Boundaries: It’s Time To Stop Dancing With Dysfunction | Lysa TerKeurst
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- Опубліковано 31 тра 2024
- Healthy boundaries are not only a good idea, they’re God’s idea.
In “Boundaries: It’s Time To Stop Dancing With Dysfunction,” Lysa TerKeurst reminds us how important it is to set boundaries in our life without losing who we are.
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Chapters:
0:00 - A Welcome From Holly
2:14 - Let's Talk About Boundaries
5:55 - Getting Biblical Confidence To Set Boundaries
8:27 - The Issue With Dysfunction
11:04 - A Picture of Healthy Boundaries
14:40 - Where Real Freedom Exists
17:24 - Bankrupting Your Capacity
21:27 - Where Dysfunction Grows
24:05 - Putting A Boundary On Yourself
26:18 - This Can Change Your Life
29:33 - A Real Life Example
33:30 - Helping You Avoid Extremes
36:52 - How To Fight For The Relationship
38:41 - Going Scuba Diving
46:00 - Keep Your Eyes On God
Scripture References:
Genesis 1, verses 2-8
Genesis 2, verses 14-18
Boundaries: It’s Time To Stop Dancing With Dysfunction | Lysa TerKeurst | Elevation Church
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Happy birthday Paster Steven🎂🎂🎂
Happy birthday 🎂 🥳 🎉
Feliz cumpleanos, pastor...period!🤩🤩🤩🤩
@@blasmincover7458lerlele my eyes❤that was great 👍 About dysfunction so accurate
🎉 Ty Ty g Trading Pleaser’s are Dysfunctional two
The dear person that's reading this, we don't know each other but I wish you all the best in life❤ don't ever blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Your smile is precious and a key to a happy life…
Amen!
What are boundaries without restrictions? Help!🌫️🌫️🛀🛀
@@melaniemartin730 exactly!
May God bless you and all who read this. Thank you Lord for each and every person here. Your amazing Lord and I love you in Jesus name Amen
Wow,thankyou
"We will always desparately want from other people what we fear our God will not provide." - Lysa TerKeurst
A real ah ha
Good Job Lisa
Thank you Lisa Termeurst
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Who is she? 🌠🌠🌠
I liked this, and mostly agree. But we are also called to carry our cross. Love is sacrificial. I'm going to do whatever it takes to care for my elderly dad, even if his mind doesn't always understand boundaries or my energy level. It's ok, I love him. God will give me more than I need if I surrender it to Him.
29:27 “Adults inform, Children explain” straight 🔥
Wow...
Word. 👌💯 No is a full sentence.
Loved this Boundaries lesson; just so timely for me! Thank you Jesus ❤
Amazing Recap 🎉❤
63 years old and thankful to hear this good word. I have a caretaker type personality and it has ALWAYS been difficult for me do this.
WOW!!!! As a survivor of narcistic abuse from a parent and then an ex husband... this is God teaching me how to stop lapping that mountain!! Thank you so much
What happened?!👭👭👭
Me too don't feel alone i still go through it now the kids attack me too.God got us 🙏 Sending love
God bless you sister!
God's timing is impeccable!! I recently came out of an extremely abusive relationship, where there was utter chaos, which included my own mother and son. I have been struggling with how to establish healthy boundaries in this chaos. This message puts it all into perspective.
I can relate sadly Christina L, God bless you!
A boundary is loving other’s well , so we don’t lose who we are. ❤
A boundary is loving OTHERS (not OTHER'S) well. No apostrophe in OTHERS.
An apostrophe is to show possession/belonging to.
I don’t understand
Profound! Boundaries =
"The ultimate purpose is to love others well, without losing the best of who we are."
-Lysa Terkeurst
Thank you for such an informative and important message.
If it weren't for this, then now what?♊♊🌼🌼
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So excellent!!!
Thanks for sharing perspective!
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Work boundaries are a must, especially in an environment of worldly people. Please pray for me and my work environment. Thank you.
Lavendar Chai we are lifting you up in prayer today. Dear Lord we pray for wisdom and grace for Lavender especially when navigating the work environment. May Lavender please you, Lord, by desiring, asking for, and utilizing a discerning heart full of wisdom. It's in Jesus name we pray, Amen.
@@elevationchurch thank you so much! I will pray for you as well. Dear Heavenly Father, I want to express my gratitude for elevation church, and their prayer support. What perfect timing you demonstrate to all of your children. I ask for kingdom love and mercy and delightful deliverance along with your loving guidance and protection in all of our days. Forgive us of our trespasses as we forgive those who have trespass against us and deliver us from the evil one, for thine is the kingdom and glory forever and ever amen. Glory to you Jesus 🩸❤️
@@elevationchurch What a beautiful prayer! Please pray for me too...being in my 50s I would never have believed the amount of abuse/demeaning supervisors & coworkers put in my path & low pay. Fear has crept in as I recently lossed my job due to under the table xyz's. Im such a professional, personable & dedicated employee. I'm new to Summerville SC from WI as a single person on a God-Move. I'VE attempted to find a home church where I feel as true genuine family , mutual relationships NOT JUST on Sundays. My bday & Holidays should NOT be alone. My dog, Faithie (like Faith in God) passed. Plus I had to purchase a different car same time as lossed job. Caught sick at work then new neighbors smoking pot. Now ill. Help pls. Each time I seem to set a boundary...retaliation rears it's ugly head.
This is only part of my story being here over 1 year. No fam back home. Thank you Jesus for peace love smiles connection joy & financial freedom... the LIFE I imagined. AMEN❤
@Elevation Church Pls I am crying out for prayer. Pls send a Prayer Warrior like myself or more anointed to come against the enemy. SEE MY REQUEST ABOVE
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WOW! One expression. This message is an example of just how everything we need is written in the word. Thank you Lysa, we needed it. #lifechanging
TONIGHT, I LOST MY HOME TO EVICTION FOR MYSELF AND MY KIDS AND MY DOG. WE HAVE NO WHERE TO GO.. PLEASE PRAY FOR GODS WAY FOR US ALL...
Praying for you. Praying that God will protect and comfort you.
Jehovah Jireh, Lord, You are our provider!! Open every single door and opportunity needed to provide for their situation! Meet them! Provide for them! Comfort them and pour out your Love upon them during this whole process. We thank you now, in advance, in good faith that we will see your glory in this! Amen 💓
God will continue to keep you and provide for you Crystal Johnson in Jesus Name, Amen 💖🤲🏿🔥
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God please provide for this family in need. In Jesus's name. Amen
Lisa that was AMAZING 🤩 Boundaries saved my life 🙏 in Jesus name ❤
Its true, I am limited, but God is unlimited and im not God!
WOW.... I'm literally shocked because I did this for over 15+ yrs and I use to be scared of people not liking me if I say "no" and it will cause me to people please, and God told me I need boundaries. Can't just let anybody have access to me on a higher level if they're not willing to come up on a higher level with me. This is it. This was just for me, at almost midnight word. Glory be to God. Thank you Father God 😘
I can relate
I'm struggling with this now
I am having terrible issues with my daughters and ex husband of 24 years, I didn't choose to ever leave until I could no longer take his abuse. I left the church i was a member, but I told myself I wasn't leaving the lord. I strayed... now ,after 12 long years of searching for a path back to God, now that I finally sought him with all i had, mind ,heart you name it. Now though, my ex and kids have a better relationship than they do with me? Its like I live in the twilight zone??? To the point, my God ,who has been absolutely working real miracles since he rescued me let me somehow hear this ,I was looking for a gospel song , but just before I found this message I prayed not 10 minutes earlier for God to educate me on what boundaries are!!!!! I just want to praise Jesus holy name for loving and forgiving me for turning my back on him. Thank you Lord, and to the woman who God chose to teach me , thank you for your obedience. I forget how important obedience is , when God lays anything on your heart, we should all try our best to do what he is asking. You never know who needs to hear, see what he tells you to share. Thankyou, my cup runneth over.❤
Boundaries are necessary. Certainly have seen the dysfunction in my family and how they have used me for years. But that knowledge has caused me to set boundaries for me and walk away now. God has opened doors I never thought would happen. Clearly each door presented is from God and I am so amazed and thankful.
‘Adults inform. Children explain’ 🔥💜 *coined*
WOW. Setting boundaries for the protection of others. As a highly sensitive overgiver, that one shift in perception has just changed my life.I have always had his belief that I have to sacrifice myself to honor God by giving more of myself then I feel comfortable with. When it leads to me being used, abused and taken advantage of I explode. I have never looked at setting boundaries as being a form of love for others. Because essentially you are protecting them from being her. Wow just wow
Loved this. Boundaries, prayer and spiritual warfare saved my marriage and I am so blessed to finally have a healthy marriage!! My mother in law was toooo nice and my husband wasn't familiar with having Boundaries so it was a struggle...but he is happier and so am I. Note: I had to get really tough at times.Thank you Jesus.
Hello, how are you doing?
I also think that when we know God has ordained someone to be in our lives, we tend to pull back on boundaries and give them special passes/treatment. This shouldn’t be so. We should hold everyone to the same standard. I love how she talked about giving someone level 10 access when they haven’t shown level 10 responsibility!
Happy birthday Pastor.
I thank God that you were born.
You have helped me out so much though The Holy Spirit.
"Love others well without losing the best of you are." ✝
" adults inform ... children explain" 🎤‼️
Amen help me God so that l will not take my eyes off the Master
_GOD_
_I am in need. Oh,, GOD, I cry out for YOUR help! The storms in my life are unrelenting and Im drowning. Yet, I will lift my eyes to YOU, for my help comes from YOU, the creator of heaven and earth. LORD, save me and my family, keep us from evil, rescue us from this long battle. For YOU are my keeper, my protector, my salvation. YOU watch over me day and night, guide my steps, and show me the way forward. My hope and my help are in YOU, LORD, for YOU are faithful and true. All this I pray thru YOUR Son Jesus Christ._
_Amen._ 🙏❤️
Amen
Please pray for me my best friend we were so close that she was more like a sister...she suddenly passed away Monday night in her sleep... I know she's where she's wanted to be for years but I'm devastated... I feel lost... pray for me and her cousin Susan please
Oh Tammy ~ I know it's been a week since you wrote this BUT, I can feel your pain and hurt. May our Father hold you and help you through this difficult time. In Jesus ♥Name~ AMEN!
I am so sorry my preson passed a year ago and it still kills me. Hugs.
Tammy we are praying for you and Susan today and grieving with you during your time of loss. Nothing in life can prepare us for the death of a loved one, but we have a God who is sufficient in comforting us during our time of grief. Lord God, we ask that you touch Tammy and Susan today and let them feel your comfort. Your word promises us that you heal the brokenhearted and bind up their wounds and we petition you today to heal the broken hearts of these women. We are trusting in your word that you, Lord, are near to the brokenhearted and save the crushed in spirit. We thank you for your abundant love, mercy and grace and ask you to wipe away every tear from their eyes and fill their hearts with your joy. In Jesus name we pray, Amen.
I specialize in teaching boundaries to wives who have been betrayed in their marriages and this message was spot on in every way. Lots of nuggets of truth, insight and perspective here. Thank you Lysa :)
This is why I'm here don't know where to go after those boundaries are broken again when do you say when
@desertcat3 you get physical and emotional space and express protest about the hurtful behavior, and ask for what behavior you need to see instead. And the space is in effect UNTIL they
Apologize
Own it without blaming anything or anyone else
Acknowledge the pain it caused you
Explain what they will do differently next time
Offer to make amends, do something to try to refill the good emotions they took away
Make the words true with changed behavior
And work to earn back your trust.
Thank you Lysa, struggling to build boundaries, with people that don't realize that they are not right at times.
@Pam Blizzard do you have a website or reference for counseling if one is in this situation of boundaries they do not respect and repeatedly are emotionally insincere and hurtful?
Dysfunction out and about, in front o a large crowd talking about people who got along without atguement. Praise the Lord
"Boundaries are God's idea. Adults inform, children explain. Never take your eyes of the master." I love the diving story💦😄!! Keep your eyes on Jesus🔥
Why the scuba diving?🙏🙏🙏🙏
Wow God tries to protect us from pain when He tells us to obey His Word. He knows what’s best for us. Just like an earthly loving father protects his children. He is the beginning and the end. Let’s trust His heart and lean not on your own understanding and all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your path” ❤💡
Listening to this sermon made me realize and understand more of why I don’t have healthy boundaries and a good relationship with my dad.
Be blessed!
Need boundaries with my adult daughter.
I think I've found a new family óf believers!
Boundaries isnt just GOOD for you, it’s GOD’s for you 🤩
I love Lisa and her teachings. Forgive what you cant forget is wonderful.
This was more like a Ted talk then a service
You should literally do a Tedx on boundaries explaining it this way - in levels of capacity
Why is it that we think ungodly or counter to God to do things that are healthy ❔
Amen - thank you Lysa - glad you faced the truth and stopped marketing forgiveness in a relationship that simply hadn't shown you any remorse or desire to restore. All the effort was from you. You look great and free.
Exactly! I kept my humility, a teaching of Jesus and kept going back and expecting better from that other person. I allowed the mistreatment because I thought that was WJWD. I now realize the difference between forgiveness, good (& required) goodbyes, and why we need to set healthy boundaries. Trust Him and keep looking up for His guidance to let you know that you've already learned those lessons that are preparing you for the next chapter in your life.
"HAPPY BIRTHDAY PASTOR STEVEN"🙏✝️❤😇🎂🍨
Hooray!🥳🥳🥳
Happy Birthday Sir
Happy Birthday, Pastor Steve
What a blessing to hear Lysa preach. I just finished reading her new book. I enjoyed how she delivered this delicate message at Elevation.
Amazing words of wisdom from the Lord, Lysa. Thank you! Only recently I had noticed the words 'separated' mentioned many times in Genesis1. You have given a new meaning to the word ' boundaries' - to love people without losing ourselves in dysfunction, all the while keeping our eyes on the Master! HAPPY BIRTHDAY PASTOR STEVEN.. YOU BLESS US EVERY WEEK. May God bless you and continue to guide you with wisdom 🙏
We're struggling with boundaries...help!🚮🚮🔹🔹
Oh man. This hit hard.
Your church is lucky to have such an amazing speaker. I believe every church/mosque/etc in every religion needs to have someone to advocate for mental health in a way that their followers will be open to listen to the message, and to make it understandable for them. This lady has the skill set for that, and that's amazing.
Wow! This was such an "On Time" message. God bless 🙌 🙏 ❤️
for real amen
A timely word for my right now. Thank you, Lysa!!
This I straight from God!!
Yessss this is ittt🌺🌺🌺💖
Glory be to God! Amen for this word, I recieve it!
So great to hear a message from Lysa Terkeurst! I am doing a book study with a friend, and the book we are studying is Uninvited. This book is wonderful. God is using Lysa’s book to show us patterns, perspectives and behaviors that we have obtained through rejection and abandonment. Thank you Lysa for putting into words your most private memories. Thank you Pastor Steven and family for your hard work and dedication and thank you Elevation Church staff for your dedication and hard work as well!
Did you get this on your page to about being a winner. Lol of a giveaway.
@@Jamie-rc5kl yes just ignoring it. Kinda sad that people use Elevation Church name for their own agenda..
@@audreytravis3982 Yes had downloaded telegram and thought something not right so I Uninstalled it. I was looking at a lot of post that had similar to these so I muted that person ignored. Thanks for getting back to let me know.
I prayed that prayer
This was beautiful
I think this is maybe the best teaching on boundaries I have ever seen! Thank you Lysa!
Happy Birthday Pastor Steven!!! GOD Bless you and may you have so many more, Psalm 91:16, in JESUS's Mighty Wonderful Name AMENNNN and AMENNN!!!!🙏🙏☺️🥳🥳🥳🎂
I loved it! Yes!
Thank you pastors❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤love ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤love you all appreciate you more then I can ever say in words. I love the Holy Spirit!!!!!!
Thank you Lord for this message that you shared through Lysa. I have been doing on this amazing journey with God and my therapist where I am finding my voice and setting boundaries in places that I had never considered before. This message solidified that this is a Godly thing and I am on the right path.
This teaching was awesome totally spoke to me that I’m ok
As someone who is an a marriage with a narcstic mate, I totally get this....
That was one of the most beautiful sermons I have ever heard in my lifetime. So eloquent…
Hello, how are you doing?
Such a great blessing to hear the word of God from Lysa Terkeurst!!
What a great lesson on boundaries!🙏🏻🙏🏻
If it weren't for this teaching, then we're having a hard time establishing boundaries! Now what?🕯️🕯️💡💡
Alanon and AA teach this so well also. They are God centered programs. Give them a try for those who love alcoholics in thier life.
Amen ❤
Thank you for this AMAZINGLY EMPOWERING message! God bless you
Happy birthday Pastor Steven 🥳🥳🥳 God bless you more than you/we can even imagine! You are appreciated so very much! 💙
please remember me in prayer
Yay awesome
🦋Great message, thanks for posting, God bless!
Happy birthday Stephen Furtick. We appreciate you and love you. Your very special and I appreciate you delivering God's word in a way that goes straight to my soul.
Definitely eye opening!
Had to listen just audibly bc the eyelashes were so distracting … you’re beautiful Holly without needing to try so hard.
This is an amazing word. Thank you Jesus🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
READ BOUNDARIES BY HENRY CLOUD AND JOHN TOWNSEND. EVERYTHING SHE'S TEACHING WILL ALL MAKE MORE SENSE. I'VE READ IT A FEW TIMES AND STILL LOVE FRIENDLY REMINDERS LIKE THIS.
Really good book on boundaries!!!
Prayer's Needed
I needed to hear this!! Thank you for the great illustration’s!
You have no idea how badly I needed this message today! I have drawn my boundaries and on Wednesday need to start firm in them because if I don’t I’ll be living in the dysfunction! You just Showed God wants me to set healthy boundaries and he supports them!!! Thank you for this message!! ❤🙏Amen!
Boundaries are needed asap, pray take action...maybe add some humor at first but firm Boundaries saved my marriage
happy birthday Pastor Steven! and thank you for having this wonderful woman on to preach!
Pop psychology and motivational speakers are huge with evangelical moms. Weeeeeeeird.
So good Lisa!
Happy birthday, Pastor! 🎉🎉
Please pray that I learn to stop dancing qorh disfunction when it comes to my co-parent. I'm due April 13, 2023. My co-parent is very inconsistent. I am tired of getting hurt, going through disappointment, not understanding why he doesn't care, and "wishing" he cared about his daughter.
Sure will 🙏 hmmm
I will pray that you receive higher love, in appropriate ways and in ways that are visible in your little 👪.
Love Caroline x Melbourne Victoria Australia 🇦🇺 STRAYA SOUTHERN Cross ➕ Southern HEMISPHERE
It's gonna be great, Angie!!! 💋
You have so much more to worry about now! Focus on that baby. That's the best advice you could ever get. Focus on what is important. Pray for the other parent but go on with your life and be happy
Angie Torres, we are praying for you and your unborn child. We praise God for the gift of new life and we ask that He continue to mold you and teach you and give you all you need to care for your child. Father, we are asking you to stay close to Angie. To walk with her and talk with her. To give her your eyes to see, your ears to hear, your mind to think and your feet to walk in the paths you would have her walk. As she learns to trust in you give her the strength, hope, peace and love that she needs to grow this child up in the way you would have her. Restore her family to completion and alignment with you. We love you, thank you and praise you! In Jesus name we pray, Amen.
@@elevationchurch Thank you 😊
Happy birthday 🎉
Thanks lysa.. finally this truth is spoken to the church.. never heard about boundaries at a church..
Happy Birthday Pastor! 🥳 thank you for sharing your preachings online. I hope you had a great day 🙏🏼
Great message!!! Happy Birthday Pastor!!! 🎉
Keep coming u will see
Happy Birthday, Pastor Steven
Have a wonderful and blessed birthday Pastor Steven🤍🎊 I pray God continues to speak his words through you and also continue to bless you your family and this amazing ministry ❤.
Great sermon!!! So much information! Loved it
Yes maam
What a great explanation!
I love this lady OMG i totally felt her vibe and i'm gonna take her advice 🙏🗣️I needed to hear this Feliz Cumpleaños 🎊🎂 Pastor Stevens 🙏💯👑You and Your wife and this guest speaker rock wow i love Yall
46:58 what Lysa said right here, made me clinch my chest. This word was one of those messages that you know was meant for you 😢!
She opened my eyes and my mind so much!! Wow wow, all my excuses gone, I am laying down my wants and needs in the name of "love and hope" but I am just enabling bad behaviour😢
Can Doing Did // Infinite Mercy Grace by means of LOVE! !!! Forever Grateful
46:10-47:30 "You're hesitant to draw a boundary because you're so afraid that the other person will take something from you that they give you that you're not sure you'd be okay without. We will always desperately want from other people what we fear our God will not provide. Keep your eyes on the master."
Happy belated birthday 🎂 Ps Steven, thank you so much for what God is doing through you. We so appreciate it
You rocked this sermon!!! Just what I needed ❤ God Bless you and ur family
Amen
3 hours early I wonder if they have coffee! !!! 1st come 1st serve