… thinks it’s flat out annoying and doesn’t understand why they need to [consider others feelings or contexts when they deliver information]”. Facts over feelings.
- “…[they] learn over time is that it is more ‘efficient’ for them to develop those skills and thus interpersonal communication skills and their emotional empathy”
- “…overall just that the entj will learn/usually learn that it’s important to learn that skill… we also have society’s expectations of people”
- “… motivate an entj to develop the ability to either MASK the empathy … hold in what they really want to say, how they really want to be and put on a MASK”
- “The more an entj appears to be an enfj the healthier they are….” This is what it looks like when an ASD person has the capacity, energy, and skills to mask successfully.
- “… there’s also that aspect of the enfj under stress … who just gets pushed too far, they’re very frustrated and they can actually cut that, or just silence that part that’s very empathic … and they can appear very cold and a lot more logical and harsh …” this is an example of overwhelm and them no longer being able to mask, perhaps just before, or during a meltdown
Thank you for the thoughtful reply! I actually am pretty sure that I am on the spectrum myself. I have a lot of autistic traits, one of which is masking. I would say I am high functioning due to my incredible ability to mask. However, I certainly do stand out in a group and there isn't always anything I can do about it because I am unaware of the things I am doing in the first place that are causing me to be different until others point it out. There are so many things that I have done my whole life and thought everyone else was also doing that I am now realizing are actually not a part of the neurotypical life. I have been referred by multiple doctors to be assessed but haven't made the time to actually follow through with it. I have multiple immediate family members on the spectrum as well. I am pretty sure my husband is not on the spectrum, for various reasons, but I do think that there is a direct link between intuitive types and neurodivergence. I am actually inspired now to make some videos on this exact subject and would love your take on them!
@@annemarieINFJ I wonder about what you call masking, being also an impressive facility for diplomacy.
Hai, can you please do the video about relation between 16 personality types vs enneagram.
I don't see how you can mistype ENTJ for ENFJ since only the observation functions are in the same spot. The judging axis is completely different. It's blatantly obvious when you listen to how they make their judgements, ENTJs will generally prefer logic driven decisions over emotional, ENTJs will rarely say something like hey lets stop the project because so and so is not on board and feeling badly about it.
ENFJs make most of their decisions based on people, if so and so doesn't feel onboard and against it, ENFJs would care alot more than ENTJ, theres alot of Fe manipulation going on in the realm of Fe where as ENTJs get people onboard with hard logic and say stuff like hey you only have a job because we're making profit, your plan cuts profits by at least 30% which means we're going to go under so it doesn't matter if Timmy doesn't like this plan coz following your plan, we're all gonna lose our jobs including Timmy so your plan is just straight up a worse outcome.
Where as the ENFJ may say something like the methods of which we've adopted to generate profits are questionable in ethics (even though it's not necessarily), many of the staff here don't feel morally justified in this approach, we need to reconsider and come to better consensus, Timmy had to see a psychologist due to the stress and moral dilemmas this company has put him through, enough is enough, we need change, we need to to cut back.
Looking at the population of MBTI types, most women are SFJ and most men are STJs which means more men are likely to be onboard with the ENTJ and most women are more likely to be onboard with the ENFJ. Both have their perspectives, ENTJ is more focused on bottom line, outcome and PHYSICAL needs of the people, ENFJ is more focused on the EMOTIONAL needs of the people and harmony.
Those who think ENTJ have low emotional intelligence are likely projecting coz they themselves value it thus they think ENTJs lack it but in actual fact, ENTJs look at emotional reasoning the same as logical reasoning i.e if the most efficient method to accomplish the outcome is by acting like an ENFJ then ENTJs will simply put on the Fe, the real reason why people complain about ENTJ's lack of Fe is because they themselves are not looking at the bottom line and how the world works etc... they're too focused on feelings hence the decisions of the ENTJ looks to be lacking in consideration to how one feels but the cost to value feelings over a bottom line will likely net u worse feelings later on or in the long run. ENTJs are simply cutting the b.s and getting straight to the essence of the issue, most issues are not easy to resolve and requires some kind of delayed gratification or sacrifice which means temporarily feeling bad, ENTJs are simply just very good at compartmentalizing their emotions coz they know they aren't going to feel better long term until this objective is met or that the root cause of the problem is resolved.
Lastly, ENTJs are the least extroverted of all extroverts and is barely any more social than the most extroverted of the introverted types so I would say ENFJ is astronomically more "social" and "outgoing" than the ENTJ, the ENTJ is mostly out coz he wants something done or needs to network with people, not there to idly chit chat and feeling the Fe vibes etc... I would not put them in the same boat of extroversion at all, Te extroversion requires an outcome, it is heavily debate oriented and attaining and exchanging data/information whereas Fe extroversion seeks good vibes and actual socializing with people.