This conversation was phenomenal!! Thank you for tackling a hard topic. After 30 years of marriage we’ve reached our hardest moments!! My husband lost his job and cascaded into a deep depression. ( our marriage had been shaky for some time prior to that) He completely rejected me. I was a stay at home mom with our 6 children. I was not opposed to working but he wanted me home and at the same time making money. I had to do some deep inner work by the grace of God and give room for him to find his way. It’s been 4 years, all the children are out of high school. I’m happily working and doing what I love. I was counseled to leave by many but what held me is what one of the ladies said -“Did I know that he was the one for me from the beginning?” The answer is yes! Therefore I will stay no matter what. I am finding my happiness because it’s not dependent upon him. Slowly but surely he is finding his way again. We live in the same home but separate. I’m still believing that by Gods grace our marriage will be restored and that we will be “jubileed”( I think that’s the term you used). I just love your frank honest open conversations from an African perspective! I’m from the Caribbean and married to a Nigerian. My expectations were the story book, movie, eurochristian ones. I had to search the word of God and dig deep to discover that the real thing is very different. I have a promise in God’s word that says that “ love never fails” so my quest is to discover what that looks like as to how I’m to demonstrate that. How does one live 1 Cor. 13: 4-8 I love you all ladies! I wish to host conversations like these one day on my own channel. You’ve inspired me!! Blessings!
Not yet married but in my mind it's registered that it's forever not because of the excitement of having to be married but because I have see people who have kugumad and right now they're enjoying the fruits of their struggles and the ones that decided to leave are kinda finding it very hard to get back into that space that they had before. Girls ladies women as long as it's not life threatening please give it time.
Loving Manuelas emphasis of asking God before you settle down with a partner. I have always believed that God is the author of marriage but if you leave Him out at the start then you are doomed
What Aggie said just reminder me of my late step dad. This gental man came into our lives when I was 12yrs. But he had been single for a very long time. But when he got my mom all he wanted was a friend. So when Aggie says old age needs a friend. To the both of them their friendship was more than any thing. He died so happy. To point when he did I felt so bad for my mom because she had lost her friend
This was very emotional to watch but good. Thanks ladies. We need a part 2 to also show the good things about marriage, those situations you feel you wouldn't have made through without your husband. Tell the good stories too ...why we love these men even if they hurt us in one way or the other. Let's hear someone talk about staying for the man even before staying for the children. I think we need to celebrate such men too.
after watching this, i can strongly conclude no marriage is perfect gal child is going thru a lot thanks for sharing ladies at least have learnt something in relation to my marriage
Life is too short to be unhappy!! I am on Pumula’s side. Leave. My parents stayed for the kids (and societal image) but sleep in separate rooms for the past 15 years and counting of a 40 year marriage 🤷🏾♀️ I just got married and me and my husband talked about our “no’s” that are an automatic divorce during our courtship. No questions asked. Divorce. I’ve seen happy divorces
It was a nice conversation. Adding on what Angie said, one of the partners has to lead the way and hold fort and fortunately, it encourages the other partner to work on themselves. I am speaking from a place of having seen my mother do it and my Dad with time realized he didn't want to be left behind. So unless it's life threatening, then try to preserve your marriage. Even after you have left , the next person you get, there will be work to be done. And more so prayer works, include the big man up there and He will reward you with beautiful things.
I find myself repeatedly drawn to watching this specific episode for some reason.Your authenticity and honesty shine through,making it incredibly relatable.It's striking how the issues that trigger conflicts in relationships and or marriage seem to remain consistent overtime..Personally ,i dentify most with Angie's "Love dovey" personality. It's effortless for me to be swayed back if there's sincere apology accompanied by positive actions and genuine remorse.
Angie, sorry for that very painful experience losing your babies. You are such a strong person. You somehow manage to come off both as soft and delicate whilst sharing very strong opinions, holding your own and all round bad-ass! Oba okikola otya!?
Loved the conversation. I decided to take marriage as a journey , and since I know not what to always expect, I decided to take with me the one who holds the keys to All unknown and I am glad I did today is my wedding anniversary. Been doing life with my man for 17 years. Work towards thriving and not surviving. That has been and is my goal. Just like we work at many things we need to work at our marriages. And Angie said it well, Old age needs a partner.
These habits we do see happening now the fact is they must have given a warning before but we really tend to ignore just because we are in love. And if you kept ignoring up to the state of not having option then you will continue leaving in a hurt and you will term it perseverance. We need to sort out issues when they come. Let's say first time you forgive, second time, you forgive third time you forgive, the fourth round it's already become a habit so it's upon you to decide whether to continue and persevere and accept him the way he is or not. But as you are persevering those habits shouldn't be the reason of your annoyance in the marriage. I do personally bet this so called okuguma is living an unhappy life in marriage for the sake of the children. Tell me when this man will think of sharing love with you having come back at 2 or 4am. This is a total separation indirectly.
This conversation was something. The authenticity is applaudable. I have been married 10 years, together for 13 and I saw myself in all of you at the very different stages of my relationship. I'll just say different people have different thresholds, personality, needs etc This is very key on whether you can stay or not. Thanks for sharing ladies.
I am a huge advocate of happiness. Harm and life-threatening situations aside, if in my deepest of hearts i do not feel happy being with you and i do not see change in the near future, i will still choose me and my happiness and walk away. I do not think God intended for marriage to be miserable.
I left after 26years because the man was so abusive and no discussions ever resulted into good out come. So that's why it's good to get married at a young age now I am 48. And it's so great after the healing process I got another husband who had also divorced his first wife so we are together and I am so grateful. Amen
Don't you love how candid they are about their marriage lives?? Thank you ladies. I'm always looking forward to the next episode. And yes, marriage is about compromise.
Good topic,Watching you all the way from London. It would be wise to bring men on the show to discuss about this same issue as I believe a lot of men too go through so much to contain certain women too.
This so far has been my best episode. It’s the honesty and the vulnerability for me . Thanks for helping us learn by bringing such engaging conversations
These detailed 1 hour heart to heart conversations are the best, especially when the topic is as delicate as this one. I like the honesty. I know girls and women who have not had the privelege of loving mother figures speak wisdom into their lives are learning a thing or two. Thank you ladies.
This has been my best show ever on Bump love.......I clearly agree that the devil is here to destroy our marriages bacause God works through them.Thats yy as ladies we have to stick on prayer for it's the only way we can win... Thanks to you guys for sharing..
Personally, me as me lol, domestic violence is a deal breaker. I will leave mubitiibwa, and actually it is because of the children that I will leave, just to show them that it is not okay to be abused by another person. Besides, research has proven that staying in a DV relationship harms the children more than leaving.
i loved Angiez mature opinions and the authenticity of everyones sharing. Rossette isbusually not so talkative but i enjoyed her sharing. i love the lady likeness in her
Thanks, ladies for such a great episode. The conversation was authentic and very interesting. I am definitely with the “Kuguma” team. Marriage is not easy; that is why it requires commitment and staying to keep the family unit intact is worth it, but it calls for selflessness because you have to put yourself last. As Rachel said, looking inward to focus on what you can do to improve your situation before looking at what you expect your partner to do for you is an excellent place to start.
And after the children grow, leave home and don't need you any more, what are you kugumaring for any more? And how about you have bettered yourself to the limit that you possibly can within your limitations and cannot rise any higher under the unchanging situation?
That's why men take us for granted because they know we can't leave our children behind..so you have to kuguma nebakunyiga and then you pray for the marriage as if yo the only one who wants it to work..hhmm.
I can't count the number of times I have watched this episode! And it gets better everytime I watch it. Thanks ladies, this is one of the best really. Very personal and yet so relatable (simanyi oba luzungu lutuufu🤣🤣)
Wow wow wow what a conversation?????????? I wasn't expecting this. I LOVE YOU GALS, BECAUSE YOU ARE IMPACTING LIVES. THESE ARE THE REALLY TALKS WE NEED!!!
Another very interesting, informative episode. I love that you guys share honest bits about your experiences with us. I agree with you all hence my leaving the man who gave me a ring and became a different person altogether. Rather single and happy than in a marriage miserable.
"Nandiyagadde naye sijja sobola" was really outstanding! Thanks for the knowledge splashed allover and a big thumbs up to the husbands who found it ok to be dissected, for our learning!!!
This by far is the best episode ever bse it came at a point when I needed it the most. Thank you for being authentic ladies. Thank you very much. I hope you know there are some of us that really look forward to your new episodes and learn a lot. This was WISDOM!
I love love love Angie's way of going about this issue.she has really put it so well."old age needs a partner" kiddos to u angie.i actually thought u were devorced.
We’re getting a little personal today and throwing the question back to you: what situation would absolutely make you leave your marriage? And are the children enough reason to stay? Sound off in the comments below! Loved this episode? Share the link with a friend! Leave us a like and please subscribe to our channel 😘 #bumplove #motherhood #marriage
Am one of your silent followers.. Am 9 months married but Alhamdulillah, we always promise each other to take our Marriage in Jannatul Firdaus twerage omuhabbati bubi nyo.... Alhamdulillah we haven't had any fight and personally I think I got a soulmate. So mature in mind and most importantly he loves me beyond repairs.. with Allah. Our Marriage will be for life time Bi ithni Rahman
Thank you so much for your honesty! I believe it comes at a cost and I'm grateful you all were willing to share regardless, just so you help out others. Yall are such a gift to us!
It’s clear that the discussion is opening our minds and hearts to creating a narrative that speaks to our evolving journey of our relationships from one generation to the next. I love the complimentary stories each women used to make their points. Thank You all’
Am happy that the five of you represent different versions of marriage... if its not life threatening, then I would stay for the sake of my children, deal with the bad I have than leaving and meeting the worst when I can't retrieve back..
Thank you so much ladies, i love the kuguma so much but you might choose too but still your partner in the old age leaves you and takes all the things you worked for together, eg spending the resources to care for the current partner( building them houses, buying cars etc) leaving you with nothing, I’ve seen some old women left alone. So i advise as you kuguma you be doing some personnel savings for the old age to avoid disappointment.
Such a welcome conversation. Thank you ladies for being vulnerable. Such conversations are needed in a society that tends to make women choke down their feelings and emotions.
Glad that the videos are longer now everyone gets time to talk this is an interesting topic especially for us who are still single and have no children.
My appreciation goes to you ladies. You have impacted my life alot. The level of transparency in your discussions makes us who are still in stage one of marriage learn how to handle. God bless you and your husbands.
I just celebrated our 15th anniversary and like Angie I married young write from campus. I have kunobad in my heart times without number, but after the emotions of the tough conversations and arguments with my hubby have come down, am like it wasn't worth my kunoba thoughts. Thank you ladies for making this talk too real and honestly. Truth is if we went through school there were tough times at school,cantab and all but netulemerako mpaka degree, same applies to marriage. Love you ladies
Whoah! A high 5 and hugs ladies Kuddos!! You've indeed spoken my mind, I am literally Just tied a note to my hubby this very year's march with whom I dated for 12 years and a lot of what you've talked about in all the conversation has been appliances. Well; According to my experience so far I can say, marriage is a school of series without expectations You've really built me both physically, emotionally and spiritually. Thanks loads you guys for sharing. God bless you for me.
Well done ladies and thank you all for sharing! Whoever thought marriage was a bed of roses? For me it’s been more about compromise and the realisation that we’re all different individuals forging a union. Looking forward to your next show 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Very revealing. One of the best shows. Also glad that you have ventured outside the topic of raising kids and are now broadening your discussion scope. I had a good laugh 😂😂😂.
It is always exciting to listen to people who share real life things like you my ladies. Angie thank you for your closing remarks that as I age and the kids am clinging to are leading their own lives, I need a buddy. For those and more reasons I will kuguma. Marriage is interesting!!!!
I just came across this conversation, with so many incredible minds. Their vulnerability is teaching and healing beyond measures. Thank you. For sure a new sub 🥰
Thank u team bump love, steadily loving and learning from each of u, I can relate with most of your situations but one thing I know is that woman out there if u have God at the center of your marriage, trust me it's only a matter of time, (how long u can wait on God) , and the victory will b yours. The devil hates to see a happy family n is at work. It's always been God for me. Pray for your families alongside the counseling.
Racheal I've loved your show since on NTV always wishing it could be Abit longer, nice to find everything here. I love the discussions which help us in our daily lives.
Thank you so much ladies, you are the best, you answered all my questions, wow God bless you all, very educative, modern day, senga talk, from the bottom of my heart 🙏
This was an inspiring conversation thank you so much. I also want you to talk about finances in a home where a man doesn't contribute anything can a woman stay?
Ladies am impressed by your honest conversations and truly if many couples out there can listen to your testmonies their families can shrive all through hard times. OKUGUMA is likened to the Bibilical promise of GOD in Isaiah 43:2 that no matter what you go through He will always be with us. in God's wisdom He brings different people to meet each other for a purpose of unity,peace, respect and collaboration among societies and initially Love sets in and grows all through to diffeerent ways but true love will always preavail. The devil howver preaches a diffrent msg and we have to be careful whom we listen to
@Manuela you wrapped the show up well! Make the sole decision to marry the person you say you want to marry, and be okay with it. Also it is not a commandment to get married, so take your time before you make the decision, marriage is a very big step to take in li fe.
Debating such hard and personal things in our homes with friends is easy. But here on a platform with an audience you don't see is HARD. This was a brave episode. Thank you for getting into it and leaving no stone unturned. This is one of those conversations where we could talk all day... I will agree with Angie-Growing old alone is not proggie, I can tell you that for free. 😆 Also marriage is a beautiful challenge because it is the one place that forces you (if you allow it) to deal with your 'bu'things and after that parenting then highlights any pending things you may not have addressed. And I agree with Rachael's approach to invest in looking inward because after all you're the only thing you can control in the marriage and everything else you report to God. As I grow I realize that despite my commitment to marriage and staying, it is brave 💪to stay, and it is brave to leave as well for those that choose to. Pumla you did a stellar job moderating this discussion 👏Thank you
Agreed. Such a deep and vulnerable discussion. Marriage isn't for the faint-hearted 🙂 We thank the gents behind these ladies for enabling you in many ways.
Beautiful , Beautiful Discussion topics. 100% true . Marriages are really in rocks weights. if one side weighs higher, balance the other side by communication and let God the almighty be the potter of family
I am seriously falling in love with you ladies. My take is, don't stay for the kids. They see through the dysfunction. Its even worse when you have a daughter, it can negatively shape the woman she becomes in future especially coping with toxic men.
I surely enjoy watching Bump Love episodes, I live for them. Thank you ladies for sharing your experiences in their rawness. I could relate with Pumla about some kiganda marriages discouraging us from marriage. Our mothers are surely the necks that move those heads, they carry the biggest burden, they behold the POWER in disguise and from the background. We grow and we evolve! As far as gummaring, May God give us the Grace and also enable us to extend it to our partners🙏 May wicked/evil men not happen to us🙏
Great topic Bump Love. I really love all your raw and honest opinions on this sensitive topic. You couldn’t have said it any better. I just got a lot of knowledge and insight from you lovely ladies.
Bananage am a man but this was super …this talk was for World Cup …Pumla looks such a sweet soul full of good vibes ….she really took this interview in the best way ever ….
I enjoyed this conversation tremendously!! Very difficult topic. You laughed & made me laugh. I've lived in the US for over 50 years; but originally from Panama, of Caribbean descent. I realized in this conversation that we are all the same. What makes us whole ultimately in our ability to take our eyes off the storm. That's what caused Peter to start sinking...But God!!!
Pumla I can relate...truely relate nze he even took my phone and changed my lines, deleted all male contacts,... I resorted to kuguma as well.. very insecure and a narcissist... Well siika marriage... left last year Sept making a year on 10th 😊am happy for my peace of mind. Let me work munange... Btw was in for 2 years.. We only did kukyala only. At 25 now I don't want to deal with mental health problems even. 🚮🚮🚮
These are the conversations that get me up from my bed ❤️🔥
Nyabo, first finish sleeping.
@@manuelap.mulondo wooowwww , thank you girls this was real awesome 🥰🥰
@@manuelap.mulondo You're so beautiful
@@winniemunyes9595 awwwwwwww, making me shy
@@komupamela2330 thank you for watching
But ladies do you know how you have impacted our lives with this show? Honestly you deserve a medal
Ikr Amazing souls just💖💖💖
Thank you for the likes friends
So true, am currently in same situation like Rachel one leg is already out and just counting days to exit.
Kudos to the husbands who don't mind you discussing them. And to you ladies for not shying away from sharing your stories.
Exactly. No man will do this. Lol
Surely grateful that they have let us in their private space and shared real life experiences,, love you ladies
This conversation was phenomenal!! Thank you for tackling a hard topic. After 30 years of marriage we’ve reached our hardest moments!! My husband lost his job and cascaded into a deep depression. ( our marriage had been shaky for some time prior to that) He completely rejected me. I was a stay at home mom with our 6 children. I was not opposed to working but he wanted me home and at the same time making money. I had to do some deep inner work by the grace of God and give room for him to find his way. It’s been 4 years, all the children are out of high school. I’m happily working and doing what I love. I was counseled to leave by many but what held me is what one of the ladies said -“Did I know that he was the one for me from the beginning?” The answer is yes! Therefore I will stay no matter what. I am finding my happiness because it’s not dependent upon him. Slowly but surely he is finding his way again. We live in the same home but separate. I’m still believing that by Gods grace our marriage will be restored and that we will be “jubileed”( I think that’s the term you used).
I just love your frank honest open conversations from an African perspective! I’m from the Caribbean and married to a Nigerian. My expectations were the story book, movie, eurochristian ones. I had to search the word of God and dig deep to discover that the real thing is very different. I have a promise in God’s word that says that “ love never fails” so my quest is to discover what that looks like as to how I’m to demonstrate that. How does one live 1 Cor. 13: 4-8
I love you all ladies! I wish to host conversations like these one day on my own channel. You’ve inspired me!!
Blessings!
Wow, He is God Almighty and nothing is difficult with Him I pray God fully restores your marriage
We bless God
Awesome
Coming back for this comment after the xoxo bump love 💖💖💖
Not yet married but in my mind it's registered that it's forever not because of the excitement of having to be married but because I have see people who have kugumad and right now they're enjoying the fruits of their struggles and the ones that decided to leave are kinda finding it very hard to get back into that space that they had before. Girls ladies women as long as it's not life threatening please give it time.
"Old age needs a friend" That point was deep.
Very true
Loving Manuelas emphasis of asking God before you settle down with a partner. I have always believed that God is the author of marriage but if you leave Him out at the start then you are doomed
What Aggie said just reminder me of my late step dad. This gental man came into our lives when I was 12yrs. But he had been single for a very long time. But when he got my mom all he wanted was a friend. So when Aggie says old age needs a friend. To the both of them their friendship was more than any thing. He died so happy. To point when he did I felt so bad for my mom because she had lost her friend
Before I even finish watching, I soooooo appreciate the authenticity in the conversations you've held. Thank you dear ladies.
Exactly, there openness adding a lot value to the conversation
Soooooo authentic ,cheers ladies .
I love how these ladies put out real life for the young generation. We appreciate you👏🏾
This was very emotional to watch but good. Thanks ladies. We need a part 2 to also show the good things about marriage, those situations you feel you wouldn't have made through without your husband. Tell the good stories too ...why we love these men even if they hurt us in one way or the other. Let's hear someone talk about staying for the man even before staying for the children. I think we need to celebrate such men too.
We'll definitely have this side of the conversation. P
Woow, waitg
The most honest conversation ever. This show is so under rated, you need a full hour show on TV. Good job ladies
after watching this, i can strongly conclude no marriage is perfect gal child is going thru a lot thanks for sharing ladies at least have learnt something in relation to my marriage
Life is too short to be unhappy!! I am on Pumula’s side. Leave. My parents stayed for the kids (and societal image) but sleep in separate rooms for the past 15 years and counting of a 40 year marriage 🤷🏾♀️
I just got married and me and my husband talked about our “no’s” that are an automatic divorce during our courtship. No questions asked. Divorce.
I’ve seen happy divorces
Oh WOW! Thanks for sharing. Banange - sleeping in separate rooms? Why not just seek happiness elsewhere and in other things? P
Wow. Thanks Ladies for allowing yourselves to be vulnerable for our sake. I have indeed learnt alot.
It was a nice conversation. Adding on what Angie said, one of the partners has to lead the way and hold fort and fortunately, it encourages the other partner to work on themselves. I am speaking from a place of having seen my mother do it and my Dad with time realized he didn't want to be left behind. So unless it's life threatening, then try to preserve your marriage. Even after you have left , the next person you get, there will be work to be done. And more so prayer works, include the big man up there and He will reward you with beautiful things.
I find myself repeatedly drawn to watching this specific episode for some reason.Your authenticity and honesty shine through,making it incredibly relatable.It's striking how the issues that trigger conflicts in relationships and or marriage seem to remain consistent overtime..Personally ,i dentify most with Angie's "Love dovey" personality. It's effortless for me to be swayed back if there's sincere apology accompanied by positive actions and genuine remorse.
Angie, sorry for that very painful experience losing your babies. You are such a strong person.
You somehow manage to come off both as soft and delicate whilst sharing very strong opinions, holding your own and all round bad-ass! Oba okikola otya!?
I agree being honest with yourself because sometimes compromise doesn’t work, an unhappy parent doesn’t raise a happy child! That’s the truth!
Loved the conversation. I decided to take marriage as a journey , and since I know not what to always expect, I decided to take with me the one who holds the keys to All unknown and I am glad I did today is my wedding anniversary. Been doing life with my man for 17 years. Work towards thriving and not surviving. That has been and is my goal. Just like we work at many things we need to work at our marriages.
And Angie said it well, Old age needs a partner.
"Work towards thriving". Well said! P
These habits we do see happening now the fact is they must have given a warning before but we really tend to ignore just because we are in love. And if you kept ignoring up to the state of not having option then you will continue leaving in a hurt and you will term it perseverance.
We need to sort out issues when they come. Let's say first time you forgive, second time, you forgive third time you forgive, the fourth round it's already become a habit so it's upon you to decide whether to continue and persevere and accept him the way he is or not.
But as you are persevering those habits shouldn't be the reason of your annoyance in the marriage. I do personally bet this so called okuguma is living an unhappy life in marriage for the sake of the children.
Tell me when this man will think of sharing love with you having come back at 2 or 4am. This is a total separation indirectly.
This conversation was something. The authenticity is applaudable. I have been married 10 years, together for 13 and I saw myself in all of you at the very different stages of my relationship. I'll just say different people have different thresholds, personality, needs etc This is very key on whether you can stay or not. Thanks for sharing ladies.
I am a huge advocate of happiness. Harm and life-threatening situations aside, if in my deepest of hearts i do not feel happy being with you and i do not see change in the near future, i will still choose me and my happiness and walk away. I do not think God intended for marriage to be miserable.
My best episode yet, i laughed, learnt, empathised, related. Thanks for being more than candid ladies. Loved it💜
I left after 26years because the man was so abusive and no discussions ever resulted into good out come. So that's why it's good to get married at a young age now I am 48. And it's so great after the healing process I got another husband who had also divorced his first wife so we are together and I am so grateful. Amen
Whaooo amazing
I love Pumla. I feel like we have so much in common. I really look up to her
Don't you love how candid they are about their marriage lives?? Thank you ladies. I'm always looking forward to the next episode. And yes, marriage is about compromise.
Good topic,Watching you all the way from London. It would be wise to bring men on the show to discuss about this same issue as I believe a lot of men too go through so much to contain certain women too.
Thanks Alice. Yes...we do have the men lined up for a future show. P
I agree
"Old age needs a friend... everybody needs a gang" Great climax
This so far has been my best episode. It’s the honesty and the vulnerability for me . Thanks for helping us learn by bringing such engaging conversations
These detailed 1 hour heart to heart conversations are the best, especially when the topic is as delicate as this one. I like the honesty. I know girls and women who have not had the privelege of loving mother figures speak wisdom into their lives are learning a thing or two. Thank you ladies.
This has been my best show ever on Bump love.......I clearly agree that the devil is here to destroy our marriages bacause God works through them.Thats yy as ladies we have to stick on prayer for it's the only way we can win... Thanks to you guys for sharing..
Such Wise YOUNG Women. This is indeed a Program/Show that Young Unmarried Persons should be attentive of.
Personally, me as me lol, domestic violence is a deal breaker. I will leave mubitiibwa, and actually it is because of the children that I will leave, just to show them that it is not okay to be abused by another person. Besides, research has proven that staying in a DV relationship harms the children more than leaving.
Correct. P
i loved Angiez mature opinions and the authenticity of everyones sharing. Rossette isbusually not so talkative but i enjoyed her sharing. i love the lady likeness in her
Yeah sure😊
You ladies really raised the conversation, this is important especially for young newly weds
Thanks, ladies for such a great episode. The conversation was authentic and very interesting. I am definitely with the “Kuguma” team. Marriage is not easy; that is why it requires commitment and staying to keep the family unit intact is worth it, but it calls for selflessness because you have to put yourself last. As Rachel said, looking inward to focus on what you can do to improve your situation before looking at what you expect your partner to do for you is an excellent place to start.
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And after the children grow, leave home and don't need you any more, what are you kugumaring for any more?
And how about you have bettered yourself to the limit that you possibly can within your limitations and cannot rise any higher under the unchanging situation?
That's why men take us for granted because they know we can't leave our children behind..so you have to kuguma nebakunyiga and then you pray for the marriage as if yo the only one who wants it to work..hhmm.
This is more than soul food ,by listening if u wanted to cry u couldn't pure laughter
I can't count the number of times I have watched this episode! And it gets better everytime I watch it. Thanks ladies, this is one of the best really. Very personal and yet so relatable (simanyi oba luzungu lutuufu🤣🤣)
Wow wow wow what a conversation?????????? I wasn't expecting this. I LOVE YOU GALS, BECAUSE YOU ARE IMPACTING LIVES. THESE ARE THE REALLY TALKS WE NEED!!!
Another very interesting, informative episode. I love that you guys share honest bits about your experiences with us. I agree with you all hence my leaving the man who gave me a ring and became a different person altogether. Rather single and happy than in a marriage miserable.
"Nandiyagadde naye sijja sobola" was really outstanding! Thanks for the knowledge splashed allover and a big thumbs up to the husbands who found it ok to be dissected, for our learning!!!
This by far is the best episode ever bse it came at a point when I needed it the most. Thank you for being authentic ladies. Thank you very much. I hope you know there are some of us that really look forward to your new episodes and learn a lot. This was WISDOM!
I love love love Angie's way of going about this issue.she has really put it so well."old age needs a partner" kiddos to u angie.i actually thought u were devorced.
Haha! Why did you think she was divorced? P
We’re getting a little personal today and throwing the question back to you: what situation would absolutely make you leave your marriage? And are the children enough reason to stay?
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Am one of your silent followers.. Am 9 months married but Alhamdulillah, we always promise each other to take our Marriage in Jannatul Firdaus twerage omuhabbati bubi nyo.... Alhamdulillah we haven't had any fight and personally I think I got a soulmate. So mature in mind and most importantly he loves me beyond repairs.. with Allah. Our Marriage will be for life time Bi ithni Rahman
A constantly cheating man.
We need the male version of the same 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Thank you so much for your honesty! I believe it comes at a cost and I'm grateful you all were willing to share regardless, just so you help out others.
Yall are such a gift to us!
@@pamelabasemera4970 exactly
This was a candid, insightful conversation. Thank you ladies.
It’s clear that the discussion is opening our minds and hearts to creating a narrative that speaks to our evolving journey of our relationships from one generation to the next.
I love the complimentary stories each women used to make their points.
Thank You all’
Am happy that the five of you represent different versions of marriage... if its not life threatening, then I would stay for the sake of my children, deal with the bad I have than leaving and meeting the worst when I can't retrieve back..
Thank you so much ladies, i love the kuguma so much but you might choose too but still your partner in the old age leaves you and takes all the things you worked for together, eg spending the resources to care for the current partner( building them houses, buying cars etc) leaving you with nothing, I’ve seen some old women left alone. So i advise as you kuguma you be doing some personnel savings for the old age to avoid disappointment.
Yes I agree 101% our mother energy is rendered useless at the time they cannot work any more. Nga bakadiye...
Exactly ur point
Ladies, standing ovation! 'Drops mic'
Thank you ladies, I feel like you have unveiled all there is about this kuguma in marriage and yet feel like the talk should still go on and on
Such a welcome conversation. Thank you ladies for being vulnerable. Such conversations are needed in a society that tends to make women choke down their feelings and emotions.
Hands down one of your best episodes. So many truths on the same topic
loving the dynamics of thoughts. For it to work i think it take both wanting to stay and putting in the work
Patience pays, its one of the fruits of the holy spirit. therefore kuguma is worth. your children matter so much
Glad that the videos are longer now everyone gets time to talk this is an interesting topic especially for us who are still single and have no children.
My appreciation goes to you ladies. You have impacted my life alot. The level of transparency in your discussions makes us who are still in stage one of marriage learn how to handle. God bless you and your husbands.
I have watched this episode more than twice...thank you ladies for opening up.
I just celebrated our 15th anniversary and like Angie I married young write from campus. I have kunobad in my heart times without number, but after the emotions of the tough conversations and arguments with my hubby have come down, am like it wasn't worth my kunoba thoughts.
Thank you ladies for making this talk too real and honestly.
Truth is if we went through school there were tough times at school,cantab and all but netulemerako mpaka degree, same applies to marriage.
Love you ladies
❤❤❤wooow
Good conversations there beautiful ladies. Loved it 🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪
Whoah! A high 5 and hugs ladies Kuddos!! You've indeed spoken my mind, I am literally Just tied a note to my hubby this very year's march with whom I dated for 12 years and a lot of what you've talked about in all the conversation has been appliances. Well; According to my experience so far I can say, marriage is a school of series without expectations
You've really built me both physically, emotionally and spiritually. Thanks loads you guys for sharing.
God bless you for me.
Well done ladies and thank you all for sharing! Whoever thought marriage was a bed of roses? For me it’s been more about compromise and the realisation that we’re all different individuals forging a union. Looking forward to your next show 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
this is the 7th time I am here 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾 and I am still rolling 😂😂😂 very informative and honest conversation here, thank you ladies
Nze I can't count 🤣🤣
Thank you ladies for sharing. These are real conversations we need to hear more often. It was fun, emotional, entertaining and educational. ❤️
We do need to have more of these conversations. Thank you. P
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thank u so much for being authentic , sharing yo stories, may they edify and bringout the best in us in the name of Jesus. Amen
Very revealing. One of the best shows. Also glad that you have ventured outside the topic of raising kids and are now broadening your discussion scope. I had a good laugh 😂😂😂.
This is real life time stories , I need more of this its so real !!!!
your experiences, our lessons. thank you ladies for sharing.
I've been watching for years without subscribing but after this show! I subscribed. Thanks for the great content
Newest subscriber! Yaaaaaayyyyy! P
It is always exciting to listen to people who share real life things like you my ladies.
Angie thank you for your closing remarks that as I age and the kids am clinging to are leading their own lives, I need a buddy. For those and more reasons I will kuguma. Marriage is interesting!!!!
I love the duration of this one....long enough for me to learn.....thanks ladies....
Kale Bump love started mpola mpola mubyokusaaga naye kati ekutteyo! It's getting better by the day. Thanks ladies, we love you.
Kumbe you've watched already, kajambo mukyala 🖐️
I just came across this conversation, with so many incredible minds. Their vulnerability is teaching and healing beyond measures. Thank you. For sure a new sub 🥰
I like how genuine the conversation was....thanks. Picked afew leaves
So nice to see Angie come out in her fullness🥰....and very well moderated Pumla
I like the realness. Thank you for being vulnerable and open
This conversation was hilarious .Rossett thank you for making me laugh.Your vulnerability as women has taught me something
Thank u team bump love, steadily loving and learning from each of u, I can relate with most of your situations but one thing I know is that woman out there if u have God at the center of your marriage, trust me it's only a matter of time, (how long u can wait on God) , and the victory will b yours. The devil hates to see a happy family n is at work. It's always been God for me. Pray for your families alongside the counseling.
Would love to know the daddy version opinions wn daddy's come around,we needed this info marriage hehehe,loved this
Racheal I've loved your show since on NTV always wishing it could be Abit longer, nice to find everything here. I love the discussions which help us in our daily lives.
I'm with Pumla. I never want to get married. Its too much work. I think I need a partner so we can co parent
God, Compromise, patience, empathy and dedication are the tools one needs to run a marriage.
Thank you ladies for this episode it’s very educational.
Thank you so much ladies, you are the best, you answered all my questions, wow God bless you all, very educative, modern day, senga talk, from the bottom of my heart 🙏
This was an inspiring conversation thank you so much. I also want you to talk about finances in a home where a man doesn't contribute anything can a woman stay?
This bump love fan wishes to be hosted on banange... Love y'all ladies.
Thanks ladies for good discussion😘 , we need to think wisely and come up with good decision that can't harm ourselves and including our children 😴
Ladies am impressed by your honest conversations and truly if many couples out there can listen to your testmonies their families can shrive all through hard times. OKUGUMA is likened to the Bibilical promise of GOD in Isaiah 43:2 that no matter what you go through He will always be with us. in God's wisdom He brings different people to meet each other for a purpose of unity,peace, respect and collaboration among societies and initially Love sets in and grows all through to diffeerent ways but true love will always preavail. The devil howver preaches a diffrent msg and we have to be careful whom we listen to
@Manuela you wrapped the show up well! Make the sole decision to marry the person you say you want to marry, and be okay with it. Also it is not a commandment to get married, so take your time before you make the decision, marriage is a very big step to take in li fe.
the way Pumpla rolls her eyes 😂😂😂 thank you ladies for the show,I loved it
Debating such hard and personal things in our homes with friends is easy. But here on a platform with an audience you don't see is HARD. This was a brave episode. Thank you for getting into it and leaving no stone unturned. This is one of those conversations where we could talk all day... I will agree with Angie-Growing old alone is not proggie, I can tell you that for free. 😆
Also marriage is a beautiful challenge because it is the one place that forces you (if you allow it) to deal with your 'bu'things and after that parenting then highlights any pending things you may not have addressed. And I agree with Rachael's approach to invest in looking inward because after all you're the only thing you can control in the marriage and everything else you report to God.
As I grow I realize that despite my commitment to marriage and staying, it is brave 💪to stay, and it is brave to leave as well for those that choose to.
Pumla you did a stellar job moderating this discussion 👏Thank you
Agreed. Such a deep and vulnerable discussion. Marriage isn't for the faint-hearted 🙂 We thank the gents behind these ladies for enabling you in many ways.
Thanks ladies for the discussion it's better to stay with the imperfect person you because out there they many spoilt ones
Beautiful , Beautiful Discussion topics. 100% true . Marriages are really in rocks weights. if one side weighs higher, balance the other side by communication and let God the almighty be the potter of family
I am seriously falling in love with you ladies. My take is, don't stay for the kids. They see through the dysfunction. Its even worse when you have a daughter, it can negatively shape the woman she becomes in future especially coping with toxic men.
I surely enjoy watching Bump Love episodes, I live for them. Thank you ladies for sharing your experiences in their rawness. I could relate with Pumla about some kiganda marriages discouraging us from marriage. Our mothers are surely the necks that move those heads, they carry the biggest burden, they behold the POWER in disguise and from the background. We grow and we evolve!
As far as gummaring, May God give us the Grace and also enable us to extend it to our partners🙏
May wicked/evil men not happen to us🙏
Mrs Mwine you are like me i went through the same journey but God has answered our prayers we are expecting.
Woo hoo...congratulations 😇. We bless God.
Thanks for these honest conversations. This takes honesty but thanks for opening up your lives to impact the lives of other women. God 🙌 bless you all
What a candid conversation! Thank you ladies for this episode.
Thanks ladies...but we would love a men's panel to get their thoughts too on this topic
Thanks Iris. We already have men lined up for this. We just needed to listen to the women 1st. P
Wow . Thats my wish too
Great topic Bump Love. I really love all your raw and honest opinions on this sensitive topic. You couldn’t have said it any better. I just got a lot of knowledge and insight from you lovely ladies.
Bananage am a man but this was super …this talk was for World Cup …Pumla looks such a sweet soul full of good vibes ….she really took this interview in the best way ever ….
Wow! Best episode ever! Love the truths in it. Love you ladies.
I enjoyed this conversation tremendously!! Very difficult topic. You laughed & made me laugh. I've lived in the US for over 50 years; but originally from Panama, of Caribbean descent. I realized in this conversation that we are all the same. What makes us whole ultimately in our ability to take our eyes off the storm. That's what caused Peter to start sinking...But God!!!
Pumla I can relate...truely relate nze he even took my phone and changed my lines, deleted all male contacts,... I resorted to kuguma as well.. very insecure and a narcissist... Well siika marriage... left last year Sept making a year on 10th 😊am happy for my peace of mind. Let me work munange... Btw was in for 2 years.. We only did kukyala only. At 25 now I don't want to deal with mental health problems even. 🚮🚮🚮
Guard Your Heart. Marriage is beautiful but there should be only so much we can tolerate. Hugs babe. There is a better fit for you out there. P
Angie is that big sister always has good counsel