Dad gets emotional and it’s heartbreaking (over his brother Bill)

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  • @WendyQallab
    @WendyQallab 6 місяців тому +119

    I took care of many people with dementia and most of their children barely visited let alone care for them. This is a amazing son.

    • @uzumate9976
      @uzumate9976 5 місяців тому

      Son is well taken care of his father, and dad is very gentle old man with memory problems.
      Some people with dementia or any memory loss problems hard to deal with them so have to lock them in the room.

    • @JillianCoff
      @JillianCoff 4 місяці тому +3

      Patients that is the key and U have a lot of patience dan

    • @KrystalHarwood-z1b
      @KrystalHarwood-z1b 4 місяці тому +2

      my friends mom had ''walking dementia''. she was always looking for her sister who passed years ago

    • @skwungebobsparepantsx5123
      @skwungebobsparepantsx5123 3 місяці тому

      Me too, its so heartwarming to see him loved and cared for at home with his family xxx

    • @onthehill3381
      @onthehill3381 3 місяці тому +1

      @WendyQailab Sounds like you are judging. You don’t know what the situation is. I take care of my mom 24/7. She’s nothing like what this gentleman appears to be. She threatens to end my life, she’s aggressive and nasty along other things. It’s hard to stomach.

  • @lenom1289
    @lenom1289 11 місяців тому +508

    When I saw him pet the dog, when Dan first told him that Bill has passed, my thought was, he's trying to sooth himself. Wonderful man.

    • @jeanniemayer2174
      @jeanniemayer2174 11 місяців тому +42

      I thought the exact same thing! We find comfort in our pets! Coco wasn't budging when Dan told him to move. Grandpa needed Coco!❤😢

    • @Gabriel-oi7ex
      @Gabriel-oi7ex 11 місяців тому +15

      Yes, my thoughts as well. Also, it was so good to see Grandpa Ed smile at the end of the conversation. God's blessings to all.🌻💗🙏

    • @inekeschmelter3348
      @inekeschmelter3348 11 місяців тому +11

      What a difficult situation. I feel so sorry for him but also for you. I’m in the same situaton. My mother is from ‘31. Turning 92 on christmas day. I admire how you interact with your dad. Give HIM a hugg. My mother needs huggs very much. To feel that warm connection. See feels lovely very often because she forgets we were there.
      She’ s living in a home 5 min from mine.
      Wish you all a very good and warm Christmas from Holland! ❤

    • @pattijohnson8197
      @pattijohnson8197 11 місяців тому +2

      Exactly! 😢

    • @superluca78
      @superluca78 11 місяців тому +10

      I thought the same. He was taking comfort in the lovely dog.

  • @realtalkwiththeking7862
    @realtalkwiththeking7862 11 місяців тому +267

    The dog sensed he was upset and wanted to stay by him. I bet it hits hard every time he hears this. Love you Dr. Ed!

    • @EastCoastGal66
      @EastCoastGal66 6 місяців тому +2

      🙏✝️❤️😭

    • @moquilla1
      @moquilla1 2 місяці тому +3

      The dog was already with him, I bet she follows him around and looks out for him.

    • @kevabela6307
      @kevabela6307 Місяць тому

      Good observation. It sure seemed that way.

  • @CheGa2016
    @CheGa2016 11 місяців тому +496

    Hi Dan,
    I am a nursing assistant and I work with people with dementia. I would suggest that you print out the obituary of his brother Bill and a picture and put it in you Dad’s room where he can see it everyday. Perhaps also place a picture of his other siblings with their names and their contact information as where they live.❤

    • @breakingewes1316
      @breakingewes1316 11 місяців тому +36

      That’s a great idea! ❤

    • @babyrenee6537
      @babyrenee6537 11 місяців тому +15

      Yes as someone struck by senior moments in midlife (lupus brain involvement) my working memory is not as short lived but even I've had to relive, and regrieve, the news of lost loved ones. Yet just as photos, videos, email, and text threads "reset" the timer I'm sure this could help preserve his memory of the loss of his bro. Every blessing in 2024.

    • @Jaxismom
      @Jaxismom 11 місяців тому +16

      This made me cry sorry Dan that's a hard thing for you

    • @_trismegistus
      @_trismegistus 10 місяців тому +14

      I agree, it would be good to have laminated sheets with various info and reminders around the house.

    • @jena9176
      @jena9176 10 місяців тому +13

      GMTA
      I WAS THINKING A POSTER BOARD WITH PICTURES OF ED'S SIBLINGS/FAMILY AS SOMETHING TANGIBLE FOR HIM TO VIEW WHEN DESIRED ❤
      A PICTURE IS WORTH A THOUSAND WORDS. 👍
      BLESSINGS

  • @cherie85okc
    @cherie85okc 7 місяців тому +43

    He’s so tender hearted. What a sweet man. ❤

  • @veevee111
    @veevee111 11 місяців тому +262

    Coco is Dr Ed's comfort animal whether he likes it or not ❤. God bless you, Dan and thank you, Coco, for your unconditional love.

    • @comfynlux5695
      @comfynlux5695 11 місяців тому +11

      Coco is always looking out for him

    • @tayawhiteside4256
      @tayawhiteside4256 11 місяців тому +7

      Coco is amazingly in tune with Grandpa, so much love in your home Dan 💞

    • @hilariecalijo4643
      @hilariecalijo4643 11 місяців тому +3

      I thought the exact same thing. Coco
      knew dad was distressed and was there to comfort him. ❤❤❤animals are angels , so sweet🥹🥹

    • @resolution1
      @resolution1 7 місяців тому

      German shepherds are the best. They quickly pickup on their hooman emotions and are very protective 🤍

  • @hilariecalijo4643
    @hilariecalijo4643 11 місяців тому +374

    The dog knew dad was distressed , comforting him. Bless dad’s sweet heart. You’re a sweet, kind son. ❤

    • @LisaRobertson-pq1tz
      @LisaRobertson-pq1tz 7 місяців тому +6

      Thank you for your patience with him. I know your tired but you won't regret it.

  • @Tidda86
    @Tidda86 10 місяців тому +106

    What a guy!!! He may have some memory lost but he never forgets how much he loves and cares for his family.

    • @stacymalone8539
      @stacymalone8539 8 місяців тому +3

      Soooo HEART MELTING ❤

    • @keepingitrealalways2118
      @keepingitrealalways2118 6 місяців тому +2

      Same as my dad. He is 91 with dementia. What a blessing for this family that they can stay home to care for their Dad. Such a sad illness.

  • @DorothyWilloughby-co5nc
    @DorothyWilloughby-co5nc 7 місяців тому +48

    The Gerrman sherpards is taking good care of Ed...... it's like a service dog like disabled people have. They're the best. He's standing at Ed's door wait'n to go inside with him to comfort him..... SOOOOOOOOO adorable; loveable n LOVELY.
    So sad yet he's blessed to have a VERYYYYYYYYY good family members to take care of him.

    • @EastCoastGal66
      @EastCoastGal66 6 місяців тому +2

      The dog is so wonderful to have with him! I love German Shepherds they are the best dogs, I had 4 in my life. Coco will definitely give him love.

    • @karyne826
      @karyne826 2 місяці тому

      They’re Wonder Dogs❤

    • @judygavan7359
      @judygavan7359 Місяць тому +1

      I know it's your life but I am disappointed that you and Danielle are ending your marriage. I hope you went to counseling before making this major decision.

  • @mariadesouza5505
    @mariadesouza5505 11 місяців тому +101

    coco is a very smart dog, he knows when grandpa is sad good dog.

    • @lilianflynn198
      @lilianflynn198 Місяць тому

      Gorgeous Dog❤
      Staying close to Grandpa to comfort

    • @karyne826
      @karyne826 Місяць тому

      So so true. He’s trying to comfort Grandpa. ❤

  • @King_Of_Paintsville
    @King_Of_Paintsville 11 місяців тому +224

    I couldn’t imagine having to break the news to him about his brother over and over again and relive his sadness. Bless you guy!

    • @mamacindyrogofsky495
      @mamacindyrogofsky495 11 місяців тому +1

      Only thing is ( if it can be considered a blessing.) He won't remember a few mins later.

    • @Marie.b
      @Marie.b 10 місяців тому +3

      ​@@mamacindyrogofsky495yep and that's why I'd say Bills gone out on an errand or something believable.

    • @lwh7301
      @lwh7301 7 місяців тому

      @@Marie.b He has the right to know the truth.

  • @Godagaba9907
    @Godagaba9907 11 місяців тому +97

    This man is the true definition of being your brother's keeper ❤️

  • @shannonchavez3420
    @shannonchavez3420 11 місяців тому +52

    Also, i think you might want to say "died", instead of "passed" because he seems to have a harder time understanding "passed". Bless your dad! Hes a sweet man!!❤

  • @Blissful.1
    @Blissful.1 11 місяців тому +50

    You should ask him stories of his childhood, those beautiful memories may need to be remembered for his comfort 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
    God bless y’all!

  • @HobbesnCalvin124
    @HobbesnCalvin124 5 місяців тому +24

    My dad had dementia. My mom passed away during this time. When he would ask for her we said she was shopping (which she loved to do) and that she would be there later that day to see him. There was no need to put that grief on him over and over and over again. He was happy and by the time mom would have been there to visit him he would have forgotten and moved on to something else. Just no need.

    • @TheSouthernLady777
      @TheSouthernLady777 5 місяців тому +5

      Agree. Sounds like a good idea to have her shopping instead.

    • @paulaegraham
      @paulaegraham 4 місяці тому +1

      There is a video where they do that for half of an hour.

    • @HobbesnCalvin124
      @HobbesnCalvin124 4 місяці тому +1

      @@paulaegraham Well that’s sad, and completely unnecessary. ☹️

  • @dandm20
    @dandm20 11 місяців тому +94

    My heart breaks for dad and when he said thank you, I lost it and the tears that had been building fell. I wish I could hug him. You're a good son Dan. Blessings to you both.

    • @samroger
      @samroger 11 місяців тому

      I really felt the same way 😢

    • @Sara-ry4vc
      @Sara-ry4vc 11 місяців тому

      I have also wished many a times, I wish I could hug grandpa Ed! Truly a gentle, kind, caring soul💞

  • @amsol46
    @amsol46 2 місяці тому +3

    Dan, you are a good son. Clearly your dad is a very lovely man, and you can see the kindness of his character in you.

  • @raidabdul
    @raidabdul 10 місяців тому +2

    He never forgets the year he was born❤

  • @kabobtater9982
    @kabobtater9982 10 місяців тому +45

    4:10 this part of the conversation goes to show that no matter how old you are, your younger siblings will always be the baby’s to you. when you were explaining how it gets harder to travel in old age he started to say she wasn’t old with his “oh no she’s not that ol- she’s younger than i am” so adorable. our elders must be protected

  • @this.is.pointless
    @this.is.pointless 11 місяців тому +23

    I love when he says "pretty good" after you mention his age!!! Always. ❤

  • @cindysmith4978
    @cindysmith4978 6 місяців тому +6

    I’m heart broken watching this. I know exactly how you feel , dementia is so cruel. My dad passed last year and had dementia but my grandmother had really severe dementia like your dad, we told her everyday several times that her husband passed. It’s awful to watch the heartbreak over and over! Thank you sir for taking care of your dad, you’re a great man❤

  • @roxannemoreno2012
    @roxannemoreno2012 11 місяців тому +69

    Wow this is the most heartbreaking part in my opinion. Forgetting loved ones past and grieving over and over again. You're so awesome Dan!! ❤❤❤❤

  • @SandraMartin-y8c
    @SandraMartin-y8c 6 місяців тому +9

    I think all those years of being a Doctor and showing respect to his patients is still there in showing love and respect for his family ❤❤❤

  • @carlitaperry1591
    @carlitaperry1591 5 місяців тому +6

    Thank you for sharing your interactions with your beloved dad! So reminiscent of caring for my 95 year old mother-in-law who also suffered from dementia. God bless you and your family!

  • @cassandradiaz7651
    @cassandradiaz7651 11 місяців тому +200

    Thank you, Dan, for all that you and your family do for your dad. Coco seems to know grandpa's fragile state, so Coco chooses to be close to him almost at all times. Such a sweet dog. ❤

    • @DedeMager-ig6he
      @DedeMager-ig6he 11 місяців тому +16

      And, I noticed in his grief he reached out to pet Coco comforting himself when it seemed to him nobody else was there for him...

    • @stavroulapsiharis8357
      @stavroulapsiharis8357 11 місяців тому +4

      You handled that well so sad to see his face when he realizes his brother Bill is no longer around 😢.

  • @ruthhibbett595
    @ruthhibbett595 11 місяців тому +23

    My mom is 97 and I’m so grateful that she still has her mind intact. The body’s not in very good shape but the minds good. God bless you all for the love and support you all give your dad. Is very special. ❤

  • @alphashanahan4323
    @alphashanahan4323 11 місяців тому +90

    He is just so adorable. His “thank you” at the end was like a signal that he is okay now and is back to the present. Much love to your whole family.

  • @tcarroll3954
    @tcarroll3954 3 місяці тому +9

    Coco is very supportive and protective of Grandpa Ed.

  • @Commenting_mymind
    @Commenting_mymind 2 місяці тому +1

    Ed's a blessing to have regardless of his dementia. Love his polite ways. You Dan are the best son a parent could have. It brings tears to my eyes watching pops struggles. Then he goes on yo his business. Thanks for sharing.

  • @saraschneider6781
    @saraschneider6781 11 місяців тому +63

    Dan, I would love to hear stories of Bill and their sister. Grandpa Ed clearly loves them deeply so we've gotten attached to them, too. I love hearing about the special people in Grandpa's life.

  • @ameliawilson1053
    @ameliawilson1053 11 місяців тому +63

    I love it when Dan tells Grandpa his age, and he says I was born in 1932.

  • @ameliawilson1053
    @ameliawilson1053 11 місяців тому +134

    I really appreciate how you take the time out and dedication to making all these amazing videos.

  • @ausi14u
    @ausi14u 2 місяці тому +1

    You are an inspiration to parental care. Thank you for accommodating your father and being so understanding of his condition. I lost my mother to dementia and you are doing an excellent job of looking after him. God bless you both and your family, thanks for posting your experiences.

  • @randallgee4232
    @randallgee4232 11 місяців тому +73

    My heart breaks for Grandpa Ed.May Bill RIP.Sending love and blessing to you all.

    • @keelane2575
      @keelane2575 11 місяців тому +1

      Mines too. They must’ve been really close ❤

  • @wdestrempsmecke
    @wdestrempsmecke 11 місяців тому +10

    You are amazing with your Dad. My Mom is a little further on with her dementia. These are excellent examples of how to handle difficulties of communicating with her. Thank you🙏🏼

  • @si002
    @si002 11 місяців тому +62

    The good Dr Ed is always polite, despite everything he goes through, he never forgets his manners to say thank you 🙂

  • @ramonacardona1430
    @ramonacardona1430 11 місяців тому +17

    Awww, CoCo is protecting his Grandpa.
    It's so sad that he and you have to go thru this over and over. Your family has big hearts! God bless you all!

  • @claudettemalespina60
    @claudettemalespina60 11 місяців тому +20

    Hi Dan and Daniel. I think the reason your dog is standing behind Grampa is because hes trying to protect him from falling. He sences your fathers stress. Such a sweet pup. Take care From Ontario, Canada 🇨🇦 🐕‍🦺🦮🐾💞

  • @alisaloria7263
    @alisaloria7263 10 місяців тому +9

    I absolutely love Grandpa. I adore this man. I can see what a good man he is. True to the center of his soul. Than you for sharing this precious soul with the world. You are doing such a wonderful job full of love and patience.

  • @oilnurturelady2347
    @oilnurturelady2347 6 місяців тому +2

    Its sooo beautiful that your Dad clearly loves & cares deeply...Wow! Since there are no filters, you get to see his truest self! What a gift!💕

  • @kaliasiegrist7211
    @kaliasiegrist7211 11 місяців тому +19

    Awe he really LOVES his brother Bill... He reminds me so much of my peapaw.. I love watching ur videos it brings me so much JOY & happiness... Much love from Indiana

  • @scottmarek1391
    @scottmarek1391 11 місяців тому +41

    Dan you are so gentle with Dad and I can relate to your conversations and although it’s hard I really miss those conversations with my Dad…❤

  • @zamiadams4343
    @zamiadams4343 11 місяців тому +78

    My grandpa was the same asking about my gran who had died years previously, all the best to you Dan, we all love grandpa Ed.

    • @CoffeeCrazy
      @CoffeeCrazy 11 місяців тому

      How long do they continue to ask? Is there ever a t8me where they forget the person ?

    • @berrymaswikiti3028
      @berrymaswikiti3028 11 місяців тому +1

      Seems like they only temporarily forget about the person, but then after a while they start asking after that person again. My mum, who turned 94 two days ago and has dementia, has been constantly asking about my dad who passed on in 2008 at 92 years old! But it’s been two months now that she hasn’t asked for him, instead she’s asking for her sister who we don’t know coz she passed on years ago when they were both young girls!😢

    • @joyceh3976
      @joyceh3976 11 місяців тому +1

      @@berrymaswikiti3028 Mom died 2001, and yes she said things also that scared her, and made no sense at time. Like Ed it was right after she had been a sleep, The only thing and it's just me. I think Dan should say dad Bill Died, instead of passed, Ed always seem to not understand Dan. I always say my older son died. He died in 2016 after a back operation, I just made up my mind I had to accept he was dead, so never use the word passed. I may catch trouble over this comment, but I hope not. I know they have it very rough with Ed. The one thing I noticed also is Ed always knows Danielle's name.

    • @eleenilagan
      @eleenilagan 11 місяців тому +1

      ​@@berrymaswikiti3028Yah it's like they remember things when they were young. Dementia makes their brain smaller only to remember the past more than the present. It sucks really 😢

  • @troylooper
    @troylooper 10 місяців тому +6

    Grandpa is such a good hearted man! He loves his family so much❤

  • @michelemorin7431
    @michelemorin7431 3 місяці тому +1

    I love this sweet man ❤ he looks so robust for 92 bless his heart

  • @allie3804
    @allie3804 11 місяців тому +23

    So sad for him to have to keep reliving the death of his brother. 😔 Love you Dr Ed ❤

  • @PYT7682
    @PYT7682 11 місяців тому +31

    You even see Coco trying to comfort poor Grandpa Ed. Dan you're doing a great job. Please hang in there. Wishing you, Danielle, Grandpa Ed, Mark and the entire family many blessings during this holiday season. ❤

  • @AngelaKSellsHomes
    @AngelaKSellsHomes 11 місяців тому +35

    My heart breaks 💔 knowing he relives his brothers passing. My dad is just starting down this road. This channel helps me so much! Just knowing you're not alone helps. I'm getting great tips from the comment section too. I wish our country was more set up for this.

    • @berrymaswikiti3028
      @berrymaswikiti3028 11 місяців тому

      There’s Dementia Caregivers blog that’s very good, it has really helped me understand the condition better and give better care to my mum and also made things easier for me as well!❤

  • @JamesThomas-u9v
    @JamesThomas-u9v 5 місяців тому +6

    Dan my Dad passed 3 years ago at age 97 after a 5 year period similar to your Dad.
    I recall the day Dad began crying uncontrollably, out of the blue he thought he’d killed all his children and was a bad man😥 It wasn’t until my wife convinced Dad, I was his son, in his presence and alive, and it was just his mind playing tricks on him. We were able to change his thinking and he eventually settled down. A day I will never forget ❤

  • @fataturchina5289
    @fataturchina5289 5 місяців тому +5

    He' s always so sweet and very polite, no matter what he forgot and what he asks. Congratulations to you all as well ❤❤❤.

  • @eligioortiz5783
    @eligioortiz5783 11 місяців тому +22

    This is so sad . You could see the sadness on his face . DAN , you’re doing a great job with your Dad . God will reward you and Danielle . God Bless .

    • @JudyAdams-c3x
      @JudyAdams-c3x 9 місяців тому

      Yes God will bless you and Daniele for all the love and care you give your dad! I love your whole family. I took care of my mom for 9 years. She had short term memory loss, so I know how frustrating it can be sometimes. I did like you. I would just tell her things over and over lovingly. You are so awesome and patient with him. My mom went home at 90. She would hear the singing from heaven about 5 months before she passed. The angels were singing “When the Roll is Called up Yonder, I’ll be There”. Of course I couldn’t hear them! She even told me Jesus came to see her one day when I came home from work. She even described what He looked like! God took care of her until I could get home. I had to work! I love you all. Keep up the good work! 3:51

  • @casperdelo7777
    @casperdelo7777 11 місяців тому +7

    Your love and patience going over things over n over every time is admirable sir

  • @AlwaysChristyJ
    @AlwaysChristyJ 11 місяців тому +16

    ❤ Dan, I've been where you and your family is. My dad was 91, fell broke his hip in April 2022, had surgery and was never the same. 5 months later in September became unresponsive and died peacefully in assisted full time living center. It was like ground hog day everyday explaining to him things and watching him relive and grieve each tradgy all over again. I totally get it and know the mixed emotions you go thur. My heart goes out to you and Danielle and it only gets harder as you travel down this path. May God lift him up during this transition and give you all peace knowing his fighting a hell of a fight. Your patience is absolutely beautiful and unwavering.

  • @joelthomson8697
    @joelthomson8697 3 місяці тому +2

    I absolutely love these videos, Dan, and wish I'd have been able to see them a few years ago when my grandmother had dementia before she died at age 90. Hardest thing for me was having to regularly explain that her daughter (my mother) had passed away many years ago. I really didn't know how best to deal with it at the time and I'm certain your videos will be extremely helpful and inspiring for many people going through similar things with elderly loved ones. ❤

  • @kathrynbarker7967
    @kathrynbarker7967 9 місяців тому +3

    I love how respectful you always are to your dad, Dan. You are a wonderful and special man, just like your dad. God bless you

  • @shelwhitfield1905
    @shelwhitfield1905 11 місяців тому +14

    This man has my whole heart. Thank you, Dan, for being such a great son.

  • @1gcoe604
    @1gcoe604 11 місяців тому +10

    Ooh dear ...this is sad💔
    Grandpa even teared... 😢
    Bless you Dan for being so patient ... glad he lit up at the end❤

  • @BelindaShanle
    @BelindaShanle 11 місяців тому +16

    Bless Grandpa, having to relive that sadness over and over, he was initially in panic mode, not finding Bill. He must have been a watchful, good older brother. You do a good job, Dan, as hard as it must be. I was glad to see his smile at the end. Even if it was in frustration of not having his siblings right there and learning again, he's 91, soon to be 92

  • @JULZ_RULZ
    @JULZ_RULZ 7 місяців тому +4

    My oldest sister took care of my mother when my mother had ended up with dementia 😢 It is a cruel part of getting old. My mom made it to 98. Listening to you and your Dad makes me sad and happy at the same time. He is lucky to have you. My mother used to always say to me, you're not gonna put me in a home, are you? We never did. My oldest sister had her full time. My other sister would take my mother out to dinner (she worked full time) and I (the youngest @ 59) would bring my mom to my house to stay for 3 or more days to give my oldest sister a break. I totally get it. Dad sounds so much like my mother and other relatives that had dementia. For 92, he walks better than I. I have R.A. and Osteo. My foot is messed up with hallux varus but I am chicken to have surgery.
    ❤ to your dad. He is too cute!

  • @jocelynelongchamp1391
    @jocelynelongchamp1391 11 місяців тому +12

    Dan is a gem. Taking time to create videos of substance, to acquaint us with the family taking care of his Dad 🙏🏽. I love the way Dan loves his Dad and family. I wish for continued blessings on this very special family. I Love Dan's patience.

  • @grandlaphi
    @grandlaphi 11 місяців тому +17

    I love that you ALWAYS tell him he was there! As many times as it takes ! Been following you all a long time. It seems like this hard conversation gets harder as time goes along!

  • @rachelender2905
    @rachelender2905 11 місяців тому +11

    Bless his heart that is very heart breaking such a kind gentleman

  • @YolaineBFortune
    @YolaineBFortune 11 місяців тому +8

    The way he says "thank you" just melts ones heart. Grandpa's a gem I love him...🌟🌹❤

  • @lovelyshirl
    @lovelyshirl 10 місяців тому +4

    Bless your Dad's heart. You do a marvellous job caretaking him. He seems like such a lovely man.

  • @StefanoBrigo
    @StefanoBrigo 6 місяців тому +1

    We have a lot to learn from this family. Much love from Italy to this beautiful, beautiful family.

  • @Soli_Deo_Gloria_.
    @Soli_Deo_Gloria_. 11 місяців тому +7

    Your father is an incredible man who raised up an incredible son...
    Much peace, grace and love n' God bless you and yours brother

  • @lisad.349
    @lisad.349 11 місяців тому +40

    Dan, if it is at all possible for Ed to see his sister, please make that happen. If there’s even a remote possibility that he can remember or retain the happiness that he gets from seeing his sister you want him to have that before it’s too late the days are not promised to us. All the best to you and your family.

    • @kimstewart35
      @kimstewart35 11 місяців тому +4

      He saw her last year. He does not remember it. If he saw her now and she left he wouldn’t remember it an hour or two later. She is about 82. Ed doesn’t travel anymore.

    • @loveshell6945
      @loveshell6945 11 місяців тому +4

      And possibly record it so he can watch it on tv when he asks about her. He can see that she’s well and remember that he just saw her, in a sense. ❤

    • @nadinewolfe405
      @nadinewolfe405 11 місяців тому

      You could face time❤ 5:09

    • @kimstewart35
      @kimstewart35 11 місяців тому

      @@nadinewolfe405 really, the man has been dead for over 15 years 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

    • @marieross
      @marieross 11 місяців тому

      @@kimstewart35 all these comments are about Ed’s sister.
      Read before writing a sarky comment.

  • @saraho9568
    @saraho9568 11 місяців тому +5

    I love that he was proud to be 91. Made him smile after a sad convo.

  • @lewis1717
    @lewis1717 10 місяців тому +5

    God bless this man he reminds me of my grandfather, you are an amazing son Dan. Big respect from Manchester uk 🇬🇧. X

  • @Blessed_by_Yeshua
    @Blessed_by_Yeshua 11 місяців тому +55

    I feel like I know you. My mom’s in the same boat as your dad. So tough. The worst for my mom is that she’s losing the Bible that’s been etched in her heart since she was a tiny child. She can’t remember her favorite passages. Good thing she told them to me so many times that I can now share the passages with her.
    Thank you and God bless you for sharing this with me. It’s tough to be in this situation. And I feel utterly alone on this planet.

    • @susanhill3100
      @susanhill3100 10 місяців тому +4

      Awww... God Bless You and Your Mom!!... You are not alone... The Good Lord is with you both... Please hang in there 🙏... My thoughts and Prayers always!... ❤

    • @DeniseSterling-k5u
      @DeniseSterling-k5u 10 місяців тому +2

      Oh rest assured they are still in her heart!! Guaranteed!!!

  • @jasmineguerra4878
    @jasmineguerra4878 11 місяців тому +10

    Dan- i found your channel 2 weeks ago and you and grandpa changed my life. I live in Southern California and I cannot go a day without watching you and grandpa Ed. I love his sweaters. He is the sweetest human. Thank you for what you do. Your pops reminds me of my grandpa who is in his 90s in Central America and I go visit him every year. You have so much respect and kindness to your dad and that shows on the videos. You truly are an inspiration of what and how we should be in this world. Cherish all these moments and please don’t ever stop showing us your family adventures. Much respect and love to you, Danielle, your family and all the pets 💜🙏

  • @evelynschmidt7194
    @evelynschmidt7194 11 місяців тому +17

    It’s so sad to see poor “grandpa Ed” in this condition 🥹 God bless you all❣️

  • @elizabethwright3776
    @elizabethwright3776 11 місяців тому +19

    Aww it is heartbreaking... my dad went through his book and tried calling people in England that had passed many years before. Bless you xo

    • @dsalnorcal1434
      @dsalnorcal1434  11 місяців тому +10

      So sad

    • @alwayslernin4400
      @alwayslernin4400 11 місяців тому +1

      ​@@dsalnorcal1434I'm really feeling for you. There is nothing sadder in this life than seeing the tears welling up in your parents eyes.

  • @mitzahpink
    @mitzahpink 2 місяці тому +1

    I can’t imagine how tough it is to have this discussion, and to see your Dad’s sadness each time.😔 The smile at the end is beautiful, though.♥️

  • @PatriciaHose
    @PatriciaHose 5 місяців тому +1

    Awwww Bless him so good that u care for ur Dad hes wonderful caring Man Love from UK 🇬🇧

  • @shaneo5436
    @shaneo5436 11 місяців тому +11

    Sometimes I wonder if we only get to see the best of him because he's such an exceptional man. I can't imagine anyone handling their situation better than he does.

  • @Spartacus45
    @Spartacus45 11 місяців тому +4

    Just loved your pops smile when you told him he was 92 and his response, "pretty good uh?" Bless him!!
    Stay strong for him buddy, its hard but he needs you. I went through exactly the same with my mother before she passed. 🙏

  • @lilliancloutier6803
    @lilliancloutier6803 10 місяців тому +3

    An uplifting channel as we approach our "golden years". Appreciate your patience & strong connection with your father. So glad that you & your family are taking care of him now.

  • @kirstieoconnor1054
    @kirstieoconnor1054 10 місяців тому +2

    Wow, the love, patience and care you give is amazing!

  • @loraleemason4698
    @loraleemason4698 10 місяців тому +12

    Gosh, I just had a phone call with my sister who has dementia. She was lucid, we joked and had a beautiful conversation. The in an instant she asked, who are you?
    It’s so hard. I love Ed, and you and your family are precious. ❤

  • @krista1735
    @krista1735 10 місяців тому +4

    Dan, I don’t know your dad, but I so adore him. Such a warm smile and kind spirit. You are so blessed to have such a father… and so is he to have such a son. I want to hold his hand and hug him every time, and especially in this video. You are very kind and honoring of your father as we are lovingly commanded to do. God bless you and your father and your entire family.

  • @ADVENTURESOFBZ
    @ADVENTURESOFBZ 11 місяців тому +7

    You're an all-star Mr Dan!!! Mr Ed is lucky to have you and you are lucky to have him. That's tough

  • @lisab9541
    @lisab9541 11 місяців тому +13

    Dan it is heartbreaking for him and you to watch but you keep patient and it's commendable how you handle everything.

  • @monipelaez7226
    @monipelaez7226 11 місяців тому +2

    Thanks for sharing Dan. Your Dad and you are helping a bunch of us in different ways. Thanks again

  • @elle26426
    @elle26426 7 місяців тому +1

    I agree. Patience and consistency are key -
    But when it comes to his Dad, Dan is a natural caregiver - full of love, compassion & humility. Dan's honesty & respect for Granpa's dignity is clear; he invests generously of his time & effort in nurturing their connection 😊
    It appears to me that it is the quality of this relationship that underpins Ed's sense of security and day to day wellbeing 😊❤🤗
    This ethos also seems to run through the wider family, allowing them to work together with courage & optimism to embrace the challenges that life presents.
    I simply love your videos Dan & Granpa Ed.
    With love & best wishes for cultivating joy in every day, from New Zealand
    🎉❤❤❤❤❤

  • @dawndavis647
    @dawndavis647 11 місяців тому +7

    Bless Grandpa Ed❤Dan the compassion you show in moments like this is heartfelt. My father had these issues 7 years after my mom had passed. He would even tell us his(witch) girlfriend was our mom! That’s a whole other nightmare that we are still living today. Hugs to all families here going through this long goodbye.🙏🏼

  • @janac2881
    @janac2881 11 місяців тому +9

    God bless you, Dan. Sweet Coco so comforting 😢. Hugs
    Jana - Texas

  • @kc_2525
    @kc_2525 10 місяців тому +5

    The range of emotions in a 5 minute time span. 🥺 My heart goes out tho this family fans every family dealing with these issues). It has got to be heartbreaking on another level bc of the repetition. This man went from telling his son the year he was born, to questioning the year he was born. I can’t imagine the turmoil he must feel when he doesn’t know where important people are and doesn’t understand why he can find them or doesn’t see them. Truly a tough battle and this family handled is with like a class act. Inspirational and educational. You all are greatly appreciated. 💜

  • @teodescartes1771
    @teodescartes1771 6 місяців тому +2

    Shit, your dad’s teachings are so deep! I weep when he says “nothing you can do about that” because I still don’t understand as much as he does about life and death. So true!

  • @catsa6609
    @catsa6609 7 місяців тому +1

    Poor guy!! You’re doing great taking care of your father. I worked with the elderly until I hurt my back. Looks like he had an accident. It’s hard getting old.

  • @madonnamcdonald2347
    @madonnamcdonald2347 11 місяців тому +6

    Just an ideal
    I previous was a nurse now retired
    When we worked with love ones with memory loss etc
    They each had memory picture book one of those who passed the date year who they are to them
    Then another picture book of all those of children and
    Grand children that are healthy
    Age who there married to spouse
    And children with picture. It so seemed to help them so much.
    I enjoy watching your u tube.
    Your love kindness and caring to your dad.
    You are amazing.
    Be blessed this Christmas with all your love one.
    Totally his son's are great.
    My prays I send your ways with all your challenges facing you each day.

  • @OhHellMichelle
    @OhHellMichelle 11 місяців тому +7

    Your a amazing son Dan! That’s my sons name too & I hope if I go threw this he is as amazingly cool calm & Collective as you are with your dad. Keep up the amazing way of being his son ♥️

  • @surelyiamlove1177
    @surelyiamlove1177 11 місяців тому +16

    Coco can feel his distress😢

  • @gabevillarreal4779
    @gabevillarreal4779 11 місяців тому +3

    Simply cant get enough of this precious Dad!🙏🏼💙🙏🏼

  • @santri5762
    @santri5762 6 місяців тому +1

    The sadness look on his face goes within his hearth a loving n caring to his family gd job Dan for the intervention
    patience love n care

  • @ackack9419
    @ackack9419 11 місяців тому +8

    Lot and lot of love to Dad and Dan, please keep on being strong. 😢

  • @cindyparker4714
    @cindyparker4714 11 місяців тому +8

    My mother would be 91 too if she was living. She was born in 1932. Lol....God Bless your dad. The whole family. I love your videos and shorts too.

  • @jimnorthland2903
    @jimnorthland2903 2 місяці тому +1

    My grandmother got to the point where the most memory she had was about ten minutes. She would ask about departed loved family members and I told her that she would be with them soon. That made her happy.

  • @twerpy19
    @twerpy19 3 місяці тому

    Dan you are so patient with your father I just love him!!! You're such a good son!

  • @-J-S-P
    @-J-S-P 10 місяців тому +3

    You go through dad’s pain with him every day.Your compassion is to be commended l know how much you all love him thanks for this update ❤❤