MENTAL ILLNESS MYTHS

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  • @Katrinberndt
    @Katrinberndt 6 років тому +344

    "Thinking positively will cure your depression and anxiety. It's just a negative mindset." :))

    • @alisham4681
      @alisham4681 6 років тому

      Katrin Berndt ur very pale

    • @somedude172
      @somedude172 6 років тому +30

      I hate that so much. Like, you think 'i haven't tried that? It just makes me feel like the person saying it thinks I'm stupid tbh

    • @siljere7636
      @siljere7636 6 років тому +11

      When I told my mom about my depression and that my dad and I have the same diagnosis, she replied "You and your dad would have a much easier life if you had thought as positively as I do!"

    • @tsuki7168
      @tsuki7168 6 років тому +2

      I hate it when people tell me that. I'm always trying to be positive but sometimes it's kinda hard. I love your videos btw❤

    • @malinforsman3481
      @malinforsman3481 6 років тому +4

      Ooh! I hate that one. It’s very easy too think positively when your not having a depression, not so easy when you’re in one. And sure there are days when you’re manage to thinking positively but then comes the negative thoughts again.

  • @beefy74
    @beefy74 6 років тому +127

    My mom is a veteran who has PTSD but not because she's a veteran, it's because of sexual abuse in the military. It's a horrible misuse of power and it's so fucked up how she had to live with these things without having any help.

    • @liziuhh
      @liziuhh 6 років тому +16

      alyssa I'm sorry she had to go through that, no one deserves that kind of treatment. I hope she is doing better now

    • @centaursapocalypse7259
      @centaursapocalypse7259 6 років тому +9

      That's horrible! Sexual abusers are straight up some of the worst people alive. I hope she's getting help with this now and I hope that her abusers get time behind bars one day.

    • @dirkeldritch4880
      @dirkeldritch4880 6 років тому +7

      Thats really disgusting. I hope your mom is doing well and I hope she's getting/ has gotten the support she needs

  • @rovena996
    @rovena996 6 років тому +61

    People think having depression means you're sad at all times. Or that you cry A LOT. For me depression is more of a long period of an emotionally numb state rather than a constant sadness. And it's actually very difficult for me to cry. Depression is different for everybody who has it. And YES people with depression can be happy and laugh sometimes. That doesn't mean they're faking or cured.

  • @smidgen
    @smidgen 6 років тому +79

    I'm a senior in high school and the myth I hear perpetuated the most (usually by teachers) is that kids with anxiety and/or panic disorder are faking or exaggerating their symptoms for special treatment, extensions on homework assignments, to get out of doing tests, miss class time, get attention, etc. It's incredibly frustrating as I've had multiple anxiety disorders for most of my life, and I've been forced to miss so much school. I wish these teachers could know and feel just how humiliating it is to be pulled out of class multiple times a week because an anxiety attack is happening and to have to miss out on a pretty large portion of your education over something that you cannot control.

    • @camcam794
      @camcam794 6 років тому +8

      midge this is main reason why I hated school. I would have anxiety attacks during a certain class, and my teacher thought I was faking. I finally had to be committed my senior year of high school because the stress was to much. I ended up going to a high school where you go at your own pace, and only take the classes you need to graduate, no homework either. It was a breath of fresh air, and I graduated in 3 months

  • @heytogrey
    @heytogrey 6 років тому +66

    It is frustrating to see, both in popular culture and in conversations, how clueless and flippant so many people are about OCD. I am so tired of seeing/hearing, "I like to organize my movies in alphabetical order! I must have OCD!" Or really any situation wherein someone likes to be neat or organized. It's suggesting that people with OCD simply have the "burden" of being tidy or organized. No matter what I say, I cannot get people to understand that you do not need to have OCD to be a very neat/organized person, and lots of people with OCD are not even organized people. And even if they are, having a clean house does not solve their problem.

    • @madi846
      @madi846 6 років тому +3

      heytogrey yesss omg! or the myth that you ether have OCD or NOTHING, as opposed to having OCD, or obsessions, or compulsions, or nothing. so many people just assume that you have to have both for it to qualify as any type of disorder/illness.

    • @justicecass8237
      @justicecass8237 6 років тому +3

      heytogrey As someone with diagnosed OCD, I wholeheartedly agree with everything you said 💕

    • @mediumraretunafish9621
      @mediumraretunafish9621 6 років тому +4

      I KNOW! My friend kept saying it like "I'm so organized I must have OCD" and someone ended up saying something to her and she was like "It's what a the cool kids are saying", it's just, no, it's not a cool word for describing being organized. She doesn't have OCD and doesn't understand organization isn't OCD

    • @shelbycreed
      @shelbycreed 5 років тому

      Ok so I have OCD-my room is ALWAYS a mess but it doesn’t bother me because my OCD comes from other things-repetition, speech issues, sensorsy issues etc. sometimes will say”oh well you aren’t organized so you can’t have OCD”that really upsets me. BUT that said, I really don’t have an issue with people saying things like “could ya take you’re shoes off when ya come in-I’m kinda OCD lol” it’s ignorant and usually I’ll correct them but it’s not really that deep. 9/10 they don’t mean it and idk I just don’t care that much ya knowledge

  • @SasquatchSlushie
    @SasquatchSlushie 6 років тому +56

    Thank you for the myth you addressed in this video about schizophrenia, I had a close family member who suffered with this mental illness and he was so gentle and calm his entire life and was never violent but others always treated him like a ticking time bomb and much of the family was scared of him for no reason but believing that myth. Thank you for reminding everyone that schizophrenia does not = violence.

    • @lepioptera
      @lepioptera 6 років тому +1

      Yes, this! I've had problems with psychosis and hallucinations for several years and was misdiagnosed with schizophrenia. I could just feel both friends, family and most of all strangers you meet treating me like a ticking bomb, very sure to never ever bringing it up, and if I did, they looked like they were screaming inside "She's gonna kill me!! RUN!!"

  • @marshmallowpie42
    @marshmallowpie42 6 років тому +111

    "Depressed people are just lazy. You're just having a bad day etc." A good answer to this is (that I read somewhere) "Saying you know what it's like to have depression when you have sometimes felt sad/depressed, is like saying "I know how you feel" to a person who's had their arm severed, while you have had a cut on your finger."

    • @markbaumbargt3430
      @markbaumbargt3430 6 років тому +4

      marshmallowpie42 welcome to the wide world of Trump who has stated that he knows what PTS is because he went to military school.

  • @Justmeandmybffs
    @Justmeandmybffs 6 років тому +42

    "You don't have autism, because you make eye contact/have any social skills/don't have an obvious 'special interest' etc." I luckily haven't had many of those comments but still. While A: autism is a spectrum; Some people are better in social situations/noisy environments or whatever. & B: autism is different in women; Women tend to be good actors/copycats and are better in pretending they're fine.
    I recommend a video from the channel Invisible i about autism in women (also her other videos about autism and stuff).

    • @tomfoolery2856
      @tomfoolery2856 4 роки тому +1

      It's really unfortunate how a lot of women are undiagnosed/misdiagnosed just because they don't fit the criteria most men with autism fit
      It's truly frustrating just to be told you "just have traits but not enough for a diagnosis"

  • @miabellkl
    @miabellkl 6 років тому +121

    “People with anorexia chose to go on a diet and get thin” - trust me, I really didn’t Sharon

    • @chilip7386
      @chilip7386 6 років тому

      Mia well I mean you did CHOOSE to lose weight because you felt like you had too. It’s still a choice but a hard one.

    • @elipetrova821
      @elipetrova821 6 років тому +14

      @Andy Sutcliff - Are you out of your mind? It's not a "choice", It's a mental illness. Seeing you body as fat when the reality is different - body dysmorphia. Feeling panic attacks whenever you eat or drink something. Does ALL that sounds like a "choice" to you? I'll give you a hint - it's f*cking not.

    • @miabellkl
      @miabellkl 6 років тому +13

      i literally suffered with severe depression which morphed into an eating disorder. i did not even want to lose weight, i liked how i looked before.

  • @liziuhh
    @liziuhh 6 років тому +194

    The myth I get the most is from my dad and it's about my depression. My dad doesn't believe in depression, he doesn't believe that anything is wrong with me, he just thinks I'm hard-headed. If I'm having a good day, he'll bring it up in arguments we have, basically saying "you were happy yesterday, you don't have depression." Same about my anxiety, "you did fine in public yesterday, you don't have anxiety."
    Another thing I have gotten, not just from my dad, but other people, is when I'm having good days as far as my anxiety goes, so I'm not anxious in situations where I normally would be anxious (like the gym), and if someone asks me to do something (like going to the gym), they will say "the gym didn't make you anxious last time, you won't be anxious about it anymore" it's frustrating
    Also, happy birthday, Sarah ❤

    • @rainestar82
      @rainestar82 6 років тому +11

      My dad does the same thing, in addition to saying I "just need to push through it". He has his own anxieties but he ignores them. I also get "stop being lazy" when I go through a severe bout of depression and end up just sleeping constantly. He also pulls the "see you did it, its no big deal" thing, even though I may have been close to a panic attack. I 100% get that frustration, all I can say is just keep trying to communicate what it's like. I finally got through to my dad about my depression by explaining it in pure scientific terms since thats how he thinks, and he eased up a little. Hoping good days outweigh the bad for you.

    • @liziuhh
      @liziuhh 6 років тому +3

      Victoria Ferguson same to you!
      My dad grew up in a really rough situation and has never experienced depression or anxiety, so he doesn't believe in it at all. I've been talking about it since I was 15 to him, and I have sort of gotten through to him, but he still doesn't get it. He's very closed minded about... basically everything, so it's hard to get through to him. He still doesn't believe that I have BED, depression, anxiety, paranoia, or that I'm pansexual. Trying to explain myself to him is literally so draining. I'm just trying to talk to my parent about my problems and he makes everything into an argument because he doesn't believe me completely. I'm glad someone understand that feeling at least 😂

    • @maddie4423
      @maddie4423 6 років тому +4

      Yeah, the thing is with my social anxiety not all social situations make me anxious. For example, doing a speaking presentation at school will most likely make me have a panic attack but if I’m at a concert and I’m standing then I’m generally alright.

    • @alex-who7262
      @alex-who7262 6 років тому +2

      lizium _ same ugh

  • @jasmineuitto9412
    @jasmineuitto9412 6 років тому +31

    As someone who has struggled with anorexia/disordered eating for quite a few years, it’s really frustrating to hear all the myths about eating disorders. One of the most common (and most harmful) is that you have to be thin to have an eating disorder. When I’m at a healthier weight, my struggles with food/body image aren’t taken as seriously. This also goes with the myth/assumption that in order to have an eating disorder you have to be starving yourself or throwing up. Honestly there are so many myths about eating disorders that I could go on for days, but many of them are so ingrained in society/culture/media that it wouldn’t make a difference

    • @proudbooklion2094
      @proudbooklion2094 6 років тому +2

      This is immensely true, now I am skinny and when I was in the midst of it I was skinnier but I was faced with comments "like you're already skinny" like your body size is NOT an indication (at least in most cases) of your mental health. Oh and even my current psychologist questioned me when I said I had struggled and was much healthier because of my body size. "You're already skinny, naturally" like dude not all of us want to be skinny, some want control, other comfort, sometimes it's used as coping of traumatic events and even more. But, seriously disordered eating can be deadly and that goes for all body sizes, especially the ones that are refused or afraid to seek treatment as they are bigger than the stereotype.

  • @naife1000
    @naife1000 6 років тому +88

    A lot of people in my life don’t understand my panic attacks. They think I don’t have them because in their eyes I’ve never had one in front of them. I actually have, I just hide it well when I’m not in the comfort of my own home. At home I can have the full on pacing, hyperventilating, shaking, making weird noises (lmao) but when I’m out or with friends I can hide it well. People don’t think physical symptoms exist , purely because they’ve never seen you go through it in person if that makes sense.

    • @xErinxx
      @xErinxx 6 років тому +1

      Babbling Brook I actually have the same thing

    • @jellyfishyishy
      @jellyfishyishy 6 років тому

      I feel like I've had panic attacks (well I have had one, but no one really realized) many times, but like, internalized?

  • @Jackalack700
    @Jackalack700 6 років тому +106

    Happy Birthday!! You should mention Anxiety. There's this big 'ol myth that anxiety is just hyperventilating and rocking back and forth which isn't true alot people deal with differently.

    • @MaiwennAl
      @MaiwennAl 6 років тому +4

      Taylor grace Smith omg exactly. People have called me stupid for not socializing cuz they dont see how serious it can be.

    • @Jackalack700
      @Jackalack700 6 років тому +8

      Taylor grace Smith yes! Although I do have anxiety attack where I do cry, scream, hyperventilate and shake but I feel that way too. I feel that way when I going anywhere with alot of people and I feel like I'll be judged or I just don't want to be around people for fear of interaction. My sister bhas Social Anxiety and it effects her alot she alot of fear being judged and not being liked or alone.

    • @naife1000
      @naife1000 6 років тому +1

      Victoria D.W. Rees literally had a panic attack a few minutes before watching this aha

    • @MaiwennAl
      @MaiwennAl 6 років тому +2

      Babbling Brook damn that sucks man :/

    • @MaiwennAl
      @MaiwennAl 6 років тому +2

      Rae Harris omg same i just get angry and then i feel like crying my eyeballs out i never do the whole rocking back n forth thing (but if thats someones experience thats super valid just saying not everyone does)

  • @chxrl5067
    @chxrl5067 6 років тому +45

    My uncle had PTSD from a motorbike accident.
    I don't see him that often but the change in him was obvious and really strange and sad.
    He's getting his life back together now though and doing well.

  • @hannahyoung3365
    @hannahyoung3365 6 років тому +18

    I'm not sure if this is a myth but I feel like it could be. That all people in a mental health crises can't appear calm and collected. I have struggled with doctors not taking me serious because I appear calm to them. And something bad ended up happening as a result of that. Love the mental health video. 😊

  • @justicecass8237
    @justicecass8237 6 років тому +10

    happy birthday !!!
    OCD is surrounded by extremely agitating myths. I have OCD and I’ve been struggling with it for years but I was only diagnosed a year ago because I never went to get help because I never thought I had OCD because I wasn’t neat or organized. It just goes to show that even someone who has OCD could get caught up in the stereotypes that many people believe in, which is sad because it means that we aren’t ever really educated about mental illness and how it impacts someone’s life. but it’s very eye opening once you realize just how complex ocd is. As someone with it, it really upsets me when people belittle it. The other day there was this girl that I have on Snapchat that posted a picture of a bowl of Lucky Charms and she had separated the marshmallows from the cereal in the bowl and her caption was “how OCD are you?” and it was really upsetting because she, like many people, probably has no idea just how much anxiety, stress and take up of time Obsessive Compulsive Disorder truly causes.

    • @maxmchugh403
      @maxmchugh403 6 років тому +2

      Justice Cass
      Hey. I can’t find much info on OCD. How does it work and how do you know if you have it? I want to write a character with it so I want to get my facts straight. Thx you!

    • @justicecass8237
      @justicecass8237 6 років тому +2

      Ronny Weasle
      For me, part of my Ocd has to do with body symmetry, so say that someone touches my right arm I will then have to mimick that touch on my left. I also have to repeat certain words a certain number of times and the words I have to repeat are often random, I just will feel as though it “feels right” . I do a lot of things in threes such as sipping drinks, erasing things, chewing my foods and when I repeat things. It’s a lot of repetitive behaviors and I can tell myself that my thoughts don’t make sense and my compulsions won’t stop anything but I can’t help it. My ocd was triggered when my little sister had a seizure while she was sitting next to me and so after that I thought that I could stop her from having a seizure and that I could stop things in general. I can’t step on cracks in the sidewalks and a lot of times I count my steps. Also, there’s such thing as harm ocd and I feel that a lot too where I’m scared to pick up a pair of scissors for example bc I could cut someone’s hair, I would never do that but I know that I could and it makes me really anxious. I was diagnosed by my therapist. When I went in on the first day for an evaluation I had to explain my symptoms as what was going on and the therapist would ask questions to get me to specify my answers. It’s really complex and different for everyone, but I thought I’d share some specifics of what I go through so you can have some more specified inspiration (: Im glad you want to represent ocd through a character

  • @faeriesmak
    @faeriesmak 6 років тому +55

    I would like to add that girls and boys with ADHD tend to (but not always) present with totally different symptoms. Girls tend to be more inattentive and boys more hyperactive and impulsive so many times girls are not diagnosed as having ADHD and don't get the help that they need. I was diagnosed with PTSD after being the victim of arson and always felt like my trauma was not bad enough..like I should not have ended up with PTSD because of what happened to me. I have worked through most of it but the smell of your wood stove or bonfire still will make me panic.

    • @somedude172
      @somedude172 6 років тому +4

      I feel you. I'm autistic, which is very similar to and often co-occuring with adhd, and ppl are like "but you're not obsessed with trains?! you can make eye contact! you cant be autistic!" like trust me i wish thats how it worked but for some reason it doesnt

    • @saraheerie
      @saraheerie 6 років тому +3

      This is too true. I have ADHD and people like to say to me "Oh you're really calm most of the time, your meds must be working." To which I have to tell them that I'm no longer on medication. Then they'll say "Oh well I guess you don't really have adhd then because you're to calm." and I just shake my head and walk away LOL.
      My dad literally thought I was making it up when I was younger (I was diagnosed when I was 11) when I was 15 he stopped buying my medicine and so I had to go cold turkey off them. Worst time of my life. I got back on them when I was 18 but had to stop taking them again just a few years later because I lost my insurance :( Some people are just dicks.

    • @faeriesmak
      @faeriesmak 6 років тому +2

      Oh man. I am sorry that all of that happened to you. it must have been rough going off of them cold turkey. I can't even imagine.

    • @fangirl_4_everzinin919
      @fangirl_4_everzinin919 4 роки тому +1

      right, I'm really really hyper but because I was a girl people thaught i was just hyper. But sometimes it feels like a actual disability I also have an developing anxiety disorder so I have a full head but i dont say i have an anxiety disorder because its not that severe. sorry for the spelling

    • @faeriesmak
      @faeriesmak 4 роки тому

      @@fangirl_4_everzinin919 Anxiety disorders often occur in tandem with ADHD, unfortunately.

  • @ghastly3751
    @ghastly3751 6 років тому +6

    "You can't have an eating disorder if you eat anything sweet." Something that a trained mental health doctor said to me in a psych ward after I was force fed a little cake. For a long time I even believed her and my eating disorder got so bad that I was a few steps away from death, not even knowing that I truly am sick

  • @oliviahegarty1959
    @oliviahegarty1959 6 років тому +31

    "You can control your actions, stop being so impulsive" ~ BPD

    • @jactober
      @jactober 6 років тому

      Olivia Hegarty YESSS

    • @Lexiis_World
      @Lexiis_World 6 років тому

      or my favorite, "are you on your period? you need to calm down."

  • @nataliebob2706
    @nataliebob2706 6 років тому +9

    One thing that bugs me is when people think that the only eating disorders there are is anorexia and bulimia. I've been dealing with an eating disorder where I eat really unhealthily and I eat way too much but it's hard to talk about or get help for when so many people are convinced there's nothing wrong because I'm skinny even though it's ruining my skin and body

  • @Gee-Raf
    @Gee-Raf 6 років тому +7

    Happy Birthday and enjoy L.A!! I have Bipolar Disorder 1 and one thing I get all the time is "did you take your meds". Like I'm never allowed to have an angry mood even if someone does something that genuinely pisses me off. Stigma is so frustrating.

  • @Sophie-fx3tq
    @Sophie-fx3tq 6 років тому +6

    The most harmful myth I've experienced with my BPD is that people, but particularly women, with borderline are inherently abusive and manipulative people. This is the reason I was so resistance to receiving the proper diagnosis and I have chosen to cut some of the most important ppl to me out of my life bc of this vilification. Also Happy Birthday!! x

  • @wolfmaiden5110
    @wolfmaiden5110 6 років тому +4

    This video is very relevant to today. A person I really love just started laying into me today about depression, telling me I don’t have any problems in my life and that I keep living this way because so far it has served me to get what I want. I felt so fucking destroyed that this person would even believe I do this on purpose and basically belittle all my feelings and tell me they aren’t real.

  • @emmalouise8846
    @emmalouise8846 6 років тому +7

    My mum thinks that ADHD isn’t a real mental health illness and every time I try to talk to her about it she just says that it’s out of control kids that have never had discipline, Its extremely annoying as I know people that deal with adhd, do know any way I can try change her mind? Xx

    • @RisaPeyser
      @RisaPeyser 6 років тому

      Emma Louise That’s ridiculous I have ADHD and I was NEVER a trouble maker I was just hyper but I still always had good grades when I was younger. So I would just show her university studies and stuff like that cause it’s actually caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain so what she says is completely false

    • @xErinxx
      @xErinxx 6 років тому

      I was going to say show her statistics and studies but the other comment already pretty much did that lol

  • @rainestar82
    @rainestar82 6 років тому +9

    4:40 the argument I've seen lately, with any shooting that happens, is that we SHOULDN'T bring mental health into the picture because it only further increases the "mentally ill people are violent" stigma. And this just makes no sense to me. Pointing out the fact that had some people had the help they needed for a disorder, they might not have been able to do something so violent... idk to me its not saying "all psychopaths etc are violent", its making sure potentially violent mentally ill people are being helped and have people aware of their behavior.
    Theres a difference between saying "all mentally ill people are violent" and "these specific people who are mentally ill show violent tendencies"
    Taking mentall illness out of the picture does more harm than good in regards to this argument. If we dont address it, the stigma just keeps going.

  • @aelurine
    @aelurine 6 років тому +5

    There's a lot of bias about people with borderline personality disorder. I'm studying human development with a concentration in psychology, and every time I read about how people with borderline personality disorder will be problematic (they write it in the most diplomatic way though) I just cringe. I know obviously some people will be more difficult but I read it like "damn is this what they think of me?"

  • @madi846
    @madi846 6 років тому +10

    first of all, yay happy birthday!!! 🎂 second, thank you for bringing up adhd and the myth that adults can’t have it. as a 20 year old, i literally did not even have it SUGGESTED to me that I might have adhd until late last year. I went through all of school (and into college) just thinking I was stupid for not being able to retain information. Myths and stereotypes are incredibly harmful; if I had known sooner, I might have been able to get medicated or gain some coping tools but instead I just went through school constantly failing and retaking classes cause my attention span was so bad I could hardly pass any tests/exams. so basically, this is a cautionary tale: pls educate yourselves on mental illnesses and disorders. I rly wish I had done so earlier in life, cause now that I’m aware of my disorder (anxiety too), I’m on medication and have all As and Bs in all my classes, which is a big first for me :)

  • @PersephoneDarling
    @PersephoneDarling 6 років тому +12

    I have a friend with multiple personality disorder and I really hated that meme that went around when the movie Split came out, the joke of "oh it wasn't me it was Patricia" it felt really insensitive

  • @moonswhimsy
    @moonswhimsy 6 років тому +1

    Thank you for speaking about ADHD as someone that suffers with ADD it's frustrating that there isn't rly any media awareness into the symptoms and how it effects people and people like you speaking about it just helps to have it recognised as a real disorder people struggle with

    • @kelseylynnmac
      @kelseylynnmac 6 років тому +1

      Mia S it’s also on the same scale as ocd, as people try to use it to describe being momentarily inattentive instead of having the disability, so it’s nice to hear it talked about

  • @Nickimay
    @Nickimay 6 років тому +5

    Happy birthday!
    I swear, I always think your videos are so short and then I look and it’s been 8 minutes lol I think I just love hearing what you have to say so every video seems short to me

  • @MissNannyLake
    @MissNannyLake 6 років тому +4

    I love when people would tell me that depression is a choice. That I just need to choose to be happy. 🙄

  • @laureldreams
    @laureldreams 6 років тому +1

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY SARAH OMG

  • @unspokenvoices3399
    @unspokenvoices3399 6 років тому +4

    Happy Birthday ! I hope you have a absolute lovely birthday ☺️🎉🎂💕 THANK YOU ! I always enjoy your videos and this is definitely a video I was looking forward to.Keep up the good work spreading awareness & educating

  • @uriahhammock3731
    @uriahhammock3731 6 років тому +25

    Happy birthday

  • @rosibruder
    @rosibruder 6 років тому +1

    Happy belated birthday!! Your videos are amazing, i wish more people would think the way you do. Keep being amazing

  • @katy6663
    @katy6663 6 років тому +2

    "Happiness is a choice."
    Yes because I'd rather endure intense episodes of depression and anxiety. Said no one ever.
    "You have no reason to be unhappy."
    I learned not too long ago circumstances aren't always the cause or trigger for depression/anxiety episodes but they count for something. Last year I was in a strained relationship with a guy I had been with for almost 4 years and none of his family wanted anything to do with me for the last year and a half. When I opened up to them about my problems they told me I was a burden on their son. We broke up a few months ago after trying to date again but it definitely benefited my mental health. In the end I found out things between us aren't going to change because in the end we've changed and our problems in our last relationship together aren't going to be fixed. I have written him a breakup letter stating the reasons why I did. I have it to remind myself I could be in a worse situation and did the best thing for myself no matter how much it hurt this time around.

  • @arthouseragdoll
    @arthouseragdoll 6 років тому +3

    That my schizophrenia means I can have a split personality and blame "that" person for things. It doesn't work like that. Also if someone tells you it's not real that you not believing them is your choice and that if you just tried harder you could 'snap out of it' - doesn't work like that either. I was told once by someone "if you loved me enough you'd listen to me and stop acting like this because it hurts me" it really broke my heart they just don't know what it's like it wasn't my fault I couldn't have tried any harder than I was to get better.

  • @spidermiss2426
    @spidermiss2426 6 років тому +1

    Yes. Thank you!! You know when I tell people I have three mental illnesses including borderline personality disorder, they assume I'm violent. I can't stand that because I'm far from violent.

  • @andicarr4219
    @andicarr4219 6 років тому +6

    Happy b day and the myth about my mental illness is that people with bipolar are attention seeking and alway indesisive. the other one is girls with adhd cant have it worse than boys.

  • @libbycook2766
    @libbycook2766 6 років тому +1

    Happy Birthday Sarah!!!!🦄🍩🍪🍕

  • @markbaumbargt3430
    @markbaumbargt3430 6 років тому +1

    Happy Birthday!! 🎂🍾🍻🎂

  • @MaiwennAl
    @MaiwennAl 6 років тому +8

    Lol ADHD medication can sometimes worsen your mental health... i stopped taking that shit cuz i got depressed af.. plus not every person diagnosed with it is actually hyperactive cuz theyre 3 different types of ADHD. btw happy birthday!

    • @ranishelton3653
      @ranishelton3653 6 років тому

      Yes sometimes it can worsen other areas of mental health. Because many adhd medications are stimulants they can sometimes make anxiety worse too. Though I do not experience worsened anxiety.

    • @MaiwennAl
      @MaiwennAl 6 років тому

      Hannah Abott yea ADHD meds are often drugs which fall in the same category as Speed and stuff like that. For that reason its not good for the body either.. i know many people who were helped as kids but as they grew up the side effects were morr annoying than what it actually did

    • @xErinxx
      @xErinxx 6 років тому

      My ex has it and I could tell immediately if she had taken her meds that morning just by her attitude and how she held herself
      Her medication made her depression and anxiety way worse so she tried another and told me she felt suicidal multiple times but only on days she'd taken it so I had to tell her parents to stop making her take medication already
      But did they listen
      Of course not

  • @cheyennem4737
    @cheyennem4737 6 років тому +3

    Happy birthday!!!

  • @SandraOlufsen
    @SandraOlufsen 6 років тому +1

    One thing I find incredibely annoying,as someone who struggle with social anxiety,is that you dont have it if you go out in crowds. Like a concert or traveling. You dont have it if you are social. Really annoying!

  • @museatdawn3556
    @museatdawn3556 6 років тому +6

    Happy birthday! I wish you all the good stuff in the world haha

  • @delhiaaaa
    @delhiaaaa 6 років тому

    I used to deal with substance abuse and I was told “ it’s you’re choice to stop” and to “stop popping pills and maybe you’ll be happy” when that’s really not how it work but, what can you do when people choose to be ignorant. Ily ❤️

  • @murfandpb6670
    @murfandpb6670 6 років тому

    “Just stop thinking that way” in response to the negative thoughts related to anxiety and depression. It makes me feel like I am choosing to live this daily nightmare of spiraling negativity, doubt, and fear with the added ‘bonus’ of the guilt it causes. Believe me m, if it were that easy I’d have done it years ago. I also get “You don’t look/seem sick” a lot too.

  • @ezradite6118
    @ezradite6118 6 років тому

    I really love that you do this stuff :) Im seeing s psychologist soon, in order to get a true diagnosis, and I'm really comforted by the fact that there's people willing to be open and honest about this stuff

  • @zainabal-aithan8447
    @zainabal-aithan8447 6 років тому

    I was told by someone at university that people with depression are too sensitive about everything and i was so livid when i heard her say that to me but of course i couldn’t express that because then i’d be told im too sensitive bc im depressed ugh

  • @jonnierodriguez8342
    @jonnierodriguez8342 6 років тому

    I started having panic attacks when I was in a really bad place in my life. Even now that I'm better they're still not gone but with the help of meditation and relaxation exercises I've been able to make sure they don't get out of hand (passing out, throwing up, or feeling like I'm going to die).

  • @nala3055
    @nala3055 6 років тому +3

    " panic attacks are just hyperventilating and rocking back and forward"

    • @nala3055
      @nala3055 6 років тому

      I ve never had an ED, but Ive heard sooo many people saying over the years "anorexia? isnt that when people think they're fat?" Its so frustrating!

  • @emilyhamlett5729
    @emilyhamlett5729 6 років тому

    Happy Birthday, Sarah!! I just wanted to say that I love your channel, and thank you so much for being a voice for those who suffer with mental illnesses. You come off as so genuine and thoughtful in all your videos. You are truly one of my favorite youtubers. I hope you have a great time in LA!

  • @gracemed8708
    @gracemed8708 6 років тому

    when i tell someone i have social anxiety they always think im scared of people which is so annoying

  • @parkerpeachy7770
    @parkerpeachy7770 5 років тому

    I’m often a happy person in social situations so when ever I tell someone I have depression they say “you can’t be depressed you’re so happy”
    You’ve never seen me alone and you don’t know what my brain is like. It annoys me cuz depression has been something I struggle with a lot and just cuz I don’t always show it doesn’t mean it’s not there.

  • @Splitleaf
    @Splitleaf 6 років тому

    When it comes to some illnesses, like addiction, I think the only thing that they can "chose" is to get help or not. I think most mental illnesses come from that, but addiction faces a lot more of that specific stigma I find.

  • @chrissimoneaux9177
    @chrissimoneaux9177 6 років тому

    You look like my therapist and remind me of her and that makes me feel safe and relaxed. Your videos and your personality really help me. Thank you x

  • @lepioptera
    @lepioptera 6 років тому

    Thank you for another great video!
    I have a handful of diagnoses, but I feel like my OCD, PTSD and GAD are the most problematic in this case.
    Sick and tired of people's lack of knowledge about OCD, thinking you have to have everything sorted in a certain way, or be a wreck that rocks back and forth.
    Same with PTSD. I'm not a veteran(lol obviously) but I did suffer from traumas such as sexual and mental abuse, but people tend to think a trauma has to be a big thing, like seeing someone get murdered. But as soon as you feel uncomfortable about a memory, it can develop to a trauma. And people think PTSD has to be you start rocking back and forth or being very loud and hysterical. You can be triggered and have all that panic inside, not being able to express it outwards at all.
    Which ties in to GAD. More or less having anxiety, stress and feeling worried 24/7, but not acting it out, making it visible for others, makes people to doubt you even have this disorder.

  • @alexiapereira-amaral3820
    @alexiapereira-amaral3820 6 років тому +2

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY LOVE ❤️✨🎉🎈🎁🎂

  • @MetalChick127
    @MetalChick127 6 років тому

    So beautifully said! I have several mental illnesses and you making these videos helps me a lot and I just think everyone should watch these. Thank you!
    And two that I hate about one of my mental illnesses is: Borderline Personality Disorder means you are attention-seeking. Another one is: Bipolar means your always either manic or depressed and never stable. Bonus one: you have to be underweight to have an eating disorder like bulimia or anorexia. I have bulimia, and 2 other eating issues, and am not underweight. I also have PTSD and fully agree that it can happen to anyone.
    Thank you so so much Sarah! These videos are my favorite! I hope you have a great time in LA

  • @esml373
    @esml373 6 років тому

    was waiting for another video about mental illness! happy bday to you Sarah! thanks for educating us always about such an important topic

  • @thealluringmysticc
    @thealluringmysticc 6 років тому +2

    Happy Birthday Sarah!!

  • @catiedoesit
    @catiedoesit 6 років тому

    The idea that recovery should be linear is so damaging. So many times, I'll fall into a depression cycle and my first thought is almost always "but I've been doing so well" which is so harmful. I've been working on countering that impulse, but it's hard.

  • @mowglinhazel8731
    @mowglinhazel8731 6 років тому

    My mental health journey has been far from linear. I recently had to get off a medication that I had been on and had been working for three years because it just wasn't working for me anymore. I had a HUGE setback at the end of last year and the beginning of this year. The most frustrating thing to hear is "You were doing so well for so long!"
    How long I have been doing well as nothing to do with whether or not I will feel bad again!

  • @ze_bresel
    @ze_bresel 6 років тому

    Happy Birthday Sarah, I've been watching you for the last 4 years and I can only say a huge THANK YOU. You helped me through such a hard time and I really appreciate it. Have a great day

  • @honeybeex1045
    @honeybeex1045 6 років тому +1

    I'm very private w/ my issues and most of the time its all in my head and I look fine from the outside. Its like people expect me to act in a stereotypical 'crazy' way and its really annoying.

  • @saijanaswamy7210
    @saijanaswamy7210 6 років тому

    Love love this vd. So many people in comments are speaking out too. Helps me understand other MI better.
    Oh and happy bday!

  • @Howjuderolls
    @Howjuderolls 6 років тому

    We just found you and I am loving your vids! the first one is so import. I work with NAMI to go into high schools to talk about suicide prevention and thats one we always make sure the kids get.

  • @sherlyfreire3053
    @sherlyfreire3053 6 років тому +1

    Omg happy birthday!!

  • @Coolb33nz
    @Coolb33nz 6 років тому

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY SARAH!!!

  • @alisea4956
    @alisea4956 6 років тому +4

    HAPPY BIRTHDAYYY

  • @maxmchugh403
    @maxmchugh403 6 років тому +3

    Depression stereotype: we are all emo kids who want attention.
    Just because I’m young and I have depression doesn’t mean I’m emo! I have something messed up in my head! I get bullied at school cause I have depression.

  • @anniekelley1073
    @anniekelley1073 6 років тому

    Happy birthday Sarah💓 Great video

  • @verivera95
    @verivera95 6 років тому

    🎉🎉🎉🎉happy birthday!!!! 🎂🎂🎂🎂🎈🎈🎈
    hope you have a good time in LA

  • @neutralmakhotel
    @neutralmakhotel 6 років тому

    Happy Birthday!! Excited to see you LA video! 😊❤

  • @daphneallen5952
    @daphneallen5952 6 років тому +7

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY

  • @sedefe436
    @sedefe436 6 років тому

    Happy Birthday Sarah !! You’re such a inspiration love ya💋❤️

  • @sivafrances
    @sivafrances 6 років тому

    Happy Birthday Sarah❤️ absolutely love your videos & how you bring forward mental health awareness

  • @FerSanchezArt
    @FerSanchezArt 6 років тому

    First of all.. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! You have my best wishes for this day and for the rest of the year ;) Sencond I need to let you know hoy thankfull Im from your channel. In a world of so much shit and buy this and that, you're a breath of fresh air with everything you upload. Thank you so much

  • @maddiecat3416
    @maddiecat3416 3 роки тому

    I have depression and anxiety, I was prescribed medication by my doctor when I was 10, I was staying with a relative while my parents were gone and she never gave me my medication. When I asked she said, “I don’t like the idea of you taking drugs for happiness just because you’re upset about your life.” To clear the record I had never had any problems and had always been healthy, nothing happened to me other than a chemical imbalance in my brain or something like that. I never told my parents.

  • @chaosnoelle
    @chaosnoelle 6 років тому +2

    Happy Birthday!💕

  • @lalabelle98
    @lalabelle98 6 років тому

    Happy birthday!! i really love your channel and all your videos, i hope you have a great day!

  • @chrissarah9174
    @chrissarah9174 6 років тому +2

    MYTH: all people with schizophrenia hear voices!!! i never talk about my diagnoses because the only question i ever get is “what do your voices say???” and if i say i don’t hear voices regularly, they assume i don’t actually have the disorder.

  • @desaulnes2887
    @desaulnes2887 6 років тому

    happy birthday girl! 🖤

  • @franciscarrroa1470
    @franciscarrroa1470 6 років тому

    my mother experienced ptsd from a miscarriage and it was so painful for her but she was still so strong and I admire her so much for that

  • @kitschesque
    @kitschesque 6 років тому

    I've been thinking about you today and turns out it's your birthday! Yay thank you for being there boo happy birthday

  • @fwoggy999
    @fwoggy999 6 років тому

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! 🎁🎂 Be safe in LA!

  • @andreamatadamas1265
    @andreamatadamas1265 6 років тому

    Happy Birthday!!!! hope you have a great day.. I love your videos so much.. you're amazing

  • @romy799
    @romy799 6 років тому +1

    Happy birthday 🎉

  • @hannahbibby4
    @hannahbibby4 6 років тому

    happy birthday!! mine was yesterday actually!! i hope youre is enjoyable because you deserve it

  • @emmaGisMe
    @emmaGisMe 6 років тому

    I have social anxiety and it's always different because I have a lot of presentations to do in college and sometimes they go really well and I feel great about them but it's usually a terrible experience for me. Then, my dad always hears about them and he tells me it's all in my head and I just need to do what I did last time I had a good presentation. He struggled with depression and he says he just snapped out of it so he tells me it's the same for me. I know he can't understand how I feel but when I try to explain it he won't listen because he's sure I can just stop it. I just need to talk about how I feel sometimes after a bad presentation but it's like I can't even talk because it's not real to him.

  • @greyskyz99fox45
    @greyskyz99fox45 6 років тому

    Omg happy Birthday Sarah we share the same birthday girl! I hope you had a lovely day ❤️ I’m really sorry for the late birthday wish Sarah my phone had been broken, I’m looking forward to watching the video thank you for being such an amazing mental health advocate sending much love to you! ❤️❤️❤️Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

  • @Charmedfan5
    @Charmedfan5 6 років тому

    Happy birthday Sarah!!!

  • @ShadowRayne16
    @ShadowRayne16 6 років тому

    Happy Birthday, SARAH!!!

  • @likklesmellyduck
    @likklesmellyduck 6 років тому

    i hate that people think having a phobia means you just don't like something or it grosses you out. I feel like people don't see how debilitating living with a severe phobia can be

  • @SnickyNicky96
    @SnickyNicky96 6 років тому

    My dad used to try to tell me that my OCD was just a "bad habit."
    People don't think of all of the ways OCD can affect people, many just think that their a "clean-freak" or super organizer.
    Trichotillomania and dermatillomania are the types of OCD I deal with and I am constantly told: "You don't seem like you've got OCD." because they don't know the multiple ways OCD can manifest.
    When someone finds out I have depression some of them automatically think I am constantly suicidal or always sad. I'm down a lot, but I can laugh and for the most part I want to try to get better and live.

  • @monicab7656
    @monicab7656 6 років тому

    Happy birthday, Sarah!

  • @ja04_20
    @ja04_20 6 років тому

    So I got in a really bad car accident a while ago and I felt so scared and anxious in the car and it did not help that I have anxiety which already had me pretty anxious about everything. So yeah PTSD doesn’t just effects veterans.

  • @Ciaraara
    @Ciaraara 6 років тому

    Hi Sarah :) I would love if you could talk more about psychosis. I dont have it currently but I do have epilepsy and have experienced it in the past when I had a bad seizure. Its interested me ever since. Great video!!

  • @avadae9126
    @avadae9126 6 років тому

    Happy b-day, Sarah!

  • @MajasticFantastic
    @MajasticFantastic 6 років тому

    The thing about panic disorder is that everyone that never had an actual panic attack thinks you're faking it. Because people tend to think that an attack looks like this: screaming, crying, freaking out... when in reality it doesn't.