The most frustrating thing is that I don’t actually care about the people around me or their opinions. But my body involuntarily starts shaking and sweating anyway even when I know I’m not nervous. It’s like I’m fighting against myself and it’s exhausting.
I have that too. I think it's just automatic reaction, reflex. Sometimes it helps me to start thinking about it every time it happens and analyse it. What it feels like, what is triggering it, breath through it. For me it feels exactly like sharp pain inside my head. I heard that in brain, center for anxiety and pain are linked (or are the same i don't remember exactly). Another feeling is submission. I want to disappear. It's just my defense mechanism misfiring. When you can name that sensations, you can consiously do something with them. Is it at least somewhat helpful?
yes me too, it's weird i really don't care about people and if it's necessary i won't hesitate to call them out or say what comes to mind or whatever, but the feeling i have inside me is too much, sweats shakes etc. Mental health is really a battle with ourselves brothers & sisters
coming from someone who just recently got over it after dealing with it my whole life, it really isn’t that hard to overcome. Tips 1. Remember you only live once, do you really want your whole life to be wasted on being insecure in worried to do things because others might laugh at you 2. Stop watching videos of people telling you its romal and ok to have social anxiety, we are humans and are meant to be commutative, there is nothing normal about being scared of what others think 3. YOU HAVE TO STEP OUTSIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE, YOU WILL NEVER OVERCOME SOCIAL ANXIETY IF YOU EXPECT TO BE SOCIALLY COMFORTABLE IN EVERY SITUATION WHEN YOU’RE TRYING TO OVERCOME IT 4. The more you are forcing yourself to step outside of your comfort zone, the more your comfort zone expands 5. Distract your mind in public, your first thoughts when you get out of your car shouldn’t be insecurities 6. Finally, give yourself talks in the mirror before you start your day, reassure yourself you don’t care about others opinions and you are a beautiful person. The very first mistake I realized I made when trying to overcome social anxiety was the fact I was watching people that were trying to sugar code the reality of the situation and calling it “normal” and “ok” You shouldn’t allow yourself to get comfortable being social awkward
Even when it’s a personal question I want to know for my benefit I still don’t do it in hopes someone else would do it …. I am literally the enemy of myself so unbelievable 😂
As much as I’d love to go to an actual therapist, I’m struggling with money right now and I wouldn’t be able to go to therapy without my family knowing about it and making a big deal about it.
Many thanks, I've been looking for "how do you reduce social anxiety" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across - Qanwen Donuke Approach - (should be on google have a look ) ? Ive heard some decent things about it and my co-worker got amazing results with it.
This was great, I've been looking for "free of inhibitions social anxiety reviews" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across - Senonnor Puzzling Superiority - (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? It is an awesome exclusive product for discovering how to conquer your social anxiety minus the normal expense. Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my mate got cool results with it.
Many thanks, been searching for "distraction techniques for social anxiety" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Qanwen Donuke Approach - (do a search on google ) ? Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my colleague got cool results with it.
Cheers for this, I been tryin to find out about "social anxiety self treatment" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across - Qanwen Donuke Approach - (do a search on google ) ? Ive heard some great things about it and my partner got excellent results with it.
Ik it sounds wrong but it's a relief that there are lots more around u, 10 percent of people apparently experience this. Now that's a fck ton. For the most part, alot of us internalise most of these feelings simply because noone else can seem to relate or share similar feelings. Knowing that alot of people go thru this and are also struggling with social anxiety makes me feel less alone
True but it sucks no one takes it seriously when I tell people they are like really wow and move on the converstationbut when I show signs they act surprised and tell me it’s not a big deal to be scared of. Also some people are like same girl but are the most talkative with others and don’t understand my symptoms I think they confuse it with shyness.
That's crazy because I just commented how that % feels like so little and makes me more anxious 😅 1/10 is crazy I could be the only socially anxious person in the whole building
for me its communicating with people, I don't mind going to busy places by myself etc but when it comes to conversation I don't have the energy or I think I don't think im special / interesting enough. the thought of speaking in front of people I don't know scares the shit out of me and I know its ruining my life because I put off everything that could be good for me due to this
I feel the exact same way like it’s effecting my everyday life style and just continuously getting worse. I hope things get better for u and know ur not alone
I developed social anxiety at around 13 yrs old and I went to therapy for it which helped, but back then it wasn’t as bad. Just talking on the phone, interacting with new kids and the lunch room. I made a lot of progress and was really growing into myself, as I got to freshman year I became super extroverted and had a huge friend group which I’d never had in my life. Then Covid happened that same year. And in those months of isolation my fear returned but worse. I still struggle and now I’m 17. So the fear is affecting my life more than ever, I want to get a job, make new friends, go out by myself and I’m going to college next year. I’m really happy for these videos. It’s been really tough for all of us who struggle with this and quarantine on top of it
Hey, I just wanted to say how grateful I am to have found this! I've struggled with anxiety my whole life and only now after watching your anxiety modules do I realize being "normal" is actually a possibility for me. Learning to accept the feeling of anxiety rather than fight it has helped me more than anything I've tried (anxiety meds, counselling, cbd oil.. Etc) in the past 20 years. At the risk of sounding dramatic, thank you for helping me change my life, Magnus. ❤️
Dealing with social anxiety hasn’t been easy just started talking to a psychologist about it but started googling to find advice and found this on reddit gonna give it a watch
Ohhh, before 5min I was crying because of my social anxiety and now, finding those videos, I have joy's tears in my eyes. Thank you very much, really from the bottom of my heart 💞
@@vibes7756 like I'm too lazy to try, when my self esteem is low I run to watch those videos and they make me feel good, after that I don't feel the urge to change myself, l'm keeping doing the same thing over and over again. Now I'm returning here to motivate myself I hope I will take the step to overcome this stupid situation. I hope that my answer will not disappoint you, keep trying please don't be like the lazy me 🧡
I made it around 2 minutes into the video before I involuntarily started crying, just listening to how calming and understand you sound when explaining this for some reason made me emotional
ever since i’ve started university my social anxiety has gotten really bad. i made a few friends during the first semester but i’ve had a really hard time maintaining those relationships, so i’m mostly alone now. i hope these videos help a little bit lol
Just a question here.. is it normal to experience social anxiety within family? I’m currently 16 and feel very bad talking with relatives, almost as they are strangers!
these modules are a blessing to me. i have been on a self destructive course. lost money, family and are about to loose my wife. these are giving me hope. i have not shared my condition nor have had it diagnosed by a profession but now i know what i am going through.
I had social anxiety since my childhood and it kept me from living a good life. I am so tired of social anxiety dictating my life. I'm going to work on it really hard from now on and hope that in the future i will be able to get rid of it.
I'm trying to find ways to help myself because I couldn't afford therapy. So I happen to see this and I hope it'll be a great help for me. Thank you for the worksheets, I will use it
I do not have any problem in social situations where all people are interacting with each other. But I face sever social anxiety in situations where I am the center of attention I.e giving a presentation or explaining a topic to the whole class
Ive been trying so hard to break it. I got a sales job door knocking literally the epitome of a social job I do real estate, talk to everyone I can at the gym. But still I cant break it sometimes its the only thing holding me back in my opinion! Im going to go through all these videos and hope they help.
For me… work is easy. So easy to converse and just be myself. Now when I go to places with hubby… it’s like my entire body is on the defense and I just lose myself. Thanks for these videos!
@@ganbatte1260 I'm 19 and I'm ashamed to say I've done absolutely nothing and social anxiety is affecting my life everyday. Please don't be like me get help.
@@VirtualTech im 26. I quit my job, no income, no activity, no friends. I want to pursue my master degree but i am afraid to be bully by others. Everytime i had presentation, it will be guarantee 100% someone whispering “he’s blushing..” Just do it, we are so unlucky. But there are no escape i think. I had it because of my family genetics. My family had it all
@@ganbatte1260 I have the same thoughts, I'm in first year of my engineering degree and when I have to give presentation and I feel myself sweating and getting red and stammering I think all my classmates are saying "He's sweating, he's so bad, he's so scared" etc I feel like they are making fun of me? Where are you from?
i found this playlist on reddit, i'm gonna try to watch it and maybe overcome my social anxiety, although the current pandemic may not really help, but i'll try.
I really wish that I was a extrovert. these past days has been a living hell. Im going to school trying to talk or do anything but I just can't get a word out or join the conversation. I feel imitated and belittled and just inferior to my "new" friends (started new school 2 months ago, and my group they talk like thev've known each other for years. most of the time im just sitiing and listen what they say, and I bet when im not around they properly mocking me. I really need some help.
Open up to a friend but not just to any friend. Find a great person, make him your friend then open up. People who you open up to, they become your solace.
im 17 and i have social anxiety. it’s the only thing holding me back, which is just silly because technically i’m holding myself back. today i had my first ever therapy appointment for it but i just feel so guilty because my mom is partially paying, partially covered by insurance. i’m so money conscious that i hate when my parents pay for things. it makes me feel like a burden. my greatest dream is to one day be a lawyer, not one that appears in court, but a government lawyer who works 9-5 reading, researching, and drafting documents. i have strong written communication skills but probably the weakest verbal communication skills on earth. just today while i was at therapy i could barely talk to the therapist because of how much my voice trembled involuntarily. i practice positive self talk all the time, i know that nothing socially can hurt me physically but my body still reacts terribly. hopefully therapy can help me. i’m not entirely socially inept, i have a friend group, though my parents certainly think i am. i feel silly telling anyone irl my dream. if you happen to see this years in the future, don’t be afraid to reply and ask me how i am.
How you doing now brother I'm same 17 yo And I'm exactly like u I don't want to tell my parents about my anxiety cause I think that's stupid and I don't want them to spent money on me And the bad thing is I have to go through social anxiety literally every single day
How you doing now brother I'm same 17 yo And I'm exactly like u I don't want to tell my parents about my anxiety cause I think that's stupid and I don't want them to spent money on me And the bad thing is I have to go through social anxiety literally every single day
Hey everyone, I’m currently trying to find out how one could make the lives of socially anxious people a lot easier ;) Which is why I have two very simple questions: 1. As someone struggling with social anxiety, what are the 2 biggest issues you’re dealing with? 2. Regarding your social anxiety, what would you wish for more than anything else? Thanks so much in advance - looking forward to reading your answers!
1. There is a whole part of life that I'm blocked off because of my anxiety. Friends, dating, social hobbies. And it's getting progressively worse, with not much hope for a remission. 2. I'd wish to be as obnoxious and non-caring as some people, say whatever and do whatever, but that's not going to happen anytime soon. Holding a conversation without starting to sweat. Being able to meet and date with people. Easy things that others take for granted, but people with SAD are deprived of.
1. I'm struggling with: talking to people whom I don't meet much including my family members. I worry about my appearance. I'm very much self conscious when around a group of people with whom I'm not close with. I feel like someone is watching me. 2. I want to go out and enjoy life like others and make good friends and be happy without the fear of being judged.
a problem that often happens to me is that once I feel anxious after a social interaction that i perceived as going badly, when i try to speak to the people involved, sort of to see how they perceive me, they do indeed seem to perceive me the way I thought they did. If they wouldn't, I'de drop that negative perception. So basically, if people would show extra love and acceptance, not just the average ammount. I know I try to.
I don't know if this is still helpful since this comment is from 1 year ago, but could be helpful to me so I'll just tell my experience anyway. I'm a 25 y.o. male from Italy (sorry for my bad English). 1. The first one is that I struggle to make friends and to find a girlfriend (never had one before). The second one is that I struggle to find a job and to keep up with my studies at university since talking in front of other people and getting along with colleagues/classmates is obviously crucial. 2. I'd like to have a lot of friends that care about me. I'd like to have a girlfriend while I'm still young, since I feel that I'm missing out on so many experiences that most of my peers are having. I'd like to feel normal and to be able to relate to others without shaking, sweating, blushing, be flooded by intrusive thoughts ... This is absolutely debilitating, so I'm watching this video and I'm taking medication to get my life back.
My social anxiety is that I can't initate conversation and I can't small talk or hold a conversation unless I am 1. passionate about a subject in which case I can talk to much and mess up the flow of the convo. or 2. I have already spoken to the person several times before which is very few people because I can't make new friends because I can't hold conversation
Bruh i used to be hella extroverted before quarantine and now I'm super anxious and stuttering, becoming a mess around friends.. like wth I know these peeps are cool but I'm just soooo nervous, i ended up chewing a mf water bottle to try relaxing when i was hanging out with them the other day 😭
Same but mine is so bad too when I started working omg I felt horrible I couldn’t talk to my coworkers and felt so awkward during lunch I didn’t have a car so I had to eat lunch with others there.
@@ganbatte1260 i dont go i only go out for school and to go to the grocery store Idk what kind but i feel like everyone is judging me and i get stressed and I'm scared to get embarrassed i had a lot of bad things in my life cause my dad was alcholic and other things I'm disappointed at my self and I'm only 14 i don't have friends never had a girlfriend even tho I'm good looking just because of social anxiety
@@ranger8839 you are so young. Please don't waste your time with fear. I didn't try hard to have fun as a teenager because of fear of disappointing my parents. Now I'm 25 and wish I could go back live my life, go out with people, do sports, get into many activities... Now I'm 25 with a mentality of a 12 years old. It's sucks because now people judge me for being imature, and I feel so dumb because everyone my age is so mature, I act like I was born yesterday.
@@ranger8839 sorry i think i missed your replies. I feel sorry for you to have this feelings. You are still young.. Hang in there buddy, we have the same condition. Maybe your emotion are still very high because of your age, but let me tell you soenthing. Right now i am trying to start doing it again, rebuilding my confidence. I also have good shape, i do trainings everyday, but still have high anxiety and nervous. But i dont really care about it anymore because i dont want my life to be ruined anymore by this. This 2021-2022 has been a rough years for me, i can simply say ive lost everything (job, money, friends, you name it). But remeber me, No Changes Are Permanent. It will get better soon, try to read some people opinions in reddit who have anxiety like us, most of them will have method to overcome it and courage. My brother has the same condition like you, everyday trapped in his room. He is 40 yo now. But i feel that he is building confidence now and dont really care about it anymore. Because i sometimes think, what is the worst case if i going through it?? It wont make me die. And it will get BETTER, Nothing much to say, Hang in there :) We’re in the same war hahaha
I will start to study at a college in September, so I want to make my SA less powerful, because I want to make some friends there. Hope this video will help!
I got very anxious going anywhere alone even walking on the road is really hard. My voice cracks and my heart beats very fast when talking to lot of people. It also really hard to understand what others are telling me. hope your videos really help me
As long as a remember I have social since I was born...my parents where protectives with me... They didn't allow me to go out until I had 11... They didn't want me to embarasse them so they Always asked me to go into my rom when relatives come. I got used to it so now when my uncles or aunts Come, I go hide myself... and now they compare me with other children saying that its not normal that I can't even respond to the phone when my 4 years old cousins Can do it... They where l also ashamed and disappointed when the teacher told them that I cry when he shouts at me...
I can't act normal in public even if in reality I have the same type of hobbies as all the other students. I hear them talking but I never manage to integrate the conversations... problem that I had since I was in kindergarten... my father was summoned a lot of faith because I don't speak. I remember once I couldn't ask permission before going to the bathroom...I started running outside...my teacher thought I was trying to escape so she grabbed me and i peed in front of the whole class 😭 (shame) it happened when i was 5 but i still remember it... i could name all the embarrassing moments i had in my life because of my social anxiety because I never forgot them...💀
I think my social anxiety was also exacerbated by the fact that my mom is overprotective. I'm sorry for all the bad things you had to experience and I hope we get through this 🫂
Thank you for this video series! I just had a new catastrophic thought - what if the catastrophic thought isn't a catastrophic thought. Most people are actually mean. So if the thought turns out to be reality will my anxiety increase?
Thank you so much for the video and to folks for comments. I thought sth is just wrong with me and i couldn't figure anything out, really. Now I at least kinda understand what I'm deeling with. And i hope I'm gonna overcome this and be happy living life)
If you're here for the 1st time, this isn't another bullsh*t video from UA-cam that goes superficial into the thing and doesn't help at all. If you understand and follow this, I guarantee you it works and you will feel much better. It takes time and effort and I think the most important thing is to have a goal on why you're doing this.
There's a cbt app called "loop" where you talk anonymously with people that have social anxiety. No one can see you or know who you are . It's really helpful for talk therapy and $14 weekly
I wanted to bring this into your notice that sometimes even doctors diagnose wrong. You might be on medication for years but no good. That might be because diagnosis was wrong.
Me: Social Anxiety? I don’t like people anymore. I don’t care and don’t want to talk o anyone anymore. The end. Social anxiety? Nah, I just don’t like other people anymore.
The most frustrating thing is that I don’t actually care about the people around me or their opinions. But my body involuntarily starts shaking and sweating anyway even when I know I’m not nervous. It’s like I’m fighting against myself and it’s exhausting.
I feel you.
Thats what a trauma does.. keep on fighting man.
I have that too. I think it's just automatic reaction, reflex. Sometimes it helps me to start thinking about it every time it happens and analyse it. What it feels like, what is triggering it, breath through it. For me it feels exactly like sharp pain inside my head. I heard that in brain, center for anxiety and pain are linked (or are the same i don't remember exactly). Another feeling is submission. I want to disappear. It's just my defense mechanism misfiring. When you can name that sensations, you can consiously do something with them. Is it at least somewhat helpful?
Same man. It’s so bad.
yes me too, it's weird i really don't care about people and if it's necessary i won't hesitate to call them out or say what comes to mind or whatever, but the feeling i have inside me is too much, sweats shakes etc. Mental health is really a battle with ourselves brothers & sisters
Reddit brought me here :)
Same!
Same :)
Same! :)
Same
Same!
coming from someone who just recently got over it after dealing with it my whole life, it really isn’t that hard to overcome.
Tips
1. Remember you only live once, do you really want your whole life to be wasted on being insecure in worried to do things because others might laugh at you
2. Stop watching videos of people telling you its romal and ok to have social anxiety, we are humans and are meant to be commutative, there is nothing normal about being scared of what others think
3. YOU HAVE TO STEP OUTSIDE OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE, YOU WILL NEVER OVERCOME SOCIAL ANXIETY IF YOU EXPECT TO BE SOCIALLY COMFORTABLE IN EVERY SITUATION WHEN YOU’RE TRYING TO OVERCOME IT
4. The more you are forcing yourself to step outside of your comfort zone, the more your comfort zone expands
5. Distract your mind in public, your first thoughts when you get out of your car shouldn’t be insecurities
6. Finally, give yourself talks in the mirror before you start your day, reassure yourself you don’t care about others opinions and you are a beautiful person.
The very first mistake I realized I made when trying to overcome social anxiety was the fact I was watching people that were trying to sugar code the reality of the situation and calling it “normal” and “ok”
You shouldn’t allow yourself to get comfortable being social awkward
Anyone else here feels like they want to say something very simple but you just can't? Like you become instantly doubtful about it.
all the time. literally have to force myself to speak
Even when it’s a personal question I want to know for my benefit I still don’t do it in hopes someone else would do it …. I am literally the enemy of myself so unbelievable 😂
As much as I’d love to go to an actual therapist, I’m struggling with money right now and I wouldn’t be able to go to therapy without my family knowing about it and making a big deal about it.
we can have chat, and i hope i can help you. i ama blusher and it has ruined my life. maybe sharing our stories will make it easier
@@ganbatte1260 hey 👋🏾
cheers to everyone working on themselves in quarantine :)
Many thanks, I've been looking for "how do you reduce social anxiety" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across - Qanwen Donuke Approach - (should be on google have a look ) ? Ive heard some decent things about it and my co-worker got amazing results with it.
This was great, I've been looking for "free of inhibitions social anxiety reviews" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across - Senonnor Puzzling Superiority - (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? It is an awesome exclusive product for discovering how to conquer your social anxiety minus the normal expense. Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my mate got cool results with it.
Many thanks, been searching for "distraction techniques for social anxiety" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Qanwen Donuke Approach - (do a search on google ) ? Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my colleague got cool results with it.
Cheers for this, I been tryin to find out about "social anxiety self treatment" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across - Qanwen Donuke Approach - (do a search on google ) ? Ive heard some great things about it and my partner got excellent results with it.
Hi 👋
I allowed social anxiety to destroy the first half of my life, I'm hoping to salvage what remains of it
hi
@@JeeBhai-tp3onhow old r u?
Hi@@thakkudu1999
Ik it sounds wrong but it's a relief that there are lots more around u, 10 percent of people apparently experience this. Now that's a fck ton. For the most part, alot of us internalise most of these feelings simply because noone else can seem to relate or share similar feelings. Knowing that alot of people go thru this and are also struggling with social anxiety makes me feel less alone
True but it sucks no one takes it seriously when I tell people they are like really wow and move on the converstationbut when I show signs they act surprised and tell me it’s not a big deal to be scared of. Also some people are like same girl but are the most talkative with others and don’t understand my symptoms I think they confuse it with shyness.
That's crazy because I just commented how that % feels like so little and makes me more anxious 😅 1/10 is crazy I could be the only socially anxious person in the whole building
It makes me feel better to know that I am not alone!
Yes, how you doing now 😊
Here i am. It's the last day in school before summer break and I'm sitting alone watching this.
Don’t worry covid will make you feel like you are not missing out
@@pleasereducethevolume1701 Great ! I love quarantaine !
for me its communicating with people, I don't mind going to busy places by myself etc but when it comes to conversation I don't have the energy or I think I don't think im special / interesting enough. the thought of speaking in front of people I don't know scares the shit out of me and I know its ruining my life because I put off everything that could be good for me due to this
I feel the exact same way like it’s effecting my everyday life style and just continuously getting worse. I hope things get better for u and know ur not alone
I developed social anxiety at around 13 yrs old and I went to therapy for it which helped, but back then it wasn’t as bad. Just talking on the phone, interacting with new kids and the lunch room. I made a lot of progress and was really growing into myself, as I got to freshman year I became super extroverted and had a huge friend group which I’d never had in my life. Then Covid happened that same year. And in those months of isolation my fear returned but worse. I still struggle and now I’m 17. So the fear is affecting my life more than ever, I want to get a job, make new friends, go out by myself and I’m going to college next year. I’m really happy for these videos. It’s been really tough for all of us who struggle with this and quarantine on top of it
I’m the exact same, as it’s been a few months have you recovered or found any ways that can help?
Hey, I just wanted to say how grateful I am to have found this! I've struggled with anxiety my whole life and only now after watching your anxiety modules do I realize being "normal" is actually a possibility for me.
Learning to accept the feeling of anxiety rather than fight it has helped me more than anything I've tried (anxiety meds, counselling, cbd oil.. Etc) in the past 20 years.
At the risk of sounding dramatic, thank you for helping me change my life, Magnus. ❤️
Are you ok now ?
@@akashverma5756 hi bro do you suffer from SAD?
@@saiswaroop2189 ya
@@akashverma5756 oh same like you bro
@@akashverma5756 have you tried anything to overcome it?
Dealing with social anxiety hasn’t been easy just started talking to a psychologist about it but started googling to find advice and found this on reddit gonna give it a watch
how did it go?
any updates ?
Ohhh, before 5min I was crying because of my social anxiety and now, finding those videos, I have joy's tears in my eyes.
Thank you very much, really from the bottom of my heart 💞
How did it go?
@@vibes7756 like I'm too lazy to try, when my self esteem is low I run to watch those videos and they make me feel good, after that I don't feel the urge to change myself, l'm keeping doing the same thing over and over again.
Now I'm returning here to motivate myself I hope I will take the step to overcome this stupid situation.
I hope that my answer will not disappoint you, keep trying please don't be like the lazy me 🧡
@@souhaila5879 Same here, I don't understand why we're like this and I really wish to break this cycle already 😔
@@OfficialAshLynxhow did it going now?
You are a great guy for sharing these informations without additional costs for us. Thank you!
I made it around 2 minutes into the video before I involuntarily started crying, just listening to how calming and understand you sound when explaining this for some reason made me emotional
I just want to say thank you for this incredible resource. I’m currently experiencing lots of social anxiety and I hope this can help
ever since i’ve started university my social anxiety has gotten really bad. i made a few friends during the first semester but i’ve had a really hard time maintaining those relationships, so i’m mostly alone now. i hope these videos help a little bit lol
How are you now?
@@belle3055 rip
The way this guy breaks things down is amaizing
Just a question here.. is it normal to experience social anxiety within family? I’m currently 16 and feel very bad talking with relatives, almost as they are strangers!
It's normal if you dont talk to them often
I’m the same way with my relatives. Most of my family lives hours away, so I only see them once a year or less and I get extremely anxious every time.
My cousins are pretty much strangers to me cause they live far away so ur not the only one
Same i can talk to my family very frankly but I can't much with my relatives :(
Here i cant talk to my mom looking at her face
these modules are a blessing to me. i have been on a self destructive course. lost money, family and are about to loose my wife. these are giving me hope. i have not shared my condition nor have had it diagnosed by a profession but now i know what i am going through.
Thanks to you for working on yourself. You can do this. Let us all fight this together.
I had social anxiety since my childhood and it kept me from living a good life. I am so tired of social anxiety dictating my life. I'm going to work on it really hard from now on and hope that in the future i will be able to get rid of it.
how’s it going
I'm here because the only way I can feel better in social is, I have to feel hate towards others then there presence won't bother me.
U can do it with love
I'm trying to find ways to help myself because I couldn't afford therapy. So I happen to see this and I hope it'll be a great help for me. Thank you for the worksheets, I will use it
how’s it going
I do not have any problem in social situations where all people are interacting with each other.
But I face sever social anxiety in situations where I am the center of attention I.e giving a presentation or explaining a topic to the whole class
Ive been trying so hard to break it. I got a sales job door knocking literally the epitome of a social job I do real estate, talk to everyone I can at the gym. But still I cant break it sometimes its the only thing holding me back in my opinion! Im going to go through all these videos and hope they help.
hey man how's your journey? Have you got any better? would love to hear
You’re the best psychologist a person can ask for. Love you Magnus ❤️
For me… work is easy. So easy to converse and just be myself. Now when I go to places with hubby… it’s like my entire body is on the defense and I just lose myself. Thanks for these videos!
I wish I was employed like you
God I'm sweating like crazy going red, getting fidgety, overthinking it's hard
how is it now? how old are u? what did u do for livings? i also struggle with blushing, it has ruined my life.
@@ganbatte1260 I'm 19 and I'm ashamed to say I've done absolutely nothing and social anxiety is affecting my life everyday. Please don't be like me get help.
@@VirtualTech im 26. I quit my job, no income, no activity, no friends. I want to pursue my master degree but i am afraid to be bully by others. Everytime i had presentation, it will be guarantee 100% someone whispering “he’s blushing..”
Just do it, we are so unlucky. But there are no escape i think. I had it because of my family genetics. My family had it all
@@ganbatte1260 I have the same thoughts, I'm in first year of my engineering degree and when I have to give presentation and I feel myself sweating and getting red and stammering I think all my classmates are saying "He's sweating, he's so bad, he's so scared" etc I feel like they are making fun of me? Where are you from?
@@ganbatte1260 I also don't have any friends.... It gets lonely everyday
You are a saint sir. I can’t thank you enough for these videos! God bless you sir!
I always been impulsive, i get mad easily even in very small things, it affects everyone around me.. i hope this one would help. Thank you so much..
i found this playlist on reddit, i'm gonna try to watch it and maybe overcome my social anxiety, although the current pandemic may not really help, but i'll try.
Thanks for making this available for free, this is a great resource :)
The thing is that I don’t care about How others see me but I still feel like this
I really wish that I was a extrovert. these past days has been a living hell. Im going to school trying to talk or do anything but I just can't get a word out or join the conversation. I feel imitated and belittled and just inferior to my "new" friends (started new school 2 months ago, and my group they talk like thev've known each other for years. most of the time im just sitiing and listen what they say, and I bet when im not around they properly mocking me. I really need some help.
Open up to a friend but not just to any friend. Find a great person, make him your friend then open up. People who you open up to, they become your solace.
im 17 and i have social anxiety. it’s the only thing holding me back, which is just silly because technically i’m holding myself back. today i had my first ever therapy appointment for it but i just feel so guilty because my mom is partially paying, partially covered by insurance. i’m so money conscious that i hate when my parents pay for things. it makes me feel like a burden. my greatest dream is to one day be a lawyer, not one that appears in court, but a government lawyer who works 9-5 reading, researching, and drafting documents. i have strong written communication skills but probably the weakest verbal communication skills on earth. just today while i was at therapy i could barely talk to the therapist because of how much my voice trembled involuntarily. i practice positive self talk all the time, i know that nothing socially can hurt me physically but my body still reacts terribly. hopefully therapy can help me. i’m not entirely socially inept, i have a friend group, though my parents certainly think i am. i feel silly telling anyone irl my dream. if you happen to see this years in the future, don’t be afraid to reply and ask me how i am.
How you doing now brother
I'm same 17 yo
And I'm exactly like u
I don't want to tell my parents about my anxiety cause I think that's stupid and I don't want them to spent money on me
And the bad thing is I have to go through social anxiety literally every single day
How you doing now brother
I'm same 17 yo
And I'm exactly like u
I don't want to tell my parents about my anxiety cause I think that's stupid and I don't want them to spent money on me
And the bad thing is I have to go through social anxiety literally every single day
Its only been 7 months but how are you? :)
@barahrabinova hii
Life is so fucking hard dealing with this bullshit 😭😭 bro wtf
Ong
rs. how you doin now?
@@joshbihthis dudes video help yall?
@@w00daperky67 honestly i haven't watched it
@@joshbih Well I watched something that fixed social anxiety for me, a straight forward video “KoldHeartKam - social anxiety is not real”
Am I the only one who started having lower grades because of social anxiety?
I dropped out of college because of social anxiety so yeah, you're not alone 🥺
Same ):
Same!!
@@cryingcat6516 same man and I’m scared to go back 🥺
Hey everyone, I’m currently trying to find out how one could make the lives of socially anxious people a lot
easier ;)
Which is why I have two very simple questions:
1. As someone struggling with social anxiety, what are the 2 biggest issues you’re dealing with?
2. Regarding your social anxiety, what would you wish for more than anything else?
Thanks so much in advance - looking forward to reading your answers!
1. There is a whole part of life that I'm blocked off because of my anxiety. Friends, dating, social hobbies. And it's getting progressively worse, with not much hope for a remission.
2. I'd wish to be as obnoxious and non-caring as some people, say whatever and do whatever, but that's not going to happen anytime soon. Holding a conversation without starting to sweat. Being able to meet and date with people. Easy things that others take for granted, but people with SAD are deprived of.
1. I'm struggling with: talking to people whom I don't meet much including my family members. I worry about my appearance. I'm very much self conscious when around a group of people with whom I'm not close with. I feel like someone is watching me.
2. I want to go out and enjoy life like others and make good friends and be happy without the fear of being judged.
a problem that often happens to me is that once I feel anxious after a social interaction that i perceived as going badly, when i try to speak to the people involved, sort of to see how they perceive me, they do indeed seem to perceive me the way I thought they did. If they wouldn't, I'de drop that negative perception. So basically, if people would show extra love and acceptance, not just the average ammount. I know I try to.
1: public speaking
2: maks speaking aloud in classes not mandatory
I don't know if this is still helpful since this comment is from 1 year ago, but could be helpful to me so I'll just tell my experience anyway.
I'm a 25 y.o. male from Italy (sorry for my bad English).
1. The first one is that I struggle to make friends and to find a girlfriend (never had one before). The second one is that I struggle to find a job and to keep up with my studies at university since talking in front of other people and getting along with colleagues/classmates is obviously crucial.
2. I'd like to have a lot of friends that care about me. I'd like to have a girlfriend while I'm still young, since I feel that I'm missing out on so many experiences that most of my peers are having. I'd like to feel normal and to be able to relate to others without shaking, sweating, blushing, be flooded by intrusive thoughts ... This is absolutely debilitating, so I'm watching this video and I'm taking medication to get my life back.
Good work man 😎 Love the translations you do too!!
Thank you so much for doing this.
Thank you Thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you Seriously
My social anxiety is that I can't initate conversation and I can't small talk or hold a conversation unless I am 1. passionate about a subject in which case I can talk to much and mess up the flow of the convo. or 2. I have already spoken to the person several times before which is very few people because I can't make new friends because I can't hold conversation
You are an amazing teacher 👍
This series is appreciated, thank you! God bless 👍🏻🙏 ☺️
Bruh i used to be hella extroverted before quarantine and now I'm super anxious and stuttering, becoming a mess around friends.. like wth I know these peeps are cool but I'm just soooo nervous, i ended up chewing a mf water bottle to try relaxing when i was hanging out with them the other day 😭
Same quarantine has f d me up lol
Same bruh, what a hell
i feel ya, frr
Same but mine is so bad too when I started working omg I felt horrible I couldn’t talk to my coworkers and felt so awkward during lunch I didn’t have a car so I had to eat lunch with others there.
i dont wanna end up with no job and future just because of social anxiety I rather kms
what kind of anxiety do u have? i am a blsuher and it has ruined my life, no jobs, no income, no friends, noa ctivity. idk what to do now
@@ganbatte1260 i dont go i only go out for school and to go to the grocery store Idk what kind but i feel like everyone is judging me and i get stressed and I'm scared to get embarrassed i had a lot of bad things in my life cause my dad was alcholic and other things I'm disappointed at my self and I'm only 14 i don't have friends never had a girlfriend even tho I'm good looking just because of social anxiety
Hang in there ✊🏾 we are here for a reason ♥ we will get through this.
@@ranger8839 you are so young. Please don't waste your time with fear. I didn't try hard to have fun as a teenager because of fear of disappointing my parents. Now I'm 25 and wish I could go back live my life, go out with people, do sports, get into many activities... Now I'm 25 with a mentality of a 12 years old. It's sucks because now people judge me for being imature, and I feel so dumb because everyone my age is so mature, I act like I was born yesterday.
@@ranger8839 sorry i think i missed your replies. I feel sorry for you to have this feelings. You are still young.. Hang in there buddy, we have the same condition. Maybe your emotion are still very high because of your age, but let me tell you soenthing. Right now i am trying to start doing it again, rebuilding my confidence. I also have good shape, i do trainings everyday, but still have high anxiety and nervous. But i dont really care about it anymore because i dont want my life to be ruined anymore by this. This 2021-2022 has been a rough years for me, i can simply say ive lost everything (job, money, friends, you name it). But remeber me, No Changes Are Permanent. It will get better soon, try to read some people opinions in reddit who have anxiety like us, most of them will have method to overcome it and courage. My brother has the same condition like you, everyday trapped in his room. He is 40 yo now. But i feel that he is building confidence now and dont really care about it anymore. Because i sometimes think, what is the worst case if i going through it?? It wont make me die. And it will get BETTER, Nothing much to say, Hang in there :) We’re in the same war hahaha
I will start to study at a college in September, so I want to make my SA less powerful, because I want to make some friends there. Hope this video will help!
I got very anxious going anywhere alone even walking on the road is really hard. My voice cracks and my heart beats very fast when talking to lot of people. It also really hard to understand what others are telling me. hope your videos really help me
As long as a remember I have social since I was born...my parents where protectives with me... They didn't allow me to go out until I had 11... They didn't want me to embarasse them so they Always asked me to go into my rom when relatives come. I got used to it so now when my uncles or aunts Come, I go hide myself... and now they compare me with other children saying that its not normal that I can't even respond to the phone when my 4 years old cousins Can do it... They where l also ashamed and disappointed when the teacher told them that I cry when he shouts at me...
I can't act normal in public even if in reality I have the same type of hobbies as all the other students. I hear them talking but I never manage to integrate the conversations... problem that I had since I was in kindergarten... my father was summoned a lot of faith because I don't speak. I remember once I couldn't ask permission before going to the bathroom...I started running outside...my teacher thought I was trying to escape so she grabbed me and i peed in front of the whole class 😭 (shame) it happened when i was 5 but i still remember it... i could name all the embarrassing moments i had in my life because of my social anxiety because I never forgot them...💀
I think my social anxiety was also exacerbated by the fact that my mom is overprotective. I'm sorry for all the bad things you had to experience and I hope we get through this 🫂
Thank you for this video series! I just had a new catastrophic thought - what if the catastrophic thought isn't a catastrophic thought. Most people are actually mean. So if the thought turns out to be reality will my anxiety increase?
Thank you so much for the video and to folks for comments. I thought sth is just wrong with me and i couldn't figure anything out, really. Now I at least kinda understand what I'm deeling with. And i hope I'm gonna overcome this and be happy living life)
What's bad for me is people telling me I go red. So rude!
Great stuff! All the modules are very helpful thanks!
Thank you so much from Russia.Best videos I’ve ever seen on this topic
Как ты сейчас ?
What about social anxiety because of appearance anxiety? Plz help
Its been 4 years since my first panic attacks. 💔💔
for some reasons I’m scared but I wanna do this, cause therapy is an expensive thing
In the end of it I’ll write my results
Thanks, very interesting and helpful...
I pray this will help me... ❤️
Are you ok now?
I'm inspired to take cbt course video. I need it. Greetings from Florida.
So happy I found you
Awesome and helpful resource!
So helpful!!, great vid 👏
I just found your channel. Thank you
I want to add Turkish subtitle for this module set can I add?
Mail him...
Yaparmisiniz ? Cok yardimci olurdunuz.
Thank you so so so much
It's been really help full thanks
Thank you for this
Wish there were subtitles for people whose native language is not English
THANKYOUTHANKYOUTHANKYOUTHANKYOUTHANKYOUTHANKYOYTHANKYOU
Have you heard of eft tapping and do you think that it’s effective to treat social anxiety?
My therapist brought me here 😂😅👍🏼
Do I have to do the worksheets for every video
Thank you so much
Thank you very much for this
If you're here for the 1st time, this isn't another bullsh*t video from UA-cam that goes superficial into the thing and doesn't help at all.
If you understand and follow this, I guarantee you it works and you will feel much better.
It takes time and effort and I think the most important thing is to have a goal on why you're doing this.
There's a cbt app called "loop" where you talk anonymously with people that have social anxiety. No one can see you or know who you are . It's really helpful for talk therapy and $14 weekly
You are help me lot!! Thank you
I wanted to bring this into your notice that sometimes even doctors diagnose wrong. You might be on medication for years but no good. That might be because diagnosis was wrong.
Thank you for this very helpful program
If social anxiety is similar to pain the does it go away on it's own?
Hi and Tnx. I can’t seem to find the link for the app. Am I missing something?
Could you also make a serious for people with ADHD?
Are you perhaps Swedish? Your accent
Thank you ❤️
Can I do it on quarantine? Does it count as a life crisis?
Are you Icelandic? I can tell, because your accent reminds me of Bjork. 😁
I think he's from Norway
What if I have adhd that makes me even more embarrassed and different
Thank you ;-;
Magnus, is being afraid of talking to girls considered social anxiety?
yes, i have this too
Why must the acronym be CBT
does anyone wanna be friends and overcome this together?
yeah let's go
@@flo6577 whats ur ig?
meee
@@koshka5242 insta?
How is this going so far ?
Me: Social Anxiety? I don’t like people anymore. I don’t care and don’t want to talk o anyone anymore. The end. Social anxiety? Nah, I just don’t like other people anymore.
Hope this would help me
It looks like this vid has bot views but i think were all a little too anxious to comment much
Is this really helpful. Update plz.
Only 15% of adults? That makes me more socially anxious I thought more people were like me lmao.
Hi!!
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