If a guy acts like this, start talking to other guys because more than likely, he’s seeing or talking to someone else, so unless he steps up, don’t just give all your focus to him.
Guy was only texting, I got annoyed, I decided to ask him if he had any plans for saturday, he replied back with a lame excuse, he continued texting and I just stop replying back, why waste my time?
They are bored and want attention, also might want to make you hang in there until they decide if they want to see you or not. And if they do it's prolly just to get laid.
what if they're nervous to meet you? like maybe the girl is super pretty but the guy thinks he won't be able to live up to his expectations type of thing
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Shantell McShane no prob hes seeing someone else, and will come back to you when it fails, but still just someone to kill time with, so just bullshit, next!
To me if a guy don't reach out, especially in the beginning, I'm out. I've been burnt in love and learned a valuable lesson: better be single than in a toxic relationship.
@@redfather5342 It's not a matter of being entitled. If I'm seeing a man and sleeping with him, a phone call is necessary here and there. Honestly. Would you want to give your body to someone who you can't call in the event of an emergency? If the answer is no, you have respect for yourself then.
@@Khrystal-wl6kz you can't 'give' your body to nobody what kind of retarded logic do you have also just because some guy is fucking doesn't mean he owes you anything
When a guy texts me a third time without having called, I respond by saying,, "who is this,? I think you have the wrong person." If he responds by texting I don't answer. Ever. I need the texting to be the exception, not the normal mode of conversation. Know your worth. You are worthy of a phone call and more.
Ashley Ramillano read the previous comments. Even when you do ask for a call. You might not get one or you may get called for a short period of time and then the guy still isn't interested
I think the problem is that guys like this generally won't change their behavior. They do it with the intent of keeping their options open, not just because they're flakey. Don't waste your time y'all, not even worth playing that game. Calling him out or even insinuating a phone call won't inspire him to try harder. These guys are THE WORST- apathetic as all hell and use you as a fall-back because your attention is convenient. Run for the hills the second you notice the pattern. You don't owe him no damn explanation.
N0LANI yea! The best way is just simply dont reply, leaving him like an idiot. I was dealing with a guy like that too, we girls can try give initative ONCE, like letting him know you are free & if theres no more action but just texting, stop replying. He uses you for his backup but we have the choice not being his backup, ill go meet some other guys until he proactively asks me out again.
chuckie826 You'll end up missing out on otherwise great guys. Communication is key in any relationship. Men are not mind readers and not all women are the same. Some women feel a guy is too pushy if he calls her. At least give him the chance to try.
Dealing with one of these guys now. And he's always saying "I want to see you do this..." "We should do this..." "I wish blablabla so we could blablabla" and just never makes plans and when I try to he's flaky as fuck. It sucks. But I'm moving on now. Like you said, it's not attractive and it's just a bore.
I don't think I have the energy to go the extra mile like in a relationship if you only text me when your bored. If you don't like me enough to want to call me or hang out with me, why should I even bother inviting you places and texting you. If someone truly likes you, you shouldn't have to pull teeth for them to do more than just texting you. It's a waste of time. There's someone out there who would love to talk/hang out with you. That's just how I feel.
They're are many reasons why he texts and doesn't call: 1. He has been staying with a very strict order of nuns who have asked him to join them in a vow silence. Texting is his only option. 2. He knows the Sister Wives would get jealous if they were to overhear. 3. He is green and red colorblind so he tries to call but keeps hitting "End" instead. 4. There is a really bad echo in his mom's basement. 5. He is hard of hearing since that insane Yanni concert and can only shout now when speaking. 6. He is a phone calling addict and he's on Step 5 of his recovery. One Day at a Time! 7. Guinness World Record Holder for Number of Marbles in Mouth. 8. Afraid to reveal he talks like Mickey Mouse on helium. 9. Shanking his cell mate means no phone calls, only texting, as punishment. 10. He's only setting the bar as low as you allow!!!
I don't think it is really worth putting efforts for someone who communicates to you like that. It means that they are really not that into you. Not worth the effort to win them over.
This is EVERY guy I've dealt with that I've met from online dating sites. It's pathetic. I've tried the cute flirty way & I've tried the nasty way that you mentioned lol It's very depressing that people nowadays lack humanity/respect for a person & behave cowardly. Thanks Matt!! Glad you know how to communicate 😄
I thought this was only me,I’m kind of relieved that I’m not the only one..EVERY single guy that I have spoken to from online dating is exactly this way.im done with it all now,iv spent so much time with online dating.
yOUR NOT THE ONLY ONE.SAME HERE! IS like a virus that spread,They are crazy, I was a nice girl,saying ok text during work,but at least one day per wek after woork,let saay thursday after 22 pm talk. I was called rude be ci wanna talk.i blocked them.Idont tolerate any bs anymore.i cut in raw meat.Next!
You’ve got to realize to where men are coming from has the guy been rejected because that can really bring him down a lot it’s awful to feel rejected so maybe that’s why guys don’t try
Do not tolerate someone who's just looking for penpals-you are potentially enabling a very unhealthy person who needs to take initiative getting help for their issues. I once texted back and fourth with a 38 year old guy for a year. It started to become disturbing realising that someone whose old enough to be married with children (another reason to not engage he may just be cheating 👀👀👀) had the habit of a broke teenager addicted to his screen. I stopped responding to his messages and he tried to contact me again, but I let it fizzle out, I'd given him more than enough time to initiate a date. It's a sign that person is unhealthy, socially awkward or thinks it's okay to engage with women he isn't interested in to boost his ego (UNACCEPTABLE). He needs to figure a way to stop relying on his phone for a friendship or relationship. Stop enabling them and stop responding if they won't meet you in person or talk on the phone. That person has something off about them and you don't need to prop them up with a pen pal thing, they need to work on themselves or whatevers stopping them from interacting with not just you but other people in real life.
or they tell you they are on business trips expanding their business (when really probably with that wife that they married 3 years ago and bragged about online and forgot about the remark. I find it hard to believe someone can marry a 2nd time and divorce that fast).
No it means they dont have manners! Simple! I always texted right away wen i got a text. But i never got a response wen he red it. Thats rude ! And not well mannered. But now i give him a taste of his own medicine. Im done treated like shit.
I don’t like playing games. But for the sake of it, when the ball is in my court, I’m fair and check it back. But when he has the ball and suddenly takes eons to play again.... I take my ball and go home. No explanation no further contact. Just go.
Glad I watch this video man I swear this whole texting epidemic is absolutely repulsive I hope as human beings we will eventually move past this. Most people who only text all the time are usually just terrified of face-to-face communication/confrontation it really is a form of social phobia best thing you could ever do is just to not feed into it whatever you do do not text the person back if that’s all they want to do is just text.
I've always loved that Matthew gives women power. A lot of people accuse him of training women to give men what they want, but he's not. He setting a standard for focusing attention on the men that deserve it. How many women waste their time on people who don't give them anything. Yes, he talks about doing things that make a man attracted to you, but he also makes sure you know that you should never put up with bs from someone who hasn't done anything for you. He stresses having a life and pursuing goals before looking for a man because, incidentally, that will make you more attractive anyway. His videos have literally changed my approach to dating and showed me I should never tolerate being treated badly consistently because there are plenty more fish in the sea.
Nope that's not the right way. You should call him out. If you don't do that, he will never know it was his inaction which made you drift away. He will think you found someone else
I've spoken to him about it twice. He calls maybe 1x a week rediculous nd he got back n touch with me smh... He text me gn last night I never texted bk. He hasn't called or texted yet. Maybe he gets the picture sad too bcuz we had great times together 😅😢
I could have sworn you were going to say "I've noticed something about you...you only text me when you are bored" at 2:48 lol maybe I am just a straight savage but I have texted that before and was even thanked for my honesty
Thank GOD I found this video. I thought I was the only one experiencing this and thought maybe I was doing something wrong. To be honest with me no shits are given anymore, I've just stopped replying to him. :)
I am a grown woman who grew up before there were text messages or answering machines. I met a guy at a show last week. We chatted for a while and exchanged numbers. Then we parted company. He sent me a text message at 3 am “are you still up?” Next few messages were long questions about my career, personal life, etc. I felt as if I were filling out a job application. If the guy was truly interested in getting to know me he should have written “I am interested in seeing you again and getting to know you”. How about you? May I call you? The concept of meeting up for a date is a lost art. This man is about 45 years old. If he does not know how to ask a woman out in a date, he is a very poor prospect. Truth be told, dating is not a “magic meeting” guarantee for the man or the woman. I feel like a lot of guys want to hook up or just want to message when they think they are going to get some “action”. So lazy and such a turn-off. Most of my boyfriends I had known quite a while before the “magic” happened. A few cute text messages then a drink at my place? I don’t t think so.
I'm a guy trying to get the girl i want and I have to say Matthew hussey you have helped me so much with your advice , I just reverse your videos from the girl wanting to get the guy to the guy wanting to get the girl.
Lol good advice Mathew I just texted him “I don’t like texting, if you want to talk call me” he calls me 8 hrs later! I never answered and will never reply to his text again!
Ugh tose types of guys are so annoying. I had a guy who texted me for 4 months and we only went out once.. despite him saying he really wanted to get to know me better and that he was interested, he kept rescheduling our dates because he said he was too busy with work.. but he never stopped texting me everyday all day. So I decided I wasn't gonna give him the time of my day anymore and started not answering his texts or distancing myself.. and he gradually but surely disappeared. Guess he just needed to feel that somebody cared about him which is kind of sad when I think about it.. but still, I learnt something from this at least!
saraiscixiri I'm kind of dating this guy right now that he don't text me you don't call me unless he needs a ride or something like that this is been going on for 2 weeks he's change Among the Sleep towards me he don't answer his phone when I call him he don't reply to any texts to me unless it's to do for him
I've been dating this guy for like 8 months and at first everything was all good but now he's changed you don't want to come over in my apartment he doesn't answer any text messages doesn't answer any phone calls and if I do call him he gets really upset I don't know what to do and when he does come over it's always at night time for sex and he leaves and goes home
Cindy James I'm afraid it's time to move on. It sounds like you want more than a casual relationship with him. This guy is just not prepared to offer that.
4 weeks of texting after 2 dates turned ugly. I expressed my concerns ,that texting is a turn off to me.. I expressed hearing his voice would be better. Called him my penpal. Finally call it off by blocking him . Lol. Selfish , manipulative as he was dating others and was playing games apparently with me.
I am currently in this texting situation and I came across with this video. It breaks my heart, but what the video and comments here said is true. I should move on and make other opportunities elsewhere. I thought we had real chemistry. 😥
The same. It was only texting. It was fun, but it was too long. I cut him off. I do not think he will ever call me. Lately he has told me, that he actuallt doesn't like to text so much. So why didn't he call me? Why did he text with me so long? Out of boredom. I pressume
I'm actually in a texting situation rn. He says he's terrified with calling or video calls. So I respected it and never asked for it since then but I'm getting tired now 😔
Yes! Ppl like that are so annoying and full of sh*t! I dealt with a guy who texted me everyday for a month straight but when I asked him to meet up or to talk with me on the phone he was all of a sudden "too busy." Then after disappearing for two months he started texting me out of the blue like nothing happened. Wtf? Turns out he had a pregnant girlfriend surprise surprise -_-.The best way to deal with those people is to leave them alone because most of the time they are just playing games.
I am going through this right now and I do not have the balls to say these things to him so I'm just going to forget about it lol And being cold and distant will make him just go after someone else. Stay single...less frustrating 👍
Just tell him "texting is void and virtual, if you are interested let's set a date to meet in person soon". Quit being afraid to say what you want. If he doesn't respond or say yes, you have your answer and can move on to someone who is mature and interested. Set the bar from the get go.
OMG just wanna thank you a mill for this helpful video. Met a guy 2 wks. ago& he was being more than flaky w/ only the sporadic txts.( which I told I don't like). I watched this video on Sun& called him out like you advised. Basically saying lets meet. He was taking long intervals rtng. my texts but eventually said he was already out somewhere watching football & we'd either have to meet later( On a Sunday, mind you)or we could link up nxt. week.... I THINK NOT!..... I did what you said & gave no reply.... Well now he's even calling and leaving voice mails.. LOL....I'm no longer interested cause this proved that he was indeed a jerk content on stringing me along since he thought I liked him... There are plenty of decent fish in the sea, I'll just be patient. I will also be exerting coldness quickly if recognize any pattern of flakiness fr a guy who is not worth my time... THANK U, THANK U, THANK U
sana cole It sounds like he didn't want to come on too keen in the beginning. Guys can often end up getting rejected for showing too much interest. It's difficult to get the balance right as each person is different. I'd say if he's making effort, might be worth reconsidering.
Glad it worked for you!! I sent the guy the exact text but he hasn't called yet after 12+ hrs. I am happy this text helped me reveal his true intentions
I met a guy online and after he texted me a few days, I became annoyed that he lacked initiative. So, I texted him back, the "You looooooove to text," message. His response: "Is that okay?" Really dude... Ugh, such a turn-off. That was a signal that he was planning to pull that time-wasting nonsense for a very long time. It's a great way to weed out the time wasters from people that are serious about getting to know you.
They are texting because they are spending time with others , kick them out of your life… I did one week a go and I’m so great full of myself. We are not break time
Most of this advice kind of doesn't really get to the bottom of what the problem is. It is separating the guys that are interested and will put in the work of a relationship from the ones that don't. None of those "trick texts" do anything, nobody changes their tactics and how much they like you based on any of this. You are just going through a little "test" that helps YOU get that difference, who is interested/worthy and who is not. So now you know who to drop or they drop you. You can't make a guy that is not interested in your suddenly change around and like you and start calling and stepping up the dating behavior.
One guy wrote to me in the very first chat between us: "Maybe one day we will have a coffee together" and his next phrase was: "Can I add you to my friendshiplist on Facebook?" So I thought about his "maybe" and why he is eager to add me on FB not knowing me yet at all and I responded: "Maybe one day". He replied: "hahahahah" ... and vanished... at least he got my hint! lol
Texting has a time and place: to communicate small pieces of info when a conversation is either not necessary or not possible. Texting an *entire conversation* is a moronic waste of time, apparently enjoyed by people who have nothing better to do, and who are not capable of actual conversation. I will never give in to that asinine game again.
so glad I found this channel. Really useful advices, and it helps to sober up from crush and think about what I actually want, what I need, what I deserve... Thank you, Matthew.
Guys who are incessant texters will consume your time without so much as a thank you m'am. They are insecure. Possibly unemployed/retired. They rarely have anything to say. It's all a game. Old guys are the worse. They want a surrogate wife/girlfriend for free. I ignore them. If I am interested I let them know my standards are NOT to waste any time texting. Period.
Why wanting someone to call you who doesn’t puts in the work and calls you by himself, he should when he really likes you. If he doesn’t call, he isn’t that interessed.
He's constantly texting me and even double texts if I don't answer for some hours but he never asks me out. I made it more than clear that I wanna see him again and actually I had the same feeling about him but at this point I just won't respond to him anymore. I'm tired of this texting crap. I dont care how busy you are, you can at least take 1 or 2 hours time to have a walk or whatever.
As hard as it is, go with the guy who wants to spend time with you. Trust me you will have the time of your life and realize that he is the real deal, not the flaker!
Thanks for this video. I've had a guy texting every day, and often, but he is flaky about committing to hanging out. He always has a weekend trip and only wants to do lunch by his job...which is a far and expensive ride for me, btw. I'm going to try these texts. Thanks for sharing!
I think is is great advice for some who just text occasionally, but I don't think there is anything wrong with regularly texting as opposed to calling. If he doesn't want to even hang out that's something that's off. Some people just don't want to talk on the phone, but if the texting is never leading somewhere, you're just a text friend. If you're proactive, he should respond. Even if he is not available or doesn't want to go to something with your friends, a guy who is really interested will try to make alternative plans
these texts help temporarily, they may call you back on the spot, but in the long term, you can't get someone to call you if they don't feel like hearing your voice!
@Sweetie Bellie nothing wrong with a woman being loving its in our nature but men do prey on this behavior and it's the man's fault not the woman. Only when he loses her and she's truly gone and he ends up settling and marrying the bitch from hell is when they realised what they lost.
Angela Simmons Angela the one I've been dating 9months just started acting like this its been months not weeks since he called n the texrijf is less mind you the he is 48 an old man I'm 11yrs younger is rather if someone younger did that id understand he just got dumped I'm to smart for that
I feel everyone’s experience on dating. I’m in that boat. He only like to text. Unless I play his game and tell him that I’m going on a date. Then he re-acts. Each and everyone of us, our time is very valuable. When do we lose her we can’t get it back. So it’s fucked up when somebody takes advantage of your time. But when does karma get them back. And how will they know, I remember what they did to us is only paying them back. Something I notice these past few months is at the group of friends that I have are like me. “Suckers for Love”!
so here is my story: I met a guy like 1 month ago. At the beginning he was very committed and he was always in contact with me. After like 2 weeks he started being flakey. What i realized is that he is ONLY texting, if i call him out of the blue he never answers, i have never been to his place BUT he keeps texting. I never initiate conversations and he is the only one that does it. Why keep texting if you never want to see me? For what ahaha ? I text a day is not going to make him less lonely for 1 moment? Is not giving him sex, is not making him important.... The problem is that i continue to text back even if I know for sure thats the only thing that will come out. 1 text / day without plans on seeing me.
well I'm the type of person is if a man don't answer the phone when I call and all he does is just text I'm going to think he or she is hiding something and don't want that person to hear my voice whoever he's sitting around
Thank u so much for this video. I've been texting with a guy from tinder since mid august, i usually wait 2 keeks or so to meet someone but it's been almost 2 MONTHS. Even with the pandemic, nothing serious has happened in the city we both live, there are few restrictions. I invited him to go for a drink or just meet somewhere and talk face to face he started saying he didn't like rush things? But cmon he's 28 and in his profile he put "looking for a relationship" wtf. I kinda felt for him but now everytime he text me (all day) i feel like what you said a robot texting me or a computer! I lost interest, I'm not gonna wait anymore or apologize to him for saying that talking face to face it's important. I hate everythung jssjj but this video help me so much
@@kristykay4221try 4-5 months of texting with very few phone calls. The one thing I can give credit on is weekly dates in person BUT when not in person communication still has to happen. To me there is no human connection over text… 😢
Having this exact situation with a guy I actually like, before even watching the video I asked him once to call coz we were arguing by text. That was the only time we spoke on the phone. He si back texting and telling he wants something serious etc but dude all "BY TEXT" :D now he's texting me "what do you want me to do?" Like I need to tell him dude call me and ask me out WTFFF.. Baby NEXXTTTT
I have been texting a admirer for 4 days I feel there is something brewing between us he is a neurologist. I really want to hear his voice, and build a bond.
I think we simply need to learrn not to bother with anyone who can barely be bothered with *us*, you and your heart are simply too big to fit in anyone's back pocket. ❤
And it worked I texted him Call Me And he did We spoke like 4 hours on the phone. But the thing is that he is going through this phase of man cave and the dark night of the soul... So he hasn't say anything about a date.
i agree they texted you just 'cause they want to now if you still keep their numbers, just to send you cute messages and keep them in your radar but they dont truly want you in their life
A lot of on line daters texting intermittently. So one guy tells me he travels, goes to school and has a job. Busy guy! He says he is in Europe and I say “bring me back a souvenir”. Then he texts 2 weeks later to say he has returned but has jet lag. Okay. Then 4 months later he texts me to say the souvenir he bought is still in his apartment. I suggest he invite me out so he can give it to me. He says he is offended by my forwardness and I should be flattering him more about buying a souvenir. This from a cyberspace man I have never spoken to. So I thanked him for the souvenir. No reply. I realize some people are shy. I get it. But he is insulted that I suggested he take me on a date to give me the souvenir? I told him I would not be swinging by his place to pick it up (I don’t know him at all!) and he says that’s not what he meant. Okay. So you are just texting me to say you still have the souvenir you bought me 5 months ago. What’s your advice on this one? I just deleted his number. Too complicated for me!
If a guy acts like this, start talking to other guys because more than likely, he’s seeing or talking to someone else, so unless he steps up, don’t just give all your focus to him.
Guy was only texting, I got annoyed, I decided to ask him if he had any plans for saturday, he replied back with a lame excuse, he continued texting and I just stop replying back, why waste my time?
You are so right
the same thing happened to me
But why do they do it? I can't find the reason
They are bored and want attention, also might want to make you hang in there until they decide if they want to see you or not. And if they do it's prolly just to get laid.
Why so little respect? It makes me so mad...
People who just use you as a side texter, do not deserve any attention you have to give him. Good video.
I agree I wuld nvr do that 2 him that chick has nnoooo idea how hard it is 2 come across like matthew n 2 be legit hmmmm
Dayna Martinez I was thinking the same thing :-)
Natalie ☺ 2 do that is #icant team too much
Dayna Martinez I agree. People eventually get tired of that.
Natalie Cherie People who just text don't really want to connect with you on any intimate level.
Drop a guy who doesn't put an effort to see you because you are just wasting your time texting him and to him you are just a diversion to his boredom.
If you ain't trying fuck what did you expect
@@redfather5342 lol did she say that?
TRue, you will regret it if you have kids with him
If a guy likes you he will want to see you, if he is only texting and not making dates, guess what? He doesn't like you.
Not true
Ouch really
what if they're nervous to meet you? like maybe the girl is super pretty but the guy thinks he won't be able to live up to his expectations type of thing
@@Jan-bc3ed I AGREE
Or they are dating others..
Only texting is disrespectful and if you are disrespected you need to walk away. Wish them luck, because they will need a lot of it.
When even Matthew Hussey is getting curved, you know it’s hard out there
Sarah Santiago fr
Lol so true
Rt
Sarah Santiago.. seriously I was thinking the same thing.
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means he wants to be single. he is not interested so leave him alone
Shantell McShane no prob hes seeing someone else, and will come back to you when it fails, but still just someone to kill time with, so just bullshit, next!
he is gay.
@@chuckie826 makes sense
Hell yeh
To me if a guy don't reach out, especially in the beginning, I'm out. I've been burnt in love and learned a valuable lesson: better be single than in a toxic relationship.
Me: I miss your voice, we haven't spoken in so long
Guy: * sends three words voice clip then keeps texting *
Maria Oca - did you say anything to him about it?
Maria Oca haha
Hahaha omg. Such jerks
😂😂😂
Hahahaha! Oh my gosh! 😂
Talking on the phone gets in the way of them texting other people while they are texting you.
omg this is amazing
Exactttllyyyyyyyyyy
Their brain is with someone else, can't concentrate on you for more than 3 minutes.
They can still text other people while on the phone though.
Trash a guy who only text you, he's not worth it.
What makes you say that
@@DemonRose69 you sound entitled maybe you need to wake up and smell the coffee
@@redfather5342 It's not a matter of being entitled. If I'm seeing a man and sleeping with him, a phone call is necessary here and there. Honestly. Would you want to give your body to someone who you can't call in the event of an emergency? If the answer is no, you have respect for yourself then.
@@Khrystal-wl6kz you can't 'give' your body to nobody what kind of retarded logic do you have also just because some guy is fucking doesn't mean he owes you anything
Haha true and then they will be no guy left
When a guy texts me a third time without having called, I respond by saying,, "who is this,? I think you have the wrong person." If he responds by texting I don't answer. Ever. I need the texting to be the exception, not the normal mode of conversation. Know your worth. You are worthy of a phone call and more.
I agree, only I go a little farther, only one text just to make sure I know the person. If not no more text.
Tanya Carson I'm sure your still single with how you commented lol
Ashley Ramillano read the previous comments. Even when you do ask for a call. You might not get one or you may get called for a short period of time and then the guy still isn't interested
You madam are a savage and i love you
Tanya Carson amen..
I think the problem is that guys like this generally won't change their behavior. They do it with the intent of keeping their options open, not just because they're flakey. Don't waste your time y'all, not even worth playing that game. Calling him out or even insinuating a phone call won't inspire him to try harder. These guys are THE WORST- apathetic as all hell and use you as a fall-back because your attention is convenient. Run for the hills the second you notice the pattern. You don't owe him no damn explanation.
N0LANI trues up. thank you 😀😀
N0LANI yea! The best way is just simply dont reply, leaving him like an idiot. I was dealing with a guy like that too, we girls can try give initative ONCE, like letting him know you are free & if theres no more action but just texting, stop replying. He uses you for his backup but we have the choice not being his backup, ill go meet some other guys until he proactively asks me out again.
chuckie826 You'll end up missing out on otherwise great guys. Communication is key in any relationship. Men are not mind readers and not all women are the same. Some women feel a guy is too pushy if he calls her. At least give him the chance to try.
I did it out of insecurence, now i feel like a horrible person :'(
N0LANI word. For, word. You nail it!
Alot of older men are starting to do this....40's 50's, 60's. It's outrageous.
Matt just text the guy " my fingers hurt", you will definitely get a response
True fact! I can't stand it either!
Tell me about it!!!😤
They can't hold a conversation. What a shame?!!
Means they’re married. Pathetic men!
Dealing with one of these guys now. And he's always saying "I want to see you do this..." "We should do this..." "I wish blablabla so we could blablabla" and just never makes plans and when I try to he's flaky as fuck. It sucks. But I'm moving on now. Like you said, it's not attractive and it's just a bore.
Definitely the worst. Sometimes I don't understand why those types of guys even bother. I guess just for their own gratification.
Sydney Dively same here :(
Sydney I literally just done this to a guy this very minute. I await to see if I even hear from him tomorrow! As they say ......NEXT!!!!!
@Diana Art xD
He was dating others sorry .
Just ended this with a man that was elusive about getting together. Wished him a good day and good luck. Im no ones pen pal.
Unfortunately, the actual conversation is becoming a lost art.
2019 "now non existent
Imagine it Now
Yes it is
If you want to talk so badly go talk to him in person
I don't think I have the energy to go the extra mile like in a relationship if you only text me when your bored. If you don't like me enough to want to call me or hang out with me, why should I even bother inviting you places and texting you. If someone truly likes you, you shouldn't have to pull teeth for them to do more than just texting you. It's a waste of time. There's someone out there who would love to talk/hang out with you. That's just how I feel.
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That is what men thinking about women.Congrats u just spoke what men thought about women behaviour.
No one gives a damn about how u feel
Lazy, lazy.. people just don't want to move. Date a potatoe
They're are many reasons why he texts and doesn't call:
1. He has been staying with a very strict order of nuns who have asked him to join them in a vow silence. Texting is his only option.
2. He knows the Sister Wives would get jealous if they were to overhear.
3. He is green and red colorblind so he tries to call but keeps hitting "End" instead.
4. There is a really bad echo in his mom's basement.
5. He is hard of hearing since that insane Yanni concert and can only shout now when speaking.
6. He is a phone calling addict and he's on Step 5 of his recovery. One Day at a Time!
7. Guinness World Record Holder for Number of Marbles in Mouth.
8. Afraid to reveal he talks like Mickey Mouse on helium.
9. Shanking his cell mate means no phone calls, only texting, as punishment.
10. He's only setting the bar as low as you allow!!!
I laughed so hard, I can't lol
TheShabby Attic ahahaga echo in his Mom's basement and marbles 😂 lmfao
he will stop txt then
TheShabby Attic bravo 😂😂😂😂
This was so fun 😂😂
I don't think it is really worth putting efforts for someone who communicates to you like that. It means that they are really not that into you. Not worth the effort to win them over.
I love your post. I agree 100,00%
Well put, don't waste your time on someone who doesn't care enough or respect you enough to want to talk to you.
Love that you specified how many "W"s to use in "yawwwwn." So precise!
he was joking! you can put as many as you like
This is EVERY guy I've dealt with that I've met from online dating sites. It's pathetic. I've tried the cute flirty way & I've tried the nasty way that you mentioned lol It's very depressing that people nowadays lack humanity/respect for a person & behave cowardly. Thanks Matt!! Glad you know how to communicate 😄
Exactly. This is why I don't waste my time with dating sites. Lames
I thought this was only me,I’m kind of relieved that I’m not the only one..EVERY single guy that I have spoken to from online dating is exactly this way.im done with it all now,iv spent so much time with online dating.
yOUR NOT THE ONLY ONE.SAME HERE!
IS like a virus that spread,They are crazy,
I was a nice girl,saying ok text during work,but at least one day per wek after woork,let saay thursday after 22 pm talk.
I was called rude be ci wanna talk.i blocked them.Idont tolerate any bs anymore.i cut in raw meat.Next!
Online dating are the chatters... All they do is texting! The Texter,! And they have long list of supplies 😂😂😂
You’ve got to realize to where men are coming from has the guy been rejected because that can really bring him down a lot it’s awful to feel rejected so maybe that’s why guys don’t try
Do not tolerate someone who's just looking for penpals-you are potentially enabling a very unhealthy person who needs to take initiative getting help for their issues. I once texted back and fourth with a 38 year old guy for a year. It started to become disturbing realising that someone whose old enough to be married with children (another reason to not engage he may just be cheating 👀👀👀) had the habit of a broke teenager addicted to his screen. I stopped responding to his messages and he tried to contact me again, but I let it fizzle out, I'd given him more than enough time to initiate a date.
It's a sign that person is unhealthy, socially awkward or thinks it's okay to engage with women he isn't interested in to boost his ego (UNACCEPTABLE). He needs to figure a way to stop relying on his phone for a friendship or relationship. Stop enabling them and stop responding if they won't meet you in person or talk on the phone. That person has something off about them and you don't need to prop them up with a pen pal thing, they need to work on themselves or whatevers stopping them from interacting with not just you but other people in real life.
This video and the comments here really opened my eyes.....I finally called her up... thank you
When they text with those long gaps, normally they are dating other people.
or they tell you they are on business trips expanding their business (when really probably with that wife that they married 3 years ago and bragged about online and forgot about the remark. I find it hard to believe someone can marry a 2nd time and divorce that fast).
No it means they dont have manners! Simple!
I always texted right away wen i got a text. But i never got a response wen he red it. Thats rude ! And not well mannered. But now i give him a taste of his own medicine. Im done treated like shit.
Absolutely!!!!
I believe this comment cause it's from a guy
What is considered a long gap?
I don’t like playing games. But for the sake of it, when the ball is in my court, I’m fair and check it back. But when he has the ball and suddenly takes eons to play again.... I take my ball and go home. No explanation no further contact. Just go.
Glad I watch this video man I swear this whole texting epidemic is absolutely repulsive I hope as human beings we will eventually move past this. Most people who only text all the time are usually just terrified of face-to-face communication/confrontation it really is a form of social phobia best thing you could ever do is just to not feed into it whatever you do do not text the person back if that’s all they want to do is just text.
I've always loved that Matthew gives women power. A lot of people accuse him of training women to give men what they want, but he's not. He setting a standard for focusing attention on the men that deserve it. How many women waste their time on people who don't give them anything. Yes, he talks about doing things that make a man attracted to you, but he also makes sure you know that you should never put up with bs from someone who hasn't done anything for you. He stresses having a life and pursuing goals before looking for a man because, incidentally, that will make you more attractive anyway. His videos have literally changed my approach to dating and showed me I should never tolerate being treated badly consistently because there are plenty more fish in the sea.
It's 5 years now
Hope you found peace and love too.
They should find a person who also like texting date so they can have texting date together!!
I dunno why but this really made me laugh 😂 lol!
Girl.....this is so funny 😂😂
Ikr? Why the hell won’t they just find someone who is just as insecure? Lol
@@KurosakiLuvar01 how are they insecure?
How about just ignoring his text
completely
Nope that's not the right way. You should call him out. If you don't do that, he will never know it was his inaction which made you drift away. He will think you found someone else
I've spoken to him about it twice. He calls maybe 1x a week rediculous nd he got back n touch with me smh... He text me gn last night I never texted bk. He hasn't called or texted yet. Maybe he gets the picture sad too bcuz we had great times together 😅😢
I could have sworn you were going to say "I've noticed something about you...you only text me when you are bored" at 2:48 lol maybe I am just a straight savage but I have texted that before and was even thanked for my honesty
love that lol
Must b nice
Dee Speaks. _ no, they mistake niceness for weakness.
Thank GOD I found this video. I thought I was the only one experiencing this and thought maybe I was doing something wrong. To be honest with me no shits are given anymore, I've just stopped replying to him. :)
GracefulDanny - good for you.👏 his loss.
GracefulDanny omg agreed
GracefulDanny hi
Am in thesame mess
I thought the same thing. I just found this video. I'm gonna back off from him. He's a waste of my time. It's gonna hurt but better sooner than later.
Wait. Someone blew off Matthew? What a foolish woman. Lol
The problem is that she's already in love. When women are in love, they become straight up blind to everyone else. It’s like tunnel vision. lol
@@brittany1484 this is soo true
I agree!
Right! Is there hope for any of us
@Esha So true.
I am a grown woman who grew up before there were text messages or answering machines.
I met a guy at a show last week. We chatted for a while and exchanged numbers. Then we parted company.
He sent me a text message at 3 am “are you still up?”
Next few messages were long questions about my career, personal life, etc. I felt as if I were filling out a job application. If the guy was truly interested in getting to know me he should have written “I am interested in seeing you again and getting to know you”. How about you? May I call you?
The concept of meeting up for a date is a lost art. This man is about 45 years old. If he does not know how to ask a woman out in a date, he is a very poor prospect.
Truth be told, dating is not a “magic meeting” guarantee for the man or the woman.
I feel like a lot of guys want to hook up or just want to message when they think they are going to get some “action”.
So lazy and such a turn-off.
Most of my boyfriends I had known quite a while before the “magic” happened.
A few cute text messages then a drink at my place?
I don’t t think so.
When you have to beg for a guy to call you, what do you think it will be like later down the line? Save yourself the time and just move on!
I'm a guy trying to get the girl i want and I have to say Matthew hussey you have helped me so much with your advice , I just reverse your videos from the girl wanting to get the guy to the guy wanting to get the girl.
Lol good advice Mathew I just texted him “I don’t like texting, if you want to talk call me” he calls me 8 hrs later! I never answered and will never reply to his text again!
Ugh tose types of guys are so annoying. I had a guy who texted me for 4 months and we only went out once.. despite him saying he really wanted to get to know me better and that he was interested, he kept rescheduling our dates because he said he was too busy with work.. but he never stopped texting me everyday all day. So I decided I wasn't gonna give him the time of my day anymore and started not answering his texts or distancing myself.. and he gradually but surely disappeared. Guess he just needed to feel that somebody cared about him which is kind of sad when I think about it.. but still, I learnt something from this at least!
saraiscixiri Texts you all day but you never meet up. Could he possibly not had much money, been unemployed? Hmm
saraiscixiri I'm kind of dating this guy right now that he don't text me you don't call me unless he needs a ride or something like that this is been going on for 2 weeks he's change Among the Sleep towards me he don't answer his phone when I call him he don't reply to any texts to me unless it's to do for him
I've been dating this guy for like 8 months and at first everything was all good but now he's changed you don't want to come over in my apartment he doesn't answer any text messages doesn't answer any phone calls and if I do call him he gets really upset I don't know what to do and when he does come over it's always at night time for sex and he leaves and goes home
Cindy James I'm afraid it's time to move on. It sounds like you want more than a casual relationship with him. This guy is just not prepared to offer that.
Sariscixini must have been the same man i met LOL
4 weeks of texting after 2 dates turned ugly. I expressed my concerns ,that texting is a turn off to me.. I expressed hearing his voice would be better. Called him my penpal. Finally call it off by blocking him . Lol. Selfish , manipulative as he was dating others and was playing games apparently with me.
I am currently in this texting situation and I came across with this video. It breaks my heart, but what the video and comments here said is true.
I should move on and make other opportunities elsewhere. I thought we had real chemistry. 😥
The same. It was only texting. It was fun, but it was too long. I cut him off. I do not think he will ever call me. Lately he has told me, that he actuallt doesn't like to text so much. So why didn't he call me? Why did he text with me so long? Out of boredom. I pressume
Same here.. Since for few months I'm in texting relationship. I don't know what name shall I actually be given to this relationship.
Don't think people realise how hard this is
I'm actually in a texting situation rn. He says he's terrified with calling or video calls. So I respected it and never asked for it since then but I'm getting tired now 😔
i refuse to b the backburner plan. Next!
Yes! Ppl like that are so annoying and full of sh*t! I dealt with a guy who texted me everyday for a month straight but when I asked him to meet up or to talk with me on the phone he was all of a sudden "too busy." Then after disappearing for two months he started texting me out of the blue like nothing happened. Wtf? Turns out he had a pregnant girlfriend surprise surprise -_-.The best way to deal with those people is to leave them alone because most of the time they are just playing games.
Thank you so much for this video. It helped me to stop a 'messages' relationship, where nothing was happening, except messages.
I am going through this right now and I do not have the balls to say these things to him so I'm just going to forget about it lol
And being cold and distant will make him just go after someone else. Stay single...less frustrating 👍
😂 same, I literally have no balls.
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Just tell him "texting is void and virtual, if you are interested let's set a date to meet in person soon". Quit being afraid to say what you want. If he doesn't respond or say yes, you have your answer and can move on to someone who is mature and interested. Set the bar from the get go.
so true..
OMG just wanna thank you a mill for this helpful video. Met a guy 2 wks. ago& he was being more than flaky w/ only the sporadic txts.( which I told I don't like). I watched this video on Sun& called him out like you advised. Basically saying lets meet. He was taking long intervals rtng. my texts but eventually said he was already out somewhere watching football & we'd either have to meet later( On a Sunday, mind you)or we could link up nxt. week.... I THINK NOT!..... I did what you said & gave no reply.... Well now he's even calling and leaving voice mails.. LOL....I'm no longer interested cause this proved that he was indeed a jerk content on stringing me along since he thought I liked him... There are plenty of decent fish in the sea, I'll just be patient. I will also be exerting coldness quickly if recognize any pattern of flakiness fr a guy who is not worth my time... THANK U, THANK U, THANK U
sana cole It sounds like he didn't want to come on too keen in the beginning. Guys can often end up getting rejected for showing too much interest. It's difficult to get the balance right as each person is different.
I'd say if he's making effort, might be worth reconsidering.
Advice worked Matthew! After texting sporadically for months, I sent “ ….you loooove texting” suggestion. Got an actual phone call minutes after!!
Glad it worked for you!! I sent the guy the exact text but he hasn't called yet after 12+ hrs. I am happy this text helped me reveal his true intentions
This video came in the right time, I cant handle more texting hahaha its so boring..
I met a guy online and after he texted me a few days, I became annoyed that he lacked initiative. So, I texted him back, the "You looooooove to text," message. His response: "Is that okay?" Really dude... Ugh, such a turn-off. That was a signal that he was planning to pull that time-wasting nonsense for a very long time. It's a great way to weed out the time wasters from people that are serious about getting to know you.
You do relize texting is faster and more efficient right
HAHA. I love that you said "this guy sucks". Love you!
He may suck but you swallow
They are texting because they are spending time with others , kick them out of your life… I did one week a go and I’m so great full of myself. We are not break time
Most of this advice kind of doesn't really get to the bottom of what the problem is. It is separating the guys that are interested and will put in the work of a relationship from the ones that don't. None of those "trick texts" do anything, nobody changes their tactics and how much they like you based on any of this. You are just going through a little "test" that helps YOU get that difference, who is interested/worthy and who is not. So now you know who to drop or they drop you. You can't make a guy that is not interested in your suddenly change around and like you and start calling and stepping up the dating behavior.
One guy wrote to me in the very first chat between us: "Maybe one day we will have a coffee together" and his next phrase was: "Can I add you to my friendshiplist on Facebook?" So I thought about his "maybe" and why he is eager to add me on FB not knowing me yet at all and I responded: "Maybe one day". He replied: "hahahahah" ... and vanished... at least he got my hint! lol
Mireille Claire LOL you're awesome. Well done!
Wtf
Story of my life Matthew...if i hear the "ive been busy with work" thing one more time...its gonna get ugly lol. I love your content SO much.
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On his WhatsApp number
Very Powerful spell man and kind
Here is his WhatsApp number
Does the girl realize what a great guy she lost? 😆😉 I adore his kindness and that smile!
Texting has a time and place: to communicate small pieces of info when a conversation is either not necessary or not possible. Texting an *entire conversation* is a moronic waste of time, apparently enjoyed by people who have nothing better to do, and who are not capable of actual conversation. I will never give in to that asinine game again.
what if you send the "i miss your voice" and he says the same back to you....then nothing, lol.
also don't answer every text he sends. be mysterious.
Lol. Happened to me. I called him out on it. He says that's a fair take. And we're still back to square one
OMG...this is SO what I was dealing with the past 5 months with a guy...and he's SO spot on.
I met a guy on Tinder who kept messaging and messaging.... but didn't ask me out or call me. This video made me feel better about blocking him.
so glad I found this channel. Really useful advices, and it helps to sober up from crush and think about what I actually want, what I need, what I deserve... Thank you, Matthew.
As soon as l realized this was happening to me l decided to cut him out of my life. The end.
Guys who are incessant texters will consume your time without so much as a thank you m'am. They are insecure. Possibly unemployed/retired. They rarely have anything to say. It's all a game. Old guys are the worse. They want a surrogate wife/girlfriend for free. I ignore them. If I am interested I let them know my standards are NOT to waste any time texting. Period.
Watched this because I was looking for new ideas. Ive tried all these and nothing really changed. Shows you cant really change a person.
There's a surprise twist
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Why wanting someone to call you who doesn’t puts in the work and calls you by himself, he should when he really likes you. If he doesn’t call, he isn’t that interessed.
He's constantly texting me and even double texts if I don't answer for some hours but he never asks me out. I made it more than clear that I wanna see him again and actually I had the same feeling about him but at this point I just won't respond to him anymore. I'm tired of this texting crap. I dont care how busy you are, you can at least take 1 or 2 hours time to have a walk or whatever.
Maby he only likes you as a friend
@@redfather5342 He was into me but I rejected him cause he started being creepy damn this is a long time ago I forgot this exists haha
As hard as it is, go with the guy who wants to spend time with you. Trust me you will have the time of your life and realize that he is the real deal, not the flaker!
Thanks for this video. I've had a guy texting every day, and often, but he is flaky about committing to hanging out. He always has a weekend trip and only wants to do lunch by his job...which is a far and expensive ride for me, btw. I'm going to try these texts. Thanks for sharing!
I think is is great advice for some who just text occasionally, but I don't think there is anything wrong with regularly texting as opposed to calling. If he doesn't want to even hang out that's something that's off. Some people just don't want to talk on the phone, but if the texting is never leading somewhere, you're just a text friend. If you're proactive, he should respond. Even if he is not available or doesn't want to go to something with your friends, a guy who is really interested will try to make alternative plans
This is actually my life right now lol
I don't need dating advice, I just watch the videos for Mr Hussey. Yummmm.
So recognizable... I've been in something like this for a few months now, but it's driving me crazy!
This is my situation right now...oh god this video is a sign from you...I swear I'm going to respect what I will listen here. Let's press play😊
these texts help temporarily, they may call you back on the spot, but in the long term, you can't get someone to call you if they don't feel like hearing your voice!
I would certainly not keep Matthew as stand by. And I surmise almost none would.
Yeah who was that crazy woman?!
@Sweetie Bellie nothing wrong with a woman being loving its in our nature but men do prey on this behavior and it's the man's fault not the woman. Only when he loses her and she's truly gone and he ends up settling and marrying the bitch from hell is when they realised what they lost.
All of your advice worked 100%on my relationship . Thank you!
I am defiantly going through this right now, thank you Matt now I have a game plan :)
Those eyes...His Voice....That smile! too much for me in this video lol Also enjoy his humour. Always great advice for us ladies another great video!.
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this is really helpful. long gaps between texts.
I love the idea of saying "yawwn". So smart and funny too.
1 whole week and only text no voice. WTF
Angela Simmons Angela the one I've been dating 9months just started acting like this its been months not weeks since he called n the texrijf is less mind you the he is 48 an old man I'm 11yrs younger is rather if someone younger did that id understand he just got dumped I'm to smart for that
He can't talk on phone because his wife or gf might hear him
Dealing with this now and I don’t think I can deal with it any longer ugh
I feel everyone’s experience on dating. I’m in that boat. He only like to text. Unless I play his game and tell him that I’m going on a date. Then he re-acts. Each and everyone of us, our time is very valuable. When do we lose her we can’t get it back. So it’s fucked up when somebody takes advantage of your time. But when does karma get them back. And how will they know, I remember what they did to us is only paying them back. Something I notice these past few months is at the group of friends that I have are like me. “Suckers for Love”!
so here is my story: I met a guy like 1 month ago. At the beginning he was very committed and he was always in contact with me. After like 2 weeks he started being flakey. What i realized is that he is ONLY texting, if i call him out of the blue he never answers, i have never been to his place BUT he keeps texting. I never initiate conversations and he is the only one that does it. Why keep texting if you never want to see me? For what ahaha ? I text a day is not going to make him less lonely for 1 moment? Is not giving him sex, is not making him important.... The problem is that i continue to text back even if I know for sure thats the only thing that will come out. 1 text / day without plans on seeing me.
Youre too good for that
I called him and said I just call you to say hi and at the end asked him what about to meet each other and he accepted 😉😊
well I'm the type of person is if a man don't answer the phone when I call and all he does is just text I'm going to think he or she is hiding something and don't want that person to hear my voice whoever he's sitting around
Thank u so much for this video. I've been texting with a guy from tinder since mid august, i usually wait 2 keeks or so to meet someone but it's been almost 2 MONTHS. Even with the pandemic, nothing serious has happened in the city we both live, there are few restrictions. I invited him to go for a drink or just meet somewhere and talk face to face he started saying he didn't like rush things? But cmon he's 28 and in his profile he put "looking for a relationship" wtf. I kinda felt for him but now everytime he text me (all day) i feel like what you said a robot texting me or a computer! I lost interest, I'm not gonna wait anymore or apologize to him for saying that talking face to face it's important. I hate everythung jssjj but this video help me so much
Two months of texting my lord
@@kristykay4221try 4-5 months of texting with very few phone calls. The one thing I can give credit on is weekly dates in person BUT when not in person communication still has to happen. To me there is no human connection over text… 😢
Having this exact situation with a guy I actually like, before even watching the video I asked him once to call coz we were arguing by text. That was the only time we spoke on the phone. He si back texting and telling he wants something serious etc but dude all "BY TEXT" :D now he's texting me "what do you want me to do?" Like I need to tell him dude call me and ask me out WTFFF.. Baby NEXXTTTT
I have been texting a admirer for 4 days I feel there is something brewing between us he is a neurologist. I really want to hear his voice, and build a bond.
I soooooo (see what I did there?) needed this video!!
i don't even have anyone that texts me but i love your videos I always learn something..and i'm keeping hope alive.
I clicked on this one by accident but if I had some drongo like that texting me I'd just respond with "Dafuq you want?" Problem Solved.......
I think we simply need to learrn not to bother with anyone who can barely be bothered with *us*, you and your heart are simply too big to fit in anyone's back pocket. ❤
And it worked
I texted him Call Me
And he did
We spoke like 4 hours on the phone.
But the thing is that he is going through this phase of man cave and the dark night of the soul...
So he hasn't say anything about a date.
i agree they texted you just 'cause they want to now if you still keep their numbers, just to send you cute messages and keep them in your radar but they dont truly want you in their life
Can you make a video on People leading you on.
Your so insightful Matthew! Why can't more men be like you!!
A lot of on line daters texting intermittently.
So one guy tells me he travels, goes to school and has a job. Busy guy!
He says he is in Europe and I say “bring me back a souvenir”.
Then he texts 2 weeks later to say he has returned but has jet lag.
Okay.
Then 4 months later he texts me to say the souvenir he bought is still in his apartment.
I suggest he invite me out so he can give it to me.
He says he is offended by my forwardness and I should be flattering him more about buying a souvenir.
This from a cyberspace man I have never spoken to. So I thanked him for the souvenir.
No reply.
I realize some people are shy. I get it. But he is insulted that I suggested he take me on a date to give me the souvenir?
I told him I would not be swinging by his place to pick it up (I don’t know him at all!) and he says that’s not what he meant. Okay. So you are just texting me to say you still have the souvenir you bought me 5 months ago.
What’s your advice on this one?
I just deleted his number. Too complicated for me!
This video would have come in handy several weeks ago. But better late than never. And you were THAT GUY?!?!? NO WAY!
I hate guy who only text, I don't bother,I will surely leave