Would You Stay In A Bad Marriage For Your Kids??
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- Опубліковано 7 чер 2024
- Happy Friday guys!
We’re getting a little personal today and throwing the question back to you: what situation would absolutely make you leave your marriage? And are the children enough reason to stay?
Sound off in the comments below!
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#bumplove #motherhood #marriage
These are the conversations that get me up from my bed ❤️🔥
Nyabo, first finish sleeping.
@@manuelap.mulondo wooowwww , thank you girls this was real awesome 🥰🥰
@@manuelap.mulondo You're so beautiful
@@winniemunyes9595 awwwwwwww, making me shy
@@komupamela2330 thank you for watching
But ladies do you know how you have impacted our lives with this show? Honestly you deserve a medal
Ikr Amazing souls just💖💖💖
Thank you for the likes friends
So true, am currently in same situation like Rachel one leg is already out and just counting days to exit.
Kudos to the husbands who don't mind you discussing them. And to you ladies for not shying away from sharing your stories.
Exactly. No man will do this. Lol
Surely grateful that they have let us in their private space and shared real life experiences,, love you ladies
This conversation was phenomenal!! Thank you for tackling a hard topic. After 30 years of marriage we’ve reached our hardest moments!! My husband lost his job and cascaded into a deep depression. ( our marriage had been shaky for some time prior to that) He completely rejected me. I was a stay at home mom with our 6 children. I was not opposed to working but he wanted me home and at the same time making money. I had to do some deep inner work by the grace of God and give room for him to find his way. It’s been 4 years, all the children are out of high school. I’m happily working and doing what I love. I was counseled to leave by many but what held me is what one of the ladies said -“Did I know that he was the one for me from the beginning?” The answer is yes! Therefore I will stay no matter what. I am finding my happiness because it’s not dependent upon him. Slowly but surely he is finding his way again. We live in the same home but separate. I’m still believing that by Gods grace our marriage will be restored and that we will be “jubileed”( I think that’s the term you used).
I just love your frank honest open conversations from an African perspective! I’m from the Caribbean and married to a Nigerian. My expectations were the story book, movie, eurochristian ones. I had to search the word of God and dig deep to discover that the real thing is very different. I have a promise in God’s word that says that “ love never fails” so my quest is to discover what that looks like as to how I’m to demonstrate that. How does one live 1 Cor. 13: 4-8
I love you all ladies! I wish to host conversations like these one day on my own channel. You’ve inspired me!!
Blessings!
Wow, He is God Almighty and nothing is difficult with Him I pray God fully restores your marriage
We bless God
Awesome
Coming back for this comment after the xoxo bump love 💖💖💖
Not yet married but in my mind it's registered that it's forever not because of the excitement of having to be married but because I have see people who have kugumad and right now they're enjoying the fruits of their struggles and the ones that decided to leave are kinda finding it very hard to get back into that space that they had before. Girls ladies women as long as it's not life threatening please give it time.
"Old age needs a friend" That point was deep.
Very true
"Old age needs a friend... everybody needs a gang" Great climax
I love how these ladies put out real life for the young generation. We appreciate you👏🏾
Before I even finish watching, I soooooo appreciate the authenticity in the conversations you've held. Thank you dear ladies.
Exactly, there openness adding a lot value to the conversation
Soooooo authentic ,cheers ladies .
The most honest conversation ever. This show is so under rated, you need a full hour show on TV. Good job ladies
Loving Manuelas emphasis of asking God before you settle down with a partner. I have always believed that God is the author of marriage but if you leave Him out at the start then you are doomed
We’re getting a little personal today and throwing the question back to you: what situation would absolutely make you leave your marriage? And are the children enough reason to stay?
Sound off in the comments below!
Loved this episode? Share the link with a friend! Leave us a like and please subscribe to our channel 😘
#bumplove #motherhood #marriage
Am one of your silent followers.. Am 9 months married but Alhamdulillah, we always promise each other to take our Marriage in Jannatul Firdaus twerage omuhabbati bubi nyo.... Alhamdulillah we haven't had any fight and personally I think I got a soulmate. So mature in mind and most importantly he loves me beyond repairs.. with Allah. Our Marriage will be for life time Bi ithni Rahman
A constantly cheating man.
We need the male version of the same 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Thank you so much for your honesty! I believe it comes at a cost and I'm grateful you all were willing to share regardless, just so you help out others.
Yall are such a gift to us!
@@pamelabasemera4970 exactly
I just came across this conversation, with so many incredible minds. Their vulnerability is teaching and healing beyond measures. Thank you. For sure a new sub 🥰
Well done ladies and thank you all for sharing! Whoever thought marriage was a bed of roses? For me it’s been more about compromise and the realisation that we’re all different individuals forging a union. Looking forward to your next show 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
This was very emotional to watch but good. Thanks ladies. We need a part 2 to also show the good things about marriage, those situations you feel you wouldn't have made through without your husband. Tell the good stories too ...why we love these men even if they hurt us in one way or the other. Let's hear someone talk about staying for the man even before staying for the children. I think we need to celebrate such men too.
We'll definitely have this side of the conversation. P
Woow, waitg
Such a welcome conversation. Thank you ladies for being vulnerable. Such conversations are needed in a society that tends to make women choke down their feelings and emotions.
What Aggie said just reminder me of my late step dad. This gental man came into our lives when I was 12yrs. But he had been single for a very long time. But when he got my mom all he wanted was a friend. So when Aggie says old age needs a friend. To the both of them their friendship was more than any thing. He died so happy. To point when he did I felt so bad for my mom because she had lost her friend
Wow. Thanks Ladies for allowing yourselves to be vulnerable for our sake. I have indeed learnt alot.
Great topic Bump Love. I really love all your raw and honest opinions on this sensitive topic. You couldn’t have said it any better. I just got a lot of knowledge and insight from you lovely ladies.
This by far is the best episode ever bse it came at a point when I needed it the most. Thank you for being authentic ladies. Thank you very much. I hope you know there are some of us that really look forward to your new episodes and learn a lot. This was WISDOM!
This was a candid, insightful conversation. Thank you ladies.
thank u so much for being authentic , sharing yo stories, may they edify and bringout the best in us in the name of Jesus. Amen
My appreciation goes to you ladies. You have impacted my life alot. The level of transparency in your discussions makes us who are still in stage one of marriage learn how to handle. God bless you and your husbands.
This so far has been my best episode. It’s the honesty and the vulnerability for me . Thanks for helping us learn by bringing such engaging conversations
I have watched this episode more than twice...thank you ladies for opening up.
Beautiful vulnerable conversations! Thank you so much ladies for your honesty in sharing personal lives.
These detailed 1 hour heart to heart conversations are the best, especially when the topic is as delicate as this one. I like the honesty. I know girls and women who have not had the privelege of loving mother figures speak wisdom into their lives are learning a thing or two. Thank you ladies.
The way I enjoyed this show. You ladies are amazing in every way. Thank you for always pouring yourselves out.
Thanks for these honest conversations. This takes honesty but thanks for opening up your lives to impact the lives of other women. God 🙌 bless you all
Life is too short to be unhappy!! I am on Pumula’s side. Leave. My parents stayed for the kids (and societal image) but sleep in separate rooms for the past 15 years and counting of a 40 year marriage 🤷🏾♀️
I just got married and me and my husband talked about our “no’s” that are an automatic divorce during our courtship. No questions asked. Divorce.
I’ve seen happy divorces
Oh WOW! Thanks for sharing. Banange - sleeping in separate rooms? Why not just seek happiness elsewhere and in other things? P
i loved Angiez mature opinions and the authenticity of everyones sharing. Rossette isbusually not so talkative but i enjoyed her sharing. i love the lady likeness in her
Very revealing. One of the best shows. Also glad that you have ventured outside the topic of raising kids and are now broadening your discussion scope. I had a good laugh 😂😂😂.
Thank you Ladies for being so vulnerable.
your experiences, our lessons. thank you ladies for sharing.
This conversation was something. The authenticity is applaudable. I have been married 10 years, together for 13 and I saw myself in all of you at the very different stages of my relationship. I'll just say different people have different thresholds, personality, needs etc This is very key on whether you can stay or not. Thanks for sharing ladies.
Whoah! A high 5 and hugs ladies Kuddos!! You've indeed spoken my mind, I am literally Just tied a note to my hubby this very year's march with whom I dated for 12 years and a lot of what you've talked about in all the conversation has been appliances. Well; According to my experience so far I can say, marriage is a school of series without expectations
You've really built me both physically, emotionally and spiritually. Thanks loads you guys for sharing.
God bless you for me.
Lovely episode. Thanks for sharing ladies. We have got to know you better. It really hits home. So much hard work in marriages these days.
What a candid conversation! Thank you ladies for this episode.
This has been my best show ever on Bump love.......I clearly agree that the devil is here to destroy our marriages bacause God works through them.Thats yy as ladies we have to stick on prayer for it's the only way we can win... Thanks to you guys for sharing..
I like the realness. Thank you for being vulnerable and open
This episode is sooo juicy 👂🏾👂🏾👂🏾👂🏾. Thank you all for being so transparent. Very educative and encouraging 💕🤗🤗🤗.
Wow! Best episode ever! Love the truths in it. Love you ladies.
I left after 26years because the man was so abusive and no discussions ever resulted into good out come. So that's why it's good to get married at a young age now I am 48. And it's so great after the healing process I got another husband who had also divorced his first wife so we are together and I am so grateful. Amen
Whaooo amazing
This particular conversation is what i have always wanted from you ladies, thank you🥰
Wow wow wow what a conversation?????????? I wasn't expecting this. I LOVE YOU GALS, BECAUSE YOU ARE IMPACTING LIVES. THESE ARE THE REALLY TALKS WE NEED!!!
It’s clear that the discussion is opening our minds and hearts to creating a narrative that speaks to our evolving journey of our relationships from one generation to the next.
I love the complimentary stories each women used to make their points.
Thank You all’
I have enjoyed the conversation. So many lessons to learn from you ladies.
Loved the conversation. I decided to take marriage as a journey , and since I know not what to always expect, I decided to take with me the one who holds the keys to All unknown and I am glad I did today is my wedding anniversary. Been doing life with my man for 17 years. Work towards thriving and not surviving. That has been and is my goal. Just like we work at many things we need to work at our marriages.
And Angie said it well, Old age needs a partner.
"Work towards thriving". Well said! P
These habits we do see happening now the fact is they must have given a warning before but we really tend to ignore just because we are in love. And if you kept ignoring up to the state of not having option then you will continue leaving in a hurt and you will term it perseverance.
We need to sort out issues when they come. Let's say first time you forgive, second time, you forgive third time you forgive, the fourth round it's already become a habit so it's upon you to decide whether to continue and persevere and accept him the way he is or not.
But as you are persevering those habits shouldn't be the reason of your annoyance in the marriage. I do personally bet this so called okuguma is living an unhappy life in marriage for the sake of the children.
Tell me when this man will think of sharing love with you having come back at 2 or 4am. This is a total separation indirectly.
One of the best episodes hands down with so much to relate to, thank you ladies.
Thank you ladies for sharing. These are real conversations we need to hear more often. It was fun, emotional, entertaining and educational. ❤️
We do need to have more of these conversations. Thank you. P
Facts
I love the duration of this one....long enough for me to learn.....thanks ladies....
This is by far my best episode of bump love..thank you for sharing ladies♥️♥️
What a vulnerable episode this is!! 🎉🎉. Thanks ladies 🙏🏾. Watching you from Algiers.
Thanks ladies for good discussion😘 , we need to think wisely and come up with good decision that can't harm ourselves and including our children 😴
after watching this, i can strongly conclude no marriage is perfect gal child is going thru a lot thanks for sharing ladies at least have learnt something in relation to my marriage
Wonderful ladies of Bumplove, you're doing a great job. Please keep hosting the show
You ladies are the best. Thank you for doing this podcast. It was really eye-opening.
Another very interesting, informative episode. I love that you guys share honest bits about your experiences with us. I agree with you all hence my leaving the man who gave me a ring and became a different person altogether. Rather single and happy than in a marriage miserable.
I don’t know how many times i have laughed throughout this episode, one of my realest n favorite. All your stories were hilarious but alot to learn from.
Candid conversations, thank you ladies.
Thanks sooo much ladies for being eye openers to us.May God keep you for us
Glad that the videos are longer now everyone gets time to talk this is an interesting topic especially for us who are still single and have no children.
It was a nice conversation. Adding on what Angie said, one of the partners has to lead the way and hold fort and fortunately, it encourages the other partner to work on themselves. I am speaking from a place of having seen my mother do it and my Dad with time realized he didn't want to be left behind. So unless it's life threatening, then try to preserve your marriage. Even after you have left , the next person you get, there will be work to be done. And more so prayer works, include the big man up there and He will reward you with beautiful things.
This episode was very amazing 😍 thank y'all for being so real and open 👏
That's an amazing conversation my Ladies....salute to you and thanks for the good presentation....be blessed🙏🙏
You have helped so many marriages with this conversation... Thank you.
true even o was about to give up but i think i should hold on
This was a good conversation. Thank you ladies.
Best bump love ever😍... so real and therapeutic for many of us....thank you ladies
Love these ladies 💞 thanks for sharing
What a candid conversation. Truth and reality 💯
Best episode ever. Kudos ladies. Thank you for sharing 😊
This was refreshing! Thank you ladies
Thank you ladies for bringing this to table, we have been able to relate.
Thank you ladies for always putting things together for us, especially making it as personal as possible, i have learnt a lot and i always look forward to watching you always.
loving the dynamics of thoughts. For it to work i think it take both wanting to stay and putting in the work
If I could like this gazillion times I wud have!!!!! Wow wow wow, it was such a great educative conversation!!’I like the openness u pple display without sugar coating reality. I’ve loved and loved it. It was encouraging for those who have been facing challenges in their marriages and thought they were alone. Thank you for being real and tackling real life issues with openness. I personally have been healed and blessed. I’m in agreement with Rosette’s point of praying about the marriage. Thank you thank you
Am glad i have had to listen to this...it warmly sunk, it's such breathtaking
I've been watching for years without subscribing but after this show! I subscribed. Thanks for the great content
Newest subscriber! Yaaaaaayyyyy! P
Hands down one of your best episodes. So many truths on the same topic
You ladies really raised the conversation, this is important especially for young newly weds
Long and nice, could watch some more. Kept repeating. Well done ladies.👏👏
My best episode yet, i laughed, learnt, empathised, related. Thanks for being more than candid ladies. Loved it💜
Thanks, ladies for such a great episode. The conversation was authentic and very interesting. I am definitely with the “Kuguma” team. Marriage is not easy; that is why it requires commitment and staying to keep the family unit intact is worth it, but it calls for selflessness because you have to put yourself last. As Rachel said, looking inward to focus on what you can do to improve your situation before looking at what you expect your partner to do for you is an excellent place to start.
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And after the children grow, leave home and don't need you any more, what are you kugumaring for any more?
And how about you have bettered yourself to the limit that you possibly can within your limitations and cannot rise any higher under the unchanging situation?
That's why men take us for granted because they know we can't leave our children behind..so you have to kuguma nebakunyiga and then you pray for the marriage as if yo the only one who wants it to work..hhmm.
Wow 😍 have truly enjoyed this Episode very life teaching #thanks ladies#
Honestly this is so sweet to watch to😂😂so educative, so real, i think bump love is such a chill pill😂😂
Love love this, you all made me laugh thanks ladies.
Don't you love how candid they are about their marriage lives?? Thank you ladies. I'm always looking forward to the next episode. And yes, marriage is about compromise.
Wow this conversation has been one great one, alot has been learnt.thanks guys for sharing 👏👏👏
Thanks ladies.This was tooooo motivational.We need part 2 of "kuguma" .
Thank you ladies, I feel like you have unveiled all there is about this kuguma in marriage and yet feel like the talk should still go on and on
Old age surely needs a gango. Thank you once more ladies. Lots of love ❤
My beautiful hun buns..😍thanks for the interesting talk and allowing your selves to be alittle vulnerable..funny and hilarious moments there 😄
This was the best....perfect!!! Am not alone.....thank u Angie. Loved ur words of wisdom
This has been the best bump love show ever😍😍
This is real life time stories , I need more of this its so real !!!!
This has been my best episode ever, so authentic
Angie thank you so much for always being able to express ur experiences.i personally really appreciate
We feel you and love you bump love...your doing a great job ladies 💓
This is real therapy. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing with us. So relatable from 5 whole therapists ❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️. Haven't missed a word
Good conversations there beautiful ladies. Loved it 🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪
I like how genuine the conversation was....thanks. Picked afew leaves